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| 8 | I just got servedNo. Fuck all this. Your absolute emergency concern is getting a lawyer on retainer. Until you have a good lawyer paid for, do NOTHING ELSE. CALL THE LAWYERS 9AM TOMORROW MORNING!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/21 06:36 AM |
| 4 | Hi Everyone - need adviceFound the Karen | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/21 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Lessons learned?Leave. It’s the only way. She ended the marriage already by cheating. I am so sorry. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/21 03:01 PM |
| 11 | Lessons learned?Life ain’t fair. If you think maybe you should fire yourself lawyer, you should fire your lawyer. Now. It will take 5 times longer than you think it will to get over it When you’re sad, cry. It’s better after. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/21 04:32 AM |
| 3 | Phone issuesDon’t get pissed. That’s stupid. Record the calls if it is legal in your state, and get a lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/21 07:31 AM |
| 2 | Switching Lawyers Mid DivorceCheck avvo.com and google maps reviews for a starting point for getting your list. MAKE SURE TO KEEP INTERVIEWING DO NOT PICK THE FIRST GOOD ONE. Write out, literally write it out, bullet points for what you are going to tell them and the exact explicit questions you are going to ask them. My situation is x, y, z. Be concise. My current representation is and is not doing a & b. What would your legal strategy be? What do you think the possible outcomes are? What are your rates and retainer? Would… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/21 04:30 AM |
| 9 | Switching Lawyers Mid DivorceAbsolutely do not tell your current attorney. Interview AT LEAST THREE NEW ONES. FULLY INTERVIEW THEM DO NOT GIVE UP. New attorney will send a substitution of council notice to the court and old attorney. I switched. Absolutely 100% worth it. Should have months earlier. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/21 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Ex trying to move kids out of state - what would you do?The longer you wait the more established she can claim the kids are where she has them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/21 06:03 AM |
| 5 | Newly separated headed for divorceYep. He could fuck himself by moving out of the marital home depending on jurisdiction. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/21 05:45 AM |
| 2 | Lost and BrokenLawyer. Lawyer. Lawyer. What has your lawyer said? Why do you not have a lawyer yet? Get a lawyer. Get security cameras. DOCUMENT WITH YOUR LAWYER THAT SHE FALSELY ACCUSED YOU OF RAPE. IN WRITING. NEVER. EVER. BE ALONE WITH HER. Wanna rot in prison for a false claim? Get a lawyer. Now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/21 05:25 AM |
| 7 | Newly separated headed for divorceLawyer first. Interview three. Not one nor two. Three. Google maps reviews and avvo.com to pick. Email tonight. Leave voicemails tomorrow. Call 9AM Monday morning. Get. A. Lawyer. Do you want joint custody of your daughter? If yes you need the lawyer. Now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/21 05:18 AM |
| 2 | Finding the best attorney?The latter. From personal experience and great expense, and some second hand stories from friends as well. Nobody will ever admit this out loud. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/21 04:50 PM |
| 6 | Finding the best attorney?Google maps reviews Avvo.com reviews. Interview A MINIMUM OF THREE AND PREFERABLY FIVE. First half hour should be free. Do a FULL interview. Write down what you are going to tell them and ask them. Do NOT stop when you find a good one. Interview the others. Tell them you are also talking to the others, say their names and see if they say something about the other one. And get a male attorney. Unfortunately, on the whole, this will result in better outcomes for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/21 05:39 AM |
| 4 | "Settled" at Mediation #2 over Zoom but is it settled?Make sure to fully interview all 3 new attorneys. Do not pick the first one that seems good. They are sneaky bastards. Most are utterly incompetent. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/21 09:20 PM |
| 7 | "Settled" at Mediation #2 over Zoom but is it settled?This is an emergency. Immediately contact your attorney IN WRITING and inform them you withdraw authorization for the settlement, and to not take any further actions. Do that right fucking this very minute. Contact 3 new attorneys at the crack of dawn on Monday. Look at http://avvo.com reviews. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/21 08:36 PM |
| 3 | When they use the silver spoon to stab you in the back.You are fucking up here and you will regret it. Stop bitching. Get on http://avvo.com and pick 5 attorneys. Call all of them and leave a voicemail with explicit times you are available for a consult. Do it now. As in actually right fucking now. Do not sign the settlement. Do not fuck yourself and your children over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/21 06:53 PM |
| 4 | Unresponsive AttorneyFuck all the shitty advice you’ve gotten. You need a new attorney. Pronto. I’m in a small town. I had to interview 6 attorneys to find a good one after my first shitty one. SIX. try avvo.com When you call them have a script to use for the interview to ask them all the same things. And ask who else they think is a good attorney. Fire this loser ASAP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/21 07:56 AM |
| 1 | How can I help my dad?She is cheating on him. I guarantee it. Sounds like she is hiding it well, but this is classic cheater behavior. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/21 04:30 AM |
| 1 | How can I help my dad?Please make sure he gets a GOOD attorney. Just like mechanics, accountants, plumbers, and therapists, most lawyers are mediocre at best. Many are horrible. A few are good. You need to interview 3 at a minimum. Check reviews on www.avvo.com | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/21 04:29 AM |
| 1 | I could use a little encouragement to take the first step.Who cheated? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/21 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Getting divorced, need helpGet a lawyer immediately. Go to avvo.com and call the top 3 Do not hire the first one you call. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/21 12:56 AM |
| 13 | Can I get away with this plan (California)No. Call a lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/21 12:27 AM |
| 2 | She asked to talkAhhh absolutely do not talk. Do not engage. Communicate through the lawyers until the divorce is done. Get my family wizard and use that to track everything about the kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/21 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Can a divorce become "void" if too much time goes by between the separation and divorce finalization?Truth | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/21 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Can a divorce become "void" if too much time goes by between the separation and divorce finalization?Can you borrow from anyone? She is lying to you about finalizing the divorce. Completely made up. Google family law clinic and try to find a charity in your area that can maybe help. Stop talking to her about anything but the bare minimum about the children. Get my family wizard the app and only use that to communicate. Audio record EVERY interaction you have with her. Do not telephone her. Text only. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/21 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Can a divorce become "void" if too much time goes by between the separation and divorce finalization?Why don’t you have an attorney? Avvo.com get on there right this very second and pick the top 3 to call 9am in the morning. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/21 08:48 AM |
| 5 | When you get married, it's about love. When you get divorced, you're told its about money, basically a business transactionDoing all that will get you a common law marriage in some jurisdictions, like it or not. Also in jurisdictions that don't recognize common law marriage, you still could end up on the hook in the future. https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/free-books/living-together-book/chapter2-4.html | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/21 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Soon to be divorcing, send helpYou need to have your head examined. GO. GET. YOUR. OWN. ATTORNEY. RIGHT. FUCKING. NOW. CALL 3. Not 1. 3. Go to avvo.com read the reviews and interview 3 at 9am Monday morning. Pick wrong and you will DEEPLY REGRET IT. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/21 03:30 AM |
| 2 | Is it time to divorce?GET A LAWYER 8AM MONDAY!!! go to avvo.com and find three with good reviews. Call all of them. Do NOT pick the first one. Do NOT warn her. Document the rage. Starting NOW. Go to Best Buy and get a digital voice recorder. They are $50. Keep it on you at ALL times. You need proof of her rages to fight for full custody. She is incredibly dangerous. Do NOT have sex with her again. She will probably threaten you with false rape claims be ready for that. Get. A. Lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/21 03:26 AM |
| 2 | When does it stop hurting?She’s a cheater bro. She’s been cheating for years, she wanted to get with the other man, he rejected here and now she wants back with you, her second choice. Don’t believe this “online only” bullshit. She’s been fucking then. Guarantee. Sorry my man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/21 03:58 PM |
| 8 | Is there any scenario where you wouldn’t take your lawyer’s advice to settle?Don’t go to trial. Not worth it. Cut your losses, write the check and move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/21 03:46 AM |
| 8 | I’m a retired attorney & new Men’s Divorce Coach. What topics would you be willing to be willing to pay for information on to get you through your divorce process or wish you had help with when you were getting divorced? P.S. I’m not trying to sell anything.What to do when your lawyer won’t call you back or answer emails. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/20 12:17 AM |
| 17 | Plan to file within the next few months. Wife stated she wants to go back to school to pursue her Master's in elementary education. I'm all for it and support her, but should I file prior to her starting or after she starts?File right fucking now! If you support her while she’s going to school you are FUCKED. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/20 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Married 24 years and getting readyIt’s obvious to everyone who’s been cheated on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/20 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Moving onFat? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/20 08:24 AM |
| 1 | Moving onyup. standard cheater tactics. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/20 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Moving onSo what’s the reason? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/20 06:40 PM |
| 3 | Moving onSo you cheated on her right? You should tell her if you have any morality at all. She is tormented by not knowing. You owe it to her as a fellow human being. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Child support and Spousal Support during covid lay-offRead this book. It may help understanding a lot. I highlighted more than 50% of the paragraphs. Take 20 minutes and read the intro now. “The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse” by Debbie Mirza. Download it on kindle or Apple Books or google play. Or if you need to, get it from LibGen.is and read it in Apple Books on your iPhone (on Android download ‘Lithium’ to open the ePub file). https://libgen.lc/ads.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/20 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Child support and Spousal Support during covid lay-offAlmost forgot, did she gaslight you? Exhibit subtle narcissist behaviors? Do things that made you feel crazy and like you couldn’t trust your own memory? I have found an incredibly helpful for that if so | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/20 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Child support and Spousal Support during covid lay-offYou made it out alive my friend!!!! Many people suffer for their entire life! I also come from a horrible childhood. I thought she and I were going to do things different. I thought wrong. You are doing the RIGHT thing for your children. You will give them an honest childhood and show them how to stand up for the truth and what is right. Staying together “for the children” is abusive and it drives me fucking insane that people give that advice. I’m cooking dinner, for myself, so this won’t be as… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/20 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Child support and Spousal Support during covid lay-offDid she cheat on you that you know of? Emotionally abusive? Women don’t just suddenly decide to divorce out of the blue, there is always a twisted logic behind it that benefits them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/20 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Child support and Spousal Support during covid lay-offI am so happy that you were able to do it. I know it’s terrifying to pick up the phone and call. I post a lot on r/survivinginfidelity and it gets pretty fucking frustrating because 95% of the new posters on there are still several months away from getting to where you are, realizing that they have to stop burying their head in the sand. I am so sorry for what you are going, and about to go through. It is the worst hell on earth. Let me reiterate. DO. NOT. SIGN. ANYTHING. DO NOT VERBALLY INDICAT… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/20 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Child support and Spousal Support during covid lay-offGreat. Take the second one and leave a bad review for the first one. He is right, it is a horrific economic climate and it is going to get significantly worse. Which is why you need to get divorced from her so you can at least go it alone without them harming you. Can you imagine having to struggle through the difficult years ahead with her still legally tied to you? That is terrifying. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/20 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Child support and Spousal Support during covid lay-offOk how did it go? Did you call? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/20 12:45 AM |
| 0 | Yesterday Was the Beginning of the EndThis sounds fishy. So you cheated on her 8 years ago. Why didn't you get a divorce then instead of cheating? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/20 07:39 AM |
| 2 | Child support and Spousal Support during covid lay-offTERRIBLE FUCKING IDEA. ABSOLUTE LUNACY. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/20 06:50 AM |
| 2 | Child support and Spousal Support during covid lay-offDO NOT DO MEDIATION WITH HER LAWYER YOU ARE OUT OF YOUR FUCKING MIND RIGHT NOW. I mean that in the nicest way possible. LISTEN TO US. GET A LAWYER AND DO IT NOW. Go on Avvo.com Call the top 3 rated lawyers in your zip code, do this 9AM tomorrow morning. You WILL regret it if you do not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/20 06:50 AM |
| 1 | What constitutes separation in California?Jesus fuck you must have been so fucking terrified towards the end of that. How close did you get to being stuck for lifetime support? That’s fucking terrifying. Paying a cheater for your entire life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/20 05:58 AM |
| 2 | What constitutes separation in California?If you get to 10 years in California you are FUCKED. F U C K E D. DO YOU WANT YO PAY YOUR CHEATING WIFE? No? How about paying her for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Forever. FOREVER. Does that scare you? It should SCARE THE SHIT out of you. Call the lawyer. Get the papers fucking filed. It might be too late already, but it is FOR SURE too late if you wait. She can drag the divorce out very very very easily. You need to get a fucking fire lit under your ass. If you want to date her after the divorce that… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/20 05:56 AM |
| 2 | What constitutes separation in California?CALL. A. LAWYER. Pick the top 3 on avvo.com and call them 9am tomorrow morning. See my post history for more how-to’s | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/20 05:53 AM |
| 8 | Laid off yesterday and now wife wants me out by the end of the monthIt doesn’t matter if you are on the lease or not, if you’ve lived there for 30 days you have tenancy rights and she can’t make you leave without getting an eviction. Which the courts are not granting right now because covid. Google eviction laws + your state | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/20 11:29 PM |
| 2 | The worst partGlad to hear it gets better eventually. Do you suspect that she was cheating? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/20 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Do I have to store her stuff?Are you separated or legally separated? There’s an Important distinction. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/20 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Where to sell my ring?What books have been the most helpful? So far I've only read Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissists by Debbie Mirza | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/20 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Looking for advice...What a great lawyer and advocate for you. Did you talk to her again after you left? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/20 06:21 AM |
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