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Read this: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0762415339/
/r/seduction04/05/22 07:36 PM
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Don't change yourself for her EVER. STAY AS YOU WANT TO BE. So don't do anything. Just be you. If one day you decide you want friends, great. As some other people said, you cannot control her attraction for you. You may lose her some day. She may get bored with you. Or, you may get bored with her or annoyed to no end. We can't control these things so don't even entertain the idea!
/r/seduction03/04/22 11:24 PM
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If you've created the proper atmosphere then yeah sure. That or maybe you're a 10 on the scale and don't need to follow social conventions. But again, outliers exist and you're likely one of them. The other 95% of us need to know the rules of engagement.
/r/seduction03/04/22 12:52 PM
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Because you would be in the middle of making out. If someone touches you and you aren't in a make out session yeah that's fucked up.
/r/seduction03/04/22 11:24 AM
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It's always good to check in with your partner. If you disagree you need to learn to think of other peoples feelings a little bit more. Some people might be so terrified of rejecting a guy that they literally let it progress too far.
/r/seduction03/04/22 11:22 AM
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There will always be outliers - and that's ok, so good luck with being creeped out.
/r/seduction03/04/22 11:20 AM
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Context is everything. If you are in make out session, you are consenting to be touched. Learn social ques. If you are not in a make out session, you do not have consent to touch people - correct.
/r/seduction03/04/22 11:19 AM
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Never use words... It's cringe. The universal introduction to sex is kissing on the neck. And after enough of that followed by intense fondling of each other and undressing. Since you can't use words directly, pay very close attention to their body language and whether they are comfortable. It's also ok to ask "are you ok?" in the middle of escalating. If it's not ok to have sex in the location you are kissing the neck and fondling, it's ok to move to a better place at that time, but uh... it be…
/r/seduction03/04/22 08:57 AM
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Approach men. Make friends, have fun. You can't expect to just jump in the deep end. Get used to socializing and approaching strangers. Women are not on guard at the bar, you are likely coming across as forced instead of a natural socializer. Once you are having the time of your life chatting up all the dudes in a bar, then you can translate that momentum to women. Socializing with men translates just fine to women. Once you get used to socializing with women, you can then start using your game …
/r/seduction24/03/22 12:35 PM
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Usually if the bar has too much seating it's not good. It's not easy to open a group that is sitting down. The better bars are ones that force people to stand and even better if the standing area isn't limited to the walls, like if it has standing tables scattered in the middle of the venue.
/r/seduction23/03/22 10:19 PM
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Going to the bar alone is by far the best thing you can do for yourself. My first time I sat in the corner and finished a drink by myself and then left. I felt like a loser. Now I can walk into any bar and befriend anyone. I felt like a million dollars when I unlocked this skill. Usually, at the bars I go to at least, there is a "community table" where people sit who didn't arrive with others and that's often where I start. But now that I can talk to anyone I'll just open any group - male, femal…
/r/seduction23/03/22 10:12 PM
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Ridiculous standards imposed upon men. Nobody can be fluent in eating tacos.
/r/seduction01/03/22 04:05 PM
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It's not too much work. It's the same as making a friend.. If we just met and you asked me to come to your place within 1 hour of meeting, I'd be weirded out.
/r/seduction31/01/22 06:50 AM
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Would you expect a girl (you just met 5 minutes ago) to let you stick your dick in her? There is an order of operations. 1) match 2) chat 3) text 4) phone 5) coffee 1st date (can be same time as 6) 6) dinner/darts/beach/pool/drinking 7) touching/pushing 8) dinner at home 9) cuddling/movie 10)??? Some steps can be skipped, like the phone call. Personally I like the call because it removes any nerves on the date of meeting, and I personally have a nice voice to hook them on (I'm told). To get the …
/r/seduction31/01/22 05:41 AM
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So is the work eating and dating shitting 🤔 Or is dating eating and work shitting 🤔
/r/seduction15/01/22 01:32 AM
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Careful - the strategy this dude you replied to is coming on strong. The word of the day is: lighthearted. If you don't keep it lighthearted in the beginning you don't have abundance mentality. The moment you ask her to commit to you before she's ready is the moment she jumps ship
/r/seduction29/10/21 09:16 PM
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If you are an attractive dude and know your game you will have a fun time. There are English speaking hotspots to find girls who speak English. You can also get some ONS from girls who don't speak English but it won't be worth your effort.
/r/seduction29/10/21 09:08 PM
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Yeah there is a whole pickup community in Tokyo/Japan. I left it though. A guy that goes by Sinapse is at the center of it all. Google around and you will find the community. Can also find him on YouTube
/r/seduction29/10/21 09:05 PM
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Thats not what dudes who lift report. Go to the gym daily for a full year and get stacked then jump on tinder and watch something beautiful happen.
/r/seduction22/09/21 09:43 AM
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More accurately: depends on the risk you are willing to take. Thing is, many people are oblivious to this risk.
/r/seduction21/09/21 05:21 AM
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You just mentioned the problem. "If I was into him" You touching the girls ears thus was not an innocent gesture and you are putting yourself at risk by treating your coworkers anything but platonic. If you wouldn't do it to a guy then don't do it to a girl. It's not fair to your female coworker either. What if your request to touch her ears was unwanted and she didn't know how to handle the situation so she said yes? In the workplace there is no escape from awkward situations so people just suc…
/r/seduction21/09/21 02:30 AM
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Well, good news is that there's always ways to improve. Bad news is that you have given up. This post isn't actionable at all. There are ALWAYS options. Get a dating coach if it means that much to you. There are seduction meetups all over the place. Dish out the $1000 for a personal coach. Take the steps necessary to improve your life and stop wallowing in your own self-induced misery. A life of a man-child is not a fun life at all. Take the bull by the horns man.
/r/seduction12/09/21 05:06 AM
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You talk to women the exact same as you talk to bros. Doing otherwise is putting them on a pedestal. Don't get overly invested. You owe them nothing until they earn it from you. Wear your intentions outwardly. Don't hide or manipulate. Walk up to her, ask her for a minute of her time away from her friends, say "hey wanna go to homecoming?" No need to beat around the bush. And don't feel nervous because if she says no, you already have 4 other girls you are interested in asking. And instead of cr…
/r/seduction01/09/21 03:17 AM
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Hey listen. All these replies are way off base. Maybe one or two so far are accurate. You hung out with her. You kissed. She's interested. But she has options. She's not ready to settle down and wants to see what is available to her. You should be in the exact same boat. Exploring many girls. Not ready to commit. Seeing what is available to you. Go to the party. Treat her like a human being. Flirt with her, but also flirt with everyone else. Don't feel any need to commit. Don't follow her around…
/r/seduction29/08/21 03:47 PM
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Literally is as simple as going to the gym and getting massive arms
/r/seduction23/08/21 07:21 AM
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Well you took my message as an accusation, when I meant it was a learning. My learnings still stand. Regardless of how, or by what catalyst, she changed throughout your relationship.
/r/seduction20/08/21 04:20 PM
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I have a learning for you: Read your post again. Your story talks about all this stuff you did for her. Kinda like a "foundation" that you built your relationship upon. Perhaps it's people in general, but women don't care about all the things you did for them. Men seem to care more. So you could put a girl through college, but in her mind that was "the minimum you could have done as a man". She (or people in general) won't appreciate those gestures. Further, those gestures are somewhat similar t…
/r/seduction20/08/21 12:54 PM
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Read the book "How to be a 3% man" by Corey Wayne for help here. To answer your question: If shes reaching out to you, she wants you to ask her out. if she agrees to go to your house after you invite her over (my fav excuse is: lets play Mario Kart), she has basically said "let's have sex". She's not stupid and knows that going to your place will lead to sex. So if you escalate while in your house (touching, kissing, turning her on), it's very likely she won't reject you.
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:13 AM
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If you have an athletic body (hit the gym) a good haircut, and some fine fashion sense, girls will hit on you all the time.
/r/seduction11/07/21 12:53 AM
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Unfortunate reality is most people, even women, don't know what they want and are looking for someone to spark something in them. It's so sad that like 9 of 10 people I meet are so utterly lost in relationship goals.
/r/seduction11/07/21 12:51 AM
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How big are your arms? Game changer right there.
/r/seduction27/06/21 06:41 AM
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Yo, this is human psychology. You can accept it or you can fight it. But you live it every day. Have a good one.
/r/seduction19/06/21 12:17 AM
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Scenario: You go up to a girl and ask her her name She responds by saying "my phone is broken, can you take a look at it?" What do you do? Take her phone and inspect it Make a comment about her dismissing what you just said. Demand her name again Any human interaction is a power play subconsciously. Whoever is reacting to who is the one who has power. We ALL subconsciously know who has control of the situation. Child vs adult. Confident vs insecure. Two best friends. Alpha in a group of friends.…
/r/seduction18/06/21 02:23 PM
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And you also use throwaway accounts on a selfhelp subreddit.
/r/seduction24/05/21 12:19 PM
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I think the Chad approach would work better in a night/evening setting where her "defenses" are up and is in a certain mood. In any environment. Whereas yours is better for a relaxed, less busy environment.
/r/seduction20/05/21 05:51 AM
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You don't need the deniability once they are horny. Get them horny before proposing a room. You do this in a private izakaya room. Or a karaoke room. Or internet cafe. If you don't know when you've made a girl horny work on figuring that out first.
/r/seduction24/01/20 11:01 AM
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I'm a dude, but it would make your life infinitely easier if in these "off limits" places you just talk to the ladies like you would men, instead of doing pickup at these places. Things can always escalate outside of the gym if it comes to that.
/r/seduction03/01/20 04:53 AM
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Actually I had the same reaction. You are overreacting to your own issue and spilling it out as advice to help yourself come to terms with your pain. It's like an alcoholic running into a bar and throwing everyone's glasses against the wall and screaming that alcohol is sin. Yeah oneitis is bad. Yeah alcohol is bad. But your text is overreacting.
/r/seduction02/01/20 03:25 AM
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You did fine. No need to change gears. You're being a challenge and you also have standards. "Lets go somewhere quiet" while at the wine room.
/r/seduction17/10/19 09:57 AM
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What TOC changed?
/r/seduction10/10/19 10:53 AM
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"Do you say that to all the guys you meet?"
/r/seduction23/08/19 03:53 PM
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Not true, they only shit test when they aren't sure about you. If they are sure about you they are so worried they might lose you that they won't shit test.
/r/seduction17/07/19 11:38 PM
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Flip the script. You are a high value dude with many women. You don't let yourself be treated like this. This loser doesn't even have human decency, why put any more than your lowest of efforts into her?
/r/seduction04/07/19 09:35 PM
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After lots of trudging through night game, tinder, parties, I decided to try a paid dating site and found her in 7 days. I'm a pretty picky person though with unrealistic standards.
/r/seduction03/07/19 03:04 PM
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34, Caucasian, living in Tokyo, have a hot gf 2 years after joining this sub. Unsatisfied with the vanilla sex, thinking of breaking it off. Conflicted. My problems are a little different now.
/r/seduction03/07/19 10:15 AM
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You should read "3% man" by Corey Wayne. You can't make them attracted to you. You need to give them space and ping them every now and then. It will take weeks for them to warm up to you. Let them spend time with the 1000 other guys, if you maintain a positive atmosphere with no expectations they will come back to you if they want. Remember women are cats and will shy away if you give them too much attention. They love chasing but you need to give them time before they will start to chase you. A…
/r/seduction27/06/19 12:06 PM
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No really I recommend the book to you. It's not about his posts it's about the nice guy phenomenon in the world. It's an excellent book for men and women. It will also help with raising children. You were pretty quick to dismiss my suggestion tho.
/r/seduction26/06/19 01:56 AM
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I recommend to him "no more mister nice guy" by Glover, but I think you should read it too to help understand the dilemma he has. You will find it interesting.
/r/seduction26/06/19 12:01 AM
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You are likely getting to know her for the sake of getting to know her, which is shit strategy. If she wanted a friend she could make one. She doesn't want you to be her friend, she wants a lover. So stop being serious in the conversation, and instead just HAVE F U N. Tease her, play with her, touch her, laugh with her. Enjoy yourself without the "friend" aspect and you will stop friend zoning yourself. Save getting to know her for like the 3rd date. Only flirt and play for the first 2 dates. Oh…
/r/seduction25/06/19 11:51 PM
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You should stop over thinking it. Do it if it happens and keep inviting her out even if you don't do it. If you don't do it she might feel there's no connection. But if you do do it she might think that's all you've got going on and it ruins the suspense. So, I might suggest getting sexual like feel her up, make out, but then not go full PIV. Just stop over thinking and let the relationship unfold how ever it will naturally. Discover the relationship instead of manipulate the relationship.
/r/seduction11/04/19 11:29 AM
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Order lunch more often
/r/seduction12/03/19 10:54 AM
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Really, just go up to the girl and talk to her like you would a dude. Do you get anxiety talking to a dude? No. Just talk to the girl. Get used to it. Say have a nice day. Next. After getting used to talking to random people, start using them for your entertainment. Whatever makes you laugh, do it. If you are having fun, they will too (as long as you aren't obscene). Next, make sure you know what you want in a woman. This is a MUST. The next people you have fun with, start qualifying them on wha…
/r/seduction12/03/19 01:41 AM
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Right buddy. Have a good one
/r/TheRedPill08/03/19 02:17 PM
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Finally an actual response instead of trolling. Womens oxytocin release and mans oxytocin release are different. Already know this. research has shown the more sexual partners a woman has had the less likely she is to pair bond with a man, her marriage faces greater odds of divorce, and she subjects herself to greater risk of stds. Haven't seen the studies, but I severely doubt they aren't biased. Women who sleep with multiple partners are likely already of a certain personality type who are cap…
/r/TheRedPill08/03/19 02:58 AM
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Your point? You don't have a point buddy. You're so closed minded that you think sleeping with every woman in sight is virtuous while you don't allow them the same. Hypocritical at best, but I'm afraid you are much sadder than that. And it all comes from an insecure core. Go suck on mommys tit.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/19 02:30 AM
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Your goal when interacting with a woman should not be to impress her. You should be qualifying her, seeing if she is worth your time. Not making up lies hoping she chooses you.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/19 02:05 AM
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And you aren't a slut, you fuck? Who cares if she's a slut. You live only once. You need her n count low to feel better about yourself because your petty ego can't handle a better man than yourself. Enjoy your mental prison.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/19 11:15 PM
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Mental masturbation
/r/seduction07/03/19 09:33 AM
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Sounds like you are agreeing with me that it has no meaning apart from serving the guys insecurities. I disagree on the pair bonding. A woman who has had 250 partners vs one who has had 5. The 250 partner girl is very versed in what type of man she will and will not commit to. Sure you might say she is likely "alpha widowed" by that point but then don't fucking be a beta. I argue that the virgin is actually more likely to cheat later in life when the LTR inevitably has a temporary lull and she s…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/19 09:04 AM
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I'd say virgins are even worse. Why do you say this: While a virgin girl is going to pair bond better than a slut They will NOT pair bond. Dude, women are people. The only possibility for a virgin to remain faithful is how she might have been brainwashed by religion. Even then its not guaranteed. A person is always going to dream about trading up. This is men or women. I would much rather have a woman who has been around the block and knows what she wants than a virgin who is still unsure about …
/r/TheRedPill05/03/19 07:06 AM
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I never had a good relationship with my parents, either one. So I'm not sure why nice guys don't get along with their dads. I think most alphas also didnt have a fatherly figure. Did you read the book? The "nice guy" is a person who was raised by the mother. Their subconcious sees reward in getting a female "atta boy" instead of a male "atta boy". Thus, the nice guy will have a covert contract with women to do something nice in exchange for reward. The nice guy will buy a drink as a downpayment …
/r/TheRedPill05/03/19 01:45 AM
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I've never had this toothbrush problem... plenty of girls have slept at my place.
/r/seduction04/03/19 11:50 PM
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You can challenge by knowing what you want in a girl and having boundaries. Honestly, this is the one thing every guy gets wrong if they don't have abundance. Because once you start getting abundance you start being picky. How to challenge? Start filtering. You don't like a couch potato? "I bet you spend a lot of time watching movies don't you?" This puts her on the spot. She doesn't know what the "right answer" is. This gives her a very minor adrenaline boost because she wants to be agreeable t…
/r/seduction26/02/19 05:15 AM
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First off, I'm not an expert on this. But, the way I see it, you can only be alpha if you have social value in the environment you are in. A beta, would likely share his social wealth in order to gain validation. An alpha would not see this need. People come to the alpha naturally because they see value they can get. Further, some of your examples show conscious decision to "let someone be alpha" where this all happens subconsciously. It is true that an alpha wont let people walk all over him, o…
/r/seduction14/02/19 06:45 AM
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It doesn't mean get angry faster. It is all about who is reacting to who. It penetrates all the way down to the subtleties of body language and voice tonality. There are pleasant and charming alphas, and then there are also alphas who are pricks. But they share the same trait of not giving away what they have for free. Its worth mentioning that alpha is entirely dependant on your environment. The alpha in a chess club is not going to be an alpha in a soccer club.
/r/seduction14/02/19 04:46 AM
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Not true. Many of them don't see themselves as attractive and have insecurities. Especially because the guys that they want to get are out of their league, and cannot win them. This makes them believe something is wrong with them.
/r/seduction24/01/19 09:41 AM
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Congrats :) I agree with /u/trimaa. Based on your excitement, it sounds like you are putting her on a pedestal. Remember, she is lucky to be with YOU. She is NOT a unicorn. She is exactly the same as all the other girls you met on tinder that didn't work out. Put yourself on that pedestal instead, or risk becoming that sad nice guy that bends to her every will. Know what you want and keep your boundaries.
/r/seduction23/01/19 08:52 AM
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TRP is not a misogynist cult I agree. It is FOR SURE plagued by misogynists though. I get so sick of seeing all the misogyny being upvoted here. TRP should be more about revelation and less about belittling
/r/TheRedPill23/01/19 06:03 AM
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Dunno if that is a pop culture reference, but no, I am not Todd..
/r/seduction23/01/19 12:27 AM
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That's still self improvement! :) Although, the things I mentioned would still be better investments. That said, a lot learned in seduction also works in the business world.
/r/seduction23/01/19 12:18 AM
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Dating at 20 is hard because you are competing with people like me, 34 who 20 year old girls will easily go for. If I was to give you the best advice, it would be to not focus on finding a girl and instead focus on improving yourself. Hit the gym, network, get a good career. 3 years of that and the girls will come chasing after you. But I also know you won't do this because you would rather have instant gratification.
/r/seduction22/01/19 11:45 PM
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gives them a chance to dodge if they want to While it is nice to have tact, its impeding you. Best thing is to just be selfish as fuck. If you are enjoying yourself, generally other people will too. If you are too busy wondering what they are thinking then you will get nervous and make everyone else nervous. See a girl who is your type? Go to her, and literally USE HER for your entertainment. Do not try to get to know her. Just HAVE FUN with yourself. Generally this means teasing yourself or her…
/r/seduction21/01/19 06:01 AM
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The having fun part is good advice. I disagree with the "don't go into it with the expectation of sex". When I followed that advice when I was younger I usually thought it meant sex was bad and if I try I'm going to offend her. Extremely damaging thought patterns, and the genesis of the "nice guy". Instead, better advice would be "always try to escalate (at the speed you are comfortable with), but don't be offended if she makes you wait." At the same time, know what you want, and don't date a gi…
/r/seduction21/01/19 05:44 AM
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I'm not an expert on this so I can't touch on it more, but sure there are always other perspectives. I'd say most relationships have a dominance factor however. Usually people have more respect for someone who meets their dominance expectations. And romantic feelings are often tied to respect.
/r/seduction21/01/19 01:24 AM
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It's the psychology of dominance. Alpha/beta if you will. In the case of male/male, you will give in to the wishes of a male you percieve as more dominant than you. His reality becomes your reality. It's also called frame in the pick up world. To answer your question. Since women want a dominant man, that is how this happens. His reality becomes her reality.
/r/seduction20/01/19 11:39 PM
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Yep. I've learned immensely from this community and don't regret joining, but I would never recommend it to anyone now because of all the women hate
/r/TheRedPill09/01/19 11:44 PM
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My thought exactly. Didn't read it at all
/r/seduction20/12/18 11:53 PM
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That's why Corey Wayne is good. He doesn't talk alpha beta at all, he just talks plain. "Hang out, have fun, hook up" "Love in a way that the other feels free" Sounds realistic to me.
/r/seduction04/12/18 07:09 AM
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You need to read Corey Wayne's book if you want this to succeed. "3% man".
/r/seduction04/12/18 12:01 AM
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Yeah the messaging like how you describe happens in the beginning. Not all the way leading up to the date. Talking too much before a meaningful connection is a surefire way to run out of things to talk about. Sometimes the pair will just hit it off immediately yes but that's the exception and not the norm. It's fine if it doesn't mesh with you. It's not meant to. There will always be outliers.
/r/seduction29/11/18 10:36 AM
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Mmm good on the insults bro. Anyway, alpha beta is all relative. An alpha at the high school video game club isn't necessarily alpha in the school. However keeping someone in your frame is alpha behavior. When two people clash frames it looks like two alphas clashing. But alpha describes more than who has the frame. Alpha describes a hierarchy. You can be low on the hierarchy in your social group (a percieved beta) but still be a jerk to her and keep her in your frame. With enough social grace y…
/r/TheRedPill27/11/18 09:55 AM
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This concept has been more fleshed out through the teachings of "frame". You didn't mention frame once. You can be alpha, but be in her frame. You can be beta but keep her in your frame. Status matters but frame matters more. That's what your wall of text is trying to explain.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/18 09:18 AM
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You literally need to just use your hands. See a girl you like? Make an excuse to brush your hands against hers. Everything about pickup is plausible deniability. Tell her to give her hand to you cuz you wanna do something to it. Then do that thing. Then drop her hand. The touch will linger in her mind. Then repeat until you are literally holding her hands or have your arm around her.
/r/seduction24/11/18 10:48 PM
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The other answers are ok, but there is an easier answer to your question. You show interest through escalation plain and simple. Listen up: When having sex it's an idiot move to just rip off her pants and shove your fingers in her hole right? You normally need to do foreplay first right? Kiss, lick, her neck, kiss lick her belly, kiss lick her legs, and work up to it. All of life is the same. You don't just meet someone new and say "hey I like you let's get married." So to show interest, do the …
/r/seduction24/11/18 10:36 PM
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Broke ass 31-year-old it pays the bills, lol. You seem to also be a comedian ;)
/r/TheRedPill22/11/18 02:11 AM
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I was willingly single for two years after my divorce. I promised myself I would do better, that I wouldn't settle and my next woman would be someone who I've qualified to be the best match for me ever. I challenge myself to become someone who no one would ever reject. Who no one would ever dare betray. I challenge myself to rise above it all and become the best version of myself I could ever dream of being. I am not weak. I will not drown myself in pity. Tell me I can't and I'll show you I can.…
/r/seduction21/11/18 12:42 AM
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No. Even a dude with a mega physique will turn off any girl if he asks like a pussy around her. Sure she will fuck him, but she will also chew him up and spit him out if he doesn't know the basics of being a masculine man.
/r/seduction20/11/18 09:54 AM
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Yup. Innocent conversation, plug a sexual topic like "I think it's interesting how so many girls can't cum" and whoosh, now you are talking about how many times she's orgasmed.
/r/seduction20/11/18 09:50 AM
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Exactly. I have female friends left and right that would first hand approve this post.
/r/seduction20/11/18 09:48 AM
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use her for your entertainment. use everyone for your entertainment. learn to goof off. do it to yourself first. look at someone around you right now and think something silly about them in your head. just start goofing off. then once you get used to doing it to yourself, start using other people as the subject of those thoughts. you will make mistakes, and piss people off at first. but you will calibrate and learn. the most important thing is that you are having fun, so even if you make mistake…
/r/seduction14/11/18 04:32 AM
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talk to them as if you are talking to a bro. it really isn't hard. "hey bro, what you reading?" "hey bro, did you see that cashier? she was so annoying" "hey bro, nice shirt" "hey bro, <looks at newspaper> isn't this election shit tiring as fuck?"
/r/seduction14/11/18 04:25 AM
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No, you communicate value through your persona. How you dress, how you hold yourself. How you commit to your actions without fear of outcome. How you smile, when you smile. How you react to her, do you react at all to her. You communicate value through subconscious actions. You can bring these actions to the conscious but it's best to commit them to subconscious through practice. This is a joke video, but it communicates the point. Look at the value between the first guy and the second. https://…
/r/seduction08/11/18 01:08 AM
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Yes, now. I mean it depends on the type of girl whether you will be successful. You have to get a feel for her. She might be the more serious type, it she might be the more horny type. Whatever the case is, remember that you are qualifying her, you are not trying to appeal to her it impress her. Make the tone of your messages sound like you aren't sure about her, without coming across as a prick. Remember when you ask her questions like spit or swallow or something it gets her nervous because sh…
/r/seduction06/11/18 12:05 AM
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Two weeks is too far out. In that time she's probably going to get enticed by someone else or otherwise distracted. To start the sex talk just make an offhanded joke about it. Generally something with confidence. It can't be forced and has to flow with the conversation. "Wait till you meet me, I'm going to blow your socks off" then she might take the bait and you can start taking about favorite positions and stuff. Spit or swallow. Start building up the anticipation. Foreplay doesn't start in th…
/r/seduction05/11/18 11:34 PM
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Nah, just didn't remember the full quote while typing on my mobile.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/18 07:46 AM
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I think you shouldn't have wrote "you like piss and shit". It's just a cheap shot that doesn't further the discussion.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/18 12:14 AM
1

Oh? Like what don't you agree with?
/r/seduction13/09/18 09:47 PM
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I don't agree with some of his stuff, but literally 90% of it is on point. Good stuff. I jump back to him whenever I start to falter.
/r/seduction13/09/18 02:31 AM
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Previously beta alphas are never seen as genuine alphas to those who witnessed the change regardless of how much they change. First, while I can understand the "genuine alpha" comment, and slightly agree with it. I think that your argument really doesn't matter. A learned alpha is no different from a genuine alpha in the eyes of a woman. They will respect both in the same manner. So what if the alpha image is tainted by the her memory of beta times. It really doesn't change too much. Women despi…
/r/TheRedPill13/09/18 02:24 AM
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lol, corey wayne anyone?
/r/seduction13/09/18 02:10 AM
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Hey man, you really need to read "How to be a 3% man"
/r/seduction12/09/18 08:18 AM
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You will never see them again. They won't give a shit if you do it with even a shred of decency. Even if you mess up.
/r/seduction12/09/18 05:28 AM
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No need to number close, the number should be a means to an end. Don't say "hi" Instead. Start talking as if you were messaging a friend you didn't contact for 3 weeks. Keep it contextual. "You know, I used to think that diving is for weirdos, but recently I tried it and found a whole new side to life I didn't know existed." Whatever she replies with, try to qualify her on it. "O rly? I've never been diving. That's cool. What do you like about it?" -> "Oh, are you not adventurous? Hmmm, so what'…
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:05 AM
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I mean all the answers about practice are true but.... The real answer is... To flip the tables around. Before talking to her tell yourself that she passes the looks test but you want to see if she passes the personality test. In your mind you should be coming from the mindset that SHE should be nervous and qualify herself to YOU. A fun analogy I liked is shopping for TVs. You find one you like aesthetically but you need to checkout the specs before you buy. Are you nervous when shopping for TVs…
/r/seduction29/08/18 09:31 AM
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If you check out most advice it says that she should be the one to try to lock you down. Check out "how to be a 3% man" That said, I don't follow that advice and play by my own rules. But you should still be aware of the advice. The relationship talk is up to you. It sounds like you want one so just do it. But you need to be able to walk away from the deal. If she says no you can't give in. You need to be a man and play by your own rules and not sacrifice your needs for hers. If a relationship i…
/r/seduction28/08/18 03:01 PM
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Texting too much a few months in is also bad. You still need to have your own life. The difference being here that, you can and should text when in a relationship but you shouldn't CHASE. If you are always the one texting her, then pull back a bit. If you two are in a convo, then keep it going, but remember to keep some mystery here and there. Every girl is different on their need to text so just be honest with your girl and calibrate for her needs. But again, key is to not overdo it by becoming…
/r/seduction28/08/18 01:15 PM
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You should get girls to chase you instead of you chasing them. The extra long messages and replying in an instant is how they chase you. Once you start showing you are interested and chase them they lose interest and stop chasing you.
/r/seduction28/08/18 01:08 PM
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This is what caught my attention about his post too.
/r/seduction21/08/18 09:15 AM
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Can you read my same response in this thread to someone else and see if it helps? If not, I'll tailor something to your need. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/95ysdp/how_to_walk_into_a_bar_this_weekend/e3xlaem As far as you feeling like you should be moving quicker, just make sure you are always leaving your comfort zone. If you are, then no worries - you are growing.
/r/seduction10/08/18 10:12 AM
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You wont be rejected. Just look presentable enough that people wont be embarrassed to be seen talking to you. If you can look really sharp, people will actually be happy you approached them. Assuming you are a guy, practice on guys. An easy target for your first time doing it will be to talk to that loner on the side of the bar holding his glass. Try to avoid the dudes who are scoping out the room desperate for some chick, because they probably would resent you distracting them. Say there is no …
/r/seduction10/08/18 04:40 AM
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Yes, being an introvert means I have to spend energy to talk to people, whereas being an extrovert means that you gain energy from talking to people. I would much rather be at home than being in a bar. I spent all of 2017 working on my social skills being able to learn how to make friends in a bar on the spot. I honestly have no interest in learning about those people, but I do enjoy fucking with them and entertaining myself.
/r/seduction10/08/18 04:31 AM
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I make friends on the spot when I go out alone. When I go out with a friend, I always have to worry if they are having fun. When I go out alone, I fuck with all the people around me and use them as my entertainment (btw I'm an introvert), and while I usually dont get any lasting friendships with those dudes, I often can get a chick at least. Even if I don't get a chick, I had a great night regardless! Cant say the same when I'm with friends.
/r/seduction10/08/18 01:45 AM
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You cant force a girl to like you. It is not her choice to be attracted to you. The ONLY thing you can do it show your interest. That means hitting her up and inviting her out once a while. Then the only thing you do after that is wait for her to chase you. Show interest once a week or so and if she doesn't reciprocate then you need to move on. Keep hitting her up from time to time to see if her situation changed, but there is nothing you can do or say to get her to like you more. The opposite a…
/r/seduction09/08/18 01:56 AM
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What the hell is going on with all the [deleted] and [removed] posts in this sub? It's infuriating. I save a post to come back and review it later and half the time its [deleted] or [removed] If it is the mods doing this, at least post the rule that it violated causing it to get removed...
/r/seduction09/08/18 01:41 AM
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He is saying it doesn't work that way. That you will get attached and then find yourself in a bad place when they leave.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/18 07:06 AM
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Read this from beginning to end dude http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=fanpage&utm_campaign=new+article&wa_ibsrc=fanpage
/r/seduction26/07/18 01:17 PM
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Don't look directly in her eyes, look at her eyes, nose, lips, eyes, etc. Scan the face. It's more natural. Also it's natural to break eye contact when thinking of a response. Just staring in their eyes is slightly awkward. And like others said, smile when the eye contact is prolonged and not during conversation.
/r/seduction26/07/18 12:07 PM
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Hey dude, you made a great post here. I previously was redpill, still am somewhat. But I've since rejected it. It's not the only truth out there. Everything you have done is what Corey Wayne teaches in his book and YouTube videos, look it up. I really think you will love it. Also, I think you've done a great job establishing your masculinity and allowing her to be feminine, but one reason she's acting this way is likely because she is starved for love. I highly recommend reading 5 love languages…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/18 11:39 AM
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It happens on paid online dating sites. The ones that are expensive enough to filter out most guys.
/r/seduction25/07/18 09:53 AM
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Read the 5 love languages. It tells you how to show your love to your partner properly. For example touch is your love language but he may not speak your love language and thus doesn't feel loved.
/r/seduction25/07/18 09:48 AM
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BTW you CAN capture your mental state and control - c and control - v it. You simply use the psychology trick of "anchoring" Whenever you feel happy or in a certain mental state you physically touch yourself, a common one is on the wrist, and anchor that feeling to that touch. Whenever you want to recall that mental state you simply do that physical action and you can bring it back! Google this concept for a better how-to than I provided since I'm not the expert.
/r/seduction19/07/18 12:29 PM
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In the book "the game" by Neil strauss that everyone hates, he teaches that to do a 3some have the two girls give you a back massage at the same time. Read up on it.
/r/seduction16/07/18 02:12 AM
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Sorry that you completely missed the point of the book. It's not about being a nice guy. It is about being a decent human being. You can still assert yourself, you just do it tactfully through the wisdom he provides. There is a lot of respect for someone who can have as much tact as someone who has mastered these principles. It does not teach to bend over or let people walk all over you. In fact it teaches the opposite - how to get people to do your bidding.
/r/seduction10/07/18 02:24 AM
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I'm wondering if you are missing the point on avoiding conflict. He doesn't teach to avoid conflict. You can still challenge people 100% all day long. GO FOR IT. What you want to do is avoid triggering their defensive mechanisms. This means asking them challenging questions that make them realize that their shitty point of view is inferior to your own. It is incredibly inspiring to have a father figure (masculine) male guide you to a different viewpoint while outwardly maintaining your dignity t…
/r/seduction10/07/18 02:15 AM
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Ear to shoulders should be while laying on your back with your head elevated facing the ceiling? Also how long? 2 weeks? Two months? 6?
/r/TheRedPill15/06/18 10:39 AM
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Why not just open relationship?
/r/TheRedPill15/06/18 10:28 AM
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First, I fully agree with you about the game. But lemme say the other side of the coin that I've been dealing with in my head recently. Do you REALLY need to do all this? Technically you don't. You can just walk up to any girl and say "Hi". You can use situational openers at any time. "Hey, what brings you here?" You can open girls just like a guy. You can bring girls home without telling them you have to get up early. Just say you have Mario Kart at home. She will come if shes into you. The par…
/r/seduction28/05/18 05:44 AM
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Dude if everything you said is true (and I don't believe it to be true, you are only making excuses) then you simply need to learn to approach on the street or in other public places. It's gonna suck at first but after like your 50th failure you will start to click, and then shit will really start to improve from there.
/r/seduction21/05/18 01:31 AM
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Situational conversation topics. Look at something and talk about it. Or just talk about anything you are passionate about. If you are passionate about it then people will listen to anything. Other than that, read self help books on the topic.
/r/seduction06/05/18 02:48 PM
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No man, it's real. I read "how to win friends and influence people" and in that book he says to smile at people. After that, I did it and for like a month I was high as fuck. Everywhere I went I had a bounce in my step and I could literally feel myself absorbing positive energy from people like Goku's spirit ball. and everyone was looking at me like I had something they didn't have. They longed for whatever drug I was on. They loved talking to me and everyone I smiled at smiled back. I was the s…
/r/seduction06/05/18 02:37 PM
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She's likely not going to work out man. She's using you as an orbiter/time ho. An alpha would just drop her if she wasn't giving him what he wants. But since it seems maybe you also want her friendship for whatever reason you have one strategy you can use without messing it up. PROXIMITY. Get fucking close. Get touchy. But always with plausible deniability. Also if you do accidently fuck up and touch without plausible deniability, OWN IT and have conviction in your actions. Don't apologize. Now …
/r/seduction06/04/18 11:46 PM
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Don't give away things for free. Only hug them when they have earned it. Like, doing something you approve of. Don't just hug them because they are cute.
/r/seduction06/04/18 11:40 AM
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Yeah just make the date on the spot and don't even ask for her contact. Let her realize that she needs to give it to you for it to happen.
/r/seduction06/04/18 11:25 AM
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"With the next girl" is what I said.
/r/seduction06/04/18 11:19 AM
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For what it's worth, I've done the same. I was by myself in a bar. But when the bar cleared up is when I started socializing. No one treated me strange. I sat at a common table and started talking to people. By the way don't only talk to girls that IS VERY creepy. Talk to everyone. Guys, girls, and staff. But only at your perogative. That's the strong silent type. But if you expect people to find you endearing only because you are quiet it won't really happen. You have to have impeccable looks a…
/r/seduction06/04/18 11:12 AM
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I wasn't making the comment about you specifically. I know nothing about you. It was the general "you"
/r/seduction06/04/18 11:08 AM
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Dude you are doing GREAT. Remember it's about the process. Not the results. You should be fucking proud of yourself for every word you were able to write there. 100%%%% success. I noticed you call out the elephant in the room too much. "You never talk to strangers?" I think you shouldn't. It's a little socially out of tune. You should act like they are being weird and something is wrong with them so that they have to qualify themselves to you. Don't make up the excuse for them. Don't volunteer t…
/r/seduction06/04/18 11:06 AM
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Maybe you are like me. You volunteer information too easily right? Make them earn your secrets. Even say that. "That's classified information." "Not sure you've earned that yet. 😏" "Wouldn't you like to know?" Once you get used to this you will get better at playing around instead of being direct.
/r/seduction06/04/18 10:48 AM
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Silent strong stranger? How about first you become strong? It's all about looks bro. You need to look like you are well off. Meaning you have a fuck ton of status. Meaning you are a high quality human being. Show off you have money, by wearing nice shit. Show off you put effort into your appearance by buying nice clothes. Peacock. Show off that amazing body you busted your ass to make for the last 4 years. And that glowing skin that you put a lot of effort into. Then sit in a corner and drink a …
/r/seduction06/04/18 10:27 AM
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I've realized it's not confidence that people like. It's conviction. Decisiveness. Follow through. Think of someone going to shake your hand. Would you rather they put their hand out all cowardly and unsure of what will happen next? Or do you want them to just fucking stick their hand out and demand you to follow through? That's what people find inspiring and what women AND MEN respect. If you don't have that then why would any women love you or any men like you? And for the love of God read Mod…
/r/seduction06/04/18 10:01 AM
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Next time with the next girl just make the date on the spot. Don't be another name in her phone.
/r/seduction06/04/18 09:54 AM
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I know nothing about you but it's possibly because the older women have seen more valuable men in their time and know that you don't compare. Yet the younger girls see that you have more to offer than the guys they see day to day. This article (I just provided in another comment here) explains it well: (Read this with an ad blocker) http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/
/r/seduction05/04/18 10:43 AM
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TLDR is: they are only interested until they find out that you are a detractor to society and produce nothing of value.
/r/seduction05/04/18 10:40 AM
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u/tooeasilybored is right man. Read this (and with an ad blocker). Everyone needs to read this. http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/
/r/seduction05/04/18 10:38 AM
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Can I ask you a favor? Can you please read Mystery Method, or How to be a 3% man. It doesn't feel you are qualified to give advice because you haven't yet demonstrated you are at our baseline. As the person you are replying to insinuated, it sounds like you don't understand the 3 stages of relationship building. 1) attraction 2) comfort 3) seduction The books I listed above you can read in less than a weekend and will help you help us better.
/r/seduction03/04/18 01:32 PM
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Except don't be interested as if you are interviewing them. Learn to cold read: eg: "you look like a girl who likes animals :)" instead of "do you like animals?"
/r/TheRedPill01/04/18 11:19 AM
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Red pill has nothing to do with being alpha bro. Red pill is about waking up to the truth. Just because you are red pill doesn't make you alpha at all. Fuck off with your hostility. You yourself have already guilty of merging all the topics into red pill. Pick up and red pill are totally different schools of thought.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/18 11:17 AM
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Except half of those can be skipped. I've never once had a girl alone with me at my place who I didn't sleep with. I go straight from kissing to feeling her, then feeling her crotch. Then off comes the pants. Then warm her up, and have fun.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/18 08:35 AM
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Agreed, I hate how much this sub is diluted by PUA. Red pill is about truths and understanding. Not fucking 1000 hoes. Being Red pilled also has nothing to do with being alpha. And yet here we are.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/18 08:29 AM
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No, you aren't getting it. You need to be focusing on the journey at all times, not the results. Life is much more fulfilling if you focus on your journey, not if you focus on material things like your rewards your journey produced.
/r/seduction17/03/18 03:08 AM
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It sounds like she was your world. It sounds like women and partnership is your world. Stop making your life revolve around anything other than yourself. You should be at the center of your world, with full on confidence that you are the only thing that matters in your life. You should work on yourself and SELF FULFILLMENT. Girls and friends and all sorts of people will come and go, but in the end, you have to live with yourself. If your world IS SOMEONE ELSE, then when that is gone, you lose yo…
/r/seduction13/03/18 10:16 AM
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Been there, done that, stay far away.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/18 11:53 PM
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Think of the clingy friend or girlfriend you had who wanted to do everything with you. It's tiring right? You start to wonder if you are their only friend. You feel obligated to go so they can have a good time. Subconsciously you start to see them as beneath you. vs Your friend who always is doing something interesting and posting it on Facebook and you wonder how they have such an interesting life. You don't care too much about it but in the back of your mind it intrigues you. If they told you …
/r/seduction05/03/18 05:19 AM
1

The difference is this: you doing something and offering value to someone who decides to join. vs You inviting someone to an event so that you may enjoy it. (Taking value from them)
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:21 AM
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Who cares what they do? First, don't "game". Just meet people. A master at this doesn't even look like he is "gaming" he is just giving girls a good time by chatting to them and making their day interesting. While having fun socializing, he gets laid. Remember you need to give value not be a vampire than only is there to gain something. Always be giving more than receiving. If you do this and give value the other dudes don't even matter because you are just socializing. In this case you are maki…
/r/seduction15/02/18 11:27 PM
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I suggest not lying that you go to that college as it could backfire. Just say you "basically live here because all your friends are here" and then somehow play too cool for school and give off a "I already have life figured out" vibe. The girls will eat it up since you look more masculine than all the college boys. Edit: and dress very well to pull off the vibe
/r/seduction15/02/18 01:36 PM
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"if you don't stop that I might have to kiss you" then read her reaction - is better.
/r/seduction15/02/18 01:26 PM
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It's best to say you like her upfront yes. Why? So they don't need to guess your intention. But don't keep saying it because its reaffirming something she already knows. always include doubt. Say things that mean "im interested but I want to see if you're worth it" never fully commit as it's creepy. Imagine she is a dude. Would you invite a dude you just met for a lunch date? Or ask his number? No, you'd qualify him. Just walk up to her and talk to her like she's a dude. Ask situational question…
/r/seduction15/02/18 01:23 PM
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"I turned her off" should never be an answer because you should never change yourself for her. You should change yourself for you. If you aren't the person you want to be, and the person you want to be wouldn't have turned her off, then that's the only time you can say you turned her off. As an example, you want to be buff, and she is turned off by skinny guys. Never get buff FOR HER, but instead for yourself. So yes, it wasn't meant to be if you have no interest in getting buff.
/r/seduction13/02/18 12:19 PM
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I'm in Asia, I dislike bars that have seats. Standing bars are much easier to approach in. It might be the bars you go to. This dude does daygame in Europe: https://youtu.be/vOzmaBbgpwU
/r/seduction13/02/18 12:01 PM
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She doesn't want you, she's just afraid of being alone. Further, you are only 20 dude. Your 20s are going to be full of women.
/r/seduction13/02/18 11:42 AM
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You just gotta do it man. There's nothing else that can help except doing it. By the way, it never goes away. Even pros get anxiety. They just learn to manipulate that feeling into a rush instead of a wall. Try anxiety meds? Ashwagandha and Rhodiola both help with mild anxiety. Can get it on Amazon.
/r/seduction13/02/18 11:35 AM
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You can do woodworking! Doing it alone in your house sounds sad anyway. Go out and join others in a workshop!
/r/TheRedPill09/02/18 03:12 AM
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Dude this sub is living proof there is a way out. So many dudes here are doing what you call the impossible. It's not impossible. It's all in your head. You can live a life you love to live. Just like all the dudes here are doing.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/18 01:41 AM
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Most natural way is to compliment her on something new about her See a new hat? Say "I like your hat" Done. Conversation started. Be sure to have something to follow up with; ideally NOTHING SERIOUS
/r/seduction24/01/18 11:09 PM
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It's just how the world works. Don't fight it. Generally people with "good genes" are respected more by default. This all changes with culture of course. Social conditioning.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/18 11:05 PM
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But you can't be needy about it. Whiny is probably equally bad. But yes, showing your human side allows people to connect with you. But showing too much weakness turns girls off. So do it very sparingly. And never do it as a way to buy affection.
/r/seduction04/12/17 12:13 AM
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Hey man, You said you read Mark Manson and being vulnerable. But later in your post you talk about trying to be vulnerable and you did exactly what Mark Manson said not to do. Being vulnerable is not confession. Being vulnerable is not whining or exposing your insecurities. It is NOT THAT. Being vulnerable is taking a risk that you will be judged. Putting your hand out for a handshake and risking rejection. Saying a joke that might not be funny. Doing something you've never done before on a dare…
/r/seduction22/11/17 01:14 AM
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What are your date plans? If too heavy they might be "I don't even know this dude and he's taking me to dinner" Try more light hearted dates, move to dinner or something spontaneously
/r/seduction19/11/17 11:33 PM
1

Depends on your locale. Some places are still good. Others are shit. Try polarizing more. Don't be agreeable. Be extreme. The girls who aren't looking for that persona will block you. The ones that are looking will allow you to set something up. Don't try to please everyone. Take a stance. Offend people.
/r/seduction16/11/17 01:06 PM
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Try self hypnosis. It let's you speak to your subconscious. I swear this shit works. Michael Sealey on YouTube works for me.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 03:24 PM
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People forget. I don't remember even more than a handful of times my wingman blew out. And if I do remember, I don't remember any emotion surrounding the event. What I do remember? I remember the times he directly embarrassed me, or impacted me. Like when he stole my girl once. He probably also directly teased me or disrespected me a handful of times but I can't even remember those. I do remember him being a shitty wingman however. And the fact that he is too selfish and that I want a new wingma…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/17 11:57 PM
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You need to do your required reading. Models by Manson pretty much gives you the answer for all 3 questions.
/r/seduction06/11/17 03:06 PM
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To understand why you come across as creepy: Watch this video https://youtu.be/WdqSoPAILJ0 Then read Models by Manson
/r/seduction01/11/17 04:12 PM
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I'm in Tokyo too if you ever wanna hit up the bar or something. Nice to see another redpiller here!
/r/TheRedPill23/10/17 12:28 AM
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You are talking about something completely different. You are saying "be selfish so you can be free of societies fucked up system" Yet you are discrediting the reason why the dude wants to commit suicide. And regardless if you want to live above the other people - you can't deny that some people want to be decent human beings. And no, I'm not new here. But I also don't blindly follow a cult. I incorporate what I agree with and let the extremists go on about their business.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/17 08:32 AM
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No, you are taking it too literally. He violated another person. Regardless if sexual. He could have shoved his fist in someone's mouth and played with their tonsils. Same deal. They leave feeling violated. That's his struggle. Not breaking societies rules.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/17 07:00 AM
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Don't be outcome dependent. It doesn't matter if she called back.
/r/seduction17/10/17 04:42 AM
2

Cold read?
/r/seduction05/09/17 12:58 PM
3

There's more fish in the sea
/r/seduction04/09/17 11:51 PM
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Many girls will give their number to get rid of a guy. Also he had her cornered in a bus seat with no way out.
/r/seduction01/09/17 09:54 AM
1

While I appreciate the post, I think there is not much to gain here. It's better to stick with infield videos where you can see real reactions. Telling a girl she's beautiful is the worst compliment you can give. You can make your intentions known while not complimenting her genetics.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/17 11:37 PM
1

Just know that something as low as only like 1 in 20 girls might find you attractive. 14 of them are indifferent, and will find you physically attractive after they meet your personality. And 5 of them will never be physically attracted. Girls attraction to physical traits don't work the same as us. When you think it might, you are projecting your own beliefs onto them. Girls are more attracted to status.
/r/seduction20/08/17 11:33 PM
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Plus she was giving huge IOI so I am attractive to her. I know it's hard, but try not to do this. Don't look for validation from girls. Whether or not she finds you physically attractive should not be a part of your thinking process. Look for validation of your physical value within.
/r/seduction20/08/17 11:15 PM
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Just remember what everyone is trying to say here: the APPROACH is the success. Whether or not she rejects you is non factor.
/r/seduction20/08/17 10:57 PM
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It's overrated bro. It's so overrated that you end up turning it down when the girl wants more.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/17 01:32 PM
1

That was insane. I couldn't use your video cuz I didn't like the voice but I found another, and was fucking insane.
/r/seduction16/08/17 10:22 PM
1

Thanks, I'd rather try your recommendation than potentially fail because I tried the wrong video.
/r/seduction11/08/17 06:00 AM
1

I'm somewhat jealous you learned this at 18. You'll do well. Focus your efforts on your career and the women will come naturally. Men never hit a wall. You will be more attractive at 35 than you were at 21 and still be banging 21 year old women. Don't rush into marriage.
/r/seduction09/08/17 07:24 PM
1

Interesting, do you have a sample video you can share? I'd like to try it out.
/r/seduction09/08/17 02:27 PM
1

Dude fucking stop shitting where you eat. At the MOST you should only use these girls to invite you to their social events and hook you up with their friends. If they are hot, they usually hang out with hot people. If they are hot, get them to be your wing girl. DO NOT MAKE THINGS AWKWARD AT WORK.
/r/seduction09/08/17 02:22 PM
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Is normal. Once you get good with girls they lose their charm. That "heart skips a beat" feeling doesn't come back because you know how this stuff works now. You've realized girls don't have much to offer. Don't worry. It will happen sometime with someone. But for now, just keep working on improving yourself. Don't look for love. Enjoy being a man.
/r/seduction09/08/17 02:08 PM
2

This is great thanks for posting. Little motion sickness tho.
/r/seduction07/08/17 02:18 PM
1

Thing is, many women demonize their husbands at the end. In my case, she wanted me to pay 30k in damages. This is only legally owed in the event of infidelity or domestic abuse. Yet she felt entitled to it. I had to get her to settle to sign, it was long, expensive, and annoying. If I continued to see other women while still married (waiting for her to give up) I would have put myself at risk. Also, in my legal system, depending on her income (which was $0) I legally owed her 1/5th of my salary …
/r/TheRedPill07/08/17 03:53 AM
14

Ah TRP paradox. You come to TRP looking on how to get girls and you leave not caring either way. Enjoy your journey.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/17 06:30 AM
66

Except the dude is not his buddy, pal
/r/TheRedPill26/07/17 11:23 PM
1

Sorry I shouldn't have brought up the example. I think you are more off track than before. This has nothing to do with mind games and trapping people. It's just maintaining your ground and having a backbone.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/17 01:10 PM
3

I love this comment because I have this issue. I need to shut up and let people save face even if I wish to help them educate themselves.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/17 11:43 AM
1

You are missing the point that simply getting them to explain themselves is forcing them to DEER. By forcing them to DEER now you have the dominance. That's all it needs. You don't need to win the argument, you just need to hold frame. People hate conflict by nature and will generally back down so they can enjoy their night. Think of two cats hissing at each other. You are one of those cats. Just keep hissing until they back the fuck off.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/17 11:34 AM
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Yeah but we get the benefit of living in a man's world where we get to define the rules. Worth it.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/17 02:33 PM
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You have no excuse to not lift. You are making the same excuse I made. I'm 10 years older than you. I'm going to talk to you like you are my 10 years younger self. Get to the gym you fucking idiot. If you are really so poor that you cant (as college students are) get this: http://a.co/hQEKB4O But know this - the gym payment will make you go. You have no willpower and because of this you don't deserve women. You are NOT WORTHY OF THEM IF YOU CANT EVEN GET OFF YOUR ASS AND STOP MAKING EXCUSES. See…
/r/seduction14/07/17 07:25 AM
2

You can use your friends girlfriends to find a girlfriend. Just be obnoxious that you are looking for one. Make it part of you. Embrace it. And whenever you are with your friends and their girlfriends, be upfront and ask if they have a friend who is looking for a boyfriend. Eventually a time will come when you get invited to some party, like new years or something and you meet that friend they wanted to hook you up with.
/r/seduction10/07/17 11:48 AM
4

Don't be so quick to not be friends with women that it didn't work out with. They can be very helpful later on especially if they know your type. And especially if they still respect you. Also you can try hooking them up with your bros for points on both sides. Women I have slept with have introduced me to their friends who I also slept with.
/r/seduction06/07/17 06:32 AM
2

That's the thing. /r/TheRedPill teaches you to not need validation. You are a man in a man's world and get to enjoy the benefits of that. You don't need to find validation from women. Set out to be whoever it is you want to be and find happiness in yourself. Don't find validation in even your wife. It's your life and she's in for the ride.
/r/seduction16/06/17 12:07 AM
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I think you are better suited for /r/TheRedPill You are looking for validation. You need to find your inner man and stop looking to success with women to find your validation. You should be able to find your confidence from within yourself.
/r/seduction15/06/17 01:45 PM
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Sometime in the date I usually just let them know I'm on a self improvement journey and not looking for a girlfriend at least until end of summer. I then segway info how much fun I'm having at the gym. That usually gets taken well and I think they see it as a challenge to chase me. They also see a light at the end of the tunnel because of the summer thing. After the sex they don't get salty.
/r/seduction12/06/17 02:40 PM
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Hey dude it's because you aren't actually listening. You are caught up in the other things that you aren't ACTIVELY listening. Become genuinely interested in what they are saying. Play up whatever it is they are saying. Repeat back to them what they just said to you. Next level after you get good at that is to learn to not take yourself so seriously. Because becoming a good listener is an important skill but you will bore the fuck out of everyone around you by being too serious.
/r/seduction08/06/17 03:19 PM
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I didn't watch the vid sorry. Hate vids. But a general rule is to not compliment things she's born with, like being cute. Compliment something she tried hard to do. Like fashion or nails.
/r/seduction25/05/17 02:04 PM
3

Not worth your time. Crap article.
/r/seduction25/05/17 02:02 PM
3

For the record I was just using extremes in my example and wasn't calling anyone a coward.
/r/seduction11/05/17 05:19 PM
1

I'm super pissed off because I was feeling the same. Then 3 weeks into it I got sick. When I finally made it back I had lost my momentum and now struggle to get that high I had when I went every day. I'm so jealous of you :(
/r/TheRedPill11/05/17 11:08 AM
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Social skills, flirting, mindset - these are muscles that will atrophy without flexing. I experienced this. I started these late last year. In January I decided to pause while I focused on going to the gym. I went every day, so not much time for going out. When I decided to start going out again 1 or 2 months ago, I found that I lost ALL my social skills I learned. Fucking sucked starting from the bottom, especially with lingering memories of doing great earlier.
/r/seduction11/05/17 09:07 AM
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My favorite quote in my life: Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not! Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you. Own it. Tell your coworker, yeah you talk to beautiful women, any time any day. Be proud man. There will always be people who hate a confident man with a spine, just like there will always be people who hate a spineless coward. Either way, people gonna hate you.
/r/seduction11/05/17 08:58 AM
1

marriage and kids don't stop anything. even in countries where divorce is impossible, marriage means next to nothing.
/r/seduction11/05/17 08:45 AM
1

"get it out there eventually"? My favorite quote in my life: Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not! Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you.
/r/seduction08/05/17 12:06 AM
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Feel free to make other threads (or search) and try to connect with people who you feel have the same condition as you. I'm positive there are other people on this sub who have aspergers and were able to overcome it. Don't let it be your excuse :)
/r/seduction07/05/17 07:13 PM
1

Most of us at /r/TheRedPill found the sub while in a rut. I did all this after getting a divorce and shaving my head from balding. I now feel more like a man than I have ever before, and I love accepting the realities of being a man that I learned in TRP. It's extremely liberating and 32 is by far my happiest time of my life. I wish I learned all this at 25. I joined a gym that is on the way home and I pass it every day when going home. Therefore I spend every evening losing weight and building …
/r/seduction07/05/17 06:50 PM
2

So I can give you good news. 25 is still young. When I was 25 I thought I was at my prime and thought I wasted it. I'm now 32 and taking girls home from the bar who are 20. At 30 you can go the fill range from 20 to 40. It's the best. That said, focus on you. You need to love yourself. Go to the gym. Look like a badass. Get some kick ass jacket, shoes, accessories. Become the best you that you can be. Chase a nice job, find hobbies that are respectable. Music, dance, sports - even canoeing or ar…
/r/seduction07/05/17 06:29 PM
2

Monk mode is when you don't worry about girls and just focus on self improvement all the way. (gym, fashion, career, hobbies.) including ditching video games and other addictions. I'm doing a less extreme version of that where I focus on improving social skills and my goal isnt to get the girl but just talk to girls (and guys) . I do not gauge my success by if I get phone numbers or sex. It completely removes the anxiety. I focus more on being selfish, doing what I want, talking to who I want, a…
/r/seduction07/05/17 06:17 PM
1

Ok well guys are pretty simple I think. Listen to what he likes in women. Either you already know or you can ask his friends. Or just watch him. Say for example he likes girls who play games or has a fetish for ponytails (me) Then drop a hook that you are that kinda girl. Then when he responds well, don't be easy. Ghost him a little (hard since you are in class together), make him wonder if he fucked up. Then get more serious.
/r/seduction07/05/17 04:02 PM
2

Yeah, she did "just met you". I wrote what I wrote with full knowledge of your make-out session.
/r/seduction07/05/17 03:09 PM
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She just met you and you asked her to commit. So she said no. Think from her point of view. Girls have to deal with creepy guys all the time. If a psycho said to you "are you interested?" and you said yes, then when you later change your mind he goes postal on you, you aren't going to say yes again. Most people like non-committal. You need to keep it grey area while showing you are someone valuable enough to engage with.
/r/seduction07/05/17 02:52 PM
1

Improve what? Sounds like a fun night? Perhaps the only complaint I see in your post is you didn't know how to continue the conversation. Just talk about what you want to talk about. Be somewhat selfish. Don't talk about boring things like career until you know you've created attraction by fucking around with using her as your entertainment for a bit. If she asks you about career as a way to start conversation, don't reply with a serious answer. Only get serious after she seems lit up and attrac…
/r/seduction07/05/17 01:11 PM
0

Just curious, what specifically made you write this comment? Approaching HB9 in clubs? Bars? Daygame?
/r/seduction07/05/17 01:02 PM
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Way too direct.
/r/seduction07/05/17 12:56 PM
1

The next time a girl comes over. Start touching her within 20 seconds of her coming in the door. When you make a comment, just touch her midriff. When you joke, poke her belly. Get touchy. FAST. Got it? After doing that just kiss her when she is standing near you. JUST DO IT. It will be awkward. It will. Make it only 5 seconds. This kiss may shock her, it's 100% OK. Congratulations. You just broke the ice. Now you have license to kiss more. Now for the next kisses it will feel more natural. But …
/r/seduction07/05/17 12:35 PM
1

Comment on the situation. Easiest way by far. " this place is busy as hell! " " did you see that guy? He's going to hit the pavement soon! " " I like your shirt! Do they have it in my size? " " my favorite thing about summer is this breeze. It's amazing! " Also all of these should be followed up with a little story from you and an emotion you felt " when I was 21 I got that drunk. I remember being stupid but I had the time of my life. " And then a question " when was the last time you got that d…
/r/seduction07/05/17 12:24 PM
1

Can you try to log the approaches you get? Maybe put a + or - rating on it too? Reason I ask, is because back when I interviewed for jobs, I was nervous as fuck. But now that I'm on the other side interviewing people, I will never again be nervous because I know how many idiots apply, and I know I'm not that. Would be cool to see a log of notes you write when people approach you. Like in your phone on a bullet list in Google Keep or something.
/r/seduction07/05/17 12:18 PM
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I might see the issue. I think it's only technique. You seem to be doing everything else right. Don't focus on the number. Make the connection. The number comes naturally. You sound like you might be forcing it and it comes off desperate. So when you ask, her world comes crashing down and thinks "oh, it was all a show, just to get my number?" Instead try inviting her out to something that you connected with her on. Remember the banter that you are good at should only be to generate attraction. A…
/r/seduction07/05/17 11:02 AM
1

Clubs are high energy. You have to rush to the kiss right after success with kino. There should be near zero conversation in such a noisy environment. Use an excuse to get her out never directly imply sex. Sex is always implied. "let's go to a quiet place to talk." she knows what it really means. "I'm hungry. let's get something to eat." if she says no it's because she's not DTF. She knows exactly what's implied. Bars are more for conversation. You can use your voice and choice of words to make …
/r/seduction07/05/17 09:47 AM
1

I'm the same. I also don't like hugging as a greeting. I suggest doing salsa dancing. I did it and it was amazing. End of the night many girls hugged me when I said goodbye, I was like WTF. But then I realized that I can use this as a way to desensitize myself to the hug and be more warm.
/r/seduction07/05/17 09:39 AM
1

Dude considering your question, you give up your answers directly. If she asks you what you do for work you probably just tell her. The truth is, if you just met her she doesn't give a flying fuck about where you work. She has no investment in you and is just trying to enjoy the night. So when you tell her "I'm working in marketing." it's the most boring answer ever. Just use each situation as a means to have fun. "I'm a superhero crime fighter" drag out the conversation. Tell her you are in mar…
/r/seduction07/05/17 09:32 AM
3

This isn't true. If he is good looking he has options.
/r/seduction07/05/17 09:23 AM
2

There are two types of girls. One who are horny and you need to move fast. Two who are not and will be turned off by you moving too fast. Choose.
/r/seduction07/05/17 09:20 AM
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You have to show social value to her before you can get her. This means you have to show her you are worth hanging out with. It sounded like you said that you are already getting quite a bit of her time. So, if she's not already interested it's because you aren't valuable enough. Work out. Tease her. Put her on the defense, making her to to validate herself to you. Give her a funny nickname. Don't take life seriously. Do not talk about boring serious stuff with her at all until you think she is …
/r/seduction07/05/17 09:16 AM
1

Just fyi I have girls who are friends who have said to me before that if there is a guy who is their Brad Pitt they will actively ignore him. They don't want to be crushed by the rejection too. This probably doesn't apply to OP because first you have to be a Brad Pitt
/r/seduction07/05/17 09:01 AM
1

You don't have to wait until next weekend. Do it at your lunch break on Monday.
/r/seduction07/05/17 08:51 AM
1

I think you need to go into monk mode to be honest. I am having fun going out to bars talking to GUYS and telling myself I'm not going to have a girlfriend until end of summer. The fact that I have NO PRESSURE to and NO INTENTION of getting a girlfriend makes me do much better socializing. I'm having so much fun talking to guys and girls that my social skills are skyrocketing, and my anxiety is nothing. I still have trouble talking to girls that are the pinnacle of my type, but I have zero issue…
/r/seduction07/05/17 08:45 AM
2

You handled it well I think. Last night a girl asked me to buy her drink I just laughed at her and said no. Then I said, sure give me the money and I'll go buy your drink. Another night I said you buy my drink and I'll pay for the Karaoke. And that got me a free drink. But I had already been deep in the conversation by that point.
/r/seduction07/05/17 08:30 AM
1

Can you elaborate slightly? I'm trying to improve my approach game.
/r/seduction06/05/17 10:17 AM
2

This is where you are fucking up I think. If a NEW girl is alone with you in your apartment, she's already basically consented to sleeping with you. It's just on you to not make things awkward, and escalate. Every. Single. Girl. I've invited to my place I've slept with. She won't come over without the intention of sleeping with you. Of course this won't be the rule for girls who have already come over and eating with you is already a thing. But any new girl you invite over, just escalate man. Th…
/r/seduction06/05/17 09:46 AM
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Don't ask if they speak English. Just speak it. Remember you want to keep them on the defense, because you want them feeling nervous. Don't be polite. It gives them power. Just be assertive, and control the interaction. Also don't focus on the meat of the conversation, focus on enjoying yourself at her expense. She will see this as you having higher value than her. I take your post as taking yourself too seriously and having too much of an agenda. She can probably see it too. Just have fun man. …
/r/seduction23/04/17 01:21 PM
1

Hey dude just fyi you are correct. Like you said, women don't like confidence. Women like status. Status is given by looks, job, money, style, popularity. Everything you mentioned. But status is something you can fake with nice clothes, grooming, lifting, and social skills. You could be a garbage man and still convey high status wherever you go. But even if you have high status, you still need confidence to seal the deal. A weak feeble man with status will still struggle with women. Except those…
/r/TheRedPill21/04/17 07:54 AM
1

Yeah, you really need to not use texting as a way to connect. Every text you do should be trying to get them to connect with you in real life. You can't escalate (kino) via text. Romantic relationships are built on sexual energy, this is done by escalating. I'm no pro dude. But here is a post I made a while back about utilizing the things I learned here. http://imgur.com/a/guKrV Keeping her on defense through her insecurity, never being beta and apologizing, and escalating away from texting.
/r/seduction20/04/17 09:41 PM
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Learn how to talk situational. Anything about the environment that you two are in. Follow it up with a story of some kind that you yourself care about Finally ask her opinion on the thing you decide to talk about. Seal the deal by LISTENING TO WHAT SHE SAYS and show GENUINE interest, asking more about a keyword you hear. "Hey. Don't you think these elevator buttons are crap? When I was a kid I used to press all the buttons and piss everyone off haha, but I thought it was hilarious. Don't you thi…
/r/seduction20/04/17 11:16 AM
0

Watch this video for a primer dude. https://youtu.be/01Xyys61YNs A lot of people don't like this guy. But maybe it can give you a wake up call.
/r/seduction18/04/17 11:40 PM
3

Don't approach. As this guy says, "Drop hooks" https://youtu.be/BBhxkOai2HM
/r/seduction11/04/17 11:27 PM
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I think what he means to say is, this should be your new norm. Not something special. Try to make it your norm.
/r/TheRedPill06/04/17 09:18 AM
1

I just ask the employees at the gym. They teach me how to use the weights. Focus on your back and your posture first. The gym employees can tell you which machines to use. Use this as your entry point. After getting good Posture you will be used to working out and can move on to bicep gains and such. Also cardio. If the gym employees cant help just ask anyone who looks experienced for which machine he recommends for your back. If your request is simple enough he might be inclined to help you.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/17 10:44 AM
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Dance with the old people! You can still learn!
/r/seduction30/03/17 11:20 PM
6

"she already has a boyfriend" doesn't mean shit. I just joined a gym this year I asked out a girl working there and she already had a boyfriend. She still said yes. After I learned she had a boyfriend I lost all interest, but still maintain contact because she is super friendly toward me and I'm still wondering where this will go. But I refuse to be her time-hoe.
/r/seduction26/02/17 03:18 AM
5

It even works with non alcoholic drinks
/r/TheRedPill25/02/17 02:40 AM
3

You sound like me. I'm an overly honest person so my fall back is to say what I'm thinking and try to make a sincere connection with them. Fuck that noise. Don't be honest. Tease them. That's how you flirt. "nice shoes, did you get them at goodwill?" "how old are you? I'm 304." "what's your job? I'm a crime fighter super hero" Try to make getting the answer they want to know difficult. Don't do this too much. Just in the beginning. As the conversation goes on only do it once every few minutes. A…
/r/seduction12/02/17 04:23 PM
1

You need to head over to r/theredpill ASAP and study up. You are clinging to her and it's pretty obvious in your word choice in your texts.
/r/seduction09/02/17 01:13 PM
2

No. They have to earn the gentlemen treatment. People take for granted the things they get for free. It's human. If you do gentlemen stuff, she won't appreciate it because it's now "just what he does". She might like it the first few times, but after that it's completely ineffective.
/r/seduction09/02/17 10:20 AM
1

No, they are called escorts. And they are in nearly every city.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/17 11:53 PM
7

Man lucky you. The majority of online dating is like your goldmine.
/r/seduction28/01/17 07:22 AM
3

I do feel bad for men sometimes. Having that strong of a sex drive must really suck. I don't feel like you understand guys at all if the urgency for sex is why you think their hearts are racing with each new interaction. It's the fear of failure. Which is why the best solution for a guy is to go out and pick up 100 girls a day until they are numb to rejection. Guys are just as fragile if not more fragile than women and have to kill a part of their own humanity to live up to societies standards.
/r/seduction26/01/17 12:15 PM
1

Next time have her text you on the spot. It's possible she gave you a fake number, or maybe just somehow made a mistake. Just as a general rule, verify the number. I'd like to assume you did this and you know she's getting the texts
/r/seduction25/01/17 05:54 AM
1

Think you read it wrong
/r/seduction25/01/17 05:48 AM
1

I'm buzzed. You'd be amazed at how many girls want to feel your buzzed head.
/r/seduction24/12/16 04:40 PM
4

random girls do not notice me You are falling into the trap I keep falling into myself. Stop looking for validation. Assume attraction and just talk to them. No need to wait for them to notice you.
/r/seduction24/12/16 04:25 PM
2

Men are liars and manipulators too. It's not just women. The idea is to respect the person, not the gender. If you remove gender (ie, put your dick back in your pants) you can enjoy their company as a person. But no, it's not possible to do this if all you see in this world are dicks and pussies
/r/MGTOW17/11/16 09:57 PM
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Jesus Christ, bitter much? MGTOW doesn't mean diss on women. Have respect for women while living your life your way. For the record there are plenty of women who play board games and are chill cool people. Once you put your dick back in your pants you might see them for the comrades they are. No one said you have to talk drama or girly stuff with them. They don't even expect that from you, and if you are with a girl who does then she's not for you.
/r/MGTOW17/11/16 02:20 PM
2

Not if you think about it in the other light. They arent attracted to guys much, and when they are they don't know what to do. Pretty simple. Its like if 500 ugly girls were hitting on you (you have no attraction to them) but then the super model comes on to you, and you have no idea what to do. It's a rare occurrence for her
/r/seduction08/11/16 03:58 PM
1

Thanks man! Yeah I need to work on my push and pull game for sure. I'd love a resource if you know of any good ones. If its too much trouble, no worries, I can search too.
/r/seduction07/11/16 01:19 PM
1

I too have no experience with stuttering. But in the movie the notebook that dudes dad made him read poetry out loud every night until it stopped. Maybe you could also just take a breath and think about what to say and speak slower? I mumble a lot and need to practice speaking slower myself. Because I have low self worth I feel that I'm wasting people's time when I speak and try to rush through it. Maybe stuttering is similar? Trying to speak too fast?
/r/seduction07/11/16 11:06 AM
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Redbeam has the right answer. If you chase girls in your 20s you will greatly regret it. Focus on yourself. Guess what? When you are 30 you can still get those 20 year old girls. It's fucking dope. Don't worry about it man. You are living the life many guys want. Grow. Grow and don't let the women shackle you down. They will suck your life force and then kick you to the curb when you have nothing left to offer.
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