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Great tip. I read it and it helped me get many things straight and relax a bit about the situation.
/r/seduction03/08/19 07:33 PM
1

I personally was much more influenced by the Art of Seduction by Robert Greene
/r/seduction24/02/19 10:02 PM
1

Might have been from him, I'm in no way taking credit :)
/r/seduction20/02/19 01:16 PM
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Exactly!
/r/seduction20/02/19 01:15 PM
2

Thank you. I do feel the stuff posted here is often excessively long.
/r/seduction19/02/19 11:09 PM
1

That makes it sound like it is useful. And indeed, I do it all the time, I just type out a message while one the go and try not to think "what am I doing" and then it often works out quite well.
/r/seduction19/02/19 10:43 PM
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*due
/r/MensRights21/01/19 05:25 PM
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Please tell us how it went after
/r/seduction17/01/19 01:11 PM
2

Good luck man! No matter what happens it's better than not knowing. Even if you get rejected you'll be a stronger man for it. Although... Don't make the same mistake I made once and make it way too cheesy, like making a huge poem and standing on a knee or anything like that. Hopefully you weren't planning anything unreasonable. Hope so :) But just, ask her out, and if it's a no, no big deal.
/r/seduction16/01/19 08:33 PM
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I have a similar problem, not sure if exactly the same, where after an approach it will go well for a while but then it kind of falls down into silence as I run out of ideas. I'm going to try to improve on this partially by listening more, and trying to find things out about her, but also, what comes to mind is the "Always Be Closing" principle. So maybe try going for several short approaches, where you get in, if it goes well you suggest exchanging numbers, and then move on?
/r/seduction13/01/19 08:56 PM
1

I wonder as well, had this problem last weekend.
/r/seduction07/01/19 12:04 PM
6

Damn that sounds hard
/r/seduction07/01/19 11:59 AM
1

Good idea! Might try that
/r/seduction05/01/19 10:52 AM
1

That's a good tip and good comparison. Strikes at the heart of the matter. Will be looking out for routines.
/r/seduction05/01/19 10:52 AM
3

You're right, and I do. But I'm trying to get better at dating
/r/seduction04/01/19 04:27 PM
1

I am! And then? What do I do to fix it?
/r/seduction04/01/19 04:26 PM
1

Yeah maybe. Good thoughts.
/r/seduction04/01/19 03:56 PM
4

Honestly, what happens afterward. The "chatting, trying to get it further stage" I suppose. I've had several occasions where I've been successful in the approach and in-person encounter, gotten a number or contact, and then somehow managed to fuck it up afterwards (or at least feel like it).
/r/seduction04/01/19 12:30 PM
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No pain, no gain. You won't achieve success without rejection, so either power through it and get better with time, or give up and never achieve anything. Your choice.
/r/seduction04/01/19 12:15 PM
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Yeah I know, you can't be needy and you want to have abundance. I'm on the way I suppose. It still feels bad to fuck up more when I try more xD Actually, what could be some thing I could do just to show my brain that I'm actually trying more? Like, ok this girl seems really nice and I'd like to step up my game here. What can I do even for myself just to satisfy that urge instead of what I've done until now - trying "harder", resulting in failure?
/r/seduction04/01/19 12:11 PM
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I heard about the "FORD" method for thinking about meaningful things to talk about. "Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams". These are things that apply generally almost anyone would have stuff to say about these topics. Might help if you don't know what to say.
/r/seduction28/12/18 02:26 PM
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I googled. What _is_ TMA?
/r/seduction19/12/18 07:22 PM
2

Ok. Writing lesson: nobody is going to read this wall of text. Have a good introductory sentence, and provide a TL;DR:
/r/seduction27/11/18 06:16 PM
1

What's your stream? I'd be interested to see it :)
/r/seduction27/11/18 12:46 PM
0

With a small sub like this, let's just downvote him, that should do the trick.
/r/seduction26/11/18 11:10 PM
9

Move on. She was not interested in you specifically. You will not have a 100% success rate.
/r/seduction22/11/18 01:37 PM
2

Thanks, but that's not valueable. I can't do that for everyone!
/r/seduction31/10/18 08:14 AM
3

Hey, ok so in the case of #6 - what can you do to test it? How can you check?
/r/seduction30/10/18 07:27 PM
1

Don't. It's the only reasonable thing to do. Don't you think the woman you're "pursuing" is "evaluating" several other guys as well? Everyone it doing the same thing bro. And it's not something bad. People feel better spending time with many others and not just one same. And you need to get a sense of women in general, not just focus on one person.
/r/seduction30/10/18 10:14 AM
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Yeah I'm trying to be active here as well - reply to posts and give my perspective whenever I can
/r/seduction22/10/18 10:17 PM
2

You're right, a casher might as well be grumpy. Tho if it was "abnormal positivity I would probbly catch that too ;) Thanks for the thoughts nevertheless!
/r/seduction22/10/18 10:06 PM
1

What would you do in a grocery store to see if a cashier is interested?
/r/seduction22/10/18 10:00 PM
1

I recognize what you're talking about and I'm also in kind of a college setting. Can't say I have a solution tho :) But one thing might be that parties are for seeing lots of people "for the first time". Keep going, and after a few you will recognize people and they will recognize you too. And those might be in for some quality time, to actually talk and get to know each other.
/r/seduction22/10/18 09:25 AM
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Good tip. There's a lot of skill involved in judging all of that tho.
/r/seduction22/10/18 09:13 AM
1

It sure is an art... but you do get better at it
/r/seduction03/10/18 04:42 PM
3

Hey I know what you're saying, tinder has whole host of problems. But it did help me cross a certain boundary.
/r/seduction03/10/18 04:29 PM
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You know what? I was in the same situation as you, kissless virgin at 20 years old. What I did was I used tinder, and after half a year of trying (I was bad at it) I got a date together which ended well. Later we got in a relationship which eventually broke up, but the fact that I had "succeeded" once changed so much for me, I didn't longer need to feel like "maybe there's somehting wrong with me". So I know what you're feeling. In the end I don't think tinder is a good source of "relationship m…
/r/seduction03/10/18 02:24 PM
0

Really good writeup. ​
/r/seduction26/09/18 07:37 AM
1

Good strategy about making friends if she has a boyfriend. Totally might be worth it in the long game, but also, hey you've made a friend, great. However, you do contradict yourself: if you’re able to convince a woman to leave her boyfriend for you, then what’s stopping her from doing the same thing to you when you start dating her? Option 2 is to figure out what her boyfriend is not doing right and fill that role. So I'm not sure what you're actually advocating ;)
/r/seduction26/09/18 07:24 AM
1

Ooh, good question. Disclaimer, I'm no expert. But a good thing is either an existing personal connection (maybe you went to the same grade school?), or bringing up something personal about her. Like, "Hey I heard from [your mutual friend] that you recently won got a promotion, good job!" That would immediately put you in a group of "people that know something about me and care" apart from everyone else just mingling. However (this warning might be relevant in this sub), this does not mean you s…
/r/seduction24/09/18 09:47 AM
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How should I know? What makes you think I have the right to tell whether you "deserve her" or not? Think is, you DON'T deserve her. You don't deserve anyone. There's nothing saying you are entitled to have a girlfriend, or get laid, or whatever you're after. And that applies for me, you, and every person on the planet. You might get all of those things, or you might not. It's partly luck. But you can influence the odds a logt through your actions in the future. There's no reason to ghost away, y…
/r/seduction23/09/18 08:29 PM
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If that was what you were doing (only thinking about getting a date from her, when she had suffered a loss of a close friend), you were lacking empathy. If your good pal just died, would you be thinking about girls? Probably not. You could call your acting "being an asshole", but the point is not to start feeling like shit, the point is for you to realize that you need to be more empathetic, and acting upon it. It's not easy. But it is something you can learn. I speak from personal experience.
/r/seduction23/09/18 06:24 PM
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I'm not trying to judge you, but to tell you what might be best to do. Don't be an asshole.
/r/seduction23/09/18 05:48 PM
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Just... act as usual. Not saying ingore her, just don't keep trying to "make her become happy" or whatever.
/r/seduction23/09/18 12:56 PM
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Yep, sounds like you're overthinking it. She's in a hard spot, you've done what you can but you can't "fix" this. Accept the current situation and move on.
/r/seduction23/09/18 12:04 PM
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I think the "You're not her threapist" advice might be aimed at guys who get stuck just listening an providing support all the time, because that's the only meaningful interaction they can conjure up. But hey, someone's friend died, that's a situation that actually calls for emotional support.
/r/seduction23/09/18 11:33 AM
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I hope I am. Not sure why everyone disliked my comment, but oh well.
/r/seduction22/09/18 07:47 PM
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Tho I'm surprised my comment got so heavily downvoted. Randomness of reddit I guess.
/r/seduction22/09/18 02:47 PM
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Thumbs up, you put it better than I did :)
/r/seduction22/09/18 09:37 AM
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Hey, first off, I'm super impressed by your courage to come here and start this conversation, since it might feel like going into a place where everyone will disagree and ignore you. But thank you, because I think a lot of idiots need to see what you wrote. ​ I'm not sure I have anything meaningful to add tho. For me, seduction is about how my behavior affects whether people like me or how they see me, and the surprising dynamics there. It's not as simple as "if I'm nice to this person, they wil…
/r/seduction22/09/18 09:36 AM
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Yay that's awesome. Wish I had your courage :)
/r/seduction21/09/18 04:29 PM
3

Well guess what, maybe it went the right way? If you would have broken up into passioned kissing, I'm not sure she would have wanted that in the end (since you say she has a boyfriend). It doesn't always have to look that way. Don't think you've gained nothing tho, who knows if she won't remember you and think about you, and maybe you'll meet in the future. The world is small. The long game is much more important.
/r/seduction18/09/18 02:50 PM
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That sounds awesome! Remember, just let it happen and be open to whatever happens. Don't try to "Lock it in" or it will feel wrong to her. But I think youhave something great going on.
/r/seduction18/09/18 02:42 PM
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I won't comment on what you did right or wrong, but I think the outset of "I couldn't manage" is a bit misguided. Don't forget it's not your responsibility 100% what happens. It depends on your partner too. ​
/r/seduction18/09/18 02:37 PM
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Yeah, so much is in just humanly understanding and acknowledging other people's emotions.
/r/seduction03/09/18 02:09 PM
2

This. The book "the art of seduction" gives very similar tips.
/r/seduction03/09/18 08:16 AM
1

I'm curious, what is she referencing when she says you suck at texting?
/r/seduction29/08/18 10:36 AM
0

...Was there anything before this? Some prefer texting, others calling, but if the only communication you do is setting up the meeting, then that might be disappointing for her. Maybe she expected some more conversation? Asking about her life? Honestly tho, imposible to tell from such a small sample. But you're lucky she still seems on!
/r/seduction28/08/18 08:15 PM
3

I second this. If OP gets it on, good, but that entitled attitude won't help.
/r/seduction08/08/18 02:58 PM
1

Good luck!
/r/seduction08/08/18 02:15 PM
3

You know what, this book has changed my life but I still think there is a lot of snake oil and bullshit in it. Don't feel like you have to memorize everything. What I got out of it was: to have people like you, or create love interests, you have to actively work to make it happen. However, the way to do that is not always obvious, and the naive ways (i.e. simply being nice) might not work so well. Different things work for different people (see his taxology of "victims" and "seducers" ;) but gen…
/r/seduction08/08/18 01:56 PM
2

The art of seduction
/r/seduction08/08/18 09:08 AM
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I would give my boss the ultimatum of me quitting if I was in that situation, but of course I don't know what your situation looks like exactly. No way I would be teaching coding ins such a situation. And given how the market is with programming, I could easily find work somewhere else.
/r/MensRights26/11/17 10:06 PM
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Of course, I'm not saying it's a 100% divide of properties between the sexes, it's just that some traits are more common than others in one sex. By all means there is a gray zone, not all girls are as "girly" as others.
/r/MensRights10/10/16 06:50 PM
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This is awesome. Embracing the differences in the sexes, instead of ignoring them.
/r/MensRights10/10/16 03:35 PM
1

This infographic had me way confused by making women blue.
/r/MensRights18/07/16 11:58 AM
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Awesome. This and more would happen if the gym had "men only" hours.
/r/MensRights07/06/16 10:37 AM
1

Wat?
/r/MensRights08/05/16 07:08 PM
23

Don't worry, just say you "identify" as a woman and there you go!
/r/MensRights17/04/16 01:05 PM
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