vpsilon Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
164	Herb Goldberg: Guidelines for Understanding and Managing Relationships	Red Pill Theory	vpsilon	/r/TheRedPill	30/01/16 08:51 PM
63	Blue-Pill Relationships, Red-Pill Relationships, Mature Relationships, and No Relationships	Meta	vpsilon	/r/TheRedPill	22/04/15 10:25 AM
32	Feminism: A Revolt in Paradise	Meta	vpsilon	/r/TheRedPill	16/08/15 06:46 PM
5	Blue-Pill Relationships, Red-Pill Relationships, Mature Relationships, and No Relationships	Discussion	vpsilon	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/15 01:23 AM

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3	Herb Goldberg: Guidelines for Understanding and Managing Relationships Relationship binds (from The Inner Male): Unconscious messages of feminine defensiveness Talk to me---open yourself up because I want to be close: But don't expose anything that is weak or needy and threatens my sense of security. Share your feelings with me: But don't tell me anything that I don't want to hear, such as that you are angry or bored or want to be with someone else or that you disapprove of something. That would make me feel anxious and attacked. Be strong and dominant so I can fan…	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/16 09:37 PM
3	Herb Goldberg: Guidelines for Understanding and Managing Relationships Female binds (from The New Male): The Assertion-Submission Bind If she's assertive, she's a demanding shrew. If she's submissive and conflict-avoiding, she's a passive bore. The Intrusion-Neglect Bind If she tries to be an integral part of his activities, he feels intruded upon. If she keeps her distance, he feels neglected. The Career-Homemaker Bind If her primary energies go into her career, he sees her as neglectful, uncaring, rejecting and says she loves him less than her outside endeavors. …	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/16 09:36 PM
4	Herb Goldberg: Guidelines for Understanding and Managing Relationships Male binds (from The Hazards of Being Male): The Gender Bind If he is in touch with and expressive of his feminine component he may be subject to great feelings of anxiety and humiliation. If he successfully manages to repress, disown, and deny this critical part of himself he will have to live as an incomplete person, alienated from an important part of himself and consequently susceptible to emotional and interpersonal rigidity and numerous psychological and psychophysiological problems that r…	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/16 09:36 PM
6	Herb Goldberg: Guidelines for Understanding and Managing Relationships "A liberated woman can be known by how she relates, not on what her intellectual ideals or attitudes about relationships are. Toxic feminism is composed of liberated ideology combined with traditional process and the resulting irresolvable binds that they create. A healthy relationship in the face of these contradicting elements may be impossible." In the beginning of the book, Goldberg looks at how boys and girls are socialized into gender roles. The behaviors that are instilled by socializatio…	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/16 07:08 PM
26	Herb Goldberg: Guidelines for Understanding and Managing Relationships If you don't try to satisfy a woman's needs, you arouse her frustration and anger. If you do try to satisfy her needs, you may arouse her contempt or irritation because you will fail and she will see how hopeless things are. Therefore, it is better for her to fantasize what might be if you only tried (hope remains) than for you to try and inevitably fail. Here is a quote from another book, The Inner Male, which discusses this paradox in detail: I have frequently had men describe the following sc…	/r/TheRedPill	30/01/16 08:57 PM
36	Nerds can be Alpha too: FR after half a year down this rabbit hole Nerds lack emotional intelligence because they have categorized it as pointless -- at least seemed to have convinced themselves of that point. I disagree that they've learned to ignore the relevant emotions, it's more like they've convinced themselves that fitting in and being part of society is unimportant, and that the world is simply out to get them with their dumb social expectations. IMHO nerds on the whole have developed this giant victim complex. It's not us refusing to fit in with the gr…	/r/TheRedPill	29/12/15 12:24 PM
1	Blue-Pill Relationships, Red-Pill Relationships, Mature Relationships, and No Relationships I have already posted to /r/PurplePillDebate, but not much "debate" came out of it. It is not my intent to moralize, at least not wittingly. But I see that my text can definitely be read that way, and there may be something to it. I am probably biased, based on the experiences and insights that have shaped my own outlook. To give you an idea of where I am coming from personally, my sister is in a push-and-pull relationship with a dark triad person. It is a textbook case of manipulation, and her …	/r/TheRedPill	24/04/15 02:44 PM
9	Blue-Pill Relationships, Red-Pill Relationships, Mature Relationships, and No Relationships (Continued) No Relationships In The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle describes enlightenment, the end of all codependency, in straightforward terms. When the mind games come to an end, the couple will either separate in peace, or become even more deeply connected. In most cases, achieving lasting equanimity through meditation and body exercises is a long and arduous process, struggling against one's upbringing and the conditioning of society. The path is different for everybody, but a particularly st…	/r/TheRedPill	22/04/15 10:25 AM
13	Blue-Pill Relationships, Red-Pill Relationships, Mature Relationships, and No Relationships (Continued) Mature Relationships So what about relationships free of the shackles of codependency and manipulation? We'll get there after a discussion about inner bonding therapy. The news is optimistic, but not free of challenges. The existentialists posited that modern man was haunted by an inner sense of emptiness, a void, compelling him to search for momentary satisfaction in things outside himself: money, commodities, power, sex, relationships. They explained that none of these things, howe…	/r/TheRedPill	22/04/15 10:25 AM