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vkolobogu/r/askTRP20/08/17 07:22 PM
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The fact she didn't invite you is a red flag. There are many possibilities for why, and ultimately any conclusion you come to could be false. However, one thing is highly probable (as others have alluded to): She is not invested in you. The fact that you're hurt and have written this message is probably because deep down you recognise that her actions have indicated this. You need to ask yourself why this is the case. You need to recognise that you coming here to ask this question is evidence th…
/r/askTRP27/12/17 08:48 AM
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Thank you brother. Really appreciate the words.
/r/askTRP08/12/17 12:11 AM
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Yep, I've got to agree...
/r/askTRP21/08/17 08:28 AM
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Interesting perspective to look at it from the inverse, and you could definitely be right. If I didn't have any awareness of 'trickle truthing' I'm certain I would have rationalised a way for me to stay in the situation. Even though it was too late thanks to here I at least saw the situation for exactly what it was. Thanks for the message
/r/askTRP21/08/17 08:26 AM
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To sunny Asia, my friend lool
/r/askTRP21/08/17 06:09 AM
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Thanks bro
/r/askTRP21/08/17 06:09 AM
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I did and for awhile concluded that she did have bpd/narcissistic tendencies, especially considering my own past (raised by a psychologically abusive, narcissistic parent) that apparently makes me an apt candidate for these types of relationships. It's sad really, it's only a theory but in the end I think she believed I would abandon her and so manifested that abandonment through her actions. Who knows...
/r/askTRP21/08/17 06:07 AM
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In hindsight I completely fell into her frame, despite logically knowing better. However, when I think about it now I regret nothing. Without this girl and the confusion she caused me, I would never have found and ingested the redpill. Key lesson learnt: A man needs to know himself as a mountain in the face of a whirlwind that is woman. As soon as that is forgotten, you become a bewildered goat caught up in the wind, temporary respite contained only within the eye.
/r/askTRP21/08/17 05:59 AM
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I'll add to this that if you find TRP while in an LTR, notice all the red flags TRP literature states in her, then believe your relationship is a special one that can circumvent what those here have become aware are general principles at your own peril. I didn't, but you can. End the relationship and improve yourself
/r/askTRP21/08/17 05:49 AM
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I agree with you totally
/r/askTRP21/08/17 05:44 AM
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Tons of mistakes and for the benefit of those reading that need to hear this, they were: Placing her needs above my own Neglecting friends in favour of her company Losing site of my purpose in life and essentially living to just hang out with her Failing to harshly reprimand her during many instances of bad behaviour Attempting to get her to behave as I'd like through standard communication - straight talking, cold logic e.g. "don't do x, it's likely due to y and will lead to z". Dread game isn'…
/r/askTRP21/08/17 05:40 AM
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I meditate off and on but have never used an app. Its been hard for me to make it a consistent practice as I go through periods of extreme distractability/'monkey mind', which makes meditation nothing short of unpleasant. I'll give headspace a go. Thank you.
/r/askTRP21/08/17 05:32 AM
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I'd just started making my first steps in the closing week of our relationship, gym, new job, new apartment. I think a deeper part of me knew what was coming. Still making steps towards self improvement everyday but I need to be more consistent. Thanks for the message bro
/r/askTRP21/08/17 05:30 AM
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Thanks for the support bro
/r/askTRP20/08/17 09:51 PM
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It's true and I have. It's funny, knowing how little I felt when I dumped a previous ex was something that bothered me a lot in the first few weeks of breaking up with my ex who cheated; thinking that she was likely not nearly as distraught as I was. Life ayyy....
/r/askTRP20/08/17 09:44 PM
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Lool I'm trying. Do you truly belive 99% of men wouldn't? I've seen many posts from cucked bluepillers but I always see these cases as anomalies rather than general patterns
/r/askTRP20/08/17 09:31 PM
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Interesting reply. One point I strongly resonate with. In a lot of cases we act and then provide a story to justify our actions. You actually reminded me of one thing I said to during that final talk, "its sad when you know exactly what's going to happen, you state it, but it still happens". I struggle to believe that when women do these types of things they aren't aware of what their opening themselves up to. To believe they don't is to subscribe to the belief that their ridiculously stupid in …
/r/askTRP20/08/17 09:28 PM
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Trust me I know. Lesson learnt. Consolation (if it even is one) is that at least I didn't give her any drama to thrive off at the end
/r/askTRP20/08/17 09:22 PM
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"Treat women as a hobby; they are too unreliable and usually don't add enough value to be a primary focus of your life" Beautifully stated. Tbh, I'm not sure. It has crossed my mind but honestly I'll never know. I do think she did going off our level of contact during her trip - first week and a half were fine. Those last few days I was pretty much relegated to a beta orbiter in terms of her lack of interest
/r/askTRP20/08/17 09:18 PM
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More often than not its a huge indication of something wrong in your relationship..should have pulled that trigger. Won't be making the same mistakes again
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:47 PM
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I know, right. It's so disrespectful/ridiculous that you can only really find it humorous lool
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:42 PM
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It was a very toxic/co dependent situation. Despite knowing she wasn't for me I didn't want to drop her and just charge her to the game. My romanticism died with her so yes I'd say I would have wanted her to have my kids. She had a very conservative, restrictive family that didn't approve of me, although I got on very well with her siblings who were very close to her. Thanks for the message bro
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:39 PM
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Tbh it's upsetting to say but I began feeling that sense of complacency very early on in the relationship, by the first year I'd say. She encountered some difficulties with her family and I can see now that I got addicted to the drama of the relationship and the opportunity to be a fixer (although I was never really ever perceived to be one). By the last few months I wanted out and I'm certain she felt the same too. I think it was cowardice on both of our parts which now means that I'll likely n…
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:37 PM
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Haha bro, I couldn't believe the audacity of it, its still confusing now. You fuck a guy but have the gaul to get shocked when you face the repercussions. Come on....lool Thanks for the message bro
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:30 PM
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I have a lot to learn. Have never spun plates as I found TRP in that relationship. I've got a long road ahead, feels really shit now, but can see that it will end well. Thanks for the message bro.
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:28 PM
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Saw right through me didn't you haha. In a sick way I do want her back and wish this whole thing never happened, but it's just how it goes sometimes. And yeah I totally get you, had to learn from the experience but getting drunk off of pussy to mask the pain is totally the wrong way to go. I'm going to try and handle this a little more maturely going forward. Thanks for the message brother, much appreciated.
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:27 PM
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Think you're right. When she told me she kissed the dude and I said my goodbyes, she called back immediately to say how she was shocked at how I could let her go so easily after 3 years. I think it was a combination of her not wanting to make a decision and probably more insidiously and unconsciously her believing I'd take her back. Thanks for the message bro
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:23 PM
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I was very attracted to her and I made all the rookie mistakes that you could possibly make. Losing sense of my purpose, friends, not taking care of myself etc. You're right though, but I think I need to go monk mode for a while. As embarrassing as it is to say, I got complacent, fell into the "she'll love you even if you're not even attempting to grab life by the bulls" frame and likely got what I deserved. I appreciate your message bro, thank you
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:15 PM
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As hard and sad as this is to hear, this is exactly what I needed to. It was my failure to try and fix things rather than following my intuition; for the most part I could sense her checking out long before this. Tbh, even I was to a certain extent. Thanks for the message brother
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:10 PM
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Thanks bro
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:02 PM
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yeah, 5 women, but its actually had a bit of a negative impact. I think its because they haven't been hot enough imo. Going to jump into monk mode for a little while.
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:02 PM
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lool sigh, I agree bro, I agree....
/r/askTRP20/08/17 08:01 PM
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