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Bro I have little worked with domiantrices. You're right with letting them know through abstract ways. But no one said fighting or anything physical. Dominance is 100% about being the more active and guiding partner. You take the brunt of responsibility, managing things, disciplining, leading. There are women who do that and prefer to do that. Most women in general are not looking for someone to "submit" to. They're looking for an equal with a lean toward either dominance or submission—whichever…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 03:56 PM
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No. I've known women who never have any sort if "hoe phase". I've also known plenty who did. There's no one common thread between those groups. Everyone did or didn't do things for their own reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:04 AM
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I understand and appreciate you sharing, I would just hope you could acknowledge the predatory nature of many religious groups. Religion does have value and helps people, but it's important to acknowledge the origin and function of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:17 PM
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I agree that virgins shouldn't be mocked. But I don't think they deserve praise, either. Plus, it's not like choosing to have casual sex suddenly means you lack discipline or restraint. How else did I get fit? Graduate with honors? Read awfully dry texts that pain me? Find my dream partner? There's nothing more or less moral about deciding to have sex or deciding not to have sex, unless, like you said, your moral system says so. Here's the thing with purity: it also encompasses naivety, innocenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:05 PM
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People attach too much to it, imo. It's really not something that has to make or break anyone. Like there's an excess of value placed on it, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:45 PM
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I'm not robbing myself of anything. I don't want a family, but I highly doubt I'd have any issue having one if I wanted, given men have wanted to marry me and have kids in the past. I'm a loving relationship, and I work and pay taxes like everyone else. Acting as if having children is the only way to have pleasure or contribute is just plain incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:43 PM
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because i like goth music? that's not related to fictional characters
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:41 PM
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I don't think it's "disloyal" but I'd be a little concerned for her mental wellbeing if she's older than a teen and exhibiting these behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:31 PM
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I agree it's true for everything. There's no objective morality. Having sex is not objectively moral or immoral. Even in most subjective systems, I'd say it isn't, as it doesn't inherently hurt anyone when people have willing sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:30 PM
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it's so we can go back and talk about this nonsense with them. my partner refers to sub as the "worm farm" and we talk about how grateful we are to be who we are and to be together. that and to ignore my dull office job
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:23 PM
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Anyone above a 5 is like auto hot but all above are hotter until it caps out at non existent 10s
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:19 PM
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People who place moral value on sex as weird to me. It's just an act. There's nothing moral or immoral about it past what certain power structures deem. It has no real moral judgement behind the act. It's why people try so hard to attach morality to it so they can control it better
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:16 PM
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if you like plain white girls who are a little dorky you are in the right place then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:59 AM
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Hard disagree on casual sex being immoral. But that's just gonna boil down to a difference in moral standards/systems.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:58 AM
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Even most mormons aren't like that unless they're the wild kind who live in compounds or very rural utah or something
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:18 AM
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flirting...is immoral? uh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:15 AM
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phsyical beauty is stored in tha bones
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:10 AM
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Idk I'm 5'2" and I've dated guys who are 5'4"-5'9". Height was never something I was picky about. People overall treat you differently when you're with taller guys, though. It's kinda shitty that something like height impacts social treatment so severely.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 10:05 PM
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100%. I've had a small crash at about 25 mph and it was still loud. I've also had a drunk driver hit my mom's car at about 50ish mph and he slammed us into another lane of traffic. It was so loud and happened so fast I didn't even realize what was happening. It's funny that we all collectively agree to deal with the risks for the benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:58 PM
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are you serious lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:46 PM
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When I was first learning to drive it terrified me because I had the full realization we're all just piloting these potentially lethal hunks of metal at various speeds and hoping everyone is sober and considerate enough to follow the rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:32 PM
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if she likes it then you know she's freaky in some regard...no guarantee it's sexual, tho lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:15 PM
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A lot of the extremist subs and sites were taken down. I think a lot moved more underground. When I first saw this stuff about 6-7 years ago it was a lot uglier.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:13 PM
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That's a pretty good range. People overall seem to like that range on both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:09 PM
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That's good that you guys have communication and understanding like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 06:37 PM
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Decisions, decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 06:37 PM
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Likely because sex is typically something people associate with men valuing; same way women are often told to get checked when they have issues conceiving but men aren't always considered as the issue right away. I also think the person with the lower sex drive may not care as much because, well, they have a lower sex drive. I'm sure some don't see it as an issue unless it's causing relationship problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 06:03 PM
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I'm 24 and a lot of men here try to claim that women in their 20s lust after men like that...they don't. That's like women in their 40s. Aka their same age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 05:59 PM
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He's the closest to my type but still ain't it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 05:57 PM
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I don't like any of these guys. Like at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 05:56 PM
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Congrats, I think?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 05:55 PM
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Have before, but not atm. If one of the jobs I applied for works out, we'll be at the same amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 05:15 PM
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god, to be pretty AND do nothing, THEN get lauded for it?? wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 04:03 PM
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it is simp behavior to even look at a woman longer than .5 of a second
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 04:01 PM
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Sarah can plan dates?? Also damn just invite April too maybe 😶
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:56 PM
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I agree with this. The older men who were into me were surprised and a little disappointed when I did not have daddy nor abandonment issues lol. Most of the women who get very roped in by them to have that type of "baggage" or dynamic preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:54 PM
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I'm not poly but I have zero issue with people who are. They can do whatever they want. They're all consenting adults, they're not necessarily being "greedy" or "chaotic" or forcing anyone to be with them. Live n let live.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:06 AM
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Probably Video Kid but Sleepwalking and Play Dead are close seconds. I meant to see them in concert back in September but spaced on getting tickets since I'd just come back from a vacation 🫠
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:03 PM
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i love the birthday massacre 🥹
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:42 PM
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Plenty of women see men cry and don't lose respect for them and some will even like them more for it. I met one boyfriend while he was crying and invited him to have tea with me because I wanted to help, then we dated for a year. Men are allowed to cry. Just don't date shitty women who are bothered by you crying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:40 PM
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as far as muscular guys go, yes imo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:37 PM
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This sounds like immature behavior. I've had guy friends who caught feelings for me that I never developed romantic attachment too no matter their pursuits. Plus, part of of being in mature, committed relationship is understanding that a knee-jerk reaction to someone doesn't mean anything had to happen. And no, if flirting or going after women persistently or consistently 100% meant they'd love you at some point, some of in this sub would not be here
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:56 PM
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? I mean, we live together and are exclusive. I just use the term because it's gender-neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:53 PM
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motivational speakers almost always seem scummy in a way
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:15 PM
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or knowing you have the best partner for you and it's not worth leaving for anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:13 PM
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My partner and I both share stories about exes/past partners. Some of them are really amusing to discuss. We're fine lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:11 PM
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i've always wondered this
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:09 PM
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I doubt all women only go for people out of their league. I think it's more often their in similar leagues but one party tends to think they're above the other due to [insert reason]. I only go for people I find hot for real relationships and I've been fine. Granted, I'm not ugly or anything, but I'm no VS model.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:05 PM
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oh i LOVE this one
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:57 PM
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man this makes me view bounce house rentals in a new light
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:55 PM
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v romantic!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:55 PM
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Q4A: If you could have sex in an unconventional place, where would it be? I think mine would be sex in a coffin or in a rocket ship w the gravity turned off for an extra challenge
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:54 AM
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Do it. It's unlike any other time of your life, and even with the negatives of sharing space or small space, you have more access to socializing with peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:46 AM
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Whoever wants to leave will begin to emotionally detach in advance. I've been watching a male friend do this with his gf for months because he's too scared to break up with her. It's been like 2-3 months now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:44 AM
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i don't know what the hip slang is anymore and i am weirdly happy about it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:32 AM
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i agreed w this even as a kid but it would've been off brand for him
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:30 AM
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Interesting take. I think the key is just to have the guy thinking you're out of his league for some reason and he'll like you. That's my experience. I honestly think were we in similar leagues but guys get excited when women they like reciprocate. Unless you're punching waaaaaaaayyyyy up it's almost default for men wanna lock something good down.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:21 AM
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i mean people who compete tend to like those so it wouldn't shock me? though i don't know if there's rules against that. i'm not personally into the bikini contest bod but some people are
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 07:56 AM
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i think it has to do with holidays events and having to be inside/isolated a little more due to weather
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 07:38 AM
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she looks like she does bikini fitness contests
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 07:36 AM
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it makes me sleepy but i'll slam some sangria
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 07:29 AM
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that's alright, those who do want go to the weed and puppy land will cook some excellent bacon i'm sure
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 06:02 AM
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Bro she looks like she's at least 5'5", maybe 5'7". I am like 5'2" so maybe. Do I gotta declare "keebler elf" legally on my driver's license or? ...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 06:01 AM
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This is what the femboys want. Trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:03 AM
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I'm closer to pic 1, only I'm little more lean and petite. I 100% think I am more attractive than pic 2. I also 100% find pic 1 more attractive than pic 2. This is just based on my personal preferences. Pic 1 was definitely more average in the past and still is in many places, but in certain locations, like America, or in pockets where obesity is a problem, being "slim" or lean can launch you to a higher level of attractiveness by comparison to the major. I do think I'm more attractive than the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:02 AM
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I'm going to collect all my femboy slaves with my big sexy arms and and make them cook me breakfast and i'll buy them weed, puppies, and dildos to keep them happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 01:45 AM
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Yeah. I so like thins/slim guys with little to no muscle, too. I like skinny people overall as long as it's not anorexic-type skinny
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 07:18 PM
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Your dad sounds like a neat guy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:56 AM
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Something like that. Like I'm cool with anything 4.5"-6.5" assuming the dude knows how to use it. It's the motion of the ocean that makes the waves crash. Personally, I don't want anything bigger than 7" near me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:52 AM
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I'm not sure. My dad has always been present and good parent. My parents have a happy marriage and have always supported me in my pursuits and happiness. I've never dated any shit guys or gals, and I do think it's because they raised me to be confident with good self-esteem. They both emphasized independence, having my own money, and working toward what I want. My dad is part of why I'm a big fan of adrenaline-inducing activities. We used to go on roller coasters together and he'd take me on mot…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:49 AM
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I think my sweet spot is somewhere around 5'8. I've dated two 5'8" guys and that was really one of the most comfortable heights for me but they got to feel "masculine" next to me or whatever. While I don't care if a guy is tall or not, it does seem fairly common for guys to want to feel tall next to their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:39 AM
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vanilla
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:20 AM
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homes and specifically bedrooms are such an interesting way to get a read on people. there's a lot of personality and character that can be gleaned from a living space
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:18 AM
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My cap is also 6' because taller guys are just not sized well for me. The taller ladies and fellas can keep mister 6'3" or whatever. Gimme between 5'5"-6' and it doesn't matter where he falls there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:17 AM
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relatable
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:15 AM
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Man I'm sorry but big dicks and muscular bodies do not do much for more, at least not any more than a medium dick or a slim body. Like size and fitness are factors, sure, but I don't think they matter as much as some people here think. And even then there's a size cap on both of those that will vary from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:14 AM
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I did check this morning while I was getting ready, and I do actually have a brownish color that matches my nips. Kinda funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:36 PM
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I did check this morning while I was getting ready, and I do actually have a brownish color that matches my nips. Kinda funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:36 PM
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My impatience. I'm always about fast-tracking things and I do things a lot on my own because I hate abiding by other's schedules. I get irritated that I have to plan long term goals like 5 years out for things I want to do now, but I have to build/save/work toward it. I just wanna grindset my way to success but damn success can take time. I'm learning to accept some things take time. The tough part is now finding something to fill the wait/silence while I work, as I often forget to have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:38 AM
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I've heard this before. Never tried it though. I don't know if Sephora will let you swatch the color next to your nip, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:34 AM
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yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:32 AM
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his nose is too contoured
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:31 AM
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based
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:28 AM
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👀
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:26 AM
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The fit is good. Background is distracting. Work on the composition to center yourself more so you're the focal point and not competing with the car.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:25 AM
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"they had sex on top of my body" fucking yikes 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:23 AM
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Nice, happy coupling to the both of you 🎉
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:31 AM
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I always felt weird wearing hoops when I was younger because some people regard them so negatively (mostly bc of their history and association with woc or them being "ratchet"), then I wore big ones in college the first time and felt amazing. I only wear tiny ones now but sometimes I debate busting out the big ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:28 AM
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Yes. Having to censor or perform for family can be exhausting. I think it's normal to not want to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:24 AM
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2 bagel sandwiches cost me $30 which is insane given i can get them for $16 if just drive...usually i'm trapped at work when i order it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:05 AM
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clockwork orange
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:57 AM
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best take on this entire sub
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:09 AM
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bro no one is trying to destroy people by letting them cry. life is not a soap opera.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:05 AM
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Extroverts somehow legitimately enjoy socializing past entertainment value and it's baffling to me because it just exhausts me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:02 AM
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they want women to actually want validation so they're trying to speak it into existence
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:08 AM
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I would be turned off. I've seen online posts about rich guys asking how to hide their wealth from dates and how long to do before they reveal it, and each time I've thought about it, it bothers me that they wouldn't trust me and yes I'd be turned off. The height thing never happens but if it did I'd honestly assume he's bad as measuring because no guys lie to say he's short ime. Maybe someone out there does but I've never encountered it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:05 AM
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No. I have zero desire for a family. I honestly want to move out of state away from my and my partner's family—and I actually like our family. I just prefer to be left alone and not have to care for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:00 AM
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bruh wtf lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 12:57 AM
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I honestly think this is hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 11:56 PM
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Religion is a hard no-go for me. Agnostic is okay. But no religious folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 11:56 PM
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I do. I'm actually waiting to hear back on some work I submitted to some magazines earlier this month. Fingers crossed n all that. My partner and I sometimes make up haikus for random shit. We once did one about how he accidently got a drop of pee on his sock. One about traffic at a redlight. Etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 11:55 PM
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dang
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 05:29 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 04:50 PM
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take him to the airport and have him go through tsa: if he fits thru the scanner he's lying
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:43 AM
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that name makes me think of a coworker so no
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:21 AM
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oh damn, oh damnnnnn
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 05:39 AM
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I have a degree and my partner doesn't. Paper doesn't determine intelligence nor inherently someone's earning potential. It just shows you can retain info and repeat it on demand. Or you learned a certain industry and its processes. I tend to like academics more than non-college goers, but I have met smart people who got a GED after dropping out and dumbass STEM majors going to grad school. All sorts of people in all sorts of places.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 05:37 AM
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i don't know who that is but i will take your word for it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 05:28 AM
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I mean, I think I'm good looking, but that doesn't mean getting older scares me. (Discounting health concerns...those are not fun.) Granted, my livelihood is not tied to my appearance. I like my gray hairs, I think they're neat. Society being obsessed with youth doesn't really help anyone unless it's actually creating funding for more fountain-of-youth-type research. I think you can be good looking and valued for other pieces of yourself; most people want to be valued for things other than their…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 05:25 AM
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being good at sports and being athletic are not mutually exclusive. you can be fit and athletic but not like teams/regulations/sporting events.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 12:54 AM
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I feel like he must have some form of body dysmorphia because he looked more than fine before. hollywood does that to actors/actresses, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 12:50 AM
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reminds me of the musicians and artists i knew in college lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 04:24 PM
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She's very much my type she's like a 9.5/10 for me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:58 AM
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Would make him more attractive for sure, but I'm not about to tolerate cheating or mistreatment just because the dick is good. all it means it i want to have sex even more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:56 AM
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Honestly yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:54 AM
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Varies. Go-to are black creepers. They have like a 1.5"ish platform. Sometimes I wear boots, mary janes, or heels. All my heels are block-heels except for a generic pair of pumps. I got black fuzzy slippers for at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:52 AM
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100% agree movies are weird as a date idea when you're trying to get to know someone
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:47 AM
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That's cool, didn't know you do that. Very neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 07:03 PM
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if you want to look, i'd say it still is. lower libido women exist. but i don't know if they're on dating apps if that's what you're using.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:56 PM
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Ditto. Marrying young is seen as unintelligent. Only hyper religious people do it or poorer people who seem to think getting married at 20 is romantic or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:47 PM
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no. he's ugly imo. his facial proportions are weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:42 PM
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it's possible. i have also noticed as people get older, the topics surrounding death do get more sensitive, too, because there's more confronting morality: maybe their parents are getting up there in age or have passed, maybe they're experiencing their first health issues and scares, etc. I might just have the bias of youth, still because I remember most everyone from adolescence to early 20s being open to such discussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:44 AM
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I 100% disagree that they contribute nothing. Also plenty of old school philosophers were just "thinkers". Also I'm pretty sure mathematicians are still in that same realm.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:41 AM
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what did zizek do to u bro
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:23 AM
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I'm a woman and I agree that communication is vital. No one should be expected to mind read. Talking about things doesn't inherently ruin an intimate interaction. It's practice and learning for the future, because if you get to know each other well enough, you can start to just "know" and have confidence moving forward with your interactions. It's much easier to have fun once you know what someone's about—and what you're about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:22 AM
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How old are you? Most people I've spoken with, regardless of sex and age, like discussing ideas about the afterlife (or lack of it). The only time I've noticed it's touchy is with religious people or those who don't want to "rock the boat" where they're at. (Work, for example.) Some people just can't stand to think about it because it terrifies them too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:19 AM
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We're gonna agree to disagree on this. I think people deserve an opt out option, especially if it involves sparing another person from this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:17 AM
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i mean if adults are consenting then they're consenting
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 03:35 AM
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i can't believe this is the first time i'm seeing red scare mentioned here
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 03:32 AM
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imo no one should be forced to care for a child they don't want. there should be an opt out-period for both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 03:30 AM
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i feel this because i cannot stand the no eyebrow look personally lol. blond, paler people do not tend to have strong contrasting features and then their hair tends to be finer/thinner and they lose it easier, seemingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 11:10 PM
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Man I felt similar when I had sex the first time. I thought it was going to be this life changing event and I got done and was in the bathroom looking at myself like...Hmm. I am basically the exact same person as before.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 11:04 PM
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I've done this. I wanted to flake on the first date with my partner because I was sleep deprived but went anyway, and I'm incredibly glad I did. I usually love when friends cancel on me for plans a couple hours in advance because then I can stay home lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 11:01 PM
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honestly yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 10:57 PM
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Is the fear related to anything or anyone you can manage? If you can't do anything about it, maybe finding something that makes you feel less afraid or calmer could help. Or something that reminds you of what you can do an are capable of. Hopefully things can calm down and you feel better soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:27 AM
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Physical issues? Or mental/emotional?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:21 AM
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I have not! I may have to show this to my partner since we're out of shows we both like. MLM has always fascinated me with the way some people will let it destroy their lives. It's cultish.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:19 AM
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sounds like you should enjoy them, then
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:16 AM
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You're gonna have to clarify what you're saying here. I do mean the latter. Why are you mentioning the former/general relativity? I'm just saying what my stance is. I can't afford to open a big can of worms right now because I am mentally dead from work
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:16 AM
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And they call that the Frida Kahlo method
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:11 AM
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it's the syllables, i think
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:08 AM
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this is better imo. not sure why it matters what either sex thinks, i'm more concerned with if i'm bettering myself or not. others have no major bearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:06 AM
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I said I err utilitarian sometimes. It was another person who stated they were. I don't recall who.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:03 AM
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Happy to help you confirm 🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:01 AM
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this is just unfortunate all around
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 12:52 AM
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as someone who is not rp i think this is funny given i am a moral relativist
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 12:52 AM
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pretty much this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 12:50 AM
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Mine is to finish sanding my a table I want to repaint. I did smoke some weed yesterday and somehow ended up fixing up all the saggy kitchen cabinets in the apartment. Was pleasantly surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 12:49 AM
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honestly that would be frightening, given the people who get consumed by mlm and pyramid schemes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 12:45 AM
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Once a week sounds pretty normal? I think a lot of people do that. Though plenty want to see their partner everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 12:41 AM
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why not remove the "and" to make it more present/active
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 12:40 AM
1

I was talking about coffee, but for alcohol it's like $7-$15 depending on the drink. Cocktails are usually $15 each.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 12:36 AM
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I could see how tinder got a bad rep if so many people had negative experiences with it. It's possible me being in a bubble of decent/positive interactions gave me a biased favor to it. I wish there was some kind of middle ground. Tinder was a bit off to get a relationship from because when I was looking, a lot of people are just on there to hook up or do whatever. Which is fine, but it'd be nice if there was a middle ground to "hookup/ons/dick-on-demand" and apps that pitch "substance-based, se…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:24 PM
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no, you're correct
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:14 PM
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As a guy, no idea. As a woman, I usually suggest coffee for first dates though and get there early then get my own drink before they arrive, that way they don't even have to worry about it. I buy myself coffee and tea all the time, anyway, so it's low stakes and the message gets across. If money is an issue for a guy, especially one who's under 25, a low stakes, inexpensive date like coffee is usually okay even if you want/have to pay. Like you're out like $20 at most if you both get fancy drink…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:13 PM
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Waiting to see if she makes a move to pay or get her wallet is probably what I'd do. I have has guys try to keep me from paying because they are very insistent on it, but it's not the common reaction. Most have seemed pleasantly surprised, but some do take it personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:07 PM
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I was always told to do it as a courtesy, way to establish that you can take care of yourself, and also so there's not a chance the guy thinks he can just "buy" you, like a safety precaution so a first date doesn't have a guy thinking he paid for your food so now he gets to touch you or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:00 PM
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I expected to split dates ever since I was like 18. My mother did raise me to pay my own way on early dates, though. It's standard for me. In relationships my partner and I usually take turns paying for things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 09:55 PM
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I think women almost have to be the ones to suggest it? I always expect first dates split but I'm usually the one to mention it, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 09:52 PM
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30s seems hit or miss depending on the culture. I think what's crazy about other OLD dating apps is they seem unusable to me. There's so many restrictions on how many people you can view in a sitting, expirations on messages, etc. It feel like the facets if tinder where no messages expire, you can just swipe no like 50 times in a row and still be seeing new people. I tried bumble and thought it was stupid because it'd only show me small groups of people and I'd like none of them. Tinder was way …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 09:36 PM
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Accurate. Mushrooms, cocaine, and meth in some areas/states.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 09:01 PM
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Interesting. I know more women who are concerned about drugs/won't touch them. Weed and alcohol are basically seen as harmless, and people may or may not be off put by pills depending on if they're prescription or not. Anything past that seems to have various groups of people who are hesitant to deal with those who use them. Crack and angeldust aren't things I was really around given I grew up in southwest suburbia. I can see people not being about those lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:47 PM
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Hmm. I've never noticed that from men. If anything I see more women see it as a dealbreaker. That's just what I've noticed, though. Depends on the drugs too. Like what are we talking about? Weed? Drinking? Psychedelics? Prescription pills? People shooting up in a gas station bathroom?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:34 PM
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How old are you? I'm curious because I have older coworkers (40s) who sheepishly mention trying OLD and it does seem like older groups perceive it less neutrally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:05 PM
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I think because not everyone's looking to fuck. Probably the majority. Some people on there, male and female, do distinctly mention that they're looking for a serious relationship. But it's not the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:39 PM
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snapchat was a sexting app? i straight up thought it was for drug dealing. granted it came out when i was like 12 so that may be why i didn't know lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:38 PM
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What area do you live in? I'm in the southwest and it was just viewed as dating/hookups/whatever you wanted to do with it. The reactions I've gotten form men expressing that there's a sort of implication it's primarily hookups were from the midwest and east coast.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:37 PM
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I did meet my partner there during 2020; I had to move back home during the pandemic and there were zero things to do, zero ways to meet anyone after being uprooted from where I'd been living. We're still together and happy, but I don't think it's the norm for most people on that app. Like I said, I do think it's results depend on how you use—and who you are. I personally am not looking for drawn out courtships (months of dating before sex) so maybe that's why it worked well for me. I did notice…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:30 PM
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What makes someone quality is subjective, is why. Some people think religious, conservative, virgins are quality, others think it's agnostic, liberal, promiscuous people. Quality isn't objective when it comes to partners; people are looking for different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:21 PM
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dude same. i was informed that men will lie to get "want they want" way before i even knew what sex was. i remember being like 8 and wondering if boys actually had feelings or if they were all just faking to get what they wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:15 PM
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Post structuralism has been my area of current interest, yes. Thanks for the recs!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:09 PM
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I've met and dated two guys from tinder. Honestly, I had no idea some people viewed it as a hookup-only app until like 2 years into using it. It was the only dating app I knew of at the time (2016). The guys would ask me if I wanted to lie to people about how we met and I was confused and asked why, and they implied there's some sort of stigma to OLD, specifically tinder? I almost wonder if it depends on your peers. All of my friends, male and female, were liberal and used tinder to meet people.…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:07 PM
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10k for me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 06:23 PM
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Just a 7?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 06:15 PM
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This is kind of hilarious, I've encountered someone who writes sci-fi like that....some people just have interesting expository styles, I guess lol. Will have to look more at these. I don't think I've read a ton of hard sci-fi. I do like Isaac Asimov well enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:43 PM
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I hear a ton about Dune! It seems like it had a big cult following. Any good? Worth it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:39 PM
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For fun. Googled Spherology, seems like something up my alley! Discipline and Punish is also and my list; I read a bit of a supplementary text that covered the context of his work, but haven't gotten into the thing itself yet. Every time I hear about his work is makes me excited so I do intend to get into him soon. Probably next year. I'm kind of hoping around from different philosophers since this isn't a class or anything, I'm trying to stick to related thinkers so I don't get too lost lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:39 PM
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I have not but I have one of his books on my reading list. Simulacra and Simulation. Do you have thoughts on or Foucault? Some people seem to really like him and others not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 06:06 AM
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still anti oedipus. also i may read the le guin stuff, i like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 05:23 AM
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as the chef's say: 😘👌🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:33 AM
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I feel like I get enough from it to keep on until the end, but god. I set it down and can't look at it sometimes lol. I'll spend like 30 minutes thinking about 3 pages because of the nature of the content. Just connecting it all and making sure I'm get the concepts. Lots of mental effort. I like a challenge, though. But it hurts 🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:22 AM
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Interesting. I wikied the book and looked at some reviews on good reads. German Romanticism, huh? Very neat. I can always appreciate some good prose.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:20 AM
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It's definitely interesting but probably one of the toughest books I've read so far. I want to be done with it and move onto something else. I may get a novel to read for actual leisure because this one is some work lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:59 AM
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that's one way of solving it lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:48 AM
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I have such a hard time being passive in my life when I know being active is what makes things happen. Realizing I will be okay is honestly the thing that keeps me okay. Like a self-fulfilling prophecy. Guess I'll have to see where I'm at in 5-10 years. Only way to find out is to keep going.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:36 AM
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Anti-Oedipus. How is that book? I've never heard of the series.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:15 AM
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I understand the sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:00 AM
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original is never bad
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:49 AM
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I'm a woman. I don't want children. I love sex. If I'm living a lie, I don't want to know truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:03 AM
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I hope u are well too. We don't really interact but I like seeing you in here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:01 AM
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I think reading dry ass books and essays for fun is the reason I'm long winded. The fact I have been working my way through the same dense book since January probably doesn't help.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:01 AM
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I almost got hit by a van on my way to work one morning. I was dreading showing up, and my light turned green, and I went fast because I was at the start of the line (I hate being the reason someone else misses a light), and someone thought it would be smart to go from a full stop at a red, to just flooring it for some reason. It disturbed me to think I could've just died on my way to a place I don't like just to sit there unchallenged for 8 hours. Made me understand how it important is to start…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:58 AM
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no lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:40 AM
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This is true. Anyone can lie about anything if they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:40 AM
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Accurate enough statement
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:38 AM
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I am fascinated a guy edgy enough to have a face dermal has such pure takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:26 AM
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I've known both male and female cheaters. It seems based more on if they're happy in their relationship or not snd if there are available parties. Sometimes they do it because they're mad at their partner (these were people I knew around 18/19, so the juvenile idea is just that). Typically these people were in shit/mutually abusive relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:25 AM
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I think it can work for some men, given the guys I met were on there too. I do think there's a lot of men and then some women who it doesn't work for at all, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:21 AM
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If you are active in trying to meet people and do it through common interests or professional goals, you'll likely be fine. I'm trying to network and make friends with people in the local arts scene where I'm at because I want to get more into vending and open up and online shop soon to sell wares, and I know there's others trying to do the same. Don't keep friends just to have people. They should be people you enjoy being around or who had value to your life. If you feel drained or like you're …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:20 AM
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Refreshing to see such a sane take on this! I juggle a variety of work and passion projects because I want to "escape" the office grind, but it's odd to figure out the line between "need to be comfortable" and "luxury" sometimes. Like is a house a "need" if you have an apartment? Things like that. I know it's different for everyone, but it almost seems like being able to have nice income then downsizing lifestyle is the key for most people who want more time. I'm only 24 and I know I have time t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:15 AM
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medium size women, maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:26 AM
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Maybe? I was one and off tinder when I was in college, then met my partner on tinder in 2020 and we've been together ever since. A guy I dated in college was also from tinder. It could be a shit show now but sometimes you find good people there, you just have to know what you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:24 AM
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what the fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:23 AM
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Multiple times. Benefits: more free time, money, energy, and focus. Less concern over social things like people's feelings, needs, or desires. More time to dedicate to your personal goals and success. Consequences: increased boredom, less social entertainment, maybe some loneliness (but not a longing to go be around them again). Honestly the pros outweigh the cons almost every time unless the friends are really quality or valuable in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:22 AM
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I am very possessive and my partner is clingy so we seem to work well in that regard. I think it's nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:19 AM
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Ngl I keep thinking about the point of female orgasm and specifically squirting, and have thought about the whole topic earlier about women with urethras closer to the vaginal openings, and honestly wonder if squirting/female orgasm serves to protect the women's body/health in the sense of it clears the urethra. People weren't nearly as clean or aware of bacteria in the past, and something as simple as a untreated uti that doesn't pass could potentially kill you if it spread your kidneys or blad…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:17 AM
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Imposter syndrome, perhaps. Changing the external doesn't always change internal. Changing the internal often changes the external.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:10 AM
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Based and accurate imo. People who express wanting to be around you a lot is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:09 AM
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What if they have that already on their own?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 11:59 PM
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eh. depends on what they're after.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 11:46 PM
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they do adderall
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 11:09 PM
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This is prime. Doggy is pretty good too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:57 PM
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This is an interesting observation. Lifestyle creep is real as fuck and intentionally designed to keep you need more. It makes sense that that couple cripple some relationships if someone can't stand giving it up or is too accustomed to the finer things. I do think some see downsizing for freedom as worth it, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:52 PM
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Honestly I wish sex ed covered things like this. I heard about latex allergies but none of this stuff lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:49 PM
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I'm a big "shower before if possible, and always shower after" person. I used the do the wash cloth thing or use wet wipes too. I take d-mannose supplements which also seem to help. Getting a lube without glycerin was also helpful! We were trying some different lubes and one gave them to me a lot and I'm pretty certain it was because it had glycerin in it. We switched to one without it and haven't seemed to have any issues. It's better than the other ones we tried, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:39 PM
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her tits look like they might be implants? I'm not certain. maybe like an 8.5/10 but her face could change that. I'm personally not into big boobs. Butts > boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:30 PM
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probably
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:29 PM
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yah
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:25 PM
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On the side, if I gotta pick
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:21 PM
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hawt
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:13 PM
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Depends on the space available and the ketchup packet. I'm adaptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:12 PM
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This is interesting and now I want to go measure myself lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:09 PM
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This is interesting to me as well because I do like casual sex and am also prone to UTIs if I don't pee/shower after. My partner and I was extremely clean about things. Now I'm wondering if my anatomy contributes to both these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:05 PM
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Do have a link for this? It seems interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:59 PM
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Why urethra? I was expecting something more like vaginal depth or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:58 PM
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Fair enough. Just interesting to see the duality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:53 PM
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You seem mean/harsh in dome of your comments, so it's surprising to have that contrasted against "pleasure-giving kink"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:44 PM
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That's surprising, didn't expect that from the way you talk on here. Interesting facet.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:37 PM
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I'm pretty long winded on here. It's how I keep awake.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:36 PM
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Like average/common? 5"-5.5". Anything 6"+ is "big" imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:35 PM
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Anything smaller than 4.5"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:25 PM
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If I couldn't orgasm easily, I have a strong feeling I would rarely/never bothered with casual sex, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:24 PM
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I can't relate to the first two; oral is fun but I'm not sure that makes anyone a dick fetishist? Maybe if they only want the big ones for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:23 PM
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See patterns and believe them. Maybe you were just real good; nothing's wrong with finding a common thread and having it be you, ha. If you got it, you got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:19 PM
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Yes. Which is wild to me. I'm high n and I don't like big dicks. Idk how to explain low women liking them other than maybe a difference in anatomy or it's something they tried and just really liked. Could be the influence of pop culture/big dicks being seen as "better".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:12 PM
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I think the game changer for me was learning when to alternate the muscle groups I was using to move. Like if I need to give my core a break, shift to legs, pull the person with my hands/arms, or even laying my weight on them to make them feel a little more "held down" while also getting a short break. Earlier on I was kind of just trying to power through and didn't think about making movements flow together or shifting strategically. Knowing when to stimulate different erogenous zones and their…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:10 PM
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I feel it. I know I liked casual sex because it was fairly satisfying to me, but I think I have an easier time finishing than most women I've met. I had a college friend once admit she'd never cum from sex and it blew my mind; I'd always heard about women like that but it'd never been an issue for me. I have a feeling women who have a higher frequency of orgasm achieved tend to like sex more, and enjoy it at an increased frequency (so, more partners, or doing it a lot with the same person). It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:04 PM
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It's interesting to see another woman who seems to enjoy casual sex. What makes you like it? Most women I meet seem to dislike it, but I had a fairly good time with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:50 PM
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I did "study", ha. I mimicked what I liked being done to me, paid attention to partners' reactions, asked them if they liked things, and I did ask guy friends about their techniques/tricks/tips. Ngl, also watched people in porn and considered if what they were doing and would work for me. Nothing helped as much as working out, though. My stamina for everything of either role went up across the board. Being the person doing the fucking is usually more physical effort, though. It can be a workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:46 PM
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That's surprising. I feel like I mention it on this sub a fair amount. I've used strap-ons with women, too, but that's not technically pegging. My partner is a bi guy, so he likes that stuff too. It's part of why I was so excited when I met him, our compatibility is crazy high, like people in my life repeatedly told me I'd never find someone like him, but I did after years of looking. What fucks with me is when people tell me I'm better than the actual guys they've been fucked by because I feel …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:11 PM
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They just sound incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:01 PM
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I mean, butt toys for self pleasure exist. I doubt people are only using those with/for partners. Anal also doesn't have to be painful. A lot of that is going to be related to size of whatever's going in and the movement, etc. So it's not like it's this awful this for everyone who tries it. I've met multiple women who like it. They'd have no reason to lie to me about that; it's not like they're trying to seduce me or make me like them sexually, and they're usually embarrassed to admit liking it.…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:52 PM
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If they like it, I don't think so. If they don't like it but do it anyway, probably. I would wonder how they feel about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:36 PM
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Basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:29 PM
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Don't personally care to engage there. One of the things I like about this sub is that people just say whatever they feel like, short of some random mod-censorship here and there. I prefer a more diverse echochamber than TwoX, I guess. I know I've popped in there before and seen posts, but I don't really look at it. I don't avoid it or anything, I just don't see much of it. Why would I want to talk to exclusively one demographic, anyway? What good does that do me? I'd personally like if the goth…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:25 PM
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I'm here because I have snorefest of an office job. It's literally more entertaining and engaging to be here than to talk to my coworkers about their 40-year-old problems of family and health issues. There's no subreddit I've seen more active than here, and the topics are interesting at times. All my hobbies are in that lame limbo of "I do them to get better to hopefully make money" so they're not 100% leisure. This is somehow leisure/recreation--compared to work, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 06:46 PM
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sure, why not, i'll say soft-agree
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:27 PM
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Pretty much this. Every couple is different with how they'd handle things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:24 PM
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RDJ is a good looking man. Wouldn't men want attractive representations of shorter guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:19 PM
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I am surprised "hair" didn't make it on this list
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:46 PM
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While you're free to feel how you want about yourself, I am going to say the first boyfriend I really liked was 5'8" and packing about 5". I would never date a 6'4" guy packing 8". I genuinely think you are over estimating the general success of bigger men. As far as cosmetic surgery goes, it doesn't "need" to be justified for someone to do it. I'm just permitted to have my own judgements and thoughts on it--same as everyone else. I think it's because I value a healthy ego seeking to increase th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:45 PM
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Ty ty
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:37 PM
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Because what looks good to men and what looks good to women is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 03:31 PM
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Ikr. Both the options seem strangely awful. And weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 03:25 PM
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I'm honestly debating going back into the service industry if they don't give me a raise. Tipping is really good here depending on where you work and the season, so I'm weighing if it'd be worth it to crunch out a summer or something to just try to fatten up my savings so I can throw it at moving states or graduate school. Whatever speeds up me getting away from here!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 03:02 PM
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AHH YA GOT ME. Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:10 AM
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This could be the case. I had this a bit in college because I did a lot of psychedelics and was basically a high-functioning stoner. Like weed everyday, 24/7, but honor roll grades with minimal effort. I was a little too academic and introverted for the people who wanted to be impulsive and hedonistic, but too hedonistic and and impulsive for the academic types. I scared them a bit, I guess. Being between niches is super weird because it means you're either going to have to lean into one or find…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:10 AM
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Kendrick, Earl Sweatshirt, I like early Logic, Suicideboys...do Death Grips count? I don't listen to rap too often because I'm constantly caught in loops of darkwave. Probably shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:56 AM
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I feel like corporate anything is semi-synonymous with a dull and slow death. But I feel like it's a stable way to try to accumulate money then feed it into something you care about that may even offer you escape if you play your cards right. There's a ceramics artist who I see at local events and she's a day-job dental hygienist who's essentially moving toward making a living off her art, and what's cool to see is she's actually doing it. Like her website has things for wholesale requests and l…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:51 AM
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I had a friend who had a cheek dermal and theirs seemed to heal fine, too. I'm just not sure how the neck would be for me since I have long hair and wear collared shirts/mock necks sometimes, and I prefer piercings I can hide for professional reasons. The place I work now if pretty lax and casual but I would like to go somewhere else that's a little more professional/corporate. Stuffy as that sounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 06:53 AM
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It's crossed my mind. I've heard dermals can have rough time healing depending on their placement.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 06:41 AM
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Yes. I personally want to get "vampire bite" dermals on my neck but I'd have to find someone I trust to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 06:35 AM
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Okay, so I never cared about the band he was in or his music. I think I've heard a single song by him, and I don't remember it. I just know when I see him in modeling for magazines or looking all nice in floral prints, it just hits for me. Status made me aware of his existence, but I'd probably think the same of his if he was like just a model or something. Personally I am offput by musicians because the ones I've known are extremely self centered/self-focused.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:13 AM
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beep beep
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:02 AM
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It definitely depends on where you are. These were people I knew from small town Colorado, can't recall where exactly, but it was a primarily Christian (or Mormon?) small town. Sometimes get the Mormons from Utah doing that stuff, but they tend to get married anywhere from 18-25 and tend to stay together no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:28 AM
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Some people are late bloomers and I met a few people who were more conservative with sex and really believed they were going to be together forever with their high school sweetheart, only to have issues when they entered actual adulthood post-college and split up. Usually then they're trying to make up for "lost time" in some scope because they're like early to middle 20s now, and have zero experience. And some people are just late bloomers or never find anyone they want or who wants them. I fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 03:13 AM
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dang i'm just blind i guess
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 03:10 AM
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that was my thought. she had bite. love that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 03:00 AM
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Personally, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 02:58 AM
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how do i be missing all this shit. u mfs on actually the discord or something
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 02:56 AM
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Like sad ones or what? I Want You - Mitski Putting the Dog to Sleep - The Antlers
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 02:01 AM
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You're asking me as if I speak for all women or something. I can't tell you what other people are or are not capable of.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:55 AM
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This is what I thought. I'be never seen someone make that "100% fact" type statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:53 AM
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They appeal to different age demographics and types of women. My mom's probably into someone like Hemsworth. I'd take Harry Styles, though. Hemsworth is good but not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:52 AM
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She? damn now i wanna know who this is
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:47 AM
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I think emotional entitlement does exist. Some people will expect you to care about them when there's no good reason to. Some people will dump all their issues on others and expect you to just handle it. That's what I would consider emotional entitlement, but anyone can do that; it's not limited to women. Other times it's just people trying to connect and get to know you and they try to do it by talking about themselves (ironically) and seeing if you relate or respond to it. That's fairly normal…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:45 AM
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Most women I know who were/are single moms got pregnant with a partner then either broke up or had relationship issues, or sometimes the man didn't commit. I don't know anyone who got pregnant from casual sex, but I'm certain it happens. One situation was actually a statutory rape where my coworker (back when she was 15, way before I knew her) was "dating" a 30 year old and got pregnant. She lived in a state with strict abortion laws and, because she was a minor, was essentially unable to go get…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:43 AM
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30+ imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:36 AM
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So for size across the board (penis, height, muscles) I think each woman had a range of what she finds ideal. I think part of partners being ideal and attractive to some is practicality. I've talked about how I don't like large endowed guys; height and body size are the same for a similar reason because larger men create some form of strain. I'm short for women though—the average is taller than I am, so it would make sense for women to have the "range" set higher than mine. Even some short women…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:14 AM
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My preference for shorter/average height guys is about practicality but it's also because I just prefer them? Even when I was younger is was that way. Tall guys don't necessarily do anything different for me. Honestly I don't tend to clock much different from 5'8" - 6' because my brain just lumps them all into "taller than me". I don't think you can speak to whether or not it does something for women (or me) unless you've experienced it. I've noted no difference. Maybe some have. I do agree with…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 11:04 PM
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show me ur gay emo hair n i'll judge if it's too gay or not
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:28 PM
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Latino/latina. Basically I tend to watch people, male or female, who are the in the racial groups I am. Or mixed people of all kinds. I don't know why, I just find people in those groups most attractive. Probably because that's primarily what I grew up around.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:28 PM
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I did say they're fewer. There's one lady in the sub who prefer bald guys I believe; I think it's Poppy? Personally I do prefer guys about 5'6"-5-9", but I do admit my partner is taller. I wasn't seeking that nor did I know until we met, and it wasn't really a bonus because it does make some physical interactions less practical or easy. I'm not saying preferring hair or a nice face is uncommon, either, just point out that some people will prioritize certain things and be indifferent or happy wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:24 PM
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I personally don't consume a lot of lesbian porn, surprisingly. It feels really bland or too staged. I did google him and it makes a little more sense now because I tend to watch things with white/latina/mixed race people primarily. So I guess that's why he's not really on my radar. I don't think he's attractive but I'm sure some would think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:07 PM
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if this about hair, depends on the person. if this is about dick...still depends on the person
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:58 PM
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just b both. done.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:57 PM
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they gotta (t)werk for it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:56 PM
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i have no idea who this is. and i consume a fair amount of porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:54 PM
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Unrelated, new band you might like: Vestron Vulture
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:49 PM
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to each their own
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:48 PM
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only if u post booty
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:40 PM
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honestly not a terrible thing to assume. seems 50/50 from what i've encountered. only about half of the half have actually done stuff, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:39 PM
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what exactly makes a voice gay though. i've heard "gay voice" on men but never notably on women? maybe it's just having a slightly lower pitch or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:35 PM
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yeah i've been debating just getting a flair with it included because i feel like it's redundant to bring it up for context in threads so often
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:34 PM
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I don't/won't. If he's not reciprocating I'm out. There's plenty of others who will. Though, I've never had anyone not reciprocate what I was looking for. If for some reason that happened I'd probably just all drop contact with them because there's no real point knowing them, then, unless maybe they have other social connections I could utilize. Having to seriously compete for a guy is "red flag" to me. If he's got a bunch of less attractive (physically or in personality) around him then it does…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:32 PM
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This was my experience of boston. Everyone there seems at least middle class or upper middle class. The only people who seems working class were almost all poc. It was kinda weird to witness compared to other places I've been.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:28 PM
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Probably a plus
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:23 PM
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"Coming out" is weird. The closest I got to it was when I met my college roommate asked if I was a lesbian because my voice made me "sound like one". I still don't know what the means. I don't think I ever announced it or anything. My sister didn't either and she's full lesbo. It only comes up when people ask or bring it or. Or in this sub because of the nature of the topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:22 PM
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bro what 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:19 PM
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i am waiting on evidence of this still
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:18 PM
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I'm curious because I the ones I've seen are alright looking. Not one's been ugly. No one's been my type, either though. I have a strong feel the majority of people on here are somewhere around average, give or take. Given average is common.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:16 PM
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I could see that. I have specific tastes and traits I am not willing to compromise on, and they're not super common, so I did go to OLD as a method to find those faster. What works for one may not work for others! Everyone's gotta find what works for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:51 PM
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This could happen, but I personally advocate for people going for who they want. It gives you a more active role in the choice and can help you get what you want faster, speed up the process. That's how I did it, but I am also very impatient, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:11 PM
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For me, it was college/bars/gay bars. I'm not really a club person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:08 PM
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It's hard but I could probably get at least one if I focused and monopolized her attention carefully, kept her entertained. The real question becomes is it worth the effort just to prove a point? Not really. Even as a woman dealing with queer women on dating apps, they're still mostly unresponsive and passive unless you're putting in effort. Irl is better for meeting women, imo. OLD is far superior to finding/meeting men, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:56 PM
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lmao imagine believing this
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:52 PM
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crucoid i am digging your witchy vibe for the season. love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:51 PM
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Doubtful. I don't think I ever had any up. I used to have a video from 2-3 years ago of me practicing ollies but I took it down because I don't want to risk doxxing or stalking. You'd probably find me a 6/10 unless you're really into my look or body type. I'm not for everyone, but no one's ever told me I'm ugly or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:44 PM
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I don't think I'm bad looking, but it's not like I'm a 10/10 Victoria's Secret model. Probably like a 6-7/10 or something. Maybe higher if I hit someone's niche
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:35 PM
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I am aware. I'm speaking for myself, not straight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:12 PM
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Genuinely cannot tell if that's sarcasm or not :v If they hit looks and personality (all but one did hit looks, but that one was already considered non-serious in my head for reasons, including there being a bigger age gap) why wouldn't I date them? If I like them and we get along, and I'm feeling it. Well, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:05 PM
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Cockiness is such a major turn off for me. It's strange how many guys seem to think it's a a guaranteed turn on for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:58 PM
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And they say romance is dead!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:57 PM
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I think I've met 3-5 men who have done so. These were guys I dated, but one was a high school bf so I'm not sure how much that counts since it was just a high school relationship were nothing really happened except some hand holding and some kissing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:56 PM
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Harder to get dates with women, maybe. I'd be playing for both teams. Probably a little less stressful to deal with women knowing you can just hop on grindr and get off if you really need/want that. I basically dated a guy that's similar to what I described; it's not like I'm the only woman in the world with my tastes. I'd probably only want people who match my libido, anyway, since I don't want kids. That probably knocks out over half of women in the dating pool. Just go for the horny queers, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:45 PM
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It's a decent look. I think most would agree on that. It's a little too buff for me, personally, but I know most people would probably like it a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:23 PM
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Probably true. I do think there are some women who have broader or uncommon preferences, but I think they're fewer. Like I never cared about height, but I am short. I did/do care about things like hair. Meanwhile some women only want tall but are fine with bald guys. Varies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:11 PM
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Fascinating, and also congrats on having found someone! I do think good matches are rare on OLD, but I've found I have a higher chance of finding what I'm looking for on there than irl. I think the being able to discuss things digitally before going irl helps, too. There were some people I'd talk to for a handful of days before ruling them out so we never even had to exchange numbers or met. Meeting irl that wouldn't have been the case, necessarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:02 PM
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I wouldn't say I'm turned on by this guy, but I know I can be turned on by photos. It's uncommon but it does happen. I do think women aren't as easily turned on my photos as guys; the person they're looking at has to be their "type".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:59 PM
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If I looked like my dad I'd probably pull something. He's like 5'10 with great hair/facial hair and cheekbones. Women seem to compare him to actors a lot. Even if I was shorter than him at like 5'8" I could probably get something if I tried, especially if I dated only within my racial background (so mixed or latina, given latinas tend to be short anyway). I likely would've been a trained mechanic and working at his business. Probably have a sleeve tattoos. Earrings. Wear a chain and nice watch w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:56 PM
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Good on your for getting tested. Not enough people do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:50 PM
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everyone is visual and has a horny monkey brain somewhere in them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:49 PM
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Crazy...not my type, but his skin looks so good. He's not bad looking. Idk if I'd hit, but he looks great. Very dedicated and fit. Impressive. Respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:48 PM
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I think it depends on the groups. I've been around some women who actively defend men and say you shouldn't say bad things about them (or anyone) and I've also been around things closer to what you describe (though, ime, women don't usually talk about dick size or how sex is with who they'd dating, especially their serious partner...I think it's taboo, almost, because no one wants to risk "embarrassing" their partner if they really like him.) I'm sure some do, but it's not a detailed or overt th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:44 PM
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I mean, I found two good relationships of dating apps and hook ups/fwb when I wanted them. It's beneficial to some if you use them a certain and are okay with vetting hard. I don't know you age, but could also be a gap in the type of people who are on OLD? It's almost standard for later millennials and below. Though I hear younger gen z has less interest in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:37 PM
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Oof lol Yeah I did get on OLD because I wanted a specific type and couldn't really find it irl, not in my area, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:30 PM
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I like both sexes, but am overall into more of an androgyny and neutral traits (nice cheekbones, smooth skin, dark or big eyes, cute nose, slim, full hair). I so find women more physically attractive but I don't always get along with straight women all that well (I get along great with other queer women), so I can't imagine wanting to date them. Men are easier to date and tend to want to show their value in actions, which is pretty beneficial in a society that heavily values an ability to produc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:04 PM
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I suppose that would depend on the bi woman. I do like my love life. I don't know about others.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:46 AM
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No worries. I didn't mean for my take to sound as doomer-y or anything. I'm a pretty "cut my losses" type person and don't want children, so it's hard for me to see value in partner who would expect me to do the majority of active work/efforts while they aren't exactly required to do much in return. It seems not good. But, if I did want children, I would see going after women and dating them being more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:05 AM
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Thank you as well
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:34 AM
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I'm not a lesbian. I'm "bi" as some people would consider it. My partner is male. I've also pursued women and seen a fair amount of my male friends struggle with dating. I'm just saying for me, if I was a man, dating women would not be worth it from my perspective. I get to enjoy fairly easy dating even when I do engage with women, because queer women are less ridge with their dating norms and standards because of the sex-same factor. Straight people seem to prefer adhering to more "traditional"…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:33 AM
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Noted. Will keep an eye out if you decide to explain. Hope the morning goes well!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:24 AM
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They could've been. That doesn't necessarily make someone attracted, though, and having sex with someone you're not into, bearing their children, living with them, isn't always pleasant and tends to wear on people and cause dead bedrooms. I do think it's unlikely they'd be ideal given the past. Women were basically seen as inferior and treated as such. That doesn't exactly create healthy dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:23 AM
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I'm not really referring to domestic violence, also I've never experienced dv/ipv, either. Kind of weird you would assume that's the "risk" I'm referring to. I'm referring more so to just allocating time, energy, and resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:21 AM
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I'm not familiar with the terms, would you mind elaborating? I tried googling them but all I got was actual psyop stuff and some album, ha. Kinda intrigued since I'm not certain what you mean
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:29 AM
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Never failed, seemingly. It developed naturally with friends because I was eager to find people I meshed with, and found that people respond oddly well to being asked about their spiritual beliefs, politics, childhood, etc. Some people will say they don't want to discuss certain thing and you have to respect it, but I'm fairly open myself so a lot of people I've met feel comfortable opening up to me. It kind of became my dating method because it was simply how I got to know people. I've never be…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:21 AM
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Too much risk/effort for little reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:11 AM
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It's definitely not for the faint of heart or those who want to go slow, but it's worked very well for me and got me the partner I wanted. There is an art to making it not feel like an interview while still getting the info you need. It's less about risk of attachment forming since I can detach from people and things very easily, but more that I don't like wasting time. I am essentially trying to speedrun things. I likely would've tried speed dating at some point if OLD didn't exist and I didn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:10 AM
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to each their own
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:07 AM
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Everyone's gonna vet different. I know what works for me, but that doesn't mean it'll work for others. It's like trying to build a profile off of the consistencies you can detect. But people can lie and omit, or sometimes just forget things if it was a while ago. I feel like if you ask people things like "Do you remember the first time you felt x?" Or "Did you ever get into fights as a kid? I remember this one time, xyz." Ask about drugs, ask about home. Ask about what's important to you and wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:17 AM
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Dang, you're improving, huh. Character development!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:06 AM
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Grill him on politics and philosophical topics. Religion, morals, etc. Get to the core of his values. Ask him about various things like when he was a kid, his family, distinguishing moments in his life. Does he have pets? What kind? See if you can pick up on a behavior pattern. Ask about his last relationship (or why he wasn't in one). Basically dissect his history and see if he matches your version of "good". You don't have to do it all at once, and you have to make it sound natural and slightl…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:05 AM
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No. We both watch porn, sometimes together, sometimes not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:50 AM
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Seems ass. I personally don't think it'd be worth it, but that's me. I did say in another post I'd just be gay if I was a guy, given I'm queer as a woman, but I get that it's not like most can just "switch".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:45 AM
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It's not about poverty being unique to women, it that the dangers were slightly different with less options to do anything about it. I'm not disagreeing about women likely not performing as well at manual labor, but it means work options were very limited. That's my point. There were less options for them and the thing contemporary men are experiencing with women actually being more discriminatory about appearance is linked to them being able to even have that as an option without potentially sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:52 AM
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I have too much time to kill at an office job is all. But if you insist.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:42 AM
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Yes, I lean dominant. I tend to go for complementary partners. I do think that's what works best for most, someone who balances.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 12:29 AM
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Ah. No, they're just aware that I'll only introduce them to people I'm serious about, which has only been about two partners. Both were similar, my taste is kinda niche, I'm into slender, alternative guys with longer hair. Queer/bi. Gentle personality. Not exactly what all would consider "perfect", but they're perfect to me. My parents know what I like so they're happy when I'm happy. Either way, even if they disproved it wouldn't change much. I'm an adult and their opinions have little bearing …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 12:10 AM
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phrasing?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:46 PM
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Your thesis is that a woman's looks matter more biologically than a man's, but if that's the case, why would "chad" be willing to sleep with so many women? Why would men fear af/bb and paternity fraud if women are truly attracted to resources? We'd have to define reproductive success. Let's say it's having your genes survive long enough to get passed down to another generation. The key things we're looking at are "your genes" and "survive". The "social contract" is supposed to be that the woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:31 PM
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I do believe women only like a small percentage of men, physically especially. Women here reiterate that often. Women could work tougher, lower class jobs, yes, but they were often paid less and expected to stop working if they became pregnant or has children to care for, unless they had to continue working to keep children from starving. Even now, minimum wage isn't enough to support one person--forget a child or children on top of that. That's part of why alimony and child support is a thing. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 10:52 PM
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Sounds like the mom imbuing her with her personal values or forcing them on her. If she's a minor that's pretty sad. If she's and adult, she can make her own decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:48 PM
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It has less to due with women "dying from not getting married" and moreso not being able to support themselves adequately, if at all, and being in poverty snd unable to come out of it without male help because there were legal barriers that actively prevented them from being able to do so on their own. Can't own property, get an education, money in a bank, don't have many job options, extra vulnerable to men because they're not legally protected nor have a male member to physically protect them.…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:45 PM
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I think it's messed up unless she has a literal deformity or something. Like if there's an issue (one distinctly bigger/smaller than the other) I can understand wanting to even things out so she can feel normal, but no parent should be implying there's something wrong with their kid's body when it's not true. Unless someone has a health concern regarding their boobs or they're somehow keeping them from living a normal, healthy life, cosmetic surgery should be limited to adults who make that deci…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:16 PM
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even worse: smiling penises
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:12 PM
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I don't think that's the only reason they worry, but it's likely a factor; they feel like they don't have much to offer or have low self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:09 PM
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Lmao. Not everyone is here to procreate. Plenty of people actively choose not to. People don't have to be slaves to instinct. Women who don't even want kids basically have no function for men if they have their own resources; they get to choose any partner based off of men they truly like the appearance and personality of. You seem upset that I just won't agree with you. That's fine, but biology is not the be all end all for everyone on the planet, believe it or not. We're more evolved than that…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:03 PM
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It's short sighted to reduce it 100% to either side. They're both factors and can vary in the degree they impact people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:53 PM
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You stated it's a burden from a biological perspective, but it's not. It's cultural because it can be changed and isn't innate to physical bodies or biochemistry. There's nothing in biology that says men have to hoard resources and that women have to be attractive, it just traditionally benefits them to do so. We're not entirely away from that, but we are witnessing a shift of women not caring what men want because they no longer have to depend on them for resources. However, men still hold the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:50 PM
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I get what you're saying, and frankly don't understand why you didn't just state it. Men wanting women to be attractive isn't a "biological burden". A biological burden would be something like a period, something biology causes that literally makes you suffer in some capacity. Plus, if we consider the narrative that most men find most women attractive or at least fuckable, it's not that high of a standard to hit. We're also not in a state of nature; if this was a biological burden, almost all wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:40 PM
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Because they control the majority of resources? Sex? Honestly my first answer was sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:33 PM
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Sex? I feel like this would move more efficiently if you just stated your take lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:30 PM
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Reproduction
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:21 PM
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I fail to see how this is a biological burden? Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:14 PM
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Pure n based papaya
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:13 PM
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I don't think I saw this. Personally I think it's unfortunate when either party "let themself go". I don't think either is more or less disrespectful unless the person's distinct and sole job is to look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:02 PM
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Yeah, he was a certainly outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:58 PM
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It's painful to do and I don't see why I need to subject myself to physical pain when I can find a partner who's just as good that I don't have to consider pain for. I'm not really about pain in any degree, especially if there's no direct benefit to me (I can handle "pain" while exercising, but that's good for me and my health). I also think I can be damaging to the body to push it when it doesn't want to be pushed. Whether or not someone wants to go for bigger sizes, there's going to be a physi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:37 PM
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This sounds like when women complain about men preferring women with makeup to when they don't. People prioritizing looks does mean the threshold for looking good goes up, and that the standard may get harsher for some. Yeah, it sucks that people feel bad about their appearance, but it's just a natural consequence people actually being able to go for what they find hot instead of any ol joe just to survive. Personally, I like thinner guys or lean guys. Thin doesn't mean he has to have muscle. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:23 PM
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I'm high-n but that's not the case for me. I honestly believe that body type plays a much larger role in a women's size preference. Like women with wider hips or larger butts may prefer bigger sizes because they literally have more space to fill/obstacles (booty cheeks) to consider. I do think bodies can be "trained" with toys or gradually increasing size, but I can't imagine many people willingly wanting to subject themselves to the strain of that unless they're doing it for a job (pornstars) o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:16 PM
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Bro why would I lie about a preference? I have nothing to even gain from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:08 PM
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"Too small" to me is 3" or smaller. Too big is anything bigger than 7", but even 7" is pushing it for me. I don't know about others, but speaking for myself I don't enjoy pain during sex and bigger or wider sizes tend to mean pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:07 PM
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I'm not saying he doesn't have a point. I'm speaking for myself is all. I dislike being assumed to have preferences that aren't accurate to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:04 PM
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yah
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:57 PM
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I understand that. But I don't think it's helpful to get hung up, especially for shorter guys. Short of surgery, you can't do much about height. You gotta focus on those who do want you, because they do exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:56 PM
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Interesting. Most of the influencers I pay attention to are liberal women who live in California or sometimes European women, who honestly don't tend to discuss politics but even if they didn't they're not US-centric so I don't know how much it'd apply. I don't see many conservative women in my feed and I don't tend to follow male fitness people, so. It could be algorithms.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:50 PM
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No. I honestly don't. It doesn't do anything for me. I'm more into the e-boy look or queer looking guys. Pretty boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:47 PM
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Conservatives are a hard no for me. Luckily I don't seem to find any of them attractive, like ever. I don't go for their "look", I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:32 PM
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Yeah, that's not a thing for me either. 7" is my max cap because, like I said, I'm on the smaller side and that applies to everything. 5"-7" is fine, but ideally closer to 6"ish. You seem to have a focus on dick size. I started a reply to your post the other day, and no, the guy I dated who was 5" did not have to "do more" like oral or anything. (Personally, I hate receiving oral. I don't like it. Guys are usually the ones who want to do it.) He just had good technique. I've also had to reject g…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:30 PM
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That's not what I've seen from fitness influencers. Most a left learning. Could just be algorithms doing their thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:25 PM
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weak reason to ban imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:11 PM
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Always gonna be weird how people assume women all have this standard. I give minimal fucks about what a guy makes and his height. I'm short and have dated from 5'4"- 6'1". A guy being taller isn't really a bonus of major factor to me. Most people are taller than me, and anything after 5'10" becomes physically inconvenient so there's gotta be a cap at 6'.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:08 PM
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You're allowed to have preferences, just own your reasons for it. It's okay to be afraid of challenges. A lot of people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 05:18 PM
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I feel like people here forget the base desire a lot of people have to "flex" or show off to others. Somethings have nothing to so with profit, seeking a mate, looking for validation--sometimes people just like to show off because it's a fun power trip. They don't necessarily care about other's opinion, they may just know they're doing way "better" than others conventionally or want to show off their hard work, like gym people. You can like to brag without caring what others think.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 05:14 PM
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Some people just like how they look. It doesn't always have to be about profit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 05:11 PM
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No. I don't what children. It'd never happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 05:08 PM
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Who's mad? I get along just fine; there's no need for anger. I agree with you: who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:42 PM
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OP, prior to the comment being removed, literally asked what the worst case scenario was. So yes, I took it to the worst case scenario. We were asked to imagine the worst case scenario. That's why all the answers are as they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:18 PM
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It's not. It's a risk that's possible for anyone. All you can do it decide to commit and follow through. It doesn't deter me. I'm not gonna focus on the negative "what ifs" past acknowledging it's always a possibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:12 PM
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I had a female friend like this as well lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:04 PM
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You're young so while this behavior tracks, be careful because these situations have a tendency to blow up on people. Be cautious and be safe. Use protection—don't be spreading anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:53 PM
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Lmfao the 2nd one
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:52 PM
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Went well. My parents know me and my tastes, they also know I don't hesitate to get rid of things that are bad for me and I wouldn't waste much time on someone I'm not serious about. I'd never live with a partner I wasn't looking to live with forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:51 PM
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I thought this for a while because I don't like fake boobs, but they are seriously improving. I see a lot of there where I live and they're way more natural than they used to be. I think it also depends on if they're getting ones that "fit" their body or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:48 PM
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That's pretty reasonable. Saying "I want to see where this goes" or "I want something that comes naturally" isn'g lying imo. You gotta accept the risk of banging is that maybe they leave after, if that's all they wanted. Don't bang if that possibility bothers you or hurts your self esteem. Simple. And that's coming from someone who like to hit the sack pretty early. Know your risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:44 PM
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Being attracted to someone's physical self and being attracted to their abstract self are different things. Peak sexiness is when you like both.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:40 PM
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Yeah people think it's exploitive. I can't fully disagree but I did think it was well done and enjoyed it. I like the Dahmer case though. It's fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:34 PM
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Yeah. I'd also question his taste in men unless we live somewhere where there's a bunch of actual 20s-30s good looking men around. Nothing wrong with being gay or queer but most men walking around in everyday life are average, not super remarkable unless they've got some distinct look they're leaning into
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:32 PM
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Yes. Anyone under 25 willingly having a baby is not intelligent in my book. Or they're gunning for something else and the kid is a pawn.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:28 PM
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Like I said, my method works for me. I'm happy and found a partner I love. Everything worked out. You can call it red flags but plenty consider them green.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:56 PM
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Where did this happen? Curious since the main thing I've seen people discussing is the protests in Iran.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:45 AM
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Very possible. I have a feeling I would not be attracted to a guy like that, though, given I'm fairly left leaning and into more submissive (to me, not others) men. I don't think that's most women but there's certainly some here and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:29 AM
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I could see your first point. I think the comparison of partners is a bit juvenile, but I understand people do that. I've dated and hooked up with a variety of people and enjoyed many of them for different reasons, my tastes we're precisely limited to "tall with big dick" or anything. Like some of the best sex I've had was with a dude packing 5", one of my best relationships was with a 5'4" guy, etc. Everyone's got different pros and cons to them. I don't think looking at people as upgrade/downg…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:33 AM
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If they're adults, they can consent to what they want to do. My opinion is irrelevant. I can think what I want, but others are free to live their lives. I do think it can be a case by case basis, too. Just because someone gets a "mail order bride" doesn't inherently make it exploitive. It could be, yes. But it could also just be two adults agreeing to a variant of a transactional relationship in exchange for something they want. Or maybe they just like each other. Every situation is unique to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:25 AM
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While I think it's sad most communities aren't able or willing to support the vulnerable, I don't think it's entirely on the individual to take care of others. It doesn't help that many people have their own issues. You can't always help if you yourself need help. Most people aren't equipped to deal with bigger mental health issues, either. A sibling, friend, or parent can only do so much for someone who has a legitimate psychiatric issue. There's a reason mental health professionals exist, ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:21 AM
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This is kind of where I'm at. I wouldn't exactly think a guy is trying to "hide" something, but I'm high libido for a woman and want someone to matches me. Someone who can handle waiting isn't for me, personally. There's not wrong with that, it's just incompatibility. Part of it is dick size/shape. I would hate to get attached to someone only to find out they have a dick that's too big, too small, has a shape that causes me pain, etc., because the relationship would be doomed anyway because of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:10 AM
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Not "caring" on a personal level, but in the sense a need to respond or argue against anecdote as if somehow that makes one "wrong". It's anecdote/experience. There's nothing to be wrong or right about, it just is what it is. Some people in the sub feel the need to refute any contradictory experience with the sentiment of "this is impossible/implausible" because "it doesn't work for me/I don't like it". It's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:03 AM
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People adamantly believing that high-n people can't be good partners, people who believe you can only find a worthwhile relationship if you withhold sex for months, people who only think you can find a worthwhile relationship if someone puts out on the first date, people believing hook ups are damaging to anyone who engages with them, people trying to say attractive people are more likely to be abusive or assholes than those less attractive than them, people raging against age gaps or dating som…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:00 AM
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This is...sad. The women I know who end up with men like that typically had a number done on their self esteem as children, usually from parents or a religion that told they weren't as valuable as men and to submit to them. It seems damaging and I feel for them, but at the same time, if they're not wanting or looking to get out, there's not much that can be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:46 AM
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My family's dog loved banana, glad that helped.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:44 AM
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Have you tried things like banana, or other stuff that's sweet but not junk? Peanut butter?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:22 AM
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What's up with people caring about what others do in their personal life, assuming they're not hurting anyone? Is it some strange scarcity mentality? I don't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:10 AM
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I personally like challenges and having to grow. But I'm also into adrenaline and am very stimulated by having to adapt for my betterment. My partner and I both challenge each other, and while it's difficult to overcome some of my "bad" behaviors or things I need to work on, it makes me better. We hold each other accountable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:05 AM
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Kink past generic restraints like handcuffs. Pretty much anything within the realm of bdsm or that requires toys/equipment. Things that the majority may not enjoy. Fetishizing/worshipping a specific body part. People who are absolutely uninhibited. Like animalistic. I once hooked up with a guy who literally licked all over my face. It was weird and I wouldn't do it again but that was freaky, imo, and it wasn't even bdsm or kink. Just a strange behavior lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:02 AM
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rimjob (exclusive)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:59 AM
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this is cool, i'd do it. i don't even like zoos but bears are cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:58 AM
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You go to a bar to drink with your friends or partner?... Honestly I don't know why anyone would want to interact with strangers past temporary entertainment. The chances of you sharing interests, values, or goals is pretty slim if you're niche or developed past a generic template. Most people will not be like you. I'd say most strangers are fairly disappointing to interact with, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:57 AM
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"Slaves" do not challenge you. A partner is ideally someone that helps your growth, which, to an extent, means helping you step out of your comfort zone from time to time. Challenge can be healthy. It doesn't have to be detrimental or too difficult if done for the right reasons and in small increments.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:55 AM
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Nice stat pulled outta your ass. I've got pretty strict and specific boxes. Not everyone's vetting process is the same. Some people know how to draw out who someone is faster than others, too or simply know what they're looking for an vet accordingly. Saying when someone has sex is a "red flag" is a matter of opinion; it's not inherently hurting anyone in the way a true red flag like hitting someone would be. I personally find it to be a red flag when people want to wait. It's different for ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:44 AM
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Balthasar sounds kinda metal no joke
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:32 AM
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Did I hit some kind of nerve or am I just unaware of a cool and fine Bartholomew existing that you know of
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:24 AM
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It's a red flag whenever an individual decides it's a red flag. There's no one size fits all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:03 AM
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Maybe try shakes/smoothies? Whatever works for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:01 AM
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No. Abusive behavior is an auto-no for me at least. It means anything would be DOA, love wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:01 AM
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I don't go out with people I don't vet hard. I generally schedule my dates and I pick out the guys. It's not like I'm just letting any guy get near me. And even then there's a whole checklist to past before I'll consider it worth it. I legitimately kept lists for criteria and had no qualms discussing heavier subjects on first dates. Why waste time if you know what you want? I basically only sleep with guys I have interest in. I couldn't give less of a fuck if the guy propositions me, it's up to …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:56 AM
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Nope. Met a lambert tho. Lambert III.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:51 AM
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I didn't imply it was a trick. I just said you found something that works for you. Ngl, I think that site may have been before my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:51 AM
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It's because they need to believe it to handle life. My partner's good looking and treats me great. I've always prioritized looks, personality, job/degree/education, (in that order) and it's worked for me just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:49 AM
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I've only gone for guys I think look good at they've treated me well. Honestly the ones who are mean or tried (keyword: tried) to treat me poorly were on the less attractive side. Your experience isn't universal. Attractive people can be great people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:47 AM
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I feel like this when I see my friends partners. A lot of them are mediocre or ugly looking and 2 of the guys I'm thinking of are abusive. It baffles me because the women aren't ugly and the boyfriends are not good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:46 AM
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Depends on your size. I'm technically considered underweight bur I'm fit and healthy but all other standards. I think I'm like 100lb or something. All the charts on google say I'm supposed to be 130lb but that seems unhealthy to me; the most I weighed was 110 and it just felt...not good? Like it was unpleasant being in my body like that. But it was college weight from not eating good; gaining that in muscle and some maybe some fat would likely feel far better. If you feel good and able, you're p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:44 AM
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Bartholomew. Lambert. Karen. Anything that sounds old but not cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:39 AM
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rip 2 herb
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:38 AM
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Wild. Good for you, seems you found something that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:30 AM
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How have they reacted? Did any like it? Did any leave because of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:19 AM
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I wouldn't date him. We're banging within the first 2-3 dates or I'm out. I don't care if he had fwb or relationships or not, I gotta test drive before I can consider committing. If it's a bad bedroom investment I am out. Realistically I would never date someone for 3 whole months with no sex. Maybe like a month if we barely saw each other (like once or twice a week). But if I date someone, I'm trying to see them way more often than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:18 AM
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Relatable
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:15 PM
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I'm going on 25 and basically the same. I lost a phone while in college so some of my photos from that time frame are only shit from sc, so I use it to get those sometimes. But it's not often. Maybe once or twice a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:11 PM
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that's how you know sexuality ain't a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:08 PM
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I don't have mine done but I know a lot of women do who. I believe they think it's sexy or it makes them feel sexy. Guys seem to like it. I personally don't, not on women, anyway. My partner got his done at my request and I think they're sexy as fuck. I don't know why I have that double standard but I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:05 PM
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No. I stopped using it when I was like 21/22. I think it's weird that people still use it. It's a "dead" app to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:02 PM
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Those specific tactics wouldn't have worked on me because I'm not into negging or "proving myself" or dread game shit. I prefer men want to kiss my feet or praise me excessively. I had men try that shit before I knew what that was and I'm not about it. If you disrespect me at all, it's over. It's just extra precaution since I didn't really know what it was at the time, but knew there was an overlap and sometimes deceit. Never hurts to know your enemy. Luckily it's men I wouldn't even be into who…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 10:58 PM
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Same. Guys wanting to be the main pillar of financial support sets off alarms.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 10:54 PM
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Adults are allowed to do what they wants, ultimately. I dated older men for a brief time and the looks you get from women older than you are unreal. It's like a mix of pity, anger, concern, and overall upset. Honestly it kinda freaked me out. I think what bothered me the most about it was I knew they thought I was incapable of deciding what I felt like doing. Insane. I was fine—I'm still fine. People need to mind their business unless it's a minor involved or there is abuse happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 10:43 PM
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No. Maybe if he came from old money because that's a whole class jump and different socioeconomic culture to get absorbed by, but if everything else is the same but he makes more. Nah. Dating up, to me, means a distinct jump up from where one started.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 10:38 PM
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Because he now holds the majority of capital in his court. He controls the money, he controls the resources, and typically has a physical edge over the woman. It opens you up to being vulnerable and unable to leave if the situation gets bad, abusive, or if he is trying to control you. Having your own money means you can escape easier, faster, or not even let him get a full handle on you. Being able to depend on someone is nice, and plenty of partners do that to a degree. But being 100% dependent…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 10:31 PM
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I would give them a chance but lowkey want them to date someone more on par with them. Would probably subtlety disapprove. I value beauty though so I imagine I'd instill a similar value in this hypothetical spawn. They shouldn't be settling for anything less than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:46 PM
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Love is always a risk like that. There's no point emphasizing the bad or focusing on it; acknowledging it exists is one thing. Fretting about it is another. I don't know about others else here, but I've always entered relationships knowing there's possibilities of things ending. The only thing I have control over is my desire to commit and stay in. Which I've never chosen until now; knowing my partner and my judgement, I have a strong sense that things will work out long term for us. And if it d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:41 PM
1

I've never "sniff tested" a bra but I know women who do. I personally do my laundry often but it's because I'm a bit of a germaphobe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:34 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:28 PM
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Team shower peeing W
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:22 PM
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This is accurate as hell
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:19 PM
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who does this 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:17 PM
1

Just pee in a bottle like a real man. Use ur privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:14 PM
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I think people assume anything "vegan" or as an alt to animal products is somehow healthy. I love regular milk because of the protein in it, which is why I default to it over milk alternatives, but I've had people who are way less healthy than me try to tell me it's bad for me. I'm not lactose intolerant, either, so it could be some people projecting. It seems like every other person is lactose intolerant where I'm at.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:13 PM
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I think this is an excellent point. Context of region and whether or not the culture is dominant is a major component. It changes the statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:09 PM
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Wtf. No. That's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:05 PM
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I think whichever is the majority sex is how the toilet should default, assuming it's a shared bathroom. If it's women, it's down, if it's men, it's up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:04 PM
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I read rp shit to learn to avoid it. If op is worried they should just lurk the sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:02 PM
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To each their own. Granted, I typically get it in iced coffees. It's usually how I drink any milk. Sometimes I'll use almond milk in certain cereals if it's there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:01 PM
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do what thou wilt
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 08:30 PM
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Ngl oatmilk is kinda good. I love regular milk a lot but I can fuck with some oatmilk. Mfs be lactose these days anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 08:29 PM
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I don't believe I'm moral. I've literally said I'm amoral on this sub a few times. I just lucked out and found my partner who hits all the importance physical and sexual traits for me. I think he's perfect, idgaf if others agree or not. I'm not saying I love him because I think I'm "different" or more "moral". It's just a statement. I found the king of my niche, check, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 08:27 PM
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If pua stuff exists with the male goal of men getting easy sex, it does make sense that there's a female set of tactics/"pua" stuff to get easy money. It's a mirror like you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 08:21 PM
1

Probably common? I was pursuing a woman before covid and we were going to go on a date, but the pandemic ruined it and I had to move. I was considering men and women when I met my partner, and the plan was to go exclusively to woman if things with men didn't seem viable. I'd had a couple bad dates and interactions and my partner was the last guy I was giving a chance. Kinda funny that it worked out, he basically "kept" me from going full lesbo. Could just be bi women wanting a break from men aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 08:13 PM
1

what does a white girl with an afro even look like
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 07:17 PM
1

Depends. Are they directing it at me?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 07:17 PM
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Yes. Motherhood is basically a scam pitched at you from the point you're a little girl. Information about motherhood, birth complications, and child-rearing were pretty glossed over or secretive until the internet made such info more wildly available. Unless you are truly looking to dedicate your body, mind, and self to children from at least 18 years, motherhood is basically a raw deal. It's not really worth it, imo. Even the women I know who wanted large families as kids now want no children. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 07:14 PM
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Literally do not care. Flings are flings; they're not serious. They're meant to be thrown out when done. They're called flings, not dating!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 06:48 PM
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was it that weirdo trying to fight you about your list or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 06:45 PM
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They did. I honestly don't think people would've watched it without that, to some degree. I do think it's good to highlight the victims in things like this, though. I think the issue about it being seen as exploitive is that, realistically, most people are not going to watch a film that simply covers victims (especially if they're deceased; if they're alive and offer testimony or first hand accounts, then that's different. There's documentaries like that). There's a morbid fascination with seria…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 06:44 PM
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I think social media and women being able to prioritize looks over things like financial stability are big factors. I've pretty much always prioritized looks, like 45% looks, 40% personality, and etc. the rest (job, degree, etc.) Being able to have my own money and be comfortable allowed me to basically disregard a guy's money/job past "Can he cover his basic needs?" I think we're seeing men begin to grapple with the same body image issues women are dealing with; both sexes can be pretty harsh a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 06:33 PM
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I think it's because there was a lot of social shrouding on men having body image issues. Like people won't default to thinking a guy is anorexic or has dysmorphia because of consuming too much gymbro imagery; they'll just think he's thin or assume he wants to be ripped because it's manly, not because he wants others to view him a certain way. The discussion around the more vulnerable aspects of male body image is pretty new, I think. It's definitely something worth discussing. My partner's on t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 06:09 PM
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This is m experience. When many guys find you attractive, they all compete harder and others seem more easily pulled in. It's odd to see. Personally I find the "women like preselected men" thing to be bull; I always lefted/swiped away or avoided men who were around women a lot, or had them in photos. I don't even wanna bother with competing with others because I have the option not to; why would I make more work for myself? Some people care about others' opinions, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 05:58 PM
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As a woman who has been very thin her whole life, I personally love 90s and 2000s fashion because it caters to my body type; however, that doesn't mean women should see that as the only way to look good, nor should anyone be starving themselves to hit a trend. There was definitely an unhealthy obsession with looking thin. I actually came of age past that so I actually got made fun of being thinner, but it never bothered me much. I think the revival of 90s/y2k style is actually due to some skinny…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 05:51 PM
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Listen, I'm very left leaning and fairly feminist/egalitarian, but her list isn't explicitly anti-feminist and I don't even think it's pandering to the mfs here. I do think some points are exaggerated ("Stop calling everything sexist"; a lot of things are sexist, it's just a result of culture; that's like saying "stop calling everything western" when you live in the west). Most of this just seems to be about accountability or reclaiming agency, which I would love women to do, and would encourage…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 05:44 PM
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He looks...different. Like odd. Wtf happened. That doesn't look like normal aging.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 05:08 PM
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my coochie tells me to be a cunt and wear eyeliner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:51 PM
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I liked it. I was pleasantly surprised with how the focused on his victims' backstories and lives. Not a lot of true crime stuff does that, though it's a very contemporary behavior that's likely rooted it trying to make the genre feel less "torture porn/splatter" and exploitive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:22 PM
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um
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:07 PM
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This is what I thought. I could guess but I don't know what my accuracy would be just based on personality. Would be a fun experiment, though. Just line em up and write the guess on a sticky note and put it on their back lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:06 PM
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who
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:04 PM
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It doesn't. People just want others to care about their personal tastes, for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:03 PM
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Doubtful. Trends just shift. The next body "it girl" body type may not be the slim thicc look though. It could be bigger, it could be thinner. You never know. The jump from 90s heroin chic to the Kardashian curves only took about 20-25 years. We'll probably see another shift or two depending on pop culture and fashion. People flock to where the money and fame is and like to emulate that look.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:01 PM
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Toys are for everyone. I think the main reason sex dolls get more stigmatized is because it's not hitting the "uncanny valley" and it's not necessarily just a guy wanting to get off, but also feel like he's doing it with a "real" person which is a different territory than disembodied dildos and vaginas. Once you add the body is can change the tone for some. Personally, I'm find with toys. I have some, my partner has some, we use them on each other sometimes. They're like appetizers or a la carte…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 03:57 PM
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I think the only advice I ever really got was to be myself and not let someone mistreat me, and that was from my mom. I never really asked for advice because it wasn't needed. I just kind of knew from pop culture messaging to "know my worth" and not settle for something that doesn't make me happy. Seems to have worked. Worst (unsolicited) advice is to not text first, don't double text. I like to respond to things asap to knock them out of my queue or I forget them for like 3 days. People overthi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 02:29 AM
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pragmatism-pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 01:48 AM
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i think it's normal to get a downvote every once and a while but all of them? every day? who are you pissing off lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 01:47 AM
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I had nothing to patch it with at the time except the duct tape. It holds up okay but can get pretty mauled over time. Not terrible for a quick fix but certainly not long term unless you're gonna keep replacing it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 01:14 AM
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i have white vans i skate in and they are trashes. dirty. i wrote on the toes in sharpie like an edgy teen. one of the laces tore and i transplanted some black ones from my converse idgaf about. Also black duct tape to patch a hole. 100% power move.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 12:34 AM
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Basically. Like a really terrible sitcom.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 12:15 AM
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I've never seen anyone's faces here except like 1 or 2 people, I think. I assume from the way they talk about being undateable or unable to find any partner. It could very well be a wrong assumption, but I have never met anyone above average with that mindset. The minimal men I have met who lean rp are all kinda unfortunate looking in their own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 12:07 AM
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i am dehydrated in a home depot wanting ice water 🫠
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:27 PM
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Wait, someone posted it here without your consent? That's kinda fucked. I'm sorry that happened. I assumed some people had shared an image of themselves then gotten anxious and taken them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:26 PM
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Shaming for looks is a cheap shot. Going for who they are is where it's at.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:25 PM
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Dang. I was kinda hoping it was a bunch of people doing face reveals. I want to see what these mfs look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:39 PM
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I'd love to see what you look like, given you say some fairly intense things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:38 PM
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I usually analyze their features loosely, kinda of for a snap "hot/not", and only go into sharp scrutiny if they're particularly ugly or hot. It's less numbers more like terms swapped with numbers. Then I'll gauge where I think they land conventionally then for my personal taste. It arose from figure drawing classes because you have to get a sense of how to visually measure to make a drawing accurate. It trained me to look at all their features and how they relate to each other. I had to do it s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:38 PM
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While I don't have a foot fetish, I am not opposed to them. I literally wore black lace socks on the first date I had with my partner just in case he liked feet for some reason. Gotta cover all your bases if you wanna win. Never know when the lace on your harlot ankle is the key! Basically I care about foot maintence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:24 PM
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Oh man lol. I don't think that's meant for me given I'm not sure I'd want to participate due to potential doxxing purposes, but it is tempting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:22 PM
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Ahh. I've keep been wondering if one will ever pop up again because I do get curious as to what some people here look like, partially because I want to see if their comments are even close to "justified". That's just me, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:17 PM
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well i good about my toenails now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:16 PM
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right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:07 PM
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are fake toenails a thing???? whoa
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:06 PM
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Probably reflexive. I got messages about my musics tastes, kinks, etc as well as looks. Or art if I had that up. I think it depends what info you're giving them to go off of. Minorities and mixed race people can and do get fetishized tho. Had white guys call me "exotic" when I grew up in suburbia lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:06 PM
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I am an awfully judgmental person so it's my urge to scrutinize and test my visual analysis abilities. I 100% expect that to be thrown back at me if there was some tit for tat, though. Plus, it's an individual's job to throw out the opinions of people they don't care about. People in this sub do not matter at the end of the day. I do imagine most people in this sub (specifically the dudes) to be average or a below average looking, given the way they describe things. The women I expect to be arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:03 PM
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This place is way more entertaining than my snoozefest of an office job. Which is why I end up on here a lot during the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:54 PM
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i regret having missed the selfie thread or something. rip.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:45 PM
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every weekend when i step away from this nonsense to be in the normal world i remember how ridiculous this place is
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:44 PM
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I do. I rank everyone tho. It's not common for women to do that though and seem to dislike it for some reason. I kinda background do it to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:42 PM
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yeah that's kinda how getting older works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 06:07 AM
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as a "bi" person i have never seen these memes but i may also just be out of the loop
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 06:06 AM
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Love it. I have an outfit similar to this. You just gotta wear it with confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 06:05 AM
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They hit you They cheated on you They coerced you into a sex act you originally didn’t want to do They coerced you into a sex act by telling you if you don’t they’ll find someone who will They refuse to do 50% of their share in the household They tell you they don’t want you to have opposite sex friends They yell at you They tell you that you couldn’t get someone else/better if you dumped them They expect you to have sex when you’re not in the mood They look at your phone or email without your k…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 05:57 AM
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A simple nod of acknowledgement is pretty neutral and polite. It's a little more masculine and "bro-ish" to some but it's an alternative to smiling if you can't do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 01:58 AM
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I personally don't find it a turn off, but I am about pragmatism.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 01:56 AM
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A. Though honestly if the "patriarchy won" I would become some type of resistance member, kamikaze radical, or tap out, in some other words. I don't want to live in a society where I am mostly subject to another's control when I'm perfectly capable of doing things without that. And I certainly won't allow myself to be used a breeding vessel for such a society. Honestly I'd maybe do some strategic shit, marry A, get him to love me, then use his male status to help the cause or get him over to my …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 05:58 PM
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Depends. I don't care if someone has a high n as long as it's not crazy to me (like 50+) and if they're clean. As long as they don't keep close contact with any exes it wouldn't bother me. (This would be the same no matter count). And as long as they don't have major emotional baggage, either. My partner and I are both high n but it doesn't impact anything for us, not negatively anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 05:55 PM
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The highest n count i ever encountered was on a gay friend who had 300 something. I almost thought he was lying. Then I remembered the aids/hiv crisis happened to gay men primarily for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 06:57 AM
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Yeah. Younger men generally look better than older men; younger women generally look better than older women. Water is wet. I'm likely always gonna think younger men and women look physically prime, but that doesn't mean I want to necessarily date them. I'd rather be with someone around my age. Luckily I'm in my prime right now so no loss on my part.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 06:49 AM
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Expend more calories than you eat. Do bodyweight exercises and cardio. Do it consistently 3 days a week for a few months or ideally for the rest of your life. More protein. Don't eat empty foods that give you nothing and leave you hungry or gross feeling an hour later. More water. Stop drinking sugary things if that's something you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 12:51 AM
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The ones I skimmed were pretty funny imo. I feel like there's no way in hell it's not satire.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 11:48 PM
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I found it snd couldn't get through skimming the first bit. These read like a troll wrote them but I am curious as to why someone would go through the trouble of setting this all up. Amusement or practice for websites, maybe? We may never know!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:28 PM
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Okay now I gotta find that one lol This entire site has to be satire. Like 100% would place money on satire. I am impressed someone actually made this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:17 PM
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because ur uninhibited id says "yes gimme"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:00 PM
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I really have to wonder about the people who read websites like this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:58 PM
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Indifferent
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:56 PM
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my toxic trait is being on this sub. good to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:52 PM
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i am out here on my break right now and it's actually pretty nice
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:49 PM
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2000's generic model
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:47 PM
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Why do you fixate on this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:40 PM
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i am surprised someone cares enough to do all that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:39 PM
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I'm not "against" them doing want they want or liking things. They're just not compatible with who I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:31 PM
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show me the copyright then we'll talk
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:31 PM
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I'm not really pent up? It's literally a religious symbol. I don't know why someone who's not religious would wear them. It's the same thing as wearing a band shirt for someone you don't listen to. People are wear to do what they want, but generally symbols or things like that are meant to signal to people like you that you're "one of them". Also I feel like you might mean "bent out of shape".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:30 PM
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They probably shouldn't be wearing religious symbols, then? It's literally a christian/theistic symbol. It's purpose is to signal a certain belief/set of values. It's like more often performative christianity than fully "I'm not religious but I wear a cross."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:07 PM
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this is good. i might use this one in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:05 PM
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Pro move.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:36 PM
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Goddamn, girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:35 PM
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denial is the first step of accpetance
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:28 PM
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aww i think you like it!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:20 PM
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ngl I am still waiting for some sort of netflix doc that explores the phenomena of them
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:19 PM
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my mom is kinda one so my dad agrees with you. i am not tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:17 PM
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didn't you just have gay emo hair earlier this week
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:04 PM
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My life is honestly in one of the best states it's ever been. The entertainment/recreation factor here is real, but I do also like to be aware of the things some members of the public may believe. Gotta know what to look out for and what may be culturally happening. I keep asking myself why I'm still on here when I'm partnered and happy, and honestly I think it's the lack of socializing at my job. I'm surrounded by middle-aged people who I have nothing in common with, (sans one coworker) and thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:04 PM
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Oh no lol. I'm sure he'll find some crystal-collecting "wiccan" and be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:52 PM
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Depends on the media. I'm personally not gonna date anyone who religiously consumes Fox News, anime, or is a "Disney adult".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:51 PM
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do not shit on my emo millennial men. their hair is lovely. assuming they still have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:50 PM
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wtf is a broccoli haircut
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:49 PM
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Sometimes I have to stop myself when I wonder why people in this sub are so bitter, scared, angry, defeated, and project; a lot of people here do not seem mentally well. But they're certainly not the majority of people irl. Gotta remember this is an echochamber.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:48 PM
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So he's white is what you're saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:39 PM
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I've only lived in liberal-leaning areas and I have seen them. Like I had a Christian guy once approach me and he had on a cross necklace and everything. Which is wild because I don't think I look religious at all. Jesus bracelets are somewhat common here for a lot of the latin and black community. There's still people who have trump stickers on their cars, or bernie ones. Then if you're young there's people with denim jackets with patches, pin, etc. That's aesthetic or political or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:34 PM
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And again we come to the "some, but not all". An increase of women getting their breasts done still doesn't make it most or all. Many are likely getting them done partially because of the increased lucrativity of being a hot lady online. People are generally more willing to do things if there's financial gain or even microcelebrity on the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:24 PM
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You telling me you've never seen anyone were things that express their religious stance (cross necklaces, Jesus bracelets, religious headwear or clothes, ironically: tattoos), political stances (shirts, hate, some people have pins, bumper stickers). You can easily see how someone dresses, their fitness, grooming, how they carry themselves, etc. If none of those hit, nothing happens, but if they do and a conversation starts, things like media, hobbies, etc. can easily become topics and rule them …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:16 PM
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I mean you can gauge talking in a lot of social settings and see how they dress. A fair amount of these are default things to mention on OLD, too, which was always my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:07 PM
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I mean he's lean and 6' with a good dick. He's not even remotely close to a neckbeard. I just find it strange how much people here want to project things that aren't accurate onto me. It happens a lot in this sub. I generally reduce it to bitterness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:04 PM
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Values, interests (or lack thereof), political stance, religious or not, how they talk, how they dress, what media they consume, what their hobbies are, how they carry themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:02 PM
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Who is saying all coochie is the same. Literally everyone's genitals are going to be unique to their body. They're all gonna vary.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:39 PM
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Other women and men do want him. I've literally seen it. Even had a guy friend facetime a girl he'd been trying to court and she basically ignored him and asked who my partner was because she liked how he looked. The niche taste is chosen aesthetics or non-visible traits, no one can really confirm the former without actually talking to us. No one's looking at me and going "Yeah she's into pegging. Best avoid her." It's more that they try to shoot their shot, I ask if they'd ever let me put thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:36 PM
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Of course. But a map isn't personal values or traits, a map is far more objective than deciding what masculinity is. That's not someone saying "this is the only real road to take", but "here are the roads you can take, their lengths, directions, etc." Then you pick the road best suited to your needs or possibly cut a new path, if you dare.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:29 PM
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Adults who need to be told what to do and how to behave honestly baffle me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:19 PM
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I disagree. He's exactly what I want and sought out. Just because he's not what you value doesn't mean he's not the most valuable to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:16 PM
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This is what I thought. I'm flat chested/small chested and have had people say I'm "flat" which is like. Yes? That's like calling me a brunette. It's a statement. The value someone attaches to that is their thing. I have personally never cared about my boobs either nor really felt insecure about them, surprisingly. I love who I am and what I look like!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:01 PM
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Yeah, he's not going anywhere. We're both good looking with niche tastes. I'm much better looking than the majority of women in the area we're in. You can try to pitch the fear factor but it's not really a thing. If anything, he's concerned about losing me, which is weird imo because I'm not going anywhere. Mfs cannot compete with us, to each other. We're crazy compatible and have distinct non-visible traits that limit who would may be seriously interested in us. We closed out and are good with …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:38 PM
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I do push for my partner to workout, but more for mental health reasons because consistent exercise literally fixed my depression. I'm really good about working out at least a couple times a week because if I don't my energy levels slip or I begin to feel a bit low if I'm not busy with something else important (like travel or a big project). My partner's prone to feeling down and I think he could benefit a lot from it. I don't know if he gets more fit or not as long as he feels better. I'm not a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:12 PM
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Ah! That makes more sense. I never realized those even exist. I've always heard that men can't get tested unless they have symptoms (like warts). We really need to get on Europe's level with healthcare :')
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:03 PM
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I'm not really into gym dudes but I do actively encourage my partner to workout more for his physical and mental health. I'm fairly fit and know how much exercise can change how one feels about themself and I want him to feel the best he can. I'm not threatened by him "leveling the playing field"; we both know others would love to have us, we're young and look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:59 PM
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Pretty fair. I do not follow any "gigachads" to my knowledge. If anything, I'm more likely to follow "gigastacies" who workout, have cool fashion aesthetics, are talented with their hobbies, travel, etc. Because I want to be like them! And that's intermixed with fashion and hobby/interest content like art and plants. And then shitposts and things from my friends. Wtf is me following a gigachad supposed to do? I'll follow pretty guys who are into fashion or model but even they're just normal to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:54 PM
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This is true. I specifically went to get in better shape so I could get hotter options, and it worked. They were pretty decent before, but when I did my confidence shot up and it set me apart from others. I used to wake up before my college classes to workout, go after class at night, or between classes if I had time. I honestly just liked going at some point. Endorphins feel mad good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:49 PM
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I disagree. I met my partner on tinder, same with a guy I dated my junior year of college. Honestly they seemed more shocked than me because I always viewed tinder as a hookup or dating app—however you wanted to use it. You just have to use it a specific way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:40 PM
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OLD was it for me. I didn't really like irl that much. It was okay from time to time or on the rare occasion of meeting someone who I had decent interest in, but I had/have a distinct type and prefer not to deviate from it much unless it's for temporary novelty.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:37 PM
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I mean we're both bi and he's been with men with much higher bodycounts than me. We're about even but I highly doubt he cares the way men here do. I don't really go for straight men and always preferred left-leaning ones. Men who care about n-count are basically not on my radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 08:15 AM
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In my experience it doesn't matter. My partner knows my body count and doesn't care at all, and we live together and plan on being together long term. Other guys have also known and it's never mattered enough to keep them from wanting to date me. The men who matter to me apparently do not care. So it works out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:47 AM
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That is fair lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:31 AM
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iykyk
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:29 AM
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Pretty sure both partners can be "the prize". Love doesn't have to be a one way street—ideally it shouldn't be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:28 AM
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I would behave the same as before. If someone doesn't want me for that, that's fine. No point fretting over it. I'm here for me, not for other people. Maybe some would change, but I don't think it'd be as dramatic some people imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:26 AM
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u bet
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:15 AM
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There are times I've literally explained my sexuality as "I like hot people" so that's not inaccurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:14 AM
1

niche
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:12 AM
1

100% failed and guessed 10 so yeah. F.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:05 AM
5

I picked up on this too. It's interesting that it doesn't get discussed more.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:52 AM
3

Her friends are dumb. Also she should worry less about if he has a degree and more about if he's a good partner and covers his needs or even hers, if that's what she values. Status that a degree brings is nice but unnecessary unless you're going into a field that seriously requires one. It's good to go to school if you can afford it, but some people do just fine without it, and others stay broke for going. College is not for everyone. I say that as someone with a degree dating someone without on…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:50 AM
3

Damn this is a good counter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:43 AM
1

Honestly I'm blanking. I don't watch too many movies//shows so I'm trying to think. Maybe Mila Kunis? Zendaya. Meghan Fox, kinda. None of them are exactly it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:39 AM
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she is much more my speed. still not 100% but closer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:24 AM
2

this is the perfect way to explain this look
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:23 AM
1

5'7-5'8" is tall for women, especially given the national average is like 5'4" or something. 5'4" and under is short for women. I'd say 5'4"-5'7" is kinda average but anything past that is tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:22 AM
1

Brunettes/brunets, for starters. Blondes are okay but I prefer darker hair and eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:59 PM
1

She looks above average but she's not my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:48 PM
1

He's changed his profile picture a bunch dude...i don't know if there's any way people can 100% verify a strange's profile photo on reddit lol. Any of us could be anyone!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:38 PM
1

best type of hair. good for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:37 PM
2

I heard about "fawn" being added and just had to look it up. Seems kinda specific to people who had abusive/trauma experiences? I think most people are fight or flight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:33 PM
1

damn now i wanna see the haircut
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:23 PM
3

this is my dream come true
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:20 PM
4

This would fix almost everything ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:17 PM
3

You probably need to leave him. Most people are closer to where you're at by the time they hit 30. He sounds like he has been seriously coddled. Like he lacks basic adulthood skills. Also no one "should be a ride or die". All love is conditional. All relationships are, at their core, transactional. If he'd not giving you what you need or agreed to "exchange" for, bounce. Unless you guys agreed to have this dynamics where he does very little and provides very little...leave. His dad is hardcore e…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:14 PM
10

No. Women I know tend to be fairly nice snd supportive, some more than others. Obviously there's toxic or mean women here and there, but most are just normal, polite people. The women at my work are alright; my female friends are all people I appreciate and think are cool in their own ways. I love my sister to death. I think it all depends on the type of women you have around you and who you are. If I don't get along with a woman, it's less because she's a woman and more because her personality …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:07 PM
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Some things could help them, sure. But that doesn't mean they need to value everyone's opinions here. They should consider things relevant to their goal and discard the rest, or factor them it as existent but irrelevant to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:09 PM
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Dealbreaker unless you are bleeding on the floor and you're screaming for help. I don't scream or yell at people and I expect the same from my partner. I personally think people who fight like that are in bad relationships or have issues. Especially if it's frequent or in front of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:03 PM
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I think this is what some people don't get. It's not a one size fits all solution. I've never had to do much adjusting for what I was looking for; I never had any bad relationships, hook ups, or abusive exes. I just didn't gravitate toward those types, I suppose. The advice on how others think you succeed is NA to me because I'm already successful with my own methods, and happy. There's no universal band-aid for everyone's problems. There's just broad suggestions that may or may not be applicabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:55 PM
1

I don't jest. That's actually what I'd do. I imagine I'd be queer as I am, only in a male body, now. It is unfortunate that people cannot just "change" their sexuality to their benefit whenever they feel like, I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:45 PM
1

I'm a cusp millneial/Gen Z (1997) so it's possible I feel more of what millennials do. I was basically told I was one up until college.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:41 PM
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I agree that larger age gaps becomes less important as people get older, especially around 40/50. But even then, dating a decade younger like 30, if still past the "only under 25" concern OP has. I've dated older before. Like 10+ age gaps. There is a disparity between them and people my age, even when they are similar in hobbies or interest, usually due to generational differences, and there is usually a difference in health/physical ableness. They weren't bad people or anything, there were just…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:39 PM
2

No. I would never consider the sex/romance opinions of people I would never want to engage with; I've always done perfectly fine and gotten what I was after without listening to any advice here. There's no need for me to consider anyone here past speculation and recreational hypothetical. I wouldn't expect them to value my opinion, either, unless I'm similar to what they want. It's good to be aware people out there may think in a way that disagrees with you, especially if many people or a group …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:30 PM
2

Fair point. I do this I mentioned elsewhere that everyone will age differently, some not as well as others; I think this just begets the point that age as a number alone isn't an inherently damning factor, nor some sort of magic-shield that will protect you from poor self maintenance or unfortunate genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 07:52 AM
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I genuinely think people are willing to trade some more freedom for more "security/safety" or comfort. People don't want life to be painful or hard, and I would argue that the increased appreciation for nihilism is due to decline in community interaction, decline in religion without a replacement for the bond it can bring (personally, I'm not religious at all) and lack of hope. I think many value comfort and security over struggle and freedom. Things seem pretty bleak and we've basically grown u…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 07:41 AM
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How tf are you on this sub. You seem reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:17 AM
1

lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:16 AM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:15 AM
1

As someone who is gen z and just are part of a edible that was a mix of shrooms and weed before working on a commission pls elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:14 AM
5

Man that was actually good.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:55 AM
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Hard drugs. Likes gender roles. Religious is a BIG red flag to me. Conservative. Overly masculine/ripped. Won't let me put things in his butt. Has a cat. Wants kids. Has a kid. Country music. Drives a truck. Can't support his basic needs. Pro-life. Luckily I rarely have to deal with those types but if they were in my dating pool I'd be throwing them all into the trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:50 AM
2

Unabomber flags
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:37 AM
2

Probably! If you don't have kids, already come from decent means, and marry another person of the same background, you can financially kill it—doubly so because you won't ever have to consider the "mother pay gap" thing some women have to reckon with. I have a feeling well-off, childless lesbians may be in the same boat this upcoming decade. I honestly was going to go for a stem lesbian next if my first date with my partner didn't work out; that's not the case though. The stem lesbians are for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:32 AM
2

Known one since age seven. So 18 years, almost. Have some other from high school I've known almost 7-8 years. The former once had a crush on me but I'm pretty sure that's not the case anymore. We both have partners now and are still friends. I personally don't date within my social circles because it can ruin the dynamic. I've always preferred OLD because of the compartmentalization. If something goes wrong or ends, the rest of your life is untouched by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:50 AM
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As someone who has some level of alt style I can attest to it being hard to find other emo/alt/goth types in my area; where I live is congested with ravers and guys who like flashy branding. Or have no distinct style at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:41 AM
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So I was on an off tinder from 2016-2020. Tried bumble but thought it was lame. I'm fit, and was working out like 3-4 days a week from 2019-2020 because I really wanted to up my physical "league". I was already thin but not in shape. I mentioned my love for coffeeshops and green tea, dark music and plants. Said I like to read, write, make art. I had a Jenny Holzer quote in my profile: "In a dream you saw a way to survive, and you were filled with joy." I was a student who sometimes had a job, so…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:38 AM
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I would be gay and date another rich man and then we'd just financially own everyone else with no kids and two nice incomes. Like seriously. If I was a man I wouldn't date women. I don't want kids; if I was male with a male libido, it's all about sex and money now because you don't even have to factor in any gender dynamics or gender roles; and if you're rich you just pay for cleaners. Easy peasy. *Actually I'd date a bi woman if she'd be just as horny and also had money/didn't want kids. So I'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:02 AM
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I personally feel the same about men 35+. Honestly I'm shocked how many men seem to get fat and bald in their late 20s/early 30s. Some people age better than others. Personally I think the women I see in that age range are more attractive than the men. But the general pool of attractive people does seem to shrink. But that doesn't mean everyone is damned the second they turn 30 or 35. Like when I think of good looking men older than 40, I can think of 2 people I know irl and that's it. Most peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:48 AM
2

I can see your point, though I'm not sure I 100% agree with it. People do take partners for granted, especially after some time; recognizing they have the ability to leave can make one appreciate that they stay. I'm not a "true" monogamist if you mean I'm about having one relationship and only one forever. I'm not going to juggle multiple people, though. I'm not into poly or having extra partners past them essentially being a sex toy (like I wouldn't want to be friends with them or have emotiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:41 PM
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Some women are held accountable, but not all; same with men. It depends and it a case by case basis. Plenty of women are held accountable for things like getting pregnant, cheating, sleeping around, etc. You're correct that no one os entitled to monogamy. I did state that it's generally a mutual agreement between parties. My partner and I both slept a around a lot with men and women prior to meeting, and we openly discussed if we wanted to be monogamous or not because it's not something you shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:17 PM
3

rip lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:07 PM
2

They come out sniffling, wild eyed,and extra chatty at my work lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:01 PM
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I'll speak for myself, but I'd legit divorce is a marriage is sexless. I would expect others to do the same if it's that big a deal to them. Or to not get married if it's that dangerous. I do think there's a bias in how many people may discuss their sex/lack of sex life. People who are happy aren't typically going online to brag, they're usually too busy doing things and living their happy life, and 70% of men being married on a site that's branded as being for affairs isn't 70% of men overall. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:53 PM
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Interesting. I'm no 10/10, but I honestly enjoyed my time on dating apps or at least found it decent enough to repeatedly default to them over looking irl. I've also been rejected irl when approaching, though, so getting unmatched or ignored online doesn't really impact me. But I have solid self esteem so that likely helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:30 PM
3

For real? Oh my lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:54 PM
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I can see that. I think it's a shame that this stuff can impact some people's mental health and create paranoia about relationships. I used to look at rp subs years and years ago when I was single and because I wanted to be able to avoid rp/pua men, and it did make me a bit paranoid until I just interacted irl and realized a lot of people are "normal" and not even aware of that stuff. Granted, this was between 2016-2020; it may be worse now. Repeatedly exposing yourself to an echochamber on the …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:54 PM
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Thank you for sharing. I do agree that being the young shiny thing can make anyone feel good. I had a boyfriend in college that a was a bit younger than me (2ish years) and I think he enjoyed that, and I also enjoyed being the older partner for once. My mom is also 4-5 years older than my dad, though there's no real notable difference in their relationship because of it. I've dated older guys as well, and can atest first hand that it does have unique benefits and perks, but it also has cons. Eac…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:41 PM
7

That's true. Good luck to those who want that, I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:16 PM
8

PPD couples Honestly I'm curious about this too. I'm doubtful, though, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:11 PM
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Yeah, they are. Honestly most men's opinions in this sub aren't even worth taking seriously given they're not even doing much dating or having success with relationships; when you want to be successful at something, you listen to the people who have actually done the thing, not people who haven't. Some guys in here are trying to make women share in the defeat they feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:11 PM
3

19 year olds on reddit lmao. or 40 year olds! ha!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:09 PM
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Also, I do agree that some men would seriously date younger, but plenty would not. A lot of men value being in the smart life stage and understanding from a partner. You're more likely to get that if you date closer in age. Seriously. Even if the men want to, most young women will not; they've got a fuckton of options; why would they seriously consider an older guy when they can get a guy maybe 2-3 years from their age just fine, who they have more in common with? I say that with much confidence…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:07 PM
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Looking youthful, maybe, but I also think a lot of people don't realize how much women can vary in appearance, especially in 25-35. I'm about to turn 25 and people still mistake me for being 19/20. But them mistaking me for that doesn't mean I am that I age. Technically, I look 24/25; that's literally my age. If others interpret that as 19/20, it's because they have a somewhat inaccurate gauge on what 24/25 year olds look like. I think that's the case with women in the 30s. Many women people clo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:59 PM
5

Being expected to pay for shit and make more money. It's 2022. Everyone should be able to pay their own way and I think that should be expected until you're in some sort of dynamics where you want to pay for each other—not out of obligation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:54 PM
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Because most men are not like men on this, despite what people here will claim, and because a lot of people don't actually recognize good looking women in the 30s as 30—because they look more like 25, 26, 27, you get it. Also, people overall find people in their 20s to be the most physically attractive group—that doesn't mean they're only dating someone for how they look. People who want serious relationships are considering things like personality, values, life goals, etc. Looks fade. People kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:53 PM
3

I'm pretty sure monogamy is something expected from both parties; most people aren't forcing it on anyone. Most men and women I know prefer monogamy for various reasons. Like I'm not "forcing" my partner to be monogamous. He's honestly more in favor of it than I am, because I've discussed that I'd be open to us having others as toys should we ever need them—if we're planning on being together "forever", you never know what could happen, and it's important to me that both partners' sexual needs b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:37 PM
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I'm not really tradcon. I am monogamous, though. I think cheating can exist if there's a mutual agreement between partner to not interact with anyone else romantically/sexually. But people are free to define cheating however they want in their relationship(s). I'm just curious as to your fixation on that stat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:57 PM
1

I feel this. If I ever lost my legs or arms I'd rather die—unless I could have really suped up robo limbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:51 PM
2

100% agree. Both my partner and I are pretty niche and we get along beautifully because of it. I personally vetted against anyone who seemed "generic" because. Well. They're generic. Why would I pick generic when there's someone who's particularly tailored to my ideal? Ideal partners are hard as fuck to find but very worth holding out for if you're actively seeking them, imo. But they're not just gonna plop in your lap.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:45 PM
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That's kind of wild. I don't think I've ever encountered someone that insecure. Dating apps are one of the lowest risk forms of connecting with people; who tf cares if a stranger you've never actually met ghosts or rejects you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:43 PM
2

Did someone cheat on you or something because you seem weirdly fixated on this apparent statistic
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:40 PM
1

This is typically how it is, imo. As long as a guy can meet his needs idk about how much he makes or what he does as long as it's legal lol. People are not their jobs; and those who are likely won't have much time outside of work, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:32 PM
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This one of the biggest things people here seem to ignore/forget. Options A and B can both be great people, but if A aligns more with your values and interests and B does not, that's just higher compatibility. B isn't suddenly less valuable as a person overall or failing to be "better". They're just less compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:29 PM
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Be heavy-handed about your more niche preferences and just left/unmatch anyone who doesn't fit them. Atmosphere of your pictures could be a factor. Or age range settings. Or location.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:33 PM
2

🍰🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:30 PM
1

Honestly 27 is young. You'll likely be completely fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:03 PM
1

So no one's out outlier and it doesn't count? Okay lol. Also, money problems shouldn't become too high if I always have my own money. I've always been good at saving. I pay for my own stuff and whatever I need so he just covers his half of things. I'd much rather prioritize personality and looks over money. Money is empty at the end of the day. I've dated monied guys who were alright people but it's not something to found a whole relationship on. Also I don't think you can tell people what they …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:27 PM
1

Hey, I did add a disclaimer say "to my knowledge". I'm pretty sure 2 of the major cancer causing ones are hpv 18 and 16 (which, according to google, are responsible for about 70% of cervical cancers) though, which the vaccine covers. Also, are you American? When I google it says there are no CDC/FDA approved tests for men but I do know that it's pap smears for women; I've never seen HPV be listed on panel STD tests though. Just wondering.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:53 PM
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What else do you call prioritizing traits that are determined by someone's personality and appearance? Also I'm pretty sure some people do date some homeless people. "hobosexual" is a term in pop culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:47 PM
3

Go off, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:26 AM
1

No. My goal is literally to outearn my partner. My mom outearned my dad for a good while until she changed job and his business took off. Who earned more never seemed to impact them and I don't see why it'd make me less attracted to my partner when I'm dating him for who he is, not how much he makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:52 AM
1

Whichever or both. I'm debating if I wanna get a small first tattoo for my birthday or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:42 AM
1

Same. When this was all going on I was like "Who?"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:40 AM
1

darn
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:37 AM
4

Fake ass-aficionado. U fraud. Thought you were an expert
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:23 AM
3

This is how I felt when I wore black lipstick and a crop top on a Friday once. We had a meeting with a new vendor and I had to go meet them since I do purchasing when I'm usually more office casual or minimal (black slacks, b&w striped tops).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:16 AM
3

Tragically beautiful
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:12 AM
2

is that this bbl everyone keeps talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:11 AM
3

Idk about disgust (maybe for some) but pity, yes, because a lot of it seems to be due to financial issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:09 AM
3

They both sound immature imo. I would never be in that situation to begin with but if I say I'm leaving, I'm leaving. It's not a game or a test. Goodbye.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:08 AM
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The vax came out when I was around 15 and my mom didn't opt for me to get it and I didn't know what it was; I'm really happy I learned about it because if it's something that can literally prevent a potentially fatal cancer...like why wouldn't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:33 AM
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I considered mentioning the HPV thing because when I learned about it as an STI/STD, I had no idea it was what could cause cervical cancer in women. What's scary about it is a lot of men can be an asymptomatic carrier and give it to women without even knowing, and there's (to my knowledge) no test for it unless you have symptoms. When I learned all this and went and got the HPV vax because it's been shown to be super effective in preventing two of the HPV strains that cause cervical cancer. I di…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:23 AM
3

Some people can communicate well. Other's can't. Most of it has to due with how they're socialized by parents, school, peers, culture, etc. Anyone can be a great communicator is they mean what they say and are willing to bridge gaps with those who may not understand right away. Communication is partially about being able to express, but it's also about being able to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:14 AM
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Childbirth if you want a kid genetically yours. Being physically weaker than most men. Rape can happen to anyone but statistically happens more to women and it's something you think about enough and see/hear about in media pop culture that it becomes something you have to acknowledge as a possibility in life, and one that happens more often (to women, men, and children) than anyone cares to admit. Men who legitimately think you are less intelligent than them simply because you're a woman. I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:54 AM
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Ryan Reynolds livestreamed his colonoscopy because he lost a bet to Rob McElhenney about if Rob could learn Welsh or not. I think that's one of the funniest and most interesting ways I've seen someone bring up cancer awareness, especially for something men may not want to get checked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:43 AM
1

From the sounds of it your are probably right lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:40 AM
4

Typically when I zone out while someone's talking I just repeat part of what they just said but in a question. Like they "know" I heard because I'm repeating them, and listening because I'm asking them to go on, but really it's half-assed. That's how I politely survive my coworkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:20 AM
1

Nope. Not that I'm aware of, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:14 AM
1

Get it. You can do it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:28 PM
2

Makes sense. I think girls channel their sexuality, differently, too. Like when I was a teen I had a group chat with friends where we would swap X-rated fanfics we'd read or sometimes we'd role play as characters doing explicit shit. It was an all girls chat and it was small (like 4-5 of us). I don't know what the youth of today is doing but being a teen through the 2010s when tumblr was full of fandom porn was fun when I was adolescent.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:38 PM
2

Of course 🫖
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:33 PM
1

I have done MDMA but didn't notice any uptick in libido. Granted, I did it with mushrooms so that may have been part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:04 PM
1

I got abs and think I look real good but to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:01 PM
1

I think it's partially because it stopped be the "current" crisis between covid, ukraine, abortion ban, etc. Also because media doesn't cover it the same way they did when Trump was in office. I wonder about it too because it's not like it just disappeared or stopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:55 PM
2

Yes. Welcome to the team! Lunch is in 30, there are iced coffees in the break room.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:51 PM
2

I'll file the info away for another time. Personally I don't think it's for me, but never hurts to have info on things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:29 PM
2

I've seen that kind of stuff on ig for power lifters or body builders, but most women I follow who are very into fitness usually have a child and don't seem to take hormones. They've just spent years building their fitness. Could be censorship echochamber but very fit women do have fans. Plenty of them seem to fall into the "slim thicc" category. The only ones who seem to get shit tend to lift mad heavy and it's probably some level of emasculating to guys who don't work out at all or nearly as m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:18 PM
3

i'm not either but fuck it, i'll try lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:15 PM
3

we all gotta clap our pussies in unison. in morse code.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:04 PM
3

I love to workout and have a fairly high libido for a woman; a lot of my gym motivation comes from what feels like a place of raw primal or emotional energy, especially once I'm in the midst of a workout. It's "addictive" in it's own way. I've always wondered what seems to separate me from the friends who can't seem to keep with things, even if their schedule allows it. Originally I started working out for a mix of upping my dating "league" and then kind of got obsessed with the progress I saw a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:58 PM
3

You mean like an adonis belt or the dorito shaped body? I have a bit of the former but because I'm thin and workout consistently and love core. Wiki says it's an androgen which has masculinizing features which is mildly appealing neat as someone who workouts, but I don't think it's recommended for people to take those types of things if they don't need them. I'd specifically want something with mild to no side effects. Maybe like an incredibly lite version of that. Though I'm assuming that stuff…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:53 PM
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I don't recall what they were called or what strength (because there's different dosages), but they came in a gray/silver packaging and the pill was in a little plastic capsule you take it out of. It was actually a libido enhancer for men; they have some for women that are usually pink (called various things like Pink Kitty, Pink Unicorn, etc.) but I've never noticed anything with those. Make sure you read the ingredients list to make sure you're not allergic to anything, the usual for taking an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:45 PM
1

never except for the rare handful of times i tried thongs. so those were self inflicted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:31 PM
1

I am personally an ass-lover so i will die on this hill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:29 PM
2

she's coming for ur young bones, bro
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:28 PM
1

maybe this will summon her lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:25 PM
3

Weed definitely does something for me, or at least certain strains do. I'm just intrigued by the harnessing or amplification of libidinal energy; having a higher sex drive is frustrating for many if they can't outlet it, but the benefits of even having that energy seems to offer a physical edge at times (I'm assuming this is mostly due to testosterone).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:24 PM
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I'm pretty high libido for a woman but I have taken those libido pills they sell at adult stores/gas stations and I thought those were kinda neat. Would do again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:12 PM
4

Dragon. i miss sarkington tho. she'd be my nominee.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:09 PM
2

Snakes or owls. Frogs are neat though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:07 PM
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As a woman I'd take that. Ngl. Like if there were no side effects. I feel like some others would too, especially if it was like a recreational thing. This might make some women a little more gay tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:45 PM
1

Get out while you can. I shouldn't even be here. I'm happily partnered and somehow got sucked into this recreationally and can't seem to fully climb out. Run lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:41 PM
1

Likely. I think that's common for many regardless of whether or not they'd consider themself rp. But it's not a good way to operate if you want a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:42 PM
3

I think quite an amount of people know this; it's why some people argue altruism doesn't truly exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:30 PM
1

Fair point
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:26 PM
1

Definitely easier and understandable. Honestly refreshing to see someone reasonable here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:25 PM
1

Sure, but I have encountered people with that same belief who aren't rp. But yeah, some rp guys on here are very adamant that you can't be open with your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:17 PM
2

This is probably the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:02 PM
3

I don't think marriage is the best gauge for which relationships are "good enough". A lot of people get married because a partner gets pregnant, because they think it'll give them a better grasp on keeping the partner, cultural expectations, financial situations, etc. I feel like the majority of people get married simply because they think it's what they're supposed to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:51 PM
1

I can detach from things pretty easily, but have acknowledged the emotional risk of getting into a serious relationship and accept it because the trade-off of being emotionally open with my partner is worth it. I want to be a team; it makes us stronger. Risks just have to be calculated and the reward to be worth it. People to lie and deceive, sure, and while it is unfair to say it's someone's job to vet out those people or avoid them--it kind of is. No one else can do it for them. That's part of…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:49 PM
1

I do think the trend of saying "no" to emotional labor had gotten a bit extreme/misunderstood. Should people be charged with helping people process major traumas or emotional outbursts? Or logically processing their emotions for them when they're an adult? No. Is it reasonable for someone to express and communicate stress, sadness, defeat and needing help from time to time? Yes. There's a big difference between talking about something with someone versus screaming at them, throwing things, threa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:42 PM
1

100% agree. I feel like a lot of people are setting themselves up for failure or a rough time; no one is strong and perfect all the time. People have moments where they need support and help. That's pretty reasonable to assume for anyone. However, if they're having those moments everyday, all the time, and emotionally lashing out, that is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:33 PM
1

It's the term for that gesture flamboyant gays stereotypically do. Raise your arm up from the elbow, then let your wrist go limp. It's like a "sassy" gesture.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:29 PM
1

Fair point for some. Though I have seen some here claim to be burnt from past relationships or partners, but they're likely smaller than the ones who have never dated at all. Probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:27 PM
1

limp-wrist, says "yas"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:23 PM
4

Daughter pro-move.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:20 PM
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One of the most tragic things on here is people seeming to think you have to operate separately and somewhat detachedly in relationships or you're 100% fucked; your partner's gonna leave you, think you're weak, etc. I feel like the people who say this have never had or seen a healthy relationship and I honestly feel bad that people exist thinking they can't trust a partner with themselves. Like that's traditionally part of a partner's job. They're supposed to be one of the few people you can cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:15 PM
2

I feel like me experience was something like: plain, plain, generic, ugly, hot, ugly, fat, maybe, hot but terrible photos/doesn't know he's hot, plain, more generic, guy holding a fish x3.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:49 AM
2

You're 5'6"? The way mfs joke with you I assumed you were shorter. That tracks though. I have and ex who's like 5'4"/5'5" and he's always been able to get girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:47 AM
1

Yeah this is where he lost me too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:43 AM
1

What turned you off from it? I've heard a lot of criticism for the violence and sexuality
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:33 AM
2

the more i hear about tiktok the happier i am i don't use it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:32 AM
1

Always a good lesson to learn sooner than later.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:30 AM
1

I don't like "game" or the "cold and mysterious" types. I tend to ask things directly and have even just gotten guys and gals against literal walls and flirted with them and asked them questions. Apply heat, make things steamy. If they're not down they're not down. But they usually are. There's a direct, playful medium you can take if you can read someone correctly. The women who've come onto me have behaved the same. Like I had a girl approach and flirt with me at a concert when I was in colleg…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:50 AM
2

This is where I'm at. Any ex I talk to know why we're not together anymore and it's essentially just the same as conversation prior to, just minus romance/sexuality. Granted, part of who I am is being pretty candid so I tend to date people who are similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:40 AM
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I don't think it matters is she's dating "in her league" or below. Some people also think their appearance can compensate for a shit or lack of personality, and it usually can't. Some people also have low self esteem and don't think they deserve better or good things. Both men and women can be like that. I'm seen both hot and "ugly" women have successful, long relationships. The ones who seem to struggle the most or have bad relationships tend to have poor self esteem or are focusing too hard on…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 12:21 AM
1

I don't think I've ever take. it when well/fully rested, but it I have taken it before bed when I'm not tired. It makes me drowsy but it's easy to fight off if I keep awake doing things. I have to essentially lay down and allow it to do its thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 12:09 AM
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It gives me funky dreams. I do wake up in the middle of the night more often when I use it. I still take it because sometimes I need the "force shutdown" to keep a consistent-ish sleep schedule.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:48 PM
2

Not even simple stuff like tied hands or handcuffs? That's pretty tame.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:27 PM
2

Hmm. Seems fairly accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:14 PM
1

Melatonin. Masturbate. Maybe a glass of wine. Make yourself tired, somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:12 PM
1

Damn. I dropped the ball. My apologies. Aren't you a swinger? That's kinda not straight in it's own way, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:10 PM
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I present as a woman/I'm anatomically female, and I'm into "hot people". Most people would consider me bi/pan/queer. I just think of it as I'm into whoever I'm into. If I like them I like them. I've been attracted to men, women, and trans people. It's never been a major defining trait for me except maybe in this sub, since it's about sex/dating. So it becomes a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:08 PM
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All stuff is just stuff, at the end of the day. Post is part in jest. I'm not really trying to be revelatory or divisive or anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:02 PM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:48 PM
1

2-3 months, maybe. Don't exactly recall. I think I said it first on accident when I was dropping him off one day, and he caught it and said it back. It was sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:46 PM
1

Oh yeah! I'm surprised I forgot him. He's probably one of like 2 actors I recognize from that show.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:43 PM
2

Well damn lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:41 PM
2

Ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:38 PM
1

Damn. What an opening ep. I suppose they were prepping people for the ride because the rest of what I've heard about it sounds equally intense
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:32 PM
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Ngl this is likely. Lots of people are scared of being shamed/losing face and don't want to hurt other's egos/feelings if it'll rock the boat they're in.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:28 PM
2

I dub thee gay. Congrats.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:25 PM
1

I have never heard if this so this is possible. Sounds v niche.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:24 PM
1

Twink gay, from the sounds of it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:23 PM
1

How am I dismissing reality? That basically just means the majority of things are hetero culture. It's merely observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:23 PM
1

Maybe we're just unaware since it's not the scenes typically discussed. All I know is some lady is a dragon (?), sex, violence, rape, there is a man (king?) named Jo(h)n Snow, there was a wedding that was bloody or something. Umm. Big throne made of knives? Also a child who's a sadist. I think. How close am I?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:21 PM
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This is the closest I have ever come to have interest in this show but I will still pass lol. Tempting, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:20 PM
1

Yeah. There's nothing bad about it being so, it's just an observation I've made. Kinda like how a lot of flamboyant gays and women like Rupaul or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:15 PM
1

Accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:14 PM
-1

I have no idea what this Game of Thrones spinoff is about and I'm glad. Honestly I wonder if watching GoT is straight people stuff because I've never watched it, have no desire to watch it, and most of my friends are in a similar boat. Whenever I encounter people who are into it they're basically always straight. GoT is hetero culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:10 PM
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basically
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:06 PM
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That's wild lol. Generic, weird guys in DMs. Nothing new or crazy, just strange because this is basically the only sub I'm active on and I'm willing to bet plenty of mfs here are not a fan of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 09:05 PM
2

Reciprocation. If someone won't do what I'm willing to do: goodbye. To notice: intellect, interests, my love for reading and learning, my consistent desire to discuss philosophy (which can get old real fast for some). My willingness to do just about anything (yes, almost anything) for the right person if they're willing to do the same for me. So personality and values, I suppose. Those are what will endure once the body is really starting to age/decay. If you're not about the abstract-me, there'…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 09:03 PM
3

Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:50 PM
3

Limiting my dating pool to queer-only shrunk it massively but also made it so much easier to find someone I liked. Prior to that, I also kept "trying out" people who weren't exactly my type because you never know, maybe I could like them, and also for the novelty, but I never ended up seriously liking them. They were fine people, just not for me. After that I basically made lists of traits I wanted and got serious about finding someone I really liked and managed it within about 2 months. We've b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:06 PM
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I think it's both. I didn't really date prior to college and didn't become sexually active until after high school. Even I noticed a difference between tinder circa 2016ish v. 2020. Like the quality of people seemed to have changed there seemed to be a lot of sex workers on there. (I had my setting for both men and women.) Which I get why they all kinda piled on apps, but the pools were really different from what I recalled. I also kept getting people who had just moved from the same place I had…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:01 PM
4

So, top niche thing is probably pegging. Also must be bi or at least queer in some capacity. Those are fairly limiting factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 06:54 PM
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Pretty pleased with it. OLD allowed me to find my dream partner; I likely wouldn't have met him otherwise since he worked from home at the time we met. It opens up options outside of the immediate social circle, which are shrinking for both sexes, it seems. OLD has been way more favorable toward me than irl; you can't demand specific niche traits from most 5 irl options, but you can from the vast amount of people online. You have a better chance of finding a less common trait because there's mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 03:50 PM
1

By traditional definition, sure. I'm like 30-35. That includes men and women. I'd really only consider 4-5 of those relationships, though. My partner is around 30ish for his.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:36 AM
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I can see that being an issue. I've never lived in a small town and never would, personally. It's a factor outside of my personal scope.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 06:39 AM
1

Yes. They are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 03:03 AM
1

I agree that being muscular with low body fat is harder. Muscle requires maintenance and eating a certain way. However, that does tend to mean you're thin, but usually lean v. say, "skinny fat".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 03:02 AM
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Most aren't, I can agree with that. Maybe a rare 1 or 2 if he's really, really pretty and amazing as a person. And if you have disposable income.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:28 AM
1

Yeah. It's a non issue. Yet for some reason this makes people here upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:28 AM
1

I'm not shaming anyone. I don't care what people here do; it has no impact on me. I'm saying that it's not much of a factor for some women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:27 AM
1

I mean, you wouldn't really clock the stealth ones, would you? I have no tattoos, no piercings others than my ears and tongue (which no one even seems to notice because it's not in their face), and my lifestyle is pretty lowkey. You wouldn't be able to clock stealth people; that's kinda how stealth works.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:26 AM
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I'm not saying it's universal. Just that it's a common enough experience that it's been the case multiple times and throughout various states I've lived in. I've stated it'd anecdote; that doesn't mean it holds no ground or validity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:24 AM
1

Ah. So this is that video.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:40 PM
0

Becky bux gonna have to become a norm one day if the ladies are gonna be out earning the fellas
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:37 PM
1

This is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:36 PM
0

There is. No one really discusses it much, partially because there's no distinct definition for what it is, to my knowledge. I've seen the term but never seen anyone define what it entails, exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:35 PM
1

I take love fairly serious, assuming it's me in love. Other people in love? A not necessarily mine to take seriously. I've really only been in love twice, and that includes my partner. Love is pretty rare, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:21 PM
2

Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:19 PM
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Probably not, but I'm not most women and their lives aren't mine nor my issue; I'm just saying my observed/experienced perspectives, and most people are using anecdote to try to fight my anecdote. One experience is not more or less valid than another; they're all worth discussing since the world is comprised of all of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:17 PM
1

I could agree with the idea that more liberal/non traditional types so take courtship less seriously; but that's not necessarily a detriment unless you're really into courtship yourself. Or, arguably, courtship simply looks different or moves at a different pace.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:16 PM
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Yes. We're both considered conventionally attractive. He's basically my dream guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:14 PM
1

Because I basically reaffirms I have no stake in this? If I'm partnered and this is intended by both of us to be long term and we've discussed marriage and buying a house together, pretty much shows that n-count conversations are recreational from my side, as they no longer have any bearing on me; I'm not in the dating pool anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:13 PM
1

Couple years. Got an anniversary coming up. We're both younger and had our share of fun, and neither of us wants anything to do with the dating pool anymore; especially with the way it starts to look post 25-30. Lots of single parents, divorced people, and "leftovers".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:11 PM
2

Surprised? Somewhat impressed? Aroused? I'm not sure why it would matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:09 PM
0

You think more liberal or progressive men don't like romance? I've found that most do, honestly more so than women. Either way, no one should be complaining if they're being a hypocrite. I don't feel bad for those who are. People make their choices and will have to manage the results of those whether they enjoy it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:08 PM
1

Nah, I don't think it's an attack at all. I was just saying I have no real stake in the conversation; I'm just stirring up things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:05 PM
1

Pretty much every statement ever made will be applicable to some and inapplicable to others. How revelatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:04 PM
2

I feel like those women are silly for going for non-compatible men. I've never understood people who complain about those who aren't actually options even if they're seriously limited, and even then, while a bit unreasonable, you can always move elsewhere if you care that much. Dating pools can vary greatly depending on where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:04 PM
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He is. We're both bi/queer, and I won't date straight men at this point in life. If for some reason we were to split I'd likely date a woman, tbh. Before him and before covid, I was going to go on a date with a girl from my college until the pandemic forced me to move. So I never got to see how that'd have worked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:02 PM
1

It's all fun already, imo. This is recreational to me. I'm happily partnered and right with you in the entertainment of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:00 PM
5

Personally, I don't find the majority are. All in all? this anecdote v. anecdote, you're not going to align with my experience and I'm not going to align with yours. At the end of it, it's certainly not impacting my dating life either way; you are free to your preferences and beliefs and to do what you choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:59 PM
1

Mmm it's applicable to me and applicable to enough high-n women given their are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:57 PM
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That's the thing though. There's no real way of knowing unless someone had a reputation. Like no one I know irl has any idea about my body count unless I tell them; my partner knows and so do some exes who asked, and maybe some friends, but seemingly no one's guessing or assuming accurately based off of appearance alone. It's not that hard to keep your personal business private or on a need to know basis, or behave politely and present well. A lot of considering someone a "ho" is based off of wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:56 PM
2

I don't know, my partner's pretty desirable in a conventional sense; maybe not in a masculine sense but he's slim with a full head of hair, 6', treats me well, we have great sex, has a stable office job. He's basically exactly what I was looking for, physically and in personality. I actively sought out someone like him and closed out when I found him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:53 PM
1

This is fair. This essentially just means it's back to being a non factor for hookups, and not a major factor for long term relationships if the person is loyal and good in bed, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:50 PM
1

I would say it easy mode as long as you're under 35, fairly good looking, and not profoundly dumb. The only women I've seen truly struggle tend to be "ugly" or dense, because it impacts their ability to vet well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:49 PM
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It's not an issue if you just vet out guys who care and cash out while you're young and attractive (assuming you're attractive). Like not an issue at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:48 PM
2

Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:47 PM
0

? I don't know man, relationships seem easy a fuck given my experience and seeing my female friends date. There's always options; whether or not they like those options or take them is the real question.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:46 PM
1

This is it what it seems like. Never been a real thing to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:45 PM
1

That's fair, but do you really think high n women are looking to date traditional conservative men? Some, maybe, especially if they're lacking options, but I'd never consider seriously someone like as an actual partner. It's not hard to gauge someone's political or core values if you ask pointed questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:44 PM
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Because I don't care about others dating lives? We're adults. People are old enough to use their judgement and make their choices. If it doesn't work for them, that's their problem; it's not my responsibility to fix someone else's love life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:43 PM
5

Not all men are lying dude, some sure, just like some women lie about body count, but I promise you there are people who do not give a flying fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:41 PM
1

Could be either, depending on the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:40 PM
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I feel like a lot of men here project their preferred options rejecting them onto women; like the n-count convo. Men who care about n-count wouldn't even be a viable option for me; how am I supposed to be "rejected" by someone who's not even a real option, from my perspective? Seems like they want it to be a bigger obstacle than it is. No woman I know has ever had an issue getting into a relationship due to her body count, a lot of men don't even ask. Relationships are overall easy for most wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:16 PM
5

The men I've been with would likely prefer experienced. Not all men are looking to date virgins or less experienced women; even men in this sub have stated that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:11 PM
5

I've personally never been a fan of gender roles, but that's because I prefer to be active and a pursuer/initiator. I don'g have the patience to wait on others and would rather ask things myself or pay my own way or for my date than wonder if they afford somewhere. I won't do accept anything I couldn't pay for myself; it's dangerous to get used to things you can't provide for yourself. People are 100% allowed to abide by gender roles if that's what they like. It's seemingly not what a lot of cur…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:10 PM
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Okay, if we're saying most as in men globally, sure, but my dating pool is not "most men". It's liberal men in blue states and city or city-like environment's. They're the only ones who matter; and many of them don't care. The men who do care are inherently irrelevant to me anyway; they wouldn't date me, I wouldn't date them; n-count is not the obstacle or detriment you want it to be if you're only looking for people who don't care about it—which there are more than enough of.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:06 PM
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That's true. Given the sentence, I am only referring to the hypocrisy of the ones who do. If that's not you, then it's not you. In which case I suppose it's up to you to decide if you think it's appropriate or worth it engage with a guy you want to show interest in you. Gotta weigh the risk v. reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:58 PM
1

I'm heavily introverted and actively try to sevre friendships due to disliking the social maintenance. I have a feeling the 2 people I've known for 17 years already will always be there whether I want them there or not. I only think it's possible to lose sight of people if you and/or they get off social media. If there's still that window of observation, the avenue for interaction still exists as a possibility unless they never respond to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:56 PM
22

Holds some truth, but some people won't make a move due to shyness, uncertainty, or anxiety. If a woman really wants to know, she can just ask or make the first move herself. It's 2022. Risk of rejection is intimidating but it's worth the risk if it's someone you really want; isn't it better to know? If you want someone, go after them. If you aren't willing to, then imo you're a coward and didn't deserve them. If they mattered to her, she would. You can't say "fuck gender roles" then literally c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:49 PM
2

I still see people I've known since I was like 7/8. That's like 17 years of friendship. Then there's people I have attempted to phase out, drop contact with, and told I didn't want to be friends anymore and they still try to contact me wanting to talk and catch up. I do not understand it. Getting people to fully fuck off is seemingly nigh impossible even when you don't speak to them for years or never reply to their texts. Mfs must be lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:44 PM
2

Never. He's like a 2/10 to me. I don't date big men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:40 PM
1

Kissing is honestly fairly simple. Don't use too much tongue, try to match what they're doing, energy/movement wise. Try to relax. Don't slobber on them or lick them or anything. If you want to try something you're not sure of, just start slow and see if they pull back or anything. Everyone has different kissing preferences, too, so it's not a one size fits all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:38 PM
1

Blue. I think it's basic. I prefer energizing colors or things that bring atmospheric power.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:35 PM
3

This is true. I've always been good at compartmentalizing in general, but I have seen the "Person fucked every guy in the friend group" have reputation problems. But really, n-count is not the obstacle men want it to be. Maybe it's a major factor for them, in which case those men and women just won't date each other, but it is not there dealbreaker, obstacle, DOA thing for most men. Maybe really traditional or conservative types—who I'd never, ever, ever go for (which could be why I've never enc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:25 PM
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Maybe men here. You guys a free to believe what you want; if it does matter, it's never been in the way of me getting a relationship or guys wanting to be serious with me. Never. It's not an actual obstacle if you're a good partner and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:21 PM
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Many men don't care, dude. Some do, sure, but most just care that you're loyal, good/fun in bed, and good to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:20 PM
3

I'm sure it does matter to some people, but there's just as many who don't care at all or prefer people with body counts similar to theirs. People can believe what they believe; all I'm saying it has never been an obstacle for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:19 PM
1

I tried to do this once with a massive moth that had been sitting in the same place of outside our door for 3 days, and when I went to grab it to dry and pin it and everything, it flew up and flapped in my face and I screamed. Fr thought that thing was dead. Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:49 PM
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This is my experience. Like it's never been an actual obstacle. This is the only "place" where men seem hellbent on saying it matters. I think part of it is irl there's no 100% certain way to tell what anyone has done sexually unless you've got video of it or a bunch of people corroborating same thing. Which isn't really a thing if you compartmentalize and don't date or bang people in the same social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:45 PM
5

I don't know 3 seems like a valid thing. Unless we're talking like skinny fat or something. Most thin women I know workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:42 PM
1

Based
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:40 PM
3

Interesting. My sister knows some basic sign language that she learned for a class and she seemed to pick up on it fairly quick. One of the most interesting things about it to me is that people can communicate with gestures across distances where voices wouldn't be most efficient. I used to work at a movie theater and one had two women come in, and one walked way across the lobby like 35ft away while her companion was ordering food, and the one ordering was asking her from the line what she want…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:48 AM
2

In the most simple way, they lack depth. Their hobbies and interests are shallow or surface level, they don't tend to think about much, are easily swayed by whatever's trendy, don't have any traits that are considered "unique" or "niche". They're like a template that got filled with whatever the algorithm pitched them and never questioned anything, including who they are and why it matters. They also tend to lack novel experiences that can help people change and develop.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:31 AM
2

🍿
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:29 AM
3

do both. one is quitter's talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:28 AM
3

No tongue. I'm not the biggest fan of receiving oral anyway so it's no real loss to me. Like if he's got no tongue at ALL then I guess I'll have to learn sign language or something but that's okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:27 AM
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because any rando stranger is not worth taking an axe for? male or female? i doubt it had to do with sex and more so that no one wants to fight someone unarmed when they have an axe
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:26 AM
3

🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 03:02 AM
1

I would say about half of the Gen Z people I encounter are fat. It seems 50/50. I don't know if that's the actual stat. But it does seem like people are getting bigger at younger and younger ages. I really hate the idea that "aging makes you fat" because that's what I was told as a kid, and I believed it was inevitable until I got to college and put on like 10 pounds, decided to work it off, and realized I basically have the majority of control over my weight. I've never been big but the fact I …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 02:45 AM
5

He was damaged then made toxic by a more damaged and toxic guy who 100% has a mad crush on him. Incredible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 02:39 AM
5

Will Graham isn't necessarily a serial killer. I just really, really like how he moaned when Hannibal stabbed him in a season finale. Very homoerotic. Also Hugh Dancy is just a beautiful fella.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 02:37 AM
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People being fat seems to be more and more common as people get older. Basically all my coworkers older than 40 are fat except one who has celiacs and had to stop eating a lot of foods because of it. He lost a ton of weight as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 02:36 AM
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Toxic female characters? Countless. Toxic male characters? Hmm. Maybe a few? Is Will Graham from "Hannibal" toxic or just damaged?...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 02:34 AM
2

Holy f lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 02:32 AM
1

Probably that but with cat ears or something
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 01:45 AM
-1

Could just see if she wants to bang and bounce if not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 01:03 AM
1

I respect you respecting my take.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 01:02 AM
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No. Most want to date men or women their age. Women who date older than a handful of years are less common and will usually be regarded as having "issues" or "daddy issues". Women start becoming open to slightly larger gaps around 25/30, but even then it's usually under 10 years, usually closer to like a 2-5 year difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 12:13 AM
2

I disagree that staying alive is always the most "intelligent" priority. Maybe one of the most primal ones, but I personally find gambling to be less intelligent that motorcycle riding. That's just me, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 12:05 AM
2

Some people are less risk adverse than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 11:29 PM
2

Dusseldorf, Koln, Amsterdam, Paris, London. Paris was where some people thought I was Colombian. In Germany everyone seemed to think I was Italian or Turkish.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:53 PM
2

I'm mixed, part Mexican. I got clocked as Colombian and Turkish when I visited Europe; likely because they have more Turkish people than Mexicans who end up there. Idk where people got Colombian. I don't think they default to "She must be Mexican" because Mexico is far as fuck from them lol. The most accurate German accent I ever had, according to my German friend, was when I was imitating Hitler from "Inglorious Basterds". Which is awful lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:33 PM
1

I used to be fluent until my relatives from Mexico stopped visiting. Any foreign person says my accent in their language (German, French) sounds "Spanish" or "Italian" rather than American; I have a feeling it's my brain trying to inflect the same way I did with Spanish. Which is kinda neat. I'd rather not be clocked as American in foreign places. I have gotten clocked as Colombian and Turkish (inaccurate) though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:15 PM
3

Some people get into relationships for practice, because they prefer not to be alone, because there's no better options, because they want consistent sex, etc. It's not about being "wrong", but not finding what you want out of the gate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:11 PM
1

So my Spanglish and really bad French be doing me favors? Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 09:57 PM
2

If you can't be vulnerable with your partner, that relationship is gonna be rough at some point. No one can be at 100% strength 100% of the time. And people should feel safe experimenting or being sexually vulnerable with a partner, given that sense of safety (discounting any trauma responses) is typically built off of trusting the person with your emotions, body, etc. I'm not about to try to convince straight guys to let me put it in their butt; I'd rather just date people who are already recep…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 09:46 PM
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Not true. I want to say about 1/3 of men have the genes/disposition toward baldness. And hair thinning isn't baldness itself. My dad is like 55 with a full head of hair. Just date men who seem to have good genes for hair. That's kinda what I did. They're harder to find and it's not 100% certain they'll have hair, but if they have good hair and the men and women in their families have good hair (or they're part of an ethnic group that isn't as probe to baldness; all the Mexican men are my work wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 07:48 PM
3

is this like. real. this is satire, right? i can't tell anymore with this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 07:43 PM
1

Not into it. He's probably conventionally good looking to most women over 30/35. I would not be interested at all. I've tried bald and it's not my cup of tea. I can't even rate him "accurately" because my bias is so strong. Like he's probably a 7.5/10 to many. He's like a 5/10 to me. Bald knocks men down a lot for me. I also don't like beards or really masculine shaped bodies, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 07:37 PM
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I really, really like seeing and hearing guys when they're getting fucked. It's different than when they're the ones doing the fucking. It really gets me going and I like being able to please them in that way and that they're willing to let me do something that's considered "taboo" for them and that they trust me that much. I'm also into women, and I've noticed men who are into pegging tend to be bi or bi-curious and are more open to considering extra partners of either sex. Straight men seem to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 07:28 PM
2

I am genuinely surprised by the amount of men saying it's not dealbreaking. It's a dealbreaker for me if a guy isn't into pegging, it's something I've discussed early on in relationships and eventually raised it to "discuss on first date" because I was tired of men who didn't want things in their butts. I wasn't going to spend time on guys who aren't into it because it's important to me. If a guy's not gonna let me go in their butt, it 100% will not work out long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 06:23 PM
3

This is true, but you can be introverted and socially adept. I believe others have mentioned it as well. Socializing well is a skill, you have to practice it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 06:17 PM
2

Generational differences, maybe. When I encounter men in that age range i genuinely feel bad for the women in the same age group because a lot of the men are distinctly more misogynistic, even if it's not malicious. That's when compared to most millennials or gen-z guys, of course. Younger gens are seemingly more progressive. I don't know if that'll shift or not but that is the trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 08:11 AM
2

if you think this is making weed your personality you have never met a real stoner
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 05:20 AM
3

i'll smoke to that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 05:06 AM
2

I'm not ticklish at all but I love tickling my partner. Feet tickling, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 04:56 AM
1

Depend on the size and what it is. Active work is maybe 1-2 hours for building, 1-4 hours for painting depending on what I design and the size of everything. Things have to be fired twice before they're fully down and it's about 10-14 days of wait time because of the studio I got through, they just have long wait timelines. So about a month per batch, but that's mostly the waiting. I may keep batches in rotation once I get a good system going and rent out the entire kiln if I'm producing bulk of…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 04:55 AM
1

No makeup makeup is probably the most agreed upon "attractive" style of makeup. It's not aesthetically over the top so no one risks getting visually offended by it. It's basically just tweaking what's there. It's good to me able to do that kind of makeup as a woman and save the extremely dramatic stuff for events, concerts, photos, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 04:50 AM
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This is test batch two because the first batch had glazes that got over fired. I think these should turn our how I'm envisioning but we'll have to see later this month. It's only 4 pieces for now since I'm testing things. Once I get it figured out they're going to be for sale online and at local events I vend at.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 04:25 AM
1

I am if it's done well. Plucking some stray hairs here and there to shape it subtly tends to help men and women alike, it's not like you gotta get crazy crisp lines. I think subtly is best for most things because if you look like you're just "naturally attractive" it's almost universally well-received because mfs will think you got superior genes or something lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 04:22 AM
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I'm introverted and relationships have never been an issue for me, but I am female and socially proficient when necessary. It just drains me. I prefer introverted men and women to date and be friends with. The caveat of introverts liking introverts is that they tend to not get out there and try to find each others. Ha. Extroverts are entertaining for like 1-2 hours tops then I need them to leave lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 04:17 AM
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Not true. A guy could clean up his eyebrows, trim or maintain facial hair, play with hairstyles, necklines on shirts, pants and shoe color to look taller (black pants + black shoes usually work for this). Makeup is a distinctly feminine thing, but there's plenty of guys who do skincare routines and style their hair. Men traditionally have less options, yes, but you can still do things to create certain visual effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 04:11 AM
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I played Animal Crossing when I was younger and Super Smash Bros Brawl but that's really it. Sims here and there. Most of my hobbies are analog/non-online stuff. Like right now, I'm waiting for some glaze to dry on a ceramic piece so I can keep painting stripes on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:58 AM
1

This makes sense. I understand a guy with a long beard never wanting to get rid of it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:56 AM
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It balances out the width of her face when it's up. Draws the eyes up. Took me a minute to realize, but yeah. The visual difference styling and playing with color/value can be powerful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:55 AM
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Evidence that i do not play mario games at all confirmed. welp.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:17 AM
1

There's some photos where she looks more similar to Anya (who I also think is fairly good looking; she is a model, so.) and I think Halle Bailey looks different depending on her makeup. When she has distinct eyeshadow and her eyebrows are darkened, her face looks more balanced, but without it she has a lot of "negative space" around her eyes and forehead and it looks funky at some angles. Something about her hair being up looks better than it being down, too. I think Halle's eyes are smaller the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:16 AM
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I've never had this happen. Never. I've never even heard about this happening to friends or women I know. Maybe some exes talk shit behind people's back, but that's it. Sounds unfortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:05 AM
1

I suppose you're a Peach if anything
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:03 AM
1

this is awful and hilarious. i just googled her and wow. her face is. interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 03:01 AM
1

Friends aren't really required if you're hot. Career is more important than friends, usually, when it comes to dating. If you're good looking and had relationships, you'll likely be fine, finding the person you want is sometimes the harder part, especially if social circles are small.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 02:59 AM
1

Compliment her. Could send a picture back if you're looking good. But compliment at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 02:57 AM
1

They probably feel insulted that you don't see them as an option or exception. Sounds like their problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 02:56 AM
1

It can be overwhelming for some. Not everyone has the bandwidth to keep up conversationally or energetically. If it's that you talk "too much", it's more that she's likely drained by the continuous stream of talking because it's not allowing her to pause, regroup, recharge, respond. It can make people scatterbrained or tired because they now have to focus on keeping up with you and some will get stressed out because they'll feel they're being rude or "failing" socially if they start to slip from…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 02:54 AM
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I'm short and love heels and platforms, mostly because of how they look but the height is always an added bonus. That could be compensating, but it's also just preference for how I like to look. Pretty sure I'd still be wearing them even if I was 5'7". At the end of the day it's up to everyone to consider the source of certain opinions, then dispose of the ones that don't serve them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 02:38 AM
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Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 02:11 AM
2

I don't think the beard is an inherent compensation, but it can be used to compensate. I feel like it's usually easy to tell like you said unless the beard is so massive that it's like. One of those impressive wizard beards or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 02:07 AM
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How is this possible. I request they shave if they have a beard and most tend to do it immediately. The only ones who give pushback are the ones who struggle to grow facial hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 01:59 AM
2

she likes your face/body but you either talk too much or she doesn't like what you're saying
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 01:54 AM
1

5'6"-6'.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 01:50 AM
1

Why is that a bad trait. An ability to detach at a moment's notice is basically an advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 01:48 AM
1

xanax
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 01:45 AM
2

This is true to some extent, most everyone is compensating or trying to raise themself up in some way. It's not a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 01:44 AM
5

Basically. I prefer clean shaven men for this reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 01:42 AM
2

I have not. I believe this may be the case. Though I feel like some guys are off put by the idea of escorts in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 12:01 AM
1

yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 12:01 AM
1

This is funny. If a guy said this to me I would be like, "That's what I want you to think 🔪🤭". I pity anyone who see me and thinks, "Oh, she's so nice and perfect!" I have fallen from so many pedestals I just kick 'em over at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:27 PM
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If you want to be upfront, tell him he that you don't think things should go further due to a difference in [values, life goals, lifestyles, etc.] and thank him for his time, then tell him you hope he can find someone who is good to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:17 PM
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Ngl it crossed my mind but I'm pretty sure he's not. He met her off a dating app and he's too all over the place to manage that, from what I can tell. Maybe he was trying to be her pimp but it doesn't seem consistent enough to be the case; the guys here seemingly aren't interested lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:53 PM
1

That tracks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:48 PM
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Honestly I wouldn't surprised if that's something that'd happen. Thought I doubt he could afford it right now because he's currently fighting the DUI charges and is trying to pick up overtime to pay for a lawyer. I think it's 50/50 if he'll end up having to go to jail or not, given it's multiple DUIs. I'm no lawyer, though. m There is another guy here who is friends with an escort and he often tries to give the other men her number when they're struggling with dating/sex woes, lol. Maybe I shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:47 PM
2

This is. Unfortunate. At least it's past tense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:43 PM
1

I thought you might say that, but wanted to be encouraging in case. Nothing sucks more than someone saying you shouldn't bother or that you can't do something. Everyone's got potential for potential. Well wishes with whatever you're up to 🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:37 PM
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God, I get this. This happens with women too. It's concerning how many women project having shitty partners, abusive relationships, or other negative things that are related to their own decisions more so than them being a woman. I have a female coworker who tries to play he husband not helping around the house and he really bad period mood swings as something all women deal with but I have neither of those issues. It's certainly awkward (and a bit insulting) when someone assumes you have the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:32 PM
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You're probably right on the money. He seems lonely, but so do other of other guys who work here and they don't behave remotely like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:29 PM
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He truly seems miserable but also refuses to change or better himself. He's like 28 and very overweight, rude to almost everyone; he tends to insult women and mock men. It's funny because whenever anyone hands him back what he dishes out, he shuts up and gets all sulky. I have no idea what he thinks he's going to accomplish without taking a hard look at who he is. You can't talk about women like they're supposed to be property, shit on married people, then turn around and say you want a wife and…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:59 PM
2

That makes sense. I've noticed people with big families tend to really like them, but as someone with a fairly nuclear 4-person family it always seemed overwhelming to me. Thanks for elaborating
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:53 PM
1

If you think you have the patience and energy, you can probably do something like make and sell stickers. That's how I started. I used to do commissions in college and have do some album art/stickers/prints. Usually I do pencil drawings. I don't tend to seek commissions anymore because they're time consuming and I have a day job, but this commission is for someone who I want to impress for professional reasons. Part of it just finding a niche or style that works for you (colors, motifs, patterns…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:47 PM
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I have a coworker who I'm pretty sure is vacillating between MGTOW and weird pua stuff. He hasn't been in a relationship in years and constantly flips between saying he wants a wife to showing male coworkers memes or videos about the negatives of being married/dating. He tried to hit on me once when I first started working here, and when I told him I have a partner he asked if I loved my partner and I said yes, then he tried to say some bull like, "Yeah but does he love you?" while laughing. Lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:36 PM
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Despise? Not necessarily. Feel concerned about? To a degree. There's a lot of generalizing,, ignoring of exceptions and subjectivity, and general negative emotions in this echochamber. A lot of people get fixated on certain things and refuse to accept or consider any contradictory experience or information because it reminds them that life and love is not a little game you can 100% figure out. It's gonna be risky. Most people are going to get hurt somehow—some worse than others. m You can try to…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:29 PM
1

Charcoal is a fun medium for me because I get to work at larger scales with it, but it can be intimidating because you can't always take back/erase marks the way you can with graphite. I'm thinking it'll be a growing experience, if anything. I don't usually work at this scale. (36"x42")
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:20 PM
1

I have a single sister and our house was always quiet. When I'm around others with big families and it seems like chaos to me. Is that the appeal? Lots of interaction? Like it seriously weirds me out and I do not understand how that can be fun. But my family is a bunch of introverts who'd rather do their own hobbies than interact, so. My partner has a big family and I really hope I never have to meet the brunt of them because it seems like a nightmare to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:15 PM
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Ikr. I pat our office's dog on the head a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:54 PM
1

An art commission. I'm supposed to do a big charcoal piece for someone's office wall. I have to go get supplies for it but it's a funky size, so I'm likely going to have to cut things to size.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:25 PM
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Idk, you might have to DIY one and figure out hivemind configurations. Maybe some of the tech nerds here can help? I am inept w tech unless it's locking my spank banks
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:56 PM
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Repainting all my ceramics because I had used the wrong glaze on them the first time and theres like a 800 degree F firing temp difference. Catching up with my mother. Maybe buying a new plant. Seeing if that new coffee shop is open because their barista job listing closed before I could apply. Working on a commission I am behind on due to vacation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:13 PM
2

I have begun to auto-read reasonable supplies as sarcastic because it's just too wild for here sometimes. Half of my time on here is trying to figure out if mfs are serious
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:10 PM
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You have to sign up for the hot girl newsletter where you connect into the hivemind but the issue is the memberships are exclusive and people gotta renew each year, so even if you're in, you're not in forever
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:06 PM
3

Preferences are preferences. My partner and I both prefer there to be no hair downstairs on either of us, but sometimes we get busy with life and end up sporting bushes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:03 PM
0

this reminds me of the american horror stories episode with the implied necrophile girl
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 06:37 AM
1

He's not really my type. Most people would likely consider him at least a 7/10. I guess I'd put him around there. His cheekbones and facial hair reminds me of my dad and it's a little weird for me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 05:40 AM
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No. We trust each other, and even if we had doubts, there's literally no way either of us could even cheat right now because we're basically together 24/7. We live and work together and we're both home more often than not on days off, and if we go out, it's typically together. When we are apart it's usually for specific errands, to see family for boring stuff, or to see a friend—which is rare because of schedule differences. Even if we were apart often, I wouldn't think to get tested unless I su…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 05:34 AM
3

Amen!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 03:21 AM
12

My partner and I have both implied that the other is "too good" for us and we seem to be doing great. I think when you feel you have it better, it weirdly incentivizes you to treat them well so they don't "realize" they're getting the "lesser deal". If both parties feel that way, then they're both treating the other well because they don't want to lose the good situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:54 AM
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My mom had me at 35 and my sister at 40. We're both healthy and fine. Meanwhile, my partner has relatives who struggled to conceive in their late 20s and went the IVF route and had one kid after some failures with it. Everyone's body is different and fertility has a much bigger window than people here insinuate, but the risk of health complications can go up and ability to physically recover is slower. Because aging. Breaking a bone at 20 is different than doing it at 35, all that stuff fun, fun…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:48 AM
22

I once heard something along the lines of, "The best relationships are when each partner thinks they got the better deal." I think of this often, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:43 AM
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If a woman wants kids and a stable family, then a guy's income does matter. If she doesn't want kids, it's not nearly as applicable and can be deprioritized when compared to things like looks, personality, etc. Simple. For me, and I'm repeatedly vocal about it, I don't want kids and don't really consider a guy's income. I've dated and been with monied men. Money is not a substitute for connection, quality time, compatibility, etc. The abstract things that factor into healthy relationships tend t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:39 AM
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I don't know about 99% but that doesn't mean I should go out of my way to date people i'm not attracted to and feel threatened by. I'm not into big guys at all. I'm not even into super tall guys. I don't like dominant men or even manly men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 12:46 AM
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I agree with you. I don't mind if they're sexualized by some, as long as it's not some strange double standard about them being out. Even if it was legal everywhere to have them out, I highly doubt women would be topless all the time or something. It'd probably be at pool/beaches and then maybe in some sports/athletic contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:33 PM
4

And yet, wide hips and red lips are allowed to be seen. Even whole boobs can be out as long as the nip is covered. It's weird. Just let the whole thing be out. Men are allowed to be shirtless, women should be legally allowed to be shirtless if they chose to be. It's legal in some places and most women there still don't do it; people should at least have the option to do so without being arrested.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:01 PM
5

They're not a sexual organ. They aren't literally involved or required for sex. Just because they're commonly sexualized or develop as a secondary sex trait doesn't make them a sex organ. They're not inherently about or required for intercourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:00 PM
1

Abs. Ass is great but abs triumph imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:57 PM
3

Pretty much where I'm at, minus the tubes thing (for now).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:38 PM
5

I don't think it's that seriously advocated for. Like people mention it but I'm not really seeing marches for it or anything, not recently. There are bigger fish to fry. I'd personally love if breasts were desexualized. I workout shirtless at home because it's more comfortable (I'm not super busty so I don't have to wear a sports bra unless I go to the gym) and would enjoy working out shirtless in a culture where breasts aren't largely viewed as sexual. They're meant for feeding infants. People …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:37 PM
16

Someone else's money isn't necessarily your money. Useless to anyone unless he's going to pay for things. If he's not, it's useless as a factor. If you can provide for yourself and are set, it can be a bonus, but it's still not yours and doesn't matter unless he's willing to financially merge with you in some form. Like buying a house. Strength is irrelevant unless you're doing manual work of some kind. We're not in the woods needing to be protected from tribal wars. Plus, if I wanted legit prot…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:38 PM
3

Very curious as to what people think "average" looks like. I googled "average woman" and just kinda skimmed the pictures and this is basically how google (and probably I) would imagine an "average (white) woman" between 20-35 to look like: https://imgur.com/a/jI2KMRk Is this what you would consider average? A classic, 5/10? Curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:57 PM
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Where I'm at, men seem to want something between those two figures more than anything. The super thin look and the bought-body look definitely have fans, but most people seem tp want someone healthy and fit through genes and effort toward fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:33 PM
1

No. But other people may treat you differently based on who you date. It's weird because they're just imposing their own opinions to "determine" whether or not your partner is valuable (from their perspective).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:17 PM
8

This. Shape and fat distribution is the key for those who look good at bigger sizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 07:57 PM
1

She could be queer and not know how to approach it. Or asexual/aromatic like you said. I've known women similar to how you described her, and they tend to be queer-leaning and fairly choosy because anything less than what they want would be a detriment to their success, assuming sex and dating are not high priorities to them. Maybe she just doesn't see them as vital; people like that exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 07:51 PM
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Lack of irl social spaces and options. My partner and I are both attractive, have hobbies, are socially adept, and yet we have a hard time making friends because there's no where to go to make friends unless you want middle-aged barflies, coworkers, etc. Older gens didn't have everyone diving into online realms so irl interactions were their only options. Even if you, say, meet some people at a gym, local event, hobby space, or work, there's no real way to guarantee you'll have more in common pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 05:35 PM
3

Correct. Women value butt more than social dominance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 05:25 PM
1

Dang. Good for them indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 05:21 PM
5

He's gotta pwn the libs or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 05:20 PM
5

I'll take 2, one "male", one "female", and I dress them edgy and now I have a clique and my partner and I have extras to add in with no risk of emotions, sexual health, etc. Fuck it, let's go, where do I pay??
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 06:29 AM
1

Light brown (kinda like peanut butter) and dark brown/almost black hair. I am debating dyeing it a jet black/blueish black for extra edge. Might do it later this month.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 06:18 AM
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Pretty much. Even when they don't have kids it's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 06:11 AM
3

To each their own! Sometimes people are mature (or immature) for their physical age. As long as it's legal and everyone's consenting, it's between you and your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 06:10 AM
2

Honestly, I had to take a moment to figure out if this was sarcastic or not, given the sub. It's funny. I realized that was really the case when I was about 22 and noticed 18 year olds seemed like children to me. Then it dawned on me how larger age gaps must seem. Which was funny, because I had just gotten out of a relationship with a guy in his middle 30s, who, when compared to his peers, was 100% stunted. I had looked around his bedroom and thought it looked too young for my tastes, then it al…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:56 AM
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Because attraction to someone's body isn't the same as attraction to them. Most people physically peak between like 20-35. That doesn't mean they peak intellectually, skill-wise, or otherwise as a person. People like to be around others who understand them and share the same goals. Often, age and generational values play a large role in that. Finding people in their 20s to be the most physically attractive doesn't mean they're necessarily the most attractive partner overall. As much as some peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:30 AM
2

This is kinda where I'm at. I'm pretty sure my partner is going to bite it before me because he's less health-conscious than I am, and a handful of years older. If he's gone and it seems like my time to go, I want to wander into the woods/desert to die while on a ton of hallucinogenics and become an urban legend that the teeny boppers talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:19 AM
1

no
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:22 PM
1

I am all about bran flakes so I understand the appeal. Fuck it!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:21 PM
1

My knees hurt more than they used to, I don't like staying up until sunrise or smoking blunts anymore. I get excited about organizational bins from the clearance section....my wild youth is on its final legs lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:04 PM
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I avoid it if possible. I enjoy hanging out with my partner's 50 year old parents more than I enjoy hanging around 22 year olds. I wish I knew more people who were in my age range that I enjoyed being around, but it's not to be, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 08:57 PM
1

Zinc occasionally with some magnesium and calcium. Glutamine on days I workout and the day after. Creatine before/during workouts. Biotin for my nails about every other day.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 08:47 PM
4

I think they have them there? We got them from an adult store. Would recommend women try them for fun sometime if it's your thing. They made me feel really warm and restless--but in a good way. I think there's different strengths; I've only tried one male one and I don't recall which it was, but it was silver or gray packaging, I believe. Came in a plastic capsule.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:55 PM
1

no.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:12 PM
2

I love rating people based off of physical aesthetics alone. I just need people to clarify if they mean hot "objectively" or hot to me, specifically. I've always been analytical about appearance/aesthetics. I wanted to know why some things "worked" on some and not others, so looking at traits separate then together is very fun to me. I did take figure drawing classes, though, so I tend to analyze people's proportions and shape automatically out of habit. It's part of why I think I'm a 6/10 despi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:50 PM
11

Here's something that might amuse you: once, my partner and I took those libido enhancement pills for fun. They make the ones for men way stronger than the ones for women, so I took the male one because I'd previously tried a female one, and it didn't do anything notable. About 45 mins later I felt like I could commit horny crimes because it was so intense. I don't often hit that point naturally--and I'm a fairly high libido woman. I remember telling my partner and a male friend about it, and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:40 PM
2

No one cares who you date unless it directly gets in the way of what they want. Do you. Who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:30 PM
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I mean, I'm partnered, so there is no running lol. But yeah, if there was one, you technically would be. I've dated older than a 5 years gap and found that closer to or under 5 years is better for life stage/general compatibility , so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:27 PM
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I'm about 25 and personally wouldn't want to date anyone older than 30, so 30. Idk about their lack of experience as long as it doesn't make them resentful or angry toward women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:55 PM
2

dual wielding coochies?!? Respect
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:39 AM
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Gandalf lmao I mentioned the dating thing because of the post's question explicitly mentioned dating. I never really minded virgins. Most people are teachable, and most virgins (from my experience and encounters, my friends experiences, etc.) are eager to learn/try things in regards to sex. I genuinely liked experiencing someone going through the initial nervousness, excitement, figuring out condoms, etc. Like it was all endearing and I felt like it was nice to give someone time and space to fig…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:37 AM
1

This is interesting. I'm always on the fence about more natural cleanings. But I feel like I should start with foods if anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:06 AM
1

guess you can pay for coochieoplasty now
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:02 AM
8

If I wasn't partnered and had chemistry/attraction to this guy, yeah, why not? I've slept with virgins before and I thought their shyness was cute. Plus you can teach them things. I'm an outlier overall, though. I imagine some virgins wouldn't want me in this hypothetical if they knew my bodycount, ha.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:45 AM
1

damn, your snatch ain't gonna be snatched anymore at that rate
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:34 AM
1

Female. Wanted to get rid of my virginity so I did it with a close friend from childhood. Nothing really changed at all. Didn't suddenly love him or anything. Did not date. I have banged virgins and about half got clingy and the other half did not but wanted to go again/we stayed friends/were friends prior to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:25 AM
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I sometimes masturbate to it and watch it with my partner. It's not an everyday thing but maybe every other day? It's never had any notable impact on our relationship and I never really considered porn to be "cheating" or anything as long as it's just free stuff you find online. If anything it's opened up new position ideas from time to time and let us become closer by getting to see what the other is interested in. I do admit that I consume a wider variety of things than my partner, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:13 AM
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I don't know about others but I liked casual sex. I finish easily which is rare for most women, and I wasn't looking for a relationship, though almost all of my hookups/fwb wanted to date at some point. I did enjoy the novelty of different types of guys n gals. People who use casual sex to feel valued or get a relationship are doing it wrong, imo. Have sex because you want sex, not because you want something else and think sex will help you attain it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:03 PM
1

Okay, let's look at the definition when you google it and it shows Oxford Languages definition: Conquest, (noun) - the subjugation and assumption of control of a place or people by use of military force. a territory that has been gained by the use of subjugation and military force. plural noun: conquests "colonial conquests" the invasion and assumption of control of England by William of Normandy in 1066. Even the term "won" implies effort was made to win. I'm not stating it because I "dislike t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:20 AM
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No. I wish 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:08 AM
2

Damn, invite me lol. I'll bring some good wine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:04 AM
2

Yeah, most people I know, male or female, do not care about n count or who anyone else is dating unless it somehow interferes with who they want. Sure, people have opinions and voice them, but no one really cares what anyone does as long as it doesn't impact them and their goals. People here are too hung up on what others might think.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:04 AM
2

Obviously me tf Jk it's probably Lift or something, based off the general sense of the term.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:55 PM
1

Depends on what you want. Was worth it to me to spend some time sorting through OLD "piles of trash" but I would've tapped out alone if I hadn't found what I wanted. A good relationship is worth it, but those aren't guaranteed. Bad relationships are plentiful and certainly not worth any effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:50 PM
3

Aight have fun
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:40 PM
4

As someone who read catcher in the rye I can tell you I did not find it that interesting. Opinions are opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:09 PM
7

So it's up to you to not care about what those people think. If you're supposedly so above everyone, why do you care what they think?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:06 PM
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Is this a screeching harpy? Because it's just someone saying they don't care and think people who are hung up on n-count need to to analyze and work on themself before entering into a relationship; it's someone stating an opinion. No one's trying to cancel anyone or is "screeching". Also, even if someone does that, who cares? Move on. They're not for you and you're not for them. People are allowed to socialize or not socialize with whoever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:03 PM
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who are these people? most people i know just move on if someone's not what they want, or they don't even see the person as valid candidate of dating/sex. Girls will either accept or reject you, or they'll either be hurt or won't care, and men likely won't care either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 10:49 PM
1

Like 10% to sleep with, maybe. To date? Like 2-3%. I ended up with my personal 2%; I would not have settled for less.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 10:38 PM
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Most people do not care who you date or don't date. Date whoever you want as long as it's legal and consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 10:22 PM
1

Conquest by connotation require some force or effort on someone's part. If that's not present, it's not a conquest.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 10:17 PM
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It don't think it's inherently submissive but it often is, and often passive. Seemingly guys are the ones who put more emphasis on that idea than women, though a lot of that masculine idea does tend to worm itself into women's brain's. Personally, I don't see any role as inherently more submissive, and both can involve just laying there while the other does the work. And the "conquest" thing is pretty much an entirely masculine idea. Like a woman seeking out and initiating casual sex isn't a con…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 09:37 PM
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this last sentence. wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 09:26 PM
3

How the fuck is this supposed to illicit anything positive from anyone lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 09:25 PM
1

Neither of us use the term feminist but both of us have pretty strong left/feminist values. We're both lgbt so there is overlap in values from that community and feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 09:24 PM
1

My partner is bi so that is at least partially true
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 04:47 PM
2

It's not for everyone, and that's perfectly okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 07:42 AM
1

Yes. Unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:17 AM
1

Definitely not a bb. He's not even close to the stereotype of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:16 AM
1

Yes, except my sister who is studying neurology. I'm typically smarter than most of the men I encounter as well, sans a guy who studied physics at Imperial. I do admit he is way smarter than me. Most people I interact with on the daily aren't bright. At all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:14 AM
2

Fetishizing anyone sexually specifically because of their race. Reduces the person from an individual to a caricature of fantasy of a stereotype, which they may or may not even match.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:06 AM
3

Probably some sort of "revenge" thing. Culturally, most people view being the passive role of "getting fucked" as degrading (which it's not? not inherently, anyway) so some women get this idea that pegging is degrading to men and find it powerful. Personally, I like pegging, but I don't find it degrading. It's basically the same as any other penetrative sex at a foundational level. Also, I don't know why she thinks pegging any guy is some form of revenge. She's gonna be putting in a lot of physi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:05 AM
2

Yeah, I have a coworker like this. They're married and have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:01 AM
4

Clarice Lispector is interesting to see here. I've only read "The Passion according to G.H" by her, which was cool for a literary and philosophical perspective. I have wondered how her other work measures up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:50 AM
1

I prefer about 2-4 years older because I seem to match better with guys that age. Most guys my age weren't/aren't thinking about saving for a house downpayment or graduate school; they're still drinking a ton and staying out late. I did start looking for a serious relationship around 22, though, it's a little earlier than usual. I've dated much older and honestly find guys closer to my age to be more attractive overall; resources and professional success can only compensate for so much for physi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 10:23 PM
1

Pretty sure many people have had sex with people they don't love and many people have loved people they didn't/don't have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 05:35 PM
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This is what convinced kid me I was gonna look like an adult at 16. I was horribly confused as to why I looked like a kid still. I look like that now at 24, though: the hollywood movie 17 look, apparently! I'll probably look how I imagined 25 year olds when I'm 30 or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 09:43 PM
1

I don't consider porn cheating. Both my partner and I watch/use porn—often together, sometimes separate. We know it's nothing personal, and it's not like we desperately lust after the stars in the videos. It's more like arousal pre-game/warmup. It's a visual aid. Though I think we're a bit different in general. He's got toys and I have toys, sometimes we use them on each other and sometimes alone. I do think people can develop porn addiction and that could cause issues in a relationship, but I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 08:31 PM
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Oof, this is something I've encountered. Lots of people in general seem to overestimate how many of their hookups would want to date them—unless they've outright asked, you shouldn't assume. But yeah. Have encountered guys who expected me to get feels just because we had sex. As if sex and love aren't separate things? Eh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 07:35 PM
1

Loool. I definitely think cut dicks look nice aesthetically, but I can't be certain regarding how much that aesthetic preference comes from visual/cultural norms vs if it would still be a preference if uncut was the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 05:37 PM
1

I don't know if you really need to introspect if you don't find people hot. Hot people set off a primal, visual buzzer. Could be male or female for me. I'm just not into what many men seem to think is attractive, ergo attractive men are rare from where I'm sitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 05:47 AM
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They become more attractive in regards to resources and professional success. Aging generally doesn't do anyone any favors. Most people look their best between 20-35. And if you're past that you probably look fairly "old" to younger crowds. And they'll likely look crazy young to you. Like, "Uh, don't you have curfew?"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 05:41 AM
1

I am out of the closet?...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 05:31 AM
3

What's the legal reason for needing a spouse to sign a divorce paper if the divorce can be finalized even without it? Is it just because they have to be notified?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:56 AM
1

Attractive men are really rare; water is wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:52 AM
2

I do understand that facet of the preference too. Bulky/bigger dudes are a hard no for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:46 AM
1

I hate to be that person but I'm just really into slim bodies. Like extra weight is off putting to me on either sex, idc if there's boobs or not. Slim all around and whatever comes with it. Boobs? Great. No boobs? Great.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:40 AM
2

Lol. Evil? Depends. Efficient? Very.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:34 AM
1

I literally don't even know what's going on with them. Who tf is Camilla. I'm assuming Leo dumped her because she turned 26 or something based off the memes. Who cares. The entire situation just sounds like hollywood drama. Pretty typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:03 AM
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Probably. Uncut dicks don't bother me but they do look "weird" simply because they're not what you see in porn or all the sexual depictions of men. 9/10 will seemingly be circumsized so that's default "normal". If uncut was just as or more common I doubt anyone would think much of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:52 AM
1

doesn't it cause less sensitivity and like keratizatiin or something. tbh no one general should be cutting off any part of a baby's genitals these days. we got showers and bodywash. things should be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:51 AM
1

I'm my partner's best friend and vice versa
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:49 AM
1

6.5/10
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:48 AM
1

It's cult leader masculinity. Or politician masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:42 AM
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Yeah Zendaya is like. 9.5/10 for me. I'd take flat and model-esque over anything else, any day. To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:41 AM
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Lmfao. Yeah, a relationship is what you make. But understanding your goals likely require some level of a female presence and or a lot of money is kind or necessary. If women won't carry a kid for you unless you marry them, save up money for a surrogate and all the crazy childcare costs. I have zero stake or concern for what you do; it doesn't impact me. But you being concerned over a hypothetical spouse divorcing you when you don't even have said spouse is a bit paranoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:32 AM
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