unbornbigfoot Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
18	Wrong about dating apps	Field Report	unbornbigfoot	/r/seduction	09/11/24 11:10 PM
7	It’s finally happening		unbornbigfoot	/r/Divorce_Men	11/08/23 10:30 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
10	Girl ghosted me after our first date, now she’s back — how should I handle it? Way to reiterate twice in your reply that it’s “never failed me” on a post of it literally failing you. Also, your inviting her to your place twice, without actually knowing her, reeks of wanting to fuck desperation. There’s so many other options between $200 at a bar and inviting her to your place. TLDR. You kind of suck. People gave you that answer. You sucked more.	/r/seduction	08/10/25 12:57 AM
4	How do I break the ice with pretty women at the gym? “Hey, I’m Unbornbigfoot….” …that’s a cool variation of the exercise. Where’d you learn it? …could you give me advice on it? …how many sets / can I work in? Most important part. Be a regular. Talk to people in the gym - not JUST the women. If you’re friendly and outgoing, you can just talk to them like people.	/r/seduction	03/10/25 11:14 AM
272	She's a "10" but she doesn't suck D and hard to satisfy in bed. \| She's a "6" easy to please, but prefers pleasing you. Which one you keeping? Woman I’m dating currently is a 6/7, but she absolutely worships me in bed. That’s a 10/10 every time.	/r/seduction	25/04/25 04:25 AM
66	Hobbies that could make you better with women? You’re overthinking it. Women just want to see that you have your own hobbies and interests. Confidence from dancing is fine, but the hobby doesn’t matter. I like plants. It’s not “masculine.” It still interests women, brings conversation, and generally gets a positive reaction when it comes up. I’ve got others. Coming into my home though, it’s the most obvious.	/r/seduction	28/03/25 03:23 PM
6	Where to find “good girls” Publix, fresh market, or wegmans, if I’m being honest. Or whatever your higher end grocery store is.	/r/seduction	22/03/25 03:27 PM
1	What’s considered good dick? Honestly, this is simple. Did she cum? If you got her there, particularly on a first hookup, you’ll get a call back. You’ll get calls back when they’re drunk and horny months later. You’ll get calls back when they’re in a relationship. You’ll get called back.	/r/seduction	25/02/25 11:22 PM
8	Is there a way to reach permanent god mode? Two steps. Look good. Gym, style, hair, etc. if you’re going in public, spend ten minutes to look good first. Socialize. There’s someone on YouTube who emphasizes just talking to everyone. You’re not approaching women, but just saying good morning, laying out compliments, and being open to everyone. Do those two things and you’d have it.	/r/seduction	19/02/25 01:12 PM
7	First date - what had a big impact? Pro move. Slam and upper body / vanity day before the date. Endorphins flow, confidence builds up, and you strut in feeling like a Greek statue.	/r/seduction	17/01/25 05:25 PM
3	Want to ask out barista but also don’t want to loose my regular cafe? I literally asked out my eye doctor the other day - I had multiple follow up appointments with her for something ongoing. She said she wasn’t available, and I didn’t press. You know what’s cool? I’ve had several of those follow ups since. It’s not weird. We’re both adults, and have laughed and vibed repeatedly since. TLDR. Don’t be an asshole if she says no. Just carry on like normal and it’ll be fine.	/r/seduction	31/12/24 03:45 AM
17	Woman say my ego is too big This is a troll post 44 M, 5’8” and addicted to pizza - posting to AmIUgly. Yeah. Ok bro.	/r/seduction	26/12/24 12:19 AM
2	How to keep a girl interested over text for 2 more weeks I’m gonna be honest, if you’ve never met, this will be tough. I don’t generally do “phone calls” with Hinge. I may move to a single FaceTime before a first date as it makes both parties feel more confident in it. In this case, I’d basically tell her I hope her trip and holidays are fun and leave her be. Could do a friendly Christmas or New Years message, but you don’t want to come across as thinking of her constantly - that’d be weird. A few days before she’s set to be home, or before the first …	/r/seduction	23/12/24 04:38 PM
4	What are the best conversation topics to talk about with women/ womens attraction to physical strength? You’ve figured out how to talk about the differences between engine sizes and super heroes, but can’t figure out how to mention the gym? 🤦‍♂️	/r/seduction	22/12/24 01:23 PM
2	Seduction through Exercise My lack of punctuation may have been an issue there OP. If any woman, agrees or suggests to a near daily outing with you, she is interested in a romantic relationship. 👍	/r/seduction	10/12/24 02:52 PM
16	Seduction through Exercise Girl didn’t agree to a daily anything with you because she WASNT interested.	/r/seduction	10/12/24 02:09 PM
2	Emergency 🚨 situation Holy shit turn on autocorrect or something. Nobody is reading what you’re writing.	/r/seduction	08/12/24 02:19 PM
2	What is your system? Local Facebook groups are the best source in my experience. If you’re in a city, a lot of the subreddits have a “what’s happening here this week” threads.	/r/seduction	06/12/24 01:09 AM
15	She’s looking for a new bed base because its broken. Should get insurance on it before inviting me over then 😏 Or something of the like	/r/seduction	03/12/24 12:59 PM
409	"If you could give your younger self just one piece of advice about seduction or dating, what would it be? The hours of regret after not asking is worse than the fleeting "NO."	/r/seduction	02/12/24 01:31 PM
87	If a girl wants a relationship but you want to have her as a fwb, how and most importantly when do you tell her ? That's not what you're doing. People told you, and you're giving excuses to not to her. Lying o the girl. Lying to yourself. Idk man, but I see a trend.	/r/seduction	30/11/24 03:07 AM
176	If a girl wants a relationship but you want to have her as a fwb, how and most importantly when do you tell her ? Hey, asshole. Just tell her. You're doing nothing kind by withholding it.	/r/seduction	30/11/24 02:53 AM
3	How much does a great body help in attracting females? It all just depends on the definition of “cut up” but your points totally valid. No dysmorphia. I work hard and love the way I look. Also love food, so sitting somewhere around 18-20% body fat, instead of 10-15% which I’d call “cut up.” The true gym bros, who eat nothing but chicken and rice, would tell me I’m a cut away lmao.	/r/seduction	29/11/24 12:14 PM
55	How much does a great body help in attracting females? Well I’m 6’2, 240lbs, and have visible abs. I’m not cut up by any means, will never have the best body in the gym, but my general shape is attractive. This shows up in two ways. I know how I look. I walk everywhere with a confidence which is largely due to that. Women react to it constantly. Cashiers immediately perk up, smile, and will fidget - immediately going to brush back hair from their face, leaning in over counters, etc. None of it matters if you’re awkward, but it gets your foot into ev…	/r/seduction	29/11/24 03:19 AM
12	Men in their late 30s - how has physical fitness helped your game? I’m 6’2 with a fortunate face and broad shoulders. Recently went from 280 at the end of my divorce, to about 230 now. I’m somewhere around 15% BF. I don’t intend to lose more, I just like lifting heavy things and really enjoy biking. From 280-250, I could get women, but it required effort. The way I dressed, photos for dating sites, etc. At 230… I have apps for convenience, but it’s barely necessary. I smile a lot, smirk a bit, and just ask women out or for their number whenever I’m interested. …	/r/seduction	25/11/24 12:02 PM
4	Expensive dates sub-communicate low value and desperation Yes.	/r/seduction	20/11/24 12:47 AM
23	Expensive dates sub-communicate low value and desperation Invited my last first date to a local driving range. 60F and sunny. Split a bucket of balls and brews. Great opportunities to initiate physical contact, low pressure social setup, and you get to banter or compete with one another. TLDR. I’m taking Women to the driving range more often.	/r/seduction	19/11/24 02:28 PM
1	Wrong about dating apps Maybe this is the true answer. I’ve got baggage, but I am emotionally moved on enough to joke about it lmao	/r/seduction	10/11/24 02:11 AM
3	Wrong about dating apps You’ve never just made a new tinder? It had been deactivated for months. New simple pics. Simple bio. Done.	/r/seduction	10/11/24 12:47 AM
5	Wrong about dating apps I guess I should’ve been more clear. For dating, yes hinge, with the thorough profile helps a lot. I have never had an issue getting dates. But on tinder, for shorter term. Yeahhhh, you’re right.	/r/seduction	09/11/24 11:26 PM
17	What are some of your go-to witty remarks? Brother, I am 6’2 and abide by rule one, and I couldn’t get away with something that awful. I am calling absolute bullshit on you successfully using this shit 🤣	/r/seduction	01/11/24 10:51 PM
5	How do increase confidence? Any ritual? Hey friend. I’ve got three, that specifically help me and my anxieties, so I’ll explain why. Meditate: Waking Up is expensive. ~150 for the year. It’s guided meditation, and really focuses on paying attention to the current environment. It’s not a lightbulb, but I find I can take a single breath now, notice exactly what the moment is, and act. Stoicism. I started reading The Enchiridion - have expanded a bit since. Takeaway for me, was to only focus on what you can control. You’ll find passages …	/r/seduction	31/10/24 12:55 PM
4	Paying for the meal? Bro. Get a local bar. Meet the staff. I prefer more of a beer setup than cocktails, but you do you. Should have apps if needed. That’s gonna be my first date like 9/10 times.	/r/seduction	10/10/24 12:33 AM
17	Whats your BEST opener you use to force yourself to say sometthing when at the spur of the moment you come accross a babe walking your way? Honestly, the parent comment has good guidance here. But let’s crawl, walk, run. Yeah? Crawl: set a drive by statement. Won’t matter if it’s personal. “Hey, I really like your style.” That’s it. Your only goal is notice difference in reactions. When you start noticing the smiles, or she’s constantly leaning in or moving closer, you’re ready for the next phase. Continue conversations when they’re obvious. Move on otherwise. Walk: same drive by statement, but it’s time to experiment with your own …	/r/seduction	10/10/24 12:11 AM
33	Tried following the advice on this sub - now she’s furious and saying I was harassing her?" That’s because that is sexual assault. You kissed a girl, got told how awkward it was, and then tried to be dominant, “force things to happen”, and started groping her.	/r/seduction	09/10/24 05:15 PM
0	Best way to restart a convo again? Joke at your own expense or reference to something that brought them to your mind. Obviously works better if you’ve got “enough” relationship together to have an inside joke	/r/seduction	08/10/24 05:00 PM
6	Cold Approach Fundamentals for Beginners Cold approach relies on a “judge the book by the cover” approach. The entire premise is a ~2 minute conversation. There may be situations with a group or over an evening, where personality, wit, and charm will win out. On an initial approach though, with very little time to win with dialogue - being tall, broad, and handsome makes it drastically easier.	/r/seduction	18/09/24 02:21 PM
12	Cold Approach Fundamentals for Beginners Personally, cold approach > online dating. 10/10. Said as someone who’s had significant success on Hinge - it simply takes more work. Good advice though. That smile is key. People underestimate that. Oh, and being > 6’ tall. Doesn’t hurt.	/r/seduction	18/09/24 01:48 PM
16	gym game. I’ve posted this before, but here ya go. Actual strategy here OP. I moved recently. I talk to ALL the regulars that I see during my time. The guy at the front desk as I walk in, the two bodybuilders crushing it daily - ones a woman, and whoever else I see routinely. Be friendly! Ask about their diets or workouts. Some people don’t want to talk. It’s not hard to pick up on. Don’t push it, and don’t waste their/your time if someone is on a serious lift. NOW This brings us to approaching women. If …	/r/seduction	11/07/24 06:31 PM
1	Escalating the conversation on dating apps - How I get laid without ever going on an actual date Pretty good explanations. I’d be interested in your numbers for how often this works. Just a guess, but it pretty much requires Tinder gold. I’d also add, I’ve had less success with escalating this significantly with Hinge. Perhaps that explains the differences in the apps a bit more. How do you overcome the biggest hurdle I see with this - the first meetup? Even with women that have sent me specific photo requests, I find a first date with a drink at a bar near my place the best solution. This …	/r/seduction	10/07/24 04:47 PM
2	What actions make a man look like a creep? And what’s the difference between a guy checking out a hot girl vs a girl checking out a hot guy? I’m glad I can help! Good luck out there, friend!	/r/seduction	10/07/24 12:45 PM
2	What actions make a man look like a creep? And what’s the difference between a guy checking out a hot girl vs a girl checking out a hot guy? “Hey, I’m waleedy. Smirk.” Ideally, she gives a name here. “I noticed your ‘outlying feature’ (eyes, hair, smile, whatever) across the room and had to meet you. “ Good luck!	/r/seduction	10/07/24 12:41 PM
3	What actions make a man look like a creep? And what’s the difference between a guy checking out a hot girl vs a girl checking out a hot guy? Meh. It can be a little creepy to be looking at people constantly but avoiding any eye contact. May not be actual bad intentions, but it can come across that way.	/r/seduction	10/07/24 12:32 PM
41	What actions make a man look like a creep? And what’s the difference between a guy checking out a hot girl vs a girl checking out a hot guy? I don’t do well with “vibes” either. I need concrete signals. No smile. Don’t talk. Smile. Talk.	/r/seduction	09/07/24 10:41 PM
11	What actions make a man look like a creep? And what’s the difference between a guy checking out a hot girl vs a girl checking out a hot guy? That’s why we practice. It’s why people should honestly skip seduction for the first few months, and just start approaching strangers. It’s the same thing.	/r/seduction	09/07/24 10:18 PM
279	What actions make a man look like a creep? And what’s the difference between a guy checking out a hot girl vs a girl checking out a hot guy? Gahd, people overcomplicate this. Ya wanna know what makes someone creepy? You stare - but the moment you’re noticed, you look away and try to act innocent. They know! Want to approach women? Look at them. When they notice, smile INTO the eye contact. Girl ducks her head and tries to hide from you? STOP looking at ‘em. She’s not approachable. If she strictly smiles back, you can go talk to her. Be friendly. It doesn’t even need to turn into anything. I approach people regularly and just talk to …	/r/seduction	09/07/24 03:35 PM
0	How often do your dating app matches actually lead anywhere? Hinge is by far the best for me. I’m never going back to Tinder. Over the past 3 weeks.. 17 matches. 3 with 0 conversation. 8 with little conversation. 6 with ongoing or significant conversation. 4 dates. 2 I’m still talking to or planning something with. Have gotten laid from 2 of the 4 dates. Ok dates with the other two. One makeout, with some scheduling conflicts, and one whom I was just not into. Tinder numbers were significantly worse, but I’m a decent enough looking guy, well over the 6’ b…	/r/seduction	04/07/24 12:38 AM
1	Does anyone approach at the gym? Not a stupid question. Practice in the mirror. Settle on which one looks natural. I like a smirk with a subtle laugh. More of a “lol” where you just kind of breathe out a bit. I wouldn’t go with a full beaming smile, but that’s just me. Practice at home. Feel confident in person. That’s the only key.	/r/seduction	29/06/24 09:04 PM
1	Does anyone approach at the gym? IG is just easier and less intimidating to women in general. Sharing socials? Extremely basic. I’m not sure if I have more or less success on a percentage basis between the two. In general though, I just ask for the IG and move on. I rarely just go for numbers at this point. It literally does background work for you. You’re providing women a background check of sorts. At best, you’re sharing how cool you are. I’m 100% for it.	/r/seduction	29/06/24 08:47 PM
4	Does anyone approach at the gym? Actual strategy here OP. I moved recently. I talk to ALL the regulars that I see during my time. The guy at the front desk as I walk in, the two bodybuilders crushing it daily - ones a woman, and whoever else I see routinely. Be friendly! Ask about their diets or workouts. Some people don’t want to talk. It’s not hard to pick up on. Don’t push it, and don’t waste their/your time if someone is on a serious lift. NOW This brings us to approaching women. If done correctly, you’re established as a n…	/r/seduction	29/06/24 12:15 PM
1	What are unconventional places that are good to practice game? I’m gonna give y’all a secret. Craft markets, or any kind of town, local vendor, market. Seriously, you know how many beautiful women are selling their stuff here? It gives you an excuse to go talk to every single one of them. They won’t all be available, but you won’t find a situation with more women who WANT to have a conversation with you.	/r/seduction	16/06/24 02:19 AM
2	What do you think of going to college campuses as a non-student to get chicks? Because an 18 year old is a child compared to someone who is 31. OP also isn’t finding many 25 year olds on a campus. Again, I’m not questioning legality here. A long term relationship with someone that young.. that’s predatory as hell.	/r/seduction	07/05/24 05:35 PM
-4	What do you think of going to college campuses as a non-student to get chicks? I would prefer that to being interested in dating children. You support whatever you’d like though.	/r/seduction	07/05/24 05:08 PM
6	What do you think of going to college campuses as a non-student to get chicks? You’re not hitting on many 25 year olds in college, so let’s not pretend any differently here. Is this legal? Yeah, sure. Is it predatory behavior on very young women who you LIKELY have nothing in common with? ALSO YES. I’ve talked to a few early 20 year olds in bars and other places over the past year. Recently single at 31. It becomes so instantly clear that we have no common ground, because they’re literally kids. I’m not going to pretend like it’s always easy to tell via appearance a 28 vs …	/r/seduction	07/05/24 02:32 PM
25	What are some cheap, dirty tactics that work in seduction? Get help dude.	/r/seduction	15/04/24 08:24 PM
15	Best job for young Men This dude is not drinking at a quality bar lmao.	/r/seduction	17/02/24 09:13 PM
2	It’s finally happening God damn I appreciate this. Teared up a little reading it. Thank you kind stranger. There’s strength in knowing we’re not as alone as this situation can make us feel.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/23 10:13 PM
1	It’s finally happening I appreciate the encouragement. Money is unfortunate a factor in divorce. Probably most significant is one of our rentals. Property value exploded, in one of the hottest area codes in the nation, printing money as an Abnb, and at a 3% loan. And I have no choice but to sell it because I can’t buy her out. Renovated the entire thing ourselves. It’s sucks.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/23 02:58 PM
1	It’s finally happening God damnit. I actually knew this but had completely forgotten. Did a few years at Bragg so I’ve seen the divorce process here 20 times over. I shouldn’t have forgotten that detail.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/23 02:57 PM
1	It’s finally happening Thank you man. This was rough, but pretty accurate overall. I know I’m not on a “biological” clock, so that does help me a lot. The dog though is the worst part. Not even close. Maybe that’s a sign the marriage was F’ed though	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/23 02:56 PM
2	It’s finally happening We’re fortunate in that neither of us dislike the other. I know so many people say that, only for things to turn vindictive. The homes were bought during our marriage. We renovated both together. If we’ve got to split all the debt, it is what it is. I make enough to pay it down quickly if I’m not blowing money.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/23 02:54 PM
1	It’s finally happening Idk what you’re really talking about here. Wife and I don’t have kids. Are divorcing. Would be a bit late for that to be a problem now. Edit. She also makes her own money…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/23 01:42 AM
1	It’s finally happening Thanks! Feels weird taking up a massive post just to tell a long bitching story. Guess I gotta get over that one	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/23 12:31 AM
7	Where to go besides bars and clubs... Barnes and noble. Target.	/r/seduction	16/06/16 05:16 PM