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| 1 | Is this forever? | treborcj | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/20 03:22 PM |
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| 13 | Any man got 90 plus percent of the assets during a divorce?I did. I stayed in the home. 60 days to divorce. She said that she wanted to get divorced as soon as possible, She got married 2 months after the divorce to AP; then 5 years later she was divorced again. It started off 50/50 with the 3 kids, and ended with her seeing them once every other weekend. I am doing great financially. Last week she asked for a loan to fix her car. I ignored the request. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/25 06:17 PM |
| 6 | Survey: how much custody % do you have as the father?Started off as 50/50 and for the last 6 years, she gets them every other weekend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/25 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Where did you move out to?Both lived in the same house for 3-4 weeks until she moved out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 02:36 PM |
| 19 | She moved on super quickHi there, it's me. After 16.5 years of marriage and 3 kids, 60 days to divorce and 2 months after that, she remarried. She then divorced that guy within 5 years and 2 more kids. Her life sucks and mine is awesome. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/24 02:12 AM |
| 3 | Divorce Songs List RecommendationsIt was my song at the time Eamon - Fuck It ( Don’t Want You Back) | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/24 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Dads, what has been a win for your parenting as a divorced dad?That they come back home after they graduated. I still see them often. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/24 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Wedding ring after divorceI pawned it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 06:41 PM |
| 5 | Things you wish you had knownthe one who controls where the kids go to school This is so true. That is why I got this. Since she doesn't want to drive back and forth to the school, she leaves them here with me. We have 50/50, but because of this, she only gets them every other weekend. I also have the drop off/ pick up at my residence. It forces her to drive way more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/23 05:17 PM |
| 2 | Divorcing my wife for cheating on me with my fatherDad? That is terrible. Mine cheated with my first cousin. Never saw that guy again. Rarely see the ex now (still share custody). | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 05:23 PM |
| 2 | What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt?I was leaning back on a chair and she pushed me back. I felt pain for a second then couldn't feel my legs for a full minute. I have recovered since. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/23 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Anyone making money?I had so much more money after she was gone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/23 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Wife had a 3 year affair with my brother!That's worse than my ex having sex with my cousin. I had to cut off that whole side of the family. I wish you luck. We are here for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/23 12:08 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else’s wife lose her mind after kids?Yes. My ex cheated after every child birth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/23 12:41 PM |
| 9 | Am I fucked?Maybe you can prove that she committed fraud. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/23 02:52 AM |
| 2 | There is a horror movie being made about your ex. What's the name of the movie?The Nothing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/23 10:32 PM |
| 3 | How did divorce change you emotionally?Married almost 17 years, divorced 8 years ago. She cheated multiple times, so I bottled everything up and let it out on the way home after work...everyday. After I divorced, I felt a weight off of me. I was emotional available again. I learned of my shortcomings and corrected them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/23 02:46 AM |
| 5 | Staying Married for the KidsI stayed way to long for the kids. Pride kept me there. I just could not get over the cheating, but I didn't want to feel like a loser. I would be so upset when driving home after work just thinking about what she did with these guys. I feel so much better without her. Mental Health improved so much. The kids now see how each parent navigates life. I believe my kids are better off that we divorced. Not saying to divorce but just saying what helped me. I hope you find your peace as I did. Good lu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/23 04:25 PM |
| 6 | How are we supposed to afford to live?My Ex was doing the same thing. Going out on dates, coming home 3-5 am. It was messing with my mental health. We were also renting at the time. I spoke to my lawyer and he said that I could ask her to move out. I spoke to her and told her it would be best for her to move. I said that if she didn't move, I would move. She wouldn't be able to pay the rent and would have to move out anyway, I could pay to stay. I would think she wants the kids to be in a stable home. She agreed and left. She asked … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/23 05:31 PM |
| 3 | I’m very nervous about this divorce. Wife wanted it after 13 years. Two kids 12,6. She has signed and I’ve filed. She wants to leave back to her country. We live In Missouri state. She’ll let’s me keep, the house with me cash buy her out for 45k, i keep my rav4 30k, she’ll keep kia 07 5k.If the lawyer is any good, they will know what judge they will go before. My lawyer picked the judge and picked questions that my lawyer would ask me before the judge. The judge listened and signed it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/23 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Divorced now for 1 month, been separated for a year. 3 kids under age 8. Just found out my ex has a new boyfriend and the kids have met him. I have had a girlfriend but for some reason I’m really struggling with hatred right now. Suggestions?Mine got married 2 months after the divorce. I just said, "she's his problem now". You can't control what she does, just your reaction to it. Go out and enjoy your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/23 10:28 PM |
| 2 | My wife (26F) and I (31M) have both decided that we’re ready to divorce, there is no recovering from things that have happened. She’s open to giving me 50/50 custody of our child, and mediation, i’d appreciate any feedbackI am in Texas. I told the attorney, I had evidence of her past infidelities and he said that doesn't matter. My ex did agreed to 50/50. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/23 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Tell me she is going to destroy her new relationship.It took my ex 3 years and 2 more kids before it flamed out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/23 06:18 PM |
| 5 | She wont get a lawyer!My ex did this too. I got the lawyer and filed. She signed the paperwork and done. She had no strategy. She just relied on me to do everything like I always did. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/23 04:18 PM |
| 2 | My wife wants a divorceThe divorce was almost 8 years ago. I have accomplished much since. I was holding myself back while married to her. Now I am with someone much better. My life has been awesome. Her life however has been rough. She got 2 more kids and another divorce. She did not make the same mistake and is getting child support from him; but she is still struggling though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/23 10:17 PM |
| 33 | My wife wants a divorceShe is definitely seeing someone else. When my ex said she wanted a divorce, she told me to get it done fast or she will ask for child support and alimony. I got it done in 2 months, the fastest allowable by law (Texas). 2 months after the divorce, she got married. Take the deal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/23 12:07 PM |
| 2 | What did you do with your old wedding band?Sold it to a pawn shop. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/23 04:57 PM |
| 1 | 37m - Less than a year divorced - "talk to dad' opposed to "talk to your dad" difference in language?Same with me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/23 03:32 PM |
| 9 | just got a gun pointed at me.I feel you. My ex cheated on me too. Took a long time to come to terms with it. She would never change. But when it came time to divorce, it was war. She was just someone I used to know. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/23 07:26 PM |
| 6 | just got a gun pointed at me.I got a temporary retaining order on my ex-wife before we got divorced. They granted it for one month. I say that helped me in the long run. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/23 07:23 PM |
| 3 | If you had 5 years to plan for divorce…5? I raise you 10. Because that is when I decided that we will get a divorce. I waited for an opening and didn't fight it once she cheated again. The AP wanted her to divorce quickly. She agreed to 50/50 with the kids , no spousal support and no child support. I have 3 kids. Divorce took about 60 days. 2 months later she married him. What did she get it from it. 2 more kids and another divorce. She lives with some guy for the past 2 years because she was tired of being broke all the time. It sti… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 01:16 PM |
| 14 | Wife changing her mindThe cheating just ate at me. You will never forget and the marriage will suffer. Divorce now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 12:42 PM |
| 2 | Seriously curious...Good too hear a story like this. I too have grown and know what I wanted. I found someone that is perfect for me. After almost 8 years together, she has never changed. We had our own kids and jobs. Life with her just keeps getting better and better. But like you said, it is like playing the lottery. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 12:14 PM |
| 1 | she's out.I got my divorce in 60 days. She wanted it done fast. It does happen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/23 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Did anyone here try telling your spouse that if they don’t contribute more then the marriage won’t work out?I am right there with you. While she does make some money it is very little compared to me. I went from making 3 times to 10 times in the last 3 years. However in her defense; she got injured on the job and started over in another career because of said injury. It takes a while to build your business from scratch with no prior experience. Since I pay all the bills, I set the budget and she respects that. Don't hint at a divorce. Talk to her more and make her realize that you are not ok with the … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/23 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Finding that right Divorce lawyerI read reviews. Google, Yelp, etc. I found a great one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/23 07:32 PM |
| 1 | What is the purpose of her hiding her real number from me when we are coparenting?No clue. You could use one of those parent communication apps so it doesn't bother you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/22 11:25 PM |
| 2 | How many of you lovely lot have actually found a genuinely nice and kind woman who makes you happy ?I have. Known her for over 7 years and she has not changed. The happiest person I have ever met in my life only surpassed by my son. We have so much in common. We have so much fun together. This is how life should be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/22 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Need adviceCut off contact with her family and file. She is going to continue acting this way. Been there and got the divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 01:59 PM |
| 2 | do they ever change back?Change? She always was. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/22 05:06 PM |
| 6 | Pressured into marriageI got my girlfriend pregnant right out of high school. She cried when I told her I wanted to wait. I had a full scholarship to go to two colleges; one out of town and the other out of state. She kept at it and married her. I did not go to school. 6 months later my son was born. Divorced 16 years after that. Later she would say, she did it because her sister and friends were getting married and she didn't want to disappoint her family who were deeply religious. I did eventually get a degree 6 yea… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/22 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Anyone’s ex wife not like giving blowjobs?Same | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/22 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support?I understand about the pay thing. I was making 2.5 times her was when I got married 3 years ago. I now make 10 times. All you can do is present it to her. You never know unless you try. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 07:00 PM |
| 1 | How would you feel about EX's fiance watching child? details insideNot sure about a Mediator, but my attorney put a "Morality Clause" in my divorce decree. He also said that it was not enforceable. Judge signed off on it. Happens all the time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/22 09:00 PM |
| 5 | Divorced then back together?My ex-wife's mom did. Her parents got divorced and married other people. Her mom divorced for a second time then got remarried to that same person. She ultimately got divorced again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/22 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Should I move out or cohabitate?We had a 3 bedroom house. We let the kids have the master and we went to the other 2 rooms. That lasted about 3-4 weeks. I gave her a choice. Either she moves out or I do. If I did, she would not be able to pay for it, then they would be out of the house too. Either way she wouldn't be there. She left me and the kids there. Now she gets them every other weekend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/22 01:38 PM |
| 7 | Guy who got divorce, is life better?Yes!!!!!! Living a peaceful life without her. The joy I have in my life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/22 11:34 PM |
| 1 | STBX wants to discuss drugs and alcohol - feeling set upMorality Clause - The parents agree that no unrelated person of the opposite sex with whom the parent is involved in an intimate or dating relationship shall be in the presence of the children between the hours of 8:00 p.m. and 8:00 a.m., unless the parent has been in the relationship for at least eight months, is engaged to be married, or the other parent agrees in writing. Again, my lawyer said that this was not enforceable but she agreed. Edit: fixed spacing | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/22 09:43 PM |
| 3 | STBX wants to discuss drugs and alcohol - feeling set upI would agree but it should apply to her as well. That way you don't get into the details. I had a Morality Clause in mine because I knew she would bring different guys around our kids. Either one you can't really police/enforce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/22 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Wife actually smacked meMy ex-wife hit me as well. I let her out of the car when I could. I just drove around and saw a police officer parked. He took pics of my face and in my mouth. It was maybe a week before the police arrested her at her job. Sometimes you got to do what you got to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/22 04:43 PM |
| 1 | How many points do you score? High score wins…15 16 if you add no parents around. When her parents divorced (She was 6), they sent her to live with her grandparents which they then legally adopted. 17 Both parents divorced twice 18 Strict religious upbringing. She was very rebellious. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/22 01:51 PM |
| 7 | My wife wants a divorce because different views on spending, am I better off just letting her spend rather than get screwed financially by the divorce anyway?Dude. My ex wife spent all the money. We lived paycheck to paycheck. I went from making. $8 per hr to over $30 and it made no difference. Once we divorced I had so much more money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/22 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Something differentWe married young, right out of high school. Before we divorced, we had a conversation where I asked what I did wrong. She answered honestly. Don't get me wrong, she cheated a lot while we were married. This was the reason for the divorce. However I know that I wasn't perfect and needed to know what I could improve on. I used that info to make me a better partner for my next relationship. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/22 01:58 PM |
| 1 | My family still talks to my ex-wife as if we aren’t divorced. This is not normal, right?This happened to me too. I noticed that my ex would still contact my family. We were married for 16 years. I told my family how I felt about it but left it up to them. I can only control myself. Now after 7 years divorce, contact is mostly just commenting on Facebook posts. They say it is to make sure she isn't bashing me. Which she does from time to time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/22 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Custody QuestionNo child support or spousal support. She wanted the divorce over quickly so she could be with that guy. Texas has a 60 day waiting period. Judge granted the divorce on day 61. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/22 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Custody QuestionTexas here. Had 7M and 12F at that time so close to their age. Got 50/50, called 5-2-2-5. She got Monday, Tuesday. I got Thursday, Friday. Every other week I had Friday, Saturday, Sunday. It worked out great. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/22 06:37 PM |
| 4 | 15 years of marriage down the drainExactly! I did the same thing. Speed is the key. My ex also already had someone. I convinced her to move out. I kept almost everything. Also paid less then 5K on the lawyer. In Texas, there is a 60 day waiting period, divorce completed on day 61. Almost 17 years, 3 kids, no spousal support or child support. She currently has them every other weekend. This is a war now so don't concede. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/22 04:25 PM |
| 1 | It is over, it is doneI sold mine to a pawn shop | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/22 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Is joint legal/physical custody real?My son was 7 when I divorced, it works. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/22 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Is joint legal/physical custody real?I have 50/50, so yes it's true. Don't settle for less. That does not mean she gets the week and you have eow. Half the time with you and half for your ex. Is your son a baby? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/22 10:18 PM |
| 5 | Talking to co-workers about a pending divorce???I let my manager (female) and team (all male) know. A team member let me know how his divorce is going and gave me tips. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/22 08:26 PM |
| 5 | Freedom!!!!!Congrats!. I got the same deal. Feels awesome. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/22 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Late in Life Divorce Question - Feedback from Other Men (My Yoga Day)Men really don't need much. I read somewhere that a guy can be content living in a cardboard box. But you need a better place to get a woman. Pretty funny. I had a whole bunch of money once the ex was gone. She was like a black hole. Money could not escape her grasp. Leave as soon as possible. Mental health is just as important as your financials. I felt so much better after she was gone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/22 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Trying to get off lease where I rented with ex. Neither she nor the landlord are responsive, what next? (California)Well I think you did all you can. Keep the returned mail and note any other efforts to reach the landlord. If they do come after you for any reason, you have your records. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/22 04:48 PM |
| 7 | What was the moment you realized it was over?When she told me that she cheated. I tried to stay for the kids. In my mind I could last 17 years. I really gave up in year 7 and completely resigned to this hell. I knew I didn't love her anymore but I was determined to see it through. She eventually got tired of it and asked for the divorce. At first I was upset but just did not have any more fight in me to save the marriage. It was now me against her and I fought that and won. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | I hate her..Honestly I don't know how I would survive if I had to pay half. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Is an attorney worth it?I made less than you and had nothing of value. I still got a lawyer. Paid the 5k retainer and she agreed to everything. Got back 1500. Best investment ever. If I got a mediator it would have been worse for me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/22 10:40 PM |
| 5 | "Divorced" but still living togetherI was in the same boat. She wanted to continue to live together. After speaking to my lawyer I convinced her to move out. I told her that if she didn't move out then I would. I said that she could not afford this place on her own and that she would have to move anyway. The kids need a stable place and I would be able to pay the bills after she left, so she did. Edit: typo | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/22 11:53 AM |
| 12 | 5th Anniversary of my Divorce!! Not sure why I even keep track of this day…it’s a horrible memory, but I’m so much better off today and I’m happy as F about it! Do any of y’all celebrate your divorce anniversary?My divorce was on 4/20. What do you think? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/22 02:16 PM |
| 5 | Is it time to propose to my GF (2nd marriage for both)Is she asking you to get married? If not, don't mess up the status quo. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/22 08:37 PM |
| 1 | keeping a secretI agree. They don't want to be forced to pick a side. Divorce on kids is tough. Not seeing the other parent all the time like they used to. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/22 10:04 PM |
| 3 | Men’s view on cheating?My ex cheated a lot. She wanted me to cheat so we could "be even". I did not want to do that. Even now after being divorced for 7 years, just last week she brought up a name of a guy she cheated with in 2005 in a text message. Why did she bring this up? I don't care. That's the magic of divorce. I ignore it. You should forget about it and move on and stop cheating. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/22 09:58 PM |
| 6 | 50/50 Custody and Child support50/50, 3 kids, no child support, at the time made almost 3 times more than her. How did that happen? She agreed because the other guy wanted her to hurry the divorce so they can have sex. (How thoughtful of him and dumb of her) Edit: Forgot to say I am in Texas | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 11:29 PM |
| 4 | Unsettled WatersI feel you. Looks like you don't have any kids with her so try to go as fast as you can so you can start to rebuild. My ex also told me she never loved me. Almost 17 years and never loved me? Ex just wasted both of lives. You are in a good position, don't waste it. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/22 11:25 PM |
| 1 | She was granted an order of protect against meDo they have physical evidence? My ex hit me while I was driving with our kids in the car. After I went to the police, they took pictures and it was out of my hands. They charged her and it stayed on her record since she didn't fight it. Fight it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/22 10:47 PM |
| 2 | After 368 days, finally dipped a toe into the dating pool. Immediately peed my pants. Random divorced-guy thoughtsA co-worker introduced me a dating app in 2015. It didn't take me long to get dates with multiple women. After 2-3 weeks, I was tired of going out everyday. I picked one and we are still together. I would definitely say that you have a child. I wanted someone with a child and who didn't want to birth anymore. She was exactly that. Also don't be afraid to put some personality into your profile. Post action pics. I went skydiving so I posted a pic of that. Women love that stuff. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/22 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Making 50/50 Custody WorkMy kids school had after school care. I would pick them up when I got out from work. This was my cheapest option. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/22 01:30 PM |
| 5 | My wife told me on New Year's Eve she wanted a divorce. Today she confirmed it.It is possible. My ex agreed but I took no chances when it came to my kids. I got a lawyer. I got the divorce in 60 days. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/22 11:59 PM |
| 6 | Lying cheating ex wife remarriedMy cheating ex wife got married too. Then divorced him. So...... | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/22 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Found out my wife is fucking a coworkerI know how you feel. Ex-wife cheated as well. After the divorce she got married again to that same guy. He then cheated on her. She told me sorry because she now knows how it feels. File and get it over with so you can move on with your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/22 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Are "essential" (medical, dental, vision, daycare etc.) expenses typically 50/50?Same here | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/22 05:59 AM |
| 28 | Wife’s boyfriend is marriedThis is what happened to my ex., she got distracted. Married 16 years and she said she wanted the divorce over quickly. I got everything I wanted. She married the other guy 2 months after the divorce. She is now divorced from that guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/22 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Seeking Personal and Maybe Legal Advice from Other Men in the USAI wonder how the consult went. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/22 01:03 AM |
| 2 | There has got to be some sort of justice in this world.I have posted this before "The best revenge is living well. After my ex cheated on me, she married the guy. That guy cheated on her and gave her 2 more kids. She now lives in a 1 bedroom apartment with her kids in a bad part of town and someone broke into her place and took her most valuable things. Also she wreaked her only transportation so she has to walk everywhere. What you throw out in the world comes back to you. Don't worry." | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/21 10:27 PM |
| 11 | Cost of RepresentationMy wife at the time, always spent every dime I had. It didn't matter how much money I made, so I didn't have savings. I was lucky to have a sister that loaned me 5K. Only took me 2-3 months to pay her back since I didn't have someone spending all the money. Also the lawyer gave me back some money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/21 03:09 PM |
| 1 | I’m a good husband, but she has unrealistically high expectations of me.I feel you. When I was with my ex, I would dread going home. On the drive home, I would remember what she did to me and I could not believe that I was in that situation. My mental health was declining. After the divorce, THE PEACE!!!!!!!!!!! The weight of the world was removed from my shoulders. I didn't realize how tense my muscles were and I was suffocating. The only thing holding me back from divorcing early was the kids. You don't have that problem. Your mental and physical health is what is… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/21 02:34 PM |
| 30 | I want to watch her entire world crumble ten fold what she has dont to me.The best revenge is living well. After my ex cheated on me, she married the guy. That guy cheated on her and gave her 2 more kids. She now lives in a 1 bedroom apartment with her kids in a bad part of town and someone broke into her place and took her most valuable things. Also she wreaked her only transportation so she has to walk everywhere. What you throw out in the world comes back to you. Don't worry. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/21 05:26 PM |
| 4 | Requesting Alimony as a HusbandGet what you deserve. File for alimony. Being a stay at home parent is work regardless of gender. She may be starting to be nice so you won't ask for that. Also state you need child support, it is not automatic. Get a good lawyer because your kids are worth it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/21 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Can’t pull the trigger on filing for divorceOne bedroom is totally fine. When I separated the first time, she called CPS. They came and I didn't have any furniture but a couple of blowup beds. CPS thought everything was fine and left. It is all about if the kids have food and shelter and are safe. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/21 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Should I admit I've been reading her messages or not?Yes, my ex definitely felt guilty for her years of cheating. She agreed to everything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/21 05:16 PM |
| 2 | First missed birthdayMy lawyer thought of this, in my divorce decree whoever doesn't have the child on their birthday gets to have them for 2 hours that day. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/21 08:28 PM |
| 4 | Any stories of Couple that were at the edge of divorce separated for sometime but then reconciled?I don't know, but I will say that I did get back together after 4 months of being separated. I even had a protective order on her. The next 10 years together sucked. She cheated before and after that moment. I got divorced and I felt alot better about life and myself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/21 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Did anyone else really throw themselves into work after their divorce? It seems like a band aid but after almost four years and a couple relationships I just feel empty and keeping busy doesn't really cut it.I did not throw myself into work. I found a friend to hang out with. He helped me with going through the divorce and then the death of my father a couple of months later. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/21 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Help me Grey Rock this text!Yes ignore her. My ex used to bash me in social media. I just ignored it. You make rules at your house and she makes rules at her house. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/21 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Do women eventually mellow out?Mine did, but she had to hit rock bottom. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/21 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Child support questionI can also confirm in Texas it is allowed if both parties agree. I did it in 2015. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/21 08:40 PM |
| 5 | Separated from spouse, paying child support. No spousal support yet mandated. Suppose reports she needs medical care. Pre-divorce, how dumb is it to volunteer to help pay?About to say this. They like to go with the status quo. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/21 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Still married for some reason.She sounds like my ex wife. She hit me as well. I stayed in the house. See her staying out all night. Couldn't take it and she moved out. Domestic violence record did make job hunting more difficult for her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/21 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Don’t know what to doMy ex was the same way. She would cheat, I would find out, she would stop seeing him, then the cycle would continue with someone else. She even told me that she wanted to married one of them. They never change. You can forgive but never forget. Took me a long time but I am glad I got divorced. Fight for your time with the kids, I got the 50/50 I wanted and you can too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/21 06:55 PM |
| 3 | How the tables have turnedNice rhymes my dude. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 16/06/21 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Tax claiming questionThe way I am claiming them for tax purposes is having one person gets to claim them in even years and the other on odd years. However I did get 50/50 custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/21 07:06 PM |
| 7 | Wife begging me not to Divorce after hitting me while drunkI feel for you. I was one of those guys. I went and found a cop and he took pictures. After a few months separation, we got back together. Found out that she pleaded guilty to domestic violence. I found out later that would basically ruin her chances for a good job as it comes up in background checks. So this would affect your financial future as well as did mine. Couple that with her constant cheating and it was a recipe for disaster. I struggled for 10 more years with that woman and just never… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/21 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Far too many men live comfortably miserable.Yeah, every other weekend. I wish I could get CS, she doesn't have a job and just moved in with her boyfriend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/21 05:13 PM |
| 15 | Far too many men live comfortably miserable.Comfortably miserable is exactly what is was. I am much better off without her. Almost 17 years married with 3 kids. No child support or alimony. 50/50 custody. I currently have them 85% because she moved out of the area. She is constantly trying to get me to let her have more time. She signed the same agreement I did. I based all my life choices on my kids. She did the opposite. It can be done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/21 04:51 AM |
| 2 | Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you?I am already divorced. I have 3 kids and there were a few things I was looking for in a partner. They must have kids - Not that I need a mother for them, but I would like to know how they are as a parent since my youngest was 7 at the time. They do not want to birth anymore kids - I don't want anymore so I want someone on the same page. If they have kids already then they will likely not want (or need) kids with me. There were more but unrelated to kids. So I was not looking for someone that did… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/21 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Q for Divorced/Separated parents. If you could go back and time and not meet the person you separated from and gave you your children,would you? Even though that would mean you would of never have had your current kids.I have already discussed this with my wife as this is both our second marriage. The only way I would be ok with it is if I had no memory of them. So if that was the case, likely the same choices would be made. So the only answer for me would be no. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/21 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Are they going to pick apart my taxes for ever?Not sure why they would need your tax returns after you are divorced. Never had to produce mine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/21 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Does any man get 50/50 time with their kids?I have 50/50 in Texas. Since December I have them 85% of the time. She moved out of the restricted area. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/21 12:55 PM |
| 1 | can a judge really force you to pay child support if you both agreed none is needed?Hope everything went well. I had a great lawyer and he knew which judge to go before. I did not have to pay child support as agreed to by both of us. My kids are taken care of by both parents. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/21 04:44 AM |
| 3 | How successfull are you on Dating apps?I feel you. I was getting tired of all the dates so I picked one. Glad I did, consistently out at 3am and back at work at 8am. Just couldn't take it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/21 03:04 AM |
| 6 | How successfull are you on Dating apps?I was 35 with 3 kids. I spent about 2-3 weeks on Plenty of Fish. I would not consider myself good looking. I am hoping I am average. Ladies that age are really eager so it wasn't hard getting dates. I just picked who I wanted to be with and believe I choose correctly. I married her in 2019 after 4 years together. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/21 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Is this forever?I ignored her email. She just dropped them off for my time during the holiday break. No drama. Thank you for your words. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Is this forever?I too got the 50/50 I wanted, with no alimony or child support. I kept my car. She too makes bad life choices and calls me the bad guy. I have a great life without her. Now since her move, she gets them every other weekend and a Wednesday dinner. When I bought my house I made sure I stayed the the Geographical Area. She just doesn't think things though. I never thought that she probably hates that I am living a great life. Thank you for your words. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/20 04:06 PM |
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