unicornpicnic Archive

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37	Women, can you share experiences of male partners opening up to you and you not losing attraction to them over it?	Question For Women	unicornpicnic	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:30 AM
1	CMV: Men are normally more emotional than women, and that's why pretend it's the other way around	CMV	unicornpicnic	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 03:17 PM

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2	Women are, in fact, significantly more attracted to wealthy, high-status men regardless of their own attractiveness and age. This finding holds true either in the United States, China or even "Liberal Europe". Just wait until they find out money didn’t exist for most of the time humans have been around and tribes didn’t have the man as “the provider” because people shared a lot more. So much pill bullshit comes from people projecting modern society onto the entirety of human existence like people in the Pleistocene were living like us. Typically men hunted in groups, and what they killed they mostly shared with the tribe. If a man hunted alone, he typically didn’t share the meat, but it was usually a …	/r/BlackPillScience	10/11/23 03:04 PM
1	Are men more emotionally fragile than women? I am a person whose only issue is with romantic intimacy, and that assumption is often reasonable but not a good rule of thumb. I like who I am, my life is how I want it, I feel fulfilled, and yet the idea of being in a relationship scares me. It’s not because of any other issue. It’s self-contained.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/23 08:28 PM
1	Are men more emotionally fragile than women? No, because men put more effort into saying women are more emotional.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/23 01:18 PM
–	Redpill ideology is just legitimizing manipulation Pretty much. Redpill is anti-individualist because it reduces individuals to archetypes of their gender, and because of that anti-individualism it can’t explain attraction in terms of one of its crucial components (individuality). Without it, there is no connection or intimacy. There’s nothing special about anyone. So the only substitute in redpill is masculine and feminine archetypes, and how well you perform yours gets you the best of the other. And that’s inherently manipulative. The root of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/23 01:16 PM
18	It's not that women's preferences are shallow, but that they're really homogenous Women date down in attractiveness far more than men do. It’s not even close. I think that’s why there’s such a dismissive attitude towards a lot of guys who complain about their looks. Not saying it’s right; that’s just where I think it comes from.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/23 01:08 PM
6	A high number of past sexual partners is unattractive to both men and women. Women are just more forgiving of it. One of my exes asked my body count and then was like "cool, that's not too many" when I told her. Also, one of my coworkers wanted to date this one girl but she didn't want to date him because he was too promiscuous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 11:09 PM
3	A high number of past sexual partners is unattractive to both men and women. Women are just more forgiving of it. Some people just prefer sex with someone they're close to over sex with someone they're not, and would rather spend their time in a relationship than meeting and hooking up with random people. I have a low body count, but most of the sex I had wasn't in relationships and none of it was with someone I was in love with, but the sex I had with women I vibed with was way better than the ones I didn't. I've only been in love once, and kissing her felt better than any of the sex I had. When I was 19, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 10:58 PM
1	Women hypocritically use shaming tactics to try and dictate what preferences men are "allowed" to have, while advocating for women being able to have whatever preferences they want The only ones who do that are basement dwellers and the only ones who think they represent any significant portion of the general population are also basement dwellers. Most people realize trying to dictate others' preferences is futile, and makes you look like an insecure asshole, and so they pay no mind to people who try to do it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 01:05 PM
1	The majority of men shouldn’t be procreating and creating the next generation, it’s evolution working as intended it’s pretty well proven at this point that men tend to be more variable in traits than women. Based on what?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/22 07:38 PM
2	Finding love or finding power? Yeah, but they are basing it on a totally nonexistent power dynamic that actually works the opposite way without realizing it. If someone tests someone with childish behavior and they still have sex with them, that's being submissive, not dominant. Not telling someone directions back to their apartment and reminding them they already know where it is only looks like a dominant move to someone who is unnecessarily submissive already. I mean, the whole reason people decide to focus on being "alpha…	/r/ExRedPill	23/10/22 03:01 AM
4	Finding love or finding power? It stems from insecurity. They are afraid no woman will like/love them of their own free will, so they have to use some sort of "evolutionary code" to "win" their sexual desire, affection, or love. As a result of this type of thinking, the women they end up talking to are ones who also conceptualize relationships in terms of power dynamics, which further reinforces their beliefs. There was one hilarious "success" story I read years back where this guy went on a date with this girl, and then they…	/r/ExRedPill	20/10/22 06:52 PM
1	If women approached men more, would there be less men identifying as incels? Some maybe did have friends, or at least some social circle, but weren't able to progress in life at the same speed, so the people they knew moved away for education, coupled up/got married/had kids and had no time for old friends, or got busy with jobs, and stuff like that.>Some maybe did have friends, or at least some social circle, but weren't able to progress in life at the same speed, so the people they knew moved away for education, coupled up/got married/had kids and had no time for old f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/22 06:31 PM
1	If women approached men more, would there be less men identifying as incels? Why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/22 03:45 AM
2	If women approached men more, would there be less men identifying as incels? Fear of doing the approaching was hard for me to get over for sure. But for me it was less fear of rejection and more fear of bothering someone. I had to figure out how to get over it on my own because everyone I asked for advice either said I lacked confidence, feared rejection, or I was lazy, when I was the one who initiated things with everyone I dated except for one, and I used to approach more often until I realized how annoying I could be and decided to stop. Now my fear is someone liking …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 08:23 PM
2	If women approached men more, would there be less men identifying as incels? I mean, it is easier if you get approached anyway. On /r/dating_advice I've read accounts of women who tried approaching and concluded guys don't like it because they got rejected, when in reality they just got a dose of what guys experience approaching. The only way to make approaching easier for anyone is to not take it personally because sometimes people aren't into people, sometimes they don't feel like talking to anyone at the moment they get approached, sometimes they suck at contributing …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 08:14 PM
4	If women approached men more, would there be less men identifying as incels? Yeah, I'm a guy and not to brag, but I've been approached. It's not like it never happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 05:27 PM
4	If women approached men more, would there be less men identifying as incels? A woman’s idea of approaching a dude is walking up and saying hi and sending subtle ques most of the time. Same with men lol. Normally you look at them and establish eye contact to gauge openness to being approached (also so you don't just pop out of nowhere), then you go up and say hi, and then you take it from there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 05:22 PM
11	If women approached men more, would there be less men identifying as incels? You'd be surprised. I've had lots of friends who are girls and heard plenty of complaints about wanting guys to approach/initiate. Sometimes it's a traditional attitude, sometimes it's not wanting to put themselves on the spot, and sometimes it's enjoying the flattery of being approached and not wanting to do without it. I had a coworker who complained about not being messaged by the guys she wanted on okcupid and I was like "then just message them," and she was like "no, I want to be courted."	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 05:21 PM
14	If women approached men more, would there be less men identifying as incels? It's more a lack of social skills than a lack of putting themselves in social situations. But they are more often basement-dwellers than the general population.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 05:18 PM
1	CMV: Men are normally more emotional than women, and that's why many pretend it's the other way around It's only a non-explanation because you're too dense to comprehend it, which is why I don't want to bother repeating myself. I shouldn't have to explain how association and causation are different things, and how acknowledging that doesn't mean "throwing out" all of neuroscience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 01:15 PM
2	CMV: Men are normally more emotional than women, and that's why many pretend it's the other way around Emotion =\ attachment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 11:58 AM
0	CMV: Men are normally more emotional than women, and that's why many pretend it's the other way around No, I just don’t want to repeat myself when it’s obvious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 11:54 AM
1	CMV: Red pill may work for picking up girls in bars and casual but will absolutely fail relationships later as that won’t work, and you have little chance forever. Because they’re on the spectrum and/or basement dwellers and socializing is complicated to them. I mostly come here to laugh when people argue these pointlessly elaborate and gendered theories of how dating works that are easily answered by simple, common understandings most people with basic social skills have. I used to have awful social skills so I kind of know where they’re coming from but I was never that bad because I still managed to get into relationships without needing any outside help…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 01:59 AM
1	CMV: Red pill may work for picking up girls in bars and casual but will absolutely fail relationships later as that won’t work, and you have little chance forever. Yeah, that was a new one for me too lol. I feel like guys who follow redpill and PUA shit filter out normal women because normal women want to connect and not test a guy until they demonstrate their value enough to be dateable/fuckable. Once it’s clear connection is not what the guy is after, they’re done. A PUA guy told me the guys best at “game” are only successful 10-15% of the time, which is lower than my success rate with women I went for after being friends with them already. All anyone ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 01:34 AM
2	CMV: Men are normally more emotional than women, and that's why many pretend it's the other way around I already did.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 12:49 AM
3	CMV: Men are normally more emotional than women, and that's why many pretend it's the other way around Non sequitur.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 12:26 AM
1	CMV: Men are normally more emotional than women, and that's why many pretend it's the other way around Because I’m not saying to flush all neuroscience down the toilet by saying association and causation are different things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 11:41 PM
0	CMV: Men are normally more emotional than women, and that's why many pretend it's the other way around Nice straw man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 07:39 PM
1	Why is porn hated by so many women? /r/selfawarewolves	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 07:38 PM
0	Why is porn hated by so many women? You thinking my response is aggressive shows you have a thin skin. And even if it were aggressive, it doesn’t prove you’re right lol. You can connect with someone better if you spend that energy on them instead of porn. It’s not all-or-nothing. It’s just that not watching porn means more goes to one’s partner. That’s the whole point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 06:52 PM
4	Why is porn hated by so many women? More like wanting to connect with your partner sexually and them getting themselves off to a computer screen sucks. Jesus, how socially-stunted can people be?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 06:24 PM
1	Why should immuteable traits in a man be given a free pass just because they're immutable? No. People say other races all the time without anyone calling them racist. Try leaving your basement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 06:03 PM
3	CMV: Men are normally more emotional than women, and that's why many pretend it's the other way around Association is not causation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 05:00 PM
2	CMV: Red pill may work for picking up girls in bars and casual but will absolutely fail relationships later as that won’t work, and you have little chance forever. Lol. Good luck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 04:00 PM
1	I believ that The bar to be considered attractive for a woman is way lower than It is for men That's only because a lot more men are more desperate than women on account of experiencing less connection on a platonic level and trying to make up for it with sex and/or romance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 03:49 PM
3	CMV: Red pill may work for picking up girls in bars and casual but will absolutely fail relationships later as that won’t work, and you have little chance forever. No, I have plenty of experience with women. I just don’t date manipulative women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 03:45 PM
8	Why is porn hated by so many women? Probably because for ones in relationships, "it's like being replaced by something that isn't even real," to quote a friend who was pissed when she found out her boyfriend watched porn.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 03:42 PM
1	Why should immuteable traits in a man be given a free pass just because they're immutable? Superficial people are more bitter because they don't connect with anyone, and more vocal because they lack the self-awareness to see how little their perspective matters. The women who want a guy over 6 feet but manage to date them are not going to whine about that on the internet because they're getting what they want. Guys whining about women only wanting tall women are like femcels whining about guys only wanting women with giant tits and a big ass. Many guys don't exclusively want that, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 03:36 PM
3	Why should immuteable traits in a man be given a free pass just because they're immutable? For real. The shorter they are, the less they can tell whether or not a guy is over 6 ft. Most guys are not even over 6 feet where I live anyway. I've seen so many couples where the guy is only an inch or two taller than the woman. Plus I'm 6 feet and I've never once had a woman say she was into me for my height. Usually they point out my voice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 03:35 PM
2	CMV: Red pill may work for picking up girls in bars and casual but will absolutely fail relationships later as that won’t work, and you have little chance forever. No they don’t lol. I haven’t dated any women who do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 02:52 PM
-1	Why should immuteable traits in a man be given a free pass just because they're immutable? Not sarcasm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 02:52 PM
1	Why should immuteable traits in a man be given a free pass just because they're immutable? The having two brain cells part is where it gets tricky.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 02:44 PM
2	CMV: Red pill may work for picking up girls in bars and casual but will absolutely fail relationships later as that won’t work, and you have little chance forever. It stops when you stop dating shitty women lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 02:43 PM
10	CMV: Red pill may work for picking up girls in bars and casual but will absolutely fail relationships later as that won’t work, and you have little chance forever. Red pill only “works” because it gets basement dwellers to actually interact with women, which raises their chances above 0. Then they think they’ve cracked some evolutionary code when really they just took a necessary step they didn’t take before.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 02:43 PM
2	Why should immuteable traits in a man be given a free pass just because they're immutable? On what planet? I’ve had women ask me what races I’m attracted to and no one has had a bad reaction to me saying I’m not particularly attracted to white women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 02:40 PM
8	Why should immuteable traits in a man be given a free pass just because they're immutable? Because men get told women don’t care about looks and then get salty when they are rejected because of their looks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 02:39 PM
1	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? I’m not the one saying women are unrelatable and unapproachable lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 08:36 AM
1	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? There's nothing butthurt about what I said. You're just projecting. You know, you can think someone is weak for wanting a submissive partner without being butthurt about it. I wouldn't expect you to know that from being able to do that or anything, though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 03:06 AM
6	Women, can you share experiences of male partners opening up to you and you not losing attraction to them over it? People can break up for other reasons or be dumped.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:52 AM
3	Most women DO support men being more emotionally vulnerable and receiving support on and offline, but that doesn't excuse being a toxic cry baby with a victim complex We weren’t compatible and we grew apart. But I cried in her lap and she stroked my hair and still stayed with me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:31 AM
3	Most women DO support men being more emotionally vulnerable and receiving support on and offline, but that doesn't excuse being a toxic cry baby with a victim complex Sorry bro, you just date shitty women. You kind of have to tell your feelings to someone to really connect with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:22 AM
1	Do you think social isolation is damaging the relationship between genders? If the basement dwellers of this forum and their hilariously out-of-touch takes are any indication, yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:20 AM
1	Most women DO support men being more emotionally vulnerable and receiving support on and offline, but that doesn't excuse being a toxic cry baby with a victim complex I cried in front of a woman and she stayed with me. A lot of guys just date shitty women who are more interested in relying on a man for their own emotional regulation (which gets ruined by seeing them be vulnerable) and assume all women are like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:19 AM
2	Most women DO support men being more emotionally vulnerable and receiving support on and offline, but that doesn't excuse being a toxic cry baby with a victim complex Because having emotions isn't masculine or feminine. Guys who think crying is feminine are just too weak to handle actually feeling their own emotions. It's ironic as hell. A lot of men are more emotional than women, which is why they pretend so hard it's the other way around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:17 AM
3	Most women DO support men being more emotionally vulnerable and receiving support on and offline, but that doesn't excuse being a toxic cry baby with a victim complex I cried in front of a woman and she stayed with me. She was actually glad I opened up to her. I ended up breaking up with her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 01:16 AM
2	Men care about looks a lot more than women do. Everywhere. I see it all the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 12:54 AM
1	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? I'm not trying to make women respect me with reddit comments, you dingus.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 11:05 PM
2	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? Definitely. As a guy, I like direct communication. I can't do my part to fix anything that bothers someone else if they don't tell me about it, and making assumptions and guessing is less effective. This applies to friendships, too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 10:57 PM
0	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? They exist because insecure men want to control women because they fear none will choose them if they don't. I'm a guy who finds submissiveness unattractive because it's weak. I never understood how men can think they're masculine for wanting a submissive woman. Being masculine means being tough and stoic, right? So then how is it tough and stoic to not be able to handle being with a woman who isn't submissive?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 10:54 PM
3	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? My favorite one is "try to keep up." It always has several pics in bars and clubs. So I guess I'm supposed to keep up with their bar-hopping?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 10:53 PM
5	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? A woman on reddit offered me dating advice and she asked me "what are you selling?" and "what do you have to offer?" And I was like "idk, everything about myself to someone compatible with me?" Like wtf kind of question is that? Surprise surprise, she was a dick. She told me the reason I wouldn't enjoy sex with a prostitute was my ego, and didn't accept it when I told her paying for sex ruins the value and I need some kind of connection, and I don't want a random person touching me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 10:51 PM
8	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? I think the issue isn’t wondering what you get out of someone; everyone wonders that. It’s starting with the assumption someone has nothing to offer an entire gender until proven otherwise, when what one has to offer is inherently individual. People date people way hotter than them and leave them because there’s no connection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 06:14 PM
2	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? I’m a straight dude, and it’s not a cop-out. It’s a common understanding that people with basic social skills have.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 06:11 PM
1	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? Yes, but the ones who come to that conclusion don’t leave their basements. There’s hella different women out there and if you don’t find them relatable, it’s you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 06:00 PM
-1	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? This applies to femcels as well, but they’re rarer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 05:44 PM
3	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? Has it occurred to you they have asked that question and the answer is their personality as an individual? It’s not because they haven’t thought about it as much as you. It’s because they’ve thought about it more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 05:44 PM
-2	Ultimately, only the top 5% of men have power dating wise. The top 30-40% of women have power dating wise. "Hypergamy" is just a stupid idea created by hypersexual basement dwelling men who see no value in relationships besides wanting to snag a woman out of insecurity and think women are the same way they are, but go to a greater extreme because they have an easier time finding a partner than a basement-dweller.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 03:47 PM
5	Ultimately, only the top 5% of men have power dating wise. The top 30-40% of women have power dating wise. Counterargument: go outside. Something neckbeards don't realize: the most conventionally attractive people don't put their own looks on a pedestal as much as neckbeards assume they do because they get unwanted attention and people pretending to be interested in them when they're not. People want to connect regardless of how attractive they are. Being conventionally attractive makes people experience more superficial attraction. I've seen tons of couples with mismatched attractiveness and it's be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 03:40 PM
23	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? It's only asked because they see no value to their personality. That's what anyone "brings to the table" regardless of gender. Neckbeards are socially stunted and don't understand that, so they think of attraction as a masculinity and femininity contest. And then when they get an inkling of realization that that isn't enough to sustain an actual relationship, they get into an imaginary quandary (what do people have to offer besides their reproductive value?) which they only put on women and not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 03:37 PM
1	Why is if considered offensive to ask women what they bring to the table? Because they're people and people have something to offer someone?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 03:34 PM