vegancigarette Archive

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23	My (24F) bf (29M) asked to take a 3-5 day break One thing that helped me is realizing that we actually don’t need to verbalize every single thing that bothers us. Especially when it comes to your husband/boyfriend. I’m not saying to bottle in everything and let your man walk all over you, but you say that you regret the way you responded to things. Learning to sit with discomfort can actually make you realize that the thing actually wasn’t a big deal or worth the fight. A constant stream of criticism and focus on the negative can really erode…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/06/26 04:41 PM
7	How do conservative women in their 20s find spouses? Most married couples in their 20s I know met at church, or whatever the equivalent is for their culture. If you start there you have a better chance of finding someone likeminded.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/06/25 01:26 PM
21	Feeling trapped It’s up to us as women to vet men during the dating process. What concerns me most here is his disloyalty and public displays of lust after other women/liking their thirst trap posts.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/25 03:02 PM
27	Do I look feminine It’s the wig. It doesn’t look natural and these days when something looks “off” whether that’s fake hair, too many fillers, or heavy makeup it can be mistaken for transgender.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/24 03:45 PM
34	How do you feel comfortable being intimate and getting naked with men when you are over 30? Or when you are post-wall? Lol, is this post bait? Not everyone becomes unattractive after age 30, and healthy married couples don’t stop being intimate after that age either.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/11/24 07:25 PM
5	Genuinely asking.. The men who are saying that are trying to illicit a specific reaction. I’m not going to be angry over a Twitter joke.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/11/24 07:49 PM
2	How can I look more “conservative”? Dress in clothes flattering for your body type that aren’t revealing. Shower every day and never let your hair look greasy. Stay away from huge winged eyeliner and heavy makeup. It’s also more of a friendly/relaxed attitude that will make you not seem like a liberal feminist who is always finding problems with the world around you.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/11/24 06:33 AM
1	For those of you ladies who wear makeup If you don’t need concealer or foundation, skip them for everyday makeup and focus on things that make an impact like a flattering cream blush and mascara. I actually think hair makes more of an impact than makeup and guys notice it more too. If your hair is shiny and blown out (or nicely styled if curly) that is going to go so much further in looking put together than makeup.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/09/24 05:04 PM
6	Dating as a fat girl Have you tried going for an overweight man, or someone who isn’t conventionally handsome? Being attractive and fit isn’t something that just happens, those men put effort into their appearance and are looking for a woman who also takes care of herself in that way. Our culture loves to tell every woman she deserves a handsome prince, but what a woman should really seek is her equal (in looks/intelligence/fitness). There’s plenty of bigger white guys out there!	/r/RedPillWomen	15/09/24 07:41 PM
2	Ladies, please help a gal out… My only tip is to wear 100% cotton underwear that is full coverage. It may not be the sexiest style, but most of the cute underwear out there is made of cheap fabrics with microplastics that are terrible for you. I've had zero odors since switching a few years ago.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/09/24 08:41 PM
6	Struggling To Move On After Bad Breakup - Spiritual/Emotional Manipulation (?) He sounds like a jerk. Unfortunately when you stayed with him after the first red flag, you communicated to him that you were okay with his behavior. You should look into the churches around you in the new town and join a small group. I would also work on asserting your boundaries and saying no when it comes to sex in the future.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/08/24 02:21 AM
7	I cant attract men Being friendly and feminine goes much further than looks, especially in your case where it seems like your appearance isn’t a deterrent (not fat or ugly). Doing OF you are not interacting with high value men, but honestly a high value woman wouldn’t be selling pics of her body online. What you spend time doing is going to shape your life and worldview, so I don’t think you can just separate this “work” from your real life. Either lower your standards for guys or make yourself into a woman who a …	/r/RedPillWomen	20/08/24 01:43 PM
5	Interested in a man 10 years younger I would be cautious of this scenario because it’s online and you live on opposite sides of the world. If you had met in person at work or doing a common hobby, I would say go for it and the age gap doesn’t matter. The reason it matters in your case is because you don’t want to miss out on IRL opportunities to date and start a family because your heart is occupied by this 20 year old in another country who is understandably in no rush to start a family. Time is a bit more critical for you. Procee…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/08/24 02:50 PM
41	Sex before marriage or not? Self respect is important. Don’t lose your virginity to a guy you just met who wants to sneak you over. That is definitely not going to benefit you in any way.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/08/24 04:17 PM
4	How do I marry a man who will raise our daughters to be virgins? It starts with you making a change. Men with high standards and values are looking for women with the same. Instead of sitting around wishing you were thinner or prettier, start working out and eating healthy. Pretty/thin women put effort into themselves. You absolutely have time to turn things around!	/r/RedPillWomen	18/07/24 01:49 PM
2	Are My Hobbies Too Masculine? First of all, I don’t think you should change your hobbies. But if I were you I would slowly reveal your interests to men. That’s a large number of hobbies, so to discuss all of them on a first date indicates to me that you might have been dumping a lot of info on the guy. Remember that most men aren’t looking for a woman based on her hobbies, or sharing the same hobbies necessarily. Femininity is more about your behavior than your specific interests.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/07/24 09:09 PM
10	I don't want to live with my boyfriend prior to engagement, is this unreasonable? His priorities are not in alignment with yours. It sounds like he would possibly be open to marriage and kids in the future, while it sounds like that is your main goal. Find someone who enthusiastically wants the same thing as you.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/07/24 02:22 PM
17	Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition? The only female friends I talk to about this stuff are my Christian friends with the same values. I noticed that when I even discuss dating with other friends, their “advice” is usually the opposite of what is good and true. I don’t think this is malicious, but rather a sad reflection of the feminist lies that most women have internalized.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/24 01:32 PM
8	He hit me Based on the description it doesn’t sound like he hit your hand out of anger or frustration, but more of a knee jerk reaction. Of course I wasn’t there, and I’m not trying to minimize abuse if you feel that is what happened. If you explain to him that you were shocked and are feeling uncomfortable by what happened, his response will tell you everything. If he belittles you or gets upset, that would be a red flag.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/06/24 02:38 PM
30	When do I give up? The relationship doesn’t sound very stable if he’s broken up with you several times. Don’t make someone tell you they don’t want you twice. He also doesn’t even sound traditional.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/24 02:34 AM
2	How to be a good friend while letting her know I’m concerned? It sounds like she’s made some great changes in her life and is on a much more fulfilling path now. We are hard wired as women to thrive in more traditional roles, so I’m not sure why you would see this change as anything but positive. Even if her relationship doesn’t work out (which you can’t protect her from, nor is that your place) she will still hold these views because they are a true reflection of reality.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/06/24 10:57 PM
6	Confused between two guys Do not go for your long term friend! Look for someone who is your equal not a guy you might see as more than a friend if you squint. Be realistic you are almost 30 and your male friend can’t even support you. I would consider the guy who actually has a similar upbringing unless you don’t want to give your children the same comforts you had.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/24 12:30 PM
1	I have no ambitions I felt like you my whole life and now I work with kids and enjoy that. There’s nothing wrong with you! Feminism has brainwashed both men and women into thinking that the sexes are the same and interchangeable, which isn’t a reflection of reality. :)	/r/RedPillWomen	23/05/24 09:35 PM
4	Am I Wasting My Time? Unfortunately it sounds like this ship has sailed. He already broke up with you once and isnt trying to reestablish the relationship. You have just become more convenient as a “placeholder” companion since moving closer to him.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/05/24 11:41 PM
1	2 proposals. 2 rings. Pick the 33 year old based on these descriptions 100%! I wouldn’t want to be with a man who values porn that much or one who doesn’t want kids. Those are huge signs of immaturity.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/05/24 11:23 PM
2	Have you lost a lot of weight? Try incorporating a walk 45 mins-1hr every day. It’s a way to increase your activity/calorie burn without being strenuous and making you feel extra hungry like a hard workout would. I’ve noticed great results with this.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/24 03:37 PM
2	Had Sex. What do I do Now? No you shouldn’t end the relationship just to increase your body count. Pursue the relationship with him…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/04/24 08:58 PM
8	Boyfriend doesn't have any plans for the future He doesn’t see a future with you, but he doesn’t want to lose your company for the time being. If marriage is important to you, don’t move in with a guy you’re dating. That’s the biggest predictor for a divorce. Even if you don’t have Christian values, you should wait for some sort of commitment like engagement. Look up the data!	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/24 02:07 PM
3	Fiancé doesn’t mention me in future plans If you want to be a stay at home wife/mom after marriage make sure you communicate that clearly rather than just continuing to work and building resentment towards him. You might be overthinking about his phrasing, especially since his actions aren’t indicating anything bad.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/24 01:50 PM
2	My husband can't follow instructions I just want to comment on the Christianity aspect of this. I relate to you in the fact that I used to be liberal and degenerate, and was saved later in my life. It’s very easy when we first come to Christ to see all the problems around us and how it -should- be. After all, we have been given new eyes. But the Bible says that wives can change our husband’s hearts with our behavior alone. Actions speak louder than words for men, and it’s not your job to tell him what to do, nor is that biblical.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/03/24 03:18 PM
1	Getting married in 2 months and fiancé broke down in tears due to sexless life It’s obvious that you don’t respect him. This has to do with your heart position not his actions or lack thereof. It sounds like you don’t want to marry this man but from what you wrote, the problem stems from your own attitude. If he doesn’t display the qualities you want in a partner, why on earth are you engaged and still together? You can’t just suddenly choose to apply red pill concepts to a relationship and blame the man for not changing.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/24 08:50 PM
2	Is it wrong of me to expect my older boyfriend to teach me about "adult things" You should take the time to learn some of this stuff on your own. In my family, it’s traditional for the women to “manage” the household which includes managing the finances. I think many young women mistake submissiveness as helplessness. A smart, savvy woman makes her family’s/man’s life run more smoothly!	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/23 02:02 PM
8	Concern about SO drinking First, I'm sorry you've made the discovery that your partner is suffering from alcoholism. I use that word because it's a disease, heavily stigmatized, but one nonetheless. Drinking 1-2 bottles of wine in one sitting is not healthy, and the fact that he does this multiple nights a week is scary! He is doing major damage to his liver. Appearing sober/normal after drinking a bottle or two of wine is ridiculous. That shows tolerance and I worry he is drinking even more when you're not around. Remem…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/16 01:46 PM
1	Concern about SO drinking From a social perspective it's a good thing that he doesn't get belligerent or DUIs. However, if someone can drink 2 bottles of wine and still appear "normal"/not drunk, that suggests a serious tolerance and I'd be worried. OP your partner may be hiding even more drinking when you are apart. I'm a 5'9" female (average male height in America lol) and I'd be wasted if I drank a whole bottle of wine, let alone 2. He unfortunately is suffering from alcoholism if he downs bottles of wine and can act …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/16 01:33 PM
1	Quick Beauty Tip: Waxing Your Eyebrows at Home Haha, I feel you on the terror of trying a new waxing salon only to come out with crazy looking brows! And I do think your post contains a ton of great tips! Just had to throw in my $0.02 about my love of (natural looking) thicker brows. If your comfortable I've seen people post a photo of their face on /r/makeupaddiction and ask what brow shape would suit them, and users will actually photoshop a general shape they think will suit your face! Then you can get an idea of how other people see what…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/16 01:49 AM
1	Quick Beauty Tip: Waxing Your Eyebrows at Home I dunno, it's blurry but I like the before picture better I think? Fuller eyebrow (not unibrows or extremely filled in obviously haha) are more youthful and frame the face better. And yours look like they are naturally a nice thickness to just pluck stray hairs. Eyebrows frame the face, and if you insist on having thinner brows (no problem with them- it's a personal choice!) I recommend seeing trusted professional and maintaining that shape through plucking, trimming, etc to extend the time betw…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/02/16 09:17 PM
2	Realistically, how much power do you have to make yourself more attractive (or, less ugly)? Honestly look up Lisa Eldridge on YouTube, or just google her to see her blog which has all her tutorials on it. She's a professional, classy makeup artist and not a silly "YouTube guru." Her tutorials are extremely informative, she has a series on how to choose things like what type of foundations suit your skin type, acne coverage tutorials, tutorials based on editorial/fashion looks she's done on celebrities, and (my personal favorite) a "no-makeup-makeup" look that is all about perfecting th…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/02/16 11:11 PM
1	Feminine hair color Tell me about it! Haha. I think a subtle version would be easier to pull off though. With your dark brown, you could always do a caramel-type shade for contrast/dimension without the results looking artificial and cheap. Just musing here, but I think getting your hair colored is a good thing, despite many red pill men saying they prefer the natural color. I know at least for me, my natural hair is a mousey brown/dishwater blonde, so coloring it more auburn and warm toned really makes me look a l…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/16 11:38 PM
2	Feminine hair color This is going to sound really stupid, but are you sure you're not referring to balayage? It's a similar technique to ombré where the ends are still lighter, however it looks 100% more natural because the highlights are broken up more, some extend up higher than others, etc. When I hear ombré, I think of brown on the top and the ends all blonde, with varying amounts of blending going on between the dark and light colors, depending on if the stylist sucks or not. I realize how trite this distincti…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/16 11:07 PM
1	Feminine hair color Do you have a high end salon with good reviews in your area where you could schedule a consultation? It's so difficult to determine what shade will be best with your coloring on your own. For example, I was told that if you have cool toned skin, your hair should be warm toned, and vice-versa. However this "rule" doesn't work on everyone. In my case I'm a pale neutral-to-slightly-warm skintone, and my hair looks best in warm toned auburn brown.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/16 10:52 PM
2	Feminine hair color I wouldn't say blonde is the most youthful on everyone. In fact, more older women are blonde in my experience since it's easier to deal with gray roots without bleaching + toning. I'd say warm tones like chocolate, auburn, etc are more youthful since an older woman would never pull that off unless she touched up her grey roots every 3 weeks. But it totally depends on the individual!	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/16 10:48 PM
2	Feminine hair color Not to be rude but ombré is considered a bit of an outdated style. I wouldn't suggest anything super trendy (especially a trend that peaked 3 years ago) unless her SO and she really enjoy the style. I live in Los Angeles so I might be kinda biased; truth be told, I'm not sure if the style is still considered new/fresh in other parts of the US or other countries.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/16 10:45 PM
2	Feminine hair color Considering there's only a few "natural" colors (blonde, brunette, red, and black in the case of certain ethnicities) you should really be going with something that's flattering on you. No hair color is really "overdone"- they're just colors that naturally occur and that the majority of people have. If you have naturally dark hair and you bleached it blonde, there is probably a good chance the blonde is not the most flattering on you. Not a hard fast rule, but in general it can stand out a ton a…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/16 10:40 PM
3	Cooking for a man who doesn't like vegetables? Apologies if this was mentioned- I tried to skim the comments beforehand- but, have you tried roasting vegetables such as broccoli in the oven with olive oil, minced garlic, salt & pepper or whatever spices you want? Ina Garten has a roasted broccoli recipe online that I use and has always gotten rave reviews. I noticed some of the other suggestions, while they sound good (I.e using bacon grease or butter), may not necessarily be as healthy as roasting veggies. When broccoli is roasted some chem…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/16 10:25 PM
1	Engagement timeframe I didn't mean that the honeymoon stage would definitely end, but that timeframe is often when the rose tinted glasses come off - for a couple who isn't actually a good match. I apologize for coming off as rude by commenting on the age difference and his failed engagements. You seem like a cautious person, which is a good thing! I don't mean to say these things are red flags, but there are definitely issues that come into play with an age difference of ~20 years as opposed to shorter gaps. So you…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/01/16 01:04 AM
2	He's bad mouthing another woman--red flag? Don't get invested in someone who lives in a different state. It's pointless. Personally I think you're being a little uptight about his comment re: the other girl- you said yourself you witnessed her coming onto him and he turned her down. She is thirsty as hell, and he was probably trying to make you laugh by bringing it up. None of that really matter though because it's stupid to get invested in someone who is long distance from the start. You don't know him, you just barely know his online p…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/16 11:57 PM
1	Engagement timeframe I think it's too soon to be engaged in a year or less than a year, but since you guys are a bit older (well, at least he is 20 years your senior and people in their 40s tend to jump into marriage more quickly) I think it might be fine? The downside would be that the honeymoon stage ends during your engagement and you realize you're not right together, and then you're left with having an ex-fiancé (and for him, a third ex fiancé). Just do what feels right, but think with your head not only your h…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/16 11:44 PM
1	How many is too many? As an adult, sleeping around too much lowers your value. I may give some concessions if the girl was in high school "relationships" every few months or so, and slept with a few guys that way, because honestly that's what high school is like for many (socially adjusted) people. Outside of extremely religious families who don't allow their daughters to date, most teens experiment with sex. However, that doesn't mean it's fine to have 10 sexual partners or something in high school. I'm just saying,…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/16 11:18 PM
2	High School Feminist English Teacher's Writing Assignment on Feminism: Indoctrination or Education? The grade he received is generous. He did not answer the question, which asked to analyze the text through the lens of feminist critical theory (literary school of thought). Instead, he ranted about modern feminists, which is completely irrelevant to the Great Gatsby, which was written in the 1920s I believe. At the time of publication, women didn't hold the right to even vote (or perhaps had just gained it) and he completely failed to analyze the text in the context I which Gatsby was written. …	/r/TheRedPill	12/01/16 09:20 PM
1	Want to take the next step in being the best RPW I can be - but first I need some advice with my current relationship. I've been with my partner for 4 years and I don't have as long a list of problems/red flags as you do after 4 months. Of course there are positive elements of the relationship, otherwise you wouldn't have started dating him. I also agree that a 30 year old man without a vehicle is not a good thing, unless you lived in London or NYC or another city where it would be useless to have a car. It sounds like he has more in common with his "loser martial arts" friend that you initially realized.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/01/16 04:02 AM
1	I fell off the wagon- hard. Help? Encouragement? Advice? I'm a few days late responding but I just wanted to put my two cents in. It sounds like a lot of your frustrations could be eliminated by taking matters into your own hands, such as your vehicle inspection that has been causing you anxiety. I promise your man won't think of you as a butch lesbian just because you take the initiative to bring your vehicle in for maintenance. Instead of nagging him and dropping passive aggressive hints, you could simply say "hey honey, I made a maintenance appoint…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/01/16 03:56 AM
3	Need some advice I thought the same. Her bf is just as beta as her orbiter, he's just trying to act like he's not. A self-respecting man doesn't go back to his ex (in most circumstances) and especially doesn't allow his ex to move back in with him after she's been sleeping with another man. He chose the situation he's in and is poorly handling it by throwing insults at OP, rather than making a clean break and moving on.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/01/16 03:37 AM
3	Need some advice Being a RPW isn't about deferring to any and every man. The whole point is to choose a good man who you respect and want to be with, and someone who makes you feel safe so you want to defer to him. This does not mean immediately sleeping with an orbiter dude after a breakup. This also doesn't mean immediately moving back in with your ex who refers to you as a bitch. Your "bf" has no respect for you because you don't respect yourself. Things are not going back to the way they were just because yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/01/16 03:31 AM
1	RPW perspective on for a man with a temper/depression? Is this a troll post? I don't see any redeeming qualities about your guy here. He cries and throws temper tantrums when something doesn't go his way, and he has admitted to being physically abusive not just in one previous relationship, but in TWO! RPW is not about submitting to any and every man, or about accepting abuse for the sake of staying in a relationship; the goal is choosing a high quality, good person who makes you want to defer to him. I don't see why you would choose to be with this…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/15 11:11 PM
2	Closing the distance - need some level-headed thinking I'm sorry, but "maybe we can meet up," doesn't sound like the words of a man who wants a relationship with you. It sounds like he would be maybe interested in having sex. He didn't even say, "I'd love to take you out," or demonstrate any sort of assertiveness in wanting to spend time with you. I think the ship has sailed with this one; you're always going to be calculating ways to not seem crazy, because you portrayed your crazy side to him before he broke up with you the first time. It's great …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/11/15 04:36 AM
3	Raising boys. I really agree with your point that homeschooling is what you make it. While it sounds like you're making a real effort to provide a good learning environment for your kids, it's really not realistic to assume every mother (even a rpw) is truly suited to undertake this task. When I consider how many mediocre teachers I had in school, even being in all the advanced courses, they outnumber the great teachers I had by a long shot. I know it might sound like I'm contradicting myself, but the point I…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/15 01:35 AM
2	Raising boys. I don't understand how spending all day with their mom is going to help these boys develop their masculinity and socialize normally. Consider the fact that school allows the boys to exercise their independence and interact with their peers instead of just being at home with mom. Experiencing variation of teaching styles from different teachers is also beneficial for kids; it is the opposite of coddling them because everything isn't adapted for their specific needs. This is just my $.02 and I don…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/15 04:53 PM
1	Chill me out ladies.... You're overreacting and you need to learn to pick your battles. This 8 year old didn't say "fuck you, dad!" Honestly from your description the situation sounds comical, and your partner diffused the "tantrum" (if you could even call it that) by just giving his son a straight answer.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/10/15 10:46 PM
1	Perceived distance? Like others have said, it's important to recognize his body language and back off when you sense that he is distancing himself in this way. In my experience, men hate to be asked, "Is everything okay?" "Is something wrong?" etc. and it often creates a tension that wouldn't be there otherwise. Is your boyfriend introverted at all? I go through periods myself when I feel like I'm never fully "recharged" and I tend to withdraw since I just want some space for myself. He may be implementing "dread g…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/09/15 04:37 PM
1	Small steps to a more polished appearance No, just be careful. The point is to remove the loose threads.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/09/15 12:21 AM
1	Small steps to a more polished appearance I love them too (within reason! For me it has to be a good quality large bag, not just any cheap huge thing) and I can carry stuff for my boyfriend if we're out and about, haha. I think small purses can look really tacky/cheap, but I guess it is 100% dependent on the bag itself.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/09/15 12:20 AM
0	Small steps to a more polished appearance Yes, a smaller purse often looks more classy than a giant shapeless tote. But if it's too small it looks really out of style/early-2000s era fashion. I think a medium-sized bag is best because it fits everything I need comfortably without me having to play Tetris wedging my wallet, phone, etc etc into a super small purse.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/09/15 12:16 AM
1	How do I handle cooking for a man who doesn't like many foods? What would be the problem with making the basic plain food he likes for him, but still cooking more unique side dishes you enjoy for yourself? He's an adult, and he survived on his limited diet before you got together, so there's really no way you can force him to eat healthier foods without coming off like a second mother. There are so many foods I thought I hated growing up that I now realize I love. I just hated the way my mom prepared them. But if he's not willing to try the foods prepared a…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/15 10:55 PM
1	How do I handle cooking for a man who doesn't like many foods? How does he know he doesn't like a food if he doesn't try it? I'm not suggesting you "force" him to try something, but just pointing out how strange it is that a grown man would refuse to try one piece of something he's never even eaten before.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/15 10:47 PM