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| 2 | She Warned Me She Takes A Long Time To Reply TextsI am also very bad at texting and try to tell people that up front, though unlike her, I don’t even open the texts until I’m able to reply. I’m inclined to take her at her word, that she really is just bad at texting and it’s not necessarily about you. However! Regardless of the reason behind it, that’s still not a constructive way to try to get to know a person. I recommend asking her if there’s a different way of communicating that she prefers or is more inclined to do. Like, for me I’m better… | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 10:59 PM |
| 1 | I'm afraid I might be turning into an incel. Do you guys have any advice?Being an incel is not as much about your sex life as it is your beliefs/state of mind. The first step in not being an incel is recognizing that being an incel is harmful and irrational. So congrats, you’ve already accomplished step one! 🥳✨ Yeah, it tends to be the men who are not well-adjusted socially, and not having successes in other areas of life, who fall prey to the incel mentality, so that’s why you see the stereotype. But really, being an incel is about how you view women, not whether yo… | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 12:54 AM |
| 3 | Did any of you do the whole “invest in yourself” and become non needy thing? Did it work? What’s your story?I only had my first real, emotionally intimate relationship in 2020-21. I was definitely using it, as proof to myself that I was worthy and capable of feeling love(d), and I think he did too. After it ended in a disastrous spectacular display of angst, and all my beliefs of what love means and how it works were destroyed, I realized how unhealthy it was to rely on an external force—and a singular person, no less!—to constantly prove my romantic worth, and to have someone else rely on me for the … | /r/seduction | 02/06/22 06:54 PM |
| 2 | 12 Signs She’s Into YouYeah, that’s what I was trying to say. I’m not arguing against OP, just trying to be clear to anyone who may read the post and take it as 100% truth. As usual, no generalized advice can replace critical thinking for your context! | /r/seduction | 28/05/22 04:27 PM |
| 5 | 12 Signs She’s Into YouOkay, I’d say I’m a good poster child for women with indirect and subtle displays of attraction, here’s how I compare to this post: Agree: when I like a guy I notice I’ll definitely do 1 and 3. I do 2 as well but the causal relationship is reversed—not “oh I like this guy so I’ll laugh,” more that because I like his sense of humour I become attracted to him. Which the post points out. Neutral: 4 is N/A cause I’m not on most social media. 8 and 9 I don’t know. 11 is hit and miss because I’m a shi… | /r/seduction | 26/05/22 10:44 PM |
| 20 | I just want to be genuine and vulnerable and have someone still love meI have a similar struggle to you, in that I want a romantic relationship to prove to myself that I’m both capable and deserving of love—I want a partner as a means to an end, to make myself feel good because I like the reflection of myself that I see in the mirror they hold up to me. One thing that has been helping me is that I’m learning to try and imagine myself from that hypothetical person’s eyes, and try to be kind and treat myself the way I would a partner. I wanna be my own main source of… | /r/seduction | 25/05/22 04:39 AM |
| 3 | How Being "Non-Needy" Is Killing Your Text GameAw, that’s so sweet! Yeah, I’m always apologizing to everyone I message about how I’m such a sporadic texter, trying to make sure they know it’s not a signal of me not caring or being disinterested. I was born in the wrong generation—I was made for the days of carrier pigeons, it seems! | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 02:22 PM |
| 14 | How Being "Non-Needy" Is Killing Your Text GameI got into the habit with this guy of messaging back and forth IMMENSE amounts of content at a time. Like, each time we respond to the other, we have to sit down for a little while to be able to read and respond to it all, and the other checks their phone to like 28 notifications, lol. Like, it started out as a normal convo, but we each kept having so much to say to each other…. I’m horrible at real-time text conversations, but for some reason I have no problem opening up my phone every once and… | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 04:18 AM |
| 1 | I want to bring a board game to make my coffee dates better. What are some good games?Oh, I think I’ve heard of that one! What’s it about? Games for multiple players are great, but I definitely also love me a simple single-player thing that I can use to keep my hands busy while I listen to podcasts or talk on the phone. They’re a bit more stimulating than just a fidget toy or whatever. | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 04:15 AM |
| 2 | I want to bring a board game to make my coffee dates better. What are some good games?Ohh yep yep, Brown is another big one. I’ve got a book by her, and one by Glennon Doyle, in my To Be Read pile, that I really wanna get to but never seem to have the energy. Siiigh. Yeah, fearing pain/rejection and therefore responding with defensiveness is such a common cause of detriment and unnecessary grief in the world : / Hah, hey, it’s always nice to have a little bit of vulnerability out here in the web-void. It reminds us of the depth of each other’s existence, beyond the flat screen. Y… | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 04:26 AM |
| 2 | I want to bring a board game to make my coffee dates better. What are some good games?Yes! You get it. And I’ll have to check out some of the games you suggested! I also love that you brought up Esther Perel, lol. I haven’t gotten as into her as my mom has, but I’ve listened to some of her stuff and it’s been interesting. | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 04:06 AM |
| 103 | I want to bring a board game to make my coffee dates better. What are some good games?Hey, actual woman here. I don’t claim to speak for all women, of course, but I love tabletop games and so do all my friends (regardless of gender); I have no clue what the guys on here are taking about, because I think a good portion of women would be happy to play a game on a date. (Tho like, probably make that part of your plan, to meet up to play, rather than springing it on her once you meet.) I’m glad you know what you like, and don’t seem to be put off by the negative comments here. The ty… | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 02:43 AM |
| 1 | What to talk about with a girl I don’t know at all?Most people love talking about themselves and their passions. Really, all you need to do is learn to ask questions! If she has stuff on her snap story you can ask about, like pets or hobbies, that’s a good start. Be honestly engaged and ask follow-up questions about why she likes the things she likes, what’s most exciting and meaningful about it to her, what interesting is experiences she’s had with it, etc. | /r/seduction | 27/04/22 03:46 AM |
| 1 | is masculinity attractive?I mean…what is masculinity, in your eyes? Different things are masculine to different people and cultures. Even within a specific definition of masculinity, there are always going to be parts of masculinity that are healthy and parts that are harmful. And within that, different aspects of masculinity will and won’t be attractive to different people. Some women may believe very strongly in traditional gender roles and expect you to behave as such. Others may find traditional masculine traits/beha… | /r/seduction | 27/04/22 03:36 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with anxiety ? Lately I’ve been avoiding taking calls hanging out with friends every social interaction just doesn’t appeal to me . Do I need help ?It really varies based on your personal context and what is causing your anxiety. I’m going to assume it’s social anxiety, as you’re talking about not wanting to engage in social interactions. But I don’t know what it is, specifically, that is making you anxious about those interactions, so it’s hard to say what’ll help you best. In my own experience, I tend to assume that I am making mistakes and embarrassing myself in social situations. My brain picks up on minuscule (or even non-existent) mom… | /r/seduction | 27/04/22 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Authenticity vs "Game"Thanks! Honestly this distinction between the two isn’t something I’d coherently thought out beforehand, so thanks for posing the question in the first place to prompt me to think about the concepts! It’s super interesting, thinking about these common truisms and what they’re actually supposed to mean—something positive can easily, and even unintentionally, be twisted to condone unhealthy behaviour, yknow? It’s important to take the time and really ask ourselves what we’re assuming the old adage… | /r/seduction | 27/04/22 01:53 AM |
| 2 | How do I make a move?Yeah, those might not have counted as dates, depending on context she might have just thought of them as friendly hangouts. Your best bet might be to actually ask her out on a date—like, use the word date, instead of just inviting her to something that could just as well be a platonic hangout. | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 11:55 PM |
| 2 | Am I giving up too soon?I don’t think there’s any harm in asking her, just to get that concrete yes or no instead of dropping things off without a resolution and being left wondering if you made the right decision. Just make sure to be respectful about it, if she says she isn’t interested. | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 11:51 PM |
| 1 | whats a good way to handle your date ordering somethin priceyIs it normal for most women on dates to assume the man is paying, unless stated otherwise? Unless someone asked me out in the context of, “Hey I’m going to X event, do you want to be my date to it?”, I’d never assume they were paying for me! Haha, I wonder how well it would go down if you didn’t say anything, then just nonchalantly asked for the bill to be split at the end of the evening? Still, if the plan is for you to pay for both of you, if you’re at a restaurant, talking about what youre go… | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Authenticity vs "Game"It’s important to remember the full meaning of fake it until you make it. To me, the saying has always been about changing your behaviour for yourself, to help you achieve the mindset that goes with it. It’s about working to become more like an ideal version of yourself—someone who is different from who you are currently, but who is still aligned with your values, beliefs, desires, etc.—maybe even more aligned than the you who you are currently. It’s not about being fake or performing, so much a… | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 11:26 PM |
| 6 | How do you navigate the line between flirting and sexual harassment?I agree that your friend gave good advice, and it’s nice that youre being proactively considerate and learning about any ways you should potentially change your behaviour to make sure youre not harming people or making them uncomfortable. There’s no real concrete type of flirting I can point out as “tried and true.” It’s conversation, yknow? It really varies across people. Some basics for avoiding tipping the line into harassing behaviour include the usual: 1) no means no. 2) tone/expression/bod… | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Social activities for a nerdLearn to ask more questions, and that will open up a lot of conversational potential without requiring you to carry the most of the conversation. Most people love talking about themselves and things they’re passionate about. It might be as simple as looking up icebreakers online, or maybe looking into some conversational card games for inspiration? | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 10:51 PM |
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