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Well instead of waiting for weeks you could have cleaned it… she was waiting for you to do all of this. You played right into her
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/21 03:47 PM
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No.. it baffles me the kinds of questions asked here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:03 PM
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“all women are like that”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:07 AM
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are you RP? How would you describe it if so?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:59 PM
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Interesting. I have heard many many many men use negging as “treat her like shit so she feels like she’ll never have any options” like that’s so sad wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:57 PM
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the control on womens sexuality is due to religion more than society but then again, religion controls society
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:55 PM
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From my perspective of RP is directly from how men behave on this sub who claim themselves as RP. It’s very hateful and misogynistic. -obsessed with chad -“watch what women do not what they say” ?? -AWALT -women should be forced to have sex. no questions asked. -hypergamy -80/20 -“she’s not yours it’s just your turn” ?? -it is always everyone else’s fault- not theirs. I also feel like RP men are able to manipulate certain types of women that reinforces their negative view on women. It’s like the…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:47 PM
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Why don’t you want to take the chance and open your perspective? Were you a women in the 1950s? Who brought up feminism? How much do you trust self reporting data when it’s in your favor? I can send you the link. Read it if you want, it’s highly informational.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:44 PM
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that is actually so interesting. wow
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:26 PM
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my mistake. my understanding of RP is a set of rules and ploys almost that are too be followed for “success” there is little room for gray area you act really different that what i thought was a “RP man”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:13 PM
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When marital rape was legal and women couldn’t open a bank account? Why would you want that? I can send you a PDF link to a textbook I used in my interpersonal relationships psychology class in college. It literally talks about this phenomenon quite a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:51 PM
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the solution is not bring back 1950s america though? Like why does that have to be it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:55 PM
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what’s up with RP being so fucking different to every guy? there are RP men on this thread who claim the exact opposite as you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:19 PM
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?? She never said you hate women. She asked why would you follow someone who openly hates women. Wtf kind of response is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:18 PM
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“happy wife happy life” is some jaded statement people in their 40s use because for some reason everyone in their 40s never learned how to properly communicate rather followed stereotypes that are hurtful to both people. I do not know a single person (in 20s) that would use that statement seriously as it perpetuates the spineless yes husband and nagging childish wife
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:15 PM
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you can do all of that without having to frame things in that context? all my friends including myself are in healthy LTRs. Also remember the fact that MANY people come from what appears to be a “tight knit” family home but it’s extremely dysfunctional and destructive and those children who grew up in that home know have distorted views on relationship dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:12 PM
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why do you think non verbal communication doesn’t exist? if anything, that’s really what gives them away.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:09 PM
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men have said on this thread actual HVM RP men seek LTRs
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:05 PM
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I would love to know what kind of relationship she had with her parents growing up
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:04 PM
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they reveal themselves very quickly all the time. just not with words.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:02 PM
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hey have you ever been wrong before?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 06:58 PM
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actual “HVM” in real life how no fucking clue what this kind of stupid jargon is. they are just dudes boppin around in life having fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 06:57 PM
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not threatened but probably realize she won’t tolerate any of the bullshit RP makes men do to women in terms of emotionally manipulation so they just choose to go for a girl who isn’t as ambitious and has really low self esteem
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 06:53 PM
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lol absolutely not. my vagina would clamp shut
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:02 AM
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Extreme security, companionship, lots of laughs and lots of sex. Oh and I guess having someone scoop the litter box every other day than you is a plus. And splitting the rent!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:24 AM
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Oh i definitely believe you these people exist. But there’s a difference between acknowledging someone’s toxic behavior and starting a relationship. with them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:38 PM
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Women who are just generally unstable- probably.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/21 11:30 PM
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I remember being 18 and thinking I knew so much. Now i’m 23 and i’m like what’s going on lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:24 PM
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Oh I promise you can. RP men literally out themselves in social situations because of their behavior. You can read them like a baby book.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:20 PM
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Okay i seriously have to feel like sometimes RP men chase after horrible women. When I hear men describe women I’m just so WTF because i have never met someone who would do such things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:18 PM
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it’s so fucking cringe. i feel bad for them and i hope people who are deep into TRP learn better coping mechanisms for their feelings and anger
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:10 PM
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that’s called religion
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:06 PM
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Now. I’m 23 in an LTR and have sex daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 09:08 PM
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sadly i think when a lot of men finally have an opportunity they think with their dick and not their brain
/r/ExRedPill05/11/21 03:32 PM
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I have always said that RP are the way they are towards women because the one they actually chased after had a fucking personality disorder and now the guy thinks all women are like that. No my guy you literally just pick one crazy bitch after another. Constantly repeating the same dynamic without learning you’re selecting bad people. That just reinforces the AWALT nature of RP.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/21 03:31 PM
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misery loves company
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:16 AM
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oh how i wish it were common sense to everyone. yeah i mean people don’t expect others to be perfect but there’s a difference between “i’m mildly OCD” and “i have narcissistic tendencies i have not addressed”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 09:30 PM
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there is already a term for this: precarious masculinity
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 09:25 PM
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it just means that when someone has a ton of baggage that should be addressed and handled before a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 09:08 PM
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When I was in college I knew many people including myself getting STD test and the results literally came back within a couple days if not literally the next day. Even bloodwork it would come back within a week. That’s why I asked what test.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:37 PM
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What test takes 2 months? I am extremely confused by your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:26 PM
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this. the best relationships take a lot of work to maintain and people who have hella shit to work on themselves shoot themselves in the foot thinking that a relationship will make things better. It really draws back to “you need to learn how to love yourself before you can love someone else” and the type of relationships that everyone watched on disney growing up is actually quite the opposite IRL
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:22 PM
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google attachment style theory and you will find out why people are damaged and why they bring their damage into a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:20 PM
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I have a psych degree and IMO the answer to every single bad relationship dynamic is attachment style. I see it everywhere. In any “bad” or “unhealthy” relationship it ALL rounds back to attachment style theory. It’s what makes people the way they are and why they are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:18 PM
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it’s like I can almost picture all of us working from home debating with strangers on reddit about modern dating dynamics lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:13 PM
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this reminds me of my coworker who went to GWC and told me that no one would party or drink because everyone is trying to be a politician and they essentially had to be perfect all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:11 PM
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you can have an oopsie baby or get an STD even if all the stars aligned and you waited to have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:10 PM
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I mean in the case of demisexual people i’m pretty sure they have to have a safe emotional connection before having sex. I think it really varies from person to person because of their morals and values. It can’t be AWALT AMALT
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:08 PM
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I always think when I’m debating on this sub there s a full chance I’m arguing with someone who is as old as my own dad and that they have been married for x years and i’m just like… what are you even doing? Like dating is even remotely the same as it was 10 years ago? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 03:18 PM
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i hope to god i’m still getting down with it when i’m 75
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:51 PM
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why would you do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:12 PM
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lol they waved those red flags. good thing you saw them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:12 PM
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lol the divorce rate is so high because people play disney and thousands a of couples who have outstanding incompatibles STILL get married for god knows why. people get married all the time who are sexually incompatible. People are too quick to think that like love is enough or some shit in a marriage. People do not take marriage seriously and divorce is no longer taboo and so therefore divorce rates are the way they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:08 PM
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I have never been asked. My LTR and I started as FWBs so we knew we were both in the casual sex scene. I’m pretty sure it’s a “i would rather not know the details” type thing that goes both ways bc who tf cares
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:01 PM
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As a women I doubt men would open slut shame in front of me but more of a “locker room” talk convo. So yes I have never really seen it in front of my face but Im sure it happens. Most women I know who slut shame are conservative or like FDS where they absolutely hate liberal feminism and such. Through college I have really only ever seen slut shaming in online communities such as this
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 07:33 PM
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I had the implant for a long time. Worked incredible the first time around and when I got the new implant because the last had expired my life went to shit- well emotionally. I just felt like super depressed and also extreme rage and i was just like why? Why. It felt like I was walking through fog for a long time. I went back to my gyno and actually had to get bloodwork done and found out some other issues it was causing. I got it taken out and now am on birth control pills which are good for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 03:24 PM
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tldr; men aren’t in control anymore and they do not like!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:18 PM
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I started my currently relationship as a FWB but i always could tell he was way more into me in the beginning when i specifically stated i was not looking for a relationship. Eventually we just seeing each other like every night for sex and then one weekend instead of going home in the morning i stayed and we hung out all sunday. This happened a few more times before we just started to hang out in the day and do more “couple” type things. After like 4-5 months of this, we became exclusive and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 10:33 PM
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this year my partner and I were mr and ms claus and it was a hit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 01:54 PM
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my boyfriend is already my physical type but what really gets me going is when he is able to capture a crowd at a party and talk about his life freely and not worry if anyone gives af
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 01:52 PM
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lol, not at all
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 01:46 PM
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My boyfriend and I both struggle with anxiety and there are times we do lean on each other because you should seek comfort in your partner in relationships. However we both know at the end of the day it is up to the individual to manage and guide themselves through their own fogs- whatever that may take. Mental illness becomes a red flag when you bring it in and let it become a driving factor in a relationship. It should never be that. Your mental illness shouldn’t be an excuse to being a shitty…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:39 PM
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i have a similar story. talked to SO for about a week before our first date, slept together and the rest is history bc we were kind of just “whatever- let’s just do what we like” and didn’t care!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:46 PM
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true- but those first few years your relationship with your primary care giver basically shapes who you are as a person
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:49 PM
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i definitely think that I almost “trained” my ex and it had a lot to do with putting up with shit, explaining why certain things aren’t okay, and not having really my own personal boundaries. after that relationship, felt like i knew more of who i wanted as a partner, and now am super happy in a relationship where i don’t feel like i need to do anything “training” and i joke it’s because he’s probably been “trained” by another girl in the past! lol this probably does happen to a lot of people bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:41 PM
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I’m actually fairly surprised at the amount of men who would rather date the escort.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:18 PM
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it’s the same if you were to show us a post from TRP making fun of a women who just turned 30 it’s an endless echo chamber of hate regurgitating the same 5 lines
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:11 PM
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what??? this is so weird. why would i care about anything in his past that’s not red flag behavior (ex cheating) why would i worry that some rando i don’t even know did something “better than me”?? it’s in the past for a reason. this is the most confusing statement i have ever read on this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 09:44 PM
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why the fuck did i have to scroll so far for this answer. i couldn’t care less about the amount of people he has slept with but more of like why did his last relationship end? how many relationships has he had? what’s his relationship to his parents? is he friends with his exs? all of these questions are FAR more important than how many people he has slept with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 09:39 PM
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No. I mean if you had an N of like 1000 at 30 i would be like damn, but other than that no idgaf i care so so much more about other traits and characteristics other than the people he’s fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 09:32 PM
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didn’t answer the question
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 09:24 PM
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more touching, sitting closer, talking while our faces our closer together etc most men i can just kind of give them a look? if that makes sense. I can read their response as well. non verbal cues are really it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 09:04 PM
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sorry i misread your post thinking you were in that situation currently instead of hypothetical
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:34 PM
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This suits better in a marriage sub
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:22 PM
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i know but what i’m saying is that it can be applied to just people in general it is not gendered specifically
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:21 PM
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do you ever think you’re wrong? do you ever think you could be the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:34 PM
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well, i would say that both genders do that as well. lie to get things they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:33 PM
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the cycle of abusive relationships are not gender specific. there are a lot of men who have some kind of savior complex and think they can help her but in reality he’s repeating the same dynamic just with different broken women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 05:02 PM
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lol i love when we flip it around on men and they now are like “well actually everyone does this so”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 05:00 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 03:21 PM
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my boyfriend does this and i really think it’s so sweet and if anything i’m just impressed and love that we can share an absolute raw moment as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 03:20 PM
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crying is completely okay. but i think it’s when you watch your partner wallowing away and try so hard to help them but it gets to a point you can’t help someone who doesn’t help themselves. i’ve seen my friends complain about their boyfriends “emotions” but it’s in the scenario where they are like “i’ll never be x so why even try” and it’s hard to be with someone who is stuck in the loop no matter what you do
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:12 PM
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Literally comfort the shit out of them. No doubt or question about it! I love him to pieces and could never see him in pain and TURN AWAY However if he is just purely not communicating with me and having like a little tantrum than he can come to me when he’s calmed down and ready to talk about it like an adult. girls who are turned off by men who cry are a) shitty people b) the boyfriend is constantly emotionally dumping and girlfriend doesn’t want to play therapist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:02 PM
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the only thing i have to say about this is that there’s a lot of men over on r/divorce who admit to not being emotionally available for years to their wives and ultimately that was the reason for their divorce your example is a tale as old as time. another example is like a girl with a guy who’s pushing to get married and he says he’s not ready for marriage and so she breaks up with him only to see he is quickly engaged to his new girlfriend. people choose different people all the time for all d…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 03:22 AM
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Textbook gaslighting
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/21 08:14 PM
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It’s literally just same old same old hustle culture on twitter. the whole like rise and grind mentality or like if you aren’t a billionaire by 30 you’re a piece of shit narrative. nothing new
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 07:57 PM
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personally all the guys i’ve hooked up with i cannot like distinguish their dicks. like it was literally just a penis to me. the memory is fuzzy and hazy and the only penis that comes to mind is my partners because i see it daily. there is much more to sex than just PIV
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 07:38 PM
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Wait but what are all those guys who travel to asian to get a wife gonna do
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 06:30 PM
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How far are we into this? Have we just been sitting on the couch or are we making out and feeling each other up? At that point I would want to have sex. I would respect the other guy not wanting sex. But then i would just be like ????? probably
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 05:48 PM
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too bad there’s so many guys here who are deep into sunk cost fallacy so they don’t even bother to try
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 06:10 PM
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maybe, i certainly can’t pay out $350k at once haha it’s less about absorbing the cost and more about like just not wanting kids but personally a big factor into not having kids is the time and expense.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:44 PM
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It’s hard to have a discussion when you have already come up with a conclusion yourself in your own head that you will defend to the max.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/21 05:38 PM
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how can you not? children are so so expensive. all of a sudden the money you could save and invest or literally do whatever the hell you want now most money has to go to children and all their life endeavors
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:34 PM
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well i’m not having any kids so lol “on the fence” = on the fence of having children or not
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:30 PM
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i don’t think people are underestimating but that’s probably because i live in a major city and most of my friends (myself included) don’t plan on having children however my hometown that’s like very suburban ish many many girls from my HS who stayed- do have children now
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:30 PM
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because having a kid is dishing out like a quarter of a million and when you’re already on the fence that’s kind of like the final nail in the coffin
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:28 PM
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You just have a secure attachment style and are probably highly satisfied in your relationship, this you put on these “blinders” where you actively choose your partner every day versus wondering what else is out there. Good for you, many many men on this sub unfortunately could not relate. Your ex sounds like she definitely has issues and a insecure attachment style which is a host for alllll types of problems!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:29 PM
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Have you seen couples out IRL?
/r/ExRedPill25/10/21 02:25 PM
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the amount of importance people on reddit put on HIGH SCHOOL is always so amusing to me. Literally when i think of HS it was just a pure four years of “???” like it is so much a minuscule part of life HS literally means nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:02 PM
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yeah but i feel like actual lonely people don’t even try to change that. They enjoy being lonely and wallowing away in their online communities instead of actually taking steps to improving themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:00 PM
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sunk cost “it’s useless so why even try”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 01:58 PM
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true, i was kind of shocked to see how many older (like literally my parents age) people are on this sub and the craziness they spew. I was once debating with someone then i realized it was like debating my own dad. So weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 01:55 PM
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People who didn’t leave their hometown for college- those girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 01:09 PM
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I don’t know any personally
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:07 AM
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If you live in a big city on either coast no it’s not weird
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:05 PM
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there is a line between agreeable and then theres doormat and most men confuse the line very very much
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 03:16 PM
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lobbyist are definitely not working for feminist 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 02:49 AM
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In the modern day, it seems less to do with feminism and more like childcare is so extremely expensive it’s better to just one parent stay at home instead of paying the cost of childcare. In real life, i do not see this as “i’ve always wanted to be a stay at home parent” it’s “holy shit it’s thousand of dollars of daycare i’ll just stay and take care of the kids”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 02:48 AM
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I’m not giving advice. I’m speaking of my personal experiences and you just seem to really hate it because it blatantly contradicts your own experience and there’s nothing much else I also have a degree in psychology and took many many classes in human sexuality and interpersonal relationships. So i’m good.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:35 PM
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dude- again- i was never giving advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:44 PM
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you are clearly projecting. I just called you out for it. you do know reality is different for different people, like obviously my reality is not the same as Bezos. So ours seem fairly different. i was also never even giving advice lol just speaking from my life i’m sorry your wife had lots of shitty sex in her younger years before you and now doesn’t want to have sex with you and has an overall distorted look on sex. She probably had no boundaries and had no idea how to communicate her needs an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:31 PM
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please stop projecting your deadbedroom issues onto me. not every experience is universal. people can feel differently about the same thing and both people are still valid. it is the reality for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:19 PM
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what the hell man. i don’t know how you took my comment and turned it so hateful? I literally never said any of that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:12 PM
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Insecure attachment style
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:10 PM
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demisexual maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:07 PM
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personally, being single and horny is like scratching an itch. It’s purely physical. having sex with someone you love is different and it IS better!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:06 PM
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You think it’s dumb BECAUSE you live in a fairytale. You just straight refuse and deny.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:23 AM
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You are ridiculous! Do you hear yourself? I’m going to DM you the textbook. Read it or not. Educate yourself, or not! Thank you for giving my partner and I a good laugh before bed. Keep hiding in the dark babe. See where that gets ya. i’ve told you my opinion many times; you live in fairytale world. that’s so sad. open your eyes to reality. read the book.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:19 AM
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Guys mistake being nice with being a doormat
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:17 AM
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lol what? Why don’t you want the actual answer from the actual researchers? Scared of the truth?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:16 AM
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I dont want to because that’s a fucking long answer. However I CAN dm you the entire pdf and it’s filled with credible studies and explanations to probably so many questions you have. And I can tell you now it’s very much the opposite of what you think. Also, I’ve seen other users explain to you many time answers to your questions and it is literally like talking to a wall- and the fact that you even ASK why sexual compatibility is important question says so much about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:12 AM
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your entire profile screams fairy tale. I have absolutely nothing to say besides i strongly encourage you to learn more about the mechanics of a relationship and what interpersonal relationships truly are. From your perspective- it seriously sounds like it would save you a lot of hurt and grief. Your entire perception of what love and relationships are is heavily distorted from Disney. starting off with things like love is unconditional and that you don’t need compatibility to love. how do you n…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:03 AM
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oh honey i’m not. you live in an absolute fairytale. are you in college? I really encourage you to take a class on interpersonal relationships. It should shatter your entire reality pretty quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 03:54 AM
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oh my god- how old are you? 15?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 03:05 AM
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then only have sex with one person then what the fuck? oh, and it is because you don’t want your loved one experiencing intimacy with anyone else because it’s insecurity- btw :) it’s not a problem to be insecure. it’s valid. but it IS insecurity STOP PLAYING DISNEY
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:53 AM
1

why would a women seek it in a man when she can easily do it herself
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:02 PM
2

not really. it’s more like womens lives don’t depend on mens paycheck anymore so we can now do whatever we want. men just don’t like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:02 PM
1

please stop making it a gendered thing. there’s many women who are just as horny or even more hornier than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 10:33 PM
4

it’s because it makes you a comparison and being a comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 09:23 PM
1

bpd?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 09:21 PM
8

I am so glad this is the top comment
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 07:32 PM
2

Do you have a personality that doesn’t have to do with the gym? No? Ok- gym rat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 06:15 PM
4

not even nail polish? wow
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 06:11 PM
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No i live in a huge east coast city in the US so it honestly still makes sense hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:17 PM
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if you visit r/niceguys you will see how many men use “i hope you get raped bitch” in terms of rejection. Also has happened to me in real life when i said not interested!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 06:37 PM
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My boyfriend is literally incredible. Seriously he is the best. What I don’t like is being harassed in the streets or being publicly told I should be raped because I’m not interested. Like sir? We are in a grocery store.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 06:35 PM
8

please go to therapy
/r/ExRedPill19/10/21 06:22 PM
13

you sound so weird
/r/ExRedPill19/10/21 06:03 PM
4

You just seem jealous that you want to have sex and can’t. I would take your issues to therapy as they are all inward. You seriously think people who have sex want to be envied?
/r/ExRedPill19/10/21 06:03 PM
-1

the amount of men I know who have straight up rolled out of bed for a first date and then wonder why the girl seemed uninterested.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 10:52 PM
0

I guess all of that is easier than saying “you are really ugly and your personality, pessimism and just overall bad attitude makes you 10x uglier”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 10:50 PM
1

I have always had them i have never not wanted to talk to strangers adulthood made me realize that i really need to be aware if im making someone else uncomfortable- like i do not need to dominate this conversation even if i have and want to say so many more things-it would just be too much lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 10:14 PM
4

Yes. People have types. some girls want a k pop star and some girls want a muscular bald dude
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:12 PM
3

my best friend is a lesbian and no straight people could not handle the realness that is LGBTQ+ dating
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:26 PM
1

Um yeah that’s how it works too. That is already happening constantly. And has been happening since forever
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 01:28 PM
3

she needs mental help
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/21 02:10 AM
1

you both are saying the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:40 PM
1

people are very unhappy you’re saying attractive people can be creepy! it going against the wiring of their brains
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:40 PM
1

that’s not “nice” . “nice guys” are guys who like give you one compliment and then say i hope you get raped when you don’t feel like taking things further
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:39 PM
1

i mean if you are going to say the same things in person over texts how much is it really that different
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:38 PM
1

I actually have read a post directly from TRP sub about a guy who essentially hated a “chad” in his dorm hall but after he “became an alpha” he actually had lunch with the chad years later to find out he’s genuinely such a nice person and was just simply living. He had very positive reflections on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:36 PM
2

ahh yes. ex sorority gal here. friends 100% often showed the bartender their tits for shots
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:34 PM
0

I am so glad some men actually use logic on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:30 PM
1

Surprise! People treat attractive people better! How is that not common sense to people?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:29 PM
3

Thank you holy fucking shit so many comments about how people think women are trash for treating attractive people better like DUH everyone does that!!! Of course I would rather talk to a male model than someone else!! WTF
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:28 PM
2

nooo kourtney is the best one!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 01:06 PM
4

different people want and do different things
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:23 PM
1

interesting.. i haven’t seen that in my own life. and i work at a tech company lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:21 PM
2

i mean, only if she decides to have children
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:20 PM
1

how old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:31 PM
1

i think your unforgiving diet statement is a bit of a reach. Also genetics play a really large role in this as well
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:25 PM
6

i just explained the cycle of why some people may fall into abusive relationships again and again
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:11 PM
7

Okay honestly, most people who fall into abusive relationships already grew up in somewhat abusive homes. They are literally like “well, at least xyz isn’t happening to me anymore” as they escape into their next abusive relationship. People who don’t see this and try to work on it often have really really low self esteem that has transcended down from childhood to adulthood. They find “familiarity” which translates to comfort for them in these really toxic relationships. They mimic dynamics from…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:01 PM
3

that literally sounds like someone who would score high on an area like neuroticism than a gender thing. automatically putting your guard up and having to “critically examine” during your first impression is not a gendered thing. that’s just someone being stressed easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:57 PM
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tone of voice, body language, area of conversation, even weather are all particular factors outside of the actual dialogue that i think no one talks about because they’re too busy thinking about what to actually say. but if you do speak and all those other things are off, you probably still look creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:54 PM
-2

How is this not common sense it just proves to me every day, that some men on this sub literally just need to step outside
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:51 PM
1

why does she say you are a bad spouse?
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/21 03:58 AM
3

They learn who not to date and who not to sleep with
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:47 AM
2

sure.. I can order coffee from a stranger and make small talk. I had to learn in the height of my anger and frustrations how to communicate how i was feeling without becoming defensive or shutting down. My partner and I learned that certain ways were dealing with issues was not the most productive way. Communication in relationship conflict is not simple as humans have brains and we talk to each other
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:14 PM
4

sure there’s no trend, that’s why it’s called walk away spouse instead of walk away wife syndrome /s but true, both genders can be at fault in any dynamic
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 09:46 PM
5

😂😂 sure buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 09:45 PM
10

It’s not gendered- as either person can do this. There is just a trend with husbands. But you are completely right- that’s honestly what happens. People don’t change if they don’t see anything wrong with their behavior in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 06:18 PM
1

I just don’t think mother would be happy if her baby boy brought home someone who dresses like she works the corner. Leave the freaky shit for the bedroom but put on a cute dress and impress the parents!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:36 PM
2

Exactly! Good for you both!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:33 PM
3

It’s definitely an issue couples get married with outstanding incompatibles. People do get married hoping the other person will just magically change- it routes back to naivety and believing in nonsense. You see it ALL the time. One person thinks “if i just loved them more, if i was better at this, if i could do that..then maybe they’ll come around” but in reality it’s like impossible to change someone who doesn’t see anything wrong with themselves to begin with. Or if something isn’t there, it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:24 PM
4

Expecting someone to “change” is often not the case. It’s literally things house work disagreements and parenting styles. It’s the “please stop leaving your socks on the ground” and not ever actually doing it. It’s more like expecting someone just to be an adult and partner. Couples choose each other based on certain compatibilities (most cases) but getting tired of cleaning up after someone or asking someone to get a job is not asking someone to change who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:20 PM
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Yepp. Proper communication takes skill and practice. People need to learn how to clearly articulate themselves and in turn actively listen to their partner. It truly takes work and patience, and when you married someone out of desperation or only kind of liked them before the wedding- of course you’re in a shit show. Of course, a person can just refuse to take accountability. At that point there’s not really any going back.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:56 PM
4

The magic number is actually 47. If you make it past then, you’ve actually done a lot better than many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:11 PM
3

yes.. it is insane the amount of people who lack self awareness and refuse to believe they may contribute or be the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:42 PM
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No, it’s because they don’t change anything when told. It’s literally the wife exasperating herself telling her husband the same thing for years. She finally realizes her husband won’t ever actually listen to her, initiates divorce. Cue shocked husband. edit- wife divorces husband because of dishes left by the sink
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:39 PM
2

I have had ultra insane sex. I’m still with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:19 PM
2

why did you do that
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/21 02:24 PM
25

A lot of men often times have no idea really why they got a divorce. This is where the whole walk away wife syndrome comes from.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:09 PM
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the divorce rate is so high because so many people get married who barely tolerate each other but feel like they need to follow society’s script so they get married anyways. People are too easy to believe things like “love is enough” or “attraction isn’t a top priority” or hoping that it will come later, or even worse that things “just fall into place” it’s actually really impractical especially for american culture to put so much emphasis on passion and love in relationships, like your partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:03 PM
5

Thank god people will leave me the fuck alone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 08:00 PM
1

extremely false! some women see a salesman and his flashy car he drives to see clients and that’s literally it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:45 PM
0

this is so true. as long as a man is eating good food and having sex he wants there’s like nothing he would change about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:44 PM
10

or just society needs a whole needs to stop with the disney narrative. i never have even heard of people valuing personality FIRST until i got on reddit. like yes personality matters, after you pass the looks threshold
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:43 PM
2

this is a very valid point i see.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:42 PM
7

um? why would you even want to be with someone you don’t find attractive? anyone who does this outside the sense of arranged marriages are just desperate people with low self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:20 PM
3

look better=feel better=attract better
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:19 PM
3

if they are choosing between someone with a degree and one without, they will 100% choose the degree. Every time. Given similar resumes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:17 PM
3

I think one thing EVERYONE on this sub can agree on the importance of looks and how much it matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:16 PM
2

I know a few girls that are into ONS, but a lot more girls into casual/FWBs that half the time end up exclusive. I just graduated college so it’s really like people are together or they are just dating around, I don’t really know anyone who is having casual sex now. Most of my friends are in LTRs I knew one girl who was like absolutely insane and did cheat, she had borderline personality disorder and did not seek treatment. Holy shit was it insane watching her. It was literally like tornado with…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 01:32 AM
4

my uncle is a doctor who played college basketball so idk why kind of answer you’re looking for here
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:13 PM
9

not really, he chose to be in a relationship with her lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:12 PM
10

What was the girl supposed to do? Not date anyone ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:10 PM
4

i can’t believe so many others are baffled by this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:30 PM
1

idk man, even when i was out there having causal flings men really cared about my orgasm. i even had a guy eat me out after he finished because he was like “sex is not over yet” and my now boyfriend makes sure everything is good with me before he goes for his. thank god men like them exist. i even have male friends who have discussed with me they feel like they need to at least go down on the girl first if they are about to bang her
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:27 PM
3

I am honestly shocked at the responses. I thought a group of men who care about sex sooooo much would be slightly interested in taking care of their partner. jfc..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:24 PM
1

I don’t understand. Why can’t you use your hands or tongue post ejaculation?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:20 PM
1

if that were true, deadbedrooms sub wouldn’t exist. also, those people don’t effect you, you have free will to make your own choices
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:09 PM
2

I have only ever seen it online. I have never seen it IRL as a woman. Bitches do be crazy online
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:54 PM
1

what? how is that a question?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:52 PM
2

thank you!!! this is the best response.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:44 PM
1

well it’s probably because you guys think it’s weird to openly talk about your sex lives. that’s totally okay!! but also people who talk openly about sex to their friends aren’t abnormal either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:39 PM
1

I think men have a hard time believing a lot of individual women have individual preferences of men. For instance, you could be a buff tall blonde.. but if you don’t have brown hair or a beard or hair all over your body I WILL pass on you. And some other girl is repulsed by body hair and loves blonde hair. I just don’t think there’s this general attraction men think there is. Just my perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:36 PM
2

No I wouldn’t. I’m fairly liberal and so is my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:44 PM
1

dude. fuck yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:10 PM
1

this is true. i know a lot of girls who are just plain clueless.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:17 AM
5

jesus. why do people stay with these bare minimum qualities in relationships..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:14 AM
3

Never had sex I didn’t want. I do recognize though how common this is for a lot of young women and I really feel for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:12 AM
1

ohhh. Yeah, makes much more sense now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:26 PM
1

I think we agree much more than it appears. I agree with what you are saying, if someone is having a string of bad relationships.. they definitely need to look inward before anything else. Again, happens to everyone. I do wish you would have answered my question, genuine curiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:24 PM
1

are people not allowed to cry if they are upset? you are describing a very stereotypical trope of a woman. in my experience, girls who do this have very poor self esteem and need to get themselves into therapy. having bad relationship after the next, there’s deeper issues to address. Again, you can say the same thing for men who stay and get into relationships with women who literally abuse them. Low self esteem. did you have a terrible experience with a crazy women and now your entire general i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:18 PM
1

I really like this explanation. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:14 PM
1

😂😂 oh my god, like men ACTUALLY listen to each other when they say don’t stick your dick in crazy. These men have entire rollercoaster relationships with these crazy women! And women do warn each other, quite often! Read any relationships post when there’s one miscommunication and everyone is like “wow, what a terrible guy. break up and dodge that bullet!” both men and women get into relationships with terrible people and we just grab the popcorn
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:09 PM
0

this exact situation can be turned around and said the same about men who stick their dick in crazy. it’s like they get hypnotized and stay with a god awful person. Who knows?? we sure don’t. People stay in relationships with awful people all the time. And nah, I can tell when someone is being an asshole. I don’t understand your example. Why is she not being allowed new shoes lol wtf??
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:00 PM
0

the thug in question is obviously not someone anyone should be in a relationship with. if he’s beating the shit of people he’s an asshole. Again! Assertive is not asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:47 PM
1

it’s not necessarily that. I would not want my boyfriend to go after and beat someone up for me or anything like that. Absolutely not. It’s more small things like if i’m going to the store to pickup something at night, he will go with me to “protect” me. This is just more like a safety measure as nothing is likely to happen I just think it’s nice he wants to make the effort. Other times it’s like if we’re walking down the street and there’s like a homeless guy he will put himself between me and …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:43 PM
3

how on earth are there’s unrealistic the majority of it is just having a spine
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:39 PM
3

idk what kind of women you’ve been hanging around dude ever think you are purposely hanging out with women that fit the bad wrap you are giving them? little confirmation bias here?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:35 PM
6

😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:32 PM
0

is that not the case for everything? a super loud obnoxious person is going to turn many more heads than someone just minding their manners.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:31 PM
4

I agree with you in your second half, people are fed some stupid shit before they realize life doesn’t actually work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:30 PM
0

Elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:28 PM
2

fuck yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:27 PM
8

the girl in the cartoon does NOT have an hourglass figure haha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:29 PM
8

that is… not the same thing in the picture ..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:22 PM
2

actually when i created my pornhub account soooo many years ago i was scared and put my gender as male instead of female.. lol don’t ask i was 16 and was coming from tumblr porn!!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:19 PM
9

Most girls who don’t like porn only dislike it because they don’t like their partner getting off to watching someone else. That’s really it. And i guess maybe some ethics thrown in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:17 PM
2

everyone gets up every day to grind and make money. no one is coming to save anyone. this is the free market you wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:15 PM
1

i mean honestly the first time i attempted a BJ i’m pretty sure i did a tremendous job from his reactions and even years later my current LTR is very pleased all i did was read a cosmo article on sucking dick beforehand- i was sooo nervous but i couldn’t let him see me like that!! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:13 PM
9

omg! that’s immediately who i thought of as soon as i him!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:10 PM
3

i’m so glad i got to see this interaction
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:09 PM
0

These are both good looking people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:03 PM
4

This is your experience? Maybe find someone who actually wants to have sex with you! ok hahah but to be real some women are just really bad at sex, and they need someone to teach them. or you can very easily teach yourself if you know how to google and read simple anatomy!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:59 PM
26

lol self reported surveys are only credible when they work in your favor
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:30 PM
1

we know
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 03:49 AM
3

I totally get you. Their definition is completely unhinged 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 09:15 PM
3

Oh I definitely believe that! I’m saying are there really THAT many women telling their husbands straight up “i only picked you because you are my second and more reliable choice. I really wanted to be with someone else”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 09:10 PM
3

IMO, it’s definitely not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 09:08 PM
6

in any case, there is definitely the chance your friends with just some shitty women
/r/ExRedPill30/09/21 07:29 PM
9

Dude. I never said anything about you. Just stating sometimes people conflict vulnerability with just constant complaining.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/21 07:28 PM
10

There is a difference between being vulnerable and being a needy person with a victim complex. I’ve had a discussion with someone while talking about his problems and he would not stop saying how bad he is at xyz and how annoying he is to other people. It’s just like look dude i’m trying to help you out but i can’t pull you out myself. Also, as an adult, you constantly just have to look out for yourself, no one is coming to save you because they have a lot of shit to deal with in their own lives…
/r/ExRedPill30/09/21 07:22 PM
4

it’s just pure logic dude
/r/ExRedPill30/09/21 07:17 PM
1

What is a shit test? I’ve heard that term many times but have never seen a clear example
/r/ExRedPill30/09/21 07:14 PM
6

to be fair, i glanced at it and it’s mainly just talking about journeys of losing weight and haircuts- so not too extreme .. yet !
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:08 PM
0

sorry mom <3
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:03 PM
7

why would literally anyone say that to another person
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:21 PM
18

do you think women give a single shit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:12 PM
5

because the men speaking do not share your same definition of husband material. that’s where the huge disconnect everyone argues on comes from. they refuse to see it as anything other than like being the POS second choice, which is actually false when compared to the definition you and other women have used
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:05 PM
3

I totally agree men are socialized to believe that they have this provider role because that’s what society has constructed for them. It screws them. Men need to stop holding on so hard to “what it means to be a man” and take agency for themselves. And yes, my best friend when she was in college was a SLOB!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 04:55 PM
5

if you want a good girl who waits until marriage, read the heartbreaking stories on r/deadbedrooms and see how it’s work for all the other couples who waited. No, they don’t have sex on the honeymoon BTW.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 04:45 PM
1

no, they’re married and definitely have starfish sex with their husbands once a month with the lights off actually
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 04:40 PM
8

I have never seen a women slut shame on this sub slut shaming is definitely still around IRL but i only see it from conservative women who very obviously just dislike sex in general
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 04:37 PM
6

No denying there’s women like that. They 100% exist. But what’s funny to me is because they essentially have a tattoo on their forehead saying “I’m using you” and men just literally ignore it. It’s extremely obvious to me when i’m reading some relationship sub and i’m just like “what the fuck, why did you even go on a second date with this person” But yes, husband material to me is someone who is always going to be in my corner. I chose them everyday and they chose me everyday. We mutually satis…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 04:32 PM
1

Yepp. Relationships can literally give you so much life or take it literally all away. That’s why people need to stop playing Disney and be real with themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 03:23 PM
1

definitely already happening in many parts of the world
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 03:03 PM
2

Same! See you all in the Bahamas in next february 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:58 PM
2

That literally sounds like hell on earth. No offense tho
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:54 PM
1

I don’t think this would be correct. I don’t want children for ALL those reasons mentioned above. I would still choose my person to have children with if all of those things are provided. I don’t want to have a child for the sake of having offspring, I want to create a human that’s half of me and my other favorite person and want us to live a life together with a child we created. It would be much easier in other conditions. And the fact I don’t want pregnancy to do it’s crazies on my body!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:48 PM
4

Are they married? No? The quote is invalid. Married? Okay, they should now discuss finances as in individual couple. I would suggest joint account for bills and separate checkings for fun money!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:42 PM
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it doesn’t matter because no will listen to us anyways lol, many women have tried to explain to men here that there’s different definitions to “husband material” but it’s non sense for them!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:33 PM
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I learned in my interpersonal relationships class that men who do not find themselves in happy marriages / relationships, it is correlated (not caused) that will have a greater change at getting any type of cancer and live 5-7 years shorter compared to a man in a happy situation. Yes it is entirely beneficial for human beings to be in an intimate relationship. It’s just very sad how many people are stuck in a marriage/relationship who are so unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:32 PM
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I am a women and am just really interested in dating and relationships in general and it’s fascinating hearing everyone’s perspectives
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:22 PM
1

I remember! I wish the mods would do another!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:20 PM
5

😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 09:06 PM
5

🥇 cheap award for you <3
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 09:06 PM
2

the first time I gave a blow job, I learned through a tutorial online. I did a good amount of research before my first attempt. My point is, even people with a lot of experience can be terrible at sex. The best bet is to just to learn basic female/male anatomy and how orgasms work/what feels good and you’ll have a good foundation, which can progress in to specifics based on the person. No i’m not talking about watching porn 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:59 PM
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Why do people think husbands can’t be alphas? Isn’t there an entire sector of RP to married guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:42 PM
1

Then we must live on two different planets babe username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 06:26 PM
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People grow up in disney fairy tale land, which is actually opposite to reality and it is a very harsh wake up call to some. Like no, you aren’t just gonna grow up and marry the girl next door dude. None of it works like how it was portrayed. Real life isn’t like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:43 PM
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I think a lot of PP men have felt fallen behind or are currently falling behind. That’s why they cling to certain things sooo much. Reading the responses every time I can tell people do not function like this IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:38 PM
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it works when the other person already has really low self esteem
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:36 PM
2

what are you wanting in response to this? Yes- they’re having sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:34 PM
2

It’s because people are stupid. That’s really it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:29 PM
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Damn, the more and more i read this sub, the more i realize how some men will do anything for sex. anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:27 PM
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Come on. Sorry you’ve never been with someone who tells you you’re husband material after she lets you unload into her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:34 AM
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Come on. Sorry you’ve never been with someone who tells you you’re husband material after she lets you unload into her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:34 AM
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yeah, I never participated in casual sex while sober.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 01:19 AM
3

the proof is in the pudding, feel free to explore!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:18 PM
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the majority of the posters come from religious upbringing so many of them have waited for marriage for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:14 PM
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religious & wants kids
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 06:53 PM
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r/deadbedrooms
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 06:48 PM
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Can people please stop not having sex before marriage it low key kind of fucks things up test the car before buying please
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 04:29 PM
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is it a girls fault if the sex is bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 04:18 AM
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lol kind of seems like society structures all these assumptions and roles!!! it’s almost like if we just stopped doing that things would be different !! it’s almost like if we just let everything go and let people be people things would be less black and white
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 02:02 AM
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Even then, it’s extremely hard for two parents. It literally takes a village! I can see why you would regret your child if you are the only one raising it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:56 AM
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I am a women well aware of all the shit pregnancy does to your body. That is why I’m choosing not to have children. I am not discrediting the super power move that is a women having a child and all the struggles that come. And the husband SHOULD be grateful and care for her. However she did choose to have the baby and she can’t just be “now- do everything!”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:54 AM
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How many people have you had to say “no. you’re wrong” to ? instead maybe think you have been married for 20 years, have no idea what the current dating scene is like, and have a distorted view of what a pick me girl actually is, lol. Do you think everyone who isn’t a pick me is FDS or something? Many, many women disagree with FDS. But they also aren’t pick me girls either. google is your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 12:01 AM
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Your responses are so refreshing :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:47 PM
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it’s extremely obvious a pick me girl is someone you would desire to be with, go ahead and pursue this and please let us know how it goes!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:43 PM
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r/notliketheothergirls
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:41 PM
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pick mes will do absolutely anything for male validation. Including screwing over other women for it. I have no idea why men think pick mes are just girls who worship their boyfriends. Lol, more like they just worship attention from men, doesn’t matter which men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:36 PM
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Why are you okay with simping for girls you have crushes on? Stop being a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:33 PM
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Ah yet another post going “pick me girls.. what’s wrong with them?” Well just head on over to r/nicegirls for a small glimpse of why it’s not healthy to be one or to be with one! Also, a relationship that spawns out of desperation is not going to be good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:59 PM
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Genuinely asking how you think that if so many girls have been ghosted the second they put out. These are girls thinking they have found a good person for a potential LTR, pour their energy into it and finally do the deed and then he just disappears and says actually never mind I don’t want a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:47 PM
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in my personal experience, girls who wait to sleep with a guy they actually really like, or at least not on the first date, is because she’s afraid the man will think think she’s too easy and disqualify her as an LTR. Even if you find this mind boggling I don’t know what to say because it’s just what I’ve witnessed in real life. Here is what she thinks: Girl puts out first date, guy thinks “wow she must do this for everyone, too easy” guy does not pursue girl further.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:41 PM
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I literally have no idea what he’s going on about. He made another comment in this same thread that i fully agreed with. Just comes down to thinking of the same things just differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:26 PM
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If a girl has sex on the first date, you could say she places little or no value on sex. So therefore you cross her off your list for an LTR. You say she “isn’t selective enough” but that’s what she’s doing by waiting, being more selective. That’s literally what they’re trying to avoid when they wait to sleep with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 08:39 PM
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But this is actually what I commented, that’s my theory as a girl. Like the reason a girl doesn’t put out on the first date is because she likes the guy and doesn’t want her to think she’s a slut. I mean it’s kind of reinforces all those N count threads about how higher n counts= bad and unworthy of LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 07:52 PM
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This. All my friends, including myself, slept with our partners before even being like “okay were in a relationship now”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 07:49 PM
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Because they are under the impression that they guy will think she’s a slut if she puts out the first date, and if she really does like him, she doesn’t want him to think that of her. Even if she does want to sleep with him! The impression is everything. Or a girl wants him to stick around and is afraid if she has sex, he will ghost- even if she was open to more sex but inside a LTR. This is all anecdotal. So I can’t say it applies to all girls but what really does nowadays? I am in an LTR and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:32 PM
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Thankfully I’m not in the current dating scene, and I do appreciate your response. I agree that just giving effort to something will go a long ways, especially when the other person is receptive! I love to cook for my SO, and i love seeing his reactions when he eats the food. But the thing is.. just so many guys lie. That’s when I found out RP was a thing, it was like a light bulb. All the manipulation, the mind games that I had witness my friends go through.. it’s enough to scare many girls! Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:24 PM
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🥇cheap award gifted to u
/r/ExRedPill24/09/21 04:10 PM
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I think men should realize when they’re unhappy and do something about it. Men stay in too many situations putting up with drama and tantrums, and don’t know when to walk away. I do not know why they do this. In my relationship we are brutally honest. There are times where I am like “I’m being a bitch right now, will come to you in 30 ish mins when I’m feeling better.” or communication like “when you do x, it makes me feel y” or knowing that arguing endlessly will not help. I do not understand p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:08 PM
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Why would anyone deny that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:43 PM
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This is something I do not understand. Men hate that they have to wait an unknown timeframe. But you don’t? You can literally walk away at anytime. Like if you wanted to sleep with her the 3rd date and didn’t, why would you continue to pursue? Why do some men wait months with no progress?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:40 PM
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But isn’t that hard for a girl to understand, especially if she’s never heard of anything like that before? In her head, she’s truly comparing the “you’re wife material” and just using the word husband- she’s saying that you are so special, that you make her feel like no one else, and she wants to spend her life with that feeling. Because that’s essentially what she thinks of wife material, and if someone said that to her she would love it. It would be understandably hard to rewrite her thinking…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:36 PM
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she just explained it’s because girls do NOT know it may not be taken in the best way. they THINK they are complimenting you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:27 PM
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I think it’s more just men maturing and realizing they dont need to deal with drama or tantrums. That they can walk away. A LOT of men don’t do this, like they stay in situations way too long that not benefit them, and then complain about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:25 PM
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This is sad because I kind of agree with what you are saying, and I honestly feel like a lot of girls I know would want to do things like this. But they’re scared because the man doesn’t take them seriously and just wants to sleep with them. So it’s like “why should i try so hard to do this if he will just leave if I don’t want to sleep with him” so it’s just easier to meet up and get a drink or something more “lower effort” than making an entire dinner for 2 at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:20 PM
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Are they all against him because he’s an abusive asshole? If she doesn’t leave for that then she was never a stable person to begin with. Friends see red flags you can’t sometimes, their concerns should be heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 06:20 PM
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I have made this point as well many times, not sure why people just flat out are like “umm, i don’t think so- you’re wrong” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:31 PM
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Correct, both genders definitely can have empathy- just at different levels. Men being constantly told to “man up” or whatever and women being told to “nurture” have just resulted in different levels of displaying and reading empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:29 PM
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😂 okay
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:38 PM
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there are credible studies to back this claim. it all roots from childhood. child grows with abusive parent=person will most likely choose abusive partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:36 PM
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ah yes, someone who functions like an adult!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:34 PM
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It’s definitely because she’s never done anything like that before and he’s done like 5 kinds of drugs already. It fills that entire young rebellious thing. Same thing that keeps such toxic people together. This man could be crusty but if he exposes her to all this new and fun exciting stuff, THATS really what’s got her going.. It’s dangerous and exciting but better get out before you get stuck. Usually people who come from abusive homes also chase partners who give them that same feeling. It’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 12:48 PM
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You need to fix your poor self esteem issues before anything else. Therapy.
/r/ExRedPill23/09/21 04:27 AM
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here I found a larger breakdown claiming the top 1% in the age group of 27-31 make roughly 170k. Can you link yours where it says under 25 the top 1% makes 80k? Pure curiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:15 AM
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Come on- anyone who takes FDS seriously is a nutcase
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:08 AM
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You hate to see it. Did they ever have kids? Maybe one day he can get the message to finally leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:27 PM
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Yepp- people try and follow some type of persona sometimes when they’re trying to impress someone new. Then they can’t keep up with it. Cue explosions I feel the same. The pandemic i’m just like.. holy shit. People dumb af
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:05 PM
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People aren’t honest with themselves. And people are desperate. A lot of people are fed Disney fantasies but in real life dating and maintaining a successful relationship you first need to have your emotional shit together (which is being honest with yourself, you aren’t perfect person and you won’t be perfect in a relationship. Know what makes you good, but also what makes you shit), find someone pretty compatible, honestly would say extremely compatible, then have good and open communication. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:02 PM
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hey dude, just telling you facts from a literal psychology textbook, i can’t answer your question. I do think just culture in the Bay Area and NYC are just completely different tho. I live in a big east coast city and just feel like people are meaner in general than out west nah, men and women didn’t have to be this way if we weren’t already set up the moment were born were different generals
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:31 PM
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No, it’s a different one lol!! - there is another ep that has a french guy and his wife in it but essentially the exercise esther makes them do where they blindfold themselves and she asks him to describe holding hands with her husband and she says it’s LIMP!!!! and then esther makes the husband speak french and put on his “french persona” and esther asks wife to describe the hand holding now and she fucking says ASSERTIVE!!! Like girl ITS THE SAME HAND. Keep in mind she DOESNT EVEN SPEAK FRENCH…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:59 AM
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I never made any blanket statements. I said it’s very common for people with personality disorders to manipulate their partners into staying by threatening to kill themselves. Most of the time, that’s pretty toxic and can be abusive- I don’t know, I’m not in their shoes. You can’t control what other people do. You can only help someone so much sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:16 AM
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No not denying that happens, just saying there is like major evidence that a shit ton of people do that just out of manipulation. And yes their partners literally bring them into get psych evaluations. Its actually super interesting- hearing their reasoning on why they do the craziest, fucked up shit in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:11 AM
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Do you know the amount of people who are like “if you leave i’m going to kill my self!” to manipulate the shit out of their partners? Hell people openly admit to doing that on r/BPD
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:05 AM
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She’s desperate, he’s scared! That’s really it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:03 AM
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please i would do anything for law enforcement to take DV more seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:01 AM
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Okay yeah- I could actually see this- thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:57 AM
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omg, i remember being so fucking flabbergasted at the episode where a women was saying the only way she would rediscovery her sexuality and have more sex with her husband, was GOING OUT AND HOOKING UP WITH OTHER MEN. The husband goes on about he feels like there’s a cap on his happiness, that something amazing could happen to him but he knows his wife is still sleeping with other men. Esther literally fucking defended her saying this is something she needs to do and husband should just “change h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:56 AM
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Nah.. I use to really like Esther. Until I realized she excuses some REALLY bad things and it put a sour taste in my mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:54 AM
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Hello! I do have one scenario in mind that if i were to ever cheat, this is why: somehow i end up trapped in a sexless marriage with a husband who just either has a porn addiction or just doesn’t want to fuck me. There’s no medical reason behind it. No desire to even change. No hope! The divorce process is long, and even if I am saying now I would wait until we are separated- I just don’t know. BUTT i highly doubt that would happen- hopefully not! A LOT of the times people cheat, it’s because of…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:51 AM
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aww, sometimes I would let it get to me too. But then I realize how sooo sad their lives are and I just pity them! These are most likely men just angrily typing from some basement with week old underwear on.
/r/ExRedPill22/09/21 01:27 AM
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😂😂 what the fuck is this oh my god it’s BAD lmao
/r/ExRedPill22/09/21 01:23 AM
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The cause in China specifically is gender selection and sex selection abortions. People want sons and not daughters. That’s really it! Because of this there’s like 80 million women that are “missing” to men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 07:01 PM
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This is called a sex ratio. Soceities with high sex ratios (more men) are far more conservative and traditional. This is your usual marry virgin bride and traditional gender roles etc. Societies with low sex ratio (more women) are just far more relaxed and liberal. Gender roles are constructed by society. There’s many, many more similarities in men and women than differences. edit : If you want an example, just research on how life was like during war times and there’s literally no men around lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:21 PM
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Have you ever driven on a highway, or a road, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:54 PM
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Your original view of things is already so distorted dude, that’s why you’re having so many issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:53 PM
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There was a post in a thread about men just wanting relationships where they can completely control the women because the women is literally dependent on them- that’s the true definition of need. He was burned, wanted a girl he could control completely because she truly needed him as she was autistic and needs guidance. They’re married, and he does everything for her. You want a women’s entire lively hood to depend on you? This the fairytale you’re looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:52 PM
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Yes you’re correct- they don’t need you. You don’t need them! That’s not the point of a relationship. The point is ADDING something fun and loving into your life- it is never anything you need If you aren’t adding any value to someone’s life then yeah why would you keep them around so closely in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:44 PM
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I mean friendship is kind of just enjoying each other’s company and doing stuff together. It’s sad that you would consider friendships “this is what i get and this is what you get” outside of just hanging out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:51 PM
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the convenience of proximity is a real thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:44 PM
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dude, some people just don’t share your same perspective of sex, love and relationships. it’s okay!! you aren’t wrong, and neither are they! just preference
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:39 PM
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if someone is bisexual, do they have any friends? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:38 PM
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doesn’t align with your reality sir
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:35 PM
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wait- you don’t have just platonic female relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:33 PM
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Ehhh.. It’s just like dating multiple people is fun but it’s a lot to juggle even when I wasn’t doing much in college. It’s just selecting a couple people you vibe with, but this one person and this one vibe is just special, I would like to have this vibe and only this one, the others were cool but I like this feeling I get with this person the most. I think it is bad for someone to be like “oops my #1 rejected me, guess I’ll settle for my #2” I do not think people are good for doing this. Like …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:30 PM
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Like I said, if any single relationship with a huge age gap actually worked out in my real life, i would be less inclined to believe that it’s a terrible idea. The stories I have heard from girls who are young 20s like me, every single time without fail it does indeed blow up in their faces. And they too will try and say how much age gaps don’t matter, and after the traumatic relationship is over they say “oh yeah.. don’t even dare try” It’s not treating women like children, but just knowing how…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 07:00 PM
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I think she can do whatever she wants. But all my friends are pretty feminine
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 05:48 PM
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I wouldn’t say it’s projecting when some men full out admit it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:24 PM
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my mind is blown- love it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:21 PM
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You’ll never find a good answer here, it’s an entire echo chamber of dudes saying how it’s totally okay to date someone like 10+ years YOUNGER. For the sake of manipulation and control. Sure, I might have a different opinion if every single girl I knew who got involved with an older guy, that the older guy isn’t a man child and doesn’t make them regret years of their life.. but that’s all I know! Every time a glaring age gap in the relationship, it blows up in the girls face, every single time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:19 PM
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The only men I know who aged well are A) already attractive. B) a celebrity
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:14 PM
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this is true for me! i feel as if you could be so hot, blonde & blue eyes, but if you don’t have brown hair or a beard it’s a no from me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 02:05 AM
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anyone should be able to get plastic surgery to improve their looks if they want to
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 06:08 PM
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men are supposed to always want sex and be horny 24/7 i don’t agree with this
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 05:55 PM
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both genders can give wish washy answers to diving into a relationship both genders can completely look the other direction when the other tells them they don’t want a relationship as well people are complex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 12:36 AM
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There’s so, so many men who openly speak about wishing to go back to have great sex with their previous partners, and not their wives. also, if someone you are having sex with can “do something better” why wouldn’t you communicate this with them? It’s fine to tell your partner what you are into sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 03:48 PM
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it’s called tech sales WFH there are a lot of gaps sometimes, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:22 PM
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That’s your experience as a man. You cannot speak for all men and women. if you have one bad experience with women, sucks. if you have had multiple, and only bad experiences with women.. well..
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:20 PM
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IMO- I feel as if so, so many men just look past so many red flags because she’s hot. Then they get burned, badly, and then turn around AWALT!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:18 PM
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You’ve fought the battle- proud of you Many people here refuse therapy because they don’t wish to change. They like angry typing on keyboard and blaming everything else besides their own agency. I just feel bad for them. There is an astonishing amount of solipsism here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:14 PM
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I’m curious on how you showed them your emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:08 PM
2

well, maybe just the ones you’ve chosen to interact with
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:06 PM
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You can feel negative feelings about the state of your life. Those feelings are real. But- you cannot claim all these things about women’s nature in a relationship when you just haven’t experienced a relationship. If you are always considering yourself the victim, then you will attract people who also see you as a victim. You don’t want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 09:06 PM
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So, you don’t have first hand accounts of how women work in a relationship. I still think the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 09:03 PM
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I stopped reading when you said you never have had any basic interaction with women. Your entire opinion you have formed of women- but you haven’t even had any kind of relationship with one? Your basis is just.. everyone else’s experiences? My boyfriend is a crier and I am just so absolutely grateful I have a man who is proud to be in tune with his emotions. The problems you are describing it’s literally, toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:58 PM
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To be fair, it’s vegas- he was a dancer. It’s not like she’s over there with a super hot neighbor making him dinner. She probably has not thought about him much at all after that moment. as a girl with a SO with a definite dad bod, just because she was like all up on this guy it was because he was a dancer in vegas! that doesn’t mean she’s like sexually attractive to him and NOT her husband
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:31 PM
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I think a lot of people think going to the gym just entails like moving machines.. when it’s far more complex with targeting certain muscle groups, mind to muscle connection, and taking rest days even when you don’t think you need them. If anything- diet is something people should really consider more than just lifting- you won’t make any gains if you aren’t providing your body the substance to create them, and i’ve never heard of anyone talk about it on these subs! There’s some men i’ve seen he…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:56 PM
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lil thing called people are lazy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:52 PM
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We do all the time. You just don’t want to hear it. Shall I make some shouty capitals like you? LOOKS MATTER EVERYONE. WOMEN CARE ABOUT LOOKS!!! WE CARE IF YOU ARE HOT. once passing the looks threshold your personality will be evaluated. What’s so hard about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:28 PM
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I have noticed in a lot of these long drawn out explanations, it always sounds like they’re addressing a very specific woman. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 03:12 PM
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You don’t know how many men start treating their wives like pure shit when marriage hits. It goes both ways. Both men and women have, definitely changed who they were as a person after marriage. And we all know once you get married and try to get out it’s essentially just a firey dumpster. No one who gets married intends to have a divorce- but life is far more complex than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 01:52 PM
2

this is the perfect answer
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 01:42 PM
2

well that’s marriage, so i hope it would be like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 09:37 PM
2

Sorry, I think I misunderstood your original comment. In terms of relationships I do think everything should be kept “yours is yours and mine is mine” You make your money, gf does the same. That’s all good and healthy! I was under the impression that you didn’t care about your gfs money because there was your money to supplement the both of you because of the “our money” statement
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 09:11 PM
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If it works from you, that’s great. and i’m really glad you care about how your gf feels about her job. I just think from a practical standpoint, two people getting married are kind of shooting themselves in the foot if they don’t care money wise about how much the other person makes. People should definitely care.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 07:51 PM
8

He just shared his own story of one
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 07:24 PM
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Mom culture is a huge thing. Mommy blogging, mom groups, mom vlogs on youtube. Huge groups. If that’s what you want, sure go for it! Some people, their whole life is to have kids- good for them. But i think a lot of people don’t want that. But they’re forced to go by the narrative that is society because it’s all they’ve ever known.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 07:08 PM
2

Well yes in terms of speaking of whatever you had before you got married is still just yours. I’m just saying when men marry, he shouldn’t ignore how much money she makes- he should look at it as a positive gain and what they could do with the increased income and not like “lol i don’t give af” dual incomes are always the better way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:58 PM
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there’s a comment on this thread stating career women are just narcissistic leeches and this is why men shun career women here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:48 PM
11

come on, you know the guys here can’t do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:39 PM
9

This is me crawling around on the floor last night using my hands for the bedroom remote since I took my contacts out. “Babe!!!!!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:35 PM
6

this sub should start a hall of fame for shit like this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:27 PM
1

if you already have $900k in assets, I would say sure lol only one person needs to work 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:20 PM
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Yes.. so you should heavily consider the other persons financial situation- good or bad. How would I be using my partner as resources when I’m making the same as them? If the goal is getting to retirement faster than you could say we’re both using each other haha. if you’re in a partnership and feel like one person “has more access than the other” or doing trade offs about money.. when they’re both making their own, good money, that’s already heavily distorted view. Where does this limited acces…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:18 PM
1

I mean and, the average adult needs $500k worth of assets to retire, but this falls very short and it’s more like one person needs closer to million dollars in their retirement fund to live comfortably into their 90s. It’s way easier with two people working towards that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:09 PM
1

That’s a nice way to think of things. But to be real, you need the dual income. I would never say no to dual income.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:04 PM
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This is a very, one sided gender has more power, mindset. If I was man and knew that the girl I was marrying was going to double my assets with hers- why would you not care about that lol. Same way if you knew someone has no money and lots of debt, why would you want to marry into that either?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:56 PM
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It’s your own choice to consider your gfs money not being yours. Do you consider your money to belong both to your gf and yourself? Does that mean she could just blow her salary? That’s pretty bad. The inability to budget effects ALL couples. It’s like, sure my SO and I both have very solid retirement plans, but we know by the numbers it would just accelerate everything if we did it on a combined income and make it “our money” Sure, we have our own “fun” money that doesn’t effect each other- but…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:52 PM
2

finally the right answer! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:47 PM
1

Why one person not working?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:46 PM
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idk man, I live in a huge city and early 20s- it’s extremely casual as people have too much on their lives to focus on something so serious. I’m lucky in my LTR we know we’re both in it for the long haul, but everything is just so easy. Thank you for your answer!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:33 PM
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No, it’s called double income and retiring early. Both people work. Both people work less, way earlier. Like my SO are trying to get up every day and work until our fucking 60s lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:30 PM
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Yes, that’s fair. I just wonder why men wouldn’t care how much their wife makes? Who doesn’t love an extra $50-100k a year?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:26 PM
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many things you describe in UF, a lot of women can relate to as well. When you’re dating someone.. everything else is just whatever. It’s dating- like let’s let go and have some fun. Whatevs! It’s very superficial and most people are just happy to spend time with some who is new and is attractive. Marriage? Yes double income is the goal. I think both partners should always work. It’s okay for one to take off for young kids for a bit, because of the ultra expensive cost of daycare, but never for …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:24 PM
1

my favorite part is when he mentions how childbearing women have access to this wide variety of medical tools that men do not.. well, men don’t birth babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:16 PM
1

It should seriously be his new flair. This guys comment history structure is the same usually going along the lines of: defend everything in your mind, not listen to anything the other person said, lots of shouting, attacking, and then calling you stupid just once more. If there was anyone in the sub I would want to meet IRL, it would be him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 05:14 PM
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When you said “women will not share their money” If i said, “men will not share their money” isn’t there the assumption to be made I’m speaking of men in general. But i would still like to know, how does it make you feel?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:52 PM
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What do you benefit from making “all women” statements? How do you feel that I, as a women, just spent thousands on a surprise vacation for boyfriends bday? Or that I drop him off food Ive bought for him at his office? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:49 PM
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lots of people in comments.. i’ve been around ppd for a hot minute, and i’ve spoken to just a lot of men who, it’s not like they don’t want their gal to work, it’s just they could care less about what she does
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:45 PM
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Not necessarily working, and I don’t have any real data off the top of my head because I believe men (or any spouse) should consider their partners career and care about it. It does matter in a lot of cases. But i see so, so many men on this sub advocate for just not giving a single fuck about what a women’s job is in the slightest, and that they prefer non career type women. Traditional, so not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:43 PM
1

You could fix like ? All of your problems if you went to the gym and got something that increases hair growth so you can get the beard going.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:36 PM
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You should know absolutely everything about someone else’s financial situation before getting married or even like moving in with them. Not just themselves, family too- I need to know if I’m working with some crazy in laws or something! Is my future MIL a horrid spender? You should observe their habits and as a couple use a spread sheet for a monthly breakdown of spending expenses and savings, as well as a budget for the next month, and overall budgets for the year. Extremely important. Financia…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:09 PM
2

Is that why you got divorced?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 10:51 PM
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That’s a no from me babe. Isn’t riding the CC an entire thing about how women don’t want commitment and just wanna fuck or something
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 10:29 PM
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Those men became doormats for their wives and their poor as fuck self esteem accelerated them there. Self help including “don’t be a doormat anymore” and “be financially responsible” and “physical/mental health is important” is not exclusive to RP and RP did not make those concepts up. “wife game” is literally stop letting your wife abuse you. RP didn’t create growing a spine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 10:23 PM
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yeah.. i don’t know what he was wanting when posting this
/r/ExRedPill14/09/21 07:43 PM
2

Anecdotal. This is false when compared to actual data.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/21 07:41 PM
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TRP has general self help advice that is good. Things like don’t be a doormat and take care of your physical and mental health are great. Everything else.. well
/r/ExRedPill14/09/21 07:39 PM
1

Face, hands, sometimes crotch just for funsies
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 05:05 PM
1

I honestly, if i were a mean and somehow landed in a relationship where i had to do like 10,000 things just for my partner to desire me.. yes I would just watch porn and probably break up with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 10:40 PM
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many, many women disagree with FDS lol especially here
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 10:36 PM
1

Sign up for some puppy training programs!! He’ll get the cutest little graduation stuff when his program is finished. It takes work but you need to put it in now or it will just become increasingly harder to train him. Also mental energy is the same as physical energy! Make him work for his food- most dogs prefer it this way. I had an mini aussie and those are like.. literally the most energetic dog. We had this pod that automatically shot out kibble one by one.. extremely entertaining and energ…
/r/RedPillWives13/09/21 05:19 PM
2

ding ding we got a winner
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:04 PM
3

see.. why so negative? have you personally tried it? if you did, why did you stop going?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:08 AM
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Cognitive therapy would disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:06 AM
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Women here. I definitely have to think you’re hot first. But i do agree, your brain believe whatever you tell it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:03 AM
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Women here! No problem with porn OR sex toys. let’s bring that in here babe
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:02 AM
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well, it’s extremely obvious first you have to get the attraction then personality details. is this not pure logic?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:01 AM
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I feel like everyone gets those messages from society, it’s just women take them and they push them onto other women. Just as men take messages they like and push them onto other men to make them “better men” it’s the same. It’s not like you can’t tell other men they aren’t “worth it” but do men seriously communicate with each other like this? In my human sexuality class, some of the men have brought up the fact that women were given their “liberations movement” to break up from the traditional …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:41 PM
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I, as a women, who interact with many, many women on a daily basis, have never heard the term “never settle feminism” if this is from FDS, those bitches be real crazy over there Everyone on FDS is totally cringe and setting themselves up. I feel the same about RP, as they both have good intentions and everyone just fucks it up with their own interpretation
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:22 PM
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oh anxious avoidant! how fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:21 PM
2

Please tell me how I was harassing you? Does critiquing what you said count? On a debate sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:49 PM
8

he says this. he literally says he casually dated men and women during this period!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:40 PM
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who said any of that bro. they talking about why men are hating on a happy relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:37 PM
3

This needs to be framed
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:35 PM
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lol this.. why are there an alarming number of like right wing extremist or like “alt right” in manosphere? my theory is they reject modern society now because it no longer benefits them, therefore they like have no other choice than feeling they need to be conservative and traditional!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:34 PM
2

It all roots in childhood attachment style baby!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:27 PM
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it’s easier to blame everyone but yourself to them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:25 PM
1

I mean, if someone sees no wrong in what they’re doing- they’re not gonna change a thing. It’s really really hard for people to change their way of thinking sometimes. Easier said than done haha
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:24 PM
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People are really dumb sometimes. Like think of the dumbest person you know, there are millions of people dumber than that person. And those people grow up and get in relationships, they get married, have kids, and half the time it all explodes in their faces and their wallets. People do not know enough about human behavior at the ages of prime time dating and how to oversee red flags and just vetting in general can get looked over because people are so fucking desperate and sometimes those peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 09:43 PM
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Men on twitter are different. Like, they can say some really really vile things. I just think feel so sorry for them. How miserable someone can be to ooze so much bitterness. They cannot believe how happy or “normal” a couple may seem because it goes against whatever trigger happy mantra they got in their head. To feel better about themselves, they picture women get rejected by chad and finally feeling remotely something close to what those men already feel themselves. Like revenge fantasy? I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 09:36 PM
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I can see this. If my boyfriend and I stopped having sex, I would grow extremely frustrated and resentful. If I was single and some guy I think is attractive isn’t in to me? I wouldn’t really feel anything. If i were seeking sex, I would just move on. Isn’t this like abundance mentality or something from RP lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 07:51 PM
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this is absolute madness! let’s not tunnel vision!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 07:46 PM
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I think you need to visit r/deadbedrooms to see how many starving women there are, and their absolute definite “need to fuck” Let’s not generalize women. I understand the orgasm gap is real. I understand most women are not having good sex. But come on, to say women don’t crave sex like men is bullshit. There are very, very little biological differences between men and women. It is the way we are socialized throughout our lives, and how society has constructed thing is why men do things in this w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 07:42 PM
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You could be extremely attractive but if your personality is a piece of shit there is never any way I would have sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 07:40 PM
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RP men are attracted to crazy girls. Like girls who need to go to therapy. That’s what happens to them. Yes hormonal birth control can have some pretty bad side effects but not to the level of what some RP men describe- they are describing women who have personality disorders
/r/ExRedPill09/09/21 04:32 PM
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I’m a women and honestly think if a lot of RP men just look beyond the fact i’m a women they would actually agree with things i’m saying
/r/ExRedPill08/09/21 04:23 PM
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because he’s looking for echo chamber validation on some pretty distorted views
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:02 PM
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u/GrIdReXX and that’s so incredible! I can only hope more and more people are OKAY with their son playing disney princess and their daughters building hot wheels racetracks. You’d be surprised how many adults gatekeep children’s toys.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 01:33 PM
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I have the IOS glitch that isn’t allowing comments replying directly to OP, but u/GridReXX I think it has more to do from when the second you walk into the toy aisle in the “boys section” it’s guns, military based action figures, construction building blocks, science experiments etc. In the girls section- it’s baby dolls and pretend play kitchens.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 01:26 PM
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I think society is tricky. Men have been socialized pretty specifically (as women have as well) and I think a lot of men’s fear cumulate into the idea of not measuring up. They are conditioned to be providers and leaders (which, how can we blame them tbh, the world is just like that) I think sometimes a good guy meets an awful girl who is very unkind to him. It effects their perception of women. It makes them feel like they need to be this certain way and ONLY that way in a relationship, everyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 01:17 PM
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You don’t like what he has to say because he’s talking about you, isn’t he?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 12:58 PM
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I think that truly effects a specific type of women and they have a personality disorder Most older women do not think in those ways
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 12:50 PM
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and, probably many unresolved mental problems. I believe many men who have been left for scraps in a divorce is a victim of a women who has mental issues. You should totally marry a pick me then update us how it turns out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 12:41 PM
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So do you have any idea how the cycle of abusive relationships can occur or do you think women hold like magic wands
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 12:36 PM
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accountability is extremely boring, apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 04:14 AM
1

What’s the point in even dating if you never get to spend time together
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 09:36 PM
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“it’s only important to the wrong ones” truth!!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 09:13 PM
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Yes. Texting is so important. It allows people to articulate themselves on a more prepared level than in person. It 100% builds connections. Texting can be super fun and flirtatious! You didn’t text her 10 DAYS after? Yeah no I wouldn’t respond either.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/21 08:18 PM
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You asked me if I wanted someone successful, I responded that I would want to date someone on the same success level as me. My SO is incredibly successful and accomplished in his work, he enjoys the fact I choose to sit in the drivers seat in our relationship. He likes that I pick everything while considering his opinion every time as well. He also knows if it’s a veto from me it’s for the both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:43 PM
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My SO and I are extremely lucky to make similar amounts of money right after college. He still makes about $15k more than me in the 6 figure range, but hey we’re just starting out and I am very happy with my salary. If I were to enter the dating field again, I would want to date in the same salary ranges I also make. I wouldn’t stay with someone who is not on the same leagues of life as I am. It’s not like i’m completely the leader all the time. He’s really great with being handy at stuff around…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:25 PM
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No it wouldn’t, if sex every time was how i described (pounding away, human flashlight) then i would not enjoy it. Thankfully I am not having that type of sex, and I hope no one else is either!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:21 PM
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I did not mean “having a spine” in terms of masculinity at all. If I intended my statement at a specific gender, I definitely would have said “grow some balls” instead. Many women, I would say even more than men, should grow spines for themselves. I only meant it in doormat terms that you simply shouldn’t let someone walk all over you. There is nothing wrong with what you want. I consider myself as the leader as well in my relationship. Just gotta find someone who tends to be more passive and le…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:17 PM
2

Women who practice FDS are literally fucking insane
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:11 PM
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It doesn’t have to be either or. There are thankfully the majority of women in the middle. I believe the RP term is white knight? I would not want to date someone who is basically willing to be my doormat. Where is his spine?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:06 PM
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Why are you attacking her for literally answering the question OP asked for specific anecdotes from taller girls. There is obviously one specific answer you are wanting from her. Go dip your balls in some ice water and chill out
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 06:13 PM
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Awww. I’m happy for you both. I think women, since we are little, are conditioned to have like or expect these kinds of things, and there is so so much pressure to get married. If you are a women who has grown up under the usual fairy tale of just bopping around and then accept a proposal, i can see how important it would matter to someone. It’s somehow marked itself as this milestone in life. In social groups, some girls speak nothing else besides marriage and family life. For some women that’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 06:04 PM
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Would you get bored if you had corn every single night for dinner sometimes ya gotta switch it up sometimes you can be extremely tired and then still horny, so lazy sex
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:51 PM
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Idk, i kind of disagree. I don’t need an orgasm to enjoy the pleasures of sex. I have sex because it feels good and I want it, most of the time I will orgasm, but if i don’t, it was still a great time. this is not to say i would enjoy sex if a man just stuck it in and pounded away for 3 mins. I wouldn’t enjoy that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:42 PM
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In my own personal opinion, if couples aren’t doing this regularly, they could seriously amp up their sexual relationship if they did. Sex is so important. Your partner should be willing to fulfill all of your needs they wouldn’t be able to get themselves from others. Again my opinion. When I want sex like OP describes I ask for “can we do it slow sex?” because our usually sex consist of oral and then PIV. It takes about 10-15 mins. I am satisfied and so is boyfriend. The day carries on. I don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:37 PM
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here is a case study about an older women who struggled with her late diagnoses and is continuing to struggle in her later life. It’s an incredibly interesting read, as it explains honestly a lot of what happens on the other end of things after youth for those without treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 04:01 PM
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I see this MOST often in cases where women never had a proper personality disorder diagnoses. They basically go through their youth setting everything on fire because there’s no consequences for them because of being pretty. Then as they age (example older BPD women) they reflect specific traits as those as many delusional “karen’s” as they feel extremely entitled and it could never be their fault. They neglect themselves the entire time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 03:46 PM
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sensitive much? i’m a women and think it’s funny. I would do the same if i were a man in that position.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 03:43 PM
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You should!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 03:43 PM
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Thank you. I feel like men just look at female sexuality as like a pot of gold and are so angry they can’t have any. But do they know the world of shit that’s awaiting them if they wanted to switch places lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 03:24 PM
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this is so interesting. thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 02:55 PM
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Not work past 40. Lol my SO and I are banking it and those are the main reasons. Maybe we’ll get married, I will revisit the question in the next decade. If he suddenly wakes up one day and decides he wants kids and to get married within the next 5 years, It would be so sad to break up. Children I truly believe would just make me miserable. I love kids. Just not having any of my own or going through pregnancy etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 02:31 PM
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Women who have no resources, will use a man for a relationship and even get pregnant. Baby trapping men. Very bad. Women using men for food because they can’t buy their own or just don’t want to. Some girls are pick mes and will degrade everyone including herself for a man. Cringe low level of self worth. They think the color pink is gross just because other girls will like it. Some girls are just dumb. I want to shake them by the shoulders and say “girl! get some damn self awareness!”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 02:24 PM
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Considering I don’t want to get married or have kids, i’m not all too sure. I think it would really hurt my ego if he said something like “my ex rides my dick so much better than you” i would definitely be upset. But if his ex truly did, I would much rather just him tell me what he likes and how he likes it. Leave the whole mentioning ex thing out. It would just hurt my ego. I’ve fortunately never have experienced anything insanely traumatizing. I think it’s definitely okay for people to try thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 12:23 AM
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Dude seriously. My mom just booked me a doctors appointment for birth control when I was 16 lol. Less about men in general but more about ones that would bother you in public. Not saying that what you described isn’t the case for probably a lot of girls. You are spot on for some girls lives. If you don’t want your daughter getting pregnant the worse thing you can do is make sex such a hush hush taboo topic besides a very common natural practice between humans, you are only going to push her furt…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 11:11 PM
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I’m just curious as to why you told her she’s calling her man average because “she knows she can’t really get a top man” isn’t that like .. common knowledge? Like the average women knows she’s not gonna score a billionaire?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 07:08 PM
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What is “average” and what is “top man” to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 06:20 PM
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I don’t experience the same. From my background a lot of women are taught by older women “what men are like” and it’s usually along the lines of “men only want one thing, so don’t fall for anything else and keep your legs shut” there are no giggles about it. This perpetuates how a lot of young women form their opinions about other men (scary, manipulation) and unfortunately it’s not an always accurate viewpoint. My parents have once told me if a man walks up to me in public to just straight up p…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 06:01 PM
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to be fair, she could still be super angry from him doing that, regardless if it’s ever happened to her before.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 05:56 PM
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Women are basically raised on “men only want one thing”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 05:54 PM
2

Sex is everywhere, and even if it wasn’t- it would still be in the minds of everyone. Probably more because it’s risqué now!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:34 PM
1

That’s a normal healthy mindset. RP is always extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 11:18 PM
1

do those stats account for religious backgrounds? most people who get married early do it for those reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 11:17 PM
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I literally never see this in my own life. Is there any data to support this?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 11:16 PM
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Even if people didn’t get married but somehow everyone still is encouraged to get into a monogamous relationship in their early 20s, things would still be a shit show.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 11:14 PM
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Most do it for validation, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:25 PM
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You have no idea how many girls will use at least an entire hour to prep for a date and a guy will just roll out of his bed and show up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:16 PM
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Nails- an hour and half every three weeks Gym-pilates 2x a week, yoga 3x- 5ish hours hair-i barely do my hair, it falls straight so i can just brush it and wash, so maybe like 45 mins a week Clothes- i go through fits of online shopping and order lots of things and then will go months without buying again, so not sure at all All my clothes that cannot go in the dryer I hang dry, this is the majority of my clothes so about 2 hours each week! Getting ready on a daily basis takes about 30 mins. Asi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:07 PM
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oh my god this 1000x
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:17 AM
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In short: you date your parents shitty mom=shitty girlfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:20 AM
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I like that I can open a bank account. I like that I’m not forced into marriage and children, and that I could walk away from any relationship at any time that isn’t mutually beneficial. I don’t agree with feminism that basically spews hatred if girls decide to look more “feminine” and wear skirts and their favorite color is pink. Yell at you just because you’re a man and all that madness. Most women do not like that. Really you just find those angry spaces of women online.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 09:05 PM
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Trust me you and me both would agree to put that on a giant neon billboard. People are really dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:46 PM
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If they can afford it, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:44 PM
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People need to get a grip and get some self awareness. People are too easy to give up on asking uncomfortable questions to themselves and their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:39 PM
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People compare their pasts lovers to their current ones. It’s not a horrible thing for her to say she’s been with a better lover. It’s not horrible for him to leave over what she said. I’m just saying people all the time pick someone who doesn’t sexually satisfy them and will remember fond times with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:34 PM
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He made his bed. In his post it mentions how she cries over her ex since the very beginning and he still stayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:31 PM
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I think there are many people who marry people who don’t satisfy them sexually, and they reminisce on their past sexual relationships, especially if they are feeling unfulfilled in their current relationship. You can see it everywhere in r/deadbedrooms
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:28 PM
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bc FDS is filled with basically the female version of incels so do you really expect anything else besides hate and bitterness from them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 02:12 PM
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😂😂 i think everyone knows billionaire men prefer and can marry young women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 02:08 PM
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Do men think the average women thinks she can marry a random top 16 billionaire
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 02:04 PM
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you can change it. it just takes a lottttt of inner work!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 08:32 PM
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Women are not going to have sex with you if they think you are unattractive. That’s really it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 07:30 PM
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It all roots in childhood. If you’re anyone that doesn’t have a secure attachment style and havent found someone who is also secure.. well.. good luck with that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 05:29 PM
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No, never said that. Just saying people will obviously say something along the lines of “things are going really good etc” when they’re still together. Think about how many people post on social media how happy they are and then when it ends and everyone’s like “wow! you guys were so great what happened” and then you find out all the details as “hindsight is 2020”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 05:26 PM
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Because the current one hasn’t ended yet. You also might be asking the same type of person each time People with the same “mental health” tend to attract others or the same mental health page. So if you’re crazy, have high anxiety, aren’t emotionally available, lack self awareness, the chances of you dating someone who is similar to that is pretty likely. The same issue why people jump from one abusive relationship to the next, or why people keep dating bad, crazy people. And then when people go…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 05:08 PM
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that makes no sense <3
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:38 PM
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why do people keep comparing real life to tv shows and movies that are supposed to be as dramatic as possible? and like.. try and think it’s real? aren’t men on this sub super angry because things they have been consuming by the media their entire lives has told them this message if you do xyz everything else will fall into place and then they get into reality and are extremely angry the world doesn’t look like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:35 PM
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Yeah I mean when you gather a ton of people who have had only bad intimate relationships into a space i don’t think it looks very pretty. Hence why this sub is so absolutely extreme
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:32 PM
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because from the outside world, it seems like incels use TRP to try and not be an incel anymore. It’s not glaringly obvious it’s for different people
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:28 PM
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you definitely sound like you dated someone with a personality disorder, which i think most men on this sub have, and that’s what gives them bad examples of girlfriends
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:27 PM
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I would say this only falls for a certain type of men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:20 PM
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this problem lives entirely in your head
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:04 PM
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I’m a women and I didn’t need anyone to teach me waiting until marriage is the worst mistake anyone can make in life. Many people don’t need RP to realize real life truths that RP frames into like this gold that’s actually fairly common knowledge. That’s why RP works so well on certain individuals from certain backgrounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 01:54 PM
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This is so true!! If I have ever truly heard about how bad men can be and that I should be highly vigilant of them, its definitely from my own dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 01:52 PM
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didn’t dismiss it- i would have given him the same advice if he was 25
/r/ExRedPill24/08/21 02:51 PM
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i think it has more to do with the “golden ratio” which means basically the more symmetrical your face is the more attractive you are
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 04:03 AM
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and they say love isn’t real!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 03:45 AM
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Here’s what you should do: live with someone who has the same standard of cleaning you do. SO and I are clean freaks. Love it. If I don’t clean it, he will vice versa. He is also really good at it. I often cook entire meals and he will throw it all in the dishwasher while i relax. This works for us- and it’s what other people should do. Live with someone of the same standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:47 AM
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um did you ever visit mgtow? they never spoke about anything else other than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 02:41 PM
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Wow- as a women don’t think i would ever say “i really agree” to another comment on this sub you should really consider making your own post on this topic! I saw a video on r/sadcringe the other day where a girl was catfished and was filmed by the man cat fishing her. He continues to just insult her and his hatred for women. He has done that to 50 other women. So yeah when women just swiftly walk away it’s because she’s scared she will get into a situation like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 02:37 PM
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That makes sense. It’s okay for you to not understand how certain things work. Give it time.. i can tell you being extremely upset over something that you saw on the internet that literally has nothing to do with and your life? I’d step away from that.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 02:33 PM
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how old are you?
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 02:26 PM
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That guy is a really shitty dude!
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 02:26 PM
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a good portion of the dead bedrooms posts are from women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 02:15 PM
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discrimination is now considered bad dental health?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 02:11 PM
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They will still be able to post nude videos and pictures- so I don’t think much will change. Most men want the intimacy of talking to their subs on onlyfans rather than just jerking it, so they will continue to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 01:27 PM
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You don’t have to be RP or BP to recognize game. Like, you don’t have to be RP to see the “push pull” kind of thing is very common in modern dating. Both men and women think like “well what should i say back?? should i text them or wait for them to text me?” or saying something like “i won’t respond until xyz” or “if they do this i will do this” IMO, this is fair in all dating, and doesn’t fall completely in RP and BP’s ideas of “manipulation” I do think there is a fine line between funny, witty…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 06:13 PM
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Not sure what you are looking for here. It sounds more like “if the guy is already hot- i want to know his emotional intelligence. If it’s not there, then it doesn’t matter if he is hot”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 06:05 PM
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It’s like every single day all the posts are flooded by “women only having sex with the top percent of men and that’s why men are sexless and the rate is increasing woe is me” and then today it’s like “umm really? lots of below average men have casual sex lol”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 02:45 PM
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That’s actually extremely interesting. I always saw RP as like almost a frat with its own sets of rules, guidelines and even vocabulary. But I guess it’s not as much as a “united front” as I thought? What do you have to say about the men that basically advocate going back 1950s style where women, in their words “played their part” ? Would you agree a lot of men in the manosphere just really dislike modern day because they feel like they have fallen behind? Edit: thank you for the insightful repl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 02:37 PM
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😂😂 okay mr society is collapsing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:50 PM
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idk bro it sounds like you have some other issues my parents were “older” 32 & 35 and basically never denied a single opportunity for me. lots of extra activities, vacations, not worried about tuition/rent in college - i doubt they would’ve been able to do that if they had me 10 years earlier when they were still partying it up together in miami
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:46 PM
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You should just wait then? Or do you want to tell your kid in a couple years they can’t go to dance class because y’all can’t afford it? My parents had me at 32 & 35- we were extremely lucky and basically got to do anything we asked. They are really great- be those parents please! “i can’t take it anymore. i want a baby. fuck it” yikesssss
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:28 PM
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Your main point is extremely subjective and doesn’t hold any truth to anyone besides you and people who agree with you. Don’t impose your certain set of beliefs on the rest of society, and don’t get angry at society when they behave differently than what you think is right.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:22 PM
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The people who are in the worst situations whether it be financially or divorce or their child can’t do anything because the family has no extra income.. yeah those couples all had their babies 16-23. A girl from my HS is 23 having a baby- she has no degree, baby will most likely be brought up by grandma in HER home- dad is not in the picture. She doesn’t have a job. I think she is incredibly selfish for bringing a child into the world right now. She doesn’t have her life in control, which is fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:14 PM
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I’m not saying it’s bad to take care of your parents during their old ages. I never called them slaves, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:11 PM
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Yes.. there’s a good amount of adults having kids so they know someone will take care of them in their old age. So sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:04 PM
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yeah dude just buy like a house in a great school system and furnish it all but also baby proof it! have a couple kiddos and retire in your 70s!!! so much fun!! nope
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:00 PM
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yes people do that and they really fucking suck, but some people realize how extremely hard things get when children get in the picture so the simply choose to not have them and nothing is wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:57 PM
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and those kids suffer lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:55 PM
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my kids would literally fucking hate themselves. not to mention get bullied into the shits by everyone at school. and should i home school them too just so they are an absolute joke in the adult world as well? Why should i have to sacrifice anything for a kid? Isn’t the goal to give your kid everything and no sacrifices have to be made? my SO was actually raised on one of those HUGE extremely christian house holds before he noped the fuck out. His childhood sounds extremely bleak and exactly how…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:47 PM
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Mom, did you make this post for me to see? No i am not having a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:40 PM
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why do you like this persona? what does it bring you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:39 PM
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again stuff like “playing hard to get” or like “playing hot and cold” is pretty normal tbh. what i’m saying is you can practice this in your dating life but there’s a fine line before it hits RP manipulation
/r/ExRedPill14/08/21 10:21 PM
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so then you don’t need to. girls will go on a second date with you because they want to and they find you fun and attractive. just be genuinely interested in things they say/do and hopefully they will respond the same! of course there’s bad apples out there but that’s just dating in general.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/21 10:12 PM
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that’s all fun and fine. i see in your other comments that you want to use kind of like the “push pull” method which honestly is fine but the way RP spins it with like touches of misogyny and power plays it what makes it gross. It’s perfectly fine to like not text someone back or play hard to get or have the chase but it gets bad when you throw all the RP rhetoric in there
/r/ExRedPill14/08/21 10:10 PM
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so like banter you mean? please don’t mean manipulation ploys
/r/ExRedPill14/08/21 08:21 PM
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yeah i mean, those people do suck
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 02:45 PM
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Think we got a whole worlds difference of experiences but I do see what you’re saying. I’ve never encountered the “won’t commit” out IRL and bad boys are emotionally unstable. Every single one i’ve encountered. My real life experience just heavily contradicts yours but that’s okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:45 PM
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I am not claiming all hot guys are emotionally unstable. I’m saying out of the two, one of them is a “bad boy” who is emotionally unstable, unpredictable, doesn’t follow what his word, and the “marriage guy” who is also hot- she will pick him, and she will 100% pick him after she has dated the bad boy. It’s goes from like clear to crystal clear. Having high social status and being physically attractive is not a bad boy thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:18 PM
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Idk if you have ever been in a relationship with a “bad boy brad” but it’s essentially being with like a man child who cannot express or control their emotions. Sure if brad totally changed and became actually a good person with values and morals- she should stay. But they don’t. And patience runs out. What is it that men say on here super hot girls have like no personality or like can’t do anything for themselves because their looks carry them through everything? That definitely happens with me…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:52 PM
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is being the first guy only good because you get to have sex? how does the second guy also not get the sex too?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:36 PM
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again i’m asking are they not supposed to pick?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:59 PM
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Well if it’s just for sex then yes women “pick” men because why wouldn’t they? Are they not supposed to choose lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:58 PM
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No you don’t pick them. The person you “pick” is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Just because she spent a year with brad in 2005 does not mean she picked him? Just like you wouldn’t tell a guy to marry his on and off crazy girlfriend who comes from an unstable family and has bad habits. Just because he dated her doesn’t mean he picked her
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:42 PM
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Well, you don’t want to end up a single mom in your 30s-40s and that’s why you don’t pick a toxic bad boy. I feel like this could be said about anyone regardless of gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:39 PM
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damn.. hell yeah!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 05:09 PM
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shhh he doesn’t want to admit he’s extremely shallow!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:58 PM
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that was the point of the original comment. Almost every man i’ve met IS like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:21 PM
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willfully ignore? what am i supposed to do meet every single male in the city? when you run in the same social circles for the same standards you have for yourself- you really don’t meet anyone outside of that- unless i guess you have all the time in the world if you live somewhere that is tech centered and left leaning, practically every man is like that list.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:10 PM
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22F- ENFJ i’m not sure my pill. I see the struggles of men in today’s dating world. I acknowledged that they have it worse than women. But that’s about it? I don’t agree with stuff posted here a good 90% of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:54 PM
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idk maybe by high jacking the convo to project your random ass views that came outta no where
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:52 PM
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I can get behind this. Reading this sub makes me like feel extremely lucky i am not out there in this brutal ass dating scene that there is today!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:32 PM
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2%? There’s no way I feel like this is basic standards. my city is filled with nothing but these men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:28 PM
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that is not true 😂 how are you going to say how a women feels in bed when you yourself are a man? how are you just going to straight up ignore everything she says in her own post that her husband won’t even see and say “well. i don’t think it’s that” ???? i can’t tell you how many times my friends have hooked up with a definite “chad” to find out he’s just a jackhammer lame ass in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:47 PM
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sorry, honestly replied to the wrong person!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 12:43 PM
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what are you projecting? he said he would feel like a social outcast if everyone around him coupled up. a lot of people would feel that way to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 12:18 PM
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it’s been updated bro
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 06:55 PM
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Thank you. This post has confirmed what I’ve been saying on PPD for sooooo long!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:23 PM
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sorry i was a teenager who has a dad who cares about her? who was also funding everything. so yes i called him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:55 PM
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Jesus you have been dating terrible women i guess. It’s not like “you get what you give” is the problem- the problem is the mentality of meticulous checking off a box every single time you’ve done something and then not doing anything else until the other person checks their box. Life is far more complex than that. I commented on this thread saying my partner and I honestly align with the OP pretty much, but it’s natural. It doesn’t feel like bookkeeping.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:06 PM
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My relationship is kind of like this already in the sense of “you get x and i’ll get y” kind of deal. We split everything in terms of like big item buying (rent, groceries, getting a bigger TV etc) but I honestly love seeing things I know he likes and picking them up for him, or seeing new events and buying tickets for the both of us. Or if i really crave a certain restaurant I will buy both of our orders since I insisted we go eat there. He does the same? Brings me lunch, surprises me with even…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:59 PM
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I love when men get mad over fucking other people that aren’t them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:23 PM
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why are those the only two options. i’m currently in an LTR and experiencing neither. Maybe i am lucky and am very in sync with my partner
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:51 PM
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The amount of times men here have admitted they want to date women dumber than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:30 PM
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Social benefits are like being able to go fill your car with gas at night and not really think if someone is going to attack you. Or being able to walk to your car at night without fear. Being in an empty space and not having to look over your shoulder There’s also not societal pressure in things like bridesmaids and baby showers. Or mom groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:27 PM
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Being taken seriously in the exact situation you described. I cannot tell you the amount of times I had to call my dad when at an auto shop and he has to get on the phone with the mechanics and tell them to stop trying to rip me off edit- why didn’t i go to another place? all of them were like that why did i call my dad? because i was 16 and wanted to confirm prices with my dad before i paid. it was my first car and i simply just did not know guess i’m a weak bitch for checking in with the dad!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:26 PM
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Novelty wearing off isn’t the same as sexual shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:32 PM
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Any guy i have ever met in real life who has to talk about alpha/beta stuff is literally the most insecure guys I meet. Like they have to stand their ground or something, or trying to prove something they’re not? Or people who use all sorts of vocabulary to prove their point but you wouldn’t even be aware of that vocab unless you knew what they were talking about in the first place. Like that vocab only exist in the manosphere. Walking red flag It’s just annoying af. Be genuine. Be real.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:20 PM
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they coexist with each other. they feed into each other. someone with lots of sexual shame will show a lot of sexual restraint. Look in r/deadbedrooms and read how many “yes she grew up religious” post there are lmao. Men want virgins and then are like blown away when their wife is completely boring or does not think about sex at all and then wonder where everything went wrong. See how many men warn to never marry before sex. Edit- saw your post history. Looks like you know this story far too we…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:35 PM
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Well the thing is they shame women to like the absolute maximum for thinking anything remotely sexually for basically their entire lives. Then they get married and all of sudden it’s like supposed to “switch on” or something- but obviously you can’t just reverse years of sexual shame conditioning. So yeah.. idk about any “sexual exploration” and more something along the lines of frigid starfish sex and a dead bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:17 PM
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they’re basically creating what they hate. some guys realize this and then make their way over to r/exredpill
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:15 PM
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this is my favorite. I love when men think their virgin princess is going to be like their ultimate porn star forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:14 PM
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well that could be caused by trauma. which is double bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:13 PM
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you are talking to a women who obviously cares about body count so duh you are getting answers like that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:08 PM
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Where was that one post that mentioned different groups of people? Like one group was strictly no causal sex and purely monogamous only- those are the types of people to care about body count. Because they care if people are promiscuous. Then there’s another group where people don’t give AF. So no, they wouldn’t care about body count because it would probably be similar between both partners. So truly it just depends on who you are asking
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:06 PM
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you cannot read
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 07:53 PM
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lots of projection we got over here it’s simple. marketing 101- you are just using your insecure just world fallacy to justify your sad thinking it’s for the views bro
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 01:42 PM
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yes, their opinions merely reflect women who are like that. if you consider those women the “average hot women” lol like all of a sudden thots from LA/Miami represent all women? i certainly would not call them average their opinions do not reflect the majority of women just like the opinions from a “type” of men don’t reflect the rest of the entire gender and AGAIN- it’s bc they wouldn’t pull in views
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 01:35 PM
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because they don’t pull the views dude. their business model relies solely on crazy bitches coming on- all the women on the show are the same “type” and if they stopped bringing them on they wouldn’t make any money. they have to keep pushing this narrative because it’s the only thing they have
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 01:26 PM
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literally so many men on this sub. have bad experiences with crazy ass bitches then AWALT
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 01:22 PM
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you’re definitely chasing a type-ever heard of boundaries?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 01:15 PM
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never thought i’d ever see a RP comment i agree with. damn
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 01:12 PM
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It depends. Is it a nice guy who seems totally entitled to sex just because he’s a decent person? Yeah like he can totally fuck off
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 01:47 PM
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it’s 100% accessible anywhere and is no way forbidden. If anything is promoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 01:32 PM
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i’m sorry about the amount of people who are like “WHATS IT TO YA??!” when it’s obvious you just want to get an example answer of what a girl who is “genetically deficit” to do in a “RP World” .. like damn
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 01:17 PM
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holy shit what is wrong with people. OP is just curious? That is it. curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 01:16 PM
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Wife doesn’t want sex with her husband because he doesn’t have sex with her the way she wants
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:41 PM
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I think she had a baby and then all of a sudden she only has mom goggles on and it is extremely hard to see herself as anything else. There are many women in the db sub who admit to this and neglecting their husbands, and now once they’ve realized it’s so awkward to even initiate from their side, again, people really just need to talk to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:20 PM
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There is nothing wrong with not having sex. There is nothing wrong with wanting sex 5 times a day. The problem is when these two people get married, have kids and integrate their lives together. Don’t be those people. If you’re going to let ONE db post have be a blanket statement of some RP ideology.. why don’t we discuss all of the HLFs and what their husbands want and why they won’t have sex with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:13 PM
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thank god you said this. literally some guys just DONT BELIEVE YOU? for some fucking reason when you’re like “i like this more. do it like this. that feels good” and they just DONT
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 12:56 PM
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Some women literally just do not know. They have grown up in an environment where any dirty thought was immediately pushed out because of shame and loss of value. They are literally conditioned to not think about sex. And then their poor husbands watch porn and have some pretty wild ideas which is scary honestly to most women who are somehow supposed to just turn on a sexuality switch when they get married. Happens a lot in Utah!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 09:28 PM
13

🚨🚨pick me 🚨🚨
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 01:52 PM
1

it’s a real thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 06:49 PM
6

No one is telling you you can’t do that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 06:25 PM
5

Basically exactly like everything OP mentioned, lol. It’s just when men speak on their experiences with women in PPD it’s just glaringly obvious they spent their time with some unstable, not so good person. Then scream AWALT !!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 06:22 PM
3

borderline personality disorder
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 06:19 PM
15

Pretty sure majority of men on this sub have exclusively dated women with personality disorders. That’s it source: lived with a girl with BPD in college for a couple years
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 04:00 PM
13

You just dated a terrible person
/r/ExRedPill25/07/21 03:58 PM
2

dude then that’s not a pick me. i feel like i’m reading all your comments and you keep describing other things, that’s not a pick me then!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 03:45 PM
0

idk lol my boyfriend is definitely what you guys would simp and i happily return my simp feelings and actions to him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 03:43 PM
1

They make their entire universe about the guy, so they don’t tend to like anything else in their lives at all.. which is like ? Red flag. There’s nothing wrong with a women doing something nice for a man she likes/loves- but if she has to throw like 10 other women under the bus to do that then yeah, hopefully she got picked! Try r/notliketheothergirls or r/nicegirls for a glimpse!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 03:38 PM
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I feel like you are thinking of it as an extreme, but it is insane how natural it looks. That’s the whole point of the no makeup, makeup look. Some guy literally posted a picture of what he thinks is a girl without makeup and she was clearly wearing eyeliner. I just feel like men truly don’t notice. The entire makeup line of Glossier is to go for that certain look that makes it seem easy and flawless but there’s really like 20 steps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:39 PM
2

that’s literally your own fault then
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:38 PM
2

guys sadly do not know the difference. a girl could be wearing lash tint/extensions, botox, fillers and all different types of enhancements and i’m sure 90% of men on this sub would literally say she’s not even wearing any makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:36 PM
19

get off the internet and enter real life
/r/ExRedPill23/07/21 08:33 PM
1

I can never tell if your comments are satire or not whenever I see them on post
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:55 PM
4

I think she means something like “i spend xyz a month on myself because it makes me feel and look good, i want to be with someone who shares that idea and level of personal maintenance” she wouldn’t want to be with someone who questions her money spending choices, she wants to be with someone who sees the same value in it as her. i can honestly compare it to someone who is dating someone else and one person really enjoys going out to different restaurants and trying different foods while the oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:41 PM
1

Yeah, i mean who doesn’t want a hot gf who is also kind and supportive? So sure women can spend x amount of money on “enhancements” but in situations like this it’s really not hurting anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:36 PM
3

Damn I’m sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:10 PM
2

you work when you’re not on the clock?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:04 PM
9

you are definitely the one who is disconnected from reality if you think attractive people are somehow immune from being insecure and having self esteem issues
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:01 PM
2

i don’t think she means women who put all and everything into their looks- just saying a good women who already has those traits you mentioned her attractiveness and ability to get attention is heavily increased when she has her perfect hair skin and nails
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 03:53 PM
4

guys 1000% treat women with all the things OP described better, but they’ll never admit it because it would prove how shallow they are claiming others are!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 03:51 PM
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same, i’m 100% sure my boyfriend would not care if i stopped getting my nails done and stopped doing my ultimate skincare regimen.. but I DO! I care!!!! My boyfriend probably enjoys that I do all of that but it wouldn’t change anything if i stopped, besides drive me crazy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 03:49 PM
6

this is exactly the kind of response i would expect from men on this sub haha
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 03:48 PM
4

I guarantee you if i showed men on here a picture of a girl who upkeeps like you mentioned (hair,skin, nails) they wouldn’t believe that’s how much it cost just to get that “no makeup” flawless like look. I would go further and be willing to bet they won’t even believe she’s wearing makeup at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 03:40 PM
1

yes, they very much exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 08:28 PM
14

so you want to be with someone who has a lower intelligence level than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:29 PM
4

or you fall for another finance gal?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:24 PM
1

i literally want to die now
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:24 PM
13

wait a second, just because you earn more money just gives you a pass to any other parental duties?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:08 PM
3

What if they want to work, too?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:07 PM
1

oh yes if you do not live in america i could see how a lot more things are very WTF
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 04:10 PM
2

I would love to see that. I am pretty sure there was a posting on here linking a study that couples who get divorced the most married before the age of 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 04:05 PM
1

Yes, and although both scenarios are awful IMO the one with the way older dude is worse
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:55 PM
2

Yes, manipulation and exploitation can be damaging for anyone. Apples to oranges
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:53 PM
1

You need to clearly define what you mean by gap. I think a lot of people here would be fine when you say the age gap is around 2-5 years, but what people in the comments are trying to say dudes who chase girls young enough to be their daughters, that’s fucking creepy. It’s not weird to date someone who is 25 and you are like 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:48 PM
2

Yes. I have never, ever known a relationship dynamic of a young girl and a dude old enough to be her dad to work out. Most of the time it ends in the most terrible, shit storm firey way because these men are literally just man child’s who cannot date women their own age because they immediately see through his BS
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:43 PM
1

Almost every single case i’ve seen a grown ass man with a women 10+ years younger than him, outside of a sugar baby relationship (which is irrelevant because that’s honestly like a whole different world because you literally get paid, there’s not “grooming” because girls voluntarily know what they’re getting into with an older guy, and getting comp) it literally ends in the worse way for the girl. These men cannot get along with women their own age because those women can see through their man c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:37 PM
1

so much projection in one reply omg
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 12:58 PM
1

if i was a women who was like 5’9 i’d want to wear heels etc i would still want the man to just be a little taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 12:55 PM
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lmao any man who speaks with vocab like that sticks out like a sore thumb IRL and i immediately avoid them to the extreme like if you literally have to proclaim yourself as “alpha” .. who ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 12:48 PM
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holy shit dude- i admire the detailed post you provided us. if you ever speak to him again, you should tell him something along the lines of “if you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an ass. if you run until assholes all day- you are the ass” or “if everywhere you go smells like shit- check your shoes”
/r/ExRedPill20/07/21 07:56 PM
1

girl i understand you have morals and values but it doesn’t make you better than anyone else… you say you don’t want people to fetishize you but you’re doing enough of that yourself already! you’re acting like your virginity is some kind of shiny star but really it’s giving you a harder time. what is this purity culture bs?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 01:57 PM
1

disgusting rats i think is a new one around here!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 01:55 PM
1

the definition of “the bar” is totally different
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 03:55 PM
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it’s so funny because they stick out so hard too.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 08:20 PM
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Please.. the last thing a man who’s sleeping with over 100 girls is writing paragraphs to other men on the internet about it.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 08:19 PM
1

well then move on from those people with issues lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:56 PM
1

🥇please enjoy my broke reddit award :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:44 PM
2

People in those groups should exclusively just date each other then. Be upfront people
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:38 PM
1

Yeah sure, but that was her career. She is a psychologist PHD candidate.. she does know them.
/r/ExRedPill14/07/21 12:46 AM
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i understand, but the part that throws me off is she is a psych PHD canidate, with a bff who has a psych PHD, who constantly turns her and gives her good advice she just refuses to listen to. come on.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/21 08:43 PM
1

how about the part where she does absolutely everything instead of just purely communicating with her husband and then wonders why everything is falling apart- that aside from the fact the main character is just a terrible person and anyone can see that
/r/ExRedPill13/07/21 02:54 PM
5

play stupid games win stupid prizes :)
/r/ExRedPill13/07/21 02:51 PM
3

How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:56 PM
2

He will never accept this completely logical answer solely because of his severe personal hatred against makeup, sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:51 PM
1

is there only one way of dressing that is influential?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:47 PM
2

because you’re really worked up over makeup and it’s hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:45 PM
2

like no shampoo and conditioner?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:40 PM
6

well, i’ve never rented a car. and I am a girl so I’ve been pretty much doing the same skin/makeup routine forever so I guess I just can’t see it as anything more whereas i see renting a car like not in the normal routine which is why i think that’s a lot more effort than makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:38 AM
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No i mean like, are men and women just going to walk around in uniforms bare faced? Or should we all just stay pathetic in our vanity filled selves
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:36 AM
4

and then wait and have to go get it? or have it delivered and spent more time signing the papers? oh and then how about bringing it back?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:35 AM
1

what is the proposed solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:33 AM
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Wearing makeup is … extremely simple? Especially if you are doing one of those “natural” looks. Like obviously a full face of makeup going out on the town can look really good or bad depending on how the person does it. But in terms of every day stuff I think it’s a 15 min process.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:30 AM
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I don’t disagree, but like renting a car takes like 10 more steps than just buying and wearing makeup i’m pretty sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:28 AM
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i love when men say natural look. like bro she’s wearing eyeliner. i’m willing to bet i could post a girl wearing those no makeup makeup looks and everyone would believe she’s actually not wearing any.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:27 AM
1

Different levels of deception!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:26 AM
1

I’m not saying that in the slightest. I encourage people to be single and live their own lives doing literally whatever the hell they want as long as it isn’t like murdering people and burning down buildings. I honestly think we agree more than we disagree, I was just trying to point some things out in your study. Relationships aren’t like all time holy grail to happiness, but I do believe that humans are happier with close, long relationships whether it’s with friends, family or SOs. Humans wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:48 PM
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oh.. it doesn’t matter because they can’t possibly find another relationship that’s helped them return to their initial life satisfaction? I’m not saying that it’s completely responsible, but obviously plays a big part. And I still don’t understand the other part, they asked couples if their happiness/satisfaction levels increased post marriage, and they said no. Because what difference does marriage really make? Not that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:29 PM
1

Because marriage is just a legal piece of paper. It is not the emotional bond. Of course it wouldn’t really do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:15 PM
1

Maybe because the widows found a way back to happiness.. AKA another long term loving relationship? Doesn’t say, but maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:14 PM
1

Well, it can be both. Might as well throw having kids in there for sum
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:11 PM
2

I hate America’s survivalist, pull up your bootstrap mentality kind of thing. Collectivist culture completely does not exist here. People wonder why the country is always off the rails
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:08 PM
1

Well i mean, it did start in the 1940s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:06 PM
1

Your second study is specifically about marriage and how couples saw no increased satisfaction after getting married but could it be because it’s not marriage but it’s the loving bond they have together? And does it state how the widowers eventually got back to their initial life satisfaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:00 PM
2

skipping foreplay? this OP doesn’t seem to think it even exist for women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:24 PM
1

What would you say about all the wives and girlfriends being deprived of sex and pleasure from their male SO?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:21 PM
1

This is it. In my days of PPD i feel like i’ve finally seen the worst comment ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:17 PM
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I thought that’s what dating was- like going on multiple dates with multiple people and finding a connection? And then become exclusive. It shocked me to think that people thought completely differently
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 07:14 PM
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I don’t understand, so like you don’t like when women spin plates? Honestly your description reads as just modern dating? Like dating and getting to know multiple people and find a nice connection and then become exclusive?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 07:11 PM
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yepppp. this is it.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/21 07:05 PM
1

thanks ! <3
/r/ExRedPill07/07/21 07:36 AM
2

hey did you miss the part where she watched her husband get his dick sucked by her friend at a sex party? or did you not watch or at all and are just focusing on your tunnel vision narrative ?
/r/ExRedPill07/07/21 07:26 AM
3

you are projecting HARD.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 10:09 PM
3

hey man, you don’t have to believe it 😂 i mean like there’s some real life parallels but like.. it’s a show for a reason
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 10:08 PM
1

FWBs, possible ONSs
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:42 AM
1

do you live in america?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:05 AM
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i actually prefer men hairy as a caveman. my friends BF is like a naked rat it weirds me out lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 06:02 PM
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because it’s not the answer he was looking for-which is already in his head when he made the post 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:45 PM
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make friends with other women and focus on my career
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:41 PM
0

yes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:57 PM
2

hey everyone this guy doesn’t believe in science
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:53 PM
0

it’s just like you are in completely different stages in life how do you even relate to each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:53 PM
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well those are her own standards, and then describes how standards for men in society are pretty low, like as in commercials where dad changes a diaper and everyone is supposed to applaud or something for him doing basic parenting. at least i think that’s what she means .
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:48 PM
1

there was a huge thread on r/askreddit about people describing their internal monologues and others giving their take on what it’s like not having one. very interesting lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:46 PM
1

Wait people didn’t already know this? Read any relationship post ever, obviously those people are not super bright. Why would I take them seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:44 PM
2

“oh i tried to be nice but it didn’t work instead i will manipulate you”
/r/ExRedPill29/06/21 11:32 PM
1

yeah but why does that give them reason to hate the entire other gender. I literally saw a post the other day on unpopular opinions about how small boobs are so much better than big boobs and all the men in the comments were like HELL YEAH. wtf am i supposed to do start hating everyone who has small boobs? no. literally not at all. some men like curvy, some men like thin, some blondes, and some brunettes say one guy thinks girls from out of their country are super sexy, some men want absolutely …
/r/ExRedPill29/06/21 11:12 PM
8

she doesn’t want to fuck him
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:20 AM
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wow buddy nice trying to improve yourself with that mindset. Therapy saved my life tbh- also did you know you’re super angry over something u don’t have control over? like women having boobs
/r/ExRedPill28/06/21 11:46 PM
1

how old are you? I’ve seen some of your other comments, any way you can place yourself in a better environment with less toxicity?
/r/ExRedPill26/06/21 01:40 AM
1

yay!! good!!
/r/ExRedPill26/06/21 01:39 AM
2

please do not let your bad experiences with bad women effect your perception of all of them. you sound like people you know aren’t very genuine at all.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/21 12:37 AM
1

being needy is like if you were to ask her 100 different questions about how she got home and when etc. asking one simple question regarding safety (like she drunk drove home) it’s perfectly okay to ask “get home safe?”
/r/ExRedPill26/06/21 12:34 AM
1

Yes. Every single situation is different. Not like I have many breakups to compare this anyways lol
/r/ExRedPill25/06/21 06:32 PM
1

not sure. it’s just a quote i have seen before. my theory it probably has something to do with men trying to not be so down about it in hopes they will feel better faster but are actually suppressing feelings they need to address, therefore the problem and feelings are prolonged. Women i know would rather feel and recognize their feelings and know they need to understand before anything else can get better. for example my ex literally partied it up immediately after the break up while i allowed …
/r/ExRedPill24/06/21 11:42 PM
1

“women break up harder, men break up longer”
/r/ExRedPill24/06/21 06:09 PM
3

are we all talking about the same shorts here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:54 PM
2

Oh yes! I was very attracted to him before, but the mismatch colors of his basketball shorts, t shirts AND shoes was too much. Let’s coordinate those colors! Same thing kind of applies when a women sees her man all dressed up in a suit, so hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:15 PM
1

i mean are cargo shorts and crocs really that deep
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:51 PM
9

this! I really pay attention more when the outfit is bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:49 PM
1

Fashion is important. But personally I love minimalistic clothing- and literally always look like I’m going to work out because I live in leggings and a tank and will only change for reasons like nice dinner, going out etc. but WFH and grabbing groceries- same as the gym outfit lol. So my SO matches me in this sense. I will say when we started dating I definitely helped upgrade his wardrobe! I’ve helped him find clothes that fit him so much more, for all different parts of his life. It has boost…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:47 PM
1

I have a similar post about this. It’s literally like “let me dedicate my entire life to myself and how to improve” quickly translates to how many ways you can be the victim and constantly blame someone else. oh and being very angry. all the time. which is so unhealthy.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/21 02:38 PM
1

omg that’s actually so funny. i will be calling it that too from now on!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:42 PM
1

Jesus dude. I hope you get your dick wet soon because you need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:06 PM
1

your claim that is biologically hardwired for men to fuck women and that’s immediately their first thought every time they see a women. source ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:00 PM
2

okay! no source then. only opinions!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:59 PM
1

source?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:57 PM
1

now picture them in tiny tiny shorts doing poses in a 100 degree room :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:50 PM
1

unfortunately I am under qualified to answer that question
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:51 PM
1

Oh jesus. You should have started with she’s 21 and married with a kid- big yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 02:35 PM
1

mm I was meaning like religious conservative not like white trash kind of people?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 02:28 PM
4

No, women enjoy the attention. Just not the creeps, which always unfortunately follow. It’s called respectfully looking
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 02:12 PM
4

Alright you obviously do not live in a big city that is filled with men wearing literally nothing besides tiny tint track shorts. And maybe i’m a little more wtf because they’re are a ton of men who come to my yoga class and they wear almost nothing- which is absolutely fine. This is all completely okay i am just stating it because you seem like men just wear regular shorts and a t shirt. If anything-women are wearing more clothes than men! Women, some of us liked to be looked at. Respectfully!!…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 02:01 PM
1

i’ve addressed many times before it is not fair
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 01:38 PM
1

they don’t sound very conservative at all to me then.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 01:06 PM
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why would an average dude take what one women says and apply it to all of them
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 01:11 AM
2

you are describing a women who probably has BPD and that is why she is crazy as shit
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:27 PM
4

of course. who is conservative and has casual sex? not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:26 PM
6

if the majority of men in ur city became women all of a sudden, they would do the exact same thing those women in ur city are doing now
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:23 PM
1

In college. In a sorority- like yes people are hooking up but it’s a lot less of a ONS kind of thing and more of a mutual hookup buddy. Every single relationship I know of either is carried from high school or these two people started hooking up then went to exclusively hooking up (“talking phase”) and then just to a couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:19 PM
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i’m not too sure. we started as FWB but after we got serious and very transparent i didn’t want to hide the fact i absolutely adored how he smells all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:01 PM
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this is true for me. i absolutely love just inhaling my SO no matter what state. post gym OR post shower. i’m here for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 10:35 PM
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i just wish him therapy. it’s just not healthy for someone to have such extreme hatred and spend literally all day (from the looks of his account) raging at other people. Is he this angry all the time about just everything? That’s gotta be so exhausting
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:21 PM
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idk why men sometimes don’t believe women when they share things like this. i actually know a ton of women who aren’t chasing after dudes at the gym. I actually prefer some squishy and love a good dad bod. Just to see someone enjoy themselves and not try and fit into this image and track literally everything like crazy. It’s nice and refreshing . but no. i’m a women on the internet of course i’m lying about everything!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:03 PM
20

yepp! we basically are attracted to the “scent” of another immune system that are “opposite” of ours in hopes when we procreate our baby has a better chance of a healthier immune system
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 04:56 PM
3

that is so so sad!!! my SO is a caveman and i love his hairy butt!!! he shaved his beard off once and it was devastating
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 03:18 PM
1

same. i love my caveman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 03:02 PM
9

don’t worry. some gals prefer it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 03:01 PM
2

I like to think of FDS as the PPD exclusively for women, which makes everything a lot worse. Like an echo chamber of women who have had bad experiences with men and now are like all men are like that blah blah or whatever. They’re crazy and bitter, very much like a lot of male demographic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 06:11 PM
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yeah.. it’s like come on man you would’ve known there was an entire budget this before a single drink was brought in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 05:59 PM
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I am a women and the first time I watched porn was when i was 12 at a sleepover with a large group of girls. We all found it from Tumblr which was super trendy at a time, but yeah, we all watched and continue to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 05:56 PM
1

Yes yes! That is all totally normal to feel and this is a good mindset to have. You can compare it to someone getting out of a toxic relationship where they think there’s crazy ends are normal and that the chaos of their relationship is normal. And then they get into a normal relationship (normal as in each person clearly, effectively communicates and listens) and they think it is so boring. Because the chaos that they once brought them so much emotion (not usually good ones) is gone. Their rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 05:29 PM
4

You feed into women who will manipulate you and in turn (especially if you are following RP “tactics”) you deploy your own tactics as well. It’s a messy messy game. There is no need for games. Be with women who know how to be adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 05:16 PM
1

Have you ever heard of Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung and their wild but not super crazy theories about people? How daughters want to kill their moms and date their dads, and sons are attracted to their moms etc. Sounds completely insane but once you kind of see it you won’t ever stop. I made the realization that I’m lowkey dating a version of my dad because I had a good early childhood experience and it reflects in my dating practices. And I agree with you, peoples negative experiences effect thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 05:13 PM
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you’re wondering why you attract crazy bitches and it’s because of your behavior towards them. i will say it again and again.. these men on this sub and their encounters with women who definitely have BPD stunt their perceptions of other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:58 PM
2

because it’s not “fair” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:40 PM
1

I mean they’re definitely are those crazy ones over on relationship subs but for the most part those subs suggest just proper communication with each other versus subs like this where people detest the other gender (sometimes) and would rather deploy manipulation tactics other than just, speaking to each other like adults. That’s why i feel like most men have run into girls who have BPD because why else would you fall into a manipulation game at all. Most women I know don’t have time for bullshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:38 PM
4

just because someone with bad personality and morals wants to be friends with you, it doesn’t mean you should be friends with them. why would you give away ur free time to that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 09:44 PM
11

I am convinced most women that men on this sub have interacted with in real life all have BPD. Who the fuck are these women and why are the crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 08:41 PM
4

why are you friends with such a stupid person who obviously doesn’t care how she damages other peoples lives
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 08:40 PM
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I have become more aware of dating struggles for a man. There hasn’t been a specific argument per se, but like I can understand where frustration and anger come from and it’s not like I can speak for them since I’m not in their position but I just.. i get it more now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:47 PM
6

why is that surprising or did you think you were pointing out something new?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 06:02 PM
3

Isn’t there an entire group of men dedicated to looking and feeling their best and excluding women out of their lives completely? seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:37 PM
2

no no no, keep going. pursue women who know how to handle their shit, it will honestly save you money in the long run lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 12:41 PM
5

This comment goes against what a lot of other men say on this thread tho
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 08:24 PM
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there is a big difference between “rich” people who constantly flex and “wealthy” people who look like any other regular joe on the street, like zuckerberg and his plain t shirts at $450 a piece
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 08:22 PM
1

I never understood why men don’t consider a women’s career or her financial status...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 07:14 PM
2

lol you really got em there!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 02:31 AM
1

Interesting and I agree with you, i’ve just seen so many men on this sub go and on of how the career of women doesnt matter to them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 02:28 AM
1

so you would say most men do take importance on the career of their significant other?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 02:11 AM
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as a women i wouldn’t comment on someone who is overweight that they are physically easy on the eyes.. because they aren’t. it’s unhealthy. but it’s also not like i would insult them either. i just wouldn’t say anything i also don’t agree with the women over the ages of like 21 competing with each other.. no one has time or energy to care about other peoples lives like that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 02:03 AM
1

why would that be upsetting? besides insecurity reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 04:33 PM
1

Why doesn’t anyone get a prenup-if you want to get married sure but also be prepared for the stats telling you you got a 50/50 shot. Be realistic and save yourself the trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 04:28 PM
6

Yepp. People hype themselves up in their brain so much, which can be a good thing. Not like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:25 PM
2

this is exactly the type of response i was expecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 04:27 PM
1

would i want to have my vagina or lower abdomen ripped open? and then pay hundreds of thousands for like the next two decades?? ummmmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 01:17 PM
2

if you want to act like the 60s, by all means do it. Stop being angry when the rest of the world doesn’t want to play along.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 01:09 PM
2

this means literally nothing. this is just like ben shapiro’s sister posting youtube videos about how to be a modest women or whatever.. no one cares!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 05:07 PM
1

those terms are not mutually exclusive?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 03:46 PM
1

or they will buy store brand detergent instead of the super cute, flowery one to the right. it’s all about marketing baby
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 03:45 PM
2

Have you ever heard the term man child or women warn other women to not date “mommas boys” it’s because some men have a mother who think they can do nothing wrong, so they grow up to be adults who know nothing of picking up after themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 03:44 PM
2

stop placing so much of an importance on other people and place the importance on yourself. write 10 things you love about yourself (or google self affirmations) and say them out loud, to yourself every day in the mirror. your brain will believe anything you say if you just say it enough. if you believe you will like fail or whatever because you don’t do xyz then just work on changing the mindset and narrative you have given yourself. my mom had me at 32 because she lived her best life all throu…
/r/ExRedPill05/06/21 04:51 PM
2

why on earth would you want to get married before 25. divorce rates are highest for those under 25.
/r/ExRedPill05/06/21 04:45 PM
3

well this is all in terms of purely looks though and can’t be all that’s in a relationship sense
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 04:21 PM
2

men have such low standards and then are confused when a women blows up their lives like duh you chose someone with such poor character and you just didn’t care to pay attention
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 04:12 PM
1

check r/deadbedrooms
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 01:02 PM
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people should need to face the reality of what it’s like to be married nowadays and prepare for it better, like that shit is hard, and sometimes things don’t go your way. they need to prepare for divorce just like they would prepare for children, like what would happen etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 11:08 PM
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i feel like this is so the typical story for people who get married young.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 11:06 PM
-1

...yes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:01 AM
2

it allll circles back to communication styles and how they form during adolescence
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:55 PM
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this is true and those women are apart of the problem!!! i’m all for girls support girls but like.. you can’t hold someone else to a standard you can’t fulfill yourself, people are just narcissistic and have a hard time learning the world doesn’t revolve around them. men and women seemingly like entitled to dates and a persons time etc.. messy!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:47 PM
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they never and refuse to interact with women but somehow know literally everything about them.. lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:44 PM
2

there is nothing wrong with wanting someone who is financially stable, especially if you are financially stable as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:36 PM
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half of the requirements are just being a decent human, i wished that everyone had basic standards she has set for herself!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:33 PM
4

please do not seek dating advice from this sub or like reddit in general
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:30 PM
5

same!!! i would literally show them the way out
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:25 PM
10

it’s insane. it is literally insane how people on this sub think.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:23 PM
4

what kind of things did she list that you think are infrequent to find in a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:22 PM
3

no one said that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:54 PM
2

have fun doing that!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:51 PM
1

where did she ever state any of that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:35 PM
2

if anything I would encourage all men on this sub to have the exact same standards as her
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:27 PM
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what do you have to say about literally so many average looking couples out there
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:21 PM
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what aren’t important? “some are super vague” yeah but when she tried to give details men went on a rampage about how it was “too demanding or too much” but when she boils it down to one thing it’s “super vague” now
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:17 PM
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yepp. his one and only argument is that she listened 15+ points instead of simplifying them down to like 4. He is so so upset over that. I just want to be like hey man if you hate women just stop the denial
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:10 PM
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bitter men run this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:08 PM
6

“tell more women to be unattractive”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:05 PM
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are you kidding me lol like why would you want to date someone who isn’t a pet lover if you are?? why would you do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:58 PM
1

it’s not?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:55 PM
10

the same men love love love to scream how shallow women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:55 PM
13

you’re upset about how she worded her first statement, you would have been fine if she just made them around 4 points then?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:52 PM
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i have literally no idea how you took her statement of bare minimum qualities in a partner and are dissecting it like it’s some crazy quantum, impossible formula. my partner checks all her boxes, because those are reasonable questions to make before getting into a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:49 PM
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society tells people they should be afraid to be alone and that somehow, they have lost, and because of that people wind up and stay in terrible relationships thinking a marriage or a baby will fix things but obviously does not and then the cycle repeats
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:46 PM
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Okay what? I read her list first and was thinking “okay.. bare minimum” also literally feel like she described a normal and healthy relationship where both partners have an effective communication style so when disagreements do occur it’s not handled immaturely.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:40 PM
1

why do you think women are the only ones who ignore red flags ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:05 PM
2

Men speaking on how they’ve ignored red flags too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:02 PM
1

i think you should go to therapy before you continue dating.. like in the healthiest way
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:54 PM
2

so bad situations never occur in public?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:52 PM
2

“you don’t need to vet” how do you expect anyone to take u seriously when u make statements like that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:47 PM
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you need to do an internet cleansing and go into the real world dude
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:43 PM
2

men wonder why women do not like to converse with them and then when we do it’s this is the dialogue
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:36 PM
1

this is true. my roommate got herself in a bad situation about a year ago and i always told her if we lived in a perfect world, she wouldn’t have to be careful of her actions that place her in in certain circumstances... but we don’t, so she does.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:32 PM
1

a debate sub. what forbids people from sharing their anecdotal experiences that in turn shape their perceptions on certain topics?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:28 PM
1

seriously literally all bitter men here love to cherry pick that one story it’s funny
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:22 PM
0

this boils down to communication styles we learn in adolescence and they don’t necessarily transfer over easily into adulthood. girls are used to being more open, emotional and vulnerable where as boys are more used to just sweeping things under the rug, that’s why there can be such a disconnect when dating starts, communication styles have been off for years by the time people think about intimate relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 11:32 PM
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I get it. As a girl my friends and I make sure we aren’t being platonic girlfriends.. for example if a male friend needs a suit for an event: a friend would pop up a recommendation she has, a girlfriend would go WITH him to the recommendation.. something along those lines
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:14 PM
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One of my close friends is a man and since we’ve grown up together it’s too much like sibling-ish to ever be romantically and sexually involved. We have been on a ton of trips together (group trips) and probably hangout twice a month- he also calls me whenever, but it’s strictly platonic
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:43 PM
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take your confirmation bias somewhere else
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:39 PM
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browse any relationship sub and it’s filled with women being like “my boyfriend just video games and sleeps while i am out at work and pay for everything”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:39 PM
0

i see. i thought you were implying 4 dates has this crazy importance or significance
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:35 PM
1

4 dates mean everything? really?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:32 PM
5

diamonds in general have been a huge marketing gimmick from the start!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:04 PM
1

bro the way you’re arguing these points shows everyone how much you lack social awareness
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:00 PM
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these connections form at childhood.. a lot of how parents treated you during infancy and early childhood have a profound effect for the rest of your life
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:57 PM
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it’s crazy to me that not many people talk about developmental theories more on this sub. help explain a lot of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:56 PM
1

also remember people are dumb and desperate
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:51 PM
1

when people say personality matters more it’s pertaining to someone who is already attractive. like if they’re attractive with a good personality it’s a good deal, but is a complete deal breaker if someone has a bad personality regardless of their looks
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:50 PM
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um yes.. that’s why people aren’t encouraged to do it in their early 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 02:51 AM
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at their core, those people are compatible. one person thinks that the legally binding contract is nothing but just law and has no definition of their actual relationship. the other person obviously feels different, that marriage may be like a status symbol or bogged down of religious/cultural reasons that frown on couples not getting married in a certain timeframe. keep in mind we’re talking about people under 25 still and usually people around 28-30 are looking to get married and settle down n…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 02:43 AM
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if you want a large family, then first you need to make sure the person you may be with or currently with are on the same page. so, then once things are very serious and talks about marriage/future come up, couples can plan accordingly. for example i know i do not want children before 30. My mother had me at 32 and my other sibling at 36, i plan on doing something very similar, my boyfriend knows this and feels the same. to the same, if a couple knew they wanted a bigger family. these are reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 02:40 AM
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The divorce rates are highest for people under 25. Your prefrontal cortex, the decision making part of your brain, just finished developing around 21-22. Most of the time you are just getting out of college and learning how to be a real adult, there are other things that should be learned and prioritized. A lot of grads may feel lost because your whole life you are fed this “direction” you should follow and all of sudden post grad there isn’t realllyyy direction. Live for yourself, make mistakes…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 02:32 AM
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she just needs individual therapy, truly i think there are some things that are deep inside her she needs to work through, likely she had a lot of negative thoughts about herself and visiting those subs is kind of like an echo chamber reinforcing those negative thoughts, however to some people this is “comforting” soley based on the fact that it’s just replicating thoughts she already had so it’s all familiar to her
/r/ExRedPill22/05/21 06:04 PM
1

welcome to ppd. there’s some weird shit on here
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:23 PM
2

anyone thinking fine dining is a good idea for the first date is probably unpleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:54 PM
2

was in Miami recently. Had bottle service paid for and then literally went on a yacht right after. never. slept with anyone !
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:50 PM
3

this guy just needs to say he is cheap as fuck and move on. i don’t understand
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:46 PM
1

and i never disagreed to that?? splitting the bill is like surface level with the issues you have spouted through this post and your comments. i think you just pointed it out because 1) makes 0 sense. 2) you literally had nothing else to say. but still felt like you should say something.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:43 PM
1

nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:38 PM
5

you can compare people to numbers all you want. you can make things as transactional, keep the black and white dichotomy way of thinking all you want. you can “some other man is probably doing this for her.. so no way am i!” or constantly comparing yourself to someone else’s previous experiences that literally have nothing to do with you. or thinking about women as not people who can split or even offer to pay the whole bill. just don’t be surprised when it all backfires in your face and you hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:36 PM
5

your way of thinking is extremely fucking weird
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:31 PM
2

“what the odds are” ???
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:30 PM
3

so when someone wants to hang out do you ask for a list of everyone else they have hung out with and the costs they may have acquired during those times?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:27 PM
7

exactly. my first “date” with my boyfriend was a walk where then we sat in the park and people watched
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:21 PM
8

did you read his first response at all
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:21 PM
15

i simply just do not agree with your logic at all
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 02:26 AM
13

they think it’s okay to judge women like that because women apparently live their life on easy mode and somehow men have it way worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 08:46 PM
6

that’s how MGTOW classify women all the time. if one women does something, suddenly AWALT
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 08:44 PM
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the divorce rates are so high for people under 25 because getting married in your early 20s is about the dumbest thing you can do. you know absolutely nothing about yourself. your brain itself has just finished developing.. literally anyone who does this is just so strange to me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 08:42 PM
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I think OP may be a bit wrong for FDS just because there’s literally a section about how to get married like in a year
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 01:47 PM
1

I am not married. But if I was, I’m a really good cook, like dinner parties for friends where I make everything. Love making stuff from scratch and hate taking short cuts like already made jar sauces at the store. Boyfriend is pretty clueless in the kitchen but always on the sidelines if i need an extra hand. I’m pretty particular about things in the kitchen so i prefer being in there myself. I’m also like OCD cleaning and it’s my form of “self care” so the place is usually spotless, because of …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 04:34 PM
1

it’s so funny to me that men in TRP think they get hotter as they age. like any of my friends and i (<22) have any interest in wrinkly skin flaps
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 04:02 PM
3

seriously though.. like who gives a fuck. don’t get married. literally no one cares
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 03:58 PM
15

surprise some women don’t dream of being a SAHM
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 03:54 PM
1

I think a lot of men would disagree on your first point. Like.. they definitely do care about some of those things, if not all, but at least some. And then your last paragraph, I believe men on this sub don’t think those women exist at all. Like they literally call them unicorns or something
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 03:53 PM
5

you sound a little bitter to me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 05:46 PM
3

Nope. I constantly describe my boyfriend as a golden retriever puppy and i love it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 05:45 PM
4

I once saw a picture of my mom at 45 and I was like wow! I would be so fine looking like that at 45! Life long yoga, veggie eating and sunscreen really does it for ya
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 05:42 PM
2

No. Because the first thing i said when i saw my boyfriend for the first time was “holy fuck he’s so hot” and then i found out he is also like the funniest person ever. It would make me feel super strange if he told me he thinks i’m not “super pretty” but like i make him laugh or something..I just wouldn’t like it. I want my partner to be super infatuated with me and find me very, very attractive-just as I feel about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 05:39 PM
0

what’s the point of this post
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 01:01 PM
0

lmao okay.. whatever fits your narrative in your head :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 12:59 PM
1

What? There’s women in this thread who say they do lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 03:12 AM
1

they just told me “if you think that way- that’s sexist!” when i reiterated the fact RP men love conservative women because in conservative culture men have all the control.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/21 07:50 PM
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Why do you believe modern women are like that? Sure there’s that blue haired angry “feminist” that never shaves anywhere on her body that men absolutely love to use when they mention any “liberalization” of women.. that’s the problem.. the over generalization. Men i know in my life are nothing like redpill and I don’t categorize men as neckbeards who sit in their basement. That’s the problem that a lot of men in RP have.. “AWALT” is not true but they will die standing by it. I’m a full fledge fe…
/r/ExRedPill05/05/21 07:46 PM
1

and you’ll see a bunch saying they do enjoy casual sex? surprise people like different things? also how is it “literally all of you” when i’m literally right here and made my own comment on my journey in wanting casual sex.. hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 07:18 PM
5

The amount of cognitive dissonance you are showing is fucking astronomical. You are not a former TRP. You still, most definitely are 100% a red pill guy.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/21 07:13 PM
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the reason they want conservative women is the power over them. the whole “man is head of household” kind of thing. they want women to just say “okay babe! sounds good” for everything. that wives just please their husband and that’s their job. that is culture in conservative settings. that is what RP men want. you literally explain all the wrong things they do and then you’re like “but that’s not wrong? how is that wrong?”and then wonder why every single response you have is downvoted af
/r/ExRedPill05/05/21 07:08 PM
3

that ideology is so fucked up
/r/ExRedPill05/05/21 07:06 PM
3

omg this is my favorite comment on this thread so far.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/21 07:02 PM
4

have you seen redpill men on subs like PPD or even on the actual TRP sub they literally mourn the fucking 50s-60s back when women only depended on men for literally everything because society was just shaped like that. They love love love the idea of women in the past are just submissive servants to their husbands. I literally talked to a RP guy the other day on how he hopes his wife has a conservative upbringing since “back in the old days” that’s how it was... major yikes..
/r/ExRedPill05/05/21 06:59 PM
2

how is it a high reward? is it better than the high reward with promiscuous women? if you yourself are promiscuous than why not hold yourself to the same standard that you hold other women to? also, if a girl is chaste do you think there are a lot other reasons to that? kind of like sex negative thinking or conservative upbringing?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 09:29 PM
2

yes.. those women seem to be from FDS and believe if I as a women don’t agree completely to their unrealistic views then i am a pick me. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 05:57 PM
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I don’t think it’s exclusive to women, come on now. Some men love stuff in their butts. Some men would highly disagree with anything in their butt being okay. Both ways are totally fine
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 05:32 PM
3

username checks out. you really do just go off without stopping
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:49 PM
1

?!?? men count the number of times they’ve had sex?!?!!!!!!!! so what if a women was in a LTR for like five years with a guy and it didn’t work out. she’s probably had sex thousands of times but it’s with the same dude. so what then?? she’ll have trouble dating because what?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:46 PM
2

can i get this on a magnet or something ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:45 PM
1

this is my new favorite sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:28 PM
2

I just think people view sex differently in terms of not having an orgasm that somehow automatically deems the entire situation as terrible when it was just having a good time with someone! Sex feels goooood.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:22 PM
2

that’s not BP women. That’s FDS women all over reddit!!! as a women i don’t claim them lol, which they would so call me a pick me for but they’re insane so i don’t mind
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:19 PM
1

who are the women denying the like it and seek if? this entire thread is full of women, including me, out right staring they want casual sex and they seek it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:17 PM
3

it’s a fun experience
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:10 PM
9

i honestly enjoy seeing men short circuiting their brains trying to figure out women do the same exact things to men that men do to women. we like to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:09 PM
1

this 100% works both ways
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:06 PM
2

this is logic i don’t understand. why search for women with low promiscuity while you yourself seem highly promiscuous and at the same time are creating more girls you seem to not want at all
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 03:58 PM
11

i am a women i would only like to sleep with hot people please
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 03:56 PM
1

Anyways, I’m early 20s and went through a pretty awful breakup with a long term boyfriend. I was hurt and frustrated, so I did full fledge go out and expect attention and validation from other men and wanted them to sleep with me to make it happen. I picked a couple of men to casually see, they were all very fun. I got what I wanted out of it. Lifestyles like this if they continue for more than a couple of months is damaging in the long run and are not worth it. There is no substance and ultimat…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 03:53 PM
1

i know no women like this in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:20 PM
0

news flash they very much could be and he’s just an asshole cheater
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 09:36 PM
1

this is how people turn into shallow, bitter pessimist
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 05:19 PM
5

being pregnant=risk dying leaving house=risk dying do you guys need any extra bubble wrap by chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 11:30 PM
2

why is OP acting like child free couples are ultimately happy like they won’t encounter other problems? as if one of them got sick? one of the parents or in laws has gotten sick and now they need to move in and be taken care of? like why are children the pin point of everything that dooms the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 11:17 PM
2

i think people with children who are unhappy have more to do with them having an already bad relationship thinking having a baby would fix everything
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 11:14 PM
3

well you might as well both never leave the house again because that’s taking a physical risk!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 11:07 PM
2

wow i really like this!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:05 PM
1

yeah.. but then they still call themselves a sigma male. that alone is enough to just.. nope
/r/ExRedPill14/04/21 02:51 PM
5

yes babe <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 02:48 PM
4

yes.. women who are easily manipulated or naive.. and it most of the time blows up one way or another lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:47 PM
2

what do you think sexual compatibility is?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:44 PM
2

what kind of pick me shit is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:32 PM
6

then it completely back fires on them and they go through the cycle again of “all women are like that” no hun, you literally just picked someone with a mental disorder then used tactics to emotionally manipulate her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:29 PM
9

sounds like you’re settling hard af
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:26 PM
14

literally anything. almost anything said on here that “reflects all women and real life” has absolutely no correlation to my life as a women in her 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:23 PM
1

because you can’t get an STD the first time you have sex right? oh wait..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:17 PM
16

this dude is like 15 posting this shit
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 01:58 AM
7

what the fuck is this post? people like to READ? surprise!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 01:57 AM
1

yes. i wouldn’t even to begin to discuss anything remotely sexual because we would never progress that far anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 03:26 AM
1

you should have really flaired this as Q4W because damn there’s so many men answering the questions for us 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:33 PM
2

i don’t entirely with their points, i think some (but not the majority) of women are insecure towards sex workers. those are the same women who would like gatekeep sex “until he commits” or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:31 PM
2

i’m a women and fully support sex workers :) i understand your point though, in one of my classes the other day we were discussing how some white women resent other women of color, specifically asian women, because they are seen as “more desirable” the type of women you are talking about are the same type to like hate porn because their boyfriends are jerking it to someone else and it makes them insecure. it is really just, insecurity and jealously
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:30 PM
13

lol welcome to ppd!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 05:42 PM
6

i understand this in the opposite way. i could care less about “n counts” or whatever because i don’t view sex and casual sex like that. so i wouldn’t be “attracted” to someone with a “low n count” because we’re just incompatible at that point, like being with someone who cares a lot about N count and someone who does not, personalities and views about things are just inherently different so it wouldn’t go far at all
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 05:31 PM
2

ahh okay. i just feel so differently about tinder because my experience has made my perception of tinder purely for hooking up since everyone around me (college) just uses it for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:45 PM
1

you’re a very salty zoomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:41 PM
2

fellow zoomer and i also agree. the entirety of college is like this
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:40 PM
1

or, they are in their 20s just like you ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:38 PM
1

this. why don’t men realize if they hire and escort they don’t have to “jump through the hoops” like both people know exactly what’s going to happen and how to make it a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:37 PM
1

when did you use tinder? i feel perspectives are very skewed depending on age range..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:36 PM
1

how do people not consider tinder a hook up app. how do people take it seriously as like real OLD. tinder is just filled with horny people looking for self validation and then people are like what?!?! why can’t i find a real date on TINDER??!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:34 PM
3

I feel the same. Every couple I know (including mine) has started through social gatherings and parties where everyone is drunk and some hooking up! and then you keep hooking up and each party realizes the other has feelings and they make it official. Or other people i know just keep hooking up and keep it casual FWBs the fact that people on this sub think that is just like the worst thing people do in society is like.. beyond me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:33 PM
6

because men here are autistic it literally breaks their brain when they can’t justify with ridiculous anecdotes they hear about other women from the INTERNET. Never real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:14 PM
1

i think this sub over represents some people who don’t partake in casual sex, like literally everyone i know is doing it/has done it. but when you get to reddit and especially here, on reddit. there’s a lot more screaming on how causal sex like isn’t a very normal thing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 03:56 PM
1

tanning is bad!! good for you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 12:59 AM
3

you need to consider korean culture and how much they value important skin care regimens and it’s very different than people in the US
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 12:58 AM
1

wait people seriously don’t think men make money on onlyfans?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 02:40 PM
3

get a prenup?
/r/ExRedPill29/03/21 01:19 AM
1

very true
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:12 AM
16

this is it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 10:47 PM
1

your experience and feelings are valid, this is a situation that could happen to almost anyone. i am a women and know what you did was best for you- so again i just feel a lot of men in this sub either have misunderstandings or just awful experiences with a handful of women and now think as women as those default experiences. after all, perceptions dwell from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:56 AM
5

see, not everyone values purity culture like these weird fuckers on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 12:39 AM
4

his post history says it alllllllllll
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 07:45 PM
15

i think you’ve just had an unfortunate experience with bad people, don’t let yourself think the entire gender is like that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:06 PM
24

as a women with male friends this is not how it works? you do do things for each other, help each other when we need favors, hang out and get dinner from time to time. wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:46 PM
39

because the majority of men in this sub don’t see women as humans
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 01:45 PM
2

well, i will start by not using a toxic subreddits standard affect what i think about my sons dating life
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 07:08 PM
1

why?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 02:41 PM
2

i feel so bad for people who believe this haha
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 02:38 PM
3

no because i’m not weird as fuck and realize individuals are complex beings
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 02:36 PM
5

more like each toxic groups attracts each other lol most people with any common sense would see straight through any redpill/FDS bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 03:21 PM
1

my thing is that they love vanilla sex and hate porn absolutely, and other women who also engage in those activities they very much hate on and instead of a sub that’s supposed to “uplift the queens” which is good, they slander you and act like there’s something terribly wrong with you as a women who decide to maybe pick and choose some of the FDS lifestyle. i also don’t like the “how to get him to marry you asap” aspect of the sub like wtf is that? at first i was definitely on board for FDS but…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 03:09 PM
1

definitely to have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 10:40 PM
1

okay, fair. i haven’t seen anything besides stuff of reddit, which i know can already be taken to quite an extreme lol. if MGTOW pages elsewhere are promoting positively men in their own spaces and leave the “i am disgusted with the entirety of women” out of it, that’s a great thing.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 10:25 PM
1

yeah i kind of just said that but thanks
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 10:05 PM
2

alcohol isn’t half the population with each their own individual and complex characteristics
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 10:03 PM
2

i disagree, one look on their page you can see they are obsessed with women and there’s not much on actually improving your life. more of an echo chamber of who can give the best version of why women are scum
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 07:13 PM
3

it’s insane that this is the first sensible response i’ve read in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 05:48 PM
1

how do they hide it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 05:40 PM
2

i don’t think OP is complaining, i think she’s fully aware men are like that sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 05:38 PM
2

yeah it’s all in context how girls and boys grow up differently. boys and their friend groups just don’t communicate how girls did in adolescence, so when they enter the dating world boys are just ? but girls.. this is already how they’ve been living!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 05:36 PM
3

i can be empathetic and even encourage a safe space where men talk about their feelings and past traumas with other men. women do that all the time. but now TRP encourages very little communication and think it’s best to be very stoic or “alpha” for, you guess it, women. they also go on and on about how there’s no mental health for men but then they discourage men from opening up about their feelings?
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 05:21 PM
3

and the same goes for women, lots of us burned. it is not like a women versus man thing. the one thing i can’t get over is like in those spaces they don’t recognize that some humans are bad, like sorry you got yourself involved with a bad person, but time to break that off and move on! they do the exact opposite
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 05:19 PM
6

right.. that is the premise. but once you start scrolling on MGTOW it is allllllll about women, and how much they hate them. it is the central topic of the sub, i don’t understand how the amount of cognitive dissonance at the same time, sometimes the things they post about women they generalize AWALT. like the post they featured on the sub wasn’t written by an extremely toxic and oblivious women who isn’t a good person not because she is a woman but because she is simply and awful person. it’s e…
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 04:28 PM
6

sounds like you used logical thinking and took accountability for better control of your life! and the best part- you didn’t blame everyone else for bad things- you have a healthy mindset. cheers
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 04:27 PM
1

i feel like you should start forming just platonic friendships with women, like most people say, they end up in a relationship when they weren’t looking for one! i recently saw a comic on that sub that was like if nice guys just took rejection politely from a woman then a friendship could form, thus opening yourself up to a new circle of women, who could be interested in you.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 04:54 AM
2

i only linked that because a LOT of men have browsed that sub and seen some type of reflection in themselves, gaining some perspective on something they thought was working and couldn’t understand “why it wasn’t” i feel like you are not super deep into nice guys but your post kind of screams “i’m so good! why wouldn’t anyone want me?”
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 03:26 AM
2

okay but someone can put that persona on and change. and say it’s like years in. say the couple even lived together, signed a lease together. has the rose colored lenses on that are too hard to take off. people change all. the. time. it can be unpredictable. of course maybe there are people who do pick “confidence” but usually those choosing are lacking some type of self awareness as well. people change and life is unpredictable, and it’s not so black and white
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 03:24 AM
1

r/niceguys
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 02:34 AM
2

“why wouldn’t a girl just pick someone who isn’t abusive?” okay sir, let’s step back a little maybe think the reason your interaction with women isn’t going the way you want are for other reasons you may think differently, other than just attraction. i don’t want to seem rude, but you seem to forget that there is a lot of gray areas in life. humans are complex.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 02:32 AM
1

they’re valuable, but it meant nothing if there was no money to provide for them, which came from the man.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 02:02 AM
1

i mean if men couldn’t work and couldn’t provide for the family what would happen?
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 02:01 AM
1

yes well i meant women couldn’t provide extra income for the home so the livelihood of the family would solely depend on the man
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 02:00 AM
1

yeah and i’ve seen countless incels and men online gloating about emotionally manipulating women to sleep with them, they all say the same things. doesn’t mean i see in the REAL WORLD are like that. your environment effects how you perceive reality
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 05:58 PM
1

right? it’s like everyone in the story has already slept with her, so they’re all like on the same level anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 05:54 PM
1

i don’t think it’s a women’s excuse i think this particular girl has something wrong with her and should seek professional help
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 05:52 PM
3

don’t ever assume you’re exclusive without discussing it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 05:51 PM
3

“ruin their cred” see this is something i really don’t think people care about. you are a dick or not. not many people want to be friends with a dick
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 08:10 PM
7

i read this huge post by this red piller once about how men hate chads just because they’re jealous, but in reality chad is just a regular dude who is super nice and would be friends with you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 08:06 PM
9

if we went back to the 50s, then women REALLY couldn’t contribute anything. as in the men literally take care of everything. i doubt men want that now haha
/r/ExRedPill12/03/21 01:54 PM
0

alright in college right now and tinder is exclusively used for hooking up. bumble has a “friends” feature so again, tinder not used for just making friends. friends after hooking up? sure. you want any actual shot of something real on OLD? hinge. i actually know many many couples that have sprouted out of hinge
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 06:48 PM
1

believe it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 06:39 PM
4

seriously? people making a broad statement that TINDER is a hookup app? they are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 06:36 PM
1

i disagree about the toupee thing- like this tik tok account that specializes doing them and everyone is here for it and loving it, and a lot of guys with toupees aren’t necessarily trying to hide the fact they have one- they own it! and that’s what matters. but fair point to increasing funding/research for those things
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 03:16 AM
5

well that’s why i think we should normalize more aesthetic things for men such as if they want to wear shoes to make them taller, go for it, if you want to get a toupee for hair loss, go for it!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 02:25 AM
1

okay! fair
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 02:19 AM
5

right? i would be super creeped in the club and the guy is alone
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 02:15 AM
-3

it is hard and it is difficult and i understand it really puts someone in a dark place when being in a position of being an incel, my problem with it is when they take 0 initiative to work on themselves and expect some perfect women to come and be their girlfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 02:15 AM
1

visit r/niceguys and behold the entire storm of men people have to deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 02:12 AM
1

i encourage you to watch many of the videos on youtube that debate “fresh&fit” and how it’s sorry for men to look up even less give him money for his “advice” as it is pretty comical! also there was a reason he was banned from tik tok lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 06:39 PM
1

oh i meant they won’t ever expect to marry you. like they won’t want to. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 06:38 PM
1

i disagree completely. but my perceptions are made of my experiences so it’s all subjective anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 03:39 PM
1

they won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 03:30 PM
1

r/niceguys
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 03:25 PM
1

i think you would be surprised the amount of men who choose to pick and commit to women closer to them in age.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 03:17 PM
1

go outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 03:13 PM
0

you can go through a wild phase and still not “settle for someone”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 03:11 PM
0

No
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 01:43 PM
5

what is this complete black and white, over generalized thinking??? oh right i’m on ppd!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 07:59 PM
1

why the fuck would i take being sexually harassed a privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 10:56 PM
0

it’s THEIR choice to pay for the more personal one on one time connection. no one is holding a gun to their head.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 10:53 PM
3

i watched hulu’s new: “onlyfans selling sex” or something like that and most of the people interviewed are top 5% of creators and they really work. i recommend!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 10:51 PM
3

this should be framed and pinned everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:54 PM
2

the porn industry is absolutely different than OF. the creators have complete control over their content and reap more of the profits they would working in the industry. many people who have worked in the industry have left to pursue OF full time
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:47 PM
1

also some OF creators don’t even post nudes! they just literally like vlog themselves getting ready- men and women!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:45 PM
7

women have little or no control being objectified, in this world it will always happen to them and there is nothing you can do to change it, but now women realize THEY can take some control over the objectification so they might as well make bank if it’s going to happen to them anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:44 PM
9

it is truly a full time job for top creators!!! but they are really racking it in!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:42 PM
3

there’s no demand for someone beating the shit out of you, probably no one wants to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:41 PM
13

you cannot just disregard all the male content creators on onlyfans just because you want to? that’s not very open minded.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:46 PM
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