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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Wife met up with her ex in the early days of our relationship, behind my back. Bottom line facts: You're not wrong, but... You guys weren't married. Whether or not you have a legitimate beef here is debatable. The more you focus on her, the less you're focusing on your real problems.	/r/askMRP	28/09/23 04:31 AM
3	Wife met up with her ex in the early days of our relationship, behind my back. If you finish your MAP and aren't master and commander of her entire sexual experience, then you skipped parts of the MAP. If you do leave her, make it because you fucked up and married the wrong person for your particular mission in life.	/r/askMRP	28/09/23 12:13 AM
6	Wife met up with her ex in the early days of our relationship, behind my back. I more get the sense that she went on a date to compare me and him, trying to decide who to stick with, and decided to stick with me. ... but that scenario on its own is disrespectful enough that I’m pissed/upset. So, you're pissed because you realized that you actually ARE replaceable and that the red pill theory was right all along? I hope that sounds as silly to you as it does to me. Urge to cheat, too, but I won’t. And there you go. Not only are you still harboring fantasies that you're not …	/r/askMRP	28/09/23 12:11 AM
1	Must read Book for free at the moment I thought for a second and said: I’m not a very nice person I think I would have put it back on him: "You were in my seat. That didn't seem very nice either. So, tit for tat."	/r/askMRP	19/08/23 08:33 AM
2	What's the alternative to acting butthurt when she does something fucked up? rp kind of already manipulative and controlling? For example: when she does something fucked up, and you STFU (rewarding her negatively), isn't that kind of manipulative? RP is about you, the man, and learning to be a man who does not need external validation to have confidence. You will not need that validation because you know your standards, you know you're living up to them, and you know you will include in your life anyone who helps you meet your purpose. In other words, you know you own yo…	/r/askMRP	17/08/23 04:42 AM
8	At-home wear Just don't dress like a toddler, a bum, or some ghetto refuge. That is all. Virtually everything you wear is going to be in service of whatever else you're doing to be awesome in the first place. Wear those things and wear them well. If you think you can wear the things that make you look awesome and don't do the things that would actually make you awesome, then you're doing it wrong.	/r/askMRP	03/04/23 10:58 PM
7	Are these nice guy habits or should I do what I feel like doing? Teacher.	/r/askMRP	24/03/23 12:28 AM
2	Are these nice guy habits or should I do what I feel like doing? Oh you with that light touch. How are they going to learn if you're so nice to them? Lol..	/r/askMRP	23/03/23 11:30 PM
5	How handle wife pushback when beginning, father of 4 young children. Just make sure that what you're doing is the right thing to do according to your own values. This is your frame here, so going entirely by whether someone is "happy" is just asking to be continually manipulated by others. Even if you leave her or someone else unhappy with your chosen course of action, you can not worry about it at all if you're acting in accordance with your best efforts to do what is right for your situation and for your family and values.	/r/askMRP	24/08/22 10:27 PM
3	"You cannot live unnaturally and have natural sex lives" Red Pill, at its origin and core, is about living in truth, not blue pill deception (self-imposed or external). I agree, but witness the sub description: "The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men." The "positive identity for men" part of that is great, but the focus on "discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking" I think is a fundamental flaw in the stated mission of this sub. That's why we see so much toxic ma…	/r/TheRedPill	26/07/22 10:49 PM
6	"You cannot live unnaturally and have natural sex lives" Leadership is vital. Without it, nothing happens. On the one hand, this post has nothing to do with RP, and yet this point very nicely sums up what any man must do in order to stay on mission and achieve their lifelong goals. You aren't generally going to have a great frame for living your life if you're only ever leading a life of consumption. Even if you aren't a bonafide gold plated leader in your own right, living a solid life in service of a truly great leader or organization is leagues bet…	/r/TheRedPill	26/07/22 04:22 PM
1	I can’t swallow the red pill OP - /u/Yolobidroie: Old fart here and I've been married just about 30 years. What you should understand about RP is that, while it's ALWAYS true, it's merely a baseline for sexual interaction between men and women. Sure, it colors every interaction, and you can and should explore the other RP subs for examples of how that can play out; in every way all the way from open relationships, to BDSM relationships, and even all the way to ultra religious unions. That said, those relationships still hav…	/r/TheRedPill	10/07/22 07:22 PM
33	Fucking some other guys girlfriend Definitely. Start with No More Mr. Nice Guy. There's a subreddit for just that book too. I wouldn't spend too much time on TRP or on RP forums though because there's a lot of angry guys on here and there's no point in feeding your own anger. Just get into "monk mode" and work on you and practice validating yourself according to your own values rather than worrying about getting validation from others. I can tell you from experience that this is the way past letting others control you and the way…	/r/TheRedPill	01/06/22 05:57 AM
10	I'm FWB with my ex and found out she has a new man regardless of how conservative she is. I would like to point out the double standard here. She's "conservative" if she hooks up with you, but she's what? A slut because she's got this other guy on the side? Let me put this another way: She's not employing a double standard here, you are. If she's a slut by your own way of thinking, then so are you. The bottom line here is to elevate your thinking. Stop letting your dick control your brain and perceptions. Sure, it's SO easy to get hung up on sex…	/r/TheRedPill	31/05/22 07:59 PM
1	The whole "chad meme" shows that guys are often very insecure about themselves... and it's kinda sad Being a "Chad" is more-or-less synonymous with being a HVM in 2022. Hard disagree. I suppose this is subjective, but I've seen it still as a dig at a man who may be attractive now but has low prospects going forward because they mostly rely upon their appearance. They think they're something special because they can get a woman into bed, but turn out to be just another dick in a sea of dicks. If you're actually a HVM, you'll be called by actual titles of respect. I don't know of anyone worth kno…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/05/22 05:48 PM
28	Your husband is your number one. Always. - Sage advice from my grandmother. As a man whose spouse did not practice this when our kids were young, I can tell you it created no small amount of conflict until we fixed the issue. Once children detect that they can pull mom's strings especially, then there is no limit to the amount of control they can exert over you as a couple. They will play you against each other constantly if they know that they come first. And God help you if you both are determined to "put baby first" and you don't happen to agree on something. You wil…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/22 01:40 AM
6	Red pill marriage…almost… As a male I can't even imagine what it would take to stay on top of body shape and esteem after 8 pregnancies. That said, transformation stories are fairly routine in the intermittent fasting and keto communities. /r/intermittentfasting /r/keto Those are different approaches to the same problem. Personally, I find that if you combine them and don't go overly strict with either, that it's super easy to get the nutrition side of things under control; especially with some basic food tracking. Coupl…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/22 08:14 PM
5	Jean Baudrillard's Definition of a Slave: Watcher & Interacter. And How to become a Ouroboros in The Year 2022. How does one exhaust the future? Go do difficult shit worth doing. Git gud. Get rewards. Lather, rinse, repeat.	/r/TheRedPill	15/04/22 02:39 AM
2	My mother was an alcoholic Actually, it's under References. It's listed last and should be first IMO, but it's there.	/r/TheRedPill	10/04/22 07:18 PM
20	My wife discovered a post on here Honestly, I wouldn't post here again until you're at least part of the way through it. "STFU, lift, and read the sidebar" is the usual advice and it seems like you're internalizing what you're reading here instead of actually reading the sidebar. In case you haven't noticed, 90% of what's in here, TRP, and MRP is nonsense. Even the endorsed contributors will sit here and spew bullshit because they know most of the newbs haven't done any of the work or read the sidebar and they're just wasting ev…	/r/askMRP	09/04/22 11:29 PM
12	My wife discovered a post on here How far are you through NMMNG?	/r/askMRP	09/04/22 10:03 PM
17	People are missing what Jada did, except maybe Denzel saw it for what it was. This. This whole angle is such utter toxic anger phase nonsense. Will is responsible for Will's actions, not Jada. He could have handled it multiple ways. Personally I would have loved to see him challenge Rock to a grudge boxing match with all proceeds to go to charity. That would have kicked ass, put Rock on his heels, and allowed Will to walk away with his reputation intact.	/r/TheRedPill	31/03/22 05:14 PM
2	Female Green Flags, from the male pov No, but he did say those things are a red flag. Personally, I think it's quite possible that red flags can be overcome or irrelevant to a situation, and so does he as he said so in the video. Turn the tables here and you'll see how fair this is. If a man has a horrible relationship with his mother, wouldn't you question how that would affect you as a possible long term partner? If he's intent on marking up or piercing his body in multiple ways, does that indicate issues you might at least need t…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/22 03:04 AM
13	Female Green Flags, from the male pov I'm assuming you all won't want to sign up for his emails, so here is the above in PDF form: https://entrepreneursincars.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/The-Unplugged-Alpha-Chapter-4-20-Red-Flags-1.pdf This link is from his site and directly links to his material. I am not him, don't know him, etc. This was just interesting.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/22 04:26 AM
1	Excerpts relating body count to infidelity: why her history matters now more than ever Leave it I say. You know you're right, and you're not going to see a rational counter argument, so leaving it is a nice middle finger to the detractors.	/r/TheRedPill	22/03/22 03:48 PM
10	Excerpts relating body count to infidelity: why her history matters now more than ever Yeah, it should be about that. But this sub has apparently degenerated once again into primarily worrying about what women do instead of trying to make better men. Hyergamy exists. Get over it. Be good enough that she wouldn't even think about cheating on you. Time spent sitting around worrying about this is time you should be using to spend on you. Hell, even sitting around playing video games is better than sitting around worry about this. And let's face it: most of the men here are here becau…	/r/TheRedPill	21/03/22 05:20 PM
3	I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers). It's all good. So, having had the bad experience you did with your previous boyfriend, was there any redeeming value to RP for him in the end? I mean, if he hung out long enough, actually thought things through, read the sidebars, etc. he should have made at least some progress. Didn't that happen? Personally, I've gotten a bit jaded towards the RP forums. There is much potential for growth, but I've seen far too much coaching delivered in the form of abuse and then excused as "normal locker roo…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/03/22 02:32 AM
6	I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers). Well, you did say it "grinds your gears" and then appear to question others lifestyle choices in other replies: I'm not sure I can think of a situation where letting a man make all the important decisions instead of discussing it between the two of them is the better idea. .. have to ask, what is meant by the husband leading the relationship. Isn't that inherently unequal? I understand your questions probably came from trying to understand, but you can see how it would be easy to misconstrue the…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/03/22 12:03 AM
4	I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers). Your assumptions are questionable. A high value spouse can indeed pull an income sufficient for an entire family so the woman can be a SAHM. A high value man does not put the entirety of earning and homemaking on the woman. A high value man does not refuse to contribute to the success of his own household when his spouse is overwhelmed, or even just unfairly leveraged. If you're getting these messages from supposed RP men, then you're hanging out with lower value men. Full stop. In short, I beli…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/03/22 11:10 PM
5	I think my wife's best friend is making moves on me ... This is one massive shit test dude and you will fail it if you show any interest. You need to inform your wife what's going on, and then sit back and let the girls figure out what's what. If the friend makes a move with the wife's permission, then it's a question of whether you want to allow the attention. Keep in mind that, even with permission, you're still risking your marriage. If you let it happen, be damn sure you're OK with the risk. And then, if things move forward, the wife is queen in …	/r/askMRP	11/03/22 04:23 AM
16	How do you deal with "the wall"? Looking at your post history, I would say you should stay off of reddit entirely for a while and go get counseling. Your issues aren't RP issues or even women's issues. You're simply not in a healthy place right now.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/22 11:05 PM
8	Can no longer cope with an aggressive 2nd officer Unfortunately, none us here are going to or could offer you a quick fix for this. You can stay the course and come out of it a better man, or not. In the meantime, what will happen will happen. Maybe the outcome will change while you work on yourself, but you have to do this for you and not for her; not even for your child. You're doing it because you know this is the way you should have done it long ago. It's too bad you didn't have a proper role model to help you avoid all of this, but now you…	/r/askMRP	17/01/22 05:30 AM
0	So what's the point of getting married? Be better than mice: https://fee.org/articles/john-b-calhoun-s-mouse-utopia-experiment-and-reflections-on-the-welfare-state/	/r/askMRP	31/08/21 08:38 PM
7	Feedback on constant arguments That's good, but please review your bullshit factor while you're at it. You literally told another responder that you've read everything on the sidebar. Wtf...	/r/askMRP	24/08/21 09:18 PM
8	Feedback on constant arguments The solution is within the first book listed in the sidebar: No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover	/r/askMRP	24/08/21 07:30 PM
3	Why do I find this so difficult? I suck at dealing with my wife’s shit. I'll spell this out for you: Stop dealing with your wife's shit. Full stop. You should provide comfort, safety, and stimulation for her. Everything else about you just STFU. No DEERing about your feelz to her. In the meantime, you work on you and pay attention to being a better you for YOU. Not for her. Sure, she'll like it. Sure, she'll show attraction. That's not why you do it though. You do it for you. You work out for you. You dress nice for you. You pu…	/r/askMRP	12/08/21 01:40 AM
1	Should I be open to life with a woman who broke my heart? Can they really improve? Look, with that attitude, if you take her back then you need to be OK with her doing this again. You're giving her an out because she didn't technically cheat, but this whole broke your heart breakup cycle is basically equivalent. She gets a point for not being outright deceptive about it, but it's not like she wasn't already with this chad you mentioned in her own head before you broke up; hence the disrespect. So... based on track record, this happened and you know it can happen again. She reg…	/r/askMRP	28/07/21 07:13 PM
6	My mom doesn't want me to be a traditional woman and makes fun of me Just consider her to be another example of what is probably an unexamined life. She's propagating what she's been taught, but I wouldn't go by her words, but rather look at her actions for what she really believes. In fact, I can almost guarantee you could (not necessarily should) piss her off by simply pointing this out, as in: "You know, you talk a big game about feminist ideals, but you didn't even live that out yourself.". It would be somewhat mean of course, but you could get her to shut up…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/07/21 06:00 PM
3	Wife gets disrespectful when she doesn't get what she wants. Have you started the MRP sidebar reading; especially No More Mr. Nice Guy? You're trying to be "nice" and you expect she'll be nice to you. Well, she won't. It doesn't work that way. You're two kids into this relationship at this point and funding her education, so that means you'll owe child support, alimony, etc. You're about as committed as it gets at this point and any damage prevention you could have exercised was bypassed years ago. Everything about your current situation is a "sunk cost" …	/r/askMRP	22/06/21 04:56 PM
4	How do I get a life out of the house without my wife resenting me for it? I'm not disagreeing with the main thrust of this at all; it's in line with NMMNG and the general MRP canon so to speak. One suggestion I can make from personal experience that I don't see a lot of is to simply be magnanimous and just declare one night a week as her "Mommy's night out" where she can do whatever she likes and you'll have the kids 100% that night. It does lot of good for a SAHM to get a night off, lets her know in a concrete way that you care about her, and honestly will pay divide…	/r/askMRP	16/06/21 08:40 AM
2	Should red pill women even be called red pilled women? Would RP aware women generally be happy with a BP male though?	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/21 11:28 AM
2	Teaching my younger brother about equality 🤌 See my other post for a more complete recommendation please. Schools vary a lot on this point, but he should be aware that a better managed school could bring him significant consequences if he does that again. He should just know that this truly was a "trash school" and leave it at that.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/21 10:06 PM
25	Teaching my younger brother about equality 🤌 Guy here. I lived through this as a kid, and now as an adult, I can tell you there are lifelong repercussions for dealing with the situation in this way. So, my situation was very similar I think. I was the biggest guy in the class, always. And I wasn't the best with the social instincts. I did not have sisters, and I started out as a very jolly trusting and naïve child. Put all of this together, and you get a very ripe target for the more socially astute boys in the class who want to prove them…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/21 10:04 PM
3	How do I find a good man/act appropriately around them? (deadbeat dad related) RP is interesting because I think it implies a bunch of things that some might think lead to a normalization of personality that might suppress your personality and quirks; a la Stepford wives. In reality though, I don't think it can be like that and actually work. RP awareness will affect your personality, BUT you have to be you, like you said. That aside, it MUST affect how you handle the relationship at a more rational level. It can and probably should affect what you expect from your SO, and…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/05/21 03:22 PM
3	Laura Bretan and the Vanishing Virgin Oh, you liked her singing Dear Father eh? Get a load of this: https://youtu.be/ZxszXZuGa9Q?t=162	/r/RedPillWomen	22/05/21 06:59 AM
5	My (26f) long term boyfriend (27m) made a very stupid decision that cost him a great job opportunity, and I’m really bummed because this wouldn’t have happened if he had listened to my advice. Is that what this sub is about? Seeing Men as leaders and women as followers? I have been trying for years to identify my feelings about relationships(?) and couldn’t put my finger on it. Well, in a word, yes. A big characteristic of RP relations is that there is a purposeful submission of control from a feminine partner to a masculine one using the so-called captain and first mate model of relating to each other. It doesn't matter if you come at this from a biological / evolutionary point of vi…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/21 09:53 PM
9	Important questions to ask during courtship/dating I recommend coming at it from the perspective of traditional / religious values, where they're accustomed to dealing with the big questions. I recommend some basic pre-marriage counseling, especially that offered in churches tends to ask these questions, pair you up with an experienced couple that's been around the block a time or two, etc. It may not be sexy, but you will get what you need . It's just up to you to deal with the red flags you both identify. And then you just have to ask yourself…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/21 06:02 PM
7	Reading what's below the words Or you're just in denial about how much work you need to do on yourself. Oneitis is just procrastination.	/r/askMRP	09/12/20 09:31 AM
1	Is STFU misunderstood / mis-advised? Gee, it's almost as if someone actually read NMMNG.	/r/askMRP	28/10/20 12:23 AM
2	My friend is unfortunately into the red pill and he told me about this multiple dating strategy but I can't find the source I only went deep enough into it to understand the kernels of truth they had to offer and leave the rest of it behind. The culture remains toxic and maybe always will because 90% of the men in there are hurting in one form or another and turning to RP to help them make sense of their lives. The RP method of "running a MAP" works in terms of helping men become better men, thereby giving them better relationships in the future, but there is a sub-sub-culture to RP that uses RP theory (e.g. hypergam…	/r/ExRedPill	14/06/20 08:55 AM
10	My friend is unfortunately into the red pill and he told me about this multiple dating strategy but I can't find the source It's called "plate spinning" because you're keeping multiple relationships going at once. He's doing it wrong, because in the multiple ways I've seen it described, a high value man will also have integrity and simply be honest about their non-exclusivity. The idea is to either do this indefinitely and simply let the new relationships form or die as they will, or do this until it becomes obvious which relationship should become a long term commitment. In RP terminology though, a committed LTR is …	/r/ExRedPill	14/06/20 01:04 AM
13	24 to 30 is the golden window of finding a HVM. Old fart male here. We've been married over 25 years with 3 kids. I lurk here only out of interest, and having read some of the RP forums over time. We got married in the 24-25 years old time frame , and that was about perfect I think. I agree that there is still a lot of brain development going on through the early 20's, so marrying before that's done isn't verboten, but it could be best to intentionally delay just a bit to make sure and to let the chaos from the college years, etc. die down. T…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/20 05:03 PM
1	Sources After Being Done With Red Pill Well, it sounds like you need a new philosophy then. That's the backbone behind all ideology and politics anyway. Besides general philosophy, you might try stoicism: /r/Stoicism I had the same question recently. RP really doesn't quite work after all, and let's face it a so-called "sexual strategy" isn't nearly comprehensive enough. It tends to phrase everything in a sexual strategy zero-sum game filter, so there's too much negativity bundled into the core community and it's leadership. I should…	/r/ExRedPill	26/05/20 04:21 PM
2	Always Prepping... And lay off the GILFs. You'll be killing 'em for real.	/r/askMRP	13/03/20 09:54 PM
3	Hurt men destroying the integrity of TRP It does say that, but that doesn't mean it's all about strategy to get sex. That's PUA-think. RP is about becoming independent/freed from the need for the validation that comes with sex. Done properly, you will get the validation from yourself as a man who sets and achieves goals for yourself and stops wallowing in excuses and sub-standard expectations. The only thing "sexual" about that is the fact that we're approaching this as men, in a world where positive masculinity is only poorly taught a…	/r/TheRedPill	23/02/20 11:07 PM
5	To anybody who is skeptical, TRP has helped change my life True, and I didn't explain the power of habit. Those up-front choices you make are expressed mainly as habits, and it you stick with those habits and reinforce them, they will yield fruit every time; making success simply inevitable.	/r/TheRedPill	20/01/20 06:42 PM
3	To anybody who is skeptical, TRP has helped change my life Right. The choice to take responsibility for everything in your life and put your future on track is really the only element of free will. Destiny is how that plays out and your destiny can be set by you or be allowed to be determined by simple physics, which is a cold-hearted bitch at best and simply cruel otherwise.	/r/TheRedPill	20/01/20 06:16 PM
2	External and Internal Abundance If you can't discard the bullshit of some random dickhead See that's the thing - I'm not doing the OYS posts because I'm not asking for bullshit from randos in the first place. See how that works? I care enough to not waste anyone's time with the unnecessary drama. I'm well accustomed with discarding bullshit. From the wrestling mat, locker rooms, mechanics, the military, martial arts, and all the way to online trolls it's actually a skill I'm pretty good at. I just don't need the practice. In t…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/12/19 10:11 PM
2	External and Internal Abundance I'm just not down for it, plain and simple. There's too much a pattern of bullying amongst males and I really cannot take any man seriously who stoops to it. Holding frame is holding frame, and there you go putting women on a pedestal assuming they somehow make it either more difficult or imperative. A man can and should choose to live according to his own principles and it doesn't matter what you call it; anyone else's opinion about it is irrelevant.	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/12/19 02:46 AM
2	External and Internal Abundance You've probably been doing half the work unless you journal on your own. This is a good point. I'm not leaving OYS posts on here because these some of these guys are jackals and I'm simply not going to put up with a bunch of toxic trash talk. That said, I should do these on my own and I haven't been.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/12/19 11:00 PM
5	Stop Hamstering that your Wife is Nuts Huh... I think you win the thread! Did she have different sexual appetites for each personality too?	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/12/19 11:14 PM
2	Menopause and the red pill symmetric strength score Wut? Hmm... Found https://symmetricstrength.com/ Hey, neat! Hmm... got work to do. TIL'ed. Thanks!	/r/askMRP	07/12/19 09:21 AM
1	Declining duty sex Honestly, I don't see "duty sex" or even "starfishing" as a bad thing. If that's what's on offer, then it would just mean that one needs to step up their game. The only sex to truly be avoided IMO is the variety where you're allowing yourself to be manipulated out of your own frame with covert contracts; which describes almost any extramarital sex one can encounter as well, which is yet another + in the "fidelity column".	/r/askMRP	05/12/19 11:09 PM
2	[FR] Training Day I think this was an energy / disposition change And pheromones / hormones.	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/11/19 04:39 AM
4	[FR] Training Day Unless you are suggesting that a man should purposefully withhold orgasm. The book teaches the opposite: how to orgasm multiple times; with or without ejaculation.	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/11/19 04:38 AM
3	A war within myself Well, so maybe you just need some ideas. Personally, I think you're going to need to prime the pump here psychologically speaking. Obviously, you're a bit "over" vanilla sex; at least that which is so-called "maintenance sex" as you called it. It sounds like she is too. And fertheluvofgawd, just stop thinking that way. Just... stop. Any sex at all is an opportunity to lead her. Ideally, the sex will be because you seduced her as below, but if not, then so what?! Just take advantage to help move …	/r/askMRP	14/11/19 07:25 PM
1	Help me understand the compulsive cooking and cleaning... Holy shit. Do you have like a fucking template or something you follow for checking up on bullshitters? Awesome rundown!	/r/askMRP	08/11/19 06:33 AM
7	Fiance gave me her old laptop to use for work - a look into her past has me worried Look, I'll give it to you straight, and you didn't mention her stats or appearance, but let's just face facts: she is still in her 20's and very much at her prime physically and sexually. Her libido and wanting to look at guys is normal. Since you're at 260 lb, I'm guessing she's at least as attractive as you or more so. She can pull guys at any time, and I'm sure she knows it. Even if she's the same weight as you, you'll know if you've been reading the sidebar that she can jack her "score" 2-3 …	/r/askMRP	04/11/19 05:23 PM
2	Help me understand the compulsive cooking and cleaning... This is straight up her controlling how the family will spend time. As long as you go along with this, you're in her frame, and it is all about control. She's not OCD or whatever, but she probably doesn't know what else to do, because you likely have not been leading on this for whatever reason. Is that about right?	/r/askMRP	04/11/19 03:25 AM
3	TRT fight again, same question That's part of being in her frame. You don't have to disregard everything she or anyone else says, but those are just potential shit tests anyway. Doing this for yourself means you decide if she's right about a statement like that. Obviously, she's not right in this case, so what does that tell you?	/r/askMRP	02/11/19 08:30 PM
3	How to constructively tell my wife she’s overweight If only there was a pill that solved the issue of men being weak in this modern society. Ya mean like a red one? :D	/r/askMRP	01/11/19 05:31 PM
7	How to constructively tell my wife she’s overweight This is a result of BP school systems that are not appropriately equipped to teach boys any longer. Long story short: if you're not a precise well-behaved smart little girl, they hardly know what to do with you anymore and the first thing they do is try to get your parents to go get you diagnosed as ADHD so you can get a nice chill pill from the school nurse everyday. I'm not in education, but I've seen this first hand many times.	/r/askMRP	01/11/19 03:53 PM
1	How do things change with a third baby? I'm not gonna ask how you know that. :D	/r/askMRP	31/10/19 01:05 AM
2	How do things change with a third baby? Yeah, that along with the "kicked in the nuts" feeling you get for at least 2 days are just super-fun. And healing goes pretty fast really, but your boys don't quite feel the same for a long time. You gotta handle them a certain way to prevent twinges because something about how they sit inside changes.	/r/askMRP	30/10/19 10:46 PM
8	Suddenly, I'm not as interested in sex This is wildly insightful for men in general I think.	/r/askMRP	16/10/19 11:17 PM
2	Need Advice Read "Alcohol Explained" by William Porter for more understanding about how alcohol has likely brought you to a point where you should probably rewire yourself to not need it anymore. I'm paraphrasing, but your drinking has trained your nervous system in a permanent way at this point. At some point, irrational enthusiasm (he calls it FAB) about your drinking may kick back in and then you could find yourself back underwater again worse than you were before. Come join us in /r/stopdrinking/ for in…	/r/askMRP	11/10/19 03:26 PM
11	Wife calling me 'Daddy' a LOT... What would you prefer? 'Master'? 'Sir?' I mean, at some level you're just going to be a little uncomfortable with any of those because you're still worried about what others will think if they overhear it or see it, right? I'm no guru, but even I can tell you need to just up the DNGAF factor and just own it. If someone is nosy enough to ask you about it because of leakage, then they deserve an honest answer which will likely result in them wishing they hadn't asked and minding their own business…	/r/askMRP	08/10/19 04:17 PM
1	Wife Moving Out: An Update :( Be looking forward to a better tomorrow though. Chin up.	/r/askMRP	06/10/19 07:53 AM
2	Teenage Daughter Wants to Spend Time with Friends During my Parenting Time This. It doesn't matter that you're divorced, RP, etc. you're still a father who needs to provide some structure. Besides, it's not like you can't both get your way. Maybe she goes to the friend after the stuff you have planned for you both. You drive in, pick her up, do a thing or two, drop her off at the friend's place, pick her up the next day, etc. And yes, this post is right about the screen time. There really shouldn't be any during your time together. Buy a little toy safe where your phon…	/r/askMRP	05/10/19 01:06 AM
5	Any experiences with the Keto diet /r/keto FTW! Honestly, it's the best resource I've found in terms of getting started. The best thing to do there is read the sidebar; which probably sounds familiar by now. Honestly, it's not a hard regimen to maintain. You dump the breads, starches, and sugar from your diet and maybe track your grams of carbs/day and then choose how strict you want to be with yourself and whether you'll restrict to =< 20 grams/day, 50, or more. Downsides of keto? Well, it takes more planning to stay on plan. Yo…	/r/askMRP	29/09/19 02:51 PM
1	Wife Moving Out If you say so. Shoo.	/r/askMRP	26/09/19 01:14 AM
1	Wife Moving Out I realize things can get a little caustic in here, but why would anyone kid about wishing someone the best of luck?	/r/askMRP	25/09/19 11:17 PM
1	The problem with women that have tattoos, and why its a major red flag This is purely subjective. The days when just having tattoos meant something by itself are over. These days, you have to look at tattoos more like you would fashion choice. What does that choice of clothing or tattoo say, or what is it meant to say? Besides, they're great conversation starters in their own right. Every tattoo has a story to go with it, and those stories tell you everything you would want to know really; good or not.	/r/TheRedPill	19/09/19 10:22 PM
11	Women don't want to be your fucking mother And that really applies to the workplace too. Didja work really hard on that proposal? Good for you skippy, but no one gives a fuck! They'll only care if they win the business too.	/r/TheRedPill	19/09/19 02:52 PM
1	Books to start addressing finances Well, you don't NEED to link your accounts to your bank. That would completely kill auto-import and still use the product like you did previously. Honestly, we would be a bit better off if we did that ourselves still, but it was such a huge chore that I completely hated the process then. The tiny bit of loss of control is worth it for me.	/r/askMRP	14/09/19 01:55 AM
1	Books to start addressing finances It's a great way to RP household spending too. I mean, there's definitely an element of OYS to it too, because it keeps both of you honest. But it has been well worth it for us at least.	/r/askMRP	13/09/19 12:53 AM
4	Books to start addressing finances Actually, I would address this with a product rather than just a book. See /r/ynab for details. There you will find a method, a product, a community, and a way forward for finances. It's perfect for newbs.	/r/askMRP	10/09/19 10:18 PM
1	Good responces to rejection? Need to bust a nut dudes!! This.	/r/askMRP	10/09/19 10:15 PM
1	Those who cannot sacrifice anything, cannot change anything. Yeah, so I suppose the fact that's company policy and that Amazon themselves probably leaked that little factoid to make the strikers look bad just didn't occur to you? How about thinking a little before playing into the hands of a corporate PR campaign? Just a thought.	/r/TheRedPill	10/09/19 03:20 PM
3	What do you guys make of this situation? Well, I'm not going to tell you what to do here, but I'm guessing she's starting to feel the approaching wall, whether she is aware of it consciously or not. The urge to have kids is pretty strong and I would think she could be acting out because of that. You said it yourself: there aren't kids in this relationship. Second point: There aren't kids in this relationship. Maybe it's time to ensure a more solid legacy and split. If she wants to be her own man in the relationship, then she doesn't ne…	/r/askMRP	03/09/19 01:03 AM
1	Australian University Drops Women’s Engineering Entry Requirement for Equality Sure you are. If they're in STEM, and so are you, and this is more "prey to hunt" for you as you put it then you're not exactly fixing to meet them at a roller derby now are you? In fact, it's more likely than not they'll be a peer, manage you, or that you will manage them. Otherwise you won't even be in contact with them. Apart from that, you'll be limited to conferences and other social events for physicists; whom are world-renowned for their range of social events. /s	/r/TheRedPill	31/08/19 05:58 AM
-5	Australian University Drops Women’s Engineering Entry Requirement for Equality Yeah, it's crap like this that gets this sub labeled as toxic. This sub should be 100% of what men can do to improve themselves through RP approach. Talking about the results of these improvements is a close second and will necessitate some discussion of what women do. Anything else is just plain ole pantywaist bitching and we should be above that.	/r/TheRedPill	30/08/19 02:48 AM
2	Australian University Drops Women’s Engineering Entry Requirement for Equality Reality check: That can happen in any job.	/r/TheRedPill	30/08/19 02:43 AM
2	The importance of “STFU” and how hard it truly is (even for me) Sometimes I think the true RP philosophy is to just really not give a shit about anything except your own happiness... Well, it's a bit of that, because how can you help anyone else if you're always putting them first? That said, your frame comes first, because that is the mechanism by which you provide for yourself and your needs, AND for the needs of those you for whom you care. And that's the trick... that's what it means to be a man: to provide. That's what we do. And a solid frame is how we…	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/08/19 02:18 AM
-1	Wife Moving Out Best of luck man! It's not a fun situation I'm sure, but it sounds like you're equipped to come out of it to a better place; whichever way it goes.	/r/askMRP	28/08/19 01:58 AM
2	Wife Moving Out I didn't know there was such a thing. Even so, I've heard a lot of scuttle that those aren't actually respected in many cases. I would research it if you're serious about it. Personally, I'm on the hook for the full meal deal if she ever left, but we've been married 25 years, so I don't imagine it will happen now; especially since I've seriously started owning my shit.	/r/askMRP	28/08/19 01:22 AM
1	Wife Moving Out It's unfortunate that she is putting the kids through this as well. Only you know if her real needs are being met, so only you know if you have owned all the real problems here. That said, I have to wonder if you shouldn't set new ground rules with her if she doesn't actually leave. This business of going "off and on again" is a test in its own right and more than just a comfort test. I would keep her from redefining frame again for you, because that's what this could be really about. I saw anot…	/r/askMRP	27/08/19 10:45 PM
1	Echo Chamber True enough. It's worth noting that insight meditation will often show one some truly horrific stuff buried in the ego. It is best to simply accept those things; that they are there. You don't have to worry about "what it all means" though. It will sort itself out later if you just keep on noting and concentrating on that.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/08/19 10:40 PM
2	Echo Chamber Anything works as long as you can remain alert and not fall asleep easily.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/08/19 09:33 PM
4	Echo Chamber The other posts are probably good, but you wanted ELI5. There are 2 basic kinds of meditation: Concentration meditation - Learn how to concentrate. Example: Concentrate on your breath. That is all. That is what you DO. If this is hard, then practice it until you can do that for 2-5 minutes minimum. Insight meditation - Using your ability to concentrate, you can now practice "watching" your thoughts. That is, treat them like you would a noise, or a sensation; like a whole different sense that you…	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/08/19 09:31 PM
2	Wife found ED Pills This, so much. Fix yourself OP and read the books listed in the sidebar. You haven't even begun the RP process and we can tell because you thinking hooking up means anything at all. It doesn't! Newsflash: You can sleep with younger women! Now, so what? Besides fucking up your marriage, what will that get you? An STI maybe? That's about it. In the meantime, if you actually fix yourself and let your relationship straighten out as a result, do you think that will make you happier in the end? Probab…	/r/askMRP	20/08/19 10:06 PM
2	Spinning more plates than you can handle, at least for a bit, is an essential learning experience; it teaches you to empathize with promiscuous women rather than just theorizing about their lifestyles. Take your bullshit to the politics sub-reddit or whatever cesspool will have you. No one said that there aren't rules, but your attempt to impose your version of them on everyone else is pathetic.	/r/TheRedPill	19/08/19 08:04 PM
16	Spinning more plates than you can handle, at least for a bit, is an essential learning experience; it teaches you to empathize with promiscuous women rather than just theorizing about their lifestyles. If that's your focus, then head over to the marriedredpill and RPChristians subs. This isn't a great forum for that. Here, the facts of RP are considered to be amoral, like a sort of interpersonal science, and some practice it that way as well; as in "might makes right". You have to know that everyone faces consequences for their actions, but how this plays out for each person may or may not be a violation of their own personal ethics or religion. Understand that some of these guys are completel…	/r/TheRedPill	19/08/19 05:45 PM
3	Catching onitits for a side piece Found the troll!	/r/askMRP	17/08/19 05:48 PM
8	Who do you talk to? Jeezus, that is a LOT of caffeine to take in one shot, and you took twice that, right?! Just stop that. Drink some black coffee during the afternoon if want a boost. Keep the niacin and other crap if it really helps you, but extra stimulants are just silly IMO.	/r/askMRP	16/08/19 10:17 PM
1	The meek inherit nothing. And when in Rome, no? Sure, be meek in church. Be humble when you have something to learn. But the rest of the time? Maybe own the room when in your wheelhouse and know when that is. Otherwise, STFU, right?	/r/TheRedPill	12/08/19 08:49 AM
1	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination Nyah, I don't think so. G'bye. plonk	/r/TheRedPill	10/08/19 07:00 PM
1	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination You've done that several times already dude. You seem to think a bit of hand waving armchair philosopher bullshit represents a fully rational point of view. It doesn't; especially when 90% of what you're spewing doesn't even check out at the most basic levels in my own daily life. Now, a REAL ad-hominem attack would be to label you, just call you names, and say something like "if it quacks like a racist..", etc. and just let it go at that. I'm saying you're maintaining paranoid fantasies without…	/r/TheRedPill	09/08/19 06:30 PM
3	Need help setting a boundary At a knee-jerk level you're right, but OP is just reaping karma here from a history of weak frame and now hypocritical behavior. 'Next'ing in this case involves divorce, which is varying degrees of horrifyingly expensive especially since there seem to be children involved. It's better to follow MAP in a measured way a la Athol Kay to give both of them a chance to correct course.	/r/askMRP	09/08/19 06:02 PM
1	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination Dude, my point of view may have its flaws but you're completely shitting all over in here. Your little diatribe makes about as much sense as a radical Islam rant. About the only missing component to your toxic ravings is a component of violence; which I'm thankful is missing. Seriously, I recommend getting away from the computer and the vast online echo chamber of toxic content you must be steeping yourself in and just get some perspective. Maybe try some volunteering or something that actually …	/r/TheRedPill	09/08/19 05:27 PM
1	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination Wow dude. It's a wonder you even bother leaving the house with that much acrimony in you. That aside, under-education in women is a huge driver of poverty in the world. The so-called "shitholes" you mentioned exist because of that, and numerous other reasons, like corruption. Can you name ANY country that has come to primacy and stayed prosperous in the modern world while still depriving its women of education? Again, I leave out the UAE simply because of the oil + colonization factor. As you po…	/r/TheRedPill	08/08/19 07:52 PM
1	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination To clarify, the "foreign higher education" comment was about the UAE, not Britain. Obviously, this is a strength in the West and it's not something you'll find a wealth of in almost any country that restricts its women in the way you favor. As to your other points... well, let's put it this way: If you truly believe that Western men are truly the better breed in this modern world, then you could improve the level of your discourse to match. Most of what you've stated above is merely crude disres…	/r/TheRedPill	08/08/19 06:42 PM
1	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination I'd say he dodged a bullet there. Who needs a mate who's simply going to pit you against every knucklehead out there? There's plenty of those after all.	/r/TheRedPill	08/08/19 04:23 PM
2	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination Wow... it's no wonder this sub is quarantined. Just when a nice conversation happens someone has a misogynistic episode like this, akin to a seizure. You may as well be ranting in any forum about "pick your favored minority to hate" here with a final prediction of doom to top it off. Personally, I think we can do better. It should certainly be possible for the men of today, advanced as we may think we are. Anyway, you picked a nice paper, but it's ironic that you picked a paper by a man who serv…	/r/TheRedPill	08/08/19 04:19 PM
1	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination The so-called predication about "market correction" is always true. Humanity has always experienced peaks and valleys, but so what? RP ain't gonna fix that and hypergamy isn't the cause. Blame the invention of indoor plumbing and vaccinations if you want to get closer to the truth. Seriously, I swear too many folks in here are like "shrug... enjoy the fall of civilization!" as if that has any relevance to their actual life experience. It could be several hundred years yet before anything like th…	/r/TheRedPill	08/08/19 12:51 AM
1	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination In all fairness, this is probably only possible today because of the relatively prosperous conditions that allow us to extend life so far beyond where prehistoric and pre-industrial periods. If you're only going to live until somewhere between 23-40 years of age, then there's no time to waste and letting a woman choose from a parade of suitors would simply take too long. All of the RP concerns we have today are simply a good problem in the sense that we're not absolutely scrabbling at every turn…	/r/TheRedPill	07/08/19 08:57 PM
5	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination They need to exclude the weak men and only interact with the winners. This is true. But a smart woman would immediately leave the asshole who drunkenly chased a fast-food employee through a drive-through and at least be nice to the guy who refused to fight him. If you want the dumb girl, then go ahead and have dumb standards and pit yourself against the other dummies out there. Women get to choose what weak means too. We can and should use this to our advantage to select into the best relationsh…	/r/TheRedPill	06/08/19 10:08 PM
5	Men are inevitably trapped in a game of domination When I was in high school and working at a fast food place, I very clearly remember try to tell a customer in person that the drive through was closed. This was at 3 AM and he was yelling at the order console over and over and getting progressively more frustrated that it wasn't working. The dude had to be in his twenties, was drunk, large, and obviously a mean large drunk because he parked his car in the drive-through, got out, yelled something at me, then proceeded to run at me to beat the liv…	/r/TheRedPill	06/08/19 09:37 PM
26	What If The Difference Was 25 Lbs Just out of curiosity, what number was it for you?	/r/TheRedPill	05/08/19 12:02 AM
4	Red Pill sexual consent truths coming from Chinese dating show And thanks to Chinese birth policies and the practices that resulted from it, they get to say "thank you! may I have another?" as well. It may as well have been called "BluePillUnism".	/r/TheRedPill	28/07/19 03:51 PM
1	Don't be a hater This is extremely limiting. If one extends their point of view to include the concerns of the greater good, "right" and "wrong" take on a much expanded meaning that will imply some RP practices will be objectively wrong. Even without extending your point of view into a non-materialistic or spiritual realm, limiting "right" and "wrong" to purely what works is a path to madness. With that method in mind, I could justify murder, blackmail, embezzlement, etc. No public commons would be safe. No publ…	/r/TheRedPill	28/07/19 02:58 PM
1	Don't be a hater Nyah, it's not beta. A good frame means you have independence from other frames. I don't need to make someone feel like less just so I can get my ducks in a row. In general, it's good to take the red pill, stop seeking so much validation from others, and to get our shit together. Be the best alpha leader you can be in your context. But don't for one second think that makes anyone your bitch. That's simply delusional, and actually saying it aloud proves the lie, goes against the general laws of p…	/r/TheRedPill	26/07/19 07:40 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 23, 2019 👍	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/07/19 03:34 AM
1	I keep failing her subtle shit tests, take them too seriously I feel like validation is almost like a drug. It is, straight up. And your other posts? Too many words. Too much worrying. Go meditate already. Try a basic concentration / insight meditation where you start with a basic short period of concentrating on the breath, and then just watch / note your thoughts and sensations. Don't attach to any of them or daydream, just notice each one and let it go. Treat the thoughts coming out of your mind like you would your sense of touch or smell; you're not th…	/r/askMRP	24/07/19 05:38 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 23, 2019 Those were part of a package through Delta Vacations. I would have to look on Kayak or something to nail that down. We only did it as a special once in a lifetime event, so probably not doing that again soon.	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/07/19 01:15 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 23, 2019 We were just in the DR a while ago. It IS expensive, and your estimate on that is about right. Something we did a long time ago was to simply pick up a couple of timeshare deeds used on eBay, which we picked up for about $1K each at the time. They do have a yearly maintenance fee which varies according to the value / location of the property, but the maintenance is something like $700 - $1200 a year. What we do then normally is trade in our slot and get the points. Once you're in a timeshare net…	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/07/19 12:51 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 23, 2019 My armchair theory is that we fear failure. Men fear the shame that comes from failure, and the shame from anything else really, such as being made to feel inferior by others. On the negative side, we are shame driven. Women though, fear insecurity and being physically unsafe. These are our respective hamsters and this is the source of the much demonized AWALT that gets bandied around here. There is a side of this for men too (AMALT?) as men can resort to some pretty horrible violent behavior wh…	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/07/19 12:19 AM
2	Your woman's value add to your life? This is Pre-Marriage 101 type of stuff. If you're not married, you should definitely iron this out before you get married. You have to make sure that sex is just the icing on the cake for you both and of course, attraction is the fuel for that. Beyond that, you need a lot of ingredients for a successful marriage: trust/dependability, ability to manage finances (trust), alignment on children - whether to have, adopt, etc., alignment on faith, religion, etc. are CRITICAL. Without all of that, this…	/r/askMRP	21/07/19 10:40 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 16, 2019 Honestly, I need to stop drinking the way I have been. Every single time I get emotional and say stupid shit its because I was drinking. Yep. Alcohol is the enemy here, not her. I went through something similar. Check out William Porter's "Alcohol Explained" post-haste to reprogram yourself. He goes through the whole mental game you need to get through in order to not want another drink again. Even if you're still drinking, check it out. It's very well designed.	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/07/19 03:15 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 16, 2019 And you bench like a monster right? Hate you! ;)	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/07/19 02:51 AM
3	I want to begin Martial Arts, leaning towards BJJ - looking for advice. BJJ is awesome. Go for it! It will really help if you're already in shape too so you can focus on the learning aspects without fighting against the fitness issues all the time. Oh, and 'fit' for BJJ doesn't just mean strong. You'll want some endurance too, so if you've skipped all of that HIIT and aerobics because it's all "bullshit", then you'll want some of that too to prevent suffering. I'm just getting back into shape myself, but I hope to take up a martial art again in the future. I've done…	/r/askMRP	19/07/19 07:12 PM
5	Cheating, divorce and lost new girl. Need help. I've seen a lot of victim talk in the RP forums and books and every time Tomossi or others refer to the "evils of feminized society" or the like, I want to throw up. I was beta AF for many years because I simply chose that path. I was lazy, but I more or less understood the trade-offs up-front. I just don't understand guys who think going that way could ever be blamed on society, feminized or not. It's all very #firstworldproblems-ish victim-speak.	/r/askMRP	19/07/19 06:30 PM
3	Cheating, divorce and lost new girl. Need help. Isn't that pussy-speak for having justification for his actions? The very act of blaming society (river) for your faults is the fault. If you're trying to say that society now condones having affairs because men might suddenly get over emotional and start fucking anyone who will have you ... then, no. That's never been true.	/r/askMRP	19/07/19 05:56 PM
6	Cheating, divorce and lost new girl. Need help. OP is definitely responsible for this mess. But how is this the result of a feminized society?	/r/askMRP	19/07/19 04:42 PM
1	Don't know how long me (29) and my wife (34) will last - 5 years married & autistic son, feeling stuck, bored, and like we're not really friends anymore. Quitting addicted behavior to porn, booze, video games, or anything else requires one simple thing: replacement. You take the trigger for those things you want to replace, and just do something else instead. I've done it a couple times for different categories in my own life and it works wonders. You just have to be super mindful of that trigger moment for each, and do something better. Example: - Evening routine used to start after work with getting my big meal of the day, watch TV or do games,…	/r/askMRP	16/07/19 03:36 PM
2	Divorcing a narcissistic wife with refusal to work syndrome You have no kids, This is a VERY good point.	/r/askMRP	13/07/19 03:09 AM
3	Divorcing a narcissistic wife with refusal to work syndrome The other posters here seem to have decided that you're the problem here. Maybe you are. ? You have to judge that. However, I really recommend this book. It's referenced in the sidebar, but hidden a little. Personally, I consider it to be the virtual bible of this sub: https://www.amazon.com/Married-Man-Life-Primer-2011-ebook/dp/B004W0IRQ8 That book describes an entire process you can use to improve yourself and finally put your relationship on the right track. If you cannot fix it, it recommend…	/r/askMRP	13/07/19 12:31 AM
1	Knowing When To Take A Knee Good. Given your username and your opinion, I think you've proven my point anyway; especially given the lack of external ego validation you're claiming. And I don't give a fuck if you care that we happen to agree. Yay us...	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/07/19 06:42 PM
0	Knowing When To Take A Knee Well, that IS different to some extent, but I find it's the same game by another name. It's probably the best way to get to a point where you could be considered a world leader on something. Always competing against yourself turns out to be a very high bar indeed. As a silly example: Sure, your drive home tonight maybe was better than the last one. Now what would it take to make sure your next drive is always better than the last? Pretty soon, you're in advanced race driving lessons, working out…	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/07/19 06:16 PM
8	Knowing When To Take A Knee Actually, this focus on performance is something that mostly young men seem to experience. Older men who continually insist on competing all the time have serious ego issues and it's like they don't really know what's important in life, so they focus on always having one up on the next guy so they can feel like they have at least that much. If that's you, and it works for you, then I guess good for you. There are more meaningful ways to proceed though IMO.	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/07/19 04:53 PM
2	Knowing When To Take A Knee Yep. Alcohol is not a strength. It's a weakness.	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/07/19 04:50 PM
1	FR: Losing My Religion I understand that it's necessary to ignore norms / break the mold in order to play by different rules. I wholeheartedly agree. That said, sociopath is a negative word indeed because it does actually mean this: "a person with a personality disorder manifesting itself in extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior and a lack of conscience." This doesn't describe someone who's playing by different rules. It describes someone who is not playing by ANY rules because they lack any conscience. As you are…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/06/19 11:33 PM
1	FR: Losing My Religion Add social controls engineered to work on women and through women to their beta husbands and only the sociopaths break free. This is where the RP community has a blind spot I think. It' s not just that society is feminized as it works against the liberty of women just as much as men. Sure, women get greater latitude in accepting or rejecting men in socially acceptable ways, but women suffer big limitations in the trade-off. The main beneficiaries of this are those who would remain in power over …	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/06/19 08:47 PM
2	FR: Losing My Religion Absolutely. That experience of awe is also the root of all the wonder that drives science. But the idea that one person is going to be your main interpreter for that in the form of a prophet or savior is ludicrous. As far as I can tell, that only happens when people don't want to really have their own religious experience; when they've been cowed into ceding it to someone supposedly more worthy. This almost always comes about as a power move by someone trying to use that experience to build an o…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/06/19 05:54 PM
1	FR: Losing My Religion Substitute 'brain' for 'eyes' and you're spot on. I went through this from a different angle, but it was painful too. I went for the "gradually strangle it until it dies with a whimper" path, but same result. I feel like a closer knit community like the one you're in requires more of a "rip off the band-aid" approach, but that's just speculation on my part. All that in mind, there is no need to go fully hostile on LDS at this point. You can emphasize that "it's just not for you" and "you've been…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/06/19 05:50 PM
1	Building intimacy in marriage I just want to point out that the sidebar content I referenced is well and truly hidden under new reddit. It's no wonder it's causing confusion.	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/06/19 05:39 PM
1	Building intimacy in marriage Well, it might be worth the nuisance to just switch to old reddit if you still cannot see the sidebar. Regardless, if you just read the book I linked, I think you will find it to be a great help.	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/06/19 07:52 AM
5	Building intimacy in marriage Have you read this book? http://marriedmansexlife.com/books/primer/ Read this book. You will know what to do. It's on the sidebar. Did you read the sidebar? Read the sidebar. Bottom line in the meantime: You have to lead. You don't have to be a caveman about it, but definitely take the lead. Sometimes, just starting something is the hardest thing, so do that for you both, then do what comes naturally. Oh, and read the book. Really.	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/06/19 03:58 AM