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Thanks for your comment. Are you saying that I need to revisit NMMNG and reflect on that based on what I wrote?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/26 04:54 PM
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Relationship The overall relationship dynamic continues to progress in a positive direction. I continue to work on strengthening my frame, identifying my desires, and being the oak. Wife is responding positively to my strength with less complaining and more frequent initiation of warm, physical contact. At times, I’ve felt like a dancing monkey as I work on my frame and body language - am I doing this from genuine desire? However, being the oak is becoming a more natural state of being and I vie…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/26 07:45 PM
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OYS 10 (03-03-26) - Last OYS Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. BF: 18.8% (Navy 3/2026). Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 170 lbs Lifts: SQ: 200 lbs, DL: 260 lbs, BP: 165 lbs, OHP: 105 lbs, BR: 170 lbs (all 5x5). Read NMMNG x 3, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, SGM x 2, Bang x 1, MRP - 100s of posts, 48 Laws x 1, AoS x 1 Mission To live as my authentic self and create a life that is an expression of my desires. Physical / Health Grinding away since my last OYS at the gym, ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/26 07:33 PM
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Relationship Some improvements. I’m focused on maintaining frame and it’s softening our interactions. I regressed a few times and briefly engaged in mild arguments over the past few weeks but quickly regrouped. Sexual responsiveness has been better. I attribute the improvements to my personal progress and her hormone treatment. We went to a work party and had a number of drinks, came home, and had some of the best sex we’ve had in 3 years. It started with her talking about how she’s a such a cat…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 07:19 PM
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OYS 9 (12-23-25). Last OYS on 11/4/25 (here). Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. BF: 20.7% (Navy 12/2025). Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 175 lbs Lifts: SQ: 190 lbs, DL: 235 lbs, BP: 155 lbs, OHP: 105 lbs, BR: 150 lbs (all 5x5). Read NMMNG x 2, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, SGM x 2, Bang x 1, MRP - 100s of posts, 48 Laws x 1, AoS x 1 Mission To create the life I want from my authentic self. Physical / Health Grinding away since my last OYS. Going to the gym 3x / week an…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 07:09 PM
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> You mean.... validates you? Everything you've written here is about external validation, and then you somehow hamster that having a woman who "desires" you isn't more of the same? Don't think so but open to feedback if I'm still acting like a dancing monkey. Desire should be a natural result of being the best version of me and authentically owning my mindset and actions. If the biological switch is broken in my current situation, may need to move on to situation(s) where it's not. > This is la…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 10:52 PM
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Relationship As a recap from an early OYS, she’s had a low libido for a few years and we only recently pinned a contributing cause as perimenopause. She’s had some slight improvements with HRT but nothing significant yet. Doc said symptom improvements may take 2-4 more months. We still have fun together but sexual chemistry is usually missing. In my last OYS, some helpful discussion about addressing my focus on external validation. I’ve reflected on this over the past few weeks. Even though thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 04:49 PM
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OYS 8 (11-4-25). Last post 2 weeks ago. Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. BF: 20.7% (Navy 11/2025). Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 173 lbs (+2 lbs) Lifts: SQ: 170 lbs, DL: 235 lbs, BP: 145 lbs, OHP: 105 lbs, BR: 140 lbs (all 5x5). Read NMMNG x 2, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, SGM x 2, Bang x 1, MRP - 100s of posts, 48 Laws x 1, AoS x 1 Mission To live as my authentic self and create a life that is a congruent expression of my desires with people who bring value to my l…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 04:38 PM
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Truly solo activities - lifting with mobility work (added time for meal prep), driving range and greens, hike 4-5x per week, meditation. I read a lot - personal and industry related. Recently, spending more time journaling and reflecting on my mission and MAP. I've had more free time this year. Likely too much in my head sometimes but focused on rewriting bad mental models and leveling up.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/25 03:43 PM
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> Your need for external validation is greater than your need to spend time doing things alone that matter. Got it. Putting together your comments with the ones from u/BoringAndSucks, breaking apart my need for external validation has to be my immediate focus to strengthen my frame and increase self appreciation. There have been times in my life when I've been much more internally focused but somehow I've let external validation become more important. Will dig through NMMNG and MRP posts on this…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 04:08 PM
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I don't understand, Horns. Your opinion is that a lack of self appreciation is partially the result of my thinking I am boring? On a first look, can't say that I feel that way and I have a lot of interesting things going on. I agree that a need for external validation is pulling me away from becoming my own mental point of origin and appreciating myself. Need to dig into breaking it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/25 08:23 PM
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Appreciate the comments. > Just like and love yourself for being you. The guy who decided to be better for his own sake. That's the goal. > If you don't love yourself, why anyone else is gonna love you? > Just spend more time with yourself. Imagine you are suddenly in a new country with no one you know. What are you gonna do? I'm having trouble getting self appreciation to stick despite going through the motions of doing new and interesting things every week. >I bet going to a bar to enjoy a dri…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 09:25 PM
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Social I had some social events with friends independent of wife. Caught up with some old friends last week. Scheduling with friends at this stage of life can be difficult as friends are all driving their kids around to activities every day of the week. Emotional / Spiritual Walking alone is a necessary part of this journey but continue to struggle with loneliness. At times, I feel like I’m going through the motions of scheduling activities for myself or with friends but, rather than experiencin…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 03:45 PM
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OYS 7 (10-21-25). Last posted 2 weeks ago Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. BF: 20.3% (Navy 9/2025). Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 171 lbs (-5 lbs), Lifts: SQ: 145 lbs, DL: 220 lbs, BP: 135 lbs, OHP: 95 lbs, BR: 125 lbs (all 5x5). Read NMMNG x 2, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, SGM x 2, Bang x 1, MRP - 100s of posts, 48 Laws x 1, AoS x 1 Mission To live as my authentic self and create a life that is a congruent expression of my desires with people who bring value to my …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 03:35 PM
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Good question and no. Successful guys running their own MAPs who feel blindsided. There's a biological process in play that's going to impact anyone here who wants to improve their LTRs (to varying degrees)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 08:39 PM
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Relationship I applied kino without overt initiations (as described in my previous OYS) and am creating a playful atmosphere at home. She said she’s feeling some changes with HRT and initiated multiple times since my last OYS with a little more passion. Added some light D on the last session which was well received. We had some D early on in our relationship and it’s a dynamic that I’d like to get back to and build on. Social Connected meaningfully with a few different guys this week. Most of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/25 05:51 PM
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OYS 6 (10-07-25). Last posted 2 weeks ago Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. BF: 21.6% (Navy 9/2025). Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 176 lbs (+1 lb), Lifts: SQ: 170 lbs, DL: 225 lbs, BP: 165 lbs, OHP: 100 lbs, BR: 145 lbs (all 5x5). Read NMMNG x 2, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, SGM x 2, Bang x 1, MRP - 100s of posts, 48 Laws x 1, AoS x 1 Mission To live as my authentic self and create a life that is a congruent expression of my desires with people who bring value to my …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/25 05:40 PM
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Social I noticed a few women smiling at me at the gym and positioning to work out near me which felt good. One improvement I am thinking about is how to increase feelings of abundance and generate more passive dread longer term. Abundance should help with the validation and oneitis feelings I described last week. No issues with abundance when I was younger - friends had more free time and I worked around many attractive females. Today, I’m not surrounded by mate competition at work or in any reg…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/25 05:46 PM
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OYS 5 (09-23-25) Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. BF: 21.6% (Navy 9/2025). Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 175 lbs (-1 lb) Lifts: SQ: 165 lbs, DL: 225 lbs, BP: 165 lbs, OHP: 100 lbs, BR: 145 lbs (all 5x5). Read NMMNG x 2, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, SGM x 2, Bang x 1, MRP - 100s of posts, 48 Laws x 1, AoS x 1 Mission To live as my authentic self and create a life that is a congruent expression of my desires with people who bring value to my life. Physical / Health I …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/25 05:36 PM
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I hear you. As I said, it's not logical but, for me, logic is not the primary driver of thoughts in the middle of the night. FWIW, since the last episode, I refocused on appreciating who I am more often during the day and have not been woken up since then with these useless thoughts. Appreciate your comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/25 03:45 PM
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>Unclear - are you referring to your wife, or do you have an LTR on the side? I created confusion here. LTR = wife rn. >Hmmmm...like roommates? Yes, like roommates. After months of trying different escalations that have worked in the past, this is the current state for the most part. Passion feels like a train leaving the station and then, as it starts moving, someone pulls the emergency brake. She has very little libido rn and acknowledges it. Hard finding insights from men who have lived throu…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/25 03:35 PM
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Horns, gained a lot of insight from your journey and comments. Thanks for sharing it all. I think about that part of Pook a lot. I was feeling burned out of eating earlier this month but seeing progress in the mirror has helped me refocus. I'm planning on restarting the bulking plan in October.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/25 08:38 PM
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Relationship Our relationship was mostly pleasant this week. She started HRT - E, P and T cream hormones. Doc says it could be months before we see effects (libido). I’m okay with being patient a little longer as I have plenty to work on with frame and at the gym. For those of you with partners on HRT, would be interesting to hear how you saw things evolve over the first weeks and months. Social Continue to meet up with friends independent of LTR. While some of the guys I interact with are more …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/25 07:12 PM
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OYS 4 (09-16-25) Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. BF: 21.6% (Navy 9/2025). Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 176 lbs (+0 lbs) Lifts: SQ: 160 lbs, DL: 220 lbs, BP: 160 lbs, OHP: 100 lbs, BR: 140 lbs (all 5x5). Read NMMNG x 1.5, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, 48 Laws x 1, SGM x 2, Bang x 1, MRP - 100s of posts, Art of Seduction - 70% Mission To live as my authentic self and create a life that is a congruent expression of my desires with people who bring value to my life. Ph…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/25 07:02 PM
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Relationship Wife initiated a quickie the day after our previous discussion (the one where I should have just STFU) about lack of desire. No issues with the fella downstairs. I’ve felt less validation needs for sex this week which could be part of why my body responded when the opportunity came up. Initial HRT appointment concluded. Starting hormones will be the next step after her lab tests come back and all looks good there. In considering my last OYS, I’m realizing that my frame needs a lot m…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/25 06:44 PM
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OYS 3 (09-09-25) Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. BF: 25% (DEXA - July 2025) Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 176 lbs (+1 lb) Lifts: SQ: 160 lbs, DL: 215 lbs, BP: 160 lbs, OHP: 100 lbs, BR: 135 lbs (all 5x5) Read NMMNG x 1, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, 48 Laws x 1, SGM x 2, MRP - 100s of posts, Bang x 1, Art of Seduction - 60% Mission To live as my authentic self and create a life that is a congruent expression of my desires with people who bring value to my life. Phys…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/25 06:33 PM
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Thanks for this. >how is this even possible. you are the most skinny fat person i've seen here. you need to build some serious muscle. I get it age is a factor but its not impossible. Your diet is going to matter a bunch here. Agree and working on it. Already seeing improvements but much more to be done. >there's a post about this...also it's normal to not get excited about bitchy lame starfish. But then again that's your fault for not being more exciting. I recall that post and will find it aga…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/25 04:34 PM
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Social Saw friends over the weekend and drinks were plentiful. Got IOIs from two different neighborhood women with one squeezing my shoulders and, after feeling my muscle, moving on to my back. Social lunch planned this week and playing cards with some old friends. Emotional / Spiritual After the bedroom incident, I tried the blue pill and the fella responded multiple times so I don’t think it’s a medical problem. Maybe I'll see a doc anyway. I’m thinking that feeling a lack of abundance along w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/25 06:52 PM
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OYS 2 (9-2-25) Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. BF: 25% (DEXA 7/2025) Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 175 lbs (+2 lbs) Lifts: SQ: 155 lbs, DL: 215 lbs, BP: 155 lbs, OHP: 95 lbs, BR: 135 lbs (all 5x5) Read NMMNG x 1, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, 48 Laws x 1, SGM x 2, MRP - 100s of posts, Bang - 60%, Art of Seduction - 60% Mission To live as my authentic self and create a life that is a congruent expression of my desires with people who bring value to my life. Physical …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/25 06:41 PM
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Thank you for your insights. I went through TWOTSM x3 as it resonated with some spiritual interests of mine. However, I appreciate the risks of absorbing it at this stage and, as you and Horns have suggested, will hold off on more of it for now. I'm also working through Dancing Monkey and validation issues and probably have buried covert contracts that I need to uncover. Is it worth exploring any feelings driving the anger further or just stay with the basics and let it sort itself out over time…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/25 06:26 PM
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Relationship We had a number of passionate times in the years before we had kids and some infrequent ones in the years after they were born. After kids, I swallowed a lot of blue pills and stopped lifting. I also had some struggles with my career at that time. Good sexual chemistry when we are in sync and I still like her. Fast forward to early 2025. The relationship was in roommate mode with infrequent duty sex (1-2x / month) and frequent harpy behavior. Since starting this journey in April, se…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/25 09:12 PM
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OYS 1 Stats: Early 50s, wife late 40s, married 20 yrs. 2 teenagers. Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 172 lbs, BF: 25% (DEXA 7/2025) Lifts - Start (6/2025) SQ: 85 lbs, DL: 105 lbs, BP: 95 lbs, OHP: 60 lbs, BR: 75 lbs (all 5x5). Wt: 170lbs Lifts - Current SQ: 150 lbs, DL: 210 lbs, BP: 150 lbs, OHP: 90 lbs, BR: 130 lbs (all 5x5). Wt: 173 lbs Read NMMNG x 1, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, 48 Laws x 1, SGM x 2, MRP - 100s of posts, Bang - 50%, Art of Seduction - 60% Mission To live as my authentic self a…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/25 09:02 PM
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