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DATING ADVICEvvaternelon/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 11:04 PM
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GIRL I’m going through a very similar thing with my bf and his smoking cigarettes. He’s quit for a few years before, both of his best friends have quit recently, and he’s brought up wanting to quit on his own, so I’ve tried very hard to not say anything to him about it. Once I did joke with him about it but beyond that I’m minding my own business like you said. He’s got to come to it on his own, and when he does, all you can do is be there for him. People really like to downplay excessive weed u…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/22 07:18 PM
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Boosted HGH moreso generally comes from prolonged fasting periods in the realms of 48 hours. Unless you’re also only taking in a small amount of calories for your OMAD, you’re not boosting your HGH much, although you can get a small boost from ~24 hrs.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 04:56 PM
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I’m wondering if we should really be surprised. The men made it clear months ago this wasn’t really a space for women.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 04:54 PM
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What is this, a crossover episode? Calories do matter lol. So does what and when. So does exercise. Head on over to the intermittent fasting or fasting or ED subs, everyone knows this. Yes, the longer you go without eating, the more weight you lose. Yes, the less you eat, the more weight you lose. It’s all... very obvious? Not sure why you felt the need to write pages about it. Not eating/restriction leads to binging. Also obvious. They’ll tell you that in all three subs. Portion control, eating…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 04:53 PM
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Revealing of what? Just curious.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 04:47 PM
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I mean he asked you out to a restaurant, I’d say that’s a pretty good step! Was it implied to be a date or a friend hang out? You say after lockdown, what does that mean for where you are - like is there an actual end date or is that potentially months in the future? I’m assuming you were receptive since you like him, which is a good sign to him as well. It sounds like you have a good handle on your feminine energy and living in the moment, so what I would recommend is just... be interested, be …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 12:05 AM
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History has always devalued feminine/domestic work. That’s why people thing SAHM’s are “lazy” when that’s far from the case. But it’s because historically the work was always just done by women, rather than people hiring people to do it (although many wealthy people did just that). There’s a lot of work that does into care work or domestic work (something women excel at) but the feminist narrative tells women they are only empowered by being a lonely corporate “girl boss.” It’s really sad, since…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 07:50 PM
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The ED itself isn’t a red flag, but him refusing to do anything about it is. Why won’t he go see a doctor if this is clearly causing issues? Was sex this infrequent before you got married? If so, you knew what you were signing up for and I can understand why he would be frustrated since on his end, he’s the same. But if things changed recently or after you got married, there has to be a reason why. Is he depressed? Try and let go of your anger over the situation and make safe space for him aroun…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 07:45 PM
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What is this post even supposed to actually be about? It comes across really weird.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 06:43 PM
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Communication is a very big one. When you say communication doesn’t flow naturally, what does that mean? Do you clam up and not talk? Does he? The fact that you say he works with you on it is a good sign, but I’m a bit concerned that you feel you can’t express yourself to him. Everyone bullshits, but does he take your input into consideration? If he’s not listening to you at all when he’s convinced he’s right, that’s a red flag. If he is convinced he’s right but still hears you out, that’s maybe…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 04:22 PM
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He’s planning to put roots down and stay in my country, thankfully. Otherwise there would be no point in pursuing anything lol. And that’s fair. I’m bad at talking to more than one person at a time lol but I’m not putting all my eggs in this basket either.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 06:13 PM
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Right, which is why I was understanding about it, which he appreciated. We hadn’t built any foundation yet. And well, I’ve never dated a criminal before. I think it’s pretty fair to question if that is something I’m okay with lol. But I do like that he seems to have grown and gone legit to not have to worry about that stuff catching up to him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 06:10 PM
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That’s fair lol. I’m kind of the perspective that not every good/great relationship starts absolutely perfectly, so if he ends up proving that he’s what he says he is, great! But if not I want to protect myself, y’know? He took a job opportunity in my country, and since he’d worked here on a project before, he decided to take the job and see how it went. I think getting away from that stuff factored into his decision but wasn’t the entire reason, based on what he’s told me. And I don’t think tha…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 06:05 PM
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Yeah I have a history of putting others’ feelings before my own, and staying in relationships when I know they’re not right because I don’t want to hurt my partner, so I do really think she’s just looking out for me. Which is why I don’t want to totally discount her advice. Thank you for your perspective! It is worth thinking about for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 06:00 PM
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That’s what I’m hoping lol. That like what he does now is enough. He did seem to imply that was the case, and considers himself “out” so I think that’s good.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 05:58 PM
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Lol yeah people generally open up to me pretty quickly, but even I was kinda surprised he was that open about it!! Can’t hurt to continue seeing where this goes though. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 05:56 PM
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I get what you're saying - I've thought about a lot of those things too. And I also think there are reasonable explanations for many of your concerns, which is why I'm conflicted. He would not have been able to accept a job in my country if he had a criminal record like that, so I can know for sure he does not. I should also note that he confessed most of this about 6 hours into our first date lol, so we were talking about all sorts of deep things at that point, and getting into more personal qu…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 05:54 PM
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That gives me hope haha, that other people have done something similar and made out okay! And he got a job here, I don’t think he was running away so much as capitalizing on an opportunity. His country has a lot more violence than mine, so I don’t blame him lol.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 05:53 PM
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Exactly, the way he framed it was as like, he was a young kid in a tough world and he did what he had to do to survive and take care of his family. So I can respect that, even though I don’t necessarily love that it was drugs. It does really depend though! So I appreciate your perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 05:50 PM
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Right, and I want to allow for that in a man who otherwise seems to be a kind and competent man. People make mistakes and we all have a past, right? Thank you for sharing that perspective, that helps lol. And I certainly hope so!! :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 04:03 AM
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I think she's just protective, I'm her closest female friend. Plus she married a great guy and she wants me to find someone great as well. I tend to give people too much of the benefit of the doubt, so she's just looking out for me.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 04:00 AM
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I'm... conflicted. I think I need to get to know him better. It feels like it's too good to be true. Like I can't really tell if he's being honest or exaggerating/lying. But he says he's being honest and I have no evidence to say he's lying so I honestly don't know.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 04:00 AM
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Fair point. I'm not sure, but it's something I can ask. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 03:41 AM
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Good point! Thankfully this is one thing I can be sure of - he would not have been able to take a job in my country had he had anything like that on his record. So I know he doesn't have one at least. Which is definitely a big factor in me potentially being okay with this. And no that's not crazy, it makes sense to check those kinds of things to be sure.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 03:37 AM
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Yeah, I'd agree with that - I cut the second one shorter than the first for that reason. And yes!! Love-bombing is sort of what I'm worried about too. He's very complimentary, and has a lot of really nice things to say about me, which... does make me hesitate a bit too. I mean I'm confident enough in myself, but still. I think I'll cut the next date a bit shorter and see how that goes. He has a lot of energy so it can feel a bit overwhelming at times lol. And we'll see how he respects the bounda…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 03:34 AM
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Fair enough. Maybe I've been a bit afraid to ask... so far all the info I have has been either what he's brought up on his own, or what I've gleaned from his stories. But it's not small-time stuff. And that's a good point. I think I'm still trying to decide how I feel about it. I want to believe people can change and that he can be a good person despite doing what he felt he needed to do. But maybe I'll have to do some more introspection as I get to know him more. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 02:39 AM
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Thanks for sharing your story. I'm glad it worked out for you two!! Sounds like you've been through quite the life together. Your last paragraph, I'll have to keep that in mind :) real trust is built over time!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 02:31 AM
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I hadn’t thought about it like that but you’re right - it’s acceptance, not forgiveness. Thank you. And I agree about the shortness - we hadn’t met yet! I was very understanding at the time and he’s mentioned twice now how much he appreciated that, so I think that’s all good. I more put it in there because the only other perspective I have on the situation is hers. But yes. Slow and steady. I’ll need to get to know him more for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 02:22 AM
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Thank you. I like this advice. I’m going to keep a mental note of those things because you’re right - either he’ll be consistent or he won’t. It’s the lack of concrete things I have to verify that makes me feel unsure, and it sounds like that will help. He’s asked me for input on which areas of the city not to buy a house in, so I can follow up on that one easily. But it’ll take more time to really know. And lol I do really enjoy our conversations, just sometimes at the start of them I feel like…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 01:57 AM
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I agree - the fact that he brought it up was a good sign to me. And it wasn’t like in a braggy way, just a statement of fact. He did it for long enough that it’s a factor in quite a few of the stories he’s told me about his past, so if he were hiding that it would be weird. We were both upfront about our pasts and he’s accepted mine as well, so I am willing to accept it. I have no way to verify anything he’s saying so maybe I’m just finding it scary to trust that he’s really as good as he says h…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 01:43 AM
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Right. And what I guess I’m also unsure of is that like... I don’t know if he has any other secrets. I don’t 100% know if I can trust what he’s saying to me. He’s the only one of his family in my country so it’s not like I’d potentially meet any of them. But at the same time, he hasn’t given me any real reason to DIStrust him.... so idk what to do lol.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 11:54 PM
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In your entire first year of uni, you didn’t meet a single guy you were into? Either you didn’t meet enough guys, or you are looking for someone who doesn’t exist. I’m not sure which one it is, but do some thinking on what you’re looking for and why you’re not finding it. Start by putting yourself in situations where you can meet more people, like volunteering, joining a club/team/hobby, or online dating. Be clear about what you’re looking for. Most guys your age won’t be into settling down righ…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 10:51 PM
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