TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

treatment-resistant- Archive

View 0 posts and 65 comments by treatment-resistant- on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
5

Not sure women generally are sleeping with hotter guys in casual situations than in committed relationships. I get theres a supply and demand point here which is good to consider, but women are not only selecting in casual settings for attractiveness only. They will also be thinking about safety, discretion, enjoyment which aren't that related to looks. My husband used to do a lot of casual and it wasn't because he is mega Chad, it was because he had a good reputation in his social circle for be…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/26 04:04 AM
53

How do you normally go about determining your view about something? Is it usually via YouTube comments, posting on Reddit, and one real world example?
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 01:55 AM
9

I get the impression you care about others' perception of you because you perceive those things in yourself and view them negatively. But I might be wrong - how do you perceive your life? Do you think you are inexperienced, unhappy or unsuccessful?
/r/ExRedPill13/02/25 05:12 AM
9

That lack of understanding sounds quite challenging (as does living in an area where the dominant culture is so against your own views and values). I can see how you could be struggling with pilled content and feeling frustrated in those circumstances. Could be something useful to explore through some philosophical or psychology reading about how and why people in general can think and feel differently to each other.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/25 03:50 AM
18

Do you struggle in general with the idea that other people have different aims, feelings, values to you, or is this something more specific to romantic / sexual relationships?
/r/ExRedPill13/02/25 03:03 AM
17

When you say it's not obvious to you why someone would have a conventionally unattractive girlfriend, do you mean you think everyone feels the same way as you regarding only wanting a girlfriend as a status symbol? Or that you aren't sure what other reasons people might have to want a girlfriend who is not conventionally attractive?
/r/ExRedPill13/02/25 02:15 AM
3

I struggle with a negative mindset too and discounting actual evidence that is more positive than the mindset would suggest, so I get how difficult it can be. But it is possible to improve and it can really improve your quality and enjoyment of life, as well as put you in a much better place to reach success in your goals, so it's a worthwhile endeavour imo.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/25 05:39 AM
4

The lack of engagement with my first paragraph is informative. I agree it sounds like you do need to do more work on your thoughts processes and mental health.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/25 03:45 AM
12

You say no matter what you do you haven't been able to improve your life, but then go onto describe many ways you've made significant positive changes. It's a pretty common cognitive dissonance amongst incels / depressed people, and I want to check you're aware you're doing it. That negative and factually untrue mindset can be improved with effort, but noticing it is the first step. On not seeing improvement in dating/romantic relationships yet: have you talked to some of your female friends abo…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/25 12:03 AM
12

That's an intriguing response. I kind of get where you're coming from, but I also think in your shoes I would have a lot of negative feelings about a sexual encounter that was so terrible.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 03:26 AM
18

Yeah I'm interested too. Lots of people's anecdotes about sex in a social setting are often about times things went hilariously or terribly wrong, not just how super awesome it was. Is OP filled with rage if he hears a hookup story like this for example?
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 03:11 AM
13

'Competition' is probably too black and white a way to describe dating and relationships. People are looking for different things and have different standards, not in a race to be number one at the same thing. From your post history it looks like you live in a more conservative and uniform culture, so I can see how it might seem like there's a narrow ideal for being a man/woman, what success looks like etc. But I think that is a reflection of your community's values, rather than a universal trut…
/r/ExRedPill16/10/24 06:39 PM
4

Fair enough. I have to say in my life experience and culture I have not seen this. The most common relationship dynamic I've seen has been people of whatever gender ending or considering ending relationships rather than fighting about something they're unhappy about. But I live in quite a conflict avoidant culture so I think that's to be expected. I would suggest the pattern you're seeing might be a reflection of the types of relationship dynamics more common in your culture than something that …
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:41 AM
15

What sort of responses / evidence are you looking for here? Like if a random reddit comment said 'yep all women are like that' would you believe it?
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:30 AM
7

It is more prominent with the advent of online algorithms, which promote extreme content in general to drive online engagement, flowing through to increased advertising revenue.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/24 11:27 PM
4

I'm sympathetic because my brain works in a similar way. I recommend you think about this in a logical, stood back from your emotions way, to recognise that despite your feelings, you also know that your brain is lying to you. When you have sex with a woman, you know your brain is going to do what you've had experience of it doing before: it will just latch onto something else to obsess over instead. Despite how strong those feelings and thoughts are, you know they are incorrect. I found remindi…
/r/ExRedPill27/09/24 02:55 AM
9

Has your brain shifted the goalposts (e.g. before you had sex at all, did you have similar thoughts about how if you could only have sex you'd feel more relaxed/happy/satisfied/realise it wasn't that big of a deal)?
/r/ExRedPill27/09/24 12:39 AM
2

Why does what others think about your desires hurt you?
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 08:41 PM
2

Perhaps my comment was pointless because you've made clear you're not worried about the likelihood of something happening, even the smallest chance is something that distresses you. And also because it's clear you have made up your mind.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 07:46 PM
2

People in pilled spaces spend a lot of time on the internet, including roleplaying women and trying to spread hate in a more subtle way, and including in the comments rather than just making posts. As an example, here's a blog post that includes views from a former mod of a subreddit ostensibly aimed at providing objective measurement of physical beauty, but in practice was born out of a desire to bully women. You seem to have a less critical eye for online content than the average person.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 07:25 PM
9

Then I'm not sure why you brought up that you think it's easier to be in a relationship than have casual sex when someone suggested something casual might suit you.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 06:22 AM
6

Something being more difficult doesn't mean it's the wrong choice for you (unless something being easy has the same importance as other things you've mentioned like sexual validation).
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 05:49 AM
9

I guess we're back to my first question then: I'm not sure why you made this post, if you've already found what you consider the most persuasive evidence and have made up your mind. It's a genuine question not rhetorical. I think most people in your shoes make these posts because they wish they didn't believe what they did, and hope but do not expect there will be anything else that can convince them otherwise. I think if you approach that with a relatively closed off or rigid mind you're a lot …
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 05:32 AM
14

Esther Perel is a therapist who works with individuals and couples, not an academic studying broad populations*. That example doesn't even support the redpill beliefs you've described because Priya says her husband is very physically attractive. I think we're talking at cross purposes here: I would have thought, if you are struggling with how much a belief you don't like resonates with your feelings and seems rational, that the hardest and most rigorous data and analysis available would be somet…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 05:21 AM
19

You may not like it but you don't seem to be very interested in critically thinking about it as much as spiralling deeper into it. If you wanted to explore the accuracy of those beliefs in a more rigorous way, there are international academic studies about relationship satisfaction, infidelity, breakups etc that you could consider rather than anonymous Reddit posts.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 05:10 AM
22

Wow, that's a very direct literal version of confirmation bias (as opposed to not seeking those stories out but noticing them more because they speak to an important belief/fear you have). The number of posts about something is a poor correlation to how common it is IRL. For example, something I've noticed recently is the number of posts about miscarriage in pregnancy forums. By the number and ratio of posts you'd think that the vast majority of pregnancies end in loss. But the scientific statis…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 04:52 AM
49

Another salient point is how many posts on popular subreddits are creative writing exercises.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 03:29 AM
30

There's plenty of content online highlighting couples who stayed with each other long term, even if one got more or less conventionally attractive. You are experiencing confirmation bias, which isn't unusual because we all have different cognitive biases we struggle with, and the pills take advantage of these. The best way to not believe it anymore would be to replace the online content you look at with real world observation and experience of people, singles and couples, good looking and not.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 03:27 AM
34

Is there a question you wanted advice on? Your boyfriend sounds unpleasant and your relationship does not sound good. If I were you I would end the relationship.
/r/ExRedPill05/09/24 08:06 PM
8

Hey OP, what was the point of this post? What are you looking for in posting it?
/r/ExRedPill12/08/24 02:48 AM
2

I can see you do not agree, so I don't think there's much point discussing it further, we aren't going to change each others mind. Perhaps I will just note that the definition I am using is one shared by most academics describing the black pill from an external viewpoint, and the one you are using is more of an in-group definition. On your questions about how many conventionally unattractive people are in relationships, and how satisfied are they, here are some world level population studies tha…
/r/ExRedPill04/08/24 12:25 PM
2

It doesn't, the OP referred to getting "black pilled" which is an ideology comprised of multiple ideas, including hatred and nihilistic views on attractiveness. I agree someone could know they are conventionally unattractive and not have hatred, but that would not fully align with the black pill as an ideology. That was why I asked about it, because they said they were black pilled but didn't mention some other core ideas of that ideology, like hatred. Your last sentence is fairly hopeless and n…
/r/ExRedPill04/08/24 11:19 AM
8

That's good to hear. The way you talked about women in your post made it seem like all women you know ignore you or don't want to interact with you, I'm glad that is not the case. *Edit: hit post too soon sorry! I'll continue my comment below. You talked about how you thought incels etc were ridiculous but this experience makes you think otherwise. There is more to those viewpoints than the idea that conventionally attractive people are more popular and have more dating opportunities, they also …
/r/ExRedPill02/08/24 10:12 PM
12

Are you only friends with men? That seems to be what your post is inferring but it's not fully clear.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/24 10:05 PM
2

Tall Promotion, is that you? If so I'm sad to see you're in the same place. If you're not: OP if you have some empirical evidence to support your views I'd be interested to see it. One study I found which you might be interested in is this 2018 study which found that on dating apps, both men and women seek out partners 25% more attractive than themselves. Btw rates of obesity and being overweight are pretty similar by gender at a population level in the states, though slightly more men are obese…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/24 06:45 PM
8

Well I guess that depends how you define 'attractive' and 'pretty much all'. I'm not sure there's a reputable source for how attractive different partners are (if you have one please post it; if not, I'm not sure internet opinions are going to change anyone's mind). On how many women are having sex compared to men, here's a link to an academic article about a recent sexual history survey in the US. At Figure 1 there's a gap of up to 10% between young men and women under 24 years of age for some …
/r/ExRedPill28/07/24 09:17 AM
18

That is a quite big assumption that any woman you may sleep with in the future will have had lots of experience and slept with hot guys. At a population level, it is not supported by sexual activity/history data (though I'm not aware of any academic survey that measures how hot the participants' sexual partners were). This is a genuine question: I wonder if your assumption means you think the women you would consider having a romantic relationship with would be women who are quite conventionally…
/r/ExRedPill28/07/24 07:22 AM
5

Heed whose advice? Apparently not the people who commented on your previous post on this topic advising you to not continue seeing someone who you do not find attractive.
/r/ExRedPill02/07/24 10:32 PM
7

You're deep in the hole man. There's a big gap between demonising any negative feelings and accepting the hopeless death cult hatred of incels. I think most people would like to be attractive and have options and be romantically and sexually successful, but only a few people get so hung up not having this they fall down an incel/blackpill hole. It might be helpful to explain a bit what you mean about most women being sexually desirable. This idea that only a small percentage of men are desirable…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/24 02:02 AM
6

Thanks for the sources. The Pew Research study appears to be significantly oversampling young women in relationships; here's a link with some useful statistical analysis I found (in an incel space no less). The book looks interesting tbh, I'll try to borrow a copy for a read. It is however fairly old as it was first published 30 years ago, it would be preferable to use more recent analysis and data. The article linked is also interesting (and while not super recent being published in 2010, is mo…
/r/ExRedPill27/05/24 04:32 AM
5

Have to admit there's a certain humour in reading a post and thinking "oh dear, Tall Promotion's back at it again" and scrolling up to see the name of your latest account is height increase. Would you like to provide a source for your claim?
/r/ExRedPill27/05/24 03:48 AM
9

It doesn't look like you have previous posts on this subreddit on this account so I'll take your word for it.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 11:57 AM
15

Why did you think you were toxic? I'm not sure what you mean by it doesn't matter. For most people an unattractive personality will be a significant barrier to finding romantic or sexual connection.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 04:19 AM
17

The literal question in your post is, how do you handle this feeling you don't want. The typical pills would offer you anger and despair as an answer to being frustrated (though the frustration would likely remain). A more mainstream view would look at anger management/emotional regulation, exploring your views and this feeling to understand it better, and advice for things you could do differently so you do not feel so frustrated in the first place. I wonder if the following thought exercise wo…
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 01:36 AM
14

Why would people want to give advice when you spend most of your time trolling and arguing with people who engage with your posts?
/r/ExRedPill03/05/24 09:03 PM
8

It's possible you're right. I just don't think it's the most likely explanation. I am trying to help by commenting non-judgmentally about the negative cognitive distortions I see in your thinking, for the benefit of lurkers who may not be as stuck in an incel mindset as you.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/24 02:03 AM
19

Well based on this post alone: I think you might be judging the women more harshly than most because it would be unusual for all of the women you know to be dating men conventionally more attractive than them. I think it would be more likely that one person has something unusual about them (your mindset) than several people. But you have a long posting history so we both know your views and struggles. The answer to your question about how many more people do you need to meet to see a woman your …
/r/ExRedPill03/05/24 01:44 AM
21

I would say you need to expand your social circle, but I'm not sure it would help. It's possible, but unlikely that all the women you know are dating men who most people would say are more attractive than them. It seems more likely you have a distorted and harsher view of women than most other people, which depending on your standards and what you have to offer, will make dating more challenging. edit: Realised I may have misinterpreted your statement "All of the woman I am close with are dating…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/24 01:09 AM
1

I'm afraid we're talking in circles. If you think all women must be sexually desirable and beautiful to someone, ok. I think differently.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/24 11:34 PM
1

Sorry I am not following your train of thought. I don't see how attraction being a subjective experience means that all women have been sexually desired, or that most women have been told and made to feel they are beautiful. I'm not sure what you mean by "spread out even".
/r/ExRedPill27/04/24 09:49 PM
1

Because I don't think there is a logical connection between subjective attraction and these two premises.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/24 08:39 PM
1

I don't think attraction being a subjective experience means most women have been told they are beautiful and made to feel beautiful, or means all women have been sexually desired.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/24 09:00 PM
28

Do you not know any people who have or had good relationships? That is a little surprising to me. Most of your fears are not even that gendered, but universal fears people have about relationships.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/24 09:17 AM
60

OP you make a lot of posts stating all the reasons you think these forums are unhelpful. Why? What benefit are you deriving from it, or what outcome do you think the posts achieve?
/r/ExRedPill24/04/24 03:04 AM
11

I haven't done much reading about these points so don't have much to add or say about them. On your last statement - the standard argument is "options for what, not good options / better than no options" but it's not very grounded in fact so don't think it's that helpful to get into. Also my original comment was about trying to suss out what OP means by "most" - I think this has gotten a bit confused. Most women is not the same concept as the average woman, and I'm not sure it's a great comparat…
/r/ExRedPill23/04/24 11:28 AM
11

No, the oversampling error point is based on a comparison of the Pew research data to the US census. Pew appears to be oversampling young women in relationships by almost 50%. This comment has the statistical analysis if you want to read.
/r/ExRedPill23/04/24 10:55 AM
12

Could you please cite your source for that split? If it's the Pew research study, I've got a post that discusses how the study oversamples young women in relationships you might be interested in reviewing.
/r/ExRedPill23/04/24 06:16 AM
10

Who is "some"? Sorry I don't think I understand your comment.
/r/ExRedPill23/04/24 02:11 AM
7

A separate point on your main premise: of men who do not have the validation they want, only some of them "go crazy" and become immersed in incel ideology and become mass murderers. I think there is a more complicated mix of factors going on than validation alone.
/r/ExRedPill23/04/24 12:11 AM
29

Maybe I'm confused by what "most" is referring to in your post - it's not the same as average. Is your point that the average man doesn't have validation but the average woman does? I think in an average relationship both parties will tell the other compliments about their appearance.
/r/ExRedPill22/04/24 11:55 PM
80

You are stuck in the incel mindset of only viewing attractive women as women, if you think most women have been told they're beautiful and had someone else make them feel beautiful, or that all women have been an object of desire.
/r/ExRedPill22/04/24 11:37 PM
15

Did you have a response to this comment on your last thread?
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 04:56 AM
12

I read through that post and all the comments. I agree some of the comments are hostile and maybe projecting based on previous experiences with other posters. While I think that's unhelpful, I understand the underlying frustration. The classic red pill, which I think is what you've described, does include a promise that all men could achieve their sexual validation desires, if they can manage to get that bag / hit the gym / manipulate women etc. For an incel-minded man, this is more optimistic t…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/24 05:22 AM
8

Can you link an example post or comment that has the sort of view you described? I don't think I've seen comments like that but we might be looking at different stuff. If you think this forum is unhelpful to you, you don't need to and shouldn't stay. I wonder if your post is supposed to be feedback, or an exit post, or if you are looking for something else?
/r/ExRedPill15/04/24 04:52 AM
9

The pills are a set of beliefs and ideologies, a lens through which you view the world. You could see anything through that lens and translate it into something that supported your beliefs or views if you wished. I often see incels do this by telling people who have different views to them that they're lying or wrong. I'm interested to know what your sexual and romantic goals are.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/24 12:24 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter