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My pleasure 😊 The key is to be consistent in doing it every day. It doesn't have to be the same ritual every day. The point is to consciously choose to be intimate (but not necessarily sexual) with each other, every single day!
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 10:25 PM
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Nothing wrong with vanilla sex, as long as you're both happy with it 🙂 I found daily love rituals to be crucial to keeping the flame alive. Choose one ritual to start with and add more with time. Some examples might include. Daily walk together. Having tea together. One minute or longer, deep kissing daily. Greeting each other/ sending each other off with kissing / hugging / touching that's longer and deeper than a quick peck. Naked or near naked daily cuddle for 15 minutes. Sensual massage for …
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 04:09 PM
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Women have a limited number of eggs, whereas men do not have a limited number of sperm. Also giving birth is a ordeal that men don't have to do. So women are more invested in raising children in the most ideal environment, and men are more invested in finding mating opportunities. Its hard to explain, look up "anisogamy". Women are slower and require more calories during pregnancy. Also, women are generally not as accomplished as men. Even single women aren't generally as accomplished as men. It…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 02:27 AM
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The pill was horrible for my mental health and it made sex much more challenging. So yeah, that didn't work out well at all. The IUD is great for me. Once it's in, it's in for a few years.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 02:18 AM
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Well said. My impression of that post was that she was being unreasonable. As for the point that u/Artiramisu makes in this post, where she says: The men that post on this sub urging her to stay with him and communicate with him, or bash her for wanting someone more dominant and put together in life given that she’s young, pretty, can cook/clean and is clearly a catch....are going against the female imperative. IDK, is it against the female imperative to stay with a good man? Is it against the f…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 12:56 PM
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In short - you wanted him to change for you and he didn't. Now you're upset about it. and didn’t want to be in a relationship with a guy like that but it just happened It didn't just happen. You're playing stupid games and winning stupid prizes.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 02:11 PM
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Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 01:50 PM
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Do you have any links to these studies?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 11:21 PM
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Okay
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 11:20 PM
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I think that my husband loves and values me even when I am not a domestic goddess, which is often. What do you mean? When you're more lazy and dependant on him, he values you more than when you bring value to the marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 05:05 PM
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I feel like just by needing to eat this diet my SMV drops because it limits the activities and food we'd be able to eat together. It isn't your SMV that's concerning here, it's your RMV. If you're just looking for sex, this isn't an issue altogether! If you're looking for a relationship - I can see why you'd be concerned. However, if you bring a lot of value to the table, this shouldn't be an issue. It will become an issue if you make him eat your diet or if you won't cook for him, the things th…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 10:53 PM
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I don’t know if that’ll be sustainable when we have kids, I can answer that one. It won't be sustainable when you have children. Especially when they're small. Sure, you can sometimes leave town alone when necessary, but you'd want to minimize that. I once met someone at a conference who told me that she has a deal with her husband. When he goes to a conference, she stays with the kids and he's a free man for the duration of the conference. He should not call or text or have any contact with her…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 01:50 AM
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You're welcome. It's a shame that this post and its comments haven't received much traction. It's a very important topic. I wouldn’t want to force myself to be TOO distant from my man in the name of aloofness and mystery, I don't know if I'm allowed to say this here, but I totally disagree with the whole idea of game that's discussed in various RP forums. Whether it's the man playing his side of the game or the woman playing her side of the game. Reason - long term relationships are meant to be …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 08:04 PM
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Meh. TRP is all about facing uncomfortable truths. It isn't about being politically correct to protect feelings. At any rate, you didn't address any of my actual points. You were too busy being offended by my language.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 04:47 PM
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Why is it wrong to use the word retarded? Especially when it's an accurate description of what op is doing.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 04:22 PM
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This is excellent advice! I'll add my 2c. Boundaries and the balance between together time and space and separate time and space. Too much closeness can lead to us feeling smothered. It can cause us to not feel any need to come closer because we're already so close all the God damn time! Too much separation can lead us to feel alienated or disconnected. It's difficult to intimately connect with someone who feels like a stranger. Solution: put together time and space as well as separate time and …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 04:18 PM
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Calling people retarded is bullying, and unacceptable. I didn't call anyone retarded, u/JadedByEntropy What I said is: What you're doing is absolutely retarded. Please don't put words in my mouth.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 03:54 PM
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Where are your parents??? Why are you mixing in??? You're not setting him up for success by teaching him to be violent. Being an alpha male / not a pushover - doesn't require criminal violence. What you're doing is absolutely retarded. Bullying is a serious issue and there are better ways to deal with it. Your brother needs to learn how to actually deal with the problem. He won't solve anything by adding fuel to the flames. The book - bullies to buddies - is an outstanding book on this topic.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 02:06 PM
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There's plenty in the sidebar of this sub. I think that's a good place to start.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/21 02:12 PM
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... Like does he want to see it once out of curiosity or is it sexual? I'd say, if it's a one time thing it's curiosity. If it's an ongoing request, it's sexual.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/21 11:47 AM
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What doesn't make sense? I don't quite understand your objection. Getting sex is easier for women than it is for men. Getting a relationship and marriage is easier for men than it is for women. This is because men generally want sex more than women and women generally want relationships and marriage more than men. This makes women the gatekeepers of sex and men the gatekeepers of relationships. Hashtag not all, but that doesn't change the fact that these dynamics are generally true. That's why t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/21 03:39 PM
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There is a moral base which everybody follows; Sure, but not everyone follows the same morals. This was my point and you still didn't respond to it. also, morality is not some free-floating domain, it comes from utility and living in a society. Again, just because you consider something to be immoral, doesn't mean that everyone does. Most people who say they don't want commitment think they can stomach future loneliness, but they won't. I've met men who travel the world and have a lifestyle inco…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 07:33 PM
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And remember that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of relationships. Don't give away the sex in the hopes of gaining a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 02:14 PM
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This isn't about a "should", as truly, marriage separates the committed from the non-commited; Okay. Please explain your point you were trying to make in the previous comment, because I'm not sure I understand what you're trying to say. this is about character and morality. Who's morality? Morality emanates from your core values. Not everyone shares the same core values and therefore, not everyone agrees on what is and isn't moral. If you live a care free life then nobody will care back for you …
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 02:12 PM
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This is not about "settling" either, it's about responsibility Why should anyone be obligated to assume the responsibility in the first place? If you're already married, you have a responsibility towards your spouse and children. But if you aren't, and you're happy living a carefree life of little responsibility - why should you need to change that?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 12:07 PM
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Do you have any advice on how to work on this? Think of how you want to be and practice being that way. It will only change with practice.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 07:16 PM
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If you were just looking for sex, looks are almost everything. If you're looking for marriage, looks play a much smaller role. You being disagreeable is a much bigger problem.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 02:26 PM
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I think most people view sex as the ultimate form of intimacy... I agree that sex is the ultimate form of intimacy. I'm not convinced that most people see it this way.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 05:35 AM
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Of course, the book would help you to stay and improve your relationship and not on how to leave. Regardless of whether OP truly wants to stay or leave, this is an important issue for her to figure out if she wants to have a healthy relationship in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 11:45 PM
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Local parks that have enough space to run + monkey bars for pull ups.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 03:59 PM
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Excellent post through and through. I don't have much to add, except for this. ”Men are seldom driven to a mistress because of sex passions. It is usually her ability to fill an emotional need, to make him feel appreciated and important.” There's a lot of truth to this. Here's a helpful video from the school of life on the matter.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 01:44 AM
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Thank you, you're the best! Thank you for doing XYZ. I love the way you did ABC. Don't worry that this didn't come out that great. It's okay to fail sometimes. You're still my hero! You take such good care of me! The book - for women only - does a great job at explaining why men need respect more than they need love. And of course, good food and good sex will help keep him on cloud 9.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/21 05:41 PM
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Good question in the title, but your post is extremely detailed. You're your own boss. You set your own rules. However, please understand that with each additional criteria, your pool of available matches will diminish. If you're open to dating any person above 18 with no other criteria to meet, you'll have several billion available matches, because you'd be open to dating men and women, tall and short, skinny and fat, rich and poor, smart and stupid etc etc etc. If you say you'll only date men,…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/21 05:35 PM
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(new account because my 7 year old account was permanently suspended for upvoting redpill content, awesome) What??? But I have always wondered if I should save this one last thing I have to "give" a man until we at least live together? I don't understand the logic and I think this isn't a wise idea. I don't understand the logic - because I'd imagine that vaginal sex is much more important than anal sex to 99.9% of people. 1. Vaginal sex is like the "main dish" and anal sex is like the "side dish…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 04:56 PM
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Is that what this sub is about? Seeing Men as leaders and women as followers? I can't speak for the sub, you'll have to ask the mods for an official statement 😂 But as u/JimiJons said: It's more so men as the primary leader and women as the secondary leader in a family unit, hence the captain/first mate dynamic. Decisions can allow for mutual input and discussion, but the final call is the captain's, and once that call is made, there must not be any argument or dissent, only the full support of …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 09:12 PM
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You're welcome 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 05:13 PM
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If you want him to be your leader, you will need to be his follower. This means, supporting and encouraging him no matter what. If you want him to succeed, you have to allow him to fail. Because it's impossible to succeed without failing. If you support him through this, you'll be stronger than ever as a couple. If you show him that you believe in him and trust him, it'll build up his chances of success in the future. Yes, he failed this time. But being with him through thick and thin means supp…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 04:54 PM
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Is this a dealbreaker for men? It might be for some. I think it isn't a deal breaker for most men. Would he find himself feeling like he may be missing out? The hypergamy/dominance dynamic means that women date up and men date down. Therefore, women are more likely to feel like they could have done better. Because that's their hypergamy in search for the very best they could attain. Men however aren't necessary looking for the very best at all. Rather, men are looking for someone who is whole an…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 04:46 PM
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