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If you are really set on wearing you rings and having the plating doesn't help, I bet you could have the band remade. My sister's band had to made with a different combo of metals so it didn't contain any nickel. She had the exact same problem as you. I'm sure the jeweler could tell you...it was less expensive than platinum.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/15 05:56 PM
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Yay congrats!!!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/15 05:52 PM
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Ha ha...actually I was. My mom has always told me that it is easy for a husband's happiness to decrease when a baby is born and that you need to be careful. I guess I worry about it because I'm 28 and while I would like to wait 2-5 years to have children and enjoy a honeymoon period, it seems unwise to wait too long. So I think we will wait a year or so then start a family.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 05:31 PM
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What advice would you give new mothers to help keep their husbands and marriage as the top priority as they start a new family? (Not pregnant...just asking for the future. :) )
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 04:41 PM
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"There's no such thing as a man who's "too far gone." If he's not one of the three unsafe guys, then he's a good guy--not a perfect man, but one you can have a wonderful relationship with." So true! So many of my girlfriends are waiting for Prince Charming to show up on his white horse when a perfectly good, decent guy is standing right in front of them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 04:29 PM
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Great advice! Thank you! Can't wait to read your new book!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:48 PM
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First of all, thank for your writing the Surrendered Single and the Surrendered Wife. Both books really shaped the relationship that I have today. Your book outlines the same strategies my mother has intuitively used to create a happy and healthy marriage of 35 years. Before reading, I didn’t always understand their dynamic, but now it makes sense and I hope to follow her footsteps. Your writing has also helped me realize that being feminine is okay and traditional gender roles often do work bes…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:21 PM
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Okay sounds good! I just didn't know if I missed where the time was posted. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 04:54 PM
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What time is the AMA?
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 04:33 PM
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Yay!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 06:41 PM
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I've only heard good things about Junior League! I have a friend who serves with the Ft. Worth Junior League and she loves it. If you think JL might not be your thing, you might try volunteering for the United Way. It primary draws working men and women, but I think they would happy for anyone to help. They have tons of different opportunities. I co-chair a Community Investment Panel, which means I oversee 4 nonprofit organizations and recommend their United Way Funding each year. The United Way…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 03:27 PM
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I would echo this comment...I went through a period when I felt really overwhelmed and down at the same time. Not totally depressed, but just a bit blue. My doctor said to be sure to make sure I was getting enough vitamin D. I've started taking a vitamin D supplement and it seemed to help a lot. Maybe it's a placebo effect...maybe there is something medically to it, but either way it works for me when I am feeling down.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 08:58 PM
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I would say check out the Fly Lady books. She has great strategies on getting lots done in little spurts of time and developing routines around the house. One recommendation she offers is to give yourself a certain amount of focused time to tackle a project...like an hour to clean out your junk drawer. Stick to the time limit and stay focused on the task at hand. (Easier said than done...because I tend to ADD clean...look a dust bunny here...oh I need to sort that...now that reminds me to clean …
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 06:27 PM
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YES...I saw that too. They all said that the 50s were a "simpler, happier time" when you didn't have to "keep up with the Jones." Yet, Dolly was always comparing herself to the other girls and came off as very catty and competitive. They were just competing against each other for who could have the best pin curls!
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 01:31 PM
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Oh I know!!! I was like THIS is dressed up?
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 01:28 PM
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I mainly meant it in jest, but you bring up a good point...you don't understand what someone is going through until you walk a mile in their shoes.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 01:27 PM
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http://www.tlc.com/tv-shows/tlc-presents/wives-submit-to-your-husbands/
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 09:17 PM
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You're welcome! I'd say it's worth $2. I just thought it was funny because this woman thought she had really outdone herself with her meal.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 08:41 PM
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Well..it showed her getting up around 11:00 am then doing a TINY amount work then settling in for ANOTHER nap. I mean, I love a good nap, but COME ON!
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 08:17 PM
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My advice from my LDR and LD engagement would be only talk on the phone when he wants to talk on the phone. Let him set the pace for the length and frequency of the phone calls. Don't call him unless you absolutely need something and even then, make it quick. If he doesn't want to talk on the phone neither of you are going to have a very enjoyable conversation. He's a good guy, so he probably won't come out and SAY he doesn't want to talk on the phone, but he might be thinking it. As a woman, I …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 07:39 PM
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I will be taking my fiancé's last name. I've always looked forward to the privilege of moving out of my father's protection and under my husband's protection. I think taking his last name is symbolic of that change. I have a very unusual last name that will die out with my generation because my father was an only child and I only have sisters. I think we will try to honor my family with by using a first or middle name of my father's or grandfather's once we have children. I never considered keep…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 04:34 PM
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YAY!!!!!! This is truly a credit to our wonderful mods. Thank you for creating such a helpful and encouraging online community. I am so happy! I hope you are all very proud!!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/15 02:21 PM
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Bravo! Thanks for sharing! I really appreciate when people take the time to write posts like this.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 08:16 PM
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I'm sorry that you have medical conditions that make pregnancy difficult or impossible. My sister struggles with some issues that will make pregnancy very difficult for her, so I can emphasize. It is considerate of you to not want to lead anyone on, but I would still encourage you not to disclose this fact on first couple of dates. You will know when the time is right to share your story and struggles, but it's not something that must be shared immediately before any bond or intimacy has been fo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 05:29 PM
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Thanks for the kinds words /u/phantomdream09 and excellent advice. I would also add that you MAY change your mind on children one day. You might not, but you might meet someone who really wants to have children and their desire to have kids may influence you if you see how happy it will make them. Once you are in a serious relationship you might change your mind because you can picture yourself parenting with your partner. But again, maybe not. Either option is a valid choice. It sounds like you…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/15 05:11 PM
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I'm really sorry you are going through a breakup. As you know, it's really, really hard. And it really, really sucks. BUT you CAN and WILL get through this. Sometimes things don't work out, even if he seemed like the perfect guy for you. Sometimes it takes time and distance to see why things didn't work out. Maybe there are things you will learn from this relationship and do differently next time. But for now, you need to take care of yourself. Get off the bed/couch and get moving. Go outside fo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/15 04:18 PM
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Yay for reading "The Surrendered Single." I think physical attraction can grow but it can't be created. If you find him at least reasonably attractive, it can grow over time as you get to know him better. However, if there is no attraction at all in the beginning, it's unlikely to ever develop. Sometimes you will meet great guys and it just won't click and you won't find them attractive. That's okay. You are a good girl, he is a good guy, maybe you just aren't good together. Chemistry and attrac…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/15 11:13 PM
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Thank you so much! Your support and encouragement has meant so so much to me! We are both incredibly excited about the future!
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/15 04:43 PM
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I have fun at the gym. Do I enjoy every second? No, but overall I do enjoy it. Otherwise I wouldn't go back. I have a group of girl friends I like to chat with a few mins before our class starts or during a water break. I enjoy listening to music as I work out and I enjoy the relaxation of yoga. I enjoy running outside...noticing the changes in seasons and looking at houses as I pass. Perhaps if you don't enjoy the gym you need to find something physical that you do enjoy doing. If I forced myse…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/15 04:41 PM
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The Fly Lady has great ideas for doing a little bit of housework each day so it's not such a daunting task. I think you both will be happiest if you do most of the housework. He will have time to focus on his art and you can mutli-task.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/15 04:33 PM
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Not really. I think he will resent you and it will continue to be awkward because it's a one sided relationship. You get the attention, validation and emotional support you crave while he gets nothing. (I don't mean that in a critical way, just a very blunt way to put it.) I think male-female relationships are hard anyway. One person always wants more than just a friendship. Better to cultivate strong female friendships. Find a girlfriend that you can tell everything to or start journaling. If y…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/15 04:28 PM
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Great advice! Thanks for sharing. I particularly agree with your first point, "Allow him to set the pace of communication." I try to be available to chat when he wants to chat and I don't stress if there are days when we don't get to talk as much. I understand that he gets busy with work and other things. If you force a man to talk on your schedule and you are the one initiating most of the phone calls, you are not allowing him to pursue you and to lead the relationship. If you step back and all…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/14 10:19 PM
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http://www.amazon.com/Home-Comforts-Science-Keeping-House/dp/0743272862/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1412613924&sr=1-4&keywords=comforts+of+home This book is like a text book for keeping a home. It covers everything from folding fitted sheets to managing accident liability.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/14 04:49 PM
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Great post! Keep up the good writing! It's nice to read original content like this.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/14 02:08 PM
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Yay!!! Welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/14 02:13 PM
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I think it is very sweet that you are planning to take care of your SO from a distance, but I would also encourage to really examine if grad school is the best option long term. Perhaps it is...but two years is a long time to be apart. Would you be able to go into a slightly different field and be just as happy without the graduate degree? Could you gain experience in the field and go back to grad school at a later date? Could you take courses online? How expensive is grad school? Is it worth it…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/14 03:52 PM
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You can branch swing till the cows come home, but at the end of the day EVERYONE has their positives and negatives. Sure, you may meet someone who is a full head taller than you, but perhaps they don't have the ambition you appreciated in the man from a previous relationship. I, personally, think it's a bad sign that you already are not excited about your current partner and feel resentful. Move on...give yourself some time to figure out what is REALLY important to you. Take some time to discove…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/14 03:32 PM
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"This is a spot for like-minded Women to objectively and realistically discuss sexual strategy from an anti-feminist, non-feminist, traditionalist and/or evolutionary psychology perspective. Our focus is on long-term goals that bring long-term happiness."
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/14 03:15 PM
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First of all, why are you on this sub? This is a space for RPW to discuss OUR ideas about gender roles, not debate the merits or lack thereof of feminism. If you want to "rant" about that, I would suggest the purple pill debate. Second, you are missing the point. "We should all be feminine 'cause that's what men wants. Yup, super. Does your personality revolve around what men want you to be? What about what you really are and what you want to be? Or do you only want to be something that men will…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/14 02:57 PM
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If you are looking to pursue a career in Journalism, I would be extremely cautious. Journalism can open a lot of doors to other areas, so don’t limit yourself to one very narrow career path. Life as a reporter is very demanding and not particularly compatible with family life. You are expected to pay your dues for years…working weekends, overnights and holidays, for very little pay. To provide a little context, I worked for a local paper in college. After college, I moved to broadcast and moved …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/14 05:42 PM
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As someone who has a degree in Journalism and Broadcasting and has experience working in the media as a reporter, I wonder why you are turning to the internet for sources? If this is a story for publication, I would be very surprised if any editor allowed anonymous sources on a piece like this. You gain nothing from anonymity. I would encourage you to do more “feet on the ground” reporting. Find people who are willing to put a face to this lifestyle in your hometown. They will be just as candid.…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/14 04:46 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/14 03:01 AM
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Perhaps allow isn't the right word. I was trying to convey that I was giving him the space to lead. I don't mean it in a patronizing sense that, "I'm allowing him to do something." I mean that I'm stepping back and not trying to control the situation. Does that make more sense?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/14 03:46 AM
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Yep! We are now dating and I'm going back in October.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 10:51 AM
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Thank you! I finally feel like I get it!
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/14 06:56 PM
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No problem! It's a book. I got my copy on amazon. http://www.amazon.com/The-Surrendered-Single-Practical-Attracting/dp/0743217896/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1409767508&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=the+surrended+single I would say once would be enough as long as you are very clear in the way that you communicate. That being said, if he is the one bringing it up you could certainly talk about it more. He also needs to know that if he asked you, you would say yes. Not that you have to say that outright,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/14 06:18 PM
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Read the Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle. She addresses the topic directly. I'll attempt to paraphrase what she said, but I think going directly to the source would be best. She suggests that instead of giving an ultimatum, just state your boundaries and let him respond. Be honest about your desires and needs, but don't be demanding. For example: DON'T SAY: If we are not married in six months...it's over! DO SAY: I love you and I want to be with you. If marriage is not something that you want …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/14 05:52 PM
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I am an inch taller than you and I wear heels just about everyday to work. I work in an office setting, so I feel like heels add polish to my outfit. I typically wear pencil skirts or wrap dresses. I've had a few comments about my height. Nothing mean, but sometimes people will comment about how tall I am or tell me that I'm "cheating" by adding high heels to my already tall frame I just smile and say that I can't help it, I just like cute shoes. That being said, when I've been set up on blind d…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 10:56 PM
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Thank you. It's a great reminder for me, so thank you for posting. I over think everything and too often I get caught up in the small details. In the past it's been easy for me to pick someone apart and disqualify them as a potential partner for the most trivial things. But, I am learning to focus on the important things and focus on bettering myself first. Case in point, I was reading through some of my old journals this past week and it was both funny and horrifying. At the ripe age of 20, I w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 03:05 PM
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I think you are absolutely right with the Paradox of Choice. With apps like OKCupid, match.com and all the other dating apps a "better" man is just a swipe away. We spend too much time focusing on finding the perfect partner and not enough time working to become a better partner ourselves. In a sense, you always marry the "wrong" person because you marry an imperfect person. We see it as settling, but really we are just marrying an imperfect person, just as we are imperfect. Realistically, the p…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 02:23 PM
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You might post this to r/glutenfree I bet they would have a lot of ideas for you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 01:43 PM
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Thanks. I created a whole new post. I don't know if that makes a difference.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 11:16 PM
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I wrote a lot of commentary about the link and submitted. For some reason it's not showing up on the thread?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 11:13 PM
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As an example of what not to do. Every excuse on there is ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 10:09 PM
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I think you are spot on. Creating boundaries is important whether you are married, dating or single. At my office I have a rule that I don't go to lunch alone with married men. You want to take a group? Great! I'd love to go, but I'm not having lunch one-on-one with a married man. A couple of people have told me that that I'm "old fashioned" and it's no big deal. But in this case, I think good boundaries eliminates any question of inappropriate behavior and protects my reputation. It is also res…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 02:29 PM
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I was just watching Real Housewives of NYC tonight and thought the exact same thing! There is a girl on there who is constantly nagging her husband to come home for dinner. He even said one episode that he doesn't come home because she never cooks and always nags him. She constantly criticizes him while she is off drinking Ramona Pinot and getting in ridiculous fights with the girls. It's like a train wreck...I cannot look away.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/14 04:34 AM
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Feminism, by definition, values the feminine over the masculine. I don’t. And I never will What a great ending. I think that explains my biggest beef with feminism, it is the advancement of women at the expense of men.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/14 03:46 PM
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House elves like Dobby.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 09:01 PM
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You are right. If one partner is better suited to a task, what's wrong with doing most of the work in that area? Personally, I wouldn't want a man doing my laundry because I'm very particularly about how things are washed and dried. And if we want equal housework, are husbands going to demand that their wives make EXACTLY the same amount of money as they do? Are they going to make sure the money is spent perfectly evenly, down to the last penny? Women want equality when it suits them.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 07:45 PM
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I wouldn't even want to hang out with her. She sounds just about as interesting as milk and toast.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 06:44 PM
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Ladies...Pick two: A husband you respect A happy relationship A perfectly even division of labor & chores around the house You can't have all three. It just isn't going to happen. My father used to tell me, "life is not fair." When you let go of the score card you will be a lot happier.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 06:41 PM
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Thanks for your hard work! We all love the new flair! Very cute!
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 06:30 PM
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I have a large bust and broad shoulders, so I find that dresses with very small straps are not flattering. BUT, I wouldn't give up on sundresses just yet. (I'm 5'11" and a 34DD, 10 dress size in the US, for reference) Look for dresses that are sleeveless and V-neck. Then wear the dress with a belt to create a waist. Because I'm tall I find that thicker belts are more flattering. If you find that the V-neck shows too much cleavage, wear a camisole underneath for more coverage. Avoid billowy tops …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/14 10:32 PM
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I joined an Ultimate Frisbee team, I attend church, friends set me up, I attend local events in town, I go to the gym. Basically I try to get out of my house and meet new people. That being said, I seem to date in spurts. I might have a few dates then go a few weeks or even a month or two without a date. A couple of the girls have mentioned boat shows, gun shows/ gun ranges and places men hang out are good places to meet men. I'm going to try to get my roommate to check out a gun rage with me so…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 09:26 PM
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This is a great question. I wish I had a good answer because I am in the same boat! I am 27 and I find it's hard to meet people. I've stayed in shape and make an effort with my appearance. I have not slept around. I try not to nitpick and I try to have manageable expectations. Currently, I'm making a conscious effort to go and do things where I will meet new people, but it's not easy. I go to church, play in sports leagues, get together with friends, go to the gym and that sort of thing. When I'…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 09:47 PM
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I like the idea of coconut oil. My skin gets really dry in the winter. Do you think you could use it if you still are still prone the occasional hormonal flare up? I think oil could help with my dry skin but I've always been afraid it will cause breakouts.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 09:18 PM
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We should needle point that on to a pillow!
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 02:42 PM
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Thanks for sharing! It's encouraging to know you don't need to be a Victoria's Secret model or superwoman to attract a quality man. Just be feminine, pleasant and chaste and you are way ahead of the game.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/14 02:05 PM
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There is a girl who is making 300 sandwiches for her boyfriend and blogging about it. Here's the article. http://nypost.com/2013/09/24/i-wooed-my-man-with-a-sandwich/ Her blog has lots of good sandwich ideas!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/14 06:17 PM
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Excellent TED talk. Worth 12 mins of your time. Thanks for posting!
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/14 07:28 PM
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This exactly. The of the main tenets of RPW is that you cannot change anyone else. You can only change yourself and your attitude. Before you can even hope for a RP man, you need to be a RPW. Don't focus on changing anyone but yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/14 06:43 PM
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Honestly just google. I'm sure if your town has a parks and rec department they could point you in the right direction.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/14 02:41 AM
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Ugh...I saw this too. She also confirms one of her own "stereotypes."
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/14 04:17 PM
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I think we need a sidebar about this.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/14 06:37 PM
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I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Thanks for posting!
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/14 08:48 PM
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27-year old & single: * 5:00 am Get up & work out * 7:00 am Shower and Get Ready for Work * 8:00 am - 5:00 pm pm Work * 5:00 pm Walk/ Run with Dog * 6:30ish Evening Chores (make breakfasts and lunches, laundry, mow lawn, clean house, pay bills) or see friends/activities (dog obedience classes, have friends over, meet for a tennis match, trivia night, yoga class) * 8:30 pm Eat Dinner & Clean Up * 9:30- 10:00 pm Read and Go to Bed On the weekends I grocery shop, do yard work and clean the house or…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 03:04 PM
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This is true and I included the link to the transcript. However, the story is really meant for radio and I think you get a little something extra by listening to it and hearing the voices of the people telling the story.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/14 02:09 PM
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Thank you MargeryM and all of the RPW Mods! Your hard work does not go unnoticed! You are appreciated! Thanks for creating a place where we can share our thoughts and ideas!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/14 02:06 PM
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Oh sorry, I guess I left out the most important part! They called for rescue. A plane brought a medical team for the baby and then a Navy vessel traveled 3 days at top speed to reach them. It was a very expensive rescue. The family had to sink their boat because there was no way to tow it back. Now they are basically homeless, but their baby is going to be okay. If you listen to the interview, it's a really compelling story. This American Life has an app you can download and listen from your pho…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/14 01:57 PM
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Oh yes, I love the Naked eye shadow pallet. Sephora is a dangerous place.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/14 06:16 PM
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I'm not quite sure what you are asking...there are RP women on here who are dating. I think when you are dating RPW characteristics are very subtle. I'm not going to sit down to dinner and say, "I'm a RP woman, are you a RP man?" Many men and women are RP without defining themselves as such. It comes out in their behaviors and attitudes.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/14 04:31 PM
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Make up...I've listed things from most important to least important. Start with a good foundation and powder. I recommend going to a department store to find a shade that matches. YOU MUST MATCH IT TO YOUR SKIN. I recommend MAC or Bobbi Brown. Both makeup lines have yellow undertones instead of pink, which is far more natural looking. (Unless you are very very fair skinned, you should wear a yellow undertone.) Ask someone at the make up counter to match you. Then take a sample home. Stand outsid…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/14 04:24 PM
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The people behind #yesallwomen are also apparently against reading sidebars before they post on this sub. Just like they are annoyed by unwelcome cat calls, I am annoyed by their screeching rants invading a space to discuss RP topics.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/14 04:01 AM
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I once did a 48 hour "Leek Soup" fast. Basically, you boil leeks in water and then drink the broth for 48 hours. At the end, you eat fish, a small serving of rice and some veggies. I don't recommend it. First of all, leek soup tastes and smells terrible. Second, anything I lost was probably just water weight. And finally, I was grouchy and tired. Tempest & Sugarcrush...thanks for the informative post. I started taking a probiotic and have noticed an improvement. Not only do I have less stomach i…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/14 03:33 PM
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Respectfully, I would say I am anti-cohabitation before marriage. I know it works for a lot of people and a lot of the girls on this sub, so my stance is not right for everyone. However, my end goal is marriage. By living with someone prior to marriage, I am stopping short of my goal. I'm settling for the Hostess Cake when I'm really craving the rich, chocolate cake from the uptown bakery. I also feel like the man would lose some of his incentive to marry me. If he has all the perks of a wife wi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/14 03:38 PM
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Thank you for such an informative and well-thought out post! Couple of questions for you...what do you think of BMI? And I lift weights and do a lot of HITT training...but I am really afraid that I'm going to get bulky shoulders. Everyone says, "girls can't get bulky, they don't have enough testosterone." But, I definitely see some girls with some intense shoulders. I'm tall as it is and don't want to look like the hulk. Anything I should do or not do?
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/14 02:15 AM
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EXACTLY.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 09:58 PM
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Because you are a mean, ungrateful bitch!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 09:50 PM
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I'm not saying TO have a RBF...I'm saying DO NOT have a RBF. RBF is a turn off.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 07:13 PM
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I've probably been rejected 2,000 - 3,000 times in my life so I know what I'm talking about. Correct my if I'm wrong Peppepcheerio, but aren't you saying that you ARE working to be more approachable by smiling and NOT having a RBF.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 07:10 PM
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I absolutely agree that it takes a lot of courage for a guy to approach a girl and we do no often recognize that courage. My point was rather that girls are quick to say, "He's intimidated by you" and not "He's just not that into you." The cop out is on the girls part...they are telling their friends something nice that won't hurt their feelings instead of something genuinely helpful. I think girls need to learn to be gracious when they are approached by ALL men, even men they are not interested…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 07:06 PM
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Because I have to watch my resting bitch face. I'm just saying I'm making a conscious effort to make eye contact and smile.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:18 PM
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I've even had guys say it to me in passing, but again, I have a hard time believing it. To me, it just seems like a cop out. That being said, I think I can work on being more approachable.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 03:57 PM
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Lumberjacks trump underwear models any day. Check out this google image search and you will not be disappointed. https://www.google.com/search?q=lumber+jack&rls=com.microsoft:en-US:IE-Address&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=CC12U7qWA4yYqAaq1YGQCA&ved=0CAgQ_AUoAQ&biw=1920&bih=963#q=lumber+jack+man&rls=com.microsoft:en-US:IE-Address&tbm=isch I wish I could post a Craiglist Ad in Canada. Are you capable of chopping fire wood? Can you grow facial hair? Do you enjoy a nice flannel shirt? IF SO…then I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 03:34 PM
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Well said, very true. Everything in moderation. Ice Cream is essential. My point was choose lean proteins, including steak, most of the time. When the Atkins Diet was popular, people thought you could eat bacon three meals a day, lose weight and maintain your cholesterol...just don't dare eat a carb. I think a more balanced approach, like you said, is more effective and sustainable.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:49 AM
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I'm not saying only eat protein...I'm saying increasing protein could help if you are already keeping your calorie count in check. But everyone is different, you have to figure out what works for you. Age also is an important factor. Ideally, every meal should contains a protein, fat and carb.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:14 AM
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I like a guy that looks a little rough around the edges. Give me a five o'clock shadow, strong arms and someone who isn't afraid of dirt. Could he chop wood if needed? (Never mind that I live in the city and have a gas fireplace). I think if I had a type...it would be a lumber jack ha ha. I don't like boys that are too pretty or too skinny.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:03 AM
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How many of those calories are protein? If you are eating too many carbs and starches you may not see much improvement and you aren't fueling your body to build muscle. I've been working with a trainer and I have increased my protein dramatically and I am starting to see results. (I was really frustrated like you before.) Make sure it's lean protein...chicken, egg whites, whey protein...NOT bacon and sausage. I also used to eat a ton of fruit, which seems healthy, but needs moderation because of…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 03:39 AM
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I wish! Is there anything in particular you are looking for. I'm pretty sure I get as excited about clothes and DanaBanana is about quilts. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 01:32 AM
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You are most welcome! The girls on this sub are GREAT. :) Glad I could help :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 07:28 PM
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It depends on what you are doing all day...if you work in an office I would say Ann Taylor, Banana Republic, White House Black Market, Talbots (it's not just for old ladies...they have GREAT cardigans). Dillard's also has a great selection of work dresses (wait for the sale!!!). I've even found a dew things at Dress Barn. If you need to be a bit more casual Anny Taylor Loft, Athleta (not just workout gear), the Gap (Sundresses), even Target (Sundresses). Anthropology (sale room in the back) is g…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 06:48 PM
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I think a personal shopper can be very helpful, but be careful. The people at Macy's, Dillard's & Nordstrom's work on commission and have lots of pressure to meet sales goals. Don't let them push you into anything you don't just love. Go in with a budget in mind and stick to it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 06:10 PM
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I wish I could take your shopping!!!! I have the same problem up top. Crew necks are not flattering and button ups are tricky. I have found that V-necks are the way to go. If the V-neck is too deep, then wear a think spaghetti strap shirt underneath to keep cleavage in check. I do that almost every day for work. http://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Not-Wear-Susannah-Constantine/dp/0297843311 This book also has some very practical advice when building a wardrobe. If you really are starting from scratch, …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 06:00 PM
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We are out there. We are doing something and not just sitting around... * The gym * Church * Walking my Dog * Obedience Classes for my Dog * Adult Sports Leagues (Volleyball, kickball) * Concerts * Yoga Classes * Grocery Store * Running by the River * Volunteering (Coaching a girls basketball team, The United Way, Big Brothers, Big Sisters) * Trivia Night at a local pub * Hiking/Biking * Art Shows * Farmers Market I think a lot of guys are afraid to approach girls in normal day-to-day places bec…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 10:07 PM
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Agreed...I will not move in with a man unless we are married.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 08:40 PM
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Oh sorry! I just didn't want to recycle old content.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/14 05:31 PM
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My bad! Thanks for the links. I deleted the post.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/14 05:19 PM
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Edit--I can't type.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/14 05:00 PM
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This is totally just my opinion, but I would look for a girl who is classy and values tradition. From a physical standpoint, I would say look for someone who takes care of themselves and appreciates femininity. Someone who wears dresses and makes an effort. I would probably avoid someone with lots of tattoos, piercings and an unnatural hair color. It’s not to say that someone with a tattoo/s cannot subscribe to the Red Pill mentality, it’s just that typically someone who values those things also…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/14 04:47 PM
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Thank you! I am from the mid-west. My mother always worked, but from what I have observed of their 30+ year marriage, it is very Red Pill. It's subtle, but my Dad has always been king of the castle. They obviously love each other a lot and respect each other.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/14 03:23 PM
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The point I was trying to make was that recognizing the masculinity in your male coworkers will get you a lot farther than constantly nagging or just bossing them around. I agree, you should not be manipulative. I was trying to convey that you should recognize their strengths and talents if you are asking for help.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/14 08:19 PM
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I lost half a pound. It's not much, but at least the scale is moving in the right direction. I am working out like crazy and cleaning up my diet. Next week I will follow a very strict eating plan.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 01:57 AM
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I am self sufficient in that I have a good job and I am financially secure. I own my own home and I have a car. However, I still appreciate the strength and security that just a man's presence can provide. Currently I am single so I have to fix things around the house and mow my lawn. But, if married, I would happily relinquish the yard and garage to my husband and it will probably be easier for him to do those tasks. Likewise, I need to financially support myself now, but I will be happy for my…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 01:53 AM
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In the name of science, I hope you will consider expanding your research to include broccoli and bell peppers. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/14 05:55 AM
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I'm not sure the exact dates and it might be different in your town. I bet if you asked a sales associate would tell you. I bet there will be one in the next week or so after Easter...clearing out Spring styles and getting ready for summer.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 06:59 PM
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I love Giani Bini and Antonio Milani at Dillard's. They are in the $60-$120 range. I have found them to be very comfortable and they have many work appropriate options. I wear heels all day, every day to work. I think wedges are the most comfortable, but even just a heel with a little extra width can make a huge difference. I would avoid shoes from Target. They are trendy, but not made well and your feet will suffer. Dillard's shoes go on sale four times a year. The biggest sale is just after Ch…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 07:47 AM
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Thank you! That is really encouraging. I appreciate all the support from Reddit. I will definitely continue to do all of those things. So while I am working on self improvement do I totally abstain from dating? I've had two gentlemen ask me out. Right now, I certainly don't feel ready for a relationship and wouldn't want to jeopardize any chance of reconciliation. But at some point I do have to move on. Is that two months? More? I know the exact time would be different for everyone, but what see…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 11:00 PM
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As much as that sucks to hear, I think you are right. If he changes his mind, he will contact me. I can focus on self-improvement and making different choices next time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 04:20 AM
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No, he wasn't mean. You know how you can make a mountain out of a mole hill? I think I took a BUNCH of mole hills and built a mountain range. Okay, so is this just being a jerk or crossing the line? We were at a Christmas party playing catch phrase boys vs. girls. I had the game in my hands and knew the timer was about to go off so I tossed it to him and it buzzed. He cursed at me, loud enough for the person next to us to hear, but not the whole group. NOW, I see that I made him look bad in fron…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 04:12 AM
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I can understand and appreciate that. Do you think he would at least communicate something though instead of just saying nothing at all? I don't know how to interpret the silence. As he changed his mind or as he still needs space. Perhaps I'm wrong, but it seems like he would at least sent a text saying...I have too much on my plate to deal with a relationship now, just give me some time and we can see where we stand.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 03:46 AM
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He is a good man. Very ambitious, hard working, super smart and very attractive to me. One of my main concerns was that he was often moody. I absolutely reacted the wrong way to his bad moods, I realize now. Sometimes he would snap at me over little things like putting the dish on the wrong side of the sink. My other main concern was that in the beginning I was a priority, but toward the end I was not. It very well could just be my perception. But one instance that really hurt my feelings was th…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 03:26 AM
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Noted. Thank you. It is serious enough that if it can be saved, I want to do everything in my power to try. I know I can only control my actions.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 03:03 AM
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Yes, we had defiantly talked about marriage. We were even working through some pre-marital counseling type books. All discussions of marriage were initiated by him. He said he wanted to be married in 2014. (We have know each other 2 years and dated for 6 months).
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 02:53 AM
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It is hard not to panic a bit knowing I'm 27 and everything I've been reading keeps talking about hitting the wall at 30. (I'm trying to avoid that by staying in shape though).
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 02:41 AM
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Thank you for the encouragement. So you think that I should not contact him? I've been wondering if I should try to explain my new way of thinking or if it is just best to live and learn? I've really been focusing on self-improvement. I will keep working toward my goals.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 02:38 AM
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I would like to get married. My parents have been happily married 30+ years and I would like to do the same. I also want children and I worry that if I don't start reasonably soon it will be too late.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 02:34 AM
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Thank you. Most of the time he treated me very well, which is what makes it so confusing to me. There were a couple instances were he spoke very harshly to me in front of my family and that is what led to the comments. They noted he was pretty rigid.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 02:31 AM
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So we discussed getting back together on a Saturday and on Sunday he found out about his brother. It has been three weeks since then. He went to stay with his brother for a week and asked for space. I sent one text just trying to encourage him during that time. He texted me a few days after he got back in town that he was "taking care of personal business." Again, I tried to be supportive but I felt like since he asked for space he would want to be the one to initiate contact. He provided very v…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 02:04 AM
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Goals this week: *Lose 1-2 pounds by eating about 1,400 calories a day *Work out 3 times on my own & 3 times with my trainer
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/14 08:31 PM
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