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Asian women have the least in-group preference LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:13 PM
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Yeah, best to ignore what most people say re: being a good person. Just don't break the law, pay your taxes. That's all the obligation you have towards wider society. Everything else can kick rocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 03:07 AM
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Read back my comment, I haven't mentioned online dating once. You inferred it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 03:05 AM
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Spot on!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 02:07 AM
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Reminds me of a funny story recently. Girl I was seeing almost immediately mentioned she enjoys the "chase", so I obliged, but I gave myself a time limit of about 2 weeks to try and sleep with her in that time, otherwise I was out. Got laid. Few weeks down the line, when she started to want something serious with me, she said "I don't actually enjoy the chase, can you please stop being so vague?". I didn't stop, because we'd already hooked up, no need to change now. Play stupid games, win stupid…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 01:49 AM
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You're spot on mate, it absolutely does connect. Best to keep our heads down and hide in plain sight, doing whatever we can to help our fellow man and get better at navigating the rigged system.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 01:39 AM
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I'm not American but I've been to Hooters in Japan. No complaints ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 01:31 AM
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I'm expecting to get banned eventually, to be honest. Internet doesn't seem to like men helping each other get through shit. Just trying to make at least some sort of helpful impact while I can...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 01:26 AM
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Yup, I do. I have a balance of guy/girl friends, but if anything I probably hang with my girl friends more 1 on 1 than the guys, catching up and talking shit. They tell me these sorts of things, what they get up to on nights out, what they do overseas. Even the ones my age/older that are looking to settle down are still engaging in the same hookup culture with guys exhibiting very clear red flags, and still wonder why they can't find someone serious. I just sit back and listen LOL. Keep in mind …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 12:32 AM
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Yeah, unfortunately we're nothing but tools for them. So why bother? Better to put that time and energy into ourselves, discover who we are without women in our lives. One thing that helps me is thinking about what kind of kid I was, what did I enjoy doing before I hit puberty? I brainstorm from there, try to rediscover my identity. I'm not sure if this is helpful, but I hope it's something. All the best mate, keep your head up, stay strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:49 PM
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You're implying the guys I know IRL are shut-ins. They're not. They're social, fit gym lads, in great career fields (how we got acquainted). They don't adhere to these negative connotations you've painted. The problems are expanding wider than the net you're casting. But feel free to keep up your assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:43 PM
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Believe me there is. We were sold a lie, that we could find love, our looks/statusmatch and we'd be set. The world we live in today is the total opposite of that. What we have to do, with the one life we have, is rewire our thinking, unlearn all the bullshit programming we were brainwashed into, and find other reasons to live outside of that. It sounds like a cope, but honestly 100% of people are running off that cope. It crashes eventually. Even Chad has his moment when he inevitably gets divor…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:39 PM
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I'm in the same boat as you regarding empty apartment and 0 phone notifications, so I totally get you. Anytime mate, there's a lot of vitriol spewed by the women here, and they don't care for the consequences they cause. They have huge support networks. We don't have that, so I try to do what I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:34 PM
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That's alright mate, offer is always there if you need to rant or vent. As someone who has gone through the same thing, I completely understand. It's a shit feeling knowing you lost at the genetic lottery, but I'd hate to see a fellow man lose sight of other things because of it. Believe me, there is more to life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:24 PM
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Yeah, it genuinely is hopeless. The best you can do, as cliché as it sounds, is focus on yourself and the things outside of love that make you happy. You've seen what the women on here say, as well as the wider dating discourse. They don't give a fuck about men, and they never will. We need to find other avenues for happiness and satisfaction out of life, else we end up miserable for how ever many years we're on this floating rock. DM's are always open for a chat, stay strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:11 PM
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Sorry you're feeling that way friend. It absolutely sucks, but please try to drown out those sorts of thoughts. Like you said, it's out of your control, so don't put too much stock in it. Focus on the things you do have power over, and do your best to enhance your life in other ways. Good luck and all the best. DM's are always open for a chat!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:06 PM
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Fuck, sorry to hear that man. It's unfortunate they were driven to such consequences, but I know the feeling. Hope they're resting in peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:05 PM
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Hmm.. I guess the amount of Gen Z guys I've met that are single/virgins but are looking for love, and I consider them objectively way more attractive than myself. They seem to be keenly aware of how much casual sex girls in their cohort are getting, and they want something serious. If those guys are struggling, shit must be rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 04:05 PM
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Nah, they never cared until the long term kicked in, or until they naturally get annoyed and unsatisfied. Those men won't change their behaviour regardless because they get laid being themselves. If it ain't broke... As for blaming all men, they project those qualities of the desirable men and say it's an "all men" issue, when they've only ever sampled the top 20%. Better to ignore their complaints IMO, it's completely baseless.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:44 AM
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Hence why my DM's are open for places that are better for them ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:59 PM
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My point is that, women are the reason people aren't getting and staying in happy relationships, in case it wasn't clear enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:44 PM
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That's women for you mate...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:34 PM
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Yeah, it'll come with time. Just hope these young dudes can learn that ASAP, better for them in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:28 PM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:28 PM
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There are more lonely men than women. The main thing "preventing them from getting into" relationships are women's rising standards. As for "staying in happy relationships", that's hypergamy, practised by women. They eventually want more if they're not satisfied with the guy they're with. Criminals have no problem generally getting into relationships. Would you consider them mentally stable? I don't think mental health plays much of a factor here at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:26 PM
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Something I've noticed after commenting here this past week. For the guys, particularly the younger dudes on here: The women on this forum get off on seeing men's posts on how lonely you are, how much the dating world sucks. Most of them are already partnered and comment on TwoX/FDS. They do not have any empathy or sympathy for mens' situations, and they never will. You cannot try to convince them of anything. I implore you to start keeping these things to yourself and avoid fuelling their schad…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:21 PM
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If you consider rising standards held by women "mental health issues" I mean uhhh sure...but I don't really understand where you're coming from here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:07 PM
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Because the physical attraction part is already implied to be a factor (6 foot, ripped abs, preferably white for most women, 6 figure salary). When they mention the "emotional" traits they're looking for, they mean they want those men to have them. It doesn't make a difference for average men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:56 PM
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Huh, you can go into my comment history if you want to see my situation but to sum it up, I've had LTR's, hookups, FWB's, throughout my teens and 20's, run the whole gamut. Now I fuck prostitutes, with occasional action meeting girls out in public. I don't plan on getting married, having kids or even date again, checked out at this point, so I don't ultimately care what women want or don't want. You will continue to whinge about Chad but ultimately reward his behaviour regardless. Maybe the cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 01:19 PM
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I'm dismissive because women choose these men without fail every single time. Men marry women hoping they won't change, women marry men hoping they will. So I couldn't care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:44 AM
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No shit, I've done both. My point is that generally speaking most people will have lived out of home before moving in with their future partner. You'd be able to see how they live prior to that, so I don't know why women act surprised when a few years in, their man's never picked up any domestic duties. I find it hard to believe men just suddenly stop doing that shit once they move in with their girlfriend/fiancé/wife. Read my last line.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 04:34 AM
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My father was the kind of man who didn't partake in any domestic duties (other than outdoor related ones.) As a result, my mother made my brother and I pick up these skills pre-high school, to an insane extent. Since moving out and living in my own apartment, I've realised how much she projected onto us, as well as her ridiculous standards in place. Cooking and cleaning are easy as hell to do. I've lived with female housemates and visited old girlfriends' houses. None of them have ever been as c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 03:56 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:36 AM
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Plenty of reasons as to why men don't want to go into teaching, as one of the male hosts points out in this Australian TV segment from a while back. Spoiler alert: They're treated like creeps. False accusations, as per usual. Why take that risk?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:34 AM
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That's interesting. Do you have a timeframe on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:44 PM
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You talk about marriage and children, yet your username contains WGTOW? I'm a bit confused there...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:17 PM
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Who's trying to land a woman from PPD, let alone Reddit LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:15 PM
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Hmm, I don't think I would start a relationship with a 30 year old woman...would be leaving it too late to have kids. Meet at 30 -> Date for a bit, get married at what, 32-33 if it goes well? Then have to immediately get her pregnant to avoid geriatric pregnancy from 35, but that means only having one kid safely, what if you want more? Doesn't give her much time to recover from the first kid and get pregnant again. I would say 27 at the latest.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:56 PM
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Yup, personally I appreciate living in this time period because the illusions/controls in place before have been shattered. Would have hated to think I'd found "the one" only to realise she was miserable the entire time and just put up with me for my money while fucking the neighbours. I think many men need to catch up to the reality we're living in and find other avenues for life outside of dating/marriage, now that the truth is out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:24 PM
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"Ruined"? Seems like a weird way to put it, and I'm not sure if it's feminism or just technology. I'm sure both have a part to play. What has happened is that we live in the kind of world women wanted. Look around, talk to women, see what their views are on everything. You'll find they're just being themselves now, after being unshackled from patriarchy. This is who women always were, mask off. How you interpret that is up to you. I personally don't believe there was ever a "golden age" or belie…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:59 AM
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All good mate! I do enjoy it, I'm in my late 20's. You'll find these things get easier over time, just make sure to put the work into yourself so you can enjoy the fruits of your labour ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:52 AM
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Hey mate, don't let it get to you. I was purely lucky enough to be around when women's current strict standards weren't in place. I do believe that time is (mostly) over but looking back, I consider it vastly overrated. Women being attracted to you isn't going to give you any real self-esteem. I encourage you to try and find it within. Believe me, the juice isn't worth the squeeze. Keep your head up!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:34 AM
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My favourite topic! I have a lot to say on this one, so bear with me. I live in Australia, where prostitution is legal. Started seeing prostitutes this year; prior to that I'd had a few LTR's, hook-ups, FWB's, pretty much everything. I'd say my body count wasn't too high before I started, perhaps about 20? For someone like me, that's quite high anyway. I didn't feel like I had anything to prove regarding my attraction, essentially. Once I started seeing prostitutes, I left the dating apps and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:07 AM
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The King!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 11:42 PM
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Fuck, sorry for your loss mate. Hope you're okay, as well as the family. Always sad to hear about these things happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 08:39 AM
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In that case, good luck finding that person! It's quite easy to see the Chad experience; your comments have been echoed throughout other dating subs and the wider internet. Men in that bracket can do what they like, it's just how it goes. Well, if you hang the threat of breaking up with them, don't you think they may not respond so well to that? This will be my last comment, I hope you find whatever solace you're looking for here, and if I did nothing to help change your perspective, then that's…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 01:25 AM
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So which is it? Do you still want to get married or content being single? If you haven't made up your mind about that, you won't be putting yourself on a path to move on from it all. My ultimate point is that you've only dated Chad's, therefore you will continue to have the "Chad Experience". It's fairly standard; you're not the only one going through this sort of thing, hence the existence of this sub, FDS, etc. There may also be some things you're doing in your relationships that puts some of …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 01:12 AM
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I'm not sure how to quote reply on reddit; what is your overall goal? Do you want to get married or are you content single? If it's the latter, then there isn't a point to me clarifying my point as you've made your mind up. If it's the former, then you have to push past what you've experienced, learn from those unfortunate lessons, think about the red flags these men exhibited you may have ignored and better identify them in the future. The choice is up to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:51 AM
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The suicide aspect is one I've thought about quite a bit. There is definitely that aspect of loneliness and isolation that pushes men in droves (75% of all suicides) to commit, but I'm not sure if that's actually the main driver of it. This year, the results of my country's census came in, and I spent some time going over stats: "The median age at marriage for males was 32.1 years, the median age at marriage for females was 30.5 years, median duration of marriage to divorce was 12.2 years, media…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:27 AM
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If all the men you've dated have been shit to their exes, there is definitely a common thread there. Myself and a few of my friends are still on good terms with our exes, no bad blood between us. There is a particular kind of man that does it though...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:17 AM
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I'd rather not state it directly, but from your own admission you've dated what appears to be the full physical and cultural spectrum of men, and haven't found the one yet. Some things I noted you didn't list was personality, outlooks on life. Those abstract things that women say are allegedly important in attraction. Perhaps all those men shared some common threads there?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:16 AM
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I'm sure you'll figure it out some day. Godspeed!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:06 AM
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Nah, there are some attractive men that are proper legends, and there are some ugly men that are incredibly not-legends. Best of luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:06 AM
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Oh I agree, shutting off the endless pipeline of validation means forcefully getting rid of that free dopamine. Not gonna happen, they'll just keep complaining but never do anything about it. All we can do is sit back and be amused ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:04 AM
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Or, y'know...don't marry...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:55 PM
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So the problem has been all the other men, and not you? What do you mean by demographics? Does that include personality, morals, history etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:46 PM
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I think, generally speaking, women will ignore very obvious red flags if they're very physically attracted to the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:45 PM
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Hmm I disagree here, they're still approached in person so it wouldn't exactly equate. A girl I was seeing recently kept telling me about strangers approaching her, asking for her number, while she'd be doing innocuous stuff like grabbing a coffee from Starbucks. Sure, they can reduce it by getting off socials, but they wouldn't be able to truly eliminate it to zero, as per the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:42 PM
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Yup. We all pay in our own way, whether it be time, money, patience, etc. Just gotta find what works for you and what you're willing to deal with!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:39 PM
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I sussed out a sugar baby website in my own city and saw about 3 girls I had personally known throughout my life on there, ranging levels of attractions. A lot of women on there who need bills paid and want an easier way of doing it. More power to them I suppose! Though I was surprised to see some had the audacity to say "No sex" in their bios, in a country where prostitution is legal. Why would any man go through with that?? hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:37 PM
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Funny how that works huh? Almost seems like things would be much easier if the shoe was on the other foot... ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:32 PM
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Then perhaps women should be better at looking for the right men instead of the complaints from chasing the same ones over and over and expecting them to change ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:31 PM
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I agree, though you'll have a problem arguing this point as the responses will be emotional rather than logical. This topic triggers cognitive dissonance and abstract ideas such as "love" are thrown into the mix. Yeah, all relationships are transactional, even in the case of a mother's love to her child. I'm sure there are people out there who will disagree because they have great relationships all round and have never had the idea of transactional relationships looming over their head. Maybe th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:26 PM
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Thanks, that's the best we can do :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 06:44 AM
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Haha I'll take your word for it! I was too young back then to have that sorta stuff in mind, but I'm glad I got to have my fun eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 06:28 AM
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Yup, this absolutely happens! The apps limit how many matches men get behind a paywall, expecting us to shell out to find connection. Quite predatory in my opinion. How else do you think they keep the lights on at Tinder HQ? More reason not to fall for the scam ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 06:27 AM
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Haha I've tried to arrange it! Making sure they find each other attractive before suggesting it, giving a basic rundown etc. Still doesn't seem to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 06:06 AM
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From my own past experience, OLD worked when most people were found solely on the one app (Tinder, for those older than me, maybe eHarmony/OKCupid had been around longer, talking late millenial-era here). I had no problems getting hundreds of matches back in 2017. I'm still in contact with some of my old FWB's back from those days, funnily enough. Since the diversification of the apps, people are now scattered across the OLD-sphere, all seemingly are "different".. I don't see how any of them tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 04:55 AM
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Pretty much. The average woman has the world at her fingertips, the average man has nothing at all. A friend of mine recently joined Tinder 4 weeks ago, she's never used dating apps before. I was shocked to see she had over 5000 likes in that time. Compare that to the average guy's Tinder in the same time frame, you'd be lucky to have 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 04:29 AM
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Believe you're referring to this April 2006 study http://home.uchicago.edu/~hortacsu/onlinedating.pdf I would say things have gotten a tad more difficult since then..
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 04:09 AM
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In some instances, even those with fairly tempered standards can't seem to find someone around their level re: Similar education, similar income, similar looks bracket. The people I know that are single (at least the men) are all in shape, in great careers, funny as hell to be around, and yet still single. The women I know that are single, I'm not too sure what exactly they're looking for, but they're also quite established in their careers, in shape, and appear to be struggling for whatever rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 04:06 AM
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Hmm, hard to say. In my country and age cohort at least, I haven't met many people that say they don't want kids. Funnily enough, the few people who've said they don't want kids are women. All the men I know want kids eventually. Even myself, I've always been adamantly against it, but as I've gotten older and understood my trauma growing up, I've felt the slightest urge to have kids and raise them in a way that they truly feel loved. (I'm single anyway, so until further notice it's a pointless t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 10:53 PM
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I believe so. Outside of having kids, I truly think it may be impossible for men and women to understand each other on a fundamental level. I guess that's our "duty" if we're talking general survival. However, we don't need each other to "survive" independently anymore, and may be one of the underlying reasons we see so much vitriol hurled at each other nowadays. I've watched a few of those "Why aren't X people getting married?" videos from various countries across the world, mostly first-world …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 10:38 PM
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“Truth is singular. Its 'versions' are mistruths.” - David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas. I spend not a small amount of time thinking about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 01:20 PM
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Ah, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:05 PM
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I've got a bridge to sell you...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 11:50 AM
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Long time lurker, first time posting tonight. I'm not sure I have much to contribute, but I find this sub quite entertaining and will try chiming in and every now and then :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 11:46 AM
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Eh, everyone dies eventually. Just need to find our own ways of dealing with existence until then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 11:42 AM
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Depends what type of man you're telling to take the risk, and the level of risk. If I decided I wanted a career change, that's a high risk; it may not work out, I may lose some money/status in my current established field, I may not enjoy it as much. It may also be the best thing ever if I'm sick of my current career field. Ultimately I have to decide if the risk is worth the return. Any sort of man can do this. What's the risk when it comes to approaching women? Well, if you're attractive/tall,…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 09:47 AM
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