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Right but even if that’s the case, the current situation is that they have no reason to date down. If the state of the world changes so will be my answer, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:40 PM
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Relationships are optional, unlike employment. There is no incentive for a woman to date down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:42 PM
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If I was missing one of the other two I would not make a peep about not having a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:32 PM
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The logic is that if they don't want to and are fine with the results of that there is nothing you or I can do about that. If you or I don't want to take the risk to pester every woman we see into dating us we don't have to do that either, but expect the man who does the birdshot approach to eventually land on one girl who wants to date but does not want to take any action to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:26 PM
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Nobody actually believes in equal dynamics between men and women. If that were the case, men who want equal dynamics would be trying to figure out a way for the male body to gestate and birth children, but so far men do not want this. Hmmmmm lol. I mean. I feel like it's not an uncommon opinion to want the option to have children without anyone having to carry the baby to term, right? I'd love a test tube baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:23 PM
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Hinge just added a new feature to tell you what type of people you've been liking lately. The keywords it says I have been liking are Easygoing, playful, social partner, beachgoer, clear about dating, experience-seeking, shares music, red hair, and friend first. Honestly most of this makes sense to me. I wonder if the beach goer one is just because most people have a beach picture in a beach city. What sort of surprised me is the red hair one- I don't think I have a preference for red hair, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 06:11 PM
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Maybe I should change my profile to 4 pictures of me staring directly at the camera to see if my match ratio gets better or worse
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 06:05 PM
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Sure. I think "What do you bring to the table" is a very charged phrase- but it doesn't mean that's all it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:25 PM
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Just by being a presence I can be comfortable and myself around is doing 'enough'. When you vent to someone to have a shoulder to cry on they aren't doing anything but listening, but I would argue that being a safe person to do that with is quality worth highlighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:09 PM
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When I say peace I personally mean that she doesn't make me constantly anxious that I'm doing something wrong and always critical of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:02 PM
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What do you think women bring to the table I think when some people use the phrase 'What do you bring to the table' they respond with things like cooking or cleaning or being able to manage a home. I am not interested in that work from a woman nor am I exactly excited to be with a girl who thinks her function in a relationship is that. We are both adults and can handle that stuff ourselves imo. The reason I want to have a partner is because I want a friend and lover I can spend life with. and wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:00 PM
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Interesting. I don’t think it’s morally wrong to want to have sex with other people, but I do think it’s wrong to fantasize about people who haven’t consented to it. I realize it’s a an unpopular opinion but it’s not like I’m stopping someone else from doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:45 PM
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Being bigoted is worse than mediocre AND they are self admitted bad friends :/ When someone says something really weird and crazy and happen to have a partner I decide they’re like these people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:44 PM
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This correlates with the actual surveys of Gen Z men, though. That’s literally the same percentage. Just thought that was funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:37 PM
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Still! Definitely a level of having to prove yourself that curly haired white boys don’t have to. Add it to the list of struggles for a sensitive young man 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:11 PM
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I know you’re black haha— I don’t know if you’ve seen it going around but a lot of black men my age are #noticing that when girls say golden retrievers they’re talking about a specific color more often than not….
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:53 PM
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I'm the exact same way. I really need to know a girl is attracted to me to go for it offline. At least on a dating app a match lets me know this woman is interested. I'm a good first date, but I am not a good first meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:28 PM
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Me when I'm short AVERAGE and thin 😔 I have no idea who Jameis is but I looked up the name and assuming we are looking at the same guy I see it. He has expressive eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:20 PM
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It's too bad for me that the golden retriever type isn't for black people I'd have that niche down pact 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:10 PM
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I like you 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:43 PM
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Even if I granted you that, which I’m not, they have a relationship outside of the bounds of normal courtship. You’re not supposed to sleep with other people in a relationship but they communicated that and made it different— any other relationship defining terms should be laid out similarly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:12 AM
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They really should have spoken very clearly about what each of them want if they’re going to have such an off the beaten path relationship. This is the kind of relationship where everything needs to be communicated, and she had a desire she did not communicate. Do you think the man should have read her mind and think when she didn’t bring it up she secretly wanted a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 11:50 PM
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If I can think of a good reason I will. I have dnd tonight so I can mention it to dnd girl but the other ones I don't have an easy way to slide back in other than a blunt "hello?" which I don't want to do
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:59 PM
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I posted a picture as an example of me getting ghosted like this. I addressed wat she said and asked a direct question. Other examples is me telling a girl I was going to be gone for an hour, and then after an hour texting her back and answering her questions and following up with 2 questions of my own. Another is us chopping it up about dnd, she was talking about how she does voices and I made a joke- I guess that's not something easy to respond to, but it seemed like we had a good back and for…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:58 PM
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fr 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:05 PM
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:| I have some bad news
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:14 PM
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I have noooo idea why he did that considering teams is the EASIEST way to contact someone and provide small files. Why would you call into the office to call my extension when you can just hop on teams I will never understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:13 PM
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I took a number and my number is 1! I’m the IT guy if I’m texting you it’s because it’s important!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:11 PM
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I am chad I proclaim it so 😠
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:08 PM
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I gotta get work done! I don't use teams messages to hang out or send memes!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:06 PM
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My supervisor muted me on teams. So I started sending him shit exclusively on teams. If you’re not gonna check when I ask you things, fuck you, you can be lost and mad when you can’t find the files I gave you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:05 PM
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Yes I know— I was just thinking out loud. And maybe? But I don’t swipe on people who don’t want what I want. I pay attention to profiles. It’s ok if they don’t find me interesting but I don’t think I’m being boring either. I don’t really feel like making an Imgur link so have one sc from my phone of the Most recent one. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:04 PM
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I do have female friends and I have showed them my texts and they don’t know what’s up either. Not this series of texts but other ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:03 PM
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With teams messages I don't care. If you don't see something in 2 hrs you're getting an email and if I don't get an email back by the end of the day I'm knocking on your office door :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:59 PM
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If I said something that made me think I said something off I would agree with you. I am literally just talking to them like people and it's not like I'm beading around the bush for weeks. I literally just want to get an idea of her personality and how our interests align before I ask her out. If the girls texted me back say, once every hour, I would have enough info to ask her out the next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:53 PM
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Oh, sorry. Forgot to answer that. The woman I'm currently talking about we spoke yesterday at around 8am and she hasn't responded. Another girl was saturday the 11th, and the other was the 7th. The girl from the 7th is the only one that I have a natural lead in for. I've gone on quite a few dating app first dates. I believe women when they say no one wants to take them out because holy shit is it like pulling teeth to get to the point where a date offer would make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:49 PM
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I guess I can text this one girl. The thing we were talking about is happening tonight. But I don't want to have to do that. I wish I was worth remembering to text back. :\
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:47 PM
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What does an exclusive kink/open relationship mean? I have no idea how open and exclusive interact there, lol. Still though, this is on her for not communicating her needs in my opinion. I firmly believe that if this had happened to me I would know to suck it up, because I just made assumptions. I used to have a problem making covert contracts in my head and being mad when people didn't do what I wanted. But as the saying goes, closed mouths don't get fed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:46 PM
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I mean we will be having a nice conversation or something, we will share an interest or something and then she just does not reply. Like, mid conversation when it's her turn to reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:43 PM
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If a girl texts you on hinge you text back and then she doesn't answer are you supposed to double text or what? I'm literally only considering this because the last 4 women I have spoken to on dating apps have abruptly stopped responding mid conversation. like wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:38 PM
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Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? Yes. And let her think otherwise? No. Recently, a man posted that he was in a year long relationship with a woman. To him, this relationship was just for fun and for casual sex. She understood otherwise because she met his family, they cooked together, etc. So she made up in their head they were in a relationship and forgot to tell him? She felt that because they cooked for each other and were meetin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:24 PM
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The fact that you consider yourself the cop in this analogy is super telling
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 05:39 PM
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I don't think boys should be militarized and(likely) not taught to feel their feelings other than anger for them to be better employees, no. I think it's much more likely that a lot of these young people have no hope for their futures, so why try now? I really feel like I got out of nam in the last copter graduating in '21.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 05:37 PM
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I'd be cool with that. It sounds fun to be able to swap your parts if you wanted, and gender roles have never been something I've been interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:19 PM
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Looked for a meme for this but I ended up seeing poms and getting hungry lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:30 AM
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I really don't know what I'm doing wrong. I think I'm very sweet and kind, but that's only because that's what I hear from other people. 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:30 AM
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But a perfect blueberry is perfect 🤤
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:29 AM
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I had a great mental reset this weekend, I'm feeling a lot better. on the other hand, I finally did my hinge data thing. Should I post it? I wonder how bad/good it is compared to other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:13 AM
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Blueberries are my favorite fruit :) That and pomegranate
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:12 AM
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People should put their age in their flairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:41 PM
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Hmm. I agree with almost everything, but I would argue that 'Acting in more attractive ways' if that isn't who you are is still just trying to get girls who don't like you to like you. I've been considering writing a main debate thread post about it, but I'm not sure how to word it without making some bannable conclusions I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:48 PM
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I guess if it was easy it would have already been done before, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:40 PM
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It's more that I went from "This is never going to happen and you should stop caring about it" to "Wait this might happen" which was a mistake. I felt a lot better when I was accepting that I would no longer put any energy into trying to date. But then I went and started to try again, and I think that was a mistake because it undid a lot of progress emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:13 PM
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I watched this video and a few more. I think I'm good at saying these things out loud, and sometimes it works, and sometimes it really doesn't. I don't think how I'm feeling now is permanent, but I also don't think I'm very good at making this stick.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:11 PM
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I guess the closes thing is a dating coach but they aren't really doing the dating properly. Exactly. I think I do a good job on dates, but the women I take on dates don't tell me what I did wrong. And I can only report on how I feel and how I think the vibe is. I've talked to my friends and my therapist about dating issues but since it's all self reported it's hard to even trust my own truth. And a "trial partner" could be incredibly dangerous again. Especially for a woman. Thats why robots wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:02 PM
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Why are you talking to me like this if we are saying the same thing literally leave me alone
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:58 PM
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Yeah, I was being reductive when I said that. I just don't have the energy to make a mental map of what the whole hour would look like. Ultimately, I think the triggers that are hurting me is that I allowed myself to feel hopeful about my dating situation and I think I was feeling good before because I let go of hope temporarily. But then that'll spiral into something else...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:50 PM
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This might sound bad? But I feel like I already know how the conversation is going to go in my head. They're gonna say something about how I am enough and I will agree, but knowing something intellectually and your brain randomly critting you with pain signals is just something I can't control.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:43 PM
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I mean, I know the reason. The reason is because I feel undesirable and it's cutting through like a knife. But nothing's happened. I was just as undesirable last week and I was having a great week. This week I change nothing and my mood has fallen off a cliff? It doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:35 PM
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I have searched online quite a few times to see if I could pay someone to go on a date with me and then get a report card at the end. I can't find a service that does that, and I don't really feel comfortable hiring an escort even for non sexual services.(plus tbh it's expensive!!)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:33 PM
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I'd honestly argue that the entire ethos of red pill is trying to convince women who aren't into you to be into you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:29 PM
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As a guy who sensed pulling away and tried to redouble my efforts it is a total waste of time, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:28 PM
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It just feels like I have nothing to say. I have stuff to talk about and even though this week has been really bad it hasn't been bad for a reason you know
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:14 PM
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Really all of the experience men need is just having some female friends and talking to women. I don't think this is true. The way women treat men they are attracted to and men they are friends with are not the same at all. Though, I agree that the starter girlfriend thing isn't morally right nor something I think is even possible. He may not be able to attract one of those friends, but at least he will learn how to talk to women and to understand how their minds are different than men's. I'm no…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:13 PM
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...Is it bad that I think this would have really been helpful for me? I wish I could get actionable feedback on how I appear on dates- even if I was barred from dating real people until I passed the robot, I don't feel like that would bother me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:09 PM
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I've had many people to ask me to join many discords and I have zero interest in getting any further in the ppdverse. It's not healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:39 PM
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I wonder if I should talk to my therapist this session about me crashing out so hard and the depressive spiral ive been in. I feel a little guilty because I have been having such a good streak and I've been taking my medicine but I dunno, I'm not as anxious anymore so it's doing something.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:38 PM
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I think you are correct, but like you said, women don't want to do this(and they shouldn't have to). I've seen this play out a thousand times because I was a nerd surrounded by nerds. I would see the annoying dude somehow find a gf and become a normal person the instant he was given female attention. It's actually kinda impressive how visible the 180 is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:36 PM
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I live in IL. I might look this up- I'm interested. Housing is out of control in chicago, but it's a lot more tame than pretty much any other big city in the country- and I still had to move out of my apartment because it's gotten too expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:27 PM
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aren't height surgeries one of the most riskiest surgeries you can get in terms of the percentage you may die during or from complications after? Yes. Even if the surgery goes off without a hitch you are never supposed to run or jump again. I wanted to at least give her the consideration of BBLs or something. I think they look disgusting, but some men do like them and some women do get them for male attention. I think those have something like a 40% death rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:43 PM
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This place is awful and everyone is mean I don't doubt why it's dead
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:25 PM
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Being offended is an emotion? Doing something offensive is an action. You’re talking about emotions I’m not. "Men gotta stop getting offended because woman don’t want them." I am sorry if I misunderstood the arguments in the body. But the title could only be about emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:25 PM
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Quick question: Why do people who make similar arguments like you think there is any sort of 'comeuppance' going on? A large subsection of this subreddit did not even exist in the 80s-90s. If the world were to flip around once more, would I be justified in making fun of the girls born in 20-30s and saying "You're just getting a taste of what it was like to be a man in 2026? That seems insane to me because the people being complained about and the people suffering the consequences are two differe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:23 PM
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Offense and bitterness are not behaviors nor are the words, though. How I feel only manifests as harshly as you allow- at least as long as you're aware of the emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:15 PM
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Do I have typos? Let me try to explain it a different way: I think undermining sexual abuse that women have faced as a man is wrong. However, I do believe that the emotion- bitterness- is not something someone can control. I do think you can eliminate the emotion 'offense' however, as each individual woman does not owe you anything. Bitterness, to me, is an emotion that comes gradually due to your material conditions not matching your desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:09 PM
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I guess I agree, then. Just not for the reasons presented in your text body. Especially when the men get bitter where they undermine sexual abuse and make certain issues a competition. I think undermining sexual abuse is wrong, however you I don't think avoiding some level of bitterness is possible. I think eliminating offense towards a particular person is possible, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:03 PM
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What are you arguing? What does offended mean here? I've read your text body, but I don't know what it has to do for offense. Why would women separate from yourself being judged make you feel less bad about the fact that you're judged, too? I guess under my interpterion of the word offended, I agree that men shouldn't be offended because it's a useless emotion. But that's because it doesn't get you any closer to your goal, not because I think women have it hard in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:58 PM
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This makes the Beta seem nice. I like being support.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:29 PM
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To me, pain is NOT neutral. I avoid pain! I choose happiness 24/7. I do my best to avoid pain but there's nothing to do after it's already happened. A few months ago I broke my jaw. It sort of sucked. But while the pain radiated really badly, ultimately there was just nothing I could do about it. You can just accept something is going to be painful- thats sort of how I see my desires at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:48 PM
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The only time that mind over matter works is if you take it to a positive place... Well, that's not true. The reason to go to therapy is because negative thoughts cause negative realities, right? If I were you I would really just start to accept what is (because it might actually take you to a good place)... I try to react to this information and these feeling neutrally. Pain is neutral. Having a cut hurts, but ultimately it just exists. It's neutral. Approaching loneliness from that angle does …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:30 PM
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That's because it's literally a built in male urge... And for some people it is nothing but a burden. Some men are willing/able to will their body into not having these urges, but most men (99.x%) cannot do this...and they should not try to either. I agree with you that while some men can, most men won't and couldn't. But if I could take a pill to neutralize my desire for a relationship I absolutely would.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:12 PM
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It's probably the most apt comparison I can think of. Just like cigarettes the pain doesn't go away it just gets easier to ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:43 PM
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They just shouldn't obsess over it. As much as people like to say 'Just reset your mind bro' unfortunately at least for some people relationships and sexual urges cannot be prayed away. Have you ever smoked or anything? I would compare the way my body desires sex and relationships to an addiction to nicotine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:37 PM
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I suppose. Something is better than nothing. But it being something doesn't make it sufficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:35 PM
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Oh! I thought I mentioned it. I flipped over a bike last month on a trail, and bashed my chest pretty hard. It doesn't hurt at rest anymore, but it seems like putting pressure on it causes it to hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:34 PM
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I can't do pushups currently, or any chest exercises. I can do the first rep but afterward the pain gets a little too intense, lol. I think I am getting better though! I do feel good when I'm able to do do my little walks after work and a workout before bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:31 PM
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For some men? Maybe. But no, this would not be sufficient for me. I've lived with a male roommate who is my best friend of over 10 years. It is not the same, similar, or close to a romantic relationship, even though I care about him immensely. I've cooked for him, watched movies on the couch together, talked until the sun came up, all sorts of things. But romance and romantic attraction feels completely different to the emotion I get from my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:28 PM
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My roommate has been trying to get me to do yoga with her. My chest is starting to feel better, so hopefully I can really work out soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:25 PM
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I can't anything fun to argue here so I'm baiting on dnd subreddits for some interaction now, instead of doing work
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:20 PM
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It's really bad, at least where I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:03 PM
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Extremely real
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:21 PM
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Because being a jester is an insult, not a prescriptive term. This is something men see other men do and tell them they are jestering, because some women will treat him like a pet. Anyone describing themselves as a jester would be similar as someone describing themselves as a white knight- that's just not a proper term to use descriptively.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:08 PM
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I cook, I write, I play dnd, play video games, and like anime. I'm pretty good at street fighter :] I only use this subreddit when I have no romantic interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:04 PM
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No. Imagine that jestering is being a class clown for 1 woman who does not like you. Or at least doesn't like you enough to give you the time of day. If the girl likes you you aren't jestering.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:02 PM
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I absoluetly love sushi, but there is a cap on how good it can taste per dollar. There is only so much you can do to make a raw fish taste better than any other raw fish- an upper mid tier sushi place likely is sourcing the same fish as the Michelin star sushi place. I don't most things they stuff in maki, so the quality of the maki is not very interesting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:32 PM
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As a naturally submissive man, you must decide if you value your submissiveness more than the ability to find a partner. There are plenty of kind, intelligent, lovely women that will be repulsed by your sexual desire- I've personally decided that it's not something worth selecting for, because it will hamstring my options so harshly it wouldn't be worth it. I personally like to use headtricks on myself and refer to myself as a 'service top'. I love being ordered around, tugged, moved and used li…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:29 PM
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My pictures are in my profile. I am not yet happy with my hair but I think I take care of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:21 PM
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I think an unhappy life is a strong word. I don't know if I would say that I lived my life without a partner I would call it miserable- but I would say my happiness would be capped. As in, I can work very hard but my life happiness will only ever cap out at a 7. Does that make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:21 PM
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All fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:53 AM
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The only thing I have control over is myself and my choices. I can lie to you and tell you that the things I have accomplished feel anywhere similar to the feeling of loving someone and making someone feel loved. Regardless, you’re right, I don’t think anyone’s brain can deal with endless torture. I plan to try my absolute hardest for the next 8 years. If I can’t get it done by then I’ll be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 10:01 PM
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I know what you mean. Like I said, I have been taking Wellbutrin for a few months. A girl ghosted me last month and my friends said I took it much better than I would have previously. So maybe it’s working.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:40 PM
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Attractively dressed? I’m not sure what you mean by that. I desire a romantic relationship and I also desire sex. For some people that is linked and it happens to not be for me. I don’t need to love the people I have sex with, I just need to like them as people— the same way I would feel about inviting a friend on a 1 on 1 hang out is about the emotional safety it needs for me to have sex. And separately from that, I have the life goal of being a father, and badly want to love someone and choose…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:36 PM
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Honestly? If she was kind to me and treated me like a friend, that is enough that I would not complain. I don’t need someone to be in love with me but i would like them to be in like with me. It is not my optimal— but I think the emotional aspects of loneliness I am currently able to 80% supplement. It hurts having no one ‘choose you’ first, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:21 PM
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I don't think I am hostile towards the people- I feel like that anger manifest as self hatred or something rather than it being about the person. My feelings are not "Why does he deserve this" my feelings are "Why is it that've done what this guy has done and more and he's happy and I'm not? I dont understand what I'm doing wrong" if that makes sense. you just have anxiety and insecurities which produce a synergistic effect I have insecurities about being unattractive. I would like to hope that …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:42 PM
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You are aro/ace and do not understand the lived experience allistic people. That is fine, but we have different experiences of the world, and how our hormones inform us of the world. So why be so upset? Why isn't having friends enough? I crave having someone to share a life with. Someone who is my confidant and my hers- someone to kiss, and touch. Someone to give love to, generally. And yes, I am an adult(allo) man and my body craves sex. Without me trying to prompt it I feel a deep burning for …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:25 PM
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Do you think that those couples have something specific you might want or is it just because they have succeeded in finding each other? I try not to feel jealous often. But in this case I do think feel immense jealousy against the man, because he happened to find a girl that was willing to at least give him a shot and was invested at least on some level. I think if I was constantly fumbling dates, I wouldn't feel this way. I honestly don't feel any sense of anger unless the man in the relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:12 PM
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I've been taking anti anxiety meds for a while. I think they do help and this doesn't feel like anxiety. Maybe you want something and you’re afraid of going towards it I guess I should have been more specific- this is dating content focused. I just hate, even accidently reading a success story, it fills me with so much hatred. It's probably self hatred, not towards the couple. I keep asking myself- what am I doing wrong that I cant get there, when clearly everyone else seems to do so easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:02 PM
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I think I'm having that issue again that positive posts inspire a lot of hatred and anger out of me. It flares up really hard and typically I need to close the tab and find something to do. Does anyone know why that can happen? I sometimes find myself searching for doomposting because it feels reassuring to know people are in the same boat as me. I feel sort of bad for this feeling, and I'm wondering if anyone else has been able to identify with this feeling or if you relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:21 PM
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live your life in a way that makes you happy and fulfulled, A happy and fulfilled life to me is one with a partner. So living my life in a way that makes me happy and fulfilled includes me looking for a partner. If I didn't want a partner, I would be happy- so I don't understand why it's hard for you to understand. If I was happy to be single, I wouldn't ever date or interact with women in any way that was not platonic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:15 PM
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I guess I just have different opinions on sex and sex workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:03 PM
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Oh! I guess I thought you meant this through a more malicious lens. It's just advertising.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:58 PM
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I dunno. I think you'd get better ROI just posting your links online compared to handing out business cards and QR codes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:46 PM
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Honestly, I don't think it is- I think women just have to be extremely strict when searching for a sexual partner. But, I'll defer to what you say. Do you think it would take longer than a week? I would spend the money he asked for gas with on tinder gold, pop one boost, look through who likes you, and then pick a man to have him take you out and clearly say if he keeps good entertaining conversation on the date then you'd be interested in going home with him. I really do think that would work a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:44 PM
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Right- if the man and woman are not aligned on this, it's best for the man to wordlessly break up with the woman to avoid this scenario.,
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:42 PM
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How do you profit off of wearing a cosplay at a convention? No one gives you money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:35 PM
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Stop seeing him. There is zero incentive to do this or ever see this man again. You can block him and find another person before the end of the work day.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:34 PM
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If I can be honest? I really like it. I would prefer that women that want nothing to do with me make that abundantly clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:23 PM
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Fwiw I have had that happen to me too. I have had women I met that same day say stuff like this to me. My thought is that it's intended to shut down any romantic ideal quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:18 PM
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Then I suppose I do have emotional sex! What I was attempting to say is that I don't feel a sense of deep, special intimacy that other people seem to describe when they describe sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:56 PM
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Ah- I suppose by emotional I was thinking intimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:36 PM
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I think I’m fairly pretty as it stands! I do a lot to keep my skin and hair up to snuff, eat right, dress nice, etc etc. this body type is what I’m gunning for. I’m close, I just need more larger arms like this guy. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:34 PM
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I have fun! And the other person does too. But I don’t feel an outpouring of emotion other than desire. I keep myself pretty constrained in day to day life so sex is where I let loose— the other party seems like they’re having a good time and that’s what is important to me. I just dont feel… anything else? Other than “I really like this person and I am having a lot of fun!” I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:30 PM
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Sorry to say this, but this means that women are not going to enjoy having sex with you. Sex without emotions is cold, like an exercise. Only sex with emotions has the potential to be hot. I have had nothing but glowing reviews from people I have had sex with. I worked hard at learning how to have good sex and am good at pleasing women mechanically, at least from what people are willing to tell me. If you want deep, emotional sex, I can attempt to mimic it but I probably won't be great. If you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:24 PM
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I'm naturally a slim guy. I think I can pull off a more elven look at least for now, if I can just bulk up by maybe 10 or so pounds. Every time I get close to my goal I end up getting sick as fuck and losing all the weight... Would you consider yourself in-touch with your feminine side? Or just masculine in a more reserved sense that comes off less outwardly dominant? Probably the former. I've always had more girl than boy friends growing up. I love talking about feelings and nurturing group dyn…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:17 PM
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The third one was a callback to the first answer. The joke is that I'm saying people foaming at the mouth at 'woke' have the brains and emotional intelligence of children. At the second one, what I intended by that statement was to say that I only care about representation in media when it comes to children. Then again when I was a little (black) boy the characters I related to were Tails, Cody(from zack and cody) and Mordecai from regular show. I don't think any of those guys looked like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 05:19 PM
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Real porn is not fiction, you're watching someone who may didn't even consent on having sex but got trafficked. I can reasonably assume that the porn I watch is ethically sourced. If not, they're doing a real bang up job of keeping up the facade. Real gore is not ficton, you're watching someone actually die on the screen, WAY different than horror movies. No ever consents to being murdered. Not the same argument at all. I dislike when people record other people in public without permission, beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 05:10 PM
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It's fiction in the same way that a live action tv show is fiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:54 PM
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you can search in 5 secs the issues it gives in one's mind Some people's minds. I dunno if it's due to my experience or what but I am pretty easily able to discern reality vs fiction. I can pretty confidently say I don't treat women like sex objects- I think people these days just have poorer discernment over fiction vs reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:50 PM
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I was groomed when I was about that age. I think porn is neat, but I don't partake in brazzers or anything produced like that, it's pretty boring. Why do you think it's gross? I guess I'll just never understand that feeling, I've never had thew feeling of 'ew' watching two people have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:38 PM
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I agree with the title but this was a terrible way to display your argument. Your example 2 has nothing to do with emotional support. Anyway- there are subreddits focused on male support if you're interested. A general chatting subreddit probably isn't the best place for a man to receive support.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:03 PM
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I want to provide structure and a strong home for children I will have within the marriage. If I can't have children I would have no desire to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:47 PM
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(and a lot of them just become good-looking losers) But seriously. I think you're completely correct. (Now this is tricky because I also don’t think you should perform for women if it’s just not you; you already have to have some of that dawg in you to make this work) I mean I know you're saying this but there really isn't any other option if you want to actively find a partner. I am only hoping that all the looksmaxxing I'm doing can make me pretty enough that I don't have to pretend to be a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:42 PM
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Have you ever felt the need to elevate your sexuality to impress a woman? How did you up your game? Yes. I'm shy, skinny, soft spoken, and meek. I needed some kind of edge. I have read books on how to pleasure women, practiced tantric exercises, watched videos and guides on women's anatomy and what (generally) women like, how to work my fingers, how to adjust, thrusting angles, oral techniques, etc etc etc. Do you feel that your morals, norms, and behaviors around sex are attractive to women in …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:30 PM
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The people who don't eat veggies. I found out a guy I am acquaintances with hadn't had an orange until his girlfriend forced him at TWENTYFOUR YEARS OF AGE. I should have known he was a crimson red flag from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:22 PM
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I think many confuse decentering as avoiding. Many women that Decenter men still date men. The difference is they don’t put their life on hold or change their life for a mans approval. They make choices about what’s best for them not managing a man’s reaction. But this is something women are able to do because they are the selectors. I can't imagine what it would look like to no longer look for women's approval while also trying to continue to date women. If I do not go out of my way to be appea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:19 PM
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I once had a guy tell me he does not eat any vegetables outside of aromatics (onion, garlic), and it made me lose interest. Too many people like this walk among us
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:14 PM
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Vaush is a bit weird sometimes The horse stuff is why I don't watch Vaush, yeah. young mens dating problems are downstream from general social issues, learn to socialize and make friends and dating will follow automatically. I guess I can only speak about myself but I've heard this 1000 times and it has not been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:11 PM
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I should note that Rigby was a great example of how relationships actually happen in Regular Show. But I guess I didn't learn anything from that since we had Elieen's prospective and got to see here real feelings about rigby before he moved. But also, I wasn't Rigby and never liked Rigby. He was impulsive and selfish and lazy, and a bad friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:07 PM
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Lol. I mean, the title is fairly corny, but not that corny. I'm at work now so I can't look up the exact name, but I think it's something like A Fucking Conversation,it's a series some guy has but I am only interested in the same 3 videos of the same 3 girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:37 PM
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If that's your message, you're directing it to the wrong people then, I think. None of the men arguing with you or Lilith believe you just have to be a special good boy to get a girlfriend anymore- this theme of debate she's been having has been people who at some point believed this but not anymore. If your argument is that once they figure this out they shouldn't complain about said bad advice, that's your right to complain about other people complaining. 🤷‍♂️ I can give you advice, and if it …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:31 PM
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it’s always better to say “I don’t know how to do that, can you show me?” vs just saying “Ok” and fucking it up and creating double the work and wasting time and money fixing it. Later on you say A lot of dating is “figure it out,” unfortunately. You have to find what works for you and what works on the specific woman you’re pursuing, and struggling guys don’t seem to like being told that, that there’s no “secret trick” to making that process easier. So... I don't understand your argument. Guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:37 PM
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No, I just thought it was really funny you did that. I left a proper response in the thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:27 PM
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The media that most influenced how I thought about dating and relationships was likely Zack and Cody and suite life on deck. I always related to Cody in the original show, I was a lot like him as a boy. I still might be him. Suite life on deck was coming out as I got older and started to become interested in girls— I was always hoping to be a Cody, pining for one girl for the course of the show and then getting her at the end. Obviously that did not happen, but I was like 8-12 when I was watchin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:02 PM
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No, because you dismissed the bugs life example with “First of all, he’s a bug”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:55 AM
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Have any of these creators posted dating stuff and actually had answers for people struggling to date? The only people in your list I’ve seen have that are FD Signifier and Destiny, and I can’t watch destiny anymore because he is a sex pest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:11 AM
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I have a good life but it literally is other people’s fault the wealth inequality in America is getting so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:03 AM
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If I find myself on a boat in the middle of the water in the first place I have made a very grave mistake and probably deserve whatever is about to happen to me anyway honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:23 AM
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Ok epic yeah I’m happy to give just about anything but my life I only have one of those 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:19 AM
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Ok? You clearly tried to insulate that the reason I wouldn’t care as much is because this is a problem I would never have to experience. The conversation I am having are about children who are boys. If you want to talk about rapists, talk about rapists. Anyway, I have nothing to do with any other man on this planet other than a gene I share with them. All I control are my actions and the company I keep. I don’t say violent things towards women as a group at all? And I would encourage you not to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:55 PM
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Do I think it's normal? No, I think it's immoral and should be punished. But, it is definitely a maturity thing if we are talking about children. When are talking about children, right? Children are not mature enough to recognize the gravity of rape- they are joking about something they know is bad but do not understand like you or I do. I'm not normalizing it, just saying that the reason they are joking about something terrible is because they are immature, not because they can't wait to do it …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:40 PM
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I'd be much, much more concerned if they were adults. Writing shit like that to be edgy is immature, and most people would be embarrassed if you confronted them with that. I'm not trying to 'boys will be boys' this, just that this is definitely a maturity thing rather than a 'these boys secretly harbor these dark thoughts and will enact them when they get older' thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:30 PM
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Yeah, Street fight 2 was such a poverty game that had no right going off as well as it did, lol. Guile is LITERALLY just the guy from Jojos.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:23 PM
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I'm sure in the history of the world there have probably been even worse lists made. I don't think one instance is indicative of boys as a whole, but recognizing that there is a portion of gross, criminal, or stupid men isn't hard for me to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:21 PM
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Funny enough Juri was the one I checked because I wanted to know if her moves were in Korean, lol. And I mean it could be worse. You could have someone like Sim as your representation. Or blanka 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:09 PM
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I think I have enough capacity to be annoyed at both
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:05 PM
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If I can't handle it we will end up breaking up. If I can't handle it and she can handle me not masking then I'll be happy. If I don't mask I'll be alone and unhappy. There's only one option that has a chance of getting what I want. I go in phases where I don't mask, act just like myself, and see how the world handles that. It's an emphatic rejection romantically, but I still try because of cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:00 PM
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Lmao, I've actually never thought about it. But which characters speak their native language? I feel like only american characters get some japanglish in their japanese VOs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:58 PM
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Yeah, I think misogynistic men are homophobic as well, generally. I don't hang out with people who are misogynist(at least, not around me).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:53 PM
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Have you seen the new street fighter girl? The one from the Philippines? Capgod has done it again...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:47 PM
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'yeah i'm kinda gay/bi" just b/c they'd fuck an attractive rebellious chick with short hair who says she's nonbinary and hates gender roles. I mean me, however I have been wokified on nonbinary and kind of get it now. My therapist being NB really made me understand and I would absolutely date an enby. I would honestly recommend it if they are actually interested in deconstructing gender roles, not just their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:43 PM
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I'm bag holding DRAM so fucking hard if it never comes back up you will see me on the news I don't think I'm gonna sector/stock pick for the rest of my life. I keep telling myself that if I can get my money back to neutral I will put it all in the snp and never look at a stock again
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:40 PM
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Yeah, maybe, lol. I meant things more like skincare, cosmetic surgeries and hair care.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:39 PM
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I have money in superconductors and I just YOLO'd like 2k in to a biotech company that sunk to the bottom of the ocean today. That bounced back a bit but superconductors are still in the toilet
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:36 PM
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The ability to actually know if a woman is interested. Women tend to not lie as much about what they are looking for in a relationship. Yes, there are gold diggers. But just don't spend money or a lot of money in the beginning and they are super easy to avoid Not going to argue the rest but women absolutely allow you to take them on dates while not being interested in you. Sometimes it's not malicious, sometimes they are attempting to give you a chance to interest them, but it absolutely happens…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:34 PM
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More pleasure during sex too. If you mean on average sure no argument, but aren't women's orgasms more intense than men's? You'd have better sex on average but the best sex would be worse for you, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:32 PM
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That's true. I try to show off my domestic acumen early by doing a cooking date fairly quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:25 PM
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This was me reading the schizophrenia one' But seriously 1 and 2 should really give you pause man I've lost a few people to alcohol it's a dangerous road if you're feeling this way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:21 PM
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THIS HAPPENED TO ME This absolute alt leftist baddie said she liked my shirt on the way home from work. It was a band hoodie and I was like "Yo! You know this band?" And she was like "yeah I love them!" And then we talked about music for a bit. Then she started talking about racial justice which I fuck with, and I was nodding along but thought it was kinda weird we went from emo to black empowerment in 5 minutes but I was on board. Then she casually brushes her hair off her shoulder and she's we…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:19 PM
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Honestly it might be the bubble I'm in or the bubble you're in, but I openly talk about the beautification process I do to myself and no one's really calling me gay. I think in maybe the 6 years I've really started to care about my appearance I've gotten 1 or 2 gay jokes from my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:17 PM
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To be honest I just don't understand why you would deal with that though. I'm a 50/50 man(I'm actually an equity man) and I expect to do half the chores and handle the cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:12 PM
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I don't agree. I can only handle being alone romantically so long. I just want someone to love you know? It's hard to stay firm in isolation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:11 PM
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....Which iPad what model? I'd give her my old one for free >>
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:37 PM
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Dude I completely understand where you're coming from but please block her number and take everyone else's advice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:36 PM
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I am happier not constraining myself to the bounds of masculinity. I like myself more, I show up as more authentic, I get complimented in public, and lead a better life. Being non masculine is a giant turnoff for women and if I want to go on a date I have to mask as a masculine man if I want to get the time of day from a straight woman. I would say Bi women are a 50/50 shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:24 PM
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I really don’t care any more which is why I didn’t press it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:23 PM
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I am losing an unimaginable amount of money in the stock market so I'm back here because if I look at my account again I am going to vomit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:07 PM
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I've reported someone before and had nothing done. When people annoy me from now on I'm just going to tell them that I'm not interested in engaging with them anymore. If I get banned from ppd it's not going to be because of the stupid block rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:53 PM
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If you would hook up with random people but would not hook up with your boyfriend, who are you actually lying to: yourself or him? I am not compatible with the people who think this but many people feel that sex with someone they are interested in on more than a carnal level creates emotions that are harder to detach from than people they are only sexually interested in. These women want sex, but don't want their emotions tied up in sex, and are trying to communicate that they like their boyfrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:51 PM
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That's the just world fallacy. A transaction with the universe in which you do good, and you get good bc of it. I agree with you here. I was taught wrong. It's still entitlement, in that there's still the expectation of return. The actual reward for being a good person is having a clean conscience and self-respect. Adults absolutely should have taught that. And while I agree with the words you're writing in the context you're putting it, I think the word 'entitlement' is often used to say they e…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:46 PM
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"Just bc you're nice to Sam doesn't mean they have to be your friend." I think you almost get what the guys here are talking about when they say while they know they are not entitled to anyone in particular, the lessons they were taught growing up led them to believe that putting good into the world gave good back. I never thought that doing good to a person meant that person ever owed anything to me. But, I did think that if I was good, constantly, all the time, even when no one is watching, so…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 04:16 PM
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That’s not how I feel, personally. I don’t feel like I’m missing my better half, I feel like I have a lot of love to give and desperately want to give it to someone in a romantic way. I already give my friends plenty of platonic love and it feels really good. But I don’t want to share an intimate weekend or walking on the beach holding hands with my platonic friend. U want to surprise my partner with gifts or with a well cooked meal, I want to think about her when im out and buy flowers, i want …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:16 PM
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Then maybe I’m completely misinterpreting near every argument from the people in this thread. The ‘it’ll happen when you least expect’ method hasn’t worked at all for me. Trying extremely hard gets me slight amounts of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:27 PM
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I agree. I should put more stats in my flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:13 PM
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I’m tattling
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:03 PM
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I honestly don't know. I've never had a pet in my life growing up and now the smells of an animal in the house really grosses me out, so I have an aversion to keeping pets myself for that reason, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:46 PM
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The reason I don't have a pet now is because I cannot imagine being responsible for another living being's food 3 times a day for the foreseeable future when I can't even feed myself 3 meals a day. That's something I know I need to get together before I plan on children.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:28 PM
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I just disagree that the only way to meet people is online and feel it’s sooo much worse than meeting someone at the bar , having chemistry and going from there I didn't mean to dispute that. I'm just adding my own experience. All of my dating situations with the exception of one have come thru dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:25 PM
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I personally do not believe that men are in “romantic pursuit” en masse. While I think you're right I don't think he's speaking for men as a collective, only that the subset arguing that romantic pursuit is their life goal is valid. I believe men are on “pussy pursuit” en masse. I don't doubt this. I'm sure my more personal wants lie more here than the former, but the idea of finding my life partner and having a child(I guess you got me there with mating) is something far stronger than current d…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:10 PM
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I started typing a sarcastic funny comment in response to this but I just sorta deflated. I think it's just so simple and easy or so low priority for other people and we are the odd ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:01 PM
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I counted about 2 dozen people I think I could reasonably hit me up to hang out. I think the 2 Halloweens ago we had over 50 people in our 2 bedroom apt. I'm not trying to friend off you, this is honestly way too much for me to handle. I understand but I bet you’re friends like you are rather socially reserved. Maybe they are. Lots of them are nerds in some fashion. But among my tighter circle I am one of 2 men who are currently single.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:52 PM
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I would surmise its normal to want that, but its kind of absurd for anyone to revolve their literal entire lives around getting married and having kids. For me in particular, it might have disproportional weight because its something I have not made any progress in despite tremendous effort. Like you still need some form of life for yourself that doesn't involve another person being in your life I have plenty of other things that would be on other people's lists, it's just never swayed me emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:31 PM
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I know what an introvert is thank you for the reminder. I genuinely can't tell I this was a dig so I'm sorry if it's not- I only added that comment because the end of your OP you said being an introvert is a choice. I'm pretty sure it's well observed to be not a choice, but also not correlated with social acumen. I am sorry to hear that, I’ll be honest, I don’t believe you? And if that is true then I need to see what you are texting these women. The last time I got a number was a year ago, I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:20 PM
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I go out and dance with my friends all the time while being very introverted. And the best part is if even you go to a bar and meet no women, you could make a new friend who does know a women interested in similar things to you. As a raver and party lover at heart who used to think they were a shy introvert, it’s a literal no brainer I have never, in my ~5 years of fairly consistent going out, met a woman who would reply back to a text from a club or bar. I realize I must be pretty unlucky, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:55 PM
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No, it's something you do. Being a considerate friend is an active choice and it is constant work just not a state of being. I cooked 4th of july dinner for my friends the other day- entrees and sides. I did it because acts of service is my love language and it is my goal to make my loved ones smile. I guess I could have worded it like that, because 'making someone smile' is something I can achieve/do. It just means you aren’t outgoing or adventurous imho. I'm not very outgoing or adventurous. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:51 PM
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🤷‍♂️ I've received much more vitriolic comments when it was personal than speaking in the general like the comments are here. But it's whatever. I'm not going to go searching for it so we can agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:44 PM
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I think the clearest thing wrong with it is that no matter what you do you are at the whims of another person with agency, their own preferences, and their own desires at the time that you meet them. So many of these things have so much variance that it makes optimizing nearly impossible. Not to say these odds are impossible or overly low, it's just a dice roll you have to make many times. It can make you incredibly unfulfilled, even if the rest of your life is standard or above standard. Maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:34 PM
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Having no interest outside of your prospective partner is just plain boring and depressing. I have plenty of interests, they are just not things I would define as life goals or they are things that are continuous. I don't have a life goal of 'make the best dnd campaign for my friends ever' but my life goal of 'be a welcoming and caring presence to anyone I come into contact with' is not something that can be completed. It's something you do until you no longer can. I don't think most men saying …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:27 PM
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Scrolling down this thread will show you that people seem to think it's a sad or unworthy goal, though. At best, it's something to be kept to yourself. Also, I don't think I've ever said anything incendiary here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:19 PM
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Lowkey if you have no hobbies, goals or dreams/ambitions that aren’t targeted towards the sole purpose of finding sex/a partner - that’s a very sad life to live. Having a goal you have limited control over is painful, but I think many of the men that have this goal would have removed it from themselves if they could. You should be happy being alone and have dreams outside of them - like getting a good job, travelling to xyz countries, having a nice house/car or having a nice “man cave”, or ownin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:16 PM
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Many men absolutely are all about love and sharing! But in these conversations, that’s not what’s getting criticized I disagree with you. I mean I know it's anecdotal but the amount of vitriol I've gotten on this subreddit because my goal in life is to be a husband and father has been insane. It's to the point that I agree with them that it's a bad goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:07 PM
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I never said a woman needs to be "earned" - can you point to where that's said. Do you think women should reward weak men - is that what you're saying? Why would they? Do you mean something else by reward in this instance? Stable, dependable, responsible blah blah is most men in the western world - guys like this are common and around every corner. It's easy to be that, which is why women don't really care about it. It also doesn't stimulate her at all. It depends on your definition of a lot of …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 04:32 PM
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If you watch an hour of porn a day you have an addition for sure. I don't think the vast majority of men are spending more than an hour a week on porn. Honestly I think even that's a bit too high a number.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 04:11 PM
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Not who you're talking to but I think his smile is very cute. I like his voice, I think he's got a fun gentleness about him, and of course now that he's been in in his fair share of action movies he has the hollywood body. I've always been attracted to shaggy, more grungy women, and I think his 5 o'clock shadow or whatever he's rocking these days makes him look more disheveled in a way I would find attractive on a woman. Kinda like the boy version of messy hair to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:58 PM
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Men should be embarassed for taking the advice of their grandmothers.That is totally on them for thinking your mother and grandmother would be able to give you accurate dating advice Why would I be embarrassed about trusting my family? My mother was never very kind to me, so I do think she genuinely believed that all you had to do was be well put together and kind. My family still won't stop telling me that I'm an attractive young man who women are excited for. Boomer men didn’t expect their mom…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:54 PM
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It's not "proving anything" - the evidence of these risks taken in the past will be evident in your life - you're framing this as if they are performative and only risk taking in front of women - which just isn't enough. If it isn't your nature, it is performative. Just because something is performative doesn't mean you only risk take in front of women. "Fake it until you make it" is performative and yet is very common advice. Unless your conclusion is 'if you're not naturally extroverted it's o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:46 PM
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difficult decisions/take risks (the same thing) I don't agree with this, but it doesn't matter- I don't think it's luck. I was more or less asking how you think shy men acquire partners if you think taking big social risks is the way to how you prove you're a 'strong man', and that your definition of strong men are what women crave. Do you think women should reward weak men - is that what you're saying? Why would they? I don't think relationships are a reward. All a relationship requires is that…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:31 PM
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Thank god for people like you because I would NOT be dying just because I’m a single childless male you’ll have to kill me 😭 ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:33 PM
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Yeah, I’m weak, never take risks, I rarely approach, and I believe that good looking men don’t have to take risks like I am and can still date women I find attractive. Note I didn’t say ‘attractive women’ I meant women who I find attractive, which above average and higher. There, I said it. 🤷‍♂️ Do you just see it as a feat of incredible luck that men who are shy are able to get partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:21 PM
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I am not interested in marrying a virgin woman. Maybe if I was 18, but any woman intentionally hanging onto their virginity at my age isn’t a woman I think I would be compatible with ethically.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:07 AM
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If she told me ahead of time, yes I’d take her. 100 dollars is very reasonable imo, if she told me the day before i would have been happy to do it if it was in my city. I can’t really swing flights + hotel + food + concert on 48 hrs notice, but i can save up for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:09 PM
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Even if I granted you that argument(which I don’t)— who cares? Who cares that you had to ‘fraud your genetics’? Do you want to find love and have sex or do you want a woman to think you are intrinsically perfect? Bring attractive is work and the more you strive for it the more you realize how much work attractive people are putting in.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:38 PM
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Completely untrue. No one, not even black pillers believes this. How could you even come up with this hypothesis when there are infinite examples of the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:34 PM
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Yeah ngl I haven’t found a great fix for this part yet
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:30 PM
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If you are so ugly that there isn’t anything you can do, you are such an outlier that it makes no logical sense to hate women. If you were born without a sense of smell, do you hate people for being able to smell apple pie?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:29 PM
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It's pretty easy to reroute why you're angry at women in dating to yourself. For example, if I could make myself into the kind of person women find attractive, then for what reason would I feel any contempt for women? I just need to be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:25 PM
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I don’t think there is something as there is no direct replacement. I kinda think a segment of us are going to completely shut down/go crazy. This isn’t me trying to fear monger or say women should do anything. I just know how *I* feel not able to date, and since I’m a non violent person I just want to give up. Some people are more violent than me and may get violent, but giving up and being unhappy is more likely. That, or as we get older our desire to be loved will dampen(maybe? I’m not sure. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:50 PM
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Yes. Assuming I have a similar enough mind to I am now all of my life goals would be achieved much easier as a woman as they are as a man. I doubt much about my employment would change. Assuming I stayed at the same schools as I did now I could see my friend groups changing a little, but I've always been in mixed gender friend groups. The only negative I think would be getting constantly hit on at my hobbies. Assuming I'm as autistic and health conscious as I am now, I'd probably still be skinny…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 02:56 PM
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I'm 27. I did it once this year and she ghosted me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:24 PM
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The fact that my last few dating partners were unable to do what you’ve said in the last paragraph is why I’m still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:17 AM
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It’s going fine. I had a really good week this last week so it was mostly about all the things I’ve been doing. But all my positive emotions have crashed and I can’t really ignore it this time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:24 PM
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That’s how I’ve been treating it too but the discussions I’ve been having here aren’t fun anymore either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:23 PM
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I thought I was immune! I’m not! 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:15 PM
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All I do is trigger myself all day here and I wonder why I feel so stressed and awful. I have to remember that for a lot of people this is their playground to shitpost on in the toilet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:03 PM
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The only one I use is Twitter and TikTok and I like those apps. I might block ppd unironically soon if my mental doesn’t get any better I am really struggling today
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:57 PM
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Rage quit all the apps today
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:53 PM
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What? So don’t work on your personality at all because your cute enough? I don't know how bad my personality is or isn't if I'm not cute enough, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:52 PM
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Every woman in my office is married with the exception of a recently divorced 60 year old woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:46 PM
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Kinda crazy how we pendulum swing from “how dare you ask your female friends out” to “you should befriend a woman first” It literally just depends on what wins them the argument in the moment, we are never going to get rules on it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:34 PM
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Simply making friendships with the opposite gender in these workplace or classroom settings cannot be this hard. Some of us went into computer science in college and work in the industry. Not a lot of women there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:33 PM
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This is the kind of girl I unironically am looking for where is my alley cat 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:29 AM
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Doom posting with your friends is really really cathartic i was very stressed before today and being able to vent about how bad the world is felt comforting
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:28 AM
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I did it today on the lake and it was nice :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:18 AM
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No, you asked me for my immediate thoughts and I have you my immediate thoughts. I legitimately didn’t think about my answer before typing. Ok, let me think about it… before, I thought you said she said that out loud, verbally. If I just had some innate knowledge, it would be annoying but I’d probably treat her like normal. It would be annoying to be in a post apocalyptic world with no porn and no sex next to a woman I found attractive, but it literally makes zero sense to assault her even pract…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:43 PM
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If she opened with “for the record I will never have sex with you” I would think she’d be an unpleasant person to be around. If she proved herself pleasant or more likely I just went crazy from the lack of socialization I’d end up talking to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:32 PM
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My answer immediately was “I would leave her alone and never interact with her again” just in case you wanted my actual, unfiltered opinion. I have no interest really cohabitating with someone who would instantly jump to that, and I’m not sure she’d be as helpful as she would be a hindrance in surviving in this collapsed world.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:59 PM
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I’m not sure where you keep getting “I will force someone to change something” from “I don’t like this thing”. I’m sure there are plenty of things you don’t like but have no desire to change. I don’t like horror movies but I don’t think they should stop making them. In that same vein, I don’t like some of the standards women have and think they’re negative. But I’m not trying to change the way women act nor force them to act differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:53 PM
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Would you say the faces you like are rare? I feel like neither my threshold for face or body is super rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:18 PM
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Uhh? I’m not sure what you mean. What I’m sexually attracted to doesn’t supersede my desire for connection and I doubt it does supersede that for anyone else answering. This was intended to be a gender neutral discussion. Edit: also, the girl I described above is someone I would call attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:56 PM
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For example, when faced with two choices, a good chunk of people would likely choose a butterface over a morbidly obese person with a stunning face. This is what I was thinking too! I didn't bring up that example to my roommates, because I feel like I see women like the latter all the time. Most people look very normal with a quirk or two that you learn to love. I have heard of a lot of people when they are married to someone come to love their partner's facial quirks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:21 PM
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I typed this all out but let me add this to the top at least- if you don't want to talk about me, we can stop. I realize I didn't really make it clear that this was not a debate about trends, just personal feelings. I don't mind you criticizing me, though. But I've seen you describe the women you're into - who overall would be very desirable - and then see you be completely unmotivated to engage with the easiest kind of dating. That's nothing women can help you with. I agree with you. Dating onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:17 PM
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I've always joked that I'm 'woman shaped sexual'. I'm attracted to things that look like women to me. So like, femboys are attractive- but so is an exceptionally curvy tree. I am just not attracted to the male form at all. Not in an a disgusted way, just in an empty sort of way. I was at a party the first time and my ex and the guy's ex were at the party, and we were paying a pretty raunchy game with some kissing involved. I didn't want to kiss my/his ex and the same for him, so we just kissed e…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 07:31 PM
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Yeah, I was making hyperbole, haha. I’m not disgusted by men and have kissed men before— it tastes like lips. But I don’t find them attractive, just neutral if they’re aesthetically pleasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 07:01 PM
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Yeah, honestly. Men smell awful. Otherwise, lips and skin taste the same. I don't think I'd want anything up my butt but if men didn't smell so bad I don't think I would be opposed to doing it for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:49 PM
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You never said any specific question at all in your previous comment though. There didn't need to be a question. What I responded to was you saying that when men talk about what they like about a woman, they would lead with the physical. When I was saying that those two questions yielded two different answers, what I was trying to communicate was that the original question you stated, 'What do you like about a woman' is something I would answer leading with personality. However, acknowledged tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:48 PM
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I think failure is mostly objective and absolute, honestly. If I try to jump 40 feet high and only jump 3 feet high, I suppose I succeeded in jumping 3 feet high and learned the lesson that I can't jump that high, but ultimately that's just data I'm not concerned with. If someone goes "Wow, I can't even get 2 feet off the ground", being in a better position than someone else didn't mean I didn't fail. When it comes to failing to get into a relationship throughout a life time, I can reframe it as…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:13 PM
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I've noticed that I can feel like I look an absolute mess, my hair not styed, might not even be shaved and a guy will be laser focused on my butt. None of this has ever made a woman look attractive to me. I know there are men out there who care a lot about women maintaining a certain upkeep, but that's never moved the needle for me. Maybe I'm a little more face blind than average. Of course if someone asks you what you like about a woman, you're going to start talking about her physical because …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:06 PM
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I think I'm more extreme. I would take a (subjective, not objective) below facially average woman with a great body over the inverse. I like unique faces anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:42 PM
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I don't see the logic. I can't think of anything else where not succeeding in your goal wouldn't be a failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:38 PM
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My roommates are one boy and one girl, but I understand you're talking trends here. but they can still be successful because of the status/money halo + good bodies. I think status is doing a lot of heavy lifting here, honestly. But if some people can find former presidents hot, I guess some women are face people? I feel like I never hear a woman say 'his face is really pretty' about a guy they're actually in a relationship with. They just go on about his personality. Once you get to more extreme…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:36 PM
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But I find it weird to see that as a failure. How is it not failure to consistently fail at the thing you want in life?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:27 PM
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This would work if I wanted a pet woman but I actually want a partner so I don't think this would work out
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:16 PM
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I would probably take this deal too. It's not that much different to living on my own chores wise and if I actually got that treatment from a woman I'd be happy. It does sort of seem like you have a pet woman now, and not a real partner though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:16 PM
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😭😭😭😭 I've gone from attracted to completely unattracted to a person because of their smell before. Or been completely enamored with someone because of their smell- and i know the difference between perfumes/oils and natural skin/sweat. Everyone does that right 👉👈🥺 ngl it does sound appealing being picked by an ND person with very specific wants that you fit in. Part of why I want to be rich and hot is that I need enough hotness and capital to find a woman willing to deal with all my bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:52 PM
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Are most people face > body people? I was talking to my roommates, and they both agree they prioritize face over body. We debated it briefly and I'm redirecting it here. I dunno- I feel like most women are pretty enough in the face for me. I think I am much more focused on what I find attractive in a body than a face. Girls I have zero attraction to I can point out many beautiful things about their face that inspires zero attraction in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:43 PM
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doesn't "deserve" the hot guys he sleeps with Ohh. That's based, I would feel good if I was the bottom. He gets to fuck the hot guys while they whine about it. do men give off specific scents? YES in my experience. Maybe I'm a crazy person, but attraction has to do a lot with my nose, not just their body or face. Men definitely have a scent to them I really dislike- I can't smell every dude in the world, so this is just anecdotal. Like, I hate man sweat I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:33 PM
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Oh. Lol. I can't imagine there being a porn community sending this guy hate, it sounds too ridiculous. I don't think I could be gay for pay. Not because I'm disgusted by a penis, but because men smell so bad. I hate the way men smell- that's probably 95% of the reason I'm not gay, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:23 PM
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Why does he look so sad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:14 PM
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This is so common on ppd you just have to laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:12 PM
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Yeah— I think some people, me included, hunt for negative feedback because it makes you feel good confirming your biases. He wants people to rip him apart so that he can feel better for being sad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 02:20 AM
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Well, that’s the point of asking the question. What does anyone do after asking a question on ppd?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 02:13 AM
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Ngl I agree with your post a LITTLE but 4.5 and 5.5 is not a bad size. You’re half an inch shorter than the average guy but you’re more than half an inch bigger in circumference. Thats a chode which isn’t actually bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 02:12 AM
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It’s definitely a risk. I hate hurting people’s feelings. I really need to get comfortable asking for what I want and not compromising. Ultimately, I want to take a woman out, see her often, and be intimate with her emotionally and physically. That does not need to be within the confines of a romantic relationship for me— but it does for other people sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:08 PM
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I have no issue with a FWB relationship— as long as I connect with the person I don’t need any sort of ownership of future with someone to enjoy time with people. I only worry about her catching feelings and don’t reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:55 PM
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I think we agree on your first sentence actually— but it’s because of the reasons I said before imv— that connection is not foreign in the way that desirability is. I feel like women will never understand why men dislike the husband material vs hookup material example. The comment I wrote above is *why* the hookup vs husband material comment makes men feel undervalued for the things important to them in the relationship. But there seems to be a complete disconnect that doesn’t facilitate underst…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:52 PM
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I would argue that the reason you see so much about sex and cuddles(I don’t believe most men want chad status deep down, they just want their partner to treat them like chad— and what they really mean is they want them to treat them like they’re actually attracted to them.) is bc the connection you’re talking about is implied/not foreign/ not lacking in their lives. I guess I don’t focus about talking about the connection in a potential relationship because I feel as though every connection is u…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:28 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:12 PM
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The thing I hate the most about dating is 1. Being rejected on a desirability basis and 2. The chance that she likes me but I dont like her back. 1 hurts my feelings but since I can work on that it’s not a lasting issue. With 2, it causes me a lot of distress.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:50 PM
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It’s the kids mismatch I’m concerned with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:46 PM
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Yeah. I’m trying not to look 10 years in the future before a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:44 PM
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The last 2 girls I’ve been out with ghosted me so I’m numb now
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:43 PM
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But I do (think) I want kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:36 PM
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But what if I take like her? What if she really likes me? 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:34 PM
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It’s ‘open to where things go”.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:33 PM
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I'm talking to a girl on bumble who doesn't want children because I assumed she'd ghost me like everyone else but she's really engaged. I dunno if it's a smart idea to try to take her out or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:04 PM
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Because gaming is a very vast hobby and I feel like when people say this they have the image in their head of some sweaty neckbeard who can’t budget time for his hobby and the people in their life. Also, I think some games can have some extremely good stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 12:01 PM
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I think it’s foolish to admit it’s not just sadness- anger is a secondary emotion or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 11:58 AM
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hmmm tempting...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:52 PM
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All women are essentially hypergamous and are attracted to men who they believe have high social status. Even if I believed this is true(status imo is about eyes on you not about quality of woman you obtain but whatever) the trick to status is that it's actually the easiest to change. If you want high status shrink your niche until it's attainable. If you can't be president be alderman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:10 PM
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Yeah. If I can be really angry at anything, it's to everyone who told me that it would happen when I least expected it and that everything would slot into place. It's never, ever been like that for me either. My friends are getting married and thinking of having kids, and I've never had to learn how to ask a girl to be my girlfriend yet. I have never bought flowers even though I want to. What's cute as a teen is corny as an adult and people are so hyper aware of having their time wasted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:57 PM
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I think that trends exist within most genders and to the extent that you can be conventionally attractive, you should be. Niche comes into play, and trends within those niches should be exploited where possible. Looks exclusively matter on a check fail basis as soon as you walk into the door. From there, charisma can influence how attractive you are up to a point. Personality, which I feel is different from charisma, is important to how the relationship develops, but I don't think it's important…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:00 PM
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Yeah, I didn't really care to read about him. I just remembered the quote from a postcard, and thought it at least respectful enough quote the author, haha. Regardless, if he disagrees on my take on perfection, I disagree with him. I think that striving to perfection is like being a graph trending towards zero- you will never attain it, but working on yourself, your conversational skills, your style, your niche, your physical aesthetic- etc. to increase your broad and specific attraction markers…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:48 PM
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“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.” ― Norman Vincent Peale I unironically think this is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:36 PM
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Not exactly. "He's attractive on paper and I can tell that he's not an unattractive person but I am not feeling a spark" Is more what I meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:32 PM
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TBH I don't think that's true- you can be attractive enough to be seen out with but not attractive to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:31 PM
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Keep in mind that the average woman commenting on PPD is much less likely to be closer to the average, normie women than women who are into niches that might include gaming or nerdy hobbies. Don't discount their responses, but understand the sample bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:28 PM
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Oh this is the same guy? Lol makes sense now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:29 PM
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He’s me fr but I just won’t reply ever
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:20 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/1u7k2bl/can_i_rizz_my_way_back_into_this/ Brooooooooo I laughed my ass off to this though
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:06 PM
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I need to get my pension vested here in Chicago first. Then I can look to private companies— but I think getting my pension vested is more than worth it. I have 6 years left and it’ll provide me a lot more flexibility in my retirement in the future
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:41 PM
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I don’t think the men were talking about know how to navigate a casual relationship or attract someone interested in them in that way. If they were, wouldn’t they have already had it?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:38 PM
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I think modern policy is centered around old people- think culture is created by the younger generation- that's why it can feel tilted in the direction of young people- because it's concerned with what young people are concerned about.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:40 PM
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I just lost 200 dollars in the stock market, just signed a lease on a new apt and have to buy new furniture, get a hotel for the wedding I'm going to in Mexico and the US dollar is going the way of the dodo because we just lost the war we started in iran and are giving them 300billion dollars increasing inflation even more until it surpasses wages I'm just a little worried about the state of the world I think
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:38 PM
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I need to get rich I really need to get rich
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:10 PM
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I literally don't know what I would tell someone other than 'go back in time and make yourself not a loser in 8th grade' because it seems like that's the only effective treatment to actually get the life these men want ethically. Failing that, what? You have to turn to unethical methods like lying to women to get the same life that a normal man would have gotten just growing up normal. And since these men are typically high in anxiety and neurosis, they are not likely to do that. i've talked abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:09 PM
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Unironically this is sad that some guys were not able to date in the life stages where this is acceptable. I dunno how old this guy is, but I feel like when you're in your late 20s/early 30s women just sort of go "Ok I'm ready to be married now" But... you got to have a dating experience. Lots of these late bloomer guys are functionally teenagers when it comes to their dating experience, and no one has anything to say to them. It's like all the advice is horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:53 PM
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I just make sure my favorite character is alive that's all I care about 🙏 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:12 PM
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King Gnu - AIZO Btw, this song is mandatory
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:11 PM
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I saw it in theaters! It was pretty fun! I'm not a demon slayer fan but my good friend is, so I've been going to see only the movies with him without watching the series. It's pretty funny to catch up and be like "Wait who's this guy why can he do that now"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:06 PM
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I get to play dnd in person for the first time in years! I'm super excited. I'm playing a Ronin ranger and it's going to be anime as fuck. I'm kinda basing her personality around Mereoleona Vermillion from Black Clover, Rumi Usagiyama from MHA, and Tengen Uzui from Demon Slayer, if you know them. I'm trying to compile a bunch of baddie edit/girlie pop songs to get me in the mood along with a lot of jpop/kpop. If you have any hype songs please feed them to me!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:00 PM
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I do this with weed and it really helps my anxiety
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:54 PM
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If the money is good, they gave me time to prep, and they got me really high- sure. I can get pretty gay when I'm high anyway and I would probably get some pleasure out of it if only mechanical. 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:41 PM
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Dating is the level one you're talking about. What you're arguing is that women have it harder after establishing the relationship- and even then I would say on average, the power is just normalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:37 PM
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Good for him! I’ve always been worried about sending a dm in those spaces but you really miss every shot you don’t take.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:37 AM
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Sometimes i want to call someone weird when they make a weird logical keep based on nothing I’ve ever said
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:20 AM
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Did he dm her or something or did he run in the same community as an active user or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:19 AM
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I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:04 AM
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I randomly came across a thread about porn stars and unrealistic expectations. Men are we attracted to pornstars? I feel like I meet women in real life all the time that are more attractive than your average pornstar. Also random, but I wish you could pay someone to go on a practice date with you and then evaluate you. Is there a paid service for that? Seems like a good market.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:45 PM
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Oooh! And I’ve never been a fan of the GOW games but his wife seems cool! I am bored with the whole “how come woman fight” discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:51 AM
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I haven’t! I looked them up, but they look like something I’d like. I love mussels and clams too. And oh shit that does sound up my alley. I’ll have to check it out and look up some stuff about it. Is that the most exciting thing you’ve seen for you or is there something else you’re looking forward to?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:45 AM
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I love them! Some people don’t like the texture, but it tastes like the ocean sea but with no lingering fishiness to me. And I haven’t! Was it in one of the new summer games fest things? I only watched for street fighter and then I turned the stream off lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:29 AM
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I just bought oysters, and I’m going to make oyster shooters with my boyfriend roommate. I was just about to post how I wish I had a gf to get high and go to Whole Foods with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:24 AM
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Swiping left changes your algorithm to not show you people like that, but as far as I know it doesn't negatively effect your elo. I think Elo is based on match percentage- ie how many times people swipe right on you and how many times your right swipes are matches for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:24 PM
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The only principles I have are ethical. I don't really care about any other principles, but I'm not going to tell you to change your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:55 PM
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I don't really mind- I can afford it and it's landed me dates. I'm not really too hung up on some tracking if it means I have sex/find a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:53 PM
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There are multiple ways to play the game. I dunno about you, but boosts really work for me. When I pop one I get ~10-15 likes at peak hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:49 PM
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That is the playbook but I prefer to keep my swipe rights very intentional and reasoned to have a higher match elo than the average guy, and try to focus on women I actually find appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:45 PM
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Not exactly asking if it’s going well or not — but are you actively trying to date? Are you on dating apps? Yes. I have a tinder, bumble, and hinge account. Are you asking women out IRL? I have on occasion. I hate doing it. And if you are,why are you still here? Does it help or hurt? Or do you consider this just a hobby? I came here for answers as to why I was struggling so much to date. This place is neutral- it does confirm my biases on dating, but it also helps me feel not alone in how bad it…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:23 PM
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Right, but some hard checklist items still exist. An easy low hanging fruit one for me is "They can't be homophobic." That's just a hard rule that prevents me from continuing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:05 PM
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I guess what I'm complaining about is that I can't window shop, lol. There are women I'm super attracted to(I've tailored my hinge algorithm very well- about 1 in 4 women in my stack are my type which is a good ratio in my book) and because I know that at least aesthetically we are a match it's not impossible I match with them. When I see a girl who is my type and who's at least stated personality matches with mine, I just close the app because I don't want to swipe away but I also know I cannot…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:39 PM
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Does anyone else decide intentionally not to match with someone you have a fair idea would swipe back on you, because you know you don't have the bandwidth to talk to anyone at the moment? I wish I could idly send likes into the vid on dating apps but I feel like I'm about to waste a woman's time if I match with her and don't actually speak to her/ set up a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:33 PM
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I think you're right about them having a checklist, but I think most people do. I think 99% of people have some combination of soft and hard requirements for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:32 PM
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Do you want to have sex? Are you not able to have sex? I don't understand the gatekeeping of the term, like mental ailments like social anxiety preventing you from having the label.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:30 PM
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There's actually a pretty easy way to find out through gaming if the boy is misogynist. You can say something like "Oh yeah I'm not into it but my friend was but they're so mean to girls on there. Have you heard about that stuff?" And gauge his reaction to misogyny in gaming. If he can't help but say something like "It's not so bad" or "If she can't take the heat go back to stardew valley" or something you have your answer. There are also tons of female writers for some of the most popular games…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:25 PM
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I do think that having a sister and a largely female extended family made me see women as normal people. But they are all southern black women(except my mom and sister) so they're a lot more redpilled on women than me, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:15 PM
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Have hobbies beyond video games. Something active or creative is nice. Talents are attractive. What if my talent is video games? 🥲 I'm joking but I'm seriously one of the best street fighter players in my state haha. Wish it counted as something impressive 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:13 PM
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I need to match with a slightly unhinged alt girl so that she can pick my tattoos stat
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:09 PM
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You don't have to be homophobic (or any -phobic) to feel uncomfortable being prepositioned for sex like that, especially if you just don't know a person in this way. Then why did you use a big burly man as an example? You might be okay with that, but keep in mind that's *you* Right, and my opinion is that it's pretty homophobic to be appalled if a big burly gay man asked me but not if a pretty woman asked me. I would feel wary or in danger if he cornered me or did this without a good exit option…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:59 PM
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I'd be surprised because it wasn't normal, but yes since I'm not homophobic I'm not going to feel any type of way from being propositioned by a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:53 PM
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I don't wanna get a tattoo, they are such good accessories in the summer. Maybe I should really start investing in temp tattoos but I don't wanna catfish anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:30 PM
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I think the homeless analogy still holds true here. This just isn't consistent with how people view the struggles of others. Your rights end at their autonomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:17 PM
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No, I try to date people I'm compatible with. I suppose I do date down financially most of the time, but it's not by intention. However, I'm always improving. Today I am hotter than I am yesterday- so a woman who's ghosted me just jumped off a high potential man(in my view)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:04 PM
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It distracts me from being ghosted to try even harder to be hotter to a larger amount of people. Feeling hot makes me think that they missed out and I can keep moving with my head held high.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:01 PM
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I'm not Arab so I've never took the time to look it up. Here is an example of something I found: UPS Scholarship for Minority Students - Scholarships360. An easy way to find scholarships if you already have a declared major- look up that major and see if people will pay for you to study it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:51 PM
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Bc I threw it through AI to make it look less like her. Her facial features are the same but I didn't just want to post a picture of a real person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:36 PM
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Not a girl but I don't see why 2 and 3 should be a consideration. You know that homeless people could use your money but you are under no obligation to help them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:34 PM
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There are a lot of race specific scholarships. I applied for black scholarships and so did my sister, for black women. They can get very specific too- I got a volunteer scholarship so long as I volunteered on campus for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:31 PM
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Hmm. I kinda agree with this, but to offer a little pushback: It's fine- but it's fine in the same way that only eating junk food is fine. Like, yes, it's okay to do but not good for you- and people may judge you or try to change your ways out of concern for your future. To extend the analogy further- just like junk food, dating with superficial and selfish qualities is fine when you're young. But as you get older, you're the one who is going to realize you made a mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:30 PM
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I wasn't trying to argue against that, I believe that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:20 PM
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I know. I know you aren't looking for advice and I'm not trying to give it, but I feel much better and less worried when I'm actively looksmaxing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:06 PM
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Being white is rough as far as scholarships are concerned, unfortunately. Try to look for some specific study abroad or world culture type scholarships, and see if they're available to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:03 PM
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I'm sorry dude. It happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:01 PM
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How old are you and what demo are you in? There are some demo specific scholarships that have lower GPA barriers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:59 PM
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If you know what you want to do schooling is never a bad path and you're never too old.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:44 PM
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Hmm. Yeah, the stuff you're saying is cultural signaling. Those are socially acceptable things to say, but I bet most people have fetishes they just wouldn't say out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:43 PM
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I don't know what this means
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:19 PM
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Those are the only dates I go on, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:50 PM
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If my heart isn’t in it, if my weekend is busy, if I’m too sleepy to talk… right now my excuse is that I’m still injured from a bike crash and don’t wanna date in pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:51 PM
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No, I’m just really neurotic and if anything could go wrong I decide not to engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:41 PM
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Fair point, but I still don’t feel right about it. I compromised by throwing it through AI to change the details of the person enough that I don’t think they’d be recognized. Here is an example of the kind of women I’m just not texting. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:32 PM
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A woman’s height doesn’t really matter to me— women who are 5’2 have called me short and women who have been taller than me have been attracted to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:18 PM
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It would be wrong to post pictures of other people online. But my matches are very attractive I’m just stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:17 PM
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Sometimes they do? But I’m attracted to women taller than me— I’ve dated a 6’ ft tall woman before and would do it again. I think more women than not aren’t interested in my height, but women who are interested exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:13 PM
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😔 it’s bad man I could have a gf rn if something wasn’t wrong with me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:13 PM
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Sometimes I do. I try not to let it bother me— I know it’s worse for other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 11:56 AM
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I’m 5’8
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 11:54 AM
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I think if some of you guys saw the kind of girls I was leaving on read you would beat me to death with hammers(I also want to beat past me with hammers)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:22 AM
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I actually share that opinion and have had casual sex, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:17 AM
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I mostly use PPD and other dating advice subreddits. I don’t find them to be very causal sex positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:42 AM
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Hmm. Depends on where you spend your time on Reddit, I guess. I’ve only ever seen people put down for not wanting casual sex if their thesis statement is “I didn’t like casual sex so you shouldn’t do it either” which, I dunno— everyone has their own algorithm.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:34 AM
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He’s a misogynist who’s being investigated for being a violent rapist along with his brother. Among the people he violently raped where the women he sex trafficked. You're talking about hiring professionals- did you hear the stories from his victims? Why would I be interested in adding to a girls enslavement? What does that have to do with the topic at hand? What you do irl and what you do on the internet are not necessarily the same. I said the complaining doesn’t stay on the Internet. And I gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:05 PM
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I don't believe that if you would receive nothing else Hold on. I never said that. A girl wouldn't feel loved if I only complimented her, either. She still has to be a good companion, a great friend, witty, dorky, all sorts of things. I simply said what I like the *most*, no one has ever said love languages comprise the totality of your desires in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:56 PM
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I think the only relevant thing you said here is that people can understand the sentiment behind an action of love, even if that action doesn't make them feel loved. I can agree with that. I mean, that's I was trying to say so I'll consider this a job well done. I would add that conversely, people can feel loved even if someone's intentions weren't to make them feel loved. But, so since you asked, love is an intense feeling of deep affection, and I think if this affection is valid enough people …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:49 PM
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I don't see it as valid. Ok? Which do you see as valid then? What is a valid way for someone else to feel loved, in your opinion? Okay, so let's say you feel loved by that women then. What if she hates you though? Nothing. What I feel and what the truth is are not automatically congruent. If I feel loved and she hates me, I was just wrong to feel that way. Then was it a valid love languages or ultimately, the participants misunderstood each other? Mismatched desires and expectations are somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:28 PM
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I wrote a lot for you, and you focused on the part of my argument that had nothing to do with your own OP. Alright. If their complaining stayed on the Internet, we wouldnt have Andrew Tate being as popular as he is, people would never have known what incels are. What does this have to do with the topic at hand? Andrew Tate agrees with you that you should get a hooker if all you want is sex. In fact, he sells women to you. It doesn’t stay on the Internet because so many of them try to make noise …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:23 PM
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Tbh I have heard of the concept of hatefucking but I've never experienced it or seen it. Also, I agree with you personally. A girl expressing her carnal attraction to me is both a romantic and sexual turn on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:11 PM
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I give gifts to people I don't care about all the time and I have been given gifts from people who couldn't pick me out of a lineup. And yet gift giving is a valid love language. why couldn't someone feel loved when someone they like has enthusiastic sex with them? I won't speak for all men, but seeing a woman express carnal desire for me seriously makes me more romantically attracted to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:09 PM
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So how much you know about America and Europe. Did you mean "Shows how much you know about America and Europe"? That can happen at a strip club. Why would I ever want to go to a strip club? Getting blueballs with your homies seems boring. So their complaint are fake. Is this punctuation a new thing you're doing? Anyway, Lilith, you've attempted to spin my argument. When I say 'the internet is not real life', I was referring to the act of complaining, as you were in the post above mine and the OP…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:02 PM
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If they’re in America or Europe, there’s plenty of easy places they can get it. I assume, since this is an English speaking sub that the vast majority of people here are probably in the west. I meant illegal, not just hard to access. I have no desire to be a part of some sting operation by the police or worse, be a part of some stick up situation. And spending a plane ticket to go to the one county in Nevada to spend 3k then fly back is an insane proposition you're making. Getting mad that you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 06:36 PM
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It's illegal in many places first of all, and carries harsh social stigma even in some places where it's legal. There's also the matter of exploitation. Even if a man could be okay with only sex work he could still be concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 06:24 PM
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I finally checked out men's profiles on bumble and stuff. I know these guys aren't my competition because they're men searching for men, but like... I thought my pictures were bad and need improving. Ugh, it's like I took all this reddit advice and it doesn't even really matter, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 04:45 PM
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I think if women started approaching men the rate of men approaching women would go down. Obviously you can't control other people, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 04:35 PM
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The one on the top is probably what most people mean, because low functioning autism is just enough where you feel like you could be a normal person but everyone sees you as off somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 04:32 PM
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It came out of nowhere genuinely. I don’t know what happened I went from speaking fine to crying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:21 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2YeHV5DDeCk
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:37 PM
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Dude, I think he's just excited to be a dad and share experiences with his children.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:57 PM
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Stealing is wrong 😡
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:37 PM
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I cried again in therapy. It was unironically about mommy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:36 PM
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I dunno- maybe I wanna buy her a rose but I have no money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:35 PM
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I think this was just a funny video he was starting to make that actually just hit him in his real feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:34 PM
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It's weird how he already has all the sons being into sports, meanwhile the girl just... talks about her day? He was talking about a 19,20,21 year old woman. He couldn't put her in any sports. I think this was just an off the cuff ramble that made him emotional not a dissertation
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:33 PM
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Sometimes you want to but can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:24 PM
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https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8sAeNQW/ this is really how I feel. I teared up a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:24 PM
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It's anxiety for me. The one time I finished during sex it was when I was very very high.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 07:16 PM
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These tests are hard because I can't tell if what I'm saying is true or what I know is right, lol. But Happiness in lowest makes sense. Lol. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:53 PM
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I don't fake it I just don't. 🤷‍♂️ I heard some people spit on their back.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:50 PM
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I think ResponsibilityAny sort of nailed it. When I call myself a boring guy, what I mean by that is I don't get into crazy situations, I typically plan for things to have a set start and end time, I have a consistent schedule that stresses me out when it's broken, and I have a few hobbies and interests that most people wouldn't find all that exciting. I know the frame data for every street fighter character and love talking about fighting game terms and numbers- not everyone's cup of tea, but n…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 05:51 PM
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No one’s putting shit in your mouth. What you've claimed about my thought process is not anywhere close to the way my brain works. Calm down and talk to me like a normal person- I haven't spoken to you out of turn even though you've done so to me multiple times. You have an utterly bizarre worldview and it’s reflected in your rhetoric which we all can see. I've had pleasant conversations with everyone else here. I don't think I've even touched on my worldview. The fact that abusive men have part…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 05:28 PM
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The argument was about whether or not lying is wrong, it is if lying is desired or ignored. For example, I want a woman who openly sexually desires me. I don't want a woman who 'acts' that way, just because she knows I like it. I want her to actually feel it in some capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 05:00 PM
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I'm not sure how just world applies. This was in response to a woman saying she doesn't care if a man loves her she just cares if he goes through the motions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:26 PM
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I have read this blog post a million times. It echos how I feel very closely!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:29 PM
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I would probably have a panic attack try to talk about it and then walk on eggshells for a few months before I can't take it anymore and leave. This would be my worst nightmare and I would run over every sexual encounter I've had with her in my head to try to find out where I could have gone wrong and I don't think I would be able to bare with the guilt that someone really thinks I was capable of that- or worse, that I was somehow capable of that and couldn't remember/couldn't see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 05:05 AM
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I haven't been in a relationship long enough to have this discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:53 AM
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She was mean to me, but I do think she was attracted to me. She crashed out when I broke up with her, spread lies about me through my friend group, and tried to pry my circles away from me. But I still think she was the woman who showed she was interested in me. I did not have to guess, even if it was scary to be alone with her sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:50 AM
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Maybe. I'm still attracted to the same women as the ex I spoke about before- I just consciously avoid those women when I get those same feelings that the old ex used to give me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:48 AM
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I tried really hard not to say anything mean to him when he called me Elliot Rodger. I had to take a deep breath.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:47 AM
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It might be out in the real world, but if you hold this dislike of women out there that’s not going to help. I don't dislike women on the whole. I dislike how I am treated in dating and on the internet when I try to ask for help, that's all. I have many female friends, I swear. young men are weirdly desperate to get into dating it actually used to be the other way round. If I want a partner that I am attracted to who is attracted to me I should use all the time I have to get there. I don't want …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:46 AM
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You’re not competing against men though, you’re competing against a woman’s peace, I'm competing against both. To a stranger who is a woman I am indistinguishable from other men- not that I shouldn't be. but you can’t just fake that shit you have to actually have respect for her because you’re genuinely interested not trying to “win” something. I'm not sure what made you think I was interested in faking, but I agree that you cannot fake things to actually find yourself in a long term relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:43 AM
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I've been told by my therapist and friends not to underplay my accomplishments- it's a bad habit of mine. I put objectively in statistics because I don't think I'm better than everyone else. A better phrasing might be "Based on the hard numbers I have I am above average for the population, and especially among my peer group." I don't think it makes me better than them- sorry if that is what it came across as.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:40 AM
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Sorry, I hit enter accidentally. Long story short, I do look at other dating subs from time to time and try to apply lessons when applicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:37 AM
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I think if you look at the points you’re making about those women you’ll see it’s the same for men. I didn't think that was true, but the more I thought about it the more it makes sense. I don't understand how it makes sense, but criminality correlates to sexual partners and also low impulsivity. I'm a very neurotic person. I need to take a few drugs to approach the impulsivity of a normal person- I know that's a flaw I have. you need input from women friends more than most men to be honest, tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:36 AM
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Your mistake is you think they get away with it, they don’t, there are victims in this too. By 'Get away with it' I mean continue to attract other women, not retain the same women. Good men will be asking “wtf is wrong with this asshole” not “why does she put up with that”, being a victim isn’t simple stuff. If someone is harming another person, the former is always my feelings both internal and stated. Abuse is never ok. "Why does she put up with that" is how I feel when I see a woman being dem…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:30 AM
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lol dude you’re attractive so that’s not an issue. I can be more attractive(but thank you!!! 🥰). I hurt myself biking the other day so my workout progress has been delayed again 😔 it the women you’re choosing to chase? Not sure. Chasing doesn't seem to work for me. Is it attitude about women or behaviours towards women? Among my peers I would say I'm a pretty egalitarian person. My friends often remark that I'm the most liberal among them- being a liberal doesn't make one not a misogynist, but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:26 AM
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Don’t put words in my mouth. Please argue with someone who sees women as people who only pick abusers if that’s the kind of person you want to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:10 AM
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? Would you like me to link you my pictures again? I’ll dm you a picture of myself if you want— I’ve posted myself many times on PPD. Do you want my bank statements too? I am not wealthy, I’m upper middle class, especially for my age. I just went to college and got lucky to get a job in my field right out of college. Nothing flashy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:15 AM
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Do you think you’re better than an abuser? If you have not abused a woman, I think you should feel better than them. I am better than racists and homophobes, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:13 AM
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I want my partners to treat me like they desire me— that was the only case it was very apparent. Honestly it was spoiling because I can’t deal with lukewarm treatment anymore. I’ve been trying to get better at managing my expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:48 AM
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That’s why I looksmax. I am ‘objectively’ better than average across many fields— I have enough money, hair, and while I’m short (5’8) it’s not short enough to be doom posting. I’m pretty charismatic too! At least most people seem interested in me— just not romantically. I know that men and women are shallow. I intend to maximize my chances by being as hot as possible and varied as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 06:13 PM
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Right, then it’s about something else. If I thought the answer was that shittiness was attractive, my question would be “how do I emulate shittiness to be attractive to women? How long would I have to sustain it?” And the reason I focus on shitty men is that every man is a bunch of both good and bad qualities. As far as I’m able to measure myself though, I am a good man. If my measurements are off, I’d like to know why— and that only comes from feedback and iteration. I think I’m already a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:09 PM
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Where did I criticize the women that date shitty men? What I asked was “how do I become attractive enough that women will date me” because men who abusive are still dating. Being shitty is still a negative trait, like being a slob is a negative trait. If the question was ‘how do I become attractive if slobs are attractive and I’m not one and can’t get a partner?’ The answer to that is ‘Being a slob is something people can hide for months before being in a relationship.’ Stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:56 PM
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I said my assumptions that people are attracted to morality were wrong. And again, as I have said before, I am not looking to ‘prove’ that I should be more attractive than the men in question because of my morality. What I asked is what makes them more attractive than me. Assuming what makes them more attractive isn’t their immorality, after all. If it is, I’m out of luck. I would rather women date me than a man who is abusive, even if they’re shitty. If they meet me, and like me enough to chang…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:39 PM
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That’s what I want to know. I think I’m fairly cute, but I want to know why my personality is not attractive romantically . Women like me as a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:33 PM
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I’m as successful as I want to be in most other aspects of my life. The things I feel I’m lacking in are material and objective. I think you’re understanding my question differently than I’m asking. I don’t care that life isn’t fair. I want to know what im lacking to be attractive. And sure. But if an attractive woman asked me why criminal women were more attractive to men, I could explain why: she’s likely more outgoing and extroverted, and low impulse control makes her more a match for men, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:31 PM
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If that’s the answer leave it that, then. Just say these abusive men get away with it by being attractive. But if that’s the case, please don’t make it seem like I’m doing something wrong for being unable to attract a woman with my personality. It doesn’t matter what I’m like if I’m hot enough, which would be fine for me. I just don’t want to hear that my personality is a problem if it doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:49 PM
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Because men with equal sexual access to women are more likely to enjoy being in a non monogamous relationship. The big joke about non monogamy is that the instant a man opens up the relationship he gets nothing and his partner has a date every day. I don’t think the average person would be as angry about this if it wasn’t very uneven.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:25 PM
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I answered another comment why I was attracted to her, but I’ll post it once more here: She treated me like she desired me. She touched me without me having to initiate everything(not sexual. I mean things like holding my hand, putting a hand on my thigh, non sexual, intimate touches). She was really good at making me feel wanted— I’ve never experienced this feeling of “I want you to be here” like her before or again. I suppose this falls under your definition of charm. I don’t know how to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:22 PM
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She treated me like she desired me. She touched me without me having to initiate everything(not sexual. I mean things like holding my hand, putting a hand on my thigh, non sexual, intimate touches). She was really good at making me feel wanted— I’ve never experienced this feeling of “I want you to be here” like her before or again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:20 PM
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Because I am clearly, emphatically, better than those man. They are worth the bottom of my shoe. If, somehow, these worthless pieces of garbage seem to be able to get partners easily, what does that say about me? That’s the feeling most men have when they ask this question. I don’t think any of us are aspiring abusers. It just feels like people speak out of both sides of their mouth on this issue. I understand that looks are a primary factor. But I guess I’m surprised that I’m so unattractive it…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:18 PM
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If people want to lie about the answer to something, I would like to hear their justification. Most people when pressed will come up with any deflection to not say what you did, and I wanted to see if anyone will ever give me an argument that convinced me otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:15 PM
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I don’t think it was a misread. I didn’t mean to imply that’s what you said— what I meant is that if someone said those combinations of words to me I would leave them instantly. I don’t have to be the hottest person ever for them, but they do need to desire me deeply, and me them, physically and emotionally. I don’t consider it fine to have only one of the two. I don’t think tiered treatment of people should be a thing— if you aren’t going to treat a 3 to the best of your ability, leave them alo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:12 PM
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I guess the question I(we) are asking is about what that charm and attraction is. Am I not bold enough? That’s the only reason I can really see for myself personally, but other people have other issues. I’ve been in relationships that were abusive before. There were clear signs I ignored because I was attracted to her. In retrospect if someone asked me what she did that attracted me to her, that a more mentally healthy woman wouldn’t have done, I could answer. I guess I am hoping for the same he…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:40 AM
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I think ‘is this what you aspire to’ is a disingenuous question because it goes without saying that abusers are disgusting. However, they are able to get something I am not able to get(a relationship) so people like the op and myself are left wondering what exactly are they doing to have what we want, when we are told that what they do is bad. If I suddenly found out women were attracted to abusers, I wouldn’t become an abuser. I would just be incredibly sad and dissatisfied with my life, that I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:22 AM
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Thanks! I need to sleep and get ready to clean the air bnb but this genuinely improved my mood after doomscrolling through ppd for an hour thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:15 AM
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I’ve been mostly gearing up for this bachelor party because I’m the best man. But a week or two ago I hit a 17 game win streak with the new character 💪
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:09 AM
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Yeah I’d do the latter part no problem, if I liked her otherwise. I wouldn’t make her my girlfriend but sex is fun even if I’m not being pleasured.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:05 AM
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My friends bachelor party just ended tonight, and I looked back at this place again. God, PPD is extremely annoying. I did 5 days straight of grass touching— hiked, kayaked, went dancing, ran a few miles, and really enjoyed life just to come back here and debate if girls like nice boys Anyway see you guys tomorrow
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:00 AM
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I don’t understand the idea behind competition at all. Why the fuck would i care that another man is sleeping with another girl? I just don’t get the logic behind being ‘protective’ of dating advice. If I live in IL USA why would I care about snatching up the young hot women in Vancouver? It just makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:58 AM
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The example you stated and most examples of what is reinforced by gender roles are enforced in part by women if not fully by women and their attraction. If women were attracted to men who cried ‘boys don’t cry’ would be erased in a single generation, I’d bet one million dollars on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:53 AM
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This doesn’t work unless you’re naturally attractive and extroverted. Happy for you if this works for you though
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:44 AM
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It’s genuinely better for the man the alternative tbh. Women deal with porn sick men all the time, but they don’t deal with desperate ones at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:38 AM
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I think if a man said that to his partner she should absolutely break up with him and never talk to him again. This example sorta solidifies the idea to me that if a woman doesn’t desire me sexually I don’t want her to ‘warm up to me’ in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:34 AM
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I really think people who have not actually dated in this current generation does not actually understand the problem the men currently dating are talking about. No offense I just think you have a total blind spot here— I think your experience actually detracts from your ability to see that the dating game has changed and the expectations with it. I promise you the more feminine traits i exhibit the less a girl is attracted to me. The traits that make someone a good partner and what makes someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:25 AM
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A woman without online dating has an easier time meeting a man and setting up a date than the inverse too, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:19 AM
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It’s just not cheating— because they never entered into a monogamous relationship in the first place. Like gay men, the men who are interested in sleeping around while having a partner will have conversations with these women. More likely, they string them along and date them as long as possible while sleeping around uncommitted.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:16 AM
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Women should *absolutely* care whether or not the man is acting or truly feeling things. I’d be extremely shocked if you were correct on this— otherwise you’re telling me that lying to women is what I *should* be doing to get a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:11 AM
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I feel like loud obnoxious guys who don’t care about other people’s feelings tend to have loud obnoxious girlfriends who don’t care about people’s feelings. But if you don’t care about women or their opinions you likely don’t care that she’s annoying and mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:14 PM
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I think I’m able to do this and people seem to like me. I really think that the kind of person I am just isn’t sexually attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:48 PM
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Watching someone’s naked body whilst thinking about the existing reality of them regretting it removes the fun out of it for me. It leaves me feeling bad instead of good. This is what I think causes the negative feelings for me. It's not fun anymore. This might be a weird comparison, but do you know the artist D4vd? He killed his minor girlfriend(allegedly... 🙄), and his music heavily referenced his crimes. I don't have problems listening to music from criminals. But hearing a song that is about…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:23 PM
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I just need to become hot enough that these aren't problems for the woman I'm seeing Tbh avoidant might be a problem, but I don't think I am much these days just not willing to deal with things that make me mad or not want to see a woman again. I don't know what I'm supposed to do about introvertedness, though. I feel lik eI'm doing all I can and burning out bc of it already
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:48 PM
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Thank you for answering the question! Sometimes when I ask questions like this to examine my own views, because a comment(like yours) made me pause and think about something I've never thought about before. When I was typing out my pervious comment, I felt the distaste about consuming porn that the actress regretted. I'm trying to figure out why that is. I think morally I should be consistent because I truly don't think there is any problem with watching and enjoying a film an actor hated acting…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:45 PM
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Sure is a lot of weeks between episodes, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:21 PM
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That’s fine. They can all be great wing women and a great vouch. Most forks have female friends who, co workers, classmates, sisters, cousins, horny divorced aunt, etc…… The one time this did happen is the OCD ex that's dating a former friend of mine now. Not much luck in the set up department.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:04 PM
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I go to all the events I can and have fun. But I don’t have a gf… so I’m wondering where I went wrong. Apparently a girl and I were supposed to have some friends to lovers arc but I don’t really believe in it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:45 PM
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Most of my temporary friends became permanent friends. My dnd groups stayed together my high school friends stayed together and within their partners extended friend groups I have made actual friends from that. It’s very unfortunate I did all this while looking for a girlfriend because now I have all these friends and no gf, lol. Right now I see probably a random combination of 10 friends every month, with like 5 being the same 5 people every month, assuming there are zero parties that month. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:43 PM
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Tbh I completely get the argument that some people can be trafficked or not consent. I don't agree that because you regret making the porn its bad to consume. Not exactly the same thing, but there are definitely movie stars that regret roles they were in. I don't think it's wrong to enjoy those movies anyway. Is it just the sensitivity of sexual content?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:31 PM
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People say to go out and make friends and not try to think about finding a partner, how many friends do you have? Doesnt make any sense to me- I don't want any more friends. I seriously don't have the capacity. Are you guys going to birthdays every weekend and events every single week day or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:21 PM
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I'm not a huge boob fan. I mean looking at them is nice and all, but the reason I like them is because I enjoy the amount of pleasure a girl can get from me touching them. I mean the feel is nice too, but if I was just going for that I'd go for the butt. I'm a fan of firmer pillows. 😃
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:08 PM
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Yes, that's why I'm losing money investing, so that I can get super lucky win the lottery and then I don't have to worry about my world imploding on me or I lose all my money and nothing changes because the world is still imploding.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:55 PM
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The least charitable interpretation of this arrangement is that he's pimping out his wife in exchange for mario games
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:50 PM
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This is my strategy. I literally can't tell what's wrong with me or why I haven't had a girlfriend, so the only solution left imo is to just become so hot that whatever is wrong with me is offset by her looking at me and forgetting it, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:49 PM
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Right, but things like the land, pollution rates, building rubble, signs of life- all things we would be able to see even if there existed intelligent life millions of years ago, and unless actual magic was real I just don't think all of that stuff would go away without a trace. The only way I could think this could be true if there actually existed cities under the ocean or something, and we somehow missed all evidence and after millions of years the glass bubble shattered and eroded into nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:58 PM
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Not to detract from your point(maybe it adds to it) but I am very scared of driving, so I don’t drive. I choose in a city where public transportation is plentiful. In that same way, some women look at the risk and decide dating men isn’t worth it— and I respect that choice a lot whether or not I agree with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:16 AM
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not skinny I was so close
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:58 AM
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I thought about it but I just don't think it's possible, unless we are actually aliens that seeded earth or something. We've dug down too deep and entered too many ancient caves for me to think there's Atlantis out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:53 AM
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third :0 I made some money betting with WSB today I do not recommend it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 08:14 PM
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I do understand it it just kinda seems like a pattern. Like guys who have the kind of personality to be enthralling and collect followers seem like they’re more likely to abuse people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 05:18 PM
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You think it’s hopeless— I think it’s hopeless too. But I’m going to be kind, and call out unkindness when I see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:46 AM
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I don’t want to be judged morally for being unable to get in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 05:33 AM
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It is however annoying as all heck to the people around you. Then say that and leave it there. Do you enjoy listen to people complaining? I genuinely don't mind it. I like to help if I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:33 PM
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We can't actually know for sure that oysters don't feel pain anyway. Agreed it's such a poor justification to eat them imo. People used to think lobsters don't feel pain when you steam them. People STILL think that. Plants are alive but don't feel pain. What's the meaningful difference between them and an oyster besides taxonomy? If I could eat exactly how I wished, I would probably stick to grain, fruits, and veggies that don't kill the plant. I don't think we can sustain ourselves without some…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:28 PM
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It's also active vs passive harm, e.g. the Trolley Problem. Harder to rationalize active engagement vs lack of action. By eating the oysters, you're not killing them. You're eating what is already dead. Passively your consumption contributes to the demand though. I was actually saying the opposite, haha. I shuck my own oysters. I have to kill them myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:05 PM
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Yes, the act of you complaining is what you are judge on. It's not immoral to complain. If I see a vent post I don't like I just keep scrolling. "all the shit that happens to people, and this guy over there thinks getting laid is the world biggest problem." Serious question: Do you actually believe that dating is largely the same for everyone- lets just say every man on ppd. And if you do think it is, do you think this is a justified response to someone's suffering? Even if you went through the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:02 PM
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What's even more fucked up is that I'm vegan(ish?), but even that is debatable. I do kill insects in my house. Not 100% if it's reasonable I can relocate them, and I try to give flies a chance to fly back out the door, but still. I still feed my dog animal products. I'm happy for you- I'm sort of the opposite. I realize I'm a super hypocrite eating meat but I do everything in my power to not kill an insect. I dunno why, when I was like 7 years old I was stomping bugs outside and something in me …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 08:45 PM
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What else could I be manipulated to kill so easily? It's easy to kill what you hate, but what about killing what you don't even mind or have any strong feelings about? Is all that it takes is rhetoric about crop devastation, or some other semi-existential threat? I can't answer the first for you, but the fact that we accept the slaughter of animals for food in western countries at this point when we simply don't need to weighs incredibly on my conscious. I can't help but think in 200 years the k…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 08:24 PM
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People judge you on your words and actions. No one besides maybe your family cares if you are in a relationship at all. No one cares about me being a millionaire either. But if I try to be a millionaire and fail and complain about it, no one comes out of the woodwork and pontificates on how if only you were a better person you'd actually be a millionaire now. No one besides maybe your family and friends care about anything you do. Dating, courtship, and attraction are spoken about through a lens…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 08:20 PM
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I think the underlying fantasy people have is that if they get others to acknowledge their exclusion/struggles as unfair, then it will increase their dating outcomes/desirability. No. I would just like to hope that if they acknowledged it was unfair I wouldn't be judged morally nor put down because I'm not able to access what's supposedly easily accessible to 'normal people'. The issue is that most people do not arrive at attraction via moral reasoning. Yes, but they do use morality as a post-ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:58 PM
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I'm maybe 4million of the 37 million watches on this video I love it sm
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:54 PM
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HE SAID THE THING HE LITERALLY SAID THE WORDS
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:51 PM
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You already saw it but I got a pair of jorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:37 PM
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Vennu Mallesh - It's My Life What Ever I Wanna Do
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:36 PM
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I know I got the HPV Vaccine and thought to myself "Why do I even need this it's not like I'm gonna have sex any time soon" So I must have been younger than 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:33 PM
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An example would be the way some people post about craving sex But I feel the same way as them, largely. I'm actually losing my mind. how women SHOULD choose them. I agree this is cringe at best and very misogynistic/fascistic at worst. I guess I don't feel guilty having a shared identity with guys like this(an identity I had no say in adopting as well)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:46 PM
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Not the current way it’s being expressed! Putting aside the objectifying and rude posts/comments on social media, it comes across as very needy and almost feels like calling for women to take pity on you and letting you hit. But see, you realize you haven't given a solution you just told men(again) that you don't like what they are doing. I think a large part of the problem and why we have so many men in the manosphere is because people who don't believe in manosphere ideas didn't actually help …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:39 PM
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For one they're female-only, so I can't counter-argue. This is why I hate the recommendations. I actually want to respect women's spaces even when I think the arguments within those spaces are really stupid and I want to argue with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:27 PM
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🤷 How would you prefer we express our desire for sex and relationship? very embarrassing for our gender Why does your gender mean anything to you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:24 PM
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Didn't see this yeah good luck 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 05:16 PM
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How possible this is entirely based on what you mean by alternative music
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 05:15 PM
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I'm confused what does this mean
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 03:40 PM
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I think it’s just the fact that it’s my life. Full of stories of people who didn’t plan properly and spend the next 20 years scraping by for money or working as a Walmart greeter at 80. It’s a terrifying life to stare at at least for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:29 PM
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Thank you, but you know what they say about plans. Im so unbelievably stressed about this stuff(tbf it is my job) that I’m ‘that guy’ who wont shut up about investing and retirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:08 PM
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I would much much prefer they told the truth here or I’d be incredibly sad! Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 09:52 PM
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But that’s why I’m working as hard as I am to have so many assets. My pension should be able to cover assisted living expenses provided I can keep working in this field. And I am trying to have a diverse enough pre tax and post tax portfolio so that no matter what happens I can be as prepared as I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 09:41 PM
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Don't you just love america 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 09:02 PM
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My money makes more money invested than the taxes on my student loans are taxing me. It makes more sense to pay it slowly over time rather than just getting rid of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 08:58 PM
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I would tell them not to and that I can pay it off whenever I want to. I just don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 08:56 PM
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I love to cook for my friends, I treat my sister when we go out, and I buy my friends gifts when I think of them. But these are people are share bonds with, not women I don't know yet. All that aside, if you’re really poor or really stingy, there are lots of free things you can do on a date. I pay for dates because I have the money to afford it, but there isn't a part of me that enjoys it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 08:26 PM
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Look how men interact with each other when a pretty woman comes around - they’ll often insult the other and try to make their friends sound worse than themselves. While I will grant that some loser men act like this, this isn't eliminating men as a whole from the dating pool. This is them trying to remove their friend as an option to the individual woman he's trying to impress. I also think that men highly overestimate how well they please their partners sexually. I can only go by what my partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 08:17 PM
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What do you mean by ‘realize?’ I’m glad that you like it— but meeting new people is free. I don’t find it fun to meet someone new but have to pay for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 08:14 PM
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Lol no it's ok! Honestly it's very minor so I don't really complain about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:50 PM
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Thank you AMC 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:36 PM
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My philosophy is that I'll probably ease up on the idea of FIRE if I meet a woman and get married. My plan is that if I turn 37 and still don't have a wife, I'm just going to ramp up my savings for the next 5 years after and then retire, and move out of the states.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:32 PM
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It’s honestly a pretty good strategy for men use to eliminate their competition. 🤔 Do you think there is some secret forum where all these guys meet up to concoct similar stories of their wives not being interested in sex? Or that there is small cabal of men running this operation? I kinda think it has to be true on some level. I’m 99% sure those type of comments are just other people trying to bait anxious, risk adverse men into being terrified of relationships. I am an anxious risk adverse man…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:30 PM
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I’ve made 12 whole dollars so far following Wall Street bets advice :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:16 PM
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I like it because I like to reply to people to reply to me, but I hate when I get a notification, excitedly click on it, and then it's just some random shit from an offshoot conversation in a thread. I still leave it on sometimes because sometimes I enjoy reading the conversation branches, but that's only 1 in every 10 times.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:00 PM
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Thank you! I noticed it when I was doing my taxes for the first time- that's what made the idea of fire real for me. I'm just a very pessimistic person- hoping for more than I have hasn't gone well for me in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:58 PM
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I love the frugal subreddits and use those often, too. Maybe I'll check out the poverty subreddits, but the reason I'm like this is because my parents came from nothing and have ardent saving principals that's made me really neurotic about this
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:53 PM
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I know that, but living like that sounds so stressful. So long as my life is tied to employment my entire world can be ripped away from me if I lose my job. If I can keep up the amount of saving I'm doing for at least the next 16 years I will feel secure but I don't think I will feel secure until then.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:50 PM
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I'm currently above that mark. It just doesn't feel like enough. There's more that I could be doing if I were more dedicated and I think knowing that makes me even more anxious because if the cards come crumbling down it's because I didn't do enough, and then I'm destitute despite how much I'm already sacrificing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:48 PM
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I agree, that's why I'm so stressed out. I think I need to retire with 2.5M and that's being conservative. I can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:44 PM
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I'm rich in friendship, but I'm currently poor in finances, love and in health. Finances will help with the health and love aspect so i need to give it a lot of attention i mean, in the fire sub you’re gonna feel that way. I work in the retirement industry(lol, that's pretty funny to say) so this is kind of all my job is about really. My thoughts gravitate towards this stuff constantly even if I wasn't on the subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:39 PM
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I agree with you I need to make so much more money I need a third job
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:35 PM
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I have autism please understand 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:34 PM
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I can't help but be extremely panicked about the future. I'm spending more money than I'm making post retirement savings(health tanked and multiple weddings in the same year 😭) so maybe I'm just more anxious than I should be because this is an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:33 PM
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I actively participate in looksmaxxing yes— I soft looksmatch and have a complicated skin routine, hair care system and take preventative measures towards hair loss, exercise, stuff like that. I have a lot of trouble with the diet— I’ve had some setbacks regarding gaining weight but I hope to get back on the wagon soon. I also consider fashion a part of soft looks maxing. Something I like to call niche maxing— I’m an alt guy with alt interests so I try to dress fashionable but with edge. Why do …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:23 PM
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I know comparison is the thief of joy but is everyone on reddit a fucking millionaire? Am I fucking up somewhere? People are talking about how having 700k vested feels like nothing. I really need to stop looking at the FIRE subreddit it's making me going crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:11 PM
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I watched this and it's the exact advice you'd expect from wikihow If this was possible for you to do you would have already taken this advice and done this. If I could do this I wouldn't want a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 05:57 PM
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When you say take turns, are you saying when you and a group of people go out, you pay for everything one day. Then on another day someone else pays for everyone? That's not something I understand. Or inviting someone to a movie and paying, and then they invite you to a concert and pay? Why don't you just pay your way for both is what I don't get and then everything's chill. If I don't want to do something bc it's too expensive that's chill my friend will go with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 04:13 PM
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I have a thing for not being paid for, it makes me very uncomfortable. So I'm glad it's not really a thing I've dealt with in my friend circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:58 PM
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I get that- I just rented a 4k airbnb for my roommates wedding. But I only do that because I trust my friends to venmo me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:14 PM
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I mean I can too, but I want to save my money, lol. My friends can also cover for everyone, but I want them to save their money too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:13 PM
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I think so too. I’m sick of people making up justifications as to why they want something. Just please say it with your chest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:57 PM
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with good friends it usually all works out some way or another. like one of my friends paid me for watching her dogs with artwork recently. a friend is cooking me dinner next week. the next time we hang out i’ll cover dinner. My friends operate a lot more like this- pizza in exchange for helping move, dinner nights where all of us contribute a dish, beer/weed at the party in exchange for us hosting, stuff like that. But this is fairly rare. Dating, and initiating a date as a man is not rare. Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:51 PM
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So when I finally got taller I didn't get taller so all my girl friends stayed friends. lol jeez, I could have stopped there. Look I love my female friends too, but you were literally blessed. I'm happy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:48 PM
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I took one part of the body of your argument because I thought it detracted from your overall point. I don't super disagree with your ultimate take, I only said I could definitely imagine a scenario in which sexuality was dictated by immoral agents, haha. If a bunch of bad people are having sex, but none of them want to have sex with a “good guy” is any given individual in that group committing an immoral act by not having sex with that dude? If they aren't attracted to him because of his moral …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:44 PM
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Yes, and if a bunch of individuals collectively decide to fuck liars and thieves, for example, it creates a culture where lying and theft are promoted. This makes it a bad society. Now I'm not saying this is true of any place, I was only refuting the line I quoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:37 PM
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I'm a little confused I think. Are you saying this could be the case for other people? In that case I agree with you, but the original topic was about people saying 'the person who invites the other pays'. I mean yeah sure if I was asking a girl on one date a year that makes sense but weekly/more than once a week as we get to know eachother...?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:35 PM
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but i’ve paid for friends when it makes sense, like if the activity is more for me or if i really want the company but money is tight for them. I saw your comment on this and low key I did wanna ask about this but I didn't wanna necro it lmao. I have never asked a friend who's thing it wasn't to come with me for something I was interested in. I have friends for all the different things I am into- movie friends, concert friends, partying friends, dnd friends, etc etc. If I ever wanna do something…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:31 PM
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Ngl if someone did that to me I'm never going out to eat with them again 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:28 PM
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Why would being involuntarily celibate be a moral failing? I don’t think it is no. I just wanted to ask for consistency's sake. And what you’re suggesting, is controlling “society”? And society is made up of individuals. It’s individuals that give other individuals sex and love Culture is what makes society more than a collection of individuals. A society that promotes characteristics that leads to immoral outcomes is an immoral society.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:27 PM
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It's so weird. When i read posts like this it's basically if she walked into the room and didn't fell in love with you at the first sight and didn't lust to the point of jumping you straight away - then walk away. And men call women delusional after this. No, that's not what he's talking about. I know exactly what he's talking about. The kind of girl that's interested in you doesn't have to be lusting all over you and that wasn't his argument- but she should communicate interest. Have you ever m…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:24 PM
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lol sorry for misinterpreting. Here you can either split the check based on purchase, or split the check evenly— I thought you meant the latter
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:23 PM
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For my friends it’s always been pay your own way. That way if you want more expensive stuff there you’re able to get that, if you don’t you don’t have to. Everyone’s happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:18 PM
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I guess I don't really hang out with people who earn significantly less than me. My social sphere all make around the same amount of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:14 PM
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And to suggest it’s an inherent moral failing of any given individual, or society, because they are not wilfully giving you sex or love, is entitlement. I wouldn't put it on the individual, and I would never argue this for myself- but logically, if you imagined a society where the desired traits for mating were traits that were anti social, and as a result collapsed the society- wouldn't you say that there is a failing in that society? I'm not sure if moral failing is the right word, but we woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:11 PM
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I’ve never 6 7’d someone’s nuts before 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:09 PM
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I don't wanna necro a conversation from 11 hours ago here but you guys really pay for your for your friends when you do shit with them? That's insane. I mean I don't wanna disbelieve people who do that but it's a total shock to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 02:00 PM
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I guess bro
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:52 PM
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Yes, but only one partner. She had really bad OCD. Not saying it isn't a good practice! Just noting that the only person that asked me had really bad medical anxiety and OCD.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:51 PM
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I think the Bechdel test is kinda a poor metric for seeing if someone cares about women or not. Half of people on earth are men, so if you're ever telling someone something relational, depending on the conversation you can have a 50/50 shot of bringing up a man in some capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:50 PM
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I agree with destiny here, and you. But, I think at baseline men have a lower standard for what makes them happy, and happy works different for men than it seems to women. Most men are happy if a woman crosses 70% of their boxes, women would not be happy with that distribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:07 PM
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You can't orient yourself too be attractive to one woman- it's impossible without being able to read many women's minds. You should be doing as much as possible to have both deep appeal within your subculture while getting as much wide appeal markers if you can. If you're into skateboarding chicks, yes learn the lingo and learn how to skateboard, immerse yourself in the culture. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't be broadening your appeal. Grow muscle, get a haircut that suits you(You can incor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:59 PM
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I might as well swipe on them. What’s the difference between .001 and .0001 really.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:51 PM
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I am the same way, but I wonder if I should be even more discerning with looks, I hate the mental effort dating apps take from me. Maybe it’s worth even less matches if it means I actually feel like setting up a date
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:15 PM
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Yeah, I wasn’t paying much attention when typing. I meant conceivably attractive, but when I mean that I mean like “yeah I could get to know you and maybe find you attractive/maybe I’m not seeing something in the picture”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:04 PM
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Even if they don’t find me attractive it’s worthless to get a match with someone I find unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:00 PM
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I try to keep my match rate high by swiping on people more likely to swipe me back I do think being not attractive impacts it but I think your match rate % is probably more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:00 PM
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Doesn’t that ruin your elo?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:55 PM
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I think I should try doing the latter. I think the former just leads to burn out for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:52 PM
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On dating apps, when you guys swipe- are you swiping on everyone you could conceive of yourself being attracted to, or only people you actually find very attractive? I don't think it makes much of a difference for men, but I'm curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:44 PM
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Me too tbh. I don't see why this wouldn't be optimal even if your goal is to want marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:31 PM
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I want to have sex with people I am attracted to and I want the people I have sex with to be attracted to me. I want a woman who can't wait for me to get home so that she can jump my bones and then we can watch critical role together. The simp strategy caters to men who want a respectable wife he can point to as social proof even if she isn't attracted to him, only what he does. That sounds like hell on earth to me. And "betas" "prey" on someone more secure. They aren't the predators in this sce…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:30 PM
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If you truly understood and emphasized with women then you’d view our reaction EVEN to the warm approaches as less of an issue. Me saying that my problems are not something that are reasonable to be solved, because a woman's safety is more important than my desire to have a girlfriend is me acknowledging it's not an issue worth changing the world over. Imagine being me, dealing with all that chaos and seeing multiple guys complain about women being stand offish even if they mean no harm…yet igno…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:48 PM
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I understand the real issue, but what am I supposed to do about that in my own life? It only impacts my own life negatively and I have to just hold that. That's fine- some things can be negative for my life but be a net positive in the world. The 'problem' I have is that warm approach is also not encouraged- if you get to know her too long confessing is an issue, if you don't get to know her long enough it is an issue as well. Again, no one has to do anything about it, that's just why I have a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:28 PM
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I'll take 3rd today
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:20 PM
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No, I want children, and it depends on what you mean by average. Average is overweight, and I am not overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:20 PM
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No comment. 😇
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 07:06 PM
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And the reason I disagreed with the analogy is because unlike swimming, you need the consent of another person to 'practice' relationship building. That's why I suggested the alternative analogy of partnered dancing. Do you think socializing and specifically dating are more like partnered dancing or a triathlon?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 07:02 PM
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I will hope everything is alright, and the staff treat you well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 07:01 PM
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If I was gay I would give Jesus a chance he's cute humble and has super powers
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:57 PM
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oh no! I hope it's for something more minor than what you experienced before.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:57 PM
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Forced classroom socialization is not at all like attracting and building a relationship with a woman, though. Those are Wholey different experiences and you can go your entire life without anyone consenting to do that with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:56 PM
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I mean I can clarify if you're confused. Lookism is blackpill rhetoric and the mods here have decided they do not want to debate blackpill talking points.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:55 PM
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"I like a woman with a big ass" isn't really a looks focused conversation. Looks based comments are always allowed ("I am attracted to x, what about you guys?" has always been fine). By looks being banned, it's the discussion on looks being the ultimate deciding factor in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:50 PM
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He's not talking about financial assets here, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:45 PM
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It's much more similar to learning how to partner dance, because swimming does not require the consent of anyone else. you can want to dance all you want but if no one wants to dance with you? You can learn the steps from books and tutorials, but you will not have the experience most other people are expecting out of a dance partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:44 PM
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The op is completely wrong about the definition of status and I have no idea where she got that definition from.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:39 PM
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Status is an SMV multiplier, because the more eyes on you there are and the more accolades you have the more likely a woman who is actually attracted to you will notice you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:48 PM
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This is the definition of social skills not status. Unless you think what makes your husband personable is his job title and accolades, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:43 PM
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I have never heard of this in my entire life. I've literally never heard a man say this. As for me, I am very uncomfortable with receiving gifts because of traumas around it- gift giving is basically my anti love language. But I think I'm the weird one- most people, men and women, love a thoughtful present.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:35 PM
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I guess I should have included that it still requires you to put in work on processing what happened to you to benefit. Yeah, and this is going to sound bitter- this is why my bullies are married and I am about to be in year 4 of weekly therapy so that I can begin to be as vulnerable as most normal people, and why I have to take medication when most people do not. I have a great life, other than romantic success, but even if I'm able to become some social savant because of all this additional ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:28 PM
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It’s not “abnormal” to have thick skin. I shouldn't have included thick skin in the list of traits, then. Pretend I didn't add that one and just look at the rest of the examples, then. Trauma happens when you don’t know how to respond to something, so you dread it ever happening again. Sure. But children are irrational, and brain develops fears and traumas without your consent when you're too young to understand the nuance of the situation. I don't think I'd call myself 'traumatized' under that …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:08 PM
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Some men can overcome bullying and those guys are fine in life (dating included). The softies end up needing podcasts to find out that women like a good looking man. Being a softie doesn't preclude you from being good looking. You can look as good as you want and style as much as you want, that is not the factor that will change most struggling men's chances.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:44 PM
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Ew I might be your ex boyfriend because this sounds exactly like me. Except, I cut out all self depreciating humor after highschool because I don't think it's okay to put myself down anymore. He was definitely neurotic though. He overthought everything. This is killer. I need to get high off my ass just to have a normal person's level of neuroticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:42 PM
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I think this is survivorship bias. I'm glad the hard life you had to endure made you a more resilient person. Some bullying and some coping strategies can teach the wrong lessons that take a lifetime to recover from. I can directly trace back my lack of confidence and inability to share my emotions to a very unsafe childhood, and lack of self care and intellectualization of my suffering to my rampant and uncontrolled bullying as a child. Sure, I might have thicker skin and a much higher pain tol…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:33 PM
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I don’t think provider qualities are worth the ROI when it comes to attracting women— I think it’s too easy to find the type of woman who isn’t actually attracted to you. Better to attract her with your looks and personality and have the provider aspect hidden as long as you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:32 AM
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Do I like him? If I like him then yes. If I don’t like him then no.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:48 AM
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What he was arguing was that men need the confines of a relationship to have sex, because people don’t want to have sex with them outside of the confines of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 07:13 AM
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You asked if it was worth the social cost of commitment, not if I would have sex with someone I dislike. To answer that question, no, I wouldn’t, but Im not sure how that relates.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:20 AM
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I mean it’s worth it because 70 years ago men would get married right after highschool to get married lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:13 AM
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Value for me most would be my humor or kindness. But among the things I want her to value me for it would be my sexual prowess and body. Those probably sit right after humor and kindness in order, then after that would be things like fashion, finances, and the like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 06:24 PM
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Yeah I wasn’t just being pedantic when I said this was a harder question to answer. My abs and arms start to burn during missionary and it hurts, and that’s like the most vanilla sex. I don’t think that’s what she’s looking for tho. Some men don’t enjoy blowjobs I know our deep throat’s but most of the tone that’s an issue with sensation for them. It doesn’t feel like much. At least that’s what I’ve heard
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:15 PM
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Hmm, i think fisting is more of a fetish than deep throat is. I don’t think it’s analogous because the recipient of the pleasure is different. To have a kink for being the fister is different than having a kink for deepthroat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:52 PM
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Right. And as a man, grab my hair, throw me around? Push me where you want me to be, lmao. The counterpart is guys who feel like eating a girl out is submissive. Very immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:41 PM
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Similarly if a man offered to pay the bills and help with chores and childcare you wouldn’t say no thank you I can do all this free labor would you? No. So why not take advantage of the situation and sweeten the pot? This is completely off topic but I can't imagine how this wouldn't make me supremely uncomfortable. This isn't to cast judgement I would just feel so uncomfortable living the life you made out, I would feel like a complete burden.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:00 PM
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Well it’s not too surprising that you don’t know any men suggesting it, given that you are (I assume) straight and have sex with women, not men. Sorry I should have clarified. My mix gender friends and I have discussed kinks many times- so these are self reported, I guess. By discomfort I don’t mean mental, but physical. Physical pain and discomfort. Then yes the vast majority of my kinks cause no pain or discomfort, except for deep throating, I guess. But I genuinely don't think that's a kink- …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 06:55 PM
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If it’s anything to do with degradation, that kinda goes with discomfort unless she’s into that I don't understand this fwiw- how is a facial supposed to be shameful?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 06:46 PM
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It seems like men’s kinks and sexual interests nearly always include things that often cause women pain or discomfort such as deepthroating, anal, choking or spanking Only women in my life have asked for choking and spanking. Not a single man I know has ever suggested it and it's always been suggested by the woman in the cases I've performed them myself. I won't lie, I do enjoy deep throat- but that's because it feels good not because it hurts the woman. I have plenty of kinks that don't involve…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 06:43 PM
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Yes I agree. If you’re gonna pay it should be very personalized to You and Your Life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 10:37 PM
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Makes me feel like this https://youtu.be/5zHL7x0zI40?si=C_yWg4m6Eo5U6T1w
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 05:02 PM
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Yeah I had a good laugh about it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 05:02 PM
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You had me in the intro and lost me in the body. None of those are valid reasons to treat someone as anything other than 'human'. You had something in there I agreed with about it being a different sort of communication than with people you aren't attracted to, but you messed it up with... everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:56 PM
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I tried to report them, it didn't work, and I didn't really care
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:47 PM
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NGL, the redistricting thing caught me for a loop as well as the 1.8 billion irs refund to himself and his children as well as complete political immunity wasn't on my bingo card.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:30 PM
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Someone literally blocked me to have the last word here lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:23 PM
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I never ragebait I joybait 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:23 PM
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I'm low key very scared for the next 5 years or so. The median voter is so... uniquely intelligent that I'm hoping if nothing else gas being expensive will wake them up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:20 PM
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Oh I completely agree with that. Reaaaaaaally hoping things change by 2028.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:05 PM
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Most men don't feel comfortable opening up and being vulnerable with their friends, fearful it will be met with dismissal and mockery. Y'know i've heard people say this about other people, but does anyone feel this way about their friends? If I felt like there's a chance of this they wouldn't be my friends. Anyway, your title sort of dies on arrival to me, bc a man can(as in is able to) find friends to confide in. As some commenters have said already if a man is not actively seeking relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:01 PM
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Which is why the data shows such persistent overlaps between the manosphere and MAGA/right wing/fascist/supremacist/libertarian/etc. ideologies. I think using the blanket term manosphere here is a little unfair. I'm pretty sure I've seen surveys showing incels are on average more left wing than men who have had sex. I just think the types to externalize their suffering are more likely to be right wing. Additionally this is anecdotal but i've seen PUAs across the political spectrum. It's fallen o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:57 PM
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The irony is that most successful long-term relationships start with emotional comfort, friendship, trust, humor, and basic social warmth. But TRP often treats platonic connection as either weakness, manipulation, or a failed sexual strategy. This just isn't true. Most ltrs start online these days, at least according to the data. And even if this were true, it still misses key things that differentiate a relationship from a friendship. If you were next to someone who was your perfect person but …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:53 PM
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To be honest in order to monetize redpill you must be a grifter. The original intent was to open source a guide on how to attract women, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:51 PM
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https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8pVfqGH/ my goat
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:11 PM
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No prob I get it! But yeah. I think having goals I have no control over is really the big problem. The things I actually want in life aren’t in my control. Funny enough, I reread the thread again. Maybe it is a factor of things being too easy? I don’t really like to challenge myself, though…. Hm. Something to think on I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 09:35 PM
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Maybe that’s my problem. I don’t really want anything. A lot of what I have I have because it made the most logical choice for me to do those things. The only thing I want and don’t have is a girlfriend, and it’s not as I can just work hard enough that one will appear in my lap, you know? Lol. When I cook a good meal for my friends I tend to feel how you do though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 09:19 PM
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I wish I was like that- this is essentially a vent post about the way my brain works, lol. I really do enjoy making people happy. That's probably the thing that gets me up in the morning more than anything else. But no schooling or work has ever given me any fulfillment, it's only neutral to dread.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 09:01 PM
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Listen man it's about overall volume not just length bro(coping)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 08:51 PM
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Yeah but I don’t get a feeling of accomplishment I more or less get a feeling of like, that’s how it’s supposed to be? The best I can relate is street fighter bc I’m really good lol. I am not happy that I can perform the motions to do stuff, all just feels right with the world when i can and things are ‘wrong’ when my body and brain are in discordance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 08:48 PM
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I think the circles she operates in the chances of her finding that are very low and hot guys are basically treated like hot women in populations where they are low. Its similar in atlanta.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:47 PM
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Ashley is female freak representation, and I am here for it 🙏 I liked solider boy too, despite what I have said previously! Are you gonna watch the prequel?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:32 PM
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I was about to say, my advice would have been totally different if I knew she was from SF
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:29 PM
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Everyone has their line, lol. I still keep up with the show culturally and I love Ashley! She's one of my favorite characters so when a clip comes up I'm always happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:25 PM
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no bullshit I was on a road trip to Mississippi and back and knew we were close to home because I started to be able to see miles of flat land ahead 🥰 But ok fine I'm probably gonna go to Washington state next year and if I don't care about the hiking there either I'm suing you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:20 PM
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That's what I figured, lol. But damn, if you're off hinge that's tough. Again this is why I ask how large, because the issue with in-person connections really is that you'll be wasting a lot of time finding guys and then finding out you're incompatible because of what's downstairs. Have you tried reddit? 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:15 PM
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You could make a hinge and be insanely direct with what you want, but referencing genitals in your profile might get you banned. Spend money on hinge+, scroll through your likes until you find a dream boat, and then be very up front with him and see if he's down. The thing is, unless the man is a sex worker, you probably won't be able to optimize for amazing first time sex with anyone- there are just too many variables here. If you can find a guy who communicates, can take direction, and is cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:10 PM
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I'm an extremely chill mellow person with zero competitive spirit. I really feel like I wasn't built for grinding. I'm built to be a cheer leader and confidant, because the fulfillment grinders seem to get out of work is what I get out of making people smile. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:04 PM
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Warren Dunes are pretty hilly! Starved Rock is nice too. Nature has just never been my thing my version of being outside is on a patio with a latte
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:00 PM
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There are literally no attractive young men with big dicks that are easy lays & can actually make me cum. How big are you talking and how easy do you finish? Honestly if what you're saying is true you could set up a feeld account, and demand photo proof before meeting. The 'make you cum part' is probably more a function of finding yourself a fwb though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:58 PM
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I think I want the result of my hard work and typically in non dating spheres I get what I wanted- I just don't really get enjoyment out of performing the action it takes to get what I want. I wish I had the quality some people do where the effort seems to feel nice to them instead of dreadful to me. Not everyone is achievement oriented I really wish I was. People who get enjoyment out of goals set are probably happy to work and sweat for the things they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:55 PM
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No, lol. If I'm going to be completely honest with you, I've been on a few hikes with friends. When they stop and admire the view I just kinda pretend I care 😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:45 PM
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Right, I guess I'm saying I'm the latter and I really wish I was the former. I think I'd be much happier if I actually enjoyed the challenge of dating(and other things)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:36 PM
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I will fight high BC women appreciation with my last breath I am with you brother
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:36 PM
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Yeah, women uphold patriarchy pretty harshly. At least for me women have always been the harshest and most unrelenting critics regarding my gender role or my lack of upholding it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:35 PM
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Yes, but I don’t enjoy the process. I thought other people enjoyed the process? Maybe this is just another one of my autistic things I took too literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:27 PM
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Note that you said guy not girl 🥀
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:24 PM
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It's less male/female dynamics and more oppressor/oppressed dynamics. Not that I agree with it but the idea is more that a woman's hate for a man has no systemic power but a man's hate for women does. I don't see how this makes sense to anyone but as far as I can figure that's the justification.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:20 PM
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I do more calisthenics instead of weights so it might be a little bit different. My reward is getting to flex in the mirror and like the way I look. But I don't feel excited because I earned it, I feel excited because I'm closer to feeling the way I want to look. I literally have to get high and not think about how much pain I'm putting myself through when I work out. If I think about it too much I can convince myself not to do it pretty easy, which is why I do calisthenics- no time to talk your…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:17 PM
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Yeah but there's good strange and bad strange and I didn't get the good ones
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:16 PM
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This has never happened to me. Things I work towards that are easy I get no fulfillment out of and things that are hard are just really annoying and then I try not to think about it again I'm not saying I don't work for things- I do. I just hate it the entire time. But being miserable for a little while means I get the thing that I want at the end of the day so I work despite hating it. I wish I was born with the gene that made it feel worth it instead of just necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:08 PM
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I kinda wish I was born able to enjoy and appreciate all the stuff I'm supposed to I guess. I think guys who actually enjoy the chase and get fulfillment out of providing and stuff are probably a lot happier than me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:05 PM
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I will check some of my high school peer's instas sometimes. One guy who was in my class is on broadway now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:04 PM
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I stopped watching it after Butcher betrayed Solider Boy and teamed up with homelander to save ryan. It was just too stupid and I couldn't handle it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:03 PM
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Does hard work make the payoff actually feel worth it to some people or is that made up like people being able to see images in their head or the easter bunny I saw a guy on here say that part of what makes getting a girl so fun for him is the amount of effort it takes to one. I have never once thought to myself "Man I'm sure glad it was hard to do this thing it makes doing this thing more fun" ever in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 05:59 PM
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I think being 'the safe guy' is a huge, huge gamble on your happiness for little reward. If that's what you're advocating for I mean maybe it would work for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:28 PM
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Love is a feeling and an action to me. I feel the feelings of love and commit the actions of love. I can feel love and not do love, or do love and not feel love- both need to be together for a relationship to work to me. Also spark can be built with a lot of people if you work on your skill. I agree with you, but both parties have to want to do it(ie feel invested). The way you describe marriage being mostly effort is how I assume arranged marriages work. They perform love, and sometimes it resu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:22 PM
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Honestly most people are super cool about it! I've gotten really good work out of people who are super excited to work though shit with me!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:13 PM
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I'm confused. Your rebuttal to the comp het guy was that that your attraction would be reciprocated. Now, I think the comp het people are a little crazy but if you don't discard their premise then that attraction could never be reciprocal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:12 PM
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hahah yeah it is a little bit weird to explain it to someone Honestly at first it was but now I just hop into an artist dms and am like 'Sup' and send him 5 pictures of balls from various angles hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:05 PM
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I pay men to draw hentai for me sometimes, and to do that I have to describe what I would like in detail, most likely with pictures, hand written notes, and edits with red line revisions if I'm really invested. It's kinda the worst of both worlds but it doesn't feel gay to me, just a collaborative project. I like when we are both excited about it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:02 PM
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I am a cutie pie and I think I would get along with most people here irl. I feel like a ton of people here have fenced dog syndrome and wouldn't be barking so fervently in person
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:00 PM
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I am talking about finding someone compatible to build a relationship with, not just someone to fuck But you need to find both for them to be a compatible partner. Ands spark is more than just raw physical attraction, it's also mental and emotional connection too- the kind of magnetism you get when someone falls into place with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:47 PM
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She is actually attracted to you = your attraction being reciprocated? lol These aren't equal but aren't both of these conditions necessary to a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:43 PM
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It's your fault if you can't find someone by "following the script" And It's litterally possible to find someone by "following the script". Are different claims. It's possible to find the love of my life doing anything. By 'find someone' do you mean a living breathing human? Yes you're right. But I thought we were searching for compatibility not signs of life. You know you are X and you need Y but you keep chasing the wrong person because of lust or that you felt a spark. Isn't a spark a part of…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:23 PM
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Having it all = She is actually attracted to you? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:18 PM
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We’ve been over this before hotlack 😭 I actually just saw one of the boys I’ve kissed get married a few days ago! Weirdly all the boys I’ve kissed weddings I’ve been to so far….
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:03 AM
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I guess that’s why I think a relationship and a friendship aren’t much different— if I can just turn it on, wouldn’t I be able to do that with anyone I found attractive and interesting? Now, I’m only talking dating here, not a marriage. But I think being a husband is much different than being a boyfriend or a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:02 AM
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It depends if he’s happy then he’s won. If he’s not happy he hasn’t. I’ve been in relationships with very attractive women who sucked and if I didn’t have the self respect to leave maybe people would have thought it was very happy because I had a super hot woman on my arm.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:38 AM
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I miss boys for female attention it’s all equal if you’re willing to do it 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:36 AM
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To me, romantic feelings normally happen from connection attraction and interest, then allowing myself to feel those romantic feelings for someone over time. It’s weird, but I’ve always been able to turn that on and off— I can look at someone with a romantic glow about them, but if I can’t have that person for whatever reason I can just make that feeling go away pretty easily? I’ve had plenty of female friends I’ve decided not to be romantically attracted to and it just shuts it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:34 AM
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This is pretty funny but also I’m extremely afraid of ending up like this guy with no wife in like 8 years
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:25 AM
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That scenario is kind of funny to me because I don’t think this would happen— I think enough people would still want relationships/children once the luster wears off. I think it would only push up the average ‘incel’ age from like 25 to 40 on average, because that’s when they’d want a relationship and be permanently kicked out of the dating market. It’s almost a trap to enjoy the first half of your life much more in exchange for ruining the second half.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:16 AM
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Eh I completely agree with her. An FWB that loves me (that I love to) is what I want out of a relationship. My girlfriend should be a friend before she’s a romantic partner imv and the distinction shouldn’t be that clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:11 AM
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A movie that came out recently basically had the B of the scenario, which is what I was thinking. But he did have a purpose and something to work towards, which I think helped with the sanity of his situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 11:01 PM
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Right I answered based just on the hypothetical— I would select B. I was just curious about the implications of isolation if I were to stretch this hypothetical further.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:55 PM
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I mean I would rather kill myself? But taking these as is B is the only choice I could make. Question— what’s the entertainment situation? I think I could pick A if I could still use the internet/have discord friends or whatever. I don’t think I need my connections to be in person to be meaningful and I can connect just fine through a human over a text channel. If I had no access to entertainment and just A or B I think I would go crazy either way, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:46 PM
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I wasn’t comparing the scenarios through one person making different choices, I was comparing the different rules both groups have for hookups vs a long term relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 03:56 PM
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As a counter point, if the male is not sufficiently attracted to the woman his member won’t work. There needs to be some amount of attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 03:59 AM
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I just went past a girl that ghosted me in an uber. What an interesting life we lead
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 03:59 AM
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I don’t know what you could possibly mean 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 03:58 AM
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My dose isn’t even that much I dunno why I feel like garbage
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 12:24 AM
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Dude I forget all the time but this time it’s especially bad
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 12:23 AM
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I’m going to fr start getting into witch craft. I think maybe these Wiccan girls are onto something bc they seem happier than me Also completely unrelated DONT skip your meds for even a day I feel like absolute shit howwwww was this my baseline before
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 11:28 PM
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Nice guys I know seem to want to hide in the dark and have women come to them. They think that somehow being nice will attract people they aren't social or confident people. They don't have the courage to go up to a girl and talk to her. This doesn't sound like nice guy syndrome as much as it sounds like social anxiety. Not having the courage to go up to a girl is not Nice Guy behavior. Hell, if I can help it I will live my entire life without cold approaching a girl. I have no desire to. They t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:32 PM
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For the record, plenty of habits we have as an adult were modeled for us as a child. You're calling it coddling, but I think that's unfair to tease someone for an unlearned skill most people didn't have to work for. I understand not condoning poor behavior but I don't think demeaning verbiage has ever changed anyone's mind or helped them out. Because if that's how bad things are then men have a to do a lot of work. It's not a lot of work. A lot of it is just realizing that transactional relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:14 PM
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Are men so lost that basic ideas need to modeled to adult men for them to have any level of understanding. Adult men were once boys. Men my age and a bit younger also had to deal with covid which stunted the social growth of a lot of up and coming young adults and teenagers. Look, I'm sure you and I both did the work to unpack destructive ideas. But not everyone has done that work, and they have stuck to biases they have crafted about the world unchallenged until the moment they're faced with it…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:51 PM
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I'm a munch this is my whole brand
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:18 PM
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My friends probably would have to do this at least twice to make me talk to a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:04 PM
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I would rather be alone. I really mulled over this question, but ultimately I don't think I could get over the self hate and frustration that would come with having this partner in my space that didn't desire me sexually, for the rest of my life. I would feel like I settled for something I so deeply didn't want. I would probably be a terrible partner because I'd be irritable, never want to lay or cuddle with her, and just spend time away.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:00 PM
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I remember that survey, that was actually shocking to me. I really can't believe that women expect over 80% of their preferences to be met. I think I'm hoping for over half. 51% is all I'm asking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:24 PM
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I think it's fun 🥰 The last girl I was with I would just make her finish enough times that she let me tongue her ass till I was bored after. I miss her 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:09 PM
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I didn't say anything about trusting strange men- I don't trust strange men. I don't trust stranger women either, but I'm a paranoid person haha. I specifically said a friend. I have surrounded myself with kind and empathetic people. But that hasn't been always the case and everyone has their own blind spots. I've heard women extremely irate about male friends who have asked them out. I have zero qualms with men being treated with wariness- stranger danger after all. But I do think that a lot of…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:07 PM
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I don't really care about fucking it but have you ever ate ass? I don't think I can go back 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:01 PM
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I understand and thank you. But being treated as one of those other men is very annoying. It's taken a lot of inner work to brush off being constantly treated like some unemotional oaf or covert misogynist. I as I am now would probably be fine with it, but I don't know how 16 year old me would have been reacted to being rejected by my friend and then accused of being a fake friend for some long con.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:59 PM
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To the point where our birthday may become a lesson in hosting, empathy, and taking care of the people around you versus focusing on yourself It's funny you say this because my friend group has a culture of going all out for their own birthdays, for the enjoyment of other people. I'm already planning mine, and am thinking of renting out a bar for the evening. I do understand what you mean though, and of course I have some male friends that don't do this. So, a man may think he is ok with a woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:40 PM
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I get that. I think for a lot of socially stunted men, real altruism hasn't been modeled. If you go on the internet, or even just read the news, you see nothing but objectively bad people get whatever they want. That combined with people (also on the internet) saying both that kindness attracts women and equating men to the kind of monsters we are talking about(the kind that get on tv/social media, like abusers) can make some of these guys think that just by not being an active criminal they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:29 PM
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I wasn't arguing with you- I was outlining how myself, as a male, feel about dating a virgin. I figured it was relevant because you were speculating on how men feel. I figured it was a worthwhile comment because I am a man who dislikes dating virigin women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:44 PM
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In my experience, I wouldn't call them crazy, but most women who are a virgin at my age are doing so intentionally, because they see purity as a virtue. I think the entire idea is cringe and would not date anyone with those values.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:42 PM
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Maybe you don’t. Apologies— when I said ‘women’ I meant some women, just like I’m sure the entire thread up everyone else only meant ‘some’ men. But I definitely know women irl that do this. I know some women in this subreddit who have said that they have different criteria for casual as opposed to serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:40 PM
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Are you saying not really as in it's not equivalent, or not really as in it doesn't happen? Because it definitely happens. I know women who do this. I've seen other men talk about it. I promise you it's not made up out of thin air, lol. Women on this subreddit have said it, though in different words (i.e. "Hot men who are boring I just fuck and then discard, do you want to be treated like an object?"). If the equivalence is your argument, please enlighten me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:07 PM
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I actually have a great example. I'm into anal- not everyone is. I would be sad if my partner wasn't interested in me playing with her butt at all. But, that would be something I would try to get over because it's her body, and obviously I'm into her personality if I'm with her. I suppose it is settling, but I never once thought I could get everything I've ever wanted in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:00 PM
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Well, it's like I just said. Women do a mirrored version.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 01:57 PM
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I looked through this thread in its entirety at this point, and only like 5 women said they would have casual sex if the orgasm gap didn’t exist, and a few of them had casual sex before. I find it interesting that people use the others gap as an argument when it seems like women don’t really care about it. The safety and std argument seems like the one most people focus on in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 01:14 PM
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That’s not true— I and a few men I know do not want to date a virgin. I’m looking for marriage but I don’t believe that sex is such a big deal and so sacred— so I have no interest in people who observe sex as something only for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 01:08 PM
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Bad from a red pill man’s perspective. That’s why he’s saying this is a female sexual strategy that benefits women and ‘costs’ men, just like how the ‘for fun’ and ‘for marriage’ girl idea is a male sexual strategy that benefits men. I don’t agree with it but that’s the gist I’m pretty sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 01:04 PM
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Yeah pretty much. If I’m neutral, I don’t mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:02 AM
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Well I answered depending on the act, lol. I think her intention is to find out if the reason men want women to do things that their exes did before them is bc of insecurity, a sense of fairness, or some other reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:47 PM
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I'm less willing to stay with a person if they had an active dislike of what I'd like to do. I don't know why, but I feel like I could try to get over something that was physically impossible for someone over distaste.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:01 PM
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I tried my best to answer the question as stated, but I don't think most (normal) people here think in the way the OP is trying to lead them into. I'm sure men like the people she's thinking about exist but they are a minority. I think she used a great example, because it's an example those same minority of men have used.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:53 PM
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In this scenario, I am the kind of person that desires anal sex enough that I would potentially leave a girl over it? Then yes- I would feel flattered, and probably hold that story close to my heart, but if I wanted anal sex that badly I wouldn't let the highest compliment anyone's ever given me distract me from my mission, lol. Me as the person I am now? As long as I still get to eat it I don't mind one bit. I'd probably love my life less if she didn't even let me do that but I'd try to get ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:48 PM
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it's like when somebody tries to understand the feeling of jealousy in a relationship when you've never been in a relationship I've been in relationships and I am not a jealous person- I think people are just different. These are the people watching these guys https://youtu.be/v-pLb5VvnjM?si=HLRcoyCRidiYI2Mg
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:51 PM
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But wouldn't the gen alpha broccoli haired kids be the most influenced by the influencers people say target young children? They are the tate demographic not this 29 yr old unc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:33 PM
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I think you will find you have to be far from perfect in either. I just don't want you to put perfect ahead of good, because you've been running yourself in circles with this for a while. Consider trying, and iterating when you fail, instead of trying to reach a peak before trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:51 PM
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Inhibition is just an anxiety and confidence issue. If you can do it drunk you can do it sober. You can try it sober if you want- just make sure you are able to speak to women and be willing to dig for what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:49 PM
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That's the only one that doesn't piss me off and even then, I don't want any person enough to pay for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:44 PM
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Alcohol doesn't make you a different person it removes your inhibitions. If you can get laid drunk it means you literally just need to chill out, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:43 PM
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Why do you need to find casual sex sober? I can understand wanting to have it sober, but not why anything before hand has to matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:40 PM
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They can't name 3 black people bro that's not chronically online 😭 They are probably happier than pretty much all of us here tho
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:39 PM
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I'm ngl I got very lucky, but have you considered just going on tinder getting really intoxicated and start spamming boosts until someone with short term looking matches with you? I mean sure it'll cost money but atp it's probably worth it for your mental health
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:37 PM
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I feel like all the male boys in the video disagreeing with him proves that this guy is an outlier in your own video lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:36 PM
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I don't really agree on this guy with much else but yes, as long as I'm physically capable I should want to please my partner. Not all the time or every single day, but if I notice I'm neglecting her needs I would consider it a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:01 PM
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I imagine it must cover more surface area.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 04:04 PM
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I need to stop reading arguments in favor of paying for dates and the effort men and women put into early dating because nothing turns me more red pill. They are all so terrible- bioessentialism at the absolute best. No one has a good justification and they just call you a misogynist if you say you don't like the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:57 PM
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Sex work is cool and based and they should be able to create a union have healthcare and anyone who assaults a sex worker should be put on the sex offender database for the rest of their life. I see absolutely no reason why that shouldn't be an option for people. If anything, I want for basic income to rise to the point where sex work is an option, but not such a wildly lucrative option for young women that it eclipses other forms of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:14 PM
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straight men disgust by gay sex Wait what about being straight means I need to be disgusted by gay sex. I don't want to do it, but I wouldn't say it's disgusting. Thinking on it it's probably on the same level to me as getting my legs waxed. I don't want to do it, but it doesn't seem disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:10 PM
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That's a pretty common response too, the ghosting lol. And sometimes, but I think this behavior is pretty universal. Most often I'm arguing with the women on this subreddit and get this all the time, too. I personally think it's a failure on their part to not see the person they're arguing with as an individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:06 PM
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Normally I just hard call them out and ask why they attribute things to me I never said and don't continue to engage until they wrestle with that. You'd be surprised how many people start floundering when you just refuse to accept a position they attribute to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:01 PM
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Sometimes people decide they don't want to debate you, they want to debate the you they made up in their brains.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:57 PM
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He's lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:56 PM
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I would pay 65 dollars for a pair of sandals but they look fine. Not very striking to me but if they're comfortable I'd go for it Edit: Also you made me check the converse store. Ew wtf are these SHAI 001
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:55 PM
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Very Real but also she texted me back 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:54 PM
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Hmm? I didn’t mean to imply you thought that. The second paragraph was to share my personal feelings on a sexless relationship as an Allosexual male. The first paragraph was the one directly addressing you about the ‘not needing to have sex to have love’ thing. I tried to use ‘romantic relationship’ to separate that sort of love from familiar or platonic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:48 PM
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Elders still have sex. Senior homes are hotbeds for STDs because the seniors fuck around. Virgins also want to have sex— and asexuals are not Allosexuals. I would argue that most moderate to high libido people need to have some sex to be in a monogamous relationship, barring circumstances like health and pregnancy. Even if you’re right that sex is not required for a relationship, to me, the idea of a relationship without sex is very similar to loving a woman with a million dollars in debt. I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:43 PM
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Parenthood isn't. That's a choice. Raising a child is elective. If you mean this in the sense of being a meaningful parent to your child, I agree with you. If you are talking about being in the possession of a child and being their legal guardian for 18 years, plenty of women are forced by their husbands/communities to be mothers when they don't want to be, or they are shamed into thinking they should want it when they don't. I hope it goes well. Thank you me too! I have a female friend who want…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:16 PM
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I come from a traditional household where my mom is the homemaker and my dead is the breadwinner. They had two kids in cul-de-sac and a brown fence, not a white one, lol. Anyway, my parents have been married longer than I've been alive and all but one of their friends have remained in their first marriage. I guess I never thought it wouldn't happen for me, but I did not want a traditional woman nor to be a traditional man. I don't especially like the dynamic my dad has with my mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:09 PM
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We're starting to get there. We aren't there yet. Esp not in cultures that are heavily influenced by religion. Yeah, I live in a major city with a blue state. My upbringing is probably more progressive than average, I'm biased. Worse than not having kids, better than knee replacement surgery. I don't think pregnancy is always elective like your other two examples, unfortunately. I think an unwanted pregnancy you resent is much different than deciding to have kids and then later coming to find ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:48 PM
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That doesn’t mean most women view it that way. we’re living in a different age. Well, I'm talking about people who actually have kids, not people who theory craft it. Your brain literally produces hormones that make you want to love and protect the baby- and we are only animals. Having a baby literally will change your mind(in most cases) Most women care about having a career I don't think this is true. I think it looks that way because both of us are privileged- the average person does not have…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:24 PM
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Old and childfree... Regret is fairly rare. Depending on your favorite study, as little as 4% have regret - almost entirely what's called "whistful regret," which is an interest in what could've been without a legitimate desire for that outcome. I think in prior generations the choice to not have children is a very intentional, counter culture idea for a woman. I think a lot of people in this generation are not trying to rebel against culture, because the wider culture accepts this as a choice f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:15 PM
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Well I don't wanna beat her up 🫠
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:40 PM
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I'm extremely low maintenance, maybe this is just a season of anxiety for me. But I really feel breadcrumbed. Whether or not I can tolerate it is another question. I was joking to my therapist about me being the girl in this situation, with a guy texting once every week and the girl totally strung along. 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:39 PM
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Yeah that's why I don't care a lot of the time you get bored of saying the same thing over and over
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:11 PM
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I am not emotionally hurt by people who choose to spend their day debating red pill vs blue pill, lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:06 PM
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Crumbs might be better than an empty plate though....
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:05 PM
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In your life? I super disagree. I see people talk all the time that having a child has been the hardest thing they have ever done and also the most rewarding.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:04 PM
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Even working purely within your mindset(which I don't agree with btw) why couldn't you hate your own gender? There are self hating members of every tribe.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:03 PM
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I'm not gonna lie it depends entirely on my personal emotional state. I can tolerate a lot when I'm having a good week.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:53 PM
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Hannah I'm weak
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:47 PM
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It makes you so cautious which I think is bad. I want to believe people actually want to date me but how could I trust that any date is going right or any pause in communication is the last time I ever speak to them? It definitely sucks but that bated breath waiting wastes my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:47 PM
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Unironically at this point I am getting desperate and might spend a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:18 PM
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I'm pretty sure I am ghosted again and ngl if she truly hits the 48 hour mark I am not going to hit her up again. Man, it does suck when you turn out to really like someone and it doesn't work out. Back to hinge I guess. Watch me betray my values if she texts me back though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:55 PM
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I am not sure anyone will be happy in 30 years when that comes true. Like, I understand the appeal of being single and childless- every year I age I wonder if I would be happy to have a child right now and the answer is always no. I love my life too much. But I see children as an investment in your future, something to cultivate and the ultimate thing a human can do- and unfortunately you can't wake up tomorrow and have a baby in your arms. I very much wonder how many of the people saying they'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:29 PM
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I would honestly guess that Chicago has a lot more in common with the coasts than rural Ohio, haha. And yes, I think people my age(including me) are more passive than previous generations. It kinda only matters that men are passive though, since Gen Z women have been conditioned to expect men to approach while also not knowing how to signal interest. Everyone’s kind of stumbling blindly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:51 PM
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...I think women are likely to feel a lot less like they're under constant siege, and more like it's both safe to make the first move, and also that that's the only way to get a date. This just hasn't been my lived experience at all and I'm 27. Maybe Gen Alpha will more like this. Online I read lots of stuff about 'who's gonna be the boys' because women are irritated by men not initiating anymore- I've gone searching for female focused dating advice and it's never had to do with initiating. Of c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:10 PM
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🥰🥰🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:21 PM
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Probably the idea that something is better than nothing. A lot of men here think that being in a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all. I've been in a very bad relationship. Would I do it again? Fuck no. It's still causing my life stress. But would I go back in time and stop it from happening? Also no. She was so hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:12 PM
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I just talk to women like they're people, but I don't talk to people like I want to fuck them 😔 I'm also not very masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:00 PM
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Yes and honestly I prefer having sex high
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:00 PM
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Lol It's a castlevania reference
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:59 PM
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Results matter I agree- that's why finding out what I have cultivated is not actually something women regard when they are just starting to get to know you. I(and many men here) need to figure out how to be attractive, and no one but the red pill has any solutions on how to do that. And trust me, I do act like myself, I ask questions, I have hobbies and am interested in her hobbies and her life as well. That's not sending sexual signals.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:34 PM
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Do I sound pissy about it? Genuinely. I just got really sad and needed a lot of therapy about it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:01 PM
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But that obviously doesn’t matter very much, which also annoys us My positive traits for a ltr do not matter to me yet because I have not made it long enough to show off those attractive qualities. I could be a 10/10 or a 0/10 when it comes to ltr qualities, but since I've never got there my concern is not on step 10 when I have not completed step 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 04:55 PM
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though I suspect more will with less harassment) This might come off as aggressive and I'm not intending to sound aggressive, I just don't know how else to word this question: Why do you think this will be the case? I like to think I hang out in pretty progressive spaces, and the conversation between approaching as a man and not approaching is a huge matter of debate even irl in my experience. Every woman has their own preference and at least where I am it's like literally 50/50. But what is alm…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 04:30 PM
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I agree with your topic and the first paragraph but the rest falls apart for me. I do not think women feel that approaching is submissive, they just see it as part of the male gender role and the tango that is courting. A lot of this is based on traditionally masculine framing, but the logic doesn't hold up for me. If the woman wants a traditionally masculine man, she shouldn't be doing all this. But yes in general I think men should not approach women for their own mental health. If you can wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 04:26 PM
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I don't think that's the way I would put it. It's more like... Imagine you wanted to be a boxer. And everyone your whole life(by your perception) told you that your legs were important. So you trained your legs and your footwork every day. Then, you step into the ring for the first time, and find out while footwork is important it doesn't matter if you can't swing a good punch. It's anger at the idea that we have honed a tool that is worthless for romantic relationship building. What's even wors…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 04:21 PM
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A miserable pile of secrets!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 04:15 PM
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I don't think this is true. I think natures can't really be changed- in a way, I wish I was causally confident. I'm not. I'm gentle, soft spoken, anxious, and nerdy. But I do look at the guy I would describe as an asshole and wish I had his success with women. And it makes me feel a sense of dissonance because despite you guys saying it didn't actually happen, I grew up thinking if I was nice and sweet enough someone would end up liking me. Then I became a teenager and then adult and found out n…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 04:14 PM
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😁 I know it feels like when someone rage quits on me in video games
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 03:09 PM
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They’ll bitch about the quality of women theyre getting, as I also had mentioned. They care about the consequences very much, they will blame those consequences on women and society. I agree. I share no love for those men so I do not care to defend them. What traits did they display that was obviously a red flag? The one guy I know for sure was mean, anti social, and did not share her values at all. He was the kind of guy that tried to direct who she hung out with and what she wore. But he was v…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 03:09 PM
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Someone just blocked me mid debate https://youtu.be/5zHL7x0zI40?si=7hnA9G4b0g_-ZslR
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 03:00 PM
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The point of what? Are we talking about being an asshole, or are we talking about being a criminal. The men I was referring to were not criminals, just people with low empathy and respect for other humans, abrasive personality, mocking personality, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 02:52 PM
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.....We are talking about being an asshole, right? Being an abuser or a murderer is not being an asshole, it's being a criminal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 02:47 PM
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All I've done is tell you what I have experienced in real life. I have been in the room with female friends and watched their partner act in ways I would consider assholeish towards them, silently think that guy is bad news, and then watch the tower eventually fall when she finally releases him. Those men were not hot and, even if they were, that’s not what got them “in the door”. Being hot is what gets everyone in the door. Most everyone has some sort of attraction threshold, and most people ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 02:46 PM
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They do and wont STFU about it. Incels, blackpill, redpill, etc. They all care about rejection. Because they dont like that women can choose to not tolerate them. By 'those people' I meant the assholes getting girls, not pillers. …….. a wolf in sheep clothing isn’t a new concept. Do you know how many vile criminals were pillars of their communities? But I'm telling you they weren't wolves in sheeps clothing. They were just wolves my friends went 'Maybe it's a puppy!' over. It had to bite a few t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 02:33 PM
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Part of being an asshole is a lack of empathy, and typically misogyny comes packaged with it. These men do not care about rejection because they do not value the opinions of women, and with enough bird shot you will eventually hit a bird. I think most men think that being an asshole is bad, and yet I am someone who also looks around me and notices that all of my friends have had a shitty asshole ex that did x y and z. And these are women I like and respect. But what it tells me is that while bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 01:54 PM
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Oooh wow that sounds good. I miss apples, fruit is so expensive these days 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 01:06 PM
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I did them over medium, and then plastered some green tabasco sauce on top. Did you make brekky?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 12:59 PM
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Kind of? It would make me no longer enjoy the sex to know that those were her feelings about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 12:50 PM
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2 eggs!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 12:47 PM
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I cooked breakfast and made coffee today but now I'm at work and my stummy hurt 😔😔😔😔 How is everyone doing today
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 12:19 PM
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Well, it's less that I think she thinks it's bad. It's more that if I knew my wife felt the way this woman felt about me/our sex, I would find that to be a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 12:16 PM
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Probably. I really can’t do it any more. If a girl is my friend or know my friends she’s already deeply entrenched in my life, and if the relationship doesn’t work out I have no desire to try to navigate that minefield. My social life is still fucked from the girl I dated two years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:36 AM
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I don’t hate women like red pillers do but if there was a button that would make me actually not attracted to women anymore I’d push it a million times
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:20 AM
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Based on the way she wrote it it sounds like super cope on her end
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:19 AM
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You’re not ‘women’ you’re one person and so am I. Both of you should be doing all the things you ah e both outlined.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:18 AM
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The exact opposite is true actually, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:14 AM
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I’m sobbing you guys both just said very reasonable things both partners should be doing and attributed it to their genders 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:40 AM
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Right, and I just don’t think it’s kind or worth saying, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:42 PM
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Yeah I know, and I’m saying I think it’s cringe to complain about complaining. When something annoys me I roll my eyes internally.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:30 PM
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Right? 😭 I don’t know why people get so angry when other people complain. When people whine about their life I can decide to engage if I wanna help or keep scrolling. There are so many posts here where I’ve half written something and then decided midway through I don’t actually care. It’s so optional 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 09:59 PM
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I just don't see why people get so angry about whining on the internet. You can just decide not to read it, it's not like real life where you're locked into the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:07 PM
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haha, fair. I think dating someone even for one evening is quite fun
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 04:14 PM
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I could change that 😏(by taking u out on a nice day on the town of course)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 04:02 PM
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I don't really know what other dudes call wife material. For me, what would make a woman wife material is that I really liked talking to her, we share the same values, I can trust her, and the sex is really good. I think any woman I hang out with and don't feel drained after would feel like wife material to me. And then men put the most value on sex in debates here, there is nothing except sex it feels like. So one, why should women want to be wife material if doesn't seem like men want relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:58 PM
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Sure! I have changed the baseball picture and the creepy last picture I just didn't feel like re screenshotting, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:08 PM
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You remind me of my younger brother who told me that he can be much more strongly turned on by a hot porn actor than by the actress or by pictures of hot naked men, wha- He struggles with relationship with girls Is he bi? lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:04 PM
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Do you think I’m ugly 🥺 This is my hinge I posted here a while ago but I’ve updated it a lil
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:50 PM
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It’s absolutely easier once you get past the looks threshold all you have to do is show her a good time
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:46 AM
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I think you meant to send this to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:43 AM
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I completely agree with you this has been my question here for ages. It's literally not even hard
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:48 AM
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The men complaining about him don’t merely want a gf who thinks they are attractive they want women to desire them sexually despite being a convict based on their mug shot but Jeremy has model tier looks and you don’t so why the hell would you expect that? I think what the men here are arguing is that they don't understand why Jeremy is treated the way he is compared to the way they are treated. when they aren't a convict. Like yes, it's looks- but that's their argument, that personality doesn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:45 AM
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I was assuming bloodlusted for all parties involved
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:00 PM
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I think 2 is too much already Yeah, I'm granting the guy too much stamina. He'd get tired out for sure. And yeah that guy is weird and wrong lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:00 PM
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Yeah I do kinda think the average guy could take two women in an open field, but I think 3 is just too many people to account for much less 4. They could even jump you in groups of two and alternate when they get tired.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:53 PM
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Honestly I'm a lot like that, which is why I think I'm able to handle the lack of communication. I just want to set plans, lol. To be completely honest yeah it's a harsh world and since it's a harsh world I am going to try to escalate sex quicker before she ghosts me LOL I wouldn't feel this way if she didn't seem interested on the date and when she does reply so idk it doesn't seem like a bad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:16 PM
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I need the reality check tbh, lol. It makes me really feel like I should be multi dating if this is how it's gonna be, tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:06 PM
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This is what I'm thinking too 🙄 but i'm just trying not to be pessimistic and have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 01:39 PM
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😭This girl I went on a date with is so non communicative. I can tell she's into me but she only texts me once a fortnight. It wouldn't be so big a problem but if I'm trying to plan a date I only get like 2 exchanges before the week is up. I'm just gonna give her a place and a time and not think about it I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 01:34 PM
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This is horrible and he was a rapist. This isn't a male brain coded moment this is the mind of someone who knowingly and intentionally committed sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 01:30 PM
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It's honestly probably the F City Elf origin. They do a really good job of showing off the elves as the second class citizen, and I loved playing my rogue elf with the knowledge of what humans did to her. Roleplaying with the backstory is some of the greatest parts and the city elf's trauma fits with the way I play the game, lol. How about you? What's your favorite? Is it the Circle now?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:47 PM
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I watched YYH but when I was a little little kid. I'll have to rewatch it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:44 PM
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Mmm I like that! Funny enough, that's what my current mage character is based on, kinda. She's a luchador who's magic is fueled by kayfabe, and the idea that the spectacle of wrestling is real because it makes me feel. And yeah, I got a tiktok reminding me about the city elf origin. That was the second one I played, after the mage, and it entirely changed how I felt about city elves. I learned so much about apartied playing dragon age; I knew it existed, but I really did understand what it was l…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:39 PM
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Since you didn't desire him though, that's what I was confused about. I can understand being attracted to someone and having bad sex with them, but not not being attracted to someone and then having bad sex. If they're gonna be ugly they better fuck good at least 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:26 PM
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Yeah tell me about it, that's the problem with those weight gainer smoothies they are like 45% of your daily intake of sugar! I'm trying to get into fruit smoothies but those are sugar bombs too...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:24 PM
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I guess I meant anything, but I haven't heard of either should I check them out 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:21 PM
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Genuine question, why have bad sex with someone you don't like? Even with random hookups I care a lot about the woman feeling pleasured.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:19 PM
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I care a lot about calories because I'm trying to eat more, lol. When I was tracking my normal caloric intake it was hovering around 1.6k a day which is not good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:18 PM
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This is a textbook feeder fetish
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:18 PM
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I think actually, playing the city elf origin as a female elf in Dragon age origins as a kid made me more of a feminist than any media has before or since. Can you guys think of any media that formed or radically changed your ideas on different subjects?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:15 PM
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I feel like you're not reading my posts in the context that I'm writing it in. You're responding to things that are already addressed or make no difference to the comments I've made or the analogies I've used. Yes, usually a want. What does this have to do with what we're talking about? They didnt need to cheat. They wanted to cheat. What does this have to do with what we're talking about? Because most relationships are monogamous. Open relationships are a thing. What does this have to do with w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:47 PM
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This is a deflection, but I'll bite anyway. Love and sex are not the only reasons to be in a relationship. People who love each other and want to have sex with each other are not in relationships for all sorts of reasons. Relationships are voluntary and yet everyone has requirements for them to continue to exist. Cheating is the easiest example. Most people require fidelity to remain in a relationship. In other words, need. If I say 'I require sex in order to remain in a romantic relationship, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:37 PM
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Yes, you want to ski. In order to ski, you need skis. Can you agree with this sentence?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:23 PM
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Are we talking about a person with a disability? What “personal needs”? There are contexts in which you have requirements, or needs, to participate in voluntary endeavors. You require, therefore need, skis to go skiing. Are you going to argue that you 'want' skis to go skiing? It can't be a want in that case- skis are required to ski. A relationship isn’t a need either. Relationships are voluntary. Cupcakes are not a need. It is a requirement, and therefore a need, for her to remain in a relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:20 PM
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Similarly, “Sex is a need” and “sex makes me feel loved” instead of just admitting you just really want sex. Why? Because you want to create some sort of sense of moral obligation from another person to give you sex and to make them feel bad when they don’t give you what you want. Nope, you don't get to sneak this in here. Your own personal needs within the confines of a relationship are not the same at all to your other examples. Your other examples prescribe motive to the other person because …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:09 PM
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My ideal woman dresses pretty similar to me- we can share the same closet. Oversized hoodies and baggy pants, chucks and docs, etc., but she can be more colorful than me. Edit: Oh, and I like it when a woman wears revealing clothing. I think it's attractive and that stands if she were my girlfriend. I want the kind of partner confident enough to be exposed. I think what I'm interested in is a communication of non seriousness and casual enjoyment. Probably emo/punk/grunge/hyperpop/dariacore music…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:53 PM
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😬…not my cup of tea. I won’t tell you what to do but, yeah. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:50 PM
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Has your boyfriend ever been in a fight? I have this feeling like he’s talking big shit and braggadocios when he thought he’d never have to deal with something like this, but confronted in the moment he froze. He might be embarrassed. That’s my prognosis anyway, assuming he’s never been in a violent confrontation. No one knows how they’re going to react when threatened— and someone catcalling his partner might have triggered his flight fight or freeze response.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:37 PM
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Well that’s why I asked if she was dismissing her feelings or his lack of response. The former means a bad partner, the latter means embarrassment to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:25 PM
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That’s why I wanna know how close he is, lol. If the catcaller yelled “damn girl!” As we are walking between bars I am not gonna turn around and confront him. A guy coming up to her and trying to spit game, I would say something more to your affect. The kind of guy impulsive enough to catcall is also impulsive enough to start violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:18 PM
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I think a “fuck you buddy!” Is absolutely not worth it in any scenario. This only invites confrontation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:16 PM
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To get a full picture, I’m asking what the other guy did to try to picture the scene. But what it sounds like he just talks big. This is why I don’t talk big, haha. Is he dismissive about your feelings over being catcalled, or is he dismissive over not being the protective man he talked big about. If it’s the former I think this is something that needs to be addressed. If he is just a bit of a pussy, you can figure out if that’s something you can tolerate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:15 PM
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Is this real? How old are you? This probably isn't the best subreddit for this but I'll answer if you want it lmao. Anyway, there a lot of reasons. How far was this guy from you? If he wasn't close it's definitely assault for your partner to run up on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:03 PM
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My friend kinda did this(went with a girl I dated and broke up with) and yeah now he's not invited to my other friend's bachelor party...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:24 PM
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But alc makes me sickly 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:18 PM
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I do think that a lot of the time it's because in order to date long enough to see if you like the girl in the first place, you have to get her to like you enough to continue to allow you to ask her out. It can be a very hard tight rope to walk between trying to be charming while also not wanting to love bomb, and to be frank a lot of women think in covert contracts where sex = relationship. It's bad enough that while I'm comfortable with sex on the first date I know I shouldn't because I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:06 PM
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I've been surprised before! I used to swipe left on some pretty girls because I thought it was a no, but i've surprised myself!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 06:46 PM
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This is true for a lot of people and situation, though. Bullies in school were never the popular kids it was the kids that were only barely cooler than the kids they bullied. It's an insecurity over a thinly held status.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 06:41 PM
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I wouldn’t. It’s not fun and it’s not worth it— I can swipe on someone else who I don’t already see an orange flag on the play for.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 06:22 PM
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Sorry, I stepped away from my desk for forgive me for not being able to highlight over each point the way I’d like to do. That’s not true— 4B and decentering men are not the same. Maybe we have different definitions of what decentering means— using your definition, I believe even less that men are capable of this in any meaningful capacity. While that’s nice in theory, the reason why the clergy in western religions are so well respected is because they give up worldly happiness to devote to god.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 06:20 PM
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While I sort of agree that it’s hard to sympathize with some issues that it feels like women might do to themselves in your opinion, I think the best way to operate for life in general is to understand that not everyone is like you and will have different emotions and tolerances to you. I don’t think you need to understand an issue to empathize with the emotions people are feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 06:10 PM
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Before I decide to push back on this what country are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 06:07 PM
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Yes, it is through orgasm. I don't think I could be with a woman who couldn't orgasm, I would find it extremely distressing. I don't mind being with women who take a long time- I've been there before and don't mind being down there for an hour. My first girlfriend was ace and I couldn't handle that, even. The idea that someone wanted to have sex to make me happy really bothered and bothers me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:59 PM
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I think that women are better at finding happiness in less than ideal situations than men are. In the case of dating and relationships, I do not agree at all. I think women are better about this because their is no doubt that they are desired. Now, is this desire inflicted on them a good thing? It's not my place to say. However, a side effect of this desire is that while decentering men most women know that this doesn't disqualify them from the dating market(unless they voluntarily opt out of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:56 PM
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No, I don't think they can. I think it's mostly about sexual validation. My sexual validation hinges on the woman enjoying it, but if men at large cared about a woman's orgasm, even a ONS's orgasm, we wouldn't hear so much about the orgasm gap. I do however think if you can get sexual validation in other ways one could enjoy prostitutes just fine. I think that's why married men and men with means are more likely to have sex with prostitutes and enjoy it. They know they're chosen sexually- this i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:46 PM
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But women self report that they are perfectly happy with pets, their friends and family, social clubs and communities at much higher rates than men report satisfaction with similar opportunities. There is definitely a gendered difference in how severe this issue is on average, and while I am willing to be convinced otherwise I don't think it's socialization enforcing this. Just scroll down the thread to find women very happy with their decentering of men. Most of the posters I recognize in this …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:40 PM
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Anyone who says "Don't waste my time" feels like a red flag to me. Using bio space to complain doesn't give me a lot of hope you're not going to be a complainer irl
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:31 PM
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Ooh this seems fun. I wanna swipe and see mine. I've never asked for nudes before- a few of my female friends have gotten very immediate sex requests though, and I think 1 or 2 have been asked for nudes. I'd probably date #2 out of all of them if I got to pick. Maybe 14 if I found her very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:30 PM
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😱 if it makes you feel any better I take a break when I'm in a relationship so I'm only here when I'm not dating!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:26 PM
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Wait being excited to explain yourself is an autism thing? Fuck The only time I don't reply is if it's outside of working hours hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:19 PM
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I don't think it's true that the vast majority of men find these things acceptable replacements for family or at the very least romantic and sexual validation. I think many men find purpose in those things because they in some way build resources for future provision. I think that's why you see so much disconnect and crash outs over why different tricks to a fulfilling life don't 'earn' a woman. And why so many men say that if they knew they would never attract a woman they would do the bare min…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:18 PM
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Men need a purpose. If it's not a family then what is it? It could be faith, sports, a weighlifting club, work, the military... Do you think any of these are adequate replacements for a family for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:04 PM
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I really want to respond to this guy multiple times because I'm having fun debating but I don't wanna annoy them why must I be like this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 04:46 PM
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Agreed. But we still expect them to manage it. Explanation is not exemption. I agree. That's all you can do, or you can crumble. I don't really think there are other options here- I'm not a state mandated girlfriend kind of person. Yeah, that part is lazy. Some people genuinely struggle romantically despite being normal people. I think genuine acknowledgement of this fact would go a long way towards coping about this. I think so many men whine about validation on the internet because it is extre…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 04:32 PM
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My issue is with treating that bleed as inevitable total collapse. Plenty of people have serious unmet needs: money, health, family, friendship, purpose. They still have to build around the damage instead of letting it consume everything. I don't exactly disagree, but plenty of people fall into despair for all of the reasons listed. My argument is just that this is another failing unique to men(apparently) that can cause them to spiral out of control. Sure, you shouldn't do it, but you shouldn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:59 PM
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Echoing the other comments here, it doesn't really have anything to do with physical release to me. It's more about the validation of someone choosing to do this with you, care about your pleasure like you do hers, etc. I think that I could delude myself into thinking the sex worker is enjoying it too, but that sounds like a miserable existence and is prone to crash.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:44 PM
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Surely you're smart enough to see the difference? I hope so. Honestly, the only difference in those two statements is how bad a day I'm currently having, lol. But seriously, I do think it's a matter of how poorly the rest of your life is going. If you have all tens in every other category, you're probably going to be able to ignore the lack of relationship until you're home. If any of the other ones dip however, your average dips much harder than someone who was just average in every category. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:40 PM
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My point is that a lot of men turn not having those things into a judgement on their entire worth. It is burdensome on your self worth to receive rejection. While I understand the idea that rejection should not affect your own self assessment, no human being lasts for an extended period of time without some external validation. And like you said- this is about self worth in it's entirety. I think there are many men who think of themselves as good, worthy people, except in romance where they feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:22 PM
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A lot of men are still trapped in the old script where sex and relationships are the main proof of masculine success. I don't think this is true, I don't think most men get into a relationship for the validation of other men. Maybe it's true for a certain kind of man, but everyone in my life who's gotten a romantic relationship has done so with the intention of connection and sex. No sex means humiliation. I don't think this is patriarchy in action here. I think men desire sex strongly and a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:50 PM
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Valid, I think it's pretty individual. I do love taking those color tests and doing the hard ones for fun, it's taught me more about color than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:38 PM
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I don't know, I feel like if I actually lock in I can see the woman colors. It's very rare I can't tell a shade difference I just rarely have an opinion on which is better
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:29 PM
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I’m so sorry fulga cilantro is one of my favorite flavors 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:46 PM
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Ugh this happened to me last month when I was on my weight gain journey, and I was just finally starting to meet my goals 😔 I hope you feel better buddy! And at whatever size youre happy with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:45 PM
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No recession btw number go up
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:59 PM
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I enjoyed Tyranny so much and yeah, it's the same guys as Pillars. I really loved both Pillars games, I think I've played them both ~3 times? But Tyranny has a very fun spell making system, and a really interesting, evil character roleplay. It probably isn't the best game on this list but it was another game that has inspired some of my dnd characters and another campaign I ran briefly. Death Stranding I've heard is super polarizing but I do know one person who really likes it. I think of your l…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:56 PM
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Nice! Mine top 5 is Mass Effect 2, Dragon Age Origins, Cyberpunk 2077, Tyranny, and KOTR 2. If you can't tell, I really really like RPGs, lol. I play street fighter but I don't really think of it as a video game- if I did rank it would probably be #2 but the enjoyment I get out of a fighting game is completely different. What about you? EDIT: This is going to sound weird but although I didn't super love this game the quest wicked eyes and wicked hearts from dragon age inquisition might be my fav…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:38 PM
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Enjoy Crimson Desert! I will say though, Cyberpunk is in my top 5 favorite games of all time. I recommend you try that one after you're done with this :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:26 PM
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I do this but with weed so I would be in a glass house throwing stones.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:21 PM
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Maybe 3 mcdonalds meals in chicago 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:17 PM
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I think at least until I had experience with multiple partners it made me understand. I was really stressed out that my first partner wasn't enjoying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:16 PM
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I don't know. I don't think a lot of men have experienced sex with a partner that practiced active sexual desire. I've certainly had girls who took some ownership of my pleasure and some girls who literally laid there. Both types of girls enjoyed the sex lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 07:20 PM
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I think it was 26, which is a lot, but it is a lobster roll. It was 32 today 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 07:18 PM
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Oh my god they increased the price on the lobster roll place I frequent by like 5 dollars, Jesus. I was mid order when I noticed so I guess I should eat beans and rice the rest of the week to compensate 😓
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:56 PM
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That's what I said- it was wrong, and the guys going "Haha I wish that were me" are wrong for saying it, even if it's true for them. I said that even if I would have enjoyed the treatment, his lack of consent here was the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:12 PM
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Yeah unironically it's a lot like those guys who see kids be SA'd by (attractive) female teachers. Even if you'd want this to happen to yourself doesn't mean it's appropriate and good. Honestly even tho I would probably be happy in his position he didn't consent to it and that's the issue to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:06 PM
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I'm not going to lie I see those threads and I don't even click on them because they're stupid as fuck on the face of it, full of spelling mistakes, and generally not worth the data on my phone to load it. I also only really recognize one guy who posts constant bait posts and when I scroll into the auto mod everyone's calling him stupid anyway. Lilith feels like she posts every single day. Anything else I want to say about her might come across as witch hunty or a personal attack so all I will s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 05:41 PM
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Depends on a few factors. Right now I don't think I'd have an issue with it but if I had a girlfriend I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 05:36 PM
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The only people who I know care are a few very Catholic ppl I know, and a few women I would never consider dating because they consider their n count being 0 a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 04:27 PM
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Anyone who thinks casual sex ruins a woman is not a serious person worth taking seriously and having experience having sex makes the initial sex with another partner better. I honestly think that having sex with more than one woman taught me a lot about sex and how to treat partners, how to approach consent non verbally, how to 'direct sex', etc. I'm not saying this guy should ruin his life over it, but I certainly don't think casual sex is bad for either party.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 04:13 PM
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The biggest reason I'm not red pill is because I think it's cruel to act in some manners the red pill asks of you and it's wrong to exploit women who will fall to manipulation in my view. But I know enough about RP to see how easy it would be to make it work. Most of my opinions about why it works comes from my own life experiences. I've always been friends with girls and for most of my life have had more female friends than male friends. I was always a cute kid, but I didn't have a sexual or ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 02:52 PM
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I don't think what you said correlates exactly. I've had a similar feeling to the OP- and like you said, you recognize they are trying to cheer you up and say thank you. Just because I'm hurt by the discordance between my life and what someone's telling me doesn't mean I will flip out at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 02:20 PM
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Yeah, honestly my dad is a pretty cool guy- he's a gen x "Joke about everyone" kinda person but his entire carrier has been for the advocacy of marginalized ppl.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 02:02 PM
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The video was a black boy and it was at least a joke attatched, so he did a crying laughing emoji and said the guy's hair in the video looks like mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:54 PM
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AAAAAAAAHHHH I SENT A VIDEO ABOUT BEING GAY TO MY DAD AND SAID "I thought you would find this funny" WHYYYYY I MEANT TO CLICK ON ANOTHER ONE FUCKKKK So anyway good morning chat how is everyone doing? I need inspiration to text the people I've matched with on tinder but I am having a nice back and forth with a girl on hinge :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:33 PM
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It’s turned off for her benefit, not mine. If I knew she was comfortable with me treating her whichever way I wanted, I would continue to take her out, invite her to my get togethers, want to quality time with her, etc etc. Some people don’t like being the subject of unreciprocated attention, and I understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:51 PM
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Maybe! I do have small hands....
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:29 PM
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Are you asking me or are you asking what I think the answer is for the general public? To me if an FWB is a really good friend and we are compatible in every other way, the only difference between an FWB and a relationship is that she doesn't want to be my girlfriend. If she doesn't want to be my girlfriend, I can turn the romantic desire off pretty easily and just treat her like a friend I really like. Or is there something distinct that makes romance more meaningful than friendship + sex? To m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:29 PM
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I've had my own system for like, ages. It just feels too good and works so well idk what to say! I quit again and I'm typing normally now, and it just feels like silk compared to the literal pain I was in before.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:22 PM
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I'm assuming I'd be similar to myself just flipped, so I'd be a (kinda)straight woman who kisses girls at parties. If I'm anything like myself I might be married at this point. I think the traits I have now are more suited to a woman than a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:21 PM
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I like to cum, sure! There are a combination of reasons it's hard for me to. I started to list them off but I figured it would be weird lmao, but long story short it's a 'its not happening tn' problem over me trying to hold myself back.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:17 PM
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Gentle_prv already put what I was going to say into words, but I'll further expand— I don't care about my own job or about my own achievements within the workforce. There are things that bring me joy that I have achieved and I care about that, but labor isn't something that I think should or does define me. When I say I don't care about a woman's job what I mean by that is that her job is either going to be neutral or negative regarding my attraction to her. Working for the IDF is something I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:07 PM
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I type on ppd to sound busy haha!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:57 PM
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I don't orgasm most of the time, and I still really like to have sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:55 PM
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Am I like the only man who doesn't normally finish during sex? This is true about me and I know it's atypical but like am I the only one? When I go into threads with people talking about the orgasm gap I feel like I'm the only one who can attest to being a counter example.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:54 PM
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Replace the cigs with weed and that's literally me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:53 PM
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Yeah me too, but feel like I've capped out at around 43WPM. I need to be faster
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:52 PM
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NO I'm not a pecker I just have my own system. Honestly I type the same way I play street fighter— my right handed pointer finger, middle, and ring finger dance across the keyboard while my left hand's pointer and thumb covers the four leftmost rows or so. I type at about 40 WPM this way, but I feel gated. If I could touch type I'd type much faster and more accurately.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:51 PM
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yeah. I never learned how to do it and my wrists are cramping up from me trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:44 PM
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I'm bored at work so I'm trying to learn how to touch type. This counts as professional development right? Also I got through the first sentence touch typing and that shit feels so unnatural, this is going to be a long journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:31 PM
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Looking at it rationally, the odds that the one ends up being "the one" are not great. I suggest viewing the whole thing as a fundamentally unuseful concept. I agree, I was just using it as short hand for 'The one they want to marry'. I don't think there is a 'The one' but I do think there is 'A One' for people. Every relationship dynamic is different and two different people might work for you in a completely different way to someone else. I generally agree. But I also don't think it's a good i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:24 PM
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I actually did this with my parents a few months ago. Never say never dude, you might end up with people who are about that wavelength! I'd go with you 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:21 PM
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At least to me, sex is what makes a relationship romantic. All the emotions listed above are things I can feel with a friend. If I met a 10/10 attractive girl who sparked all of these things for me except sex, I'd love for her to be a great friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:20 PM
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Damn. Have you tried doing all these things but high? That's fun to me! Me and my friends did an art night only we took a huge edible as we walked in, and just enjoyed the paintings until things started to get fun and weird
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:15 PM
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What's stopping you from doing(most) of this now? This sounds like fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:12 PM
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I'm the same way- I'm scared I won't know that feeling. Or worse, that I have already felt this feeling, and it's just so underwhelming to me because other people made it a big deal. I thought about this recently because I broke my jaw without knowing it was broken. This was my first time breaking a bone, and I used to be terrified of it. But now having experienced it... I could do it again. It didn't hurt as bad as I thought. But people act like it's the most painful thing ever. Does love feel …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:10 PM
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I'm not going to lie if I was girl I probably wouldn't date. I would definitely be getting called a 304 on a red pill podcast
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:04 PM
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Besides Reddit and short form video content, where do you hear a lot of narratives about women? (Friends, coworkers, church...) Friends, mostly. I have a large group of mixed gender friends. Probably around 30 or so people I can talk to. What was the last movie/book you saw with a female protagonist? What kind of narrative was it? Hoppers! It's an environmentalist film? But she spends most of the movie being a beaver. What was the last novel you read by a female author? No idea, I don't really r…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 06:32 PM
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I'm unironically attracted to girls with wide eyes. Literally the crazy eyes are just attractive to me. I like girls who are alternative, high n count, and very expressive and free about sex. Also, I won't lie. I like drama, I enjoy being the stable one, but I love hearing about gossip— these are some things that I think are 'bad' attraction signals. Some of these I'm happy with and not going to change, and some put me in bad situations. The last 'crazy' girl I dated had wide, beautiful green ey…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 05:45 PM
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I think they did want her. The rest is rage about not having her- a lot of these guys(myself included) feel jilted about the lack of romantic success as compared to their peers and want to sleep around to 'catch up'. I know I'm guilty of this too— I just don't think I take it in the same direction nor am I chasing a memory of a highschooler I barely talked to, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:52 PM
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Ugh this happened to be yesterday with a super hot girl looking for short term in a bikini picture. I just thought she was hot, swiped right on tinder, and she swiped right back and answered me when I texted her back 💀 She stopped responding yesterday but still the experience was novel
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:38 PM
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I dated a bad girl because I am attracted to weird crazy girls and thought I could handle it Turns out I could not handle it, but crazy girls are an attraction trigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:35 PM
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Honestly I think part of the problem is that the high value women to men who believe in traditional dating are already married. If you're old enough to start writing red pill theory on reddit, you already missed the boat on the kind of women they want- Virgin/low n count, intelligent but not career focused, not financial focused but smart with money, and someone you can share experiences with. Essentially, I think a lot of these guys wish the hot girl in school who was nice to them was their wif…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:34 PM
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For me, I guess it makes the struggles of life worth it. The world isn't as bleak and the work isn't as hard because I'm working towards something(someone) that makes me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:26 PM
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I think most of that is a rage response because they can't have something they want. A misogynist still desires women he just hates them (and often himself) for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:24 PM
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I don't think the average man will get any dates if he follows the first 3 rules. If you aren't on as soon as a woman matches with you, if you don't tolerate short responses or sparse responses, or if you aren't timely with your texts back you will get ghosted— and you can still follow all these rules and get ghosted anyway. Also, I'm not sure block to burn is always necessary. I block people I am absolutely not attracted to, where there's no way I can be attracted to them. I don't block people …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:09 PM
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I'm not going to lie, I have heard this as true from women and have heard women make this argument to men, but I never really hear this from men. I think it depends on if you're depressed and want a girlfriend, or if you're depressed because you don't have a girlfriend. I think those are different— at least it seems that way for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 01:54 PM
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Klay’s real sin was eating eggs after 11pm
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:55 AM
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I agree that this bean counting attitude is a turn off, which is why I said this feels like a bean counting attitude to feel this way about sex. Again, I don’t feel this way about sex, but I think it’s the analogous argument to the original claim. Also, I have dated all sorts of women with all sorts of preferences. Women who wanted to date me seriously have split 50/50— maybe your experiences/preference is more traditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 12:30 AM
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The original thread I was whining about was about how men have to compensate women for their time because sex has different outcomes for men and women. Sorry, I am responding in that thread and here so I forgot some context was lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 12:10 AM
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As someone who is normally on the other side of the aisle, it’s not actually about getting there so much as your partner caring that you get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 12:01 AM
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That’s fine— I’m willing to challenge that assertion. If i bring things to the table that women apparently don’t expect from men then, i should expect more equitable treatment in return? I don’t actually think this, but that’s the only way this logic holds up
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 12:00 AM
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Is your argument that men should not settle down even if they find the one early? While I think you should probably get some experience and as much as you can, i think going into a situation with the intention to make this short wouldn't be as fulfilling nor would you learn as much from genuinely trying to see how each relationship makes you feel. If you feel happy there's no need to drop a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:07 PM
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I don't wanna drag an unrelated comment here I think it's against the rules, and I already closed the tab a while ago. It was in a thread about sex and the outcomes between men and women. I said ideally both the man and the woman should be receiving pleasure and orgasms, and someone else said 'well have you ever heard of the orgasm gap?' Like yeah, sure, but that doesn't have to do with the ideal scenario or me having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 08:17 PM
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Oh for sure. It took me getting called out to realize I was doing the same thing. But when I started to become aware of my own habits you start to be aware of it in other people. I see it constantly now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 08:08 PM
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What am I expecting from a partner out of the ordinary? I want to have a wife and be a father, that's incredibly normal. If I can't do that I'll take my investments and savings I have amassed and coast on life for another 40 years somewhere my money lasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 07:48 PM
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I don't understand using the orgasm gap as an excuse for someone's personal relationships. Why women wouldn't want to enter into a casual relationship? Sure that makes sense. But if I'm talking about what I want within a relationship, what does the orgasm gap have to do with me? It feels like people flop from the personal to the societal too much, whichever frame better serves their argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 07:25 PM
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Spiral, try a different direction to put your focus in. I don't mean this in an edgy way but if I don't find a partner by the time I'm in my late 30s I am going to hard pivot my finances to a r/govfire situation and then move out of the country. I want to have a wife and kids but I feel like I can only take this for another decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 07:17 PM
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Yeah, the 'Men and women are different' logic here doesn't make any sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:49 PM
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Agreed, but I am very pro-promiscuity, so we might be coming from opposite sides opposing the red pill argument, lol. I think both men and women should be having more casual sex and that puritanical culture should be quashed way more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:41 PM
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Well I don't 'want' anything else— I'm already on track to meet all of my other life goals that don't involve being a father and a husband. If I didn't want a girlfriend I wouldn't be self improving— not in the way discussed here at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:40 PM
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Spiral, introspect, try to find another area you think is lacking to try to get a girlfriend, rinse, repeat until something works or you give up 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:34 PM
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Their philosophy about the reality of dating and mine overlap— I disagree with a lot of the red pill's evo psych conclusions and the way they believe you should treat women, but I don't disagree that if you're charismatic enough to pull off red pill tactics you will find a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:27 PM
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I except reality and am sad about it, lmao. I feel like there is enough room to heavily dislike dating, know it's unfair, feel it's unfair, and then participate anyway. I whine piss and moan about going to work every day but I go anyway because I know I have to if I want the thing that I want- in work's case money, in dating's case a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 05:56 PM
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I mean sure, and the reverse case is also true. Just because we are talking averages doesn't mean a woman couldn't decide she does not want to contribute to her male partner's orgasm 🤷 Also, keep in mind I am not talking about one off encounters in my post- although men should care about the woman there, too. I said 'in an ideal scenario' which would necessitate the guy care about the woman's pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 05:51 PM
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Even 'will have sex' is actually 'can have sex'. Escorts have the right of refusal and consent too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:23 PM
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I watched a video on this. Really, once you are able to understand the question it's about empathy and risk for people smart enough to see the full scope of the question. Yes, of course, you should pick red. But you know people will pick blue. But how many people? Lets say 25% of the population. Is that population worth risking your life for? Can you trust 25% of those rational enough to know to select Red to select blue to save people? I would pick red because I am a coward, ultimately. I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:17 PM
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At best you could call this sexual coercion but I still think this argument is flimsy. Is 'if we go on a date we can have sex' also SA under this constraint?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:12 PM
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If you don't think Family Ties is good you're crazy But also it's both rap music and party music and I know you're not a huge fan of either of those
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 03:21 PM
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Hey Baby Keem is a dumb name too and he makes great music
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 03:03 PM
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Yeah that's what I mean. I wanna only match with people I find SUPER attractive when I'm 'on'. If I'm sleepy or distracted why try to match with this girl when I can't keep up the energy ykwim
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 03:03 PM
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Me literally as I read this while also on hinge on my phone Do you also have trouble writing prompts to people you are really attracted to because what if they say yes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:46 PM
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nevermind I listened to it again this song is ASS
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:29 PM
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My roommates gf was like that when they first met. Shes more brainrotted now since she lives with us, and I am pretty close with her now! I just don’t know if I could start from the ground floor. She could be a normie, but she needs to be very curious about my world, and I’m sensitive to being judged haha
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:24 PM
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Wow I finally gave Married Next Year by Rod Wave and honestly it's not as bad as I was expecting it to be. It's loud and annoying but I don't wanna die listening to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:15 PM
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I can't really vibe with offline girls. As friends, sure! But I need to be able to speak 'in my language' for me to be happy and not feel like I'm talking past her. Ideally, I'd be able to look over to my partner and say "Have you seen the Jackpot x Cry for me x Lets get married Arby's remix?" And she'd know what I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:12 PM
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It is actually a requirement that a girl is at least 70% as brainrotted as me. I actually can't handle or date normal girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 01:37 PM
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This is kinda what I'm wondering too. The latter is at least a little interesting so I can answer that one: Yes, I have taken a girl on an ice skating date when I knew she didn't know how to ice skate. I knew I'd be helping her skate around, hold her hand, and be able to be upright for her to cling on when she was losing her balance. That's sort of the best example I've got that's even close to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 01:36 PM
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? If someone misinterprets your words are you happy to allow them to or would you rather them understand you? I don’t see how or why me explaining my thought process is defensive or making excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:11 PM
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I was speaking to someone who I’ve spoken to before— I tailor my humor based on previous interactions!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 07:25 AM
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? Which part of this comment showed I feel sorry for myself. Was it this? I agree! I'm trying to change that perception but I am only one man and my hinge is dry 😔 This is a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:12 PM
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I don't think women should have sex with men who don't care about her orgasm. It should be regarded with the same distaste as someone with a diaper fetish. And anyway, in my post and in the post of the OP it never mentioned casual sex- though again I think that not making an earnest effort to make the woman orgasm comes to a man's unwillingness not some cosmic principle that makes casual sex harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 10:41 PM
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I don’t think very many men would be open to being pegged by their female counterpart. Cowards. It would be fabulous if casual sex for a woman resulted in an orgasm as often as it does a man. I think if women were having more orgasms from casual sex and made this known that women would probably be more open to having casual sex in the first place. Maybe one day 💭 I agree! I'm trying to change that perception but I am only one man and my hinge is dry 😔 I've said it here before but I've only orgas…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 10:29 PM
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I love weddings! I love dancing and partying and it's just a dance and party with all the people you like, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 10:27 PM
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The experience and outcomes are different. A man never needs to let himself be penetrated to have sex, which definitely impacts how I experience sex. If this was about bodily sensation I'd agree with you. But the OP was about tangible value and the tangible value of the experience should be the exact same. I was arguing that the experience of sex should be sex, experienced with orgasms(if the other person wants them). The value generated should be equal. Plus, being worried about being pregnant …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 10:25 PM
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The demand is different, the experience is different, and the outcome is different. Wait you snuck those other two in there. The experience and outcomes are not different when you're having sex(not for children). I'm willing to grant that the demand is different but ideally people should be getting the same outcome and experience out of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 10:00 PM
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This was just a joke lol. I was just bored and spring cleaning my room
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 10:49 PM
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Yeah, essentially. I listen to how women want to be treated, and then see the men they couple up with. These are discordant. Often times, I know he’s bad news before the girl does. My second paragraph was me basically acknowledging that good men get partners too. I don’t want you to think I’m some “girls only like assholes” kind of guy. My opinion is just that it doesn’t matter whether or not you’re an asshole, and that partnership threshold is tied to how attractive and charismatic you are. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 09:05 PM
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(Outing myself here) I don’t see it as submissive— or at least my fascination isn’t submissive. To me, it’s about having an object of pleasure being pleasured in a way my mind can easy map to me. I don’t like solo girl at all because while I like hearing her the sensations she’s feeling are foreign to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 08:56 PM
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That doesn’t matter, though. Everyone is looking got something more lasting. If I can’t even get to the point guys I(and you, if I had to guess) think are shitty how is that supposed to make me feel like I’m romantically desirable? It’s not to say I don’t know plenty good guys who have partners— but these are men I think I match up well with, and even if I didn’t there is no cognitive dissonance over a man who is kind getting romantic attention and lasting relationships. There is a dissonance wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 08:54 PM
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Guys I think the stripper would like me 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 08:21 PM
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Mostly I meet the boyfriends of my female friends(the ones that don’t last more than a few months) and wonder what I’m doing wrong if these stupid assholes have partners
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 08:17 PM
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I disagree. I think red and black pill spaces emerged because men were lonely and looked for answers. And these grifters were the ones who were able to give these men advice— no matter if the advice was good or bad, I was actionable. And that’s why many people fell into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:55 PM
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You can empathize with other people without taking responsibility for the actions of people who happen to share your physical descriptor. If my friend gets cheated on by a brown eyed person I don’t feel guilt for having brown eyes but I can still understand and empathize with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:51 PM
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I maybe should but I don’t, lol. It’s like how you have to eat your peas not because you like them but because you know you have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 05:52 AM
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Not so much that it’s a financial problem for me. I don’t like the principle of it, it’s very weird to me that I should pay for something because I’m a man. I am happy to trade off dates! If I’m inviting her out I’m happy to pick up the check. But it would make me feel like she actually wants to be there when she picks up the drinks or even gets the tip.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:47 PM
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I dislike being alone more than I dislike paying for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 08:23 PM
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I hate being kissed on my wedding night(by anyone who isn't my wife)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 07:24 PM
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I went on tiktok and made myself mad again. I will continue to pay for the first date and most future dates, but I don't think paying for the first date will ever be something I ever enjoy doing. Every reason I've seen about it makes me wish the woman would never talk to me in the first place so I just need to not think about it so I can date with any regularity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:53 PM
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I mean ok define obsession I have a hobby or two that's all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:30 PM
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It would be nice, but introverted girls also don't go outside, lol. Hard to find them. I actually don't mind dating extroverts as long as they're fine with the fact that I need time to myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:29 PM
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The male gaze indeed 🤤 But seriously yeah. Even people who like the genre don't like it for the same reasons I do sometimes. But I always liken it to chess, except the chess pieces can jump scare you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:24 PM
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I don't think it would be pleasureable it sounds like orgasm denial haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:09 PM
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I think it's more or less like a cockring that prevents you from ejaculating. While I've never tried it myself or anything I assume if you get a tight enough seal around the urethra to block it nothing can come out, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:08 PM
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Nah bro I don't give a shit it's ok haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:39 PM
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Males are more prone to mate guard compared to women. I agree and women should break up with men who act like this. also you're talking the post way too seriously, everyday we have men here posting how abusive chad is, my rage baits aim to show anyone can be abusive, even men ppd males relate to. I'm just high and yapping. But I don't relate to this guy bc you used the word introverted and then said something that doesn't track towards introversion, so that's why I was confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:35 PM
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Do think think boy introverts want their partners around them all the time? I'm a boy and an introvert and I certainly don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:29 PM
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Wtf does any of this have to do with being an introvert? My roommates wife is an introvert and he is an extrovert, whenever he goes out partying she's very happy she gets time to read her book alone. What introvert wouldn't want time to be by themselves? This is an extremely anxious and controlling person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:19 PM
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I think the problem is the barrier to entry for fighting games. It’s hard to expect someone to want to grind out learning how to hadoken, but if you don’t learn that you will have ZERO fun. You have to learn a couple of important lessons to even start playing the actual game, which almost no other genre requires, lmao. I’m still learning how to make the process of learning fun to someone else. And yeah, I know. But that just sorta means it is going to suck for a long time for me. I’ve been to ~2…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:59 PM
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Listen give me a shot I will get you into street fighter lmao, I’ve converted quite a few friends 😈 I’m kinda the same way in fighting games I play like an asshole, but I’m trying to teach people a lesson most of the time! Mostly, that lesson is BLOCK. And yeah yeah! That’s the problem! I feel like people tell guys like me to meet girls at our hobbies irl, but I feel like the women in my hobbies are constantly accosted by dudes with low sociability. Honestly I think I have high social competence…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:52 PM
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I do swipe right on them but they don’t swipe back. I heard valorant is the newest gaming dating app, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:46 PM
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I don’t play any of those, but I used to be addicted to league of legends, lol. Me and my roommate joke that we use our sobriety chips from that game. I’d start it up again for a girl tho lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:42 PM
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I don’t really like either of those games ._.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:41 PM
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You and I both know he’s stupid though. Other people want to argue with stupid people but I just don’t find it very engaging and I’m here for fun and to create understanding, and I’m not really interested in reaching common ground with troglodytes. Some of the women here though— I only disagree with slightly and those are the ones I have conversation with. If things are fucking weird from a guy I don’t shy away from calling him a weirdo, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:41 PM
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And fulga I don’t mean this to toot my own horn but I’m actually one of the best players in Chicago 😭 even if someone’s like master rank in street fighter I will still probably perfect them, I only lose to the .1%. And yeaaaaa. Honestly, part of the problem is that you dont want to be guy number 272 that hit on her at that tournament even if she is straight. I honestly don’t think it’s appropriate to try to hit on a girl at gaming events because of how lopsided the gender imbalance is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:38 PM
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I only play street fighter, lol. I could have leveraged my Baldur’s gate gameplay but tbh I hate playing with other people in RPGs bc I will be triggered by their decision making
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:34 PM
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It’s cool that you do but like I said I don’t expect you to— I only expect you to engage with what you find interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:31 PM
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You already lost me at find a woman who plays the games I do lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:31 PM
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Easier said then done sadly, haha. Funny enough I don't know if I'd even consider myself much of a gamer. I only play street fighter, and I'm not really good at playing and talking at the same time. And playing a 1v1 game is a great way to get someone pissed off at you, lol. Also I've kinda given up on trying to match with a gamer I don't want to be single for 5 years between partners 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:27 PM
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Different dudes like different things! I like a well shaped butt but not a really big one. If there's one marker of attraction for me it's that. Some dudes don't care- I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:11 PM
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What's strange about it? I think most 'types' of women have their own fans. I am unironically not attracted to large breasts, the largest chest I would actually ever want to deal with would be like Cs or smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:08 PM
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Is it bad that I prefer the spectacular crash and burn to a fun starting relationship to a sputtering biplane of a relationship that never takes off? I often feel like it's better than to have fun and then be hurt then experience nothing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 03:13 PM
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I'm still learning! I always shoot for the really sweet ones though so.. hard to go wrong with someone who's caring and sweet hearted by default I hope I can be like you one day but at present I am the only one who can be a sweetie pie in the relationship 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 03:10 PM
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I think if you meet someone who's really worth it you will privilege them naturally over videogames. Ok but I'm also a really good street fighter player and just wanted a weekend of alone time so that I could practice my craft(lmao) seriously tho it could have been anything- I was busy this weekend and needed to recharge. I didnt have the time or energy to meet my girlfriend 8 months ago when we matched and for anybody else i would have just waited, but for her I felt compelled to find the time …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 03:05 PM
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do you have a habit of dating bad women? A lot of my attraction triggers are definitely bad things, and when I am incredibly attracted to a woman some small examination lets me know I should probably avoid her, lol. But that took learning, and mistakes to figure out. If a woman is consistently ending up with bad men, her own morality is irrelevant - it's statistically indicative of some kind of emotional or psychological abnormality that those posters don't want to deal with, regardless of her m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:59 PM
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Ugh dude this might sound like a weird complaint but I wish I could talk to a girl on hinge or whatever long enough to take her out on a date when I'm ready to try to be entertaining for 4 hours straight The truth is that if you don't close almost immediately they will lose interest. I'm going back to that phase of really wanting to go out but last week I wanted to play video games so all my matches faded 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:55 PM
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I’d argue that flaws in choice make us human 👼
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:53 PM
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I’m an incredibly patient guy as long as she didn’t have an annoying voice I’d be ok 😇
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:53 PM
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I personally like girls with a little ass on her(it's about shape, not size) but that's totally controllable. But what he's saying is that every 'kind' of girl has a niche But I think we have argued before about this but I think the exception is broad shouldered thin hips, but I think you said men don't care about that or notice it (but I think they do lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:51 PM
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Do not give in! True enjoyment in debate is to find the nuance to me 😭 This whole post was me just annoyed at people saying that 'good men wouldn't want to date the women who date bad men because they are bad women' when that just doesn't correlate to me. I've dated a bad woman and broke up with her and I don't think that makes me a bad man, so why would I think that of a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:47 PM
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Yeah, that's more or less my point, lol. That's why it kinda annoys me when someone says 'You wouldn't want to date a woman who dates bad guys' because like maybe I do. People be like A or B, and I'm like man it depends 🥀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:45 PM
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but people who don't fall in the first type are often willing to do monstrous things if they can't directly observe the consequences of their actions. But this is true of everyone including you and me. I'm about to go on a shopping trip Sunday and I recognize that to enjoy the labor of children working in sweatshops. I don't know if acknowledgement makes it better or worse. I sort of feel like this is an argument about proximity to cruelty. If that's the case, it's definitely a case by case basi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:42 PM
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Hii Hotlack Also I have seen that from women here, but mostly when they talk about their bfs/husbands— depending on the rough position you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:38 PM
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I'm sorry bro that's really funny
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:36 PM
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She could be hot enough that every time she's seen with him it happens 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:34 PM
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For sure. I feel like there is a portion of men here who have not experienced relationships enough to realize what a reflection of yourself a relationship with someone can be. There are so many bad habits and bad attraction triggers that I would have never found out about on my own. It took staring back at what I chose to understand what I've gotten myself into. Not to say my tastes are wholesome now. I've spent like a week trying to craft the perfect hinge message to an OF girl 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:33 PM
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I don't think 'dates bad men' is a character trait that correlates to wickedness in the woman, is what I'm saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:31 PM
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Well that's what I mean then, if she was with a normal guy she wouldn't be a 'bad girl.' That's why I don't think it's fair to judge the character of these women. Are they making bad choices? Yes. But when people say 'you wouldn't want to date these women they're trashy anyway' I'm not so sure thats' true. I'm sure she's not the problem in those relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:30 PM
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Im going to Mexico for a wedding this fall and my friends are trying to get me a hookup so I need to get my body and face right for it unironically. My biggest fear is appearing like a passport bro
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:28 PM
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📝Become pretty to have the triple package... Thank you for reminding me to order a new stock of eye cream 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:26 PM
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Look if pretty girls want a boiwife I'll be sure to put in my application and I can become a full time house husband at 33
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:08 PM
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Yeah, I think we all have patterns we fall into because of childhood. I think some of my bad relationships come from my childhood, too— and again, I think it's more about what steps you take to correct your life rather than be branded as bad because of someone else. I understand 'you are the company you keep' but plenty of girls have good friends and a bad boyfriend. I don't know what scales more or less.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:05 PM
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How would you define ”trashy”? I'm not really sure. I'm just working off the words being used in the subreddit here. I guess to me, Trashy would be someone who has poor character, like honesty, integrity, and can't take responsibility for their actions. But I think that's all behavioral things, and it's incredibly easy to slip into. I can't really blame a woman if their partner who used to be good just slid into some socially repellant behaviors. It's about her reaction to that that matters to m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:03 PM
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I knew from the moment I laid eyes on you that you were my brother
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:52 PM
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Inspired by a post I saw but I didn't wanna reply to them, because it had nothing to do with their main point. But I don't think all women who date bad men are trashy— every relationship someone has is a tester of compatibility. A woman can fall into bad habits just like men, but I don't think it's an incitement of either of their characters unless their attraction is to like, violent acts or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:49 PM
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<image> (about ADULT women with flat chests)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:47 PM
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What do you mean by 'female treatment' here? Like are we talking about being approached or being given an active interest in them or something? I'm not sure what you're arguing about having these traits
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:40 PM
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When are you going to the Dr? Rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:42 PM
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Good luck man, in the meantime try not to use that hand as much as possible. If you don’t know how it’s broken it’s important to wait until your dr tells you your options. I’m also someone scared of getting hooked on pills, but I took ibuprofen during the worst of my broken bone and I was able to ween off easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:38 PM
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Ah yeouch. Sorry dude, I was talking about more tendinitis for me— I hope you saw a doctor and they were able to set it right. I’m dealing with a broken bone right now too! But yours seems worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:31 PM
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Wait kind of pain and how did you get it? I deal with wrist pain all the time so maybe I can help
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:25 PM
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I don’t think I’m very balanced because I only engage in conversations I find interesting. Talking to a misogynist isn’t as interesting to me because the topics aren’t something I can really go on about, but talking about men’s issues(things I see in my personal life) can be expanded on. I assume you don’t respond to women when they say wild things about men either, and it’s not like I expect you to do that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:24 PM
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Yeah I wish I got a girlfriend like everyone else growing up so I never had to think about any of this shit
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 09:13 PM
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Depends on your life goals I guess I am happy socially and financially I only want a girlfriend :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 09:03 PM
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My coworker is loudly talking about a hookup in the breakroom which is right next to my cubicle help me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 05:03 PM
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That's the fun part of arguments I love when I really have to think about what I'm saying!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:06 PM
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I have had a fumble almost this bad honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:02 PM
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The word 'other' here I think is the difference maker. I think being not particularly distinguished from any other guy in the world is a lot different than not being particularly distinguished from the 5 other guys she's spent her entire life curating and choosing to spend time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 03:48 PM
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I only interact with women I like, personality. I don't interact with women I don't like. If I find you pretty and I like being around you, of course I'd find you datable to me— that's all I need to want to start to date someone. You're still communicating to the women "you're all essentially interchangeable to me." I'm not advocating that you do this because I agree that's how people take it, but it doesn't make a lot of sense to me. Most girls I meet on dating apps I like less than my female f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 03:37 PM
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Hitting on multiple woman in a group of friends means a) you don't have any particular affinity for a specific woman, you're just looking for one to say yes I don't think this is true, if you're hitting on a bunch of women in your friend group they probably share similarities that could have made you attracted to all of them on an emotional level. I'm not really arguing any other point here though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 03:31 PM
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No I literally dated a girl like that and I broke up with her because i found her very annoying(among other things)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:15 PM
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Oh, and my housing costs are WAY below average for Chicago. Like almost half as much, because I have multiple roommates and they sleep in the same bed
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:11 PM
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80k is I think the median household income in Chicago, and I’m 27– that’s pretty good for my age for sure. I also have some investments and a large sum of money being a child actor.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:08 PM
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Yeah my problem is that every girl I’ve dated feels a little bad and suffocating and I kinda just thought I’d get over it at some point Edit: That and I’m fucking lazy and I don’t wanna date sometimes. If you match with a girl you have like 30 mins to reply and like 3 days to set a plan or you’re over
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:04 PM
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Government databases and stuff. I make a little more than 80k and my living situation means I only pay about 1.1k a month for all utilities and rent
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:03 PM
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This has happened more times than I can count. I’m kinda scared I’ll meet a girl I’d vibe with bc I wouldn’t know what to do
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 09:49 PM
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