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You thank him for asking that question right up front and not wasting your time then you walk away
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 06:47 PM
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The good news is that he wants to take care of you financially but if you don’t want to quit- don’t. Ask yourself what you really want. He will pick up the slack financially and it sounds like he wants to try. You CAN be happy staying home but you’ll need to have hobbies and/or volunteer, unless you have children. I wouldn’t look at it as control he loves you and wants to take care of you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/25 08:52 PM
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Everyone has their “icks” even the women commenting on this guy have their own “icks”. No one is perfect
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 07:58 PM
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I’m in my late 50s- it’s true - you feel invisible. I always thought it was going to be less or no attention from men at a certain age, the biggest surprise is other women. Meeting me many times and still not recognizing me- not just remembering my name but having no recall of meeting me at all.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/25 06:18 PM
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If you are looking for a Christian perspective and how LD skills might align with the Christian faith there is a facebook group Christian Empowered Wives - I’m sure there are groups of other faiths and probably other Christian LD groups as well.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/24 06:14 PM
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I think it’s as simple as your BF perceiving your comment as trying to “control” his subject of conversation, which you weren’t, but he may have had that impression.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 12:27 PM
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I had to pull back from planning the dates. Prior to the skills, I used to plan ALL our date nights and travel and I’m pretty certain he thought that was controlling because it seemed if he didn’t like the hotel or the food that he blamed me. After the skills, I allowed him to plan almost everything but add in a few “I would love to go to Hawaii” or “I would love to go to this new restaurant “, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 07:44 PM
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Most of these commenters don’t even ask the woman is she wants to stay in her marriage - She’s the one that needs to decide - even infidelity- sometimes they want to stay and that is their right
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 05:51 PM
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I think there is a study that said if you know someone going through a divorce you’re 75% more likely to get a divorce yourself
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 05:46 PM
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Your grandmother was wise 👏
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 05:44 PM
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I understand! I try sometimes to give advice here on Reddit and some FB groups I’m a part of. I feel that I found a pill that makes you skinny and you can eat anything you want and I just want to shout it from the rooftops! I transformed my marriage after I read the Empowered wife and got some private coaching. Sometimes people are not ready to hear my advice and it takes me back not that long ago where I thought “this stuff doesn’t apply to my situation- my husband is the controlling one- I’m 9…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 05:43 PM
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57/f & 57/m both on HRT, married over 30 years, empty nesters, husband works from home, I’m retired and travel with him. It’s pretty much daily now. When we had our children at home it was usually 3X per week.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 04:39 PM
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I see that as good evidence he’ll be a good father and provider. He’s already taking ownership of his family and children he doesn’t have. I hear you are concerned that he doesn’t spoil you like you want to be. Have you told him about your desires “I would love XYZ”. Is he in “saving mode” for the wedding and future children? Do you make a big deal of it when he gets you flowers, etc.?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 12:28 PM
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Tell him the truth- you are reading a book and/or taking a course of self improvement- you want to show up as your best self and make yourself happy. ❤️. When I would apologize to my H and expect him to react a certain way- I knew I was on his paper and not on my own. I still have to remind myself to apologize without expecting anything from him and make sure my apology is for my benefit. Although “Whatever you think” has become a kind of joke in our house, because he knows that’s a LD thing. I …
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 08:30 PM
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It’s frustrating when you are getting gifts and you are not getting what you really want. Try to experiment with telling him your desires when it’s not right before a “big holiday “. I would love a diamond necklace or (fill in the blank) whatever you want… then relinquish all expectations. Just leave the desire there. He controls the timeline. Men want to feel in control especially when they are gifting you something- they want to be your hero. Make a big deal when he does gift you something you…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 07:38 PM
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Check out the book “The surrendered single” by Laura Doyle
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 07:59 PM
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When you don’t like his fashion sense, think of all of the other things you do like about him that makes him attractive to you- you’re friends are probably just jealous ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 06:52 PM
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“Act better than everyone else?” I thought that was the goal for most everyone, not just red pill or Laura Doyle women? Your friend’s comment reminded me of a movie “The good lie”. A group of brothers are refugees and one of them works a factory job so that the others can go to school, the brother starts work in the factory and he is faster and better than the seasoned American workers and they quickly introduce him to drugs so that he is slower and spaced out all day like they are.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 08:40 PM
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My advice to everything is Laura Doyle- it’s a cure all. The skills can be applied in marriage, your relationships with family, friends, you name it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 07:17 PM
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When I got to a certain age I wanted my husband to have hobbies and interests outside the home to give me some alone time at home. I also saw my same age girlfriends planning hunting trips for their husbands and signing them up for pickle ball leagues. While my heart was in the right place, I realized that this need for alone time was just a symptom of menopause and perfectly normal. I now make sure to fill myself up with self care and make sure that I plan outings for myself that are fun outsid…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 07:43 PM
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Giving him a list sounds controlling to me. Remember you’re not his mother. Telling him your desires as often as possible allows him to be “your hero” and you’ll probably get all you desire and more than you could imagine.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 02:02 PM
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It’s very disheartening and mentally exhausting to be accused of infidelity, I’m so sorry you are going through this. I had a similar situation with my H. I experimented with SFPs (Spouse Fulfilling Prophecy) and it worked. When he would accuse me of infidelity by tracking me on my phone, when I was just out having lunch with my Mom and sister, I focused on him being concerned with my safety and not accusing me of something. I responded with “you are always so concerned with my safety, making su…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 01:50 PM
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There will always be someone who makes more money
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 02:04 PM
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It helps me to coach myself in the moment by stating this SeFP “He needs to have life lessons not wife lessons”
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:20 PM
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I hear you are frustrated that you and your husband are arguing. Sounds painful, especially around the holidays. I’d like to invite you to read The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle or listen to one of her podcasts for free. If you want to stay in your marriage, you’ll find it a good resource and its contrary to most mainstream advice you’ll get like “just dump him” and “you deserve better”
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 08:31 PM
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As my husband hugged me today , he said “our marriage is so good now…. Thank you Laura Doyle”. I was taken aback for half a second and laughed that he thanked Laura Doyle and not me- but I get it! I have to be careful - it’s as if I found a pill you can take that makes you skinny while eating everything you want and I want to tell EVERYONE about it. My marriage has been transformed. When I first read the book, I was a little irritated, the skills can be controversial compared to the popular narr…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 12:54 AM
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If you fill up on your self care AND journal some gratitudes it becomes much easier to be the GOLF- Just remember we are mere mortal women and we all have our moments that we just don’t feel like a GOFL. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 10:37 PM
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Do not tell your boyfriend/husband how to dress- I used to do this! It is controlling not “helpful”.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 08:27 PM
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The Empowered Wife is one of her more popular books, but in regards to comparing someone to their ex…. There are so many of her podcasts that could be applicable here but #195 “how to fall back in love with your husband” or #184 “emotionally unavailable husband” might be a good place to start. If I gave advice to the OP I would start with Self Care first.❤️
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 09:38 PM
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Google Laura Doyle - her books and podcasts
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 08:19 PM
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You have to be in the right mindset and time in your relationship to read it and take her advice to heart. It has saved my marriage but when I first read it, I was MAD at some of the advice
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 09:57 PM
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I definitely would recommend the Laura Doyle program also. As a pushover myself and someone who always thinks I’m at fault…. It was a little difficult in the beginning - i.e. it made me pretty depressed. When I first started her program, I went a little far into the Duct Tape and felt that I had little to no communication with my husband. After I got more comfortable in the skills, I started opening up again and communication improved. I would just caution someone with our personality to be awar…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/23 02:01 PM
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