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How is it attention seeking if normally nobody even knows about it? I had a super fucked up childhood and cut from about 12-15. Nobody knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:35 PM
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Nah. I completely disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:12 AM
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I do. I find them revolting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 07:45 PM
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Of course it does. Men with high n-counts are revolting. Even worse if they're willing to share a woman with other men during a gang bang. Shows what a desperate loser he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 07:45 PM
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Then equally so is he.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:25 PM
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I think plenty of 'naive betas' are kinky af and don't mind an adventurous girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:25 PM
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Then so is he. I hope op warns every woman what trash he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:24 PM
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What about the dudes? I'm guessing they're used goods too and also belong in the streets?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:22 PM
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Probably for the same reasons guys do. They like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 12:37 AM
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Why would you tell him something like that? I get the impression you feel like she's somehow 'used goods' or something, and told him to upset him. All of this feels very asshole-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 12:36 AM
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What context do you need?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:54 AM
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I would assume it's the lady in his profile picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:49 AM
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If this guy can not only laid, but married, the men around here have no excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:16 AM
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I thought you said you were limp and can never get off. Plus haven't had PIV in years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 11:39 PM
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You realize if I took those pills for any length of time I'd almost certainly wind up dead, right? So, you think it's better for me to have zero pleasure, no orgasms, along with severe depression which could easily lead to suicide, over him wearing a condom? Please explain that logic. Also, quote wear I recommended vasectomy. You can't, because I didn't. I said he's aware of his options. However, considering I went through the hell of having my vagina ripped wide open and battled months of infec…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 10:14 PM
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So when he's moaning, telling me my pussy feels so good (despite wearing a condom, omg😱) and to slow down or else he'll cum, he's putting on a show? And those times when I ramp it up instead of slowing it down, giving it all I got, and he gets off almost immediately, looking like he saw God himself, he's just faking? Those times when he trembles afterwards with the dumbest most satisfied smile on his fine, cuddling up to me, saying something along the lines of 'I know I always say the sex we jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 09:59 PM
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Fuck no. I already have one kid. I'm not currently willing to risk another. Even if I were down for that, he'd never do it. He shares my sentiments about kids right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:33 PM
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He literally doesn't care. But he also isn't genitally mutilated like most of America, so his dick works properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:29 PM
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Yep. We don't currently want another kid (may never, who knows), and every birth control I've tried has had such awful side effects that sex was either impossible or just not going to happen. Like with bc pills, they make my libido nonexistent and orgasm impossible. They also make me extremely depressed and dangerously suicidal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:24 PM
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I don't make him do anything. He's a grown ass man that gives an actual fuck about his wife, shocking as that may be. I've tried four types of bc pills, all of which tanked my libido, made it impossible to orgasm, and gave me severe suicidal ideation. I later tried an IUD which was caused horrific cramps and constant bleeding, along with painful egg sized clots to be passed multiple times a day until it's removal a couple months later. So, no, I don't feel sorry for him, especially since my body…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:18 PM
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Awesome. I'll tell my husband we no longer need to have sex and that he can just masturbate since it's basically the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 06:33 PM
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My husband earns 100% of the income in our household. We spend zero dollars on that stuff except for things like shampoo/soap which we all share (me, my husband, and son). I look like absolute shit, so he gets what he pays for 😂 Doesn't help that a few years ago he accidentally donated ALL my clothes. Id sorted them into two piles in bags when we were reorganizing. On my way out to work I asked him to donate the clothes that were in a specific room. He wasn't listening well enough and donated th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 12:58 AM
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Not sure why you're getting so much heat for this comment. I'm canadian and so was Norm. Normal guys don't go around fighting each other and whatnot (at least where I live). Only the fuck ups who can't control their emotions do. My husband has literally never been in any sort of physical altercations except for while dealing with psycho customers at work (which is retail). He's 31. The last time I witnessed any sort of fighting was in middle school.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 08:15 PM
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Yes, so she should have used more force because she was seemingly defending herself against a killer. Time will tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 03:16 AM
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You would not be sent to jail from stopping someone from stealing your car. You will however be sent to jail for murdering someone, which this guy most likely did.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 03:00 AM
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I mean, if someone locked me out of my own vehicle and was threatening to leave me in the middle of nowhere on the side of the highway, I'd probably get physical too. I'd want them out and my keys back. I personally think most people would get physical when it comes to someone stealing their shit and threatening their safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 02:43 AM
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OP also forgot to mention that the bf in his argument is the main suspect in her disappearance (potential murder). OP is talking about a tiktok that was made about gabby petito, a missing person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 02:09 AM
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I know exactly what tiktok you're talking about. I find it really weird how you're using this example of an abusive woman since he more than likely killed her (gabby petito). She's a missing person, yet her bf who saw her last and has her van won't tell the cops or her family where he left her. As for the altercations you mentioned, he would lock her out of her van and threaten to leave/abandon her (they'd been travelling for months). So he was threatening to leave her in unknown (to her) locati…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 02:05 AM
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Online I could get plenty attention. Like if I posted I wanted a guy to bang me RIGHT NOW, I'd probably have dozens of dms. If I wanted relationship, not so much. I've never been approached or hit on while out and about (even at bars). Never been given random compliments by men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 09:11 PM
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I've never been hit on or cat called by a random man or woman. Not even when I went through my drinking phase when I turned 19 and would go to bars and whatnot. Was never approached or had a drink bought for me. My friend and I actually approached a few guys when we'd get a few drinks deep. Definitely not chads since we aren't delusional. It didn't go anywhere and was always awkward af.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 09:07 PM
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I've seen it countless times.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:11 PM
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I'm not talking about assault. I'm talking about rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:38 PM
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So if I divide half the USA population and then calculate 2%... You realize 3,280,000 women being raped a year in just the USA is a lot, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:06 AM
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This reads like you really want to bang underage kids. Also weird that you call the adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:55 AM
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And the women are all trolls? The women in movies are just as unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:34 PM
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I'm 31. Nobody I know would condone cheating within the relationship. Maybe we're all still young and naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 07:54 PM
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Is this among a certain class because I've never heard of anything like this amongst us lower middle class.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 07:47 PM
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I genuinely have no fucking clue what you're talking about or how it's at all relevant to my original comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 10:34 PM
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I've never even seen an incel that was genuinely ugly. They've all be average at worst. They just have a whole host of mental issues and are usually so fucking negative they're painfully exhausting to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 07:32 PM
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I don't have a damn clue how you not wanting to fuck men has anything to do with sex/gender being irrelevant when it comes to judging people for their trashy behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 07:29 PM
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Sex is irrelevant. Only trashy people with zero self control and/or self respect partake in casual sex. I don't believe either sex should be held to a higher standard than they other. I believe men and women should be judged equally, don't you? Like if a man and woman commit the same crime, they should both get the same sentence. One shouldn't be longer than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 07:06 PM
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Oh geez. These are the kind of women that want to fuck their sons and will show up wearing white on his wedding day. They are toxic af. Any guy with a mom like this needs to RUN! He will never have successful or healthy relationship with a woman until his mom is out of the picture. She will sabotage every relationship for him since no woman will be good enough for her 'baby boy'.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 05:07 PM
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I guess that means that only trash men have casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 04:53 PM
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Genitals can be used sexually, but I wouldn't call it their primary function unless you think urinating, defecating, and periods are all sexual things. Personally, I don't. By the way, I was molested for the first 10ish years of my life by a woman. When you expose them to ANYBODY you are exposing them to the risk of predators. I don't know what's so hard to understand about that. Also, there is almost a zero chance of a trans girl in change room being a predator. Statistically speaking, you pose…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 09:48 PM
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So you opened a book and were traumatized for life or was it from a predator? Because those two things aren't even remotely the same. I'm talking about educating kids, teaching that genitals aren't inherently sexual, etc. Seems like you're sexualizing things and talking about abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 09:33 PM
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You can't honestly think seeing a body part could harm them? Are you serious?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 09:09 PM
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I wouldn't be anymore disturbed seeing penis over a vulva. Besides, it's 2021, some chicks have dicks and some dudes have a vag. Gotta get with the times. I think if you don't want to see genitals, don't go to a place where genitals are likely to be shown.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 09:07 PM
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Why would you even care if they see a penis? Genuinely curious. My son sees me naked. My son sees his dad naked. He has books on bodies and private parts. Also, when I was a kid my dad took me swimming every weekend. This was before family rooms. I went into the mens room. Dicks everywhere. I have zero issue with my kids seeing 'private parts' as long as it's not being sexualized. It's just body parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 09:01 PM
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Yeah, I think most women want their men to view them as equal, or human at the very least. Also, I couldn't date someone who's life philosophy was basically, 'rules for thee, not for me'
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 04:16 PM
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I'd say most women don't report either. My bf in my teens would get rather mad with me, like strangling and stuff. I never told a soul. Hell, I thought I deserved it. I thought he was in the right! I've talked to lots of women who have similar stories. I only know one person who reported and it went nowhere. There was one very violent thing that happened to me (not spousal abuse) and I did report. Cops told me I was lying and just regretted cheating on my bf. It was beyond traumatizing. There is…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 04:03 PM
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Yeah, no. I'm not particularly good looking. I've never had a guy offer to pay for things for me. Hell, it's war with my husband just to get gifts on Xmas 😂 Also, I remember when I was first job searching it took forever to get one. I had interviews at walmart and at a restaurant for bussing tables that went nowhere. I eventually got a job and McDonald's. I was 17, skinny, and genuinely the prettiest I'd ever be. It all went down hill from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:51 PM
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My husband was the first guy to make me orgasm. I'd slept with a bunch of guys before and had some year+ LTRs before him. It had NOTHING to do with communication. I'm actually easy to get off. They would just whine and complain about how it took to long, it's boring, did i come yet, this is taking forever, my wrist hurts, blah blah blah. They'd end up with a million excuses to either not even try, or to give up midway. I found that the tremendous pressure they'd put on me to hurry up and finish …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 01:57 PM
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Nope. The ex was kind of nutty. I saw all the texts. He told her over and over and over again that he was not interested and please just stop. When he blocked her, she started contacting his coworkers, even making up all sorts of lies about us. As for the other two, he was pretty straight up with HR. One even got fired.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 01:25 PM
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In the time I've been married to my husband he's dealt with two clingy women and one gay dude. They'd text him all the time, even late at night, trying to get him to hang out, constantly compliment him on his looks, etc. One tried to convince him to cheat, that I was bad for him, and to move away with her. She was an ex. The other two were coworkers at seperate times. Honestly, I liked it. It kinda just felt like validation that I got a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 01:29 AM
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How were they initiated? Like how is this stat counted? Is it 70% of women were the ones that filed the papers? If that's the case I'm willing to bet close to half the women weren't even the ones to even initiate the divorce, they're just the ones stuck with the paper work or else it would never happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:00 PM
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You keep banging and decide to just bang each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:45 PM
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I can't speak for other women, but BJs intimidate the hell out of me. They are like one of the last things I do. I hate that staring and the attention. I just feel way too much pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:10 PM
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I'm still not really understanding what it is you're wanting when it comes to women and feces.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:38 AM
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Maybe. But I wouldn't drink your pee or eat your fecal matter. Sorry, bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:16 AM
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Ain't nothing causal about that conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:05 AM
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I love it. I find it incredibly masculine. Also white guys with no chest hair look like raw chicken. Ain't for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:04 AM
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I shaved my husband's once just to see what it looked like. I love chest hair on men. I regretted it immensely. He looked like a teenage boy 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:03 AM
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Is this like a kink of yours or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:02 AM
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Because sex isn't everything to women. That's not what their lives revolve around. Also, a whole lot of women are taught their pleasure isn't nearly as important as a man's. My husband was the first guy who has ever made me orgasm. My longest relationship before him was 3 years. I didn't mind the shitty sex since I loved the guy. Prior to my husband I kind of just assumed sex was shitty for women. He was the first guy to really make an effort. All women obviously aren't like me in this regard, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:11 PM
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But it seems to me that a lot of women don't do that and then complain that men aren't mind readers. I can only talk from my personal experience and those that I know where we've made ourselves clear, and then we find ourselves led on and used. Hell, I've been with a guy that said he wanted all the same things as me, we went on countless dates, made things official, we fucked, then he ghosted. if you meet a person in a "hook up" context (i.e. OLD, a bar, etc) I will say in this sort of scenario …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:57 PM
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Its not like she didnt enjoy the sex as well I have my doubts. Why does sex have to have strings attached of lets be exclusive forever? It doesn't have to be if both parties make it clear that's what they want. Awfully entitled imo. So you must also think it's rather entitled of men to want NSA sex with zero care or regard to her feelings on the matter. You all act as if you're getting ripped off after a good time 😂😂😂🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:08 PM
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Lies. I don't doubt for a second that 99% of men know before the sex whether or not he'll pursue her afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:02 PM
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Creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:00 PM
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People aren't mind readers. It is absolutely up to the man to make his intentions clear. Like wtf. Obviously. If she is saying she wants a relationship, and he doesn't think he does or is unsure, it is absolutely his responsibility to say as much, not just let things continue toward one until they fuck and then he bounces. I personally think that's psychopathic behavior since he has no care or regard to her feelings. He has no empathy. How would he know that without spending some time with her? …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:59 PM
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I think for the most part, women do do this. However, a lot girls are taught that a man won't want or love them if they don't put out. I know that's what I grew up thinking. I thought I had to prove my worth to a guy before he'd be willing to commit to relationship. I also thought I had zero worth if I didn't put out. I grew up around a lot of girls that thought the exact same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:48 PM
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Then he should have told her that before sex, not right after. Also, he should have been upfront that while he's looking for a relationship, he's not entirely sure he's feeling it with her. These emotions don't suddenly happen. They build.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:27 PM
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That's incredibly counter-productive for males. So? It's counter productive for me to wait in line at the grocery store when I can just barge in at the front of the line. Except I don't, since I have no desire to be an asshole. People who lead others on and use them for sex are disgusting manipulative assholes. If you can live with being a terrible person, then by all means, continue using people. Most people can't, thank God. You tell her you just want sex, she's out of there. But if you keep i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:25 PM
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All of them. He should have been honest from the get go that he's not interested in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:05 PM
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Just googled them. The guy with the wider face.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 01:24 AM
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I got alcohol poisoning and ended up in the hospital.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:30 AM
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Nah. I was very much feeling all that the two times I attempted suicide, one of the times landing my dumb ass in ICU. Only pretty people get instant replacements. There are plenty of melancholy women/girls out there that have never had anyone there for them. They're just invisible. I've known two girls who killed themselves. One who hung herself in her closet. Another who threw herself in front of a train. I lost my brother when I was 15. I was a pretty troubled kid (mostly due to neglect). One …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 11:56 PM
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They definitely do view them as victims, but if it's not to your liking men are more than welcome to stand up for their own. More often than not i hear men saying they wish it was them and that they would have liked it. How about you guys start fixing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:07 AM
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I'm not talking about rejection. I'm talking about cheating. Anyways, are you trying to say it's funny when someone gets rejected?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:05 AM
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I don't think all men are like that. I don't think any group of people are all the same way. I think that's scientifically impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:07 AM
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I'm waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:55 AM
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A minority of women might cheer but men were quite literally the cause of women's misfortunes for thousands of years. Hell, in many countries, they still are. So I'm not seeing your point. Instead of getting angry about women saying some mean things, why don't you get angry about the men doing horrific things? You know what's funny about mocking people who laugh at others misfortunes? They are too smart to become victims like that and they know it. Yeah, like all those conservatives dying of cov…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:55 AM
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LMAO! A whole 2 out of MILLIONS. Good grief. Site me a source where it says the vast majority of feminists think men can't be victims of sexual violence. I'll be waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:45 AM
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This is the most ridiculous small minded statement. You can't look at someone and know they're a cheater. Perfectly average people cheat. How do you expect someone to know that 5, 10, 15 years down the line their husband or wife is going to cheat? Like honestly? People change, sometimes for the worse. The only thing that deserves mockery is people who laugh at others misfortunes. It's pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:40 AM
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Feminists view them as victims. Hell, I've argued with so many men that an adult woman taking advantage of young teen boy is sick, but they just go off about it being every boys dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:13 AM
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Because it's not funny when peoples hearts get broken and lives destroyed. It's not funny when it happens to man and it's not funny when it happens to woman. If you take joy in someone's suffering there is something wrong with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:10 AM
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If you've gotten a girl all the way to bed, your height isn't the reason she's starfishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:48 AM
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I think they can still be looks matched if she's pretty but fat and he's thin but has a not so nice face. I'd consider that pretty equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:42 AM
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I haven't seen that anywhere. Not even online. Definitely not a thing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:17 AM
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My husband is 5'6". You're having a you problem dude, not a height one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:00 AM
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96% of the time they are looksmatched. Occasionally I see a good looking woman with an average to below average man. I don't think I've seen a hot man with an average to ugly girl in the wild. Seen it on Tiktok if that counts 😂 those couples have usually been together since high school or something though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:57 PM
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So why make comments like these as if it's meaningful in any sense? As opposed to what, all the meaningful comments from men blaming women for not being able to get laid? You're confusing compromising with attraction No I'm not. I prefer men who look like Jason mamoa and my husband prefers women who look like Anna Kendrick, neither of us resemble them in the slightest, yet we are still incredibly attracted to each other. Can't speak for him, but not once have I felt like I was compromising while…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 05:22 PM
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what they find attractive and how that relates to WOMEN AS A WHOLE. I know. It's almost like we are individuals or something. Weird. COUNTLESS arguments on PPD where women pretend height isn't that important, likely because for them and the women they know, it's not. Almost every woman I know has dated a man near her height or shorter. Hell, I have an acquaintance that's like a foot taller than her husband. My husband is the same height as me (5'6") and I've dated a few men that were a fair bit …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 05:09 PM
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LMAO, CHEST HAIR?!? Who gives a fuck about that (either for or against?). I liken these women to guys who prefer women to shave/wax their pubes? Like who the fuck cares?! Anyways, I'm super average and have always been mostly around average women. I've never personally met an average woman/girl that cared about money (as long as the man is self sufficient and not in major debt), status, game, or that sort of thing. Pretty girls who are super full of themselves, yes. They like those shallow thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 04:10 PM
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Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:57 PM
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Oh, so you're a woman who has conversed with, grown up with, and shared the experiences alongside other girls/women? Or are you just a man who assumes that because women don't want you, they don't want most men?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:31 PM
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Anecdotal, but I don't really agree with this simply because every girl/woman I've ever known has had vastly different tastes. We all find way different things attractive. So many of my friends have dated guys I think are below average to ugly but they're swooning over these guys. Likewise I've had some rude comments about guys I've dated. I remember one friend asking me how I could be attracted to my husband because he has SO much chest hair. She asked why I didn't encourage him get rid of it..…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:10 PM
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They really don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:14 PM
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My ex was an amazing artist. I had a painting he did on my wall. I kept the picture around until my husband moved in. Just seemed kinda weird once he was living in the space. I can't bring myself to part with it, so it just sits in a closet. I don't want to get rid of it for sentimental reasons. My husband has never asked me to or even cared that it was around. He asked about it the first time he saw it and I was honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:12 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:07 PM
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So? I didn't want to go alone, have absolutely no one to hang out with, then also have to deal with people throwing food and whatnot on me, telling me to kill myself while also referring to me as bestiality girl 😂 if you're curious, I had a little dog that I was kinda obsessed with and was basically best friend, so they exploited that well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 11:29 PM
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No. I was a loser, didn't have a date, nor any friends in that school. I'd have been miserable since I would have just been made fun of and picked on the whole time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 11:04 PM
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I very clearly answered. I think you're just not liking the answers. Anyways, no, I would not judge someone for being groomed as a kid. I wouldn't think they're less capable of making decisions since I lived through it and know how those people get in your head. However, I would take their baggage and trauma into consideration. It would not give me red flags, but it would however make think there could be some underlying trauma. For me, again, this would not be a deal breaker, but for some it wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 10:57 PM
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How am I holding them to a different standard? I'm judging their past behavior the same as I'd expect them to judge mine. I literally married a with a man with similar dating story. He was groomed as a teenager by a much older woman. It was super fucked up. It felt relatable since he craved a lot of the same things I did. Considering the only behavior I've talked about of mine is the incidence where I was groomed and manipulated and genuinely did not know better... I don't blame myself. I blame …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 10:06 PM
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I saw your other comment about me having a victim complex before it was deleted. So I need some clarification: So it's my own fault that my parents neglected me? My own fault that I was abused (physically, mentally, and sexually) as a child and when I told them, they didn't believe me? This was at daycare. I went there from 6 months to 11 years. It was complete and utter hell. I'd have horrible fits when I'd come home from daycare. Instead of intervening and investigating and protecting me, by t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 09:26 PM
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Um, what? I clearly and concisely explained what it means about me (at least around that age). That I was neglected by my parents, lonely, and desperate. Some of those things might be red flags to people. Also, it means I'd have likely been easier to take advantage of since I'd overlook bad behavior. Those traits are likely to indicate others as well, like being clingy. It says a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:55 PM
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I mean, isn't it obvious? I was 17 and met a 25 year old manipulative creep on craigslist who then quit his job and moved provinces after convincing me to leave home once he got there. I was neglected by my parents, painfully lonely, and desperate for love. I saw zero red flags since I wasn't taught to see them. I just thought this had to be true love since he'd change his whole life for me. Went about as well as expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:39 PM
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I don't even think this is remotely true. My husband and I talked about some of this stuff on our first date. Every guy I've gone on multiple dates I've asked about this sort of stuff. Who men date says a lot about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:24 PM
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Yup. I said 'speak for yourself' (meaning: don't speak for me, another woman... not that you're wrong). Then i continued to say, 'i notice all men'. None of this inferred that you are wrong. It only means that it doesn't apply to me. So again, I ask, please quote where I basically said you're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 01:17 AM
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Please quote where I basically said 'you're so wrong'. I'm pretty sure I didn't say anything like that and only spoke in terms of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 12:37 AM
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They're not using them if they're making him and his friends dinner, hoping for a relationship. With gold diggers/sugar babies, you know what's going on. She's there for the money. He's there for the sex. That doesn't seem to going on with what was mentioned above. He's just using her for her kindness while she thinks he likes him and has a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 12:08 AM
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No idea. I'm over 30 (under 35 if it matters). There's definitely guys who got more attractive over time, like once I got to know them. Likewise, there's been guys I thought were gorgeous af then they open their mouth and all that sexual attraction dies. I can still obviously see he's a good looking guy, but just looking at him sexually repulses me. Nevertheless, I see hot guys all the time and think to myself if I were some pretty slut id totally bang.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 12:06 AM
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Women are not constantly scanning our environment looking for attractive men Speak for yourself. I notice all the men. Even when we see an objectively attractive man up close, we don’t automatically think of fucking him I sure do. I always wonder what it would be like. Doesn't matter if I never would, my mind still goes there. Much of what makes a man attractive to us is in how he shows up to us and to the world Can't relate. Today I learned I have the sexuality of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:25 PM
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Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:18 PM
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Yikes. So what you're saying is he's a terrible person that uses women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:17 PM
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No it's not. They're setting up long hauler clinics where I live and we've had relatively low numbers (compared to the USA). Hell, they've done 4 double lung transplants (all 30s to mid 50s with no previous health issues) on folks where I live. This means at best, if everything is 100% with zero complication (which rarely happens) they'll maybe get another 10 years of life, likely less. It's not just death people should be concerned about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:16 PM
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Twitter uses an algorithm to display the tweets in an order the user is most likely to care about. So again, it's about what you consume.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 07:53 PM
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false. Vaginal tears during childbirth, also called perineal lacerations or tears,occur when the baby's head is coming through the vaginal opening and is either too large for the vagina to stretch around or the head is a normal size but the vagina doesn't stretch easily. These kinds of tears are relatively common. It's common to acquire a yeast infection within a few weeks after giving birth. Postpartum yeast infections may be associated with antibiotics, vaginal birth, or hormonal changes. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 07:48 PM
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I mean, as someone who has gone through nearly 6 months of infections, it's 100% possible. Got an infection about 2 months after birth. It lasted ages, then those antibiotics gave me a yeast infection that took even longer to get rid of.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 07:24 PM
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Child birth isn't that bad? I was torn apart and had to be stitched back together again. Even 9 weeks postpartum things were still a bit swollen and bloody and painful. Then I got an infection from all that which lasted MONTHS. It was fucking agony. Genuinely felt like shards of glass scraping and slicing around up there when I walked. The doctor was horrified by what it looked like. He said the flesh from the inside of my vagina was peeling off. He said it was like an orange peel. Then from the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 07:22 PM
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I actually agree and relate to her comment. I'm a married woman with health issues. My husband has gone over a year without sex before, but that doesn't mean we're not doing other things. It shock some guys, but truly good men who love their women are able to forgo PIV while she's unwell. Not all men feel resentment when they can't treat their women like glorified fleshlights... Since, you know, they actually see their wives/gfs as people and can prioritize them over getting their dick wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 06:13 PM
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It's creates your algorithm based on your likes, I think. My fyp is full of interesting weirdos. I just opened it to check to see if I have the same problem as you since I've never noticed. First vid was literally a chubby average man with long hair. 3.5 mil views. 770k hearts. Second was a skinny weird looking Asian dude tapping a post Malone parody. 1.2m hearts Third was a chubby flamboyant average looking dude trying to befriend a crow 840k hearts Fourth. Bernese mountain dogs. One was a pupp…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 06:00 PM
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I don't really have an answer. Kind of how only a few women look good with short hair (imo).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 05:28 PM
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I personally really like it, but very few guys can pull it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 04:16 PM
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I would say my husband makes my life more fulfilling. However, I think my life was far more exciting before i met him since I'd be out meeting new people and kinda just doing whatever I wanted. Now we have a kid, so everything is very much routine. Definitely not doing whatever I want, haha!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:19 PM
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Before marrying you never hooked up? No. In my teens I definitely slept with guys too soon when we were in the beginnings of relationship. I was incredibly desperate, though. Or fantasized about hooking up? No. I fantasized about marriage and being loved. You were never flustered while talking to a guy you found attractive? I very rarely talked to good looking guys, if I'm honest, and if I had to I felt very intimidated and fearful. Still do. I avoided attractive men since I assumed they'd find …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:09 PM
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>You don’t think boring women are looking for excitement? Boring woman chiming in here. No, I don't think think boring women are looking for excitement since we don't like excitement. That's why I married a nice boring man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:33 PM
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I'm not repulsed by the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:00 PM
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No women don't, especially not when it comes to men they love.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:58 PM
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As long as you are continually bettering yourself for her sexual satisfaction, I don't see the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:57 AM
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When men start empathizing with me and stop telling me I deserved it/that's what I get, then I'll believe you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:54 AM
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more often tend to empathize This made me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:41 AM
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Men here literally say the same thing to women if they complain about cheaters or shitty dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 11:05 PM
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Geez. I just know her saying awful low blow rude shit to her female 'friends' is just her 'keeping it real.' I has a friend like that once. She's a narcissist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 11:03 PM
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Eh... I think high N count men are gross. I'd date a guy who fucked 5 dudes and no women over a man who fucked 25 women and no men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 09:51 PM
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No it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 09:44 PM
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See, if I just look at the clothes I hate 99% of it. Might be a different story if I could see it on.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 09:44 PM
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I never said they couldn't. I'm just saying my husband's experience. He's worked there for over 10 years and hasn't had a woman get violent, only bitchy. In the last few months he's has a coworker get stabbed and another chased by a customer in a car that tried to run them over. Both these instances happened because men were told they couldn't come in without a mask.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 07:31 PM
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Probably because long haulers. I'm in canada where cases are much lower, but they're still setting up long hauler clinics.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:58 AM
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My husband works retail. He encounters countless women every day. Occasionally he'll have to deal with a Karen. Men are much much worse since women just bitch and moan about shopping elsewhere from now on and the store wasting their time, whereas men get violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:54 AM
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Yikes. Everything you say about him is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:52 AM
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Nah, you just don't do those sorts of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:13 PM
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It's only a non-factor to broke guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:45 PM
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How is saying I don't feel superior to anybody proving your point? Are you implying you think dumb people are inferior? There are plenty of dumb people that are much better and more valuable than me. Hell, I'm not even smart. Because I'm not smart, I choose to listen to those who are educated and follow their advice (like with covid).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 12:36 AM
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I get that you have a superiority complex and believe the left is inherently superior. Only really really dumb people are capable of feeling inherently superior to others. They're too dumb to know they're not. So most Conservatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 12:09 AM
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Prove me wrong. Who is dying of covid? Who is dying of obesity? Which states have the lowest income and highest teenage pregnancy rates because of shit education? Who was dumb enough to buy trump's bs? It wasn't the libs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 12:06 AM
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Me neither😁. I'm in canada. Just watching from the outside. Call it how i see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 11:46 PM
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So to keep me safe my husband would need to stay home. My health isn't shit because of my own choices. It just is what it is. He works around hundreds of strangers a day. Who is going to pay our rent and bills? My husband's coworkers sister got covid. She was in her 30s, not overweight and no known health conditions. She's dead. My mom's friend's (a child) died from it. No known health issues. Just because you and yours is fine doesn't mean others will be. Stop thinking about yourself and recogn…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 11:45 PM
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What's the tl;dr?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 11:35 PM
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My aunt is a vaxxed liberal canadian. What does that have to do with obese people in red states? I was saying obese people aren't disposable and don't deserve to die of covid because plague rats can't keep their germs to themselves... Not that they could adequately fight in a war.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 11:28 PM
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See, I think the left is capable of self-reflection, forethought, and knowing when not to be confident. Whereas the right wouldn't know a bad idea if it slapped them in the face. Hell, they can literally be dying of covid and will still be arguing its all hoax. They're also extremely susceptible to mass disinformation. They are constantly in state of fear and paranoia (that's basically their entire base). I bet if you got enough infiltrators you could turn them on each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 11:26 PM
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I feel like the left would win simply because the right are really really stupid, incapable of making logical and informed choices, and never learn from their mistakes. I kinda liken it to zombies vs. Humans, but in this case the zombies can't infect people which makes them much more manageable. So in hordes they might be dangerous, but there likely won't be much strategy (I base this on the the terrorist attack on the capitol). Plus, aren't the red states the fattest? Also, they'd be very susce…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 11:10 PM
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Alopecia for most, I'd think. But I don't think that's the case for me since it's progressed slowly over the years and it's not like I have bald spots. It's just everywhere. Although, my right temple is worse that the other and goes nearly halfway back. I have a whole bunch of health issues and can't get any doctor to take me seriously. They say it's 'anxiety' or psychosomatic. So they won't run any tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 07:08 PM
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Women. I'm a noticeably balding women. Well very stringy thin hair that's receded a fuck ton. it's socially acceptable to be a balding men. People don't even notice. No one is going to turn their head or take a double look at the balding man. It's too common. Also, balding men aren't seen as any less masculine without hair. Some even manage to look more masculine. I don't think women can look more feminine and pretty while being bald or balding.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 05:27 PM
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Oh absolutely. Just look up how women aren't treated seriously when it comes to medical and health stuff, but men get prompt treatment. My husband and I could go to the same hospital with the same symptoms. He'd likely get all sorts of tests and get treatment immediately whereas I'd be likely told it's psychosomatic and be told to leave. I've dealt with this sort of treatment for the last decade. I have a bunch of issues that have gone undiagnosed because it's just 'anxiety'. Chronic debilitatin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 05:18 PM
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Yikes. She looks like she could be his daughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 09:59 PM
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Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 11:29 PM
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Yes, this. My husband is rather boring and also very safe. However, I'm also boring, so it's not like I seek adventure or anything, far from it. I also personally view him as more of a man than one who can't or doesn't want to control his promiscuity and aggression. I view him as more respectable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 07:54 PM
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I'd say most couples are both equally big here. However, if one is bigger and the other smaller, it's far more common for the guy to be bigger here. In all my adult life I've only know 2 couples where the girl was big and the guy was thin (not fit, just thin).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 06:40 PM
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Walk into any Walmart and you'll see tons of fat guys with partners. I can just look out my window on a busy street and see fat guys in relationships all the time. Go to any busy beach, fat guys with women everywhere. There is no shortage of fat guys dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 06:14 PM
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I'm happily married, but again, go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 11:02 PM
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That's literally what I said, but ok, go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 10:32 PM
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Well, since I'm happy with him and he's happy with me, I'm going to assume we're happily married. That would seem most logical. I didn't say every guy I met only tries to get sex. I said most guys I met while dating. As for settling, if one of us did, it would've been him. I thought the whole 'spark' thing was a myth until our first date. I still get all fluttery on the inside sometimes when I look at his face while he's busy doing something, paying me no mind... He has a beautiful face (in my o…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 07:43 PM
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They aren't, I'm a man and have plenty of male friends, I would know, Stop using your own anecdotal experience Ditto.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 07:11 PM
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I'd didn't say 96% of men only want fun. I said 96% of the men I came across were like that. Not all men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 07:06 PM
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At no point did I say that. I am vehemently for not lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 07:04 PM
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Yeah, I'm not a gambling woman. I'd have never wasted my time with men like that and would advise other women not to either. Its like the first part of vetting 101, don't go for fuck boys and man whores.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 06:51 PM
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Who says lying and using people is acceptable?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 06:48 PM
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I was being sarcastic. I obviously don't think those things since I'm happily married.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 06:47 PM
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How can you say men who pump and dump are a dime a dozen then? Because they are. I don't know what changing vibe after sex means. I've never even heard of this so I can't expand on it. As for pictures, literally everyone posts the most flattering pictures of themselves. those women are not a particular subset They are where I live. Most women here just look like average people. They arent plastered in makeup and whatnot. The ones that are stick out like sore thumbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 06:43 PM
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This is just sad and honestly kind of pathetic. I feel for people this bitter. Must be isolating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 06:03 PM
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With that attitude nobody would be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 06:02 PM
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I didn't fuck them. I've only been ghosted once after sex. He played the long game. However, 96% of men I came across while dating weren't looking for anything serious and just wanted to have 'fun'. Literally every woman I've ever met has the same story when it comes to dating. As for the the women you mentioned, that's a very particular subset. I've personally never met a women who regularly wore wigs (besides myself and other balding women), waist trainers, deceiving makeup, deceiving tops, we…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 06:00 PM
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Of course they do. Those types of men are a dime a dozen. Just in my daily life and past dating, I'd say the vast majority of guys are like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:36 PM
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So women should never believe and/or trust men? Plenty of men play the long game. I've been the victim of it. Some men will invest days, even months of their time, countless dates, give gifts. Tell the girl they're exclusive, he's smitten, wants only her, etc etc. Then ghost after sex. So if it was my fault I believed his lies, one should conclude never ever believe men. If he says they're exclusive assume they're not. If he says he wants only you, assume he's full of shit. If he says you're bf/…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:32 PM
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But at the end of the day they want you to do what's best for them, not what's best for you. So do men. That's why they lie and manipulate and lead women on just to pump and dump.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 04:17 PM
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Sure you can. Doesn't mean you should. I would try to figure out the reasons why it's happening and work with that. I think if the person is still in healthy weight territory it really shouldn't matter. Also, I don't think people should ask others to do things they are unwilling to do themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 04:13 PM
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You didn't ask me this question, but I'll chime in. I think it's only ok to mention losing weight if the weight gain happened during the relationship. However, I don't think it's appropriate if they came to relationship overweight. I think there's exceptions when it's LTR or marriage and the weight is becoming a health issue or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 03:57 PM
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The thing is, those that label themselves 'freethinkers' regurgitate the most asinine things that other 'freethinkers' say to them or that they read about on FB or whatever. To hold their beliefs they require the opposite of free thought. They need a narrow view and unlimited ignorance. Masks don't work. Vaccines don't work. Covid is a hoax. Trump is our Lord and savior. See, it's snowing, global warming is fake. Being gay is a choice. Pro-life. Pro-death penalty. Etc etc If they had an iota of …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 03:44 PM
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'free thinker' 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 12:54 AM
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Guess I don't have hormones since I vividly remember the agony and helplessly screaming my lungs out as my vagina tore from my urethra to my asshole as my kid ripped through me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 12:39 AM
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I wouldn't say letting someone bash in your face is even in the same realm as giving birth. Feel free to try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:52 PM
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Have you seen a live birth? It's impressive as fuck. I'd love for a watermelon to tear out your ass with little to no assistance, have it be sewn back up with zero meds as a live little human sucks on your tits for nourishment, then have walk out the hospital the same day. I'd be impressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:57 PM
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Then you don't know a thing about cancel culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 01:35 AM
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What values? Get pregnant as a teen and be forced into marriage? That's what his dumb ass did. Got a teen girl pregnant when he was like 20 and the families forces them to marry. Then he got drafted in the vietnam war. He wasn't having the best of times.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 01:34 AM
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Or she makes a tiktok about it and humiliates him, gets him fired, and now 100,000+ women are sending him hate mail.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 01:29 AM
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Oh definitely not. My parents told me all sorts of dumb shit they grew up believing about sex/reproduction and whatnot. Their parents didn't talk about it, schools didn't talk about it, plus they didn't have google. My dad grew up in Alabama, so yeah 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 01:18 AM
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I'm not talking about before, although I'm sure some did. I'm talking about now when most women know better. They understand the risks, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 01:07 AM
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If abortions were banned I think lots of women would forgo sex completely. I'm not going to risk dying or disability for a child I don't want. If I was pregnant with a severely disabled child I would probably just kill myself. I've worked in group homes and with people with all sorts of disabilities and I just could not spend every moment of every day until I die taking care of them. I've seen what it does to families. I've seen the horrific quality of lives some of these people have and I could…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 12:10 AM
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No subsidy here (unless you're low income). Even if I didn't have all my health issues I probably wouldn't be working because never seeing my kid and having someone else raise them (and potentially abuse them like I was at daycare for the first 10 years of my life) is not worth an extra few hundred bucks a month since daycare is outrageous here. What I'd make id probably lose in child tax anyway, so I'd likely only have an extra $200 or so a month when working near full time since it'd all go to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:18 AM
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That's pretty much all they're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:18 AM
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I don't really know how getting to know someone through a friend group, hanging out a bunch, doing game nights, etc, then handing over your number in room full of others to the person you like could be misconstrued. Just don't be a weirdo. Ideally don't approach women you don't know. For my husband, a mutual friend told me he told her that he thought I was pretty. I didn't know when id get to see him next, so I had that friend give him my number and got her to tell him that if he's at all intere…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:14 AM
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Nope. I was used and manipulated by 25 year old man when I was 17-18. I think men are disturbed and borderline pedophilic if they go after teen girls. It's plain gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:25 AM
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Where in Canada? I live in Canada and it's like minimum $1200 where I'm at. Can be more if you want your kid to go to a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:21 AM
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Nah. I desperately want to move. If we moved to the other side of the country we could afford nearly a whole house with some acreage (my dream life, especially for our kid) with damn near no mortgage. My husband doesn't want to move away from his family, so we're stuck in a one bedroom condo. However, with selling houses I think for the most part it needs to appeal to the woman since most men don't care too much about interior design and whatnot for the average home. Plus he's not the one that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 08:49 PM
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No doubt many of them HAVE been hit on by women, just not women they're interested in. This 100% Every man I've ever known who couldn't get dates was his own problem. They all had outrageous standards regarding looks. But when you point out their looksmatch who would genuinely be interested in them he thinks she's ugly and not worth his time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:08 PM
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That's kind of irrelevant when it comes deciding where to live and whatnot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:10 PM
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I know nothing about Norway. I'll take your word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:02 PM
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That's the kind of stuff that's supposed to be a mutual decision...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:00 PM
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It was fun and exciting because he liked me back. I'd say 99% of the guys I've dated I've initiated in some way. Only one time in my entire life has a guy come up to me and asked me out (he was old and super creepy, but I was lonely and lived to regret giving him some attention). The guys I've dated have mostly been through friends or school, us hanging out in groups, and then me asking the guy if he'd want to hang out sometime. I've always been the the date planner and often the chauffeur. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:40 PM
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I'm not american.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:29 PM
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Where I live it's not divided by gender. Everything is based on how much/little you make. A homeless woman isn't going to get anymore help than a homeless man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:03 PM
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I've never in my life met truly average men that struggled to settle down. I've met guys who think they're average but are actually well below and creepy af... Now they struggle and have general incel type behavior and thoughts. Half their battle is their shit personality though. If they weren't so insufferable they might at least have friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:41 PM
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You think being slightly more assertive and showing a bit of initiative is doing it all? I was the one that pursued my husband and I never felt like I was doing it all... It felt fun and exciting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:32 PM
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That's a laugh. You can't genuinely think there's no women in poverty in America struggling to get by.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:24 PM
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There are many different welfare programs Not where I live. It's just the one I mentioned. Things like section 8 will cover up to 100% of rent Don't have that here where I live either (I'm in canada if it matters). We have low income housing, but it's like a 5 year wait to get in at minimum. It's not free either. it's a certain percentage of income. Foodstamps, and food pantries can cover your food expenses. We have food pantry sort of things but it's not free, just cheaper and it empties super …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:24 AM
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No, I find hot guys attractive. When I saw my husband for the first time I wasn't thinking 'damn, I bet he's mature.' I can acknowledge that some people look older than they are. Nevertheless, if I find out their age is anything under 25, any and all sexual attraction dies because I relate them to being young and dumb and practically children. I genuinely think it's gross and reprehensible for grown ass adults to sleep with teenagers, legal or not. I think it takes a seriously fucked up individu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:12 AM
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Where I live welfare is like $600 a month. You also can't get it if you're working, but you have to continuously provide proof that you're looking for work. Also, the average one bedroom rental here is like $1800 a month. So what the hell is a woman and one kid going to do with just $600 a month?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:32 AM
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Ew, no. I'm a 30+ year old mom and people that are 18 seem like children now. I feel maternal when I look at people that age. I question the morals of any adult that sleeps with those who are practically still kids. I would never associate with them or allow them around kids/teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:22 AM
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I've never met a woman who actually does this. Then again I've never hung around shallow people much. Pretty much every long term friend I've had has dated a guy shorter than them at some point. One married a guy that is like practically a foot shorter. One of my longest (3 years) relationships was with a guy a fair bit shorter. I'm 5'6" and he came up to around my eyebrows. My husband is right around my height. Maybe like a half inch taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:17 AM
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Pretty normal where I live. I'd say on average most couples make around the same amount though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 07:08 PM
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Sure she will. Like 80% of the women I know are with guys who make less them. My sister lost nearly 200 grand to a guy because he went after her house since they were considered common law when they split.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 06:55 PM
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Or just marry a woman who makes more than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:02 PM
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Which is what? Nothing? I've never met a man who is the disciplinary figure. They're always the fun one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:01 PM
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That's irrelevant. It could have either been spectacular or horrific, either way it wouldn't be in the top most important events of my life. That's why I'm asking you why you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 03:01 AM
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How is losing one's virginity the most important event in a woman's life?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 02:37 AM
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Nah. Women LOVE accents.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:18 PM
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I can speak for pretty much every woman I've ever met. I've never came across a woman who preferred height over an attractive face. I'd bet the majority of women would go for a shorter hot guy over an ugly tall guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 05:51 PM
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Disagree. I think it's face. If I'm not attracted to the face, I really struggle to connect. I've gone on a few dates with tall guys where their faces weren't good looking (in my opinion). I found myself disinterested in them (although personality partly played a roll). However, one of my longest relationships (3 years) was with a guy who's head reached my nose. He had a cute face and was super charming, plus really artistic. As for my husband, he is by far the hottest guy I've dated. He's my he…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 03:25 PM
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I'd say you'd likely be around the same looks wise. I personally think she has a very pretty face and a great smile. Losing weight could make her looks dramatically change. I think she'd likely be at least a 7. I'd rate her about a 5 now. I really love long hair on guys, so that's probably half your appeal to me. I think your hair forward looks MUCH better than pulled back off your face. Some pics you look really good, whereas some you look older, have bags under your eyes, and appear scarily se…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 10:31 PM
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I think your faces are looksmatched. She's kinda overweight, though, so that knocks her down a few pegs. However, if she lost weight I think she'd be the better looking one. Does she know you posted this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 09:50 PM
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He is NOT an 8. In what world?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 09:46 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:38 PM
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Yeah, no, that's definitely not a thing here in BC. There's also ZERO, practically negative postpartum care unless you're rich. It was horrific. I had raging postpartum depression. I've never felt crazier in my life. Did a lot of self harm since, well, I was out of my mind. The hallucinating from lack of sleep sucked too. But the craziness was worse. My doctor basically just told me to be happy. I went to him 4 times with suicidal thoughts and self-harming etc. Just focus on baby, be happy! Isn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 04:28 PM
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My kid is a toddler and we live in Canada but at no point in his life has anybody contacted me about shots. I've had to set everything up with the public health nurses. They've never called to tell me a shot was due or that he should get them in the first place. I obviously had to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 02:03 PM
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No. Quite the opposite. At one point in my life I felt very pressured to have sex. That I worthless and a waste of a guys time if I didn't want to or refused. That I was frigid and boring and he'd get rid of me. I firmly believed if I didn't put out I had no other worth so a guy wouldn't want to see me again. The guy I lost my virginity to I wasn't even attracted to him. It's a huge regret. I didn't want to have sex with him but I knew he would have zero interest in me if I didn't. He'd call me …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 05:22 PM
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I've never had a guy pay for the first date unless it was just a single drink, so I wouldn't care. If his justification was gold diggers I also wouldn't care since I'm not one. I'd only start to care if he kept inviting me to things I couldn't afford or was incredibly stingy. Like made me pay for half the gas or some dumb shit when went out (if he was driving).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 05:00 PM
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Huh. I write a lot. Not poetry. Just stories and stuff. My husband has literally never asked about them or showed any interest. I have now upset myself by wishing he was 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:56 PM
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I've had a couple guys use me for sex. Neither of them were even remotely Chad like. It's also not obvious when they tell you how much they like you, have all these adventures they want to take you on, want you to be their gf, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:52 PM
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Because it takes years to build an emotional connection. No it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:40 PM
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I've never once in my life felt sexy in a thong. I won't even show my husband when I wear them. It's literally just to avoid panty lines. I also wear them a size too big. That way they're not flossing my ass and sit along my crack. No wedgies and no panty lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 12:12 AM
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Uh, yeah. All the damn time! Bless my husband but it took him like 6 months to fix our toilet. We have one toilet. It had to be filled manually with a bucket each time it was flushed. Beyond annoying. I would have called a plumber out of convenience but we don't have the money for it. I asked him almost every weekend to do it. When he finally did it took him all of five minutes to do it. Most frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 06:54 PM
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Of course they why is important, especially if it could have been prevented.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 06:40 PM
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Today I learned my husband is in the top 5% simply because I'm sexually attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 03:56 PM
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Not FDS. I don't understand the appeal of big diamond rings (boring and basic). I also really didn't want a ring that looked like everyone else's. I told my husband if he ever proposed I wanted something inexpensive and NOT a diamond. While it wasn't inexpensive ($1400) it's absolutely gorgeous. I've literally never seen a woman with a engagement ring like it. My wedding ring is unique, too. With that said, even if he picked out something I hated, he'd never know it. It's the thought and more im…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 03:50 PM
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I had an ex with a botched circumcision. They cut too much skin off his dick so when he'd get hard it was extremely tight and often very uncomfortable and even painful. When he'd get too excited the underside (the frenulum area?) would often tear and bleed everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 07:34 PM
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Do you just not hang around average people or what? Average people fuck. Some average people fuck a lot. Average people tend to fuck other average people. Like 98% of the average girls I know who have been pumped and dumped, it's been by an average guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 08:23 PM
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Um, what? Just going for a stroll around my neighborhood I'm bound to see at least one hot guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 08:07 PM
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Of course they do. If my husband didn't have these qualities I wouldn't have been sexually attracted to him. It's hard to explain, like I could still look at him and objectively say, yeah he's sexually attractive. But if he talked to me and I saw that he lacked those qualities, I wouldn't be sexually attracted. I'd be turned off and not pursue anything further with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 06:42 PM
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It's really not. What is shamed is being creepy with women who aren't consenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 05:29 PM
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It really depends on how lucky you are. I used to work in care homes and whatnot. There were people as young as 45 with advanced dementia and those sorts of things. Hoards of 60 year olds in care. I'd say the average age I worked with was between 70-80 though. Long story short I'm terrified of getting old.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 05:26 PM
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to show them that you are compassionate, empathetic, sympathetic, and a good listener. My husband is all this and more. He is neither effeminate or gay. Having good qualities that make you a better person doesn't make a man effeminate or gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 05:14 PM
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This is literally what the majority of men on here claim to want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 07:08 PM
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And I disagree with what you said entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 05:48 PM
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There are only two genders: male and female False. Intersex people exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:00 PM
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Uh, no. At least in my female experience. I'm extremely attracted to men. Also, lesbian porn is a an instant turn off because nothing about it is attractive to me or mentally stimulating. I actually watch gay porn since looking at women especially naked women getting off is the biggest mood killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:47 PM
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You can't possibly be so dunce you don't know the definition of rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:38 AM
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a man is only as faithful as he’s options. This made me laugh. A man only cheats if he's scumbag more like.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:20 AM
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You'd still likely be stronger than her. She'd just have more weight to throw around. My husband is a smaller man about 140. I've weighed more than him at times. At no point was our strength even close to equal. We wrestle around and it's insane how weak I am compared to him. If I was a guy i still wouldn't want to go 1 on 3 with women unless I was tall and muscular. So I get that. But when people say all sexual assault is traumatic, well, I know that isn't right either. Except for some people i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:09 PM
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I'm not talking about assault. I'm talking about rape. These a statistics on rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:01 PM
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In real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:45 PM
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So you felt like all those women could physically over power you if they wanted? When you said no or to stop you were in fear for your life or that they might genuinely rape you? I've been raped. I was easily over powered, thrown around like a rag doll, brutally beaten, and penetrated against my will then dumped on the side of the road. It was inconceivably traumatic and was most certainly NOT "just sex I didn't want and not that bad"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:44 PM
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1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. That's a low percentage to you? Source: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:37 PM
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Weird. It's how most people I know found their long term partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 05:17 PM
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Really? My friends and i always set up our guy friends. It's literally how I met my husband. We were in our mid 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:30 AM
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I'd work out, have tons of hobbies to pair with a non-judgemental, carefree, and friendly personality. Career can be optional within the right crowd. I'm 5'6" and my ex was a few inches shorter than me. He was short and stocky. Very nice torso. Didn't really work out but was very active. He had zero problems getting women, even with dreads and a beard. He was a bit of a hippy and an amazing artist. He started getting into the festival scene after we split and now has even less trouble finding wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:38 PM
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Eh, you think a rich woman who can't consent, especially while medicated and potentially having dementia and is said to be so mentally unwell she can't take care of herself, have access to her own money, or do anything without permission etc etc, is the one taking advantage of a sane man with all rights and freedoms intact. Yeah... I'm not the wrong one here. You sound like the type of guy to find a passed out drunk girl at a party and say it's not rape because she didn't say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:46 PM
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Yes it is true. I've literally never met a virgin woman who wasn't holding out for a virgin man to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:33 PM
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Except they aren't just legal issues. They are human rights issues. You are blinded by your misogyny if you think a person with zero freedom, zero rights, and zero bodily autonomy has an advantage over someone with all their rights and freedoms intact simply because they're a young adult and she's older.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:28 PM
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She has NO rights, she has ZERO power. He holds 99% of the power simply because he has rights and she does not. Huge power imbalances can exist regardless of age.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:19 PM
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She. Doesn't. Get. To. Choose. Her. Relationships. Fucking duh. She does NOT get choices. What exactly are you missing? Her dad picks and chooses who she hangs out with. If she wants to see someone she has to ask permission. If she wants to go on a car ride with her bf, she has to ask him permission. Her dad has been known to get rid of backup dancers because she was getting to close with them. He didn't like that. He does NOT want people on her side. Hell, even the smallest of choices she doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:14 PM
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Of course it is. Why would he allow Britney to date anyone that might poison her against him, who might advocate for her and help her get free? She also wants babies and marriage which he won't allow, which is even more fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:31 AM
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And you're ignoring the fact that she has ZERO AGENCY because of your misogyny. How can she have power over someone else if she has no power. She's not legally allowed to make any choices for herself or her life. Her father has claimed she has dementia (which I don't believe), but if he's true, how does it look for a young man to date a rich older woman with zero agency and dementia?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:27 AM
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She's got an IUD implanted in her what's the worst that could happen Are you genuinely asking what's the worst thing that could happen after a woman has been penetrated against her will and a medical device inserted?! It's extremely disturbing that you'd even think to say that. But if you actually want facts (going to ignore the mental side effect of being sexually assaulted since that seems quite obvious), here goes: IUDs can cause infections, extreme pain, chronic bleeding, perforation of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:19 AM
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I know he's not. That's not to say he doesn't have any control or sway over how things could go for her. Her father picks and chooses who she's allowed to spend time with after all. The father must like him to allow them to be together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:07 AM
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You're sick.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:02 AM
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Of course I would. I have morals and a conscience. This isn't quite the same thing. I used to work with old folks, a lot of men (mostly home care). You can bet on the fact that if i thought any kind of abuse (financial or otherwise) was going on, I reported the hell out of it. If I thought a daughter was taking advantage of dear old dad, I'd say something just as quick if I thought a son was taking advantage of his mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:02 AM
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There is something wrong with you, like legit seriously wrong with you if you can't acknowledge the power imbalance is in his favor. She has ZERO agency. She can't even paint her cabinets without permission. She has birth control implanted inside her body without her consent. Can you at least acknowledge how horrendously vile that is? There is no hypocrisy, he's 27!! Very few people would care if a 27 year old woman dated a man in his mid to late 30s. When I was 25ish I briefly dated a guy who w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:52 AM
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She has zero agency. It has everything to do with it. She doesn't even get to pick who she hangs out with. She has to ask permission to do anything. She can't even paint her cabinets without permission... Which she was denied. She has an IUD in her body against her will. She is forced to take meds that make her feel drunk, etc etc. If a young woman was dating a rich man with zero agency, id be very very concerned for HIM, not her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:43 AM
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I imagine she didn't even get to really choose him. Her father picks who she can and can't see. I doubt she has much wisdom or experience since she's been trapped for the last 13 years doing whatever everyone else wants. She literally has an IUD inside her body against her will, has no choice what meds she takes, or what doctors she goes to, and was forced to preform when she didn't want to and even with a high fever. He likely has much more control over her than vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:39 AM
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She has like zero agency tho, like legally. She isn't allowed any control over her body or her life, what do you really expect her to do to an adult man?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:32 AM
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Yes. Considering her circumstances and how she doesn't even have rights to her own body, he likely has much MUCH more power over her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:30 AM
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I must've missed the memo. I'm married. Never got a wedding party 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:30 PM
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I'd ask him why the fuck he's powdering his face after putting moisturizer on. Id be genuinely confused. I wouldn't think he was gay tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:56 PM
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I had a friend that was like 110lbs max. Probably thinner. At the very end she maybe looked a little bloated.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:48 PM
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Are you actually going to sit there and tell me if you saw a pic of a vagina you'd know exactly how it would feel? I can't look at a dick and tell what it feels like. I also don't know what feels good or doesn't until I experience it. When I saw big dude I had absolutely zero clue it would hurt as much as it did. It was literally the second time having sex in the 6 years id been diagnosed. The first one was with the guy who ghosted and it lasted all of 5 minutes and was painful too, granted tole…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:33 PM
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It seems to me like you're downplaying your feelings No. By asking him what his penis size is. I think you're under the false impression that all dicks feel the same (if the same size). This isn't the true at all. I also don't think you know anything about ic/painful bladder syndrome if you think asking a guy his size will at all be an indicator of whether or not it'll be possible. It has to do with girth, shape, curve etc. There is no way of knowing unless trying. He was big, stupidly hard, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:52 PM
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Ok, fine you got your heartbroken once Nope. I got my feelings hurt. I didn't love him. I just liked him. It's not like I cried over him Yeah I really just don't believe this argument How do you suppose i figure out if a guys dick is compatible with my vagina without putting it inside me first? He was legit too big. Sex was HORRIFIC. Not because he was bad but because it was so fucking painful because of how big he was. He didn't have a monster dick either. It was just BIG and I could not. We tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:17 AM
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I didn't get my heart broken multiple times. The system caused my feelings to get hurt once. I'd say that's a success. Also if I didn't have my system and uses yours, I would have stayed with a guy 11 months longer that id have wanted to (sexually incompatible), which would have caused me to miss the window where I met my husband. I'd potentially be much worse off if I followed your rules. Id also be without my son which is not something I'd ever give up. I'd rather go through a thousand heartbr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 05:27 PM
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You may not be homophobic (unless you think homosexuals are mentally ill too) but you do seem transphobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 05:10 PM
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I'd say it's less to do with fun and more to do with comfort and things feeling like how they should. I could be wrong, it's just impression I've gotten from the conversations I've had with the trans folk I know. And Yes, trans people have to go through a mental evaluation and lots of therapy before they can begin their transition with hormones and surgery. At least that's how it is here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:25 PM
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One likes dressing up for fun and the other has gender dysphoria, the treatment for which is often transitioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:16 PM
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You realize I've been married for years, right? My system worked. Are you a married woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:47 PM
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I have ic/bladder pain syndrome which more often than not makes sex agony. I've gone years and years without sex because of it, even my husband has at times gone upwards of year without simply because it causes me too much pain. Plus, afterwards, it can make me feel like (not actually have) a raging UTI for days after. So quite frankly, when I feel capable of it and it doesn't hurt, and I'm with a guy I trust, I'm going to indulge myself. That guy was the first guy id slept with in over 2 and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 12:49 PM
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The problem is I ain't no nun. I want to jump his bones. I want to suck his dick. I simply could not last a year, not even six months. Plus I believe in sexual compatibility. I don't want to waste a year of my life getting all emotionally entangled only to then have sex and figure out this simply is not going to work. Also, my husband proposed on our one year anniversary and it was perfect! That sure as shit wouldn't have happened if I had made him wait. I'm not saying ladies shouldn't make guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:39 AM
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Eh, I put out much faster for a couple other guys and they stuck around. I think it was a shitty him thing, not a man thing. If a guy truly likes a girl he'll stick around whether she makes him wait a year or two days. It was probably about the same timeline for my husband (although he hadn't met any of my family and there was no chatting through texts since he hates texting), and what do you know, he's my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:14 AM
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Be was by no means a chad/alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 01:14 AM
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He wasn't hot. He was chubby, balding, gap toothed, and wore really thick glasses. I also think he was possibly on the autism spectrum. Needless to say, he wasn't smooth at all. I kinda thought his awkwardness was cute, though. Plus we talked for hours every day through text. Like he told me sooo much personal stuff. I told him a lot too. I felt like I really knew him. He had a good relationship with his baby momma, no drama. So I saw no red flags in that area. I would've have no issue dating si…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 01:11 AM
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My son was diagnosed with ventriculomegaly at his 20 week anatomy scan. Basically had it been severe he'd potentially never be able to eat or walk or talk. He'd have been severely disabled. I would have had an abortion. But it would have been closer to 23 weeks. At 21 weeks (the soonest they could get me in) I had a level 2 ultra sound where things looked pretty good. Had it been bad we would have got for a fetal MRI. That and getting the results would have taken probably another week, and if th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 01:02 AM
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Nah. In my early 20s I couldn't find a guy willing to date me (had a bunch of health issues). I had about a 5 year dry spell. Could I have found NSA sex, sure. But I didn't want that. I also went to college before I got sick. Definitely no dates or orbiters. I eventually met my bf during that time from a dumb desperate add I posted on craigslist (back when personals were a thing). The post wasn't even about a relationship, just wanted to go out and party a bit with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 12:46 AM
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I'm very obviously not talking about the women who regularly have casual sex just for the hell of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 11:48 PM
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I was mostly referring to my friends experiences, but I'll tell my story: I was an idiot. He was the first guy interested in me in YEARS. Interested beyond sex (so I thought). We'd hung out a bunch with people around. We only had about three real dates. And one of them was a big thanksgiving dinner that my dad was present for. I count this as a date since he surprised me with flowers. We'd known each other for about a month. I even got my dad to hire him when his roof started leaking (dude was a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 11:46 PM
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Why do women want majority to full child custody, yet demand child support? I will only speak on behalf of the women I know. They wanted full custody because the dad shouldn't be alone with the kids (because drugs, too much alcohol, abuse, etc). However, none of that negates someone's financial responsibility when it comes to their kids. How are men 50% responsible for pregnancy when it's her body, her choice Because pregnancy is 50% his fault. She can't get pregnant on her own. He is responsibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 11:07 PM
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How do women get pregnant from a rape if they have 100% control of their body? They don't? Plus time is of the essence. When I was beaten and brutally raped, I couldn't stop him from penetrating me, let alone ejaculating inside me. When I was dumped on the side of the road I ran screaming all the way home. I think my neighbors called the cops. I remember being in such a frazzled mental state I couldn't even figure out how to open the gate to get into my yard (I lived in a basement suite so the d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 09:56 PM
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It is when they say it's not casual, that they want to see and get to know you more, etc etc, then ghost you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 09:41 PM
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2.)Have you ever had multiple men trying to talk/date/sleep with you at once? Have you ever dated multiple guys at once? No to all of the above. I even had a 5ish year dry spell in my early 20s where I couldn't get dates. I'm sure if I had posted online asking for NSA sex I could have gotten some, but ew, no. 3.)Those who are in relationships, was there other men trying to get with you before you finally chose your BF? I'm married. It was just him. 4.)To flip this, have you ever dated or had int…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:23 AM
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It's almost like she regretted her decisions once she got to really know him and lived with him long term. Also, she didn't really want a second, they were practically back to back (he wanted a boy). She was very much manipulated into it. He was the sort to give ultimatums like, 'If you don't do x, i won't do y' but they were way over the top. Like, 'if you don't do all the dishes and all the cooking and all the cleaning then you're a lazy useless mother and I'm going to leave with the kids and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:39 PM
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I'm going to have to pass. Thanks for the offer though. How thoughtful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:05 AM
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A teacher saw it happen and he quite literally screamed at me to pull up my pants (like i wasn't already doing that as fast as humanly possible). He took me to the office where I then told the principal exactly what happened. The principal brought the guy in the room with me and asked if I thought he did anything wrong and if he should be punished. I obviously said no. So I was sent home for the day after a rather stern talking to. I honestly have no idea if he felt bad. I mean, at the time I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:42 AM
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Wouldn't know. Never had one. For one guy I probably could have been labelled whatever the female equivalent of an orbiter is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 07:19 PM
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In my experience no. Although it's highly unlikely anybody was ever jealous of me. Nevertheless, I was severely bullied all throughout school. Then a bit at work and even into motherhood. I had a terrible birth experience and was labelled a liar or that I must have deserved it amongst other moms, so they were quite vicious. I was heavily excluded from mom's groups in my area. 99% of the time boys/men are perfectly happy to join in with the bullies. I had guys that would follow me home after scho…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 07:06 PM
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About 4-5 years in my early 20s. I had a bunch of health issues (still do), and couldn't find a guy willing to look past them. For the first year of that I was also really overweight. Got down to 115 from 235 in about a year, maybe a bit less. For context my health issues can prevent PIV sex. So if I'm having a bad time I will sometimes have to go without for long periods of time. My husband is a saint and has gone over a year without PIV before.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 05:53 PM
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Nope. That's like blaming the person who got t-boned by a drunk driver. They shouldn't have gone out for a drive knowing there might be reckless drivers out there. The only person at fault is the guy who gave it to her.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 03:34 PM
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If only.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 02:01 AM
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My husband isn't bald or anything like that, but when I met him he was incredibly fit and had glorious abs and glutes. His arms were super sexy too. I like thick forearms, plus they were hard as a rock, just incredibly masculine. He's skinny fat now. While objectively speaking he's technically less attractive than he was, I'm actually not any less attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 01:48 AM
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Definitely too much. I don't like super skinny dudes like that. Also don't like hairless dudes. He would probably look good with more padding and some fuzz.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:39 PM
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If she has no home, no clothes, no job, is sick, can't get anywhere, is starving, etc, she can't properly take care of the kids. Alimony is to help her take care of herself (which enables her to help her kids). Sorry if I didn't make that clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 11:04 PM
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I personally don't think it's gay. Personally, genitals are irrelevant to me, but I love masculinity. Particularly people who present and look male. I'd prefer a dick, but if my husband just so happened to be a trans FtM, it wouldn't have changed anything. If a guy is attracted to feminine women and meets his dream girl, finds out she has a dick, and decides it doesn't matter. I don't think it's gay. Kinda just makes think of someone not caring about a flaw their partner might have. Like if they…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 10:31 PM
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Child support is for the kids, not the mom. A mom wouldn't be spending child support on food for herself, clothes for herself, transportation for herself, schooling for herself, medical expenses for herself, etc. I'm not opposed to child support going to things like housing, water/electrical bills, since that's obviously a necessity for kids, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 10:15 PM
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She needs to be able to adequately take care of herself and her kids (during the days she has them). Can you get a home that houses 3 (a mom and two kids) on min wage though? Where I live 500 square foot 1bed apartments are like $1800 a month. So my guess is no. They also absolutely will not rent 1 bed apartment to someone with kids because of legal/insurance reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 08:15 PM
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So with that logic, you don't think house cleaners, personal chefs, and baby sitters/nannies should be paid?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 08:10 PM
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What if neither did anything wrong but they just don't want to be together anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 08:07 PM
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Personal choice. I don't think it matters. I changed my last name to my husband's when we married because I wanted the same last name as him. Seemed more familial that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 08:02 PM
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So if a man marries a woman who makes more and has more assets, he should be the one to change his last name?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 08:00 PM
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Yes. I think from an outside perspective my husband is pretty average. He works retail, is 5'6", and my shoulders are even wider than his. I think he's got a really handsome face though, at least in my opinion. In no way do I feel like I settled. I feel beyond blessed. I feel extremely lucky. Sometimes (last night this happened) where he's just doing whatever he's doing while I watch and I just feel overwhelmed with emotion. Like, he's just so handsome, so perfect, such a great father, works so …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:48 PM
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This is what I don't get. Do these guys just not leave their home? I can walk outside any day of the week and see plain or even ugly guys in relationships, not all of them are with plain or ugly girls either. It completely varies. Just a stroll through my local Walmart I see average and even downright ugly, even ugly obese dudes in relationships. I've also dated guys I haven't been all that attracted to, not out of pity but because they were genuinely interesting and we had the same life goals. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:24 PM
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I'm not sure how you got from my comment that I believe I speak for most women or that I think my views aren't a bit of an anomaly. I doubt very much that most women would be perfectly fine if their husband wound up being trans.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 11:56 PM
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It's irrelevant to me. I've dated effeminate-ish men. I'm pretty much attracted to both ends of the spectrum. I've gotten to the point where I'm pretty comfortable with gender as well. For example, if my husband were to suddenly came out as trans I don't think id feel much of a loss as long as they still wanted to be with me. These traits consist of aggressiveness(sometimes pushy), emotionless or emotional mastery, and having the drive to go from woman to woman. My husband has none of these trai…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 06:30 PM
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100% yes. At least I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 05:20 PM
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Lol, used up because she'd slept with only one guy before him... All right... Sure... Sweet guy could have his own spawn if he wanted them. She's only been asking for another baby for like 5 years now. Also, Chad and my friend split custody 50/50. Sweet guy doesn't really involve himself too much in all the parenting. He just gets to be the fun one. Considering my friend used to break down crying (before she got the guts to leave chad), saying just thinking about having sex with Chad made her fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 05:05 PM
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Except there aren't people longing for YOU as an individual. They are longing to treat you like the trash they see you as and use you as a human flesh light. You'd be a hole, nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:21 AM
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This is a 10/10 face to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 08:01 PM
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Females perspective: the woman is gorgeous. The man while not ugly, I'm not at all attracted. It's just a hard no from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:10 PM
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You didn't ask me, but just adding my opinion. I personally don't think so. I just googled young JG. He has a pretty average looking face to me. Some angles he even looks a bit goofy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:08 PM
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'Cuck' doesn't want one of his own. She's been trying to convince him for years lol. Kids split their time 50/50 with mom and bio dad. As much as I loathe the guy, can't claim he's a deadbeat dad. I've never seen him be anything other than doting when it comes to his kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 05:21 PM
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Quality over quantity. He jumps from fat crazy single mom to fat crazy single mom. Moves one into his home, it lasts 6 months, then onto the next. I think most average guys can get with fat crazy single moms, they just aren't desperate enough. Sweet guy grew up ultra religious. They dated for MONTHS until they slept together. I think they lived together before he was willing 😂 she was his first. He was also only 19, so it wasn't like it was odd for him to be a virgin. Sweet guy was never gonna b…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 05:15 PM
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So? Your point is some women go on tinder for validation? I don't doubt it, but it is by no means the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:53 PM
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Nope. You could maybe conclude a certain subset of women who use tinder view men superficially. However, that doesn't mean they're as picky in person. When everything is on paper, you can easily say yes or no. But when having to get to know someone in person, it's quite different.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:51 PM
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First guy was definitely NOT an alpha. Asshole, yes, alpha no. He'd have 100% been black pilled if he wasn't stupidly good looking. Everything about his personality was cringe, like the sort to be into my little pony and larping (nothing wrong with larping, he'd just sword fight with his friend in their shitty homemade armor at the park with everyone watching while shouting the lamest lines, it was just a little strange). She got pregnant the first week they were dating (they were teens and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:49 PM
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I'm bored. Kid's asleep. I could use some amusement. They are welcome to state their opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 03:12 AM
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Please post stats on most women doing this. Neither me nor anyone I know have posted a bikini pic before, not that there is anything wrong with that. I personally don't think women should be called 'thirst traps' for posting pics of their day at the beach or by the pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:47 AM
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And you think vast majority of women are on tinder?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:26 AM
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It's huge. Literally the capital of my province. Perhaps you're just slumming it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:24 AM
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Post stats that most men don't get the 'privilege' of having a woman attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:56 AM
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If by cave, you mean the real world, then sure. Most women aren't posting risqué pics on Instagram. Get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:53 AM
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Nope. Everyone's pages is just babies or travelling or home remodels. Or they're like mine and have zero pics and they just use the account for scrolling, snooping, and wasting time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:34 AM
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He didn't make the first move. I'd known him through a friend for about 8 years. Only saw him a handful of times over those years though. He never said more than a few words to me during those times. I got a mutual friend to give him my number since I wasn't brave enough. Told her to tell him to text me if he's at all interested. He texted. Then ghosted, lol. Then randomly started texting again a few weeks later. I asked if he wanted to get together. He said sure. We met at Starbucks, talked for…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:31 AM
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Sounds like you hang around a shallow group of people. I'd advise against that. I've never once met a woman who posts pics like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:20 AM
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I'm married now, thanks. My standards couldn't have gotten any lower at that point, which might have been part of the problem. Quadrupled them and went after a guy I genuinely wanted, which landed me my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:18 AM
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This happened with a friend of mine. She was with a Chad. Had two kids super young. Chad was an insufferable asshole, though. I didn't talk to her for a long time because of him (he said disgusting things to me). She left him for a skinny balding guy that made half the money he did. He was sweet and nice and just an all around good dude. They've been together for 8ish years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:15 AM
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It most certainly can be. I went through about a 5 year relationship dry spell.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:11 AM
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I'm confused why you think you've seen the majority of women on OF, tinder, etc. As a woman, I've only seen a very vocal minority enjoy the attention. Some don't even enjoy it, it's just a means to an end.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:06 AM
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I'm not the straightest (I like butch women) but I'm married to a man, so I'll answer. Don't know what's up with the other women here. I notice hot guys all the time. If he's shaped nicely and shirtless, even a bit hairy... 🥵 I've never masturbated to someone I know or just some random on the street. I kind of just fantasize about scenarios not involving myself. It actually turns me off if I try to insert myself into the fantasy, probably because I have abysmal self-esteem. With that said, I oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 11:41 PM
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Odd how you think telling someone you're a transphobe is an insult to them..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 11:08 PM
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I've seen guys get hair pieces and it can radically change how they look. Like a 5 on good day to a very good looking 7 or 8. Hair can make a huge difference. People are saying just shave it, but I don't think they've seen just how real and good these hair pieces look. I'm a balding woman (because my health is shit). My hair is stringy, incredibly thin, and it's receded. It looks awful by itself. I wear a hair topper when going out. It just clips in. Friends/family that have no idea I'm balding …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 04:03 PM
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You can do that with a hair piece too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 03:55 PM
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Except when it comes to cops, it's not a slim possibility, especially in the USA. If I was American there is no way in hell I'd deal with them unless it was literally life and death, and even then I'd second guess it. I'm in canada, and while I had one good run in with a cop when I was quite young. I have had two bad run ins with them personally. And a bunch of other events I was either there for or told about where cops were horrible. I watched a cop arrest my native friend because we were in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:41 PM
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I have no idea what car accidents have to do with a woman being raped, then abused by the police.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:00 PM
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It may not be common, but it's unfortunately not abnormal. I've talked to many women with similar stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:03 AM
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There's really no point. After being raped, I was dumped on the side of the road and quite literally ran screaming all the way home. I lived in a basement suite and was so distraught I couldn't even figure out how to open the big wooden side gate that led to my door. I remember banging on it, screaming for my boyfriend to come out. I assume that's when a neighbor saw me and called the cops. I eventually got through, got into my place, my bf all confused. I felt beyond disgusting, was beaten and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:14 PM
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Nothing. People are entitled to their opinions. They aren't entitled to people agreeing with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:21 PM
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I suppose your point a view isn't either. Seems biased and haven't really witnessed it. So it's probably just bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:20 PM
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Nope. I know plenty of women who've asked guys out. Is it as common? Not likely. But I was the one that pursued my husband. Granted, we never did and never have done basic dates like going to a restaurant. I have one memory of him buying me a frappuccino around the time we started dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:03 PM
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For the same reason that she's entitled to her standards but I'm not. Except you are, just not everyone is going to agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:57 PM
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I'll be honest, I don't hate at all men. I'm happily married to a wonderful man and I know there are plenty more wonderful men out there. There's just some kinds of men I really dislike, the type that I wouldn't even lump the fourth ex in with. I feel zero animosity towards the last one, probably because I loved him. In the end I felt like I wasn't good enough for him, which is probably true. Anyways, am I over it? That's a hard question to answer. I'd say I've long since moved on, but there's s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 11:28 PM
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Nah. The one and only time I've witnessed this in the wild was with a friend. She was with a chad and had a kid with him. He was fucking intolerable. I didn't talk to her for a year because of just how awful he was. She got knocked up when she was 19 like the first week they started seeing each other. He was a huge bully and made fun of me and my looks, and basically everyone he felt beneath him. So, yeah, distanced myself. She put up with him for a few years then left him for a balding tooth pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:51 PM
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Or you're just wrong. While some women (like men) feel like they've settled, I doubt that's the case for most. I've never met a woman who said they felt like they settled except for a select few that had an oops baby and now feel stuck with the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:34 PM
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So if you aren't dating/marrying the hottest woman you've ever seen, you feel like you're settling? Perhaps this is all just men projecting. It wouldn't surprise me. Personally, I've seen countless men more physically attractive than my husband. He's my height and my shoulders are even wider than his. Never have I felt like I've settled because there are taller, more muscular guys out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:48 PM
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The less attractive woman won't feel like she settled. It's a thought that likely won't ever even cross her mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:43 PM
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There's literally nothing wrong with being a 23 year old virgin. A very vocal part of society is sex obsessed and wants you to think otherwise. Never having dated anyone is a bit questionable, but I've known a few people who just weren't interested in that sort of thing until they were older. Sounds like you have been, though. So is raises the question, why do you think you haven't dated anyone before? What are some of your flaws that might discourage women from being interested? You say you wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:05 PM
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Probably because he's doing nothing. He's a lazy mooch that's contributing nothing to society. Stay at home moms are raising the next generation. They are caring for children and taking care of the home, making sure everyone, including her husband's (and often excluding herself), needs are met. The husband may be earning all the money, but she's not lazy and is likely working just as hard as him which has the effect of making her husband's life a lot easier. He rarely cleans, doesn't do his own …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 04:09 PM
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The only way to know whether it was a good way for her to be is to determine if her life is better for it It wasn't. She got fired, then sued. ​ I mean who gives a fuck about losing your friendship Considering she's tried reaching out multiple times throughout the last couple years (through my family since she's blocked), plus the fact that my husband works with our cousin (her and I are distantly related), and that cousin has told my husband how she misses me and complains about being lonely...…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 10:20 PM
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At no point did you prove me wrong, just more right. So, yeah, It'S EuGeniCs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 09:10 PM
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Then your point is moot. You can't back it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:13 PM
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I don't dislike men because of their gender. I dislike them because of their behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:12 PM
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It's not really. It's a good strategy if you don't want people to like or give a fuck about you. It's good for someone who wants to live an isolated life. If those who matter to the douche are good people, they won't put up with someone who treats others poorly. They will keep their distance or perhaps lose contact entirely. One of my best friends growing up turned into a douche in her early 20s. She was more of a sister to me than my own sister. Then she started telling me about the awful ways …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:10 PM
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Unless the woman is herself a douche, she's very unlikely to put up with a man that's douchey and treats others like trash, even if he's nice to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:00 PM
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You'd basically want the economy to collapse. Roughly 4 million babies are born a year in the USA. Imagine if all of that had to go through IVF. There would be years upon countless years on a waiting list. Not only that IVF sometimes takes multiple rounds and isn't always successful. The birthrate would drastically decline. It's already a problem now. It would become a dire problem. but they CAN be reversed Nope, not always. As I mentioned. Pregnancy after reversal ranges 30-70% So not great. yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 06:56 PM
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It's super simple. He goes by a schedule and plans his days ahead of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 04:56 PM
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It's not eugenics Are being purposefully ignorant, like genuinely? Like are you fucking with me? I'm being serious. IVF where i live is expensive. It cost my cousin over $15,000 8 years ago. They only had to do one round, fortunately. It can take many for some. How do you expect everyone to pay for that? You can't (and that is excluding the cost of the vasectomy reversal). So that is the epitome of is eugenics. Only the rich can breed. Vasectomies have a 2% rate of complications 2% is incredibly…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 04:50 PM
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If the man was a genuine risk of endangering a woman he wouldn't be allowed out. He can live his life in a facility of some sort. If he's shown zero aggression or sexual delinquency, he can go out when chaperoned with an armed female guard (which he pays for with his own money). You can forget about cutting womens charities. Women are extremely unrepresented (Texas is proof of that), so we'd be pumping more money into that than ever before. Healthcare is all based all around men. Hell, even cras…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:50 PM
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Personally, I'd never let my husband get a vasectomy because I've read too many horror stories of long term disabling pain, and not just upon ejaculation. It is not a risk I'd be willing to take on the men in my life. I especially wouldn't want to inflict that kind of risk upon young men, many of which would likely want kids in the future. Vasectomies are considered permanent. You can try to reverse it, but pregnancy rates post reversal vary widely between 30-70% You're basically advocating for …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:31 PM
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You care enough to point out the perceived hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:18 PM
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I can assure you it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:43 AM
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You seem irrationally angry and very hung up on the fact that I don't generally like men. Also it's night. Children sleep at night. This is the only time I get to not be productive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:43 AM
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Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 01:37 AM
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What in the actual fuck is this nonsense?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 01:17 AM
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So how is the man punished for his sin and misbehavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 01:16 AM
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I was literally screaming no when beaten and raped. At no point did those pleas for him to stop mean yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 01:07 AM
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Poor thing. Look at you all paranoid and triggered.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 01:04 AM
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Men should be chaperoned since they're the problem. Perhaps men should also have a curfew so it's safe for women to walk at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 01:02 AM
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Every time I've needed to say no and said it, the guy didn't listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:59 AM
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No, I'm just unwilling to play your pathetic games. If you have something to say don't be a coward that beats around the bush and uses 'sarcasm.' Just say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:53 PM
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I was agreeing with you without wanting to argue. First you said this. There is something called sarcasm. Now you're saying that. So which is it? It can't be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:14 PM
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You must be agreeing with someone else because I never said what you claimed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:47 AM
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Then what's your excuse for improperly reading my first one? Or are you just being emotional?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:22 AM
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Are you illiterate?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 01:58 AM
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I used to be really into mens rights and a bit of a pick me. I was very anti-feminist and had a general loathing for other women since I believed all the bullshit men spout here. I'm even banned from some feminist subreddits. I was also a bit of an incel sympathizer, too. Then I started conversing with men here and they were pretty awful to me even when I was on their side. I really started to critically analyze their behavior and the things they were saying. Noticed how enraged and delusional t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 11:42 PM
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Generally speaking, anything above 48V is not minor electrical work because poor earthing kills children. Do I really need to repeat myself? I said MINOR. Homeowners are allowed to do MINOR electrical work. Why aren't you understanding this? you are dishing out bad information. Yet, I'm the one that isn't wrong. Weird. If I did this as a guy, I'd be called a cowboy If you say so. Cowboys aren't seen as bad thing here, so I don't really understand the harm in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 12:32 AM
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Landscaping isn't renovation You can absolutely renovate a yard. Renovate definition: to restore to good condition; make new or as if new again Replacing a kitchen requires plumbing It requires minimal plumbing if the layout stays the same. A home owner could do it. You cannot resize a window frame without a permit Okay? At no point have I mentioned resizing. I talked about upgrading from one pane ton two, not enlarging the size. High voltage electrical work more than 48V requires an electrician…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 12:00 AM
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Minor building works isn't what I'd call a renovation My mistake. I didn't realize tearing out an entire kitchen and replacing the cabinets and floors, etc, was considered minor and not a renovation. Thank god I had a man like you explain this to me. I'm so dumb. You don't upgrade windows, you replace them And here I thought I upgraded my windows when I switched out the single panes for a double, stopping moisture from gathering. I'm glad I have you to properly explained this to me. I must have …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 04:48 PM
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I'm confused why you think all renovations require practically tearing things down to the studs. Sounds like you don't know what you're talking about. Where I live you don't need approval to knock down certain walls, to do your floors, upgrade windows, paint walls, tile work, change cabinets, landscaping, etc.. For minor building, plumbing, and electrical issues, you don't need a professional or approval either.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:59 PM
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I don't know anybody into selfies and/or Instagram. My sister used to post pictures of landscapes on FB as she travelled the world. That was a bunch of years ago, though. She did completely renovate her house all on her own however. By that I mean, she didn't hire anyone or get any sort of substantial amount of help from a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 01:00 PM
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I've literally never met a woman who bought a house who didn't work on it as much as the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:38 AM
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Literally where my condo building is used to be woods that I played in as a kid. Every area that I played in when I was young is gone. It's either condos or houses so close together you can practically lean outside your window and touch your neighbors house. Deforestation is a huge problem here. There's protests all the time. The lake I mentioned that's surrounded by houses used to be all forest. We'd smoke pot in the bushes while dirt bikes zoomed past. Nothing like that anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:59 PM
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I WISH my toddler slept several times a day. He naps about an hour (2 if I'm lucky) in the early afternoon. He does sleep good at night. From about 8 to 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 09:38 PM
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As I mentioned, where I live if you want to be around trees, it's going to cost you over a mil. I live in the cheapest area of my city. It's the outskirts, but there's still no forest. It's packed with like 6 storey condos. Then further out is houses all crammed together. Still no forest. Then a ways past that is the hobby farms. Then past that you'll find some forest. You'd have to bike a couple hours to get to a wooded area, but it'll be packed with people that drive there from the city to hik…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 05:23 PM
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To be fair, most women in relationships are on antidepressants too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 04:14 PM
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I'm genuinely curious how old your kids are. I just have the one and he's a toddler. At no point in his life has there ever been a time where I could nap twice a day for hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 04:11 PM
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After chores we played outside, building treehouses, playing soccer with our friends and exploring the world around us. This is the dream, but it's mostly just that nowadays. I personally don't know anyone that can afford that kind of lifestyle (besides my sister who is much older and got into the housing market before it boomed). The average cost of a home in my country is $716,000. Where I live, small fixer uppers with tiny yards in a suburban area will be listed for 750ish. However they will …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 04:02 PM
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Oops, it's all condensed. They all had their individual line. I fixed it. It's two phones. Not cars. We have one old car from 2005. Edit: plenty of stay at home mom's need a vehicle, btw. They need to take their kids places, school, appointments, extracurriculars, etc. Plus they need to go places, too. I'm just not doing any of that because of the pandemic. We are also hoping to move eventually, which would mean needing another vehicle since I'd be trapped! There would be zero public transport a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:59 PM
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I'm a married stay at home mom and to an extent, they aren't really wrong. Your man should be the one who knows you best, all your faults and otherwise. I learned the hard way that it was a waste of time to try to behave like a person that I'm not because once that persona begins to crack, he'll see it and feel like you've been playing games, creating a ruse, etc. That isn't to say you can't be submissive homemaker because that could very well be who you are and there's nothing wrong with that. …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 01:56 PM
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Yes and no. I'd have to ask for the money and try to justify spending it on myself when there's more important things that we could use. My husband can say no if he doesn't agree and honestly I hate trying to justify myself, so I just don't bother unless I really REALLY want something, and then I usually just add it to a wish list for things I want for xmas/birthdays. He makes around $2500 a month after taxes. So it's not like he's hoarding wealth. Monthly expenses... Mortgage for 1 bed 1 bath +…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 09:32 PM
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Not here. Mine is currently 2.69 (plus they can always go up and you should plan to have enough to pay the mortgage if they do). Also, our monthly income isn't a lot. Around $2500.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:37 PM
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As I mentioned fixer uppers are like $750,000+ I don't know about you, but I don't have 3 quarters of a mil to buy a run down house. If my husband and I sold our 1 bed condo, we'd have a pretty hefty down payment. It still wouldn't be enough that we could afford the mortgage payment on nice 2 bed condo though. Those are $500,000+
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:04 PM
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Zero dollars. I'm a stay at home mom and we aren't rich, so I don't have money for that sort of stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 06:55 PM
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It really is when kids are involved. Also, taking care of a toddler is 100% a 24/7 job. Just because I stay at home doesn't mean my husband gets to quit being a dad. On the weekends I'm not going to change every diaper, give every bath, read every book, make every meal, clean up the kid's mess every 20 min when there's a perfectly capable father around to help. That's my time to relax too. Also, when our kid was a baby I 'worked' both night and days. I put in a fuck ton of over time. I didn't ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 04:33 PM
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I don't think so. My kid has never been to daycare. It's ridiculously expensive here. Like $1400 a month for a shitty one. When I was working I only made a bit more than that a month while working insane hours, so not really worth it. Plus, I was physically and sexually and verbally abused at the day care I went to as a kid. So I'd prefer to avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:58 PM
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It should definitely be split on the evenings and weekends. My husband doesn't work 24/7, so why should I?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:49 PM
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There isn't really cheap houses where I live. You'd have to move to the other side of the country where jobs are like a 3 hour drive away from your home. A fixer upper here will run you like $750,000 or more, depending on how many rooms and lot size. We live in a one bedroom apartment 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:43 PM
1

I'm still confused. Resentful of who exactly? Just people in general? Married people?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 02:41 PM
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He is way too big for a high chair now. Plus we never really had the money for one. We had a bumble seat that I got from my cousin and he'd shriek in it since he hates being trapped (same issue we have with the car seat). He would just swipe the food off the tray or huck it across the room. I briefly borrowed a high chair from a friend just to see if it helped at all. Nope. Not even a little. Food was a real issue and he was under weight for awhile. So honestly we just started doing whatever it …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 02:39 PM
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I don't personally see any of that money. It goes into his account that I have zero access to. The only money I get is the money be transfers me for bills. If I want something for myself I have to ask and often times he'll say no. Expensive stuff like winter boots or good quality clothes, I ask from my mom for my birthday or Christmas. I worked health care. Like keeping elderly and severely disabled alive and well. I'd say it's about the same amount of stress, maybe even less than being a SAHM t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:04 AM
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Loneliness mostly. My husband is surrounded by work colleagues and friends all day. I haven't spent any time with an another adult besides my mom and husband since this whole pandemic started (for about 6 months I couldn't even see her). I've got a bunch of health issues, so can't really say fuck it and hang out with people who don't care about the gathering rules. Even before all this i didn't have many people to hang out with. After the kid everyone fell off the side of the earth, including fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 02:55 AM
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That's a laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:24 PM
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Babies/young toddlers and even some kids, absolutely cannot clean up after themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:23 PM
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Yeah, one person is extremely easy. There's pretty much no mess and no work. Just having my husband move in with me was an adjustment. Everything needs to be cleaned more. Instead of going a week between giving the tub a scrub down, it was now twice. It's basically double the work. Then add a toddler and it's pretty much never ending. Just because of snacks vacuuming and sweeping can be multiple times a day. Any tidying done he just trails behind me undoing it all, lol. Everything I clean up, li…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:22 PM
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My husband works a lot less (still 9 hours a day). Before he had time to work as much as they wanted, now he doesn't. He's salary, though. So it wasn't like he was getting paid to work all those extra hours anyways. However, he's a bit of a tornado. He leaves a trail behind himself where ever he goes. Just a coffee mug would be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:14 PM
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I should be asking you that question Okay, so you want to ask me, "Why do you equate being a good/nice guy with being a doormat?" I don't. I think anybody who doesn't have confidence/lacks a spine, or is desperate, is easily taken advantage of. Assholes can be taken advantage of. You think doormats are the only ones who get disrespected and taken advantage of by women? I think doormats (gender is irrelevant) are the kind of people who put up with those that walk all over them. Men have to put th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 09:24 PM
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They get disrespected, walked on and taken advantage of Why do you equate being a good/nice guy with being a doormat? You don't need to be an asshole to have standards and be able to see red flags. There is something else going on if a guy (or woman for that matter) puts up with that kind of treatment. Men can do everything else themselves Then why don't they? because what I described is "the ideal man" to most women. Speaking as woman who has spent the vast majority of my time around women, it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 07:32 PM
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Just because someone isn't 'exactly' equal doesn't mean that can't be treated like they are. Good/nice guys get this. Women want a man who is capable of doing all of the things that they can't do or don't want to do themselves Kinda like how men want a woman who is capable of doing all of the things that they can't do or don't want to do themselves. You know, like cooking and cleaning and taking care of the kids. "I want a man who defends me but will also let me influence and control him without…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 07:04 PM
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I don't think I understand. You think I hate men because my cousins are married?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 06:52 PM
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No, women don't want "an equal partner." Hard disagree. I'd say the majority of women do. I've personally never met a woman who didn't want to be seen as or treated like an equal. Women want someone who puts them at ease and whom they feel safe around. Sure. That doesn't mean they're not equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 05:02 PM
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Why do guys even think this? I can go to Walmart any day of the week at any time of the day and see countless ugly guys in relationships. I also have two really unattractive male cousins. Neither are fit or rich and they both have average looking wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 04:11 PM
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I think women want confident men. I also believe confident men can come off as somewhat dominant even if they aren't particularly. Kind confident men will go after what they want, stick up for themselves and feel protective of those they care for. Basically confident men have the good characteristics of a dominant man without the negative. A woman will have an equal partner instead of ego she has stroke and submit to. I don't know nor have ever met a woman who wants the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 03:51 PM
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50 shades of grey is kinky porn for women. I don't know about you, but I don't always want to actually indulge in the porn I watch. If I did, I'd want to be a man in a gay relationship getting my ass reamed. Out of countless women I know that read that book, only one has any true desire to take part in that lifestyle. She also hated the book because she is a part of that lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 03:43 PM
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I'm a mother. I don't think I am. I don't think he is either. We are both kind of stubborn, so if we disagree on something, it just doesn't happen. Like if I want to buy something or he wants something, and one of us says no, the purchase doesn't happen. I wanted a switch for like 3 years and he kept saying no. Basically, most things have to be a mutual agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:40 PM
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It's interesting you require me to believe you I don't. You've made it evident multiple times that you'd gone through my profile and that you know all about me, yet you seemed to have been missing some facts in which I'm likely to have mentioned before. That's why in a previous comment I was asking if you were aware, because it appeared you were ignoring parts of my life so you could make up whatever conclusion you wanted about me based on feelings, not facts. I'm trying to parse out your logic,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:25 PM
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If my wife did that it would be papers, immediately. Good. It would likely be in her best interest since you likely aren't worth the effort. Your loss, her gain. I'm glad you married someone ok with never having sex again Yes. This is the kind of person everyone should strive to marry since you never know when shit could hit the fan. No point in marrying someone who thinks getting laid is more important than their spouse. When I'm well enough we average a few times a week, but if his dick were t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:46 AM
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You realize i had surgery and was going for treatments (medicine put directly into my bladder every few weeks) before we were even married, right? He drove me 3 hours there and 3 hours back. You realize I couldn't even work and was in the worst of it when he proposed, right? You're aware that sex was so painful for me at one point we just didn't do it for the longest time (well over a year), right? Was I forcing myself then? Nope. Was he respectful and did we do lots of other stuff? Yup. Did he …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:21 AM
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Sounds like you should never get married since you'd leave if they got sick/chronically ill, had libido issues, etc. I guess morally it would be fine if you told them beforehand that the in sickness and health part of the vows are going out the window. good selector for asexuals No, because I'm not asexual. My husband can't even keep up with me at times, so an asexual is out of the question. nearly every man on the planet would either not be accepting of your issues (50%), ask for a hall pass to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:03 AM
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Yep. I think it's a definitely problem. More so when people marry someone who is healthy and then their partner gets sick. I married a guy who knew all my health issues, knew sex would be often be impossible for months at time, potentially longer, and he's fine with that. He's literally not once complained. We've had many talks and are very honest about everything. He's even said he could go forever without PIV as long as we still do other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 09:38 PM
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If sex is a prerequisite to a happy marriage, nobody with illnesses that hinders their sex life would be able to have a happy marriage. So I completely and utterly disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:16 PM
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I'm 5'6" so my bmi according to an online calculator is 25.8, which says I'm overweight. I would agree with you that I don't and have never had an ED since I could just eat if I wanted to. When I mention one meal a day, I'm talking like half a potato, an egg, and a carrot. I pack weight on FAST. So if I ate a regular sized meal the scale would either stay the same or go up. I always wanted it to go down. It was distressing to see it be the same. I definitely know well about fasting. I was 235lbs…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:13 PM
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I would never leave my kid alone with a stranger/baby sitter. I was abused in day care for years. So until they are old enough to understand what abuse is and how wrong it is, and they're able to get themselves out of the situation and call 911 (or me) for help... It's just not going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:45 AM
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Would you be angry that he never told you? Yes and no. I'm married so I'd be annoyed he kept something like this from me for so long. We've talked extensively about past relationships and whatnot, so I'd feel like he left out a rather large detail. Would you have expected him to tell you? Yes. Would you just figure that since he never showed signs of being violent toward you that he changed or it was a one off thing? It highly depends on the details he gave me. Obviously it's a one sided account…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:53 AM
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That's why I'm including all the women I've ever known or come across where we've discussed these things. It's not just me I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 11:24 PM
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No good girl, wife material sort of woman I know, in 2021 America, is going to sleep with a guy on the second or even third date. You're just into sluts, which is fine. Actually good, since most guys aren't around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 10:53 PM
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A lot of people have pointed out the disturbing trend of male circles getting weirdly violent and aggressive over girls having fun, maybe being a bit loud or annoying. This reminds me of a weird experience I had in college (it was a community college so you'd see the same people all the time). My friend and I had a huge crush on this one guy (PPD would call him a Chad). He was incredibly popular and everyone liked him. I'd never talked to him. Neither had she. We were losers. Anyways, we were wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 10:34 PM
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I don't see how.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:44 PM
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I wasn't talking about him there. Those were past relationships. Because of my heath issues my husband has gone without PIV for over a year with zero complaint. I'd say in the the beginning of the relationship I slept with him a lot when I didn't want to because I felt like I had to. I have ic/painful bladder syndrome, so sex can be beyond excruciating when I'm flaring. That pain and the horrid UTI like feeling can last days, sometimes weeks after sex. Even on good days when we have sex there ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:42 PM
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I haven't met them. But I don't spend my time around shallow whores either. So there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:20 PM
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I've mentioned my weight around here before and was told by many men how fat and disgusting that weight is and how they feel sorry for my husband because he's married to a pig that's let themselves go. So I'm not surprised my husband doesn't particularly enjoy it either. However, he has no idea that I used to starve myself to be thin. When I used to eat just once a day id save that meal to eat with him. I'm not sure how me instigating sex makes things worse. That's always how it's been.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:19 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:35 PM
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Problem is you're filtering out girls that aren't like that but would have been interested if you at least put in a minimal bit of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:58 PM
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Um, no. My husband is the the first guy I dated that I thought was incredibly good looking. He was also the first guy I dated that I really REALLY wanted to bang. However, there was no way I would have slept with him after only 3 dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:57 PM
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I'm very much married to a normal healthy person🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 03:38 AM
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If you have a point you're going to have to state it, otherwise I'm just going to assume you're lost and confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 03:01 AM
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Sure they can... If their genitals isn't their top priority. I wouldn't marry someone who's priority is sex. I want to be their priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 03:00 AM
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None. It's always felt weird to me. I just call my husband by his name.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:58 AM
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Yup. I took my toddler out for a walk the other day. We wear masks because we have to for our building, plus people don't know how to stay away. Like they'll be shoving your shoulders and shit to pass by you. Anyways, walked by a mid twenties dude and he spat as I passed him. It was in the opposite direction of me, but I still felt the spray of it hit my forearm which is level with my kids face. I was not pleased.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:09 AM
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Now that I think about it the only guys I've come across who were cheaters were actually still regularly getting it at home. I've not stumbled across guys in sexless relationships cheating. Not saying it doesn't happen. Just saying I haven't found it in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:01 AM
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Of course a sexless marriage can last. Just don't marry someone whose top priority is their genitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 12:58 AM
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Ah, my parents were older. My dad was 45 when he had me and I felt sad for my classmates/friends too. Their parents always seemed terribly immature and were never even half as involved as my dad was with me. My dad was more involved in my friends life than most their own dads. There was also always so much drama among their parents whereas my parents had none. As for my husband and I... Kids are super expensive here. Day care would be around 1400 a month. When I worked crazy horrible long hours …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 11:23 PM
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For both men and women physical stimulation can bring on arousal. Did I say it couldn't? I said I think women are more mental. I can only speak for myself, but if I am not mentally aroused and craving sex, then I will not get physically aroused. Touching does not turn me on, it will do the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 03:59 PM
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Maybe the day of. I personally haven't stumbled across another couple that every time they want to have sex they have to shower right before. It's more important for me, though. It's okay if he's had one in the last couple hours, but I can't get away with that. I have to scrub everything right before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 03:54 PM
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Why do you agree? I'm glad I waited until 29 to have my kid. There's no way in hell I'd change it if I could.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 02:37 PM
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I would think it's because (at least in my experience) the mood is a mental thing, whereas for men I think it might just be mostly physical. My head has to be in the right space for it or else my body will not follow. I've had lots of sex when I wasn't in the mood. It just means painful sex. It doesn't turn me on. It does the exact opposite actually and can even build some resentment. Sometimes I'd have a good cry after since I'd feel used. I will say that with my husband I instigate the majorit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 01:50 PM
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I have the opposite. My husband is the first man willing to take the time to get me off. He's also extremely compassionate and has no problem working around my bladder issues (like showering before sex and using lots of lube) to ensure I'm not in pain or get an infection. I didn't even know PIV could feel good before him. Before he came along it was either painful or felt like nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 01:35 PM
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I hate spontaneous sex since it often leads to me not getting off and it being painful since I'm not properly in the mood, plus a raging UTI.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 02:50 AM
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Because they're not in the mood for it. I don't like it either sometimes. There's times where I'm so far from in the mood getting touched by my husband or him being suggestive really does annoy me. It feels smothering almost. Can't explain why it happens, it just does. If I am in the mood and feeling playful, I love being groped by my husband, especially whole out and about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 12:50 AM
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I don't think I'd call it cheating, but it would make me a bit uncomfortable. I also asked my husband and he said as long as he knew about it he wouldn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 09:51 PM
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Are some men incapable of waiting? When I'm in the mood I'll send my husband sexy texts all day until he gets off work. Then we tease each other until the kid goes to sleep. Then we finally get to bang.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 08:26 PM
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About a year into our relationship I found out he'd been cheating on me when I went on our shared computer. He'd left his email open. As I went to exit I noticed an email from a dating site, so I ended up snooping. He'd hooked up with a few guys. When I confronted him about everything he didn't lie or deny anything. He cried a lot about being confused about his sexuality and not knowing how he feels. His mom was the epitome of a conservative helicopter mom. She was nightmare fuel. He never got a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 03:44 PM
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I was with a guy that cheated on me. He's literally one of the best people I've ever met. When we were 20ish he took care of me for over a year, paid for everything (we lived together). I was in and out of the hospital, having surgeries, extremely ill. He'd literally bathe me and towel me dry. He'd clean my surgical wounds and my catheter parts. If I was in the hospital he'd visit me before and after work. He'd make sure to be there at the right times so we could still watch our shows together. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 02:56 AM
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I'd prefer rampant cheating over living in that kind of brutal hellscape.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 12:25 AM
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That's some psycho shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 12:09 AM
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I think this had less to do with being a Chad and more to do with being just plain dumb and making terrible life choices. Ugly guys experience all that except vast swaths of girls (unless of course they're rich or talented in some way).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 05:39 PM
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Yeah. That's what I said. If you don't look like a cave troll and got your shit together, some parents will practically throw their daughters at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 04:34 PM
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Or just go to church. I've met countless girls like op describes since I used to be somewhat involved in that community.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 03:59 PM
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She never married him, but my 'step-dad' moved in when I was 9 or 10ish. My dad and him have mostly avoided each other except when they couldn't (holidays) and the few times they've helped each other with heavy yard work.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 11:51 PM
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So not enough vetting Then explain how you'd do it. Don't marry anyone that didn't go through dealing with a partner that had severe post partum depression It's extremely unreasonable to expect women to look for a partner who has had a partner who has experienced severe ppd on the off chance she gets it too. Not only that, most people don't want to start a relationship with single parents. Being a single parent is a giant red flag in and of itself. Please state some realistic options for vetting…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 08:02 PM
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the people I'm talking about had been in my life 5+ years. Some friends since I was a toddler. You should have seen the way they treated the friends that went through major hardship. I did. They didn't abandon them and were extremely supportive, but also those situations weren't forever or could be worked around. My illness is forever and severely impacts my life. Same as above. Vet better. How would you suggest I should have vetted for how my husband might react to me having severe postpartum d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 06:49 PM
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I think once you've known someone long enough you could try have a good guess at what they might do in a situation. I don't think you can know for sure unless you go through it with them. I had a few very close friends that I thought would have my back no matter what. I thought they were a huge support system of mine. BUT I'd never gone through anything major, then once I did (got sick and was in and out of the hospital, etc), they all disappeared off the face of the earth. I never heard from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 05:42 PM
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I think it's highly dependent on the divorce and the people involved. If they are mature, don't fight, courts aren't involved, I think it can go relatively smoothly. My parents are divorced. I think I was around 8ish. I don't know why, but it didn't really bother me. I still got to see my dad whenever I wanted. All I had to do was pick up the phone, plus he'd randomly drop by and I'd sleep over at his place every weekend. When I got a bit older I could stay over whenever I wanted. He'd also stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 04:28 PM
2

It could be a great example of self-respect. If one partner becomes abusive in some way or perhaps cheats, I think it's the parent's moral duty to show their children what to do in that situation, and that's to leave the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 04:22 PM
1

There's genuinely no true way to know someone. You can think you do, but ultimately you don't. Also, people change. People can become better or worse over time. All relationships are a gamble. You win some, you lose some.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 04:20 PM
2

My sister out earns her long term partner and every partner before that. My mom out earns my step dad. Most of my aunts (6 of them) earn more than their husband's. For my friend group id say it's split 50/50. have you ever been married? Yup, I currently am. I'd say not much is intertwined. We have separate accounts. He doesn't have access to mine, nor I his. All the bills are in my name (excluding his cell), he transfers me money every month. I owned our apartment before he came along and it's s…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 06:48 PM
1

Almost every guy here. Why would you be dependent on her if you just made less? I've personally not come across women who cared that they made more than their partner. Only seen people talking about it online.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 06:27 PM
1

Marry a woman who makes more than you. Problem solved. Hell, you don't even have to be married. Just move in. I know women who've been in common law relationships and lost their homes, had to pay spousal support, etc, when the dudes left them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 06:18 PM
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I am genuinely so fucking confused how this is going above so many peoples heads. It is highly unlikely for a CEO or whatever to be schmoozing with their plumber or electrician, etc, even if they made close to the same amount money. They are practically from entirely different worlds. Plus one is still there to 'serve'.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 02:10 PM
3

I know it's fairly common. My vagina (labia more accurately) has been mocked by men because I have 'beef curtains'. If I'd been rich when I was younger I'd have had them surgically removed because I hated them so fucking much. I never saw anything like them in porn either. I was always so envious of women with 'pretty' vulvas. I've even overheard women making fun 'beef curtains' for being ugly and gross, Then I met my husband and he gives zero shits, has never complained, and that insecurity whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 09:38 PM
1

The number of people someone has slept with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 01:30 PM
3

Yes. I was 17. He was 25. I'd been talking to him online for a long time. He quite literally proposed the first time we met. He had a ring and everything. I was too naive to know how nuts this was, plus I thought we were madly in love. So after the proposal we then had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 01:52 AM
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No. I've said it many times to guys getting a little too handsy. Never slept with any of them or any guy besides one when I was young and dumb and easily manipulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 11:36 PM
0

I'm married. We love each other. We pretty much never fight. We've only had a few genuine arguments. We frequently bicker and purposely get on each others nerves. I'll purposely take things out of context because I think it's hilarious when he tells me I'm listening with my woman ears.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 01:33 AM
1

Was it more stimulating though? Sexually simulating? Not even a little. I don't get turned on by dread, regret, or pain lol. did you view him as more of an alpha male? No. The only guy I've dated that I would describe as somewhat alpha was a rugby player. He was like 5'4 and destroyed guys like double his size. I'd watch him play even though I didn't know the rules of the game or even what the hell was going on. Just liked watching his brute strength. He also had a lot of confidence, was kind of…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:26 PM
1

She remembered it because it was out of the ordinary. I think I can speak for the majority of women when I say that bigger dicks are not funner to suck. Quite the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 07:44 PM
2

I remember him as my ex because we were not sexually compatible. Sex was horrible and painful and zero fun since his dick was too big. I had sex with him twice. First time I thought maybe I just needed to get used to it. Second time I decided NEVER again was I putting myself through that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 07:41 PM
3

Every guy (excluding my husband) I've asked about this has cheated. I only know one girl who has cheated and it was emotionally. She left her bf before things got physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:06 PM
5

What if there is valid reasons for a dead bedroom? Health issues for instance. Also, why not divorce instead of becoming human scum?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:02 PM
2

They really don't since most of us couldn't get a Chad to look at us even if we tried. I've never been with a Chad, yet I've still had the misfortune of dealing with HORRIBLE men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 11:31 PM
2

I feel like these girls didn't really fit the description. None of them looked particularly fake (saw some eyelashes), nor were they wearing a ton of make up. I understand the girls you're trying to describe, but I don't feel like these ones fit that description in terms of looks. Can't speak on their personalities (pretty blonde one with the white tank top seems like she has the kind of personality you're talking about though). I also wouldn't describe any of them as fat. First girls on the rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 09:27 PM
3

Agreed. I feel the same about men who are into casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 09:12 PM
1

Can you send me the link to a specific video you want me to watch. They have a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 08:24 PM
1

Absolutely. I pee after too. But back when we were trying to make a baby i'd sometimes get a random gush a few hours later or even the next day. Sometimes it's just slowly leaked out over the course of a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 06:29 PM
1

I remember one of the first times I did it he shoved his dick so far down my throat I vomited absolutely everywhere. Nothing enjoyable about that. That's happened numerous times to me. Also if it hits the back or my throat I get incredibly nauseous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 06:24 PM
1

I'm 'icked' out by bodily fluids in general. I love making out with my husband but if he spat in my mouth I'd legit vomit. Guess that makes me asexual since I'd feel the same if a woman did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 06:19 PM
2

Nope. It doesn't make someone weird to not enjoy certain sexual activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 06:13 PM
1

I've never met a woman who thinks all men want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 06:12 PM
1

There are plenty of sexual acts I'd never take part in (does it make my a lesbian because I don't like dicks in my ass?). Doesn't mean I'm any less attracted to men. I don't think it's gay for someone to not enjoy a certain sexual act with the opposite sex. I'm actually bi/pan (gender and genitals is irrelevant), but the thought of eating a vagina out makes me squeamish. It's the fluids. Same reason why I hate cum in my mouth and would never swallow again. I did it for a few guys, loathed it so …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 03:42 PM
1

Not really. I've never had casual sex and 99% of my friends haven't either. That's not to say plenty of us haven't been lied to. I had one guy put in so much time and effort, claim he couldn't wait for me to meet his daughter, I'm an amazing gf, etc etc, then we fuck and he ghosts me. I know so many women with the same story.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 01:44 PM
6

This has not been my experience. Many surprises have been had.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 03:26 AM
5

Arranged marriages for young adults are still a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 03:24 AM
4

Don't know, don't care. That's not the topic of conversation. If you don't want to have sex with women you can just say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 03:20 AM
2

Would you say the same about girls not liking to suck dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 01:35 AM
6

It's supposed to be, but I don't think it always is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 01:33 AM
2

So you'd wager most men around here want marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:58 PM
1

What makes you awesome?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:34 PM
2

Does that mean you'd prefer a LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:33 PM
4

I like this answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:32 PM
9

That's meaningless unless you know how to use it and don't forget the clit exists for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:29 PM
2

Number of men she'd slept with. The higher the number the less value she has (supposedly).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:28 PM
6

This is about you, not her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:26 PM
1

No fucking idea. I'm not particularly fun. I have a chronic illness that really limits my life. Currently can't work because of it and haven't been able to for the last 3-4 years. I had it long before we got married, so he knew what he was getting into. When it's at it's worst sex is impossible because of the agony, so he's gone well over a year without sex at one point (something he knew could happen since we had previous, albeit shorter, dry spells). Because of all this I'm not even always cap…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 08:38 PM
2

I don't really offer anything other than myself. I don't have any special traits, characteristics, or skills. I'm not special in any way. My husband doesn't seem bothered by that. What things or experiences have you done, cultivated, or been given, that prepare you for marriage in general? We lived together before marriage for close to year, so nothing other than my name changed when we got married. Parenthood was a much harder transition.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 08:21 PM
2

The only thing about him that is above average is his height. I'm far more attracted to my husband who'd look like a dwarf beside him. My husband is in his early 30s and he also looks younger than this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 01:47 PM
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I think you're confused. I'm insanely attracted to my husband and he displays pretty much zero toxic masculinity. agressive behavior, I've never even seen him yell. men harassing women Not in a million years. He's shy and I pursued him. men bullying other men He'd never. There was a new guy coming into work that was looking a bit bedraggled and wasn't following the dress code. My husband being his superior had to get on his case about it. Eventually the guy admitted he couldn't afford to buy pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 12:45 AM
1

Hell no. But the assertive and confident dude that sticks up for the little guy and takes on the bully... 🥵
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 12:37 AM
0

It's happened to me, my mom, and a bunch of other ladies i know.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 08:41 PM
1

Men ghost all the time when in committed relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 06:28 PM
0

I've never heard feminists say 1 in 3 women have been raped. I've only heard 1 in 3 have been sexually assaulted in some way. Also, how do your stats count for women who don't report and those the cops turn away? I was violently beaten and raped, then dumped on the side of the road. Cops said because I was drunk at the time of the assault I likely made bad decisions and now I'm just regretting cheating on my bf, so I'm lying. No rape kit or any kind of investigating was done.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 02:51 PM
1

The more attracted I am to someone the more intimidated and self-conscious I feel. Opening up and enjoying sex is the last thing I'll be doing unless we've been together for quite some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 02:39 PM
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It has literally nothing to with them being worth more and all to do with them being seen as far more vulnerable. So for most people, the protective urge is there. If I see an elderly man getting beaten on the side of the road, I'm far more likely to step in and help over two young guys throwing punches at each other, because in one scenario there's someone who can't fight back. As a mother, there's a lot of dumb shit I'd probably do to save a kid that wasn't even my own. I don't see kids worth …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:46 PM
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I don't think that most men today are sex and porn obsessed misogynists dangerous to women, but I'll answer your questions anyway. what will you do so your son won't be like all those shitty men? I hope to instill proper values and morals. I'll teach him to respect people equally. Would you teach him not to rape women? I will teach him about boundaries and consent, etc. I will teach him that he needs to respect his partner's boundaries just as much as they need to respect his. His consent is jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:22 PM
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Why are you being so dramatic? You're acting like there are only two extremes to choose from.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 02:27 PM
2

Uh. No. I think maybe you're talking about yourself and maybe your own way of thinking and are perhaps projecting. It’s just the flu for those who aren’t fat diabetic vampires I hope you're a troll. My my friends niece who was in her early teens was neither fat nor diabetic. She's now dead. Everyone I know who has died was neither fat nor diabetic. Everyone I know who has gotten covid has said it's nothing like the flu and some of them, months later, are still extremely unwell. One can't work or…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 03:43 PM
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Literally no vaccine is 100% and everyone with half a brain knows that just because you get vaxxed that doesn't mean you won't get the illness, it just makes it much less likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 11:50 AM
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It's has nothing to with being scared and everything to do with giving a fuck. Judging from all your pessimistic comments around this thread you seemingly have zero desire to even attempt to give an iota of a fuck about anybody. Most people care, to some extent, about others and will at least try to do the bare minimum to keep others around them safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 11:46 AM
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The couple people I know who died weren't fat. A friend's sister who lost her kid to it wasn't fat. No prior health issues either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 11:23 AM
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No offense, but this just seems odd. I've dated plenty of guys shorter than me (i'm 5'6"). My husband is my height. We tower over both his parents. I tower over my mom. When I started reading stuff here I asked him if he was worried our son would be short. He said no. I asked if he ever felt like he was short. He said no. I asked if he's ever been self-conscious about his height or felt judged for it. He said no. I asked if he ever felt like he had trouble dating because of it. He said no. I'll …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 03:49 PM
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I've quite literally never gotten 'wet'. I've never not needed lube when having PIV or being fingered. I still get insanely aroused and my husband gets me off no problem. Doctors have said it's just way I am 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 08:19 PM
1

Ditto
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 06:17 PM
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I love how you conveniently ignored the part where I said I know plenty of women who have dated and married guys that could be considered not their equal and the part where I can just look out my window and see (seemingly) mismatched couples all the time. I live in a busy urban area and my window faces three other big apartment buildings and the parking lot we all share. I see all sorts of couples all the the time. I could walk into any Walmart and see the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 05:08 PM
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None of this is particularly true to the average or below average unless you're offering sex in exchange. Most women don't want to prostitute themselves in exchange for a sandwich. I've dealt with some of these things myself. >Depressed? Don’t worry everyone will gather round and try to raise you up. I've dealt with depression on and off most of my life. When I tried to commit suicide and landed in the ICU for a week, nobody gathered around me. Nobody tried to raise me up. Just my mom visited. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 02:58 PM
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Almost every woman I've ever met has at some point dated down. Plenty of them have married guys not considered their equal or above. RP just likes to take the most vain gold diggers and paint all women with the same brush. It's just plain dumb. Just yesterday I saw a guy at the park with his wife and kid. He was average looking but incredibly short. Like 5'2ish. Maybe less. His wife was like a foot taller than him and quite pretty. They drove off in an old Toyota camry, so I'm going to assume th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 02:28 PM
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He's going to need it because sometimes he picks shirts with butterflies on it over Dinos? Sometimes he feeds his baby doll a bottle instead of smashing his cars around? Anyways, I was horrifically bullied as a kid. One guy tormented me mercilessly until I strangled the fuck out of him. Didn't know a face could turn that purple. So, yeah, my kid will know how to fight. His dad is really looking forward to doing those sorts of classes with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 05:13 PM
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Would you be willing to sacrifice yourself? To have a child? Like literally die to have a child? No. Id sacrifice years off my life. Like if I was told before having my son instead of living to 90, I'd die at 75 if I had a child, I probably would have done it. I wouldn't, however, do this for a second child. would you be willing to sacrifice your SO? Absolutely not. I'd rather have be childless.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 11:56 PM
1

I have just the one kid. And a fair bit. You'll have to be more specific if you want a good answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 10:09 PM
1

Personally, I wouldn't be concerned as long as they weren't high risk. I'm also very much of the mind, 'not my body, not my choice.'
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:59 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 07:41 PM
2

Of course, but the one that hits closest to home is how men and women are treated medically. Men are taken much more seriously. Before I was diagnosed with my illness I went to countless doctors, the ER (where I overheard nurses mocking me for faking and they sent me home without doing any tests), urgent care, etc, and got told time and time again it's psychosomatic, it's just anxiety, etc. The gynecologist I saw told me I couldn't possibly be in pain and to seek therapy. I needed emergency surg…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 07:06 PM
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I don't know about this. I can only speak for where I live, which granted is fairly liberal, but most moms around here let their sons express themselves however they want. Nail polish, dyed hair, girly clothes, etc. My toddler son has lots of girly clothes and toys he loves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:43 PM
1

What infuriates me (and many more men here than you realize) is you don't see what's wrong with you being able to coast through life avoiding all that suffering Except, I very clearly haven't. Just like lots of women haven't. I've experienced suffering and I think you need to acknowledge that. I don't care if you think it was minimal or even insignificant, I still felt it. It wasn't minimal or insignificant to me. It was overwhelming. You should acknowledge my pain just like I'm willing to ackno…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:36 PM
1

Approaching women is absolute hell I have never and would never dispute this. I would not want to be a man approaching women. Women can be brutal when they deem a man inferior to them. benefits of doing so have diminished with women in general over the years and the perils have increased I agree. Women are very quick to label men creeps. I've seen plenty of videos online of guys just minding their own business and women recording and calling them creeps or pervs. Hell, it's risky for a guy just …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:36 PM
1

Except, I did give it you. You have gotten it and continue to. Had you not, I wouldn't bother to remain polite and try to understand your point of view. Is there something you genuinely wanted to discuss, a point of view you wanted me to see, or did you just want to point fingers? I am always open to a good conversation even if our views don't quite align. I like hearing new and differing ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 02:02 AM
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it's the very heart of the matter We are talking about why I don't like approaching men. What does your ranting have to do with that? Because women have shown themselves to be this way No they haven't. Some women have. Most haven't. You just looked at the shitty ones and decided to delude yourself into thinking AWALT. I could do the same with men if I wanted to. I overdosed when I was 15 and a group of boys decided to take advantage of that. I was in and out of consciousness while they had their…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:45 AM
2

Honestly, I wish I had that nonchalant attitude when I was a kid. It would have saved me a whole lot of heartbreak. I don't think I really learned much from past relationships other than to not settle and be a lot more picky. I should have just done that from the start instead of giving any and every guy a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 10:53 PM
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you can't refute what I said There's nothing to refute. What you said is completely irrelevant to my comment. instead have to go after the messenger I didn't go after you. I stated a fact. One that another person has even called you out on. Another fact: you're hateful and lack empathy and accuse women of being exactly what you are. men had them to a far worse degree. Again, this is irrelevant, but for your sake, let's say this is true. Even if this were the case, someone's struggles and trauma …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 08:24 PM
1

Reading through your comments below is very sad. You've definitely become the thing you hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 07:17 PM
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Yes. I had very little self worth in my teens and early 20s. I was pretty desperate to feel loved/appreciated (didnt really get it growing up) so I'd let guys get away with a lot more than the average girl would. I was hopelessly in love with one guy I dated. When I caught him cheating a normal person would have dumped him. I wasn't normal. I was desperate and afraid he'd leave me if I got mad at him or made rules so I could trust him again. So what did I do? I encouraged it. I let him cheat on …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 07:07 PM
3

Just because some women want to break free of traditional gender roles doesn't mean all women do. I'm not sure why I have to explain this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:32 PM
5

I'm convinced that like 90% of guys are unteachable, or they just don't want to learn. Out of the 10ish guys I've slept with, my husband was the only one willing to go down on me and the only one willing to play with the clit long enough to get me off. I've had guys sigh in annoyance when I've tried to direct them what to do, had them complain how hard it is, that it's too much work and it's boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:26 PM
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A lot of women communicate their needs and guys just don't care. Every bf I've had didn't really bother. I'd put their hand where I wanted it, told them what to do, how I like it, what it takes to get me off, but it would only last a minute or two until they got bored and said it was too hard, their hand is sore, etc. I had one guy that would loudly sigh in annoyance if I tried to put his hand where I liked it. That was a mood killer. In all those relationships (4 of them lasting 6 months to a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:20 PM
5

Yes, I was terribly bullied. A popular girl befriended me and convinced me that Gordie (super cute popular guy) liked me and that I had to ask him out, that there was no way he'd say no. It took WEEKS for her to convince me. She hyped me up so much. I went up to him with his friends standing around. I asked him out, he scrunched up his face, said ew, turned around while all his friends laughed, then when I looked to the girl who had hyped me up she was also laughing. The next grade he'd be part …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 01:05 AM
3

For the most part, yes. I've never personally met someone who was against white foreigners immigrating from Poland or Germany. People against others immigrating from South American or Islamic countries, now those are a dime a dozen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 11:22 PM
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I'm not sure if you realize this, but just because someone is a from a country that oppresses and rapes women, it doesn't mean they want to do either of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 11:19 PM
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You mean some women? There are plenty of racist women who are completely against immigration Personally, I have zero issue with men immigrating as long as they follow local laws and respect those around them. I believe in cultural assimilation in that regard. I dated an amazing Indian man in my mid 20s. He'd just gotten here and was doing schooling. All his family was back in India. We even talked about a bit how it's dangerous for women there, that he worries a lot about his mom, and that he wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 09:36 PM
1

Why is it a problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:29 PM
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How can I be wanted for who I am if they don't know me? I'd have to spent a lot of time with someone over the period of weeks and months, probably years for them to truly know me and want me for who I am. I personally just wanted guys to be interested beyond sex. Anyways, typically nobody wants to be where they're not wanted. A few of the guys were my friends, so it wasn't like I stopped being friends with them. I just didn't try for more. I'm amazed that you ended up having the station with you…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:23 PM
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That was never my reason. The first guy I ever asked out said 'ew' and walked away. I was terrified from that day forward, plus it didn't help that I was mercilessly bullied by the good looking popular guys throughout middle and high school. There were a few guys in my social circles that I softly pursued, like being flirty, touching, asking personal questions like I'd they're looking for a relationship or what's their type of girl. It never went anywhere and I got the very strong impression non…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:08 PM
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No. I think what happens is they get comfortable and often start eating most meals together. One of my long term bfs ate a LOT. He's was short. Like 5'4ish but physically quite fit with little to no working out. I was slender when I met him. When we moved in together I started eating what he ate (as opposed to pretty much nothing). He'd bring me snacks and meals and treats and I ballooned. I don't understand how he could eat all that and not gain a pound. When we split I went back to starving my…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 05:17 PM
1

Yeah. Even when I was 110lbs and had little stick chicken legs I still had a small pooch in the front. I've never been able to get rid of it. Now that I had kid it's much worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 04:24 PM
14

Women are still extremely oppressed in much of the world. That is a fact. There are bunch of countries (Lebanon, Bahrain, Iraq, Philippines, Tajikistan and Tunisia) where rapists can go free if they marry the woman they rape. Please explain to me how this does not oppress women. Do you think it's fair women be forced to marry their rapist? Do you think they want this? There are also countries (Ghana, Lesotho, Oman, Singapore and Sri Lanka) where marital rape is perfectly legal. Do you think it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 03:33 PM
2

I've slept with 10 guys. The majority I was in a relationship with for a few months to a year, so sex was fairly plentiful. Not once did one of the guys fail to get off during PIV or oral. HOWEVER, the only guy who put in the effort to give me an orgasm was my husband. He is the first guy I had an orgasm with. The rest complained it was too hard or it was taking to long or it was boring. All of them stopped even trying after awhile. I imagine most women have had the same experience as me and tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 01:09 AM
2

Ask a valid one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 11:29 PM
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That's because most men here just like tearing women down. It makes them feel better about themselves. It's quite sad. I very clearly did not say anything of the sort.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 07:23 PM
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Did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 05:28 PM
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You seem very angry. Are you okay? Go a month without using ANY make-up What does this even mean? What would this even do? I've gone MONTHS without makeup and my husband doesn't care. None of my previous partners cared, some I met without wearing any makeup at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 02:30 PM
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That's because most men here just like tearing women down. It makes them feel better about themselves. It's quite sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 02:22 PM
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When I was about 19/20 I was taking a college course. It was with the same instructors every day. When I first started I wore makeup every day. Not a lot. I think most people would've said I wasn't wearing any. I just used it to enhance. Then I got a bf and slept over at his house without planning to. I didn't have makeup with me, so had to go to class without. Partway through the instructor pulled me out of class and asked if I was alright, if something was wrong and if I needed to go home beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 02:13 PM
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I'm not trying to disprove anything since I honestly can't see any sort of point they're trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 01:59 PM
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I genuinely don't care. I would have risked a lot more than osteoporosis to have my kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 11:56 PM
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I don't think that crossed either of our minds. The risk of that here in Canada is about the same as having a fatal car accident.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 11:26 PM
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Canada, west coast.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 08:52 PM
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I don't know why it's hard to believe someone was extremely bullied. They'd even follow me home when I'd walk home from school, throwing food at me and calling me a dyke. I had short hair and was kinda emo/goth.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 08:51 PM
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I disagree. I was madly in love with my husband before we were married, after we were married, and still love him just the same after we had our kid, perhaps even a bit more since they're so cute together. I know he feels the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 08:48 PM
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Opposite experience. Chads are the worst of the worst. The unattractive guys are typically good normal guys whereas Chads are arrogant rapey pricks who think they should do and say and get whatever they want. In school a bunch of them pulled my pants and underwear down and made fun of what they saw. They'd pass by me in the hallways and make fun of my 'muff'. I have a couple more experiences like this. All done by 'hot' guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 03:27 PM
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I wouldn't be their friend. You are the company you keep, and I like to think I'm not a scummy piece of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 03:17 PM
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It would be a waste of my time since it's not like I'm going to change your mind of anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 03:07 PM
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I'm sorry you're so easily confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 12:10 AM
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Okay... Am I supposed to care about this or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 12:09 AM
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My husband took his ex gf on a ton of extravagant vacations. We've literally never been on a vacation together. He married me, not her, so I can't be bothered to even try to care.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 12:06 AM
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In my experience hot guys are arrogant, mean, and even sometimes cruel. I've never met a bitter ugly man in person (only online). Definitely met weird ones in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 03:10 PM
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I genuinely don't believe this. Hot guys have typically treated me like shit. I'm not ugly, but I'm not particularly hot. Never dated a good looking guy until my husband. But just in daily interactions and having to go to school with hot guys was beyond horrendous. 99% of average to ugly guys have treated me great. Some have even been my best friends at times throughout our lives (no it wasn't because they wanted sex, one i was devastatingly in love with and he didn't like me like that). Average…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 02:33 PM
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I don't have shitty people in my life. I have the exact opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 07:11 PM
1

How does being repulsive to women help them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 07:09 PM
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Man I wish I lived in your reality. Sounds like fairytale. Too bad life doesn't work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 05:26 PM
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I know two trans women. One was even married. The transwoman that was married is super sweet and just a very gentle soul. She has no problem finding dates and guys that have no issue with her being trans or people knowing about it. The other lady is in the military and is a bit of drunk. She has a harder time but it's obvious she's trans, plus she's just kinda nuts. A lot of the military dudes fuck her on the DL. I don't think she's had many LTRs. I took her virginity before she was came out as …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 02:45 PM
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My step dad moved in when I was 9. He started perving when I was around 16. Guess he's an extra big creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 02:21 PM
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Lots do, though. Also plenty of cis people have no issue dating trans folks. Personally I don't care what bits someone has. I even find androgynous people (gender is irrelevant) ridiculously beautiful. If my husband told me he was trans I'd be very supportive. While a part of me would be sad and maybe even mourn a bit, I'd be excited to gain a wife and do all the girly things with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 01:59 PM
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You go for the nice average girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 01:49 PM
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absolutely nothing to do to maintain it. Then you're likely not rich, or perhaps you're just painfully boring. There are unlimited things to do if you have money. Hell, if I could afford a place with just some yard space I'd have countless more things to do and I most certainly wouldn't be sitting on my ass wasting the best part of the day conversing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 12:18 AM
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If it were in the top 1% you sure as shit wouldn't be slumming it here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 10:55 PM
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If you're going to say that kind of stuff you've at least got to back it up with your sources. Unless, of course, you're making it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 10:51 PM
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I'm not complaining. In retrospect it was probably a good thing and shows guys are pretty decent around here. It was just a very lonely time for me back then. I'm married now, though. I wasn't brave enough to give him my number directly but I got a mutual friend to and he texted the same day. Women should definitely approach more, I think, even if they take the cowards way out like me. It all worked out in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 10:36 PM
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I'm not complaining (I get the impression you think I'm complaining). I'm just saying it's not like all women have guys lining up for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 10:25 PM
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I think this really only applies to particularly good looking women and also only in certain places. I don't think I'm ugly, but I've never had a stranger show any sort of interest in me besides an old hobo on a bus that started grabbing my hair and calling it beautiful. I was also only 16 at the time. When I was extremely lonely I'd even get all dressed up (in casual attire) and do my hair and makeup and go places where there were lots of people. Usually I'd go to the dog park since it gave me …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 07:44 PM
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I've only noticed this with men who had a dominating father figure. Guys I've dated who were raised by single mothers or had particularly 'beta' fathers tended be respectful and very easy to communicate with, along with generally having no issues talking about emotions/problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 05:50 PM
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No one is saying young girls can't be pretty. They're saying they aren't yet women which for some reason you're failing to acknowledge. It's getting weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:48 PM
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RP advocates going after mentally ill women who will put up with manipulative/borderline abusive/coercive behavior. RP seems so rapey. I'd say I don't get the appeal, but I get the appeal when it comes to desperate creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 02:44 PM
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I'm really confused why you didn't tell him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 02:13 PM
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More importantly, women here have confirmed my worst ideas of women This is how I feel about men. Before I found this place I was very much a pick me, men's rights, fuck feminism type of woman. I'm banned from ask a feminist. Hell, I even used to sympathize with incels and would sometimes message the ones I randomly came across online just to see how they were doing because I was dumb enough to believe these were likely good guys that were probably quite socially awkward and more than likely ult…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 02:07 PM
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Why am I not at all surprised that a man with a username like yours would not only make tasteless miscarriage jokes, but also celebrate the death of women who don't put up with men treating them badly...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 01:33 PM
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For the most part, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 09:59 AM
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Well, according to my husband (who I consider to be a good man) that's not true. He had plenty of options, yet married a woman that would sooner walk into oncoming traffic than be the kind of woman those guys want. I actually talked to him about this before we went to bed since I was curious about his opinion. He quite literally said he doesn't want to be in charge all the time. He said he doesn't mind in certain scenarios, like at work, but otherwise he doesn't feel the need or even want to be.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 09:56 AM
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A is my husband. He's perfect. B is my worst nightmare because I'm an introverted homebody with low self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:38 AM
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Yup. I remember being 14 and thinking the way to make a boy/man love me is to let him fuck me all the time even if I really really didn't want to because if I didn't I'd essentially be worthless and he'd leave. I don't remember a time in my life where this wasn't the most basic thing being told to me about men. It's the way guys think here, too. Luckily, I met my husband who is a diamond amongst pigs and I don't have to wonder if my only value is my vagina. Between pregnancy and birth and health…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 02:43 AM
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It's irrelevant. If your partner and you just lost two babies and now she's pregnant again, probably scared out of her mind she's going to lose this baby too, sex should be one of the last things you expect from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 02:27 AM
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if you want to maintain a relationship So you'd leave your pregnant partner if she didn't put out enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 12:27 AM
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No, not when she just lost TWO babies which messes with the entire reproductive system. The 14 week loss may have even required a D&C. There were probably a bunch of weeks where it probably wasn't even medically advisable to have sex. Not only that I can't imagine the grief. If my husband posted something like this after two losses I'd rethink our entire marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 12:25 AM
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Being an asshole isn’t repulsive to woman in fact it makes them horny Are you a woman? because I am and I have never stumbled upon this in real life except for once. She ended up regretting it and left her chad baby daddy for some skinny balding warehouse worker because he practically worships her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 11:12 PM
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And yet they probably have more self-respect than any woman that dates one of those dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 11:02 PM
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Eh, my first boyfriend who was an ugly snaggle-toothed redhead said shit like this and worse all the time. I think it's just a shitty guy thing. I personally didn't want him to treat me like this. I just didn't think I could get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 10:02 PM
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they argue about what qualities men want in woman. I think they're talking about what good men want. Whereas the dudes in the video have repulsive personalities. There is no good woman that would want a man like these dudes. She'd either have to be extremely insecure and have zero self-respect, or a gold digger putting up with piggishness for $$$.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 09:55 PM
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I can't speak for all women, but this isn't how mind works. Good looks might give me a little crush, might have me thinking about him and wondering what he's like. None of it is sexual. If he opens his mouth and I'm severely disappointed the crush dies and I move on. Once I get to know him and if I like his personality, that's when I start getting turned on and thinking about sleeping with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 02:10 PM
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“Oppress and control women” lol this is the most hilarious thing I’ve ever heard.. women oppressed in the west?? Well, yeah. You're proof of that. You'd murder your own partner if she had an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 06:33 AM
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Yes. For as long as abortion is available to her, that's how long he has to sign his rights over. If the cut off is 12 weeks gestation then he better hurry. If where they live abortion isn't available then neither is signing over your rights. There's also no changing his mind. He can't ever contact them again.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 06:18 AM
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That doesn't solve your problem at all. Are you just going to bail on a long term relationship, potentially marriage because you're horny? This would cause way more problems, especially if kids, a divorce and finances are involved. Why not just help your partner (that you're supposed to love) get through whatever is wrong and working with them to get better. Why would someone with your mindset even want a relationship? Seems pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 04:27 AM
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Your use of shock value was irrelevant To you. Although, i will once again say it wasn't to shock anyone. I was just stating facts. Odd that you think facts are shocking. Maybe you should think on that. my use of shock value is relevant to our discussion I wholeheartedly disagree. it is: murder Again, disagree. you aren’t challenging the validity of what I said because you know it’s true No. It's because it's sick. It's what gross men say to oppress and control women. It's not even worth acknowl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 12:03 AM
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murdering babies LOLOLOL! Who's using words for shock value now? those are the consequences of your actions Typical male response. I'm not even surprised, just disgusted. pro choicers only think about evading the consequences of their actions That's a laugh. the life you want to snuff out Until its viable i don't really consider it a life. Even then for specific reasons, I'm okay with abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 10:08 PM
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your graphic depictions of pregnancy and birth to try an induce an emotional reaction Lmao, no. It's to paint an accurate picture. Pregnancy and birth is not simple, it's not easy, for me it was horrific and that was a wanted child. Nobody should be forced against there will to go through that kind of thing. That would be torture, and I don't believe in torturing women (potentially leading to death, disability or severe mental illness) over a fetus.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 09:16 PM
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Reputation for what? Banging ugly girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:22 PM
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Why was it a terrible decision?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:19 PM
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Obviously. I still think she'd have to be financially responsible, even if that meant garnering her wages. Doubt they do that, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:18 PM
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Have you given birth? Have you been pregnant? Have you given up the baby you just gave birth to so it can have a better life? Have you experienced this emotional turmoil? No consequences my ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:15 PM
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I only agree with that for the same amount of time a woman can get an abortion in that area. So if 12 weeks is the cut off, then that's the amount of time he has to file the paper work. After that he's shit out of luck. If she can't access an abortion, he can't financially abort. I know so many guys who acted happy when he found out his gf/wife was pregnant then bailed when shit got real. That should not be an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 04:30 PM
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This 100% Men have no fucking clue what pregnancy and birth is like or the trauma and pain it entails. They think they do, but they don't. Honestly, their opinions about it can fuck right off.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:59 PM
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She'd be responsible for half. Doing those awful things doesn't make the kid any less his.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:34 PM
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but why do women have the right to abort a baby and be free of responsibility but men have no right to do so and they are bound? Because it's growing inside her body. A woman should be able to opt of something that could quite literally kill or disable her. Even if it all goes well it can be a horrifically traumatizing experience, particularly birth. My husband and chose to make our baby. I can't imagine the special kind of hell, mentally and physically, pregnancy would be if the woman didn't wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:32 PM
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Lmao. No. He's responsible for where his sperm ends up. Don't want a baby? Don't dump it into a woman's vag. If you choose to do that, just assume every time you put a load in, a baby might just come out in exchange 9 months later. Actions have consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:21 PM
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I should hope so.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:54 AM
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Does he know he's married to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:48 AM
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Well. I'm happily married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:03 AM
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So what if she was 10 for the most part, but missing a leg or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:56 AM
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Nah. Looks get women's attention. Personality keeps them around.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:53 AM
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Nah. I think the same way as the guy above and I'm a woman. Most guys are just average and average guys can be good looking, especially if they take care of themselves. I've also dated unattractive guys and I never thought they were disgusting, quite the opposite actually. I've personally never met or heard of women wanting ugly men to die. This sounds like paranoia.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:52 AM
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What if the woman in the wheelchair is slim and has a pretty face?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:48 AM
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I imagine some do, yes. I would have in my teens. Now I'm in my 30s and genuinely dgaf.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 03:26 AM
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I don't know what you're trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 10:26 PM
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My husband definitely can do better and i trust him completely. The same couldn't be said if he 'kept me on my toes and kept me guessing.'
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 10:12 PM
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> The secret to keeping a long term relationship is HAVING OPTIONS, keep her on her toes and keep her guessing. Um, what, NO! If my husband keeps me on toes and has me guessing whether or not he'll stay faithful or always want to be with me, I wouldn't have married him. If I can't trust someone I don't want to be with them. I want to feel safe and secure in my relationship, not be wondering if he'll fuck off at any given moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 03:55 PM
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male leaders don't legalize or encourage those things There are bunch of countries (Lebanon, Bahrain, Iraq, Philippines, Tajikistan and Tunisia) where rapists can go free if they marry the woman they rape. Tell me, how does that benefit women? How is that not anti-woman? How is that not oppressive? Do you genuinely think men didn't write this law? There are also countries (Ghana, Lesotho, Oman, Singapore and Sri Lanka) where marital rape is perfectly legal. Is this not for the man's benefit? Ple…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 03:49 PM
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Are you joking? Are you saying exploiting women and girls, raping them and treating them like slaves is for their benefit, not mens? You can't in good faith tell things like sharia law don't completely and utterly benefit men and absolutely fuck over women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 01:16 AM
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How does acknowledging that if say, 10,000 women went to battle against 10,000 men they'd get absolutely destroyed, prove the necessity of patriarchy? A female leader could send men to war just as easily as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 07:50 PM
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I'm sorry you surround yourself with such awful people that you have such a negative view.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:36 PM
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even though it most deviates from reality... Your version of reality. Women are weak and yet paradoxically do not tolerate weakness from their mates I've seen lots of this kind of stuff spouted online but i have never witnessed this to be true in my day to day life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 05:46 PM
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How is it wishful thinking when it's literally how I think? I would definitely consider myself insecure which is why I like guys with little experience. They take direction and aren't going to tell me I'm wrong when I tell them that doesn't feel good and it hurts. They don't get angry if i tell them i don't like what they're doing and complain that every other girl loved it. I also don't like being compared to others. I don't want him to think I'm uglier or worse or whatever. So less partners he…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 04:48 PM
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Not in the slightest. I prefer a guy with little experience. They're better at taking direction and don't think they're good when they're not. They're also more likely relationship orientated and more likely to respect me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 02:49 PM
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That's not a fair exchange Sure it is. If he waits, in exchange for his patience he gets an abundance of her time, her loyalty, affection, commitment, and to fuck her frequently. That's a hell of a lot more than Chad got.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 02:44 PM
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Where in the world would the man prefer to work for sex? If he wants a relationship, he should probably make an effort if he wants to get anywhere with her. If he's not looking for a relationship then I'd advise he not go after women who want a relationship with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 02:41 PM
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Can't say I've ever experienced that. I'm happily married. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 02:38 PM
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I can pretty much say every woman I've ever personally known has gone through this, so it's not just my experience I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 02:36 PM
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Old habits? You mean, becoming a child once more and trying to find a guy to love me because I felt unloved at home, only to find myself used and abused by guys who took advantage of that desperation? The vast majority of guys I slept with was in my teens when I thought sex=love and loyalty. I'm in my 30s now. Slept with 3 whole people in my 20s, including my husband. I've never in life cheated on a partner, unless of course you count having the absolute shit beaten out of me while being raped. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 02:05 PM
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Just google it. This is just on young girls being forced to marry: 40 percent of young women (20-24) in developing countries were married before the age of 18 (21 percent globally) 12 percent were married before the age of 15 (5 percent globally) Girls and women forced into marriage are at high risk of sexual and gender-based violence. Young mothers are more at risk of health complications. Childbirth is the leading cause of death among girls between the ages of 15 and 19 in developing countries…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:36 PM
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I genuinely don't care. Nobody is entitled to sex. I don't feel bad for a guy when he can't use a woman the way he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:27 PM
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You're just grasping at straws in here. There are many countries (like Sierra Leon, Syria, Uganda, Congo) where women and even young girls can be forced to marry and essentially be slaves to men. Countries in the middle East and sub-Saharan Africa give women under half the legal rights as men. I think it's something like 88% of countries restrict women's economic opportunity. The majority of the world’s countries restrict women economically in some way, with 104 countries preventing women from d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 02:33 AM
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Nope, but I didn't know that, so I wasn't about to risk since I had in the past and I was left absolutely devastated.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 02:18 AM
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The inequality isn't that women weren't compelled to fight in a war but that they weren't compelled to do their traditional gender role like men. You've got to be shitting me. In almost all of human history women were forced to marry men they didn't want and were forced to fuck them and have their babies and would frequently die doing it. They had little agency and could be killed or put in an asylum if they defied their husband. They had to do all the cooking, cleaning, clothes mending, washing…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:30 AM
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You literally just argued that not sending women into battle does not benefit women No, I argued that it be so fucking stupid to send women to battle. Do you want to win the war or not? Do you want women to fuck? Do want the society to carry on? Because if all the women get slaughtered in war, not only is your wife dead, so are you and your kids and everyone you know when the attackers pillage the town. It makes no sense to send the weakest and the baby makers into war. Pick any battle in the pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:23 AM
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So if you were a ruler and needed to defend your kingdom from a brutal attack, you'd send the weakest and the only people who can birth more future soldiers? I don't think you'd last long.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 11:40 PM
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It didn't make sense to send women into war way back when. Women were needed to make babies, which was extremely dangerous and both women and babies often died. Anyways, no women=no babies. One man could impregnate a dozen women. What are you going to do with a dozen men and one woman? Also, if an army of invaders is attacking your land are you going to send the strongest to fight against them or the weakest? Again, it makes zero sense to send the women. None of that was done to benefit women. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 11:34 PM
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I think most women are kind of ambivalent about sex work. Then theres the two minorities that are either all for it or completely against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 06:52 PM
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What about the guy's feelings huh? If he's upset because she wants to protect herself from getting hurt then he needs to move on. He is not respectful and doesn't understand. He's not worth her time and is likely only looking for sex anyways. Any guy who genuinely likes a woman won't mind waiting a few extra weeks or a month or two to get laid since that's not what he's there for. He's there for her, not sex. He would feel insecure af. If he is that insecure he should be looking for therapy, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:11 PM
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wait so he could 'prove' himself, It's not about proving. It's about showing he's different than the other guys, that he's not just there to get laid. He has to show he's respectful and doesn't think with his dick. doesn't fuck him until he's proposed or settled down. This is an extremely unrealistic scenario and is most likely only amongst religious women. Why did she fuck those other guys very quickly when it came to casual sex, but I'm the one she's making wait? Because she has feelings for y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:36 PM
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Good luck trying to make attractive men settle This may shock you, but just because you surround yourself with terrible people doesn't mean there isn't plenty of good looking moral men out there. Not every man thinks with his dick and believes his next nut is all that matters. My husband is quite attractive. He's also an all around wonderful and respectful man. He also waited and had no issue waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:01 PM
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Which is exactly why women shouldn't put out on the first or second or even third date and make guys wait. Gets rid of most asshole guys who think like this. It prevents women from being used and keeps the genuinely interested ones around.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:40 PM
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Same goes for men. So many sleep around and treat sex like it's some meaningless thing. I've been used multiple times for it, hell I've been raped and dumped on the side of the road afterwards. Men are devious and often abusive when it comes to getting sex (probably why I hate RP so much since I was once a upon a time their perfect victim). I even argued in the comments how sex in a relationship is special and I had men telling me that's just in my head and it's not, so I shouldn't wait to have …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:36 PM
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Again, one side of the story. I'd say 90% of women I've been close to or talked to about this sort of thing, this has been why. It even happened a relationship of mine, though we weren't married, we just lived together. I've personally never known or heard of a woman (through gossip lol) who has married or been with a guy for any other reason than love. I've never known a woman who was using a guy just to get married. Not saying it doesn't happen, I just doubt it's frequency.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:55 AM
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Eh, that's a one sided story. I find in a lot of those situations she becomes his mother, having to do everything him. Wash his clothes, make his meals, pack his lunch, pick his socks off the floor, remind him to make appointments and to pay his bills on time. It's hard to feel sexually attracted to someone you have to baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:18 AM
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I genuinely can't see the point you're trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:55 AM
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saying that you are saying relationship guy isn't good enough for sex Only the opposite is being said. Not sure how you missed that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:51 AM
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I'd say the vast majority of those guys start off having frequent sex and it slowly it dwindles into scraps, if that. That is an entirely difference issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:22 AM
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The specialness is completely in your head? I don't think so. I just think it's subjective. Just because I think something is special, doesn't mean someone else will. Cause outwardly it looks exactly like any other sex I think we just have different perspectives because to me it looks entirely different. One is with a guy I'm fine never seeing again, that I have zero romantic feelings or bond with, and another is with a guy i'm falling for, could see a future with, that I'm loyal to. That's comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:14 AM
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I think it really all depends how it feels. If it feels like she's stringing you along, bail. If you think she's sincere, if you like her, if you think there's potential, what's another few weeks of waiting? i dont like waiting like i need to prove even more than the last dude I think in most circumstances you just need to show you're not like the last dude. That you're invested. If you're bailing because you want quick sex then you're obviously not invested and she's better off with you gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:05 AM
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Then don't woo/court that kind of woman? No one is telling you you should. We all have our preferences. Personally, I'm like you. I would never date a guy that had casual sex, one night stands, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:48 AM
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Can you see how the guys put in the "relationship" box can end up feeling undesirable? No. I'm a woman. I've honestly really only dealt with the opposite problem. Plenty of guys wanting to fuck me and none wanting to settle down. I loathed it. That's what made me feel undesirable. I was good enough to fuck but not good enough to stick around for or get to know. Or worse, they'd get to know me, gain my trust and affections, fuck me then bail because they got what they wanted. In my mind, the rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:46 AM
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So what makes it special with him that doesn't exist within your head. Feelings, which I guess would be in my head. Also mutual respect, appreciation, admiration. Just a lot of feelings. A lot of trust. It's sex meant to bond, not just to get off. I can't speak for men, but as a woman it's an entirely different kind of sex and can be extraordinarily emotional. It can even make you feel quite vulnerable. When you've got feelings for the guy and he's got feelings for you, sex is just different, it…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:32 AM
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but she isnt attracted to him thats it I'm not entirely sure why you believe that. I'm a woman who has lived it, even made my husband wait and I sure as hell was attracted to him. He's by far the hottest guy I've been with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:24 AM
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I don't necessarily think it means she doesn't like you. It's really all situational. However, I agree that plenty of people want and need sex in a relationship for it to feel functional, and yes, they should find likeminded people to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:22 AM
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But obviously it isn't super special. False. Just because it wasn't special with other guys doesn't mean it can't be special with this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:10 AM
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You're having an entirely different conversation. That response is about a theoretical guy wanting to date a girl but she doesn't want to sleep with him right away and he's pissed because she won't sleep with him as quick as she did with someone else. He thinks there's something wrong with her because she won't fuck him right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:04 AM
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so i give you nothing and you fine with that Yes. That's mostly how it is with my husband. He spoils me in other ways. also you never addressed the main point, theres nothing wrong with people who dont like you sexually, i dont know why you think it is gross for men to be like ah she aint really into me, gonna bounce... Because that's not what I said. You're just twisting my words so you can be outraged or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 01:51 AM
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It's not refusing, though. It's 'I want to wait until we're closer and I feel the time is right, making it super special.' So, yeah, I'd obviously wait for whatever it is. If he rushed with other women, but felt like he wanted to wait to make sure whatever it is was as good and perfect as possible with me, it honestly would just give me all the more respect for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 01:48 AM
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imagine i date a bunch of girls, gived them everything, money, gifts, vacay, everything they wanted, and with you i dont do even 10% of it, your conclusion would be i am not into you right? No. I would have hoped you learned your lesson from the last girl that you're being an idiot. I think spending that wildly on someone should be reserved for a wife or whatever you believe the equivalent to be if marriage isn't your thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 01:36 AM
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My husband did that with his ex. I thought he was a fool for it. I don't really believe in that dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 01:32 AM
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You can't in good faith tell me all feelings are valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 01:00 AM
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There are plenty of feelings that are not at all appropriate, so not particularly valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 12:12 AM
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Getting annoyed/angry when a woman says no, does.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 11:52 PM
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Sex isn't the only kind of intimacy there is. You being purposefully dense?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 11:28 PM
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And why cant you do that with the guy your dating? You would rather give free sex to a guy who never invited to date you than the guy who actually took the time to date you? Men do all this, too. Why? No there the same. Not in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 10:56 PM
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I said no sex. I said absolutely zilch about intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 10:53 PM
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Ill do you know better why should you even try to date her in the first place if she fucks other guys for free? You shouldn't do anything you don't want to do. If you're uninterested in a woman who has slept around, don't date her, obviously. you are essentially describing a friend I don't know. Do you make out with your friends? Do you cuddle on the couch watching netflix with your friends after a romantic night out? Do you hold hands with you friends? Sleep in the same bed with your friends wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 10:21 PM
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You're going to have to expand on that and give me an actual reason why you think a woman not wanting to sleep with a man right away means she doesn't respect him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 10:13 PM
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Then what does it matter? If he doesn't want her who cares what she does?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:54 PM
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Then why give him the sex anyways? Why do you men have casual sex? It feels good. You are creating the fuckbois you hate when you do this I don't think think the women we're talking about are the same women that hate fuck boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:53 PM
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women going out with men for free meals and money is extremely real. Yet, not particularly common, at least not where I'm from. If you're worried about this, go dutch. If a woman is upset about this, obviously she sucks and move on. So basically you want a friend you don't have to have sex with but will pay for everything essentially? I don't know, do you go on dates with and eventually fuck your friends with the intention of potentially marrying and reproducing with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:48 PM
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It's entirely possible to really want to have sex with someone and still abstain. People do it all the time. just because we had sex on the first date doesnt mean we cant get to know each The vast majority of men do not do this. It would be terribly stupid of a woman to think if she gives it up on the first date he's going to call her after.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:41 PM
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So why do you care? If you aren't interested in a someone who sleeps around, what's the problem? It's not like they'd like you either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:15 PM
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it tells us that she's not viscerally attracted to us. This is completely and totally 100% false. Just from personal experience alone I can say it's false. I've made the mistake of sleeping with guys too soon and they ghosted practically the second the deed is done. My husband is by far the hottest guy I've ever been with. Guess who waited the longest out of all those guys? I had to know he wasn't in it just for sex, because if we slept together and he bailed I'd have been absolutely devastated.…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:00 PM
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There are two categories. People she'd just fuck, and people she'd date. The latter of which means she likes you a lot more than those she'd just fuck. If you two start going on dates, but you fail because you're gross, she's going to want nothing to do with you. You've turned her off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:55 PM
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See, to me you sound like the red flag. I can't imagine looking at someone and thinking there's something wrong with them because they slept with some other people but now he won't with me. That just is all sorts of fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:50 PM
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If she's not attracted to you, 9 times out of 10, she's not going to want to date you. I'm not sure why you equate casual sex with being treated like an object Let's be real, a great deal of guys who get casual sex treat the women they sleep with like objects. Some women are okay with that for a bit of fun every now and again, but they don't want the men they date to treat them like one. Hence romance and wooing and nice dates with getting to know each other without sex. It proves the guy doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:45 PM
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And any woman with an iota od self-respect wouldn't be able to stomach a man who thinks he should get laid simply because she slept with other guys. That's gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:37 PM
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I have no idea how saying slutty girls can want romance and not want to be treated like an object is red pill, but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:24 PM
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It's irrelevant who it's with. If a guy is so impatient he can't wait a little while for sex from the woman he's trying to date, he's trash, send him on his away. It's good vetting. Shows who respects a woman and who doesn't. Even I had to learn this the hard way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:21 PM
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I mean, that's just a load of horse shit. Your projecting your opinion onto them which is completely false. You refuse to believe the truth, so call them liars, etc. It's actually kinda weird. They're more attracted to the guys they want to date. There's guys they'd only fuck because their personality is shit. Then there's guys they'd commit to and then fuck. A woman is allowed to want romance before she commits to and fucks a guy. If the guy isn't willing to wait a few weeks or a month or two, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:18 PM
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So I've had plenty of slutty friends. From what I understand there are lots of men they are willing to fuck and not date. They'll sleep with one guy and be done with him, but if they are genuinely interested in dating a guy, they'll take things a bit slower. They want romance and to build a connection, etc etc. They want to be wooed/courted by the guy they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 06:54 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 06:47 PM
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This is hard when people don't really know what they look like. I've always had low self-esteem. I think I'm ugly. I look in the mirror and see a very ugly woman. I've almost exclusively dated ugly guys because I assume attractive guys would never be interested. I've never been hit on or catcalled or approached or anything like that. Then I met my husband (I think he's pretty damn hot) through a mutual friend. He was good friends with her. I thought he'd be disgusted by me. I had a ginormous cru…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 03:09 PM
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Mouth open too wide. That and too much tongue. I think almost every guy I've kissed (excluding my husband) I've to tell them not to eat my face and train them a bit. I hate super wide kissers. I also don't like tongue unless things are really heated and we're both super turned on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 02:21 AM
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I adore my husband and am very attracted to him, but he's no Chad. He's average. He's my height, 5'6" and is skinny fat. I'd compare his facial features to rami malek.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 10:21 PM
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Two of them dumped me, one was mutual, and another was a guy I really wanted to like, he was genuinely a great person and was wealthy to boot, but he was obese and I was not attracted sexually whatsoever. It wasn't fair to either of us, especially him since he was the sweetest and deserved someone to love everything about him, so I bailed. Last was my husband, he's hot (imo) and poor, but the best person I've ever met.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 10:10 PM
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Yes. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:26 PM
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I think it's because it's women who are saying it. It's women trying to give themselves and other women like them more confidence. Men are free to build each other up and tell other guys they're beautiful at any size.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 06:44 PM
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I personally don't really think it makes any difference. Every guy I dated that had married parents was a serial cheater. I found the best guys had little involvement with their dad, actually. Probably coincidence, but they were always the nicest and never pressured for sex and were generally respectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 06:13 PM
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See, I look at him and feel bored. There's nothing about him that is interesting to me. Nothing that stands out. He's a boring handsome. Like factory line up, Ken doll handsome. Seen it a thousand times before. Wouldn't notice him walking down the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 06:20 PM
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Huh. Weird. I'm a woman and while I can see he's not ugly, I don't find him attractive. Like he's objectively handsome, but I've got like negative sexual interest and would never. Nothing 'attracts' me. Don't like his voice either.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:49 PM
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I mean, yeah, it kind of is. If she doesn't want you, then why would she be with you? I can't find any incentive for a woman to want to be treated like a slave and a whore by that man that's supposed to love and respect her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:06 PM
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Lol, no. Maybe women with no self-respect, are mentally ill and are equally desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:03 PM
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Monogamy is for weak minded people and gold diggers I gotta say, I wholeheartedly disagree. I don't think monogamy makes anyone weak, especially if it makes them happy. People should do what makes them happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:01 PM
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Why would any woman want this?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 09:54 PM
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I don't think I've ever met a guy who felt bad for cheating. He only felt sorry for himself after he lost everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 07:21 PM
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Can you please be more specific? I what do you think that something is? What exactly do think he was doing? You've got me curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 06:37 PM
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The only kind of woman (in my experience) that puts up with cheating is a desperate often mentally ill one with zero self-esteem or self-respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:32 PM
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Postpartum for me it was absolutely nonexistent, though I had terrible ppd. I also took forever to heal. At 9 weeks pp I was still sooo painful, bleeding, swollen and dealing with infections. My doctor told me I was being dramatic and that I wasn't in pain, I just thought I was 🙄 this led to the inside of my vagina peeling off. It felt like shards of glass in my vagina. Can't even explain the pain I'd get when I walked.... It was a bad. Saw like a bunch of docs until one took me seriously, he to…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:57 AM
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Is this a thing? As a former pregnant person I had the exact opposite problem. It was a miserable and uncomfortable pregnancy. Also orgasms felt like sharp stabbing pains that would turn into one long cramp. I think after a few months PIV sex stopped completely because it was just not fun and made everything worse. I definitely was NOT in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 06:53 PM
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I'll believe it when I see it. I grew up with my mom being the breadwinner in her relationship. My sister in hers. My best friend makes like $90,000 a year while the father of her kids was a janitor. When they split she eventually married someone who made even less than him. I never looked for money when I was dating. I made sure a guy didn't have debt, since I didn't want to be with someone irresponsible, but I never cared much what a guy made as long as he could take care of himself. Just like…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 05:51 PM
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You can't honestly, in good faith, believe ALL women are gold diggers. When I met my husband in our mid 20s, he was still living at home and was working retail (still does). Do you genuinely think I married him for riches?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 05:12 PM
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FDS hates men who watch porn and they're far from the only ones. I'm not sure why they matter. They're a small minority of women who are also nuts. Most feminists also want them outright hung. Proof please. I've never witnessed this. I've only come across feminists who want to ban porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 03:48 AM
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Who's whining about men watching porn? I genuinely don't care if a guy watches porn. I know my husband does from time to time. He knows I do from time to time. It would only matter if it impacted our relationship/life somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 02:52 AM
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You either have general respect for women or you don't. Sounds like you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:37 PM
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Huh, I've never witnessed this. I've dated one guy who had parents that were still together (that I can recall). He was definitely the most feminine of the bunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 06:16 PM
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I pursued my husband. I was the one who approached and gave him my number. That said, I wasn't worried about being pumped and dumped because I wouldn't have slept with him before commitment. I also knew he wasn't a pathetic hedonistic man whore that couldn't control himself. While I was most certainly afraid of rejection, the reward far outweighed the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 06:12 PM
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I didn't say better. I said healthier.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 04:13 AM
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Obviously not. Women aren't things to be used. They aren't objects. Men aren't entitled to sex. They aren't owed it. Women aren't there for men's satisfaction and health. Men are in control of what they do and don't consume online. It's they're own fault for consuming a product and getting addicted to it. There are healthier ways to explore ones own sexuality without going overboard on porn, or even using porn at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 11:02 PM
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Giving birth can absolutely kill you. USA has bad track record for that. Heck, even pregnancy can kill you. Like pre-eclampsia. Also, nobody should have to be tortured against their will to bring another life into the world. Pregnancy was quite hellish, but as someone who has given birth it is by far one of the most agonizing and traumatic things I've been through. I was not prepared for just how horrific it would be. Not only that it took months and months to heal. I was still bleeding and felt…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 10:52 PM
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The men around here, oh yeah, that's definitely true. In real life, not so much. According to men around here everything is a woman's fault. If a man beats her. Not his fault since she's the idiot that stayed in the relationship. It's basically consent. If he stealths her and knocks her up, not his fault for being actual human scum, she should have vetted better and also been on another form of BC. I've read countless times over that men have no personal responsibility to wear a condom or preven…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 02:47 PM
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Genuinely curious about this. Please cite your sources.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:52 PM
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As a woman, all I really thought was he seemed like a good guy. Definitely no smirk. I cringed reading your comment though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:51 PM
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You're going to have to site your sources. I just went down the child birth rabbit hole and spent the last hour reading about the horrors of it in the past. I couldnt find a single thing to back you up. Just countless upon countless medical sources saying the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:41 PM
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So i presume every man who was ever arrested was also guilty then, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:15 PM
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Lol what a judgemental butthurt take lmao Ditto. Not everyone wants to do your celibate prescription, ma'am I said literally nothing about being celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 03:47 PM
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Of course they are. That doesn't mean they'd date them/sleep with them. I've met countless attractive guys I'd never date/sleep with. I personally don't care about a guy's sexuality. An ex of mine is bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:07 AM
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You seem extremely out of touch. Girls don't care if a guy is gay (unless you're raising a bunch of bigots). We'll still swoon and admire. Anyways, none of what you said seems realistic unless you're conservative, which wouldn't be shocking considering how your daughters talk so negatively about others who look different.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 11:24 PM
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I feel like once a man ascends to obtaining casual sex, he's more likely to be able to have a stable relationship I'd argue otherwise. He's proven himself no better than a dog. He can't and doesn't want to control himself. He's a hedonist. Doesn't value personal relationships or likely women in general. He's also more likely to have STDs and cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 11:12 PM
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if it's any consolation, not as dense as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 07:26 PM
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If the cars are inside of you, growing against your will, sucking the calcium from your bones and irreparably changing your body... I'd say, yes, cut out those damn cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 07:21 PM
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My head says cars do not grow inside you so it is a shit comparison since the two are not at all alike. When you can come up with analogy using something that grows inside you against your will, becomes a life and a burden, that could kill, disfigure, or disable you before or during its exit, get back to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 07:12 PM
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They do? I think you're just ignoring them. I've literally never designed a hot a sexy character... At least not a female one 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 05:38 PM
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There is something pathetically wrong with you if you genuinely believe that. You know why I like and appreciate boring? Because, like I said, it's safe. I have health issues. I can't be spontaneous. I can't go on wild adventures. I'll never be able to travel. Yet, there my husband is, super happy to do what I can do and he doesn't feel like he's missing out or craving something more. Like me, he gets joy out of the little things. This my shock you, though you probably won't believe it, but I am…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 03:47 PM
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From a woman's perspective I'd say that a lot of us probably have similar boxes, but we only need a couple of them checked. My husband is handsome, but isn't tall (my height). He isn't particularly successful, and definitely not rich. Neither of those were a requirement for me, though. I just wanted a guy who had zero debt and could take care of himself. He met those requirements. My husband is BORING. Next to no hobbies, but that's okay because boring is safe and I can be pretty boring, too. I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 02:55 PM
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Yeah, no, you're just making stuff up. The whole time I lived in one particular city with my dad from about age 22-24, I did not have a single date. It was after i moved to my hometown and lived on my own that I got some dates, about age 25 (for a handful of months I lived with my mom while i saved up money). As I mentioned in my original comment I talked to a few guys online between ages 22-24. After they learned of my situation they either ghosted or things fizzled out fast. I was never asked …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 05:01 AM
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I bet you don't understand why. You're right, I don't understand why. You'll have to explain. trotting out those sob stories If by sob stories, you mean a tiny snippet of my life. Sure. The point is - you lied, Nah you doubled down when I accused you of lying Lol you're showcasing that you lied. I haven't lied. You're just saying am because I don't fit your narrative. The attractiveness of the men you 'lowered' yourself to I didn't lower myself to anything. Lowering implies that I think I'm bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 03:50 AM
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Once again are cars growing inside your body against your will? No. Then it's a worthless comparison. What is with sicko men thinking women should die or be maimed or disabled for a fetus? I don't get it. When men start sacrificing their lives so people can harvest their organs, I'll take them more seriously. All your organs could save countless people here, right now, but you want to bitch about abortion. Just admit you hate women and want to punish them for being 'sluts'. I don't for a second …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 03:09 AM
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Um, did you just conveniently skip over the multiple years that I lived with my dad where I got zero dates from guys? If you read through my comments i am not picky. Back then if a guy, literally any guy asked me to go on a date with him, I would have said yes. I was legit that lonely. There were a couple years there where I could not find a date. One of my very first dates when guys starting showing interest was with like a 50 year old balding fat dude. He was a neighbor. He threw trash out his…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 02:56 AM
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Disagree with you a they must be misogynist Are you sure English is your first language? Best of luck to you honey Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:32 AM
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This just sounds like a roundabout way of saying you hate women. I stand by this statement. What he wrote, in my opinion, made him sound like he hates women. My interpretation of what he wrote is not an accusation. Is English not your main language? I hope for your sake it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 12:42 AM
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I take you at your word. Except at no point did I accuse that dude of being a misogynist and we both know that. If you genuinely think otherwise, that is called a delusion and is concerning. I've said it once before, get therapy. The funny thing is that now you are enjoying it and it pisses you off. Pisses you but you love it. Love the attention. This is what I mean when I mentioned projection. Best of luck with your cats. I'm allergic to cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 12:12 AM
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No he only mentioned his mom's clothes a few times. I'm not entirely sure if who they belonged to mattered. It might've just been easy access. I don't know for certain. I really didn't want to delve into that aspect of it all. I think he just wanted to humiliated in a very specific way. He wanted a woman to force him to wear ladies clothes and do girly things. He also wanted to be dominated sexually. Would I be surprised if he would want to call the lady that dominated him mama or something? Not…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 12:06 AM
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I'm not really sure what that has to do with anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 11:59 PM
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When I'm well enough we definitely have regular sex. However, he's gone well over over a year without before too. There's also been varying stints of multiple months without. So, yeah, semi-broken lol. I also agree without you about the vagina thing. Men are a lot simpler than women. If a man is desperate enough, he'll take a working vagina and some good company and overlook a whole host of red flags and commit. His quality will likely be equally questionable, though. Doesn't explain my husband,…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 11:58 PM
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Still hung up on that? It doesn't matter how many times you say it, it's not going to make it true. Do you always take things out of context to fit your narrative?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 11:40 PM
1

You are insignificant. What a mean man you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 10:53 PM
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You've got to be a troll. I refuse to a believe a grown man is this absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 10:42 PM
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I went out with that particular guy far longer than I ever should have. He ended up being pretty creepy. I blocked him so many times. He was still contacting me even after I got married. He even applied for a job where my husband works. My husband recognized the name when HR mentioned they were going to hire him. He got them to tell him what he looked like, asked me about it, and yeah, wtf, it was him. They did not end up hiring him after all, thank god. Anyways, he didn't come out with everythi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 10:39 PM
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You screamed misogynist. lol, okay buddy. Still trying convince yourself of that, huh? I pointed out that your assertion was stupid You said I was stupid... multiple times. Rude. you are just lost Ditto. You are a sad person. I can see it. Deep down you know it. Ditto.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 10:13 PM
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Are the cars inside your body against your will? Yes or no? No? Not a valid comparison As I've stated multiple times, death isn't the only pregnancy complication. I'm not going to tear my vagina to my asshole, having my own waste seep inside myself, leading to sepsis, for someone I don't like, or love, or want. Personally, as far as I'm concerned, they aren't even a someone until they're viable. There are countless risks to pregnancy, like preeclampsia (I've known multiple women who've had this)…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 09:59 PM
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I'm confused. Are you under the impression that the people on the road are literally growing inside you and will rip through one of your orifices, potentially killing, disfiguring, or disabling you? No? Then that's not a valid comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 09:25 PM
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Yes, your projection started all of this Well, well, well, how the turn tables. I'm the misogynist now. Is that what you're implying? That wouldn't really make sense considering what brought us to this moment. Perhaps you just don't know what projection means in terms of psychology. There's no shame in that. Here's a refresher: Psychological projection is a defense mechanism in which the ego defends itself against unconscious impulses or qualities by denying their existence in themselves by attr…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 09:19 PM
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I can't relate to the sensory issues, but the rest of it I can definitely empathize with and know a little about myself. Are you able to work? Do you have an income? Hobbies? what can you give someone in that situation? Companionship mostly. Be funny, smart, witty. Be interesting. Know a lot about a lot of things. Be a good conversationalist. Personally, if I was a man stuck in this situation, I'd look more for an older woman. One that's past the baby making days. Older women just want good comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 09:01 PM
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Projection, projection, all I see is projection.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 08:48 PM
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Get therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 08:28 PM
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You're going to have to be clearer on how you think preventing women from getting abortions helps men who don't want to be fathers. Hiring a hitman is still very much illegal and immoral Sure, but self defense isn't. If I have a reasonable belief that someone is about to maim, kill me, or cause me injury, potentially grave, I can stop them, even kill them if it's a big enough threat. The USA has a shockingly high maternal death rate. I should be allowed to save myself from what could kill me. Wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 08:27 PM
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Oh honey, are you literate? I said 'this just sounds like,' not that he is or must be. I didn't accuse. I stated my interpretation of what he wrote. You seem rather worked up, and really defensive. I can tell how excited you were for that gotcha moment. It was a nice try.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 08:12 PM
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Not even an argument. Of course it is. If you don't like women you're probably biased against them and don't have their best interest in mind. You'd potentially even get pleasure from their suffering. So it is most certainly relevant to the conversation. Actively killing is far different from passively letting something die. With that logic, your issue is with the doctors performing the abortions, not the women getting them. Condemn the doctors killing the babies, not the women passively letting…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 08:01 PM
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If I don't care, and nobody has ever said anything to make it seem like they could even potentially care, I don't know why I'd think they would. It makes more sense that they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 07:52 PM
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If we're talking about the comment that started all this back and forth nonsense, he didn't question my logic. I questioned his. I didn't say he was a misogynist, you did. I didn't scream misogyny. In fact, I didn't even say the word until you did. You screamed misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 07:49 PM
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Nice. Trading misogyny for misandry. I don't like either of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 07:26 PM
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I can't find pathetic pushover that lies and has ulterior motives in any of that. Must have sent the wrong link.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 07:23 PM
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Do you mind what I ask what your disability is? I genuinely had the same issue and went out on a bunch of dates where some of the guys I truly found repulsive for one reason or another. I went on way too many dates with a guy that smelled so bad. It was mostly his feet. I don't have carpet in my place, just laminate and where he'd walk (with socks on) would stink. I had to scrub my floors when he left because the odor was so strong. He also had nasty teeth. He wasn't even nice either and would c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 07:18 PM
2

Uh huh... Sure you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 06:52 PM
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I think I'm low relationship value since I'm just often not fun or even much of a joy to be around. I'm often in a lot of pain and a bit miserable. That kind of thing is extraordinarily draining to be around. It takes a toll those around you. There is a lot I can't do. I can't travel because of my issues, at least not by plane and I've got to have every toilet mapped out. Sometimes I need to go every few minutes. It can be incredibly stressful and painful for me. I also can't eat out at a restau…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 06:51 PM
2

And a misogynist would get pleasure from thinking a woman is stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 06:39 PM
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That's a lot of assumptions. I don't think I was ugly back then. Not after the weight loss. Naked, yes, because of loose skin and saggy boobs, but dressed nice and with hair and makeup done, I think I was a pretty convincing 7. To answer your earlier question, yes he was really unattractive. We still dated for like three months. The split was mutual. Part of it was because he had a MASSIVE dong. Like it was unreasonably huge. We tried sex a few times and I just could not. It was nothing but agon…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 06:25 PM
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It isn't just my problem. 50% of the population has the exact same problems. The other 50% has to deal with those that have these problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 06:08 PM
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I am almost certainly low value. It also wasn't when I wanted and I had to make a lot of personal changes. It took years. However, I'm not trying to combat the male incel narrative. I got extremely lucky. I don't think that would've been the case were I a man. I think a man with a disability of some sort (be it physical, mental, or otherwise) would have a hell of a lot harder time dating than a woman with any of those issues. I'm still technically fulfilling my stereotypical role. I stay home, k…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 06:03 PM
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Why do you say that? Genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:49 PM
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A misogynist would like the thought of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:46 PM
3

Do you want a participation trophy or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:34 PM
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This may shock you but women don't choose friends based on looks, at least none that I've ever known, talked to, or was acquainted with, or heard about. I've never in my life thought about another woman's looks when it comes to befriending them. I've had super pretty friends and really unfortunate looking friends. We all hung out. Nobody cared.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:26 PM
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Are you saying you're a misogynist too?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:20 PM
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I'm not entirely sure why there can be zero sexual touching of any short. I actually just commented about this on another post here on ppd, but I've got health issues that makes sex incredibly painful. If I'm doing well, in can still be pretty good in the right position, however even still afterwards im left with a lot of of pain and what feels like a raging uti (it's not, it's my bladder disease flaring). If I'm not doing well sex is impossible because it's far too painful. My husband has gone …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:17 PM
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I think I'm pretty low value. In my early 20s I was quite overweight. I also had a bunch of health issues (still do) and was too sick to work and lived with my dad. I didn't have any friends since I had to move to a city where i knew no one to live with my dad. It was extremely lonely and isolating. I didn't have any hobbies because I was too depressed. I thought about suicide constantly. The only reason I didn't kill myself is my dog. I didn't think anyone would take care of him properly if I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 04:13 PM
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You think women used to choose to be bought and sold and treated like objects, having no say in their lives, who they marry, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 03:46 PM
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You don't have a right to kill a living fetus A woman should absolutely have the right. No on should have to die, be torn open, body destroyed, for someone else. If I can't harvest a kidney from you when I need one to keep me alive, then no, my body can't be used as an incubator to keep someone else alive against my will. ​ Maternity is a choice That's laughable. Especially if you think women shouldn't have access to abortions. ​ You're not entitled to having your biology accommodated. Your biol…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 03:34 PM
1

That is if something is nice. Not someone. There's even a distinction in the definitions when I googled them. Something: pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory. "we had a nice time" "that's a nice couch" Someone: (of a person) pleasant in manner; good-natured; kind. "he's a really nice guy"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 02:00 PM
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Kind, generous, thoughtful. A good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 03:54 AM
1

Every effeminate man I've ever met (in school and otherwise) had a hoard of hot girls at his beck and call. I remember in middle school me and my friends all made out with gayest kid in our school just to see if we could get him to pop a boner. My son will know how to fight. My dad taught me what he knew, but my son will have proper classes, especially if he's effeminate. I'm also lucky that I don't live in the shit hole that is the United States of America, so nobody really gets jumped here and…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 01:53 AM
1

Do boys at school tell each other what they talk to their moms about? How would kids at school even know they're having good conversations with their mother? Why would a mom stop being a good mom in the hopes that her kid doesn't mention it to someone and he gets bullied? Beyond that, why would a mom teach her son to change who he is so he doesn't get bullied? Everywhere I've gone, even as a adult, there's been bullies. They're all scummy sacks of shit. The last thing I'd do is teach my so is ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:57 AM
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In what world? Every female friend (I'm also a woman so get all the nitty gritty details) I've ever had probably had an N count around 5, some less, some more. I've only met one chick over a dozen and she's been married like 8 years now to the same guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:06 AM
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I have no idea what you're trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 11:57 PM
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Lol, doubtful. Usually these kind of guys are secure in their masculinity and are able to effectively communicate and express their feelings. They're in happy marriages and aren't looking to fuck it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 11:56 PM
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A natural born alpha wouldn't be on the internet talking about how he's a natural born alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 03:24 PM
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It's really not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 03:19 PM
5

Id say like 90% of the married couples I know the husband is super nice. Even my own husband would fall into that category. The ones that aren't nice the wives bitch about and regret marrying. Can't comment on the simp part since I've seen it thrown around in so many contexts I'm not completely certain what it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 03:17 PM
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My husband and I didn't have a wedding because we couldn't afford one. Now that I think about it the vast majority of couples I know who are well off weren't well off when they got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 03:07 PM
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It's become increasingly difficult to stay middle class. I grew up middle class. My mom bought a $100,000 house on a secretaries salary 25ish years ago. It has a big yard, 4 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms. It would now sell for close to a million and it's pretty dated. My small one bath, one bed + den condo cost over three times what she paid for her house. I could only afford this place because of an inheritance. She only makes a few bucks more an hour than she did back then. A lot of middle class jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 11:37 PM
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I suggest you humble yourself and spend some time around people who are not rich, which the vast majority aren't. The majority of people aren't choosing to be poor. The majority of people are not addicted to drugs and/or alcohol. Most people work extremely hard to have what little they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 11:07 PM
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Then use some of that work ethic and grit and take a good hard look around you. Those people you know are called anomalies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 10:57 PM
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It's hard to pick up your weight and work when there's nothing to work toward. The same job that supported a stay at home wife, 4 kids, bought a house, a car, and a yearly family vacation back in the day (which the guy got without a college education) , now can't even support one person to rent a one bed apartment and also requires 4 years of university. The job I got (which I love) paid $15 back in 2010. Rent for a nice one bedroom place was around $850. Today that same job pays $16.50. Rent fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 10:32 PM
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How do you know? It's obvious. You've learned absolutely nothing, have you? I'm quite happily married to a wonderful man. I'd say I learned a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 09:41 PM
2

I genuinely feel like I won the lottery when it comes to my spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 09:34 PM
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Did you think you'll have a tea party? Quite literally, yes, that's what we did. That's what the hotel is known for. Don't believe me? Google Fairmont empress hotel. It's tea room is what it's known for. He asked me once what my dream first date was and that's what I said. It was something I really wanted to do and I thought was super special. I had no idea he'd also gotten a room there. because that's apparently very alluring to you I find good men alluring (I was stupid enough back to be foole…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 08:51 PM
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What possible secrets could you have had that your parents kicked you out lol My step dad was perv and I knew girls he'd creeped on, including myself, but I knew my mom would never believe me and would choose him. If its legal, I think that's none of my business. I think you'd agree with me that we need to raise age of consent especially for girls like you that go out looking for trouble You are truly despicable. At no point did I look for trouble and you know it. You just make excuses for creep…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 06:11 PM
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Using horses is a bad analogy. I grew up riding horses and doing horse shows. My extended family had huge ranches with countless horses and it was like visiting heaven every summer. Being able to live like that is literally my dream life. I've been thrown from a horse. I've been thrown from multiple horses. There was one horse that easily spooked and threw everyone. I cannot explain the joy involved when you bond with a horse and they no longer throw you, they feel safe around you and don't spoo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 06:00 PM
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If we say 16 is legal, then its legal, ALWAYS with ANY PARTNER and ANY AGE GAP as long as its consensual Just because it's legal doesn't make it right. A 20 year old can legally fuck 15 year old where I'm from. Do you think 20 year olds should be fucking 15 year olds? At 20, would you have fucked a 15 year old? I hope to god not. Your subjective alarm bells are yours alone No they're not. Many people think it's wrong for a grown ass adults to fuck someone that was considered a child as little as…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 04:06 PM
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It's like explaining the difference between toast and bread. It's obvious and if you can't see it, get help.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:59 PM
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If i genuinely have to explain this to you you're extremely sus. There is a major difference between an 18 year in high school living at home and a 25 year old in college living at home. If you can't see that, get therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:42 PM
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If you have a point, please state it. Are you saying people over the age of 25 shouldn't date under?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:34 PM
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Sure, the law does, but we all know that 18 year olds really aren't. A lot of them of are still in high school and living with their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:33 PM
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I obviously know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:30 PM
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That's the dumbest comparison I've ever read. In no legally binding scenario would divorce end in a violent physical mutilation. Try again. Also, to many many people, marrying someone you love and building a family with them is winning the lottery. Just go on any forum where there are fertility struggles. There are both women and men that would give their left hand to have a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:20 PM
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Probably because most of them are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:13 PM
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18 year olds can not legally drink in the USA or even where I live in Canada. I've also never in my life met a an 18 year old that I'd consider a full blown adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:13 PM
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That's the dumbest thing I've ever read.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:08 PM
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You say 30% chance of divorce... So if you had 70% of winning the lottery, you wouldn't bet on it? Anyways, a man can marry up or just not a shit person if he's worried about his things/money. Also, have you forgotten prenups exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:07 PM
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No. I know two people that were groomed (both men by much older women), sometimes it needs to be called out. There's a difference between 28 year old dating a 38 year old and an 18 year old dating a 28 year old. I was a very desperate and lonely kid and was very much taken advantage of when I was 17 (legal here) by a 25 year old man. At the time I thought nothing was wrong with it and I was just special. No, he was a raging manipulative creep and it fucked me up for a while. He was 100% grooming…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 01:54 PM
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I'm confused. Are you saying women can't be friends with men? The majority of my best friends over the years have been guys. None wanted to date me. There was even one I crushed on for years. He was uninterested. In my mid teens two of my closest friends were straight guys. We'd hang out all the time. I'd sleep over at one guys house, get baked and crash in his bed with him, falling asleep playing video games. Another guy slept over at my house and was almost certainly there if I was. Nothing we…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 07:28 PM
1

This explains a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 07:16 PM
1

He also still has to pay for it or risk getting fired.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 06:08 PM
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Clubs, probably not. Pubs and bars all the time. It's absolutely an activity of sorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 02:31 PM
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I haven't looked at his comment history. I only saw the one comment and it was red flags galore. I can almost guarantee his bitterness seeps into conversations he has with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 02:00 AM
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I know one person that got pregnant while taking the pill. I know two who had an IUD. Also, not all women are compatible with BC. I've tried about 4 different pills. Not only do they make me extremely suicidal, they turn my libido off completely and make orgasm impossible. Tried the IUD. Constant cramping and passing multiple egg sized blood clots a day. This went on for about a month until I demanded the doc take it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 05:52 PM
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The guy will be made to pay and slave for the offspring All that child support and yet it still wouldn't be half what she pays in the long run. Slave? By slave you mean do literally nothing other than fork over a few bucks while she does all the hard work? just get the 'pill after sex' - done. No. Not even close to done. Plan B is not 100% effective. I've known women who've taken it and still gotten pregnant. you know how to protect yourself or you are a fool. Same goes for men. Don't want a kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 05:48 PM
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I'm not at all sure what your point is. I highly doubt the women that damaged him want anything to do with him. Also, he can choose to get therapy and better himself and not let that 'damage' ruin his chances with women. He can learn new habits and tricks to better his mood, vet women better, take things slow, etc. There's absolutely no reason to let his bitterness and hatred for women paint a dark cloud over his entire life. This is just pathetic and women don't want a man that's pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 01:54 PM
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Nope. It's a choice (unless mental illness is involved). You choose to let it affect you or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 01:48 PM
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No. That's not at all how it works. If women see that a guy isn't shallow, has dated women that are less attractive than her, it will give her a lot more incentive to make a move. It's literally the only reason I was brave enough to get a mutual friend to give my husband my number. I thought he was miles out of my league, but I knew who one of his exes were and knew I was better looking than her. Had I not known who his ex was, there is exactly zero chance of me ever making the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 01:39 PM
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As a woman who knows countless other women, nope. If he's got blatant red flags the only women that will stick around are stupid, have no backbone, and have zero self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 01:32 PM
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100% disagree. You cannot tell me 80% of men are sexless, dateless, and unmarried. That is blatantly false. I can walk into any walmart and see fat ugly men with women and kids. I know a guy who is obese, hair down to his ass, no education past middle school, doesn't work, and literally lives in his mom's basement. He met a girl online. Got a job long enough to save money to fly to her country, get laid, and come back. Where there's a will, there's a way. The only men I've ever come across that …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 01:30 PM
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They don't need to. I can tell by one comment what his personality is like. He's a giant red flag. He is extremely bitter and doesn't like women, I can almost guarantee almost every woman that encounters him can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 01:22 PM
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Why he's bitter is irrelevant. His crap attitude is going to scare away any woman that would be willing to give him a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 04:42 AM
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No it's like blaming a starving person for putting poison in all their food and now they've got nothing to eat. They're self sabotaging with their shitty attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 04:41 AM
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Those gay men are likely just looking to fuck. They don't care about your personality. Women care how you behave/what your personalty is like, likely even the ones that are DTF.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 04:38 AM
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Looks will get ladies interested, but it won't keep them interested. If a guy is a bitter asshole that clearly has a chip on his shoulder and thinks rather lowly of women, the vast majority of us are going to run for the hills.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 04:36 AM
1

Just by his first comment I can almost 100% guarantee its not his looks that are the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 03:25 AM
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Rami malek. He's kinda odd looking but I find him quite attractive. My husband has a lot of similar features and has the same kind of build.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 02:39 AM
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I'm clearly not talking about looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 02:31 AM
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Sure I can. You can choose to grow and learn, be mature and move on from your hurt... Or you can stew in it, become resentful and bitter and push everyone away, blaming them despite you being a miserable drain to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 01:50 AM
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I lost around 130lbs. Lowest weight was 112 but I legit have to starve myself to be that thin. Now I hover around 140 since I have a kid and can't feel like I'm always on the brink of passing out. I went from being invisible to men, constantly rejected, to having some options. Guys weren't lining up and they weren't attractive, but some of them were very decent guys. We just didn't mesh well romantically. One I'm still friends with years later. (this was all online) Eventually, through a mutual …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 01:17 AM
1

It might have something to do with your attitude and how bitter you sound.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 01:11 AM
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I've perused there. Couldn't find anything I agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:43 PM
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It was on Facebook groups just for women, particularly mothers. They're a vicious group lol. I could see their profile pics. Some even knew my husband from having worked with him. Yes they contacted him and gave him screenshots.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 05:29 PM
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Nope, no. So much no. Women are vicious to each other. I personally see women I don't know as vultures. They swoop in when another woman is at her weakest and most vulnerable and tear them to shreds. Female friends will do as you described. Random women on the internet, not so much. I remember when my son was born I couldn't figure out the whole diaper situation. He was having massive blowouts. So naturally as a first time mom I posted about it asking if other moms could recommend a certain diap…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 04:50 PM
0

I've met a lot of lonely guys. The only lonely and sexless guys I've come across have outrageous standards. I'm talking they're a 3 on a good day but they're going after 8s and are somehow surprised each and every time they get rejected. They also take rejection terribly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 12:16 AM
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Your best option is to run and never look back. She is immature and full of drama. Also, if someone will cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. She is a giant red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 09:31 PM
1

It really comes down to if your relationship is good or not. If you have a rocky one, it's only going to be exacerbated with kids. All the happy couples I know who had kids are still happy and doing quite well. All the couples that probably shouldn't have had kids, most have split and the drama never ceases.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 07:15 PM
2

One of the biggest complaints married women have nowadays is not being able to have as many kids as they truly wanted. This is definitely an issue for my husband and I. We really want more kids (have one), but it's just unrealistic. It's not going to happen. What we paid for our one bedroom + den condo we could've bought 2 of the house my mom bought back in the day with a one income secretary wage. It has 4 bedrooms, two baths, and huge yard. It would sell for a close to a million now. There is …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 07:09 PM
1

It should be a giant red flag because it shows she's impulsive and can't control herself. She'd rather dig herself further and further into a hole then to just stop digging and slowly climb her way out. She values things over financial security. She wants things so badly she'll fuck up her entire life. It's ridiculous behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 02:56 PM
1

So you'd date a woman with major debt? Someone with over $60,000 of debt and I'm not talking student loans.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 02:31 PM
4

Really depends where you work. I made less because I work one on one (not currently working because of health issues). So like $17 an hour. If you work in a facility it can be in the mid 20s. I can't do that though. It means neglecting people because instead of one person to care for during your shift, you have like 8-12. they're all so lonely and sad and scared, it sucks any and all happiness right out of you. Then you see them die. It takes a certain kind of person to do that job, which unfort…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 05:49 AM
4

Just because you have zero standards doesn't mean other guys are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 05:36 AM
2

An HCA (health care assistant). Take care of old and/or mentally/physically disabled folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 05:33 AM
10

This has not been my experience as a woman. I've had a lot of guy friends that would next girls in dead end jobs simply because they just didn't seem to have their shit together. I'm not college educated. I've had well educated men be super into me until that question is asked then they've ghosted or outright said they aren't interested because in not ambitious, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 04:37 AM
2

I have absolutely no idea what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 01:00 AM
2

When I think grope, I think grabbed and then let go. But I've experienced a lot of unwanted touch, so I would expand on that since I think a lot of women tend to lump it in with unwanted touch. Anywhere purposefully touched/grabbed that wouldn't be appropriate. I'm not talking tap on the shoulder. I've had guys brush their fingers over my neck or fac. I've even had guys start playing with my hair (one of them was a complete stranger on a bus that sitting behind me). It's very intimidating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 07:14 PM
1

Because that's usually what harassment entails. 90% of the guys that said gross shit to me also groped. I've also had guys grope that said nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 05:56 PM
2

Wouldn't men be the childish ones? They're the ones that can't control themselves. Seriously, how often are kids told to keep their hands to themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 05:37 PM
4

Men get killed and die all the time, and far more often than women in fact Yeah, by men. Men are clearly the problem and need to be dealt with. Women expect to be protected feel entitled to protection, I think as a woman I can speak for a lot of us when I say we expect the exact opposite. We know nobody gives a rats ass which is why so many of us don't like men and avoid ones we don't know. Nobody is going to protect us. Not even police since a lot of them are doing the abusing, and even the mur…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 05:31 PM
1

Why would any sane person want to do this? No country wants to be like the states in terms of violence and mass shootings.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 05:25 PM
3

That is not a thing where I'm from. You're not even allowed to carry knives or pepper spray.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 05:23 PM
4

No. I don't like diamonds. My ring isn't a diamond, but it is very unique looking. I genuinely think 99% of engagement rings are tacky af. Mine isn't technically an engagement ring. Just a super pretty ring (imo) . Just like my wedding ring isnt a typical one. It's got blue little gems (can't remember what they're called since I genuinely don't care). My rings are extremely sentimental to me. They are irreplaceable and I'd never get over it if I lost one or both. My husband also knows not to buy…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 12:30 AM
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Nah, I think only shallow women would feel this way or ones that already have issues with their partner. Also ones that don't really understand money and how ridiculous it is to spend that much on a ring. Even if my husband was loaded I'd think he's an idiot if he spent that much on a ring. My engagement ring was $1400 and even that made me cringe when I found out the price.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 07:07 PM
2

Anyone who doesn't say 6.5 has terrible taste in women and probably isn't suited for long term relationships since they make terrible life choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 08:09 PM
3

I mean, if shitty guys want to go for shitty girls, all the power to them. I wouldn't date a guy who sleeps around just like the guys I dated wouldn't date women who slept around. I don't vibe with men who can't control themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 04:26 AM
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Uh no. It would give me a so much more respect for a guy. I'd next any guy that wouldn't respect my boundaries and what it takes for me to be comfortable having sex with him... Which is commitment. I'm not risking my health, mentally or physically, for a guy that doesn't think I'm worth sticking around for. Every long term relationship I've had the guy has waited. Not months by any means, but long enough that I feel comfortable and safe with him. With my husband we dated for a few weeks. He aske…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:57 PM
1

I've only felt it once and that was with my husband. To be fair, he is the only guy that I've dated where I felt the emotional connection was outstanding, plus I thought he was hot. I've dated a bunch of guys who weren't hot and the emotional stuff was there, but there just wasn't a spark. Same goes for good looking guys. I liked how he looked but there was no emotional connection, so no spark.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:45 PM
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Extremely, yes. But so do attractive women. Attractive people in general intimidate the hell out me. I feel like they must be disgusted when they look at me, which makes me feel unworthy of their time/attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 08:35 PM
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That is completely false. One of my best friends in my teens to early 20s was a guy. What started out as an innocent crush grew and grew until I truly felt in love with him. Unfortunately, the feelings weren't mutual. I got up the nerve to tell him how I felt (he said he kinda figured) and things were never the same. We went from hanging out all time to him not returning my calls, making plans for a day and not showing up or answering calls. That made everything so much worse, so I just stopped …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 08:31 PM
1

Well, i know multiple council members and the building manager and they're all aware where my son sleeps. The fire department, too, since we get regular checks. Anyways, if for some strange reason it became an issue. We'd just trade rooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 01:53 AM
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The room has French doors. The doors have windows, but it's easy enough to get coverings for them. Just don't need it yet. My husband built a really cool thing on the wall in the room that functions like a closet. It's hard to explain. But it looks really good. Most of his clothes hang from there. There's storage above and he has a big wooden trunk beneath it. He also has a dresser where he can store clothes too. If the car were to suddenly die we have enough money in the bank to get an older us…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 01:28 AM
2

Ah, I see. I cared more about connection and compatibility than how much money my husband has.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 01:19 AM
2

You'd be catching a sweet deal to find a place for $1200 here. I don't know how single parents do it. I also really don't understand why people have more kids than they can afford. I can understand one accidental kid, but then ending up with more... It sounds like irresponsibility is a factor. I know that's not the case for all, but I think it is for a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 01:15 AM
1

What?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 01:04 AM
2

For me it's definitely not just physical. Physical definitely plays a part, but if there's no emotional connection, there's no spark. The one and only person I felt a spark with was my husband and I found him insanely hot, plus we had a really strong connection right away. There were guys I found very attractive but we just didn't vibe so I moved on. Same with some unattractive guys where I felt we really connected but I just wasn't sexually attracted, so there was no spark. Those guys I was so …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 01:02 AM
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You definitely don't need all that fancy stuff. Our yearly income is like $60,000. We drive a 16 year old car that I bought 7 years ago for like 7 grand. We own a small one bed apartment that has a den area we use as a bedroom for our kid. I obviously wish we had more, like a yard. But it's not necessary to have a thriving child.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:57 AM
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If they're in daycare you need a lot of money. Just one kid in day care here can be like $1300 a month or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:50 AM
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I don't think any of that makes him an alpha. He just has money which grants him a lot of power and gold digging sluts. He reminds me of a really, really, really stupid puppet. A puppet so stupid he's bad at being a puppet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 09:43 PM
1

Oh, i don't agree with that at all. Money=power.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 09:39 PM
2

I'm not sure how or why you'd consider him partially alpha. I don't see any alpha traits in him. Can you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 09:02 PM
1

I'm not entirely sure how that is relevant, but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 09:00 PM
1

IUI is not cheap where I'm from. It's like $1500-4000 per cycle and it often takes multiple times. Of course it's cheaper than IVF ($10,000-15,000 per cycle), but it still seems like something you'd want to avoid simply because of the cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 08:58 PM
1

Trump is the last person I'd consider an alpha. All he does is whine and complain and point the finger and cry victimhood. None of that is alpha behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 08:48 PM
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Depends where you live. As I mentioned in another comment my sister's ex bf was able to go after her house and get well over 100 grand from her simply because he lived there for a few years and they were considered common law.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 09:48 PM
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My husband and I didn't have a wedding! We just had the officiant come to our place and used our moms as witnesses. Only our parents were there. I really wanted a wedding, but in no universe would we ever be able to afford one and there was no way I was going into debt for a party.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 09:35 PM
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Not in Canada or at least BC. You're considered common law after two years of cohabitating. My sister learned this the hard way. She owned her house and he moved in. When they broke up he went after her house. He could have forced sale of it if she wasn't able to remortgage her house. It cost her well over $100,000. She had to buy him out of place she owned.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 09:31 PM
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Nope. Be a woman with a disability, particularly one with chronic, disabling pain that prevents any sort of quality of life and, of course, sex, then come back to me. Its extremely ignorant to say it's not true when I've literally lived it. I'm telling you, I lived it. You're being ridiculous. I can see you live in an alternate reality, one that you believe is real, but simply isn't. You want to believe any woman is desirable, but that just isn't true. I want to live your world. I wish it existe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 04:14 PM
1

Yeah, sorry, I'm under the firm belief that one has to be bat shit crazy if they think parents loving their children is considered to be spoiling them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 03:43 PM
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Lmao. They don't. I was single for 5ish years. Go on any ic sub or Facebook page and it's chocked full of single women who can't find a man because no one wants to deal with their illness. A lot of them have had long term partners leave them, too. I did when it all started.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 08:46 AM
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what exactly are you trying to achieve by lying like that? I'm not lying. You're just ignorant. So... what's your disfiguration? Google interstitial cystitis/bladder pain syndrome. Not only was I obese, my illness was so bad I was just about disabled. I wasn't able to work and lived with my dad. Not only that, I was basically living on the toilet in agony, plus it makes sex impossible because it is horrifically painful. Would you go on a date with a fat chick that can't work, lives with her dad,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:47 AM
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That's not basic respect - that's a privilege you feel entitled to because of your gender lol Not even a little. That's what people do where I live. If someone is walking behind you, you hold the door open for them. People also go out of their way to open doors for elderly folks, people and wheelchairs, and folks with strollers. It has literally nothing to do with dicks or vaginas. But that number would have been incredibly small. I'm too lazy to do the math. It was probably a few a week. You ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:14 AM
1

Luckily, I'm not American.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 04:04 AM
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I'm not sure what you mean. Where I live it's not about gender. If you're polite, you hold the door for whoever is behind you. It's common courtesy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 09:46 PM
2

I had the opposite problem. I'm pretty much an open book and I think that could throw some guys off. I probably asked too many questions, but I was genuinely curious. I'm married now, though, so that technique did eventually pay off lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 09:45 PM
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No kids. No major red flag in my profile. I have a bladder disease that can be quite debilitating at times but since it's quite personal and embarrassing I saved it for conversations with guys I was genuinely interested in and wanted to meet. Those couple of guys still went on dates with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 07:14 PM
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I don't think Canada is as overweight as America. So when I got down to 112lbs, I wasnt particularly special. I was still pretty invisible, but people in general were nicer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 06:42 PM
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Not small, but definitely nothing like Toronto. This was also in multiple cities. I don't know what id rate myself. But I went down to 112lbs and men were unfortunately not lining up. Not even a small queue lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 06:37 PM
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It was 100% true for me and every bigger girl I've been acquainted with. Don't even get me started on how doctors treated me... Granted its still deplorable. Major health issues when from doctors saying lose weight to its just anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 06:32 PM
7

Canada.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:44 PM
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This is not true in my personal experience and knowing women who are not attractive. I was once quite overweight (I lost 135lbs). When I was overweight I was single for years. When you're ugly/fat, you don't even get basic respect like the people walking in front of you holding the door open. I felt very invisible during that time. I did a lot of online dating and would go weeks without matches. I'd say 99% of the men I reached out to (not good looking men because I had extremely low self-esteem…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:30 PM
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I'm not sure why you think he got her pregnant on purpose. That wasn't the case. I don't know why you'd assume I'm American either. Where I live, child support is based on income. He was a dish washer at the time she took him to court which was a few years after their daughter was born. I've known the girl he knocked up since I was about 12. She's not crazy. They hooked up once at a party. There was no trick. They never spent any time together before or after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 12:08 AM
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I don't think you realize how normal some of these guys seem at first. My best friend as a teen and into my early 20s was a guy. We were inseparable. He practically lived at my house, spending the night most nights because his home situation wasn't great. We tried dating at one point but it was supremely awkward and kind of felt like kissing a relative, there was just no sexual chemistry. We mutually decided to stay friends. He was what I thought to be a wonderful guy. I set him up on many dates…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 12:54 PM
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Or a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 01:39 AM
1

No. I said the exact opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 12:35 AM
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That's not how I can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 06:47 PM
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I can most certainly tell you're not a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 04:59 PM
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a) that's biased on the fact that the men that don't do that, you didn't choose them False. I said most. Therefore I've been with men who have not been like this. b) you probably haven't experienced a committed relationship where a man wouldn't do that because he'd get a dead bedroom. False. I'm married and he has literally never behaved that way. Lately we've been averaging sex a couple times a week. It varies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 04:54 PM
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I'm pretty sure 99% of women can relate to her statement. Probably best not to argue it since you're making it sound like you know nothing about female anatomy or our orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 04:43 PM
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So I've dated a lot of men, many of them pretty good guys. However, id say the majority of them would stoop to this sort of behavior when they weren't getting sex as frequently as they wanted. I'd say every guy I've dated, besides my husband and one other really great guy, all did it to varying degrees. In my teens guys would do this before we even had sex. They'd beg and plead for it and call you a prude. The guy I lost my virginity too when I was 14 just wouldn't stop nagging, pestering and pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 02:44 AM
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In my female experience... Most of them will take what they can get if it otherwise means none in that moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 02:38 AM
1

I'm a woman and have literally never met a woman who wanted to settle down think like this. Women who enjoyed playing the field and had no yearning for a LTR and kids, sometimes, but still rarely. Every woman I've known that has settled down is not married to what I would describe as a Chad. My own husband isn't a Chad. I find Chads repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 05:24 PM
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Almost all my best friends throughout the years have been male. It slowly dwindled to none once they got long term girlfriends/wives/kids and whatnot. I never had any issues with boyfriends and my guy friends. Surprisingly, they'd get along great. With my closest guy friend, he became good friends with two of my bf's. He'd even hang out with my bf sometimes without ne. When one bf left me they even became roomies for a year or two. We'd still all hang out from time to time. I've always dated pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 03:05 AM
1

It ain't rocket science. You ask her what feels good and do just that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 02:13 AM
6

Women most definitely want to be fucked by their husband's if they know how to do it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 01:10 AM
1

Quality men are loyal. Otherwise they'd be trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 11:38 PM
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Bad news for who? I'm happily married to a loyal man who values me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 06:02 PM
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Marriage for women is extremely logical if you know how a lot of us women think. Women don't consider it a 'thing'. It's most certainly not about being property. Men aren't interchangeable. It's about commitment. Marriage is the highest form of commitment there is. Women want to feel valued and that their man is loyal and wants only them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 09:00 PM
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Sounds like you have terrible taste in women. Don't date women who play games/do tests. Date mature women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 02:16 AM
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I don't even know what your argument is. Rebuttal for what? Data for what? I'm not American, it does not pertain to me or my situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 05:22 PM
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You seem to be very confused. I'm not sure why, but you are struggling to comprehend what's being said. I wasn't talking about ALL women and especially not American women. I was only talking in regards to myself, and I'm not American. My emotional tirade? You mean a vague timeline of my day? LMAO. Are you okay? I'd hate to see how you react to actual emotions. I have zero resentment on the household/childcare front. The only thing I wish I had is more alone time with my husband. > How convenient…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 04:03 PM
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Are you seriously telling me you genuinely think a father should spend zero time taking care of and raising their own damn kids? By time he gets home I've spent about 11 hours 'working' . He's spent 8 working total. He technically has a 9 hour work day, but one of those hours is spent on two seperate breaks. I don't get breaks. A bunch of his time is travelling in the car. One of his favorite things to do is go on drives alone and blast music, he'll often drive around a bit. His work is a ten mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 11:05 AM
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I'm a SAHM. Not really because I want to, but because of my health issues. This will probably be an unpopular opinion but we kind of treat taking care of the kid and all that during the day as a job, so basically when my husband gets home from work that's when I get off work too. He then does the majority of the child care when he gets home since he's spent zero time with them. I also don't do anymore cleaning and whatnot unless my husband specifically asks me to... which is pretty much never. O…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 01:57 AM
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Some ugly guys can get laid plenty, but there has to be something unique about them. When I think back to school, a really popular guy in school was this dirty punk kid. He was short, skinny, and had wonky teeth and bad acne, but also had a huge personality. He could charm everyone. He banged like every girl, popular and otherwise. I was a huge loser in school and invisible to guys, but when he looked my way, well, I wasn't any better than the rest of the girls. I slept with him. He was super ni…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 07:44 PM
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Women aren't alive to make men happy. Get a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 06:32 PM
2

I knew someone with ED. He said he couldn't use it because it made his vision blue. Like everything he saw was blue lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 08:08 PM
2

Personally, I believe that perpetuates the problem and isolates the person with whatever the problem is. People are less likely to escape a bad situation if they have no where to go and no one to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 07:35 PM
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So you'd disown your kid if they were clinically depressed and attempted suicide? What? You'd disown them if they smoked pot? As I mentioned countless times, having unconditional love for your kids doesn't mean not having rules, boundaries, expectations, etc. That being said, I expect kids to test all of that and not be a robotic sheep that goes exactly as I say. I want my kid to be their own person. And for them to learn and grow, mistakes need to happen. As someone who did a lot of drugs as a …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 05:40 PM
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If my son joined the KKK I definitely would not disown him simply because he needs someone in his life to speak reason to him. Would I distance myself? Yes. Would he know I don't approve? Yes. However, I'd stay in the background in case he decided to seek help. I will always help if they seek to change and grow. Also, age plays a huge role on how I'd deal with everything. There would be much more drastic measures taken if he was still in my care. I don't know who MJ is. Did a quick google search…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 03:01 PM
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Yup. I've always had my dad and he loves me unconditionally. I have a husband who loves his kid unconditionally since he was raised by a father who loved him unconditionally. Sounds like you needed to by raised by a father who taught you to have confidence and not give a fuck what other people think. That's what my dad did. Also, where I live parents don't stop being parents once the kid turns 18. That's just a fucked up American mentality, which luckily, most first world countries have not adop…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 02:41 AM
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Yeah. If my kid did that I'd think they had more to offer too. But if they were miserable doing other stuff, whatever, to each their own. I'm not going to disown my kid because they're living life for themselves and not for me. I would be sick in the head if I expected them to live a life that appeased me and made me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 02:20 AM
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If you teach your kids love is conditional based on certain actions, that's how you raise people who are abused and taken advantage of. You should never teach people, particularly young girls that love needs to be earned by behaving or doing certain things for people, especially men. My kids will always know I love them unconditionally, there is nothing they could do that would make me love them less. That doesn't mean I will tolerate certain behavior. They have rules and boundaries, but I'm not…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 02:17 AM
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What the actual fuck am I reading? Yes kids deserve and need unconditional love from their parents. If you can't do the bare minimum like love your kid, get your shit snipped and never breed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 02:00 AM
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Lmao, what kind of crazy is this? Loving your kids and not treating them as disposable, but as actual people with their own dreams and aspirations, is being a doormat?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 01:58 AM
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As a parent, if she was genuinely happy being a thot, I wouldn't care. I don't want my kids to grow up living life based on how others think they should. I hope they pursue a life that brings them joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 01:55 AM
7

This has gotta be one of the creepiest things I've ever read. Comes off very pedo and incesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 12:52 AM
4

Why even have a kid if you think they are disposable? As a fellow parent I think your mindset is both disgusting and disturbing. Also kinda makes me sad that kids grow up with parents that don't love them. Then again, I might be willing to trade loving parents for a million bucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 12:50 AM
7

I've never had a conversation with a conservative woman that didn't make me feel like I just wasted my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:32 PM
0

Not here to change your mind. Just here to say not all women have lots of options. Some of us are stuck in shitty circumstances and would love to claw our way out some how. I have some chronic health issues that prevent me from working. I've only managed to work about a total of 3 years in the last 10. I don't qualify for disability. So things are ROUGH to say the least. Which also means I'm kinda desperate. If I was hot (i have an ok face) I would be tempted to do online stuff. But between havi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:29 PM
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There are still 104 economies with labour laws that restrict the types of jobs women can undertake, and when and where they are permitted to work. It estimates that this affects the employment choices of 2.7 billion women. The type of discrimination women face varies from state to state. In 123 countries there are no laws to stop sexual harassment in education, and 59 countries don’t legislate against it in the workplace. In 18 countries husbands have the legal right to prevent their wives from …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:20 PM
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At no point have I been arguing. I've been stating what I know is fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 11:41 PM
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We're not talking about the person having an the affair. We're talking about the person encouraging, enabling, and participating in it. If you don't care that you're participating in the destruction of an innocent person's life, you're a selfish piece of shit. Fact. End of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 09:11 PM
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No, it's not an argument. It's fact. It means you lack empathy and consideration for others. It means you are wildly selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 07:54 PM
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I mean, if you sleep with someone you know is in a relationship it does mean you're a terrible person. So you should probably feel bad about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 05:44 PM
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What the fuck are you talking about? Are you saying it's perfectly reasonable for guys to lie and say they're committed, that they're in a relationship with you, that they're falling in love with you, that they can't wait for you to meet their daughter, etc etc, only to then ghost you once you've slept together?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 05:24 AM
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So if considering each other our boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't count as being in a relationship, what does?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 11:54 PM
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This is a huge generalization. I was seeing a guy for a couple months. Had the bf/gf talk. He seemed pretty amazing. He texted good morning and goodnight and was always excited to see me. He ghosted me after we slept together. I ran into him a couple weeks later while he was working (he's a roofer and was working on a friend's roof). I said hi so and so, and he literally ignored me. I said hi in front of multiple people. He didn't even lift his head from what he was doing. It was so fucking humi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 06:06 PM
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This is true. Just because someone looks good on paper doesn't mean you'll click or have anything to talk about. I went on dates with a few guys that on paper seemed amazing, and some guys were truly good men, but once we got chatting there was nothing. No chemistry, no connection. Everything was just kind of stale and felt off. My husband met a lot of what I was looking for. He was genuinely the first person I felt a true spark with. On our first date we met at a coffee shop. Got there around 4…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 05:56 PM
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You sound like a giant red flag. That might have something to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 10:22 PM
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I've had a lot of guy friends in my life and my experience guys aren't like that. They definitely don't hype you to their friends or anything like that. I've also had to end a friendship because of feelings. They were really ridiculously strong. He did not at all feel the same way as me. I crushed on him all of high school and we hung out all the time, pretty much every day. Once we were in our 20s I just couldnt do it anymore. I wanted him to be happy, but at the same time I struggled to be hap…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 02:51 AM
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Since when are blond men unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 07:15 PM
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Why? My dad had me at 45. I never noticed. He was way more involved than any of my friends dad's. He took me to the pool every weekend. Took me horseback riding. Came to all my sporting events. Taught me baseball and soccer. Took me camping every summer. We also had a wood furnace. So he'd be chopping wood for a couple hours every weekend too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 04:36 PM
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I think divorce is only bad if the parents are vindictive towards each other and/or use the kids as pawns. My parents divorced when I was 7. It was fine. They didn't fight or argue. Never went to court or anything like that. I could call my dad up and see him whenever I wanted. I went there every weekend too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 04:27 PM
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Lmao. Ditto.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/21 11:13 PM
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Lmao. So because i think men should have responsibility and control over their bodies, women shouldnt have control of their own... What?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/21 02:55 PM
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If he doesn't want a baby, then he should wrap it or get a vasectomy. Otherwise it's safe too assume what could happen if he ejaculates in a woman. If he doesn't want to be a father or pay child support, he should do everything I'm his power to prevent it from happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 09:27 PM
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As I mentioned, I wanted to move in with a friend's mother who was more than willing to help. She had gone through what I did (she'd been a teen mom). Back then I wanted to be a nurse. She said I could stay there while i finished high school (I was an honor student) and did nursing. After the abortion I was no longer an honor student. In fact most of the time I wasn't a student at all. I graduated years late. Also, my mom said she'd call the cops and have me forcibly removed if I tried to move i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 05:12 PM
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So you think trauma and forced abortions are good parenting? Tell me, is this what you would do? I vividly remember my mom telling me if I managed to get away from her and have the baby, she'd never stop calling CPS to get the baby taken away, even if that meant lying, since teens shouldn't have babies (that's ignoring the fact that the father wasn't a teen). She told me I ought to kill myself before having the baby since that would be better for it and better for my bf. Is this something you'd …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 02:53 PM
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And if he never ejaculated, a baby wouldn't be possible. Sounds like a him problem. Without the man, babies wouldn't be an issue. Men need to take responsibility for where their jizz ends up. Unless she raped and forced a man to cum inside her, that's all on him. He's the one doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 02:08 PM
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What if I want a baby? Don't want to pay child support for the life YOU helped create, don't cum in women. Simple as. Once again, take responsibility for your own jizz and where it ends up. Don't be a disgusting pig.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 03:35 AM
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Lmao. No. Take responsibility for yourself, your own sperm, and where it ends up. Women are not responsible for where YOU ejaculate. If you don't want a baby, don't make a baby. Grow the fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 02:07 AM
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You frequently have unprotected sex and ejaculate in fertile women? I'm not sure what else you're expecting other than pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 01:02 AM
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Why do you keep putting yourself in the equation? This is weird. I also didn't 'let' him do fuck all. Fuck off with that disgusting rhetoric.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 12:10 AM
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So, no, you don't have a point. As I mentioned elsewhere he'd get angry. When you've experienced that exact situation, then I'll take your opinion seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 12:03 AM
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And he's the one that got me pregnant. I'm not sure what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 11:58 PM
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I'm sorry, do you think boarding a plane is the equivalent to creating a human life?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 11:56 PM
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How did I drag it off topic when YOU are the one that asked the questions? You took it off topic. I even tried to keep it on topic by saying that my point wasn't about what should or shouldn't have been done, it's how abortions aren't easy, mentally, physically or otherwise. Get a grip, dude. And, yes, it's hard to say. I had two friends in school that had children. Both continued school, both are fairly well off and own homes. Their lives are drastically better than mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 09:57 PM
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It's hard to say. After the abortion I was in a downward spiral for many years. I was incredibly suicidal and very self destructive. I did a lot of awful things to my body which potentially led to my chronic illness that has debilitated me in a lot of ways. I can't work. Daily life is pretty miserable. Back then I wanted to be a nurse. Back then I was capable of it. My friend's mom said I could live with them for as long as I needed if I had the baby. My mom HATED that and vetoed that option rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 09:32 PM
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No, my mom is a very selfish woman. She's never particularly cared about me. She didn't believe me about the physical and sexual abuse I recieved for 10 years at day care. She also didn't believe me that my step dad is a creep. When he escalated I told her. She didn't believe me and kicked me out at 17. I briefly stayed there again when I was 24. When she was in the other room he'd kiss my neck, cheeks, tell me how beautiful I am and play with my hair. He even complemented my legs. He was very d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 09:04 PM
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My mom gave me zero choice for the most part. She said I had until the abortion date (about 2-3 weeks away) to get a job and save enough for my own place, and move out. If I had that she wouldn't make me. I tried. I applied at a bunch of places. Got two interviews but didn't get hired. Although, looking back there was no way I'd have enough money in that time frame to have both first and last months rent and a damage deposit. That's ignoring the fact no one is going to rent to a 16 year old. I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 08:44 PM
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Um, what? Can you not read. I said I had NO choice. I told the my mom and bf weren't allowing me to have a choice. She didn't care. I said the same to the nurses at the hospital. I made it very clear that I wasnt willing and didn't want to do it and that my mom and bf were making me. They said I'd feel better afterward. They said I'd feel relief. It's been 14 years. Still waiting for that relief to kick in. Personally, since my bf was 20, I blame him more for the whole mess. He was the one that …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 08:23 PM
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It's his decision to make a baby. If he ejaculated inside a woman he chose to give his sperm to her and create a baby. That's what happens when you cum in a woman. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 08:10 PM
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Have you ever been a pregnant mother? If not I doubt you can even begin to comprehend the emotional connection many women feel towards the unborn child. Those who feel these things will not think abortion is an abortion. It will feel like killing a child, their child. I was forced to have an abortion at 16 (I didn't want one, but my mom and bf made me). It felt like my unborn child was taken and murdered. Which led to a suicide attempt and in patient therapy and pretty much a decade plus of bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 08:08 PM
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Don't forget mastitis. Women can literally die from infections in clogged milk ducts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 08:01 PM
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Why is this bad advice? Are you waiting on some man to swoop in and provide for you? Are you single? Are you living on your own? Are you financially independent? There is no guarantee you'll meet a man you want to marry. It makes sense to work hard and provide for yourself. Even if you had a man you should still be working hard at bettering yourself. That being said, if it's not the career your want, look for something else. Go to school for something else.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 05:14 PM
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I just asked my husband since I honestly can't judge myself. I think I'm ugly. My husband said I was a 9 when we met and now I'm a 5. LMAO! I'm not fat, but maybe getting somewhat close to chubby, but I was very thin when we met. I also got my hair done regularly, did my makeup every day and dressed super nice back then. Since then I had a kid and lost my job because of health issues. Can no longer afford to do my hair or buy makeup or wear nice clothes. My husband accidentally donated ALL my go…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 03:07 AM
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Not really. I'm just curious. I've always been under the impression only a small minority of men do these sorts of things. Now because of the men of been conversing with online, I'm wondering i more men are capable of these things, or having urges to do these things is more prevalent then I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 12:26 AM
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I've had similar encounters with men day to day, and even been through a horrific assault. While I genuinely don't believe AMALT, I'm curious if it's more prevalent than I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 12:18 AM
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I don't care if men generalize women from time to time, but what this guy said was extreme, which is why I responded with an extreme. I've honestly had multiple men say this sort of thing to me, so maybe there's some truth to it. Or at the very least it could be more prevalent than I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 12:16 AM
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Where all these guys? I've not ever experienced this. In school guys threw food on me, called me a dyke (I had shorter hair), and told me to kill myself. One boy even pulled down my pants in front of all his friends, everything went down. Do you know what it's being a young girl having a group of the most popular guys laugh at your nakedness? Everyone, including girls, made fun of my 'muff' for ages. In my teens I let a few guys use me and pretended it was love since it was all I could get. Then…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 07:35 PM
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Yes. Besides my husband (knock on wood), every long term relationship I've had the guy has eventually left me for someone else. I've only dumped one guy and that was after he cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 07:22 PM
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I've never been chased. Never been asked out or approached or anything like that. It's always been me doing the asking and planning. I definitely like the idea of being chased and sought after. If a guy is unsure about anything I'd just like him to ask or explain. I've had to do it a bunch with guys since I've never been able to tell if they like me or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 07:18 PM
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Nah. I get off on how primal it feels. I'm not into whips and chains. I just like being roughed up and my husband having his way with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 09:07 PM
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It's okay if the woman wants and is into it, yes. As for what's wrong with these men, absolutely nothing. I'm a woman that's into a lot of rougher stuff. I was the one to bring up these things and ask for them from my husband. Does that make me fucking nasty, too?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 06:27 PM
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If that were the case there would be no such thing as single mothers (unless widowed). No women being abused, etc. Women settle for shit men all time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 03:33 PM
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Then men shouldnt complain if that's what they're choosing. It's they're own fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 03:26 PM
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That's not how I grew up. I grew being told most people are good, but some are bad, so keep an eye out. Never was in gender specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 09:54 PM
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My husband is an average looking guy, about the same as one of the other guys I was getting to know. He's about my height, 5'6" and has a slender build, closer to being skinny, but there was definitely something about him I was super attracted to (still am) more than the two others. He was a lot more relatable and I definitely felt more comfortable with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 09:52 PM
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You'd have to be delusional to actually think that. I saw my parents go through divorce. They never needed to go to court or anything like that. She never tried to screw him. He'd still come over on holidays to celebrate and I could go to his place whenever I wanted. There were two guys I was getting to know when my friend told my a guy I liked told her I was pretty. I'd had a crush on him for ages. The first two guys were well to do and owned their own homes. My crush who I ended up marrying wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 08:35 PM
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All men need to do is vet better and don't get involved with gold diggers. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 08:22 PM
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Lower the better. I likely would have ran from a dude that had 15+
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 08:20 PM
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No it's not. The only time I've been turned off by a guy being emotional is one specific guy I dated. He would cry about everything. Like every few days he'd be crying about something. He also had anger issues and would bash his head against a wall. He's emotions got exhausting. I've been very close and quite emotionally intimate with guys ive dated, even friends and they had no issues opening up about insecurities and crying. I never felt different about any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 08:10 PM
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