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I remember having discussions with men and them being like "so what I wish women thought about me sexually" like it is not the same. It feels so dehumanizing. Of course it was also a porn addict who told me he wished women would cat call him and fantasize about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 09:29 PM
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Yeah my ex husband didn't feel shame for dehumanizing women. He was embarrassed to have an addiction and felt shame for the physical effects it had on his body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 09:27 PM
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All of those are so true I'm kinda stunned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:02 PM
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My ex only seemed to care about how his porn addiction impacted his own body. He didn't seem to ever care about the suffering of women or any exploitation. I would get upset with him for having a relapse when he was trying to quit because "he was getting off to suffering" but I was told I had to supportive and not voice when I was upset. At first he didn't even want to give up porn. He said he would break up with me if I forbid him from looking at porn. But he really changed his tune once he rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 07:59 PM
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This is extremely relatable. Sex with a porn addict feels like they are just using you to masturbate with and don't really seem to notice how YOU are feeling or care about your pleasure. I have also noticed they lack impulse control because mine was always reaching out and groping me at inappropriate time or pushing for sex when I was clearly disinterested. Your pleasure is a side comment like "oh uhhh did you want me to get you off?" after they have finished. No sensual passion. I was told that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 07:57 PM
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He was explained the concept of C-PTSD but took as "you are just sensitive and don't get over things so nothing is my fault" But yep an ex as of a few months ago but still working on legal separation. Just working on healing now <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 01:00 AM
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My ex got upset that sometimes his behavior would trigger my trauma and I was the bad person for getting upset with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 12:28 AM
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That's so horrible I am so sorry. I am SO glad he is an ex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:23 PM
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I once had a similar though with my ex boyfriend. He "playfully" started to smother me with a pillow. I FREAKED out from that. Asked him to stop and when he didn't? I started punching his head. But I was blamed because "punching someone on the head can cause serious damage" and he was just "messing around he would never actually smothering me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:50 PM
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My ex husband and I once had a really bad argument that turned into the silent treatment from him. I was in the middle of speaking to him and he put on his head phones and started to ignore me. I walked over to him and took off one of his headphones (gently to tell him I wanted to hug it out) and he responded by grabbing my wrist, squeezing it, and tossing my hand to the side. I instantly teared up from the pain and felt frozen from fear. I walked in to the bedroom and started bawling my eyes ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:48 PM
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Literally nothing is right for a narcissist because you are actually not the problem. Nothing will ever be good enough for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:37 PM
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My ex yelled at me to shut up a few weeks before we separated and it was honestly one of the things that made me realize we just were not gonna work. He blamed it on me for talking too much and too fast when he was ordering coffee from the drive thru (always also complained my orders were too complicated) and I remember just sitting there like "wow" It was really just me expressing my joy and excitement over getting my dog a puppy cup. He sometimes would refuse to get her one so I insisted. But …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:22 PM
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Started to treat my ex the way he treated me like our entire relationship the last few months. Women will treat you the way they want to be treated and eventually will treat a man the way he treats them. A lot of men don't seem to like that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:15 PM
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Controversial? You just speaking some facts there. I NEVER felt like my ex actually cared about my personality. He literally even said all I had to offer was my sweetness. He only seemed to care about sex, making sure chores were done, and emotional labor on my part. He even told me I wasn't his preference physically but he "loved me anyway" like why did you even wanna date me then? He said I looked like a "female neckbeard" on the first date?? I was young and forgave him for saying those things…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:14 PM
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This is so relatable. I always felt like he just put up with me right from the start and I was so desperate to please him and make him happy. My self esteem was terrible and I was having constant anxiety and panic attacks. I never realized how much emotional support and kindness I was missing out on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 03:10 PM
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Found out my ex has bad mouthed me to pretty much anyone who will listen heh. Even the repairman we hired to fix some issues before we sell our marital home and the people involved in the sale process! I have spoken about him online and to my friends that's true. I have opened up about abuse. But telling random strangers who actually know who I am? Yikes. I am the abusive one who useee him for money and am lying about how he treated me. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 11:55 PM
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Almost 30 and same! I would NEVER want to be in my early 20s again. I am so happy to have the confidence and positive relationships I do now. I would never go back. I don't tolerate toxic or predatory men anymore and I won't let anyone devalue or abuse me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:11 AM
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It is so true. I have literally only ever had one man in my life check in on me and ask about how I am feeling/ask if I am okay and he wasn't my romantic partner! My own ex husband barely ever asked about my emotional state! Well he started to do it more when I started to pull away from relationship. But never when I really truly needed it from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:07 AM
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My ex husband has his own place now. I used to do all the shopping. I wonder how he is going to handle living on his own. Before we moved in together he lived with his mother. He has never lived alone. He used to call me a few times to ask where he could find things and I had to send him pictures of exactly what I wanted lmao. We actually had a really bad argument about cranberry juice once. He very frequently gave me UTIs from lack of cleaning himself more sex and intimacy. I had a really bad i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:16 PM
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I was the same way! No one in my family knew expect my sister for a long time. I am so lucky I had her during that time because the men in my life were so emotionally absent. It gets better with time. I was... Not okay for a long time. Ended up in a toxic relationship after as well that lasted for years. But I think I am really trying to heal now. But the pain of getting the abortion and the guilt I felt does fade. It was a few years ago now and while I look back at with soft pain it doesn't kee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:02 PM
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I had my abortion on Valentine's day and my ex did nothing for it. I was emotionally devastated after it was done because I had always wanted children but my ex wasn't ready. I was always one of those "I support easy access to abortion to all those who need it but I don't know if I could do it" And how he treated me after it was done? At least it helped me get over him and realize he was abusive. Making jokes around abortion, pressuring me to have sex again, and even resuming flirting with other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:13 PM
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I also fully think her laugh and general "I don't give a fuck" demeanor really pisses some men off. Because she really doesn't GIVE A FUCK and a lot of men HATE THAT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 03:16 PM
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My ex husband suggested Bob Evans for dinner for our first date and that was one of his only suggestions for dates ever. Any other dates or trips I planned. I ended up suggesting something else for the first date and at the end of the date he asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed so no more date planning lmao. I should have seen that as an issue but it was years ago before I knew my own worth better. Towards the end of the marriage he complained about me taking a vacation to go see a friend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:44 PM
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Mine did the same thing!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:56 PM
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I am very proud of myself for not actually sending paragraph after paragraph to my ex about all the ways he hurt me. He for a bit there was sending small novels of word dump about me and us. But I would just ignore or say "okay" Actually he mentioned something about missing my "beautiful brown eyes" and all I could say was "my eyes aren't brown..." Instead of you know responding with a long paragraph why I was upset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:34 PM
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I feel this deep in my soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:32 PM
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My ex husband told me he was genuinely sad for a large portion of our relationship because he knew he would never get a threesome and told me he didn't even want to get married. He referred to me as a low wage worker as well due to me not finishing school and working customer service jobs. I didn't really think to pursue more of an education because the plans was for him to work and be to be a stay at home mom eventually and I was helping support him working full time and when he finished school…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:31 PM
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If being with him makes you feel off, uncomfortable, confused, overwhelmed, irritated, exhausted, stressed, dread - basically if you can never feel calm, safe, stable and sure - it is time to RUN. AND THAT'S WHY I RAN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:11 PM
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Not telling people how he treated me almost ended some friendships. I got married right before COVID and my husband told me to not talk about our relationships problems because "I was making him look back and lacked proper context" so for YEARS I said nothing. And when I finally cracked he tried to claim I had been cheating and went and tried to get my friends to drop me as a friend. I finally opened up about everything I had been experiencing. It all happened very fast but I had so much pent up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:51 PM
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This is very relatable :( And being told you just need to tell him how exactly to act. Also suddenly he says he will do all the things you ever wanted when you are planning on leaving even though he claimed he never knew what you wanted in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:46 PM
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Getting divorced. Thank you! It is by far the scariest thing I have EVER DONE! I have codependence issues from life long abuse but I started to realize my own value after therapy and medication for my anxiety and depression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:09 AM
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I feel the same way. I never really craved sex as much as I did physical intimacy. Like kissing and snuggling for an hour without feeling pressured to have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 08:02 PM
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I have been fighting off feeling like a failure because I decided to end my marriage. My ex told me he never even wanted to get married. And honestly? That stung. He said he made that sacrifice for me and he never even wanted to get married. I wanted to have more of a traditional wedding with like. A beautiful ceremony. But we got married at the court house and had a party after. It was still nice but. I thought that was the compromise you know? I still feel like I failed but I also know I need …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:46 PM
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Yeah the lie is what concerns me. Height is a non issue to someone like me but lying for that long? I couldn't forgive that. It shows he would be willing to lie about any number of things. My ex lied to me for about 4.5 years. He agreed to stop using pornography but just did it behind my back. I was never able to fully trust him after that. I will never try and forgive long term lie. Especially one that takes active maintenance and upkeep. But I still think this story is fake 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:38 PM
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Going through this right now. He has sent me hundreds of messages at this point asking to get back together and give him another chance. Of course he is also sending "this is all your fault you are toxic" and "how can you hurt me like this" texts as well. I just don't believe he will change. He promised to change so many times. To try and be a better man. But he always goes back to his old ways. I can't believe anything he says about changing anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 05:10 PM
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I'm getting a divorce and my soon to be ex husband throws a decent chunk of the blame at FDS for making me toxic and not willing to compromise on things that are important to me. I really needed to read this. Things have been rough but reading through things like this helps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:25 PM
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That last paragraph holy fuck like 10000% accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:23 PM
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Every single man I have ever been with has made some sort of negative comment about my appearance. God and they always told me I was just being sensitive. Their views were just "objective facts" shit like "you would look better if you lost 10 pounds" or "you would look better with bigger breasts" like why? I guess I am just starting to realize and accept that I am actually very conventionally attractive. But I never felt that way because of the constant input from mostly men about my body. Inclu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 04:37 PM
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Treating a relationship like a transaction and like...keeping score is so fucking exhausting. I don't understand it. Just.... Care for each other fuck. Like all my friendships with women and my family are so... compassionate and giving. I don't understand men who need everything to always be equal because that is just not realistic. Not to mention it is never entirely equally and I find women tend to give much more in relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:30 AM
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That's a great list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:03 PM
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Felt that one a little too deeply....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:54 PM
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Why can it be so hard to get men to take showers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 10:59 PM
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I can relate to this for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 10:37 PM
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Lord have mercy ain't this the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 04:25 PM
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Or "Just tell me how to support you" when you are already in a terrible place and suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 04:24 PM
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I love this so much <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 04:21 PM
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Another thing I have found with my personal experience is the whole "communication" thing. Like an ex or partner insisting if you would just "tell them exactly what to do and how to do it" so put in half the emotional labor for something that is CLEARLY obvious. Men who are extremely sensitive and open about their emotions but have no ability to empathize with you or understand your needs? Ahhh exhausting. Because they will complain about no one ever understanding and them being sensitive. I hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:10 PM
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God damn well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:06 PM
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Just got done with therapy and saaaame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:04 PM
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My mother is a major PICK ME and I have had her cut off for a few years. She was extremely neglectful when I was a childhood and so desperate for male affection she turned a blind eye when her boyfriends abused us. I finally decided to cut her off a few years and I have been much better since. It was hard at first. I literally had to block about 30 phone numbers because she kept texting and calling from different numbers. Also block a few social media accounts. But it is really much better now. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:38 PM
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Men calling out other men for their shit is my favorite thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:05 PM
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Yep my ex would push and push and when I finally reacted "I was the crazy one" and he would try and convince all my friends I was an emotionally unstable liar. So that way if I tried to talk about his abuse I was making it up. Eventually though our mutual friends saw through his bullshit after we broke up thankfully. But it took him abusing multiple girlfriends in front of them before they realized he was the problem... He used to like to scream in my face or shove me around to get a reaction ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:18 PM
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I have heard the argument that "it is okay to like big boobs and skinny women because those things can be changed easily" and the opposite for things like height or penis size. Since they can't be changed it is not okay to have a preference for them... Smh. Just because I COULD get plastic surgery does not mean I would actually do that like. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:09 PM
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That is amazing and congratulations!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:56 PM
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I definitely felt inspired to get back to work because of this sub. I was doing the stay at home wife thing for a bit after leaving my shitty job. But now I have a job that I LOVE SO MUCH! I feel happy going to work and can see myself really moving up the ladder at my current work place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:55 PM
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That's amazing. Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:53 PM
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For a few years after our break up my ex liked to bring up that I slapped him once. It was like his one and only example of me being abusive. What he neglected to mention was the fact that he used to push me around and scream in my face. And the one instance where I did slap him occurred because he had backed me into a corner and was screaming an inch away from my face. I was crying and he was making fun of me for it and calling me terrible names! I was very embarrassed because he did this at a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:46 PM
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Same. I was never allowed to show anger with my mother. So I developed depression and disorganized eating habits at a very young age. And then I went on to date abusive men who did the same thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:40 PM
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I have used FBI OPEN UP as actually "what the fuck is wrong with you I really should call the police and report you what the fuck"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:24 PM
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I guess these men at least let you know they have a crippling porn addiction so you can stay away...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:23 PM
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When I am hanging out with my girls that is when I probably laugh the hardest. One of my friends is 1000% the funniest person I know. She literally almost makes me have asthma attacks from laughing all the time. I said she was the funniest person I know and my husband made a sour face at me lol. But it is true. She is legit the funniest person I know. And just being with my girlfriends is always so fun. We make each other laugh so much. Like don't get me wrong I do thing guys can be funny. But g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:09 PM
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Much better thank you! Discovering sites like FDS and getting therapy have HELPED so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:28 PM
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The other day I got into a disagreement with some random dude on FB because he said "90% of women are abusers and any woman of quality would not use a dating site and women should meet men the traditionally way since they get asked out all the time" I could not help myself. I mentioned how online dating benefits women and allowed women to date safely and what not and this dude was literally like "well good luck to you the statistics don't lie" I had to tell him I met my husband on OkCupid 7 year…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:27 PM
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Guys are so scared of menstrual blood. When I was in high school my go to threat for a guy pestering me would be to say "I am going to rip my pad out of my underwear and hit you with it" Made them leave me alone every time haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:18 PM
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I cried and had a mental break down when I turned 25 so. I grew up thinking my youth and beauty were the only things that were important about me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:15 PM
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I had a melt down when I turned 25. Now I am also turning 28 soon and my mental health has never been better. I am finally just... living my life. I am being myself. I am more confident and less anxious than I ever been. Aging is wonderful. I am still trying to take care of myself because I know I have to be good to my body. But I am not afraid to age anymore. I know my worth as a person comes from who I am not how attractive and young I am. No longer being seen as some... easily controllable gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:14 PM
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Some legitimately believe the women in porn love it. They read paid accounts from women in porn on reddit and think it must be the 100% truth. That or they really don't know or don't actually care. Like I don't understand how someone can consume something so knowingly harmful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:38 PM
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My father was religious and extremely "traditional" after my parents got divorced when I was 3. So when I finally saw him again years later I was told things like "my opinions did not matter" and that I "had to very feminine to get a man. And that "getting married should be my goal" I also heard the same thing from my mother but in a different pick-mesha kind of way. She was also an ex stripper who WAY too concerned about her looks and being sexy for men. Her man was the most important thing in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:57 AM
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Yeah I am certainly reminded of how many times I cared for my ex boyfriend when he got sick or drank too much. There was one night I stayed up with him all night because he kept getting sick. He was on the floor on his side and I actually slept on the floor with him to monitor him. I cleaned up when he got sick, cleaned him up, and stayed up with him all night. When I got too drunk? He would get angry at me for it, drive me home while drunk himself, and throw me in the driveway. He never cared f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:45 AM
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Literally me. My own violent fantasies stemmed from sexual assault and they were just... encouraged my exes and groups online. I deserve to be treated well and have a man care about my needs. In the past it was convenient excuse for my ex to just get his way and not worry about getting me off. And to indulge in own violent fantasies against women. I was not sexually healthy nor really satisfied. After re-evaluating my fantasies and getting therapy I am much happier sexually and have actually had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:35 AM
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My husband gave up porn and is vocally against it and the over sexualization of women and oh boy. It makes other men upset. And it is true other guys will laugh it off or get defensive about their own usage by making justifications. AND I have also had women say "well I watch porn with my partner" when I say we both don't watch porn. Ugh. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:13 AM
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My abusive ex broke up with me because he had been cheating and wanted to keep sleeping around. At this point I was just DONE. After about a month I met an amazing man (who I would later marry) and started dating him. My new boyfriend and I went to a convention together with some of my friends and my ex was there staying with some our mutual friends. He had a total breakdown after seeing me with my new boyfriend. I had knocked on the hotel door because I wanted to see MY friends that were MY FRI…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 01:29 AM
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Yeah I had some guys host me on twitch and say things like "time to simp" and while I appreciate the hosts... they never said that before hosting guys and it is not like I go full sexy mode or anything when I stream. Just t-shirts while I play card games. Their chats viewers also tended to be... well more problematic. But the guys who did host me and did not say they were "simping" were much nicer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 01:19 AM
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A friend of mine jokingly called himself a simp and tbh it kinda broke my heart. He is SO kind and considerate. He is really a great guy and does not date because he is very shy and has terrible anxiety. But gosh he is not a simp at all. I really don't like the term. He is legitimately just a really nice person and will be a complete catch for someone when he gets around to dating. Other man just wanna call a lot of high value men simps because it makes them look better for being so low effort. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 01:16 AM
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I have wasted my time on men who strung me along and suddenly were not ready for a relationship when I wanted something serious. I remember kissing a guy a lot at a party after over a week of texting and flirting only for the next for him to be like "yeah sorry not interested in dating" and then he started dating someone else the very next day. But! Men who act WAY too into you from the start are also problematic. That is partly why I fell for my abusive ex so fast. He was so over the top with l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 01:12 AM
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My mom was also very "pick-me" but I don't feel sorry for her anymore due to how much her behavior hurt her children. She so desperately wanted a perfect little family that she jumped to marry the first half way decent guy she met at 17 while working at a strip club. Like immediate red flag don't date men who frequent strip clubs! But they got married when she turned 18 and started a family almost immediately. My mother did not work and when she failed to be a perfect house wife and gained weigh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:41 PM
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Eyyy same! I actually had my first orgasm with my husband. He actually tries and cares about how I feel during sex with is not something I had experienced. I used to just fake with my exes to get it over with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:24 PM
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My sister-in-law has two little boys and she is raising them so well! They are so curious and kind and LOVING. The oldest has so many friends and never has anything mean to say about anyone. I am also happy his parents let him enjoy whatever he likes. He loves Frozen and Elsa and to sing. He is just such a great kid and I know he will grow into a kind man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:21 PM
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That reminds me of one guy on OkCupid a few years ago who would NOT stop messaging me. I never responded to him and he just kept sending multiple messages everyday like dude. Take a hint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:17 PM
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Yeah instead of talking about tipping sex workers can we just make sure everyone can work standard jobs with good wages, have access to healthcare, and have access to childcare???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:16 PM
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Hey I met my husband on OkCupid as well! This was almost 7 years ago! I feel like I honestly got lucky because of just how many men were messaging me. But he stuck out as someone handsome, kind, funny, and charming. He was pretty much the only man that actually did not use some dumb pick up line and asked me about my interests, hobbies, dreams, and goals. Like I could tell he read all through my profile and even asked me about things in my profile. He was not pushy for a date and we talked for a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:14 PM
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I feel this deeply. My was similar and was very hot and cold. I was a very vulnerable person when we met and he took advantage of that. For years after our split he still would text me. He even texted me about not being invited to my wedding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:08 PM
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My ex also had those eyes. I think he was incapable of feeling empathy. Just those... soulless eyes. Eyes that could feel NOTHING and show NOTHING even when I was sobbing in front of him. He could even scream at me and still show NOTHING in his eyes. Gives me the shivers to think about it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:06 PM
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My high school boyfriend got mad at me one time because he said he would never date a fat girl so I reminded him that he was fat LOL. He was super critical of my appearance even though he legit looked like an elephant seal and didn't take showers. He was REAL upset that I would judge him even though he was always making comments about my looks. My next ex who was REALLY abusive was the same way. He liked to make comments about how I looked and was like "well you can just be honest with me about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:47 PM
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I will ALWAYS remember how... dismayed and distraught my abusive and narcissistic ex was after our break up. He was absuive our entire relationships, he cheated on me, he broke up with me, I even got an abortion for him. He still broke up with me after years of me just laying him walk all over me. I am sure he thought he could just get me back again like usual. But I moved on. I took myself back and allowed myself to move on. I found another amazing man. Literally my dream man. My ex? Acted dest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:17 AM
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Also there is no "free dinner" you still have to spend time with the man. Men spend money on women they want to spend time with. It is an exchange. Men are paying for a woman's time. It is like when men complain about gold diggers. Would those same men pay for a woman they are not attracted to? Nope. It is an exchange. But for some reason women are held to this higher standard and these beautiful women need to just "love someone for who they are" when the men are not expected to do the same. I a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:17 PM
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I always see comments that this sub is "terrible" that you guys are the "female incels" and I am so fucking confused. Have these people even visited this sub before? People make comments like "yeah I went there for a minute and it was so terrible" and then I go look at this sub and I just don't see how they think that??? Maybe because most of reddit is male? I don't understand. You are right though is must be projection. Like my husband HAS no issue that I browse this sub and often send him meme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:00 PM
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That honestly sounds so nice... I hope my partner and I can comfortably afford me being a stay at home mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/16 07:23 PM
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My mom is 45 and has a new guy like every month. 40 year olds can definitely get laid. Not saying I agree with her actions but... She is still looks good and has recently gotten back into shape so she personally just wants to have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/16 07:08 PM
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Maybe marriage will be different but most of my girlfriends and I are in long term relationships and still love sex and doing raunchy things in bed. I have heard a lot of guys claim that women withhold sex later on but that has never been the case in my relationships. Also it is not like any of us have also gad many partners either. We just really like doing crazy things with our long term partners. So I don't think women withholding sex and only being crazy with alphas is as prevalent as some p…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/15 11:16 PM
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I just want to date a man who shares the same values as I do. Sex for me is extremely intimate and a very emotionally driven act. If a man has had casual sex it shows he can see it very casually and not take it seriously. For me sex is very serious. Maybe for the right man I could look past casual hookups but currently I don't have to as my partner is an ideal match for me in regards to how many partners he has had.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/14 05:22 PM
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Oh. Well um thank you? He and other guys with low numbers just have different values. Nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/14 04:39 AM
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I have had three partners but... It matters a lot to me. I don't want a guy who has slept around a lot in the past. I want a guy with similar values as mine. I am not into casual hookups and don't take sex lightly. So I want a man who is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/14 04:21 AM
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My partner has only had two with me being his second. He is extremely attractive. He has had the opportunity for casual hookups but he would rather have a meaningful relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/14 04:11 AM
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I am an INFP and I am blue!
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