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| 397 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake. | CULTURAL MISOGYNY | vodkasoda87 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:45 PM |
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| 72 | Be alert...cuffing season is here.A guy I took a class with several years ago messaged me the other night at midnight. I haven't spoken to him since the class... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:50 AM |
| 5 | They will ALWAYS find a way to blame women for their misogyny.I'm 5'5" with good posture and most men consider me tall for a woman. 5'5" is average height for a white woman in the United States. I think because so many guys are around 5'7", they see a woman who is almost that height and think she's tall. I do think most men and women think they're taller than they are because many women will claim they're 5'3" or 5'4" but I'm more than 2 inches taller than them so I could be slightly taller than average. These guys are insecure that I could take them in a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 02:50 PM |
| 1 | How do you feel about this? as a 21 year old I am so grateful for finding this sub!When I was first dating my ex, his hygiene was great because he wanted to impress me. Then as time passed, his hygiene became atrocious and he expected me to just be okay with it. I think many men are lazy but will do things to try to get a woman. But once they have her or don't really care about her anymore, they will show their true selves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 07:34 PM |
| 6 | How do you feel about this? as a 21 year old I am so grateful for finding this sub!Men: no ambition, terrible lovers, overweight, unhygienic, living with parents or 3 roommates Men: these women are so entitled! I LOVED dick. But the same thing over and over again gets so boring. Once the novelty of different men wore off, there was no point in me having sex with men. They are bad in bed. I could get almost any single man to have sex with me. Most women could honestly. Sex was the only thing that allowed me to tolerate men and now that I don't want it, there's no reason for me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:51 PM |
| 6 | Who told old men young women want them?Aging gets us all, male or female, but if a man or woman takes care of themselves (fitness, grooming, stress reduction, etc.), they can look great. There's also that older person charm that makes you want to be around them. I find that an older person who looks great is a head turner because it's not the norm and they get me excited about aging! They just look so striking. The issue is the vast majority of men don't take care of themselves so they age poorly. You have to put in the work. A fitne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:41 PM |
| 40 | Men lose a HVW and spend their whole life trying to replace her, while remaining the same LVM.The hair thing is ridiculous. I had long, thick hair to my butt that I cut into bob because it took too much time and energy to maintain with my lifestyle at the time. My ex was upset. I asked him why he never offered to help me comb it when he heard me complaining or why he never complimented it (but he loved to say how annoying it was getting in the way everywhere). The bob was cute!! I had men and women compliment it and it did suit my personality more. But now that I have more time and energ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:20 PM |
| 3 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.I'm sorry you are dealing with this! Have you gotten your thyroid hormones tested? Or seen a gastroenterologist? It sounds like you might be having an issue with digestion. I have (treated) hypothyroidism, but before I was medicated, I was bloated and constipated like crazy. Because eating 1200 calories a day sounds way too low to maintain at. It's possible your body got used such low calories that your metabolism slowed. I would definitely get some tests done by your primary care doctor to make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:23 PM |
| 2 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.I used to pick up my ex and he hated it LMAO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:01 PM |
| 2 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.The cognitive dissonance is unreal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:58 PM |
| 2 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.It's amazing how much stronger a woman can be without gaining much size just by eating tons of food!!! Men just want women to be tiny so we feel scared by their strength. I am not victim blaming, but I think a main reason why I've never had a man try anything with me is because I look like I'll punch him right back. Smiling and being thin/petite makes you look more vulnerable to these clowns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:57 PM |
| 5 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.You are goals! <3 LOL your education and career are literally about optimizing people's health but this clown thinks his google searches are superior to your years of education and experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:53 PM |
| 2 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.Ugh, I've had a similar experience. It's so annoying. A trained person is gonna be better than an untrained person, unless the untrained person has a massive size, strength, or athletic advantage, regardless of gender. A 140 pound trained man is gonna be better than a 180 pound untrained man. But if that 140 man is a woman, her years of experience suddenly don't matter? I trained Brazilian jiu jitsu and you can just tell that the women have superior skill at the beginning stages. The guys just t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:50 PM |
| 2 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.I also eat intuitively and it's great! I just know it's around that many calories because I've cut on 2,000 and was miserable lol I do think female beauty standards encourage a thin body. It's not really healthy for most women to have such a low body fat percentage. It's messed up that the standard is a pre-pubescent girl. Yes there are plenty of adult women who naturally have that body type, but the vast majority do not. The slim-thick trend is a little refreshing but then it just shames women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:30 PM |
| 32 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.Plus how many girls were allowed or encouraged to do sports? Meanwhile all boys were encouraged to do sports. So many of those naturally gifted girls were never in the running. It's a skewed sample. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:49 AM |
| 4 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.They're just jealous you're out here taking names and they're at home taking the chips out to watch Netflix for the 3rd time that day with no regard for their health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:47 AM |
| 3 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.That's amazing!! Yeah like let's say you were a man maybe you'd need 4500 instead. But to act like active women need substantially less is just ridiculous. I think only short, light, and sedentary women can maintain on 1200 calories. But obviously that means all women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:46 AM |
| 21 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.I feel like men think the law of thermodynamics doesn't apply to women. Their brains must go "WOMAN SMALLER THAN ME. WOMAN ALWAYS EAT LESS THAN ME." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:39 AM |
| 11 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.This is the energy I love!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:37 AM |
| 10 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.Honestly, I just exercise a lot and I can't really sit still. But adding muscle mass really helps. I also find that the more I eat, the more energy I have. So I want to exercise even more and burn more calories lol. When I wasn't eating too much, I simply didn't have energy to workout. Once I realized this, I increased my calories by like 800 and I had the energy to workout. I did temporarily gain some fat (you don't need to go as high as me but I wanted to put on weight) but overtime I got lean… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:36 AM |
| 6 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.Give me all the healthy calorie dense foods!! I just don't feel satiated eating leaves lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:26 AM |
| 17 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.Omg I'd be so annoyed. Health and fitness is a learned skill, not a sex dependent inborn trait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:23 AM |
| 66 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.They always think they know better than us on what to do with our own health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:21 AM |
| 13 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.The days I'd train my sport for 4 hours in a day (like once a week or every 2 weeks), I'd be so hungry. Ain't nothing like grappling with grown men heavier than you and making them work for it and then have clowns think I don't need that many extra calories because I'm a woman. And that was on top of walking everywhere (no car) and having an active job. Yeah I normally exercise daily, often multiple times a day. I really enjoy it and it's my main hobby. Lots of medium and low intensity cardio re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:21 AM |
| 8 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.Other calculators usually provide me with less calories so I was always so confused because I would be malnourished! This was in front of the entire online class, too. I literally said that I am very active before I mentioned the calorie amount. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:54 AM |
| 31 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.The audacity! You're literally a SOLDIER. In order to be a soldier you need to be physically fit. If you look at ultramarathoners, it's women who set the records (AFAIK). Then men can't keep up. I'm definitely explaining this wrong but it's theorized that men's egos get in the way of their success while women just run without thinking too much. But I think men can't handle that women are better than them physically in this aspect. It's known that women's muscles fibers are suited more for endura… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:53 AM |
| 94 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.You're totally right! Especially because men KNOW it's easier for them to be in shape than us and that an athletic man is more masculine than a sedentary, obese one. A successfully fit woman is too much for them to handle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:58 PM |
| 2 | Learning how to control your emotional response and attachment to men is POWER.I'll usually start liking a guy if I am close friends with him long enough if he's not repulsive looking. However I recognize that this is a normal chemical reaction and that this guy is not actually my dream man. When this happens I actually see their red flags more clearly because I'm looking at them using dating standards, so I end up removing them from my life. The majority of men are LVM (I end up becoming friends through school, work, or hobbies). It's important to realize that feelings ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:19 AM |
| 25 | Let’s Discuss PERSONAL Requirements, Red Flags and Dealbreakers! 😍🤡Athletic - I am athletic Intellectual - I like stimulating conversations Good personality - I like to joke around and be silly Financially stable - I am not paying for anything if I'm with a man (dates or if we live together) Supportive - He should be my biggest fan Outgoing - I like new adventures and having fun Sexually compatible + attractive - This is the glue that holds everything together | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:16 AM |
| 3 | Beyond the peen: what are your physical preferences when it comes to men's appearances?I can't believe I missed this post but here are my preferences: Low body fat percentage. I don't care if you're skinny or shredded, but be lean. It is hard to pull off looking fluffy if you don't have any muscle underneath. Rugged looking. Obviously have good hygiene, but if a guy is too preoccupied with his looks it is a turn off. He should be focusing on his life not on trying to get women and being pretty. Full beard. I don't like patchy beards! Hairy. I like guys hairy all over. Full head of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:53 PM |
| 19 | Fun fact really sad factI don't plan on getting married unless it is to someone who has a lot of money. That way if he screws me over and we need to divorce, I am getting a substantial amount of money from it. Otherwise, there's no point in getting married and it could be detrimental. I have a lot of earning potential so I would never want to have to pay alimony or give half my assets to a man if we divorced. What if we get married and he makes more at the time, but over time I make more or he becomes disabled? It is j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 07:21 PM |
| 48 | Fun fact really sad factFreedom for what? Freedom to do all their own chores, get rejected by women that don't want them, and play video games or watch sports without "nagging". LOL what a wonderful life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 07:11 PM |
| 5 | Annnnd the Emmy goes toooooo... 🏆🏆🏆One guy cried on our first date and told me he had cancer to get me to sleep with him. He's still alive despite having "1 year to live" and he's with his girlfriend who he continues to cheat on. She knows all of this... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:07 AM |
| 108 | We have to dump them because they will never dump us. They will ruin our lives and self esteem before they let us go. Dump him sis, he wants you to.Silver lining: The dating scene is pretty trash for men. Set him free sis. He’s terrified to fully do what he wants. Push him in the deep end and block him. He made his bed, let him sleep in it. Unless a guy is incredibly good looking, there aren't many women dying to date him let alone fuck him. And they marry the next girl because they realize they can't do better than you and need to lock down a girl ASAP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:55 PM |
| 4 | The vast majority of men were never supposed to be able to mate with women...Share your secrets sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:49 PM |
| 18 | I’m Declaring Our Right As Women to Have Specific Penis PreferencesI find most women to be good looking. Even women who are older, overweight, or whatever society says is unattractive. When you compare women to men, it is clear who is better looking. I pretty much only find attractive young men (21-40) who are in shape. I also like a good head of hair. Maybe the men you were with you specifically weren't attracted to? If I had sex with a guy I was meh about I didn't want to kiss him and would close my eyes lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:48 PM |
| 4 | “Playing hard to get only makes you hard to want”🤡🤡🤡They can't handle ANY criticism about anything. How are they the stronger sex?? They can barely provide for themselves, most don't workout, and now they can't even ask women out. Meanwhile women are getting their degrees, raising their kids on their own, succeeding in their careers, and taking care of their health and looks. And they want US to ask THEM out? LOL It's so ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:42 PM |
| 3 | I did it. I cut him off.I'm so proud of you putting yourself first and maintaining your boundaries. Listen to some music and let it out. You're gonna be fine in no time <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:37 PM |
| 5 | LIARS CLUB: Isn’t it incredible how easy they lie? It’s literally like breathing- thank you to the sis at the car dealership who worked with me to catch a CHEATERYou are THRIVING. Congratulations on reclaiming your life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:31 PM |
| 3 | A reminder to the older Queens of FDS(30+)!How can that even be women's prime when the brain doesn't finish developing until 25? So women are past their prime once they finish maturation into adulthood? lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 10:57 PM |
| 6 | This poster hits me hardBecause a woman is valued by her looks according to men. I admire ambition in women. Looks are nice, but it is better to focus on personal fulfillment, financial success, and making the world a better place. I like to look good but if that's all I focused on I'd be a shell of myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 10:40 PM |
| 22 | There’s something that the men who complain about the 80/20 “rule” don’t realize...These guys make it seem that they're swimming in p*ssy. If so, then why are you bothering me from months/years ago? Don't you have a new woman every night? It's all a cope. Most women could have a new guy every night until she dies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 10:29 PM |
| 34 | The vast majority of men were never supposed to be able to mate with women...Maybe this is why my dream is to have 8 boyfriends lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 10:01 PM |
| 10 | “Playing hard to get only makes you hard to want”🤡🤡🤡Now they somehow find my instagram, try to be "friendly", and get themselves blocked. They don't even have the balls to face rejection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:58 PM |
| 58 | I’m Declaring Our Right As Women to Have Specific Penis PreferencesDude's gotta be able to go at it for 2 hours, be 7 inches minimum, and make me cum twice. Otherwise I might as well get the job done myself. Oh and I love deep voices, body hair, muscles, and minimal body fat. Girth and height is a plus but not a deal breaker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:50 PM |
| 32 | Y'all I don't even know if I want to date even when I am ready toI feel the same way. Men just bring me down. I'm always happier single than in a relationship or situationship or even just talking to guys. Men continue to be extremely disappointing, whether it be friendship, relationship, or lovers. It feels like self harm to engage with males in any capacity at this point. Yeah I would love to find a HVM if he even exists and be treated like a princess, but that seems unlikely to happen. I will treat myself like a princess instead! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:15 AM |
| 18 | Treat yo-selfSteak <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:03 AM |
| 18 | I buy myself flowers for no reason & any time I feel like because I am the most important person in my life.Those are gorgeous! I definitely want to treat myself when I have more disposable income. Self love and self care are everything! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:02 AM |
| 6 | Guy spends days talking about plans Sunday to go for an early run and then brunch. Saturday he stops responding to my inquiries about time and place at 1:30pm. Sunday morning expects me to jump to fulfil non-plans. Thoughts?Block him sis. He is not putting in the effort to court you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:44 PM |
| 13 | One day, when you have leveled up significantly, you will come across a picture of a man you used to pine about and think to yourself, "he's not even that hot"I like to play the "What does he have that I don't have?" game. He is handsome. Ok, I'm very pretty. He is athletic and has a nice body. Ok, I'm athletic and have a fantastic body. He's tall. Ok, my male equivalent in height is 5'11. So therefore I am tall, too, but smaller because I'm female. He has a good job. Ok, when I finish school in 2 years I will make more money than him and will have a career that adds more value to the world. He speaks 2 languages. Ok, I speak 3. I just do this for eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:37 PM |
| 9 | Friendly reminder that dating during a pandemic is still a bad idea.My friend is on the apps (I'm encouraging her to get off of them but she is a Pick Me unfortunately) and she often sends me screenshots of guys we know or previously dated (pre-FDS). If these are the type of guys on the apps during a GLOBAL PANDEMIC in a major city, the guys who we don't know on there are most likely going to be the same type of guys. Any single HVM won't be on a dating app during this time because like others have said, he realizes the severity of the situation and wouldn't wan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Stop smiling for men because you're afraid of RBF. You can exude warmth without grinning like a Cheshire cat. Normalize non-emotive faces!ooo you have an excellent point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Stop smiling for men because you're afraid of RBF. You can exude warmth without grinning like a Cheshire cat. Normalize non-emotive faces!I'm usually so focused I'm not even thinking about anything else. But this I gotta try! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:31 PM |
| 31 | “I can’t.. I’m social distancing.”I have such internal contentment and peace without men since the quarantine. I am definitely not going back. I don't even want to date anymore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:30 PM |
| 27 | Stop smiling for men because you're afraid of RBF. You can exude warmth without grinning like a Cheshire cat. Normalize non-emotive faces!When I was training martial arts prior to COVID, some guys at my gym would say I should smile more or that I look intimidating (or others thought I am intimidating). I'm here to choke you out buddy, not to make friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 01:51 AM |
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