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| 14 | My mom is playing PickMe games and has plans to move in with her BF very soon and I am not coping well at all. Really struggling with boundaries and how to handle this.Thank you for yet another amazing reply. You are saying all the things that are in my head that I can't get out into words. I've spent all of my 20s so far navigating my crappy childhood and trying to get on board with the fact that I am an adult and I don't have to put up with this shit any more! I don't have to do whatever my mother wants, and if anything, I now have the upper hand. I never realised how easily manipulated I was until this year when I've had to cut a few people off who did not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 11:03 AM |
| 20 | My mom is playing PickMe games and has plans to move in with her BF very soon and I am not coping well at all. Really struggling with boundaries and how to handle this.Thank you 💕It's no nice to be validated. The sad thing is that most of her wealth was gained from the divorce settlement when she split with my father. It was his family money and she got half of it. It annoys me that she has spent so little of it helping my sister and I out even though it's technically our family money. She sees it as her personal nest egg and will be spent on vacations and probably aged care costs if she lives to the age where she needs it. She is so lucky in the sense that sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:54 AM |
| 16 | My mom is playing PickMe games and has plans to move in with her BF very soon and I am not coping well at all. Really struggling with boundaries and how to handle this.Honestly, I let go of getting any inheritance money many years ago. I know that my mom does have her wills and estate planning sorted out and that my sister and I are beneficiaries. If something happens and he contests it well so be it, I will fight for what's rightfully mine but I'm not too hung up on it. If my mother lives to a normal life expectancy she will spend it before we ever see any of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:35 AM |
| 17 | My mom is playing PickMe games and has plans to move in with her BF very soon and I am not coping well at all. Really struggling with boundaries and how to handle this.Thanks! This is the best advice. You are so right, I need to protect myself. I think this is my third December in a row where I've had a meltdown over family issues, I really need to protect my own sanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:33 AM |
| 28 | My mom is playing PickMe games and has plans to move in with her BF very soon and I am not coping well at all. Really struggling with boundaries and how to handle this.Thanks for replying! You're right, I think I need to stop the visits over there. My boundary will be that I don't mind going for a group dinner, but I don't want to go over there just to hang out. I find it very uncomfortable. The money thing is a whole kettle of fish that I hadn't even thought about. She's pretty smart in that way and he has a lot more to lose than she does. I don't think I'll bother broaching that subject with her as she won't listen anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:14 AM |
| 17 | My mom is playing PickMe games and has plans to move in with her BF very soon and I am not coping well at all. Really struggling with boundaries and how to handle this.OMG thank you for replying! Those are the exact boundaries I wish to put in place! How did you actually manage to do this and communicate it? Do you only meet your mom either at your place or out in public? Please! Tell me more! Happy for you to message if you don't want to say it all on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:12 AM |
| 41 | What age range should I be dating in?10 years is way too much of a gap. You need to consider “life experience” as part of compatibility. An older guy has had much longer to work on his manipulation tactics etc. and has probably had more experience with relationships than you. He would also be in a later life stage than you (and if he isn’t, then that would be a red flag). I also think that the generational difference can cause problems. I feel it’s a bit hard to be compatible with someone who doesn’t share the same overall pop cult… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 11:35 AM |
| 38 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVMI was just about to type out how Noah from The Notebook gives me HVM vibes because he wrote Allie a letter every day and rebuilt a whole house for her but then remembered he was fucking some other girl on the side and strung her along for a while and probably ruined her life. The bar is truly in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:36 AM |
| 97 | Why I Stayed Single in College and Why You Should TooStaying up all night texting guys is literally the biggest waste of your time at this age and the sleep deprivation will cause you to age like milk. My best friend who is such a catch and is so smart, pretty and funny burned through two long term relationships before the age of 25 and it fucked her up so badly she now has severe depression and anxiety. It's just not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:40 AM |
| 28 | Why I Stayed Single in College and Why You Should TooTHIS. I've always been relatively responsible and "mature" but I was so freaking stupid and naive until around 25ish, not just when it came men/dating but with work and life in general. I had no idea about how to read people, couldn't recognise if someone was trying to manipualate/bully me and had no business trying to date yet I was hanging around with 26+ year old guys. It's only now at 27 that I've started to get a bit of wisdom and understanding of how the world works and how to avoid/manage… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:30 AM |
| 31 | I’m simply not attracted to noncommittal menIt’s like those Goosebumps books where you choose whether a monster is going to murder you in your basement or turn you into a tree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 10:29 PM |
| 80 | Anyone else traumatised by their mothers having relationships with multiple men? I wish we could normalise dating without having to move in and blend families and all of that nonsense, especially if there are kids from a previous relationship.Yes! This! And "introductions" literally need to be a year or more long process before any kind of being a "family" or moving in occurs. I think I met my mothers second partner like twice before he moved in and it was traumatising. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 11:06 AM |
| 297 | Men always talk about natural selection and animals. Well here is proof of their 'nature'.I was just thinking about this today. So many guys that I’ve dated have said something to me along the lines of “wow, you know you I think you might be a lot smarter than you let on / you’re actually pretty smart aren’t you?” As if it’s so shocking to them that a woman would be intelligent. Like no shit, you fucking potato. Just anecdotally, I meet so many dumb ass men in my day to day life (aka at work) who are in fairly advanced roles yet do an absolutely terrible job, ignore emails, don’t kno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 12:09 PM |
| 6 | Have any of you experienced worse street harassment since lockdown?Ugh. Yuck. This just further reassures me in my choice to get an Applewatch with cellular connectivity so I can yell to Siri to call the cops if someone decides to chase after me. I also have a trusted friend who I have given access to my phone location so she can track me if something bad happens. I encourage all of you to look into getting some of these extra safety measures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:58 AM |
| 28 | Correlation between paper and dice roleplaying games (e.g.: D&D) and LVM?I’ll back you up on this one. I’ve never met one of those types who wasn’t a total grub in some aspect of their life 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:33 AM |
| 5 | From a FB group. I almost cried at my desk when I read this. Men are truly horrid.This is all I can think of! That fucker probably gave her cancer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:32 PM |
| 31 | From a FB group. I almost cried at my desk when I read this. Men are truly horrid.She should definitely get divorced. It seems they own the house together. Not sure what he plans on doing when/if the house gets taken but there’s nothing stopping him from walking away from his responsibilities and taking her down with him. They’ll both be on the hook but he’ll probably just move back in with his mother or something and won’t care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:10 AM |
| 151 | From a FB group. I almost cried at my desk when I read this. Men are truly horrid.FUCK this scrote and fuck working when you’ve got cancer. If she wasn’t with this prick she could be on her own receiving government benefits and sitting at home getting better. Instead she’s working and putting up with this shit. Unbelievable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:14 AM |
| 235 | From a FB group. I almost cried at my desk when I read this. Men are truly horrid.I think she means that he doesn’t give a fuck and has just left it up to her to deal with. He probably keeps his money to himself instead of paying the bills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:00 AM |
| 72 | From a FB group. I almost cried at my desk when I read this. Men are truly horrid.I won’t say for her privacy. This has made me so sad. I can’t imagine having cancer and still putting up with that shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:42 AM |
| 61 | Saw this on Instagram and thought it belonged here. STAY WOKE LADIESShrek is literally the worst movie. Couldn’t stand it then and still can’t stand it now. I’d rather live alone in a castle than give up my hotness for an ugly green scrote who lives in a fucking SWAMP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:40 AM |
| 14 | I don’t want his name on my doctorate.I’m considering changing my last name to my mother’s maiden name/paternal grandfather’s name too. I did consider keeping my father’s last name (who is also a dickhead) as my mum has kept the same since the divorce so she could have the same name as us kids, but if she remarries (which I think she will), I’ll be the last one left with this rotten surname! Ugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:36 AM |
| 2 | I don’t want his name on my doctorate.Totally have this issue. Am estranged from my father and hate my partner’s last name so don’t want to take his. Have seriously considered changing my name in the past but no idea what I’d actually change it to. If I ever think of a good name to use I’ll probably change it. I’d change it if I were you! (to something entirely different to both). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:32 AM |
| 3 | Yes you CAN be intimidatingly beautiful and that's why scrotes don't approach you (a blessing in disguise)!I wonder if being blonde results in more harassment. I’m barbie level blonde and have very pale skin/ features and I get harassed to no end. Just anecdotally id say it’s 5x as much as brunette friends who id consider the same level of attractiveness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 12:14 PM |
| 8 | Yes you CAN be intimidatingly beautiful and that's why scrotes don't approach you (a blessing in disguise)!Lol same. I also got told that the background of my photos ie my house is “so clean I thought you were fake”. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 12:09 PM |
| 16 | Let's be realI swear grown men would suck on their mommas titties if they got the chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 08:34 AM |
| 101 | Why it’s okay to make small dick jokes 🍤 🤏🏻The guy who I've aptly nicknamed "Twistie Dick" (a twistie is an Australian snack similar to a cheeto) not only had the smallest most shrivelled up excuse for a penis but was also the meanest to me. Out of all the guys I've ever had the misfortune of fucking, he treated me the worst. He was also the ugliest. Coincidence? I think not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 08:30 AM |
| 11 | A Woman's TouchNever forget the famous nest post. Makes me cackle every time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 08:24 AM |
| 102 | A Woman's TouchWhen I booted my ex out he tried to take my mattress even though I had already traded him heaps of other stuff out of pity because the place he was moving to already had a bed so he wasn't going to need it. A few days later he tried to take it because it was "his". Men are so fucking depraved they'd happily make it so you have no place to sleep than put themselves out in any way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 08:20 AM |
| 24 | Swipe left for evidence of said rational, objective logic 😂Holy hell this is my ex to a T. So ✨LoGiCaL✨in every argument. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 01:11 AM |
| 72 | A NVM is actively harassing me for saying NO to a dateI almost spat my coffee out at your “built like a toad” description 🐸. In all seriousness, this guy can fuck off. If you don’t have some kind of self defence item to carry you like pepper spray you should get some ASAP. You should also start writing down the dates and times of your interactions so you’ve got more proof in case he tries to do something to you or someone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:26 PM |
| 7 | Spin off: how to tell if a man has a small dickYeah, pretty much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:45 AM |
| 3 | So pleased with my ring! Always forget I can just buy my own 🥰Would love more info on your ring and your nails! So pretty! Please tell us where the ring is from! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:01 AM |
| 53 | Spin off: how to tell if a man has a small dickMy ex who was 6ft8 had a severely under-sized non functional dick 😂 height is no indication. I’ve also found that the more critical a guy is towards you, the more of a piece of shit they are (duh). But seriously, they know how shit they are so they project it on to you to try and bring you down to their level because they know they’ll never do anything to try and better themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 11:52 PM |
| 28 | Spin off: how to tell if a man has a small dickOut of all the guys I’ve ever been with, the one with the smallest dick was also the ugliest and the outright meanest to me. His neck was also really fat, his head was square and he looked like a lego figurine 🙄 He wasn’t just a typical jerk, he was completely horrible. After I had sex with him and his nasty small dick, he criticised me and said that I “kissed to much during sex, and that’s really awkward because only people who love each other do that” and rubbing his back after sex while falli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 11:48 PM |
| 65 | Guys saying they could beat you in a sport they've never played?Not relating to sport but my ex once told me he could do my job better than me. I have 10 years of experience in my field and have somewhat of a specialty role. When I argued back he said that he meant that he “would be better at it if he had the same amount of training”. Lol as if. He‘s still unemployed and sends me letters about how shit his life is since I dumped him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 11:06 PM |
| 40 | Anyone else notice when eldest woman in the family passes away the entire family falls apart?100% When both of my grandmothers passed away (actually when one became ill and had to go into a nursing home) both sides of my family went to shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:24 PM |
| 2 | She did this for free?!🤢🤢🤢Lawd Jesus this looks like a scrote nest if I ever saw one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:19 AM |
| 6 | Damn right sis 👸🏽💅🏿💅🏽💅🏻Damn straight! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:17 AM |
| 66 | UPDATE: Leaving LV husband of 3 yearsOooh girl! Get on that plane and don’t look back! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:16 AM |
| 3 | Reason no. 6394573 not to date LVM’s. Your hair will FALL OUT!So sorry you went through that. Glad you are better now. It’s such a tough life lesson❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 11:25 AM |
| 3 | Reason no. 6394573 not to date LVM’s. Your hair will FALL OUT!Fuck that, sis. Hope you are better off these days. Big hugs to you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 09:59 AM |
| 20 | Reason no. 6394573 not to date LVM’s. Your hair will FALL OUT!It’s terrible isn’t it! The worst time in my life. Things have improved tenfold since I broke up with him. My best friend also broke up with her NVM boyfriend at the same time. We are sure that stress he put her under was what caused her to have an arthritis flare up. Her joints were so red and swollen and the doctors couldn’t figure out what was wrong with her. So glad that’s over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 03:18 AM |
| 7 | Men making us feel ugly but they have hair on their shoulders they can brush with a comb, pot bellies, receding hairlines, pubic hair face beards, bad oral hygiene & dandruff flakes on their clothes. My standards have become much higher because of this sub. No more 🤡When I was 17 I worked at a video store with a guy who was extremely obese. He was so big that he could barely fit through the gap to get behind the counter. For some reason he’d seen a picture of me when I was younger and commented that I looked pretty much the same but had more of a double chin now. (I have a bit of a chubby/baby face but was not overweight at all) He would also use his gigantic body to block me in behind the counter so I couldn’t escape while he’d talk nonsense to me for hour… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Reminder that if you find yourself psychoanalyzing a man, he's manipulating you.Ughh yes! Just ghosted a scrote who was doing exactly this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 06:08 PM |
| 6 | I work in customer service and I'm tired from dealing with men.Ugh yes! So glad I don’t work in a bank anymore. Used to cop this shit daily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 11:34 PM |
| 2 | How long is too long when waiting for your boyfriend/husband when going out?My ex was like this and it was the first of many red flags. It's disrespectful and proves he gives no fucks about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/19 09:27 PM |
| 8 | Pet peeves in men's dating bio'sYou just perfectly desribed my ex and his "rap" "career". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/19 09:23 PM |
| 7 | I finally took the advice I saw here “never be with a man who lets you doubt yourself” and this is what happenedI'm sorry that happened to you. I know how you feel. Onwards and upwards :) and block his number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 03:08 AM |
| 2 | Any tips for building confidence after breaking up with someone who screwed you up mentally?Thanks for your reply. I don't think I'm interested in being a sugar baby or pole dancing, but that is all very interesting. I downloaded Tinder about a week ago, and it has been awful so far, I think partially due to the quality of men, but also due to me being in an overall terrible mood and feeling shit about myself. I am deleting it for now and will try online dating again once I feel a bit better about myself. I am working on losing a bit of weight, buying some new clothes, and getting my h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/19 12:06 AM |
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