undothatbutton Archive

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40	field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomach	FIELD REPORT	undothatbutton	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/24 01:19 PM

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5	Field Report and Discussion: Things are more dire for men than I realized This is what I was thinking. That doesn’t mean that isn’t a real experience some men are having, but it’s worth acknowledging that race, culture, religion etc. can play a big role in some areas. (Well, in all areas, but some more than others!)	/r/RedPillWomen	09/12/24 10:22 PM
3	Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or... Yeah I was gonna say tech and finance for sure seem less likely to even run into women frequently at work. Compared to physicians who would be around a lot more women (staff, nurses, even women are more likely to go to the doctor!) so I feel this depends a lot on environment.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/24 10:40 PM
3	Conventional attractiveness vs your partner's taste yes it makes sense, of course men are attracted to fertility signs. one fertility sign is having a healthy amount of weight on you, not being stick and bone thin. This fully clicked for me after having a baby! I was finally able to see fully what all those Greco-Roman statues of women with a lil belly are about — fertility mainly!!!	/r/RedPillWomen	24/11/24 07:11 PM
8	I've gotten Girl Game all wrong. (Reflecting on my Observations) Yes I feel that “flirting” is an energy/essence, not specific lines you must say or topics you have to cover for it to ‘count.’ So much of it is subtext and tone. Sometimes around 7pm, our toddlers will be a little crazy and one of us will go, “Such a shame they have to go to bed early tonight after our busy day together.” “Oh yeah… A real shame.” “How about you — too tired to stay up?” “Definitely not. You?” “Oh there’s a lot of dishes from dinner… but dishes don’t take long to do…” and we’re b…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/24 05:45 PM
3	Diffrence between trp and rpw? It’s quarantined, not gone.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/24 08:03 PM
1	Do you think it’s better to be perceived as sexy or adorable? So — immunity from cringe, sorry — I know I am classically attractive, clear skin, bouncy strawberry curls, bright eyes, toned, tan. I love how I look and I always have felt pretty, I’ve never had insecurity that I was “ugly” or unattractive or fat. I would say I have ‘good genes’ in that I naturally stay thin and clear skin etc. and I just look healthy, which is great! But… I am definitely cute. Not sexy. I have always just been cute! I became more womanly after having a baby (I didn’t have bre…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/24 09:14 AM
3	My mother screwed me. Where to go from here? 100% agree here. And while some early 30s men may be playing the field and delaying marriage, honestly, a large portion are still seeking LTRs with marriage as an eventual goal.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/09/24 05:31 PM
2	My mother screwed me. Where to go from here? Love this. Same situation for me.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/09/24 05:28 PM
7	[Discussion] Red Stop Signs That’s one of Dr John Gottman’s 4 Horsemen (that ruin a relationship). The other 3 are criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/08/24 01:05 AM
5	[Discussion] Red Stop Signs Also being quick to blame someone else when something goes wrong, even if their reaction isn’t super over the top. The mindset shows even when they react fine — look for the mindset. Lacks accountability, quick to blame someone else for any issue, may be quick to anger, but will definitely be awful when angry because those skills (like taking accountability, accurately assessing situations, etc) are much harder when dysregulsted!	/r/RedPillWomen	29/08/24 01:03 AM
5	Spoiled life over 40 in bad circumstances: what would an RPW do? Gently, my point is that you are basing a lot of these feelings on how your relationship with another person (your husband) is (or with how you imagine it may go with someone you may meet (or not) in the future), when really, your femininity is about your relationship WITH YOU. There are feminine women who are single and celibate. You are using your relationship failings (which are real, I’m sure. I’m not saying your relationship is perfect and you’re whining for no reason!) as a cover to distra…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/24 08:45 PM
6	Spoiled life over 40 in bad circumstances: what would an RPW do? I understand you’re in a bind, but you’re being quite negative. “I was blind and naive, I have no excuse for that, only my own stupidity.” Sure, but have you ever considered that you can’t really be upset you weren’t born the woman you are now. You only became this woman because of your experiences. You only are able to see and know now because once you were naive, like everyone else. You’re not inherently flawed for this. Nativity is the default beginning state of a human being. You had to expe…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/24 04:58 PM
3	How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to do something sexual anymore? I’m suggesting that she should not leave sexual communication vague at all if she has a hard boundary around something, ESPECIALLY something that has been a large part of their sex life and much of it may even be like ‘muscle memory’ and habitual in bed. That is murky territory and it would be very easy for even a very good, kind man to be confused by very passive, soft no’s that sound like “maybe”, when she is sure that she doesn’t want to do it anymore and could just tell him that. “Problem, n…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/08/24 08:34 PM
8	How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to do something sexual anymore? Her goal actually does clearly seem to be to stop participating in the kink. This isn’t a good place to use the “bring problem, not solution” because she clearly doesn’t want to participate anymore. It would be a mistake to frame this conversation as if she is at all open to the kink if she isn’t.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/08/24 01:46 AM
2	field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomach thank you for your kind words!! 🩷🌷	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/24 07:40 PM
3	field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomach that link is spot on — although i never wanted to poison him LOL, i did wanna take that overflowing trash and toss it at him the day we fought though!! im lucky i had a sense of profound clarity where i came to realize (again, as I’ve realized and forgotten again many times) that i couldn’t change him. i refused to nag him and remind him to do it. so what was left? i could just take the damn trash out myself! the only power i have is what i am directing my focus towards in each moment. the energ…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/24 07:36 PM
4	field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomach totally hear you, just don’t think it applies to our situation.🤍 we both are home 24/7 since he works from home… so he definitely understands “what i do all day” although i know that’s a common cause of friction between parents when one works out of the home!! we both do a lot around our home and i see his workday unfold, i am pretty well aware of how stressful his days can get (and how chill others are. but part of the stress is that it can, at any moment, get very stressful!) the difference he…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/24 03:08 PM
4	field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomach sooo my process each week now is that i have a “base” grocery list of essentials i always need, and then as far as “meal planning” goes, i just browse pinterest/instagram or one of the many (previously decorative) cookbooks i own, and then pick 3-4 meals, 1-2 snacks/sides, and 1-2 desserts/treats to make. (i double the portions for leftovers & make ‘quicker’ meals the rest of the week, or meals that i don’t have to think about how to cook.) some will be totally new to me but i try to find meals …	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/24 02:58 PM
5	field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomach haha crude but true! it’s like, you know good, passionate, involved, present, deeply intimate sex vs. starfish, distracted, duty sex… we have great sex (so great, in fact, it distracted us from our other problems tbh…) but we were unknowingly “duty feeding” each other/ourselves. then i took responsibility for the “fill his stomach” portion quite abruptly, after a fight — but with as much passion, intention, and gusto i had with our sex life, and then everything else just… fell into place! (also …	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/24 02:51 PM
3	field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomach yes!! i could totally see it when i was an athlete, i can see it with my children (hence why they’d always been very well nourished, though in some seasons better than others) but i just wasnt fully comprehending how OBVIOUSLY that applies to us now, including my husband (who i always felt like “he’s a grown man, he will voice his needs” (not in a feminist “i’m not his mom!!” way but like, if he had a problem then i was just assuming he would 1. be able to identify it and 2. voice it to me.) but…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/24 02:18 PM
9	field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomach I totally see this. I think it comes down to intention and framework. I was working off this mindset of LACK. I didn’t have time to clean up everything to make better food. I don’t know how to REALLY cook and it felt like such a feat to begin. I didn’t have energy to make a meal plan or to commit to deeper learning and practice. what would i do with the kids? when would i clean up the extra dishes? i was always rushing, always taking a shortcut. what would buy me a LITTLE more energy or time rig…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/24 02:10 PM
5	Am i being a victim or do i have a genuine excuse? How do we know if it’s actually that bad, or if you’re trapped in a victim mindset? We aren’t in your head. Only you know how ‘valid’ it is. FWIW, I had a very bad injury that led to surgery and chronic pain. I was also in a very unhappy relationship and work situation. When I left my ex and old job, suddenly my pain wasn’t sooo chronic. It still hurt, for sure, but it wasn’t as bad as I thought it was. But I was in otherwise such toxic circumstances that having to also deal with persistent phys…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/24 10:28 PM
3	There is no such thing as unconditional love to men Unconditional love is real for sure. Love is an endless resource. You can always find more love, compassion, tenderness for someone. That doesn’t mean you have to be with them, live with them, marry them, carry their children, work with them, visit them, whatever it may be! But love them? Sure. It’s quite difficult to turn love off. I’ve never found a way at least.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/07/24 02:11 AM
2	There is no such thing as unconditional love to men I don’t have it in me to explain all the ways you’re wrong but let me just say, your experience isn’t universal and you don’t know everything. I’m sorry you haven’t found your person yet. The only thing you can control is your own attitude going into dating. Deciding men are all like that is a really good way to shoot yourself in the foot while dating.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/07/24 02:04 AM
26	Met a "broke" 30 year old with potential as a provider. How to proceed? Sounds like a pretty man who knows how to talk! I bet he’s a fun lay. I doubt he’s a good investment at this time. You’re 23. Babe. I guarantee he is just really hot and you’re a bit dazzled. Let’s look at the facts. Gorgeous man. A bit older than you. Works in a warehouse. Just finished college. Just started a business with friends. Is about to go through basic training, whatever training following that, and then will be in the Guard and will have a military obligation for the next 3+ years (mo…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/07/24 03:20 AM
6	How did you know your husband was a provider? I think that’s very reasonable to start bringing this stuff up by now! You don’t have to call a meeting to order and make a contract LOL. But discussing a realistic vision of your future together — that’s a normal thing to do at this length of relationship in your 30s for sure.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/07/24 05:44 PM
3	How did you know your husband was a provider? Info: age range? How long have you been together? I think it’s normal to directly discuss this stuff at a certain age/point in the relationship. If you’re consciously building towards a future together, sacrificing finances or making career choices with each other in mind, etc. then it’s time to directly make a plan. You want all your cards on the table. You want a legitimate plan for your future together, that you can look back at and reference together when things go one way or the other and n…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/07/24 05:25 PM
3	When “whatever you want” isn’t enough? If the alternative is that your kids get sick or injured, yes. That’s your job as a mother. Wtf??? He can work on his leadership in areas that don’t literally damage your kids. You have a ticking timebomb of a dog you are just hoping your passive-aggressive vibes will somehow magically make disappear, as one example. Your other example is that he won’t give your child consistent medical care. Are you okay with that? It doesn’t sound like you are. I have 2(+1 otw) kids and I would not be okay wit…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/07/24 12:37 PM
4	When “whatever you want” isn’t enough? Why don’t you schedule the dog to be euthanized if that’s the only outcome you want? Some areas, a natural consequence is not appropriate. Like the health/safety of your kids. Why can’t you make a plan together to remind each other about medicine for the kids? My spouse and I always double-check each other’s dosing because we want to be as safe as possible when giving medication. We absolutely over-communicate because the alternative is our children may suffer health consequences. Neither of us …	/r/RedPillWomen	12/07/24 02:20 AM
8	Bf wants to be in full control of me So what do you like about him, what do you enjoy otherwise? Other than when he validates you or your submission? What is the benefit of him being your teammate forever? What’s he done to earn your submission? I don’t find it difficult to defer to someone who is steady in their leadership. I’m very hesitant to say that’s your man’s situation, based on what you’ve described. Younger men generally won’t be good leaders, but the potential should be there. The ambition should be there. The compassion…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/07/24 12:45 AM
7	What do you do to have your husbands willing to have sex during peak days? Stop sharing when you’re ovulating. Start giving him random BJs or sex without him finishing in you, sprinkled in with sex with him finishing in you, throughout the entire month. Start (if you aren’t already) being randomly romantic without the expectation of sex at all, so he stops associating: wife is extra romantic/nice = she must be ovulating and want sex. Realistically, if you have sex in your fertile window 2x and 1x he finishes on your chest or something, you’re going to conceive if you w…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/24 09:17 PM
2	What to do with unwanted male friend attention Why are you letting him “keep tabs” on you? If he’s reaching out, literally grey rock him. Information diet. Do not reply. Leave on read. Hell, leave unread. Why do you feel compelled to give this guy attention?	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/24 06:48 AM
2	What to do with unwanted male friend attention Why “that’s not possible”? that seems needlessly vague. “I’m not interested.” “I’m not available.” “No, thanks.” or literally just “no” if she feels so compelled to keep replying to this guy.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/24 06:46 AM
3	What to do with unwanted male friend attention Seems like it’s easy enough to say something like “Hey X. I’m actually not available to catch up, but I wish you well in the future!” if that’s really on her soul to not ghost him or whatever. But I’m sayingggg, why is she even worrying about this other dude’s feelings? Who cares if some random guy you knew years ago wants to talk? Good for him, lol. He can want whatever he wants. But that’s got nothing to do with me/my fiancé, you know what I mean?	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/24 06:44 AM
4	What do you do to have your husbands willing to have sex during peak days? 100% true answer is: have sex more often lol. no chance of figuring out which days are the big deal if you’re having sex half the month anyway.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/24 06:30 AM
2	What do you do to have your husbands willing to have sex during peak days? I simply exist and he’s willing, ready, and enthusiastic. If I am also ovulating?! I would have to knock him back with a newspaper if I wasn’t interested. (Can’t imagine not being interested esp while ovulating.) I’m not trying to be a hater. (And I see OOP wasn’t the one who cross posted.) I just think that this is soo unnecessarily analytical. This is their 4th child, they’re in their late 20s. Like… just have sex. Make love. Desire each other. Have fun. Enjoy each other. And finish inside at …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/24 06:25 AM
5	Using RPW theories with men in your life that are not your partners I use many RPW techniques with my father, FIL, and I have two young sons but eventually them in some ways too I suppose? And in general I think my femininity and RP outlook serves me well in pretty much most of my interactions with men.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/01/24 02:39 AM
6	Talking to first red pill guy Giant red flag honestly.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/24 12:22 AM
14	Men don't care about women with high body count if they are attractive We agree. My comment was pointing out that OF is different than body count. The vast majority of men wouldn’t want an OF girlie (as a wife) even if she was drop dead gorgeous and a verifiable virgin. But most men would settle for a higher-than-preferable body count if a woman ticks his other boxes, even if they would prefer a virgin or low body count. OF is such a different league of “poor past decisions” bc it is public knowledge of your sluttiness.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/01/24 12:47 AM
2	Where can I go to find a man who is open to me being a stay at home wife? (This statement is gonna sound cringe but stay with me…) I met my enthusiastic well-paid 6ft3 handsome ambitious provider husband who wanted a SAHM for his future babies at a liberal university in a major liberal city. We are both quite liberal (socially and politically) though obviously more “traditional” with family values. I have been a SAHM to our sons for the last (almost) 3 years since I was halfway through my first pregnancy. In my experience the majority of ambitious but family-oriented …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/01/24 12:43 AM
22	Men don't care about women with high body count if they are attractive OF isn’t the same as high body count though. Basically no man wants a wife who does/did porn. It’s a literal record of your sluttiness in perpetuity. Many men will overlook a high body count on a beautiful enough woman — bc there’s no public record, just a general ick factor many men feel. The vast majority of men wouldn’t even want to marry a virgin who does/did OF. Not to say a high body count has no impact — it can for sure. But OF is a whole different ball game.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/01/24 12:29 AM
3	How to maintain a RPW mindset with a newborn? Be vulnerable, not irritable. Lean on him for support right now. Make space for him to pour into you so you can pour into your baby. You need to recover and bond with your baby, he needs to decompress from deployment and help you and bond too. Over the next few months you will find a groove and a rhythm and should come back to honing in your RP skills. But right now, just remember to take a breath when you’re feeling irritable or snappy or overwhelmed, and focus on recovering. Self-care is so so…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/12/23 11:31 PM
7	Is anybody here a survivor of Schrödinger’s Patriarchy Love this. This is exactly how I see it too. I am so grateful for the choice I have to vet for a man who is a good leader, provider, loving, respectful, etc to me. There were pros & cons to either way of society being. But we can’t do anything but accept reality (the heart of the red pill, yes? lol) so in modern society, I am grateful that my husband and I have chosen each other and feel safe and comfortable fulfilling our roles.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/12/23 03:13 PM
37	I am more successful than my boyfriend, and I resent it You’re 21. You aren’t on “the older side of university students” … pls lol.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/12/23 02:56 AM
3	Made a mistake and had sex with this rlly successful guy when I shouldn’t how do I redeem myself? Do I avoid him? What does this have to do with her question? She doesn’t have a time machine.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/23 01:31 AM
1	You are a nice girl but… Ooh, tbh, 2 times isn’t really a pattern. Have you heard this? Once is a fluke, twice is a coincidence, three times is a pattern. :) Good luck!	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/23 10:07 PM
1	You are a nice girl but… Rejection is just redirection :)	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/23 10:06 PM
–	What are your thoughts on your partner buying lingerie as your primary birthday gift? But your own gift “from” him? That’s not a gift then at all…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/11/23 04:00 AM
5	Making my mother a red pill woman If you’re not willing to have the conversation like “Hey have you heard of RPW?” and explain the details behind it (which personally I wouldn’t be lol), then you can 1. Live your own life and let her just see firsthand how it benefits you. and 2. Encourage her by doing things together, like get your nails done together every few weeks, bring flowers over when you see her for dinner, etc. I went through something similar with my own mom and homemaking… she was a Sahm when I was a child but she wa…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/11/23 06:09 PM
2	Women now want to be paid 6 figures for being stay at home moms I’m not sure purple pill debate is that much of the wild ;) but yes very much a RPW!!	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/23 06:28 PM
1	Women now want to be paid 6 figures for being stay at home moms Okay? Most people also want a luxury vehicle (or two) and multiple vacations and blah blah blah. You’re proving my point. If you can’t afford 2 kids, then you can’t afford 2 kids. Forcing your finances to support 2 kids for your own desire for 2 when you can really only reasonably have 1 is exactly the issue. Your reality and your desires and expectations do not align. Of course this will cause discontentment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/23 03:09 PM
2	Women now want to be paid 6 figures for being stay at home moms It’s definitely ppl living above their means or in HCOL areas. $100k is fine for 2 adults 1 kid especially if that’s 1 income.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/23 03:22 AM
3	Women now want to be paid 6 figures for being stay at home moms Nah ur honestly so real for this though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/23 03:19 AM
2	The “girlfriend effect” Exactly. They literally just got older and grew into their bodies and personal styles lol.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/11/23 02:38 AM
4	Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man? I’m sorry but I can’t take this seriously unless you meant something different than “women have 30 eggs”? Females are born with 1-2 million eggs, they gradually die off, leaving around 300K (give or take) by puberty/first menses.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/10/23 03:45 AM
6	Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man? I agree with this. The prefrontal cortex is the last part of the brain to develop and doesn’t ‘finish’ until mid- to late-20s. This feels like a very “25-year-old take.”	/r/RedPillWomen	07/10/23 03:38 AM
6	Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man? The sugar example is good too because if you try it, you actually grow sick of it. Same with anything. You can die from too much water even though we are some-70% water and will die without it. Just because we have certain biological inclinations doesn’t mean that acting on them indefinitely is positive or benefits us.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/10/23 10:25 PM
1	how to know if your bf is ready for marriage & sure Ya this is a great idea especially for younger couples. I recommend Gottman pre marital counseling!	/r/RedPillWomen	29/09/23 12:23 AM
2	Considering becoming a SMBC? Whatever you’re avoiding facing within yourself that’s making your relationships go so poorly is going to show up in your relationship with your children. You can’t avoid inner work by avoiding romantic relationships. In fact, the mother-child relationship will be even more triggering than any romantic one you’ve been in. A child’s purpose is never to fulfill an adult’s desires. You say you don’t trust yourself — that will show up so so so hard in motherhood. So you need to work on yourself firs…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/09/23 03:37 PM
6	Back to Basics September: 'Jealousy and the secret weapon against the forbidden fruit: honey' Honestly if you’re with an attractive man (or otherwise “high value”) then this kinda comes with the territory. Women absolutely notice HV men… it’s natural. I take it as a compliment. I know my man is attractive and a catch. So does anyone else with eyes and a brain!	/r/RedPillWomen	26/09/23 01:16 AM
10	Heart still aches for my virginity I’m sorry you’re struggling but it has been 7 years since then and it seems odd you still haven’t processed this to such an extreme degree that you feel your marriage is breaking up over it. Was your partner a virgin until marriage? Do you feel like your first sexual experience was non-consensual and that’s the hold it has on you? It is unusual - to say the least - to be this distressed by a handful of sexual experiences you had 7 years ago.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/09/23 12:25 AM
0	What do you bring to the table? I’m not sure if you’re trying to expand on what I said or argue with me, because it sounds like we are saying the same thing to me… So I don’t really understand the downvote…?	/r/RedPillWomen	22/09/23 12:58 AM
0	What do you bring to the table? This is perhaps a phrasing issue — my point isn’t that the woman next door could theoretically copy my skills but she just hasn’t done it yet… My point was that there are other women in the world who actually do have my same set of skills and qualities my husband likes. Like other women like me exist already. That’s why I said most women can’t, but some can. I choose not to pretend I am just so special and unique he’s just sooo lucky to be with me and could never leave me because I’m so rare or …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/09/23 06:31 PM
5	What do you bring to the table? I agree with this for sure, and although my love with my husband feels like a fairytale, fated, meant to be… I ultimately don’t believe that. I think if we laid all the eligible (within reason) partners out in a list, there’s loads we’d each be able to happily be with — maybe even happier than with each other, in theory! But due to happenstance, we met when we did, and we are really highly compatible. I don’t think you have to literally be the absolute most compatible of anyone ever to be happy,…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/09/23 07:12 PM
4	What do you bring to the table? Cooking can feel intimidating but how I started (when I graduated college, no longer had a mom cooking for me or a meal plan in my dorm, and realized, oh no, I actually don’t know how to cook anything for myself, let alone someone else!!!) was by finding a couple easy recipes I felt I could follow, then made them each a few times until I liked the taste, would serve it proudly to someone else, and felt confident making it. Then I learned a couple more recipes. I also learned a lot about the chem…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/09/23 07:06 PM
3	I feel like I’m doing more than my fair share in my relationship. Any advice? Sorry but you’re kind of asking how to make a crap sandwich appetizing. You can’t.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/09/23 02:16 AM
5	My Boyfriend is S*it Testing Me - How to respond Wow, thank you for this comment. This actually helped me understand a component of my relationship dynamic with my ex!	/r/RedPillWomen	19/09/23 01:24 AM
16	Do most long-term marriages eventually lead to a roommate situation? No. Because here’s the thing about “feeling like roommates”: it’s totally gonna happen. It happens to everyone, eventually, at least sometimes. A lot of couples find it happens after a new baby joins the family. You’re so wrapped up in your new baby (or job or home or whatever) and just keeping life chugging along (dishes, laundry, meals, etc.) and you know you love each other so you’re both the first to understand when you skip a date, skip sex, just here and there, and then eventually it’s lik…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/23 01:27 PM
4	Low value “woman” needing negative affirmations There’s … a lot going on here. You need therapy. Or if this is a kink thing, bad attempt. On the off chance this is real, again, you need therapy (and I don’t sY that lightly), and also, being sexually available isn’t about having sex you genuinely don’t want to have or lying to your partner. The idea is that your “maybe” leans more towards “maybe yes” instead of “maybe no” and you remain open to getting in the mood. A lot of times this works well enough to get in the mood (which generally takes…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/09/23 04:47 AM
4	Authenticity in a RPW's Relationship I think you’re interpreting it too literally. The way I read that advice is more so to understand that your energy flows where your focus goes. Not outright lying. I am very easily the best at calming our baby down. Mainly bc he is breastfed. But whenever my husband manages him while he’s fussy, I say something like, “Thanks for taking over — I was so frazzled and you always know just how to calm him down.” It isn’t true, not really. I am actually much more easily able to calm him down. But it m…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/09/23 04:54 PM
2	Do you think it’s really a terrible thing for women to leave unhappy relationships/marriages? That does resonate with me. Being made to feel like a helpless victim made it seem random. Understanding what I did that played into the abusive dynamic helped me feel empowered to not have it happen again.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/09/23 11:51 PM
5	Do you think it’s really a terrible thing for women to leave unhappy relationships/marriages? I had a very similar experience. I truly was in an abusive dynamic but that was what I had to recognize — something about me put me in that dynamic. So what was going on with me that I landed there? And really reflecting on my role and working on that got me to a place where I was truly ready to intentionally enter a relationship.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/09/23 02:01 AM
4	How do I, 18F, get HVM to take me seriously? I’m 25 and married LOL.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/23 09:07 PM
8	How do I, 18F, get HVM to take me seriously? For stating a basic fact? Lol.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/23 08:49 PM
10	How do I, 18F, get HVM to take me seriously? The majority of people marry someone with 2 years of age so yes 5 years is indeed a bigger gap than most.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/23 08:44 PM
1	How much do you contribute in your marriage? Financially: He contributes 100% (now. We both worked prior to having babies so our savings and investments are a bit more equal, though the longer I don’t work the more uneven that will become, of course.) Childcare: About 70% me/30% him. I am a SAHM so obviously that’s more on me, plus breastfeeding (both our kids breastfeed, we have an almost 2 y/o and a 2 month old). But when it’s not work hours we both equally handle childcare. Chores: 50% me/50% him. Give or take. We outsource a lot of dee…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/08/23 10:52 PM
5	Sad that my husband likes lingerie model types and not me. This is a great comment. Lots of “him him him” when she can’t control him or his thoughts or desires, only herself.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/08/23 04:24 PM
5	Sad that my husband likes lingerie model types and not me. Seems like she would feel resentful because even by going to more extreme measures to lose the weight, she still won’t be his type.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/08/23 04:23 PM
0	A waitress was rude to me and I feel like my boyfriend is more concerned about her than me. Ladies, what do you think of this situation? Girl idk… my husband is from another country than me and speaks another language I don’t and we occasionally run into immigrants from that area who speak his language and I never mind at all when they converse in it even though I can’t understand and even when it’s a woman… it is an incredibly powerful connection to your heritage and history and culture to have a fleeting moment where you meet someone else who belongs and understands… I don’t feel like it really matters to me to stop my husband …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/08/23 12:55 AM
1	Liberal women have an easier time dating Really great comment.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/23 02:00 AM
1	Liberal women have an easier time dating I’m trying to imagine this conversation happening this way in a college dorm and just.. can’t. Lol. Almost 40% of US college students are virgins… granted, that’s likely mainly freshmen and sophomores, but it’s not like we’re talking about 1% of students. 40% is almost half…. Idk who you are hanging around but you need new friends.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/23 01:58 AM
1	Is there a chat / discord / whatsapp for RPW? Discord/Whatsapp are soo fast paced for me personally	/r/RedPillWomen	07/08/23 04:14 AM
6	7 Tips to Retain a Loving Relationship with Small Children Thanks for sharing! As a mom of 2, I agree with the mommy time bit here. I don’t much see the point in trying for solo time for me until my babies are a bit older anyway, other than a shower obviously or maybe something small like a pedicure. (In fact, my husband had our toddler (almost 22 months! and baby (almost 6 weeks) walking around the mall nearby a nail salon last weekend so I could get a pedicure. Baby was nearby in case he needed to nurse, I got some “me time”, everyone’s happy.) But it…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/07/23 11:14 PM
1	Thoughts on p*rn in relationships Pretty sure that person was asking: “what do you do (for sexual satisfaction) during those 6 weeks apart?”	/r/RedPillWomen	11/07/23 01:06 AM
2	Shift in husband’s behavior Thanks for sharing this. Good read.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/23 12:39 AM
3	The "What do YOU want to eat?" cycle and how to break it Thanks!! This baby’s been an angel tbh, our toddler’s more work right now hahah. But a month in as a family of 4 and we are settling in and I definitely journaled last night about this type of problem, so your post came at a perfect time 🥰	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/23 06:03 PM
3	The "What do YOU want to eat?" cycle and how to break it Ahhh. I needed this post today. I’m (almost) 4 weeks postpartum with our second baby and we are kind of coming out of the new baby fog and getting back into our more normal routine instead of that newborn survival mode, and we have definitely started doing this type of cycle around dinner after getting through our freezer stash of pp meals. This makes me think — it really is more submissive and respectful to my husband to just simply answer what I am craving, especially since he is doing all the…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/23 05:35 PM
–	Going down on women I’m cackling 😂😂😭	/r/RedPillWomen	03/06/23 04:25 PM
3	NSFW: sex is unbearable for me (F18) to the point where i feel so weak and i can’t satisfy my partner (M20) Does he finish inside you or do you use condoms?	/r/RedPillWomen	22/05/23 06:20 PM
23	Single ladies, how do you deal with high sex drive? That’s wild because working out always makes my sex drive higher overall 🙃	/r/RedPillWomen	21/05/23 11:11 PM
14	Red pill has made me (F22) lose interest in men I would say do not read male-direct TRP content at all. I felt like TRP was honestly disgusting until I discovered RPW … and as many RPW will tell you, we specifically avoid TRP men.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/05/23 03:19 PM
2	RPW is not working for me and I’m tired of being stuck in the same "the one that got away" situation I’m sorry, but other people are right — you don’t seem to have a good grasp on what RPW really means. Just because your mom is traditional doesn’t mean she is an “ideal RPW” and plenty of the women on here who embody RPW values wouldn’t put up with infidelity whatsoever. I think you need to really dig into the actual sidebar and reassess what you think RPW means, what the basic concepts are, and do some course correcting. I agree that it seems like you are missing something significant in the ve…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/23 05:27 PM
1	I'm stuck in a short term relationship and I'm so depressed No one can tell you what to do. But yeah those are pretty much your only options. Obviously this situation is not very healthy for either of you.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/23 04:49 AM
3	Anyone need a friend?/ Advice on finding friends with similar interests Honestly it got waaaay easier for me to find friends with similar lifestyle outlook as me with this kind of stuff when I got pregnant. That’s not really actionable advice because I’m not gonna say to go get pregnant lol. But that’s just kind of how it shook out for me. I did have some really great female friends before that (who I am still very close to) but they’re friends with different goals in life than I had. Most of them are pretty liberal both politically and in their lives, date around, …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/23 02:14 AM
7	How important is education(university degree level)?? I want to earn money right now!!! This isn’t really a career advice sub tbh. But I’ll bite. You can make okay or decent money immediately without a degree, but to make good money without a degree, you’ll probably need to work a lot or do something pretty demanding. If you want to make good money while working a reasonable amount or doing less demanding work, yes, you will almost certainly need a degree. 2 things: To get a degree, you’ve said you need a loan. Personally I’m not sure I’d get a loan to get a psych degree. Psycholog…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/05/23 12:55 PM
14	Those of you who have no personal income and stay home with your kids, what does your financial situation look like? SAHM. Haven’t worked since I was 7 months pregnant with baby 1. My husband works in finance. We have investments, both individual and family investments. I manage mine, he manages his and the family portfolio. He also manages our retirement accounts (we both have them) as well as our children’s college funds and savings accounts. We both have access to all of this, but generally I don’t do much with anything besides my own portfolio, because it’s literally his job and I trust him. He would consu…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/05/23 04:04 PM
2	Was it me? You summed my thoughts up exactly.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/05/23 03:21 PM
5	Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-count Idk, 10 months is a pretty long time given she hasn’t shown any concerning behavior etc (at least as per her account, which is obviously all we have). It’s not like he broke things off. He is still very much stringing her along with “I’m not sure I can see us getting married… idk about our future…,” etc. which is pretty wishy washy imo! Men know really quickly if a woman is the one… and I’m sure he could’ve been taking some time to assess his feelings here on if he could get over it, but it does…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/05/23 01:01 AM
21	Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-count I’ve tried explaining this here before but it was really misconstrued. So to preface this: I do not think there is a problem with anyone finding n-count or sexual behavior from their partner a dealbreaker. What bothers me about a man asking the question “what’s your n-count?” is this: 1. It is pointless to ask as it is basically unverifiable. A woman who has a high n can simply lie. A women who wants to HIDE a high n WILL simply lie. A woman with a low n can tell the truth and not be believed be…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/23 02:50 PM
10	Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-count It’s not really that… I don’t find the preference a problem in and of itself. But it doesn’t take 10 months to assess that, and then say something pretty wishy washy like “I’m not sure if I see a future together.” without breaking up. Like… he IS stringing her along. He isn’t okay with her sexual history (seemingly her behavior is fine). So that’s the red flag to me and OP should get out of this relationship while she’s still 25, not waste more time trying to convince him she’s worthy when he’s …	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/23 02:32 PM
25	Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-count I always wonder this as well... No man has ever asked me this since the man (boy, really. He’s a man now but this was when we were in high school lol.) who I lost my virginity to, who was also a virgin at the time. So it was more of a “are you a virgin too?” question. I actually don’t have a high n-count but I find it to be a pretty off-putting question and I’m always surprised to hear women say men 30+ are asking this. That’s not to say anything about the standard itself… I mean, everyone is en…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/23 12:16 PM
20	Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-count Can I just say thank you to you and the other mods for being so quick and on top of the influx of non RPW advice, particularly from young unmarried men!? It was getting really out of hand a bit ago and I know I and other women on here really appreciate you making this space more of what it was intended to be!	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/23 12:12 PM
81	Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-count Honestly it’s kind of a red flag anyway that it took him 10 months to say this? I’m sure he was grappling with it for a while and hoping to get over it but like, it’s taken him TEN months to figure this out? And he’s still got her on a string saying he “may” not be able to get over it. By 10 months dating, my now-husband and I had already discussed marriage really explicitly, and made our intentions to get engaged soon known to each other… If I were OP, I’d start moving on. People know pretty qu…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/23 12:10 PM
3	I feel like a failure Yeah I agree. I don’t mind the downvotes, Reddit is hit or miss with comments for me 😂 But I mean, there’s not an insignificant chance that making being traditional your kink lifestyle may result in “feeling like a failure” for not being a 21 year old mom. I’m also a little jaded with the kink stuff… a lot of homemaking, birth, etc. subs get a huge amount of kink posters and tbh I’m here for legit advice, community, etc. … not to facilitate someone’s kink, so I just wanted to make it clear this …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/23 05:15 PM
8	Do most conventionally attractive/professionally successful men cheat? Is there any sign that they would or wouldn't? No, honestly. I believe the opposite. Men actually cheat more than women, and even ugly women have more opportunity than average men. If opportunity increases the likelihood, women would cheat CONSTANTLY compared to men. But men are almost twice as likely to cheat, even though it is more difficult for them to. My husband is very classically handsome and desirable so he’s always had options. It isn’t special to him to get female attention. I’ve never worried a day in my life about him cheating. H…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/23 02:27 PM
7	I feel like a failure Okay, well. You seem to be on the right track for your goals. But just fyi this isn’t a kink sub and it seems like your other subs you frequent are so did you have an actual question or something?	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/23 01:21 PM
3	How would you introduce RP to your daughter? Do you wish you had known about RP at a younger age? The issue with this is that so many teens hear “wait to have sex” and then do the opposite specifically because they were told to wait. So it’s hard to strike a balance as a parent.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/05/23 11:44 PM
2	Do RPW initiate intimacy? Or leave it to their partner My husband and I typically have pretty matched libidos so keep that in mind, it sounds like you guys aren’t usually as matched up. But whenever he has a really stressful work period (which has been happening a lot this year due to his field’s volatility at the moment), his libido pretty much tanks. I’m also currently heavily pregnant and we have a 1 year old. So you can imagine this year we have had a big flux with our sex life compared to usual. Whenever I am in the mood but I know he isn’t, I …	/r/RedPillWomen	03/05/23 03:36 PM
3	I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job. I would say something less time consuming and expensive than dental school may still behoove you if it puts you around men who are getting an education and will become high earners. Otherwise you have to think, the men with those types of jobs will be meeting women in college, you know? Don’t put yourself deep into debt to maybe meet a potential high earning husband, but if you make a general plan you’re happy with that can include university, you will be more likely to socialize with young men …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/23 04:37 AM
9	I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job. Are you familiar with the concept of a MRS. degree? Typically educated men are gonna marry educated women. I know lots of SAHMs married to high earners… all of these SAHMs have Bachelor’s degrees and met their husbands in university.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/23 01:02 AM
7	How long did you and your husband wait before you were engaged? 9 months dating, we had a very serious talk about it. We were only 20 though and didn’t really see the point in getting engaged then. He did buy me a little ring, pretty much a promise ring. I suppose this was essentially an engagement? We were 100% serious about committing for life. We just didn’t see the need to rush it before graduating. We moved in together the summer after that, when we’d been together something like 15 months. We got “officially” (?) engaged after we graduated college at 2…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/04/23 12:11 AM
7	What actually tends to happen to women who marry conventionally attractive men? I guess I can kind of see the logic behind it but… this isn’t my experience in my circles… and most of my friends/peers are conventionally attractive, overall more than the average person. There are some marriages I am aware of having problems, but no more than the rest of the population to my knowledge. In fact, I personally think my husband being attractive is a good thing because it means he had options and chose me. The ugliest man I dated actually cheated on me because the minute he got att…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/04/23 11:35 PM
3	I want to be a stay at home mum and have kids I also lived (and went to university) in a big city where most people got married early 30s and had kids mid-30s. In my general SES, SAHMs were the norm for at least the baby years but those baby years were typically happening 32-35ish. I have always known that — assuming I met my spouse early enough — I wanted to be married and a mom young. I luckily met my husband when we were 19, and he had similar beliefs around family life that I did. He is extremely driven in his career and was making 6 fi…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/04/23 03:48 PM
6	Do men actually care if a woman is smart/professionally successful or not? Most people do indeed marry in the same SES as them. So they marry someone similarly educated, similar background, usually similar religion/political party/race/etc. Even very wealthy or educated men want a beautiful woman who is also smart/educated enough to hold her own around his friends and family. There are always handsome/rich men who just want interchangeable beautiful arm candy but pretty much no man (or woman) wants a life partner to raise children with who is dumb as a doorknob, uneduc…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/23 04:40 PM
2	Hi, I'm not redpilleed at all but I've found it enlightening in this group I would say that the point of both RPW and TRP ultimately is to level up to your best self to reach your goals, but the goals are generally commitment for RPW and sex for TRP. That isn’t to say that’s the only purpose of red pill ideology, or that no men want commitment and no women want sex. But generally speaking, that is the difference between RPW and TRP subs. Men are seeking to increase their SMV and women are seeking to increase their RMV.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/23 04:55 PM
3	Thought experiment about arranged marriages This is why I think everyone should do premarital counseling — both individual and couples. One of the main purposes of the program my husband and I did while engaged was to lay all of our beliefs and expectations on the table very matter-of-factly. We personally found it a little redundant as we had discussed virtually all of the topics already a ton but the counselor was very surprised by how much we’d talked about, so evidently most people do not discuss that much before taking the marriage l…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/23 04:37 PM
7	Hi, I'm not redpilleed at all but I've found it enlightening in this group Generally as a RPW, you want a man who is a “soft alpha” or a “greater beta” — not really a man who is seeking what most TRP-guided men are seeking. Some women here describe their man as “naturally red pilled” — not someone who reads TRP or really even needs to. (I would describe my husband as such. He’s a very natural leader, tall, masculine man, pours into me so I can pour into our children, desirable, could spin plates but his personal beliefs and goals include a wife and children.) There’s s…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/04/23 03:26 PM
17	Hi, I'm not redpilleed at all but I've found it enlightening in this group 😂 I’ll just say: there’s a reason it’s said around RPW to not go after TRP men specifically.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/04/23 02:19 PM
1	Can you share your favorite (relatively easy) dinner recipe? Whenever I’m feeling particularly lazy, I go with either tacos or nachos. All you have to prep is the ground meat (beef, bison, lamb, chicken, or turkey all work and they’re easy to prep). Sometimes I will chop and roast sweet potatoes in some taco seasoning too to add to the mix. The rest is easy because you just put it in a bowl to self-make tacos or toss on chips on a sheet pan. Cheese, avocado, spinach or lettuce, beans, olives, sour cream, etc. Takes like 20 minutes and is always a quick an…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/23 02:02 PM
7	Harvard scholars: Marriage makes women happier and healthier Def emphasis on GOOD marriage for sure. I had a couple friends have babies and they were f*cking MISERABLE because their husbands made their experience sooo much worse than if they’d just been a single mom. Having a good marriage with a supportive spouse makes everything better. I felt so bad for them I didn’t even feel like it made sense to talk about how much I enjoyed my postpartum experience and loved seeing my husband step so beautifully and wonderfully into fatherhood, supporting me becomi…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/23 09:58 PM
5	Guy having tons of female friends: red flag or normal? Honestly the “having a lot of female friends” is less of a red flag to me than… him posting about hooking up with them on his social media?? That’s really weird imo. I mainly hang out with pretty liberal (both politically and sexual) people too, and that’s still out of the ordinary for my circles.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/23 07:42 PM
-1	Why do women get so offended when a man tells them the truth Sorry, but this doesn’t belong here. This has nothing to do with the purpose of the RPW sub.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/23 01:26 PM
3	the flatmate Sorry??? but wearing headphones if you’re watching content of any kind in a communal space is just basic respect… it’s simply rude to listen to something others can hear whether they would agree with the content or not. That’s just part of having roommates. There’s not much else you can do when you’re willingly and intentionally playing this content in a shared space and you’ve already said your bit about it. Next time watch privately or wear headphones, and if they’re still commenting (somehow?…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/04/23 12:52 AM
1	I think my boyfriend is too ambitious and I'm stuggling with it, help! Did you fr put “trigger warning” on this?? Lmao relax. Her concerns are valid (though overblown imo) and if you find this triggering, that’s YOUR issue.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/04/23 08:20 PM
2	Does your husband support your hobbies? Well I’m not a nanny-bang-maid with no value outside of those services to my husband or our sons, so umm. Hard pass on your whole take. My husband supports my hobbies just as I support his. We are partners who love and support each other. I am no more “just” here to serve him/our sons than he is “just” here to provide a paycheck for our lifestyle.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/23 11:28 PM
2	When they ask what you do for work? I wouldn’t say “I’m looking for a provider” lol. I would definitely just talk about what you actually do — work on a small business venture while living off a small investment income. The question of “looking for a provider” is more of a values/lifestyle question. And when you are vetting men for providing, asking them what they do for work is a good first step.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/23 09:43 AM
1	What exactly is a Red Pill Woman? The beginning of the sidebar says pretty plainly: “We come from all different walks of life, so on RPW you will find harmonious and productive discussions between very religious traditional conservative women and hardcore BDSM submissives and everyone in between. What we all share is not a lifestyle, a set of values, or a worldview, but a way of relating to men.” so how do you figure RPW automatically = traditional?	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/23 06:24 PM
3	What exactly is a Red Pill Woman? No, you don’t even need to be in a traditional relationship to be a RPW — that’s just a common dynamic.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/23 11:32 AM
2	Pattern of dating/talking to military guys, hasn’t worked out, would appreciate advice! I literally can’t disagree more. Sundresses are an extremely popular thing women — esp college age women — wear to look nice. Idk anything about shoe0nhead but a quick google search shows she wears plenty of dresses among other clothes…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/23 02:46 AM
4	Pattern of dating/talking to military guys, hasn’t worked out, would appreciate advice! Umm. You think liberal men don’t like sundresses? Look, there are a lot of differences between conservative and liberal men — but one thing they virtually unanimously agree on is that women look good in sundresses lol.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/23 02:14 AM
-1	How do I (28F) reconnect with my now responsible ex (34M)? Not sure why you think this? Plenty of liberal political men have traditional personal family values, particularly high earning liberal men.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/23 02:05 AM
2	Single and 30… suddenly all the men I used to date who weren’t looking for an LTR are crawling out of the woodwork Gotcha… well as per your link I live in one of the states with the lowest divorce rate which is likely why this isn’t a problem I see at all, and you mentioned you’re in OK, which has one of the highest divorce rates. Some other interesting stats from your link: Marriages concluded between 20 and 24 years old are 20% likely to end in divorce, while marriages at 25-29 end in 15% of cases. Couples who tied the knot at 30-34 are the strongest, with only 14% of divorces. And lastly, marriages entere…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/23 01:53 PM
1	Single and 30… suddenly all the men I used to date who weren’t looking for an LTR are crawling out of the woodwork I’m not in a costal city but as mention I am in a major city. Even so, if most get married at 25-26, how are so many getting divorced before 30 when the lifetime divorce rate for first time marriages is somewhere in the 30%? (So that includes first time marriages that end when both people are 50 for example.) I do agree re: fertility. There’s a reason I was married at 23 and pregnant at 24 — having our kids young was important to me and my husband. Amusingly, in our city, despite our first being…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/23 01:09 PM
3	Single and 30… suddenly all the men I used to date who weren’t looking for an LTR are crawling out of the woodwork Interesting. I’m wondering if this is a location thing? I have some female and male friends (mid 20-mid 30s) who are married but also plenty more who are single. It isn’t at all unusual. But I live in a major US city so I recognize the culture is a bit different w/ marriage and kids. For example, of our friend groups from HS/university we are the only ones with kids so far, although one has a baby otw now. I also only know 1 divorced couple my age, but the man was in the military so their marria…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/23 12:56 PM
25	Single and 30… suddenly all the men I used to date who weren’t looking for an LTR are crawling out of the woodwork Why do you say most women are less desirable at 30 and/or have likely been married and divorced by then? The average age for first marriage (in the US) is almost 29 years old. Seems very typical to me that men would be around 30 wanting to settle down? (The average age for first marriage is 30 for men (in US.))	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/23 04:31 AM
2	My take on RP and BP Maybe you should’ve read around this sub before you came in hot and angry? Like… it is WIDELY stated here to avoid openly red pilled men…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/03/23 02:08 AM
7	My take on RP and BP Yep, TRP rage is a real thing, it’s mentioned regularly here, as well as the advice to specifically avoid RP men. Not really a hot take.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/03/23 02:05 AM
3	Thoughts on Domestic Discipline Yes, I agree — I am very maternal and my husband is very paternal, which comes in handy with our children. Him spanking me for discipline is not his role in our relationship. He does not discipline me at all… because he’s not my dad. He’s my partner. This sounds entirely like a kink. Which is fine, if that’s your thing, but it isn’t mine or many others.	/r/RedPillWives	22/03/23 01:12 AM
4	Thoughts on Domestic Discipline Mmm, no thanks. I married a partner, not a new dad. He holds a paternal role with, you know, our children.	/r/RedPillWives	22/03/23 12:30 AM
5	I feel like I don’t deserve a life like this Yeah I’m gonna echo others and say you’re describing ADHD. Getting diagnosed and medicated at 21 completely changed my life and I no longer felt like I was constantly using all my energy just to tread water and barely cope with staying afloat. Medication isn’t for everyone but it is extremely helpful for most ppl with ADHD and for the specific symptoms you’re describing. Therapy or life coaching can also be great tools to build the life you want. I have done all 3 and they’ve helped in different…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/03/23 04:01 AM
10	Thoughts on Domestic Discipline Too kinky and paternalistic for me (or my husband’s) tastes. He’s my partner, not my father.	/r/RedPillWives	17/03/23 07:07 PM
3	My husband hit on a 19 year old when he was 39, makes me feel uneasy. F25 with M42. Really good take honestly. I have never been comfortable with the idea of more than a handful of years gap. There are some random individual relationships that happen to be the exception but that’s the point — they aren’t the rule. It makes me so glad I met my husband before we hit our 20s and we grew up together so much.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/23 04:27 PM
4	What was your redpill conversion moment and how did things change for you after you accepted it? The longer you’re around RPW, the more you’ll see how wildly different it is from TRP. I find TRP sooo offputting and even vile (that RP rage stage is something else!) but RPW is pretty wholesome as a pretty traditional woman myself. ☺️ Welcome to the light side lol.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/03/23 04:09 PM
1	Why do people suggest cutting alcohol? I assume the people that give this as a money or health hack must be used to drinking A LOT. I have gone years without drinking, and even in my “heavy” drinking eras, I might go through a half a bottle in a night for a special occasion. So none of that type of advice resonates with me at all.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/03/23 11:41 PM
3	An anecdote about femininity while having a masculine job - it’s genuinely possible. I was in the military for 4 years — everyone that didn’t (or doesn’t) know was always very surprised to find this out about me which I find a little bit amusing.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/03/23 09:07 PM
8	What was your redpill conversion moment and how did things change for you after you accepted it? I was vaguely familiar with TRP and some of it resonated but it was so aggressively male and TRP rage stage is really awful to read. At some point I stumbled upon RPW and realized it basically just described the natural dynamic between my husband and I. So I stuck around, read some more, and I like hearing from other women that have the same mindset/dynamic/goals as me. Being able to read from likeminded women has definitely helped me just stand more in my power in my relationship and be a bette…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/03/23 03:25 PM
2	Can you attempt dropping the handkerchief more than once or is that desperate? Can I ask what he does for work? Is it something project-based where he has particularly busy/stressful seasons? The field my husband is in, he really cannot “stay up til 4am and make up the work later” during some blocks of the year where he is insanely busy and under a lot of pressure. He does have more times where he can let work take a back burner and use PTO and just generally relax more at work and home. He did not do this job while we were dating, but if he had, it would’ve been really un…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/03/23 12:33 AM
1	A friend is married to a man who refuses to do a job and just sits at home while she brings in a significant pay check & she’s encouraging me to tolerate the same. Thoughts? Okayyyy well personally I agree for my own life which is why I live like that, but that doesn’t mean anything about her friend’s life… what’s she supposed to do? Start an argument with her friend and say, “You’re actually fighting your nature”? What would be the point of that?	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/23 12:06 PM
7	Most women only want 20% of men, but roughly 50% of women are in relationships. Are 30% of women in relationships with men they don’t desire? Think you’re looking for r/PurplePillDebate. This has nothing to do with RPW.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/02/23 01:13 PM
3	How to get the attraction back to my man? That’s great! I find a lot of people avoid buying clothes in a bigger size because it’s like they’re “admitting defeat” and resigning to being bigger… but in reality, I find the opposite is true for me — wearing clothes that fit and I feel good in gives me love for myself and my body. When I feel good about myself, I want to take care of myself. Often that confidence boost from a well-fitting outfit is great motivation for lifestyle changes! I wouldn’t say to buy a whole new wardrobe in a bigger…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/02/23 12:39 AM
5	I need serious advice, I am the girl that men date before they get into a serious relationship This is such a good bit of advice and sums up why I have always found this narrative offputting. Totally lacks accountability.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/02/23 11:45 AM
4	How to get the attraction back to my man? I agree about career achievements bringing confidence but I’d also say him being overweight is probably specifically dampening his confidence. Men and women alike feel better, carry ourselves better, and act more confident when we think we look better. So I don’t think it’s a matter of “just wait 10 years for his career to unfold.” because people draw assertiveness before they’re high flying in their career — TO become high flying in their career. Personally I’d say if you know you’re attracted …	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/23 04:17 PM
6	Struggling with feeling feminine I’m not sure why going to college would inherently make you less feminine?? Just don’t study in a male-dominated field or try to go for a high powered career. I mean, I studied elementary education… it’s pretty feminine over there lol. I only had a handful of male classmates at all, and most of them were more yin men for sure. Maybe find a major you feel drawn to like that. There are also plenty of clubs you can join that are much more feminine — a sorority comes to mind. Srats get a rep for dri…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/23 01:20 PM
12	How to stop being “one of the bros?” I agree with this as someone that used to be in the military. I was in my masculine energy much more there, because I had to be. It was the wrong place to be feminine and it would’ve been received really wrong most likely, and maybe even been detrimental to my military career. So I didn’t try to be more feminine there. I did so in other aspects of my life. I obviously didn’t quit the military. And while in the military, I met my now-husband, who is definitely much more masculine than me (even if…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/23 02:04 PM
41	I can’t be helped TRP for men and RPW for women work very differently and are actually pretty incompatible, despite being formed off the same base knowledge. You aren’t going to find many - if any - women here saying anything like, “Men have needs, you just need to learn to be okay with it, and here’s the magic secret on how to do that!” I’m sorry. He sounds like an unfaithful dud who isn’t worth continuing to see. You gave him more than enough chances. He showed you his priorities. When people show you who they …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/23 06:50 PM
11	Desiring a birth experience and “mothering” a child but unsure if I can handle the lifestyle of parenting Former nanny, current SAHM. I loved being a nanny and also absolutely loved having every evening and weekend kid-free — it made me a great nanny. However, I don’t miss being a nanny more than I love being a mom to my son (soon to be sons!) and I absolutely loved giving birth (though pregnancy has its ups and downs for me personally, overall I don’t mind pregnancy.) Pros of nannying: - You get to have evenings and weekends free. - You can theoretically get a full night of sleep. - You aren’t whol…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/02/23 08:05 PM
6	A friend is married to a man who refuses to do a job and just sits at home while she brings in a significant pay check & she’s encouraging me to tolerate the same. Thoughts? I mean, how is she bullying you? If she’s being rude to be rude then like, it doesn’t really matter why she is being rude. I would tell her to stop or just simply stop spending time with her. But her personal relationship arrangement isn’t really relevant. Everything you said about their set up could be said about a male breadwinner with a SAHW… “All she does is take out the trash and cook, otherwise she just sits at home doing basically nothing. She’s educated, you know, so she could go work, b…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/02/23 07:41 PM
4	It appears that more women are hardcore feminist than Red Pill because of the fear of backlash Unpopular opinion on here but I don’t see RP relationships as incompatible with feminism at all. I would 110% rather women choose wholeheartedly to be in a RP-aligned relationship than most women be forced into it. We have the power now of choosing the dynamic that works best for us, and I am not so egotistical to believe that what works best for me works best for everyone. I even know some RP relationships that both work pretty high powered jobs. RPW is about the way you relate as a woman to th…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/02/23 06:01 PM
2	I need advice from women Off topic but my sister asked her bf how much he thought engagement rings cost (based on some meme she saw that said to ask your man) and he said, “I dunno, like $50K?” 🤣 Bless his heart. I hope he finds a way to get her a $50K engagement ring LOL.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/02/23 03:18 PM
7	getting over fear of infidelity I agree, but I just think if you’re already okay with the strip club, you probably expect there’s going to be some amount of interacting with strippers like a lap dance. So that to me would be a boundary that should be spoken if she’s already said she is okay with him being at a strip club, but expects him not to get a lap dance (or whatever). In contrast, I don’t think anyone truly thinks sexual contact like kissing, sex, etc. is not cheating unless otherwise specifically stated. So I wouldn’t …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/23 04:06 PM
5	Feeling super stressed and moody lately It will take time to regulate being off birth control. It’s also worth noting that birth control depletes you of essential nutrients (which is one of the reasons some women become depressed or anxious on BC), and without intentionally replenishing those stores and eating a balanced diet, you’re likely still depleted. I would really focus on getting a very solid and balanced diet as well as moving your body (which is good for you anyway) even if it’s just going on walks. When you feel like you’re…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/23 03:52 PM
5	getting over fear of infidelity I would tell him if you have some kind of unusually specific boundary that other people don’t. Like say you’re okay with him going to a strip club but not getting a lap dance… maybe you’re okay with a stripper at a party but not him going to a strip club… maybe you’re not okay with a strip club at all but you know it’s planned… maybe you’re fine with him going bar hopping and even chatting up women with his friends but you draw the line at buying drinks. Etc. Whatever your boundaries are. But if…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/23 03:45 PM
2	On true loyalty: Is it okay to feel that way? I may have been a bit forward about it lol. I do not know anyone who thinks like this, besides my high school boyfriend, who cheated on me senior year just before graduation, we broke up, and he took this as a “we are over for now” instead of “we are over” and has continued to pop up in my life through mutual friends over the years, upset that I got married and had a baby with someone besides him… (keep in mind he actually got married, had a baby, and is divorced, not to mention he cheated on me…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/23 02:12 PM
12	Infertility and further study If you have genuinely been TTC for 22 months by having sex 2x/day every day for that long, it’s time seek a fertility doctor and get some lab work done. Have you been tracking ovulation? Do you know if you’re ovulating? Going to school won’t matter one way or the other if you’re not ovulating or your husband’s not fertile.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/23 01:08 AM
16	On true loyalty: Is it okay to feel that way? I wouldn’t even say that’s how most women work… who is pledging one-sided unspoken loyalty to their high school partner they haven’t even talked to in years…?	/r/RedPillWomen	14/02/23 11:43 PM
9	Meeting boyfriend's toddler son No one is saying you’re a fling. The point is that you and he cannot possibly know right now where things will lead long term because 2 months simply isn’t enough time to determine that. It would be really irresponsible of him to introduce his child to his gf of 2 months… Put yourself in the mother’s shoes for a moment. If you and he had a child, and things didn’t work out, but he met someone he really clicked with, would you want him to introduce her to your kid after 2 months? If I was dating …	/r/RedPillWomen	14/02/23 02:24 AM
22	Meeting boyfriend's toddler son Um… people introduce friends to their kids, because the odds of a friendship souring is much lower than a relationship. You have only been dating 2 months. It would be a definite red flag if he introduced his child to you.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/23 09:24 PM
2	Where to find healthy female friendships? Are you talking to the OP…? Because I personally have a great group of girlfriends… I agree, you just have to keep looking until you find your people.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/23 04:35 PM
3	Where to find healthy female friendships? I’m married, so I’m good lol. My point was that there’s no secret location all the good women and men hang out. They do different things, they have different friend groups… you just have to vet people for the qualities you seek in friends and partners.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/23 03:53 PM
22	Where to find healthy female friendships? Not sure why you are being downvoted. This is literally the answer. There’s some sneaky, gossipy, backstabbing women with low morals and no loyalty at churches, and there some awesome, trustworthy, thoughtful women at strip clubs who would make wonderful and extremely loyal friends... There’s no secret meeting place for trustworthy women (or men, for that matter). Find your own interests, seek groups that share those interests, and use your big beautiful brain to vet the people you meet and asse…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/02/23 11:28 PM
13	Stop Chasing the Honeymoon Phase Same, and we are coming up on 7 years together at the end of this month (3 married). I understand the sentiment — don’t chase a high. But we’ve never lost the general feeling of being in a “honeymoon stage.” I am just as in awe and as in love with him as I was in the beginning, probably more so, really. And he with me. He still excites me just as much. I still crave being around him just as much. We still surprise each other with little gifts, we’re still affectionate, we still dote on each othe…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/02/23 08:39 PM
1	Am I dating out of my league? Ohhh gotcha. I misunderstood your comment. I think a lot of people over-complicated it, but the more “HVM traits” are generally concentrated together, not equally distributed, so it’s not so rare to find, say, a handsome man who is also charismatic and makes 6 figures — because each of those qualities tends to beget the other qualities.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/02/23 02:14 PM
12	How traditional is too traditional? Right… that isn’t willing and loving submission, that’s literally just self-preservation. If my life was at risk for even voicing dissent, I’d comply too… I feel so sad for her daughters. ☹️	/r/RedPillWives	10/02/23 02:47 PM
12	What are you doing for your man on Valentine’s Day? We have a 1 year old in a screeching phase so for Vday we agreed our gifts to each other are some Loop earplugs 😂 I am also planning on making some kind of special treat, haven’t decided what yet, and I’m sure my husband will make dinner as he loves to cook.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/23 02:46 PM
5	Am I dating out of my league? Except there are plenty of stable men who make $100K+ and are 5’10 in areas like SoCal? You’re also dismissing the fact that in order to succeed at most positions you’ll make a lot of money at, you have to be at least baseline mentally stable… as well as the fact that high earners are disproportionately tall compared to average or low earners. Same with a lot of other things — like taller men are less likely to be overweight, for example. Plus being educated herself is automatically exposing her…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/23 12:47 PM
6	Am I dating out of my league? The point wasn’t really the specific math, I’m sure my quick calculations aren’t representative of how it actually shakes out, partially because humans aren’t literally random. (Like I mentioned for example that these men aren’t equally distributed, they’re more congregated in HCOL cities, meaning your odds of encountering a man fitting either criteria in Huntsville is much lower than in NYC.) But what you’re talking about would be figuring out the random chance of a man pulled from the US popul…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/23 05:44 AM
3	Am I dating out of my league? Absolutely. I don’t know any of my husband’s married coworkers (all Bachelor’s+ educated and earning $100K+) who have wives without a degree, even though virtually all of the men with children have a wife who is a SAHM. It’s definitely a baseline thing in my circles!	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/23 05:21 AM
16	How traditional is too traditional? The difference between us + you is that we are willing to protect our children, even if that means disobeying. I’d rather be a good mother than a good wife. Fortunately for me, I would never have to choose, because my husband would always put his role and duty as a father first above his brother. I’ll pray for your daughters. Good luck.	/r/RedPillWives	10/02/23 05:19 AM
13	How traditional is too traditional? Well, then why are you here? You clearly aren’t the good little submissive wife so much better than us all here if you were doubting your husband’s decision to have his child rapist brother around your young daughters. I guess we all just have so much to learn from you! Or, maybe, that little voice in your gut that told you your child rapist brother-in-law isn’t a safe person to have around your young daughters was on to something… Who knows? I’m a Western woman and my husband would never ever e…	/r/RedPillWives	10/02/23 05:11 AM
2	Am I dating out of my league? Why would you say this is less than 1% of men…? 13% of men make $100K+. 42% of men are 5’10+ and statistically, taller men are more likely to make more money, so it’s safe to assume MORE than 42% of men making $100K+ are 5’10+ than men making <$100K. These men are also not equally disturbed across the US and are much more likely to be concentrated in places like NYC, Chicago, SoCal, etc. The odds are lower than average but definitely not <1%. A realistic estimate would be 5-10% of men, across th…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/23 04:29 AM
6	Am I dating out of my league? Definitely this. I have lived all over, and am currently in a HCOL major US city. Easily half of the dating commentary I see online (esp red pill spaces) simply doesn’t apply at all to my area (example: “being thin is a major bonus” sure, maybe in a random mid-sized or small city, but where I live (and most major US cities), the obesity rates in the HCOL areas I am in are easily 1/2 or even lower than what they are in most places in the US.) Or “women don’t need to be educated to attract men” — …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/23 03:56 AM
8	I feel like a failure because I don't have a master degree and I don't know what should I put first I’ve never lived in Paris, but I grew up in a nearby city a couple hours away (not in France) with a similar culture you’re describing. Get the Master’s, if that’s what you want and if it won’t be much cost to you, as it will give you both your own level of academic/financial security and also put you in proximity to men getting their Master’s. In the meantime, work on your other qualities (femininity, warmth, home skills, etc) and make a point of putting yourself out there to meet men you are i…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/23 02:53 PM
1	What do you guys think of the future for men being single dad's through surrogacy? I’m sorry but I don’t see how that matters or why this is your soapbox right now. A dad who is not present (regardless of whether the mom assumed he would be or not) is a deadbeat… The fact that women often get pregnant by men that wouldn’t make good fathers is irrelevant to the man’s own action of being a bad father. I agree women will choose bad men, then complain they are bad or absent fathers. That doesn’t make the men not deadbeats though??	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/23 03:42 PM
3	What do you guys think of the future for men being single dad's through surrogacy? Not really the point I was making. I’m not championing for single moms who chose poorly. The point is that for every mother raising a child alone, there’s already a man who has children out there he doesn’t want or barely takes care of. So pretending there’s huge swaths of single men foaming at the mouth for the chance to be single dads is just completely inaccurate. It isn’t as if all these single women opted for a sperm donor to become single moms by choice, and now single men are doing to fol…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/23 03:05 PM
2	What do you guys think of the future for men being single dad's through surrogacy? Traditional Gen Z, SAHM, and I have about equal friends who are more traditional vs. not as my (Gen X) parents. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Even down to the breakdown of het vs. gay despite the general idea that Zoomers are all IDing as gay+. I don’t think times are that different to be honest. A little more flexible, but people are people, and there are always going to be families who want more traditional lifestyle and values, and some who want something unusual and different.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/23 03:00 PM
3	What do you guys think of the future for men being single dad's through surrogacy? There’s so many single moms because men don’t even want to raise the children they have… virtually no single moms became single moms through donors, they just have deadbeat dads. So what makes this guy this suddenly swaths of men will become single dads by choice? Women who do go that route via donor conception take YEARS, sometimes even a decade, to plan… and they just have to pay a fee for donor sperm. It would take so much longer for a man to reasonably plan this, given how expensive surrogat…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/23 01:41 PM
7	What do you guys think of the future for men being single dad's through surrogacy? Can men maybe… idk… read the basic rules before posting here? Go adopt or get a surrogate if you want, it means absolutely nothing to any of us, no one here cares. This has NOTHING to do with RPW. Reported.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/23 01:38 PM
9	What to do if you meet the requirements of “alpha widow” Yeah I’m gonna echo that there’s literally no possible way you knew him well enough to actually know how good (or not) of a guy he was, even if you spent every waking hour together for that entire month. You’re hung up on him because you’re young, he was tall and hot, and you haven’t ever been with anyone else. That’s it. Telling yourself you’re “alpha widowed” over this is honestly just a limiting belief that will keep you stuck in that mindset.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/02/23 11:19 PM
17	Statistically, what is worse: an abusive father or no father? “The more frequent or intense the conflict, the more the child is hurt emotionally, and the more likely he or she is to become delinquent as an adolescent and violent as an adult. In fact, children who witness abuse are more likely to abuse spouses and children when they are adults than are children who suffer abuse themselves. One study indicates that children who saw their mother being abused, compared with those who did not, are 24 times more likely to commit sexual assault crimes, 50 times m…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/23 05:11 PM
1	did i mess up by giving out my number in this manner? 🫶🏽	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/23 08:20 PM
3	did i mess up by giving out my number in this manner? I mean, Lion King was made in 1994, and this idea of a woman agreeing to be courted has like, virtually always been a thing, except in very high class families where their families did the deciding… so I’m not sure what you mean.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/23 04:59 PM
3	Labelling men and yourself as RP in everyday life I definitely do not use the term RP IRL. The majority of people aren’t even aware of TRP at all, but if they are, they are most likely tangentially aware of the worst of TRP sub’s posts that circulate online, and most think negatively about it for that reason. I know some men that, upon reflection, I’m sure are familiar with TRP. It’s not as if they advertise it, but if you talk to someone enough, you can kind of get a sense about it. I especially noticed this about my first bf (I didn’t realize…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/23 02:47 PM
7	did i mess up by giving out my number in this manner? HARD disagree. Women shouldn’t lead the entire interaction, date, relationship, but so much of the beginning of dating is the subtle signs women are ‘supposed to’ give to let the man know to pursue her. Women actually do start the dance, by ‘winking’ at the men to approach. Men that try to bypass this often get rejected because they never actually got the ok form the woman to start the dance. Look at the “Can You Feel the Love Tonight?” scene in Lion King between Simba and Nala. Every step Nala …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/23 02:17 PM
1	How where you affected when you stopped taking the pill? I had a Mirena but sooo many symptoms lifted when I got off it like you’re describing. Drs told me it can’t cause mental health issues because it is localized… allegedly.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/23 01:57 AM
3	How where you affected when you stopped taking the pill? I went off a Mirena IUD, not the pill. But my skin cleared up, less bloating, my abdomen let go of a tense cramp I didn’t realize I’d had for 7 years, I lost about 10 lbs doing nothing, my boobs got a bit smaller, my sex drive increased a shit ton (and it was already decent with my IUD), my period came back (hadn’t had one in 7 years) and was surprisingly mild, and best of all, my anxiety absolutely evaporated away within days of removal.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/23 01:56 AM
17	feminist professor obsessed with me Yeah this seems really bizarre…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/23 10:11 PM
1	young woman in first ltr, I have learned a lot but I'm still confused All good relationships have healthy ups and downs. You cannot commit for decades — for LIFE — to someone without seeing them better and worse, in sickness and in health, and richer and poorer. That is part of sharing life with someone. Having a healthy, loving, mutually respectful relationship doesn’t mean you will never fight, argue, disagree, or struggle. But in a healthy relationship, you should feel safe, loved, and respected, even when you fight, argue, disagree, or struggle, and even when …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/23 10:09 PM
1	Should I give up on marriage if I am an ugly woman? It’s not a rule imposed upon my husband. It’s a decision HE brought up that WE made together. There aren’t “rules” in our relationship that we make for each other because we literally can only control ourselves. Neither of us have any interest in having porn involved in our lives. It’s not a “hill I’m dying on” because it’s an agreed upon limit in our marriage that my husband brought up. You seem to be mixing up boundaries (what I will tolerate) and rules (what I say you’re “allowed” to do). You…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/23 04:23 PM
3	Should I give up on marriage if I am an ugly woman? I didn’t say I consider it infidelity, just that some men (and women) do. And this is a lame excuse. Men have just as much ability to control themselves as women do… and plenty use that self-control to moderate their use of unhealthy things like drugs, alcohol, junk food, and porn. Men are not slaves to their penises. It’s weird you seem to think so.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/23 05:47 AM
3	Should I give up on marriage if I am an ugly woman? Same, my husband and I both don’t like the way porn makes us feel overall and the way it can impact a relationship (not to mention that so much of it is exploitative). It’s just annoying that you can’t ever say anything remotely like that online on ANY platform without people jumping in to claim you’re dumb/naïve/etc. because they themselves can’t comprehend not every likes porn. Like, cocaine feels good too when you do it once in a while but we don’t do coke for the same kind of reasons…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/23 05:44 AM
8	Should I give up on marriage if I am an ugly woman? Wish people would stop saying this crap. Yes, most men watch porn. No, not all men do. And if you say this as a woman (that some men choose to abstain) then men and women alike think you’re delusional and naïve, as if no man could ever simply not like the way porn makes him feel, or not like the exploitative nature of the pornography industry, or see porn as infidelity himself, etc etc. It’s so cringey to see how many people normalize this narrative. If you think men are just hapless drooling li…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/23 01:55 AM
3	Finding dating opportunities? I honestly think it will be easier to find what you’re looking for in a liberal school if you are liberal. There’s going to be a range of personal beliefs while most people will have more liberal social-political beliefs. (As opposed to being a conservative area where you’ll find more of the same personal beliefs but much less likely to find a man with liberal soc-pol beliefs.) My husband and I met through mutual friends in college. I was studying elementary education at the time, so the topic o…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/02/23 04:35 PM
8	Finding dating opportunities? I’m not sure you’re wanting to “have your cake and eat it too,” as my husband and I are both socially liberal but have a very traditional relationship and dynamic and he is very classically masculine and I’m pretty classically feminine — we just agree that this is what is best for us, not that it is best for everyone, and I don’t think that’s super duper unusual. I have plenty of friends in similar dynamics who have similar beliefs as us, and I have some friends in more equal dynamics and a few …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/02/23 05:50 AM
8	Do people in traditional marriages feel more content, but bored, compared to feministic marriages where there's more drama? Even being dramatic is not incompatible with being in a male-led relationship. Might make it harder, I suppose, but it kind of depends on what kind of drama you mean. Some people just have a bit more… expressiveness in their personality. It’s not inherently good or bad. Some men even like dramatic women, when the drama isn’t directed at them. I’d also go so far as to say the majority of women who call themselves feminists aren’t really feminists, in an activist-sense, so it’s not really a meanin…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/23 07:08 PM
1	Do people in traditional marriages feel more content, but bored, compared to feministic marriages where there's more drama? I’m confused. Is your question actually “what makes people happy besides arguing and drama?” because surely even your parents have other sources of happiness and fulfillment. They don’t have jobs they like? Friends? Other family? Hobbies? Passions? They don’t cook or bake, garden, paint or take photos, read or write, work on cars, bike or rock climb run or weight lift? They don’t volunteer, or go to church, or serve in their community? All they do is argue…?	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/23 06:50 PM
1	Do people in traditional marriages feel more content, but bored, compared to feministic marriages where there's more drama? When all you know is that kind of liveliness, it makes sense you would think that’s all there is. But there are all kinds of things that make life interesting that aren’t drama and arguing. If there weren’t, don’t you think most people would end up in bad relationships forever, just for the excitement?	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/23 03:41 PM
1	Do people in traditional marriages feel more content, but bored, compared to feministic marriages where there's more drama? Yes, drama would make our life much harder to sustain. We LIVE for the boring mundane moments we get alone to watch a show or have dinner just us two in between the happy kid and life chaos!!	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/23 03:38 PM
1	Do people in traditional marriages feel more content, but bored, compared to feministic marriages where there's more drama? Lol yes and this! Hard to be bored surrounded by little ones. 😆 We also have two crazy little dogs who keep us on our toes. No need to fight and argue, there’s plenty happening in our home at all times.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/23 03:07 PM
53	Do people in traditional marriages feel more content, but bored, compared to feministic marriages where there's more drama? Tbh that doesn’t really have much to do with your mom calling herself a feminist. Plenty of feminist women have healthy conflict styles and plenty of non-feminist women have non-functional conflict styles. And plenty of feminists are soft spoken and non-confrontational, while plenty of traditional women have bigger personalities and are the life of the party. I’m in a very traditional male-led relationship and very much submit to my husband when it comes to our general dynamic and lifestyle, but…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/23 03:05 PM
3	Having a tough time moving on from religious guy because I don’t understand him. I think there’s something deeply wrong with him so I don’t think I’ll stop thinking about him until I think I have a semblance of understanding. Oh so you just lack basic manners and morals in general. Got it.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/01/23 03:39 PM
7	Having a tough time moving on from religious guy because I don’t understand him. I think there’s something deeply wrong with him so I don’t think I’ll stop thinking about him until I think I have a semblance of understanding. You either have zero ability to reflect, or you are actually narcissistic. Unless you’re talking about never having done something you believe is egregiously wrong, everyone on this earth has done things that go at least a bit against their true, best intentioned selves. You’ve never been in a rush and not held the door for someone, even though you believe it’s rude? You’ve never cut in line, even though you think cutting is wrong? You’ve never fibbed about why you were late to an appointment, e…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/01/23 03:10 AM
2	Is it possible to have a relationship without games or power dynamics? What is love even? I would absolutely choose love over money. I’d rather be poor with the man I love than rich with some dude I can barely tolerate…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/01/23 01:43 PM
3	Women and attraction to money, looks, status. This is a sub for women to discuss and implement RPW ideology. This doesn’t belong here and this is not a space for you. Go to PPD or ask in some men’s sub.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/01/23 04:44 PM
1	How to reassure my boyfriend I'm not tricking him when I say I'm very willing to take his lead on things? I won’t speak on your relationship dynamic with his career etc. I trust you are adult enough to know if that works for you and you can be honest with yourself/him if that’s an issue. So as for the trust issue… this is something my husband and I have discussed many times throughout our relationship, not because of any exes, but because his mom is a real piece of work and really damaged him and his dad. When we were dating, my husband would constantly (wrongly) predict my emotions and project this…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/23 02:46 PM
1	RPW Discord? What do you mean your husband will code it? Discord doesn’t need to be coded..?	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/23 12:28 PM
14	The difference between bemothering and caring for your man Well when my husband is sick, I really don’t fuss about if it feels like I’m “mothering” him. He’s sick. When I’m sick, he “mothers” me. I don’t feel the need to take some big stance on this when he’s ill or injured. When I broke my leg or had our baby, he didn’t make a big fuss about how he isn’t going to “mother” me, and if he had, I would’ve felt very unloved and disrespected. He just took care of me as needed because that’s what you do when you love someone. So jot that down. Unless you for …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/01/23 07:43 PM
5	How do you guys feel about dating/marrying a man who watches porn? It’s the unironic use of “Chad” for me.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/01/23 11:37 PM
18	How do you guys feel about dating/marrying a man who watches porn? Gen Z here and absolutely agree. Almost all men and many women my age have an unhealthy dependency having grown up on internet porn. There’s a counterculture movement aimed not at being anti-porn but being intentional and critically consuming. Most of my friends (and my husband included) have semi-recently become aware of this. Some of them have sworn off porn, some have taken the route of being more intentional about their consumption. You don’t have to hit rock bottom and develop a full-blown …	/r/RedPillWomen	20/01/23 11:36 PM
4	How do you guys feel about dating/marrying a man who watches porn? Most religious men still watch porn. The most likely type of man to not watch it is: a man who previously watched it but suffered from it and now doesn’t believe it’s worth the harm (like you might see in r/nofap), or a man who is already otherwise invested in anti-sex trafficking/against female exploitation/sex work/etc. or are aware of the impact on the brain/love/etc. as there’s an entire anti-porn movement that (a somewhat surprisingly) amount of young men are a part of. Look at r/antipornog…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/01/23 11:16 PM
3	How do you guys feel about dating/marrying a man who watches porn? Agree with this more or less. Unless there’s an issue/addiction (and the porn is legal obviously) then I don’t care about porn. Porn is like junk food imo. It’s fine in moderation but you shouldn’t be having it multiple times a day; and it should complement a healthy diet (sex life), not be making up all your calories. My husband sees it very similarly, so that works well for us. And tbh we have sex pretty much daily even now that we have a toddler and I’m pregnant so porn isn’t really that big …	/r/RedPillWomen	20/01/23 10:51 PM
2	Why are some women obsessed with independence? I have young sons and I understand and feel your fear too. But honestly, I do think I’m right about the pendulum. Just like there are extreme men who genuinely believe women’s only purpose is being “breeders”, there are extreme women who genuinely feel owed reparations for their foremother’s forced subordination. But I do have hope! I’m quite young, and I live and went to university in a major US city, very liberal. I don’t know any young women who don’t identify as feminists. And yet… many of t…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/01/23 07:21 PM
2	Why are some women obsessed with independence? I don’t think it automatically does no good. One thing I am happy about for my situation vs. my grandmothers’ or even my mother’s is that I fully and wholly chose to be in a male-led relationship. Thankfully my father (and my one of my grandfathers) were decent men, but the reality is, my grandmothers didn’t really get to choose their situation. They may have had some choice in the matter of which man they depended on, but they were still going to have to depend on a man. They couldn’t have thei…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/01/23 10:01 PM
2	Noticing the shift on social media Yeah I feel that. I did a big purge leaving college before I got married and another small one before I announced my pregnancy. I have no room for jealous or bitter people in my life! And it’s so nice having only that positive energy online. I don’t only have friends/followers who believe the same as me… but they are all respectful and supportive. I also do love that I found this space online… The actual RPW content is so nice and refreshing!!	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 06:03 PM
1	Is it fair. I see how it happened, I just cringe at so much of what I see there. And I’m not unfamiliar with how some men talk to each other in ways that sound super harsh but are really tough love (having been in the military myself, and grown up around a “red pill” marriage (like the captain/first mate dynamic. My mother was a SAHM, is a homemaker still, my father’s a high ranking military officer. He definitely isn’t spewing anything hateful about women, and is a very classically masculine man.) but shee…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 05:50 PM
1	Is it fair. Absolutely agree. I commented this on PPD a while ago iirc, but I would never call myself red pilled irl. Most people’s interpretation of red pill is the most vile shit that surfaces from TRP or gets made into memes and circulate social media. And I can’t blame them, because there’s is some awful stuff that has come out of that sub. This sun has such good vibes. I thought TRP was a joke until I stumbled across this and realized RPW basically describes my marriage…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 05:43 PM
1	Surrendered wife circles? Hi, is this still open to join?? I have the SW book otw sooo not read it yet but would love to join the chat when it arrives!	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 05:53 AM
15	Noticing the shift on social media Surround yourself with different people. I don’t have this issue on social media because I don’t follow/friend people like you’re describing. My friends online and off are supportive. It’s understandable to have some friends that have differing views but they should still be compatible enough with your beliefs AND respectful of whatever differences you do have. I have “girl boss” type friends… none of them would ever skip over liking a pic of my husband, baby, and me or root for my downfall or s…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 05:44 AM
9	This subreddit made me realize that there is still hope You do not fit ANY of that criteria. Not older, not married. No 20 year old has been a valued TRP contributor, as you literally haven’t alive long enough to be a “long time” TRP member. You aren’t a TRP endorsed contributor. You aren’t offering any uniquely helpful insight to RPW. Your OP violates the rules. You posting at all is against the rules. I’m sorry but this just isn’t the place for you.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 02:17 AM
5	This subreddit made me realize that there is still hope This sub is for red pilled women. Male contributors must fit certain criteria. You do not meet the criteria to post. I didn’t verify your age but someone mentioned you being a teenager. So obviously you are not older, married, or a long time TRP poster. This sub simply is not the place for you to post, which is clear in the rules. Your post also violates another rule, as another user pointed out.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 02:10 AM
2	This subreddit made me realize that there is still hope Are you older? Married? A long time participant in TRP community? An endorsed TRP contributor? Are you giving anything uniquely helpful to the women of this sub?	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 02:06 AM
3	RP men: "I want to be hookup material, not boyfriend material" - Ladies, what is your opinion on men who expect sex on the first date to "prove" that you genuinely find him sexually attractive? I guess I don’t see this because I didn’t have casual sex like that before marriage, so I wouldn’t have slated men into “fuck immediately but don’t date” or “date but don’t fuck yet” categories. Seems really odd to me. I always vetted for sexual attraction (not by having sex. Simply by… knowing if I was attracted to them) before I ever would’ve progressed dating someone. Why would I want to date someone long term that I wasn’t sexually attracted to!? Idk. Just feels like a recipe for resentment …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 02:01 AM
2	This subreddit made me realize that there is still hope I just report them as they’re literally violating the rules, but I believe there’s only one mod atm so I’m sure she has her hands full.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 01:53 AM
10	This subreddit made me realize that there is still hope I am so sick of seeing men post here. 🫠	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/23 01:48 AM
1	Is it fair. Yeah, it’s annoying there’s this overflow of ragey TRP men who post here against the subs rules. Especially considering RPW are the few women who agree with their base ideology?? TRP or PPD seems like a better sub for this content. But as far as I know there’s only 1 RPW mod right now so I’m sure she has her hands full. :/	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 10:56 PM
1	Is it fair. Ahh, I gotcha. I thought you meant the OP’s question about TRP being quarantined but RPW not. I apologize! The OG comment was most likely downvoted because it’s inaccurate to the situation (TRP was quarantined for violating Reddit’s rules, RPW hasn’t violated anything. All RP subs weren’t quarantined (MRP is still up, for example) and because men aren’t supposed to post here except under certain conditions (TRP endorsed, RP-perspective and married, genuine advice for RPW) which that comment does…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 10:43 PM
5	Is it fair. Thank you for this!! Such a well worded distinction. I came here because of the respect and love I have for my husband, wanting to be aware of male struggles while raising my sons, and wanting to learn from like-minded women how to flow better, submit, and be more in my feminine energy in my already male-led relationship. There was no anger, resentment, no rage stage. I rarely ever see that kind of stuff here because, like you said, the women here are coming from a place of respect for men. MRP …	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 10:32 PM
3	Is it fair. Thank you!! I agree. I love seeing TRP endorsed men with actual value to add or married, RP-perspective men comment. But there are sooo many random men that come here to add nothing of value and sometimes even harass the women posting here or (obviously) troll posing as women. It’s frustrating. We already have non-RP women posting a ton too. Pretty sure there’s only one ? mod atm though.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 10:22 PM
1	Is it fair. You said, “This would be one of those times.” ?	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 10:08 PM
6	Is it fair. How are women being favored here? RPW hasn’t violated Reddit’s overarching rules the way TRP has to be quarantined. They are entirely different subs with entirely different communities.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 09:51 PM
5	Is it fair. I wish there was some way to verify you’ve done at least the most BASIC wiki reading before posting….. this kind of stuff gets old. And the posters who make wild assumptions and then expect us to baby step them through what’s literally in the wiki.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 09:48 PM
26	Is it fair. And you think that what TRP holds up as the highest form of masculinity is… building a family? Have you spent much time in TRP sub?	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 06:13 PM
8	Is it fair. For TRP?	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 06:08 PM
18	Is it fair. What end goals do you see that overlap between RPW and TRP? They have fundamentally different goals even though they work from the same wellspring of red pill knowledge.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 05:45 PM
7	RP men: "I want to be hookup material, not boyfriend material" - Ladies, what is your opinion on men who expect sex on the first date to "prove" that you genuinely find him sexually attractive? You know what I find odd about this line of thinking? I see a lot of RP-oriented men assume that most women have a sort of Madonna/whore complex about men. Like women don’t date or marry men they would sleep with causally. But… I have never dated a man I wasn’t sexually attracted to and wouldn’t have wanted to have casual sex with in theory. (I don’t have casual sex like that but I mean that my boyfriends have all met the “hotness” threshold for sex for me.) Do you other women notice this? I’m s…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/23 03:23 PM
5	Scared of being pregnant I would personally dig deeper into that feeling of your only worth being beauty and fertility. Yes, many men (and women) value beauty and fertility, but that’s not all they care about or even necessarily what they mostly care about. There are men of sterile or infertile wives who adopt, use fertility treatments, or pay for a surrogate, so I’m not sure why this would be much different if you have a legitimate health concern regarding pregnancy that makes it dangerous for you. Will it put some men…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/01/23 10:54 PM
7	Scared of being pregnant Do you think adoptive moms are less of moms or women or wives because they are adoptive moms instead of biological moms?	/r/RedPillWomen	16/01/23 10:36 PM
4	Earning Significantly More Than Partner, Can you still be a RPW? I suppose I differ a lot from many women here… my husband and I absolutely split the home and childcare (after work hours. I am a SAHM so obviously I handle childcare during work hours). We do hire a cleaner that comes every other week so most of our home chores are dishes, light housekeeping, tidying up from the toddler, occasional mess clean up. Our relationship is still male-led, I follow his lead and defer to him on big decisions, and I stay very much in my feminine energy. To me (and my hus…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/01/23 12:25 AM
5	Earning Significantly More Than Partner, Can you still be a RPW? If it were me, I’d work until we had kids, but live off husband’s income only. (Save/invest your income entirely.) Then, you’ll be used to living off his income, but you’ll have a good financial safety net for you both. Just don’t give into lifestyle creep with your new income until you have kids and would stop working anyway. (Assuming that’s still your goal?) You could make 10x your husband but still be in a male-led relationship and stay in your feminine role in the relationship; it wouldn’t …	/r/RedPillWomen	15/01/23 10:26 PM
3	His ex-girlfriend looks way better than me Honestly you’re overthinking this. Men can chime in I guess but from what most men (including my (for brevity’s sake I’ll just say he’s a typical HVM in looks, personality, leadership, finances, etc) husband) seem to say is they have a “looks threshold” that comes into play but, just like women, once they are attracted enough to a woman, then the other stuff becomes important (personality, compatibility, values, etc.) I’ve dated hot men (tbh none hotter than my husband, just being honest) and th…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/01/23 05:17 PM
5	Christian, exhausted trad wife Agreed. Her husband makes $120K. They can likely afford a cleaner, meal service, a caregiver, or at the very least, a mother’s helper, if husband is that unwilling to help out, unless they have some huge debt or something. I’m in a VHCOL area and my husband makes a bit more than that but we’re far from struggling to hire a weekly cleaner. Not much she can do now that they’re 4 kids in and she seemingly agrees this is how it “should” be. To each their own… but she needs some kind of help, whether…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/01/23 03:07 AM
3	What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of? I have several female teacher friends who are in the same boat — married to high earners, left work to become a SAHM when they had babies. Makes perfect sense to me if a man wants children.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/01/23 12:45 AM
12	But HE SHOULD... I have fallen into this thinking before. I think it’s quite natural if you aren’t working from a place of gratitude. I find when I stay in my gratitude, I think like this a lot less. I also find that often when I adjust my own behavior, some of the stuff that was bothering me that my husband was (or wasn’t) doing either doesn’t bother me as much OR he adjusts his behavior (without me asking… it’s almost like he is inspired by my own course correction?) When I step into my own light and best self…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/23 11:20 PM
10	Moving on I was surprised by the number of men posting and commenting here to be honest. I get it when they have the flair of being endorsed or even if they’re giving a solid RPW (or maybe MRP?) response, but like, aren’t men otherwise not supposed to post? Especially the ones asking for advice or just trolling. I actually almost unsubbed after I joined because I saw so many posts from men which just isn’t why I joined in the first place! I specifically like the RPW voices. There are plenty of corners of …	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/23 10:59 PM
13	What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of? Yes to this. If you’re an unattractive man at 22, you’re not becoming George Clooney in your 40-50s.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/23 06:59 PM
7	What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of? I went to university because it was expected (masters educated parents) and because, to be frank, there’s truth to “getting your MRS degree.” Not to mention having a degree is a great fallback for a woman. (And I wanted to go to college! I just knew I wanted marriage and kids young more than a big career if I met someone — which I did!) College puts you in a HUGE group of mostly single people who are entering the physical prime and building up for their financial/career prime… and educated men w…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/23 06:57 PM
17	What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of? Yes, I’ll die on this hill! Educated men (most high earners) want educated wives, whether they want them to become a SAHW/M or have dual income. Not to mention as a woman it is always smart to have education to fall back on if you plan to be a SAHW/M.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/23 06:54 PM
5	What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of? Co signing this. I am a verbal processor, have ADHD, and grew up in a family of “rug sweepers.” My husband also grew up in a family of toxic communicators (shove it down until it blows up, have a screaming match, then never address the screaming match. No surprise — his parents are divorced and do not speak.) Because of our families, we are both very intentional about communicating, sometimes maybe “too much.” Like maybe we overcorrected? But it works really well for us. My husband definitely ta…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/23 06:52 PM
1	Guys who are red pill on here, would you be red pill if you were attractive and could get any woman you wanted? Yeah I find that very odd... I have sons (granted they are babies so we’ll see what happens as they’re older and start dating I guess…) but I can’t imagine a mother telling her son women are angels? I am a woman… I know that women are just people… some are good, some are bad, most are somewhere in between. Just like men. Just like my sons will be. Just like my husband is. What moms are out here saying to their sons that ALL (or even most?) women are pure angels…..?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 04:25 PM
9	How to tell if a man is a leader or a dictator? This is my thought on Tate as well. I pause when seeing a man who looks up to him. To be impressed by him shows a certain lack of critical thinking and discernment I find really unbecoming.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/23 06:49 AM
3	What was your timeline? Oh gosh, so you had 3 under 2?! I bet that is chaotic but fun. I am so excited but a little intimidated by 2 under 2!! Sharing parenthood with someone you love is really something special 🥰	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/23 05:02 AM
2	What was your timeline? My ideal timeline when I was like 16: • 18-22 - meet spouse, ideally in university • 22ish - graduate, get married, get a puppy? • 25ish - buy a house, have baby 1 • 27ish - have baby 2 for some reason I was set on the idea my babies would be 18ish months apart?! and I’d maybe have more babies. tbd. I’ve wanted 2-5 kids at any given point in my life. My actual timeline: • 19 - met spouse, started dating • 22 - graduated college, got engaged • 23 - got married, got pregnant • 24 - got a puppy, ba…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/23 04:17 AM
5	Guys who are red pill on here, would you be red pill if you were attractive and could get any woman you wanted? Well, I think the men who have to seek out TRP are generally not succeeding naturally. Which is why they have to seek out help, and find TRP eventually. Men who naturally understand a lot of TRP concepts don’t really go looking for dating help. So it’s not exactly incorrect that the self-described Red Pillers are failing in some way (maybe fat, ugly, slobby, poor, whatever) although some will not be that extreme. But a lot (not all!) of naturally successful men are basically red pilled without k…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 02:09 AM
5	Guys who are red pill on here, would you be red pill if you were attractive and could get any woman you wanted? To be honest… a lot of men who are naturally very successful with women and would never need to look into dating advice are pretty “red pilled” without knowing it, in my experience. Obviously not all. But many men that fit that type of success are following red pill stuff without knowing. (Because they’ve never had to look into it. They’re naturally succeeding.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 02:04 AM
8	Dating History Conversation I always find these posts interesting because never have I ever been asked by any man besides my high school bf (who was a virgin and I lost my virginity to) how many people I’ve slept with... Relationship history has come up in each of my relationships though. So I guess maybe as part of that someone might ask/mention n-count? But Idk I just find the fixation odd. I haven’t slept with many people but I would be put off by a man asking unless we were seriously dating anyway. I mean, my husband a…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/23 01:03 AM
1	My (20) boufriend (19) seems to not want a SAHM and it’s the only thing i want. PLEASE ADVISE I’m also in midwest US — in a major and very liberal city. I don’t think these conversations are as rare as you’re making it out to be — I just think for most couples, they mainly both think they will want to work. Only something like 25% of US families have a SAHP, and that includes SAHDs and Ms, and both couples who intended on having a SAHP and couples who ended up having a SAHP unplanned. People definitely change their minds. I mean, hell, there are even some SAHMs who ultimately don’t like …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/23 01:06 AM
9	My (20) boufriend (19) seems to not want a SAHM and it’s the only thing i want. PLEASE ADVISE Idk, I met my secular, western husband at 19 and we both were on the same page regarding our future desired roles in marriage and parenthood, and he very much wanted a SAHM or a wife who wasn’t working full time because having a family was important to him… I also knew that was what I wanted. I still got my degree, worked a couple years while he finished his degree, got settled in his career, we got married, etc. but we both very much knew what we were working towards. It may not be the norm but…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/23 12:25 AM
4	My (20) boufriend (19) seems to not want a SAHM and it’s the only thing i want. PLEASE ADVISE She should be upfront about this now, though, while they are young and can cut their losses and find people they’re more compatible with OR work together to make a new plan to make these goals happen. It would be a bad idea for her to keep on keeping on knowing she wants to become a SAHM and not sharing that until she’s pregnant with his baby, hoping he changes his mind and agrees later on. Yes, people do change, but if she knows this now, shouldn’t she be honest early? They’re only 19/20! NOW i…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/23 12:21 AM
2	Boyfriend used to shut down my baby fever, but now he indulges in it... help!! I think the discrepancy can probably be pretty reasonably explained… many people WANT a baby (sometimes irrationally) especially in your early 20s, when it feels biologically important and almost primal, but that doesn’t mean it’s logically a good time to have a baby. My husband (and I!) was similar as we were leading up to our wedding, and it felt right to try for a baby, but it wasn’t the right time. We got pregnant 4 months after the wedding on the first try… definitely felt primal and perfec…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/23 12:14 AM
5	Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant? Oh I’d say it’s actually much easier traveling with an infant than a toddler! Our baby could sleep anywhere in a carrier and was breastfed, so it was nothing to get up and go before like 10ish months. After that it got a bit trickier. Toddlers are a force to be reckoned with 😆 We don’t have many travel plans this year, just an anniversary weekend away with just the baby (he will be 2 months) and then a Europe trip in the fall when toddler will be 25 months and baby will be 4 months. Definitely t…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/23 05:59 PM
2	Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant? I had my baby kinda young (got pregnant at 23, gave birth at 24, pregnant again at 25, will give birth at 26) and we didn’t do much special to prepare after getting pregnant (but we had been in individual counseling for our issues related to our own upbringings just for our own mental health, which definitely impacted our readiness for pregnancy/parenting), but I do recommend making sure your relationship issues are ironed out and explicitly discussion all aspects of childcare/home care and your…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/23 05:45 PM
2	Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant? You can definitely travel with children, just takes a bit more planning. We went to Europe 2x, Hawaii, Florida, Texas, Tennessee, Michigan, and Arizona with our baby between 3 months — 13 months, and have trips planned this year after I have our second baby as well. We also went on a solo trip while grandparents watched him for our anniversary. No solo trips planned this year but that’s because we’ll have our second baby and I wouldn’t leave a breastfed baby without me <12 months.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/23 05:32 PM
3	Have you ever wanted to be a waitress on the beach front and romanticize life? Maybe a waitress in a little english pub in Portugal off the beach.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/01/23 04:11 PM
5	CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually close to 50/50 I’d definitely agree with the “high salary puts you around high salary men.” Or “degree with high earning potential degree puts you around men who will becoming high earners.” Not to mention educated men don’t particularly want an uneducated wife(/mother of their children.) There is value in the meaning behind the education, even if the education itself isn’t inherently impressive.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/23 05:00 AM
10	Arguing since newborn Ah got it. So you’re just talking about it from a coffee snob POV. Thought you meant health-wise. I don’t drink Dunkin or Starbucks. Though for the record, there is no wrong way to enjoy something. That really defeats the purpose of the word “enjoy” if someone else is dictating how you’re “allowed” to enjoy it. Having milk in coffee (not sugar) makes it a lot less acidic, easier to tolerate, and is better for your blood sugar long term as it cushions the impact of caffeine on insulin resistance……	/r/RedPillWomen	04/01/23 05:51 PM
8	Arguing since newborn Why do you say coffee should be black?	/r/RedPillWomen	04/01/23 04:24 PM
3	What is the role spiritually in a RP relationship for the woman? Not who you were replying to but I’d say to keep in mind that even in most RP dynamics, women won’t stop working just because it’s often not possible in this economy, and typically when they do, it’s because their male partner makes quite a lot of money and/or because they are starting a family and the woman will be taking on the childcare and homemaker role. I am a SAHM and my husband works. I actually have much more time than he does to pursue my interests and although he is an extremely intel…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/01/23 01:19 PM
5	Should we be concerned about a lack of big conflict before getting married? My husband and I have been together almost 8 years and have never really had a “big fight” except once, last year, when we were both sleep deprived (teething and sick baby) and both (unknowingly) coming down with Covid. Once our baby broke out into a viral rash and we tested ourselves (immediate positive), it became clear our very uncharacteristic fight was really indicative of how sick we were about to get. We just… don’t have big fights like that. We occasionally argue or disagree, of course, …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/01/23 01:15 AM
1	How to submit to husband's decision even when I think it might be unsafe? I found out as an adult after having my own child that my parents had knowingly allowed my uncle who molested my cousins (his daughters) around me and my sisters as kids. I will never ever feel safe leaving my child with my parents because of this; they have shown their judgment is so piss poor they would rather keep the peace than protect me and my sisters. What a bleak situation. I am sick thinking about these poor girls and the disregard their father has for their safety, and their mother’s w…	/r/RedPillWives	01/01/23 04:41 AM
16	How to submit to husband's decision even when I think it might be unsafe? OP, he raped an 8 year old girl. I want you to really imagine that. Think of the grown man your brother in law is violating, abusing, and penetrating a small and innocent child. It is an absolutely sick and disgusting thing to imagine, isn’t it? And you’re just imagining it. Your brother in law actually did it. And whatever you’re picturing probably isn’t even half as awful as what he actually did to that poor girl. She will spend her lifetime healing from your brother in law raping her. He ruin…	/r/RedPillWives	01/01/23 04:35 AM
9	Women that went from blue- to red-pilled, how did it happen? I don’t really know that I was blue pilled exactly but I was anti-red pill. I met my spouse and got married just fine. The stuff I’d seen of TRP was all the male side, which can be very toxic, angry, and misogynistic. Then I found RPW somehow, and it clicked, because sooo much of what makes my relationship successful is the stuff I see here. So I guess I was naturally red pilled but would never have considered myself that until recently when I found RPW, because TRP has such different goals that…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/12/22 04:30 PM
1	would you understand if your HVM partner would hook up with other people on the side? Wanted to add: do note that most people will not understand ENM. The majority of couples do not engage in ENM and many won’t get why you would be okay with it, let alone why it may actually be enticing to you. Some people can be extremely judgmental about it (as you have seen lightly in this thread.) I encourage you to be very cautious and intentional with who you decide to share this aspect about your relationship with, because I actually know someone who was let go from their job because of ho…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/12/22 12:31 AM
6	would you understand if your HVM partner would hook up with other people on the side? This is somewhat the dynamic my husband and I have had at times, although really we are more of swingers than in an open relationship (though occasionally in a swinging situation, there has been solo hooking up). It works well for us because we also got together young (19 and 20) and we are both bisexual. We are also spiritual, not religious at all, and very into rave culture which has a lot of “free love” to it. Otherwise our relationship is very traditional and male-led. My husband works and l…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/12/22 06:03 PM
21	Do men view 30 year old women as too old for relationships if their ultimate goal is marriage and children? I did the same, and we were 19 and 20. It had nothing to do with my “biological clock” and everything to do with me having no interest in wasting my time with someone who wasn’t (eventually) marriage minded. It’s not like I proposed on the first date, just stated my general intentions were serious. It didn’t work out too poorly considering he was similarly minded and we got married at 23 and 24. It seems really odd to me to not even generally discuss marriage or kids until 6+ months in a relatio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/22 03:48 PM
2	Joint bank account? I’m a SAHM and our accounts are shared and have been since we got married. His paycheck is automatically deposited and split between our joint accounts (checking and savings) and our personal accounts (checking). The majority of our money is in our joint accounts; some slush money goes into our individual accounts which we use for personal expenses like haircuts, coffee, or gifts we don’t want the other to see. Otherwise our shared expenses and shared fun money is all in our joint account. We al…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/22 04:18 AM
3	Working part time and stay at home mom full time stay out home mom ? Agree. I was a nanny for 10 yrs and loved my job but wow, even in that setting you miss so much. Some people were surprised I went from nannying to being a SAHM to my own baby but I just saw so much on the caregiver side (parents missed first steps, first words, first haircuts, dr appts, bday parties, even birthdays some years!) that I could never give up that time with my own babies. Absolutely not! I try not to judge others choices for their families but this one really gets me.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/12/22 09:13 PM
2	I have a higher libido than my bf but I still caught him wathching porn instead of having sex with me Death grip is from watching too much porn/masturbation. OP’s bf claims he is rarely watching it. You don’t get death grip from masturbating less than once a week…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/11/22 03:00 PM
2	Own Your Stuff Discussion It’s really easy to calculate with a tape measure, but that’s why I said BMI may work better ? BMI is way easier to calculate… but it’s a less telling number.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/22 01:15 AM
3	Own Your Stuff Discussion I think this works. It’s like how many support subs have a flair “seeking advice” “ambivalent about advice” or “no advice”	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/22 01:11 AM
5	Own Your Stuff Discussion Thanks for the feedback! I was also inclined to think the downvotes were because of women who don’t want to OTS tbh. I know it isn’t pleasant to think about for some of us but that’s the point of OYS! For some, weight/fitness won’t be relevant, sure, but for many, it is. It’s kind of silly to pretend it isn’t important. Even if you/your partner like your body at a higher or lower weight than it “should” be, OYS allows you to acknowledge and maintain that.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/11/22 04:58 PM
9	Own Your Stuff Discussion I think this looks great but would like something related to health/fitness(/beauty?) reflected in the stats somehow, similar to MRP’s OYS’s lifting stats. While I acknowledge most women aren’t going to be lifting or have the same type of fitness milestones men share, I think it’s important to keep health/fitness(/beauty?) as a consistent part of RPW’s OYS and not just an optional addition. MRP does height/weight/body fat %. I mentioned on the other thread perhaps we could do that, or height/wei…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/11/22 02:54 PM
3	Thoughts on an own your shit weekly thread? Sooo did we land anywhere on this? Is this something we need mod approval for? Can someone just post a weekly thread, until if/when mods can set up an automod to do it? It seems like there’s a good bit of interest!	/r/RedPillWomen	02/11/22 11:42 PM
1	I’m finding it hard to let go of my parents How can you be stronger — really learn about yourself. Know your goals. Show up for yourself. Know your boundaries. Practice stating and sticking to your boundaries. Work on your femininity. Work on your value. When a man you’re dating starts giving you yellow or red flags, dump him. There are literally 4 billion men on this earth. Know your worth and next him. “Submission as a strategy” works when you have already vetted the man. You should not submit to a man you don’t know well or who has giv…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/11/22 03:39 PM
1	RP guys shouldn’t make a women be RP, all we can do is get more options so that we can find one that is Yes, I’m with you. I am not arguing against TRP bettering men who desire the captain-first mate dynamic (or want to spin plates, etc. Those goals are incompatible with me personally but I understand my views aren’t everyone’s!) That’s great for them. I’m just saying that I don’t view being a red pilled woman to be incompatible with feminism. I feel my submission is more meaningful because I am free to live my own life, make my own money, etc. if I wanted. The fact that I am fully free to leave m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/22 02:15 AM
3	Thoughts on an own your shit weekly thread? Ohhh sorry, I deleted my first reply to you because I misunderstood your comment. Yes, I agree, we should have some kind of fitness/health stat. I just don’t think lifting specifically is a good one since most women aren’t going to lift as much or track lifting milestones. Maybe stats could include age, height, weight, measurements (or body fat %? or BMI?), marital + kids status, then just general fitness/diet for the last week? Like a quick statement. “Walked 2 days; ran 3 days; pilates 2 days”…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/22 09:15 PM
1	RP guys shouldn’t make a women be RP, all we can do is get more options so that we can find one that is Depends. I am certainly a feminist in the sense that I believe females should be liberated of oppression from males. But I’m in a very red pill relationship. I have the freedom to leave if I want to, if abused, etc. but I choose not to, I choose to submit, not because I’m forced to by my man or by society, but because he has very much earned my devotion and submission. My devotion and submission is more meaningful this way, imo. It’s in no way forced or coerced. My husband doesn’t have to questi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/22 09:04 PM
5	Thoughts on an own your shit weekly thread? I am familiar with their OYS but I feel like maybe we need a few different categories? Lifting milestones aren’t really a priority for most women, even if fitness/health is. Perhaps something like beauty/health, homemaking/housekeeping? I think it’s a great idea though. I’d love something like that here.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/22 06:46 PM
2	I’m finding it hard to let go of my parents It’s ok to acknowledge you loved those people and parts of your relationship with them, and appreciate the impact they had on you. People can change us! Relationships are mirrors for our own growth. They can be catalysts for change. They can show us what we need to work on, what we love about ourselves, what we love about others, what we seek from relationships, what we need to improve before finding a new relationship. That’s healthy and natural. I think dwelling on anyone too much or too long …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/22 06:45 PM
4	I’m finding it hard to let go of my parents Why is it one or the other in your mind?? I am married with my own baby but I am still my parents’ child. I see my parents regularly. My focus is my family (my husband and child) but that doesn’t mean I just told my parents to F off forever. The only remotely unconditional love is parent to child. That’s it. (And even that has some conditions.) You did not love those men unconditionally. If they (for extreme example) killed your parents, would you still love them? No. Of course not. If they seri…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/22 04:29 PM
2	Thoughts on an own your shit weekly thread? I would like this for sure. What kind of categories are you thinking?	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/22 04:01 PM
2	How to Manage Wanderlust While Married Is he opposed to you traveling now without him before kids? Or have you not yet brought it up because you’re worried it’s an unfair request? I don’t think you should frame it as “you get a hall pass, I get to travel” unless that’s the natural way your relationship operates. Imo you should just state your needs and desires, not make it “tit for tat.” If he doesn’t want you to travel, will you revoke permission for a hall pass? I would think probably not. So this doesn’t really sound like a good a…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/22 03:56 PM
12	Personal Boundaries Follow Up Post I’m married to a very traditional Eastern European man who I am very much submissive to. OP is just describing abuse. This is not safe for her or the children…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/22 02:27 AM
7	How would you want your husband to see you: she's so cute or she's so hot/sexy Yes, exactly! My best friend is very much a “hot girl” and she gets some disgusting male attention. I’ve gotten the errant inappropriate instagram DM from random men, but god her inbox gets flooded anytime she posts a (completely otherwise normal) pic simply because she’s hot, with men saying the most lewd stuff. Sometimes even men she knows irl. It’s really messed up to see and bothers her quite a bit. It’s not as if she’s posting bikini pics and thirst traps!! She has even had her dad’s collea…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/22 02:19 AM
23	How would you want your husband to see you: she's so cute or she's so hot/sexy I am cute. I know hot women, who are just naturally hot. I wouldn’t want that burden. They get sooo much more male attention and most of it is not in a good way. I don’t even like the male attention I get already. My husband calls me cute, beautiful, gorgeous, sometimes hot and sexy. Sometimes I intentionally try to be hotter or sexier, and I appreciate the extra attention (from him, I would never want other men’s attention like that), but honestly my husband constantly showers me with complimen…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/10/22 04:02 PM
6	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? I’m a woman. Reading RPW instead of TRP (which is really aggressive and hateful, kinda obscures the ‘truth’ in a lot of it) and then looking at my life. I don’t believe it all, and I don’t think it always applies (just usually), but it definitely makes sense in my life and looking at a lot of friends/family. I am in a very satisfying and happy marriage, but reading RPW, I realized my husband and I are very “naturally red pilled” so it kinda makes sense we would be satisfied and happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 02:57 PM
3	Ladies, please heed the advice here You should look at @tessaromero_ on Instagram. Her whole page is about mindset in motherhood (and lots of overlap with mindset in marriage)!	/r/RedPillWomen	24/10/22 02:07 PM
2	How to channel feminine energy under pressure? This is what I do as well. I have ADHD, and we have a toddler, and two dogs, so things can get chaotic and overstimulating. It’s also hard not to feel like things are personal when your spouse does something thoughtless like only make themself breakfast. So I say something like this: “I’m feeling overstimulated and I need time to myself to calm down, so I can respond how I want instead of automatically react.” and then I take that space, down regulate, and reflect if I need to. Then I might talk…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/22 04:28 PM
2	Worried about emerging dynamic - please help! I feel it would be different if they had children to worry about or if OP didn’t have a business that could temporarily support them, but 4 months is really not a long time. Especially for OP to have mentioned having multiple arguments about this! I hope she can find a way to change course, accept this is a temporary setback, and come together as a team with her husband again.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/22 04:20 PM
22	Finding middle ground in offering sex? (If he brought me flowers every day, wouldn’t I start to appreciate it less?) I personally haven’t had this issue in my marriage. Pre-baby, we had daily sex, and we both enjoyed it. Sex wasn’t something I “gave to him.” It was something we did together for both of our enjoyment and pleasure. Now we have a toddler and I’m pregnant with our second, so we have sex about half the week. We would both like it more often, but in this phase of life, it is what it is. We enjoy the sex together, we both appreciate the intimacy, we both enjoy getting off and getting each other off. …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/22 04:14 PM
4	Worried about emerging dynamic - please help! Also 4 months is not a very long time, especially if they are otherwise financially secure. Ideally she wouldn’t be working if that’s what they’ve agreed, sure, but if she has to for a few months while he gets his ducks in a row (and of course this hinges on him actually getting his ducks in a row, but it sounds like he is making progress and doing what he needs, not sitting around playing video games and smoking weed letting her do all the breadwinning and housework.) I sympathize with this not…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/22 02:56 PM
2	What does toxic femininity look like? Why are you yelling? Edit: Thank you for quieting down. :)	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/22 01:49 AM
1	Help! First time doing a boudoir photo shoot It’s more like an artistic sexualized photoshoot, not a porn shoot, and it is supposed to be private or typically for an S/O. Most women don’t even get naked for it. That being said… the only women I’ve known who did this did it 1. with a reputable female photographer; 2. as a gift to their S/O with him being either aware of it in theory or actually aware it was happening; and (perhaps most importantly for OP’s case) 3. THEY hired the photographer. It is sus as hell he reached out to her. I can’…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/10/22 01:23 PM
16	What can I do to make my new man feel more secure? When I first started dating my husband, I secretly kept a note in my phone of all the random little things like this that he’d say. Sometimes I’d even subtly fish for an answer, like we would pass break n bakes in the grocery store and I’d say, “Oh I just love fresh baked chocolate chip cookies! Do you have a favorite cookie?” and then mentally note it til I was alone and could add it to my phone note, so I could bake those cookies later on. I ended up having dozens and dozens of things like tha…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/10/22 06:40 PM
1	How many women Lie about body count? Many of the women on RPW are in LTRs and married, discussing TRP dynamics in their relationships. You literally posted asking if you should lie about this, while you’re also trying to preach to me about respecting men’s standards… do you not see the issue in your posts here? Not sure why you’re trying to argue with me or “win” this conversation. You asked for advice, I gave my input, you seem to disagree. So why did you even post if you feel so strongly about it? To be pat on the back for tellin…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/22 03:31 AM
1	How many women Lie about body count? I’m starting to see why your date went south.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/22 03:26 AM
1	How many women Lie about body count? How were you asked on a date but you stopped to post on reddit about it? Lol. I’m happily married so I’m not at all worried about my body count or men asking me about it… maybe worry abt yourself.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/22 03:26 AM
14	Impact of starting a family on marriage It made my marriage stronger and our love deeper. Seeing my husband step into his purpose as a father is so heartwarming, sometimes I feel like my heart will just burst! We did, however, diligently prepare for the role of parenthood, and I have extensive experience with babies and children (former infant/toddler nanny and teacher) so we had a lot less surprises than most couples do when entering parenthood. My husband also saw his role early on as pouring into me so I could pour into our baby, a…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/22 01:02 AM
0	How many women Lie about body count? Idk. I think we can agree to disagree. This posts sounds like she was asked before even being on a date (says she was asked, then posted asking if she should she answer honestly (doubt that was happening live irl), then updated that she answered honestly and got ghosted.) I’m not sharing my sexual history via text with every man that might want to date or have sex with me… that’s why I’m saying it’s crass. I don’t think the question is always and forever off limits. I mean, I’m married and I def…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/22 11:54 PM
0	How many women Lie about body count? I mean, yes, some people lie. That’s my point. If that’s the type of woman a man is dealing with, asking, “What’s your n-count?” isn’t going to get her to be honest. Watching behavior is really all you have if you’re mistrustful anyway. But asking a question like that may turn off women who have a lower n-count anyway. I do not have a high n-count, and I find it to be a crass question (basically unless the asker is a virgin seeking a virgin, and even then, I feel like saying “I’m a virgin so vir…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/22 11:02 PM
-1	How many women Lie about body count? I didn’t ask if you were lying……. I asked if it was a hypothetical or actually happened. Weird of you to start talking about how honest you are when you literally just asked if you should lie about this.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/22 11:19 AM
2	How many women Lie about body count? I’m sorry that happened but now you know you aren’t compatible anyway. Saves you both the time and energy.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/22 11:17 AM
1	How many women Lie about body count? I agree it’s crass. To me, if a man value solely the number — and not the behavior that would’ve theoretically led to a high number, which is observable — then I wouldn’t consider us to be compatible.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/22 11:17 AM
0	How many women Lie about body count? I’m not speaking on the way men feel about it — I understand why some men don’t like high n-count. I’m saying, is this a hypothetical or did a man actually ask this question? Because that’s a weird question to ask in such a direct way that the OP feels the need to lie. I have never been asked this by a man, and it would be weird to me if one asked, unless he was a virgin asking if I was also a virgin. If a man can’t figure out general promiscuity from the behavior of the woman he’s dating, he do…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/22 02:27 AM
3	What birth control method(s) has been highly effective and comfortable for you? I would really recommend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, it’s very heavy but has sooo much info and that’s where I learned everything I needed to. I also like the r/FAMnNFP sub for help and talking with other women in similar situations!! We waited for 3 months before having unprotected sex and just used condoms while I was learning what to do and becoming more confident. It wasn’t something we were willing to risk while learning. I think many women use condoms or abstain until confirm…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/10/22 10:44 PM
2	How many women Lie about body count? Um, did a man actually ask you your body count? I find that to be a really crass and immature question. If you want to entertain that, then by all means, be honest. (Or be prepared to face the consequences of lying.) But personally I’d never continue dating a man who asked something like that. If he’s worried about promiscuity, there are ways to vet behavior for that without asking questions like, “How many people have you had sex with?” I haven’t heard anyone seriously talk about body count exc…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/10/22 07:26 PM
10	What birth control method(s) has been highly effective and comfortable for you? I tried the pill and ring (with condoms) in high school/college, both were awful for me. IUD + condoms through the rest of college/a little after college with my now-husband. Around when we got engaged, my IUD expired so I had it removed and decided to switch to Fertility Awareness Method (FAM). Have been using FAM since, at first to avoid pregnancy, then to conceive baby #1, then to avoid, then to conceive. Conceived on the first cycle with both babies. And since I’m now pregnant with baby #2, …	/r/RedPillWomen	15/10/22 03:55 PM
2	Men's height vs Women's weight We can agree to disagree. The fact that there are so many ways to make fun of a woman’s genitals (and breasts as well) while the only thing you can say about a man’s is that he’s too small or he’s intact, kind of says all it needs to say.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/22 09:08 PM
4	Men's height vs Women's weight Again, I really think you’re out of your depth. Unless you have ever been a pregnant or lactating mother, I don’t care about your personal opinion on how easy you think it is to gain or lose weight while pregnant or lactating because you happen to follow a fitness influencer. I’m not advocating women gain a hundred lbs while pregnant and never lose it. I’m saying your assertion that it’s as simple as the calories-in-calories-out is for males is wrong. Breastfeeding can cause weight loss but it i…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/22 08:33 PM
3	Men's height vs Women's weight I’m not sure how old you are but I’m Gen Z and this was definitely something I heard from boys in high school which was not very long ago for me. (And from both boys and girls — comments on penis size and being intact vs. cut as well as comments on whether or not specific girls shaved their pubes.) Obviously high schoolers aren’t representative of all people, but they don’t come up with these things on their own…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/22 08:19 PM
8	Men's height vs Women's weight I actually see it a lot online, and have heard it irl to insinuate a woman is promiscuous when she isn’t. I mean, how would “roast beef lips” mean a woman is promiscuous? It’s just a natural variation in women that apparently many men don’t like. (Probably because porn has normalized tiny labias.) I’m really not coming to bat for people insulting small penises, but I’m also not doing it for people insulting vaginas either. I think it’s wrong and a really crass insult and low blow to comment on s…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/22 08:16 PM
7	Men's height vs Women's weight You sound like you don’t know enough about pregnancy and breastfeeding to comment specifically on that, if I’m being honest. It is true some women lose weight because breastfeeding burns about 300-500 cals/day, but it’s often slow (1-2lbs a month over formula feeding mothers). And many women hold onto the last 10-20lbs from pregnancy while breastfeeding no matter what they do, because their body holds on to excess as a buffer for milk supply. It is by design to protect the baby’s food source in …	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/22 08:06 PM
15	Men's height vs Women's weight Well, there are a lot of jokes about vaginas being smelly, fishy, roast beef lips, loose, “hotdog in a hallway”, etc. so it definitely goes both ways. I don’t think anyone should be mocking anyone’s genitals, though.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/22 07:32 PM
3	Men's height vs Women's weight I think saying women have “total control” over their weight is kind of wrong. Of course we all have agency over our choices, but certain things are out of our control, especially when women have babies, and as everyone ages, your metabolism changes. There’s also a difference between saying your type is a specific size range, and saying you would leave your partner is she gained any weight. Realistically, everyone’s weight will fluctuate. It’s a natural, human thing. So I don’t think having a pre…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/22 07:16 PM
4	Dear US ladies, how hard it is to come across high value man in US? Is chivalry also almost dead there? Married to a Slavic man I met in Chicago so I second this lol.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/10/22 11:21 PM
5	Cute and warm clothes for autumn? 🍂 How close to Chicago are you? There’s a Salvation Army in Lincoln Park where the rich LP moms drop off their clothes. Lots of good deals there. There’s also a Goodwill up by Evanston — same deal.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/10/22 01:37 PM
1	Pregnancy Resources • I’m very surprised you’re running into anti-breastfeeding info. The AAP recommends “exclusive breastfeeding for the first 6 months. There is no need to introduce infant formula or other sources of nutrition for most infants. Beyond 6 months, breastfeeding should be maintained along with nutritious complementary foods at the comfort of mother and baby.” I would suggest reading The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding and Ina May Gaskin’s Guide to Breastfeeding, and have a look at La Leche League. Perha…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/10/22 04:21 AM
10	Scared he'll become resentful from paying every time Let him pay. Listen to his words and look at his actions instead of trying to ‘make things equal’ despite his wishes. Show your appreciation in other ways, such as making his favorite meal, writing him a sweet note to slip into his pocket, making a homemade gift, tidying up his place, buying him a thoughtful present. Occasionally still offer to pay when you go out together, but don’t make a big fuss about it or offer constantly. Perhaps insist on treating him now and again, for special events or…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/10/22 03:47 AM