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STRATEGYvictoriabowen8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:04 PM
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DISCUSSIONvictoriabowen8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:11 PM
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I haven't given up on dating it's just not a priority for me. My work is mentally exhausting and my social battery has been low these last few years. I enjoy doing everything on my terms and don't think I would be a good partner right now. I'm very much in a me phase. Last year I said maybe in the fall and then that didn't happen and now I'm saying maybe in the fall again lol so who knows. Dating apps sound like a nightmare so I am not eager to get back on them. I haven't been on them in over 4 …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 12:01 AM
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It's about intention. I don't think men understand just how many men we have to sift through when trying to date and how many of those men will happily waste our time if we let them. A coffee date to me says he is really unsure about me and is preserving his resources for other women - ie: he is wasting my time. I don't need (or even want) a 5 star restaurant for a first date but it should be A restaurant where I can order food and an alcoholic drink without screaming children running around. Lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:45 PM
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This is simply not true and I can prove it to you. Go outside right now and just watch people. You will see that 90%+ of coupled up guys out there are no where near these imaginary standards you think women have. I know lots of women in relationships and I can't think of one that has a man that is above average in looks or status (many would be objectively below average in fact). Every day I see women in real life and online with their boyfriend/husband and the guy looks like he should be hangin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:15 PM
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Some of my loneliest times have been WITH people. Loneliness isn't about lack of physical presence, it's about lack of connection. If I was lonely sure I could download Tinder and have a (probably hot) guy over within an hour. But there is a 99% chance he would not cure my loneliness. I'll take my solitude and the ever elusive meaningful connection over the abundance of worthless companionship any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:08 AM
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I pay for myself when I go out with friends. If a man invites me out and then I end up paying for myself (luckily never happened) that just tells me that he wants to be my friend which I don't need anymore of so I would end the evening politely and that would be the end of it. But I would never be attracted to a man who had the types of thoughts you are having when it comes to paying for a date (and luckily men like you do not hide it very well) . When you take into account the cost of being a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:30 PM
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Well my initial thoughts are, as an "old" woman of 39 who is in many women's spaces online and know "old" women in real life, I can honestly say that this topic has NEVER come up amongst us. The only time I ever see this topic is when it is coming from an older man desperately seeking some type of validation from strangers for why he is into women significantly younger than him. It truly does feel like some strange incel fantasy that single women over 35 are just falling over themselves crying "…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:39 PM
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Okay I can make this super easy for men to understand. Imagine you have 100 women to choose from who want your attention and you have to narrow that down to a manageable number, say 5. Are you SERIOUSLY telling me you are not going to implement some basic physical standards right off the bat to narrow that list down and that you're going to give Ms. flat chest no ass good personality a chance? Of course not. Online dating is EXHAUSTING for women. It's been a couple of years but when I was on Tin…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 07:28 PM
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so live a life of singledom, where they are perpetually alone LOL why do so many men (and some pickme women) think that being single = alone? I am single and I am no where near alone. I have my dog for daily companionship, company, and snuggles. I have my family. I have great friends. I have coworkers I enjoy. If I was TRULY desperate for some male attention/validation (spoiler: I'm not) I could download Tinder and have that need met in a matter of hours. In a few weeks I will have been celibate…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 07:46 PM
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The FBI needs to check this guys hard drive...... yikes. OP literally described the qualities of a 10 year old girl. These traits are not what make women feminine. Femininity is about a woman's energy. I will also say that so many men want feminine women but they themselves are not masculine men. I'd be willing to bet everything I own OP does not present masculine energy (he's definitely not in this post). If you think being masculine is lifting weights and killing spiders you have a lot to lear…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 07:25 PM
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The average frumpy woman has over 200 close friends, 50 admirers/orbiters who are ready to walk through hot coals just to smell her pussy and anywhere from 5-10 Chads on speed dial to satisfy her every sexual whim. At least once a week she organizes a 5 guy gangbang. As a frumpy woman I can vouch for this. My weekly gangbang is scheduled for Saturday. In the meantime Chad #3 will be taking care of my needs. I'm using him as a footrest while I type this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 02:15 AM
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If you're doing something you wouldn't do if your partner was there then you are cheating. Full stop. Also, you're gross and pathetic and karma is a bitch. Enjoy!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 10:19 PM
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To answer your question: That almost everyone is saying they want to find "their person", their bestfriend, their everything, blah blah blah but then their ACTIONS show something very different. And I'm not just talking about my personal experiences. I have watched so many people say this type of thing, start dating someone who is everything they asked for and then immediately fuck it up with cheating and lying and other toxic bullshit. They always think there is someone better just around the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:30 PM
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I'm 38F My standards as per categories mentioned: Height - 6' and up (I'm 5'8") Income - enough to take care of himself, have little to no debt, some money in savings and some disposable income to take me on dates and buy me flowers :) Race (if you have a preference) - White Body type - I like a wide variety. I just don't want extremes - I don't like really skinny or really fat but everything in between is cool. I do love me some nice arms and shoulders though. House/no house - no preference but…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:39 AM
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I belong to one and I don’t see any of that. What I see is women posting that they are in relationships with the same guy, women finding out their husband is on dating sites, men who have physically and sexually assaulted women, men that are married and saying they are not, I only saw a woman once dog a guys looks and she was removed from the group. That's my experience too. Women also get called out for posting about men who after matching said something sexual. Like, who cares? Unmatch and mov…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:18 PM
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I'm in a few of these groups for my city/area. Women post pictures of men and ask if they belong to anyone or have any warnings about him. They also post if he was caught cheating or is married! Because that happens a lot more than you think. The amount of tea I've seen spilled in these groups lol Women will also post and ask if someone will help "test" their bf/husband by messaging them and seeing what they do. Unfortunately this is the world we live in. Loyalty is rare and it's super easy to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:09 PM
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See I feel that most modern day, westernized polyamory is rooted in trauma. People are so afraid of rejection or that they aren't good enough for someone so they remove the possibility and responsibility altogether. I believe there are SOME people that are truly designed for that lifestyle but it's a very small portion and it would be the way they always felt, not something they decided at 40. The rest (majority) are just fooling themselves. I speak from a bit of experience on this. At the end o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:44 PM
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As a guy who has been the man on the side multiple times, and has a friend who primarily only dated married women for years... I don't think opportunity ranks very high on why women cheat. Thank you lol I'm so confused here! OP is basically saying women cheat every single day because that is how often the opportunity comes up for women. I could download Tinder and have a man here in less than an hour and he'd even stop and pick up dinner for me if I wanted. MEN are waaaaay more likely to cheat b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 12:38 AM
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My personal observations is that this is true but I just wanted to mention a video I watched of a divorce lawyer and she was saying that almost every single time a man initiated a divorce he had another woman already (ie: they almost always monkey branched from woman to woman and would stay in their marriage until they had the new woman lined up which means they are also cheaters - gross!) and it was the opposite for women, they would stay single for quite awhile, if not forever so take from tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 12:00 AM
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Firstly we need to separate general vaccines from the covid shots. I know people like to lump them together to make it appear those who don't want the covid shots are against ALL vaccines which is ridiculous and very disingenuous. I am not anti-vax, I have many vaccinations that I either took as a child (ie: no choice) or as an adult because I assessed my own personal risk level and determined I would significantly benefit from doing so (eg: Hep B and Gardasil). That is the metric I use for all …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:04 PM
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Just adding a comment so I can come back when I have more time and give my thoughts on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 03:36 PM
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It is true. She will not be able to command the attention of gigachad with a 10 incher and a 300K a year salary who wants kids like she could when she was 22. That’s just the facts. Yes, many thousands of men will still be interested. But those men will be starkly average without much to offer. Why do you assume that is what grown women want?!?! LOL This is ridiculous. You know what women want? Especially women over 30? Attractive TO THEM and this is a broad range, I assure you. Kindness. Respec…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:15 PM
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Yes. I believe most men can get casual sex easily enough if they lower their standards. Men are also (usually) better at separating sex from feelings so they won't care as much about lowering their standards (to the floor!) if the sole purpose is to get off and nothing more. Sex is much more complicated (usually) for women - higher risk, less reward. I'm in plenty of women's groups and I am usually FLOORED when women post their objectively ugly ex bf who cheated on them. Like HOW?!?!?! How did a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:16 PM
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I think this is true if you primarily date online. But y'all really need to stop using apps, the deck is stacked against you there. OLD brings out the worst in male and female sexuality and dating Once you're willing to go IRL, dating gets a lot better. Not true for many of us. I (F) work from home and my friend group consists of gay dudes (who's going to approach me when I'm hanging out with 3 or 4 guys?) and a 52 year old woman who never leaves her house unless it's to go for breakfast at Denn…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 03:13 PM
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#1 and #2 are not requirements to be a high value man. And I included #2 because I believe fit is subjective. As long as he is reasonably in shape and can walk up a few flights of stairs without being winded he should be okay. Abs are not required. #3 to #6 are just basic adulting requirements, nothing special. #7 and #8 are not required. He should be smart in general and be able to financially support himself, have savings and have some disposable income. In some areas that may require six figu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 09:25 AM
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A lot of this sounds like projection. You think because that is how YOU would act if you were a woman then that must be how women actually act. You're kind of telling on yourself here lol Yes, some women are into meaningless random hookups. But I do not think it is typical. Some women, if not in a relationship, have one or two "regulars" (ie: fwb) that they know and actually enjoy spending time with but random strangers? No, I have not witnessed this (on any regular basis) outside of those livin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:54 AM
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Men's lives are generally improved by cohabitating with a woman. That's why married men report being happier and living longer than their single and divorced counterparts. Losing their relationship and thus their live-in nanny, maid, cook, household admin dramatically reduces their quality of life. Conversely, studies show that womens lives are not only not improved by but sometimes worsened by living with men. That's why single women report being happier and living longer than their married cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 06:57 AM
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It's so strange to me that people are just not doing this, on their own, for their own peace of mind. Anytime I ever started dating anyone I immediately went and got tested. If I wasn't in a relationship I would still go periodically just incase. It's just the responsible thing to do and it shows the other person that you care about them and their wellbeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 05:08 PM
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I agree with everything she is saying BUT there is a dynamic where this can work. I have no issues handling the domestic chores (cooking, cleaning) AS LONG AS he is handling the "blue jobs" AND he is making me feel valued. This would look like him planning dates, buying me flowers, complimenting me, sending me cute/romantic texts, giving me a massage, etc. on a consistent basis. It's when these things stop happening and he starts taking you for granted that the problems occur. That's when the ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 05:38 PM
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I think you will naturally handle conflict with your partner well if you come from a place of working together as a team and not you vs. me which I feel happens way too often. When we're in a relationship WE face problems, it is always WE and the solution is working together. That's not me saying anyone gets to avoid taking responsibility for their actions/words (when someone legit f*cks up they need to acknowledge, apologize and commit to changing their behavior going forward), I'm just saying …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 04:54 PM
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I think the age gap is less important once both parties are over 35ish because that is when most people are pretty established in their life, personality and character. That said I think anything over 10 years is creepy and you're setting yourself up to be a caretaker way earlier than you want to be. 5 years older would be my max (I'm almost 38) for the reasons other women explained here. I don't want someone I am going to have to jump into caregiver mode with. It's one thing to grow old WITH so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:20 PM
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This post is like a huge slap to my face and bucket of cold water poured over my head. I hate it and it makes me super uncomfortable. But I need to hear it because I live in denial about this stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:31 PM
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A man who valued you wouldn't behave like this because he would be scared of losing you. If he's playing stupid games, he doesn't want you. This is what is tormenting me right now. My ex behaved in a way that clearly showed he was not afraid to lose me (told me he didn't know about us, told me to "do what's best for me" when I asked him if he expects me to just wait around for him and then ghosted me for a whole week after that convo) and when I finally picked my self-respect up off the floor an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:56 PM
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I'm back to being cynical. Now when I see this stuff I just think to myself "give it some more time, his mask will fall and he'll start breaking your heart just like they all do eventually." Hope I'm wrong, hope he cherishes her forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:44 PM
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As someone recently out of a relationship and who has no intention of getting back into the dating scene I will say I have not shaved in weeks and it's been nice not to have that stress about being judged for it and just being able to exist in my own skin is a lovely feeling. Shaving is time consuming, expensive and can be painful (cuts, razor burn, ingrowns). When I did first get together with my ex I dropped the makeup routine right away because that is not me and I didn't want to build that e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:23 PM
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I was actually just learning about this (it came up on my feed and I thought it was interesting). Basically what was said was when a man says negative things about a woman's appearance (unprovoked) he's doing it because he doesn't feel worthy of her and by saying these nasty things he's basically rejecting her before she can reject him or he's actually super attracted to her but her appearance is not one of objective beauty so he says mean things to try and convince others (and himself!) that he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 03:33 PM
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Having my own thermostat Can we talk about this!? Every man in my life (dad, husband, bf) has been obsessed with controlling the temperature. Before my current bf I was essentially only my own for 4 years post divorce and I loved controlling the temperature. Now my bf is constantly turning my AC off in the car after I turn it on and I'm having none of it hahaha! I point blank told him I am an adult and if I want the AC on in my car I'm going to, I don't care that drains the gas. I pay for the ga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:01 PM
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I always just assumed they were lying and I would take an inch off whatever they said. 6' = 5'11" 5'11" = 5'10" 5'10 = either 5'8" or 5'9" 5'10" is actually the worst because most short guys use this one because they think it's the bare minimum most women will go which is probably correct. Once they say they are OVER 6' though I tend to believe them. If a guy says he's 6'2" he usually is. My man is 6'7" so I got the jackpot (I'm 5'8"). I also got good at using things in their pictures to judge t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:18 PM
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I get what she's saying but I think she should have focused more on the reasons for early balding and how to correct those. Toupees and transplants and red lights and all that are just masking the symptoms of a more serious issue. Diet and lifestyle need to be examined. Blood work done. FIX the issue, don't mask it. There is an epidemic of early balding happening in men. It's only this last generation or two that seem to have this issue on such a wide scale. It HAS to be diet and lifestyle facto…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:05 PM
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"Lately I have been seeing women use race as a requirement or a sign for a man being high value or low value...... He is white so he must be HV, he is black so he must be LV." Does anyone have examples of this behavior? I have personally never heard this (definitely not in this sub) so I'm curious where this type of talk is taking place. Or is this just something you're hearing within your own social circle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:36 PM
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I agree with OP and I have a HVM. This is something that was VERY hard for me to come to terms with and I'm still trying to master it, it's a work in progress but I have read a lot about it and I truly believe it is the way to go. For a lot of women who have had no choice but to be masculine to survive it is re-wiring the brain to a degree but I believe the payoff is worth it so I put in the effort. That's really what this comes down to. There is a path to a HVM and there is a path with LVM. Dig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:25 PM
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She handled that all wrong. The proper response to this situation was an excited smile and letting him know you will plan something great! Then you invite some hot dude over for the threesome and let your hubby know you've chosen a thermos to go up his ass and you are super excited! *Big smile* And then when he protests you pout and whine about how he never wants to be adventurous and he's being selfish by not considering your wants and how you went to a lot of trouble to plan all this for him a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:38 PM
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I'm torn on this for a different reason. I could never imagine, as a host, expecting my guests to help clean up or do any "job" while visiting me. I would actually never allow it. You are my guest and your job is to have a good time and let me enjoy your company, that's it. I don't even want you bringing food. Flowers or a bottle of wine if you really want to but that's it. So that's the mentality I have when I am a guest. I'll bring my plate to the kitchen and maybe something else if I have ano…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:57 PM
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Yep, When I did a solo trip to Vegas in 2019 I took a cab from the airport to the hotel and the driver was friendly but he did ask if I was single and then asked if I was here alone. I did have a bf at the time so I was honest and said I had a bf and then I said I was meeting friends at the hotel, we had to fly in different times but we're all meeting up today. There's no need to be rude if they're just making polite conversation but definitely be safe and don't trust strangers. Thing is though …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:36 PM
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I love her, she's one of my fave tiktokers. I saw this last night and was disgusted. I'm ALL for free speech, like I genuinely don't care what people say, I think people have the right to say anything they want regardless of who is offended. The ONLY limit I have is explicitly advocating for violence against someone and these guys crossed the line so far! And the way he was talking...... he's thought about this. A lot. He probably jerks off to it. \vomits**
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:47 PM
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Yep! I love watching older movies/shows and seeing natural women. Stained teeth that aren't perfectly straight, pores, clothes that aren't oversexualizing them. It's so refreshing. Now everyone is a cookie cutter of the Kardashians and it's nauseating to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:25 PM
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You made an incredibly smart move in doing that. Even now at my age I take regular social media breaks and it always does wonders for me. I think this really needs to be talked about more in society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:22 PM
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"By progressively striving to look unrealistic and unachievable, the only thing that comes as a consequence is even HIGHER standards for women and more devaluation of the women who do not meet said standards." This. I don't vocalize this much because it's not really worth it and always comes out sounding wrong but I truly despise all the fakeness a lot of women participate in these days. Everything is fake. Hair (not color, but actual hair), nails, lashes, lips, eyebrows, breasts, butts, waists.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:33 PM
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Trust but verify - that's what I always say. Also, relationships are not a court of law - you do not need undeniable proof of anything. If you're not feeling safe and secure then that is good enough of a reason to end things. When you're with a HVM you WILL feel safe and secure. I am admittedly pretty needy and would probably have an "anxious attachment style" but my man makes me feel so secure. I'm also very open about the fact that I snoop and don't think it should be a big deal. While he does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:04 PM
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These tactics would only work on a woman who has zero self esteem. Any woman with any self respect and dignity would laugh in a guys face if he tried any of this and then ghost him completely. The women they are getting through these means would be very low value women. And I don't say that to be mean, it's just an objective fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:11 PM
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It's all good. I am not trying to gaslight, I am trying to convey that I understand because I've been there, we've ALL been there. We've all said "I'm done!" to our friends and family and deleted the apps only to go back to them later on. I get it, that's all I'm trying to say. And when you get like that a break is absolutely in order to re-focus. I just want to make sure women also see that there is hope and that it is possible to meet a HVM online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:05 PM
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OMG I got into it with a guy in another sub that's about asking men about this very topic (what type of body do men prefer) and his answer was essentially a child and I called him on it. You can check my post history, it's not too far down. Yeah, I was mind blown at the amount of upvotes he was getting and the people jumping to his defense and telling me I was body shaming women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:37 PM
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I'm not going to attract my HVM if my vibes keep saying all-of-you-suck-and-i-hate-you. So, I'm being more open and not as stand offish. I'm working on going out more and doing things that interest ME and focusing on really LIVING my life and I think we'll find each other when it's meant to be. It's just as easy to believe the best will happen as it is the worst, so why not choose to believe the best outcome is coming? :) While I don't agree with you on it not being possible to meet a HVM online…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:28 PM
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I think if you expanded on the HVM and why it's an FDS type relationship To some it doesn't matter, they will just nit pick and try and convince you your own relationship is not what you think it is and they (strangers on the internet) know better. I don't think she needs to explain why her man is HV in this instance, she just made a comment on a post. I've explained in my previous comments so people can check my post history if they care but I'm not going to repeat myself every time I want to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:23 PM
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I found my HVM on Tinder. I appreciate that OLD lets me vet ppl before ever talking to them. Me too! It's absolutely possible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:20 PM
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Exactly, I'm the same way. DA can be important in certain instances and on certain topics where it's clear someone is drowning in emotion-based thinking and not being logical. But it's important to know your audience and do it with empathy. And certain topics are of course of limits (eg: someone talking about their sexual assault experience, I'm there only to be supportive and listen 100%).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:48 PM
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Mattress cover and black sheets - problem solved LOL I wash my sheets weekly and I have a mattress/pillow protector. My mattress/pillows are 4 years old and still looks brand new.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:40 PM
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I'm child-free and stopped taking BC years ago because I wasn't interested in taking daily hormones that had ANY side effects, wasn't worth it to me. Every guy I've been with knows this. I do go raw with bf but I track my cycle and so far so good. I think the rhythm method is awesome for women with regular cycles. There are also cheap pee sticks you can get to see if you're ovulating just to be extra sure and there are apps to track your cycle. But there is no money to be made with this method s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:24 PM
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I get itchy and feel gross with semen inside of me I find this interesting. I used to get this way with my ex-husband but with my current bf I don't. I genuinely think it has something to do with matching body chemistries. For some reason my body "rejected" my ex-husband's semen but it "accepts" my current bf's. Now, I'm not a fan of it in general just because it's messy but I can't deny that it feels super intimate in the moment and that part I love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:01 PM
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Ngl this post seems unnecessarily mean. I agree. I'm keeping my mouth shut on this one though to avoid any dramamamamama LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:39 PM
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I wonder how many women this dress code has kept from entering the sport. I'm sure there are a LOT of women who would feel very uncomfortable playing in that. You shouldn't need a bikini wax in order to play a sport......... (yes I'm aware no woman NEEDS a bikini wax ever, but just trying to get my point across).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:26 PM
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Yep! I love being with men (luckily this includes my current bf) who also love food! I've been with the fitness junkie ones and while they've never commented on anything I just can't finish my plate when they are only eating half of theirs. I feel like I constantly have to make sure I'm eating just a bit less than them and that is exhausting. Guys who love to eat and are happy to see you eat are awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:21 PM
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This is a great post! I think it is something we've all experienced, maybe it wasn't from a bf but from a dad or brother or friend. I honestly think the best way to deal with it is to just point blank tell that "that was a rude comment" without smiling or anything so they know you're serious. Hopefully that stops future incidents but if it doesn't you need to get more firm. I've said something like "you seem to be getting pretty comfortable with disrespecting me and that's going to be an issue i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:14 PM
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Just to clarify: My reply was in response to some of the comments in this thread, not the meme itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:28 PM
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This is because females are taught to look INWARD when there is an issue (what is wrong with ME that caused this) and males are taught to look OUTWARD when there is an issue (who is responsible for this?!?!). It's very true and very sad. But once I learned this it helped me to better direct my feelings and, more importantly VALIDATE them. It's all about unlearning that conditioning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:59 PM
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I think with any preference or "standard", they're okay to have no matter what they are. What is not okay is being rude and nasty about it. Saying you only want to date tall men is fine. Saying you refuse to date tiny shrimps = not okay. Just like a guy saying he only wants to date thin, fit women - that's ok! Saying he refuses to date whales = not okay. As always, stick to your convictions but be kind and tactful, that is just the golden rule for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:23 PM
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Love hearing all these stories!! Great post!! You can see in my post history all about my man, love him to bits and the most HVM I've ever met. I was dead set on never being in a serious relationship again and here I am, the universe had a different plan for me. I do believe they are rare, but they are out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:05 PM
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This!!!!! I see a lot of women, in this sub particularly, that have this negative mindset. The energy you put out into the universe is what you can expect back and if you think all men are x,y,z then that is all you will encounter. With the right mindset and proper vetting you truthfully will not encounter that many LVM because they'll be weeded out super fast and you'll keep that space in your life open for the right man to enter. We all get bitter and jaded at times. That is your cue to press …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:58 PM
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"How's that ring?" So cheeky! LOL He's actually already bought me a ring (it was a surprise date night where he took me out for dinner, a movie he knew I wanted to see and he took me to pick out a piece of jewelry, just because). He's brought up marriage many times, got my ring size and asked what style I like, etc. He'd marry me tomorrow if I'd let him. I'm the one pacing the relationship. This man is so HV, he takes care of me in every way. And even though we have the expenses negotiated, he s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:57 PM
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What are your ages? How long have they been dating? I prioritize my bf now. I'm 37 and he's 41 and it's serious so we are going to be each other's top priority. That said I would never cancel plans with my friends or be late for meeting with them because I do still love and respect them. I used to talk and text with my friends all day and now it's much more sporadic but I think that is just natural when you get in a serious relationship. When I DO have downtime alone I usually just want to disco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:04 PM
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I agree with you that it is staged but even if it wasn't staged I would seriously doubt the sincerity of the relationship if someone posted this. Imagine walking into a room like this and then pushing your bf out of the way so you could grab your phone and record it instead of embracing your bf and enjoying the moment and actually being PRESENT. This type of stuff would only prove that your relationship is for show and not genuine. If your first reaction is to grab your phone you are not properl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:43 PM
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I came across that other sub about a week ago and I was extremely confused. How has it not been removed? On the plus side, if THAT sub can stay up this one should have no issues because that sub is so toxic, even if it is satire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:25 PM
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I'm aware I might take some flack for this, I'm prepared. But ugh, this type of stuff gives me a very uneasy feeling. Yes, I see the POTENTIAL for positive outcomes but I also see major ethical concerns and abuse that would come with it. It's essentially opening up the eugenics flood gates (quote from the article: "I think it will be possible to fertilize an egg with a set of half chromosomes and targeted gene editing.”). And while I have no issues with some minor interventions (shots or vitamin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:37 PM
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Where's #5 to #12?!?! I wanna know the middle steps LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:31 PM
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Eggsactily! Reminds me of that movie Hall Pass where the husbands think "if only we were single!" and then once they get the chance they realize it's not what they thought at all. That movie was f*cked up on so many levels lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:25 PM
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The way I read this is it would only block people who are on YOUR block list on your phone. So a guy would need to block his gf's number in order for her to not be able to see him on the app and that isn't realistic, he can't block his gf. And also unlikely he has her friend's phone numbers in his phone and even if he did, again, blocking them would be risky because it would look very suspicious. Also, Tinder already has the paid feature that only people you swipe right on can see you. THAT feat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:11 PM
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You are absolutely correct in everything you say. There is another aspect to this though that needs to be considered. Women now are much more concerned with their own sexual satisfaction (which they should be!). Waiting to marriage (unless for religious reasons maybe) to have sex could land you in a situation where you are tied to someone who doesn't want to or is incapable of sexually satisfying you - then what? There needs to be SOME compromise on that part in order to ensure we know what we a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:22 PM
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I wouldn't be comfortable with this either (I wouldn't want to be a SAHM) but a lot of people on here are saying she is screwed if xyz happens and I get that but you can clearly see he makes a lot of money (look at that kitchen, it's a big house) and if she truly handles ALL the money there's a good chance she's tucking some away for a rainy day and I'd be willing to bet there is also a prenup here which could keep her protected if they ever split by specifying how much she will get and he proba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:46 PM
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Meh, I think it truly comes down to properly vetting more than anything. OLD is a dumpster fire for sure but that's why we vet and learn how to spot the red flags early on so we can avoid the bulk of LVM on there. I met my ex husband (together 12 years, still great friends), another man who was a significant part of my life and now my current bf on plenty of fish and I have no regrets about any of it but I also went into OLD it with very low expectations and very high standards and I vetted supe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:39 PM
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Agreed! Being fit is just one of many admirable traits a person can have, it just happens to be the only one that is visible to everyone. A fit person might be disciplined when it comes to food/exercise but they lack discipline in their studies, personal relationships, finances, mental health, etc. whereas other people may excel in those areas and lack in the fitness department. It should also be noted that once you get beyond a certain point your "fitness" is just an extreme and an unhealthy co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:51 PM
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Trimming is appropriate. Waxing nose hairs is actually not a good idea. Our nose hairs have a function, they keep stuff out of our noses. Not to mention getting an ingrown hair inside your nose can't be pleasant! Trim - don't wax!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:47 PM
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"Me: Yes, it's terrible. I wish civilians carrying out senseless crimes like this was not a regular occurrence in US. I do not understand American gun laws (I'm from a civil war-torn country, and laws allowing civilians to own assault rifles do not make sense to me)." That was where you made the mistake. He brought up a hot topic (guns) and you engaged by giving your opinion. I've been there, people bring up issues they know are controversial so they can a) feel validated when you agree with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:59 PM
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I need more context here. I don't even know if this is a man speaking or a woman and what they are talking about. It could be a woman talking to another woman. Woman A is doing OF and brings literally nothing else to the table besides her look, the comment does mention "If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse in 10 years" - which is true if a woman is relying just on her looks she is in for a world of hurt one day. Woman B on the other hand is focusing on her education/career a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:52 PM
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I get the mentality behind waiting but I also think it's quite flawed. For the reasons she stated but also, how long do you want to invest in someone before you realize he has ED or no clue how to satisfy you in bed? This is information I would rather know sooner then later, personally. I'm not advocating for it but I will say, I've slept with two men on the first date. I married the first (12 years together) and the second one we dated for a couple of months and it ended for unrelated reasons, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:33 PM
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I don't know....I agree with you to a point. I would never be with someone I wasn't attracted to but I also don't think appearance should be THAT important beyond making sure you have a baseline of sexual attraction. I've dated guys with abs and honestly, they have all been vapid, insecure and brought literally nothing else to the table. And I've dated the "dad bod" guys who were a bit softer (not obese - curvy and dad bod both mean the same thing - when you stand up straight nothing should fold…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:15 PM
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I would never let my dog fly in the cargo of any plane. Is it "generally" safe? Sure. But I've also heard of many times a pet dying because of someone's carelessness and I don't take chances with my baby. If my bf gave me this ultimatum and then left I would wash my hands of him, wouldn't even phase me. My dog is my child, any man that doesn't understand that isn't welcome in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:53 PM
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Kind of a side note to your post, I was thinking a few weeks ago how sooooooo many movies and tv shows out there have the man cheating on the woman (a lot of the time wife/mother of his child). It's not always in the show/movie but it will be something that is brought up from the past that they've "moved past." I swear it's to condition women and girls that it's just normal to have your man cheat on you. Scary actually how subtle it is unless you're really looking for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:08 PM
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To say anything that resembled women are inferior then men... See, I've been around a lot of conservative men and I have never heard this IRL. I know there are men (and women) who appreciate traditional gender roles in their relationships to varying degrees but that's their business and none of it comes from an inferiority stance. It comes from an equal, but different view point. Masculine vs. Feminine. Both parties bring different (but equally important) qualities to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:59 PM
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Extremes on either end are no good. They're are plenty of crazies on the left too. I'm a conservative and prefer conservative men but I absolutely would date a liberal man as long as they weren't polarized by their beliefs and could debate/discuss things without getting all emotional/angry/nasty. I love finding out WHY people believe what they believe. As long as I can see they are open to it I have no issue engaging and having a meaningful discussion. If I can tell they are polarized though I j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:34 PM
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Because m0st m3n are cowards. I've had plenty of them admit this to me, they don't even try to deny it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:22 PM
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Perfectly said!! I've posted comments similar to this in other subs and it always gets removed by the mods which is so annoying because it is the truth!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:26 PM
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This is absolutely ridiculous but all I can say is a "loophole" would be to tell the guy who asks that you'll think about it and then just never get back to him. If someone else asks in the meantime and you say yes you can go back to the other guy and say you already have a date. If no guy asks you can still just respond with "I already have a date" - that date might just be your girlfriends but that's your business. Girls should not have to do this but that is what I would recommend as a last r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:00 PM
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They sided with him because they legally could not stop him because he wasn't breaking the law. Exactly. I understand the sentiment in this thread but the question I would have to ask is what exactly would you like the police to do in these situations KEEPING IN MIND that any action the police take would have to be applied equally to everyone. So if you enjoy being able to record people out in public you probably don't want to advocate for the police to be able to legally stop you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:51 PM
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Misogyny is the cause but the article says they are looking into the UNDERLYING causes so that would be the why behind misogyny. Things like misogyny happen at such a subconscious level that it's just not as simple as saying stop doing something because most people don't know they're doing it or they do know they're doing it but they don't understand why they're driven to do it. The "fix" to things like this is a re-programming of the brain that will take a long time to accomplish in society, mu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:28 PM
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I don't have time to write up all the positives of my man but I do want to say I was in a place where I didn't think this existed. He checks every box for me and is so amazing, I am not settling on anything with him. I was married before for 12 years and this man has already blown my ex out of the water. It DOES exist! I'll agree it's finding a needle in a haystack but they're out there. I'd also like to add that I had thrown in the towel, I was committed to remaining single and man-free for at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:45 PM
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Does anyone have any actual information about this? Like, what does a background check on Tinder include? I would never give permission for an app like Tinder to have access to ANY of my information other than what I manually input (yes I know the apps terms and conditions probably have some shady stuff in there but you know what I mean). I'm not letting anyone verify my employer, address, criminal history, etc. And I can't see Tinder even doing this because the privacy issue would be a nightmar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:13 PM
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I just want to add comment regarding Plan B. Something I learned while I was researching it is that the effectiveness of it is reduced after 155 lbs (some say up to 165 lb) and if you're obese (BMI of 30+) it is not at all effective. If you weigh 160 lb-ish or less: Taken within 24 hours = 95% effective. Taken within 48-72 hours = 61% effective. https://www.self.com/story/what-are-high-bmi-women-supposed-to-do-about-emergency-contraception I personally hate hormonal bc and I don't want anything …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:17 PM
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Except, as with any issue, the ones who do the harm (the criminals) don't abide by the rules. The law abiding get punished and the criminals continue to do what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:15 PM
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The majority of them look closer to 40 - 45 Yeah, cos they're also lying about their age!!! Hahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:26 PM
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Every man I swear thinks he's George Clooney or Leonardo DiCaprio when it comes to their age and getting women. I have personally not witnessed ANY man look better with age. Most of them age worse then women - both tend to gain weight but men also lose their hair, let their dental hygiene go down, their skin looks 15 years older because of all the booze/ciggs and not knowing what moisturizer is (the amount of men in their early 30's I've dated who have crows feet is insane LOL) and yes, their se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:29 PM
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This is a stunt to get the supreme court to revisit Roe v. Wade (as stated in the article). I genuinely do not believe this is a realistic outcome (outlawing abortion). And I know it's easier said than done but I don't think there is anything to be worried about, I have full confidence this will be shot down in the supreme court. That said, I am not against certain measures like showing an ultrasound or some counselling and having some information about resources available to her if she chose to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:24 PM
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Well considering Vice is a dumpster fire of left extremists that has NEVER used any objective thought or statistics to back up their "feelings" on any matter I wouldn't take it too personally. I follow vice literally to hear them REEEEEEEEE! about everything oFfEnSiVe and read the comment sections that rarely disappoint LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:15 PM
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The only thing you need to say to a man who calls any woman a gold digger is, "Well why don't you just go find a woman with her own gold? Then you don't have to worry!" He won't though because he knows any woman with her own gold would never look his way or give him a chance, he has to go for the ones that he can impress with this shitty life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:44 PM
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Your points are fair. I never claimed you told people to lie. And I wasn't comparing men to women in this sense I was just giving my perspective as the women because that is the side of dating I'm on. I understand the differences in reasoning you listed. As for the online vs. IRL men, again, I hear you, but a properly vetted man you meet online is going to be less of a threat to your kids than a stranger IRL who you've had no opportunity to vet at all. There is no guarantee of safety when it com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:18 PM
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I'm mid 30's. Ok, I've had one orgasm from a man and that was a very long time ago. Surprisingly it was during sex, not oral. I can't explain it. That being said I have been with some very talented men who could easily make me cum if I was capable of getting out of my head. Most men I've been with do not fall in this category but a couple do. Once I was soooooo close and then BOOM leg cramp! I was so mad LOL The guy I'm with right now is very good with his mouth but I am just not relaxed enough …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:23 PM
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Good lord that almost had me in tears!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:54 PM
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As a childfree person I have learned to point blank ask men in the first few messages if they have kids. I've had too many lie in their profiles about it so now I just ask directly, even if their profile says they don't have kids. And yes, I do say I am childfree in my profile but for some reason everyone thinks their some special exception? I can appreciate the sentiment in this post and have no issues with not putting it in their profile (although ideally I'd like to weed them out at this stag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:53 PM
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Holy shit! I'm sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:24 PM
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Just from my own personal experience, I have never heard anyone say "boys will be boys" in relation to any type of physical/mental abuse. The only time I have EVER heard this saying was in relation to male children who were roughhousing with other male boys and someone got hurt or something. So genuine question to my ladies here - have any of you honestly been told "boys will be boys" after a man physically assaulted you, even as a child? I'm just blown away at how I keep hearing this but I have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:24 PM
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I recently deleted all my apps and I've committed myself to a 2021 of celibacy which includes dates and everything. Just a year to be me and work on me (so far my fave part is not shaving hahahahaha). I'm not going to lie though, it's a bit rough right now because I just started it all and I feel kinda bored and haven't quite got my groove yet but I really want to do this for myself. I hate the apps but I also just don't know where else to meet guys? I work from home and with all the restriction…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:29 PM
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I understand what you are saying and now that I think of it I can't really think of a good reason for this rule - or at least make it like 30 or 60 days, not a year! That said, you can still leave and be separated, divorce is just the paperwork at the end. I split from my husband and it was very civil and we have no kids but felt until one of us wanted to get married again divorce was just a waste of money so we had a separation agreement done so we were legally separated and couldn't be held li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:47 PM
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The honest answer? It would be impossible to prove. The reason given would always be that his feelings just changed after sex but when they had sex he was genuinely into her. And I also think you need to be really careful with the rape word. Over and misuse of it will only cheapen it's meaning. It's already happened with the word racist. People don't even bat an eye anymore because EVERYTHING is racist these days so it just gets tuned out. We don't want that to happen with rape too (and to a deg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:14 PM
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The same goes for posting nudes with "stickers" over certain parts. These are easily removable. I know I may get flack for this but I just don't feel sorry for these people. It's been said a million times. Do not post nude photos of yourself anywhere. Even with stickers or filters or anything. Technology is too advanced and it's simply not worth it. The internet is foooorrrreeeevvveeeerrrrr.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:20 PM
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You're not wrong. And the books I mentioned do go over those topics. It is absolutely still a good 'ol boys club and I've shed many tears over it throughout my career. Literally watching men be handed promotions when they were not even trying and I was jumping up and down waving my arms in the air. But again, what other option do we have to achieve our goals?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:51 PM
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I am fully aware of what happened, trust me, there is no denial in me about it. But like I said, when women are faced with these challenges we have two options - pout and whine about it or act to change the outcome. It wasn't fair. It is not fair. But that doesn't change the reality that if I wanted to achieve my goals I had to adapt. What other alternative was there? To change the system you have become part of it and change it from within. That is what I did/am trying to do. A part of what I m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:30 PM
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Hardball for Women - Winning At The Game of Business by Pat Heim Nice Girls Still Don't Get The Corner Office by Lois Frankel Her Place At The Table by Deborah Kolb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:24 PM
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Maybe I'm reading this wrong but I think there is another way to come at this topic. To ME it's not so much about men changing for us, it's us realizing the reality of the situation and doing everything in OUR power to control OUR fate. I can tell you right now if you have the mentality that someone else should change to make you feel better/safer/etc you will always lose. We have power in how we react to things and what we allow ourselves to be exposed to and I feel like we do a great job of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:44 PM
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I've asked a few men this before (outside of a relationship) and they've point blank told me it's because they are cowards and would rather make the woman do it / hate confrontation. They will become distant and do the bare minimum and basically just wait until she can't take it anymore. A few times they've had to eventually end it though because the women refused to let go even though the men were being essentially a**holes to them. Makes me sad :( But at least they gave me an honest answer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:31 PM
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I also come prepared with CASH (I have date cash in my purse - a $20, a $10, a $5 and some coins so I can leave exactly what I want to. This stash has never been used but it's always there in my purse). I never offer to pay or give any indication I'm going to but if it comes down to that happening I want to be able to hand my cash to the waitress and gtfo, not wait around for debit machines or anything. Luckily I've only ever been on one date where the guy asked me to chip in $5. It was so confu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:43 PM
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Dated a fat man earlier this year. His dick size suffered because of it for one. And two, yeah he lasted longer because he had to take frequent breaks because he was tired and sweating and his hip would cramp up. He was also in his mid 20's. I tried it. Probably won't do it again. I don't need a ripped 6 pack, I'm quite happy with dad bod but that's about as far as I can go (FYI dad bod means strong but soft and there aren't any folds or anything hanging - basically a guy who works out but also …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 04:14 AM
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Well trust me, the men I get into relationships with get the best of me, including the sex department. There are lots of things I enjoy that I don't feel comfortable expressing/asking for with casual guys. Some fwb's have progressed to those levels but a boyfriend is DEFINITELY getting the best deal from me. I love taking care of my man, in lots of ways! And I only do that within a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 02:59 AM
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But why does everyone think all women are trying to lock down Chad? I know Chad, I have no interest in Chad. Chad is more trouble than he's worth. I've always known this. I've fucked Chad. But I have never once tried to take it beyond that. I've dated a wide range of men. I love me some average!! Looks are only important for about 2 weeks anyways. Beyond that if there's nothing of substance behind that pretty face the relationship is doomed. Once you figure that out you (should) stop going for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 01:29 AM
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Nah, I've dated those "ugly" men before. I made a conscious effort to go for those less objectively attractive men and while they were nicer and put in more effort in the very beginning stages it did not have any effect on the outcome. They were also just as lazy/selfish in bed. And also had more ED issues, maybe from excessive porn/masturbation due to lack of women I don't know lol Honestly, I don't see any reason to lower your standards on the physical, men are men once you scratch past the su…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:01 AM
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I appreciate your honesty. This entire comment perfectly sums up why it is so crucial to let men pursue you and pursue you hard before giving commitment and/or having sex with them. It's not about games, it's about how differently men and women function and this "strategy" is literally the only one women can use to weed out the fuckboi's who just want sex. I'm sure you'll agree you would never pursue a woman hard for weeks or months if you just wanted to get laid. You'd have to REALLY like her t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 05:48 PM
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In my experience it's the same guys on all the free apps. And usually the same ones on the pay ones too with a maybe an extra 5% more serious ones. I've seen numerous fuckboi's who are paying for these things (not sure why though). Tinder USED to be all about the hookups but it has changed over the years. It is still for hookups but it is ALSO for regular dating as well. I've dated numerous men from there and know a lot of people who got into relationships from matching on Tinder. POF is horribl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 07:18 PM
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Men don't use women for sex. Men use women's feelings for them to get sex. When a woman says she was used for sex it's usually because she believed the "relationship" was something it wasn't because of the actions/words of the man. Even if a man says he doesn't want something serious but his ACTIONS say the other thing that leads to confusion and that's where the problem lies. Women enjoy sex. It's not about that. But just because I enjoy sex doesn't mean I am going to do it with someone who ONL…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 02:39 PM
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Perfectly worded!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 02:48 PM
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