useful_stranger Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
11	Rollo Was Right...		useful_stranger	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/07/19 12:46 PM

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5	Finally passing shit tests, but more questions Head shake... I’d get out before having kids with this woman. Ok, I’d give it a solid 6-12 months of manning up, doing my thing, charming her, but if it doesn’t work and she’s not excited, I’d get out. You got wet paper bag frame, man. Make some big ass changes over some time, stop micromanaging every interaction, then reevaluate: would you pick her now from the sea of pussy? Why? Why not? What are your standards? Why would/do you continue to put up with sub par treatment? If your needs are not …	/r/askMRP	29/07/19 03:08 PM
3	Comebacks & One-Upsmanship Trying to win in the first place is your problem. So at this (basic) level you’re at, don’t even think about to say to “win” or score a point or a come-back. The fact that you’re thinking about it, that it bothers you and that you worry about whether you win or score means you’ve lost already. Doesn’t matter what you say. You must change something inside you. As you said, you’ve played this for years and you’ve conditioned yourself (or she did) for her to be your arbiter and judge you. Congrats-…	/r/askMRP	28/07/19 01:10 AM
1	Dealing with complaints from insecurity You need a stronger frame. A stronger sense of mission, and where she fits in all of your life. If she consumes so much of your mental energy something is not right. The moment you walk on eggshells like that wondering what the hell to do and how to handle her, something is off. You’re already losing. So avoid that state like the plague. Recognize it when it comes and you’re feeling like that, wondering what to do and feeling like any course of action is a bad one or a highly scrutinize one. Tha…	/r/askMRP	27/07/19 12:19 AM
1	Unmarried but in an LTR and want to eventually be married, I have a question about outlining the expectations before marriage Do you have a prenup?	/r/askMRP	24/07/19 09:24 PM
1	Unmarried but in an LTR and want to eventually be married, I have a question about outlining the expectations before marriage Dude, since it’s Catholic religion that governs your thinking and decisions here, go ask them. You’re clearly stating you’re following that model which is quite prescriptive. So go do that. Find your priest or whatever and make him the higher authority that’ll govern your decisions, interactions, communication style, content etc with your spouse. In my book once you’re fully red pill, you’ll quickly see religion as a tool.	/r/askMRP	24/07/19 08:02 PM
17	Frame & Happiness That’s pretty much it. Having been at it for 4 1/2 years that’s pretty much the state you want to be in. You won’t even notice it, and good things start to happen AFTER you’ve done your job for your own damn self, doing what’s important to you. Then lo and behold your feminine partner pleases you the way you want to. Then just carry on. Beat the guy you were yesterday - self-improvement to the grave.	/r/askMRP	24/07/19 03:23 PM
11	I keep failing her subtle shit tests, take them too seriously You definitely suffer from being too smart/ analytical. Need to quiet that shit down. Calm the fuck down. Meditate if you don’t have access to some good drugs. Bottom line: and you’ll hate hearing it: you’re mentally in her frame. You think too much about her; what she’ll do, what she’ll say, what you’ll say in response, when you’ll fuck her next; wether you should fuck her at all etc. Get away from her for a few days. Go see an old friend. Take a trip by yourself. Go on a fishing/ hunting/ sail…	/r/askMRP	24/07/19 12:13 PM
4	Do you ever talk about the hierarchy? Or is this something you should never do? Yes. Make it clear you’re to be addressed Master. Implement sharia law and have everyone bow their heads when you walk in the room. You are the closest thing to a God because you’re a man. You don’t even need to do anything about it. You were born with a dick and balls and that is sufficient. /s Get to work you dumb ass, and drop your ideas that somehow you are above anything.	/r/askMRP	24/07/19 09:43 AM
7	Don't talk about fight club Blue pill guys and white knight types are the worst. Like OP said, crabs are gonna crab.	/r/askMRP	24/07/19 09:39 AM
2	Don't talk about fight club Option A - act like nothing happened. It’s a tempest in a teapot until she actually does something. Don’t be the one doing / reacting to shit she says - just watch if her actions match her stormy language . If you act first you fail the shit test.	/r/askMRP	24/07/19 09:38 AM
2	Wife’s a lazy in bed. Do you acknowledge low quality sex LOL. Dude is bad with words or should look into having her peg him.	/r/askMRP	23/07/19 04:08 PM
10	Wife’s a lazy in bed. Do you acknowledge low quality sex I wouldn’t talk with her about how tired I was. Remember she doesn’t really care. She cares about how you make her feel. When your woman hears you say “I am tired” she hears you say “I am not worthy”. And thus she feels a bit let down, and with a burden on herself she didn’t have before. It’s subtle and even unconscious- bottom line : you lose attraction. Act and talk like you are full of energy, never tired to give her a good dose of manhood. Try this : “babe I nailed it today at work I got so …	/r/askMRP	23/07/19 04:07 PM
2	Fat man wants to know how light he needs to get to start jogging again? Set a target and vision for yourself at age 45 and 50. Use faceapp if you must. Photoshop it, cut the fat, add the muscle. Set your future goal weight. Work slowly but surely toward it. You will be a different person. You have a lot of weight to lose. That person will look back at fat-you now and barely recognize him, both physically and in attitude. Get after it.!!!	/r/askMRP	23/07/19 01:01 PM
2	Won't sign up as the FO despite massive improvement. Kill the puppy? Dude - you have a lot going for you. She indeed does all you want her to. All this verbalization you seem to expect is a fool’s errand. Of course she’ll be your equal. Let her think that. Let her tell that to herself. She’ll be your equal in the same sense that you’ll be in your masculine and she’ll be in her feminine. And thus it’s inevitable that you’ll lead most of the time. This isn’t Saudi Arabia. You want her to walk two steps behind you and require your approval every time she drives some…	/r/askMRP	22/07/19 10:34 PM
9	Challenge a Shit Test? The latter. By definition the shit test if taken seriously is failed. You lose attraction. The shit test if responded to appropriately will increase attraction: amused mastery , exaggeration, (agree&amplify) etc. The shit test must be seen as an invitation to tease her and flirt with her. Hit on her. It’s her way of saying “hey I am noticing you. Now let me throw this curve ball womanese feminine energy at you to see if you know how to deal with it and if you’re Man enough.” Have fun.	/r/askMRP	18/07/19 08:41 PM
2	Rollo Was Right... Hahahahaha. You mean “...attempts to hug her cats. Claims cats are like dogs. Refuses to understand cat is a self-interested, independent animal and will do its own opportunistic thing.” (Like eat owner’s eyeballs out of the owner’s cadaver if he/she dies in a locked home with his/her cat. Contrast with a dog who will fucking lay there starving itself to death next to and mourning dead owner. )	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/07/19 02:29 PM
2	Rollo Was Right... Yeah I thought I gave it up since they’re so “progressive” , but every now and then return to see headlines and what they’re cooking. Fucking puke reading.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/07/19 02:24 PM
2	Rollo Was Right... It’s too fucking easy to live. With no major wars for decades now, with food production per capital 100x what it was, eradicated infectious diseases, with comfort all around, people like these forget the real problems and invent new ones.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/07/19 02:21 PM
3	Rollo Was Right... Yeah the grammar errors and occasional circular reasoning turned me off too. But to your point the gems of wisdom are there...	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/07/19 02:16 PM
3	"Do you like my dissected boobs?" Hahahahaha nothing like a gory visual. Thanks. Demonstrate, do not explicate.	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/07/19 11:37 AM
3	How to have a better relationship with the wife when kids are in the picture? Head shake... ask internet strangers what to do with your life. That said: your problem is a classic one. Yes you’re beta hubby and your wife manipulates you with her moods and outbursts, pretty much like her mom does her dad. And you’re right, chances are it will get worse before it gets better. You must ask yourself what you’re going to put up with. My gut tells me you care too much. Do you have a strong life for your own self outside of the home? Good group of guy friends? Active hobbies and …	/r/MarriedRedPill	01/07/19 07:22 PM
9	Punishing your wife Dude. Rough sex as punishment? If she likes it, then you’re not “punishing” her. If she doesn’t you’re violating her boundary and that’s fucked up. Some would call it rape. I don’t think you understand BDSM. You sound like an insecure dick. Go educate yourself on what it means to be a Dom, if you’re really into kinky sex.	/r/askMRP	01/07/19 05:01 PM
1	Feel like giving up boys...Dont know what to do or say with my girlfriend anymore. she has no respect for me. She is bossy and demanding.. I feel like im a piece of furniture around her....not sure what to do anymore..Ive tried dread, ignoring, focusing on me..Nothing..Need advise Learn how to write proper English for a change. That may actually get you laid.	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/06/19 09:59 PM
2	Anyone have tips for creating time and space for sex when there are always children in the house? OK. Slowly does it. First just read a book with your wife in bed. Keep door partially closed. Lights a bit dimmed. Get night lamps if you don’t have them. Build routine, expectation in kids’ eyes that this is daddy and mommy quiet time. If interrupted, politely send them on their way. Only come in if monster / intruder in house. Perhaps give mommy a massage, clothes on, so the kids see you guys are affectionate in non-sexual way. Connect with her that way, where you clearly put your relationship…	/r/askMRP	28/06/19 03:07 PM
5	Anyone have tips for creating time and space for sex when there are always children in the house? Ha. I’ll take it. I’ve been on this sub for 4y plus under different usernames so hat tip to u/Sepean, have seen his contribution here and had I noticed who OP was in first place perhaps I would have shown more deference . :-) looks like he needs / craves it ;-) That said, it’s not reading comprehension, it’s attention to detail that I need !!!	/r/askMRP	28/06/19 03:00 PM
-3	Anyone have tips for creating time and space for sex when there are always children in the house? Classic . Typical blue pill. You’ve replaced your wife with your kid(s) as the ones giving you approval for being yourself. Mindset is the answer. And Boundaries. Don’t be a dick banging your wife like a hurricane door and have her scream through the door (she probably won’t anyway), but don’t be a pussy either to withhold your needs just because the kid is up. Teach them that after 9 PM or whatever it’s quiet / intimacy time in the house and you and your mom need to be alone together. The soone…	/r/askMRP	28/06/19 11:25 AM
1	Wife's permission This this this	/r/askMRP	25/06/19 10:51 PM
0	Wife's permission Hahaha Classic !! As long as it’s family, she doesn’t care that much. Her own sister !! If you watch little sister girls play with each other you’ll understand: they identify with each other so much, they compete yet they collaborate so well. Watch them learn sexuality and sometimes even play with each other.. For her hamster brain it was kind of cute and maybe even sexy that you fooled around with her sissie. And then taking into account that she still had you long term, for beta provisioning, …	/r/askMRP	25/06/19 06:17 PM
4	Question about Christian women You’re on to something in that you’re developing a strong sense of criteria and checklist for what you want in a woman for a serious LT relationship. And additionally you seem to understand that her social network and community are fundamental to who she is &will be. But after that your ideas are then all projections and speculations. Go learn more about the world, experiment, and suggest you don’t “settle down” to have kids until you’re at least 38-40 yrs old. You sound way greener than that. O…	/r/askMRP	21/06/19 01:49 AM
1	Knowing what you know now, would you get married/have kids again? Not without a solid prenup. Not without understanding that the relationship is open on the physical side. Threesomes with her and others ideal.	/r/askMRP	11/06/19 05:06 PM
1	Morning goodbye - boundary or clingy? Slam your fist on the table too when You make that rule for her. Show her who’s boss. Remove access to food and water for 5 days until she comes back begging for Your Forgiveness and shows You the respect You deserve. /s	/r/askMRP	11/06/19 02:12 PM
2	Introduction - Slow gains Hahahahaha “my love language is acts of service“ mine says the same thing!! Textbook shit test.	/r/askMRP	10/06/19 09:30 PM
1	Bumps in the road Dude. I couldn’t care if she worked for an alien superpower planning an Earth invasion and neither should you. Watch how you’re rationalizing her behavior and how you subtly and based on the above comment not so subtly put her on a pedestal. That’s not to say to be a dick or insensitive. You get it. She cares deeply about these financial disclosures because her career is at stake. End of story. Everything that happens after that should be your frame. You enforce your own standards about what’s i…	/r/askMRP	10/06/19 11:42 AM
3	Question: Does Emotional Connection require High Dread? Also, she lost it. You sound like a real joy to be around. /s Your wife sounds batshit or in a very bad emotional state. Have you met with a lawyer yet? You need to be ready in case she files, or more importantly in case you decide to wrap a bow around it and not have anyone ever again cause this kind of drama for your kids to witness and grow up with. At least when they’ll be with you, in your custody. All it takes is one good parent.	/r/askMRP	09/06/19 11:10 AM
2	What’s your “walking around” Dread Level in your marriage/ LTR? You’re experienced so you have a feel for it, more than targeting a number on a scale. I’d say act 80% player /20% provider. Sometimes amplify more player based on the situation (eg you’re in a place with lots of women around), other times more provider/ comfort (eg she’s going through a tough personal time for some reason). Congrats on landing a nice LTR with a young gal.	/r/askMRP	07/06/19 04:49 PM
4	Bumps in the road This right here OP. Jacktenofhearts = a legend. Definitely helped change my life when I discovered this sub more than four years ago.	/r/askMRP	07/06/19 11:33 AM
1	Bumps in the road Ok, others have said it well: you need stronger frame and more suave, verbal tactical skills. Also there may be a deep covert contract there and fear of bringing up key decisions that you’re used to taking by yourself. Overall her bitching about the $40k heloc is a mix between compliance test and comfort test. The reason it’s a comfort test is because if she lives in that house, and there is added financial risk to it all of a sudden (say in event of default and bank repossessing it), of course …	/r/askMRP	07/06/19 11:23 AM
3	FR: Losing My Religion Oh man. As an outsider, I have a lot of admiration for Mormons. When the shit hits the fan, it is people like the Mormons that will make it. Mormons have a very strong sense of community, they help each other, they are prepared in case something really bad happens, and have provisions in their basements for the next six months. Reminds me of the Swiss, who supposedly have a requirement by law to have a nuclear bunker in their basement. Some Swiss have even converted those obviously under utilize…	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/06/19 06:23 PM
-1	Vent That was hard to read. What you need is a good ass whipping. Maybe a ball gag too at the same time, so you can really feel the effect of being fucked and completely submissive to the world. What everyone on the sub just read in this post is the effect of misapplied, inherent masculine energy. As they say, idle hands are devil’s playground. That’s you right now, OP: your mind, your energy, your life. Being wasted away, and more importantly going in a downward spiral because of and through the sto…	/r/askMRP	06/06/19 01:23 PM
17	[FR] 22 yo Don’t fuck women at work.	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/06/19 11:44 PM
6	How do I punish this behaviour Remove all access to food and water. Show her who’s boss. /s You’re an insecure idiot. Go read all the books we talk about here. Internalize. Apply. Come back with real issues / questions.	/r/askMRP	05/06/19 07:30 PM
3	How do you handle it when she starts feeling you're not emotional enough or (insert any shaming tactic that tries to convince you you're wrong for not being a softy) No. You don’t “put your head down“ when she’s genuinely going through a tough time. She’s a woman and by definition experiences a wider and more intense set of emotions than you. She’s going to act them out and they could genuinely take a fucking toll on her. And on you if you let it. As she does that there may be genuine shit testing (“is he a pussy and doesn’t he get that I don’t need his opinions, but just to vent and feeeeel that he’s my oak and strong man?”) and/ or some serious comfort tes…	/r/askMRP	05/06/19 05:04 PM
1	RP books on fatherhood I’d start listening to Jocko Podcast - and has lots of book recommendations too.	/r/askMRP	05/06/19 03:38 PM
2	Dread Delay? Yes. You should expect it once you understand the female hamster. It takes a while for her subconscious and internal verbalizing to get to work and bleed into every day behaviors.	/r/askMRP	05/06/19 03:24 PM