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| 7 | How I text girls when I want to get laid (+IRL examples)seems like the assumption here is you met her off a dating app. what if you met her IRL and it’s ambiguous whether she’s into you? would you still drop the word “date” when you don’t know if she likes you at all? | /r/seduction | 19/12/24 11:48 PM |
| 15 | Guys who kiss/get laid on first dates, how do you physicaly escalate?how does this work if you did NOT meet them on a dating app where tie clear they’re into you but rather you met them in person and they agreed to go out with you? i been in this situation before. you meet them IRL, it’s ambiguous whether they like you or consider it a date. you can’t tell if they’re having fun because they’re into you or if they just see you as a friend how do you escalate in these situations where you aren’t sure | /r/seduction | 08/06/24 01:54 AM |
| 1 | I can’t pick up women but succeed on Tinder datesLarge % of women IRL will simply not find you attractive, minus the ones that are already in relationships / not looking. Just because hot women match and go on dates with you online does not necessarily mean hot women IRL will find you attractive and want to go on dates with you. Most women won’t find you attractive, and game / rizz may not compensate for that | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | What has your experience in NYC been like?you don’t need dating apps to date in the city. so many women you can meet in the wild | /r/seduction | 30/04/24 01:55 AM |
| 1 | SECRET info: How to get the ‘baddies’.a 7 is the floor for “she’s hot” 7s are realistically out of reach for most men out there | /r/seduction | 30/04/24 12:28 AM |
| 8 | What am I supposed to do at the bar?yes because i’ve gotten dates out of it within the last year with attractive women. one led to multiple dates. it happened really randomly and on a night where i wasn’t getting much traction (as usual), so it happened when i least expected it. now i go out with just the goal to talk to women. a lot are out with their husband or boyfriends and others just straight up aren’t into me. doesn’t matter because i’ll talk to whoever and whenever they don’t go anywhere that was the default outcome anyway… | /r/seduction | 13/04/24 02:31 AM |
| 9 | What am I supposed to do at the bar?i go to bars alone in NYC too. it’s difficult. people give all sorts of advice but IRL a lot of it falls flat, mostly because women aren’t into you or find you attractive i usually sit at the bar where it’s busy and people order drinks and chat with anyone near me. 99.99% of the time they’ll talk to you for 5-10 mins it takes for them to order and pay, then walk off and never be seen again. it’s much harder to impossible to find anyone interested in me enough to continue chatting and number clos… | /r/seduction | 13/04/24 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?thanks for the IG girls are you going after mutuals or random girls you see that are also in your city? how do you cold DM them without being creepy? for me i go for IG -> ask them on a date using the word date. maybe i’ll ask to hangout instead of using that word and see what happens what is your success rate of cold approaching in the wild and getting them out on a date? my success rate is ~9% | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?are the girls on your IG girls you cold approached IRL? if so, when you meet women IRL it’s usually ambiguous whether they’re into you just as a friend or more. do you ask them on a date and use the word date or how do you discern whether they’re into you just as a friend or more? i straight up ask a lot of them on dates and use the word dates, and most say no even though the interactions in person were good. sometimes they will still go out with me even though they turned down the date though i… | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 08:02 PM |
| 12 | Girls are ONLY interested in personi have this happen a lot too. usually get them on instagram and nothing else becomes of it/they don’t reply to DMs or do then quit | /r/seduction | 16/03/24 10:19 PM |
| 1 | My thoughts on rejection after 1000+ daygame cold approachesGood response. What do you think of my approach? During cold approach I usually vibe with them over a conversation, get their numbers or IG before we depart. If I run into them again in-person, I’ll get to know them more (maybe they’re regulars at the same bar etc) and at some point I’ll upfront ask her on a date in-person while she’s talking to me. Or if I don’t see her again, then I’ll text or DM her and ask her on a date directly. I have about a 6% success rate (defined as cold approach -> fi… | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 08:56 PM |
| 1 | My thoughts on rejection after 1000+ daygame cold approachesOP I have a few questions about cold approach: 1) When you meet a girl in the wild and connect with her and she exchanges her number or IG, and it’s entirely ambiguous whether she’s into you or not do you ask them out for drinks / dinner without using the word “date” or do you use the word “date” when you ask them out? My approach lately has been: approach -> build rapport -> get their IG/number -> text them a little and then ask them out and use the word “date”. Sometimes I see these girls IRL … | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 04:53 PM |
| 1 | My thoughts on rejection after 1000+ daygame cold approachesWhat do you recommend? Be upfront and ask them on a date shortly after meeting or play the longer game and be their friend first and then ask them on a date after they get to know you a little? | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 04:44 PM |
| 11 | Bars (going out) vs Daygamei think bars are easier. become a regular at a bar and sit at the bar where people order. make small talk with people as they come up to order. most will stop talking as soon as they get and pay for their drinks and that’s how you’ll know they weren’t that interested | /r/seduction | 10/03/24 06:42 AM |
| 1 | Is there away to persevere through the mountain of rejectionsMost of the time if you’re getting rejected it’s not due to anything you are doing wrong, they just don’t find you attractive or they’re taken. It’s a numbers game, once you find a girl that thinks you’re attractive you don’t really need much game to get her to go out with you | /r/seduction | 20/02/24 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Question for intermediate and advanced guys!i approach women out and about as well and no longer use dating apps. what was your success % for getting dates on cold approaches? | /r/seduction | 15/02/24 11:34 PM |
| 1 | Dating 20s vs 30si knew no one in a large city. i basically made an organic friend group by DM’ing people on instagram and asking for them to RSVP me to places they were advertising as events, which they did and then i kept showing up to their parties and branched out to various friend groups. i also became a regular at various bars and places and then got to know various people there and then got to know some of their friends and so on. i also met people off reddit and just talked to a bunch of random people at… | /r/seduction | 15/02/24 11:32 PM |
| 7 | Dating 20s vs 30sexactly what i do. sit at the bar itself and be friendly with the bartender. banter with the people next to you. as it gets busy women will come to place an order. without thinking just say something to them. they’ll usually talk to you until they get their drinks and pay then leave and a new crop will show up. just keep talking to everyone that you see and eventually you may click with one of them | /r/seduction | 15/02/24 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Dating 20s vs 30smostly cafes, and and bars but you also can do it anywhere. online events would be like DJs, parties or various events going on in the city. certain people host sorts of things in certain scenes in bigger cities. | /r/seduction | 15/02/24 08:04 PM |
| 4 | Dating 20s vs 30swhy are you not into cold approaches? i build up my friend groups through a combination of being in public spaces and talking to them for long periods of time and swapping contact info. i also make friends by being a regular at different spots and getting to know the other regulars and then hanging out with them outside of those spots and meeting their friends. also, you can follow various people that throw events online and rsvp to them and get to know them and their friend groups and then regu… | /r/seduction | 15/02/24 06:19 PM |
| 18 | Dating 20s vs 30sI ditched the dating apps and went cold approach only and make my intentions clear upfront. I have a date with a girl this weekend, and to my knowledge she is on Hinge, yet she’s going out with me a guy who isn’t even on any apps vs all the other guys she matched with / are in her DMs. i went to a new city knowing no one and built up a large friend group. I prefer to go out solo though and don’t want to go with anyone when I’m out. i don’t prefer to have a wingman or anyone, I roll solo and meet… | /r/seduction | 15/02/24 06:12 PM |
| 13 | I finally stopped pedestalizing models after learning the truth.i dated a professional model in a large city and know other professional models. most of them are eastern european and they tend to stick to their own kind in terms of their friend groups. Them being eastern european seem to have more of an effect on how they act than the fact they’re a model. Russian women are different than American girls. They can be tough and tougher than most American men I come across. What do you want to know about them? They’re 9-10s and if you actually interact with the… | /r/seduction | 14/02/24 10:51 PM |
| 7 | is hitting on women in an unapologetic way enough for getting moderated sucess?Yes, it’s better to be direct upfront than be indirect about it. You’ll likely get an extremely high rejection rate but It’ll waste a lot less of your time. I recommend not relying exclusively on dating apps and meeting women IRL and getting to the point right away | /r/seduction | 14/02/24 12:02 PM |
| 2 | Is approaching women on the street weird?I meet all the women i date in person and ditched dating apps | /r/seduction | 13/02/24 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Approaching Women Directlyhow do i reorient it to drinks since i already told her id take her out to dinner and she liked that message? i stopped messaging her so much. probably been 2 weeks since i messaged her and i dunno when she’s coming back, she said she hoped soon. last time, she was in europe and she said she’d let me know when she’s back in the city. she kept her word as 6 or so months later she ask if im free next weekend as she’s back in the states (she didn’t even post this on instagram so it took me by surpr… | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Approaching Women DirectlyOne question I have: I met a girl off a non-dating app We talked a bit before we met IRL because she’s from another state, but I took her to dinner. We had an incredible time (she was way late though & apologies). We went to 3-4 different venues together before she practically fell asleep. As we were leaving she texted me she had a great time and she’d show up earlier next time so we’d have more time together. She did some light touches through dinner and i fed her a little with my fork which i … | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Approaching Women DirectlyIf we consider only in-person encounters, my success rate is approximately 6-7%. This rate increases when including women I've connected with through social media platforms like Instagram, as I do not use traditional dating apps. I think my success rate would be slightly higher if you include women that were just visiting from out of state. I believe few of them would have went out with me had they lived in the city. My primary strategy involves approaching women at high-end, exclusive bars know… | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Approaching Women DirectlyI exclusively cold approach (i’m a beginner) it depends how you count success, but i have about a 6-11% success rate about 80% of the women that reject me will be nice and cordial but have no interest. about 20% automatically reject me before i can even finish opening is this normal? also, once you get their contact info if you did an indirect opener, when you ask them out do you specifically use the word “date” to indicate interest or do you just ask them out for drinks / dinner and hope they g… | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Dinner is a TERRIBLE first date idea! Why you should always avoid iti disagree with this: dinner dates are my go to first dates, though i tend to meet women not on dating apps. you can avoid sitting across from them by sitting at a bar if the restaurant has one. most nice restaurants i’ve been to in a large city has bar seating. this allows you sit next to each other and then you can mix food and drinks together. after dinner you can go to other spots so the date can continue onward late into the night there is a general excitement about going to a nice restaura… | /r/seduction | 30/01/24 08:56 AM |
| 1 | If a woman likes you, she will let you knowyeah good points i’ll progress things further someone else suggested she’s using me for dinner, after i told them i suggested to her we do dinner twice. she isn’t using me for dinner, she tried hard to pay and i wouldn’t let her and paid behind her back i think id like to take her out for dinner again, just because that’s what i’m into, then drinks after i’ll see if i can escalate a little more next time i have her out | /r/seduction | 23/01/24 05:52 AM |
| 1 | If a woman likes you, she will let you knowcool. think dinner makes any difference? i got a girl i went to dinner with and she wants to go out again. i’ll wine and dine her again.. actually, now i realize it dinner is a good sign. she’s pretty hot like an 8+ and it’s rare to even get a 6 to go out, so the fact she would want to do dinner twice is great. last time we did dinner and a bunch of venue changes after, so the night went on pretty late and also started late had her texting me within 5 mins of us leaving | /r/seduction | 22/01/24 06:13 PM |
| 1 | If a woman likes you, she will let you knowhow do you physically escalate when you have them out and didn’t use the word “date” and it’s a little ambiguous if they’re into you that way or just vibing as a friend? this is what i hate about cold approach because on apps it’s obvious, IRL it’s murky | /r/seduction | 22/01/24 05:34 PM |
| 1 | If a woman likes you, she will let you knowi done the exact same. but whenever i have them out i can’t tell if they consider it a date or a friend hangout even if it seems like they might be into me. how do you discern that? do you ask them out for drinks and use the word date or what do you do when you have them out and they’re having a good time with you but you can’t tell? i think i been in both situations. one considered it a date even though i never used the word “date” because she wrote in her substack she went on a date last night… | /r/seduction | 22/01/24 05:20 PM |
| 2 | If a woman likes you, she will let you knowDo you get their instas over numbers? I do and prefer it because I had women who didn’t respond, respond later whenever I hit them up after they posted a story, whereas with text if they don’t respond it could be dead in the water. Also, when you ask these girls out do you use the word “date”? If you don’t, then how do you discern whether they view it as a friend hangout or more? | /r/seduction | 22/01/24 04:58 PM |
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