ttttturbo Archive

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6	How do I forgive her and let myself move on? You sit with the anger. Don’t perform it. Just observe the physical effect it has on you. The thoughts are endless. Ignore them. Just focus on the physical response in your body. You observe it until it passes. Then you do it again and again and again. And eventually you let it go. It took me a year of doing this. Now I actually appreciate what she did. Because it cracked me open to understand myself and master things that I had no idea were even holding me back. Don’t try to outwork these feeli…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 11:55 PM
3	I think I’m done Ok bro. You’re wrong, and I think you know you’re wrong, but if this is what you need to go through by all means do it. We’re here if you need to get it out. Like I said just take it easy on yourself.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 11:44 PM
1	Destined to be alone External validation. You’re desperate for it and that desperation is your aura. Give yourself a break from this need for one year. Accept who you are, make a plan that involves lifting weights, eating right and finding a passion that isn’t obsessing over being with someone. You will be a different person in a year.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 11:40 PM
1	I think I’m done Is that what you’re mind is telling you? The same mind that said you were going to be married forever? Keep believing it. You’ll figure it out eventually. When you do you can ask the next guy who is in this state those same questions. In the meantime, take it easy on yourself.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 11:31 PM
1	Won my hearing, I don't care. Sorry to hear it man. I know you have no reason to believe a stranger on the internet, but I will tell you it does get better. At my lowest I had to look in the mirror and ask myself if I could possibly let some of this grief and suffering go. The mind wants to hang onto it. It’s familiar so it’s comforting to the mind. There are steps and levels to feeling whole again but when I was at bottom I had to start with just entertaining the idea that I could see beyond my own suffering. And it was my …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 10:52 PM
1	Won my hearing, I don't care. i've been there. and i know when you're there advice just doesn't even sound helpful. maybe try talking to someone. family or a therapist. sometimes talking to someone in person is the ticket. you're welcome to post all your feelings here. plenty of guys who've been through it who are happy to listen.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 06:41 PM
3	I think I’m done yeah i feel that. in the same boat. i try to get pushups, pullups and squats in when they're around. my oldest is in elementary school and he started exercising with me a little. everything is energy and those of us in this sub are all dealing with a huge shift in it. so its imperative to keep that in mind because channeling it is what gets you to the other side. having something you're passionate about is also crucial. i stopped playing music for the 10 years i was married which should have bee…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 06:34 PM
5	I think I’m done You don’t have to be religious to be grateful. Gratitude got me through the worst of it. It’s hard to spiral when you’re constantly grateful for what you have. You exist as a human against unimaginable odds. Experiencing life even just for a second is incredible. I used to be in the same boat. When I started really having gratitude it opened the door to self compassion which led to self love. When I stopped “hating life” life responded in kind. It always does. I’m almost 2 years post divorce and…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 05:20 PM
1	Still living with ex - she asked to go out next week with someone on a date. i'm spiraling Move out now. You can’t be around this. Take an assessment of your assets, find something that won’t drown you financially and start moving asap.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 05:12 PM
1	Won my hearing, I don't care. If you make those bad decisions I promise you the only thing you will feel is more suffering from the consequences. You haven’t worked through the attachments. That’s what’s making you feel this way. It’s a journey and it takes time. But it’s all tied to the only journey that really matters: self realization. Your marriage was just something that happened. It was there and now it’s not. You now have the gift of discovering who you are. My journey started with a lot of physical activity to get th…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 05:09 PM