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Thank you for sharing! This sounds textbook, from the "grab a drink" all the way to radio silence after he didn't get instant sexual gratification. I can see myself in this situation and know before FDS I would have caved. Onward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 08:13 AM
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Hollaaaaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:30 AM
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The only man I feel legitimately cared about my pleasure independent of his feeling of accomplishment was a boyfriend I dated, reluctantly, from about 23-25. I was not physically attracted to him at first and I know he loved me more than I ever cared for him. He was, interestingly, the first man I orgasmed with. When I think of all the hot sex I've had, none of it involves him, but when I think of being loved, his face is always there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:15 AM
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Mature but trying to swipe at the 18-24 crowd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:09 AM
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He wants to be cuckholded, probably because he can't get off with regular sex. And 43 is not young in any universe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:05 AM
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This is FAKE. Come on ladies, we should be able to spot this shit by now. "The titties"???? "Tornado rampaging my clit"???? Are you kidding me? Also whoever wrote this hasn't felt many breasts, fat rolls, or tumors if they think they can all be so easily confused. SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:22 AM
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Online dating is the epitome of pickme behavior. You are literally hoping some bottom-shelf dude will pick you out of a lineup. Honestly don't know why this sub allows OLD posts at all if the goal is to find men with value and substance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 01:28 AM
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Reserving your love and support for only him, after he's proven himself; and allowing yourself to be emotionally vulnerable with him also.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:08 PM
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It's because at the most basic level, they are socially inept. Redpillers, like any kind of reductionists, are only capable of seeing life in black or white, because they lack the gray matter to process all the gray areas of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:48 AM
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In my mind, a girlfriend offers sexual exclusivity. A wife offers emotional exclusivity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:28 AM
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"I'm not violent, don't worry." Then gets in bar fights over a hat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:23 AM
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I think you can learn a lot about a person by talking on the phone. Their conversation skills, attention span, and confidence level all come out pretty quickly. Also, if there is distance involved, hearing a man's voice helps me feel closer to him. Texting has a time and place, but I don't like to use it for full-on conversations or when you are trying to get to know someone. There is too much delay, and it feels too one-sided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:15 PM
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So, she sucked his dick after he jumped her battery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:14 AM
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"learn the bygone caveman tactics of yesteryear!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:04 AM
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Love her!!! Currently reading The Hungry Ocean, about another badass lady captain. Talk about Queen status!!! 👸💅👠🛥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:29 AM
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35-40...dick is softer usually. True story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:26 AM
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Why is it always bad pasta tho 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:29 AM
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That is a very interesting point! "What do you mean, you washed your face in front of another guy?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:50 AM
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Ask them if they know how to build a table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:43 AM
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"I only called you 39 times on your night out to make sure you were OK."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:29 AM
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Sperm, like eggs, is haploid. The only way they can "change DNA" is by fusing with an egg cell to produce a zygote, which is diploid and undergoes mitosis to form a fetus and has its own new unique code. If they do not meet an egg, they die. They cannot replicate by themselves, as they are produced in the testes via meiosis and then expelled during ejaculation. A germ cell (again, haploid) cannot fuse to any sort of existing stem cell (diploid) in a woman's body. I thought this was made clear in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:13 PM
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How we doing on that #IncelFanFic tag?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:23 PM
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I've dated men on fire lines, fishing vessels, field camps, and remote weed farms. If they could all text me, anyone can. And if they can't, and they care, they'll let you know!! When the texting drops off, or if it never gets off the ground at all, it means you aren't a priority and need to move on. This goes for all ages too, none of that "I didn't grow up with a cellphone" nonsense. You didn't grow up with netflix, chip cards, or Google maps either, and were able to figure out those just fine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:08 PM
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Definitely not. He was my No. 1 celeb crush for a while. Then I saw him in a recent movie and was like, wtffff. It's sad really, looks like all he consumes is cheap whiskey and pizza.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 10:55 PM
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If I ever get married, I don't plan to mingle finances, and since I work in the public sector, my salary is a matter of public record and would be impossible to hide (not that I would try). Ideally, we would divide expenses proportionally, and I would expect him to cover incidentals. What I do with the rest of my salary and investments is my business and I have no interest in a joint account. Marriage can be a nice way to get some financial benefits like healthcare, insurance, and tax breaks, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:57 AM
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I had an ex invite me to a weekend bbq with his family as one of our first dates. And that's when I figured out he lived at home at 27!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:03 PM
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I share your sentiment. It's because they have no standards for any of the men in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:01 PM
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Yes to all this! I'm in a state that never got its cases under control and am absolutely not trying to date around closure orders and amidst the general political unrest. I was casually dating a man before the pandemic and when new restrictions came into effect, suddenly all he wanted to talk about (on the phone, safety first) was how it was all so "unconstitutional." This is why you have to wait to get serious with someone until you see how they handle a range of adverse situations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:51 PM
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He's not that into you, nor are you into him. No hard feels, just let him off the hook and be happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:21 PM
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If there's a bunch of mystery clean dishes there better be an accompanying meal for me when I get home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:15 AM
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Interestingly enough, the only legitimate male friendships I've ever had have been with men my height or shorter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:24 AM
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I'm plenty confident in heels but if I'm taller than you, I'm gonna feel like your babysitter, not your girlfriend. Sexual dimorphism is present across the animal kingdom and it's absolutely natural that we prefer taller men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:06 AM
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I nursed an ex during his recovery from a debilitating injury. He threw a bowl of food I cooked for him at my head. Not doing that shit again. Walk, motherfucker, it ain't that hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:57 AM
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Oh, he gave a shit. It's right there, on the corner of the mattress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:47 AM
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Is this a joke?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:23 AM
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Yep, I hear you. Finding this sub was the last piece of me realizing I am worthy of actual love, and from myself foremost. Once I internalized this, it was easy to sail through the initial stages of feeling all the feelings I had been numbing, because I knew deep down that it would be worth it and that I now had the strength to get through the hardest part. Now I'm living a technicolor dream and all the LVMs I encounter are still in the grey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:14 AM
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Proud of you!!! I was also an alcoholic waitress who realized the kind of man I want isn't going to want the kind of woman I was. I am finally getting sober after over a decade of using alcohol to cope with life. Side effects include landing a job in my actual field of study, weight loss, clear head, better sleep, better diet, energy to exercise, and no feelings of shame and despair every morning. And a bad breakup and big move was also a catalyst for this change!! Go us!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:02 PM
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I'm not sure if I will ever get married, and sex is like 99% of the reason why I bother with men at all. So I do not have any beliefs about waiting. With that said, I have had sex way too early in all but one of my relationships and it clouded my judgment severely and caused me unnecessary grief. Moving forward (in a FDS mindset), I won't be having sex of any kind with any man before he commits to me and I can see him in a range of situations, and I think six months is a reasonable time frame fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:14 PM
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He's functionally illiterate and doing laundry is considered an event. Of course he's salty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:38 AM
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Oh, this is so good!!!!! Wonderful to hear from a young lady!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:00 PM
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Love that this is currently situated above the post about the "girlfriending test."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:42 PM
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Even the most practical and outdoorsy man is capable of being romantic towards the woman he loves. Ffs there is an episode of Alaskan Bush People showing the lengths one of the guys goes to in order to woo his lady in town, and there is not one leaf blower involved. If they wanted to, they would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:27 PM
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You did the right thing!!! I know how you feel though, the guy I dated after my trashbag abusive ex was so much nicer in comparison, I had a hard time admitting that we weren't compatible, and that once the mask started to slip, he was just another underemployed low-key racist redneck who wanted me to listen to him whine every night. But he didn't hit me or force sex, so he looked great in comparison! Gold wrapped trash is still trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:41 AM
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I am so sorry to hear you went through that and I'm happy that you have found someone who values you. Thank you for being here too 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:06 AM
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FDS helped me take men off a pedestal and realize I should be applying the same ruthless standards I have for my professional life to my romantic life. I also won't be offering to pay on any more dates!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:00 AM
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FDS has helped me love myself. And when you love someone, you don't mistreat them, or allow others to either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:44 AM
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One ex broke up with me because he felt bad that I finished college and he dropped out. Literally said, "you have your shit together and it makes me feel lame." Spoiler alert: he was lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:17 AM
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This is genius!!! I have definitely experienced men exploiting my insecurities, which is such a twisted way they try to reel us in, acting like they really "get" us and "love us no matter what," when really this is just straight up bullying. Love that you devised a controlled experiment that allowed you to separate your feelings from the results, and helped you to see the man's behavior more clearly. Welcome to the community!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:43 AM
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"a good conversation" = complimenting me (often without reason)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:51 PM
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I feel this deeply. Both as a fisherwoman and an everyday woman. 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:02 AM
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It took me several tries to leave my abusive ex. It was a complete shitstorm and when I finally had the energy and resources to fully cut ties, he said if he saw me driving around town (I have a fairly recognizable vehicle), he would follow me to find out where I was living. I am not a frightful person but I was so scared for the short time we were still in the same town. Now I live 500 miles away in a different state and am still paranoid he's going to show up at my doorstep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:40 PM
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I grew up in a blue collar town and associate full on beards with men who have been in logging camp or on a fishing boat for weeks on end. Derek from accounting who has access to a mirror and razor every day? No excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:26 PM
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From beating a half deflated dick with un-moisturized hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:15 PM
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Youtube is a really good resource, and also some community colleges have mechanic courses. Sometimes when I take my car into the shop, if it's not too busy/I get a good vibe, I just ask to watch them perform the repair, and ask questions. Never have had a problem and most guys are happy to show you what to do. Worth a try!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:10 AM
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You're right, sorry, I didn't mean to imply there is no senior project/thesis. Just that the requirements for a BA are nothing close to a JD or PhD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:02 AM
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Jesus Fucking Christ, you don't do a dissertation for a fucking poli-sci BA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:37 PM
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Yes! It's easy to extend the life of many of your car's wear parts (brakes, clutch, tires, even your transmission) by not driving like a road raged jackass. Also! A brake replacement is......really easy to do, easier than an oil change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:32 PM
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These are beautiful!! I have never heard of a mori girl but I love the aesthetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:05 AM
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Ask Polly is always so good, and this is no exception. I lived with a guy for 4 years who just could not seem to get or hold a job, and had the typical "I'm too smart to work at a gas station" mentality, even though he had barelyyyyyy scraped through HS and had a record. So I paid for everything and am just now paying off all the debt I incurred. And what did he do when we broke up? GOT A JOB!!!! I thought I was helping him work through a depressive episode, but she is right, all I really did wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:56 AM
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This is so calming and beautiful 😍🌲🌿💚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:28 AM
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"swing by" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:06 AM
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How do you get burned out from not doing anything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:03 AM
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I would have guessed he's 17. Sorry to see him talk to you that way... probably time to think about leaving. Find someone who doesn't belittle you and call you an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:53 AM
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Love this!!! Get some!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:46 AM
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This is sooooooo true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:43 AM
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Rest in peace RBG. 😭 2020 can get fucked already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:56 AM
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If only we were unemployed in mom's basement...muahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:16 AM
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Reddit is of course a shitshow, but using "being alone" as an insult to beautiful, smart, productive, accomplished, and independent women is so tone-deaf that it cannot even be taken seriously. Take your L and leave, boys👶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:14 AM
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Weights ftw!! And your bones will benefit long after! Physical strength and confidence gives us strength in other areas too. Who is he to boss me around if I can pick him up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:43 AM
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That's so cool! I would love to take an inland lake trip sometime and that's awesome to hear you have a dope community. I live on the west coast and I like to get cutthroat trout and steelhead in the rivers, and go for sunfish and stocked rainbows in lakes; and fish offshore for rockfish, lingcod, albacore, and salmon. It is so relaxing, but at the same time you have to be present...and it's so fun when you outfish the boys!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:35 AM
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That's awesome!! I love to fish too, what do you go for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:19 AM
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Thank you, you do the same!! 💅💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:14 AM
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Thank you, I am ok now. And yes, I was reluctant to put the effort into a negative collage but I do feel it's important to share our experiences so we can help each other heal, and be wary going forward. Funny story, I worked with a guy for 8 years who did about 10 years in McMurdo and he was a creepy old LVM to the core. When I was 18 I thought he respected me professionally, when I was 26 I realized why he actually wanted to stand next to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:05 AM
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Thank you! I like to target shoot and hunt but find bowhunting to be much more of a subdued experience. It brings me the same concentration, calm, and pride, but without the disruption of a gunshot. I hope to improve my shot and tracking skills in the future!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:48 AM
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"she only wanted to do the minimum." Is that because you couldn't be bothered for a 3am (or 3pm) feeding, Billy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:53 AM
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I'm positive you look magnificent with a smile on!! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:59 AM
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"you know, I'm from the city [LA] and I grew up around hot girls so I know what looks good." -actual footage of him on a date I PAID FOR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:58 AM
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The only car crash I've ever been in was with my ex at the wheel. And it's a goddamn miracle his road rage didn't kill us about 300 other times. Disgraceful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:00 AM
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My ex raped me, left marks that lasted for weeks. I fell into deep depression and when he tried to check on me, I said, I'll never be the same after you assaulted me. HE started crying and saying he didn't want to talk about it, that he "couldn't even remember" what happened. Then he said, well I didn't cum so it doesn't count. I have never told anyone this. It is hard to bring it back to the surface but I feel sharing our stories will help us heal and also remember why we have to look out for o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:15 PM
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I came to the recent realization that yes, I was unequivocally raped and assaulted once, but "date-raped" or coerced/manipulated many more times. And yeah, what do I do with that information? I based so much of my own self worth on how hard someone tried to sleep with me I guess I rationalized it. Telling myself I'm special because they couldn't control themselves. What the fuck??? I have had a major mindset shift recently (a lot because of reading this sub) and I think I'm getting to the point …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:03 PM
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Same here. I just recently realized this. A hard pill to swallow for sure. Oddly enough, I was really (really) into the first guy I slept with, and then it's all kindof been downhill from there. Alcohol, low self esteem, feeling like a late bloomer, and not wanting to deal with the wrath of blue balls have led to some pretty unsatisfying experiences. 🤦😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:56 PM
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"the term was first used in the 1920s by spas to promote their services..." 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:48 PM
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Sex, vodka, butter. Let's get the party started!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:34 PM
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I gave too much to an ex and his two kids. At first it was fun playing house and since I actually like cooking, cleaning, decorating, etc. I didn't mind. I thought, man I am nailing this "wife interview." Eventually the balance shifted so much that I was coming home from school or work to find an absolute pigsty, nothing to eat, and three boys (he is included with his kids at this point) screaming at the Xbox screen and barely saying hello. I became so resentful I would cry in the shower and sto…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:27 PM
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Good for you! Your life is about to improve dramatically, even if it takes time to get over him. Always put yourself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:00 AM
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I dislike most Jesses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:57 AM
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IMO there is no excuse for an out of shape man of any age. They can basically sprout muscles by looking at weights, and lose weight by only eating half their normal amount of Oreos. Fat men usually have some kind of low-testosterone issue which will rear its head in other areas and is best avoided altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:51 PM
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Yes!!! I had someone who was surprised that I knew where Jalisco was the other day (I'm American, Caucasian). Wtf?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:39 PM
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My (married!) friend and I talk about this all the time. I have tried to flirt with women at bars (I have been approached multiple times, apparently I give off a gay girl vibe), but it just never works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:36 PM
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This is a main reason I no longer date within my professional field.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:31 PM
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Thank you for this! I have never pulled out the measuring tape, but I know exactly how wide my fists are, and I like a 7x6, cut, slightly curved upward cock with larger than average balls that have good separation and hang. Trimmed is nice, I don't mind a bush either, but absolutely NO clean shaven shit. I have been surprised by some very small dicks (last one I could only use two fingers on while blowing) and only one has been accompanied by orgasm-caliber oral skills. I am not one to body-sham…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:29 PM
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I thank the universe every day that I did not marry my ex who I was "engaged" to (no ring, just an "understanding"). Now I get to explore my life on my terms without any whining, duty sex, dirty socks, video game noises, and constant berating and belittling about my tastes, hobbies, body, family, job, etc. UGH!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:30 PM
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Hahaha same. My ex was totally average and said condoms were too tight and would "cut off circulation." Granted I enjoyed his dick plenty for a while but it's not even in the top quartile of size I've experienced. He also felt the need to text me after we broke up to tell me how all the girls he was banging off Tinder raved about how "huge" he is. I just can't. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:35 AM
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Seriously. They market the site as "supporting journalists" but it's just paying to read adolescent drivel about how to dismiss red flags in relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:31 AM
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Same. Including one I have known since kindergarten. I turned him down for sex twenty years later and haven't heard from him since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:27 AM
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I got into trouble a couple years ago and was assigned a public defender. After my court proceedings were over, he hit me up REPEATEDLY trying to flirt with me and get me to go out with him. A LAWYER. (An old, fat, bald, probably married, office-lined-with-action-figures LAWYER). I politely shut him down and he continued to reach out until I recently blocked him. Don't plan on needing legal services again and definitely don't plan on touching his dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:24 AM
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I used to think this all the time in my last serious relationship. Now, I can: Save money Take jobs in whatever location I feel like Travel without being accused of cheating Wear whatever I want (also without being accused of cheating...see a pattern?) Keep my car and house to my immaculate standard Have uninterrupted quiet time Sleep soundly without some douchebag waking me up for sex Watch whatever I want on TV So many times I laid awake and wondered how I allowed my independence to get snuffe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:08 AM
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I literally had a biology professor in college mention this repeatedly in his lectures...along with using biology to excuse male infidelity and general horn-dogness. He has three ex wives and married a student 18 years his junior who is now basically his caretaker as he drinks himself into oblivion. At the time I was like, ha ha, now I just see red when I think of that on top of all the other nonsense I've heard from my 10+ years working in STEM. 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:55 AM
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I am almost 32 and I have higher self esteem and am making more money than I ever have in my life. My skin is better, my body is more proportioned, I know what I like in bed and am not shy about sex, and most of all, I have ZERO fucks to give about people's opinions of me or my choices. Part of this has to do with getting out of a horribly abusive relationship and subsequently leveling up my career (after nearly derailing it), and of course, lurking on this sub and absorbing the energy of other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:44 AM
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