unitedstatesofwhatvr Archive

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3	Weekly Community Chat Megathread I moved to WA from Eastern Europe in my early 20s. Came here for work, not a mail order bride (yes I was asked before). What you mention is exactly the reason I struggle with when trying to understand the local mindset- so much noise about equality but then my guy friends get dragged to court, forced to provide to the “strong women” they were married to. I would be happy in a traditional marriage if it worked out. I was also raised with an idea that a woman needs to count on herself only and I d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/21 08:36 PM
2	Weekly Community Chat Megathread Haven’t seen one irl yet unfortunately. Even the coolest couple I knew ended up having it nasty.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/21 08:17 PM
2	Weekly Community Chat Megathread I am a supporter of the traditional marriage. You were asking about how the family law should be changed- I suggested that after the divorce both parties should take equal responsibility and not make the breadwinner contribute for the financial support of the other party. Feminism or not- adults should be adults after the divorce and not expect their former partner to provide for them. Really not sure what point you’re trying to make and what’s the reason for starting a fight	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/21 08:05 PM
8	Relevant. Amen. Better be single than in a nightmare of a relationship	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/21 06:07 PM
4	Relevant. I mean, we are all divorced here in this group so already wouldn’t make that “good” list of yours 😅 it is rough out there though, can’t argue with that!	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/21 06:06 PM
1	Books on relationships after divorce, when to introduce kids to girlfriend 6 months is the minimum- supposedly by this mark you know enough about the person and you went through some experiences together that indicate that this is a long term relationship. I would talk to both parties- ask the kids what do they think about you dating, do they care about meeting your SO. Ask your girlfriend if she would want to meet the kids or is it too much for her right now. Books are great but open communication is the key and it will let you make a decision based on your particular…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/21 05:09 PM
2	When you get married, it's about love. When you get divorced, you're told its about money, basically a business transaction Has she been married before? I totally get how marriage represents a symbol of love but it is a legal contract. I had my pink glasses shattered when my friend shared in details what he had to go through during the divorce, how unfair the system is and what a nightmare it can be. After that I changed my views- I no longer want to get married. I want a healthy commitment, romantic bond, partnership, but I don’t need the government involved. I will have an agreement if my future partner and I will …	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/21 04:30 PM
3	When you get married, it's about love. When you get divorced, you're told its about money, basically a business transaction Ooh the car analogy is so good, borrowing that	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/21 04:25 PM
2	Working through divorce US? I think it will depend on how your incomes compare and how the custody works. Usually it’s the breadwinners responsibility though	/r/Divorce_Men	27/01/21 02:22 AM
2	Advice for potential 2nd marriage Why the rush? And if you do consider doing it again I’d discuss detailed prenup	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/21 05:06 PM
4	Getting blamed for everything Time will pass and will show what the real issues are. It sounds like the problem was around her insecurities and if the only solution was to look for another man- it’s not a sustainable solution. Divorce always sucks, I’m sorry about your experience. But hopefully you both can grow from it and become the better versions of yourselves	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/21 02:17 PM
8	How women view redpilled men It’s cultural too. Only in the US have I encountered women that break up with boyfriends “because he doesn’t make me happy”. And look at me with their head sideways when I ask but do you make yourself happy? That weird sense of entitlement the media creates here, easy to jump on that needle tbh but common sense reminds me that it’s not smart. Almost like a campaign to drive the genders as far apart as possible.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/01/21 12:05 AM
2	What's it like once the kids turn 18 and leave the nest? Hopefully everyone has successfully moved on with their lives at this point and there’s no need to communicate 🤞	/r/Divorce_Men	24/01/21 03:14 AM
2	Settle and walk? That sucks, I’m so sorry! I let go of the house in order not to pay spouse support 🤦‍♀️ what does it take to change? So many wealthy men suffer yet no change on the horizon. Which minority or influential person would it take to go through this in order to get attention to the issue and the outdated rules	/r/Divorce_Men	22/01/21 10:48 PM
4	Settle and walk? A mother here that divorced as a breadwinner and suffer from these rules. Does anyone know when will these rules change? Any petitions to sign? Because I agree with you, it benefits the party that didn’t work (and not like spouses normally prevent their second half from working) and it’s ridiculously unfair	/r/Divorce_Men	22/01/21 10:36 PM
7	Just one of those days I guess Did she cheat? Did she treat you bad? Now it’s another guy’s problem. Congrats on your freedom!	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/21 02:40 AM
2	Summer vacation and no PTO Camps or grandparents if that’s an option	/r/Divorce_Men	11/01/21 03:38 AM
1	Moving away from the city my kids live in. I’d revise the parenting plan (it might be needed for child support too) and see if you can get more time with the kids. Happy parent= happy kids so do what’s the best for you	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/21 01:25 AM
2	Need New Mantras Something along the lines of Freedom to be myself, shine the newly found light and expand and build the best version of myself	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/21 12:27 AM
5	How successfull are you on Dating apps? That’s the beauty of dating after the divorce- the clock is not ticking, you already have a kid- take your time and enjoy it. No need to rush. And now you also have better vision of what you want in the relationship (and what you definitely don’t want)	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/21 01:04 AM
1	How successfull are you on Dating apps? Checkout r/datingoverthirty lots of good info there	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/21 12:54 AM
3	Post-Divorce, are you happier? This is brilliant. Thank you for this summary	/r/Divorce_Men	01/01/21 05:14 PM
1	Experience with talkspace virtual therapy Not a man but went through the divorce as a main breadwinner (threats for spouse support, etc). Most helpful coping tools: martial arts class, talking to my older coworkers who had similar experience, books and forums, changing the lifestyle to a healthier one (regular workouts, proper nutrition, meditation). Gave therapy a try for about 6 months- never done it before, it was ok. Maybe I had different expectations, maybe should’ve done more research on the provider. (“Maybe you should talk to so…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/20 05:05 PM
5	Is it wrong that I want my kid to prefer me over his mom? It’s a very unhealthy setup for the kid. It’s great you are recognizing and questioning it though.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/20 03:06 PM
4	Kids didn't know it's my birthday I’m so sorry that happened to you. Happy birthday! I hope you get to celebrate with the kids when you see them!	/r/Divorce_Men	22/11/20 02:27 AM