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married 26 yrs. 4 kids. RP 2 years. Out of marriage have come my highest highs and my lowest lows, both. Yes, it continues to be worth it. The earlier the RP is taken, the more 'worth it' it will be...
/r/askMRP21/09/18 08:00 PM
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She said she still wants to connect with me but if I disconnect and leave, then it proves all I want is sex. She discounted all the other stuff I do, and acted like I’m all about sex 24/7. That I have sex with her to get validation for myself. She said I only value her for sex. I got this at first too. I just admitted it, that yes I want sex with my wife, yes I want it all the time, yes her value to me is very dependent on sex. Why pretend this isn't true? Here's the thing I found out once I pow…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 08:02 PM
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For 20 years of our 25 year marriage my wife has out-earned me. It's never been an issue. We keep a main account that is 'ours' with small side accounts for our personal off the books spending. If she is income self-sufficient, like my wife, then she probably won't care if you are rich or not as long as you are not being a child that she has to coddle. It's a non-issue unless YOU make it one by being a low value man. Then you'll be giving her the excuse to bring it up and make it an issue. "Valu…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:28 PM
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This post feels very purple to me. Seeing as though the MRP sidebar material acknowledges that 'married' involves some blue pill, is this really a problem? Isn't MRP always going to be a purplish color?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 05:00 PM
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Your story is too general to give you any specific advice. The best thing you can do if you want advice from here is to read the 3 "course prerequisite" books on the sidebar and see if any of that resonates with you. If so, you can come back and ask some meaningful questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 01:21 PM
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The problem with discipline is that my wife.... That sentence shouldn't be allowed in the OYS thread! Discipline is your job. You set the boundaries. You enforce them.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 10:03 PM
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(he isn't a bad dad, but he's expressed multiple times that he doesn't want our children) Yes, he's a bad dad. Something is seriously wrong with a man who doesn't want his own children. You are deluding yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 11:31 PM
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AWALT means that every single woman is CAPABLE of it, not that they exhibit the behavior all the time. Get a grip. Trust is foundational to a LTR. If you don't have trust, why would you want to even begin or maintain a LTR?
/r/askMRP13/10/17 03:56 PM
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I set a hard boundary but she is taking advantage of the financial situation we're in and calling my bluff. Why are you bluffing? That's not actually setting a hard boundary, is it? She's got me with no options No options is giving me the shits Rethink this. You have options. You have chosen money as the highest priority in this situation. That may be the best choice, maybe not, but it's the option you are choosing.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 06:38 PM
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I've always eaten fairly well. Meat, vegetables, starch, and fruit in most every meal. Rarely eat packaged or processed food and don't eat out much 'cause it's budget killer for a family of 6. The struggle for me is to eat enough to gain weight. I basically tried to eat more meat at my meals and eventually started drinking 1/2 gallon of whole milk with 2 scoops of protein powder a day. That was sufficient to get get the weight gain, but it's a constant battle to eat enough. My appetite shuts off…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 02:37 AM
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I think he did AM it. The question allowed the hamster wheel to "run itself out and break the wheel casing." Sometimes people need to get things off their minds. He allowed her to do so, reacted like helium, and his rock-like demeanor resulted in a good day for both of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 11:36 PM
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I said "how about a quickie (I) said "I want to ravage you" Words do not convey sexual desire. If you REALLY felt like ravaging her, your hands would be all over her, you'd be acting like it was impossible to stop yourself. In that situation, if I wanted a quickie, I'd be holding her tightly with my hands under her shirt, pulling her close to me and saying something more like, "Damn, I'm going to miss you this weekend." Long kiss, ass grab, hands communicating desire, pressing my boner up agains…
/r/askMRP06/10/17 04:10 PM
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I think this example is priceless. It seems so easy when you read it, maybe even trivial, but the internal frame it takes to make this happen is elusive and not trivial at all for a BP DEER'er. For the daily grind in marriage, these are the practical victories that add up to a quality life. Think of the difference in your day...a day or more of miserable arguing or your wife's head buried lovingly in your chest. OI is important because you can't control her response, but it doesn't mean I don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 02:41 PM
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This simple story reveals a lot about how holding your frame leads to a better life. Bluepill me would have either responded with a list of things I do and compared it to hers to show that our duties were 'equal' in the big picture (an argument I would logically win, but practically lose since even arguing about it is a loss) OR I would fret about it and fall at her feet apologizing and 'trying to do better.' We had almost the same scenario play out about a month ago... She whined about breakfas…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 01:33 PM
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Agreed. I didn't give that detail, but every 8 to 12 weeks, a week off does wonders for recovery. I've never been off more than week though.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 12:11 AM
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I bought an Atlas Power Rack Squat Deadlift Cage with Bench Racks $224.99, a Marcy Flat Utility Weight Bench, Black for $40, and a CAP power bar and weight set @ 230 lbs for $261. That was enough to get started. I bought another set of 45's at some point. I didn't need to build a platform until the deadlift started slipping my grip at about 250. I've also bought some micro plates for OHP recently.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 12:08 AM
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Deferring decisions to you - It creeps up on you but you'll start to find that you become the decision maker in your lives. It may sound tiresome, but it truly makes things easier. MRP woke me up to the fact that this is what my wife wanted all along. It use to piss me off how she would ask me my opinion on every single decision no matter how small. She's a capable, independent, logistically minded person...why can't she just make the damn decision and be done with it? Yeah...it's tiresome. Howe…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 04:01 PM
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So the list of results are simply the things which happened because I lifted. I'm not sure what I actually expected when I set out to learn. In other words, I didn't start lifting with any tangible goal other than getting stronger. Mostly, I had gotten the point that every single MRP contributor that I respected was saying that lifting was fundamental and basic. So I bought in. Your post is getting at something different though.... More about my response to the results. I would say the results a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 03:31 PM
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I've got a spreadsheet by Bill Starr for intermediate lifting that I intend to use. I'd like to get through the 3x5 and 1x5 levels on SL before changing up. I don't think that will take longer than the rest of this calendar year. I'll check out 5/3/1. thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 03:11 PM
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I started to deload 10% when hitting a PR. This allowed the different lifts to not always be at 'max' effort every session. I am now not doing that, but going to transition to 3x5 after the second legit deload due to failure.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 03:08 PM
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This hit home when the weight got real in the Squats. I took the bar's weight on my bent wrists during a set due to bad form and my elbows and forearms were down for a week. It woke me up to the real possibilities of getting hurt and losing all progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 03:06 PM
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age 47 weight 150 lbs height 5' 10" BF% probably 18. as far as lifting stats, I don't know. I had never lifted before!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 03:03 PM
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sorry...lbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 03:00 PM
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If you do it, you will not regret it. I ordered everything through Amazon and it came right to my doorstep. Best money I've spent. If I inspired you to get that rack and weights, then the post was worth it. Thanks for the encouragement back.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 02:59 PM
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The empty bar was only used the first day (and sometimes before that while I was screwing around trying to understand the lift). You add 5 lbs a workout, so at first that was very easy and I worked out every other day for 2 months doing that. I would recommend getting the app and just going for it...you have about 7-8 weeks of adding 5 lbs before it starts to get intimidating and heavy. No reason to delay.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 02:55 PM
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This might sound weird, but push until you get hard NOs. So this hits it on the head. I don't get hard no's for sex, but there are specific actions like going down on her that meet serious resistance. I need to focus on pushing those boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 02:50 PM
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My advice would be to move into getting better at Kino and escalation with the wife. A glaring weakness that needs work. Progress has been slight.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 11:11 PM
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Yes. Dressing better. I've shopped for myself rather than let the wife do it for me. I don't shy away from more form fitting clothes and I actually pay attention to the details now. Eating better - Simply comes with the working out. I've had to eat more than I ever imagined possible to gain weight and I'm eating a lot less crap because, frankly, the lifting is hard and I don't want to be counter-productive. Being more direct about sex - This required a huge mindset change and a recognition of ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 11:06 PM
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In the beginning, I was able to workout every other day without an extra rest day. That lasted two months. Then I was on the 3 a week normal schedule. The two-a-weeks only came much later. There's a point in SL 5x5 where you are working at a personal record every session but also nearing your max ability. Those weeks were very hard on my elbows and hips (mostly bringing out my bad form) and resulted in two a weeks just till recovery. I do 3 a week most times. As far as BF %, given the error in c…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 10:29 PM
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But don't scare off a beginner from reading the book... I never lifted a weight until 47. I used Stronglifts routine, but learned how to do the lifts correctly by reading Starting Strength.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 05:17 PM
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Stronglifts 5x5. I started lifting at age 47. Been doing it for 9 months and I am in the best shape of my life. I feel better in every way and some back and shoulder pain have completely disappeared. One thing, that others have pointed out, is that your joints will not adapt as fast as your muscles. If you follow the program, you will start very, very light and work your way up. Now that the weights are super-heavy (for me) and I'm still setting a personal record every week or two, I have reduce…
/r/askTRP20/07/17 03:07 PM
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Nothing 'worked.' He simply did what he wanted and she responded the way she wanted. This was not a method, trick, or technique. It was simply a man holding his frame. Your question betrays a complete lack of understanding.
/r/askMRP01/04/17 04:00 PM
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Exactly this. Was looking for ways to revive the, not 'dead', but 'starfish' bedroom. End result of reading the sidebar: New job - took a leap I was afraid to take--> more money, more autonomy, better life New body - 5x5, starting strength etc... feel and look better than ever New attitude - leading not following not partnering..my wife loves it oh yeah..and MUCH better sex.. 50% of that is my mental approach 50% is the behavior change in my wife. This stuff works, especially the 'prerequisites.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/16 02:43 PM
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What do you recommend to a guy who is not handy but wants to start doing things around the house to show some manliness? Youtube and Google. There's little repair work out there that hasn't been documented for your viewing pleasure.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 10:25 PM
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Yes, thank you. This was an interesting discussion and helpful.
/r/askMRP26/05/16 01:18 AM
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These are some good responses and give me much to think about. I realize my title is too provocative, but I want to hear the counter ideas because some of this is way outside my normal context.
/r/askMRP25/05/16 11:16 PM
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Well good for you. Since I've been reading the boards and swallowed the pill back in January, this is the area I wrestle with the most. There's a too skewed view of women as evil or as you say, infantile. I haven't posted about this because I'm unsure if I'm wallowing in my old bluepill cesspool or if I actually have a realistic view of women. Is it wrong to say there is equality in value even if there is inequality in role and aptitudes? I love women (the older I get, the more this is true). An…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 07:41 PM
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She threatens to call the cops while screaming at the top of her lungs AND when she does this, my daughter starts screaming and crying. I hate it but I see NO other way to fix this without submitting to her. Faith or no faith, these two comments blow my mind. Firstly, anyone willing to call the cops on you (unless you are beating her) is not a keeper. Calling the cops is a nuclear bomb that can ruin your life. You want to live with that threat? Also, exposing your daughter to this stuff is damag…
/r/askMRP25/05/16 06:40 PM
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He improves for himself, but that improvement directly translates to her as she is the one married to this improving man and it reaffirms her original notion that you were a masculine man and worth marrying and having sex with. You have described exactly what's going on in my life right now. Not 5 weeks ago my wife stood on the scale in front of me for the first time in...well, longer than I can remember. It was the beginning of her desire for change. One thing that has helped her confidence is …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 04:21 PM
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Firstly, as others have said, she doesn't want to be desired by a loser. She wants to be desired by a quality man. It all begins there. Secondly, for me, whether verbal or not, desire is communicated through an honest directness. This is something I struggled with for 20+ years. My wife often said that she liked to be desired, but I could never figure out what that meant. The bluepill hamster shut down every avenue of communicating desire... After taking the red pill, I've spent a lot of time tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 02:40 PM
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I would say that I have to reclaim the man I once was. I would say aim higher than that. Were you REALLY the man you want to be? You can be better than the man you once were.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 07:39 PM
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Owning: Application of MRP to my sexual life. Heck yeah! It works and things are constantly improving. Quantity has never been a serious issue, but quality was usually lacking. Quality was lacking because I, as a man, lacked quality. I guess that's the message, right? I have yet to experience any major failure here...the more I apply the alpha mindset, the more I get improved sex. My wife was primed for this stuff, I was too blind to see it, too timid to act on it, too conditioned to believe it.…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 03:48 PM
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I really appreciate the honesty of this post. It's very different from my experience, but this gut-wrenching story is real in a way that makes me, so badly, want a good ending for you. The only thing I can offer here is the idea that you should forgive as you want to be forgiven. Be well and wishing you the best.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 02:27 AM
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The exact response doesn't really matter, its a flirty shit test that wifey wants you to swat away, it turns her on that her man can't be broken. It's funny, because bluepill me could not believe this...would not believe this. The very concept made me spout 'bullshit' when I first came across it. But, I'm here to tell you I believe! My sex life believes! It worked on the very first try and has not failed yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 01:48 AM
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It's not, but man, for years I wanted to avoid it instead of facing it head on and overcoming. And it hurts. MRP was the beginning of showing me the 'pain was weakness leaving the body' or some such cliche...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 01:32 AM
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I think that was directed at me to not only post successes, but also the struggles and failures. I will try. Thx!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 12:39 AM
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Thank you. Your particular slice of the redpill pie has been most meaningful to me. I appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 12:38 AM
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I have often wondered why so many men stay with wives who put on 200lbs. and start dressing in men's clothing. My wife put on about 80. I don't know how I would have reacted pre-redpill to 200. But, I can say this about tolerating the lessening SMV in general: she tolerated me being a weak betamax virtually absent captain for 23 years...I can give her some time too. Thanks for your comments...I agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 12:35 AM
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lol. Thanks! The awesome part is being able to choose from a variety of great replies instead of hamstering my way into mediocrity. I'm starting to 'agree' and need to learn how to 'amplify' better.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 12:21 AM
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This is probably a good spot for me to tell you thank you for the time you spend spreading truth. Your posts always grab my attention and have greatly contributed to my swallowing the pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 12:17 AM
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I appreciate hearing your story. It means more to me than I can put into words in this little box. And xertlust, I've often told people that my marriage is the source of my greatest blessings on earth (and it is because, well, sex and then some stuff like intimacy and companionship), but also a living hell. A living hell because I'm forced to constantly face my weaknesses.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 12:13 AM
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I appreciate your comment and you are right. I have been lifting, but I have only gotten my easy beginner gains and now the hard work is ahead. I think the mental side is analogous. There are some changes easy to make with impressive early results, but there are other things that take hard work and time and there is no shortcut. Be well!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 05:39 PM
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So my question is how explicit I should be in my withholding of commitment.<<< The Course Prerequisites on the sidebar has 3 books and in one of those books there's a chapter which is titled: “You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses to justify your behavior.” Be well.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 06:23 PM
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