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Thanks. I'm committed to my marriage though. And struggling with evidence and reasoning to help my wife to learn how to be girlish, respectful, sweet, flirtatious and seductive like I need emotionally. She didn't grow up with any of those qualities much but I married her anyway due to my own emotional problems. But I have healed and improved and thankfully, she agrees and is trying to improve also.
/r/ThankTRP19/05/17 02:52 PM
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Thanks for your gracious reply. Well said. I agree with every word you said about committed and healthy. My wife and I both are committed to healing from problems that we bring to the relationship. Mine was sex addiction caused by child abuse which is 90% healed. My wife's issue was being raised that all sexual pleasure is a sin against God. She also changed her views and is much more fun but it takes time for her really change as a person. She seems 80% better now. We deeply understand each oth…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 12:53 PM
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I removed it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 05:31 PM
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Yes. I order my wife to get well fast when she is sick. Or command her to get some rest when she is obviously tired. I demand that she have fun when she goes to ballet lessons. I propose to her an idea of cruise and vacation to the bahamas. And discuss with her when we might be able to go and if some other vacation is better, etc. to come to a decision but she, as a woman, often struggles to be decisive on such matters any and appreciates that I decide. Espeically is this true if she wants somet…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 10:19 AM
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Just thought of something. I guess blue pill women have to be scared to marry a red pill man for fear she cannot hold onto him. Red pill men have little patience for blue pill women.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/17 11:52 AM
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In the beginning, i felt a bit guilty that married women also clearly felt attracted to me and enjoy to talk with me and spend time with me. Of course, I don't date them -- it's just at gatherings or parties. But I realized that their are really hot women that men drool over too. doesn't mean she's a bad person for being so attractive. So I set out to be the hottest guy around in terms of personality and style and talent. It worked. And it took a lot less effort than I imagined simply because mo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/17 11:38 AM
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That's so true for "blue pill" men. But now that I learned about red pill stuff, and have women, married, single -- doesn't matter -- drooling over me, it's clear that a beautiful woman will feel honored and very attracted to me all my life because her hypergamy will make her feel she got the "catch" that all women want. That's why that woman in the web site felt she became "more attractive" than her husband. It's because his attractiveness to her (his personality) dropped and others didn't feel…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/17 11:32 AM
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For women, attractiveness is combination of how they dress and the shape of their body. My guess is that she began dressing more attractively and that got her more attention. I've heard men in my real life, warn not to marry a beautiful woman unless you're willing to share her with other men. They meant a woman who is generally by large percent of men considered beautiful. Once a woman has blond hair, is kinda pretty, and fit and dresses attractively, she'll get the attention of most men alive. …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 06:14 PM
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True. But they go hand in hand. Very closely related. It's difficult to have one without the other.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 05:08 PM
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Thanks! But I don't want to over simplify. That is only once peice of my healing. Another big one was bring back and think about painful childhood memories and heal from them rather than avoid thinking about them. A lot more work had to inside my head though.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 05:06 PM
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"I know women who absolutely despise making food, and I can taste it in the meals they prepare." This made me laugh, hard. ha ha I agree with all of that. Still it seems that certain things, let's face it, are more for men and others for women in most couples. For example, I deal with taking out the garbage. And sure women can learn to fix toilets. But most women will love it for their man to handle that sort of thing. I can sew and mend clothes but it feels sweet that my wife does that for me. …
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 12:33 PM
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It's good that you want him to lead the relationship. That's a natural desire as a woman. And men love to take the lead. Men especially love it when you invite them to take the lead and really gets them in gear to take the lead if you connect it with respect and sexuality. You could simply text, "I feel respect for you. So it really turns me on when you take the lead to ask me out." Or, "I feel respect for you so it's very sexy when you take charge and say what you want." Put it in your own word…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 11:58 AM
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By the way, my original motive in learning how to cook those things was that I read somewhere that women find men very sexy cooking. With men it's all about sex, of course. And that did seem to help. But eventually I discovered it was very enjoyable for myself. Ha ha. Go figure.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 11:46 AM
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So true. I'm not even certain that those tasks in history where "relegated" to women. Many women feel those tasks are amazing and very important and satisfying activity that make her valuable. Due to increased self-respect, I learned how to cook a few things, mainly French Fries (I mean really studying how to make home-made amazing fries -- super crunchy) and also getting really good at grilling and finally learning how to bake French bread. It is really enjoyable to prepare food and see my fami…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 11:45 AM
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Exactly. Unaggressive approach is a good way to say it. It requires skill to "influence" someone who has authority with respect but it's very possible. Personally even as a man, I worked to acquire this skill and use it to great affect at my place of employment. So much so that those in power often consult my opinion about various decisions. One very quick thing to do that helps a lot is when you want to disagree or push the Caption in a different direction, start by saying, "You're in charge, i…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 11:29 AM
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You're so right. What women against submission misunderstand about men is that when a women submits 100% and still expresses her opinions and feelings, she will discover that her Captain is intoxicated by her and enthralled with pleasing her (unless hes a monster) and take prodigious good care of his rare and special submissive woman. For men female submission is intensely erotic, deeply satisfying emotionally, and very inspirational.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 11:22 AM
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Interesting. Real confidence comes from a person's inner world. Another way of saying confidence is self-respect. A person with self-respect says encouraging things to themselves in their mind such as, "You can do it!" Persons with low confidence or low self-respect say negative things to themselves such as "you idiot. That girl is too good for you." and such things. Interestingly, what you call assholes are people who also have low self-respect. That actually are mean to themselves in their own…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 11:15 AM
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This was interesting to read. I never really thought of those domestic skills as "feminine". But my wife has always loved cooking. It certainly does something for her emotionally. So I realize that you're right.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 11:04 AM
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Now that was funny. :) Thanks for the humor albeit sarcastic.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 05:31 PM
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It wasn't only a ploy. Marriages separate and divorce all the time. Did you read carefully or just overreact? I was going to go through with it if nothing changed. Why not offer a suggestion of what else I could have done instead of that? How does it help to only bash without offering alternative? I think maybe this is just AWALT reaction to this situation.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 05:31 PM
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You seems that maybe you're a person who feels nobody can ever change or improve or heal from any of such problems or at least doubts it when people seem to improve.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 05:29 PM
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I didn't want to do it. I spend weeks talking with her of any ideas how to solve the problem. And spent years before that trying and doing many of the things that people say can help and wife enjoyed and appreciate all that but still didn't feel much sexual desire. It seems to upset women the reality that the risk of losing a man can rev up her sexual desire for him. It's certainly the Nuclear option after trying everything else. I don't advocate anyone start there.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 05:28 PM
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Makes sense. You made your point. It's up to others to make up their own minds about you and I. I do appreciate you sharing an opposing view. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 04:44 PM
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Totally agree!! Well said. It's nice that we can understand each other. Thanks again.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 04:17 PM
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My mistake. However, you did speak of what you know about therapy so it sounds like either you or someone that you know did some therapy and it didn't work out for them. That's too bad. But you also assume with much certainty that therapy never works for anybody in just a few years time. If that were true then therapists will be out of business and treated as quacks and insurance companies won't pay for their treatment. The fact is that therapy (when you get a skilled therapist) is clinically pr…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 04:06 PM
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Thanks for contributing. I didn't specify any religion because there are multiples religions that hold repressive views about sex even between husband and wife. And some people who practice those religions misunderstand and hold even more repressive personal views which isn't the fault of the religion. Since you brought this up, I neglected to include that a lot of sexual repression results when parents only talk about the dangers and condemnation of certain sexual conduct or practices to their …
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 03:59 PM
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Also, there were multiple reasons that we made those friendships with women. Initially the idea was given to me by a man that my wife and I view as my father. He observed that I had no concept of women other than my wife. He urged me and my wife to make friends with women so that I can get to know more women and understand women better. It was only after my wife pointed out how it made her feel like those were competition that I showed her information about how that might actually help her desir…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 03:13 PM
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Well you are certainly very sure of yourself. I admire that. I'm never that certain about my opinion of others motives. In fact, I was wrong about people before. Also, I'm aware of a concept in psychology called "projection". It's when someone sees traits and qualities in another person that simply are there but seem to be real since that person had an experience with someone like that. So it seems clear to me, but I could be wrong, that you experienced abuse yourself and all that kind of lying …
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 03:03 PM
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Well okay but you have a few facts wrong. A) What I said really changed my wife wasn't the friendships with other women, it was the discussion about separating that made the real change. I feel the friendships didn't help much and people here convinced me those were a bad idea. A mistake. I'm sorry. B) I explained why those friendships ended in other posts. It was because of one of 2 reasons, first a couple of them developed romantic feelings for me and ended it themselves. The others simply dec…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:53 PM
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I thank you because I can tell you have good intentions. I believe that your intentions are to A) get me realize that I'm seeing the situation wrong B) To help others reading this to avoid imitating what I did. That is very honorable intentions. So I respect it. And you sound so convincing. I admit that due to my past confusion over human relationships, I cannot always have 100% confidence in my own view of situations, so that's why my wife and did already consult with several people that we bot…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:43 PM
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So you should view all my information more like a "testimonial" to TRP and an attempt to "give back" to the community to give otherd courage or benefit from my experiences. It does give me perhaps misplaced confidence in my understand since I had success. I can see now that some things that I did either weren't necessary or unwise. I'm just happy that after trying my best, it finally worked!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:30 PM
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AWALT = "All Women Are Like That". Yes. I understand AWALT and used that but simply didn't recognize the acronym. Honestly though I was never close to any women, no sister, not any kind of relationship with my mother, so I didn't catch on to "All Women Are Like That" until I became closer friends with a number of different women. Then my eyes were opened to understanding "AWALT". I don't claim to be any expert on saving low sex marriage. I'm only rejoicing and wanting to shout from the roof tops…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:28 PM
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Okay. You're entitled to your opinion. Maybe I'm wrong. We humans are so complicated. Thank you at least for participating and contributing to the discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:24 PM
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Thank you, I read that link. It was most interesting. Hmm..mabye what I did was considered "dread game". I don't know. I do not think that dread game is a "silver bullet" and I do think it's a "last resort" after trying everything else. Ultimately it is necessary to sometimes leave a person because it just won't work. And sometimes when one decides to leave, must it be absolutely final? Or should the other person have a chance to right the wrong? I do agree with one thing on the link you gave fo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:20 PM
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One more thing, are you familiar with modern developments in therapy in last 10 years. I'm referring to EMDR and EFT. Those are extremely effective treatments to healing emotional trauma. My experiences with EMDR were incredible.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:10 PM
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Okay. I won't argue. But I will share something that I found interesting. I didn't know what loneliness was or felt like until recently. It wasn't until recently when my wife change. Yes, when my wife began to really love me passionately and well it's weird, she even compliments on my legs now and muscles and other physical features now. It's so weird since she never did that before that I can remember. And her thrill to spend time with me. I work at home and she used to never come to my office.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:09 PM
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Thank you for your support. There are some "blue pill" people here who make me feel sad. You made my day. I hope you're enjoying the blessing of red pill knowledge about men.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:00 PM
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I do regret the abuse in the past. But when people are calmly honest with one another about their feelings. Can we call that abuse? When my wife was honest with me that the loves me and enjoy to spend time with but just cannot feel "in love" kind of passion to desire me physically, is that abuse? Well it certainly is painful to husband to have wife who doesn't desire them any more. Many men on MarriedRP express this hurt, pain, anger, frustration and such. And that did hurt but I respect her hon…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 01:56 PM
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You skipped several steps in there where I got therapy and totally changed for few years of time being kind and different person. To where wife and I become close confidants and intimate friends where we both share all our more private secrets. Good and bad. All of that transpired before deciding that cannot remain with her as just "friends". and too many people think it was "manipulation" just because I didn't want to separate with her really. But the truth is that if she didn't become passiona…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 01:49 PM
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Thanks for sharing. There are lots of different kind of people and belief. All of us are weird in some way, I think.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 01:46 PM
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Yes obedience in marriage seems strange in the modern world. But "strangely" it works if the Captian isn't a tyrant but is kind and loving. In fact this reddit for red pill women advocates this but says it very gently as Captain and First Mate. But think about the authority of the Captain of a ship that is out to sea. The captain can remove the authority of anyone else, he can also order anyone on the ship locked up. He can refuse to accept any cargo and expel someone from the ship at port. Most…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 01:43 PM
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Thanks for sharing your opinion. It seems like this shows you have a lack of understanding of psychology of humans. Actually all humans change their emotional view of something when they are about to lose it. In fact, in sales there is term for this technique called a "take away" close. I used this when offering to purchase peoples homes and they were "on the fence" unsure about the deal. I simply got up from the table and they asked what are you doing, I said "clearly you are unsure and I prefe…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 01:31 PM
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All those young women knew me already from our social community since they were little girls and friends of our daughter. Each of them had Daddy issues like one who's father has depression and is always said, no fun. Another almost never spends time with his kids, he's a loner always in his room alone (like I used to be due to trauma as a child). Another had her father leave her when she was a baby and never met him till she was 16 and was dying of cancer. There is an avalanche of fatherlessness…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 01:10 AM
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It's important to add here is to clarify that this did start as a "ploy" a "game" or an "experiment" but since it totally worked, I decided that it must be a permanent understanding about marriage. How permanent? I mean that we discussed and I made it clear that if she goes asexual on me again and doesn't love me passionately, then I will again see that as she is not keeping her marriage vow to "love" me. She felt she did always love me. But I explained that love between man and wife is differen…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 07:54 PM
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I believe that all husbands and wives should drop the ridiculous idea that just because they are now married, then they can relax at winning over their mate. There is still competition from other men and women and there is still risk of losing our mate. So we have to keep up the efforts to be as attractive as we can--both man and women. That is important part of female sexual strategy.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 07:46 PM
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by the way, I don't think of it as a "game" to my wife. In fact, she thought is was a game after I explained to her. But I made it clear that I have come to realize that marriage is a deal struck with vows. If either party isn't keeping those vows then the other has a right to get out. For example, women divorce for lack of financial support, for incompatibility and so on. So I made it clear that she vowed to me to "love and obey" me. If she doesn't love me as a husband with passion then she isn…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 07:45 PM
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In other words, I partly gamed her but mostly was a training and teaching her red pill concepts to have better sexual strategy with me, her Captain.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 07:31 PM
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I don't know. I'm new here. There's lot of up votes and also comments. I believe that there is a female sexual strategy concept to learn or better grasp in all of this. It's the need for a wife or SO to truly swallow the red pill to be a First Mate and allow the Captain to truly be the Captain. That means he's in charge with the final decisions while she learns to influence his decisions by expressing her thoughts and particularly her feelings about them.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 07:28 PM
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Agreed completely. I realized and already posted somewhere else that it's better to just be sociable with other women. Conversations at weddings or other occasions but not pursuing specific friendship with regular meetings with or without wife present. And this way wife can see that other people enjoy her Captain. Like in my case people find me sweet, encouraging and very funny. My wife definitely enjoys and gets turned on by how much people loved me and she told me that she got a number of comp…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 07:25 PM
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They get married because they're every bit as beautiful and sexy as other women and they are very VERY into sex while they still want children. The disaster strikes when those women feel that they have enough kids. Then their attitude towards sex alters tragically.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 12:38 PM
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Honestly. all women love sex when the feel emotionally in love. But they are repressed about admitting it out loud, and repressed to talk about it. There are a number of religions that teach that sexual pleasure is very bad and immoral even between husband and wife. Some of those religions teach that sex from God is purely for the purpose of reproduction and using sex with condoms or any other kind of birth control so that it's only for the purpose of pleasure is a mortal sin. I didn't know abou…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 12:29 PM
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I used to fantasize about that girl often until my wife really got the hang of being sexy that way. Now that she is getting increasingly committed to "total" obedience (with huge influence on me, of course) I find myself every day fantasizing about my own wife!!! It seemed weird when it first started happening, to wake up with hot erotic thoughts about my own wife. But yikes, I cannot get her out of my head now. And it seems other women that I notice just don't "measure up" somehow and don't tur…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 12:17 PM
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Well, his mom begged her to plan the funeral. She did so which was hard on her. And during that time the father of her daughter visited to see his daughter. Then she used her new skills of respect to seduce him. At some point during that time she decided I will be a better father for her kids and worked on seducing me with professed obedience and will do anything I want. I stupidly fantasized with her on this. She was a hot hispanic girl. Very tempting to meet her but I was sharing detail with w…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 12:11 PM
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What is the goal of female sexual strategy? According to the introduction to RPW, it says that the goal of female sexual strategy is long term mutually exclusive relationship such as marriage. All women plan their wedding when they are little girls right? Well the #1 reason women lose their men after marriage is what? They lose their sexual desire. I read about some TRP men leaving their wives exactly for this reason, right? Of course, some, like me, figure out how to get the spark back. So if a…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 02:01 AM
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Yes. deeply self aware and deeply aware of the opposite sex too.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 01:49 AM
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Agreed. But is the risk really gone? In USA 50% end in divorce. So it seems couples need to consider strategies to keep the excitement alive. RP ideas can certainly help. Most men are totally clueless (like I was) of what really makes a woman want her man passionately. And most women are almost equally clueless. That is, they get the obvious about physical attraction but they think that the reason men leave their wives for younger women is because they are prettier and younger. Of course, that's…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 01:31 AM
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Thanks for sharing such detailed tips. And it's good you have success in LTR. But were you married? This thread is about keeping female sex drive alive during marriage which is seen as a huge challenge in many of TRP reddit posts or nearly impossible. We discussing that it is possible and ideas on how to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 10:47 PM
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Sad but true.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 09:25 PM
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That's true in most cases. But her her case he was such a wonderful guy before he split. They lived together and had fun and her little girl loved him like a Dad. she simply didn't understand why he split. I had a pretty good idea myself since he split immediately after she said she was pregnant with his child. To answer your concern about how that marriage could work out, I told her that he needs therapy before he can handle being a father. And she got him to speak with me. I share with him abo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 08:18 PM
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You go girl! And that makes you feel powerful too, doesn't it? Tee hee. Girl power is still power.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 08:07 PM
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It seems down votes might because I created more posts that others consider to be on virtually the same topic. I'll be more careful in future.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 06:11 PM
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Ahh, I see. I agree with "virtually" the same topic. Forgive me. I'll be more careful in future.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 05:58 PM
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Let me ask you this. At your job you realize that within limits you have to obey your boss, right? Is that D/S relationship? Nope. But don't you appreciate a boss who listens to your opinion and allows you to influence his or her decisions with your input? Of course you do. The reality is that marriage is very much like a ship or a vehicle can only have one driver at time. It can only result in shipwreck or a crash if 2 people fight over the steering of the ship or driving of a car. That's why t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 05:39 PM
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I want to add that sometimes when it's like this and wife is unhappy with my choice but tries to go along with it, it turns out that afterwards, she realizes that I was right and she's grateful I stuck to my opinion. In other words, women, in all their wisdom, aren't always right. And neither are men. When they balance the authority with the influence and work as a team they get the best results.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 05:32 PM
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Oh that is very good one!! Thanks for contributing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 05:29 PM
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Oh that sounds sweet. Of course some women love organizing and planning and appreciate her Captain allows her to do that. They need to be a great team together and draw on each others strengths.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 05:29 PM
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I'm sure only women will down vote this who still buy into the egalitarian relationship model with men.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 05:28 PM
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Cute. But no. I personally am not into that kind of kink.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 04:43 PM
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Yeah, I'm just home recovering from a cold. So it's been a bit fun. I normally won't have this much time on my hands. Also been trying work on my daughter's Prius that won't start. But it's been a waiting game for this or that. Looks like I can make progress today.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 03:49 PM
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Look, I'm ashamed about doing that with other women. And I can make excuses about being lonely and using it to learn about women and motivate my wife, but I must admit I'm not perfect. However, can you look on the bright said and realize that untold number of men my age actually go out and sleep with younger women? Cheating on their wives? So I pat myself on the back that I was careful to avoid that kind of temptation while still enjoying the company of younger women and with pure motives to bot…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 02:46 PM
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Personally, after discussion and comments here on reddit on my other posts. I've decided to avoid regularly seeing another woman even with my wife present. That is pushing it to far. Frankly 2 women that we did this with developed crushes on me. They never expected that and neither did I. I only found out from their fathers imploring me to avoid continuing. Their families are all close with our family. And I don't want to toy with young women's feelings or make my wife jealous. So from now on, I…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 02:35 PM
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Hey as long as we're being self-deprecating. There's no perfect men either! But I do find it fascinating that there are some core emotional instincts in men and women that when understood can make relationships way, WAY more enjoyable.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 02:28 PM
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That's so adorable. Thanks for sharing!! Men can be amazing when well cared for in the way that they need. Same is true for women, of course.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 02:26 PM
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Yes. Thanks for your patience. I'm learning reddit and just figured out how to make sure that I don't miss posts. Thank you for sharing such tender emotions. It's really beautiful and very well said. My wife and I are working on some good advice to give each other 4 compliments minimum per day. It takes some practice but it's really delicious fun. Now that she's in love, she eagerly agrees when I ask her for compliments during sex. Mmmm that's the best!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 02:23 PM
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I just now saw your post since there's so many. But you're is one of my favorites because I'm grateful that you challenge me. On the contrary to your assumption, I don't seek validation but advice and wise counsel. Actually, in full honesty my desire for friendships with other women and girls was driven by loneliness from not getting the affection and admiration that I needed from my wife. But that was NOT her fault. She was still hurting from years of my -- I'm very sad to say abuse. Even thoug…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 02:19 PM
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Also, I feel proud and more manly at being able to make it work with this woman rather than just "next" to another. For women the whole idea if "next" on to another woman is a very crushing blow. While I have learned to not allow myself to be controlled by a woman's emotions or overly fearful of hurting her feelings. I do think that it earns me many points with my wife, daughter, and women in general that I make a real effort and even succeed. Who can argue with success?
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 02:09 PM
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Your'e totally right. And I struggled with the decision to keep trying with her or "next" and find another woman. But the reality if you know our full story is that my former anger issues from my abusive childhood are what caused her passion for me to fade. I hurt her feelings a few too many times. Also, we have a 22 year old daughter who still lives with us and is a really good person. I know all too well from my youth how the example of parents can affect a child view of life and relationships…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 02:05 PM
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Thanks for asking. And yes I read all of that. That was very wise of you rather that jump to conclusions. Actually, I didn't give the details of what I did. In fact, I brought up the "D" word once months ago and that had the opposite effect of what I wanted. I had to back peddle on that and re-frame it to get her off that worry. So after reading the married RP stuff, I concocted a more gentle approach that left her options. Step 1. 1. I told her that I feel it will be wrong for me to ever sleep …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:52 PM
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Frankly I'm entranced erotically with just the fantasy of being single and meeting a girl that tells me that. I will be working out every possible way to figure out how to marry that girl FAST. I mean I will even slide on several of my "requirements" for a girl if she shows she is serious about obedience. In reality, if something ever happened to my wife, I will find a girl that fits my "requirements" like able to speak a foreign language, etc. And the before sex with her or marriage, teach her …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:39 PM
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Hmmm, I'm analyzing your question. This post is primarily about couples already in LTR. But are you wondering how to influence a guy to want you? That is a complex and separate subject in my mind. But I will say that if I were single then as a man I will get to know various different women to find which is best for LTR. And if you any time you have a conversation express respect with compliment and encouraging him to make decisions he will be drawn to you more than other women. Not in the first …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:36 PM
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Very lovely post. Thank you so much for sharing. It's really enjoyable, as a man, to read such feelings from a woman. Keep it up! And forgive me, what is AWALT?
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:28 PM
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Well I told my wife fully about what I did and why to get her reaction. She said she cannot understand why it worked but it did. She wants me physically now just as much as when engaged. So she's grateful. We were both after whatever works and it did.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:25 PM
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Well, this is scientifically tested and prescribed by a doctor. Laboratories extract bio identical progesterone hormone from yams. Look it up. It's a real scientific thing. I found out about it researching about my wife's fibroids. It turns out that progesterone is the best thing for balancing out the estrogen to reduce the fibroids. Of course, it's important to get hormones tested in a lab to verify that there is an estrogen/progesterone imbalance as the cause of the fibroids. It was after this…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:23 PM
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Why are my posts after this in reverse order? It seems to put the newest post at the top? Oh well, you better read from the bottom. I'm open if someone wants to teach me. I'll delete it all and do it right.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:19 PM
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So the way, my wife looks at it. And I asked her. She sees that those occasions when doesn't get her way are a "small price to pay" to get a very peaceful happy family without any arguing at all. What she doesn't say out loud to me is that she gets her way 90% of the time. Ladies admit if you can get your way 90% of the time without arguing then that will be a blessing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:18 PM
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Testing. Another important note is that sometimes, I cannot resist to ask my wife to do something that I know she hates to do. Now if she forgets herself and says, "No". It will aggravate me. But lately she remembered and said, "It's your decision but it will make me vomit. Is that what you want? I said, "Of course not. Let's forget it." The point is that some times men will test you and then when you show you will obey the Captain and go along in spite of your feelings to the contrary. He will …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:17 PM
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There is one point of caution to consider. Even though a large part of the time you can sway him to your opinion, the Captain will occasionally want to test you to see if you really recognize his authority. This is when it gets very very important to cooperate with him. He might stand his ground on some issue in spite of all your seductions and insist you do it his way. This won't usually happen very often but when it does, please ladies try hard to go along. It's okay to be sad and hurt, and if…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:14 PM
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A very important key to keeping your captain happy is recognizes and reminds the Captain that his authority covers everything about you. Everything. Every detail, what you wear, where you go, what you do, every thing. No exceptions. When you make this clear to your Captain and you prove it. You change him. This switches the man (unless he's a monster) into a emotionally and sexually cherishing with a blazing heat of passion. If you don't believe me, just sit down one day with your captain and sp…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:09 PM
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That was so sweet to explain how you influence. And even though I don't know you, just imagining any women behaving in such a way turned me on both emotionally and erotically. It's really heavenly when a woman acts in a way that she recognizes the man's authority but does her level best with feminine charm to change his mind. Mmmmm. That makes him want SO much to reward her by changing his mind so that she get encouraged to behave that way AGAIN in future!! Personally, I like coquettish and swee…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 12:46 PM
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Thanks for confirming my theory. In another post women were really negative about the jealousy angle. So it's clear that it's the enjoyment of her seeing others love and admire her Captain too.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 12:36 PM
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Okay. I'm sorry. I'm new here.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 12:34 PM
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Very well said! And yes, I didn't mean to even imply that I want to make all the decisions. But We're clear about decisions that need to be made as a team which means I have final say. But I assure you that our opinions aren't equal because my wife is hot and sexy and gets my penis thinking in her favor most os f the time. How? she recognizes my authority so she doesn't argue. When she cannot convince me using logic, she pleads with that cute little face which is often effective. Pleading is ver…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 12:33 PM
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Very true. I don't want my wife asking me about "every little thing". But how often do you remind him that he's in charge? That he is the Captain? Of course, if he's RP kind of guy then he knows it and stands up for himself as Captain (like I do and teach my wife -- gently- the importance of respect). But if not, then your man will LOVE it more than anything else you could ever do to remind him that he's in charge. And anything he wants you to do you will do. Women are afraid to say I'll "anythi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 12:27 PM
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That is so kind of you to say. I was a bit discouraged by one woman who seems negative about these ideas. I'm very encouraged that there are women who "get it".
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 12:23 PM
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You are right. I left the sad part of the story out. He was fine until a the baby was born. He was there in the hospital for the delivery and held the baby. Later that night, neighbors complained to the police for the noise in his hotel room. And they found him dead--suicide. Yes. You are right. But the moral of the story is that respect and obedience are the elixir to open up and man's heart. His very rapid reaction to her text saying "I respect you". And his urgency to move up the wedding date…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 12:22 PM
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I'm not seeking any approval, Littlewifey. Just sharing the success stories so that others can benefit.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 12:54 AM
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Oh we're doing fabulous. She has lot of passion for me now and I ask her why and she says she doesn't understand why but she's changed and finds me hot and sexy and loves sex with me and it really shows in her beaming happy face giving me pleasure.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 12:17 AM
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Actually I just created a new post realizing that it might not be about jealousy but more of the feeling good that her husband is desirable by other women. I feel good when guys give her attention, compliments or ask for her number. Makes her more desirable--doesn't make me jealous.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:30 PM
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By the way, I told all those things to that girl in that story above to convince her to say "I respect you" in her text message. Because she was like, "how can I respect him when he flaked on me, etc." but when she tried she found great reasons to respect him. She said he was really good with her daughter and she loved him like a father. She felt he will be amazing father to his own child. It's not hard if women compare their man to other men or to what it's like to single trying to find a good …
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:24 PM
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But men, let's grow up and clean up after ourselves too. That does make it easier for most women to feel respect that we're an adult.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:22 PM
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Oh my god that is very well said. You remind me that women in an LTR normally say, "You have to earn my respect". But if we're already in a LTR, what if I tell her, "You have to earn my love?" What if I say my love for her is conditional on whether dinner tastes good or if I like her dress. what if I was always saying, "How can I love you when you take so long to get dressed?" Love should not be dependent on a lot petty little conditions. The same is true of respect. A women must show a man resp…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:20 PM
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Frankly, I think men or women are turned on by someone else noticing or even flirting with our SO. It makes our SO seem more desirable. I love it when guys ask my wife for her number or such things. It feels very flattering to me. I think it's a combination of the flattering feeling that someone else likes your Captain that creates the increased sex drive. I'm going to create a new post with this idea.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:11 PM
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That's very good. Your Captain needs to learn how much is too much for you. Of course balance and moderation is always important in everything.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:09 PM
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Well if you feel passion for him and sex is great then he will be wise to avoid creating jealousy. But if you slack off and get bored with sex. Then how can you blame him noticing other women? And won't that perhaps wake up your sex drive again? Just saying.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:08 PM
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Well I see your point. My motivation was more for the mutual benefits of friendship. These young women often don't have good father relationships and LOVE a mature man's point of view that isn't after her with romantic intentions. More than one younger woman said I was like an uncle or second father. I would never do such a thing solely for the purpose of making my wife jealous. That will be childish for sure. Friendships are an important part of life. I do feel it's unwise for me to get too clo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:06 PM
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Well, becoming a red pill man and having self control with less neediness over sex and goals and plans like, in my case, learning to play the guitar, dressing better, getting physically fit. Of course, controlling anger and other negative emotions are also weakness in a man. Keeping "frame" and being a stable man is very attractive. I thought all of that will do it for my wife. But sometimes, for men also, the feeling of losing someone that we love can awaken passion. A little jealousy seems to …
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:02 PM
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She's financially dependent on me. And she believes in marriage and loves me very much and wanted to feel desire for me and tried--bless her heart--but she couldn't figure out herself how to get the spark back. But she's happy that my methods work. And she wants me to stop with the friendships with other women even if it's both of us. I'm just unsure. But I will give her some times and see if the passion continues without that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 09:00 PM
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Well even if you tend to agree a lot, telling him you trust home to make the decisions and consider your opinion will melt his heart so much and make you very sexy in his mind.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 08:28 PM
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You're welcome sweetie pie. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 08:27 PM
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I want to add a true story about a friend. She was engaged to marry a guy who flaked on her when she informed him she was pregnant. He left back to his home town. And didn't take her phone calls or respond to her texts except once a week or so. And even then he was quick to get off the phone. She begged me for any ideas what to do. I told her to simply text him saying "I respect you." and watch what happens. The next morning she told me that he called her 8 times but she didn't answer until gett…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 06:44 PM
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I want to add that this is largely how men get seduced by a different women and cheat on their wives by a clever woman offering to do whatever he wants. It's all about giving power. That's primarily why men visit prostitutes. If he pays her enough money then she will do whatever he wants, however ridiculous it might seem to his SO, and he gets to be king for the evening. Think about it. Men kill for power. Give him all the power and watch him eat out of your hands. ha ha
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 06:35 PM
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Well here's a little secret about men that most women don't understand. Any time that a woman who is attractive to a man says anything like "I trust you to decide" or "I'll do anything you want". This has a very different effect on men that it does on women. For men? It's very arousing. It's a huge sexual pleasure. Any time my wife tells me that it turns me on! Ever heard the expression, "He was thinking with his other head?" or "he was thinking with his penis?" That's where letting the one with…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 06:28 PM
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Also, lots of research seems to show that as women approach and enter menopause their sex drives can increase. My wife is now in menopause but I did lots of research and found before she started menopause that taking natural progesterone hormones (extracted from yam) counteracts the negative effects of menopause and prevents the onset of all those wrinkles. People constantly think that she is in her 30's and she never corrects them. But if, per chance, they meet our daughter and see she's an adu…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 06:00 PM
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I agree. That is true. Our daughter is 22 now. So she's well past that situation. And men at my age, 40ish which RP knowledge have lots of options with younger women. And it's very tempting to go after younger women and respond to their flirting. But I feel it's better to work on my wife's passion to show loyalty to her after so many years of being a great mother to our daughter. It's a shame that blue pill loyalty (like me) isn't very sexy for women. But that fact that I improved myself, my clo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:54 PM
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On the other hand, it seems women will always find some argument against it. Guess what argument I used to convince her to let us be friends with single women? She told me a story when she was single living with her Mom and 2 different married men helped them out and befriended them when they really needed assistance but their wives were negative about it. She told me she wished that they understood that she didn't have any intentions on their husbands but just needed their help and friendship. …
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:21 PM
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Good point. I'm actually pondering that if my wifey stays passionate then I continue to let the friendships with the opposite sex go. We don't have any at present. If a wife is passionate, then why tease her with jealousy unnecessarily? I see your point.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 05:19 PM
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Question: Are there any women who recognize this about themselves? Specifically, that a bit of competition from other women and a challenge to keep your man is essential to sex drive? And are there any women that actually come to appreciate that their Captain associates with other women but controls himself not to cheat or spend inappropriate time alone? My guess is that women always will resist that kind of competition and want to have their man all to herself without any friendships with other…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 04:26 PM
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Well please don't be annoyed at my impression that you are still a little bit thinking blue pill. Why? It's because I certainly do not want my First Mate to be some robot that does what I want without question. On the contrary, she is incredibly intelligent and I revel very much in consulting her especially in her areas of expertise. For example, any time that I want to invite someone over, I first tell her that I'm thinking of it and who I want to invite. And I know her and that she needs time …
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 03:14 PM
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That's a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing it and also how that made you feel inside and that it sticks with you a long time. I'll never forget the true story of the newly wed couple at the beach and they were attacked by a shark, the husband on pure instinct shoved her into the boat in time to save her but not in time to avoid getting eaten alive himself and he died. Women, by being feminine can tap into that protective instinct in men to get their way most of the time when they make it clear…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 03:03 PM
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By the way, radioactivities0, I think you hit on the reason that beginners think of women as "gatekeepers" of sex because of a deep need women have for men to take charge and initiate passion. But what if a guy intiatates a lot but intentionally doesn't close the deal. I think that switches the role of who is the gatekeeper. An anology would be someone who goes to see a salesman about buying a car, this puts the used car salesman in control, but when the buyer backs off and walks out of the plac…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 08:08 PM
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Kara, everything you say is true. Except 90% of time I initiate even when denying. In other words, I initiate and then back away at different stages of passion and give a "good" reason why it's not a good time. Occasionally, she'll initiate and I reward her with passion but maybe still back off and say let's continue later in the evening.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 08:00 PM
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Good point. My wife is the same. She loves the validation of me initiating. So when I deny her, it's always that I "initiate" by caressing or kissing her and feeling her breasts and bottom and legs and such things. Then after that, I say...hey "don't get the wrong idea" and walk away. When she chases after me. We kinda wrestle and I give some kind of reason why right now isn't good time for me. I tease her like that. Initiating and back away. A lot. Admit that is hot.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 07:56 PM
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That sounds totally accurate. Yes. I did have to do lot of self-improvement and lose some beta tendencies for her to begin to "enjoy" sex. This game was about taking from "routine" and more teasing playful. I'm astonished how my teasing and denying stoked her to invent her own ideas of how to drive me wild even stuff that I never thought of myself. It's clearly because is focused on making sure I cannot back out of sex before it's over. So that extra passion and motivation gets really amazing. B…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 07:31 PM
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Absolutely, still, aren't men drastically more attractive to women when they can consistently win the power play by showing greater ability to self control of themselves? It seems to be so. It seems a man is hot who can control his passions and doesn't "need" sex and not easily seduced since he appears more able to be trusted in an LTR. <-- a theory.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 06:38 PM
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Thank you, this is the best answer to my original question and it makes sense that it was an over simplification for beginners. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 06:33 PM
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Oh, it certainly is more than a "simple thing". My wife probably originally fell in love with me because I was kinda alpha but after marriage and LTR she saw me for the screwed up person from an abusive childhood and anger issues that I really was. Plus I realize now that I had "addiction" to sex as an escape from internal emotional trauma from childhood. But over last 4 years. I am committed to self-improvement on all levels, did therapy which helped, connected better with my emotions, solved a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 06:31 PM
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Interesting. I figured some women will "feel" differently about this. But I seem to find increasing evidence around the internet that this primal enjoyment of feeling "challenged" is the truth of female desire. It's common knowledge around RP men that on a first date if the guy insists that he won't have any sex with her. That often affects the girl to both feel zero "pressure" for sex and therefore, more relaxed, and finish often by working to seduce him herself and feeling very satisfied after…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 05:20 PM
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Personally, I find consoling myself helps alot. Specifically, just pretend like I'm another person and tell myself thoughts that reassure. "You can handle this." "It's not your first rodeo." "It will pass." "You're awesome." Even imagine hugging yourself. In short, you can counteract stress and other negative emotions with thinking positive thoughts and visualize happy situations.
/r/askTRP07/03/17 04:07 PM
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Jack, you said to research what happened. It's all due to changes in my "frame". Thanks, I'll keep the steady frame for sure. You're right. I'll adjust to it with some time.
/r/askTRP07/03/17 04:01 PM
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Actually, I suppose my question about how to deal with great sex is beyond the scope of the red pill. The red pill is all about how to get to the point of getting great sex. If someone has emotional trouble with the incredibly wonderful feelings that brings, then that's a different subject, right?
/r/askTRP07/03/17 01:44 PM
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Hmm it's not annoying at all. I LOVE love love it. I'm just not used to getting my wife after ME for sex every day and doing with zealous passionate desire. It makes me feel very loved in emotional ways that I'm just not used to and never got from anybody consistently before. I guess I should add that I used to have intimacy issues since I was abused as a child and I did find out how to heal from that and did, or so I thought. But this is really truly mind blowing emotional intimacy for me.
/r/askTRP07/03/17 01:37 PM
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Oh. it took me a bit to understand your two options. It's the latter, I been several years changing myself. I'm very red pill now. Her improved libido was gradual process and taking far too long for me. So I recently took drastic red pill measures. And it worked. So my question is now that I succeeded, how to handle it?
/r/askTRP07/03/17 12:05 PM
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Also, I'm posting on TRP subreddits to express these emotions. I'm reading the Bible more since great sex has increased my faith in God. ha ha ha ha ha ha Funny to me, but true.
/r/askTRP07/03/17 11:24 AM
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Another aspect to the story is that I picked up somewhere that women feel attracted more when you, as a man, have something that you're passionate about besides girls and sex. Over the last few years, I did that with several different things. One was making the perfect French Fries. I got fryers and learned about oils and fats and so on. Now, when we have guests people rave about my French Fries are the best that they ever ate anywhere. Well that kind of social validation gets my wife HOT for se…
/r/ThankTRP06/03/17 03:27 PM
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Another thing that I discovered online and used effectively on my wife. It's the proper red pill way to explain why I'm staying with her. When I was interested in all those girls, she regularly wanted to know why I stay with her with there's these other young women that like me. I assured her those girls only were interested in me as a friend. But my wife never bought that--she told me they were her competition. In the beginning I told her it was because I love her and in love with her, etc. and…
/r/ThankTRP06/03/17 01:45 PM
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Thanks for your thoughtful comment! Yes. you remind me that when I was making friends with other women, one of her arguments against it was "what if I want to make friends with other guys?" I encouraged her to do so because young single guys love to get to know how a older married woman feels and thinks about things. I reminded her when I was single that I had fiends who were married couples and mostly talked with the wives. I wasn't attracted to them since they were older but I really enjoyed t…
/r/ThankTRP06/03/17 01:33 PM
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Hmm I was just reading over at "TheRedPillWomen" about women. That was fascinating because one of the issues that I dealt with my wife a few years ago was her independent thinking. My wife's very religious and believes the Bible so I did research and used scriptures to convince her that God wants her to obey anything that I say. At first this greatly angered her both at me and at God. But after a while when she calmed down, I asked if she really believe God cares about her and wants her to be ha…
/r/ThankTRP06/03/17 01:13 PM
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In my case the red pill definitely helped my wife. It saved my marriage in a big way. Does the red pill always help women? I'm not sure. It depends on how someone uses the knowledge. Knowledge is power and with great power comes great responsibility. For example, I could easily have used my red pill knowledge to cheat on my wife with plenty of different girls. Maybe with that power of attraction , I did bareback sex and got a few of them pregnant, and got and STD and passed it to my wife before …
/r/ThankTRP06/03/17 12:38 AM
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Another thought as part of this progress was learning on TRP that I cannot expect my wife to love me if I'm vulnerable to her and tell her I feel weak, scared, or such things. Now I "spin" every situation, as all part of my "master plan". There is one vulnerability that I do share with her. I will mention how some girl flirted or notice a girl in short skirt and makes me want to go up and compliment. By the way, I did this for a while....just walk up to a hot woman in the grocery store and say, …
/r/ThankTRP05/03/17 08:05 PM
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Thanks for your interest. That makes is worth sharing!
/r/ThankTRP05/03/17 07:39 PM
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Well that's the overview of the whole story up to the moment. I explained most of this along the way to my daughter. She is deeply impressed that unlike many men I didn't abandon her or didn't give up, but worked on a real solution. My daughter is a big reason that I stuck it out. It's terrible some of the example parents give to kids--like my parents gave to me. My main concern now is to avoid getting "comfortable" and becoming blue pill again. That's part of the reason I'm posting here instead…
/r/ThankTRP05/03/17 07:36 PM
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Well, my education of women over those years from studying PUA stuff and red pill stuff is that their sexual attraction is powered by strong emotions a.k.a the hamster. I felt that I need to give her strong enough emotions to over power the years of difficult marriage life. It took some thought and planning to come up with a REAL plan that I can really carry out and not an idle threat. I tried the "d" word once (divorce) during this planning stage --only bringing it up lightly -- and that had th…
/r/ThankTRP05/03/17 07:20 PM
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Hey, thank YOU for the up votes! And thank you for reading. I cannot help but want to share the joy.
/r/ThankTRP05/03/17 05:49 PM
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Well. being raised by a violent raging father, I first had to heal from the inner anger and emotions from that. And, someone told me about Faster EFT and so I studied those videos on YouTube and got good at healing my painful memories and such and become more emotionally stable and better able to have conversations with my wife or daughter without losing my temper. A older friend of mine in his 70's suggested that I build friendships with single women along with my wife as a way to get a better …
/r/ThankTRP05/03/17 05:13 PM
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