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This is very true!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 06:34 PM
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Do straight girls really not chase? Forgive my ignorance, but are you telling me that people here don't get chased by their women? Not even 30% of the time? My partner hard initiates a lot by those standards. I suppose we'll all have to play the "wait and see" game to see if AWALT is still true when the women are fucking each other. You're right--strap the fuck up and see what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 03:09 AM
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Great relationship with my (super blue pill) father. He's awesome. I have had some squirrelly encounters with some guys of the "can't take no for an answer" variety. One of my ex bf's had a "sleep disorder" that would cause delirium when he was really tired. At which point there was literally no talking him down. Take that as you will. I don't call these people rapists. I can them "very disrespectful". It's a grey area I suppose.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 02:21 AM
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It's more like I led myself on, and the poor guys were collateral damage. I was devastated when those relationships ended, because I couldn't figure out why I kept liking these guys and then POOF--attraction gone. I can speak plainly about it now because I've done a lot of self-discovery. But at the time I was just soooooo confused about why I couldn't stay attracted to these men. I really wanted to be able to date men...the idea of it was really appealing. But turns out that was just in theory.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 11:32 PM
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Isn't it amazing? I liked women before I ever liked men, yet I still gave them 5 more chances than I should have. I think some of those women get driven by their baby hormones...I know I've been tricked by that. The rush of the biological imperative of "BREEEEEED" takes over your brain. I'd think "I could do this, this seems simple. I don't even get stared at in public anymore! I don't have to be in charge....EVER!" Around 6-8 months in: "oh shit...this means I have to give up pussy forever. Can…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 10:10 PM
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I need to remember this--Sometimes don't fully escalate. Note to self. Because if every time she gives green light she gets laid, then what motivation does she have to truly chase after it?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 07:37 PM
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I have been entertaining a lot of thoughts like what you talk about in your final paragraph. I can't un-woman myself, and even if I could, I'd be vacating the gender she wants to date. So where's the line? That's where I'm stuck. The changes I've made have been minimal, really just being a more assertive and sticking up for myself more. Also being slightly less available. I know a few things: if she went complete dude on me, I'd be repulsed. I date women for a reason. I love vulnerability in wom…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 07:22 PM
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Thanks for the info on low T...that's really interesting stuff. I hope that gets easier soon. I wonder if the perceived risks are lower with estrogen than testosterone? Logically I'd hope that there's a reason for this discrepancy.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 06:46 PM
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The ten second kiss thing makes sense. Decoupling sex from sexual moments is something I've thought a lot about. That's one really good idea to add to the list. I'm dying at your description of our standoff, because that's uncomfortably close to what happens. But honestly this is on me, I need to just strap on my big girl dick and just get used to initiating.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 06:14 PM
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Fabulous. It's on my list after two glowing recommendations.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 06:05 PM
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I think the hard thing for me was accepting: There's things about myself that I can't control, and I'll be actively fighting my whole life. While I've been incredibly loyal to my girlfriends, I've also treated my boyfriends like shit unintentionally. My ex-girlfriends acted just like the broads you guys talk about. And it hurts to feel objectified like that. It also hurts that it was mostly my own fault for being unaware of my role. Society has lied to me. A lot. And it's caused me to waste my t…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 06:04 PM
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On women's sex drive: omg yes. We're unbridled monsters when you get us in the right mind-space. Unbridled, uncontrollable, filthy sexual monsters. We WILL slut it up for our partner if you punch in the right access codes. On lifting and dread: thanks for that clarification. I'm really not trying to get all buff over here--I already have to wear men's shirts to fit my biceps. I will mentally replace "lifting" with active self-improvement. On busting balls: a fascinating thing happened today. We …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 06:00 PM
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Hell, I'm not even qualified for this. I do appreciate everyone's efforts though.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:47 PM
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I have no issue with her getting top surgery. She has giant tits and they hurt her back haha She's like 95% sure that she'll never go on hormones. She doesn't like what they would do to her emotionally and sexually. She also wouldn't want to take up the "male" role in a relationship and treat her partner like a man would. None of those things appeal to her. So unless something drastic happens that will be a non-issue. I'd probably give it the good ol' college try if she decided to transition. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:44 PM
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Much appreciated! I'm glad to add to the general pot of information.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:31 PM
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I like that--a power vacuum struggle. And yes, your assertion that SOMEBODY just needs to keep breaking the ice is correct. Basically, what it boils down to, is that I need to feel more confident in initiation, and realize that I am NOT powerless. She will initiate and when she does we have a lot of sex, but then I need to pick up the slack when she's not actively peeling my clothes off. I only get shot down occasionally when she's not feeling well or super tired. It's not often or stupid enough…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:30 PM
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Alright! So I've had feelings for men before, and I used to date both with equal preference. However, my attraction level with men has always been exponentially less than the one I have for women. After 6-8 months, my desire to fuck them would disappear. This took a long time to understand, as I would always just assume that it was the loser guys I was dating (and they were massive losers). Until I dated a guy who wasn't a loser, who checked all my theoretical boxes....but I still dried up after…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:11 PM
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Slow indeed...I plan on holding pattern for a bit so I can truly assess the effects. I do need to practice my flirting. I'm fine when I'm away from my partner, but when she's around I lock up a bit. Note to self--step outside the comfort zone more.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:56 PM
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I would like to suggest a theory that may start to explain some of the flightiness and other annoying behaviors you guys deal with: Women think that their feelings are facts--they're not. Sometimes it's just chemicals and your feelings means nada. Nothing. And very few of us ever learn to distinguish actual feelings from secondary reactions, and emotionally driven behaviors. Example: Jill feels like her relationship with her husband is stale and doesn't feel like she loves him anymore. Primary e…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:53 PM
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Definitely not special. However, slightly different, and requires a slightly different course of action. Not acknowledging the nuances would be a scientific misstep. Ultimately, this journey is mine. If she's not along for the ride, that's her problem. I'm going to be the person that makes me happy. I do have a lot of reasons to believe she's on the same page as me, which pleases me because we are really good for each other. But if that end up going south, I will have developed the skills necess…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:35 PM
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Own your shit, right? As my coaching self says--control the controllables.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:22 PM
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Does that mean I won't need the one in my dresser drawer anymore? 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:17 PM
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Thanks for the well wishes anyway! :)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:16 PM
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LOL yes I can imagine. I can only speak from what she's told me, but it's more than a fleeting thought. She's had periods of time where she seriously considered starting hormones, but ultimately it's not for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:15 PM
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To be clear that's just for women. I used to shit test with men all the time, because I didn't like feeling submissive to them. I didn't trust them to make good decisions for me. At the time, I didn't not recognize my behavior for what it was. Now I do, especially being on the other side.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:07 PM
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Yeah, that's what I thought I was. I recognize sometimes that I will shit test. And comfort test. I recognize the comfort tests more readily. Before knowing red pill terminology, I would just refer to it as "feeling really needy right now". I would see shit tests as me just being really bitchy and I regretted my behavior as soon as it happened. But I wouldnt always be able to stop myself...it was like verbal diarrhea. Shit tests come when I'm really anxious about something or feeling agitated. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:05 PM
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Mildly as a baseline lol
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:02 PM
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Clearly I'm curious too! I'll try to keep the best track I can. My plan is to stick with this set of adjustments for a while and see what happens. What I do find interesting, is that she does display a couple of the elements of dread game...she is always improving herself and is a shameless (but harmless) flirt. And now I recognize that a lot of my spikes in desire happen around the times when she does these things. It still happens even though I'm aware of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 04:00 PM
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I propose a new word: nuanced. Haha her gender is "nuanced".
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 03:36 PM
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Sorry if it wasn't clear , but yes she does oscillate a bit. I didn't want to go full tmi, but I may have to in order to be clear enough. There are days where she, in her own words, "feels more in touch with her vagina". And then there are days where she feels like she has a dick haha That's what I mean by fluid. Her behavior is largely unaffected...it mostly shows up in sex if anywhere. It'll affect how dominant she is once the sex starts (it'll often lead to more initiation on her end as well)…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 03:31 PM
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Yes, I am indeed making out like a bandit.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 02:42 PM
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Not really anymore. I think I replied to you down below--I stopped dating and sleeping with them a couple years ago. I have a longer explanation for that which I can share if necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 10:57 AM
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Gender IS a little fluid for us, because it is a little fluid for her. It doesn't affect the day to day, but there is a little bit of body dysmorphia there. While she has no desire to truly turn into a "man", top surgery is on the table. Bottom surgery is too expensive and largely unsuccessful--besides, she likes being a vagina-toting female well enough. It really has no effect on our day-to-day, but I totally dig it though. It's probably not hard to understand why that would yank my chain as so…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 10:53 AM
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Yeah I'm sure I'm settled. I had to come to terms with why it never worked out with men. Once my baby hormones chilled out, I would immediately lose interest in guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 10:32 AM
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I don't think I got around to mentioning that this is great advice. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 02:18 AM
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That's actually wonderful to hear. Last time I was outwardly mocked for dating both men and women lol I agree--science!! I've been trying to keep track and go slow--that way I can introduce a couple variables at a time. I'll cross post over soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:29 AM
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Thanks for your reply! I wonder if co-ed hobbies are necessary, or if hanging out with other queers would achieve a better effect. I also wonder if flirting with men vs women would change how effective the behavior is at creating dread. (I have been with both, but no longer interested in men.) Logically, you'd think that me flirting with lesbians would create the most dread. But since she visually presents masculine (even if she doesn't act it), would flirting with dudes and straight-looking wom…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:23 AM
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Younger me would have deemed this a "relationship problem". Older me realizes it's a "me problem." Therefore controllable and adjustable.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:15 AM
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It's not your typical "dead bed". It's not a lack of attraction. It's a lack of escalation on both our parts. And I've recently realized that if I wanna wear the pants, it's up to me to proverbially strap up as well! We have a lot of sex, but it's inconsistent. I need to further understand what is behind the oscillation.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:12 AM
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You are correct--it was maybe two years ago, and under a different name I believe. I'm happy to try again! Never know where you're going to find good ideas. I wonder what y'all take would be since while I am female, I am not aiming at the same presentation as a red pill wife. I'd love to hear your thoughts on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:10 AM
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It's okay! Gender is a little fluid for us. Let me try and explain. Gender presentation doesn't always equate to how a lesbian functions in a relationship. I look feminine (curves, hips, tits ahoy, long hair), I like being more feminine LOOKING, but I am more dominant of the two of us. I am more likely to use masculine (dominant) interpersonal skills. "Feminine" for me does not mean looking soft and demure--it's hard to explain without visuals, but most femme lesbians still have an masculine edg…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:06 AM
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Well, if you think it's useful, I'd love to hear it. A while is 6 months, known each other a lot longer. We're talking about marriage, which I very much want. If it is with her--awesome! If not, then I've finally addressed the issues that have plagued me in other relationships anyway. I will not take that step however until this stuff is worked out. The distance itself is not what prompted this. The distance did however exacerbate the issues surrounding the inconsistent sex that had been happeni…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 12:35 AM
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I keep track of her cycle. It does not seem to correlate fully. Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 12:14 AM
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Oddly enough, I've tried both those other subs and weren't exactly met with...uh, respectful welcomes. Nobody gets together out of mutual disrespect, but women are conditioned to be mildly disrespectful to their boyfriends/husbands. To gain the upper hand. The "modern woman" in me would love to deny this, but I can't. I've noticed this regrettable behavior in my relationships with men--behavior that I haven't noticed when I was with women. So we'll see if I notice anything worthy of reporting on…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 11:52 PM
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Doubtful of which part--that it would work, or that I was serious about following through with it? You and I are in agreement on those things. In any group of humans there has to be somebody that steps up and fills the leadership void. This evident in both my personal and professional life. I suspect that some of the adjustments made will reflect the fact that since I am not a man, my partner's default view of me may not be one of disrespect. That could be overly optimistic, but we'll see. But g…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 11:35 PM
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To clarify, start second guessing, or stop second guessing? I have a very hard hunch that submitting is exactly what my butch girlfriend wants. Despite being the femme one, I am also more naturally dominant. I am wondering if full submission is possible or pleasurable in a lesbian relationship, or if some oscillation can occur. But as someone mentioned--support, caring and affection aren't "man only" or "dominant only" actions...do you agree with this?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 12:12 AM
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Are you referring to the guy who made an excel sheet to track the reason every time his wife denied him sex? Haha! Awesome. Looking forward to your input.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 12:09 AM
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I've had some time to think on it, and what do you think about this assertion: If you remove too much emotionality from the lesbian relationship and your person, do you make your partner feel like you've vacated the gender they're attracted to and have chosen to date? Could this be ultimately more detrimental? My thought is that it may be possible to oscillate a bit, where both people experience dating a "woman", but I include enough game to maintain the feeling of security for her. Because fran…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 08:10 PM
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I've had some time to think on it, and what do you think about this assertion: If you remove too much emotionality from the lesbian relationship and your person, do you make your partner feel like you've vacated the gender they're attracted to and have chosen to date? Could this be ultimately more detrimental? My thought is that it may be possible to oscillate a bit, where both people experience dating a "woman", but I include enough game to maintain the feeling of security for her. Because fran…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 08:09 PM
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I would tend to agree--one of the girls I've met with the most game was 4'10". And nobody treated her like a chihuahua.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 04:45 PM
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I agree. I'm going to try and be as scientific about this as possible. I'll report back haha
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 04:30 PM
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Right?! Haha Yeah I'm pretty set on converting this one into my wife--we'll be engaged soon. I've dated enough to know that she checks all my boxes. However, I see some looking red flags of LBD (lesbian bed death) and I'm looking to head that shit off at the pass. I also see some of my own behavior that could stand in the way as well--nice guy behaviors, a little bit of oneitis. So I really appreciate the feedback. Just trying to be a better me!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 11:40 PM
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We're more of the butch/femme variety. So I'm hoping some of this will help me. The monkey wrench is that while I'm the feminine one, I'm also more dominant. So I'm learning to grow into that role.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 11:36 PM
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Ahhhhh yes this makes a ton of sense. You're right, someone has to be the "go to person" when crap hits the fan. That would be me. A younger me would think this means I need a different partner, but older me realizes this is just a chance for me to self-actualize into a better leader.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 07:42 PM
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No, but I just looked it up and THANK YOU.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 06:23 PM
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I agree, promiscuity issues exist everywhere, but more typically with gay men. Lesbians screw each other over, but in different ways haha This is really great advice. I really appreciate you taking the time to write it up. How do you think a shifting or fluid power dynamic affects how red pill ideas function? Or do you think that a fluid power dynamic is a fatal flaw?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 06:11 PM
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I agree with all that. I appreciate your response. I don't think it would be reasonable for me to expect a full execution, but I do think a lot of the concepts could be helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 05:01 PM
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I think attraction was the wrong word choice. I'm a highly attractive mate on all ends. I think "maintaining desire" is a better phrase choice? Reason being--lesbian bed death is a thing. Wildly attractive girls will just....stop having sex. They often don't cheat, they just live without sex. And I think that some of what y'all talk about can help maintain that part of the sex life. What are your thoughts on that?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 04:58 PM
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I don't believe in perfect egalitarianism in relationships, even homosexual ones. Yes, there's a butch/lipstick element to our relationship. However, I am the femme one, and often need to be in charge. The power dynamics do flip on occasion depending on who is feeling like they need support at the time. What kind of info about this would help you? I am the more financially upwardly mobile one, the more emotionally consistent one. We split time taking charge in bed--not on purpose, it's just how …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 04:54 PM
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the application I'm pondering relates to maintaining attraction, respect, and setting boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 04:47 PM
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I'm in philly too--and I know A LOT of people struggling to find work. Specifically, qualified people in professional fields. I think the city is super saturated right now with all the colleges spewing grads into the marketplace. Keep your head up and keep grinding!
/r/askTRP22/05/15 12:07 AM
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Power/leadership dynamics remain true whether you're in a heterosexual relationship or a homosexual one. I don't see how my sexuality matters here? I frequently skew my age by a year or so, it makes me feel more anonymous. Does it actually matter in the context of me extending my thanks for this group existing?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/15 03:04 PM
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I thought I read somewhere in the sidebar that I had to earn the privilege to post through appropriate comments? I could be wrong. Haha thanks! I like to think of it as metaphor for childbirth. :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/15 03:16 AM
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