undercovertrad Archive

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1	I haven't seen any proof that physical attraction is subjective in any meaningful way My husband was a virgin until he was your age and spent most of college watching his frat brothers sleep around with women who barely noticed him. He walked away with some of the same cognitive distortions you have about yourself. Now he’s in his mid-thirties, happily married with kids, and getting laid more than his old college buddies are these days (or back then) because he found a wife who is wild about him. You don’t need everyone to think you’re the next Fabio. You just need someone who th…	/r/ExRedPill	27/04/24 11:25 PM
27	Why is it that the most outwardly sexist guys I know that do the best with women? To be fair, men who are comfortable “pumping and dumping” lots of women are misogynistic by nature and tend to view women as not entirely worth the same as them. They certainly don’t care about their feelings. That being the case, they are also more likely to use coercive and manipulative tactics to get women into bed as well as seeking out women they know have boundary issues and lower self worth. It’s not about the man being attractive as much as it is about his willingness to use questionable…	/r/ExRedPill	25/04/24 01:42 PM
33	A failure of this, and similar subs is that the majority of people attempting to provide advice are women Part of exiting the red pill is being able to realize that women’s voices do have important perspectives to offer beyond using what’s between their legs. Thats why women can comment here, on top of the reality there are women in and impacted by the RP ideology. It sounds to me like you’re not fully ready to exit because you’d still prefer women lie back and shut up about their thoughts and experiences.	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/24 06:56 AM
17	I think a lot of people here talk about men in the way red pillers talk about women It’s reasonable to have sexual needs and want a space to express them. However, it’s not okay to only view women in terms of whether or not they sleep with you or to not care about her personhood or having anything else to do with her as long as you get to experience what’s between her legs. Based on what I’ve seen here, women like me that do value a man’s ambition and stability in the workforce aren’t exactly viewed favorably, but let’s play along that it is. No woman who only cares about a man…	/r/ExRedPill	23/04/24 12:43 PM
13	I think the cure for inceldom for most incels is a purely sexual casual encounter. It’s not a cure, merely a short term band aid.	/r/ExRedPill	23/04/24 12:04 AM
1	I would caution people here against saying that men here are unable to get laid or dates because they're misogynistic My take is that men who are into hook-up culture and anti-commitment are misogynistic by nature and most women willing to be tossed aside after some guy sleeps with them once also struggle with internalized misogyny and lack of self-esteem. So, of course, misogynistic men can make it work with women who don’t even see themselves as worth valuing that highly.	/r/ExRedPill	17/04/24 10:57 AM
3	So how many men are actually having casual sex? Generally speaking, people in relationships have more sex than those who aren’t. However some of the most recent stats I’ve seen show 1/3 of Americans are celibate and only 1/4 have sex once a week or more. Most folks, male or female, aren’t having that much sex, whether single or in a relationship. The red pill is full of false propoganda from men who are probably using coercive techniques, lying about their success rates, or just outright paying for sex.	/r/ExRedPill	16/04/24 09:33 AM
3	I feel like the red pill is much more optimistic than what I see here Your desire for sex isn’t bad. Your desire for promiscuity and treating women as disposable is. There’s a difference.	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/24 09:10 AM
53	What are some redpill ideas that you do think are valid? Being a people pleaser, aka “nice guy”, is a turn off to women. The reason is that such men are often existing in a state of dishonesty about themselves with ulterior motives behind their superficial kindness, which indicates lack of trustworthiness. A lot of women can sense this tendency on an instinctive level and pull back from it.	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/24 01:40 AM
6	Tradwives/ redpill women ruined my worldview The tradwife dating advice is actually just horrible. I’m a mostly SAHM that some influential tradwives online actually admire to some extent, but the truth is that my husband wouldn’t have taken me seriously as a potential wife if I hadn’t been to college. I met him at age 28. I wasn’t a virgin and had been a child bride to a fundie nutjob, so I was divorced with two kids. I also wasn’t skinny. According to the red pill, I was only fit for the garbage heap. Yet, I’ve been with my husband for al…	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/24 10:53 AM
7	I have been at least 3 years completely healed from the red pill but i got played soo hard that now i cant stop thinking that maybe they were right. Real talk, I’ve never been in a serious relationship or had sexual chemistry with any guy I was happy to just be friends with. Usually the men I see in a platonic way and the men I’d have entertained for romance or sex aren’t the same ones. Guys routinely try to be friends with women they actually want to sleep with and it doesn’t usually work out because typically if a woman is single and just wants to be friends, it means she’s not sexually attracted to you. You can’t just flip the sexual attr…	/r/ExRedPill	23/03/24 11:33 AM
25	This community is so blackpilling. I never felt as bad or as hopeless as I do now until reading through here. Are you lost? Not sure how you could possibly come to these conclusions from most of the comments on posts here. 🤔	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/24 08:59 PM
14	I insult the girl that I like when I'm nervous As a woman, I can tell you any guy who acts like you describe just blew his chance and demonstrated he’s way too emotionally immature to be a good partner. Probably also too self absorbed to even be good in bed. Teasing a girl because you like her is like what eight year olds do, not grown men. I think you probably blew it unless you’re willing to apologize for being a jerk and try to start fresh.	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/24 10:04 AM
1	Porn addiction is ruining my mental health Have you tried a support group? There are free 12 step groups for folks whose porn addiction is negatively impacting their lives and many of them have options to tune in online. Also, therapy. Good for you for recognizing a problem and not wanting to support this god-awful industry that harms women and claims its empowerment!!!	/r/ExRedPill	07/03/24 11:01 AM
21	The biggest red pill contradiction about women’s happiness It’s a foreign concept to them, but people are individuals and not everyone functions the same way or wants the same things.	/r/ExRedPill	05/03/24 07:11 PM
5	Why is it that anti-incel subs make me feel even more black pilled? You’re not starving. You’re being a choosy beggar because one good woman isn’t enough for you, you’ve got to be promiscuous and toss aside a bunch of women to think you have any worth as a man. Women don’t sleep with men who think that way. We can smell the desperation on them and it’s a major turn off.	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/24 07:36 PM
1	Why is it that anti-incel subs make me feel even more black pilled? They are probably lying to the poor OP too about how much sex they have. 😂	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/24 07:35 PM
3	Why is it that anti-incel subs make me feel even more black pilled? That’s gross. THIS attitude right here is why women won’t sleep with you. It’s a worldview that repulsive to 99% of women, even the promiscuous ones. How is that hard to understand?	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/24 07:34 PM
5	Why is it that anti-incel subs make me feel even more black pilled? Because that’s over a whole dang life span!!! That’s the average over 40 years of having sex. Not the average for a 22 year old graduating college. That’s not changing partners that often if you can do the math on that one. 🤦🏻‍♀️ You are overly committed to your faulty world view and would rather be miserable than face reality about what makes someone a good catch.	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/24 07:33 PM
6	Why is it that anti-incel subs make me feel even more black pilled? It’s not about attractiveness. It’s about social skills, manipulation, and often times coercive tactics like pushing excess drinking to get past the initial “No”. You think that nastiness is admirable??? Tell me you want to be a predatory human that’s unfit for relationships without saying it directly….	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/24 07:31 PM
12	Why is it that anti-incel subs make me feel even more black pilled? You’re so right. The problem is these sex obsessed dudes don’t want a real relationship. They want to validate themselves by seeing how many women they can sleep with and dump. The woman as a human is irrelevant to them. She’s no different than a porn actress on a screen that they forget about five minutes after jerking off. And most women can smell this kind of attitude on men and it’s a serious repellant because no sensible woman wants to be used and ditched just so some sad guy can get tempor…	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/24 07:30 PM
6	Why is it that anti-incel subs make me feel even more black pilled? Sleeping with a bunch of random women you didn’t care about would make you less sexually desirable to a lot of decent women and would require you come with papers to prove you weren’t spreading diseases around.	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/24 07:27 PM
0	Here’s why it doesn’t make sense to care about a women’s number of sexual partners if you don’t care more about education when looking to avoid divorce: Look, I’m allowed to not want to date or marry a man with no morals around sexual restraint. It’s called self-preservation not sexism. You should consider it.	/r/ExRedPill	22/02/24 11:59 AM
2	Here’s why it doesn’t make sense to care about a women’s number of sexual partners if you don’t care more about education when looking to avoid divorce: I’m a woman and I care about both a man’s degree of promiscuity and his education level. Does that make me a misandrist?	/r/ExRedPill	22/02/24 11:57 AM
6	Explain me this So many red flags and he’s so dense he can’t even see that these red flags are chasing away the possibility of a healthy connection with a woman who actually might care for and respect him.	/r/ExRedPill	22/02/24 11:52 AM
7	Explain me this And this is why you’re never going to have a functional relationship with someone healthy. You’re an abusive person and don’t even see it.	/r/ExRedPill	22/02/24 11:51 AM
8	Explain me this Sounds to me like you’re universally attracted to psychologically unhealthy women. Perhaps the kind of validation you’re seeking from women isn’t healthy either, which is why you don’t get the interest you want from women when acting in a decent manner…which then also calls into question how well-adjusted you are and what vibes you’re giving off that puts off the more well-adjusted women.	/r/ExRedPill	22/02/24 11:50 AM
1	Women, how have you felt about your male partner sharing their emotions, vulnerabilities, etc with you? First off, a man who can’t apologize and admit his errors is too emotionally immature to be in a relationship. A man screwing up and refusing to say sorry and make amends is a great way to make me lose any sort of respect I might have otherwise had for him. There is nuance here in terms of vulnerability. Something a number of men do that kills attraction is end up ONLY showing vulnerability with their female partner and expecting her to be their sole source of comfort and emotional support. They…	/r/ExRedPill	20/02/24 06:25 PM
20	Why is it misogynistic to not want to be with a woman that's had casual sex? I don’t see an issue with it as long as you keep holding yourself to the same standards. For me, a man who has had a bunch of casual sex and a lot of different partners is a red flag and a total turn off. Promiscuity in either gender can be a red flag for any number of unaddressed issues, from unhealed trauma to a full blown personality disorder. It’s only misogyny if men think it ruins women but is fine for them. However, in general, having values around sexuality that include a disdain for how…	/r/ExRedPill	19/02/24 12:07 PM
33	What hard proof can I look at that disproves the black pill. Also, research shows again and again that on average, married people have sex more often and regularly than their single counter parts. Somehow you think a few promiscuous single men represent all of the research on human sexuality. Where’s the logic in that?	/r/ExRedPill	18/02/24 10:30 PM
41	What hard proof can I look at that disproves the black pill. Being married and staying married proves you are relationally skilled and were attractive enough for a woman to devote herself to and possibly even risk her life and career for to bear children. This is especially true in the modern day when women don’t have to marry to survive anymore. Guys that get drunk women into bed using manipulation tactics don’t count as being good with women; they are predatory and relatively low tier in terms of character, and no decent woman stays around them long. Pa…	/r/ExRedPill	18/02/24 10:28 PM
4	What are signs of a Man's high body count? Body count is not a metric for sex drive because a high libido person could easily have just had a lot of sex with a few different people. It shows poor impulse control and is a literal symptom for several psychiatric disorders. I would never date or sleep with a man who had a dramatically higher body count than me because it demonstrates we have radically different values around sexuality and what constitutes proper respect of it.	/r/ExRedPill	15/02/24 11:58 PM
18	Red pill attitude towards porn I’m never gonna be convinced that most RP dudes are raging porn addicts. Narcissism and objectification of women increases with the more porn someone consumes. There might be some doing mental gymnastics to try and break the habit, while others justify it, but the end result is all the same. They simply don’t see women as real people, no matter what their profession. They just hate sex workers a little more than the rest because of how much they get turned on by them.	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/24 01:51 AM
14	I don't believe the majority of women prefer average sized penises Sounds like women can tell you their truth and you just won’t listen because you want to believe all women prefer porn star dick. So what’s the point of us contradicting you when you’re just gonna say we’re lying anyways? Red pill or not, anyone who believes most women want horse dicks over average ones don’t understand how female anatomy works. I’ve also personally never met a woman who wasn’t addicted to promiscuous sex, porn, or masturbation who only could enjoy sex with a penis that was over…	/r/ExRedPill	07/02/24 07:09 PM
5	Why did she ghost me And if you’re confused about why I know about the RP, it’s because I’m old enough to have read about this stuff back in the early 2000s before they came up with the trendy Matrix based nickname for it. I’m one of the OGs. 😂	/r/ExRedPill	03/02/24 01:57 AM
3	Why did she ghost me Woman who is nearly 40, but yes. Which is probably why I can understand what happened here from a woman’s perspective when this man who’s consumed red pill content can’t seem to figure out.	/r/ExRedPill	03/02/24 01:56 AM
1	Blwjob vs Handjb vs Regular S*x My husband prefers actual sex and to make it a mutually pleasurable experience. He says orgasm from hand jobs and BJs just don’t feel as intense and fulfilling. But there is a strong tendency in RP advice that makes it seem like men can’t enjoy sexual acts without it being something the woman isn’t getting anything out of…but my experience has been that healthy men who love their partners prefer for both of them to enjoy the experience. Women can marry the men they wish, but I love being married…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/24 01:54 AM
66	Red pill hypocrisy and circular logic This is a fabulous summary. 😂 Right on the money.	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/24 11:28 PM
6	Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives? My husband wanted a woman with a college education and the capacity to earn an income if it ever came down to it. He would not have dated a woman with no education or ambition because it gives off red flags of codependence and gives him the ick that she only wants a man for his provision ability. However, even though he wanted a woman with potential outside the home he also essentially wanted a “traditional wife”, especially with minor children in the home. Socially speaking, it would have also …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/01/24 01:35 PM
36	Why am I so combative and struggle with being pleasant? Having a habitually defensive style of communication at a relatively young age can point to you having grown up in a space where you were often criticized and talked down to, so you assume literally everyone is jumping down your throat even when asking typical questions. Habitual defensiveness can point to a need to do some therapy to work through your reactivity and tendency to assume people are coming at you.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/01/24 01:29 PM
26	Why did she ghost me People sometimes take time to fully process their feelings and how they are going to react. She may have even been giving you some time to see if you could come back from whatever went wrong to make her feel like crap on the other side of the experience. It only looks sudden to someone if they can’t connect the big picture cause and effect.	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/24 01:26 PM
73	Why did she ghost me Sounds like you may have fumbled how you acted after sex. If a woman feels discarded after the first time having sex with you, that’s another way of her saying she felt used, it wasn’t good for her, and you didn’t show enough sensitivity and attention in the time afterwards. My suggestion would be that you learn from your mistake here and respect her boundaries if she didn’t leave any space for you to even be able to apologize. The ship has sailed but you have some lessons to learn on how to act…	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/24 10:07 AM
35	I want go villain arc I just really i was delusional beta orbiter the whole time (need advice and motivation) Most guys who call themselves alpha are dumbasses.	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 01:20 PM
22	I want go villain arc I just really i was delusional beta orbiter the whole time (need advice and motivation) This a whole lot of words, my man, when there is only one takeaway you need from this experience: walk away from someone you’re into who doesn’t feel the same way. Don’t have a villain arc, just take responsibility for the lack of respect you were showing yourself and her by hanging around hoping you could “nice guy” your way into her pants one day. That never works out well and women don’t actually respect men they can string long like that. But you made the choice to keep hoping to get laid by…	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 01:19 PM
12	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off When I was 17 and freshly escaping a traumatic hellscape of a childhood, I got suckered in by some 26 year old with muscles and an ego that size of Montana. Mom signed the papers for me to marry him four months later and I quickly learned after the wedding day that he was abusive, an alcoholic, cruel and sadistic in bed, and lazy AF with no work ethic. But at that point, he was my new legal guardian. I was able to safely and permanently get away from him at the age of 21 and it was the last time…	/r/ExRedPill	27/01/24 10:45 AM
2	Getting commitment after sex We had sex on the third date, about a month after we’d met and been talking daily. It started off that neither of us was really sure we wanted a committed relationship in the near future but both of us caught feelings. About three months after admitting the feelings but still not committing exclusively to each other, I initiated a discussion about how much I cared for him and that if he wanted to continue searching the dating pool for someone potentially better, I was going to need to take space…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/01/24 12:32 AM
1	Female "Shittests" real or redpill myth? Yeah, I “shit test”, which simply means making sure a guy is who he is claiming to be. My take is that guys who complain about a woman not just naively believing everything they say about themselves at face value without having to back it up with action are probably looking to abuse or take advantage of someone. They complain about being tested because they know they are full of crap.	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/24 12:06 AM
1	Female "Shittests" real or redpill myth? I think this is the best answer here.	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/24 12:04 AM
2	How do I not grow resentful of my better looking more sexually successful friends? If it makes you feel any better, as a woman I see guys who hook up a bunch and brag about it as guys not worth trusting because they don’t really respect women or themselves. Maybe readjust your definition of successful. Getting laid doesn’t make you a good man or a successful one. Being able to cultivate a lasting meaningful relationship that’s about more than sex (but includes it) will speak much more highly of your character as a man that how many notches you get in your bedpost.	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/24 12:03 AM
0	Just wondering have any of you watched The Red Pill documentary? I think the documentary introduced some good points to consider in terms of what men experience in the world, but it still relied on input from some pretty foul, bitter people, which reduces its credibility. It also had very little to do with what the Red Pill pick up artist forums are on about.	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/24 12:01 AM
3	Were people more faithful back in the day? (Crosspost) People, especially men, still cheated tons back in the day. You just didn’t hear about it as much and women weren’t able to divorce the cheating husband as easily. Don’t get it mixed. People have been acting a fool for millennia.	/r/ExRedPill	19/01/24 11:59 PM
1	Virginity I’m a woman. I see a man having the self control to hold onto his V card as a good thing. My husband was a virgin until after college despite being in a sex crazed frat house. To this day, that’s something I respect about him greatly and makes him a cut above the other “frat boys” in my mind.	/r/ExRedPill	19/01/24 11:57 PM
2	Virginity In my experience, most men obsessed with virginity are virgins themselves and extremely religious. I never met a man on the dating scene that cared about whether or not I was a virgin. There was concern about whether or not I was excessively promiscuous, but that’s not the same thing.	/r/ExRedPill	19/01/24 11:54 PM
9	I can’t Un-RP myself No, they don’t. Well adjusted people aren’t flippant and cruel, and understanding that is a good first step to leaving behind the red pill indoctrination. Their whole bit was written from the perspective of idealizing male sociopaths and assuming all women are basically sociopaths too. None of it is mentally healthy. And if a well-adjusted woman is leaving a man who appeared good on the surface, chances are most folks don’t really know what was going on behind closed doors in the relationship. A…	/r/ExRedPill	19/01/24 11:52 PM
30	I can’t Un-RP myself Also, a mentally healthy woman doesn’t just leave a good man who treats her well just because she met some dude with bigger muscles or a cooler job. It’s again an area where the RP is showcasing that these guys are all so unstable and toxic themselves that they’ve only been able to attract women with highly toxic personality traits.	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/24 08:15 PM
32	I can’t Un-RP myself I don’t know any well adjusted women from healthy backgrounds in their early 20s that want to seriously be with a man in his 40s and are more likely to make fun of the old guy hitting on them. At most they might take the free drinks or meal, but the vast majority of people prefer being with partners relatively close in age to them. Women also don’t peak at age twenty if they actually take care of themselves…and their personality definitely doesn’t peak right out of the teen years. They’re barely…	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/24 08:14 PM
3	Be feminine if you want. Be geeky if you want. The world isn't going to end. To be fair, my father was a 10/10 and had a super macho military career. Women literally swooned over the man and went googly eyed no matter where he went. It was legit obnoxious. But he had a lot of personal problems and his career wasn’t exactly good for character development, so it took him until his mid-thirties to have the capacity to create a lasting marriage and somewhat normal family life. Unfortunately, he had married my mom when he was 20 and had me when he was 23, so I got to witness …	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/24 01:53 PM
14	My bf broke up with me because of my body count It’s only wrong for you to want that in a woman if you don’t show that same restraint yourself. You don’t get to be promiscuous in your past and then demand a sexually innocent partner. That just makes you self-absorbed and sexist. However, if you have used a lot of care and scrutiny in choosing who and when to have sex, or adhered to a strict code of values around it, you have every right to want a partner who shares your values. Men who whore around themselves but look down on women who do it …	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/24 01:47 PM
43	My bf broke up with me because of my body count Concerns about sexual past aren’t necessarily a red pill only thing. As a woman, I see promiscuous behavior in a man as a red flag in terms of impulse control and values around sexuality. I would not want to be with a man who has slept with significantly more people than I have. Generally, a a big mismatch in sexual history is a recipe for disaster. My husband had never heard of the red pill but he wouldn’t have wanted to marry a woman with a significantly more sordid sexual past than he had. It…	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/24 01:27 PM
13	Is escortmaxxing a good way to deal with emotional pain, have fun, and be adventurous in life whenever I’m feeling lonely, will it ruin my chances of finding a long term relationship, and will bragging about it on social media make the women who know me jealous? As a woman, I can say I would never want to be with a man who used escorts to cope with his emotional baggage. That’s called sex addiction and is extremely low tier human behavior. Take that money and go to therapy like a person who actually has some self respect.	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/24 09:51 AM
21	Dating My experience was that dating was only easy when I was willing to present as potentially open to hook-ups. Walk around talking about wanting to get married and settle down will chase away most men these days in their twenties. But lots of twenties dudes are looking to “pump and dump”, as the red pillers would say. So, women presenting as open to that will very much have a fairly easy time “dating”. Whether or not they actually put out, it will be fairly easy to line up dates regardless of appear…	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/24 09:14 PM
1	Manosphere exit survey Also, damn this makes me sound old AF!	/r/ExRedPill	06/01/24 08:09 PM
2	Manosphere exit survey Haven’t checked out the survey bc I’m not a guy, but I definitely first encountered the manosphere (and accompanying women’s content) in the early 2000s. It’s been around for a while, just only gone mainstream more recently. So that’s a legit critique if the survey doesn’t really stretch back to the origins of it all…	/r/ExRedPill	06/01/24 08:09 PM
1	Want kids before 30 but BF wants to wait Getting downvoted in RPW because responsible men aren’t hot and genuinely loving and respecting the man you’re with for a freaking decade isn’t decent RPW behavior…got it. Gotta live up to the nasty stereotypes about what RPW are like and how they view men in a manipulative and utilitarian way. Silly me. I actually try to be a good wife and have succeeded waaay longer than OP has had any luck with. 👌 Edited: oh wait…I get it now. It doesn’t fit the propoganda that my husband knocked me up twice …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/24 05:15 PM
2	Want kids before 30 but BF wants to wait Side note: wanting to be a mom more than anything else is a terrible reason to make relationship decisions. Kids are never a guarantee, so you should want to be a wife more than anything with the hope you are blessed with kids. But to view a man as disposable because your real goal is having kids doesn’t do justice to the rights of the child and objectifies the man. It’s a terrible foundation for a lasting marriage.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/24 04:24 PM
2	Want kids before 30 but BF wants to wait My husband didn’t want kids before he was at a certain point in his career and was coming up on his mid-thirties. He is three years younger than me, so mid-thirties for him was later half of my 30s for me. I decided I loved this man and was willing to wait in order to be part of the wonderful, stable life he was creating. I also knew he was going to be a great dad. I was 35 when we actually start trying and I got pregnant nine months later. I got pregnant with our second when our first was five …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/24 04:14 PM
5	The Curious Case of a Married Couple's Strange Interactions #1 Definitely gives strong mothering vibes, which is definitely a way some women exert control in a relationship.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/24 12:44 AM
8	Married Woman Obsessively Reading Romance Novels It’s a form of escapism. Generally speaking, I think women becoming romance novel obsessed can have similar negative impacts on a relationship as a man who watches too much porn. Skews expectations and breeds dissatisfaction with their current relationship. Can also create unhealthy expectations for what to expect out of a romantic partner if she’s single and trying to find one. Aside from a few really old school classics (think Jane Austen) I avoid the genre as a matter of respect to my husband…	/r/ExRedPill	05/01/24 11:20 PM
1	Struggling with submitting and STFU Apologizing quickly boils down to humility. It’s pride that prevents someone from admitting they were wrong and seeking forgiveness from the person they wronged. You already know when you say something out of line and you shouldn’t let the sun set on that without making amends.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/24 07:33 PM
2	Mid 30s approaching - time to settle? It’s better to be single and childless than married to a man you don’t respect and aren’t attracted to. He also deserves better in a partner than a woman who doesn’t even want to sleep with him. Desperation is not an attractive nor feminine quality, and that is what your post reeks of, with a touch of sociopathic utilitarianism. You pretty much say you aren’t attracted to him and think you settled but you’ll put up with it so you can have the commodity of having a baby. Even if you are pretty, w…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/24 07:03 PM
3	Want kids but bf is poor Don’t have kids with this man if you’re not interested in being the primary breadwinner while mothering. That’s the reality. Also, if you aren’t committed enough to this man to want to marry him, why are you worried about traditional gender dynamics? Nothing about this situation is traditional and making poor choices about reproducing just because your biological clock is ticking is unfair to future children. Right now, you guys have too much stuff to work through to be thinking about planning k…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/24 06:45 PM
4	Struggling with submitting and STFU Sometimes I’m an epic b*tch even though that’s not my default approach to marriage and my husband would generally describe me as submissive and devoted to being a good wife. Sometimes my husband can be an obtuse jerk even though most of the time he’s absolutely amazing and could put a lot of husbands to shame. It’s called being human and we’re never going to get it perfect 100% of the time. For marriage to work long term, both partners have to offer each other grace in these times where judgment…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/24 06:38 PM
1	Struggling with submitting and STFU Yuck. This isn’t what any of the RPW books and lit are about.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/24 06:33 PM
3	3 Act Journey My acts are apparently out of order. Never had the hot girl experience until my mid-thirties, after I was married and had a stable family life. Being fat through your youth and then dropping it as you get towards middle-aged is a real table turner. However, unlike the ones who experience Act 1 while young and immature, I’m old enough to understand the value that stability has beyond temporary attention and also have deep appreciation for the man who loved me when others weren’t even paying atten…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/24 06:12 PM
8	Passaport bros and sexual tourism. Your whole commentary rests on the idea that these red pill bros give a crap about women as equals and people, which they obviously don’t. There is no room for these discussions with men who are specifically looking to exploit impoverished women for sex and will only marry them if they think they will spent the next decade licking their boots and accepting infidelity. Are you sure you’re in the right forum???	/r/ExRedPill	05/01/24 09:43 AM
1	Passaport bros and sexual tourism. Your whole commentary rests on the idea that these red pill broa give a crap about women as equals and people, which they obviously don’t. There is no room for these discussions with men who are specifically looking to exploit impoverished women for sex and will only marry them if they think they will spent the next decade licking their boots and accepting infidelity. Are you sure you’re in the right forum???	/r/ExRedPill	05/01/24 09:42 AM
19	Dating advice from a red piller Wow. That is actually unhinged. 😳	/r/ExRedPill	05/01/24 01:08 AM
2	Men don't care about women with high body count if they are attractive My husband wouldn’t have married any woman with an N-count dramatically higher than his. Slept with for fun, maybe but still cautiously. But definitely not putting a ring on it and bringing her home to meet the conservative family.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/01/24 06:54 PM
34	The irrelevant dudes from Fresh and Fit I still don’t understand how these kind of guys appeal to anybody…I don’t know why anyone would want to be them or sleep with them.	/r/ExRedPill	03/01/24 07:42 PM
1	Is 3 years younger too big of an age difference? I met my husband when we was 25 and I was 28. We’ve been together almost a decade and have two babies together. I love him so much and enjoy the life we’ve built together. He was the first guy I’d ever dated who was younger than me, but he brought worlds more to the table than any other man who’d ever taken me out. Older doesn’t mean better, more mature, or even more established. It just means older. You’ve got to actually examine the man in front of you.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/01/24 03:18 AM
1	Does body count actually matter? This was something that was asked about and mattered to both my husband and me. We directly discussed it while dating and trying to decide if we were a good long term match. I firmly believe it lends itself to poor compatibility and more long term issues for a couple with vastly different N counts to join up. Whether male or female, how loosely you treat sex and how many people you’ve slept with says something about your values, tendency towards risk taking, and general attitudes about sex. Thos…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/01/24 03:13 AM
3	Isn’t it better to have two incomes for one household? To be completely fair, while my husband is the sole provider, a one income six figure household wasn’t quite cutting it in this post-pandemic economy in a high cost of living area. So, he does part time work consulting for a crazy hourly rate so that I can be home with the kids. He can make more in his part time job than my college-educated self would be making at a full time job right now, so it’s just what made the most sense, especially with small kids in the picture. And even so, we still ha…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 11:20 PM
5	Isn’t it better to have two incomes for one household? Only about 10% of men in the United States make over $100k. If you can do the math, surely you know that means only 10% of women might actually be able to be married to one of those guys. It’s not naive to realize it’s a small percentage of men who make that much money.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 11:16 PM
3	should I pick the guy I love or the guy that loves me? That’s the avenue I went. Once I met my husband, no other man in view seemed even close and that’s how I knew he was the one worth realigning my life for to build one with him.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 08:41 PM
4	What would you do? Put dating and romance on the back burner until you get to a more stable place and do some therapy to figure out why you are so comfortable with bad matches and will stick around when certain behaviors are a clear sign you need to be gone. Someday down the road, there may be another shot in the cards but you and your children will be best served if you spend a good chunk of time not even considering it. I’ve been a single mom to two kids close together in age. I’ll be honest with you that it’s r…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/24 08:36 PM
24	I just have one thing about red pill that kind of bothers me: it’s the women who fall into this trap men set As a woman that could blend into that whole trad-wife phenomenon pretty well (something that the modern version of absolutely has roots over in the red pill movement), I can assure you most women don’t want something serious with a red pill player who negs them, manipulates them, treats them like a child, and thinks their best use is sex. It might work in the very short term for hookups or work longer on women with emotional or physical abuse in their past who need therapy. But any well adjusted…	/r/ExRedPill	31/12/23 02:18 AM
96	My Dating experience has red pilled me Pro tip: substance abuse problems are a whole red flag regardless of someone’s gender. It’s not about her being a woman. Some might argue a guy who smokes a lot of weed and drinks a lot doesn’t have a lot to offer either. This isn’t about the red pill or gender. It’s about basic acknowledgment of red flags in literally anyone!	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/23 05:40 PM
-6	My Dating experience has red pilled me Wow…that is some seriously awful relationship advice. You don’t see felonious behavior with addictive substances as a major red flag?!?! There’s “exredpill” and there is just blind nativity. 🤯	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/23 05:39 PM
4	Shorter guys who are successful? To be fair, the only thing that ever ignites a spark in my eyes is an entrancing personality. Looks alone are deceptive and I approach all with the skeptic’s eye.	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/23 06:51 PM