trhaynes Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
426	Sometimes it hits home really hard	Marriage/Children	trhaynes	/r/MensRights	30/10/22 04:58 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	"Men want sex women want love" my girlfriend said I think the problem is in assuming one sex is “superficial” and the other is “deep.” What really happens is that men and women tend to separate out different aspects of the same thing. Porn strips sex down to the body without the person. Romance novels strip it down to emotions and fantasy without the person. Both are distortions. Real intimacy isn’t just bodies or just feelings... it’s the whole person. When either side gets isolated, whether through porn or through idealized romance, it turns …	/r/MensRights	03/10/25 06:58 PM
2	Major update on mom who abducted three sons, vanished into Canadian woods The author is a Penn state grad of all of 3 months. A very young, left leaning university grad.... that tracks.	/r/MensRights	29/08/24 07:13 PM
1	Seeking Advice: How to Handle False Accusations from an Angry Spouse during an outbursts of anger? Have you tried talking to her during a calm time and expressing how bad this is for you, and asking her to stop doing it?	/r/MensRights	18/06/24 07:22 PM
38	Why do tickets cost more for males? Because women attract men to events, and men will pay a premium to be around women. Clever sex discrimination marketing.	/r/MensRights	11/04/24 08:31 PM
0	Shakira Says 'Barbie' Sent Wrong Message About Feminism Michael Knowles had an awesome take on the Barbie movie, and why he loved it. It's also why my entire family loved it. Most people (including Shakira) seemed to have missed this interpretation: https://youtu.be/XJ28EZBpWwM?si=pm1ZFDVaEJ5Ut-Ki	/r/MensRights	02/04/24 02:10 PM
8	Is there a country where men have rights when it comes to abortion? Here are a few countries you can look at moving to: Paternal rights and abortion - Wikipedia	/r/MensRights	05/03/24 09:44 PM
1	Gender pay gap Ask Uber. First ones with big data to prove that there is a gap, but it's caused by women accepting less work, at the wrong times of day, and underperforming compared to male colleagues. Uber's Gender Pay Gap Study May Show The Opposite Of What Researchers Were Trying To Prove (forbes.com)	/r/MensRights	05/03/24 05:36 PM
4	What's a common thing that girls do, that's annoying/insulting without them realizing it? Never-ending complaining. Related to this is: complaining to get help instead of just politely asking for help.	/r/MensRights	09/11/23 05:35 PM
3	What's the equal phrase to 'happy wife, happy life' for husbands? I never repeat that miserable phrase. My preferred alternative (which should be the mainstream narrative) is this: "Happy spouse, happy house." Covers both partners quite nicely.	/r/MensRights	04/07/23 01:18 PM
1	Women have won the "battle of the sexes." But at what cost? A new theory held by a minority of researchers, who seem to be anachronistically applying the modern practices of a few dozen modern hunter-gatherer tribes to the ancient practices of our species. I'll stick to the majority view.	/r/MensRights	02/07/23 06:02 AM
28	Women have won the "battle of the sexes." But at what cost? Weaving baskets, breastfeeding, grinding meal, and chitchatting with the other gals, while the men hunt, fish, build, and farm... For a couple hundred thousand years... Leaves it's mark on a species.	/r/MensRights	01/07/23 02:21 AM
1	Posted on "Are We Dating The Same Guy", stressed and scared. I don't have any advice for your situation now... but I wonder if you could record the breakup conversation and have the gf attest to your good character and good treatment of her... as insurance against this kind of stuff later. Perhaps You could even tell her you're recording the conversation as protection for her so you can never bad-mouth her later (and vice versa). Obviously, this is challenging to do, but on the surface, it seems like it could be arranged.	/r/MensRights	11/05/23 05:51 PM
2	Walked on by a crying girl yesterday I have a dashcam in my car that can record the vehicle interior, for this very reason. I drive different people around (as do my family members) and we will need evidence if we ever get #MeToo'd unjustly after giving someone a ride.	/r/MensRights	20/04/23 04:16 PM
2	I'm sick of women complaining about "mental load" Thank you for noticing this bizarre complaint, and not falling for it yourself. Men also experience mental load, we just don't talk about it... instead, we deal with the things we are dealing with, and move on to the next thing.	/r/MensRights	31/03/23 09:06 PM
1	What happens to the men without money looks and status? Met my wife when we were both 22 or 23. I was in debt, no fashion sense, not interested in a relationship, but I was smart and decent looking, and finishing university. She was beautiful, had money, but also not interested in a relationship. Married for almost 25 years now. So, you can break the pattern, my friend.	/r/MensRights	13/02/23 09:34 PM
15	I stood up to toxic feminity Thank you for supporting! My wife and I occasionally fall into the error of explaining things to each other like we do to our young children. So I can definitely believe the husband's justification.	/r/MensRights	11/02/23 06:00 AM
2	Why can the woman avoid all responsibility for a fetus, but the man can't? The flipside is that if the father was allowed to cancel their own financial responsibility for the child, then the mother could claim that this lack of support is forcing them to choose abortion because they cannot afford the child solo. So, allowing the father to avoid their financial responsibility, could be said to force the mother to have an abortion. These are the kinds of insane double whammies that arise when we allow either parent to avoid their responsibility to bear and raise the resu…	/r/MensRights	17/01/23 07:42 PM
1	What a load of absolute rubbish! Imagine if a narrative like this was aimed at women! Writer is so stupid, their original title (used as the URL route for whatever content management system they use) said "Reputautions". I hereby dismiss the writer as an idiot without even considering anything they have to say.	/r/MensRights	21/12/22 09:26 PM
2	Beware of harsh misandrous dynamics on other subs Thank you for your care and concern. My older sisters and mother taught me to hate myself because I "have something hanging between your legs", as they put it when I was a child. That was 40+ years ago, and things did not get any better with the girls and teachers in elementary, high school, university, and workplace. The major unchecked hatred has been brewing for decades, sadly.	/r/MensRights	16/11/22 07:13 PM
1	Fasley accused of sexual harassment I'd be asking to see their footage.	/r/MensRights	29/10/22 04:16 AM
5	Woman Who Pretended To Be A Man Dies By Assisted Suicide Years After Realizing How Difficult It Was To Be One Shoes are gone, I'm afraid.	/r/MensRights	28/10/22 04:46 PM
1	Hi everyone. We’re about to have a discussion about patriarchy in my college class, and I’d like to know what my best arguments against patriarchy would be, and which arguments would show there are instances which there is bias against men. Thanks! If they claim that such a system of oppression exists, on what grounds are they permitted to denigrate all men who have ever lived, who live now, and who will live, by naming it "the patriarchy"? The generalization is an insult to all men who have sacrificed for the women in their lives.	/r/MensRights	28/10/22 02:57 PM
2	Hi everyone. We’re about to have a discussion about patriarchy in my college class, and I’d like to know what my best arguments against patriarchy would be, and which arguments would show there are instances which there is bias against men. Thanks! Before you do this, be sure that your grade point average can suffer a low mark in that particular class. No matter what you say, the prof will probably mentally dock you grades from here on out.	/r/MensRights	28/10/22 02:54 PM
1	Fasley accused of sexual harassment Any security cameras in the vicinity at the time?	/r/MensRights	26/10/22 04:59 PM
3	Question for all fellow men I initially thought it was stupidly misandrist and juvenile. I watched the entire season, and my opinion slowly changed. I realized that other characters were not like that. I slowly became aware that she was written as overconfident and fallible, and her own worst enemy. She learned some hard lessons about overreaching and grew in humility a little bit. I hope they do a second season where she continues to evolve and become more humble and more aware of her limitations and gain a more balanced …	/r/MensRights	25/10/22 02:02 PM
1	Am I being entrapped? You are afraid, and that is reasonable. Just like when someone breaks into your house while you're asleep. You're afraid that if you make noise, you'll draw the attacker to you. Honestly, though, the smartest and best thing you can do is to take courageous action. Gather your evidence (text or message screenshots, recorded conversations, etc.) and then file a police report or seek legal counsel once you have some evidence. Better yet, talk to a lawyer first and find out what sort or recourse you…	/r/MensRights	21/10/22 04:26 PM
61	Circumcusion should only be performed on men of legal age. Change My Mind I have 2 brothers, we were circumcised as infants. I have 4 sons, none of them are circumcised. Slowly, we are winning this one!	/r/MensRights	13/10/22 04:30 PM
6	She hulk fans blame men I (M) enjoyed She-Hulk until my wife pointed out the misandry. Then I was like "well, now I can't unsee a lot of this that happens in real life".	/r/MensRights	06/10/22 03:32 PM
1	How do I argue with staunch feminists? This might be a place to start, but I have not read it. https://www.amazon.ca/Feminist-Lie-Never-About-Equality/dp/1546926097 You have a long uphill battle ahead of you, but it's only people like you who can turn this tide. So many of us have given up and just try to keep our heads down and survive long enough to die a natural death, with no hope of ever having equal footing. If you find other books on how to reframe "feminist" issues/arguments into a discussion of human rights abuses, you might…	/r/MensRights	05/10/22 04:44 PM
2	Men have lower life expectancies so why do we have the same or later retirement ages than women? Because men do not matter, obviously.	/r/MensRights	03/06/22 03:31 PM
86	Will Smith Jada is a manipulative emotional abuser, and Will would be better off alone.	/r/MensRights	08/04/22 05:47 PM
4	How do I handle an agressive female colleague who keeps inviting herself to my apartment That's a great point. Perhaps having a trusted friend or colleague as part of the conversation, would be sensible.	/r/MensRights	30/11/21 04:30 AM
23	How do I handle an agressive female colleague who keeps inviting herself to my apartment Speak to her privately and let her know that you are uncomfortable with the repeated public requests to visit your home. If she has any scruples whatsoever, she will apologize and stop doing it. If she doesn't, I'd bring it up with HR. A "personal space sensitivity" meeting with an HR rep, yourself, and your boss would likely result.	/r/MensRights	29/11/21 08:44 PM
11	What can women do to better support men? My advice: try to get other women to see this logic before they have boy children and therefore a personal reason to care at all about the injustice being done to men. We need more female allies than simply those who happen to have had boy babies and thereby feel the visceral terror we feel.	/r/MensRights	04/01/20 07:02 AM
6	I felt like a creeper for being willing to spend time with a younger man Mental note: next time I offer to mentor someone, prefix my offer with "If we get your parents' permission, maybe I could help you with..."	/r/MensRights	10/12/14 09:08 PM
3	Hirsi Ali, a popular speaker against Islam's treatment of women, slams modern American feminists for their "trivial bullshit." “We must reclaim and retake feminism from our fellow idiotic women.” Wow!!	/r/MensRights	21/11/14 02:13 PM
3	Saw this on CNN last night. A passing mention that ISIS killed all boys older than 10. After that, they have an "expert on gender violence" who only talks about girls getting kidnapped. Not a single w With deeper analysis, this isn't that bizarre: http://jimmyakin.com/2012/10/the-dark-passages-of-scripture.html I don't think Jimmy addresses this particular passage, so here are my thoughts: In the ancient world (and in many parts of the modern world) there is no police force. There are no jails. When tribes go to war, the only way to guarantee that there won't be retribution later from the losing side is to utterly wipe out the losing side. I mean, if you let some of them go free, or enslave t…	/r/MensRights	31/10/14 01:26 PM
4	Saw this on CNN last night. A passing mention that ISIS killed all boys older than 10. After that, they have an "expert on gender violence" who only talks about girls getting kidnapped. Not a single w The only good Muslim is a bad Muslim. Debate played out here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yh2tFhUCq4c	/r/MensRights	31/10/14 01:18 PM
-1	Does the school practice of forcing boys to write sentences as a form of punishment turn them off to writing? I do this to my kids at home, and they ALL hate writing... girls and boys!	/r/MensRights	08/10/14 03:13 PM
30	Women ‘more likely to hit their partners’ \| The Times Great article. I can read about it for 30 days for only £1.	/r/MensRights	25/06/14 01:23 PM
5	Judge: Gay Fathers’ Names Cannot Appear On Their Biological Children’s Birth Certificates Technically, a child cannot have two biological fathers. Each child will get the name of one man on their birth certificate - the man who is their direct ancestor.	/r/MensRights	19/06/14 07:41 PM
0	Judge orders sperm donor's name be removed as 'father' of lesbian couple's two children in state first Nice comeback.	/r/MensRights	13/06/14 06:16 PM
1	Judge orders sperm donor's name be removed as 'father' of lesbian couple's two children in state first "Bilogical means nothing." Sorry, chum. Without biology, you aren't even here. How about I switch out your parents with a couple of strangers, and give them all of your bio parents legal rights to you, and you are legally prevented from getting your bio parents back? All of a sudden, biology becomes pretty important.	/r/MensRights	05/06/14 05:15 PM
-1	Judge orders sperm donor's name be removed as 'father' of lesbian couple's two children in state first Take off your homotrollalert glasses. I'm talking about BS laws cutting children off from their biological parents (in this case, the biological father).	/r/MensRights	29/05/14 07:56 PM
-7	Judge orders sperm donor's name be removed as 'father' of lesbian couple's two children in state first This is what happens when you try to mess around with the natural order.	/r/MensRights	29/05/14 05:52 PM
0	New UN agency - UNWomen Let me guess: pro-abort.	/r/MensRights	01/01/11 04:22 AM
1	Pre-nuptials: the first step to making them legally binding in the UK. Supreme Court ruling. Not only have I been in a long-term relationship (my wife and I have been married for 11 years now), I have many friends in long-term relationships and marriges. My parents divorced when I was 12. It sucked large. Anything you can do to avoid divorce is preferable to splitting up (up to and including tying yourself physically to your spouse). Some people are outright physically violent. Fine, get your divorce. (But, really, this is something that you should have seen signs of with careful analys…	/r/MensRights	21/10/10 06:02 PM
-1	Pre-nuptials: the first step to making them legally binding in the UK. Supreme Court ruling. If you want to play it safe, best not to get married. You'll hit rough patches, no doubt, so take your time in deciding to get married such that you won't be tempted to wreck your marriage because someone left the toothpaste cap off again. But, after taking time to decide (a year at least, where you take some classes on how to communicate, discuss your plans for the future, how many kids you want, how you handle finances, etc...), once you are in, be ALL in (both of you!). Anything less isn't go…	/r/MensRights	20/10/10 11:19 PM
0	Pre-nuptials: the first step to making them legally binding in the UK. Supreme Court ruling. "Just in case" = ankle tied to airplane. If you're jumping, you're jumping. Just frickin jump already!	/r/MensRights	20/10/10 11:18 PM
-6	Pre-nuptials: the first step to making them legally binding in the UK. Supreme Court ruling. Having a pre-nup is like tying your ankle to the plane before you parachute out. Dude, if you're doing to go, just GO. If you're too chicken, don't jump. But don't water down the meaning of marriage for the rest of us jumpers by planting the seeds of doubt into your minds before committing... and eventually becoming one of the divorce statistics. NB: I am using "dude" and "you" in the general sense, not to you in particular.	/r/MensRights	20/10/10 08:27 PM
1	Pornography : Why feminists really hate it Yes, it is shocking. Immature behaviour in grown adults usually is. Most of my line of reasoning goes along the lines of the relationship benefits of a total self-giving to the partner, and how porn destroys the ability to do that. Human dignity comes into it, not exploiting other human beings (willful exploitation or no) for one's own pleasure, being a noble creature, etc... Mostly lost on you, I would imagine. It's no big secret around here that I am devoutly religious. If you want to get insi…	/r/MensRights	29/09/10 08:23 PM
1	Pornography : Why feminists really hate it "All the ancient societies". "The many that don't have marriage" "The thriving poly community" Yet you only mention the Mosuo, who were conveniently mentioned here on reddit about a week ago. I doubt you could name any others off the top of your head without going to google or wikipedia. Your vehement assertions are as meaningless as your second-last sentence. The majority of human history demonstrates that women and (mature) men seek fulfilling and intimate monogamous relationships. That's just…	/r/MensRights	29/09/10 07:46 PM
1	Pornography : Why feminists really hate it You personally know couples who regularly masturbate to porn with each other's knowledge? There is no argument that I could make which would convince you of the problem with this situation, since you are clearly entrenched in it.	/r/MensRights	29/09/10 07:36 PM
-2	Pornography : Why feminists really hate it Human experience would seem to indicate otherwise, despite your ranting.	/r/MensRights	29/09/10 05:06 PM
-2	Pornography : Why feminists really hate it It's impossible to stop the insidious creeping distrust that it raises in the human mind. The relentless feeling of being inferior to the partner's fantasy will eventually destroy the relationship, or leave it an empty shell. People yearn for genuine and deep intimacy with their partner, and porn makes that impossible (because the partner is being intimate in certain ways with the porn instead).	/r/MensRights	29/09/10 01:39 PM
2	Marriages in U.S. at record low level in 2009. You got it. Marriage has been a religious institution for most of the past few thousand years, like it or not.	/r/MensRights	29/09/10 12:34 AM
-1	Marriages in U.S. at record low level in 2009. Actually, the attitude that you are displaying is about half of the problem.	/r/MensRights	29/09/10 12:33 AM
-3	Pornography : Why feminists really hate it Hey, someone used the word "hoss" to seem like a "real guy"! How cute.	/r/MensRights	29/09/10 12:25 AM
-14	Pornography : Why feminists really hate it Fidelity is one of the pillars of a successful and fulfilling relationship. Porn destroys that fidelity. That's one of the reasons why, even as a man, I denounce it. It has nothing at all to do with power-lust.	/r/MensRights	28/09/10 07:37 PM
12	I was browsing /r/Gaming and someone posted a screenshot of 2K Games' charity program...and I noticed something. [pic] I grew up in the West but with a constant understanding of the situation of women in the East (esp. Muslim nations) where they are generally oppressed with very little education and opportunity. HeWhoDoesNot sounds like s/he is very uninformed of how much assistance is needed to get Eastern females to eventual social parity with males.	/r/MensRights	27/09/10 02:55 PM
3	A woman asks if men in Western societies should have a ritual that marks the transition from boyhood to manhood analogous to the Jewish bar mitzvah and the rites/rituals practiced in African tribal societies. Confirmation. But, that was back when everybody was Catholic. :-P	/r/MensRights	25/09/10 07:47 PM
2	I have refused to get married, cohabit, and have kids with western women. Here is what I have found. http://www.psychpage.com/family/library/brwaitgalligher.html http://marriage.about.com/cs/sexualstatistics/a/sexstatistics.htm edit: added second link	/r/MensRights	14/09/10 03:33 PM
2	Ontario court orders man to pay $1,500 per month to support ex-wife and her two children. The children were conceived and born AFTER the marriage ended and were fathered by another man. People who want a divorce but stick it out, five years later report being very happy with the marriage. I don't have the link that reports this, but thought it'd be handy to throw in on the discussion. Stay married, even if you want out - it will get better, but may take some work.	/r/MensRights	01/05/09 02:57 PM
9	"raising boys without men" author says dads can help teach kids to ride bicycles, but little more. - radical 24 As a father who continually has flashbacks to how my father handled different situations as I am encountering them in my role as father, I laugh out loud. Only a truly ignorant misandrist would say such things.	/r/MensRights	05/03/09 02:02 AM