unknown_poo Archive

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1	It’s far better to ATTRACT a woman than to CHASE one Is it a fundamental characteristic of human nature? Or is it a fundamental characteristic of low self-esteem? In which case, it would be a corruption of the fundamental characteristic of human nature, which is naturally abundant. Learn to remove that underlying insecurity and need, and then you'll be surprised when people actually chase you simply by virtue of you being yourself. But that still often requires some effort and investment on your part, such as approaching someone and displaying a c…	/r/seduction	20/04/20 02:23 PM
2	Tip: turn your notifications OFF My phone has never been on anything except silent. I only check it when I feel like, and often it's when I feel like checking it that I get a message. The freedom from not having your thought processes disrupted, and then conditioned by disruption and interruption, is one of the most important things to having and maintaining mental well being.	/r/seduction	16/04/20 01:19 PM
25	How do you keep someone interested in you? It depends what you want out of the interaction. If it's consistency, then what you're looking for is commitment, and therefore, a relationship. It obviously varies quite a bit, but if you have that type of intimacy with each other then why not have the relationship talk, as in, becoming exclusive? It's like a seed, you plant that, no pressure, but then you let her imagination cultivate it into deeper and deeper investment.	/r/seduction	02/04/20 09:25 PM
1	It all comes down to this! This is a great post, I like how you mention the part about power. What that references are power dynamics, and the interesting thing about power dynamics is that they're only characteristic of relationships in which people define their value in relation to another person's. And so, in order to maintain this sense of having value, you have to devalue the other. A lot of self-help, especially in the area of seduction and relationships, do not go deeply into the psychology of attraction. They cove…	/r/seduction	25/10/19 01:36 PM
7	Why some guys never achieve happiness in their dating lives. Yeah. You can use Paul Bernado, yes the serial killer, as the perfect example of this. He was not a pickup artist, he wasn't someone with a healthy self-esteem and true confidence either. And yet, he could probably pickup women better than anyone on this sub or in the PUA community. And yet, he was a deeply insecure person with an inverted self-esteem, what we call narcissism, which inverts confidence into what we call entitlement. When you have bought totally into this, then mastering manipulat…	/r/seduction	26/07/19 11:56 PM
1	Stealing girls from other guys How would her lack of interest in OP cause a random man to intentionally place himself front of OP?	/r/seduction	02/04/19 02:39 PM
72	Stealing girls from other guys Game aside, to come over and step in between two people having a discussion is a bad move to make, and stems from a quality that men should not valorize. He did it because he felt he was stronger than you, physically. I could not see a man doing that to another man who was also jacked and confident looking. There's a common saying that you can tell a lot about a person based on how they treat those who are below them, who can do nothing for them, or who are weaker than them, or who are in a disa…	/r/seduction	01/04/19 06:30 PM
5	What do you do when you still miss someone years after seperation? It's good that your skeptical, especially when it comes to this overarching topic of mental health and personal wellness because exploring it deeply does require a certain level of psychological vulnerability. But to be clear, I'm not trying to sell you anything. I guess to give you my angle, I would say simply that I've been through what you're going through and also what many of people have experienced or are currently experiencing. I've had a terrible struggle with depression and constant pan…	/r/seduction	06/01/19 01:10 AM
3	What do you do when you still miss someone years after seperation? I'm not sure about there being any specific name, but some specific concepts you can refer to are "abandonment trauma", "emotional hunger", and "emotional deprivation." Here is a post I wrote that makes mention of these concepts. If anything, check out the references at the end, I'm sure you'll find them valuable.	/r/seduction	04/01/19 11:39 PM
4	What do you do when you still miss someone years after seperation? Sorry to hear that my dude. Having employment can, in the interim, provide somewhat a sense of value and purpose, so being without that, and then seeing she found someone else must be especially rough. It's ok though man. All things in this world are ultimately temporary, impermanent, and so they can never really provide us with sense of existential value. Most people have things come to them very easily, and thus, tend to take them for granted by never thinking more deeply about what is happeni…	/r/seduction	04/01/19 11:38 PM
117	What do you do when you still miss someone years after seperation? You need to recognize that you have an attachment to an appearance, to a form, to a concept, and this concept is created and defined by your Mind. At the root of this concept, as in how you define it, is probably trauma. Trauma causes us to seek out a security blanket, a coping mechanism, something to ground us in a reality so we don't drown in fear. But because it's rooted in our childish nature of vulnerability and dependency, it is incredibly powerful and deeply embedded in our psyche. When w…	/r/seduction	04/01/19 05:28 PM
20	Criticism to PUA (My friend seems crazy). This highlights an important point. That it works, but is it a price you want to pay? This point highlights the concept of value systems. If you place women as the highest value, where obtaining women - the hotter then the greater the value - is what validates your existence. On the other hand, pick-up is constantly talking about holding frame by having inner confidence that isn't dependent on women, but just on your own inner value. So this is the part that is very dangerous; on the one hand, t…	/r/seduction	07/12/18 04:02 PM
2	Why Loving Yourself is the Most Attractive Thing You Can Do I liked it. It's impossible otherwise to truly communicate those higher aspects of man, those upward beliefs that hint at something more transcendental about us, except through the creative process just as you have expressed here. In the pre-modern society, art and poetry were understood to be the pinnacle of civilization, of human thought, for this very reason. Other sciences, while important, were seen as inferior. Not in a bad way, but in the sense that they related only to the world of imman…	/r/seduction	10/11/18 05:13 PM
1	Nobody Owes You Anything What creates interconnected consciousness is human connection. That is not possible through the internet. The internet is a faux connectedness. It is the connectedness of knowledge of information, but not intimacy. The mistake is when we reduce consciousness down to mere information and data that we think connection is through the mere exchange of data. And thus we become reduced, existentially, to the machines we created.	/r/seduction	14/09/18 02:33 AM
6	Nobody Owes You Anything While I do agree 100% with everything you said, I think it's important to recognize that this is a slippery slope. More and more, primarily due to technology, we are living in a more individualistic age, which does contradict with our human nature as social creatures that require community. It should be recognized that there is a bare minimum that we do owe each other, and that is mutual respect and safety, and some of that does align with proper manners and etiquette. While I think it's great t…	/r/seduction	11/09/18 01:47 PM
27	Girls who show too much interest. On the other hand, people who can't invest also show a certain level of immaturity with respect to abundance as well. Some people are afraid of having a true relationship, and so they feel uncomfortable around those who are able to invest. Those people tend to be attracted to validation, confusing it for healthy attraction. Attraction is a bit more complicated than the simplified platitudes found in the pickup community.	/r/seduction	14/08/18 03:57 PM
10	How to make conversations more sexual Honestly, if you have strong and confident eye contact, meaning you don't feel insecure but rather comfortable, then whatever you say can be interpreted as sexual. It's because there is a lot of intimacy in eye contact, and at that point you can just go with the flow, and any little joke you make while engaging in intimate eye contact can easily be interpreted by her as sexual. But don't turn eye contact into a competition to prove how manly you are, a lot of guys do that and it's weird. It's th…	/r/seduction	07/07/18 02:13 AM
2	NEVER Do This On A Date That's true. A person will never be 100% healed or free from trauma and shame. If you're self-aware enough you'll know not to seek validation, approval, and healing from your date. It's a mix of that outer and inner game.	/r/seduction	29/06/17 03:16 PM
6	NEVER Do This On A Date How about, don't date until you're ready to date? There's no point in trying to control the conscious mind if the unconscious mind is a mess of a place. All we do is reflect what is beneath.	/r/seduction	28/06/17 02:55 PM
1	How I started approaching girls EASILY after 6 years of AA. And the question to all of you. It's not the experience of approaching itself, it's also the narratives that we apply to those experiences in order to navigate the intrapsychic conflict within. It's possible that the more experience the worse off and negative a person becomes because of how they're interpreting it. That's a symptom of our self-esteem and self-image though.	/r/seduction	15/06/17 08:36 PM
105	How to Talk to Girls and Get Them Attracted: The Definitive Guide Nice post. Very succinct. A good reminder as well. I like how you focus on the vibe and less the words as well. Much of communication is non-verbal, so strong eye contact and a smile go a long way. When I smile, they smile. It's cool. I would add that if you're kind of new then practice on people that you wouldn't be sexually interested in first. Go to the mall and talk to staff, especially in clothing stores as well, including the hot women afterwards. I just want to also add another important …	/r/seduction	01/06/17 02:22 PM
2	The most important thing about seduction is not being more emotionally invested in her than she is in you. Alright, I read all of this. I find my own personal insights to be in line with yours. And I think you explained things in an amazing way that was helpful. Great insights, and I loved your references to Plato and Nietzsche. I have been working on this for years now and I feel like I am at a pretty good place, and about to have a great breakthrough. You kind of alluded to it, but I find most articles and advice about this to be missing this, and that is how to do it. I mean, there are the more ou…	/r/seduction	13/04/17 05:56 PM
8	The most important thing about seduction is not being more emotionally invested in her than she is in you. Honestly, what I have learned over the years is that it's all about connection. Without connection there is no such thing as a relationship, of any sort really. Connection can only be achieved through being genuine and authentic, which means taking a deep interest in somebody else and yourself and exploring it and bringing it out. It's hard to be like that with people that are toxic because if you were to express yourself authentically then it may not be such a pleasant interaction. I like Ken P…	/r/seduction	13/04/17 01:58 PM