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| 11 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorce | tyveill | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 06:49 PM |
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| 6 | I spent 7k on ex wife’s titsHer next man appreciates you. My current girlfriend said her last bf offered to buy her new boobs. I wish she would have stayed with him until after 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/26 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Bed size post divorce?Queen is perfect for myself and a girlfriend when she comes over | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/26 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Those who remarried after divorce…There are financial, insurance, tax, and security benefits to getting married | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/26 02:17 AM |
| 5 | “Are we Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook GroupsThe guy groups do exist but they turn into just hot or not, "would bang" or "she's all yours" groups. Nobody takes them seriously. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/26 06:55 AM |
| 8 | You know what’s worse than divorce?I don't think you understand NPD. When it comes to conflict, it is not a weakness, it is blatant disregard for the other party. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/25 12:13 PM |
| 3 | Rebuilding seems impossibleI went so far into debt so fast I tried to reconcile with my ex just so I could get back on my feet. Financial impact of divorce really sucks. But dude, bankruptcy with $250k income would be incredibly irresponsible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/25 03:23 PM |
| 6 | Rebuilding seems impossibleIt sounds like you failed to reduce your lifestyle expenses enough. This can be the hardest part with divorce is dropping way down in lifestyle, cost of living, etc, but is the real trick to faster financial recovery. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/25 11:29 AM |
| 1 | How long to get remarried after divorce?I am tolerant and inclusive, which is why I don't support racist narcissists ✌🏻 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/25 01:19 AM |
| -4 | How long to get remarried after divorce?Confirmed she has bad taste in men | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/25 09:12 PM |
| -5 | How long to get remarried after divorce?I'm hoping you're not the Trumpster, because that is an indicator of poor character, never marry one | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/25 08:09 PM |
| 12 | The mid life, divorced man and women’s perceptionYou got off cheap, congrats. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/25 03:46 PM |
| 19 | The mid life, divorced man and women’s perceptionI was taken advantage of in my 15 year marriage and it has devastated me financially. It seems like everyone I date is looking for the same thing, somebody to take care of or spoil them. Sorry but I've already been down that path and I have little more to give other than my time, which is something that I will freely give to the right woman, but because I don't want to completely blend our lives I'm seen as avoidant. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/25 03:45 PM |
| 1 | When your STBXW bangs someone elseMuch easier to do as the woman | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/25 07:44 PM |
| -2 | Want to know how the majority of women, at least on Reddit, think about us?The naivety of youth 😭 | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/25 02:40 PM |
| 9 | Want to know how the majority of women, at least on Reddit, think about us?Here's the thing. Humans are not wired for lifetime partnerships, we are wired for relationships of varying lengths, but not the rest of our lives. It's our egos that require a sense of security that makes us think marriage is a good idea. It's not. The women there who are expressing this (relationships fine, marriage bad) which seems to be most of them, are not wrong and I think most men would agree. The ones in there saying avoid men at all costs are the minority. So I don't think that thread … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/25 01:58 PM |
| 5 | I (M28) miss my wife (27) so much. After 2 years of marriage and 5 in relationship, I had to go away because I couldn’t handle my promiscuity.He is, a very narcissistic one. Shouldn't have married in the first place. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/25 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone ever regret the decision?But if you're already feeling bitter towards here, nothing will fix this and it's best to divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/25 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone ever regret the decision?Yes, and here is the problem with how most people approach trying to "fix" a marriage prior to divorce, they try to spend more time together, do things together to rekindle the romance, when what they really need is separateness! Desire comes from novelty, and when two people are in each other's proximity for so long, it is completely natural for the desire to fade. So.. instead of trying counseling and date nights, encourage each other to find new hobbies! Then after months of doing this, do so… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/25 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Picked up a college girl, as a late 40s guy🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/25 11:24 PM |
| 2 | Picked up a college girl, as a late 40s guyLook at my post history and tell me I'm a woman lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/25 10:50 PM |
| 0 | Picked up a college girl, as a late 40s guyWhich is why it would totally be a flex. Haha. I'm searching for one myself. I already know if I was targeting 20 year olds I could probably get laid this weekend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/25 07:37 PM |
| -1 | Picked up a college girl, as a late 40s guyYea I didn't say it's an awful thing, as long as both were consenting, it's fine. But it's not a flex. Show me the attractive 40+ yr old boss lady you bedded who has her life in order and knows what she wants. Seducing a 20 year old as a 45+ year old man is like stealing candy from a baby and then bragging on reddit how to do it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/25 06:46 PM |
| 7 | Picked up a college girl, as a late 40s guyBro banging a 20 year old as a late 40s guy is not a flex 🤦🏻♂️ | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/25 02:58 PM |
| 6 | Do you ever find your way back to each other (for good)?The chance of ending up back together and it working out are very slim. That doesn't mean you should fight tooth and nail. Try to be amicable about the split, but don't let yourself be taken advantage of as you will feel it for many years. Divorce lawyers can help navigate this and are worth the investment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/25 01:12 AM |
| 0 | Which US state is good for men ?Prenump protects your assets before marriage Assets gained during marriage should be 50/50 This is part of the definition of marriage - if you don't want 50/50 during marriage years, don't get married I can't think of any reason divorce judges would rule any other way | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/25 03:51 PM |
| 5 | I used to be nice… I feel it fading.Read the book "no more Mr nice guy" Very enlightening I have to fight my nice guy tendencies. Women do not respond well to it | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 02:33 PM |
| 3 | Joined Facebook dating..Having recently started having success on dating apps and this advice is exactly what I would say too. As a man, you have to pay for the app, the men who are able to see likes and send messages to women even before matching are the ones getting the attractive women on dates, and even then success rates are low. You have to be willing to fail a lot. Play the game, get used to the rules, getting frustrated will just mean you won't have success. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 01:58 AM |
| 2 | Too old to divorce3 more years. I've been paying for 7. 10 years of payments for a 15 year marriage | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/25 01:09 AM |
| 7 | Too old to divorceThe financial hit hurts a lot, for sure, but you will recover. Try not to focus on it too much and just do the best you can with what you have. It get's easier over time. I'm 7 years post divorce and free of financial responsibility in just 3 short years! The sooner it happens, the sooner you get through it. 45 is young. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 05:25 PM |
| 4 | For average looking guys out there who successfully started dating again after divorce was finalized, what strategies worked for you?Low sugar, less processed foods. I start with a lot of fresh fruits and veggies and build around that. "A poor diet can be one of the main culprits for low testosterone levels. A diet high in sugar can lead to insulin spikes, which prevents your body from producing hormones like testosterone. Aim to have a well balanced diet that includes fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and healthy fats." | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 07:44 PM |
| 5 | For average looking guys out there who successfully started dating again after divorce was finalized, what strategies worked for you?Downvoting for the must get on TRT comment. Get your test levels checked. I'm 48 and have never taken or needed TRT. But I've also worked out regularly for decades and stay away from dairy and hormone altering foods. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 05:06 PM |
| 7 | For average looking guys out there who successfully started dating again after divorce was finalized, what strategies worked for you?All I have to say is dating apps will really kill a man's self esteem. The worst thing you can do after divorce (that I did and learned from) is to jump right into dating apps and assume the matches you are able to get are any indication as to the women you can attract. Dating apps work for women who want a hook up, and if you're a top 5% super attractive man you can score regularly. For the rest of us, you have to find women through common interests and possibly social media and take your time … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Ex wife introducing boyfriend to kids. But thought she already did…Yea wtf with the comment about men dating single moms. That's like 90% of the dating pool at my age (48) | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Ex wife introducing boyfriend to kids. But thought she already did…This is nothing worth getting upset about, my dude. Take a deep breathe and let it go. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceGood to know. Thank you | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/25 10:17 AM |
| 1 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceNo this is KS metro area, MCOL. We started the divorce process after 14 years of marriage (finalized in year 15). Is permanent alimony after such a short time really a thing? Crazy. I didn't hold her back from her career. She finished school while we were together and she's working the job that aligns with her degree. It just doesn't pay well. I thought permanent alimony is for cases one spouse put aside their career for family. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/25 02:44 PM |
| 4 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceI'm sorry. I think lifetime alimony is extortion! :( I'm going to count my blessings with my 10 year sentence. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceBrother that is so long! When does it end? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceSo I've done some research on this and it looks like a court order is required when any circumstances change as far as child living arrangement. Since we didn't do that, and just agreed to adjust my monthly payment down when the kids moved in with me, I think involving the court at this point could risk me being ordered back payments for child support. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 03:10 PM |
| 2 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceIf it costs me anywhere above $5k to get changes made, it wouldn't be worth it to me, even though that's less than what I would save, it's less money between both of us. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 11:57 AM |
| 2 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceHow much longer do you have to pay cs and alimony? How long were you married? You really got fleeced. Sorry man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 11:54 AM |
| 3 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceThanks, appreciate the advice | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceWithout context this is irrelevant. When we ran the calculations on divorce it came out to $824 for 3 kids. You could be in a much higher cost of living area or have a bigger wage gap. Also since we each have one kid living with us, shouldn't there be zero child support required? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceI think any calculators would increase my obligation due to my salary increasing over the last 6 years. When we did it initially the total came up to $824 so we rounded up to $900 ($300/child) | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceI'm not really wanting specifics, just general advice. Is it worthwhile to revisit a divorce agreement 6/10 years in? It could save me $20-40k which I would put towards the kids college funds (she just spends it on her expenses). But it sounds like it's unlikely. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceThe only significant change has been who the kids live with. At divorce, all 3 with her. Currently 1 with me, 1 with her, 1 moved out adult. We did reduce the child support I pay her by $300/child. I'm only paying her for the 1 still with her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceWhen we initially divorced, she had all 3 kids. Now she has 1 and I have 1. I just reduced the amount I pay her, but we haven't adjusted the other way for the child with me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceKansas. I'm seeing some sites say it's capped at 10 years and others say it's capped at 121 months. https://www.kansaslegalservices.org/node/255/spousal-support-maintenance | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceYes, Kansas alimony is limited to 10 years unless extended for special circumstances. We agreed to the max length at the time because it also corresponded with our youngest turning 18. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 07:19 PM |
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