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FIELD REPORTTryin2BeBetrThanB4/r/RedPillWives01/05/16 02:25 AM
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Sadly it wouldn't matter if I went offline or not >.< I have a lot of older friends that love to talk about their "horror stories" with eachother in front of me. Like how one was bleeding out in the delivery room, and another had complications with her C-section, and countless other things. Then they look at me, realize I'm part of the group, and will say something to the effect of "it's so worth it though" "it was a beautiful experience" and I'll just sit there like, uh-huh, yeah, ok then... As…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 09:10 PM
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I know, and despite reading all that, I still want one. Must be true feelings eh? :P It is nice to hear positive experiences from others though, just to give some little reassurance. I can't believe it's always all bad otherwise we wouldn't exist anymore as a species!
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 08:47 PM
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OMG this is the best! But... You know... Me and my husband have recently reach a point where we are thinking about trying for a baby next year... This is not encouraging at all!!! XD
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 04:15 PM
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Really interesting indeed! It's funny because we recently took the test with the intention to better understand eachother. 4.5years of marriage and we both didn't understand how we viewed different acts of love. We both had similar middle scores, but our top and bottom preferred language we're complete opposites! You can see them here https://imgur.com/a/MizL2 I value words of affirmation very highly. I know I personally need it to know I've done something right and it encourages me to keep goin…
/r/RedPillWives05/05/17 05:14 AM
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This is something that immediately popped in my head as well. I was just officially diagnosed myself and am finally receiving treatment and it has made a world of difference in my life. If it truly is ADHD then he does need help. All the things you discribed him essentially failing at is what adult ADHD does to most. Loss of jobs, failing marriage, is super common. His lying to about his failures is probably the result of him being embarrassed at the fact that he keeps failing, and he might seem…
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 02:24 AM
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A thought on losing the context of the name, where I'm from a common option many do is take their husbands last name but replace their middle name with their maiden name. So if a girls full maiden name was Jane Anne Doe, then an option for her new name is Jane Doe Smith. Don't know if that's and option for you, but it's something you can maybe think about.
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 03:46 AM
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This is awesome! The timing couldn't be better for me either. We just had celebrated our 4th anniversary, and the first challenge seems great because I'm finally getting treatment I need from a new doc and I'm feeling the best I've ever felt. Getting him to see me in a new light should be easy :P
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 09:08 PM
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Sewing is such an amazing skill to have! My mom taught me as well. I just wish I was more appreciative when she was teaching me because at the time I thought it was unimportant and boring. Why fix when you can just buy. As an adult it's nice to be able to just fix and save money!
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 08:40 PM
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I'm grateful for this community even though I mostly lurk, I read everything. Without it I don't see the last two years of my marriage being as good as they were. [Edit: and still is.] [Also I say the last two years of marriage because that's when I found RPW] I'm grateful to have found a doctor I saw Monday that is actually helping me. I'm grateful for my husband for putting up with me this long lol. We had our anniversary recently, and I am so happy I have him. I can't imagine how my life woul…
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 08:36 PM
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Hey, you, six month old Tryin2beBetrThanB4, this is your past self. The one who is trying to help you get on track right now. So let's stop trying to be better, and actually become better! You got six months, that's a lot of time. Get to it. This is where you should be Goals: Get that weight to 110lb. (Come on, you've already lost 35lbs, you are at a healthy weight let's finish it, that's only 13lbs more to go.) Follow the cleaning chart I made. (The house looks decent, but it can be sooo much b…
/r/RedPillWives07/01/17 01:45 PM
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My first year of marriage, my husband worked close enough that he'd came home for lunch everyday. I sure do miss that! It was aways nice to see him a little extra, and if his morning was going a little rough, it was a way I could perk him up a little before facing the day again. One thing you might want to keep in mind is to keep it on the light side. I find for lunch my SO really doesn't want a big overstuffed meal, so keeping it simple works pretty well. Especially depending on when you'll be …
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 01:02 PM
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Interesting way to put that, "swimming upstream". I completely agree! The song "No" by Meaghan Trainor just popped in my head (grrrr...), and all I can think about is how terrible she sounds and how unhappy the song really comes across. It allows for more stuff to happen and unfold. Yes!!! So much time on my side has been saved from stupid debates and questionings, it's like all possibilities have been opened up. It's just happy :D
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 01:50 AM
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Often we wind up thinking twenty steps in advance. Your SO might ask a simple question or ask a small request, we are already thinking about how the question made us feel, how we will feel doing the request, how we will feel after answering the question. It is easy to just say no because it is the easier choice. Oh my goodness yes. I feel like my brain flies at such a pace I can't even keep up with it! A good bit of the time I will say something without realizing I said something, and have to wi…
/r/RedPillWives12/07/16 11:43 PM
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I really like this one. I think when I'm done making my list I will put a copy in a journal to look back on for those extra moody day that creep up. Telling my husband thank you is something I try to do everyday, he does so much for me! (Especially since I've been going through a bad sickness flare up) but I know there are little things that go past my notice. Annnnd.... I had a slip up the other weekend, were I let my emotions get the best of me (pmsing bad, but that's no excuse) and I had the …
/r/RedPillWives09/07/16 01:30 PM
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It's been mostly just ugly here. My UC (edit: ulcerative colitis) decided it wanted to flare up and I've been in pain for the past week, been to my doc, the ER, and on a bunch of medicine that seems to be working, but veeeerrryyy slowly. >.< On the good side, I'm still trying to work on being a "goddess of fun and light". While not easy, in this state, I've found little ways to do what I can and keep me and my husband happy, even though he's mostly taking care of me. I'm trying really hard to ke…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/16 12:31 AM
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I'm definitely in. In all the things I've been working on for myself (and might I add the progress is going really well!), I unfortunately have to be/work around other women who all they do is whine stress and freak out all the time no matter what, and I feel like they might be rubbing off on me a little. It something I have to really really work on to not let their problems (or what they think are problems but are just overreactions) to become mine. It stresses me out and I'm losing my "light"
/r/RedPillWives19/06/16 01:13 AM
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But what is the RPW way of eating a donut? I mean pinky up is expected of course, but I feel like I'm missing something. I just learned to cut the carrots RPWproperly so go easy on me.
/r/RedPillWives07/06/16 12:49 AM
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"Soul health is much more important than body health" We've had it wrong this whole time! Eat dem donuts gurl!
/r/RedPillWives07/06/16 12:47 AM
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His main quirk was something that annoyed the hell out of me when we first got married, but now I greatly appreciate it. He. Never. Gets. Angry. Or argues. I'm not saying he doesn't get mad, of course he does. But he always holds it in, remains very calm, and refuses to argue with me. He's like Spock but willing to share his loving side. "Anger is not logical". He has amazing self control. I now love it because it's made me such a calmer person. I came from a household where me and my mom would …
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 12:59 PM
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Thanks! I love it too! It wasn't that much work either. I was originally going to get trim, cut it and glue it together, but I saw at the hardware store they actually had premade frames just for this! Saved sooo much time and work! 😃
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 01:53 PM
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I too love the ring on the right! But also the bracelet!!! I would rock that everywhere!
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 01:15 PM
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Now that I'm finally up and running, We finally finished the big project we've been working on, the dinning room! The after color really isn't quite as dark as the photo, and has a slightly more blueish hue. Before and after Neither of us liked the before colors, made the room feel very dark, and it wasn't enjoyable to be in. So we spruced it up a bit! I will be making draperies for the window, currently looking locally for a creamy toile
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 01:04 PM
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I've never had sparkling water... :0 What does this mean? Am I not lifeing properly?
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 12:32 PM
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Cool! MFP has helped me so much. Tracking really helped me see the portion sizes I used to eat were quite large for my size. I wouldn't haven been able to lose weight without it, especially since I've not been able to exercise for the past 6 weeks due to a knee injury :( Just now have been approved to start working out again, albeit slowly.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 08:03 PM
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This is something I needed to hear. I try to much to fix everything, and at once. Try to do everything I can and as much of it as possible. All it does is lead to me messing up, panicking, trying to fix the problem as fast as I can, and then feeling like I failed, become overwhelmed, and sometimes it leads to me giving up. The all or nothing mentality is strong with me. I hate it. There is something I read about stairs a while back that has stuck with me "If your walking up a long flight of stai…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/16 01:29 PM
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Not sure if I can add anything to what you said but I'll give it a try. I think with following, you just accept things, go with the flow. I think of it as being passive. As long as you're OK with it, you'll do it. If you're unsure about what he's doing, you may still follow, but drag your feet along with you. Showing that either vocally with questioning words, or physically with that look. An example I can think of would be a backseat driver. Sure, you are following, you are in the car aren't yo…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 01:08 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing. Except for the kid, I feel as if this was written by me. It's nice to see I'm not the only one struggling to work on these things. I didn't put this in my field "field report" but one of the things that led up to me seeing how I treat my husband, was a few weeks ago, when we were lying in bed we had a similar conversation as y'all. He asked me if I was happy. I didn't know what he meant at first, but further he explained how I seemed to not want to be there, I'm al…
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 02:01 PM
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I am terribly inconsistent with my night routine. I know what works best for me and keeps my momentum going for the next day, I just haven't turned it into a habbit. What I do/what works though is: My husband and I are normally playing some sort of video game, but we shut it down around 10. Brush teeth, wash face, take out contacts, ect... Get out my list sticky notes and start making to do lists. [This I find to be the most important thing! If I don't organize my thoughts and plan the next day …
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 01:11 PM
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I'm trying to feel good about it. One thing I read that is sticking out, is about how when someone isn't happy with themselves they project it onto others. For example, I don't like the way I look, so I control what he wears. “When nobody around you seems to measure up, it’s time to check your yardstick.” I believe I've even been doing that with some of my friends! +___+
/r/RedPillWives01/05/16 04:03 PM
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Even though it's the digital copy, I'm already marking it up, highlighting, and makes notes everywhere. I know I'm going to have to reread it quite a few times and slow down to finally get it. But I'm already seeing where I can make little adjustments/improvements
/r/RedPillWives01/05/16 03:33 PM
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