trpaderp Archive

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2	My Wife's Abrupt Introduction to TRP Interesting. Your ad hominem attack actually undermines any reasonable argument you could put forth. You also have no notion of behavioral conditioning. TRP is not some sort of societal framework for creating a brave new world. What we do here is observe what works and what doesn't. Dogma about crime and punishment has not place in TRP. Your sentiment about punishment being harder on the punisher is absurd. Nearly every form of punishment ever invented is harder on the punished than the punisher…	/r/TheRedPill	15/11/14 04:09 AM
3	My Wife's Abrupt Introduction to TRP Yup, agreed. One thing I try to keep in mind is that the punishment is there to change her behavior. Once the behavior is sincerely changed there's no reason to continue. If there's even a hint that she is trying to placate him, then the punishment should continue. It is bad to get caught up in your own ego of "I said I'd do X so I'm gonna do X even though it is now a harmful decision."	/r/TheRedPill	14/11/14 11:54 PM
0	Say What You Want, Do What You Say I think you are a little too attached to your own idea. It is a good idea, with merit but I don't think you hit the nail on the head. Your word is not your bond. If I'm free Sunday and agree to coffee with a bro, but then work comes up I'm gonna bail on the bro. By your definition I'm a person lacking in integrity and should not have told my friend that I would have coffee. That's unrealistic. Instead what I do is inform my friend that coffee is off and focus on what is right for me. I'm not gon…	/r/TheRedPill	14/11/14 10:25 PM
33	My Wife's Abrupt Introduction to TRP She sleeps at other people's houses without even a call and you think it is a minuscule problem? How do you feel about that kind of behavior in your relationships? Personally I would have laid down the law long ago. I think that is exactly the kind of behavior that puts LTRs in danger. There is no way I would be in a relationship with someone who showed such disrespect toward me time and time again. I say good on OP. It took you long enough. I will say that there's no point in continuing punishm…	/r/TheRedPill	14/11/14 09:15 PM
3	Say What You Want, Do What You Say Overall I like what you are saying and agree with it in principle. Reliability and consistency are traits that I respect in anyone. You know what I respect more? Success. And success comes from looking out for yourself first. An insidious poison in your advice is the potential for people-pleasing. If I say I will do something and mentally that becomes a commitment, then it is easy to slip into an externally validated mindset. If I am looking out for myself then other people are going to be disap…	/r/TheRedPill	14/11/14 06:37 PM
2	My biggest issue with dating this Guy Disagree. I'm with /u/ayvyns on this. If you really are packing then you look for ways to let the woman know ahead of time. Getting rejected once you are both naked and ready to go is a pretty big hit to the ego, especially if it is not something you can control. bigdickproblems is a real subreddit, you should go check it out. Also, if he was looking to escalate he's terrible at it. Three weeks is a long time.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/11/14 08:29 PM
2	To those of you who actually are married/have children/have been in a relationship for 10+ years (happily & successfully) - What advice can you give us on what to look for in a woman LTR material is Young (or has a good understanding of relationships) Comes from a stable home The trick is to be super clear on what is okay and what isn't. Not just in your head, either. You have to make it perfectly clear what actions will end everything if she crosses the line. Being young typically means she's still got an open mind about what relationship dynamics will work. Over time you grow the relationship together. Everyone changes in 10 years, even you. All that business about good fa…	/r/askTRP	13/11/14 06:05 AM
1	Wife asked is she could meet an old work friend for a drink After a few years of being in a relationship, it's all the same. The couple who has kids together has more going on than a decade-long commitment with no lasting attachments. Don't talk down to people. It is rude. He sure isn't your "son." This is a forum for respecting each other and discussing ideas. Not disrespectful behavior.	/r/askTRP	12/11/14 06:44 PM
0	The purple pill? Hi, you must be new here. Maybe go read /r/RedPillMarriage where this has been covered. Basically the very act of being in a committed relationship is the "purple" pill. You stay red but you are her provider. What you are not, is her bitch. RP is about being your best self. BP is about putting that best self energy into the relationship instead of you. There can't be a real purple pill because you either have good boundaries and care for yourself, thus bringing an amazing man into a relationship…	/r/TheRedPill	05/11/14 05:48 AM
10	Thoughts on TRP from 25F If you were a guy I'd say you are in the anger phase. The way your ex treated you is not RP. It's some mix of BDSM and insecurity. Seems a lot like this guy read 50 Shades and wanted to toy with you. Go back to reading this sub and the sidebar. Try to criticize less and understand more. Maybe check out /r/RedPillWomen. You still don't get it, but you think you do. Unlike a man in your position you can't get the feedback from applying the theory. You are the fish talking to the fishermen. If you …	/r/TheRedPill	05/11/14 05:39 AM
11	FR: I slept with a feminist vegan... Inner hamster comes out. Yeah, but that doesn't come across. She said she doesn't want dudes to buy her drinks to get in her pants. Thing is she wanted in your pants THEN you bought her drinks. The order is important. She also explicitly said she wanted "yes means yes" consent and she got it. Her words and actions are aligned. She wanted to fuck you, acted like it, and got it. I know you want to seem all alpha here but this night was her night. She seems pretty cool, honestly. If you can handle an aggressive woman she s…	/r/trpGAME	29/10/14 09:59 PM
2	A story about how love is all you need I get it. Your writing style is different from most here. You are 100% right though. Someone recently posted about how whatever you do, you gotta own it. That's the opposite of that emptiness you wrote about. You have to be so full of life that the woman you want, wants to be with you. You have to be so full of love (for everything and especially yourself) that you don't hold on to any ideal outcome. Being full of life and love is the epitome of outcome independence. As others have said, now you…	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/10/14 09:10 PM
6	Lifting - does it really make that much of a difference? To answer your question: Yes, lifting is huge. It makes you physically attractive but that isn't why it is important. Lifting makes you confident. It shows you that you can smash through your goals. That you are always growing as a person. That you can move heavy shit and are a strong fucking man. Lifting isn't all about looks, it is about what being a man who lifts does to you. I don't think any other kind of personal development could ever be better than lifting. You, personally just need to a…	/r/TheRedPill	14/10/14 04:06 AM
77	How to deal with LTR getting vagina tingles over a D list musician offering her guest passes? Imma go against the grain here. Dread game is not the answer. It is a wonderful tool but it won't work here. What kind of dread is bigger than her having a special weekend worshiping her fave musician? The issue here is that she's gonna go bang this musician and will come home to OP and lie to his face about it. Look at the facts: GF is into the musician Musician is into GF GF and Musician will be alone, out of state Musician arranged special treatment for GF GF wishes that Musician were her BF …	/r/askTRP	14/10/14 03:51 AM
1	Ok, so I need to get divorced . . . Difficulty level: Wife is very nice and has done nothing "wrong" They say you are as good as your five closest friends. Given what you have written it seems as though you want to leave because you are being told you should leave. That's not what a leader/alpha does. He does what is best for him, fuck what other people think.	/r/TheRedPill	04/10/14 12:33 AM
20	Medical student dumped for being 'too chubby' becomes professional bodybuilder I don't get the downvotes. This comment is 100% spot on. Gents, read this if you want to know how hypergamy works within an LTR. We are in TheRedPill, not some feel good circle-jerk. When your LTR says you need to up your game you damn well better up your game. Many women aren't even as considerate as his girl was and would just swing branches without a word. This is the exact same as you telling your LTR that she needs to lay off the cupcakes, just done with a woman's style of communication. Th…	/r/TheRedPill	03/10/14 03:14 AM
30	Success, then cock blocked by my beta friend, didn't know how to deal The only real mistake you made was not enforcing your boundaries. When Jim started to follow you should have been firm with him, no apologies. "Jim, this one is just me and Carly. You need to make other plans for lunch." Then if I tries to insist, call him out. "I know you have a crush on her, but that's just not going to work out. Now, Carly and I are going to lunch. Goodbye." Nobody can handle being called out on their shit when they are being manipulative. That's why it works on AMOGs and orb…	/r/askTRP	23/09/14 11:26 PM
8	How the hell do I make this diet work? I highly doubt you have 24% bodyfat, how did you come up with that number? At your age the simple act of growing should keep your bodyfat below 24%. Is your diet truly terrible? According to IIFYM you should be eating around 2000 calories just to maintain. Also, you are damned skinny beneath that fat (126lb lean). Instead of losing weight on a crash diet, why not start lifting and try to gain muscle? If you put on 30lbs of muscle (6-12 moths of lifting for a noob) then that 40lbs of fat would lo…	/r/becomeaman	07/09/14 01:48 AM
3	Relationship dead so Broke it up, she hits me up next day If you want to be monogamous with her, then tell her that you don't want to "talk." Tell her that the old way of having a relationship doesn't work for you and you are making positive changes. Explicitly say that you will not accept "business as usual." Do not become her friend. Then, tell her what you do want. What do you want from her? Sex? Nothing? A spectator while you play video games? A home cooked meal? Be 100% clear in what you want. She already knows that the old relationship is dead. T…	/r/askTRP	05/09/14 07:13 PM
-1	A "Divorced Man" Wrote These 20 Epic Marriage Advice He Wished He Could Have Had. There are a lot of points in that article that are pure drivel. This is not one of them. Don't get mad, don't lash out, don't act like a child. Hold frame and do what is best for you.	/r/TheRedPill	13/08/14 08:38 PM
0	New RPer in LTR but I have a unicorn but there's some history... This is a tough one. You can't get there intellectually. You gotta find the emotional times for her, the times when she's putty in your hands. You currently have an intellectual idea of being dominant in bed. You have to move past intellect and experience it. Reading and following "The Sex God Method" is a good place to start. Once you truly are dominant in bed AND she's comfortable being totally submissive to you, then you can move to ass play (or whatever you want to do). You can't logic, reas…	/r/askTRP	20/07/14 04:44 AM
10	Amazing to watch the Beta Bux fade. You are not being alpha, you are being reactionary. You have completely lost frame. Lets break this down from the little information we've been given. Your LTR girlfriend flirts with other guys for attention Her flirting threatens you She wants to "start over" (telling you that you suck but she still wants you) You cut off all contact and dump her All of your behavior is gamma. You aren't being a provider to your LTR and you aren't being her alpha. She told you point blank that she wants you, bu…	/r/askTRP	04/07/14 03:38 PM
1	My BF is TRP expert- should I be concerned? Talk to him, not us. Also see /r/relationships. If he's not a poser then it is likely that he is treating you the way TRP would suggest and you don't understand the principles the same way he does. Many women see what TRP has to say and construe it to be very negative because they don't understand the context.	/r/askTRP	01/06/14 11:42 PM
1	Letting someone else over? letting my SO met with other guys I told her I was just uncomfortable with the idea and that I don't think it is approriate. You have a boundary. You aren't cool with this guy coming over. Set it and forget it. Honestly, I can't think of anyone who would be cool with their woman's admirer coming across two states for some one-on-one time. Maybe that a little beta, but unless you are a zen monk you're gonna have some attachment in a relationship.	/r/askTRP	30/05/14 04:59 PM
2	Plate asks you how many girls you've slept with All the other responses are good for the simple shit-test kind of asking. When a woman gets serious and genuinely wants to know, you have to set a boundary and let her respect it. You don't need to justify yourself, but if you want to explain say something like: "There's nothing you need to know and nothing I want to share." Of course, to be honest with this you need to be practicing safer sex and not doing things that would make your sex life something she does need to know about.	/r/askTRP	30/05/14 04:51 PM
3	Female Jealousy over Boyfriend's sexual past 100% correct. She has jealousy and control issues that have nothing to do with OP. These issues usually get worse the longer the relationship goes on. She's basically an insecure beta who worries that her man is going slut it up when he's out. She's not ready for a relationship. If OP can't help her grow into a secure woman (maybe impossible) he needs to find the exit sooner or later. P.S. Everything I said above is best case. Worst case is manipulation, insanity, physical harm, financial ruin, …	/r/askTRP	30/05/14 04:40 PM
7	Letting someone else over? letting my SO met with other guys There are two things here. 1) This shit is creepy. Dudes do not just travel that far for no reason. He's desperate for validation and represents a safety concern. 2) You have to set a boundary about what you think is appropriate in the relationship. If she doesn't want to respect that then she doesn't respect your relationship. It's your call, but I wouldn't let my SO hang with a creepy desperate orbiter like that without me being around. Depending on how serious you two are, it may be time to t…	/r/askTRP	30/05/14 04:36 PM
6	My LTR sent a 'racy' photo to a guy, how should I react? This is a correct response. You have to ask yourself what will confronting her do for you? I don't see anything good coming from it. Either she dumps you or placates you and even then she might be lying. Now is the time to lean on your alpha traits. Respond to the situation in a controlled what that serves you. Either you downgrade her (an action you initiate), dump her (an action you initiate), lay on some dread, or assert your boundaries. Confronting her gives her the power. She gets to decide…	/r/askTRP	26/05/14 06:13 PM
2	Cheated on gf. Need perspective for future RP is about being your best self for sexual strategy. I think the main question here is "what do you want?" If you want to keep your LTR, you already fucked up but it is salvageable. You have to keep frame (don't be a douche and don't be a pussy), admit your mistake, apologize sincerely, and make right on it. That means cutting contact with your crush and avoiding all other crushes in the future. All LTRs require that the man be a bit of a provider. This is why "beta" is not a slur, but a descri…	/r/askTRP	25/05/14 02:30 AM
4	I don't know how I feel about what I just did.. Maybe beta or just naive Sounds like you are weak for her. It is probably not in your best interests to bring her back into your life. Ask yourself, "what am I getting out of this?" If the answer is anything bad, don't do it. You gotta look after you. Nobody else will do it. That means setting good boundaries and being your own man. If your relationship with this woman is bad for you then cut it and let it go. End of story.	/r/askTRP	25/05/14 02:13 AM
1	Hamster who got an abortion at 16 after having drunk sex "counsels" young girl facing similar situation; the virus spreads Because that's the law in most western nations. It sucks but it is the way things are. It is better to recognize reality than wish things were some other way.	/r/TheRedPill	21/05/14 04:59 AM
4	Hamster who got an abortion at 16 after having drunk sex "counsels" young girl facing similar situation; the virus spreads I like your position. You seem to be very reasonable. Your scenario make sense. The message I got from her post was that she wanted to be above reproach. She wanted to share something private around people who didn't want to hear her business and not hear a negative word about it. Why not just have a private conversation with the 16 year old? Her choice to abort was her choice and no one else's. There were many people it affected and more people who didn't approve. Just because it is her right t…	/r/TheRedPill	20/05/14 08:35 PM
2	When should a Red Piller say "I love you?" RP isn't about some image. Be the best you that you can be. If you feel love for this woman, tell her. I live my life by the "final time" principle. If this were the final time I got to see her, would I regret not telling her that I love her? There's nothing beta about feeling love. Express it as you see fit, in words or actions. The wrongness enters when you stop being your best self, or worse, lose your sense of self. If you feel satisfied with the relationship and she feels satisfied then you…	/r/TheRedPill	20/05/14 03:03 AM
6	Fiance agrees to sign Pre-nup? Everyone who has had only one partner gets curious. AWALT, sure, but you can keep her wandering eye in check by being her alpha. That's what this is all about. There are no unicorns, but by being your best self you can remain independent and be her rock in the marriage. She will love that. The pre-nup is no big deal, for two reasons. Firstly, you ain't got shit to protect right now. All a nuptial agreement can really do is protect the assets you have before marriage. Everything you earn after ma…	/r/askTRP	19/05/14 08:59 PM