travelingmathlete Archive

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4	Reminder: Trust your gut. Get out at the first signs of gaslighting. This has caused me to rely on my friends probably TOO MUCH when I get involved with men now. I run every little detail past them which can not be fair or healthy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/09/20 05:20 AM
4	10 Types of Guys You Should Immediately Block If You Have An Anxious Attachment Style I read these and wondered “what’s left then?!?”. I feel like every man I’ve met fits in one of those categories. I’m losing hope 😩	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/09/20 09:38 PM
3	I did it. I cut him off. There isn’t anything about you that is unlikable! He could just have compartmentalized everything because he’s not open to distance. Or maybe he doesn’t want kids and you do. Or maybe he likes you but knows there isn’t a future for one reason to another so why give you that hope? Just because he doesn’t want a romantic future with you doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/09/20 10:26 PM
6	I did it. I cut him off. I’m so proud of you. Your story sounds like my life!!!! Very similar situation but he’s in the US now and I’m in Germany. Ive become his best friend according to him, and he likes me, but doesn’t want to, whatever the fuck that means. I’ve tried multiple times to end things and he or I would make contact after ~ 2 weeks. I finally gave him an ultimatum and he picked no contact until 2021 (vs trying to date long distance) on Monday. It SUCKS. I miss the companionship. But we can’t put ourselves l…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/09/20 10:23 PM
3	Good morning ladies. I was banned for 7 days because of this comment. It was reported several times by male lurkers. Sucks for them, I’m still here ❤️ You don’t need to apologize for your opinion. I’m with you on the emotional intelligence aspect. Ive finally identified that’s what has been missing in the last 4-5 short lived relationships I’ve had. I asked a question about it in the datingoverthirty subreddit and the amount of people that didn’t know what emotional intelligence was surprised me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/08/20 03:47 PM
10	I read this, and I don’t doubt this in the slightest bit. I’ve been in similar shoes like this. I feel bad she invested so much time, but why wait so long to define the relationship? She should have had this conversation before prioritizing him in that way. He wasted so much of her time.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/08/20 10:40 PM
3	This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodged Like physically go with them? I would hope a guy wouldn’t fake results, that’s going to extremes to get laid 😂 I suppose crazier things have happened	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/08/20 01:39 PM
5	This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodged Asking them for exclusivity and to get STD tested before you sleep with them. Guys in it for the wrong reasons won’t go through that trouble , or I don’t think they would.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/08/20 10:19 AM
19	This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodged Dang! Date 3 is crazy fast! Way to stick to your guns! I ask for exclusivity before sleeping with someone and typically an STD test, also a good vetting process.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/20 06:30 PM
0	Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄 A friend sent me this Ted talk when I entered the world of online dating after my divorce. It has helped! I’m very polite and my dates would last HOURS! This concept has truly helped me prioritize my time. Its not for everybody, but has been effective for me! https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9jZHw7Wf0v0	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/20 09:50 PM
6	Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄 A zero date! I (34F) much prefer these. You don’t have to waste 2-3 hours at dinner with someone you might know it’s not going to work with in the first 15 minutes. You can take the pressure/stress off of dating and ask yourself “Do I want to have dinner with this person?” opposed to the heavier question of “Do I want a serious relationship with this person?”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/20 10:57 AM
1	I still send essays Do you want to be heard? Or just need to express yourself? I have the same urges/tendencies but have adopted the “write a letter I’ll never send” policy. I get all the feelings out and say everything I need to and put it in a pile to mail later. I find writing by hand more therapeutic. When I was going through my divorce I did the same but as emails I saved as draft (just like Katy Perry). Maybe try that route because I imagine anything you say at this point isn’t going to change him.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/20 05:00 PM
1	Back on dating apps and forgotten how BORING most men are. I prefer Bumble for that reason. Can’t get guys saying “hey” and expecting something to come of it. Unfortunately with COVID it is a lot harder meeting people in other ways	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/08/20 06:55 PM
1	Men are delusional. It’s SO rare to see a single man past 30 who has kept himself up physically. I feel you! I have a filter for people that mark “active” for their exercise level in Bumble. What some men consider active, does not match my definition of active apparently. It’s almost laughable	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/08/20 12:32 PM