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ADVICEtrapped_in_a_box/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 02:20 PM
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Try DBT. Same idea, different approach.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 07:06 PM
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You're not in a relationship. You are a long-distance plate.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 05:20 PM
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Mine is an engineer too - that's funny. Working on my need for physical affection helped me the most. I couldn't ask mine to give me as much as I needed, so I learned how to need less and take more from the other stuff. I've been a full time student for the past two years, and we run a business together - I learned to take more comfort from the non-touch support he gives me and how hard he works to help me succeed. It was hard.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 01:13 PM
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It took us a couple of years to figure this one out in our relationship. He just isn't as affectionate as I am, abs didn't take it well when I told him it felt like he didn't care. Is there any signs of caring that you may be missing? He might be speaking a different "love language" than you do. Also, I realized that the more I was involved in my own day to day and the less I focused on what I felt he was giving to me, the more he gave in my language on his own. We are at a point now where I can…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 12:06 PM
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I use it now - I have endometriosis, so about two years ago sex started getting super painful. I was also diagnosed with PMDD, so I guess I'm the odd woman out here - the pill seems to have helped my PMDD IMMENSELY. My SO is very pleased - I like having sex again and I'm not a raging witch for a week at a time every month. Oh, and I haven't had a period since I started. That's pretty awesome too. :) EDIT: I have gained about ten lbs, I don't like it but I was pretty small to start with so it's n…
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 02:11 PM
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The biological hazards are nothing to sneeze at. Our eggs start getting very strange after 40, and pregnancy is incredibly hard on the body. Between that and the financials, I wouldn't expect my husband to be okay with having another baby either.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/16 02:03 PM
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It seems to me (and maybe I'm wrong) that his comment could be flipped to say that the men's RP subs should ONLY be for men who are alpha and want to pick up their game, not for beta boys who want to unlearn their current ways and pick up more alpha traits. We all make mistakes in our lives - I'm definitely one of the sinners who is here to be saved - and I know I'll never catch one of the top-of-the-line alpha men that the younger girls who haven't had issues likely will. I'm okay with that. I …
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/16 01:01 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives18/07/16 12:58 PM
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Thank you thank you. Out of all the responses, yours is the one I can identify with. I have yet to get anything that felt concrete out of therapy but am going to give it another go in case I do and to show some concrete solidarity in the steps I was explaining to my Mister that I plan to take. I know better than to lean on the childhood crutch and it's a terrible habit that is going to stop - now.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 09:00 PM
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I wouldn't marry anybody I didn't feel comfortable enough to sign a prenup like this with. Yes, you will miss out on the things you listed, but you would be receiving a portion of the marital assets, you do have a career to fall back on (albeit at a lower position than if you'd have stayed single), and you will be well-supported. Is there any possibility that you would be able to begin a savings in the meantime to help you feel more stable? In addition, don't forget that there will be a period o…
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 01:24 PM
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My grandfather-in-law did this perfectly - he retired from his career, but started taking community college and rec center classes on anything and everything, so now he builds furniture or makes jewelry inlaid with precious stones/metals that he hiked and found himself, or whatever other interest caught his eye this semester/time period. As a result, he made his wife so many awesome pieces for the house and for her, and for the kids (they had 8 in their 60 years together) and grandkids.
/r/RedPillWives30/06/16 11:36 PM
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Hey! I found RPW the same way - some people in TwoX were bashing, and I wanted to see what the mess was. Turned out, I liked it here better, and managed to get myself banned from TwoX for suggesting that maybe RP isn't the end of the world after all (without pushing even a single ideal). Good riddance! I love it here. :D
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/16 02:28 AM
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Modcloth.com is one of my favorite places to shop. It's very retro-femme, but still has a modern take. The clothes and shoes are typically quality, too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/16 04:35 AM
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We lived in her house. It was really uncomfortable - it was the house he grew up in, and I wasn't just a young bride, I was a young bride surrounded by things that were familiar to everyone but me.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/16 02:51 PM
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I'm lucky - I love my MIL dearly, and I often joke with my Mister that if he ever leaves me I'm just going to move in with her. I've been married before though, and have actually lived with my ex-MIL who wasn't so great. First of all, he's captain - he's aware of your concerns and has chosen this route anyhow. Obviously, if it can't be an ideal situation, it's going to have to be a learning situation. I learned to KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT AND SMILE a lot. We lived in the south, so my ex-MIL was excell…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/16 01:47 PM
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Nailed it! Now that she knows, I would hush about it and let her see your improvements. If you're making them, she'll notice. I'm willing to bet that's more likely to get her attention. I used to be pretty feminist - I found RP through a feminist sub that was smack talking (yes, 2x, I'm happily banned from there these days) but once I read through the principles, everything I've learned in nursing school says that the biology of it makes sense.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 11:27 PM
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Either yoga pants and a smaller t-shirt, or if it's late/post sexytimes/no kiddo, I'll pad around in one of his t-shirt and boyshorts or cute undies. I've found wearing his shirts is noticed - helps that he's a lot taller than me, too.
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 06:39 PM
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In fairness, I do have to say that some of my other input in this sub was mostly well-received, if only ignored. It's not like it was horrid every time I posted, just when I posted about myself.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 12:43 AM
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Yes - keeping our mouth shut felt very encouraged unless we fell into line. I have a very non-traditional traditional relationship and it works for us. My SO and I run a business together, and while we've worked out a lot of the kinks over the past few years in regards to separating work-relationship from relationship-relationship, the one time I had asked for some advice I ended up deleting the post because I felt bad for asking. That could have been me being over-sensitive, I'll admit to that,…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 12:41 AM
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I remember your post. Thank YOU for being open to ideas that did not immediately occur to you. A lot of my controlling behaviors came from fear, and letting go gave me the opportunity to see if my man WAS a man, or if I was putting a lot of expectations on someone who was never going to be able to take charge without me living in my own personal culture of fear. Like yours, my s/o stepped up once I gave him the choice, and I think we're both more secure for it. Congrats on holding your temper ab…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/16 02:42 PM
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RPW likes you guys just fine. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 05:22 AM
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This is what I came to say but is phrased much better. My captain is my bestie. Some of the problems we share and things we talk about wouldn't belong in any other ears. There is nobody who has my back so completely or vise versa. He's my bff and I still respect him, defer to him, and allow him to lead. It doesn't matter to me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/16 01:19 PM
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I'm also willing to be the more traditional women don't have a Tinder account. If they're online dating, it's not through a hook-up app.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 10:54 PM
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Yes! Once I started moving away from that mindset and into something more RP, I became happier as a person. I am who I WANT to be now, not what radical feminists think I ought to be, like I was told the entire time I was growing up. The comments on this article are fantastic - I didn't see a single man sticking up for her. Doubt she'll notice that - she'll only see what she thinks of as misogynists everywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 10:53 PM
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I can't give you advice as much - this is a personal issue - but I chose to not finish my schooling and get married. Now I'm 34 and I graduate next semester with my associates and start nursing school in January. I did work for 12 years (medical billing) but I'm realizing how nice it will be to have a job that makes me completely self-sufficient of my SO if I needed to be (what if he gets hit by a bus?).
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 03:36 PM
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This! It always seems like a much bigger deal at the time, if I let the hamster spin for awhile it rarely seems like a very big deal at all. If it still is, I mentally note it to bring up when everything is chill.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 01:51 AM
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I came in to say that those "innocent questions" are one of my issues I'm cleaning up now too. Horrible baggage from previous relationships! Great field report - it's amazing how much the input makes a difference!
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 10:14 PM
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The Good: Managed to get homework/studying done in time to spend more time with the family this week House is clean, and successfully negotiated the purchase of the vacuum I wanted at a price he was happy with (Shark Navigator Lift Away Pro, $140/free ship on Amazon, if anyone is in need - is fantastic!) The Bad: I need to get better at finding my zen with my daughter - she's 11 going on 18 and driving me crazy with the foot stomping/sighs/etc. It drive the Mister nuts listening to us bicker, an…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 06:18 AM
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I agree that IF this hasn't been a past issue, and IF drinking isn't a problem in general, I would base a decision on how he handles this obstacle he's thrown in his own path. That being said, if alcohol has been a previous issue, this certainly ought to be a dealbreaker. The inability to keep himself safe, not to mention others on the road, does not bode well for his ability to lead in general.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 08:41 PM
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I rock an a-line with a shoulder-length front. My bf didn't think he'd like it, it's been two years and he loves it. It's easy to manage but doesn't look AT ALL boyish. My hair is really fine and thin so it looks terrible long, I've realized. :/
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 05:29 AM
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If you can get away with tuna, maybe play with some tuna casserole recipes? There's a ton out there so you can avoid ones with no-no items. I would try stew, also. Since stew veggies seem to be the ones he actually eats, it might be a good way around that - plus its a crock pot meal so you don't have to spend a ton of time, plus bonus low carbs! Breakfast - I make a hashbrown casserole he might like? Umm let's see - fry hashbrowns, layer in thirds in a loaf pan with cheese and bacon/ham/sausage,…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 12:25 PM
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Let's see...does he do cream sauces? Or seafood/fish? I'm trying to be creative with the things you already make.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 12:15 PM
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Help me help you - what do you make for him currently that he likes? What other foods does he enjoy? Check my comment history for a sausage and pepper stirfry he may like if he likes bell peppers (otherwise it's just sausage and yellow rice, and you can always go with white/brown rice if he's not into the saffron flavor of the yellow). I can usually find something to satisfy any discerning appetite - my captain hates onions, and I feel like they make up so many dishes, but I've learned to work a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 11:55 AM
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This is exactly the item I came to say. The ONLY reason I don't own one yet is I'm waiting to close on our new place so I actually have the room in the kitchen. THIS!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 12:11 PM
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Stir Fry Sausage and Peppers (20 minutes) 1 Kielbasa-type sausage (I use turkey sausage to cut on health issues, tastes exactly the same) 2 bell peppers, any color but preferably different 1 pack of Mahatma yellow rice Cook the rice according to directions. While it is simmering, cut up the sausage into 1/2 circles and the peppers into 1/2 x 1/2 squares. Add to hot pan, sprinkle liberally with garlic powder, ground ginger, salt, and pepper. Cook on medium high until peppers are tender-crisp and …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 11:18 PM
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I think what helps me the most on this is the trust factor. I have to fight the instinct to do for me alone, but it's so much easier to do when I know he's fighting for me so that I can focus better on fighting for us.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 11:52 AM
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modcloth.com! I love retro looks (50's housewife/60's secretary etc.) and I love getting pieces from that site, plus they have a ton of cute shirts that are less revealing for a good price. And shoes. OMG the shoes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 12:12 PM
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Disagree - I've discussed it in therapy with no negative recourse. If I'm going to bother with therapy, I'm not wasting my time discussing a mindset i don't agree with.
/r/askTRP29/07/15 12:11 AM
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Then why are you even thinking about this? Either plate her or don't, but her relationship status probably isn't your problem if that's all she is.
/r/askTRP18/05/15 11:42 AM
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I don't stay at home (quit work but went back to school full time) but that article still reminds me to have a good attitude and do what I can around the house to make it a happier place. I liked it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/15 12:30 AM
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Wow, what doesn't he do for me? :) He listens to everything I say. He may not always act on it, or follow my opinion, but I know that he listens and discusses anything that needs to be dealt with. He has stood up and taken on the role of step-father for my very difficult daughter, and he does it well. He works hard every day to provide for us, and works even harder now that I'm in school so that I don't feel bad about not bringing in an income. He helps with keeping the house clean - I've made i…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/15 02:33 PM
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Male opinions notwithstanding, as a RPW I don't think there is any good reason for me to lunch with another man. Ever. Either you need to go too, or she doesn't need to go at all. I used to fool myself into believing otherwise, but after really looking at my relationships with my male "friends", I realized there was no such thing, not really.
/r/askTRP18/12/14 11:49 PM
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I was surprised this was the subject of an entire blog entry. I've never heard of this issue! I guess maybe it's just not something I would see in my social circles. So sad that the title is so disparaging to some women. I'd be so proud!
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/14 11:32 PM
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I still work a lot on getting defensive when mine points out flaws (even when I've asked him to remind me not to do something, etc.). I think part of it is that I care about his opinion enough that it really bothers me to slip around him. He's helped me improve SO many of my bad habits this way though.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 04:47 PM
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This, so much this. I'm in my early 30's, and I've spent my adult years in a series of relationships where I didn't trust the person I was with to make decisions for us. I was always the one scrambling to cover rent, to buy food, if I didn't do it (whatever it was), it didn't get done. When I met my SO, I struggled a lot with giving up that part. I was conditioned to think that I HAD to constantly have input in order for things to work. The longer we stayed together, the more I saw that he's bee…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 04:42 PM
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A cami and boy shorts at most, nothing at least. Depends on temperature and what I was doing before bed. :) The camis have been a lifesaver though, I get cold easy but I hate how shirts bunch up around your torso when you roll over.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/14 04:03 AM
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I have been teaching myself this mindset once I realized I was chasing guys off with my bitterness a few years back. It's definitely still a work in progress, but I'm so glad I did - I've recently learned my SO values that trait more than I thought.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/14 07:05 PM
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I'm definitely not as steeped in RPW knowledge as some of the ladies here, but I will give my perspective: Sex: Sex stopped being any kind of an issue when I found a good man. I'm continuously attracted to him, we're extremely compatible, there isn't much to talk about publicly because of that. I can say I've never wanted to tell him no, and it's been years. As far as the men-and-sex, not to over-generalize, but men are men. Procreation occupies their subconscious, and sex is fun (among other th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/14 03:44 PM
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That's how I originally found TRP. It has helped my outlook and my relationship SO much. I'm thankful those subs (troll/twox) brought me here.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/14 01:58 AM
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I stuck my head up in support in there somewhere. I finally unsubscribed, I'm just tired of the rhetoric. Isn't feminism supposedly about females choosing how they want to spend their lives? So what if I choose to live like a lady with my captain?
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/14 01:56 AM
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