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I think that this is why I feel like polyamory suits me. Though this puts my pool of available men into an incredibly small ratio, I find that GENERALLY men that are polyamorous are better at communication in relationships. Not that whole, "I'm looking for a relationship" trope while ghosting you except for those "are you up?" texts at 1am. For me, it also places me in a position where I am the only one responsible for my happiness. I am not looking for THE ONE, only to be disappointed. Each of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 05:40 PM
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It's like our idea of a quality relationship is all rooted in dysfunction and codependency. Social media just makes it easier to present lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 06:37 PM
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Well, it is from a solo poly author, so you're right. The author has also written a book about it. There are other resources if you're put off by that. I think that most people who have relationships outside the monogamous standard are more likely the people seeking another way to approach relationships that may vary from what is seen as 'the norm'. Regardless, no matter your relationship style, I always think it's good to consider why we feel pushed into certain lifestyle/relationship styles an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/19 09:11 PM
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I also want to add that my views on quality relationships are not everyone's. For me, I feel that what we see as a 'good' relationship in our culture often breeds codependency and a loss of autonomy and identity. It creates a feeling of being 'trapped' sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/19 09:17 PM
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Staying in the present, discussing desires / expectations continually with partners, not projecting into the future based on what you think should be happening in your life. Knowing that commitment to a relationship doesn't need enmeshment or becoming one being. For me, it's helpful because I don't want expectations based on what we "should" be doing in relationships. I want to stay present and do what I and my partner want to do. Many people get pushed into these things without really being rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/19 09:13 PM
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It's the process by which we rank relationship progress: Dating, looking for THE ONE FOREVER Exclusivity Spending all your time together Living together Sharing finances Getting married Having kids And, really, from the beginning encounter with someone, projecting your relationship to the 'next step' as a goal. You know, those steps that are seen as 'proof' a relationship has value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/19 08:54 PM
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Have you ever heard of the term "relationship escalator"? While our hearts don't always follow the desires of our brain, I find that stepping off the relationship escalator is helpful in maintaining my autonomy and boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/19 07:27 PM
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