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| -2 | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.It's the ultimate dead brain logic. They don't wanna be responsible for their children, but okay with being responsible for all other deadbeat men's children, oh, and all men are now responsible for all deadbeat men's children, but hey, we stuck it to the womenz. Right? Right???? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 07:54 PM |
| – | Crazy ex-girlfriends (or boyfriends) aren't crazy. They're abusive. Calling them crazy downplays the seriousness of their actions.You're the only one that gets it here. If you're getting vague "ex was crazy" lines I guarantee the asshole is the one spinning the narrative by airing dirty laundry knowing their ex isn't around to set the record straight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/23 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Why men say the system wants to keep you single. The richest man on the planet makes handbags and shoes. Ladies do you realize the system has a vested interest in keeping you single?Do I think that capitalism glorifies materialism and will take advantage of whatever they know people will recklessly spend on, especially women who are the majority of consumers? Yes, but the system is not the reason why women are single. They cannot force that anymore than women are willing to make that choice. Sometimes people just want to learn the hard way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 03:02 PM |
| 1 | What is really a "10" to men objectively speaking?I'm a woman and Jennifer Connelly is like probably top of my list for most beautiful woman, and she got better with age. Men were and are still obsessed with Emma Watson because she's the whole package in beauty, class, and unobtainability. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Do you think having a wildly different worldview from others can affect a person’s personal relationships?Usually you need to have similar values. It's not the values that usually differ in couples but what they think are the solutions. Couples can be on opposing sides of politics while agreeing on the problems while living happily together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 09:41 AM |
| 0 | What do women who post on venting sub-reddits feel about this particular response from males?I think it's important for you to understand what you're reading isn't about you, just experiences with bad men, so try not to take it to heart because you're hurting yourself for no good reason. Men aren't going to want to explain to other men the dumbass things they do trying to impress a woman, that's why these people want you to see, but you are not obligated to listen to them no matter what they say. Having said that relationships come from understanding one another. If you have the opportu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves?Tumblers morphed into something monstrous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:50 PM |
| 7 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?You only need enough for her to feel she will have a stable future. What that amount is will be different from woman to woman. Me personally I wasn't born into a rich lifestyle but I've been around it due to my career and had plenty of well off men interested in me. It was just a massive turn off the way they spoke about people sometimes, the lives they live sounds utterly exhausting. If they aren't self made, superficial, and out of touch they were reliant on daddy's every beck and call while a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Women of PPD, how big of a red flag is a man having no relationship experience?Just express your good intentions like you did in your post. It shows you're single because you're mature and introspective. A good woman will appreciate the honesty and actually consider you if she is looking for a relationship too. In general having no experience is a red flag because nobody likes being the teacher to some of the stupidity they've had to deal with in their earlier relationships. For example having to expend the energy arguing over why your partner had the audacity to ask anoth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Honest and genuine question. What is it that women actually want?I'm a married woman, my username and post history confirms this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Honest and genuine question. What is it that women actually want?Women want the loyalty and all that jazz but go about it in counterintuitive ways sometimes. Most insecure women want to be the center of their men's lives and at their worst will treat men like an accessory rather than a partner. In other words, like that mini golf girl you mentioned, those sorts of women objectify the people around them on the down low. They sound like minions in her life, not friends. The long lists are usually things women think they need but really are just reacting to supe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 09:05 AM |
| 1 | What common themes do you see perpetuated by others in this forum that you never see in real life?It's not, they're surely miserable. I laugh at anyone who's stupid enough to not understand marriage that they'd put themselves through it 4 times and waste all that time, money, sanity when it was avoidable. It tells me exactly how lost they are because they're eating karma for breakfast every day. That's not really my point though. Lonely women are common, it doesn't take me 5 minutes to find evidence of it everywhere in casual spaces. Lots of women I personally know are older and lonely too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 09:00 AM |
| 1 | Success stories about getting out from Becky zoneYup! Most people are shallow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Success stories about getting out from Becky zoneHad a childhood friend who joined the football team and became a hottie. Women were jealous of my relationship with him and ostracized me. He felt embarrassed to be seen with me and did similarly but would be secretly talking to me when nobody was around. Sometime in college we reconnected and dated a little. A cultural phenomenon had made me the top of the pecking order in terms of looks. I didn't have to do much of anything. He told me it was always me and wanted to be with me for the long hau… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 09:47 AM |
| 1 | What common themes do you see perpetuated by others in this forum that you never see in real life?I only pointed out the show, that follows the matchmaker, not her clients who are real people as something anyone can look up without having to cite a bunch of TikTok videos of women crying after the fact for the world to see. In fact, I personally know A LOT of women who suffer this including my bestie who has 10 cats, fosters, and saves cats. I'm not some man saying this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 07:34 PM |
| 0 | What common themes do you see perpetuated by others in this forum that you never see in real life?Lmao 4 marriages is not commitment. That's just a gf/bf with extra steps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 07:30 PM |
| 1 | What common themes do you see perpetuated by others in this forum that you never see in real life?Oh they don't necessarily have a problem getting laid, it's the ones who wanted something more that cry because they can't find any commitment. Heck, I recently knew a 60+ woman who's a swinger with nipple rings, trashy beyond all belief crying about the men who still leave her in the dust after having affairs with them. There's an Indian matchmaking show on Netflix that very accurately documents why the women often needed matchmakers while being plenty attractive physically. I specifically reme… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Who should men be listening to? For advice, direction, understanding.No single person will have every answer nor will any leader be perfect because we are humans. I've said the same things to man hating Tumblr users the same thing I'd say to anyone: you can find something distasteful of every person you know if you look hard enough, you just don't know because you don't actually know them well enough. We are not carbon copies of one another, there will be disagreement. You have to use as much critical thinking as you can seeking out new ideas that challenge you o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Where have all the good men gone?The idea is we try to give the best to kids and it's not always ideal, but we should absolutely be encouraging people to step up, to set an example to others, and to give back to the young whenever possible. That is the true traditional way. It's not impossible to find bonds with others where a person can, such as other family members, friends, but there are certain things that men need to understand that is very unique and personal to men and fathers are the primary example for this, including … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Where have all the good men gone?Sure, but everyone is an individual and every individual benefits from learning from others, most notably the parent who is biologically wired to care about their kids which allows the safest (by probability) environment for the child to make better individual judgements. It is not one or the other. Every person has the ability to think for themselves. Regardless of what a person thinks they may know, experience and age still counts for a lot and if you cannot learn from their advice you can alw… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 11:05 AM |
| 3 | Where have all the good men gone?Because it's easy to wind up in a situation they can't get out of that can cost them their lives, and some extreme ideologies can spread quickly with dire consequences. My brother is such a person who is always looking for a quick buck. He was no sheep but he was still an idiot. He made a lot of money and he lost a lot of money. He would be a disaster without my dad dragging him to task. My brother still wasted a decade of his life before pulling it together but I don't want to think about where… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 10:23 AM |
| 2 | Where have all the good men gone?I do agree to some extent because we haven't held kids responsible for their actions for decades and they've been marketed towards as suckers in the same amount of time. Instant gratification causes people to lose discipline because they have no attention spans. As for the post, I'd argue that 99% of the population plays some kind of video/mobile game and that does not in itself indicate something nefarious. Where did all the good men go...imo the military. Not a fan of sending men out to die, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 09:49 AM |
| 2 | Q4Men: Would you date a woman whose ex shared inappropriate pictures of her on the internet without her consent. The ex isn’t a Chad.Just because they think she made a bad choice doesn't mean they think she's undatable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 08:13 PM |
| 5 | Why won’t my situationship commit to me?What's stopping you from reaching out first? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I've been seeing women talk about being anti sexual liberation as if they had no agency and walked into it with their eyes closed. The entire point was to allow women agency. Agency comes with responsibility and responsibility means accepting the possible negative consequences. Nobody was holding a gun to their head. Their actions are entirely their own. Hook up if you want, but have some self respect. Not every guy is going to accept a woman with ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:00 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Sexually desiring “innocence” and “purity” is hedonisticNo true Scotsman, expecting large swaths of people to perfectly adhere to ideology is not realistic, just spot the assholes and stay far away from them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 04:13 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Sexually desiring “innocence” and “purity” is hedonisticWell the moral idea stems from the religious tenants that men are supposed to be virgins till marriage as well, whether or not it was dutifully followed is another matter. I've dated and known quite a few religious men who were adamant about the sins of sex before marriage so we never did the deed and they all went on to get married at young ages. If a guy's trying to tell you you need to be a virgin while he gets to sleep around, he's obviously a douche. If a guy doesn't want to bang and wants … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Female Sexual Bargaining Power Has Peaked And Is In DeclineHahaha yeah... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Do you really want a stay at home wife?I'd be disappointed but most people I've met are like this, even people my own age after moving back. They'll pay stupid prices for conveniences and then complain the reckless spending leads to prices getting jacked up when many places had free delivery if they ever bothered to check. I know people who worked at a gas station for years and bought a house that way. It's not some amazing new model but they were able to do it before covid. Another couple I helped out looking for a good deal because… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 11:25 AM |
| 3 | Do you really want a stay at home wife?I know it's sad right? I lived in the city for a while but grew up in a rural area with access to nice things but my parents never hired people to fix anything in the house. We refinished the entire house over the years and maintained the roof so it never needed replacing. My dad fixed every car himself, gardens, and makes wine. He's a difficult one for men to live up to. I've lived in socal for a decade moving around all over the place and I'll tell you, I only ever saw two people mow their own… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 10:27 AM |
| 0 | Female Sexual Bargaining Power Has Peaked And Is In DeclineFemale sexual bargaining power is not going to disappear just because it's not a free buffet anymore. While there's plenty of what you mention I do agree with, you're also seeing the first set of phone using women complain on video after they hit the wall. We've always known this would happen, it's not actually new. Women just vehemently denied the existence of it, including shouting down any women who tried telling them otherwise because it didn't conveniently fit their narrative. The rest of u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 10:08 AM |
| 3 | Do you really want a stay at home wife?A mcmansion would of course mean he's paying someone else lol and just the cost of timber due to covid... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 09:14 AM |
| 8 | Do you really want a stay at home wife?Lol the truth about rural places is people from elsewhere are too dependent on their lifestyle to live below their means. I was chatting with a dad who wanted to renovate a house to move his family into. Problem is he even admitted he has a standard of living he's reluctant to lower so he wound up putting his newly bought mcmansion up for sale because it was too expensive to renovate to his liking. I've lived all over, and city people cannot deal with minor inconveniences whether it's bugs, meal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 09:06 AM |
| 1 | How can we fundamentally transform our understanding of masculinity to cultivate healthy and positive expressions of manhood, while dismantling the toxic beliefs and behaviors that often contribute to misogyny and the devaluation of women?Nobody said anything about justice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 03:17 PM |
| 1 | How can we fundamentally transform our understanding of masculinity to cultivate healthy and positive expressions of manhood, while dismantling the toxic beliefs and behaviors that often contribute to misogyny and the devaluation of women?Sure, and my father says something I very much agree with. People think karma is a lie but the terrible things people do will come back to haunt them when death comes knocking. Ned stark is a fictional character. His life events are not real in the modern era. In spite of what many believe people like him are the normies who wind up married, happy, with kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 02:52 PM |
| 1 | How can we fundamentally transform our understanding of masculinity to cultivate healthy and positive expressions of manhood, while dismantling the toxic beliefs and behaviors that often contribute to misogyny and the devaluation of women?He got killed by politics, not because he was lonely, single, fatherless, and never banged. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 02:33 PM |
| 1 | How can we fundamentally transform our understanding of masculinity to cultivate healthy and positive expressions of manhood, while dismantling the toxic beliefs and behaviors that often contribute to misogyny and the devaluation of women?By encouraging men to be good father figures to their kids instead of running away. As a woman I have a great relationship with my father and I'd say my success with men has largely been due to this. He's suffered a lot at the hands of my mother and society but he is steadfast in living a life of integrity. Ned Stark reminds me a lot of him. The sacrifices he's made for me were painful to endure as a kid powerless on the sidelines, and why I've always held so much respect for him. Ned stark is a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 05:54 PM |
| 4 | The bahaviors we often critisized with "women ☕" are infact NOT women behavior, but the behavior of a spoiled person. And the Men equavilent of this are the career criminals. They are not nessesarily gender specific but rather formed by sociaty's different treatment to men and women.I unfortunately concur as I've met too many spoiled brat princes because their families pamper the first born son. In western countries the carryover from women having no agency means they get less accountability, even more so because they're smaller physically and generally less likely to cause major physical damage. You know, the bias of allowing small dogs to have maladaptive behaviors due to their size. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?I don't think they're gross or unattractive, but being the first partner means you're likely a project due to inexperience. Every guy I dated when I was in school was a virgin and it was pulling teeth dealing with them. Hubs laughed at how stupid the stories were because of course they're not telling other men their embarrassing moments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 09:13 PM |
| 1 | The new era of gender identity, new gender roles and new ideologies associated with life, family, relationships and social constructs.I don't know what you're talking about, they're very trans/homophobic they've banned a lot of western thought (kpop for example) because they consider it a threat to masculinity. There's been a lot of blowback lately I've noticed, less, not more open. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 12:48 PM |
| 2 | The new era of gender identity, new gender roles and new ideologies associated with life, family, relationships and social constructs.I feel like today the rhetoric surrounding normal human experiences is like people in history trying to plot out astrological entities around the earth instead of the sun. It's not complicated to me in saying, puberty and childhood is often about finding yourself and sometimes you're so sure about something only to change your mind later. That's a normal part of growing up. If we held teenagers of yesteryear responsible for their decision-making at that age into adulthood they'd wind up pretty s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Are women more content with being sexless?I would say that women are more content being sexless because they're more likely to have friend groups and communities to make up for their lack of relationships. Women cannot advertise their promiscuity without being raged at and condemned by other women. I have a higher sex drive than my husband. I can even link to a guy admitting to feeling irrationally inadequate for not being able to get it up 5 times a day like his wife. Do I think women with possibly high sex drives do not even realize i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?The rates are rising for virgins because people reap what they sow. The rising rates for promiscuous behavior I think has a lot to do with economic factors making settling down difficult so people are dating for a much longer period of time in their lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 11:12 AM |
| 4 | Honest question. Women who are in relationships, what do you bring to your relationship?Having disagreements is normal, it's how you handle those disagreements that can determine the health of your relationships. I once asked my husband what made him so set on me. He said it was my altruism. I don't seek accolades for the things I do, and I've also allowed people to think badly of me in the past for their sake, even if it wasn't my fault and I didn't deserve it. It's not an insecurity, rather the opposite because I choose when to take those consequences, and often only bothered to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 09:32 AM |
| – | For the first time since 2010, the percent of women under 35 who have not had sex in the last year has surpassed that of similar aged menListening to some youngins talk about what dating is like now is very interesting. 3rd wave coincided with the development of online dating. While it was necessary many women behaved badly simply because the power was there to abuse like a kid in a candy store and it got more and more ridiculous over time. Men, who've for the most part tried to be reasonable were villified for what has been the justification of hypocrisy and sexism. Because you're a part of a group or the institution of, you're … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Question for girls who had a "party phase" but moved onNot as much in college as my workplace culture so for quite a while, but I only dabbled to blow off steam. Does not equal hoe at all. I was usually in a relationship and just hung out to wingwoman various people and see what the fuss was about. After a few of these I only went out of obligation because it's exhausting and honestly pretty boring compared to other things I'd rather be doing. My partners refused to go with me due to the same mindset. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 11:42 AM |
| 2 | "If a guy likes masculine girls, he's gay." How often is that accusation true?Never. There are plenty of men who prefer it. There are whole genres dedicated to it. I swear sometimes modern day is more sexist than when I was a kid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 08:48 AM |
| 1 | If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on?Depends on whether she's learned to be a selfish partner or learned to reciprocate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 08:35 AM |
| 7 | Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong.There are subs dedicated to cheating and the delusions that go with it are plentiful. In real life I knew women who were especially interested in men in relationships, even if they were disgusting and unattractive guys. Why? Usually stems from wanting to be the center of attention while secretly hating themselves, hence why they keep engaging in self destructive behaviors to make them feel better temporarily while spiraling downward in cycles. At least that's the conclusion I came to when confro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/23 09:22 AM |
| – | This is why women have become more choosy (from a woman’s perspective).People like to mistake money for love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/23 08:05 PM |
| 11 | Women, which "successful woman" stereotype does not appeal to you?Bossgirls I guess? Being confident and successful does not mean being an uncalled for bitch to men. Nothing screams inferiority complex like needing to put down the people you're introducing yourself to with excessive monologues, but no woman character can be called "strong" if she doesn't sound like a teen mean girl these days. And then sometimes the entire cast of shows is written with the same nauseating copypasta personality, like they should be snapping their fingers to the beat of their ow… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | [QFW] How do you feel about the character Waymond from EEAAO? Would you be attracted to someone with a similar personality?Oh I know, I'm Chinese too. I just don't like giving too many details online. Much like you being told ridiculous things I was expected to obey everyone else's desires and opinions of me as the youngest and a woman on both sides of my family. I can tell you I know many men who do not follow those guidelines, like one of the Daniels who made EEAAO is a Chinese man (wanted to portray a strong 'beta' in the movie) but my family escaped the revolution, so we were not around for the times when the co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 09:59 AM |
| 1 | [QFW] How do you feel about the character Waymond from EEAAO? Would you be attracted to someone with a similar personality?Right I get what you're saying now I believe. Yeah, in general it will always be true that society will prefer a more traditionally masculine man and Asian society is often more conservative in comparison. I wanted to shed light on how it isn't so universal or black and white what that definition is, even if it is the most commonly seen. Waymond is a little more progressive and abnormal even in Asian societies, to a degree, but it is more accepted in Asian cultures in spite of conservative value… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 11:46 PM |
| 1 | This sub is suffering from ill-informed posts and commentsYeah I said that it wasn't specifically about you. You asked why it's wrong to ask questions, and I answered that there is absolutely the case for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 08:01 PM |
| 1 | [QFW] How do you feel about the character Waymond from EEAAO? Would you be attracted to someone with a similar personality?I beg to differ as women make up half the population so their perception contributes as much as men. Also, you asked for women's perspectives?? So yeah, if that is the market for Asian women, that's what they like. If you consider the last 30-40 years being recent you might have a point but most people would not consider that recent at all. It might not be the most prevalent trope but it is a relatively common one. Men amongst themselves might disparage such traits but women's egos are not inher… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 07:50 PM |
| 1 | [QFW] How do you feel about the character Waymond from EEAAO? Would you be attracted to someone with a similar personality?I am speaking generally, and in my mind he's not really terribly feminine in Asian culture as they are more accepting of different forms of masculinity, much like people forget gene kelly and tap dancing was once upon a time in backwards patriarchal America considered masculine too, but American culture today is not exactly...worldly or amiable towards history. To the average American tap dancing and having feelings as a man is gay and beta so I spoke via internet terms. In shoujo mangas and dat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 07:08 PM |
| 0 | This sub is suffering from ill-informed posts and commentsGenerally asking questions is not wrong, but independent study or exploration is also a way to learn new things without being inconsiderate of the people you bother with questions. Time is a resource as well and far too many people expect to be handheld like it's completely free and there's plenty of it. That can come off to many people as incredibly selfish or self absorbed. Not saying you specifically, you're just not the first person I've seen asking this, and plenty of people commonly wonder… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 12:41 PM |
| 1 | [QFW] How do you feel about the character Waymond from EEAAO? Would you be attracted to someone with a similar personality?Waymond is not a weird take on masculinity in the Asian world. The happy cheerleader or emotional quiet dude is a trope in shoujo/reverse harem stories, even mainstream video games. I like waymonds, even my first couple of boyfriends were waymonds, but I learned it's not for me in this world. They're the guys who drop anything and everything appeasing others. I broke up with them because they had poor boundaries. They always had at least one 'female best friend' taking advantage of them if not a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 10:49 AM |
| 1 | How do Christian, Conservative Men and Women compare to their Liberal Counterparts?Christianity is a broad group. Some are so devout divorce is excommunication while on the other side you have people who only seem to be religious for show, and then everyone in between. Those more on the secular side of things naturally divorce more often, generally speaking the devout ones are quite serious about their unions because it's not purely romantic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/23 04:32 PM |
| 9 | Are the gender dynamics/dating nowadays as bad as this sub makes it seem?This is actually the reason why I don't have many girlfriends. It's really disturbing when you're told something negative and petty about a person and expected to take a stance on it. (That and being asked to accompany other women to the bathroom in groups.) It's behavior I associate with teenaged girls, and many also agree with me that it's horribly immature...but somehow it's also hand waved away as normal expected adult behavior for women... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/23 09:33 AM |
| 5 | Do you think mothers are confused as to why their now grown nice guy son has yet to find a partner?I know right? 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 08:53 PM |
| 3 | [Q4W] How much do gender roles influence your platonic relationships?I had a lot of male friends when I was a kid and felt really left out for guys' nights too. But I came to understand there are just some things guys want to be able to talk about without a woman there. Since women can be very insistent on having girl's nights it didn't strike me as odd. It did suck because sometimes I'd miss the boat on experiencing a new game with them as they were the only people I could play with at the time. It can depend on where you live. Because there were so few people o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 06:10 PM |
| 0 | What do you think about foreveralonewomen community on reddit?I don't think highly religious people hang out in forever alone subs but there is a whole subset of women who are so strictly religious no average guy would be able to handle it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 03:16 PM |
| 23 | Do you think mothers are confused as to why their now grown nice guy son has yet to find a partner?Some moms turn their sons into the husband they wish they had, and that often amounts to being a pet or servant. Case in point, I knew a guy who's the only grandson of one of the biggest manufacturing companies in his parents' home country. Dad is too busy working to be in his life so he worships his mother. Doesn't matter if we're playing ranked matches in video games he will randomly afk and lose us games because his mom beckoned her over 30 son (now in his 40s). Never had a girlfriend, I wond… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 10:49 AM |
| 5 | Why do women have this complex involving "virgin men"?I see more women making fun of men knowing men are sensitive about it than truly thinking it's a problem. I agree with the comment that it's not the virgin part that would bother a woman as much as having to be teacher of relationships from ground zero. PTSD to teen years having to teach young boys how to spot the manipulations that they've sworn up and down women don't do. Like making fun of men for being virgins and having small dicks. Every thread the overwhelming majority is, it's how you us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 10:36 AM |
| 1 | How do women benefit from having a hoe phase?Yeah ok, like many of the other responses, we're perfectly fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/23 09:44 PM |
| 1 | How do women benefit from having a hoe phase?I believe that too, in a marriage, but before that I can just enjoy it for the enjoyment of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/23 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Do young men care if they're fetishized for their youth?They probably care just as much as any young woman which is, not usually when they willingly participate and plenty do on the down low. Does it affect them similarly to women coming away from similar experiences? Yes. When someone experienced engages in these acts with someone who isn't, it can change their perception of life, creating a gap between them and their peers. Sometimes that gap takes a long time to equalize again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/23 12:43 PM |
| 6 | How do women benefit from having a hoe phase?Women would benefit if they actually understood their personal sexual nature. I wouldn't tell a woman to hoe it up, but being extremely ignorant in either direction leads to some lifelong problems. Basically like any adult activity such as drinking or drugs personal responsibility is very important. Your body is your own so if it doesn't meet expectations maybe dial it down. I've dated my fair share of assholes in the past but I don't feel lesser as a person for having had sexual relationships w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/23 10:12 AM |
| 1 | Questions about the apparent success of bad menI've seen that happen and the simple answer is the girl was looking for a relationship but no guy thought she'd be interested so nobody asked her out. Actually, Emma Watson talked about this once upon a time. Something about being in college and no guy ever asked her out because she's Hermione. This was before she became a vocal feminist publicly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 09:41 AM |
| 3 | I've read some men get nerdy in hobbies because they can't find a date and need to cope. I don't feel this way.So in the US it's 21, I believe because they didn't want high schoolers getting easy access. My parent's home country it's 18, which is why they didn't care. They weren't a fan of him funny enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/23 11:40 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Women don’t actually care about moneyYeah the example I gave is kind of to show how two people aren't wrong to have their individual viewpoints per say, but the woman came away from that experience with "he can't keep up with her/doesn't make enough" when it was a difference in values and how they spend their money. The man made a comparable amount to her and she still felt he was leeching because he refused to be her carbon copy so to speak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 03:46 PM |
| 3 | I've read some men get nerdy in hobbies because they can't find a date and need to cope. I don't feel this way.Yeah lol I chalked it up to him being a dumb teenager. He had some very strange views...like how I was apparently wrong to be having a glass of wine with my parents at 19. In his mind I thought I was better than rules when really I wasn't about to blindly follow what doesn't make sense. If I questioned the validity of a rule like the above I was met with 'it is not our place to question the wisdom of those who came before us.' Last religious person I dated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 03:06 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women don’t actually care about moneySure, and what you said doesn't contradict my point. People who are self made will commonly resent those who leech off of them precisely because they're self made. It is a natural feeling regardless of how a person works through it. You asked the question like you've never seen it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 12:42 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women don’t actually care about moneyIf the prevailing thought is she worked her ass off to get to where she is there will always be resentment if she is now also being required to provide for her partner when she perceives men making it difficult for her in the first place. It's really not that different with rich guys who dislike gold diggers. She will lose respect for a man who becomes dependent on her or cannot keep up. This is a common gripe in reality dating when say, a woman decides she likes the finer things in life and wor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 11:15 AM |
| 11 | I've read some men get nerdy in hobbies because they can't find a date and need to cope. I don't feel this way.Lol no. As long as you manage your time and are responsible otherwise hobbies are not separated in such subjective ways, people just like to cry about the need to control others. Long ago my high school boyfriend told me videogames are for kids. Him, an avid gamer told me he'd quit one day. Maybe he did, but most adults these days play games of some sort contrary to what he believed would happen, a common sentiment back then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 10:41 AM |
| 1 | How do your friends of the opposite gender react when you get laid or enter a relationship?Weeelllllllll, the vocal ones maybe. People with character don't feel the need to brag about their normalcy. They're just hard to find. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 03:08 PM |
| 4 | How do your friends of the opposite gender react when you get laid or enter a relationship?I was just having a laugh. You know why women are anxious? It's because they pick at each other like they pick at men. Glorifying the superficial leads to the belief that your reputation matters more than who you are underneath, so long as nobody finds out it's all good in their world. This is something I tend to run into while living in big cities. For women, it's par for the course since puberty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 02:38 PM |
| 5 | How do your friends of the opposite gender react when you get laid or enter a relationship?Funny, guys come out of the woodwork for me the second a relationship ends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 12:00 PM |
| 2 | I’ve never seen the movie. Is this true?Yeah I mean it's a good film regardless. So I went ahead and looked it up, the characters are completely fictional, James Cameron was inspired by advant gard editor Beatrice wood who like many artists can be swingers. She was with one guy and then added the second guy who's a close friend of theirs. Her life wasn't anything like rose's, just the personality allegedly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 11:27 AM |
| 2 | I’ve never seen the movie. Is this true?No, actually cal survives, but DiCaprio dies. He gets arrested and handcuffed to the ship to die while cal boards a boat by finding a lost child and pretending he's her father. Rose against all sense actually goes to the bottom of the ship to save DiCaprio and they eventually wind up in the water. He manages to find a door but it's only strong enough to hold up one so DiCaprio obviously makes her get on the door as he freezes to death. She gets picked up by a boat. At a point she sees cal but hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 11:11 AM |
| 6 | I’ve never seen the movie. Is this true?At least according to the movie she was essentially being forced to play along against her will. Her mom says if she doesn't marry the guy they will wind up on the streets because they're only upper class by name. Also at the time not having a male figure is not a great place to be for women. Apparently rose's father was dead, either way he wasn't there so... Cal did a lot of good things on paper but he also treats her like another possession, and he does abuse her plenty whereas Leonardo dicapr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 10:55 AM |
| 1 | Men and women over 30--how did your confidence progress over time?I don't know if I'd call older people less confident. It's the cockiness of the young that tells me they're often not confident and overcompensating. Like the concept of the nouveau riche people who have always had money do not feel the need to flaunt it. My confidence comes from the fact I grew up in what people would now consider an inconceivably abusive environment. My want was the luxury of living life on my own terms. I spent a lot of my time circumventing rules to keep my sanity, but it al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 11:32 AM |
| 2 | Waiting till AFTER you meet her fam/friends before you have sex is the most ethical and fun way to dateRight, having experience does not mean we launch ourselves into situations with our eyes closed. I'd also say that no matter how much help or support we have change must ultimately come from within. I'm sure you'd agree with me in saying moderation is key with anything! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/22 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Waiting till AFTER you meet her fam/friends before you have sex is the most ethical and fun way to dateThere are benefits to it, but like all things there are pros and cons. Tradition does not hold up well to changing environments that make what used to be essential to survival once upon a time a liability today. Technology and the internet is a big upheaval, so is contraceptives. We went from families of 7-16 kids to 2 over the last couple of generations and if you're from an hierarchal family in which you're expected to take care of your elders in their old age it is now a massive burden withou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/22 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Waiting till AFTER you meet her fam/friends before you have sex is the most ethical and fun way to dateRight the idea being option of choice. While there are many annoying mommy groups I think it's wrong for women to denigrate others for choosing to be sahp, or how pro choice is not pro abortion as many pro choicers will choose to keep their babies regardless of their financial ability to raise them. Sometimes they simply cannot separate the loss from the rationalization on a personal level even if they support other people's rights to choose, which is the point. I wasn't sure why you were asking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 10:07 PM |
| 0 | Waiting till AFTER you meet her fam/friends before you have sex is the most ethical and fun way to dateNot common. Me too started fine in making people aware of how common these things are, but growing pains accompany anything moving towards progress. People act as though it's been the 1950s up till the internet was invented, nevermind the 70's and 80's of free love, women's rights, 'women can do anything a man can do' bodybuilder obsessions including the 90's women can be in the military with characters like Sarah Conner or Samantha Carter. I'd argue that if anything modern women have regressed … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 12:30 PM |
| 3 | Waiting till AFTER you meet her fam/friends before you have sex is the most ethical and fun way to dateYeah no. Even as a woman this is just no. Women have agency, and we are not a monolith. I would dump a guy on the spot if he seriously suggested this. If I wanted to avoid STDs I'd make him take a test. If I thought he was in any way sleazy I wouldn't sleep with him. If I couldn't handle the consequences of sexual relationships I wouldn't have them. It is not a man's job to preemptively tiptoe around women's possible insecurities like they're incapable of recognizing their own needs. They're adu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 10:58 AM |
| 4 | Women (who aren't cheaters) would actually benefit from mandatory paternity testingSeriously omg your choices are your own! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/22 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Alpha widowed vs Alpha widowerFor sure, I think you'll notice how much women never stop talking about how insecure they get about their physical appearances. It manifests into the variety of behaviors you're describing. At the end of the day though it's not men doing this to them. They do it to themselves because the standard of beauty is women centric. They just blame men because it's not right to blame each other as 'women are supposed to stick up for women' except competition doesn't stop existing. They brag and show off … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/22 09:54 AM |
| 2 | Alpha widowed vs Alpha widowerShould it be a red flag? Depends on the reasons. There are guys who for example simply weren't looking to settle down yet and women who tried to force it. There are also men who have personal issues that translate into humping any vagina that gives him attention. As a rigid blanket rule though, no. Do women self cuck? Absofuckinglutely. They'll call it something else but there's no denying the amount of casual posts I see regarding women getting insecure of their partners' past relationships wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/22 11:10 AM |
| 2 | What are the types of women "alpha chads" end up with?Depends on what they want. One guy I knew...granted he's originally from another country but his story was interesting to me. His family is super ultra rich internationally and he's considered absurdly good looking from his home country. His wife is also possibly the most beautiful woman I've ever met in person (and I've met plenty of models), perfect grades and at least on the outside, the perfect image of class. From an objective societal standpoint they're up there. He explained to me how muc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/22 10:30 AM |
| 1 | It is possible to change?Well on the one hand if you are genuinely hung up on this, everything she does that makes you insecure will make you think of that point even if you thought you were okay with it the rest of the time. On the other hand, what have you got to lose really? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 11:37 PM |
| 1 | If most women wouldn't date a bisexual man why are fictional gay relationships so popular with straight women?I think the reasons have been thoroughly discussed but I'm personally not a fan because I think it's inappropriate and disrespectful to fetishize another person's sexuality I have nothing to do with. Having women define what that looks like is as odd to me as say, a non native putting on a native american headdress to make a genre of porn with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 09:54 AM |
| 2 | If most women wouldn't date a bisexual man why are fictional gay relationships so popular with straight women?Shounen writers are usually no good with romances. I think the author of Naruto specifically admitted he sucked at that and expanding on female characters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 09:44 AM |
| 1 | anybody have a friend that's doing all the right things but still has no luck with womenYeah unfortunately it's just tough people are very superficial these days. I can tell you because I've always grown up around men I don't have the odd fears a lot of women seem to put on the gender as a whole. In any other world that wouldn't be acceptable, and I think it's fairly obvious the majority of men are not a threat to women so it comes off as pearl clutchy to me. I'd like to think there are more sensible women out there who are also shy and maybe only seem like they wouldn't be interes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 11:30 AM |
| 5 | anybody have a friend that's doing all the right things but still has no luck with womenRight it wasn't really an example meant to be about you, the question was pretty open ended so I was talking specifically about him. I think it's helpful to look at the principle of things. Yes it's dehumanizing, and as a market its not exactly moral by existence, but it's also not about being perfect either. People have different preferences. Just because people didn't like something about you, doesn't necessarily mean you need to change. Maybe they have warped views. Maybe you're simply incomp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 11:08 AM |
| 3 | anybody have a friend that's doing all the right things but still has no luck with womenThe girls with insecurities is a personal pet peeve of mine tbh. It's a really sexist environment if you don't fit their superficial definitions of womanhood. I don't envy men for having to navigate that. It's hard enough as a woman. I'm a minority from a culture where this idea is nonsensical. A lot of women wonder how I can be so confident as they admire it in person. My response is usually along the lines of them infantalizing themselves. Talking about it online is not the same as when I expl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 10:24 AM |
| 3 | anybody have a friend that's doing all the right things but still has no luck with womenI'm saying they refuse to work on the one thing that makes them undatable. By definition they aren't doing all the right things. Nobody wants to be around such an uncompromising person. In this example the guy has everything else on paper such that people are surprised he's single. I only mention it to say even while he looked like he had everything you can't exactly have a healthy relationship making it all about your needs and nobody else's. I don't think people would disagree with that. I don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 10:06 AM |
| 2 | anybody have a friend that's doing all the right things but still has no luck with womenDoing nice things for men is sexist lawls. That's sad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 08:56 AM |
| 11 | anybody have a friend that's doing all the right things but still has no luck with womenEvery guy I knew that was doing the right things eventually got married, even if it was tough going for a while. All the ones who refused to work on crucial aspects remained single. One guy I knew has every box checked on paper. Very physically attractive, intelligent, is set for life. The problem is he's so miserable. If he doesn't want to do something heaven and earth could not persuade him to do it, and if by some miracle he did, would complain the whole time and ruin the fun. That alone made… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Age gap relationships are generally shamed by bitter older womenLol Wow. And here I thought this was just a young person thing. The other day I was trying to give a woman money for a piece of furniture she was supposedly selling. I'm not sure because... I asked her for her address so I could go pick it up, she wants to meet somewhere neutral, a gas station. I say ok...there's one right next to me. She says it's too far. Okay lady, mind lifting a finger and making a suggestion or am I supposed to be waiting on you hand and foot? Could you tell me what town yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 01:31 AM |
| 5 | Age gap relationships are generally shamed by bitter older womenHa, I'm a rarity I'm afraid. It pains me to see how casually women hate on men online as it is. Its always existed from my life experience but not so openly to the degree I see in modern times. I always thought it'd just simply be a small group of extremists. These days I'm not so sure. Are we talking middle aged with young kids or older closer to retired? Was this also closer to the city or more rural? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Age gap relationships are generally shamed by bitter older womenIn what ways did they inject power struggles in your experience? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 08:19 PM |
| 4 | aspiration seems very high among women in my area. Is this a new norm in big cities?Guarantee you they don't see money the same way. It was my experience as well. A lot of these people spend all the money they make if they weren't already born into it. I was frequently called stingy and privileged (further irony for being a minority) for having savings but refusing to recklessly spend on frivolous things. Was quite annoying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 06:11 PM |
| 3 | What's your stance on the post Roe v Wade vasectomy advocacy?Then none of what you stand for matters either as it's also relative as I've said before, repeating what you said does not change the fact your arguments are inconsistent and fall flat. It's absolutely rugsweeping the fact we have codified tools of abuse into the system for anyone to use with no consequence. This isn't the only one. You couldn't be bothered what took me all of 2 seconds to lift yourself out of your own ignorance, and you continue to do so by admitting you didn't bother to read i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 06:25 PM |
| 3 | What's your stance on the post Roe v Wade vasectomy advocacy?Lmao none of it is okay. And the only reason why time matters is when the evidence is of no longer any relevance, that's why in academia the requirement is within years but that is not the case with law. The law stands by precedent which is why roe vs Wade being overturned is steeped in such controversy. You denied the existence of the topic you responded to yourself? You went from 'prove it happens' to it's worse elsewhere. Guess what else is worse elsewhere? Sexism against women. Kids in Afric… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 03:09 PM |
| 3 | What's your stance on the post Roe v Wade vasectomy advocacy?Oh I suppose roe vs Wade is irrelevant because somebody wrote about it in the 70's 🙄 More recently, in 2014, Nick Olivas of Arizona was forced to pay over $15,000 in back-payments to a woman who had sex with him when he was 14. She was 20 years old at the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 02:09 PM |
| 5 | What's your stance on the post Roe v Wade vasectomy advocacy?https://www.chicagotribune.com/news/ct-xpm-1996-12-22-9612220045-story.html It does not take long. There are states that will absolutely apply the logic of child support is for the child not the mother, therefore even as an underage victim they are required to pay child support towards their rapist, including back pay during their minor years, because the resulting baby is innocent. "Victims have rights. Here, the victim also has responsibilities," said the opinion, written by Judge Arthur Gilbe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 09:37 AM |
| 2 | What's your stance on the post Roe v Wade vasectomy advocacy?People should not be coercing men into making potentially permanent detrimental decisions with their bodies based on misinformation and misplaced anger. 90% of the people parroting it want to believe that science is literal magic. If it were reversible with no chance of losing your fertility it would be sold as such, but it's not because it would result in lawsuits. Men's fertility should not be so flippantly disrespected. There's a big difference between prevention and having a choice permanent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 09:27 AM |
| 5 | Do your partners identify as feminist?I'm probably 2nd wave I just have a lot of conservative viewpoints for a leftist. Also I can reason to him a lot of stuff that makes him concede to my viewpoint on certain subjects. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Do your partners identify as feminist?I'm feminist, he's libertarian. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 05:11 PM |
| 4 | what do men get wrong about women have so many optionn and can sleep with a lot of different men?Not against stds | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Men- how important is it to you to buy a house for or with your partner?My husband doesn't understand why a man would put his pride before free money. His friends joke around that the dream is to be a halo dad, marry a rich woman so they don't have to work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 04:07 PM |
| 3 | Men- how important is it to you to buy a house for or with your partner?he sounds pretty committed to struggling the rest of his life. 😂😂😂 So on point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 04:05 PM |
| 11 | what do men get wrong about women have so many optionn and can sleep with a lot of different men?It's a whole different way of life when you're supposed to accept something into your body than the other way around. You can get pregnant and get asymptomatic STDs that can make you lose your fertility. That's enough to make anyone hesitate regardless of how careful you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Romantic/Spousal relationship is redundant if you've found peace/contentment in being single.You know that saying there are worse things than death? There are many worse things than death. For the many things people can experience you can arguably call death a mercy. I think your selflessness is rare, but your story is only conveniently the case because it was on your terms. Life does not work that way, but maybe you'll be lucky enough to never have to experience that. Also when you asked about if I've ever felt I wasn't whole, I have felt that because I am not a flawless being, but I'v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Romantic/Spousal relationship is redundant if you've found peace/contentment in being single.I understand what your gripe is but your solution does not solve what you think it solves. Not everyone desires the kind of things you're implying, even if they live it well. Just like people do not as a majority choose to live the life of monkhood, or how some people choose to be alone in spite of societal influence. It is a life that must be chosen, to rewrite the social influences for all to one that personally suits you does not in fact encourage independent thinking, especially when your gr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Romantic/Spousal relationship is redundant if you've found peace/contentment in being single.Right for the most part I do agree with the background of your post, with which you concluded that relationships are redundant because you are happy without it. That is a really weird thing to conclude, flawed logic terminology aside, you say this as if happiness is this singular state of off and on. I can be happy and content, have a relative die and leave me a million bucks the next day, and be even happier having been made richer for it. If I accept that money, does that mean I wasn't truly h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Romantic/Spousal relationship is redundant if you've found peace/contentment in being single.You're always going to run into every flavor of person trying to sell you something. The fact people exist to influence each other is a necessity as much as it is necessary to understand nobody's holding the gun to your head if you ultimately disagree. I don't think normalizing celibacy is going to solve problems because the discontentment is up to the individual, not society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Romantic/Spousal relationship is redundant if you've found peace/contentment in being single.Yeah im not one to debate you on that as I'm all about people making their own choices either for or against society. I'm just saying that sometimes, while it seems like people are following trends we are all ultimately prompted by various desires. People stay in abusive relationships because they believe it's the easier option when faced with homelessness. Some people buy pets as a form of status even if they say they like dogs. Whether or not they recognize that distinction within themselves o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 11:06 AM |
| 2 | Romantic/Spousal relationship is redundant if you've found peace/contentment in being single.Right so in your case the negatives outweigh the positives therefore it's the better choice for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 10:42 AM |
| 6 | Romantic/Spousal relationship is redundant if you've found peace/contentment in being single.Do you stop doing anything because of one possible negative consequence? That's what you're portraying. Does a spouse dying negate all the positive experiences of the relationship? Does one not get a pet because they may defecate in the house? Does the pain of childbirth stop women from desiring and birthing children? You're saying the glass is half empty. People do not desire things if they didn't feel the positives would outweigh the negatives. Few things in life are binary good or bad or else… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 09:53 AM |
| 4 | QFM: If your GF/Wife said you had to go through a birth pain simulator in order to have kids (for anywhere between 2-30 hours randomly picked) would you do it?Wonderfully said throughout. People who behave like this give me the impression unhealthy revenge fantasies are their norm. We shouldn't be wishing ill on others for something out of their control to begin with? Pregnancy is a process, it's not something a man does to a woman. If that's not the definition of abuse... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Speaking from personal experience, what do never married woman over the age of 34 look like?They are usually pretty homely and exceedingly stubborn about having things only their way in their comfort zone. Very uncompromising even if they are polite and well liked. They can be located anywhere or be the funnest person ever but that stubbornness tends to be the one common factor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Telling men to "focus on themselves" when they are looking to meet women is bad advicePeople generally say this when men are wearing their desperation on their sleeves. Men who do this have put their reason to exist in someone else's hands, which is very unhealthy. You will never find success if you can't stand up for yourself to yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 09:56 AM |
| 10 | Are the expectations of young men today way too unrealistic when it comes to TRP stuff?There's this show called Indian matchmaking where a matchmaker (more like manual tinder) goes around getting to know everyone she matches, and comments on how tastes have changed over her lifetime. Now granted, it's all indians, and most all of them really wealthy and accomplished, but because they're being matched the background financials are pretty even. I notice through just two seasons how much she had to change up her practice because of the preferences. She sometimes refuses to give them … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 09:10 AM |
| 3 | What are good examples of the female gaze in media?Seriously I love Charlize Theron. Badass and beautiful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 02:12 AM |
| 6 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudYes to 123 though consequences would have to be well thought out. Also it's just difficult to do these days with DNA testing so I expect it to be pretty low now. Already too many lines crossed in this hypothetical, so ethically too much to unpack. The men will like it, the women will hate it, probably. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 12:49 PM |
| 3 | Guys complain about being lonely/sexless but isn't it just survival of the fittest?Thank God someone here seems to get it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 07:41 PM |
| 1 | If a man finds the killer instinct attractive in women, what does that say about him?My point is it's not an odd preference. Any guy can prefer this, masculine or feminine. All the comments that say otherwise don't sound like they hang around the right people to know and are talking out of their ass. I will say if you're on the feminine side of things you gotta be wary of abusive women. There's a difference between using violence as a last resort vs "something to prove". The latter is abundant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 10:28 AM |
| 1 | If a man finds the killer instinct attractive in women, what does that say about him?Uhhh you're not broken if that's what you're getting at. Plenty of guys like women like this. I just saw a thread yesterday about the show Vikings where the commenters are wondering why Ragnar would cheat on lagertha. What box is she not checking for him? If you've never seen it lagertha is beautiful and goes on raids with the guys. Her own tribesmen try to rape her and she kills them defending herself. Lots of men are into women like this. A lot of men who are into physical combat can have a pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 09:43 AM |
| 1 | When family and friends interfereThe monster in law is my own mother. I actually won't date men with problematic mothers (thankfully never did) because my mom is already enough of a puzzle. She had a hand in ruining my brother's first marriage. She obviously cares for his well being but doesn't respect boundaries. She's the kind of person to just show up at your house just because or call at all hours of the day just to chat (for at least an hour), but then need reassurances she's still important to us. She's like a needy child… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/22 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Q4W - What are common complaints men have about women and what do you do to break the mold?A good woman will be more reciprocal in bed with marriage. Women like sex but are more open to intimacy when there's commitment. For the less experienced it becomes a journey of self discovery, but again assuming. Getting to experience my husband's vulnerability all to myself is why I like taking the driver's seat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/22 08:56 AM |
| 1 | What is the point in discussing these issues if there is no solution to them?Saying life is unfair is part of the discussion. It's a reminder that no matter what you believe or do you still need to take current reality into account. If a person is walking down dark alleyways getting mugged, then complaining how they shouldn't be victimized with muggings, then continue to walk down dark alleyways, the merciful thing would be to get it through their skulls that what "shouldn't be" can still happen to you so maybe either invest in a weapon, learn a martial arts, or stop wal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Do most men lack basic decency?The kinds of reactions I get from redditor teenagers are very telling. Good things that are being taught get twisted into people's personal agendas. We're not told to coddle kids because we need to dumb shit down for them to understand, that just lowers the average bar and solves nothing. It's also not because physical discipline is wrong. The goal is what will get the child to understand the lesson with the appropriate method since every child is different. Instead we get the inane "they're jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 10:37 AM |
| 5 | What would you say to a man who didn’t DNA test his kids because he trusted his wife and she still cheated on him?I empathize with the fact women will never need to question whether the baby is theirs so I support the idea of removing the stigma behind paternity testing. For privacy reasons I don't think it should be automatic but I wouldn't be upset if my husband wanted a DNA test. Sorry, not the responder you were asking for. As for what I'd say...good luck with that. Birth of a baby is not the time to be bringing that topic up with a woman who's against it. Better to do it in secret later. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 08:55 AM |
| 1 | Women: If you asked out a guy and he was nice but said “sorry, you’re just a little too fat for me” how would you respond?I'd probably say wow what an asshole. Any attractions would be gone, but I'd never ask out a guy like that in the first place. Gives me high school vibes where boys are learning to date for the first time and act like it's a buffet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 08:41 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever tried to approach a guy you had interest in? How did it turn out?Asked a guy for directions, started chatting about the area. Ask questions about him, get to know him a bit, laugh and throw in my own comments, next thing I know they're asking me for my number. I met my husband while he was sitting next to me on an airplane. Nothing to be nervous about when you have an out to never see them again. Great excuse to pass the time on a boring flight. I insisted on treating him when we finally met up for a date. Rest is history, great results. Another guy, a friend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 09:48 AM |
| 1 | The pros and cons of being a pick-meSomething I just remembered. Did you notice the moments when Barnett decided amber was the one for him? It's the things she said to him that showed she cared about accepting him for who he is. He couldn't be himself around his family but he can wear some interesting outfits knowing amber was the one to give him the confidence to do it. Jessica didn't do any of those things. She called him a fuckboi for sharing his true feelings with her. That's really all it takes to get a guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 12:37 AM |
| 3 | No guy wants to be "husband material" over "hookup material"I dunno I still consider that a compliment. His ex was so shitty not even good sex could persuade him to be with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 11:16 PM |
| 2 | The pros and cons of being a pick-meThat is hysterical. I haven't played it but I have heard of it. I once was playing dota 2 with my husband and this other couple on our team. We didn't know them, but the girl was obviously there to make it known she's a woman though she contributed nothing. My husband goes on mic and mistakenly assumes she's some 11 year old boy. I can't describe to you how badly she lost her shit from her bruised ego. Sometime later hubs was playing rainbow 6 with his friend and again, there was a girl who was … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 08:51 PM |
| 2 | The pros and cons of being a pick-meOh trust me. I know. The reason why guys were so blatant in harassing me was because there were women who readily put out to sleep their way to the top. I've never played a game with my mic on. A friend may accidentally use my name and all of a sudden your teammates can't focus and you lose the round. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 07:44 PM |
| 1 | The pros and cons of being a pick-meYou bring up a good point about the predictable behavior. People are not usually so cunning, and so tend to make mistakes and send up red flags. If guys decide to fall for it, they willfully ignored those signs which often says something about some men's judgement. I personally find that highly unattractive, but it's also convenient they make it easy to identify. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 07:33 PM |
| 6 | The pros and cons of being a pick-meRight. I feel those are easily sussed out because their surface level understanding of whatever that is would give it away. But really, if a person could pull off a long con of being good at something for the sake of men and not because of the thing? She's earned it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 07:20 PM |
| 3 | The pros and cons of being a pick-meHey you're good with names! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 07:09 PM |
| 6 | The pros and cons of being a pick-meA proper successful pick me strategy is normal dating where women put in effort for men as well. Women will call women pick me's because they're upset someone is breaking imaginary rules, usually in the form of "sell what you have but don't say it's because you have more of it than me." Alls fair in love and war. The rules of supply and demand still apply, and it's incredibly naive to think people won't virtue signal out of one side of their mouth while breaking their own "rules" and backstabbin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you be turned off if a man told you how much he's worth on a first date?You're not crazy. If a woman treats you like a checklist she's no good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 08:57 AM |
| 1 | do women envy men in dating?Not at all. Women are hard to please, I wouldn't want to not be a woman and try to sort that out it's already hard enough while being one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Do men in general envy women?There will always be exceptions but like you said, most people work for money. That's the bargain from the very beginnings of commerce and exchange. Work for money. Those who desire it will be willing to work more to get more of it. Typically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 04:00 PM |
| 0 | Do men in general envy women?I will not retract shit and you're not owed my time or explanation. If you need me to explain it to you, it's not obvious to you already because you're not smart enough to think beyond your narrow minded point of view. I'm not wasting anymore time with an idiot like you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Do men in general envy women?I'm not answering because you clearly have an agenda and are baiting to take out your issues on someone today. You're not a person that deserves to be taken seriously and I wasn't talking to you in the first place. I don't care for your opinions. Clearly they're worthless as you can't perceive a possible perception beyond your own projected hurt feelings. Gloating about something you clearly don't understand is just embarrassing, Jesus Christ. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Do men in general envy women?It's money related because people, especially people who work to have money, believe that money is power. That it is the indicator of personal success and value. I don't personally ascribe to it. It's just the why. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 03:05 PM |
| 3 | Do men in general envy women?Wow you really like to put words in people's mouths! Silly me I thought you were asking a genuine question! Apparently you weren't the one I responded to, so silly me to think you were looking to argue in good faith! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Do men in general envy women?I think men prefer getting laid to keeping their egos intact. Most people would realize if money were not an issue other doors would be open to you but we live in a country that's still growing out of the only men provide phase. Lots of lonely rich women just never figure the possibility of them winding up alone until it happens because of how easy it was when they were younger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 02:53 PM |
| 7 | Do men in general envy women?She didn't pull up her own bootstraps just to date down and pay someone else's way. The idea is if she worked that hard to be the best she deserves the best. I'm just the messenger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 02:44 PM |
| 2 | What's the weirdest attraction cue you have?Something like that happens to me too. I'll walk in blind to a draft tournament, beat everyone, then open my mouth and screw it up by being off-putting. I like blue decks because they're fun and tricky especially when it comes to the reactions of people who like to upend tables. Not a fan of white. Usually overpowered in boring ways, at least last I checked. It's changed a lot over the years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Has any body had a hard time getting back out and dating since Covid?Yeah that's understandable I don't think I could stomach that either. I'm not in your field so I can't offer much help but I don't think you need it either. You seem to know already. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Has any body had a hard time getting back out and dating since Covid?Couldn't have said it better myself, people who don't like to take responsibility like to latch onto the people around them. Also with the 'not being able to think'. People laugh when I break things down and show how silly some arguments are, but it's not an ingrained trait in people to check for these things. Also oof on location. I've heard a lot of horror stories in the medical field with doctors and nurses. It never made sense to me because every intelligent person is told to be a doctor or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Has any body had a hard time getting back out and dating since Covid?Ahhh yeah I know that feel. I'm also a minority and had to make a major career decision to be with my husband (at the time boyfriend) moving away from the city, but when I thought about my future and the way I wanted to live it was simply untenable monetarily to stay not to mention I did not agree with their values. The sunken cost fallacy can really do you in which was why that didn't stop me from making changes in my life. In my opinion better late than never. The pivotal point being when the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 01:00 PM |
| 2 | Has any body had a hard time getting back out and dating since Covid?That is correct there is nothing beta about it. I've noticed and been on dates with virgin men who didn't want to hop in bed (they thought I was the same way but I wasn't opposed to it either). I was raised in a rural conservative area where men were not seen as lesser for wanting a real relationship. I've seen attractive military men avoid parties and dating apps for the same reasons. The only comment I'd make on why such men can wind up alone is because they don't make their interest known on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Has any body had a hard time getting back out and dating since Covid?I think it'd be surprising for people to realize not all men want to sleep around :P good luck! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 09:03 AM |
| 2 | Has any body had a hard time getting back out and dating since Covid?If she's traditional she's going to have to know you better before being open to dating. She has a kid to protect. Just be friendly and get to know her a bit while gauging her reaction. If it's all positive you can test the waters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 08:38 AM |
| 2 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pill😉 Humans do so well because we're too stubborn to give up. You only need one success after an infinite chance of failure. Life is a masochist's dream in this regard lol but it is what makes it beautiful. I understand it gets frustrating. It's normal to feel let down by it and want to vent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 06:27 PM |
| 3 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pilldon't know you are out there at all. If we went by what we could see on the surface trump winning and the roe v Wade verdict wouldn't be such a surprise. Ever read Anna Karenina? Tolstoy holds the happiest people are the most invisible because negative experiences make the best stories to share. The way to find success is to do what you know is right and if you fail, reflect on those choices and determine if your understanding remains true, especially as you work towards goals. There were many c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 06:13 PM |
| 1 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillI think young men hear me plenty enough, it's women I wish were better listeners. Any advice I give would apply to either side. You need to do what's right even if it's not fair, and that doesn't mean one will become passive as a result. It's more important that you like yourself because like the fable of the man the boy and the donkey you can't please everyone. It's not possible. Being in a relationship doesn't complete you as a person therefore it is important that you like yourself while stay… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 02:39 PM |
| 12 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillWe're undercover because of the harassment that follows if you speak up against the hive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 01:52 PM |
| 6 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillI would be hesitant if a guy said that simply because it comes off like a 12 year old wanting a dog they promise they're mature enough for only to make their parents do it anyway. I accepted my husband's response which was that he was not against having kids but he was not ready for it at the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 12:33 PM |
| 20 | what's the psychology behind serial cheating/ compulsive lying?The general thought process is "people get mad at me unless I lie." So they lie and lie and lie until they get caught and the other person explodes, but the liar comes away with it thinking everything would've been fine if they were better at lying. The other person was only upset because the liar told the truth when in reality it was the lying that made people angry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 09:01 AM |
| 1 | How hard is dating for a 30 year old woman?Number one complaint I hear from men dating that age is the pressure to get married and have babies. There's also the "I wasted my best years on you" resentments. For any woman who worries about these things it absolutely colors their behavior. Really though it's just biology. If you're still single you don't have a lot of time, no matter if you're child free or not you will be incompatible with a significant portion of the population when your fertility is at stake. Having said that though it d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/22 01:26 PM |
| 1 | ladies why does it seem so hard to get to know u guys? i was hoping some of u could help explain the behavior of a lot of women i meet irl.Because women talk to each other? If they even have an inkling they know someone who knows you... it's really common for girl friends to coincidentally go on dates with the same guys because if you live in the same area, hang out with similar niche circles...if you were a fuckboi to Becky and 2 years later have something going on with Stacy, Becky is still going to warn her about you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 01:31 PM |
| 1 | ladies why does it seem so hard to get to know u guys? i was hoping some of u could help explain the behavior of a lot of women i meet irl.The idea is to not shoot yourself in the foot in the process. There are adverse consequences that contribute to your confusion. If you ever want to find the answer you're going to have to at least temporarily let up on some things you're currently doing, or you will never truly know for yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 01:19 PM |
| 3 | ladies why does it seem so hard to get to know u guys? i was hoping some of u could help explain the behavior of a lot of women i meet irl.Sure, but now you're just shooting yourself in the foot. You ask, why do they play hard to get? Well they distrust you, but you're actively going out of your way to make them think this of you. The answer to your question can be fixed from your end. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 01:09 PM |
| 6 | ladies why does it seem so hard to get to know u guys? i was hoping some of u could help explain the behavior of a lot of women i meet irl.i have this issue where countless women play hard to get and silently crush on me. and the only thing that gets them to stop is to completely ignore them or better yet tell them in not interested in dating them and just want to fuck. Sounds like women already have an impression of you being a fuck boi and so you confirm to them you are. That creates a reputation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 01:00 PM |
| 1 | ladies why does it seem so hard to get to know u guys? i was hoping some of u could help explain the behavior of a lot of women i meet irl.Yeah people do not vote in good faith, but internet points are fake anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 12:39 PM |
| 2 | ladies why does it seem so hard to get to know u guys? i was hoping some of u could help explain the behavior of a lot of women i meet irl.Well the idea would be to find a girl who's mature enough to agree to disagree...but these days lol. I know older couples who are political opposites, but they also understand that it's not what drives their relationship. They work because they have courtesy for each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 10:21 AM |
| 6 | [Q4W] Would you say most or all men can be great lovers?I think any guy can learn, but I also think women need to be very in tune with themselves which is not always the case. How can you give instructions if you don't know your own body? Sex education has not been the best on this front. There is the factor of time too though. ONS are not going to be enough, people don't usually pick things up instantly. This is more the work of LTRs. If you want to figure it out on your own, don't put penetrative sex on the table and play them like an instrument, f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 12:48 PM |
| 2 | CMV: There are far more “Amber Heard’s” out there than women let on.Yeah except calling someone dangerous for being the biggest person in the room is so ridiculous. Nowhere else would we use this argument to define the most ferocious in combat. If we applied this logic to animals we'd be killing whales and elephants left and right. I'm sure a poison arrow dart frog is harmless compared to a giraffe because of SIZE. I'm gonna pick a big beefy tank to mow down the other team, he's gonna kill so many more of them than my dinky assassin teammate. Heck, german tanks … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 09:05 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: How does women being able to"smell misoginy" line up with women who end up being in abusive relationships?Yeah I was kind of getting at the hubris of thinking something will never happen to you because that's when people get caught with their guard down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 04:21 PM |
| 47 | Q4W: How does women being able to"smell misoginy" line up with women who end up being in abusive relationships?So, how come some women, despite apparently having the ability to "smell" misoginy and abusive men still choose to be with these men? They can't, that's silly. No abuser would be successful if they were so recognizable. I've seen more comments dismissing men as misogynists in order to avoid discussion than engaging so not exactly showing themselves to be great listeners to begin with. Have all these women who are in abusive relationships been forced into that relationship? By force they usually … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Why is there a discrepancy in what men believe how women respond to men crying in relationships compared to what women believe how women respond?This might sound odd but there's a difference between emotionally supporting a child vs an adult. Supporting someone through career changes and losing people dear to you...those are adult problems. throwing a tantrum over self inflicted issues (for example an ex I warned about skipping class then giving me shit about his massive loans after he graduated as if I did that to him) is childish and not attractive. Women are usually referring to the childishness. Men are usually upset about rejection … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 03:27 PM |
| – | What are ways to build confidence and how to show it?The biggest mistake in showing confidence is being such a try hard about it you give yourself away as overcompensating. Confident people do not need to make use of every opportunity to show off or compete or shake their tail feathers. Just like how true intellectuals debate but do not to sound smarter than the other guy. One is natural, the other one uses just as much energy pretending when they could be using it towards the real deal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 10:54 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: Relationship timelines?at least long enough to know and trust them. I never say it first because it's a lot of pressure if they don't. If it's on the way then there's a chance acknowledgment will give them cold feet. I let them go first and I will say it back if I feel it as well. 1 year. If you've survived every holiday together you're probably in it for the long haul. 2 years if you're in your late 20's, more if you're younger. The only steadfast rule is that there will always be exceptions. That is just reality, th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 01:43 PM |
| 3 | Q4Men: Do you genuinely think OF is easy/worth it?With any gig type job that doesn't require a degree it's a true dog eat dog world where nothing is guaranteed. You really can't just walk in, take off your clothes and expect money to come pouring in. You need to have a strategy to make your "business" stand out when you're on a site where everyone else is also taking off their clothes. Also 20% for less than minimum wage is just not worth it, sex worker or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/22 09:35 AM |
| 0 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?I don't agree because it's divisive language that will outrage instead of sink in, not because I disagree with the hypocrisy. I think women need to be much more in touch with their sexuality in general, including checking up on hormone levels because of long term health impacts when left untreated. An imbalance can greatly affect libido in both directions. As for DBs...my hot take is couples have a responsibility towards each other in marriage. If there's a discrepancy in libido there needs to b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/22 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Do you think this is real or “blue pill” nonsense? (Clarification in comments)Do I think it's real? Yes. Do I think it always applies? No, much like how many average people can still relate to symptoms of something does not mean they have it. Your husband though? I know what you're talking about but ...I'd never personally stand for it. I'm married and my husband and I would never disrespect each other like that, but we also seem to be the only couple in our friend group that doesn't get into petty fights. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/22 08:50 AM |
| 1 | How are there so many successful men who continue to struggle?I can believe that, because I also know plenty of rich single guys, some of them very physically attractive. Problem is they're all insufferable to be around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 10:52 AM |
| 2 | How are there so many successful men who continue to struggle?On the working out front I'd try something more mentally engaging like a martial arts or dance class if that's less intimidating. The primary purpose is to be friendly and just focus on the class, don't even worry if you're bad at it. Could be a small step towards getting out of your comfort zone. When I first started my martial arts class I felt like an imbecile but if you find a good group the experienced members are eager to help you succeed just because they're so happy to see people take an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 10:47 AM |
| 5 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?crying later about being single and not finding a BF. Yeah, actually. I'd also argue the fact we criticize our own would show how much we DO care about women, because credibility matters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 01:49 PM |
| 1 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?A little boy I mentor was asked out to his school dance. I was so impressed and hoped it was a sign of these things becoming more normalized. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Why is simply referring to women as “female” automatically degrading?Agreed, the whole sticks and stones thing went out the window. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Emotional Men (Ye or Nay) - Be HonestNay. I'm pretty level headed. I would like the guy to be socially competent, and while I've dated emotional guys it translated into causing me problems because of mismatched priorities such as, prioritizing toxic relationships and expecting me to just put up with it because they've got some philosophical principle about shit that is ultimately detrimental to themselves. I don't have the energy or patience to allow that in my life. Not only that but I don't personally need much emotional support.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 10:49 AM |
| 5 | Why is simply referring to women as “female” automatically degrading?It's because it was originally used in 4chan under the whole, if your argument had merit you wouldn't need to state your sex (tits or gtfo), but nobody remembers that anymore. They just repeat useless talking points they've only heard about as a conduit for virtue signaling. I guess we're supposed to cancel half the words in our language because any of them can become a pejorative when the inspiration strikes. Context doesn't matter anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 10:26 AM |
| 1 | Ladies - Would you 2nd guess your boyfriend/husband if other women didn't find him attractive?Only women concerned about status cares about that shit, but that also goes for men. I've had way too many problems with women trying to tempt my partners into cheating on me. I have better things to do than put brain cells towards dealing with their issues. If I'm with someone it doesn't matter to me at all what other people think about it, but I will say that women will go after men regardless of physical attraction. Money and power can be attractive enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 10:14 AM |
| 5 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?The one I can't get over is the amount of face planting the media does when sex is about to happen. Zero buildup, but it's as if they're star crossed lovers who've seen each other for the first time in months. You just can't take it seriously, it's like watching them smack each other in the face with a frying pan except the frying pan is their own face. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 10:06 AM |
| 3 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?Yeah I totally get what you mean that's why I don't personally subscribe to it. People are just mocked for it, and if they aren't confident in their sexuality will carry that insecurity around with them regardless of how casual they are. When they finally find someone they really don't want to lose they completely change themselves to what they *think* the other prefers, even if it backfires on them. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 09:52 AM |
| 4 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?I don't personally subscribe to it either but I do understand this one. Like guys feeling insecure for not scoring, women can be very insecure about being called sluts. I think women should be more comfortable in their sexuality, especially in this modern era. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 08:31 AM |
| 29 | What common takes from women do you disagree with?Nah, women like this exist, including me, but we get shouted down as pick mes for not falling in line. I agree with everything she wrote, but clearly we have no good motivations to say what we're saying unless it's to put down other women for men's approval. ::Eye roll:: I would also add to the list that I do not give a shit about accomplished rich women complaining about their dating woes because they can't find a guy who makes as much as they do. Guys date down plenty. Women should consider be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 08:21 AM |
| 1 | So Many Men Leave Their "Starter Wife" After SuccessYou have to make sure your values match. Media glorifies materialism. If a woman values status, materialism, and wants to date up...not a great outlook. Hubs does well enough but actively avoids moving up into positions that would require him to sacrifice home life for luxurious living. I'm on board with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 01:29 PM |
| 2 | How the Match Group Destroyed DatingI'm gonna put my tinfoil hat on for just a sec... It would not at all surprise me if those at the top have enough data on what it takes to string their users for the longest time without them suspecting anything was nonorganic. I wouldn't be surprised if they purposefully were not giving you the matches you wanted to keep you on the app. It would not surprise me if they had the means to perfectly match everyone but chose not to do it and instead only match you x% of the time because their data t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/22 10:36 AM |
| 7 | It's not enough for a man to THINK he is pulling his weight domestically.You're preaching to the choir here. My family is from a country where it's not acceptable for women to behave like they're incapable. When you face real hardships it doesn't matter if you're a man or woman you have to do what's necessary for your own survival. Exposing weakness makes you an easy target from any gender. I don't put up with being patronized at. I've always been small with a young face. Women tell me how much they envy my genetics but it's been my largest hindrance career wise. Peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/22 01:31 PM |
| 9 | It's not enough for a man to THINK he is pulling his weight domestically.Pretty much. What galls me about OP's post is how it's unironically claiming that women are too fragile to have agency. It's bonkers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/22 12:36 PM |
| 5 | I see a lot of "call outs" where women wish men would share their emotions more, and now men are pushing back saying when they do, it's weaponized against them. What's the healthy balance?Not set in stone but definitely very common especially if you don't grow up spending much time with the opposite gender as friends. I've seen plenty of couples my own age who still act as though they're from two different planets even though they're in a relationship together. Very main character "I married my partner to be an accessory to my life." Men commonly want moms to clean up after them and women commonly want "stable rocks". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/22 10:13 AM |
| 3 | Regarding age gap relationships, it’s meaningless for women to say they would never date youngerYeah it's really disgusting. One of my friends waxes poetic about an older woman who abused him while he was a minor but he doesn't realize it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 12:49 AM |
| 1 | What age does pretty privilege run out for women?What he doesn't realize is a lot of Photoshop and shapewear go into it. Once you stop sucking it in the waist disappears. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Roe v. Wade Mega-ThreadIf I had to bet on it, maybe. If there's anything they can all agree on is the sanctity of roe v Wade. The moderate dems are infuriated which make up a large pool that can swing things to their side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/22 03:23 PM |
| 1 | The only way to success with womenI don't know how you could read my comment and conclude I'm narcissistic. Doctors are not evil, and you've assumed a lot about my friend without much description. He is a big soft empath that would never disrespect a person much less a woman. This guy has zero desire for hookups, has a sense of self worth, is well liked with loads of respectable friends of both genders. He's just a short (not even 5'6), frail, balding Asian dude who's not considered much of his physical appearance beyond being v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/22 09:05 AM |
| 4 | The only way to success with womenYeah one of my friends is an accomplished doctor and is very single. Plenty competent and intelligent but he's a bit hunched over and frail from a life of studying. He looks way older than he is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/22 08:55 AM |
| 1 | Dating women as a woman has made me more sympathetic to the dating woes of men.If I had a nickel for every time I was called one of "those" women or a pickme for saying something the group didn't like...Women who do not agree are labeled and shouted down because they're threats to the status quo. Women have had their careers threatened by other women over this. It's a common phenomenon in my industry that is never talked about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 02:15 PM |
| -3 | Dating women as a woman has made me more sympathetic to the dating woes of men.Lmao yeah okay there's this term called internalized misogyny...that one's in the back pocket. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 09:50 AM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?I love how people gloss over the whole cutting off one's nose to spite their face aspect of all this. Willfully working backwards in their own cause just to take a stab at women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 03:05 PM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?You're asking the real question that highlights why abortion is not freedom from parenthood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 03:01 PM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?Totally agreed. We have so many resources at our disposal including legalized abortion, I'd rather pay for universal healthcare than this stupidity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?It can be any of those reasons. I was considered too foreign until a cultural phenomenon changed all of that. I'd consider my initial dating years naive because of it. Some women just say it to use men (deniability), some have so much self worth good guys are scared shitless in making their feelings known so she winds up with a skewed sense of reality. In the end women are human beings who have many different reasons for seemingly similar behaviors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 12:42 PM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?Thank you, jfc! If we were all honest about this yes, it's unfair and it sucks for men, but it's the best we got with current circumstances. If men had a pill form of contraceptives, they would feel more in control of their sexual choices which would help alleviate the problem. If we one day developed the ability to negate pregnancy altogether (for example, artificial wombs which everyone would support), these topics would fall to the wayside, but financial "abortion" causes way more problems th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 12:20 PM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?If money were the sole reason for people to make those choices of course it would be easy, but it's pro choice, not pro abortion for a reason. You can rationally know you should end someone's life, but if you've never killed a person that choice is a line that is very difficult to cross. It's not easy deciding to end a life that is growing inside of you on the rationalization of it being "just a bunch of cells". Material incentives won't change a moral decision. It's not nearly as simple as that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 11:48 AM |
| 2 | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?Think about how it can be abused logistically. These are all considerations that influences what becomes law. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 10:00 AM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?Abortion and financial abortion are not the same thing. Someone needs to care for the child. Either taxpayers, parents, or adoption. The only reason why women have a right to abortion is because of the parasite argument, not because she has no responsibility to the child. The only reason why a woman is off the hook is because the child is no longer alive, but if given the ability of say artificial wombs, if it were possible to keep the child alive the woman would still be on the hook financially… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 09:48 AM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?Except that's considered coercion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 09:29 AM |
| 2 | Are women's standards that high, or are men just lying to themselves?Yeah I totally get the desire to make things better. Real change is painfully slow but kind of necessary too so we make do with it in the meantime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Q4WOMEN: What are the clues a man can use to tell if a woman only wants to string him along and not sex/commitment?If you're doing all the work for the attention equivalent of a friendship. I've had plenty of male friends simp after women like personal servants and never wise up to it no matter what I say to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Are women's standards that high, or are men just lying to themselves?In my personal experience it's moreso about their relationships with each other than men when they do that. I'm a woman, and it took me most of my life to figure out the doublespeak frequently used. Like literally yes what they say is horrible, but most of the time it's more of a sanity check. Their bf or whatever is doing something they don't like but they aren't sure if they're right to be upset about it so they ask their gfs and they either agree or disagree using their personal stories to co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Are women's standards that high, or are men just lying to themselves?They're peacocking to each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Are women's standards that high, or are men just lying to themselves?Ding ding ding. I couldn't stop laughing at the first line. Gee I can't imagine why she's single... How did that saying go again, something about freedom of choice is not freedom from consequences? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Is it really a man's job to approach women first?To answer your headline, no, it's 2022. I expect women to have the balls to get over themselves if they see a guy they like. Reality is just reality though. We evolve from our past, therefore we will often hold onto traditional ways. I don't think you truly encapsulate the reasons why women don't approach men though. A significant factor is they're afraid of what it speaks about their worth if they break rank and approach first. Lots of women pass up a guy they want out of fear of rejection too,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/22 09:56 AM |
| 1 | Do feminists date differently?According to this person moral objectivism is determined by common morals...while she eschews common morals by hypocritically fucking fuckbois...but it's the true objective morality guys I'm the only enlightened one here to realize that! I guess you can Sagittarius your way through anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/22 09:22 AM |
| 3 | Do feminists date differently?I know right I can't stop laughing at the absurdity! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/22 06:26 PM |
| 8 | How does your PPD persona differ from real life when it comes to relationships?Reddit in general feels like me yelling common sense into the clouds, figuratively. In real life nowadays I feel most kids around me are so much more tolerable than the ones I see online. Otherwise I'm happily married so I'm glad I'm not dealing with the dating culture of today. Something that bothers me is how outraged people get while demanding something from me, then gets their panties in a knot when I respond with sarcasm or condescension. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 09:47 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: What do women mean by a guy being emotionally mature/intelligent?Grown ups accept that life isn't fair Hahaha yeah most of reddit needs to absorb that one, so much so I'm surprised anyone even says it without getting downvoted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 09:31 AM |
| 3 | PPD Men, why do you desire romantic relationships?Yeah OP is being disingenuous here. I could flippantly tell men to go date men of they are so much better but we all know sexuality, attraction, and intimacy does not work like that. Your answer is the only one that gets it. Men are upset with their choices, that doesn't mean they hate women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 02:42 PM |
| 6 | Man finds out fiancé used to be more adventurous in bed. Refuses to explore sexually with him. How should he feel? Thoughts and discussion.My question would be why she decided to stop having depraved sex. People don't just stop partaking in something they like for no reason. Usually from what I've seen the reason is they were coerced into it in the past, not because they ever truly wanted to. Regardless, people need to decide what they want in their lives. If men don't want women with a promiscuous past, that is their choice. Sometimes your values are not compatible. Sex positivity does not negate consequences for either side, man … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 10:25 AM |
| 1 | In your experience, what are the signs that somebody is unhappy in their marriage?Very much so | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/22 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Women, what are you insecure about?You should watch the season of America's next top model with Ann ward. The kind of skinny you're describing was all the rage until somewhat recently, the whole thigh gaps controversy I mean. Take heart in understanding that trends come and go like the wind. You live long enough you'll notice some years you're hot some years you aren't. That's not a reflection of you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/22 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Gaming companies are the newest frontier for Bluepill ideologues.The gaming industry started becoming ultra woke with events like blizzard announcing to the world why it is a company's imperative to be socially politically involved and made a lot of money off that narrative. Most companies followed suit until blizzard showed their hand in the china vs Hong Kong debate. What it comes down to is money. It always is about the money. Businesses will tell you what you want to hear if they think it'll make them money because the point of business is to make money. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/22 10:18 AM |
| 3 | Why should women partner up with their equal, where did that rule come from?Very true. There are plenty of affordable houses that are in areas that are not as glamorous. Yes you need to mow your own lawn or shovel your driveway and the gym isn't the most modern but it is family owned and my membership is 20/mo with hardly anyone there. I know people who graduated with debt, wound up working at a gas station or a small admin job and still manage to buy property pre COVID. It's just that the first home might be older and a little beaten but so long as it's maintained you'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 12:40 PM |
| 6 | Is political incorrectness/a very dark sense of humor (in both men and women) generally a positive or negative?Completely true for me. Humor is often a way to cope with tragic events. Sharing a laugh is a way to bond over crappy situations. Something I find annoying is the amount of explicit language the new generation expects like "mommy didn't say not to drown my pet goldfish so how was I to know any better???" We both know you're full of shit but if you're determined to cut off your nose to spite your face then I'm okay letting you learn life the hard way. It's your nose not mine. Problem solving abil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 10:41 AM |
| 4 | Controversial results about unconventional vs. conventional 'cuteness'Haha I lament plastic surgery because it's making people look all the same when one of the joys of life is variety. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/22 01:40 PM |
| 13 | Controversial results about unconventional vs. conventional 'cuteness'What makes a celebrity famous is from unconventional good looks believe it or not. Unique features make a person memorable, and in time creates trends with people emulating their looks. Attractiveness matters, but it's not nearly as universal as people think. In a group of people there are a few blondes and we decide blondes are most attractive because they stand out. Everyone wants to be attractive so they dye their hair blonde except for a couple rebels. Over time the group gets used to seeing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/22 01:24 PM |
| 81 | Women can't value self confidence and expect men to be honest about their feelingsIf you're confident then you can be confident about your feelings as well. From all the interactions I've seen, women who invalidate mens' feelings do so because they see men as many things, but not people. How much confidence a guy has doesn't factor into whether women accept their feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/22 10:10 AM |
| 2 | Women, how often are you approached by men? How do you usually react when it happens?It happens enough to be annoying, and it's annoying when people can't take no for an answer. I've been approached at the supermarket and in the streets, but the way the guys did it was really inappropriate. I once was looking for the manager of an apartment I was applying for and a guy on the street followed me into the building then pretended to be the person I was looking for but it was obvious he wasn't. If it's a party I expect it to happen and I'm not offended by it, just decline politely i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 03:29 PM |
| 6 | Is the Women are Wonderful effect becoming stronger? weaker?Same, the utter shock was mind numbing. Maybe they'd have a clue to how the country felt as a whole if they'd ever step a foot outside the city. The bubble is thick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/22 09:54 AM |
| 2 | Dating your friend’s exOh my bad, do you feel like you've got a sufficient understanding now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Dating your friend’s exThe only real way to have your cake and eat it too is to ask your friend how he feels. If he says he's uncomfortable you can simply tell him you will take it into consideration and just do it on the down low. In this situation if you break up, no harm no foul, and if it goes well, hopefully enough time has passed by that point for him to have moved on. Either way he would have no place to order you or his ex to stay apart. Maybe he says it's fine because he knows he has no right but you lose you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Dating your friend’s exI don't usually care if I never dated the person long enough to have lived with them. I once had a friend ask me about an ex only a couple of months after we broke up and I told her it's not like I owned him so they're free to do as they please, but she was insistent she wanted my approval. Out of curiosity I asked her what her understanding of our breakup was. She told me I'm apparently the crazy exgf. I laughed, which shocked her so she insisted I explain and I told her I caught him cheating o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 05:53 PM |
| 11 | Huge dating gap in college vs. non college educated poolsLines up. I married a guy without a college education but you wouldn't know it. I grew up in a small town so even though I worked in a male dominated field in the city I felt like a mom in my LTRs which was infuriating. I'm remote now. Also most everyone I knew in the city had mental health issues due to hookup culture and permissive parenting. The guys in small towns are much more sensible, and many of the women are as well, but they fall on the religious conservative side of things and not eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/22 02:05 AM |
| 3 | Why in humans there is more patriarchy rather than matriarchy accross multiple different cultures or societies?I consider some social factors to fall under biology. The biological discrepancy, besides males being physically stronger most of the time, is who bears children. You can argue certain species are matriarchal because the males have to compete against each other like elephants or lions. The females don't have to cooperate, but if they don't the males would have less reason to stick around as they try to spread their seed. In a vacuum where there are lots of males, single females, and groups of fe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do you believe that men are becoming more attractive or less attractive?Staahp I've already died a little today without having another redditor confirming what I'm already thinking T_T | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 02:52 PM |
| 7 | Women making the first moveI learned to make the first move because it makes a great impression. but probably won’t respect her enough to pursue a serious relationship. This mentality is all sorts of wrong. It's like choosing to do nothing hoping for a different result. Also that statement sounds like something women say to each other about men because who approaches whom in this context has little to nothing to do with men's preferences or the quality of the person making the first move, lol? You can sit around hoping fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Why do we as a society continue to engage in hook up culture and the degeneracy that comes with it, when it leaves most people so empty inside?Contentment, humility, personal responsibility...I'm not one to defend church, but the way people eschew some of the morals taught as if it only exists in the context of religion and nothing else with the sole purpose of ruining everyone's good time, is flippant. I can't count the number of young people I've had conversations with basically explaining why it's not a good idea to thoughtlessly consume or glorify materialism. It's like trying to explain to a child why just sugar is not a healthy d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Why do you think it's stigmatized for men to be insecure?Ripples through society includes time 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/22 05:43 PM |
| 0 | Why do you think it's stigmatized for men to be insecure?Because you're expected to be the foundation of society as the continuity of patriarchal or hunter/gatherer influences. There's a lot to say about it, a lot of factors, most of which is because men make up the physical labor and military. You can't afford to be a wimp when dealing with groups of people trying to gun you down and that sentiment ripples through society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/22 12:47 PM |
| 12 | What Are Some Sure Ways to Prevent Being "Traded In" for a Younger Woman?I'm a giver. And I'm only interested in marrying another giver. Otherwise I'd rather die alone. That's the other half of the secret. Even a guy with integrity can wind up divorced if his partner is too self absorbed. Relationships are a two way street. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/22 12:09 PM |
| 1 | If older men going for younger women is a redflag as he is using the difference is life experience to potentially manipulate her and take advantage, isn't it the same thing when women with relationship experience date similarly aged men with no relationship experience?I tend to give agency to people's choices so in both instances they're free to do as they please and assume the risks of what may come so long as they are old enough to make informed decisions. For both people in the potentially disadvantaged position I'd say it's their responsibility to determine if cautious advice is worth heeding. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/22 11:58 AM |
| 1 | What should be the consequence of false paternityI'm all for mandatory testing but I also take consideration to the fact that people don't want the government too involved in their lives with a database of everyone's dna. I'd generally argue it's a bit of a moot point since there's already a database and all they'd need is a few relatives to 'zero in' on your signature dna. Basically not the most perfect or ideal solution, but is satisfactory to the scope of parties involving men vs women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | What should be the consequence of false paternityIt would create a cascade of events making all these gripes less egregious. I still maintain a man shouldn't be held responsible for a child they didn't conceive, and having reproductive rights would bolster more fair arguments in court over a variety of topics as well as give and teach men to be more proactive in getting ahead of potential problems. edit: I'm very much of the thought that if women want to argue that men have no idea what it's like to be pregnant they have no business giving men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 02:00 PM |
| 3 | What should be the consequence of false paternitylol I didn't say future tech won't create future problems, but that's all it would take for the topic of equal biology and whatnot to disappear, plus the incentive exists for those who are desperate for children. It's just a possibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 01:55 PM |
| 3 | What should be the consequence of false paternityIt is not fair, but it is this way because the governing body has a vested interest in keeping things this way until a better solution comes along. They don't want taxes being wasted on people who do not contribute to society, and having kids without both parents contributing financially increases the risk of poverty significantly which means everyone else has to 'raise these kids' through taxes, and that is in many ways worse than 'paying for a kid you didn't consent to having' because now you'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 01:39 PM |
| 2 | Why are "pick mes" so reviled?Of all the answers here, this is the most honest and accurate response. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/22 11:29 AM |
| 3 | Why are "pick mes" so reviled?This is why the term is not applied the way responders are describing it. While they do exist it's just tossed around any time a woman refuses to conform to their definitions of gender roles. What if you hold the opinion that men can be healthy, whole individuals in their masculinity without female supervision? Well that's not an opinion you're supposed to have, you're just saying that to get laid! Pick me. Also I kind of chuckle at the people who vehemently claim these women are the equivalent … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/22 11:16 AM |
| 1 | do the people here actually observe the things talked about in this sub in real life or is it more about what happens on the internet?It depends on where you live. Liberal city in America with a bunch of young people, yes, I found it's often not much different from the topics talked about on the internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 01:29 PM |
| 6 | How many people here have had their heart broken?Amen, I'm all for giving people a break but they're not literal babies with no agency and the sentiment shouldn't be encouraged. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/22 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Dunking on Legal Age-Gap Relationships is not the Flex You Think it isHe's living off of his teenage hearthrob days when the mid part blonde bowl cut was the thing, like Aaron Carter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 11:25 AM |
| 1 | What's worse in your mind a 20 year old fucking a 16 year old or a 45 year old fucking a 20 year old?The former is worse. I expect anyone at 20 years to be old enough to understand common sense, and if they fail to make the correct decision they'll be wiser for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/22 06:09 PM |
| 2 | How many of you men have cheated on a significant other? (All honest answers, I won’t be judging)Yeah you have to be a particular kind of person to show your face at a strip club when there's so much porn to choose from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/22 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: Do you need to get with someone else to get over an ex, or is mentally moving past them first an essential step?Some people need time to be alone. Some people hang on to their relationships for far too long that by the time they finally pull the trigger they're more than ready for something new. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/22 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: Am I supposed to assume every nice thing a guy does for me is to get in my pants? It feels wrongEvery guy that went out of their way for me was when I was single was never doing it platonically. If it's not something a guy would do for you while they are in a relationship it's not platonic. Guys need to realize that if a woman tries to pay them back in benign ways for the favor, she's treating it like it is platonic and guilting her for saying no is rude and entitled. On the flipside for women if they accept nice things from men they'd avoid doing for their own friends, or if it's a favor … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/22 03:49 PM |
| 2 | People with non-traditional/unorthodox/alternative relationships, how do you make it work?Yeah my relationship is similar minus the virgin part of it. I totally get it's hard to trust people and being taken advantage of hurts, but at the same time if you're starting a relationship that is going well being hypervigilant about what's mine vs theirs all the time creates an antagonistic environment instead of what should be a partnership built on trust. It's a poison that creates self fulfilling prophecies so while yeah, there are veins of truths in redpill or fds or whatever and it is i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/22 11:50 AM |
| 23 | Have standards for mens bodies gone way up since gym culture boom?Yeah that's why I keep saying working out by itself is an advantage by leaps and bounds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/22 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Younger women, do you agree with the pretty boy aesthetic being attractive to women at all? And to what extent do you think that redpillers are right about what women want?Ever heard of bishi which is short for bishounen or yaoi? South Park did an entire craig x tweek bit just to highlight how into it women are. On a more western front, Orlando Bloom in Pirates of the Caribbean, I could never hear the end of how hot women found him along with boy bands and Justin Timberlake. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/22 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Younger women, do you agree with the pretty boy aesthetic being attractive to women at all? And to what extent do you think that redpillers are right about what women want?I will say that if you go to female dominated spaces online such as Tumblr and fandom Twitter, you'll see more feminine and boyish men getting more sexualized than other types of men so I wonder if the fear of being treat like a piece of meat (like women have) is part of the aversion from men when it comes to these types. In my experience yes every woman I knew that's into it tend to be tumblr types that would not think twice about summarizing the entirety of reddit as woman hating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/22 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Post famous examples of what you consider hot, average or notI'm certainly not a fan of how ham fisted they are about it in movies and shows these days. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/22 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Post famous examples of what you consider hot, average or notYeah after Emma Stone and Natalie dormer I'm like this is just getting ridiculous lol. Their eyes are so big it reminds me of fish actually, but it's the trend. I really like dvorah because I've often wondered if she was inspired by blackarachnia from beast wars when she was first released. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/22 10:07 AM |
| 1 | Post famous examples of what you consider hot, average or notOh what'd she say? Don't follow anyone hard enough to watch an interview. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/22 09:57 AM |
| 1 | what's your advice for a below-average male who has tried self-improvement but found little success?I'd start with, does he interact with people in non dating situations as a part of his routine? For example taking up an appropriate sport and making friends who are either single or may introduce him to someone they know. My next question would be whether he's located in an area in which he'd meet single people of his age. If yes to both I'd ask about his interactions and conversations. I hang out with people much older than him and if there's anything I've learned old people don't have trouble… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/22 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Post famous examples of what you consider hot, average or notShe is the uncanny valley that is beautiful because of her large eyes and tiny jaw, but pushed to an extreme starts looking like an alien or gollum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/22 03:19 PM |
| 22 | Your opinions: Men using their vulnerability as a sh*t test?This is the comment I agree with. Having someone close to you pass away will hurt no matter who you are, but the grown ass adult who's got the maturity level of an angsty teenager...like having to explain why you don't get to just blow 2k on an exotic trip for some "much needed tlc" then turn around and cry about college debt and how their employer doesn't pay enough to even fix their car. Wish I was making that up but nobody's going to have the patience to sit through some long ass argument hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/22 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Post famous examples of what you consider hot, average or notI think personal taste comes too much into play with these answers. I would not say Joseph Gordon Levitt is anywhere near average. Right now he's gotten older but last I checked he got married to a hot model scientist. Objectively I'd say Michael cera is average. Not someone I find personally find attractive but most average couples look like that. I personally crush on Paul Rudd but I probably like him for the same reasons people like "down to earth" Jen Lawrence. Put them side by side to norma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/22 10:27 AM |
| 3 | Post famous examples of what you consider hot, average or notYou are actually correct. Total flawlessness is quite boring and frankly, people are visually recognized because they have memorable features, not for being conventionally attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/22 10:04 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: What was an instance of a time within a familial/romantic/platonic relationship that you felt as though someone "threw something back in your face"? Please describe the circumstance and full context.On men having their feelings invalidated I see it happen on the daily on reddit. It usually goes along the lines of men expressing something that bothers them and women taking it personally and turning it into a topic about how women are the true victims. It is for all intents and purposes womansplaining. They hate it when men do this but when the genders are flipped it is framed as somehow not the same thing. While context in conversation is important people are ready to handwave away nuances i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/22 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Disturbed by my ex-fwb n countThere are certain realities of life no matter how 'wrong' it is in theory. For example a guy who was mugged is the victim and shouldn't have been attacked, we all know this. But if that guy's laying on a hospital bed with broken bones it doesn't matter what should have happened, none of those principles will protect him from the obvious risk of openly flaunting his wealth in seedy alleyways and getting his teeth knocked in. And so while it's trendy to be irrationally openminded about people, the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/22 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Those Who Complain About OnlyFan/Instathots... What Would You Actually Like Them To Do Instead?I prefer them witchers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/22 02:28 PM |
| 4 | [Q4M] ... more specifically MGTOW. What was the breaking point? Was there a woman that caused it? Is there a woman that got away? Would you change your view for the one who got away?As is often the case with abusive people it wouldn't be successful if it were so obvious from the start. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/22 10:58 AM |
| 2 | [Q4M] ... more specifically MGTOW. What was the breaking point? Was there a woman that caused it? Is there a woman that got away? Would you change your view for the one who got away?My husband kinda falls in line with it, but not because he read anything about it. His philosophies just happen to be quite similar. He never had a problem with dating but he always broke it off pretty quick because he found each woman boring (his words). He wanted a meaningful relationship but wondered if he could bear settling down with someone he wasn't excited about and decided he'd rather die alone than do that. Then we met. Everything he told me I thought was common sense, like being a who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/22 10:54 AM |
| 3 | Opinions on Men’s and Women’s Only SpacesAgreed. I think it's fine for people to have male or female only outings but not establishments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/22 09:12 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of young women sexualizing themselves on social media?I don't have a good view of it. Social media was already controversial enough when facebook first came out, if anyone posted a selfie back then there'd be choruses of 'yikes' type reactions. It was understood that being liked is a normal human desire, but to shamelessly beg for it via selfies was like announcing on a megaphone how little self esteem a person had. Of course, the act is prevalent because it achieves what it sets out to do. I worry that my kids will grow up thinking this is in any … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/22 02:23 AM |
| 8 | On popularity of male K-Pop singers and other popular androgynous menOne day when I was a teenager I was walking down the halls of my high school with a friend past the boys locker room during football practice. It stank to high heaven and I commented on how disgusting it smelled. She told me it smelled good. I couldn't believe it, you're raised to know BO = bad hygiene, how could anyone consider that pleasant? As a much older woman now I understand it. BO is just one example of one extreme masculine trait (so to speak), but these things are a bit of an acquired … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/22 12:22 PM |
| 2 | Why do women intentionally sexualise themselves at the gym? Do the men feel uncomfortable as a result?I wanted to say I did for a while that's a hand me down from when I was a teen from my brother but thought in this day and age that would sound strange... They're so breathable and lightweight, also just the right length to give all the mobility without impeding the calves or flashing anyone. Perfectly designed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/22 12:59 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: How important is a guy's face to you?While I agree with a lot of people here I think it's important to point out that it's not as binary as guys will interpret it. One of the few benefits of social media is opening people's minds to different interpretations of beauty and there are many ways to achieve beautiful faces in spite of genetics. For example working out and body building adds masculine features to the face as well. Many baby faced pretty boys who work out often get the best of both worlds in this regard. Leo Dicaprio and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/22 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Why do women intentionally sexualise themselves at the gym? Do the men feel uncomfortable as a result?It's vanity which is not inherently wrong, but that's what it is whether it's for self esteem reasons or for others to look at. If all that shit is supposed to be more comfortable, men by and large would be wearing it long before women do. I wear sports bras because it binds my chest so I don't feel like I'm swinging free weights around with my body, but I also wear a shirt over it. When I was young I tried on some men's basketball shorts and well, if it were socially acceptable I'd wear those a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/22 11:32 AM |
| 2 | Question for Women who prefer younger guys: What is it about younger guys that you feel works best for you? Would you prefer casual or serious or some kind of mixture of both where you date younger guys with the intention of seeing if you can build a relationship? Or does it matter?Married a guy 3 years younger than me. I also strangely know more than a few women who married younger men as well. I didn't prefer younger men because they usually don't know what they want in life so when I met hubs I didn't expect him to be ready for commitment (not that I expect a ring but no cheating). He typically isn't the type to eagerly settle down either but we clicked and he decided I was the one. The reason why it worked is because hubs had a few things going for him. He is the oldes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 11:11 AM |
| 1 | How to write strong but accurate female action/adventure characters?Quite simply, watch some older shows. I watched the first few episodes from Stargate again and as an offhand example Samantha Carter is very typical for what I expect from a decent strong female character. She has her feminine moments, not even iconic in the grand scheme of things, but she is mature and understands what's important. If a character is always walking around with a chip on their shoulder they're not strong, just bitchy. Strength comes from doing what's difficult in the face of adve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/21 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Is mental illness in a partner an immediate dealbreaker for you?Is it a dealbreaker? Yes, because the problems are way worse than just simply not wanting to get out of bed once in a while. It's when the day they don't want to get out of bed coincides with the one day they could greatly improve their life, then cry and complain about how life shits on them beyond their control every day after. People have bad days and don't want to get up, the difference is knowing when it matters. I wouldn't be able to deal with the anxiety or ocd example you gave. Does that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/21 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Women, how many female friends do you know that have had casual sex while on a trip?When I was living in a free love city, all of them, granted they were single. The friends I grew up with, not so much. I was just along to wingwoman because I can't bring myself to do those things either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/21 12:05 PM |
| 1 | "Put your finger in the coffee, it'll make it sweeter": endearing or Harvey Weinstein?Does the comment not come off like a fetish? I don't actually have a problem with guys being flirtatious but even I'm not keen on having someone imply they'd like lick my fingers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/21 11:59 AM |
| 6 | What are the ways in which women enforce Toxic Masculinity?prevents men from ever opening up to women because the second they do, their entire view is completely tossed to the bin by this saying as though its somewhat wrong Not just with this phrase but in general. Especially when it comes to men opening up after suffering at the hands of a woman it is very commonly not perceived as a guy seeking help, but an attack against women as a whole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/21 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Why are pick me girls criticised?Yuuuuup. I'd agree with the definition if it wasn't used as a derogatory name any time a woman dares disagree with the hivemind. Guy above is the only one who actually got it right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/21 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How do you/women check guys out in public and what are the things you check out?I would say that's much easier than being fit. I guess I'm saying between two equal guys the one with a better disposition (body language) will still be picked 9/10 times, and it would be misplaced to assume it was because the other wasn't physically hot enough. Attitude counts for a lot! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/21 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How do you/women check guys out in public and what are the things you check out?Lolol sorry I didn't mean for it to come off like that! I did say that most all guys can hit "good looking enough" standards by just being fit and dressing well. Therefore, it is not some unattainable thing! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/21 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How do you/women check guys out in public and what are the things you check out?Maybe imagine something like that 1950's clean cut gentleman/military vibe...like if Henry Cavill or 007 Pierce Brosnan was some no name trying to blend into a crowd. It just doesn't work 😂 Being fit and cleanly dressed is a prerequisite though. Hubs looks classy wearing black tube socks with shorts and a fitted tee if you can believe it. It's always simple and clean with him: no accessories, no excessiveness, bright colors, weird swagger or I'm a tough guy/bruh attitudes if that makes sense. Yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/21 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: How do you/women check guys out in public and what are the things you check out?I don't usually. Because of what I do I find it's easy for most people to hit 'attractive enough' by being fit and well dressed. It's so subjective to me even pictures of models have never done anything for me. I've also met too many good looking guys who have personalities that are so not my type it's a turn off no matter how good they look which adds to my not caring. (emphasis on not my type, not wrong opinion) If I ever do notice a guy in public it'll be the face first, decently dressed and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/21 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Women of PurplePillDebate, what do you think the cause of today porn addiction is?Most great movies I feel you have to go digging for. I feel like this one should practically be required reading lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 01:27 PM |
| 13 | Women of PurplePillDebate, what do you think the cause of today porn addiction is?Ever watch the movie Don Jon? Great movie involving the subject of addiction to porn and romance movies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/21 01:08 PM |
| 4 | The "household chores distribution" (specifically the cleaning part) debate between men and women boils down to men and women on average having different standards for what constitutes a clean/tidy environment and what constitutes a mess/dirty environment.I agree the biggest headache is the little stuff that makes a half hour chore two hours. I'm personally very good at rearranging my schedule to avoid losing out on time, but while I don't personally find it a big deal... I don't understand the narrative that traditional households would just put up with women running around picking up after everyone. The description sounds more redneck than anything. Traditional households do split chores, and can be quite anal retentive about consideration. Whi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 09:57 AM |
| 1 | META: Is anyone else feeling extremely stressed being in the "neutral" space that is the purple-pill on the red-pill and blue-pill spectrum?How willing are you to lose her? Does she personally exhibit any behaviors that give you cause for concern with tying the knot or having kids? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 4 | Someone being a "strong and independent woman" is a major red flag for most manMy thoughts as well. "Someone who is insecure, possibly hurt, constantly shit testing and shoots with self fulfilling prophecies" is not exactly strong, independent, or even masculine in my book. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/21 11:21 AM |
| 3 | What do you define as a good marriage, and why do you believe many women are in miserable marriages?People who treat their spouses like adversaries rather than partners will have miserable marriages. It goes for both genders and stretches across many different behaviors but good partners who care for each other understand the necessity of looking past the negatives and working together in order to overcome obstacles. There is no blame game, counting pennies, or comparisons. You just do better knowing your partner is doing the same for you. We hear the obvious complaints that come from traditio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 03:50 AM |
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