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Yeah, that's the problem - I'm defensive. It's not that you've had three opportunities to expound on your pet theory now, and every single time you've chosen to dump argument and evidence in favor of slinging personal insults. My guess? You aren't actually interested in discussion, educating your fellows, and furthering the aims of the men's rights movement. You just want a platform with which to demonstrate your personal superiority over everyone else. I'm done. Take your inane ego show somewhe…
/r/MensRights08/09/13 03:34 PM
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Oh dear god. Let me spell this out to you: I made a post. In that post, I supposed that the gender roles permeating Western society result in men gaining the skills necessary to succeed in IT and IT-related fields, and women failing to gain such skills. You responded. Based on your response, it appears that you subscribe to the premise that men and women are biologically hardwired in particular disciplines, and that this accounts for the disparity of success in IT. Great! You have in front of yo…
/r/MensRights31/08/13 05:13 AM
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If it was your intent to inform and educate on what is clearly a subject near and dear to your heart, then I am afraid that you have failed to do so. If your aim to be perceived as a condescending asshole however, then you have succeeded admirably. If we are quite done, I now need to let my daughter know that she can no longer learn to program - a stranger on the Internet has deemed her biologically incapable of doing so.
/r/MensRights26/08/13 12:21 AM
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Quite likely, but addressing that at 18 when kids are reaching college is just too late. I wholeheartedly agree. I did not want to wax too much on this particular element of the issue, but my sentiments line up with your own; namely, that the lack of women intensely interested in the fields of science and technology can be solved by raising more girls to hold an intense interest in science and technology. I would also add how reminiscent I find this situation of certain modern Feminists and thei…
/r/MensRights26/08/13 12:04 AM
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This is pure supposition in my part, but I suspect the issue to be the following: There are gender expectations that permeate Western society, and generally influence the behavior of young men and women. In the case of the former, this includes (but is not limited to) a predilection for independence, problem solving, and autodidactism. In IT and IT-related fields, these skills are highly necessary. Young women are as equally capable of learning them as young men; however, gender expectations res…
/r/MensRights25/08/13 12:17 AM
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Ah, a [thought-terminating cliché] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thought-terminating_cliche). (And an ad hominem too, to boot.)
/r/MensRights10/07/13 04:58 PM
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My two cents: Your ex-girlfriend has successfully falsely accused you of domestic violence behavior not once, but twice. Do everything in your power to protect yourself against getting accused a third time. So: If there's a no contact order, that means NO CONTACT. No doing favors, no trying to help out, win her favor, etc. I can understand if you worry as to how this will affect your daughter - but you need to understand that she will suffer more harm in the long run if you let her mother keep p…
/r/MensRights05/07/13 02:35 PM
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The school system, which is supposed to be there to serve all of the children placed in it... Thank you for encapsulating, in a single sentence, the root of the problem. I will definitely be taking this argument to heart.
/r/MensRights02/07/13 09:15 PM
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It seems to me that this sort of thinking is at odds with the idea that men and women are equally capable creatures.
/r/MensRights02/07/13 01:24 PM
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I suspect there is something of a misunderstanding here. I believe Revoran is referring specifically to laws in which the injury or death of an unborn child might constitute its own specific offense. For instance, there have been some cases in which the murder of a pregnant woman has resulted in a second murder charge, specifically for the death of her unborn child. Can such laws be reconciled with a pro-choice position? (Personally, I imagine that reconciliation may be achieved based on age of …
/r/MensRights27/06/13 03:52 PM
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I think cynwrig is talking about the college and / or prospective employer holding the belief that the OP committed rape; not the police.
/r/MensRights23/06/13 03:29 AM
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As I read the article, I was struck by the author's extraordinary eloquence. It saddens me that some would actually decry such use of the English language, and call for its restriction.
/r/MensRights13/06/13 06:13 PM
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Mathsplainin'! :)
/r/MensRights11/06/13 09:40 PM
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I mean there's no other option... CHECK YOUR PRIVILEGE, GENDERNORMATIVE CIS SCUM! etc.
/r/MensRights11/06/13 02:39 PM
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If women worked for lower wages, employers would overwhelmingly prefer hiring them over men. Every year, numerous US businesses shirk their legal obligation to employ only those legally permitted to work; despite the heavy penalties they may face as a result of doing so. And yet the very same business community cannot apparently find its way toward employing primarily women; as Patriarchy is, apparently, the one system they will not betray. And let's not even consider the businesses that have ze…
/r/MensRights10/06/13 09:38 PM
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It might be something of an oversimplification to state that Feminism was the invention of rich white men; but certainly, the owners of big business had everything to gain and very little to lose from embracing the movement of women into the workforce. Doubling the size of the available labor pool and driving down wages? Check. Increasing the market for higher education, paid training, etc.? Check. Increasing the market for vehicles, home labor appliances, etc.? Check. Meanwhile, the issues that…
/r/MensRights10/06/13 06:07 PM
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Clearly this is an example of benevolent sexism - the lack of healthcare for men clearly demonstrates a pervasive social belief that the male immune system is superior to its female equivalent. Patriarchy!
/r/MensRights09/06/13 05:08 PM
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As an aside, there's a thread on the front page in regard to men wearing skirts. It came up that Seattle is the home of, and apparently widely features, the infamous [Utilikilt] (http://www.utilikilts.com). That being the case, I can see how a woman looking for a more traditional, less egalitarian variety of dating might not mesh well with the men of a city like Seattle.
/r/MensRights08/06/13 11:18 PM
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But the term "beta".. we all know what it means. I suspect that this is the issue right here - that not everyone is in agreement as to the specific meaning of the term "Beta"; and some perceive the word to carry strongly pejorative connotations.
/r/MensRights08/06/13 05:38 AM
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Grapeban, I appreciate the fact that you come here to offer opposing (and consequently, often unpopular) viewpoints. It's a thankless task, and one that helps to keep /r/mensrights intellectually honest (or at least, as much so as is possible within a system such as reddit). In this particular instance however, I think we can both agree that there is a tremendous world of difference between research in which the conclusion is presupposed, and research that takes as assumption prior research whos…
/r/MensRights07/06/13 02:30 AM
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It really is not rocket science. Except, of course, in the field of rocket science. :)
/r/MensRights07/06/13 02:19 AM
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If it's not too much trouble, could you possibly provide a link to the rebuttal?
/r/MensRights07/06/13 02:17 AM
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Perhaps my understanding of this issue is oversimplified, but it seems to me that the sort of prior assumptions you describe, appropriate in a religious or philosophical setting, are completely inappropriate for what purports to be academic research.
/r/MensRights07/06/13 01:48 AM
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"Well mam, the guard towers stationed at each corner and the general barbed wire decor are giving me a real uneasy feeling."
/r/MensRights07/06/13 01:08 AM
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"I'm on fire! I'm on fire!" "I can help with that, sir! Stop, drop... and tell me, how does being on fire make you feel?"
/r/MensRights06/06/13 07:59 PM
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It might be more accurate to state that there are individuals specifically seeking to disrupt the discourse of /r/mensrights; not by arguing unpopular viewpoints (which is acceptable and indeed, even welcome), but rather by such insidious means as trolling, false-flagging, and the organization of downvote brigades. For whatever reason, this behavior seems to have become more prominent of late.
/r/MensRights06/06/13 07:54 PM
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Perhaps I misunderstand, but surely if there are significant, legitimate issues facing men (of which you yourself acknowledge three), then is this not reason enough to justify the existence of a movement directed toward addressing these issues? Certainly, the constant abrasion between the men's rights movement and the Feminist movement can be perceived as rather tiresome. I would however argue that the conflict is an understandable result of the incompatibility between the core theories of the t…
/r/MensRights06/06/13 03:47 PM
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"But the physical strength requirement is overstated!" Uh-huh.
/r/MensRights06/06/13 12:33 AM
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Oh, I wholeheartedly agree. The simple fact of the matter is that Sarkeesian has funds far in excess of her original goals; it is therefore wholly fair to expect her to meet, if not exceed, her own estimated deadlines. That the opposite appears to have occurred is deplorable. I may be of the opinion that a number of her choices are wholly understandable; but I also believe there is significant fault to be found in the majority of her actions. As I stated earlier; she strikes me as the perfect po…
/r/MensRights05/06/13 05:52 PM
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Truly. I recall once an English teacher that had attempted to raise her own son tabula rasa; much to her consternation, he abandoned his gender-free lifestyle circa age five. Personally, I believe it to be possible to raise a child with interests in both traditionally male and female pursuits; indeed, my daughter is living proof of this. (There are two containers of Lego pieces in her bedroom shooting out their evil Patriarchy Rays™ as I type.) Where Feminist-style thinking goes wrong, I fear, i…
/r/MensRights05/06/13 05:32 PM
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[This] (http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2013-05-07/news/ct-met-women-firefighters-0507-20130507_1_candidate-physical-ability-test-next-two-firefighter-classes-rejected-female-candidates) seems strangely relevant. Also, unfortunately, not the only example of this sort of thing; there are at least two police departments that have faced lawsuits in regard to the use of unisex physical standards.
/r/MensRights05/06/13 02:14 PM
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Here's what you do: take the condom to the bathroom. Fill it two thirds with water from the faucet, and twist the end closed; then give the thing a squeeze. If a jet of water comes flying out at any point, you know there was a hole in the condom. Once finished, upend the condom in the sink and re-run the faucet, thus washing away the majority if not entirety of the contents. Repeat as desired. Toss the condom in the trash when finished.
/r/MensRights05/06/13 02:10 PM
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I made this exact argument once in a conversation with an ardent Feminist. Her response was that the men dominating the upper reaches of corporate management - the same sort that show so little hesitation when it comes to mistreating employees, busting up unions, pursing overly risky ventures and even engaging in out and out illegal behavior, all in the pursuit of profit - consider a twenty-three percent slash in payroll at the cost of loosening their patriarchal grip as the one bridge that they…
/r/MensRights05/06/13 02:01 PM
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I agree that there is an inherent difference between the emotional impact of the death of a known acquaintance, versus the death of a hostile individual. Having said this, I suspect that were we to reverse the genders in the example as you suggest, and that the heroine's husband were to die, that this would carry less emotional weight than were a similar fate to befall a woman or child. I fear that this speaks to an attitude of male disposability that permeates Western society. Similarly, the sa…
/r/MensRights04/06/13 09:19 PM
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ಠ_ಠ I suspect that Sarkeesian maintains some fundamental misunderstandings regarding building blocks; namely, that they are format suitable for depicting such intangibles as relationships and feelings. I am also astounded to learn that the chief thrust of her criticism of the Lego Friends concept appears to be, on closer inspection, that she does not approve of the color choices. If this represents the typical level of insight Sarkeesian brings to gender issues, then I fear some 6,968 Kickstarte…
/r/MensRights04/06/13 09:03 PM
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Regarding your first point: to be fair to Sarkeesian, purchasing the games outright is an understandable decision. In this way, she has a library of material that can be called upon at a moment's notice; whether to confirm a point of research or for the purpose of recording a snippet of footage. Regarding your second point: the lack of references may be a result of the video format; perhaps the forthcoming ancillary study materials will contain a greater wealth of citations. Regarding your third…
/r/MensRights04/06/13 07:28 PM
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I am of the opinion that modern, third wave Feminism and men's rights movement are unfortunately incompatible. A core tenet of the former is Patriarchy Theory; not to over-simplify, but this particular belief could be construed as "The majority of the time, women have it worse than men". Although there is no similar unifying theory in the men's rights community, the general sentiment is that men and women are both equally advantaged and disadvantaged, albeit in different and complimentary ways (…
/r/MensRights03/06/13 04:18 PM
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Let's do a little math. Sarkeesian's initial Kickstarter goal was $6,000. She received $158,922. That's over twenty-six times the amount she asked for. I can think of no better counterexample to claims that Western women are second class citizens than this. Her kickstarter was to fund a five (later twelve) web video series. The Kickstarter ended funding on June 16th, 2012. On August 1st, 2012, she announced the purchase of over three hundred games and the official commencement of the research ph…
/r/MensRights03/06/13 03:08 PM
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Also, consider this: if the death of a single, female character resonates more strongly than the deaths of a million henchmen... what does that say about the relative levels of value that we, as a society, attach to gender?
/r/MensRights03/06/13 02:54 PM
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I just want to make sure I have this right: Lego maintains a variety of product lines. This year alone, they are rolling out licensed product lines (Star Wars, Marvel Super Heroes, DC Super Heroes, The Hobbit, Lord of the Rings, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, The Lone Ranger), product lines for younger builders (Duplo), product lines for advanced builders (Technic, Mindstorms), product lines for families (Games), product lines for collectors (Minifigures, Architecture), product lines featuring th…
/r/MensRights03/06/13 02:47 PM
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How could a man be considered on par with a woman, when he is dutybound to put himself in harm's way for his loved ones and his country, held responsible for the misdemeanors of his wife and family, and obligated to maintain an income? Don't get me wrong; I am not here to argue that the women of both yesteryear were not severely disadvantaged in many respects. However, this is also completely true of the men of that era; a point frequently disregarded because virtually all discussion on the subj…
/r/MensRights02/06/13 05:36 AM
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Ah; so essentially there is something of a resources issue occurring - the demand for space outstrips availability. This being the case, I can very much see how both the LGBT group has benefited from the dedicated use of a designated office, and how other groups might equally benefit if this space was made available to them.
/r/MensRights29/05/13 06:01 PM
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Still waiting for the that demonstrates through a mass of methodologically sound data that Patriarchy Is An Actual Thing.
/r/MensRights29/05/13 02:24 PM
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That would make for an interesting philosophical quandary - simultaneously claiming both the ability to judge the legitimacy of the self-identification of others, and also special treatment stemming from a position of powerlessness.
/r/MensRights29/05/13 12:54 PM
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Now, an important question is whether of the groups deserve a space or whether none of them do. Having a space designated for the group I've been part of has been massively beneficial for LGBT students in terms of organisation and campaigns, and I would certainly say that I think every liberation group should have one. If the Student Union's goal is to provide facilities in which members of the student body can meet, organize and campaign, would it not make sense for them to simply maintain a se…
/r/MensRights29/05/13 12:25 PM
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The rooms are reserved to individuals who "identify as women". If we are to take the wording at face value, it would appear that even men would be allowed into the room - providing they identify as women. "Hi, I'm Steve. But you can call me... Steve...ina. Yeah, Stevina. Nice couches you've got in here. Oh, hey, hope you don't mind but I invited a few of my mates; this is Chadina, Bradina, and Chuckina. Make yourselves at home, fellas."
/r/MensRights29/05/13 02:56 AM
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It's privilege all the way down...
/r/MensRights25/05/13 04:21 AM
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There is this mentality in some skeptical / scientific circles that truth is objective... I'm not sure what I find more astounding; that this commenter perceives skeptics and scientists as seekers of "Truth", or that they assert that a portion of these two fields indulge in post-modernist subjective relativism.
/r/MensRights25/05/13 04:16 AM
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Ah! So you are saying that StarsDie's depiction of Patriarchy is inaccurate in the sense that it is insufficiently far-reaching? I think I understand now. :)
/r/MensRights22/05/13 11:56 PM
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I'm a great believer in nuance, but in this particular instance I fail to see the difference between the two presented positions other than the latter suggesting that there is a systemic basis. "Historical oppression of women" sounds a lot like "Patriarchy... has always existed". "Women have it worse than men", similarly, seems very much the same as "Patriarchy... benefit(s) all men at the expense of all women." Am I misunderstanding your issue here?
/r/MensRights22/05/13 05:44 PM
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Hey, no need to thank me; not to get on my high horse here, but I'm just speaking the truth. We're talking about a problem that is easily diagnosed (as potentially straightforward as asking such questions as "Hey, can you read an analog clock?") and easily solved ("Here are some strategies for coping with and working around the issues you face"). Unfortunately, for reasons beyond my comprehension, all too often the professionals responsible for carrying out this simple mandate produce misdiagnos…
/r/MensRights20/05/13 05:59 PM
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One of the best pieces of wisdom I ever received is this: too many people focus on trying to be "Right", and be vindicated in their conflicts with others, than simply concern themselves with being happy. What is more important to you? Trying to prove yourself right in a conflict with a person who has created a tautological argument that you cannot escape? Or seeking your own happiness in future by leaving a relationship in which the other person, by their own admission, refuses to acknowledge th…
/r/MensRights19/05/13 05:50 PM
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Sounds good! I look forward to reading it.
/r/MensRights19/05/13 06:18 AM
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From one aflictee to another, you have both my sympathy and my shared outrage. I suspect it speaks volumes when an educational professional, medical professional or similar tasked with diagnosing such an issue select a comparatively loosely-defined disorder with a pharmaceutical solution over an easily tested disorder requiring behavioral assistance and similar.
/r/MensRights18/05/13 01:27 AM
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While we're discussing conspiracy theories... [a video I came across] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oUv5jZ379AI) while hopping around YouTube. The uploader claims representatives acting on behalf of JP Morgan Chase manipulated federal child support policy for the purpose of increasing the bank's cut. I don't know if there's veracity to this line of thinking; but it's certainly interesting stuff.
/r/MensRights18/05/13 12:28 AM
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I believe a number of Second Wave Feminists argued that traditional familial arrangements (e.g. marriage) should be done away with; and that children should be raised in a communal fashion. It appears that for the most part however, such notions have faded from the movement.
/r/MensRights17/05/13 11:26 PM
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I greatly look forward to students utilizing this policy in an unintended way. Perhaps a couple of brave souls might consider enrolling in Women and Gender Studies courses for the sole purpose of lodging complaints against the course leaders?
/r/MensRights17/05/13 10:00 PM
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I once pointed this out to a Feminist. I was fascinated to learn that the word "Minority" does not, in fact, refer to the numerically lesser of two groups; but rather, the one that holds the least amount of power (where "Power" is defined as "Member of upper management and / or the upper echelons the polity"). Thus, in America, women constitute a minority class; even though there are more women than men (which also makes them the largest voting demographic). Who would have thought that words cou…
/r/MensRights17/05/13 09:43 PM
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I hope you write that article; I for one would very much like to read it.
/r/MensRights17/05/13 02:03 PM
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Basically: feminism = egalitarianism + believing we live in a "patriarchy". This strikes me as the most concise definition of modern Feminism - egalitarianism, but from a starting point of Patriarchy Theory. As an aside, this particular definition strikes me as an excellent debating tool. If one can convince one's Feminist opponent to accept this definition (and why not? It's perfectly cromulent), then they can easily be placed on the defensive - their entire position rests on demonstrating the …
/r/MensRights09/05/13 06:07 PM
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At first reading, I thought your sentiment was quite valid - after all, both the Feminist movement and the men's rights movement are in favor of gender equality. (Where they differ, one surmises, is on whether the goal is to reach equality of opportunity or equality of outcome; and as to what measures are used to discern that equality has been reached.) On second reading, I noted that you used a very specific phrasing: "Someone who believes that women should be equal to men." The implicit assump…
/r/MensRights09/05/13 02:11 PM
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Thanks! I'll definitely have to dig into this some more; presuming the data bears out, this could make for an excellent example of the ways in which gender expectations result in measurable harm to men and benefit women.
/r/MensRights08/05/13 02:02 PM
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That's okay; nothing wrong with a late reply. :) Regarding your point; I hope you understand I'm not seeking to poke holes, but a couple of things occur to me that might prevent this particular example from meeting the criteria I laid out. One problem, as I understand it, is that Feminists have pushed for female members of the armed forces to elect to serve in combat roles; the keyword there being "Elect". Male members have no such option. (Indeed; it seems to me that the previous system was equ…
/r/MensRights08/05/13 02:00 PM
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"People are telling me that men cannot report rape without getting laughed at. They say this is misandry. It is the fault of women who hate men." That's a faux pas right there. Misandry is the hatred of men; not the hatred of men by women. "True feminism is about fighting inequality." Ah, the No True Scotsman fallacy rears its ugly head. If TheFrogman genuinely intends to pursue this line of reasoning, then he needs to explain (1) how he gets to define what is and isn't within the spirit of "Tru…
/r/MensRights08/05/13 12:21 PM
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As always, I'd like to point out that men get in less accidents per mile than women, but they drive much more. That's absolutely fascinating! Do you have any links on this? I'd love to be able to dispel gender-based driving myths with some good old-fashioned hard evidence.
/r/MensRights08/05/13 03:20 AM
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Precisely. Placing the victim's character on trial may strike us as repugnant; however, the defense is nonetheless obligated to pursue this line of inquiry if they believe it holds merit. (I would also add that we often see this exact same scenario play out in some rape cases; where the defense will make inquiries into the sexual proclivities and past of the accuser.) Personally, I suspect that our problem here is not so much one with the battered wife defense (or battered ex-girlfriend defense,…
/r/MensRights07/05/13 01:28 AM
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I agree. I will also add that while I am not aware of precisely what the information regarding RadFem was, it must have been something pretty special to convince the venue owners to actively decline business.
/r/MensRights06/05/13 10:44 PM
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As I understand it, a London-based men's rights group convinced the owners of the London Irish Center to reject use of the venue for the RadFem 2013 conference. They did so in part by staging a small protest, and in part by supplying the owners with some of RadFem's more inflammatory material. So strictly speaking, a men's rights group was responsible for the event losing its venue of choice. However, the actions of the group quite legal; and indeed, one might argue that they would not have even…
/r/MensRights06/05/13 05:03 AM
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I hope you won't mind if I respond to some your comments out of order, but I think it will make sense in the long run. And to more specifically address your question once more, men have so many benefits already, why the hell would feminists give a damn about getting you more benefits? They're focused on dismantling the system, not getting an eye for an eye. I think this is the real crux of the problem. It seems to me that there are two competing models of thought. One is Patriarchy Theory. We co…
/r/MensRights06/05/13 01:46 AM
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I have a few of her albums given to me as gifts... Is that like the Feminist equivalent of a Sicilian message?
/r/MensRights06/05/13 12:36 AM
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Absolutely. They may also be able to supply a written refusal of request if asked.
/r/MensRights05/05/13 03:38 PM
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If everyone should be equal, does it include transgenders? Yep. Especially me, being Female-to-Male. What are your views on me? You capitalize and punctuate appropriately, and your grammar is acceptable (although you seem predisposed toward incomplete sentences). So you're all good in my book. :) Does my biological gender separate me from the group here? Just curious. I don't think so. Perhaps its because the men's rights movement is (relatively speaking) still in its infancy, but there is no cl…
/r/MensRights05/05/13 02:55 AM
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Most of the issues that MRAs have with the current gender system in society are problems in the patriarchy itself, and so much of what MRAs want actually aligns with what feminists want. Here is my question to you: what actions have the Feminist movement engaged in that specifically benefit men? Could you possibly provide an example or two of legislation and / or policy changes, intended to provide recourse to some form of male issue and lobbied for by one or more Feminist organizations?
/r/MensRights05/05/13 02:36 AM
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I, and numerous other posters, are in agreement: you should leave this relationship post-haste. However, based on your description of your girlfriend's mental state, and the fact that she has already made one false allegation (albeit merely to her parents), I suggest that you prepare for the distinct possibility that she might retaliate to the end of your relationship with more serious and equally fraudulent allegations. This being the case, I would like to suggest the following items of practic…
/r/MensRights05/05/13 02:25 AM
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It is always possible that the police might act on the evidence in front of them and arrest the girlfriend; unfortunately, in the day and age of primary aggressor policies, it is just as likely that they might arrest the OP. It pains me to say this, but the least risky course of action is, incredibly, not to involve the police.
/r/MensRights05/05/13 01:47 AM
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Ah; but if they installed cameras in Daisuke Aoki's class, where would be the dramatic tension? But this fiction, of course; reality is a different (and rather more serious) matter. Cameras and changing rooms... that's a problem waiting to happen right there. There may be sensitive ways in which to handle the relevant issues however, as you suggest. Again, with modern technology, all variety of solutions are possible; for instance, certain recording devices could stream data to a locked black bo…
/r/MensRights05/05/13 01:33 AM
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Official in-class cameras sound like an excellent idea; especially given the ever decreasing costs of cameras themselves and their related technology. Of course, if you have a class like Daisuke Aoki's cameras would not be a good idea. Agreed!
/r/MensRights05/05/13 01:00 AM
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Alas, I could not tell you. My father did not learn latin; merely the parts that appealed to him. My mother by contrast did learn latin; but found the subject interminable. The only knowledge of the subject I inherited was not of the language itself, but rather a meta-analysis of its study: "Latin is a language As dead as dead can be; First it killed the Romans And now it's killing me!"
/r/MensRights05/05/13 12:58 AM
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I agree also. The university is quite warranted, once funding is involved, to argue against redundancy. Of course, this does still leave the matter of the dueling student newspapers unanswered. One supposes however that an argument could be made that the newspapers serve a greater purpose to the student body than an advocatory outfit specific to a subset of said body.
/r/MensRights05/05/13 12:53 AM
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Ah! Well that rather settles the matter then.
/r/MensRights05/05/13 12:49 AM
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I imagine it really comes down to a matter of resources. If there is little cost to the student union for granting the charter, then there is really no reason as to why a second Feminist society should not be allowed. As the author of the article points out, the student union has two student newspapers under its umbrella; so the redundancy argument does not appear to hold much weight. If, however, the there is measurable cost to the student union for granting the charter, then a second Feminist …
/r/MensRights04/05/13 06:32 PM
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I hear you. Bending the facts and appealing to emotion are powerful tools; but in the long run, evidence and reason win out. :)
/r/MensRights04/05/13 06:22 PM
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The most important thing in life is to always be yourself. Unless you can be rightsbot. Always be rightsbot.
/r/MensRights04/05/13 06:18 PM
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Precisely. It is extremely important that we hold ourselves to a higher standard of intellectual rigor; not because this gives the men's rights movement the upper moral high ground in relation to Feminism (although this is useful to us), but because the sustainability of the movement's achievements will rest on their credibility.
/r/MensRights04/05/13 04:23 AM
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Intellectual dishonesty only provides a short-term benefit; as is evidenced by the current clash between decades of questionable, Feminist-led research and the rapid proliferation of Internet-based fact checking. It behooves us to remain above this sort of behavior; and I for one am glad that we have the likes of Justicar to do so. I will also add that I appreciate how measured and thoughtful GWW's response to Justicar's criticisms was. It warms the cockles of the heart to see gender-based discu…
/r/MensRights04/05/13 02:09 AM
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Yours is not the first heart rightsbot has broken; and sadly, it will not be the last.
/r/MensRights04/05/13 02:07 AM
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I saw an interesting issue crop up on a left-wing political activism site. One commenter perceived capitulation on the part of the President, and noted as much by pejoratively describing him as "Having no balls". The commenter was immediately buried under a flurry of criticism from parties that found this comment offensive. The fascinating part is that they were offended because, to their their mind, the comment was racist. It was their contention that historically, castration was one of the man…
/r/MensRights04/05/13 01:32 AM
2

In her book [Self-Made Man] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-Made_Man_%28book%29), journalist Nora Vincent recounts her experiences disguising as a man for eighteen months. In one instance, she smart-mouthed a bar patron without thought, and I believe she ended up taking a slug to the jaw for her troubles. An illuminating illustration of the male experience, to say the least.
/r/MensRights04/05/13 01:09 AM
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Alas, rightsbot cannot love you back. rightsbot has a burning passion for one thing only: justice.
/r/MensRights04/05/13 12:41 AM
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Agreed. As useful as a camera would be for providing exculpatory evidence, the risk of the camera being discovered almost certainly outweighs the benefits.
/r/MensRights04/05/13 12:39 AM
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It's a superb phrase; one of my father's favorite mottos.
/r/MensRights04/05/13 12:35 AM
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The end of the article is referring to an earlier case of assault by penectomy; that of [Lorena Bobbitt] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_and_Lorena_Bobbitt).
/r/MensRights03/05/13 11:42 PM
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You're welcome! :)
/r/MensRights03/05/13 11:32 PM
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I agree. On the bright side, each effort undertaken to dismantle the barriers that face us in discussion eases the path of subsequent attempts.
/r/MensRights03/05/13 04:11 PM
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"Being a thief myself, I recognized the tracks of a thief." - Callimachus
/r/MensRights03/05/13 03:34 PM
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I hear you. I'm a proponent of reddit's minimalistic approach to commenting, but sometimes it can cause as much confusion as it solves. :)
/r/MensRights03/05/13 03:29 PM
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Absolutely. When seeking to explain men's issues to parties exterior to the gender debate, I find it useful to start with the position that both genders should be equal. This serves to both dispel Feminism's sole claim to the subject of gender issues, and defuse misunderstandings the audience may have in regard to the men's rights movement.
/r/MensRights03/05/13 02:57 PM
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Oh, I'm sure. I know I repeat the phrase ad nauseum, but it really does appear that we are now firmly entrenched in the "Then they fight you" phase of the struggle. This being the case, it should really come as no surprise that our opponents are utilizing a tactic that they are all to familiar with - namely, attempting to co-opt the impetus of the men's rights movement. Unfortunately for them, the movement is uniquely positioned to rebuff such advances. There will be no "Men's Rights+".
/r/MensRights02/05/13 07:58 PM
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You raise a valid point; if the father values his time with the child and sister over any financial ramifications, then a bargain might not be possible. I would also add that, given he already has outstanding child support orders, that the threat of another may not carry any weight at this point. Regarding your aside; apparently I am. :) I tend to rely on the bright blue formatting to distinguish topic posters; and of course, this formatting is not carried over to one's inbox.
/r/MensRights02/05/13 07:52 PM
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I can't speak to how much of Occupy Wall Street was driven by male activism; but I am of the understanding that the protest was organized in large part as a response to the reckless destabilization of the economy by Wall Street - and that the most devastating effects of this destabilization (i.e. job losses, industry depression) were suffered predominantly by men. Sidelining their needs (and by extension, the needs of the economy) in favor of those with arguably less pressing issues (such as soc…
/r/MensRights02/05/13 03:33 AM
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Alas, I doubt that the lion's share of the disintegration of the Occupy movement can be placed on the shoulders of SRS and the broader social justice community. If nothing else, protests are simply difficult to maintain over a long period of time. Having said this, I do recall reading about the progressive stack business from an MRA that was actually present at Occupy Wall Street at the time; and it made my blood boil. Highly reminiscent of NOW's efforts to redirect stimulus funding away from de…
/r/MensRights02/05/13 03:27 AM
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This particular argument - that Feminism battles on behalf of men also - seems to be popping up rather more frequently of late. I imagine the standard response to be quite straightforward: "Alright then. Cite one, single instance of legislation that seeks redress for men and was lobbied for by a Feminist organization."
/r/MensRights02/05/13 03:14 AM
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This is purely anecdotal, but I'm lead to understand that female judges are significantly less sympathetic toward women in court than male judges. As to why that is however, I could not say.
/r/MensRights02/05/13 03:02 AM
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If Brian Banks' signing with the Atlanta Falcons is any indication, there's hope.
/r/MensRights02/05/13 02:59 AM
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Oh no, I get that. What I'm saying is that the OP's sister could negotiate with the father, and trade his right to participate in the child's life (and by extension, the sister's life) for her ability to seek child support. This would still achieve her aim of excluding him, but in a way where at least he knows he has fathered her child.
/r/MensRights02/05/13 02:52 AM
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My favorite part from the reply: "To the person that wrote this: Assuming you're serious, get some help. Please." Truer words never spoken.
/r/MensRights02/05/13 12:00 AM
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I wouldn't recommend that course of action; if the OP's intolerance of alcohol is known to his sister, than there is a good chance that she will see through his sudden desire to go bar-hopping. What I would suggest is that the OP advises his sister to offer the father a deal: no name on the birth certificate, no child support order. It's an honest way for the sister to seek the resolution she desires.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 11:27 PM
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I have to admit, I have not listened to her podcast. If her various post-Elevatorgate presentations are any indications however, it would appear that I am not missing out at all. On a side note, I am so very glad to see that the significant remainder of the atheist / skeptic community seems to have rejected Watson et al, and their demands to include a social justice agenda. I was curious as to how the attempts of the latter to co-opt the former would play out; and heartened to see that a communi…
/r/MensRights01/05/13 01:51 PM
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"Thank goodness Feminism is here to educate men on the evil of generalizing about women - who only knows what would happen otherwise!"
/r/MensRights01/05/13 01:15 PM
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Skeptic. Believes in Patriarchy Theory. I don't think I'm ever going to get my head around that one.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 12:59 AM
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It does rather throw Earl's inability to secure funding for one, single shelter into stark relief. I'll also warrant that the 26% of unused shelter space exists for two reasons. Firstly, there is a prevalent notion that those in need of shelter generally require a gender-segregated space, for their comfort and protection. Secondly, that the number of men requiring shelter services is so inestimably small that the practice of gender segregation poses no measurable harm.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 11:20 PM
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No no; I am sincere when I say thank you. :)
/r/MensRights30/04/13 11:12 PM
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To play devil's advocate for a second: one might make the argument the two instances are not synonymous. Register-her.com deals primarily with individuals; whereas the SPLC's hate map, insofar as I can make out, seems to deal mostly with groups. Thoughts?
/r/MensRights30/04/13 06:21 PM
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I'm oversimplifying, but that's essentially 154 permanently empty shelters.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 06:07 PM
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10 There are no domestic violence shelters for men, as men do not suffer from domestic violence. 20 Men do not suffer domestic violence; as is apparent from the lack of domestic violence shelters for men. 30 GOTO 10
/r/MensRights30/04/13 06:05 PM
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I'm going to follow suit and offer my thanks to you for sharing your story. I would also like to add that it sounds as if you've emerged from this ordeal as a remarkably positive and well-adjusted individual, and this is to be applauded.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 05:45 PM
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Or [this] (http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1d0xvw/swedish_man_gets_his_face_destroyed_by_a_plate/) [guy] (http://i.imgur.com/B8wey9W.jpg) (be warned, it's graphic).
/r/MensRights29/04/13 05:49 PM
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In science, contradiction of the predicted outcome is generally considered, at the very least, as reason to question the validity of the prediction. By contrast, in an ideology, contradictions require rationalization (if they are addressed at all). Nina Burleigh's article appears to fall quite firmly into the latter camp.
/r/MensRights27/04/13 05:24 AM
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Just the good news alone will make it worth reading, I think. :)
/r/MensRights27/04/13 04:56 AM
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I just want to throw in my two cents and congratulate you for taking a negative situation, and turning it into a positive one. I for one will be looking forward to Wednesday with a little more optimism.
/r/MensRights27/04/13 04:47 AM
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I don't have much to add other than that this sounds like a great idea, and I look forward to seeing the launch of the blog.
/r/MensRights25/04/13 11:34 PM
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Thanks for the insight. I have to say though - and I realize that you are merely attempting to explain herbandmargie's position, so this isn't directed as a criticism toward you per se - but it seems to me that the success of gender roles, and the harm they do, are not necessarily mutually exclusive positions. Moving further along; I would agree that after decades of Feminism, the harm women suffer as a result of gender expectations has been significantly lessened. (I would also add that, in my …
/r/MensRights25/04/13 05:50 PM
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I'm not sure if it is that straightforward; but you are correct in pointing out that this is another example of the same tired chivalric trope rearing it's head; e.g. men that protect women from other men may then be rewarded with access to the women they protect. It is quite the insidious system.
/r/MensRights25/04/13 05:45 PM
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That is some very interesting information, and really helps to shine a light on legal protections regarding one's expectations of privacy in public. Thanks for sharing that!
/r/MensRights24/04/13 06:18 PM
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I prefer aquatic animal acquisition specialist, or "AAAS", for short.
/r/MensRights24/04/13 05:13 PM
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I'm not really in a position to research the matter at present, but it seems to me that it might not be quite that simple. How does the law normally handle situations in which a individual is photographed in public in a sexually suggestive way, without their permission and potentially awareness (e.g. "Upskirts")? One might draw a comparison between upskirt photography, and the example given above from the Geeks Are Sexy article. Of course, it might be that the former constitutes a legal issue no…
/r/MensRights24/04/13 03:36 PM
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I'm sorry; I'm not sure if I understanding your position. Would it be accurate to state that you deny the premise that, throughout history, human societies have placed expectations on men and women based solely on their gender?
/r/MensRights24/04/13 01:31 PM
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It's funny you should mention that, because it just so happens I've got a giant wooden horse to get rid of. On a totally unrelated note: how nice is your place?
/r/MensRights24/04/13 03:59 AM
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I was just talking to my wife about this, and she made a great comment. "You know, if two men were in an elevator together, they would always let a man get out of the elevator first. Conspiracy!"
/r/MensRights24/04/13 03:57 AM
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The propagation of our species is built in part on a system of gender roles that inflicts harm on both men and women, but in wholly different ways. Unfortunately, for decades now the discourse on gender role-related harm has been framed entirely in terms of the sort of harms women experience. All of this is a nice way of saying that there is no payback to be had, for there is no injury requiring reparations... Unless one subscribes to the idea that the men of history had a generally swell time.
/r/MensRights24/04/13 03:53 AM
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I would suggest using the moniker "Traditional gaming", as opposed to "Core gaming" - especially considering that, as gaming continues to infiltrate the mainstream, more of the market will be given over to the newer style of more casual gaming.
/r/MensRights24/04/13 03:29 AM
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"At DragonCon last year, I witnessed a guy take photos of a girl’s backside at a group photo shoot. So many people were so involved with their own stuff, they failed to notice. But I sat there and watched as several people looked on at this guy and they said nothing. I broke off from my shoot and stood in front of the guy taking the lewd photos and confronted him. He took off before I could get any information about him. The girl had no idea she was even being photographed." From the Geeks Are S…
/r/MensRights24/04/13 02:38 AM
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I could be mistaken, but it seems to me that many of the commenters here are taking the position that inappropriate physical contact, irrespective of the recipient's choice of dress, is still inappropriate; that inappropriate comments may be inappropriate, but this is difficult to judge and act upon given that the offense is often in the eye of the beholder; and that the act of looking is very much being discussed as a potential form of harassment that requires redress.
/r/MensRights24/04/13 02:35 AM
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In my experience, it is fairly well known throughout the cosplay community, and to a lesser extent the convention community, that both genders suffer a similar degree of cosplay-related inappropriate behavior. Now on the one hand, the article does make make mention of this. At the same time however, it does seem to focus primarily on female victims; and the quote above even ends with a statement on a male victim sympathizing with female victims. I don't think I would go so far as to describe the…
/r/MensRights24/04/13 02:26 AM
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It seems to me that part of the problem here is that both parties are talking past one another. You yourself raise an extremely salient point; namely, that there are standard rules of decorum in society, and donning a costume (revealing or otherwise) does not constitute a waiver of those rules. Unwanted touching and highly sexualized comments do not become any less inappropriate merely because the recipient is a cosplayer; on this, we can all agree. However, there appear to be two key areas in w…
/r/MensRights24/04/13 02:21 AM
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If RadFem feels they have been wronged, they are of course welcome to pursue a civil action for redress. Of course, this requires the investment of funds which, should it transpire that the complaint in unfounded, be non-recoverable. That they turned instead to the police - a form of redress that is essentially free - speaks tremendous volumes. That they did so in the face of long-standing complaints from the men's rights movement that women utilize the state as a form of strong-arm. That they d…
/r/MensRights24/04/13 01:02 AM
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I have to agree. I am of the understanding that the term "False accusation" has generally come to mean, in the mind of the public, "False criminal accusation". Expanding this particular definition for the purpose of demonizing the opposition strikes me as unwise; especially when contrasted against the general discontent espoused by the men's rights movement toward expansion of the definition of the term "Rape". By all means; if one's opponent engages in outright lying, call them out on it; the b…
/r/MensRights23/04/13 11:02 PM
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The argument could be made that Movember represents a growing effort to address a uniquely male problem. This growth may be the result of the efforts of the men's rights movement; or perhaps the popularity of the two represent a shift in societal attitudes towards men in general. Either way, it's a noteworthy even and one deserving of rumination.
/r/MensRights23/04/13 10:54 PM
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I agree that a retraction is not a cause for celebration, but it absolutely should be promoted. It is important that the men's rights movement maintains a sense of intellectual honesty. In that spirit, this should be a sobering moment in which the movement reflects on how rationale was overcome by a desire to see justice done. We should look at how to prevent such a situation from occurring in future; especially where harm may occur to others as a result. "This woman is under an onslaught of thr…
/r/MensRights23/04/13 08:52 PM
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This. So much this. If there's one line we should be able to point to that differentiates the men's rights movement from ideology, it's our concern for intellectual honesty.
/r/MensRights23/04/13 08:28 PM
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"Persuading" and "Enlightening" may work better.
/r/MensRights23/04/13 07:33 PM
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Precisely. In the interests of transparency, it would be beneficial to both sides for every email, every message, and every comment to be disclosed. Obviously this is a burden in terms of time and effort for the disclosing party; but one would think that being able to publicly name and shame those that engage in such antisocial behavior would be absolutely worth it, no? Of course, if it should transpire that the reported amount of material received has been inflated, well... I can see how that w…
/r/MensRights23/04/13 07:12 PM
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I believe Poe's Law applies.
/r/MensRights23/04/13 06:53 PM
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I know this is pretty minor in the grand scheme of things, but the obvious outlines on the shoes in the headline graphic is really, really beginning to bother me. Is there regular Photoshop artist on vacation or something?
/r/MensRights23/04/13 06:30 PM
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There was a fascinating story of a British teenager that managed to enlist despite being under the minimum age. This was discovered during deployment, and he was sent back to Britain. I believe he had been back all of two weeks before he received a white feather and, despite knowing full well what lay in store for him, he immediately re-enlisted.
/r/MensRights21/04/13 08:33 PM
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Eh, to each their own. As an aside, I withdraw my original complaint; on further inspection, Mischief went way, way off base and deserved everything they got and then some.
/r/MensRights20/04/13 11:56 PM
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You know what, I can understand that. I'd say the best way of achieving the aim isn't to go the overkill route though; I'd advise spamming each and every thread the opponent is involved in with quotes of their unconstructive arguments. "You said X. Now explain how X can be reconciled with the premise that you are here in good faith, or leave."
/r/MensRights20/04/13 11:43 PM
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I'm with Boss. Mischief asked to be shown how men are measurably falling behind. Here are some things you could have pointed out, and instantly answered Mischief's line of query: The reading level of boys is now two grades behind girls. 60% of college undergradutes are women. 66% of college degrees are earned by women. There's an even higher disparity in post-grad work. 95% of workplace fatalities are men. 80% of the homeless people are men. There are seven US government healthcare offices for w…
/r/MensRights20/04/13 11:27 PM
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Robotics, don't take this the wrong way, but one day I'm going to steal your brain so I can work out how you are so damn eloquent.
/r/MensRights20/04/13 11:14 PM
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Between this, the Jezebel article, and what happened at the University of Toronto, I think it's safe to say that we are well on our way to Phase Three.
/r/MensRights20/04/13 08:28 PM
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Strangely, Looking was never heard from again. In other news, efforts continue to ascertain the status and location of some 1,800 American troops unaccounted for following the end of hostilities in the Vietnam conflict.
/r/MensRights18/04/13 09:13 PM
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I would agree with that. I was acquainted with a retired police officer in the UK; a physically imposing yet friendly fellow that took his position as a figure in the community extremely seriously. It seems to me that the US really needs more of this mindset; and a mere increase in pay will not by itself bring this about.
/r/MensRights18/04/13 12:23 AM
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$50,000 only looks good because wages have fallen across the board in the US. Senator Elizabeth Warren brought up an interesting statistic recently: in 1963, the minimum wage was one dollar an hour. If the minimum wage had kept pace with inflation, it would now be twenty-two dollars an hour - just over $45,000 a year. So basically, we're paying cops the equivalent of a the minimum wage from four decades ago, and somehow expect to receive top-notch applicants that hold more interest in upholding …
/r/MensRights18/04/13 12:20 AM
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Given the low cost of recording equipment at present, I don't know why we wouldn't go in this direction - especially as, from the perspective of law enforcement, it allows officers to capture video evidence of crimes as they occur. Heck, we're already seeing this with the high prevalence of dashboard cameras; it's really just a matter of time.
/r/MensRights17/04/13 06:22 PM
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A good place to start would be their salary; the average is somewhere in the region of $50,000. Bring that up, and you'll get a higher quality of applicant for the job.
/r/MensRights17/04/13 06:21 PM
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If I recall correctly, at least in the US, you can only move forward with a bench trial if both the judge and prosecutor agree.
/r/MensRights17/04/13 06:17 PM
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Christ. See, that's what kills me; a student that finishes their work ahead of time or internalizes the material without a written record isn't a bad student; that's at best an advanced student and at worst, a student with a different (and clearly under-served) learning style. It was graded by neatness as well. That, for me, is a tremendous red flag. Now, I don't mean to suggest that presentation skills are not useful; but outside of a subject in which they play an integral part (graphic design,…
/r/MensRights17/04/13 05:10 PM
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I'm right there with you. For the last year of junior high, I had an English teacher that truly understood how to engage with and harness the excess energy of her male students. I walked out of that class with some of the highest test scores in the entire country because of that woman. I walked into my first high school English class to discover that the teacher was an avowed Feminist whose personal interest in evangelizing social justice issues outstripped her professional duty to educate on th…
/r/MensRights17/04/13 05:54 AM
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Speaking in terms of advantages and disadvantages is definitely the way to go; these are words that plainly convey our issues in a manner devoid of additional meaning.
/r/MensRights16/04/13 08:23 PM
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I'll toast to that. :)
/r/MensRights16/04/13 07:59 PM
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I don't think so. I think it might be more accurate to state that Dwyer and by extension CAFE are currently in stage of merely trying to bring attention to men's issues, and are shying away from the subject of the sort of legal form solving these issues might entail. I am personally in agreement with your position, namely that the need for legal redress must be acknowledged; but given the incredibly virulent response Dwyer and his organization have received so far, I can see why he might want to…
/r/MensRights16/04/13 06:40 PM
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It's a tautology: 10 We live in a patriarchy. 20 The patriarchy privileges some and oppresses others. 30 The privileged have a moral obligation to defer to the oppressed. 40 The oppressed feel we live in a patriarchy. 50 Go to 10.
/r/MensRights16/04/13 06:32 PM
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I can understand that; my wife and I are the same way. I believe this is because the two of you share a mutual desire to overcome and move past the problems that you both encounter, including disagreements that might arise within the relationship; a desire that alas, all too few people yearn.
/r/MensRights16/04/13 06:07 PM
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Seriously people; downvotes are for comments that are irrelevant to the topic of discussion, not comments you personally disagree with. There are a lot of good, informative exchanges - exchanges that we could all be learning pro-men's rights talking points from - that are getting hidden because there are so many people unwilling to allow anti-men's rights positions to be voiced.
/r/MensRights16/04/13 04:34 PM
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I believe Dwyer is attempting to define CAFE's efforts in terms that are less open to misconstruction; a goal that, in light of the reception in Toronto, seems wholly understandable.
/r/MensRights16/04/13 02:35 PM
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Now you say that, but you're in a subreddit dedicated to men's issues, and Hitler was a man. Logic'd!
/r/MensRights16/04/13 02:30 PM
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"“If you were a C student way back in the day, and you were a white male, you just kind of cruised into a good job. And now, you can't do that anymore,” Smith said." You know what I like? The idea that "Back in the day" (pre-Second Wave, maybe?) that grades were a major determining factor in one's occupation. My grandfather wasn't much of a student; must be why he just "Kind of cruised into a good job" as an expert carpenter. And putting this aside; at what point is it going to be acknowledged t…
/r/MensRights16/04/13 02:27 PM
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Pretty much this. Explaining sex and sexual attraction may be difficult, even impossible at such a young age; but children are quite capable of understanding love, commitment, and how this can apply just as well to persons of the same gender as different.
/r/MensRights16/04/13 04:32 AM
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Ladies and gentlemen; let us all repeat together: First they ignore you, Then they laugh at you, Then they fight you, Then you win. Why, I do believe we are officially entering phase three!
/r/MensRights16/04/13 03:33 AM
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You know, I hadn't noticed the age divide between the two camps... but that would do much to explain their differing positions. Good catch on a very thought-provoking point!
/r/MensRights16/04/13 02:59 AM
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I don't know; I heard from a reputable source that these women have trouble finding and maintaining relationships because everyone is afraid of how strong and opinionated they are...
/r/MensRights16/04/13 01:48 AM
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I will second the point on maintaining all receipts, purchasing a tracking application for your phone, and so forth. From the sounds of things, the daughter's mother is unstable; it is entirely possible that she may throw up false complaints of harassment, domestic violence and who only knows what else. Being able to demonstrate your activities and whereabouts at all times is most definitely a precaution worth taking.
/r/MensRights16/04/13 01:17 AM
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I like to think of it in terms of the old "Women can have it all!" debate. It feels as if not a month goes by without one side or the other trotting out fresh evidence to demonstrate, once again, that women can / cannot balance a successful career and satisfying home life. At times like these, I have to wonder: "What on earth makes these people think that men have it all?"
/r/MensRights16/04/13 12:54 AM
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Precisely my thinking. I repeat myself, but where I come from, "Opinionated" is not a term of endearment; it is a word used to describe individuals that feel compelled to contribute uninformed polemic at all turns. I also appreciate the way in which you turned the author's logic around; the absurd reduction of her argument is, indeed, that most women lack opinions. Nice catch!
/r/MensRights16/04/13 12:17 AM
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"The report targeted a specific group of women – those who are successful in the workplace. In fact, these women were not just afraid of being alone when they get older, they were also afraid of being destitute and living on the street as a “bag lady.”" How does one go from being "Successful in the workplace" to "Destitute and living on the street"? Assuming even a worst-case scenario (say, no retirement planning) these highly successful women should still have Social Security to fall back on. B…
/r/MensRights15/04/13 08:35 PM
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It does feel as if what we are seeing here is a shot in the civil war between sex-positive and sex-negative Feminism.
/r/MensRights15/04/13 06:07 PM
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"Given the fact that school is where most young people learn about sex and begin to form relationships, this could have a detrimental ripple effect on generations of young women. Christine Blower, NUT General Secretary, said: ‘If schools do not have the time and are not encouraged to invest in this area of the curriculum, then some pupils will be left to struggle with issues that can seem insurmountable and they will miss the chance to acquire vital life skills.’" In other news, boys' test score…
/r/MensRights15/04/13 04:20 PM
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Absolutely! This is why I shouldn't try to comment on the best of days, let alone on three hours of sleep. Thanks for the correction!
/r/MensRights15/04/13 04:17 PM
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The same thing happened to my wife and her brother. Their mother was a negligent, emotionally abusive drug addict with a penchant for unstable and frequently violent new boyfriends. Contact with their father was predicated on his ability to provide funds in excess of the standing child support order, and was eventually cut off completely. My wife and her brother were later cared for by their maternal grandmother; a woman with an equally emotionally and physically abusive disposition, by all the …
/r/MensRights15/04/13 03:57 PM
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There are a couple of issues going on here. For one, the dominant narrative in many societies is one in which violence in relationships is generally perpetrated solely by one party against the other, and that generally the perpetrator is male and the victim female. (It is my understanding that the much of the available data supports an entirely different conclusion; namely, that a significant proportion of violence is reciprocal (i.e. both parties are responsible for instigating the situation) a…
/r/MensRights15/04/13 01:06 PM
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For those that don't want to watch through the whole thing, smackdown begins at [10:55] (http://youtu.be/poH3TKooz10?t=10m55s).
/r/MensRights14/04/13 06:49 AM
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I've been thinking about this for a while, and this is what I've come up with: Firstly, it seems to me that experts in certain fields share common characteristics. For instance, they often have special titles, qualifications, and may utilize a vocabulary of technical jargon specific to their field. This is just as true of a plumber as it is a rocket scientist. Secondly, the value of given expertise can be determined by its predictive quality. For instance, the specialist knowledge a plumber carr…
/r/MensRights14/04/13 02:51 AM
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This post needs to be accompanied by a swelling orchestral choir.
/r/MensRights12/04/13 03:07 AM
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It would appear that the quote in question, although frequently attributed to Voltaire, actually originates with the controversial far-right figure Kevin Strom. (To be fair, even I was operating under the assumption that the quote came from Voltaire until the two of you prompted me to research its origins.) Strom's original maxim dates as far back as 1993; however, the following quote taken from a January 6th, 2011 article on the National Vanguard website probably does a better job of indicating…
/r/MensRights12/04/13 01:00 AM
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I often find that social justice types are willing to acknowledge that members of a supposed underclass can be prejudiced toward members of their opposing overclass; providing, of course, that particular social justice sacred cow terms (sexism, racism, homophobia, etc.) are not used. This being the case, I would advise those that find themselves in a similar conversation as to the one depicted in OP's image to inquire as to the above; e.g. "Can women be prejudiced towards men?" If the opponent a…
/r/MensRights11/04/13 09:27 PM
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Very interesting. I'll definitely have to check out GWW's video; I've been deficient of late, and need to get caught up. Thanks for the reminder!
/r/MensRights11/04/13 08:34 PM
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I wholeheartedly agree. I would even go so far as to state that given the incredibly conflict-avoidant way in which the OP's boss has handled matters, it is extremely likely that the boss' superior has no knowledge of the OP's situation.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 08:30 PM
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I'm glad! I hope some good comes of it.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 08:25 PM
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"Gerald, remember that one lass I was dating the other week?" "Why yes, Sebastian. 'Regina', wasn't it?" "Yes! Absolutely lovely. She has a wonderful personality, full of care and cheer; and a real go-getter attitude. Quite the catch, if you don't mind me saying so. In fact, I might even go so far as to describe her as perfection - a real keeper." 'Fantastic! So you two are an item?" "An item? Gosh, no! How silly. Now that I've dated her and really got a full plumb for the woman's virtues, I int…
/r/MensRights11/04/13 08:21 PM
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It's an interesting situation, to be sure. Male drivers are, I understand, are statistically more likely to be involved in accidents; thus they are charged higher premiums. The more risky one's occupation, the higher the cost of occupational insurance; the greater one's age, the higher the cost of life insurance. If one uses more healthcare services, however... Having said this, a quick question: do you happen to know if the demand for gender parity in premiums came about as a result of Affordab…
/r/MensRights11/04/13 07:19 PM
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Exactly my thinking. I'm not going to engage in a "No true Scotsman" appraisal of the modern Feminism; but it does appear to me that there are individuals within the movement that could potentially place Feminism on a more positive, less antagonistic course... providing that the movement as a whole can move past the entire Patriarchy Theory paradigm. Perhaps I am being overly hopeful, however.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 07:13 PM
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As I understand it - and perhaps I'm misreading the OP's comments - but it appears that he is actually still employed with the company in question. He has essentially been relieved of his position, but has not actually had his employment terminated; thus putting him in the unusual position of hiding in his place of employment for the purpose of appearing to be working, even while no longer reporting to anyone in the actual hierarchy. My contention is that the OP's boss can fire him (and as you n…
/r/MensRights11/04/13 06:41 PM
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I would agree that there is more to the matter than merely Patriarchy Theory; but Patriarchy Theory strikes me as the foundation the rest of the house of cards sits upon. Patriarchy Theory frames the lens that colors the perceptions of Feminism; take that away, and the disadvantages of men and advantages of women become much more readily apparent. Of course, one could make the argument that without Patriarchy Theory, what is modern Feminism? Hrm.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 06:26 PM
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"The vast majority of reviews are positive - ex-girlfriends, sisters, and friends helping other girls discover the guys they believe are keepers." Think about this for a second - the founding premise of this entire service is that there are women with the skills necessary to identify men that are "Keepers"; but lack the skills necessary to actually maintain a relationship with said men.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 05:18 PM
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Goddammit Robotics, I almost choked on my gum.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 05:07 PM
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Hmm. I was going to play devil's advocate for a second, and suggest that maybe this disparity could be a reflection of how driver's have significantly more control over accidental damage to their vehicle and the vehicles of others, than people have over health issues that affect them. (For instance, one has little choice in being born with a congenital heart defect.) On the other hand, this line of logic leads down the road of qualifying healthcare based on behavior. Persons indulging posing gre…
/r/MensRights11/04/13 04:44 PM
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It might be more accurate to state that radical Second Wave and Third Wave Feminism are built on top of Patriarchy Theory; and that Patriarchy Theory is completely incompatible with the gender egalitarian stance of the men's rights movements. Now you can be a Feminist, and not believe in Patriarchy Theory; but that really puts one at odds with the grand majority of Feminists that do believe. Indeed, one could even make the argument that Warren Farrel, Christine Hoff Sommers etc. are examples of …
/r/MensRights11/04/13 04:36 PM
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"Men are in power; and you claim that they can easily rectify the disparity in funding for gender-based cancer research. And yet they do not. In fact, on the a whole laundry list of issues that men as a gender face, the men in power choose not to act. So how does is this proof of the existence of Patriarchy, when the outcomes for the issues of both men and women are "Nothing gets done"?"
/r/MensRights11/04/13 04:25 PM
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Indeed. I have to wonder though if we might see this change in future years; especially given how rapidly information disseminates nowadays.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 04:18 PM
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I think that HR will take the matter seriously. For one thing, the OP is still employed with the company. It costs HR little effort to find him a position with his old team, current team, or new team. For another thing, it is very clear that the OP's boss has almost certainly failed to follow numerous HR procedures on disciplinary action and termination. This alone should alert HR that the company now has a liability issue; these procedures exist for a reason, after all. The only scenario I can …
/r/MensRights11/04/13 04:14 PM
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This is also a very good point; although I suggest not waiting too long to talk to HR - any sympathy on their part is liable to dissipate the longer you essentially earn a wage without oversight or direction.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 04:02 PM
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Exactly. The gender discrimination angle might be worth exploring in a legal suit, but for the purpose of HR, it runs the risk of triggering all manner of defensive behavior. The main thing to articulate here is that (1) the OP is still employed, and (2) the company's org chart has essentially been fucked up by the actions of his boss. From that perspective, I'm sure HR would much rather just try to fix the org chart that attempt to initiate termination proceedings against an employee with a pot…
/r/MensRights11/04/13 04:00 PM
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I'm just going to weigh in briefly with my new favorite fallacy: the appeal to ignorance ("Argumentum ad ignorantiam"). We have a pay gap. A large proportion of the pay gap can be attributed to certain factors; such as choice of occupation or career interruption. For the remaining proportion that cannot be accounted for, only one explanation remains: sexism. Now here's the rub: sexism isn't the only possible explanation. There are any number of explanations as to why the pay gap exists. There co…
/r/MensRights11/04/13 03:53 PM
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It might also be worth stressing that while the men's rights movement views both men and women to be advantaged and disadvantaged as a result of gender expectations, that the forms these advantages and disadvantages take are wildly different. For instance, there is a prevalent expectation in America that in the event of danger, men are to act as the protectors of women and children. On the one hand, this affords men a certain degree of decision-making capacity in such a situation, and takes away…
/r/MensRights11/04/13 02:56 PM
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My personal favorite is the way in which the word "Minority" has to be redefined to include elements of social and institutional power. God forbid anyone use the term in it's numeric sense and accidentally point out that there are more women than men.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 05:02 AM
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Your boss is responsible for your employment. If she wants to keep you as part of her team, that's okay; if she doesn't, then she has two forms of recourse - either to fire you, or arrange a transfer to another team. What she absolutely can't do is cut you loose. It is very likely that HR maintains records indicating she is your boss; partly for organizational purposes, and partly for budgetary reasons. I imagine it also likely that there are procedures in place to let HR know when boss / employ…
/r/MensRights11/04/13 04:57 AM
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The argument could be made that there is a gross disparity in the degree of concern society has for men, and for women; exemplified in the article itself by other subway users offering the author their seats. This being the case, the warm reception of a male equivalent to this article might well be justified, for it would be shining a light on this disparity (rather than embodying it).
/r/MensRights10/04/13 02:10 AM
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"My 30-something target glanced up at me. It was a brief glance, but it conveyed disappointment and complete disinterest."
/r/MensRights10/04/13 02:04 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree. Those that can afford to do so should seek legal representation; those that cannot should attempt to educate themselves as best as they can. (It's not right, and it's not fair, but sometimes you have to work with what life gives you.) I will also add that I have come across a number of instances in which both parties lack legal representation; in which case, the more prepared party can potentially hold a significant advantage. So; time to start looking up laws and precede…
/r/MensRights09/04/13 10:26 PM
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Precisely. By all means, the legal system should attempt to grade differing varieties of sexual misconduct. Perhaps there are lines to be drawn based on the method of coercion, or the duration of the event. For instance, sexual misconduct facilitated by violent means might be judged more harshly than sexual misconduct facilitated by non-violent means, and so forth. However, it is my opinion that utilizing the specific sexual acts performed as criteria for determining the severity of the crime to…
/r/MensRights09/04/13 10:21 PM
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If it is doable, no reason not to. However, space and financial limitations may not make this possible at the micro-scale. I suppose that once you get down to the micro-scale, there are certain factors that interfere in the degree of flexibility a single shelter can exercise in terms of accommodating both genders in an appropriately safe way. It's one thing to have three shelters, and thus be able to assign one as co-ed; it's another to have a single room with thirty beds. (Of course, it is enti…
/r/MensRights09/04/13 06:49 PM
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Another takeaway: prior to debating a contentious subject such as rape, be sure to first seek agreement with your opponent on the definition of the terms involved. e.g.: "Before we get going on this, can we agree on what 'rape' actually is? I'm describing it as any sexual act performed by one party on another without the consent of the latter as a result of coercion, incapacitation etc. Does this work for you?" Now you are in a position to bring up the subject of forced envelopment and how this …
/r/MensRights09/04/13 06:02 PM
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I would also suggest that you continue educating yourself on the particulars of relevant law and court procedure, so you that you may both better represent yourself and also more clearly articulate the failings of the opposing lawyer and the judge. The information may even be available online; in which case, all it costs you is the time to read and comprehend it.
/r/MensRights09/04/13 05:37 PM
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I realize that it's completely reprehensible to advocate violence, but I really want you to poke him in the eye repeatedly until he flips out. For science reasons.
/r/MensRights09/04/13 06:09 AM
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If you haven't already, compile a dossier on the legal misdeeds of your ex, her lawyer, and the judge. Make sure the information is clear, concise, and presentable. Seek out one or more allies in whichever entities are responsible for oversight of the opposing lawyer and the judge. Explain your situation, state your desired goal (sign-off on the settlement), and see if they can assist in twisting the metaphorical arms of the relevant parties. Best of luck, and godspeed.
/r/MensRights09/04/13 06:02 AM
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Say what you will about the guy, but that man knew how to wear a mustache.
/r/MensRights09/04/13 05:35 AM
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That is an absolutely fantastic article. It's always refreshing to see the consternation on the part of Second Wave, pre-radical Feminists at the direction Feminism has taken. (I will also add that I say this not out of schadenfreude, but with the hope that more rational voices might reclaim Feminism yet.)
/r/MensRights09/04/13 05:21 AM
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The American justice system considers prison rape to be a justified punishment. If only we had some kind of term to describe the socially-prevalent premise that the high preponderance of rape in the United States correctional system is tolerable and arguably even desirable as a form of deterrent. I could probably come up with something, but I would worry about the term being misappropriated and used to describe issues of a comparatively lesser nature.
/r/MensRights09/04/13 04:15 AM
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...I think I would be ok with loosing a few shelter spots to house women who are just getting out of an abusive relationship with a man in a women-only environment... [and] there should be similar opportunities for men getting out of an abusive relationship with women... Providing there are spots to spare, absolutely. If there are not spots to spare, then it seems to me that providing shelter for as many as possible should preside over the comfort of merely some. Of course, this sort of utilitar…
/r/MensRights09/04/13 02:52 AM
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Depends on the situation. For example, if you have three shelters in town, you could leave one co-ed, make one female and one male without sacrificing space. What if the number of homeless people in this hypothetical town are predominantly of one gender, however? It seems to me that you could potentially end up with the shelter for one gender turning away people, and the shelter for the other gender full of empty beds. The unfortunate truth of the matter is that the most efficient use of shelter…
/r/MensRights08/04/13 06:22 PM
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Indeed. I imagine this also explains efforts to make Feminism more inclusive of the male gender in general, including but not limited to the replacement of the term "Patriarchy" with non-gendered term "Kyriarchy", and dispersal of the "Patriarchy hurts men too" meme.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 05:21 PM
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At its most basic, Patriarchy Theory asserts that there is a particular system of gender roles that generally advantage men, and generally disadvantage if not outright oppress women. This system is prevalent throughout the world, and is signified by an overly high percentage of men in positions of power and leadership. The men's rights movement holds that self-same system of gender roles advantage and disadvantage men and women equally, but in radically different (and often complimentary) ways. …
/r/MensRights08/04/13 04:34 PM
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The problem here is not one of male circumcision, but rather, male infant circumcision. Men that grow up uncircumcised always have the option of becoming circumcised later in life; but men that grow up circumcised have no means by which to become uncircumcised.<sup>1</sup> For those that enjoy being circumcised; good for them. For those that do not care about being circumcised; good for them. For those that do not enjoy being circumcised... there is no recourse. <sup>1</sup> I am going to argue …
/r/MensRights08/04/13 02:52 PM
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Indeed. I didn't want to delve into the matter too deeply, but the tautological nature of Patriarchy Theory is most definitely a contributory factor to the opposition we are seeing.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 08:26 AM
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I'm not particularly well-versed in the operation of homeless shelters, but it seems to me that given the choice between x people being more comfortable versus y people gaining shelter, that y takes precedence. I would also like to note that these are homeless shelters that we are talking about; with the absolute greatest due respect, I really don't see the people in group x turning down what may well be their only possibility of shelter simply because they find proximity with the opposite gende…
/r/MensRights08/04/13 07:16 AM
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That's a simple question with a very complex answer, but I'll try to do my best to summarize. The Feminist movement has presented itself as the authority on gender issues for many, many years. At the same time, the Feminist movement has advocated the premise that these issues stem from Patriarchy; a system that men are generally responsible for creating and maintaining, and enjoy the fruits of. The men's rights movement presents itself as an opposing authority on gender issues, which threatens t…
/r/MensRights08/04/13 07:09 AM
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I do find it quite remarkable that the Feminist movement, for all the talk of equality, body integrity, etc. has done so little to pursue a legislative solution to an issue we can all agree on - namely, that chopping pieces off of infants for non-medical reasons is a bad idea. Such a goal would help strengthen opposition to the related issue of female genital mutilation; and it's not as if the movement has any qualms about tangling with religious and traditionalist sorts when it comes to this so…
/r/MensRights08/04/13 06:51 AM
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Indeed. I will also add that I have always found this particular line of reasoning interesting, both in that it betrays a certain professional victim complex on the part of the asserting party and also because it requires one to ignore the widespread prevalence of male infant circumcision in the numerous first world nations.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 06:44 AM
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It might be more appropriate to describe them as the most prominent of organizations lobbying on behalf of the Feminist movement. Regardless; NOW has succeeded in pushing a pro-female, anti-male agenda in a number of areas, and it behooves us to record and publicize their efforts.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 06:40 AM
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I don't think this sub should do something like that, however. They should concentrate on gathering examples of actual legal or societal opposition to the bettering of men's condition or the thoughts of prominent feminists, instead of articles and opinion pieces on sites like freefromthoughtblogs or jezebel. I wholeheartedly agree. The Feminist movement has for too long hidden behind the pernicious claim of fighting for equality for both genders, even while the the organized arm of the movement …
/r/MensRights08/04/13 06:35 AM
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Strangely enough, no. I have merely observed a correlation between fans of poorly-written, badly-produced, pseudo-female-empowerment television and sociopathy.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 04:55 AM
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I suggest we collate this information so that it might be presented as evidence of the incongruity between the Feminist movement's words and deeds. (I for one would find such a resource useful.)
/r/MensRights08/04/13 04:42 AM
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This is of course purely anecdotal, but the grand majority of Feminists I've observed and interacted with openly acknowledge male infant circumcision as an issue. Having said this: a prominent number of the very same group have argued that female genital mutilation is significantly worse than male infant circumcision; and that consequently, efforts to stamp out the former take precedence over efforts to stamp out the latter. (The perennial "Women have it worse" effect in action, so to speak.)
/r/MensRights08/04/13 03:08 AM
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Same here; I'd love to get a citation on this. NOW is already zero for two on opposing custody reform and redirected stimulus money as it is.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 03:03 AM
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"That's great... now show me a second article."
/r/MensRights08/04/13 01:52 AM
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"Me and my dongle" would make an excellent name for an introductory pamphlet on the subject of sexual harassment dos and don'ts in the IT sector... XD
/r/MensRights07/04/13 07:37 PM
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Definitely! And I agree with your assessment; little good can come of explicitly gendering crimes of a sexual nature.
/r/MensRights07/04/13 01:27 AM
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Can I get a quick picture of you two? Not a big deal; just something I can upload to Twitter...
/r/MensRights06/04/13 09:36 PM
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Indeed. For whatever reason, the girlfriend assumed consent where no such consent existed; as such, she performed a sexual act upon the OP that he did not agree to. The matter was further compounded by her lack of understanding in the matter. Is this rape, however? That's a tricky issue; largely in part because of the way in which the crime is so poorly qualified. Does the lack of coercion qualify a lesser charge, such as sexual assault? Who only knows. The important thing to focus on I think is…
/r/MensRights06/04/13 09:26 PM
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I believe the issue is not so much the actual act itself, which is quite understandable within the context of an ongoing sexual relationship. Rather, the problem is the way in which his girlfriend reacted to the issue. Instead of apologizing and making amends, she laughed at him; and even made a comment that could be construed as an implicit threat. These are not the actions of a respectful person; and relationships require respect. Of course, it's not too late for the girlfriend to empathize wi…
/r/MensRights06/04/13 08:55 PM
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Later on. She had told me she was just going to let me lay there and die. She said she had watched the blood pool out and went back to Charmed. Definitely far from the most important part of the story, but when I read this all I could think was "Fucking Charmed fans".
/r/MensRights06/04/13 08:16 PM
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You're welcome! Anyhow, I went away and refreshed my memory on this subject. The name of the documentary in question is, unsurprisingly, "Rape Culture". It was produced by Margaret Lazarus and Renner Wunderlich with [Cambridge Documentary Films] (http://www.cambridgedocumentaryfilms.org/filmsPages/rapeculture.html) in 1975, and re-released in an updated format in 1983. When I last researched this matter, I came away with the understanding that the film primarily centered around a group of inmate…
/r/MensRights04/04/13 01:11 PM
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The problem is that there is not one goal. Liberals usually go along the track of solving this problem by having more government intervention to enforce "equality" while conservatives do so by removing the government that feminists have used to place women over men. This is not an example of different goals; this is an example of attempting to achieve the same goal via different means. Furthermore, these means are not necessarily mutually exclusive. For instance, one might address the issue of c…
/r/MensRights03/04/13 06:59 PM
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I suspect one might rationalize the discontinuity between modern Feminism's post-modern theoretical underpinnings and the movement's embrace of identity politics as a result of the kyrarchial nature of society. Everything is relative; but when committing to actual political advocacy on behalf of the oppressed, pragmatism requires the classification and consolidation of otherwise disparate individuals. Of course, an entirely alternate possibility is that modern Feminism has adopted a post-moderni…
/r/MensRights03/04/13 03:02 PM
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The comment in question... was made in r/mensrights.
/r/MensRights03/04/13 06:17 AM
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When I was younger, I suffered from a bout of "Grumbling appendix" - a sort of faux-appendicitis (all of the pain, none of the explosion). My parents, bless their hearts, opted to take a wait-and-see approach to the matter; and it wasn't until the forth day of me crawling across my bed Exorcist-style that they thought it wise to call for a doctor. Similarly, I once developed a middle ear infection that resulted in significant pressure build up in my inner ear and consequently, tremendous pain. A…
/r/MensRights03/04/13 05:59 AM
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In the eyes of the post-modernist, however, I have to pick a side on everything. Shades of grey don't exist; only binary states. For a collective movement that overtly proclaims that it values the voices of the individual, it sure is opposed to any individuality. I never was quite able to work out how one could embrace the post-modernist "Everything is relative" dynamic and identity politics simultaneously.
/r/MensRights03/04/13 03:54 AM
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I am lead to understand that the term "Rape culture" originated with a documentary from the 1970s - I'm sure someone will be good enough to jump in with the name - investigating prison-based sexual assault. The documentary covered, in large part, how the authorities turned a blind eye to and even condoned sexual violence by and against prisoners. The term has since been appropriated by third wave Feminism to describe the greater attitudes of general society toward male on female rape; suffice to…
/r/MensRights02/04/13 05:55 PM
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A shibboleth is a signifier which, when performed correctly, identifies an individual as having membership within a particular group. For instance, British forces in Germany during the second Great War would use the password "Squirrel" on the assumption that German infiltrators would mispronounce the word "Sqvirrel". In this particular instance, Cathy Young appears to be asserting that certain issues relating to the subject of rape (e.g. holding female testimony in higher regard to male testimon…
/r/MensRights02/04/13 05:43 PM
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That might mean that male access to firearms does not play a significant part in the disparity between the genders in regard to successful suicide attempts. Alternately, it may be that worldwide numbers are skewed as a result of firearm access outside of the UK, Australia and their contemporaries. Interesting stuff.
/r/MensRights02/04/13 04:29 PM
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Even if the girl was nearly 16 and her boyfriend was a few months older... ...Compare and contrast with... ...The law is there to protect young girls from older men... Just so we are clear here: if a female is nearly sixteen, she's a young girl. If a male is just over sixteen, he's an older man. This looks like a textbook example of completely removing female agency, and shifting it onto male shoulders.
/r/MensRights02/04/13 03:00 PM
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I appreciate your correction, and agree with your premise that first / early second wave feminists might not subscribe to Patriarchy Theory and are therefore more likely to ally. It might be in our interest to reach out to such people; especially if they harbor their own concerns in regard to the current direction of the Feminist movement.
/r/MensRights02/04/13 05:22 AM
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I don't have any statistics to hand, but I believe that the majority of US firearms owners are male, and that some forty-ish percent of firearms-related deaths are suicides. One contributing factor here could be that American men have much greater access to a particularly successful means of suicide than their female counterparts. Of course, it is entirely possible that attempted and successful suicide rates for men and women carry over to nations with a high degree of gun control, such as Great…
/r/MensRights02/04/13 05:15 AM
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I'm afraid your analogy is flawed. "Womyn" is intended as a replacement for all uses of the preexisting word "Women". "MGTOW", on the other hand, is a label for a particular variety of personal philosophy adopted by only a small subset of men, and not all men. Additionally, the term is (at least to my understanding) not used as a label for practitioners of said philosophy; a more accurate word might be "MGTOWer". By way of example: "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus." "MGTOW are from Mars,…
/r/MensRights02/04/13 02:23 AM
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I'm praising them as heros while pieces of shit here would claim that it's a form of slavery. Perhaps I misunderstand, but appears that you are asserting that heroism and slavery are incompatible concepts. I believe this not to be the case; that one may be forced into a particular situation against one's will, and still respond to said situation heroically. As such, we can distinguish between, say, being forced into combat; and those that actually participate in said combat; and criticize one wi…
/r/MensRights02/04/13 01:46 AM
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"Those who don't know history are destined to repeat it." - Edmund Burke
/r/MensRights02/04/13 01:30 AM
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It seems to me that the chief barrier is Patriarchy Theory. It is my understanding that many Feminists are open to the idea that men also suffer under our current gender role regime; but for those that subscribe to Patriarchy Theory, male issues will be seen as secondary to female issues. As Patriarchy Theory forms such a fundamental underpinning of second, third and post-wave Feminism however, I'm not sure if it is possible to divorce the idea from the constituents of the movement at this point…
/r/MensRights02/04/13 01:22 AM
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I haven't studied the subject in much detail, so I don't feel that I can offer much in the way of an opinion on the matter. I would not be surprised to learn that the Greek account of the battle of Thermopylae was more than a little slanted, however. Thanks for the link to the Crash Course video! This seems a fantastic YouTube channel, and one I'll be sure to delve into more tomorrow.
/r/MensRights02/04/13 12:02 AM
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Options: Come back with shield. Come back on shield. Not listed: Hand shield to woman.
/r/MensRights01/04/13 03:42 PM
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Well, you see, men have on average approximately forty percent more seat-lifting strength than women, so...
/r/MensRights26/09/12 03:50 AM
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There appears to be bit of a storm brewing in regard to this particular issue. On the one hand, the US Code 38 5301 (a) specifically states that veteran status-related disability payments are not to be considered income and are exempt from taxation and similar. On the other hand, there have been numerous instances in which various states have decreed the money to be up for grabs in relation to divorce, child support, or bankruptcy. So one way or another, I'm sure we'll see a ruling on this parti…
/r/MensRights18/09/12 12:27 PM
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'Privilege' is nothing more than a postmodern representation of the premise that individuals should be considerate of one another. In this respect, it is not a particularly contentious idea; however, it is not a particularly useful one, either. 'Checking privilege', on the other hand, is a silencing tactic that fits rather appropriately into a morally relativistic worldview. Why let such minor matters as 'logic' and 'reason' creep into a discussion when we can enable (nay, even positively promot…
/r/MensRights15/09/12 08:36 PM
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There's a pretty good [timeline of events] (http://debacle.tumblr.com/post/3041940865/the-pratfall-of-penny-arcade-a-timeline). Anyhow, here's the gist of it: Penny Arcade made a [comic] (http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2010/8/11/) poking fun at a logical incongruity that commonly occurs in quota-based task systems of modern MMORPGs - a character has to rescue five slaves, ignoring a sixth slave. The latter then goes on to detail his awful fate, including the absurd premise that he is raped to…
/r/MensRights14/09/12 01:48 AM
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One has to wonder, considering they held the victim responsible for his own false arrest...
/r/MensRights13/09/12 04:14 AM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again - even the name is a shameless attempt at co-opting the skeptic / atheist movement. When three quarters or more of your published content primarily concerns itself with Feminist and social justice issues (and the remaining quarter consists of religious issues, as viewed through the lenses of Feminism and social justice) then surely the name "Feminism Plus" or "Social Justice Plus" would be more appropriate?
/r/MensRights13/09/12 02:22 AM
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I wish to heap further scorn upon what could be rightfully perceived as little more than anti-scientific pseudo-intellectual onanism; however, I cannot hope to surpass [the Sokal Affair] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sokal_affair) for sheer expository value. Suffice to say, I greatly look forward to the day when post-modernism is truly dead (and, one presumes, succeeded by Post-Modernism Plus).
/r/MensRights12/09/12 11:03 PM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again - a significant degree of the theory and lexicon in prevalent use in modern social justice and Feminist circles is descended from post-modern academia and is therefore completely indistinguishable from bullshit. A sort of written litmus test for Poe's Law, if you will. Also, I learned a new word: aglet! Thanks for that.
/r/MensRights12/09/12 07:53 PM
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I would suggest putting this on a placard, and trying to join the parade; bonus points if you can drum up one of those "This is what a Feminist looks like!" t-shirts.
/r/MensRights12/09/12 06:14 PM
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I know what you mean. I am always reminded of the premise that certain traditionally male traits - such as confidence, and assertiveness - are to be applauded, and somehow fostered in women. Similarly, certain traditionally male traits - such as competitiveness and aggressiveness - are to be spurned, and somehow removed from men. And yet these traits are alternate sides of the same coin. One might empower an individual with strength; one might even educate that individual on difference in judici…
/r/MensRights12/09/12 04:55 PM
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They might not be that different - insofar as am aware, Connery's (rather misunderstood) point was not that domestic violence is advocatable, but that it may understandably, if reprehensibly committed by one person toward another as a result of the sustained verbal abuse of the latter.
/r/MensRights12/09/12 04:07 PM
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I suspect that part of the problem is that study is generally an individual pursuit (if a student fails, it is the student that suffers) and business is a collective pursuit (if one person in a team, department or even entire organization fails, it may have potentially disastrous results for all involved). Consequently, the workplace can be more demanding, and confer a greater degree of accountability on participants; and this may be rather uncomfortable for those that are not used to carrying s…
/r/MensRights12/09/12 03:58 PM
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Alas, the practice of burning shoelaces never really took off.
/r/MensRights12/09/12 03:51 PM
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Well see, he's a man, and therefore has agency; however, the city and police department... uh...
/r/MensRights12/09/12 03:41 PM
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This is true; however, a common writing pen may also be injudiciously used to inflict a fatal wound. I state this purely to demonstrate that that there may be some sort of scale in place to determine the severity of an attack, and to whether or not is merely constitutes some form of assault rather than attempted murder; and that one of the deciding factors in choosing one classification over another might be the nature of the weapon used. I would also add that this is in no way, shape or form a …
/r/MensRights12/09/12 03:31 PM
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They do; and frequently in a way that is unnecessarily uncivil. However, I would stress an important difference - that Feminism is an ideology, and therefore potentially open for ridicule (although the level of constructiveness in such a pursuit is potentially rather low), whereas men are a gender, and ridicule of such is dangerously close to bigotry. (Of course, a sensible rebuttal to this point would be that the men's rights movement contains within its ranks a number of persons equally willin…
/r/MensRights12/09/12 03:29 PM
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I would stress that - at least in my humble opinion - we are currently in what might be thought of as the start of the knee of an exponential curve; which is to say, that change might not be readily apparent, but when it does come, it will happen in a relatively short period of time (on the measure of mere decades). In a more practically measurable way, I would point to two examples - this very sub-reddit for one; and for another, the large number of younger women (with which I am least anecdota…
/r/MensRights12/09/12 03:21 PM
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To play devil's advocate for a second: it may very well be that the majority of neurological differences can be attributed to the effects of upbringing and socialization versus some inherent biological factor; but this is neither here nor there. Assuming that these statistics hold true across the entirety of the population, you still potentially end up with one gender that is much more adept in the use of and strongly responds to emotion-based argument.
/r/MensRights12/09/12 03:16 PM
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I hope to god that Demonspawn was also in the military while this impromptu research was being undertaken, or this is going to get real weird real fast.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 09:15 PM
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"Ma'am, there's only one form of oppression with which I'm personally familiar; and that's the kind that sits on top of load-bearing walls."
/r/MensRights11/09/12 07:53 PM
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I'm not sure at what point, or even if, it is possible to bring about a change of mindset in the moderate and egalitarian Feminists. I personally suspect that if such a thing is to occur, that it will most likely happen toward the end of the Feminist movement (and very possibly signal the death bell). However, I say: let us not worry about the Feminists, but rather, the hearts and minds of ordinary folk that do not concern themselves with matters of gender on a daily basis. It is they that we sh…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 07:48 PM
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Ah, I'm with you. The point in regard to the medical and dental coverage still stands; unless you are particularly attached to it at present (and I wouldn't see why, considering the extravagant cost) then I would investigate cutting that as soon as possible. Similarly, start investigating and understanding the law; given your comments on how you have acquaintances earning more and paying less for three times as many children, you may well have a means at your disposal to appeal the extremely pun…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 07:04 PM
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"I would've helped them tear the posters down... with their faces!" This is your gift to the world. Use it wisely.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 06:49 PM
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["No, cake, cake! I meant cake!"] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNjcuZ-LiSY)
/r/MensRights11/09/12 06:48 PM
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You absolutely should seek help. But at the same time, I would advise you to also seek employment as a writer of action film one-liners.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 06:41 PM
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"I remember, back in the day, when you actually had to be victimized to be a victim. Not anymore, though - not with all your fancy, modern, self-appointed victims..."
/r/MensRights11/09/12 06:38 PM
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To paraphrase Arthur C. Clarke: "Any sufficiently advanced post-modernist theory is indistinguishable from meaningless nonsense."
/r/MensRights11/09/12 06:33 PM
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"GirlWritesWhat? More like 'GirlWritesWasps'." - David Futurelle
/r/MensRights11/09/12 06:19 PM
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Let's all say it together: "First they ignore you, Then they laugh at you, Then they fight you, Then you win."
/r/MensRights11/09/12 05:16 PM
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A sense of humor.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 05:06 PM
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I would spin the question slightly: what measurable benchmark indicates that the work of the Feminist movement is now complete? The only statistical measure I have seen offered is equal gender population of positions of leadership and power in the political and commercial realms. That is to say, when women represent half of all executive appointees, legislative representatives, managers, and so forth; then the work of Feminism is complete. Of course, this opens the door to apex fallacy, and it's…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 04:53 PM
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The bad news is: things are looking pretty awful. The good news is: you have a job, a roof over your head, and (some) disposable income left. Which means you've got some breathing room in which to start researching and planning a course of action. Is opting out of your medical and dental coverage a potential option? (Coverage is important; but it is currently costing you a third of your take home pay - is that something you wish to prioritize?) Consider seeking custody of your child - your paren…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 04:27 PM
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Please bear in mind that these are rather poor simplifications of the terms involved, but: Cisgender is "Person is gender X, and feels they are gender X." Transgender is "Person is gender X, but feels they are gender Y." Cissexual is "Person is gender X, and looks like gender X." Transsexual is "Person is gender X, and looks like gender Y." The two terms ('cisgender' and 'cissexual') get thrown around a lot by third wave Feminists; in no small part because some of their more notable second wave …
/r/MensRights11/09/12 04:01 PM
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Demonization is a difficult strategy to employ over time - it is a tactic that results in significant short term gains, but at the cost of creating a highly untenable long-term position. The more Feminists demonize men, the greater the risk they run of turning moderates away from their cause. (And indeed, I would suggest that this is both currently occurring in the greater macrocosm of American society, and also in the microcosm that is the recent skepticism / atheism / Atheism Plus splintering.…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 03:29 PM
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To play devil's advocate for a second: the article states that she attacked him with a box cutter; in which case, her act may more fall into the realm of some form of assault with weapon, rather than out and out attempted murder. Having said this - it is still a crime, she should still be charged, and it absolutely should have a negative effect on her side of the divorce proceedings.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 03:11 PM
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They must be put to death! (The mistake, I mean. Not the person that caught them.)
/r/MensRights11/09/12 03:04 PM
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-Reasonability high-five!-
/r/MensRights11/09/12 03:00 PM
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I think you will find little disagreement with the premise that a newly-minted divorcee and ex-homemaker should be given some help with readjusting to single life - after all, as part of their divorce, they have been simultaneously deprived of an income and most likely a home as well. And thought unfortunate, it does make a great deal of pragmatic sense for this stipend to come from the ex-homemaker's ex-partner - after all, chances are the latter now has an enormous chunk of suddenly disposable…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 02:41 PM
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Three reasons: Assuming that these works of Feminist scholarship have value: I may learn something worthwhile, and improve as a human being. Assuming that these works of Feminist scholarship do not have value: I may become more intimately familiar with Feminist rhetoric and by extension, formulate stronger counter-arguments of my own. ("Know thy enemy", so to speak.) Most importantly: with each passing moment that a list of select works of Feminist scholarship does not appear, it becomes more li…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 02:11 PM
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If one person in a marriage opts to become a homemaker and their decision backfires, then they are to blame. If two people in a marriage jointly opt for one to become a homemaker and the decision backfires for that person, then they still hold blame - for one thing, they agreed to the decision; for another, they either choose a poor spouse, or they themselves made for a poor spouse (or both). If one person in a marriage opts for the other person to become a homemaker and that decision backfires,…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 01:55 PM
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If one makes the argument: "A person that becomes a homemaker sacrifices their career opportunities; ergo, once divorced, they deserve financial restitution." Then the opposite is also true: "A person that becomes a breadwinner sacrifices their home life; ergo, once divorced, they deserve custody." It becomes quite clear, once inverted, how absurd this argument is. There are other reasons for providing alimony (for instance, ensuring that individuals in the process of divorce are not suddenly re…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 01:37 PM
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Thanks! Today seems to be an exciting exercise in producing different shades of incandescent green; with any luck, the worst will be over by tomorrow. Glad to hear! I think you are very much correct in this regard - I suspect this may represent some sort of midpoint between physical mob mentality, and intangible Internet Greater Dickwad Theory. One hopes that as with all things, this will change over time. I believe that a metaphor involving a martial arts-empowered hero versus a grand gang of u…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 01:19 PM
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The Blackstone Ratio is a principle articulated by 18th century English jurist William Blackstone; to wit: "Better that ten guilty persons escape than that one innocent suffer". The principle is a cornerstone of English and American jurisprudence, and strongly related to the premise of innocence prior to the proving of guilt.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 01:07 PM
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In the voice of Maury Povich.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 12:22 PM
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It appears (unless I misread your previous comment, or misunderstood some form of rather unique block quotation formatting) that you are asserting that we should stop concerning ourselves with fact-based reasoning - because Feminist arguments tend to ignore the facts, and succeed as a result; and they if we do the same, then we might potentially fight fire with fire. Would this be a fair assessment of your comment? If so, I will go on; if not, I apologize for the confusion.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 12:06 PM
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I would suggest bringing up the recent infant circumcision controversy (the German anti-circumcision ruling, the dust-up between the New York City Health Department and Rabbi Yitzchok Fischer, the American Academy of Pediatrics pro-circumcision advisory - take your pick). If your potential beau points out that infant circumcision is needless and barbaric, you have a winner. If she starts arguing that a circumcised penis is simply more aesthetically pleasing, I would recommend you look for an ope…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 02:23 AM
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Could you recommend some select works of Feminist scholarship that you feel might be worth a look? I would be interested to judge for myself what Feminist academia has to offer.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 02:12 AM
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"Not such a tough guy now, are you, Blackstone Ratio? Yeah... didn't think so."
/r/MensRights11/09/12 02:09 AM
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Very much this - Atheism Plus is a group of Feminists with a patriarchal god-hating complex, masquerading as atheists. Not enough 'Skep-', to much '-chick', as it were.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 01:58 AM
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What exactly do we mean by 'alimony'? It certainly seems rather reasonable to suggest that following the divorce of a breadwinner and homemaker, that the latter receive at least some sort of stipend on which to subsist until he or she is able to provide for his or herself. What, however, are the limits of such an arrangement? For instance: At what point does a alimony stop being a temporary continuance of maritally-derived income, intended to transition the two parties to separate lives, and ins…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 01:49 AM
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Unfortunately, I suspect you may well be correct in this regard. On the bright side - albeit, its a silver lining in a great, ugly, thundering storm cloud - if the Deluth model is any indication, the perpetual industry proponents are fast running out of acceptable ideas.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 12:41 AM
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I do enjoy how the version in the OP's link has undergone some minor tweaks, so that for instance "Making her think she's crazy" is now "Making her think she's mad". Crazy mad, or angry mad? Good edit, people. Also: "Making her feel guilty." Did your partner just spend a whole lot of shared income on a questionable purchase and needlessly overdraw the bank account? Better not mention that - if they agree with your assessment, and feel guilty, well that's violence! (Sexual violence, no less!)
/r/MensRights11/09/12 12:28 AM
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An argument can have both factual basis, and appeal to emotion - there is no need to choose between the two. That many of the arguments of Feminism actively eschew evidence and reason in favor of a heartstring serenade in no way informs that we should do likewise. Furthermore, let us be clear: the facts matter. If we don't attend to the facts - even amongst ourselves - then we are no better than Feminists, and equally doomed to a future of mindless self-reinforcement. We are better than that - a…
/r/MensRights11/09/12 12:23 AM
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Pardon my French, but: mon putain de dieu; c'est le modèle Deluth? I mean, I knew the Deluth model was, you know... terrible. But this? This is on a whole other level. Christ, I just want to show this to everyone I know now and say "This, this is what American domestic violence policy is based on! Look at it! LOOK AT IT!"
/r/MensRights11/09/12 12:05 AM
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I apologize if the following appears a little rambling and or incoherent; it transpires that my daughter has unknowingly served as the transmission vector for some form of weaponized rhinovirus, and I am having the damnedest time concentrating as a result. I greatly appreciate your in-depth response, and am sorry to hear that your experience of DefCon has proven so unamiable. One would think that the hacker / security community, of all people, would be relatively unassuming when it comes to a pe…
/r/MensRights10/09/12 11:57 PM
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I get what you are saying; I really do. To be absolutely fair however, you were not particularly clear in your first post as to what your the specifics of your complaint actually were; hence, you got labeled as a troll. If you want to positively influence the discussion, I would suggest backing things up and starting again with focus on the issue of the penalty card system. Also - I don't know if you're joking or if not (and if it's the latter than damn, you have my sympathy) - but online debate…
/r/MensRights10/09/12 11:11 PM
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There is no connection between Feminism and atheism per se; but there is a connection between Feminism and opposition to organized religion (as the latter is often a drag coefficient on social change) and opposition to organized religion and atheism (as the two are superficially similar). Basically, the localized insanity that is the Watson, Surely Amy and Skepchick; Myers and FreeThoughtBlogs; and now Atheism Plus (soon to be replaced by Atheism Plus Plus - twice the social justice, none of the…
/r/MensRights10/09/12 11:03 PM
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Ah, I didn't notice it until you pointed it out! Now I can't unsee!
/r/MensRights10/09/12 10:45 PM
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Damn, man - that's just... that's cold.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 09:22 PM
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"To expand a definition is to expend specificity." - waffebunny's law. Which is a nice way of saying that when all sexual misconduct is rape; all aggressive actions are violence; and all convictions of public lewdness require enrollment in a Sex Offender Registry; that these terms lose meaning and by extension, are no longer in any way useful.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 08:05 PM
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"She engaged in vicious emotional abuse, your honor - she would make me feel guilty, and bad about myself, and sometimes she would even make me afraid through use of various looks and gestures! I fear to think what might have happened if I had stayed longer - she might have escalated to use of humiliating names!"
/r/MensRights10/09/12 07:52 PM
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That's pretty interesting to know. Thanks!
/r/MensRights10/09/12 07:48 PM
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Argh, reddit! Why do you have to be so difficult?
/r/MensRights10/09/12 07:43 PM
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Weirdly, if my grandmother's first husband had survived the war, then she would never have remarried - and consequently, my mother and I would not have existed. Also, I'm totally using "World Lottery Two" from now on. That's brilliant.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 07:42 PM
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If it's not an imposition, could I possibly get your input as an actual female presenter, panelist and attendee at DefCon? There is a running premise of sorts here that when women participate in a primarily male-populated space, that the latter are quite accepting of the former - providing the former are willing and able to be held to the same standards as the latter. It is when this is no longer the case - that the male participants begin to perceive (rightly or wrongly) that their female peers…
/r/MensRights10/09/12 06:16 PM
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Alas, it is not. It is simply Yun Himonya, a Japanese linguistics professor that received his own show as a result of his work in the field of communication. The video is a skit in which he purposefully destroys the business card of the woman on the left, in a parable of sorts on the subject of anger.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 05:56 PM
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Perhaps more than most would suspect, although it is still a very strongly female-dominated field. Interesting, I know of at least one that adopted an initialed nom de plume, so as to disguise the his male status. I have to wonder if the inverse is true in regard to female authors and science fiction, although I can't think of any examples off the top of my head.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 05:51 PM
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"One small step for man; one giant leap for mankind." GEE THANKS NASA
/r/MensRights10/09/12 05:39 PM
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Battered Monarch Syndrome?
/r/MensRights10/09/12 05:30 PM
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It's visible, but a tad screwy. Having said this, I believe it is possible to jump to the non-mobile version by simply following the link and clicking on "Desktop". Maybe that could be added to the post text?
/r/MensRights10/09/12 04:55 PM
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That's just mind-boggling. I can completely understand, for instance, how one might go about suggesting LASIK surgery to one's partner, or supporting said partner in their desire to undergo the procedure; but to demand that of a person? That's just... lordy, there are no words. "If you really loved me, you would have your corneas shaved most of the way off with a microkeratome." There would be not inconsiderable cosmic justice in such people commiserating as to their status as divorcees. Unfortu…
/r/MensRights10/09/12 04:09 PM
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That's certainly one way to get it in the neck.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 03:55 PM
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Although I do not presently share your level of cynicism, I suspect that I may very well end up doing so - as my own daughter progresses through the American education system, so I find my view of that particular institution becoming increasing jaded. By way of example: I am currently assigning the task of writing two pages of text per day, as I do not believe the curriculum is sufficiently aggressive in this regard. I am also attempting to teach her critical thinking, reasoning, and debate skil…
/r/MensRights10/09/12 03:48 PM
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Well to be fair, Anne Bolyn and Catherine Howard made some very poor executive decisions.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 02:55 PM
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Hey amido, can I convince you to update the link with a non-mobile YouTube URL ([http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_lOs8I7q1M] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_lOs8I7q1M))?
/r/MensRights10/09/12 02:22 PM
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...Bird & Co founding partner Isabel Bird found that "the executive journey for women is fundamentally different than it is for men". This can be the result of women being less confident to push themselves forward; a stalled career as many are still expected, or want, to be the "primary care takers" of their children, leaving them maybe five years behind their male colleagues; or the desire to retire slightly younger than the guys who still want to hold on to major jobs well into their sixties. …
/r/MensRights10/09/12 01:43 PM
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I would love to know what the logic is behind that diagram. Threaten to leave her? That's physical violence. Smashing things and destroying her property? That's sexual violence. Making her feel guilty about the kids? That's physical violence. Making her feel guilty? That's sexual violence. Like, I want to buy the people that made this thing a picture dictionary.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 01:14 PM
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Well, it does seem like it takes a certain kind of chutzpah to view the other person in a relationship as akin to possibility-laden wet clay. I can how someone of that particular mindset might also have problems recognizing their own shortcomings.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 12:36 PM
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"I rang bell; man shaved beard."
/r/MensRights10/09/12 12:34 PM
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It's interesting that you mention Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. I believe the book had a term for the practice of women 'improving' their men - I believe it was the 'homecoming committee'? (Sorry if this is a bit vague; it's all from decade-old memory).
/r/MensRights10/09/12 12:32 PM
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The bartender brought up the subject of the OP's romantic history during a discussion on the wage gap. At best, this is derailing; at worst, it was intended to cause insult. Either way, she went completely outside of the bounds of the argument. How does her emotional status at the time excuse this?
/r/MensRights10/09/12 12:20 PM
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Let's all say it together: "Insults are the last refuge of the out-argued."
/r/MensRights10/09/12 12:06 PM
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You may wish to consider editing your comment, as it appears to currently (and I suspect unintentionally) suggest that you wish to gun down the moderators of /r/mensrights.
/r/MensRights09/09/12 10:02 PM
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Sounds good! I do agree that reform is going to take an enormous effort; but for the good of all of us, it has to be done. The current incarnation of the system is not only failing in its goal, but is serving to actively worsen the very society it is supposed to help. On the bright side, I think we will see the battle becoming easier over time - if nothing else, the generational shift is bringing about a far more attitude toward drug-related issues. It could be another two decades or more before…
/r/MensRights09/09/12 06:37 PM
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That's a fantastic analogy. I would also add that in my experience, Feminists are indeed willing to admit to a lack of unity in their movement; however, this only usually occurs as a last resort, when defense of a particularly unpalatable subset of the movement is no longer possible. "Feminism isn't a hate movement." "Then how do you explain the calls for gender-based genocide at RadFemHub?" "Feminism isn't a monolith." So, you know - it's a unified movement when it's convenient (i.e. when the m…
/r/MensRights09/09/12 05:30 PM
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Addendum: "A Doubleplusgood", if you will.
/r/MensRights09/09/12 05:03 PM
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I eagerly await the inevitable announcement of Atheism Plus Plus.
/r/MensRights09/09/12 05:02 PM
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Very much this. The name says it all - it's not "Feminist Atheism", it's not "Social Justice Atheism", it's "Atheism Plus [Feminism and Social Justice by unstated inference]". They would very much like to give the impression that they are atheists first and social justiciars second, despite the fact that the significant majority of material published thus far by the group seems to be on the subject of the latter and only tangentially associated with the former.
/r/MensRights09/09/12 04:58 PM
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<3 integralmath. I highly recommend anyone that wants a fuller overview of this entire business - from the start of Elevatorgate, through the denouncement of Richard Dawkins and the Thunderf00t / PZ Myers dust-up, to the splintering of the Atheism Plus movement and GWW's involvement via the DMCA attack - to just set integralmath's channel running in the background a couple of hours. The guy does a fantastic job of taking on pretty much everyone that he perceives as crossing the lines on truth, l…
/r/MensRights09/09/12 04:33 PM
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I'm not sure how all the dots connect together, but I suspect it starts with God being depicted as male and ends with the apex fallacy.
/r/MensRights09/09/12 04:23 AM
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[YEAAAAAAHHH!] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-anMDapRbs8)
/r/MensRights09/09/12 04:08 AM
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That would be [right here] (http://meddlingrationalarchivist.wordpress.com/rape-culture/). Thanks! Any chance we could get that into /r/MensRightsLinks, if it isn't already? Regarding my comment on the nature of victimhood Feminism; alas, I cannot take credit for the premise. There was a fantastic post on the subject a while back; unfortunately, as was much the case with the material on the documentary Rape Culture, I can't seem to be able to work reddit's search function and find it. As for the…
/r/MensRights09/09/12 04:01 AM
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This was my understanding also. I, and I'm sure numerous others, would be highly grateful if a third party more knowledgeable of such things could put together a packet of information on the documentary that coined the phrase 'rape culture'; up to and including a complete transcript, if possible. That would be very helpful. But yes; it appears that a substantial plank in the platform of victimhood Feminism is the idea that in all places, and at all times, women have it worse. Issues of this natu…
/r/MensRights08/09/12 07:37 PM
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This is rape culture. This is victim blaming. This is a place where sexual violence is a fact of life. And yet I can think of half a dozen members of the online third wave Feminist vanguard that are absolutely, unshakably convinced that rape culture is something that happens outside of prison walls and primarily to women.
/r/MensRights08/09/12 05:21 PM
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Though these people claim to love reason, no amount of reason will ever get them to admit that they’re wrong. So to them, all I have to say is have fun as you circle jerk into oblivion. This to me is the clearest indicator that Watson and her brigade of A+ cohorts are third wave Feminist anti-religionists masquerading as skeptics. No movement is completely immune to dogmatism, but if any one movement is perhaps best equipped to deal with the problem and avoid self-reinforcing behavior, it is the…
/r/MensRights08/09/12 04:58 PM
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Try as I might, I just can't see "Hitler: An Underdog Story" sweeping the Oscars.
/r/MensRights07/09/12 09:49 PM
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That should absolutely be a real thing, and we should sell them!
/r/MensRights07/09/12 06:02 PM
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Well, see, it works like this: for over one hundred thousand years, men have been inferior; defective X chromosome recipients, if you will. However, they were able to cruelly build an entire social hierarchy, with themselves positioned at the top and everyone else at the bottom, because they have forty percent more upper body strength. But now we've replaced our entire way of life with office work, so it's okay! Also; I think I may have just activated Poe's Law.
/r/MensRights07/09/12 05:43 PM
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There has been some interesting research into the different ways in which people interpret morality. One model posits five axes upon which the morality of a given item can be judged: Whether or not the item brings about harm; Whether or not the item is reciprocal and fair; Whether or not the item is pure; Whether or not the item is associated with authority and tradition; Whether or not the item engenders in-group loyalty. Persons of a leftist, progressive, and / or rationalist bent tend to high…
/r/MensRights07/09/12 03:49 PM
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It is particularly telling that that out of the two procedures - one of lesser invasiveness, and performed under local anesthetic; the other of greater invasiveness, and performed under general anesthetic - that it is the latter that is covered. If one were aiming to reduce health care costs, irrespective of gender, then would it not make sense to cover (and therefore promote) the comparatively less complicated and risk-prone procedure?
/r/MensRights07/09/12 12:05 AM
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First item: it came to my attention that your response received numerous downvotes; which I found unfortunate, considering the time, effort and thought you clearly devoted to the matter, and the non-inflammatory manner in which you spoke on a contentious subject. To that end, I give you an upvote. If only all redditors could be so equally considered. Second item: I don't have a tremendous amount to offer by way of response. I will briefly add the following: that I apologize for assuming that you…
/r/MensRights06/09/12 11:23 PM
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It did cross my mind to add snarky commentary to Niederman's remarks; however, there is nothing I can add that is more damning than the man's own words. Rabbi Yitzchok Fischer has hospitalized two infants and killed another with what is literally the kiss of death; yet heaven forbid parents should be warned about this sort of thing, less it be considered an insult to their unscientific and ill-founded beliefs on the subject.
/r/MensRights06/09/12 11:17 PM
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All I'm saying is, there's no way to prove that rightsbot isn't a time-traveling robot sent back into the past to prevent incidents of false flag trolling before they happen.
/r/MensRights06/09/12 11:10 PM
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The procedure in question is called metzitzah b’pe. It is used by particularly othodox mohalim as a means of removing the blood from the circumcision wound. The act is usually performed using a sterile pipette; more traditional mohalim may use their mouth directly. In the case of New York Rabbi Yitzchok Fischer, this resulted in the infection of three infant boys with HSV-1, of which one consequently died. Rather understandably, the New York City Health Department has taken steps to prevent the …
/r/MensRights06/09/12 06:59 PM
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Identity politics are not a defining characteristic of leftist politics, but rather, American leftist politics. And although deplorable, one can completely understand how this situation arose given the nation's turbulent civil rights history.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 09:56 PM
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I have no response to this. You win this round, PederDag - your prize; my upvote. Use it well.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 12:51 PM
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As another, far more eloquent redditor posted here not too long ago: "Insults are the last refuge of the out-argued."
/r/MensRights05/09/12 05:26 AM
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I'm not sure, but I think you might be trying to reply to someone else. That, or you really hate bear puns.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 01:26 AM
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Either the transcriptionist for this interview needs to be shot for doing such a hatchet job, or given a raise for such a heroic attempt at making sense of Julia Newton-Howes nonsensical utterings. You know Geraldine, that's a really good point when you say there's been a lot of initiatives already clearly there have, but most of Australia's aid as aid from other countries is negotiated with governments, so when the Australian government agrees with governments in the Pacific or elsewhere, what …
/r/MensRights04/09/12 03:14 AM
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It's the [West Lothian question] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/West_Lothian_question) all over again.
/r/MensRights04/09/12 01:50 AM
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You can thank rightsbot's grandfather, a staunch and dependable abacus.
/r/MensRights03/09/12 11:15 PM
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I'm not sure whether to run with "Maybe bears would fear cameras more if they were actually held accountable for their actions" or "Great, yet another example of an innocent victim of the right to bear arms."
/r/MensRights03/09/12 10:49 PM
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"More bacon, sir?" "Why yes. Yes, I think I will." -Presses button-
/r/MensRights03/09/12 10:12 PM
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You aren't alone. I had exactly the same thing happen to me - I was sitting on a public bench, waiting for something or other, and an older fellow sat down next to me and struck up a conversation. Next thing I know his hand is on my knee and he's stroking my cheek, and I'm so completely fnorded by this turn of events that I couldn't even tell him to back off - I just made my excuses and left. I suspect that a large part of the problem in these sorts of situations is the nature of the offense - t…
/r/MensRights03/09/12 09:16 PM
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My wife has been known to make Tyrannosaurus Rex sounds while cutting into her steak. She also has aspirations to open her own restaurant one day; the name alone speaks volumes: "Meat Trough". (It will also be the only place in the world where bacon dispensers are an actual thing.)
/r/MensRights03/09/12 08:11 PM
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A whole cavalcade of thoughts occur to me: A more mean-spirited person might respond "If they are so bright, then why are they working in retail?" I would, however, like to think we are above that; and include this only so we can move beyond it. One might argue that work ethic and intelligence are not linked per se; but there is a definite correlation in terms of the application of intelligence. That is to say (again, in my own experience) that many retail workers are quite bright, but purposefu…
/r/MensRights03/09/12 07:31 PM
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Presumably the same stores have a policy to not allow women in the men's changing rooms? Additionally, I have to ask - would this understanding have a sexual component? I'm just wondering if we should be looking to excise the gay, lesbian, and bisexual shoppers to their own changing rooms also.
/r/MensRights03/09/12 06:27 PM
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Ex-retail worker here. My experience is limited to the Midwest, but in as far as I've seen, a great many stores look to pay their floor staff minimum wage - and as the old adage is concerned, you get what you pay for. It's an over generalization to say that such staff don't think, but a tremendous number of them are far from invested in their occupation and work accordingly.
/r/MensRights03/09/12 06:24 PM
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You have absolutely the right idea - gather as much evidence as possible. Additionally, be sure to either speak to a divorce lawyer or else do some world-class research on the issue, because it is entirely possible that your wife is going to do everything in her power to have whatever you dig up rendered inadmissible - so that's a bullet you are going to want to look to preemptively dodge. Also, consider trying to reach out to her parole officer, either before you drop the hammer or right after.…
/r/MensRights03/09/12 06:06 PM
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Just having a camera available - even if it's a built-in phone cam - would be an excellent idea. You may very well find that the next child safety officer you run headlong into will be more cooperative when they realize they are being filmed; and if not, you will have incontrovertible proof that the officer in question purposefully delayed an emergency medical situation.
/r/MensRights03/09/12 05:59 PM
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There's not much I can add to this other than to state that I wholehearted agree. One can only hope that in the future, this sort of level-headed approach to the subject becomes the de facto standard.
/r/MensRights02/09/12 08:35 PM
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I would absolutely do it; however, I think you have the right idea in waiting until you are ready to drop the hammer. I would even go so far as to say that if you do end up planning to essentially move yourself and your child out of the home, that you might be able to arrange all of these things at once (the move, gaining admissible evidence of your wife's infidelity, confronting her, and serving divorce papers / gaining evidence of her refusal to accept service). If at all possible, you might w…
/r/MensRights02/09/12 08:29 PM
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The mind and body of a rabbit; the heart of a complete bastard.
/r/MensRights02/09/12 08:21 PM
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Create a fictional ashleymadison.com profile. Contact your wife via the service. Agree to meet up. Follow your wife to the meet-up locale. Serve her with divorce papers. Be sure to have a friend discretely film the entire encounter for evidentiary purposes!
/r/MensRights02/09/12 04:10 PM
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That's not strictly accurate. The legality of installing a keylogger is based on one thing: if the laptop belongs to him and his wife (in which case he is well within his rights to install whatever software he wants, irrespective of purpose) or a separate party (such as his wife's place of work). The legality of collecting and using any of his wife's email, messages or other communication in court rests strongly on how it was obtained. I'm not sure how the law perceives email privacy in the ligh…
/r/MensRights02/09/12 04:03 PM
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Grandparent placements are indeed tricky. I've seen both sides of the coin - in my wife's instance, her and her brother were left in a situation where their mother was in prison and their father out of state. Instead of turning them over to their father, they put them into the hands of their mother's mother - while never giving much consideration as to why it was their mother was so socially deranged in the first place. On the other hand, my wife's brother has an ex; and the ex has a young son f…
/r/MensRights02/09/12 03:29 PM
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Come on, there's no reason to bring David Futerelle into this.
/r/MensRights01/09/12 11:59 PM
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Have you considered installing a keylogger on the laptop?
/r/MensRights01/09/12 11:55 PM
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Thanks for clarifying your comments; I feel that I have a much better understanding as to your position now. I can wholehearted agree that due to the anatomical and size differences between men and women, generally the latter can easily wear clothes intended for the former; but the former cannot easily wear clothes intended for the latter.
/r/MensRights31/08/12 07:29 PM
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Normally, I work under the assumption that other posters here are operating in good faith. However, you have made it quite clear at this point that you have little to no interest in actual discussion, that you mistake argument by consensus and personal attacks for reasoning, and that you are completely unaware of the hypocrisy present in your assertion that others should be mutually respectful to one another while at the same time engaging in an escalating series of unwarranted insults. To be ho…
/r/MensRights31/08/12 07:13 PM
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I'm sorry; allow me to rephrase: the woman's actions cannot be explicitly construed as an effort to engage a relationship with the OP. Implicitly, yes; explicitly, no. Furthermore, the onus is on the woman, as the initiating party, to make her intentions clear; and not on the OP to interpret them correctly. So he did not, in so many words, 'fuck up'. (One could say that he missed an opportunity, perhaps; but that is a far more nuanced statement than yours.) Moving on: assuming that the woman did…
/r/MensRights31/08/12 04:27 PM
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I must respectfully disagree; in no way could the actions of this woman be interpreted as enthusiastic yes / yes / yes signals. If the woman wants to initiate a relationship with the man, she should ask him out for coffee or a similar social engagement. If she instead opts to to do so by attempting to elicit his interest by feigning the need for a personal bodyguard, well - who can blame the guy for thinking, first and foremost, that she wanted a bodyguard? Furthermore, this is somewhat differen…
/r/MensRights31/08/12 01:40 PM
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I wholly understand - it can be enormously tiresome, trying to fight the good fight for a cause that is still in its burgeoning stages (and all the while suffering the barbs, slings and arrows of various interested groups with the goddamn temerity to claim they have society's best interests and by extension our own at heart). As always in such situations, I will say this: nothing gives me greater optimism for what we are doing when a couple of posters engage in a pleasant and educational exchang…
/r/MensRights31/08/12 04:39 AM
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I do agree that historically speaking, men have been more driven to create and acquire status as a result of the pressures of human sexual selection; and that as a result of this, they have been more prolific in the areas of artistic, intellectual, technological accomplishment etc. However, the specific phrase to which I responded - "[men] were better than women, straight up" - is not particularly nuanced in the presentation of this point, and could easily be interpreted as a statement of quasi-…
/r/MensRights31/08/12 03:53 AM
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Quite! And again, to think; some of these errors seem rather egregious for a professor of biology...
/r/MensRights31/08/12 03:45 AM
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It just so happens that men have been more successful in history (it's not magic, they were better than women, straight up.) Not better; more motivated to seek status as a result of intrasexual selection, perhaps.
/r/MensRights31/08/12 03:43 AM
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Revenge? Or [enrampagement] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7gdj62aqx-w)?
/r/MensRights31/08/12 01:50 AM
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I believe Hanlon's Razor to be in effect: "Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity." In short: Feminist ideology is notoriously incompatible with skepticism, to the point that the former actively attacks the latter, deriding any means by which Feminist Theory could be actively investigated or critiqued by non-Feminists (a situation not entirely dissimilar to the pseudo-scientific advances of the creationist movement). Hence, any person claiming membership in bot…
/r/MensRights31/08/12 12:38 AM
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I don't think putting on a dress constitutes a great deal more effort. (Indeed, if one considers the number of articles of clothing involved as an indicator of effort, putting on a dress would actually be a less involved act.) On the bright side, we seem to be seeing a very young influx - still somewhere in the first decade - of young boys that are willing to adopt traditionally feminine attire. It's only a scratch in the wall between genders; but it certainly bodes well for the future.
/r/MensRights31/08/12 12:27 AM
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I realize that this may be antithetical to those that require justice be served, but the unfortunate truth of the matter is that sexual crimes can be and frequently are uniquely difficult to prosecute. In the event that two parties are known to one another, have reason to be in the same geographic locale, no other witnesses are present and no evidence of physical coercion can be found, it is extremely difficult to distinguish between consensual and non-consensual sexual activity. Furthermore, th…
/r/MensRights31/08/12 12:16 AM
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It is! Just not in the form normally cited. The term, as I understand it, comes from a 1975 documentary on male prison rape; and was primarily coined to describe the the ambivalence and victim-blaming mentality prison officials held on the subject. It appears the term was appropriated by Feminists to describe the male-perpetrated, female-victimizing rape culture prevalent in American society; which is unfortunate, as statistical evidence would seem to suggest that the complete opposite is true (…
/r/MensRights31/08/12 12:03 AM
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[You were lucky!] (http://youtu.be/13JK5kChbRw?t=1m49s) We lived for two thousand years in a Kyriarchial system of interconnected, interacting, intersecting domination and submission. We used to have to get up (despite the crushing burden of gender-based societal expectations); endure the indignity of being valued for our intellectual, emotional and social contributions, suffer the predatory advances of progeniture-fixated men, be actively restricted from working fourteen hours a day, week-in, w…
/r/MensRights30/08/12 10:02 PM
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Right? And yet you try finding a chocolate-flavored cowboy astrophysicist model-king with a 15,000 square foot luxury home in a mythological conurbation that can shoot rolled-up hundred dollar bills from the end of his penis in this day and age, and you are going to come up empty-handed. WHERE HAVE ALL THE GOOD MEN GONE
/r/MensRights30/08/12 12:06 PM
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Pssh; like she would deign to marry a mere astronaut.
/r/MensRights30/08/12 04:34 AM
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That makes a tremendous amount of sense; thanks for expounding further! (And I will also add: what a world we might live in today if the last fifty years of gender research had focused on the laws and social mores of previous iterations of society, instead of the grinding of a perfectly sharp axe...)
/r/MensRights30/08/12 04:26 AM
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I think it's worth pointing out that Representative Charles B. Rangel sought to reinstate the draft as a means of both protesting the Iraq War, and promoting his concern that the volunteer nature of the US armed forces would place a disproportionate number of working class and minority individuals in harm's way. In essence, he felt the administration of that time might have felt differently about the Iraq War if there was a possibility of their own children being in danger. Of course, the entire…
/r/MensRights30/08/12 03:34 AM
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I agree; there is not much that can be done when coming up against an official, card-carrying, extremist Capital 'F' Feminist. Having said this, I would ask the question: for whose benefit are you debating such a person? If it's just the two of you, then I would seriously consider walking away from the conversation. If however there are onlookers whose hearts and minds you wish to impress upon, then you can engage with regular debating tactics - each time your Feminist foe attempts to twist away…
/r/MensRights30/08/12 02:38 AM
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First off, I find your theory absolutely fascinating; is there a possibility that you might consider fleshing it out into a larger and more academic piece? Secondly, I think you may very well be correct that much of the inherent anti-male bias (or perhaps more accurately, an absence of female-oriented sense of responsibility) in the law is as a result of historic precedent. I'm not sure however if this covers all bases in terms of the social inequality of men and women; however, I do recognize t…
/r/MensRights30/08/12 02:28 AM
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Not a problem; that's what I'm here for. I would also add the following: another poster, much wiser than I, made the excellent point that Feminism started with a conclusion and began searching for evidence to support it, rather than inspecting the evidence and using it to form a conclusion. As a result, much of Feminist theory is either intellectually indefensible, or seeks to preempt mechanisms of skeptical inquest (e.g. branding the scientific method as inherently male, attempting to raise ane…
/r/MensRights30/08/12 02:20 AM
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I would answer your question in two parts. Firstly, it has been my experience that the main reason the Feminist definition of sexism gets invoked is as a means of shutting down the claim that men also suffer sexism. Chances are, you will be the person making this claim - and the person that makes the claim is the party that gets to specify which definitions are being used in the claim. So you can completely sidestep the issue by explaining to the Feminist in question that your definition is the …
/r/MensRights30/08/12 01:17 AM
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I suspect that a not insignificant part of the differing interpretations of equality as 'equality of opportunity' and conversely 'equality of outcome' stems from the strongly gynocentric lens through which Feminism views the world; specifically, that members of the movement see such qualities as strength, confidence and assertiveness as characteristics wholly individual of both one another and darker traits (such as aggressiveness and stubbornness). This being the case, it is entirely understand…
/r/MensRights30/08/12 12:11 AM
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The problem is not that the definition is false; it is a perfectly valid definition, albeit one that is used almost exclusively within the realm of academic Feminism. The problem is that the definition is being used outside of such circles as part of an intellectually dishonest effort to minimize the suffering of men. Essentially, one will have a discussion that will take the following format: "Men can suffer sexism." "False; sexism is prejudice plus power. Men have power; ergo, they cannot suff…
/r/MensRights29/08/12 11:44 PM
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There is a widespread social perception that men have agency, and women do not; that men are actors, and women patients. It is this notion that gives rise to assignment of blame in the given scenario - the man must surely be the rapist, for men commit acts; and the woman must surely be the victim, for they cannot. On the bright side, this sort sexual misconduct training can help alleviate such misconceptions, by bringing about an understanding in participants that men are not always perpetrators…
/r/MensRights29/08/12 10:38 PM
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So much this. The term 'sexism', in everyday usage, refers to the premise of gender-based discrimination or prejudice. Feminism however uses the word in a special, academic context; 'sexism' refers not only to gender-based discrimination, but also by an entity with power towards an entity without (which, in Feminist theory, means from a man to a woman). There was a similar issue around the word 'minority' - in everyday usage, it refers to the less populous of two groups; but in special academic …
/r/MensRights29/08/12 08:39 PM
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The greatest presumption of second and third wave Feminist theory - that the system of gender roles we live within today is a result of overt oppression on the part of men, and not the social evolution of humanity - will also be, I believe, the movement's undoing. For it assumes that society is plastic, and easily shaped; whereas in reality, society is elastic, and when stretched beyond limit, all too ready to snap back. For instance: in the immediate aftermath of 9/11, an enormous number of oth…
/r/MensRights29/08/12 01:55 PM
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Absolutely. I realize it sounds like a needlessly antagonistic statement on the surface, but the truth of the matter is that Feminism is first and foremost and ideology and one that, like many such things, has created a number of defenses against criticism. (i.e. Feminist ethics, learned experience, "A women's way of knowing"; to speak nothing of the silencing, shaming, and statistical dishonesty). The very fact that Feminists are so quick to jump to the idea that criticism of their movement ste…
/r/MensRights29/08/12 06:43 AM
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Men and women are socialized differently; and in many respects, the socialization that men receive frequently allows them to get ahead in the business world. All too often however, the solution is not to try and bring about in women the same sorts of traits that have proven so successful for men, but instead to somehow convert business - what may well be, by very definition, the most notoriously mercenary system in existence - to a model that somehow promotes the traits with which women are curr…
/r/MensRights29/08/12 06:07 AM
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We are all familiar with Futurelle's schtick - he frequently targets the least prominent and more numerous voices of the men's rights movement (i.e. commenters, redditors) for quote mining, as such people are more likely to issue unguarded statements and are poorly equipped to defend themselves in the public arena. It should therefore come as no surprise that he pays close attention to this particular sub-reddit, as it is a potential treasure trove of material - it doesn't matter if it's only 0.…
/r/MensRights29/08/12 05:44 AM
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Ah, now I understand what you mean. Thanks for the illustration!
/r/MensRights29/08/12 04:01 AM
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I have to echo this sentiment. Atheism Plus is nothing more than a ridiculous banner under which a group of ironically close-minded Feminist appropriationists push a social justice agenda under the guise of rallying against organized religion. Their ideology is, by very definition, antithetical to the skeptical movement they supposedly represent. Splitting off into their own recognizably titled splinter movement is an exceptionally welcome move; at worst, their only major contribution from hereo…
/r/MensRights28/08/12 08:09 PM
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I don't wish to sound pessimistic, but the authorities have already completed the difficult part of their work - they've identified the fraudulent behavior of the woman in question. Given that there is strong evidence that your friend and the woman have been in a cohabiting relationship - financial records, neighbor accounts, and so on - it basically seems like something of an open and shut case. As such - and given that your friend is essentially ambivalent toward his partner, but cares deeply …
/r/MensRights28/08/12 06:31 PM
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Agreed. I also believe that the great disparity in vote distribution between the two participants can be attributed in part to the difference in their rhetorical styles - one reasoned, one completely batshit. I'm sure members of this sub-reddit colored the totals somewhat, but still - call me impressed.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 06:13 PM
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I have to agree with you that there is much to be said for shock value. In this particular instance, I thought the more pragmatic solution would be to suggest the OP tries to talk things out first - I don't think he would be here if he was only looking for an excuse to end the relationship. Anyhow; thanks for your kind response; and for what it's worth, it heartens me every time I have a conversation of this nature with someone. We're all in this together; and every time we achieve amicable reso…
/r/MensRights28/08/12 05:54 PM
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Could I possibly have you flesh out what you mean by your example of business culture benefiting men? For instance: would you consider it accurate to state that 'confidence' is a regarded trait within business and that men, generally socialized to outwardly display confidence more often, thus have a natural advantage in the business environment?
/r/MensRights28/08/12 01:34 PM
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All for devil's advocates; quite frankly, we need more of them. Anyhow, I agree with your response, although I'm not sure where the idea came from that men owe women an explanation - I was looking more at the situation as one where the OP might at least try offering his girlfriend a red pill before calling an end to relationship. Best case scenario, the men's rights movement gains another ally; worst case scenario, the relationship still ends, and OP has peace of mind regarding the cause.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 01:18 PM
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I think it would be helpful if you could possibly explain the line of work you are in. Would I be correct in thinking that, based on your comments so far about coercion via rank and off-duty regulations, that you are a member of a branch of the armed forces?
/r/MensRights28/08/12 01:12 PM
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If I might offer a slightly more measured response: Society has certain expectations based on whether a person is male or female. These expectations are unfair, and burdensome. As they differ according to gender however, it may be difficult for a man to understand a woman's burden, and for a woman to understand a man's. Feminism is a social movement that originated primarily with women, and therefore carries a female viewpoint. The movement has spent decades educating the Western world about the…
/r/MensRights28/08/12 04:37 AM
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And jump the helicopter when it least expects it! One day, waffebunny. One day you'll own that car. And show those damn helicopters who's boss...
/r/MensRights28/08/12 03:41 AM
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I'm sorry, but I'm having trouble following your logic. Are you actually advocating that we engage in the routine, non-medically necessary circumcision of infant males on the grounds that as adults, they might choose not to have the procedure?
/r/MensRights28/08/12 03:39 AM
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A more nuanced iteration of said logic might be: the provision of consent by one party on behalf of another should be limited by the interests of the second party. By way of example: parents would be able to provide consent on behalf of their child for medically necessary circumcision and heart surgery, but would not be able to able to provide consent for medically unnecessary circumcision and heart surgery. Similarly, a legal guardian could consent for their developmentally-disabled ward to ent…
/r/MensRights28/08/12 02:30 AM
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I don't think I would call protecting infants from sexually transmitted diseases a 'clear benefit'.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 02:14 AM
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If by "angry" you mean "incredibly awesome" and by "hide me" you mean "Put me behind the wheel for the explicit purpose of finding out whether or not it is possible to outrun a police helicopter", then we are in complete agreement.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 02:08 AM
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I would consider a new Mercedes a significant benefit too.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 10:52 PM
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Truly, an artist ahead of his time.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 04:40 PM
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Unfortunately, I can imagine the discussion on the subject all too clearly. I imagine it will be one of the few occasions in history in which it is argued that the power men hold over women outweighs the power that parents hold over children.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 03:47 PM
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When you indicate pediatrician's associations elsewhere, do you mean within the US, or outside of it? I ask on the grounds that outside of the US, far fewer nations operate for-profit medicine; and this would account for the lack of financially-motivated circumcision worldwide. (Religiously-motivated and misguided HIV-preventative circumcision, on the other hand...)
/r/MensRights27/08/12 01:55 PM
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This deserves so many more upvotes. Unprofessionalism, the diminishment of a client's dignity, assault, the misuse of a goddamn high-powered laser. Any one of the above would be reason to question the woman's employment; together, they paint a picture of an employee with a bright future in creating multi-million dollar injury suits.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 01:31 PM
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Operates a high-powered laser in the region of the client's genitalia. Lacks basic knowledge of male genital biology. Absolutely not a lawsuit waiting to happen, honest.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 01:18 PM
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The basic premise is this: in the example above, the presence of men is implicit; this is because they are the presumed (default) gender. The presence of women is explicit; this is because they are the 'other' gender. This 'othering' serves to reinforce the idea that gender is a system in which men are the de facto standard, and women are deficient men. As I said; I find it remarkably interesting that Feminist theory is able to take a situation in which, as you state, men are the (significantly)…
/r/MensRights27/08/12 01:02 PM
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As is my wont, I decided to perform a spot of brief research in the hope of turning up something interesting upon which I could build a witty reply (preferably poking fun at George Lucas in the process). Instead, what I found was an article railing against the way in which the act of incest had been miscategorized in the US as a pathology, rather than an act of male violence; and that furthermore, rallying the Feminist movement to reclaim as issue that so rightfully belongs to them. I just... ug…
/r/MensRights27/08/12 12:45 PM
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It seems to me that your problem is this: you've been put in a situation where the man you were with engaged in an act that you did not consent to, and you have no way of determining if said man was operating in good faith or not when said act occurred. So... it could be accidental, it could be intentional. Probably the best thing to do is talk to him about it, and how your history has affected you in this regard. How he responds to the situation should help you make better sense of what happene…
/r/MensRights27/08/12 05:19 AM
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And at the same time, Leia kissed Luke on Hoth without the latter's permission. George Lucas: Gender Visionary Rape Apologist?
/r/MensRights27/08/12 05:08 AM
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I don't think it's so much an issue of experience as much as outlook. For instance, the card-carrying Feminist English teach I suffered under had very clear ideas about how the male members of her class were essentially present to atone for the collective guilt of their gender (and race and able-bodiedness and presumed heterosexuality); I doubt that unleashing her on a class comprised entirely of young men would in any way correct this behavior.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 04:45 AM
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Alright, let's take this from the top. Make sure your child is safe. As soon as possible, review your video evidence; be mindful of the fact that if your wife realizes that you are doing so, she may escalate again and / or attempt to destroy the evidence. If the evidence clearly indicates that she committed violent acts, and you did nothing to provoke or escalate the situation, then call the police. Explain that your wife is abusive, and that you believe she poses a threat to the safety of you a…
/r/MensRights27/08/12 04:32 AM
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I believe the biggest difference comes not from the gender ratio of the class, but how the teacher deals with. To use my own experience as an example: when I first entered school, I suffered from a set of minor learning problems relating to my left-handedness. As a result, my first set of teachers - first female, then male - opted to write me off as a dunce. By the time I transferred to the next tier up, I had developed a set of coping mechanisms with which to work around my problems. (When writ…
/r/MensRights27/08/12 03:28 AM
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I am of the opinion that you should definitely bring this up with your boss (providing the latter is receptive to such concerns). While the event in question occurred while your coworker was the employee of another company, it nonetheless indicates an attitude to her work that could constitute a future liability. If nothing else, it is plainly clear that she should no longer be allowed to provide hair removal services of an intimate nature to male clients.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 01:58 AM
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I always find it interesting that a Feminist might read a statement like this, and argue that men are the default gender - hence they need not be named; whereas a men's rights advocate might point to the very same statement, and use the effacement of men as evidence of their disposability. It strikes me as an excellent parallel to the way in which Patriarchy Theory makes such a one-sided hash of gender roles.
/r/MensRights26/08/12 10:10 PM
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You know what I like about this place? It is the antithesis of an echo chamber. Posters point out that the quote was taken out of context, get upvoted, and even the OP agrees. Good show, /r/mensrights!
/r/MensRights26/08/12 05:55 PM
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Wait, shit, I thought you were talking about that time you fell on the air-conditioning unit and knocked it out of the window and broke it, and you wanted to know if I had forgiven you yet! ... Wait, so firkser's got my lawnmower? Goddamn it.
/r/MensRights26/08/12 05:51 PM
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"In a world where trolls walk freely among us, all that stands between the men's rights sub-reddit and complete chaos... is a single robot. He never asked for this... but when the world needed a hero, he answered. RIGHTSBOT. Justice... has no speed limit."
/r/MensRights26/08/12 05:34 PM
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Based on the frequency with which sperm seems to escape and randomly impregnate women despite the precautions they have supposedly taken to otherwise protect against this particular outcome, I would suggest that they are doing a pretty piss-poor job of securing the stuff. Er, wait...
/r/MensRights26/08/12 05:12 AM
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You know, I just had a rather dark thought; and although it does not pertain directly to this thread, I figured I would share it all the same: if one considers a man's unborn progeny to be his property...
/r/MensRights26/08/12 05:07 AM
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Agreed; 'objectification' is a broad categorization, and requires qualification to be of any use ('sexual objectification', 'financial objectification', etc). 'Dehumanization' also, I feel, serves more appropriately in terms of conveying the intended issue. Of course, if we had a nickel for every time a semantic debate erupted on the use and nature of Feminism-derived terminology... then we would probably be accused of treating the people that created these dreadful words as lexiconic-financial …
/r/MensRights26/08/12 05:04 AM
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"Sensibilities and Titties", one of Jane Austen's lesser-known works.
/r/MensRights26/08/12 04:36 AM
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To play devil's advocate for a second: the problem with the waitress example is that despite stating otherwise, you most likely do not treat waitresses only as food delivery mechanisms. Put another way, if your waitress suddenly keels over and falls into your dinner, the first words out of your mouth are most likely to be "Are you okay?" and not "Don't worry guys, they've got plenty more waitresses where that one came from."
/r/MensRights26/08/12 04:33 AM
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Video games characters are human beings too! Wait, no, scratch that. Video game characters have feelings- Shit, that's not gonna cut it either. Hey - this is going to take me a little while to figure out. You know what would really help me get going? One hundred and fifty-eight thousand, nine hundred and twenty-two dollars. Anyone?
/r/MensRights26/08/12 04:30 AM
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Generally speaking, we as a movement usually come into contact with this particular term in the context of gender relations. Here, it is used to describe an act of dehumanization; of taking a sentient individual agent, and instead treating them as a thing. Objects can be used, owned, may be interchanged for like and disposed of where necessary, with no concern for the interests or agency of the thing in question. The same cannot, and should not be said of people. The problem we run into however …
/r/MensRights26/08/12 04:15 AM
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Justice has no speed limit.
/r/MensRights26/08/12 03:30 AM
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"With expanding reproductive choices, we can expect to see more women choose to reproduce without men entirely." It is currently quite impossible (unless, of course, there has been some sort of tremendous explosion in human cloning techniques or other non-sexual means of reproduction of which I am currently unaware) for a woman to reproduce without the involvement of a man in some form of spermatozoan capacity. One would think a professor of biology would be aware of this.
/r/MensRights26/08/12 01:07 AM
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I suggest we look at it this way: Although there may be a benefit to entering Feminist spaces and debating their ideology where discussion is most fervent, this is folly - they control the venue, and may silence us by a variety of means. It is most certainly worth taking an interest in what they have to say, but most likely not worth the time and effort to provide an opposing view. Similarly, there is (in my humble opinion) little reason to drown out or silence Feminists that enter this space; t…
/r/MensRights25/08/12 10:06 PM
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Ah, now I follow! My point was not that these laws failed; rather, that they resulted in unintended consequences - for instance, the Australian gun clampdown was initially intended to curb all gun crime; and for some categories it has succeeded, and in others exacerbated the problem. In retrospect, I should have probably lead off with this example first and prohibition second, as I can certainly see how one might consider prohibition an example of failed lawmaking and consequently, that this was…
/r/MensRights25/08/12 07:32 PM
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I fear that we are not on the same proverbial page. I'm not arguing that there is a choice between an ineffective law and legalization; I'm simply stating that in the given example of Mitt Romney criminalizing abortion in all but circumstances of rape, that it is not entirely without merit to presume that instances of false rape reporting would soar. Is this what we are both talking about and I'm just being a dullard in failing to read your response correctly, or are we speaking to different iss…
/r/MensRights25/08/12 06:15 PM
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And I quote: "The woman fought the application that she repay child support, arguing such an order would be oppressive because she was in tough financial circumstances." Fifteen dollars a fortnight. WHEN WILL THE OPPRESSION OF WOMEN EVER END
/r/MensRights25/08/12 06:06 PM
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The problem is not one of morality, but pragmatism - specifically, the sorts of issues that can occur when a society attempts to restrict a previously available freedom. One could draw a parallel with prohibition - the American citizenry were not convinced, en masse, to dispense of their drinking habit; instead, they simply sought alternative and illicit means by which to acquire their liquor. Similarly, the Australian post-Port Arthur gun clampdown - it could be argued that the state has succee…
/r/MensRights25/08/12 05:44 PM
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Best case scenario, your readers start reconsidering their worldview and / or start looking for a source of illicit red pills. Worst case scenario, the movement is presented as something other than the usual smear of gender-bound traditionalists / viciously unhappy basement dwellers / etc. Either way, I would call it win for men's rights.
/r/MensRights25/08/12 03:58 PM
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I was going to say something to this effect, but you beat me to the punch. There is a whole slew of possible explanations for the comment that begat this thread, but one of the simplest is that in current society, men are perceived as actors and women are perceived as patients - thus, pregnancy is something that men afflict and women are afflicted with.
/r/MensRights25/08/12 03:50 PM
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Oh, I absolutely agree. I think in this particular instance the idea is more that, because of gender role perception, the woman in question had already attached the positive aspects of parenting to her gender and by extension, herself. The assertion that a non-woman could just as easily bond with a newborn child was perceived as an attack on a woman's supposed ability to inherently parent, and was therefore also an attack on this particular woman's self-identity.
/r/MensRights25/08/12 03:46 PM
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This has been my experience in the US; that many people I know aren't even aware of what an IUD is, let alone have one. This is pure conjecture on my part, but I wouldn't be surprised to learn that the American medical / pharmaceutical complex has a significant disinterest in a product that they can't sell on a weekly or monthly basis.
/r/MensRights25/08/12 03:33 PM
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"Why did that woman just knock my cigar on the floor?"
/r/MensRights25/08/12 03:27 PM
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Perhaps it would be more accurate to state that this is a problem of identity - that currently in the US, there is perception (rightly or wrongly) that parenting is a skill both strongly associated with women and at which they excel; and that the woman in the example derives positive self-identity from this, and will respond negatively toward alternate viewpoints that challenge said perception? (I believe that was what crazyex was trying to get at.)
/r/MensRights25/08/12 04:19 AM
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On the one hand, I want to be offended; but the fact of the matter is, there's photographic evidence that I drew a curly French mustache on my infant daughter. On the other hand, I did this because she was colicky for the nth time, and drawing a mustache on her seemed a far better alternative than flipping the fuck out. I mean, who gets mad at a baby with a mustache?
/r/MensRights25/08/12 01:42 AM
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But the marriage wasn't even consummated! ...Or was it? I am so going to hell.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 11:37 PM
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For obvious reasons, there is a lot of discussion on the subject on parenting sites and the like. It's not uncommon for some women to wade into the conversation and essentially state that they are for male circumcision, on the grounds that they personally find it aesthetically pleasing. I realize that this is some what anecdotal, but it's a phenomena that I have encountered sufficient times to consider indicative of a larger group. I believe others have also commented upon the matter here, and i…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 11:36 PM
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Revise my understanding it is. Thanks for the information - I don't really have anything of value I can give you for it, so please, take this upvote instead.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 11:31 PM
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Also: would this constitute marital rape?
/r/MensRights24/08/12 11:16 PM
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That's... that's awfully inconsistent with my understanding of how alcohol affects the human body. Either there was some other explanation for the events that you saw transpire, or I need to revise my understanding.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 11:10 PM
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I completely agree with your assessment. I do think there is some value to showing certain subgroups of circumcision enthusiasts such a video, not so much for shock value as much as the educational aspect; however, it does tread dangerously close to, say, showing meat-eating types the inside of a slaughterhouse.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 10:59 PM
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There's actually three reasons: First and foremost, for pleasure-seeking purposes. Although the installation of the ring was far from pleasant, the net effect is that it indirectly stimulates other portions of the penis. While I cannot speak for all recipients of the piercing, my experience has been one of significantly increased orgasm intensity. Secondly, I find the piercing aesthetically pleasing - although I realize that I may very well be in the minority in this one. Thirdly, I am lead to u…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 10:48 PM
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I got slapped in the face for politely refusing to dance with a girl. Talk about things escalating quickly...
/r/MensRights24/08/12 09:59 PM
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I stressed this elsewhere in the thread, but basically: The men's rights movement is generally against routine circumcision of male infants and children for non-medical reasons. The movement generally casts no aspersion over medically necessary circumcision (although there are some concerns that phimosis is treated routinely with circumcision when other, less invasive alternatives are available) and similarly, adult circumcision. In essence, the problem is not male circumcision; it's male circum…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 09:30 PM
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Corollary: "There will always be issues."
/r/MensRights24/08/12 09:10 PM
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I did, and the child in question did indeed remain silent for much of the procedure (with the exception of the initial anesthesia injections). I was referring to [this particular comment] (http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/yqjgb/i_think_that_before_women_are_so_quick_to_justify/c5xypda), and my understanding that a good portion (I believe as much as two thirds) of all male infant circumcisions are performed without any form of anesthetic.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 08:57 PM
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I actually understand the point you are making, I really do. What I'm trying to understand is why it is then when you have men who are socialized to not see themselves as victims, and women that are (or as victims-in-waiting), why it is we want the former to be more accommodating of the latter? I mean, I'm a huge proponent of the idea of being considerate, and if someone walks into a discussion on the ethics of rape prevention and throws out a useless tidbit of information, by all means, call it…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 08:51 PM
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This is an issue with the position of postmodern academia in general - one that has been articulated by likes of Chomsky and Dawkins, and demonstrated all too clearly by the successful publication of Alan Sokal's hoax work, "Transgressing the Boundaries: Toward a Transformative Hermeneutics of Quantum Gravity."
/r/MensRights24/08/12 08:29 PM
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Absolutely. I think it would warrant a larger discussion, but one of the major fault-lines between Feminism and the men's rights movement is the idea that the former wishes to tear down gender roles, but in a way that retains the inherent biological value of women. (The "Feminism is repackaged Patriarchy" argument, as it were.) It is only one and by no means the overarching example; but it does illustrate the sort of situation in which a person might appear gender-blind while still maintaining b…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 08:24 PM
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As a rule of thumb though, they generally involve a lot less screaming. (Unless, of course, we are talking about historical non-anesthetized surgical procedures.)
/r/MensRights24/08/12 08:11 PM
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There are really two issues here, and I think there might be some confusion as to which one is under discussion. The men's rights movement is chiefly opposed to routine circumcision of male infants and children. Irrespective of whether or not said circumcision is damaging or not, it represents an irreversible surgical change to the body of a child that cannot adequately consent to the procedure and may decide, later in life, that it was undesired. As to circumcision of consenting men of age, the…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 07:58 PM
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Which reminds me - PATRIARCHY YOU SON OF A BITCH, YOU STILL HAVE MY LAWNMOWER. YOU ARE DEAD TO ME.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 07:40 PM
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What scares most homophobic men seems to be the concept of taking the bottom role (receiving penetration). There was a strong thought in these discussions that it leads them to perceive themselves as feminine (since they are taking on the role traditionally played by women in vanilla heterosexual intercourse). I have seen a number of Feminists posit this idea; that is to say, that instances in which there is resistance to men perceived to be adopting feminine aspects or roles (directly, such as …
/r/MensRights24/08/12 06:58 PM
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Right? I've been running with my little thought experiment today; I've already established that my office would be missing half its people, the critical daily reports wouldn't have been run, my daughter would be at home (no school bus driver), and most of the local shops would be locked. Oh! And there's a construction project that would be dead. I can only wonder what else would be out of commission (especially the infrastructure that we take for granted, such as emergency services, municipal se…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 04:06 PM
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"For the first time in your life you have found yourself a victim of sexual advances by someone who has the ability to use force against you." It has generally been my experience that when one finds an incongruity in Feminist logic, it can be traced back to some form of unstated and unsupported assumption. I believe this to be true of the issue currently under scrutiny, and that the sentence above holds the key to understanding the problem. In essence, the statement suggests that the the young m…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 03:54 PM
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Romantically, or more generally speaking? As has been commented above, many men are, in the romantic sense, on strike. They may not express their activities as such; more often than not, they are simply looking for a path of lesser resistance (e.g. choosing video games and online pornography over the social minefield that is modern dating). It's happening, and it's almost certainly going to get worse before it gets better. In the more general sense... not to sound overly apocalyptic, but essenti…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 01:16 PM
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The term you are looking for is 'effacing the male'. There is a [paper on the subject] (http://adamjones.freeservers.com/effacing.htm); it is a little on the long side, but is an excellent study of the subject as it related to Kosovo conflict coverage, and how the effacing of males as victims is damaging.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 03:00 AM
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The typical assumption about hook-up culture is that it's something men imposed on women, exploiting modern contraceptives and sexual liberty to get away with having sex with women without having to commit or do anything icky, like pretend to like them. The narrative has always sat uneasily with me, as it's based on the presumption that women are so foul that men will only put up with them in order to get sex. At first, I was worried that my lack of sleep was catching up with me - I've read and …
/r/MensRights24/08/12 02:32 AM
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[Cake... or death?] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNjcuZ-LiSY)
/r/MensRights24/08/12 02:00 AM
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You know what the worst part is? I once tried to tackle the thorny issue of how hard plan-making is; it seemed to me the most logical place to start was by making a plan. When I realized what was happening, I burst into tears; and I haven't made a single plan since.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 01:56 AM
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Are they blue pills, by any chance?
/r/MensRights24/08/12 01:52 AM
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I believe that there are two unstated assumptions in the Feminist world view that may cause proponents of the movement to rally against criticism of male circumcision. The first is that the issue takes place in a larger zero sum game; the second is that in all things relating to male and female, the latter has it worse. Consequently, you will most likely not see a spirited defense of male circumcision from a prominent Feminist; however, you may very well see discussion on how female genital muti…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 01:11 AM
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By technical definition, you have been: Physically assaulted twice, Raped on a multitude of occasions, Stalked. It would appear that in all three categories, you were not in a position to seek just recourse for what are unprovoked criminal acts. Furthermore, in at least one instance, it would appear that the oppressive nature of the system (specifically, threatening you with punishment via false allegations and proxy violence) actually enabled the perpetrator to commit their crime! No wonder you…
/r/MensRights23/08/12 04:50 PM
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rightsbot is a robot that protects rights. All the other robots that make automobiles and walk very slowly up and down stairs wish they were as awesome as rightsbot is.
/r/MensRights23/08/12 01:41 AM
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This is an academic study, published in association with a prestigious medical university. This suggests to me that there is probably some form of recourse for correction, whether in terms of peer review or by contacting John Hopkins directly. I suggest that we research the means by which we might politely express our concerns to those behind this study.
/r/MensRights23/08/12 01:39 AM
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I can see two chief benefits to doing so: I am of the impression that there is a very real danger of any given sub-reddit becoming increasingly self-reinforcing as it gains members. Having some sort of process in place to allow posters to play devil's advocate without fear of being downvoted would help combat this. Presenting real opposition would generate real debate which would, in turn, help us to sharpen (and in some cases correct) our arguments. For instance, in light of the Virgin Airlines…
/r/MensRights23/08/12 01:34 AM
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In the US, prison staff are routinely indicted as either tacitly endorsing prisoner sexual assault and / or engaging in victim blaming. To this end, training prison staff is an excellent first step. However, the most significant factor for both prison rape and violence is overcrowding; reducing the number of inmates in general, and the number of occasions in which they can unduly interact, would have a far greater impact.
/r/MensRights22/08/12 09:30 PM
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A hate crime can be defined as a form of criminal act primarily motivated by the perpetrator's hatred of or bigotry toward a group in which the victim has actual or perceived membership. It could be argued that hate crime deserves a greater degree of scrutiny than non-hate crime, as irrational hatred is difficult to correct, and strongly leans towards further offenses with the potential for escalation. However, most legal interpretations of the concept are generally built around the same old tir…
/r/MensRights22/08/12 08:30 PM
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Frogs are the real victims here - if automotive manufacturers were more considerate of amphibian ergonomic needs, fewer frogs would find themselves in the position of trying to direct a steering wheel they cannot see over. Typical anthroergonomic privilege! Really, which is truly more out of control - automotive design based on 'human factors', or a 4,000lb vehicle with a terrified Hyla cinerea at the wheel?
/r/MensRights22/08/12 05:01 AM
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I look forward to it! Never let it be said that /r/mensrights went quietly into the circlejerking night.
/r/MensRights22/08/12 04:15 AM
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One day, science may be able to repair the head injury-induced long-term amnesia that causes JollyRancherSalad to lose recollection of all events after the year 1974. Alas, today is not that day.
/r/MensRights22/08/12 04:05 AM
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I'm all for it. Hell, I would happily settle for an informal understanding that posts prefixed with the words "Devil's Advocate" should not be blitzed into downvote oblivion for presenting an opposing view.
/r/MensRights22/08/12 03:56 AM
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That's not specist! This is specist: frogs are terrible drivers.
/r/MensRights22/08/12 03:17 AM
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Then clearly, we should endeavor to become members of the site and begin rating men, starting with a mister "D. Cameron" of London. I don't know about your experience, but I found him to be quite stupendously awful in bed and will be sure to rate him accordingly.
/r/MensRights22/08/12 03:05 AM
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Scotch can be provided. :D The premise that we cannot know truth, per se; but rather, only build more accurate models would be wholly in line with skeptical thinking. And by all means, this would allow us to both interpret theism as a form of competing model, and to also judge said model within various criteria. Regarding the use of the very term 'atheism', and its misrepresentation; Bertrand Russel ruminated on the issue and summarized the matter rather concisely: "As a philosopher, if I were s…
/r/MensRights22/08/12 01:15 AM
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If that isn't a glaring example of dominant sub-species privilege, I don't know what is!
/r/MensRights22/08/12 12:44 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree. In fact, I would posit that there are only two explanations for the point of view expressed by the author: first, that the author suffers from some form of anxiety disorder and has developed a maladaptive coping mechanism that incorrectly paints males as inherently dangerous; second, that the author is a horrible, horrible bigot. And I am very much leaning toward the latter explanation at present.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 07:46 PM
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Taking the bus is an act that fills my wife with trepidation, and requires careful planning on her part. In my wife's defense, however, this stems not from the fact that she is female, but rather because she suffers from the effects of PTSD as a consequence of what is the most horrific, violence-filled childhood of which I am personally aware. I would also add that this is something my wife is being treated for and indeed, as part of her treatment, her therapist advocates my wife take more impro…
/r/MensRights21/08/12 02:42 PM
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A big part of the problem is that rape is, under certain circumstances, a uniquely difficult crime to prosecute. For instance, in the event that: The alleged perpetrator and victim were formally known to one another, Had reason to be in the same locale, No obvious physical coercion took place, and No witnesses were present, ...then basically, the rape that took place becomes factually indistinguishable from mutually consensual intercourse. Indeed, even the nature of the event provides a form of …
/r/MensRights20/08/12 11:55 PM
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It would perhaps be more accurate to state that skepticism promotes the premise that we can only build conclusions based on testing; and even then, these conclusions may be invalidated or superseded in future by contradictory evidence. By extension, atheism makes no claim that god does not exist per se; but rather, that the evidence is so infinitesimally lacking that god should be accorded the same degree of heed as mythological creatures (i.e. none). There are some less than scrupulous parties …
/r/MensRights20/08/12 09:43 PM
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I think it is important to stress here that skepticism is nothing more than the premise of testing in order to establish provisional conclusions (and inversely, dismissing conclusions that cannot be established through testing). Similarly, atheism is in many respects skepticism, as applied to religion. Now certainly, I imagine there may be a proclivity on left-leaning types to adopt a skeptical outlook. However, I believe this can simply be attributed to the fact that statistically, leftists ten…
/r/MensRights20/08/12 07:26 PM
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I am reminded of an old Grandpa Simpson war story, self-censored for the benefit of his grandchild: "...we chased the teddy bears into their cuddle bunkers, then had to tickle them out with machine hugs and fun throwers! They say the more soldiers you tickle, the easier it gets. Well, sir... it doesn't."
/r/MensRights20/08/12 05:10 PM
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I shall write five hundred times: "Reading comprehension is my friend."
/r/MensRights20/08/12 05:02 PM
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There are two groups here that we need to distinguish between: The greater atheist / skeptic movement; a set of people that strongly advocate for evidence-based reasoning and the use of critical thinking skills. As such, they are actually likely to come into conflict with Feminist theory, as the latter is not particularly compatible with logic.<sup>1</sup> Examples of such persons include Richard Dawkins, and YouTube users TheAmazingAtheist and Thunderf00t. A small but vocal segment within the l…
/r/MensRights20/08/12 01:50 AM
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Covered in bees?
/r/MensRights19/08/12 10:12 PM
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There are however a couple of reasons to still be concerned. First and foremost, there are still repercussions for failing to register - as has been stated elsewhere, doing so can potentially affect one's ability to receive student loans, apply for a government position, and so on. Secondary to this, the "What are the chances of there ever being another draft?" argument is slightly less comforting in a country with a history of questionable war actions (Vietnam, the second Iraq War), one of whic…
/r/MensRights19/08/12 09:56 PM
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Which is hilarious if it is true, as they themselves are the only other example I am aware of that maintains a positive stance on female draft equality.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 09:46 PM
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I am concerned - not because of the obvious (i.e. the equality pendulum has swung so far in the opposite direction that it's now actively detached from its mooring and has become some sort of airborne equality missile) but because there seems to be efforts all around to disguise the extent of the issue, even while discussing its nature. For instance, compare and contrast the following: White males are defined as under-represented because while they make up about 45 per cent of the UK population,…
/r/MensRights19/08/12 09:39 PM
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Want to create a national system for tracking draft-eligible young men? Can do. Want to create a national policy for ensuring the self-same young men can vote? Nope. Ladies and gentlemen, I give you the priorities of the United States of America - the self-professed greatest democracy in the world.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 09:21 PM
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I could be a mistaken, but I believe it may be a criticism of the differing learning and testing styles of male and female students (an entire issue of its own) and that in recent years, the establishment has moved toward a a mode of education that more strong favors the latter. For instance, during my time in high school in Britain, subjects were generally graded through one of two ways - timed exams, and coursework (usually some form of research project or similar with a heavy emphasis on the …
/r/MensRights19/08/12 09:15 PM
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Right? I think we all need to take a minute to unpack our tangibility privilege, shelve our realist tendencies, and just try to imagine what sort of everyday hardships must face a a PoF (Person of Fiction).
/r/MensRights19/08/12 06:00 PM
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Years ago, I had a girlfriend that was attempting to retrieve something from underneath a desk; and as is wont to happen in such situations, she rose too quickly and struck her head on the underside of the desk surface. It made for a loud if not particularly hard impact and my girlfriend, once over her initial startlement, promptly burst into tears. Years later, I fell victim to the same mistake - while crushing the contents of the garbage can with my foot, I came up to quickly and promptly stru…
/r/MensRights19/08/12 05:59 PM
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That's pretty much spot on - even though alpha males would be the (population) minority and beta males the (population) majority, special academic (i.e. Feminist) use of the term would have us understand that alpha males are the (power) majority and beta males the (power) minority. On top of this, we can throw in the old apex fallacy - alpha males and beta males are evidently first and foremost males; so it only stands to reason that they will be in cahoots, right?
/r/MensRights19/08/12 05:45 PM
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I believe I can go one better. After becoming a Legal Permanent Resident of the United States of America, I received two packets of materials. The first explained my new found rights and responsibilities as a person of resident status; specifically, that I was still ineligible to vote in certain forms of federal election, on the grounds that I was not technically a citizen. The second explained my new membership in the Selective Service System, in which I had apparently been enrolled. As far as …
/r/MensRights19/08/12 03:49 PM
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The only example of a Feminist advocacy organization taking a (semi) positive stance on a female draft is a talking point in NOW's manifesto, arguing that if the draft cannot be removed then it is only fair that women be drafted also. It's certainly a welcome show of equipoise; but as there appears to be no actual advocacy efforts occurring as a result, I don't think we can refer to this as a 'movement' so much as 'theoretical sentiment'.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 03:22 PM
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Although now that I think about it, that's probably 'tangibility privilege'.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 01:31 AM
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To Elly Tam's credit, she's also a real person.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 01:31 AM
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You are quite right - the quoted statistic clearly states "Physically or sexually", but the entire emphasis of the video appears to be on the latter. You know what kills me? People actually sat around in a room and decided, with the purposefulness of marketing professionals, to make the video this way. Ugh.
/r/MensRights18/08/12 11:54 PM
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Well, it depends. In common usage, 'minority' is generally understood to mean nothing more complex than the smaller of two parts. So in this regard, men are generally the minority gender in most countries. In academic usage however, 'minority' generally refers to some form of social group that categorically does not hold power. It rather reminds me of that old standby - that men cannot possibly suffer the slings and arrows of sexism, as the common understanding of the term (sexism is the applica…
/r/MensRights18/08/12 11:46 PM
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I can only posit two possible scenarios: The first scenario is one in which 'Richard' is quite fictitious. As others have mentioned, the fellow seems to be low on community credentials, seems to be confused as the nature of a number of men's rights issues, and provides no real explanation of why or how he transitioned from men's rights advocate to Feminist - only that this took place. The second scenario is one in which 'Richard' is a real individual; however, it is inaccurate to identify him as…
/r/MensRights18/08/12 11:27 PM
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I did a bit of a double take initially, as I misread the statement at the end as "One in two girls growing up in Canada... will be sexually abused", not "...will be physically or sexually abused". One in two? Good lord. And then I thought about this some more. Assuming that the old canard about one in four women suffering sexual assault being true (it's not, but let's run with this for a second) then that means that at minimum, one in four girls growing up in Canada is the victim of 'physical ab…
/r/MensRights18/08/12 01:54 AM
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I know I've seen the handle 'Howitzer' in online Feminist circles before, but I can't remember where. Can anyone help me out?
/r/MensRights17/08/12 09:01 PM
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Bearing in mind that this was the result of nothing more than an informal browsing of Watson's site, but I would estimate the significant majority of published material (i.e. four fifths) is on the subject of gender issues, not skepticism. Less 'Skep-', more '-chick', as it were. To my mind, this should speak enormously to her agenda, and the agenda of those that have allied with her (e.g. PZ Myers).
/r/MensRights17/08/12 04:56 PM
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Precisely - it's the difference between leveling the playing field, and cutting the heads off tall poppies. I will also second that I have been in that very same position (and to a much lesser extent, currently still am)... I think there are few situations more frustrating in a chosen profession than that in which one's peers are paid more and work less.
/r/MensRights16/08/12 11:54 PM
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Objection! If we clearly identify those at the top of the hierarchy as holding both power over and no identity with the men below them, the the whole apex fallacy house of cards comes down. And you don't want big, heavy cards landing on all poor, patriarchal victims, do yo you?
/r/MensRights16/08/12 07:34 PM
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I've always been particularly fond of the football match that took place between the British and Germans; a most extraordinary testament to the soldiers of the First World War, and the manner in which they were able to find peace and fraternity during some of the bloodiest fighting in recent history.
/r/MensRights16/08/12 06:35 PM
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A quick question: where does one find information on the the number of women that can meet male standards, how those women fared, etc.?
/r/MensRights16/08/12 06:30 PM
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This image makes me wonder if there is perhaps a parallel between the men's rights movement and the [Christmas truces of 1914] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christmas_truce).
/r/MensRights16/08/12 04:45 PM
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I disagree; I am of the opinion that there is more than a single axis by which an individuals approach to issues may be plotted. I believe that much of the sorry state of American politics can be attributed directly to this simplification; this idea that one is either left or right, liberal or democrat, for or against, them or us; and not, say, a communitarian or libertarian individualist or theoconservative. As for the given example of the major British political parties and the manner in which…
/r/MensRights16/08/12 03:37 PM
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I agree with your sentiment that one could epitomize the American political left as desirous of equality of outcome, and the right as social Darwinists. However, I believe this speaks to the very point I was making - that American politics, across all possible axis of discussion, have sought to polarize the voting populace into one of two distinct camps. It simply shouldn't be possible to summarize an the issues facing a population of three hundred million people into two distinct groups! And ye…
/r/MensRights16/08/12 04:21 AM
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Quite; by British standards, I was a right-leaning moderate; by American standards, I appear to be a card-carrying pinko sympathizer and homosexual revolutionary (none of which is true; I rarely have my pinko sympathizer card about my person, and none of the sexual acts I have committed with other men are in the slightest bit innovative).
/r/MensRights16/08/12 02:23 AM
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"Le mieux est l'ennemi du bien." - Voltaire
/r/MensRights16/08/12 02:12 AM
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I imagine that at present, a very, very small minority of the American population holds the idea that the gender roles of your were equally oppressive to both genders. However, this does not mean that the idea cannot grow in popularity; after all, there was once a time when only a small minority were familiar with the concept of "Patriarchy". Insofar as examples of political outlook that fall neither directly to the left or right; the most obvious example would be 'moderate' or 'centrist'. I bel…
/r/MensRights16/08/12 01:52 AM
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In the fields where men do actually get paid more than women (ie. physical labor)... Especially in the fields! ...I can see why a woman might be upset. While the man might argue that he did more work, the woman might argue that she worked just as hard. Both make a reasonable argument. However, as long as we live in a capitalist system, the former is what will determine your wage. It's not an issue of discrimination, it's an issue of economics. It's the old equality of opportunity versus equality…
/r/MensRights16/08/12 01:42 AM
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Honestly? I realize that to a spectator of the American political forum, this may sound not unlike crazy talk, but... basically, I don't believe the left and right wings are as incompatible as they appear. For the purpose of example, let us reduce the left and right to two simple positions: the left wishes to engage a larger social safety net; the right wishes to reduce government spending. At first glance, these may appear to be irreconcilable positions; however, on closer inspection, it should…
/r/MensRights16/08/12 01:39 AM
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That both the American left and right wings have had a hand in the marginalization of American men; and that to blame only one, and potentially lionize the other, is a surefire way to misrepresent a good portion of the root causes of male plight, and in turn distort any resultant solution. (And more importantly, it is unnecessarily divisive behavior in a movement that is already trying to swim upstream).
/r/MensRights16/08/12 12:50 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree - I'm a British expatriate that emigrated to the US about ten years ago; suffice to say, my time here has been very... educational.
/r/MensRights16/08/12 12:41 AM
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Let me guess: it's a Patriar-Tree?
/r/MensRights15/08/12 11:31 PM
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I'm not sure I follow. Would I be correct in thinking that you are asking as to how we might go about reversing the polarized state of American politics? Or are you asking how one achieves compromise between the left and right wings of the political spectrum in general?
/r/MensRights15/08/12 11:16 PM
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The embrace of Feminism by the left wing is only one of many reasons as to why the modern American man finds himself marginalized; another, of similar significance, is the right wing's dogged insistence on clinging to ideals of chivalry (for men only; women need not apply). To reduce the underlying issues for the sake of grinding a political axe is facile. Please understand; I am not arguing that we allow the liberals to wriggle off the hook. Rather, I am suggesting that we if focus too narrowly…
/r/MensRights15/08/12 10:39 PM
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Conservatives are never going to do anything to undermine their chivalry-driven pursuit of traditional gender roles. Conservatives are the reason men are marginalized! ... You see how that works? Both the left and the right wing of the American politics are responsible for the plight of the modern man; upholding one and impugning the other only succeeds in at best addressing half the problem, and at worst splitting the men's rights movement along pointless political lines. We are all in this tog…
/r/MensRights15/08/12 09:36 PM
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As a Briton, I would like to say I am ashamed; not that you would be able to tell, however, on account of my the steel-like rigidness of my stiff upper lip.
/r/MensRights15/08/12 09:23 PM
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Indeed - suffice to say, if you subscribe to the theory of exponential technological progress, then the next fifty years are going to be very interesting indeed...
/r/MensRights15/08/12 08:22 PM
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Regarding your first point - I think we can agree that for all our technological advancement, we are still beholden to the limitations inherent in our current means of procreation. Regarding your second point - once again, the argument you are making is somewhat more nuanced than your original premise that egalitarianism advocates gynocentricism. For instance, one of your underlying assumptions is that you cannot enforce equal responsibilities; another is that one gender will always have dispara…
/r/MensRights15/08/12 07:31 PM
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If I understand correctly, your position is essentially that gender egalitarianism is flawed because true equality between the genders cannot be achieved. (A position I can certainly understand, if not share.) However, this is a somewhat different and rather more nuanced premise than your earlier statement that egalitarianism advocates gynocentricism, don't you think?
/r/MensRights15/08/12 06:15 PM
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Hang on - how does egalitarianism advocate gynocentricism? I'm not sure I follow.
/r/MensRights15/08/12 02:56 PM
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And this is why Safe Havens and the like should maintain records of all children accepted and the circumstances of their acceptance - up to and including a DNA sample - so that one parent has an avenue by which to track down any child that is unilaterally given up by the other parent.
/r/MensRights14/08/12 06:20 PM
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[But I just paid!] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQFKtI6gn9Y&feature=youtu.be&t=3m21s)
/r/MensRights14/08/12 03:51 PM
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That is a wholly valid response; also, you are quite welcome. Again, thanks for taking the time to come here, learn about the men's rights movement, and give it a fair shake. I do agree that the hostility that exists between the men's right's movement and Feminism is a detriment to both; if nothing else, it makes for an enormous expenditure of time and effort that could be better utilized elsewhere. (Indeed, there are unfortunately examples of the phenomenon in this very thread.) As it stands, m…
/r/MensRights14/08/12 03:38 PM
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[I couldn't disagree more] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gNG4dsOX6c) - scribbling, as a an act of artistic expression, is comprised primarily of loops and curves; art-forms that resemble and indeed have come to symbolize the image of the pre-industrial mother-goddess and her fertile womb-space. Your suggestion that these circumscriptive non-linearities represent the destructive orthogonality of the male phallus would be laughable if it were not so utterly offensive!
/r/MensRights14/08/12 04:22 AM
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The idea of checking one's privilege strikes me as nothing more than a combination of "Don't assume" and "Be kind to others"; not bad words to live by, although hardly revolutionary. The idea of checking one's privilege as I more often find it being used, however, is as a thought-terminating cliche; a precision ad hominem attack used to silence the supposedly privileged party. And that's ridiculous.
/r/MensRights13/08/12 11:40 PM
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I think in the long run feminism has been fixing the big stuff because it needed to get fixed first. I also think that advocacy for women's equality helped achieve more equality for men, because equality is equality. And now that so many things have been achieved, I think this is the era where we'll look back and see that feminism could afford to shift focus and fine-tune the inequalities we all face, including men. I applaud that fact that you've come here to learn about the men's rights moveme…
/r/MensRights13/08/12 11:20 PM
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I try to imagine that scenario and unfortunately, all I can picture is the author of this article coming back with a man in tow, hands between his legs, and her saying "I got one and I'm sorry to say that it still doesn't seem like a big deal."
/r/MensRights13/08/12 02:23 PM
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An argument can only be considered to constitute argumentum ad hominem - in your own words, "Personal attack in place of an argument" - if the criticism of the person in question is irrelevant to the discussion. For instance, arguing that the a presidential candidate is unsuitable because he or she is too short would be argumentum ad hominem; whereas arguing their unsuitability on the grounds that the candidate poorly manages finance would not. So rather than describing my response with the infl…
/r/MensRights13/08/12 02:09 PM
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What can I say other than: "Absolutely". For everything the Feminist movement has done, we could learn a tremendous amount from them about getting organized, getting active, and getting results - and indeed, should. Onwards and upwards, so to speak.
/r/MensRights13/08/12 02:27 AM
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In ruminating on this sort of strategy in the past, I have always come to the conclusion that the benefits (raising of public awareness, direct demonstration of the abusable nature of sexual misconduct allegations) would be outweighed by the the very real threat of legal counteraction against those involved. A law that provides false rape accusers with immunity from any and all repercussions, however? What can I say, other than I very much look forward to seeing the exact letter of such a law.
/r/MensRights13/08/12 02:24 AM
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My response would only constitute argumentum ad hominem if it was irrelevant to the discussion; however, this is not the case. You have responded several times with arguments that are inapplicable to the discussion at hand; I can therefore only conclude that you do so unintentionally (as a result of reading comprehension failure) or intentionally (as a result of bad faith). So which is it? Do you not understand that topic we are discussing, or are you choosing to willfully ignore said topic for …
/r/MensRights13/08/12 02:15 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree. I think it unlikely that Feminism will ever come about to truly accepting and addressing men's issues; but the fact that they are now at least acknowledging the existence of said issues (even while attempting to shoehorn them into the Feminist narrative) is a very welcome sign of the greater changes occurring in the outlook of society. Now; to keep up the good work, so to speak...
/r/MensRights12/08/12 06:21 PM
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In short: The Brian Banks case is old news. That isn't to say we shouldn't be keeping up with the case, but there seem to be a lot of posters in this thread who aren't familiar with the situation and are therefore rehashing old issues (e.g. assuming that the $1.5 million payout came from Brian Banks, not from the school district under whose auspice the crime was falsely reported to have taken place). What happened to Brian Banks is an incredible injustice, and we should be rightly outraged; howe…
/r/MensRights12/08/12 06:13 PM
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This may be wishful thinking on my part, but I suspect such a law could be defeated extremely quickly with the help of a single rights-minded young woman and a barrage of false accusations aimed at those that campaigned for and passed said law.
/r/MensRights12/08/12 05:31 PM
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I am going to play the role of cynic here, and suggest that your marriage is effectively over - any person that both hits their partner, and essentially invites them to leave the family home, has long since checked out of marriage. All that matters now is how the marriage ends, and how it ends for you specifically. I would suggest, amongst other things: Explore your legal options - maybe try getting in touch with [Fathers and Families] (http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/) and see if they can hel…
/r/MensRights12/08/12 04:30 PM
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This was also very my my experience. My parents marriage ended, wholeheartedly, because of my father (and the eighteen-month-long extramarital affair he engaged in). My mother was, at the time, both understandably displeased by this turn of events, and vocal about her displeasure. However, as time went on, she continued to snipe at my father (and I suspect has only recently relented as a result of discovering that my father's current partner has been diagnosed with cancer). My father, by compari…
/r/MensRights12/08/12 04:10 PM
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I think we can already see some adjustment in the outlook of Western society - 'misandry' is trending as a word, some nations are investigating the issue of visitation rights, and so forth. Conversely, Feminism appears to be attempting to keep pace; "Patriarchy hurts men too" is an excellent example of how Feminism moved from outright ignoring the issues of men to at least paying them lip service. Change is afoot. Where it will go in the next fifty years, I do not know - but it's going to make f…
/r/MensRights12/08/12 03:11 PM
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I can only perceive two possible explanations for your response: With all due respect, you lack reading comprehension. This entire thread of conversation has been centered on the topic of censorship in general and not, specifically, political correctness; it is you - and only you - that continues to act as if it is the latter currently under discussion. You are operating in bad faith, and more preoccupied with the idea of demonizing liberals than actually participating in the discussion at hand.…
/r/MensRights12/08/12 02:57 PM
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I'll bite. I think the reason you find yourself receiving so many downvotes is because your manner is highly abrasive, to the point where some may fear that you are giving the MRM a bad name. Certainly, that's why you earned my downvote.
/r/MensRights12/08/12 01:04 AM
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Modern use of the term 'political correctness' has its origins in the left wing of the political spectrum; it should hardly come as a surprise that the majority of its adherents are themselves card-carrying leftists. However, this has absolutely no bearing on the point I made - that political correctness is in and of itself only one permutation of a group of silencing tactics used by numerous different entities spread across the entire political spectrum; and by focusing on any one group, we fai…
/r/MensRights12/08/12 12:40 AM
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This appears to be a common thread in modern Feminism (minor consent issues are conflated with full-blown rape; uncomfortable speech is conflated with violence) and American politicking in general (depending on who you ask, eating meat and abortion are both outright murder). Interestingly, this is not a new issue; there is a documented instance from approximately 600 BC, in which a local shepherd boy's predilection for falsely raising alarm resulted in the eventual destruction of his entire floc…
/r/MensRights11/08/12 08:35 PM
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I am of the opinion that bigotry is quite possibly one of the least sympathetic and most dangerous motivations for a criminal act; and that furthermore, close scrutiny should be paid to any person that commits a hate-motivated crime, as I believe there to be a high possibility of further criminal offenses of a potentially escalatory nature. (A person may commit an act of theft as a result of financial need; one can remove this need, and therefore remove the motivation for the theft. By compariso…
/r/MensRights11/08/12 08:20 PM
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This is not an issue of political ideologue, but rather an issue of censorship in general and more specifically, Feminism's embrace of the premise that offense is given, not taken. For instance, one can see a similar parallel in the concept of religious blasphemy. We should focus on overcoming those that use silencing tactics; not specific portions of the political spectrum.
/r/MensRights11/08/12 07:59 PM
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A person that is qualified to perform a particular role should not be discriminated against on the basis of irrelevant criteria; anti-discrimination laws are generally enacted with this particular goal in mind. This particular situation is not, however, quite so straightforward. The business model of Hooter's is built in large part on the exploitation of male, heterosexual desire; as such, any person looking to fulfill the role of "Hooter's Girl" must be desirable to heterosexual men. Pragmatica…
/r/MensRights11/08/12 06:42 PM
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"This is going to sound quite rapey"... This strikes me as an opening gambit completely on par with "I'm not a racist, but"...
/r/MensRights11/08/12 02:23 PM
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I believe the idea at work here is that 'Patriarchy' (as defined by Feminists), modern American political Conservatism, and modern Feminism are all built on the same core assumptions (generally comparable to chivalry, i.e. women require special protection and men are to be the special protectors).
/r/MensRights10/08/12 10:41 PM
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Rule of Thumb... wasn't that an old law that stated men were allowed to murder their wives and children as many times as they could fit their thumb into a wage gap? That's terrible; we should definitely have it repealed.
/r/MensRights10/08/12 02:44 PM
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I hear you. Generally I enjoy Whedon's work; but I frequently find myself facepalming during occasions of blatant Feminist lecturing, "You go girl!" high-kicking fight choreography, and the needless slaughter of likeable second-string characters (all three offenses being particularly present in the last season of Buffy, and especially the series finale). My wife and I watched Serenity; and we were both shocked when the character of Wash was killed off. More so, however, I was absolutely pissed -…
/r/MensRights10/08/12 04:35 AM
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I absolutely am. A number of comments in regard to this particular topic have focused (rather understandably) on the general lack of credibility that permeates any and all material published via 4chan. I thought it worth pointing out that ironically, we actually have recent, first-hand accounts of a very similar incident of unprovoked female-on-male assault.
/r/MensRights10/08/12 04:14 AM
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What can I say other than OH DEAR GOD DO I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN.
/r/MensRights10/08/12 03:14 AM
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The Penny Arcade dickwolves controversy, of all things. I decided to give the complainants fair shake, and started reading through as much third wave Feminist material as I could get my hands on. I tried - I really tried - to accept the viewpoint presented therein; but there were simply too many fallacies, too many inconsistencies. The more I dug into matters, the more I found myself in the MRM (and I've been here ever since). The last six months or so have really hammered things home - as I've …
/r/MensRights09/08/12 11:14 PM
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In unrelated news, a Vancouver construction worker recently attacked a group of local women after taking offense to their neighborhood beautification efforts. More at eleven. /s
/r/MensRights09/08/12 10:03 PM
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I had much the same experience myself some years ago, working as an 'alley cat' (a sort of British bowling alley server that would serve you at your lane). Our sales numbers were tracked, and it infuriated me no end that my nearest competitor was a young lady whose primary skill was jiggling her breasts. (And please understand, this is not crude hyperbole - this is actually what she did - she would punctuate interactions with male patrons by oscillating her torso.) On the bright side, it's good …
/r/MensRights09/08/12 03:19 PM
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Understandable - a very similar situation occurred in Britain in the 90s, in response to a series of racially and homophobically-motivated incidents. I do still think an argument can be made for spotlighting crimes in which bigotry was a significant motivating factor, as I suspect that the perpetrators of such acts are both prone to further offenses, and escalation in their criminal behavior. Unfortunately, it appears that few implementations of actual hate crime law use this sort of common-sens…
/r/MensRights09/08/12 03:10 PM
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I'm fairly sure there's some adage to the effect of "Good service, by definition, goes unnoticed; but bad service will be remembered forever." Hell, literally right now, my brother-in-law is telling me about an incident from work today - two new staff (young, female, soon off to college) apparently decided that they were two precious to help the other servers during a crush. I mean, who even does that? "Nope, sorry, can't help you - that's not my table." "But my hands are full, and I need help."…
/r/MensRights09/08/12 05:37 AM
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That was my suspicion; indeed, based on my understanding, my brother-in-law would have a relatively open and shut case (i.e. no person could be reasonably expected to remain employed following a 93% decrease in hours and by extension, income). Of course, it goes without saying that there are few organizations in the area that are willing to fight for the employment rights of a thirty-year-old man.
/r/MensRights09/08/12 02:49 AM
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I'm not so sure - it seems to me criminal acts in which bigotry played a strong motivating factor deserve extra scrutiny. For one thing, irrational hatred is perhaps one of if not the least sympathetic motives for an act (compared to, say, theft for monetary gain). For another, I suspect that there may be a very high potential for recidivism on the part of those motivated by hatred. Where the idea of hate crime falls apart - at least, as it is currently defined - is in regard to the idea that ha…
/r/MensRights09/08/12 02:39 AM
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It is not the incongruity it seems. Many posters appear to espouse the sentiment that women have not been oppressed by men; but rather, that women and men both have been oppressed by a system of gender roles, and that Feminism (at least in the past) worked to remove much of that oppression for women and much less significantly, for men. I recall GWW, for instance, arguing to the effect that giving women the right to vote - but not the obligation to defend their nation in times of war - was unfai…
/r/MensRights09/08/12 02:20 AM
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I don't think the problem is that young women serve poorly as waitstaff, so much as young women rarely have reasons to be invested in what is frequently seen as low-paying work with little in the way of advancement or long term opportunity. For instance, the restaurant in which my brother-in-law works has, during his tenure, churned through half a dozen young, female servers. Each one has given far less than their full effort - some because they have greater aspirations (and soon leave for colle…
/r/MensRights09/08/12 12:43 AM
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My brother-in-law ran into a similar situation. He's got over a decade of experience in the restaurant industry - working front of house, in the kitchen, in the back office - you name it. Anyhow, after a management massacre at his place of employment, he went looking for a new job. (He wasn't fired, but the new management cut his hours from full-time to exactly one shift in two weeks - a dick move if ever there was one, and I wouldn't be surprised to discover most likely an illegal maneuver to f…
/r/MensRights08/08/12 08:53 PM
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Ironically, it transpires that women are unable to out-compete male Oppression Olympians, as men have on average approximately forty percent more upper body oppression than women. (Although if you think about it... doesn't that make women the true winners?)
/r/MensRights08/08/12 12:55 AM
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What can I say - it's an excellent point! Make no mistake; a homemaker is absolutely sacrificing their career by remaining voluntarily unemployed. Where the blinders come in is the assumption that they are the only party making a sacrifice, or that there is no recompense for the time they spend outside of the nominal workforce. I think TracyMorganFreeman captured the spirit of this duality far better than I can in [this particular comment] (http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/xrldk/does_…
/r/MensRights07/08/12 02:07 AM
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OH SHIT I'VE BEEN RUMBLED -hops away-
/r/MensRights06/08/12 10:01 PM
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I fully agree with your sentiment that the stay-at-home component of a cohabiting partnership is engaging in an exchange of resources, rather than a one-way sacrifice - whatever they lose in terms of time, effort, opportunity and career advancement, they gain in room, board and stability. To consider the disadvantages of such a situation, while wholly ignoring the advantages, is patently ridiculous. However, I would argue that there is still room for a mechanism akin to alimony, albeit in a form…
/r/MensRights06/08/12 08:58 PM
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AS A BEAR, THIS OFFENDS ME
/r/MensRights06/08/12 07:24 PM
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I'm reminded of a comment by Henry Rollins regarding the lack of bullshit in a two-male relationship: "All you would hear is the sound of belt buckles hitting the floor."
/r/MensRights03/08/12 06:50 PM
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This is an interesting point. Melissa McEwan's definition - as quoted in "Finally, Feminism 101" - begins with the statement "A rape culture is a complex of beliefs that encourages male sexual aggression and supports violence against women." This would seem to strongly suggest that one of the primary underlying assumptions inherent in the concept of rape culture is its unidirectionality; that is to say, that sexual violence is perpetrated by men, to women. This being the case, the examples you c…
/r/MensRights01/08/12 06:37 PM
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There was another interesting thread over there about an [unfortunate individual that found herself on the receiving end of violence she instigated] (http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/xi8c7/reddit_this_woman_was_beaten_badly_for_being/). Just to stress here, I abhor that violence took place; but I did find the responses in the thread to be refreshingly reasonable.
/r/MensRights01/08/12 03:35 PM
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Just take a moment to think about this, folks - here we are, in the supposed misogynistic nerve center of Reddit's war on women, and we're quoting the opening lyrics of the 1980s fashion doll tie-in cartoon "Jem". If that isn't proof positive that that the men's rights movement truly (truly) embraces equality and an end to gender role enforcement, I don't know what is.
/r/MensRights01/08/12 02:54 PM
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In 1975 [Esther Vilar] was invited to a televised debate by WDR with Alice Schwarzer, who became known as the representative of the women's movement at that time. The debate was controversial, in particular due to its high aggressiveness, and at some point Schwarzer claimed Vilar was:"Not only sexist, but fascist", also comparing her book with the Nazi newspaper Der Stürmer. An early example of "Insults are the last resort of the out-argued", perhaps?
/r/MensRights01/08/12 02:12 PM
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That's a good point. Maybe she's struggling to reconcile her second wave values with the third wave / modern world, and / or remain relevant?
/r/MensRights30/07/12 03:44 PM
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I think there is a definite ring of truth to your sentiment that the most recent generation of women have lived without the constraints of the generations before them; and as a result, they are shall we say, 'breaking the Feminist mold'? For instance, the substantial portion of young women I am personally familiar with either have no interest in (or even an negative impression!) of Feminism - they simply find it irrelevant to their own personal experience. Similarly, I suspect that the recent ri…
/r/MensRights29/07/12 05:13 PM
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The overwhelming public opinion of rape the rape of women, insofar as the Western world is concerned, seems to be that it is a crime on par with or even (incredibly) worse than death. In this day and age, the act of raping a woman in fiction is frequently used as a trusted tool for moving characters over the moral event horizon (almost always irrevocably). Quite simply, I think one would be hard-pressed to find a comparative instance in which the opposite is true. In terms of judicial treatment,…
/r/MensRights29/07/12 02:03 PM
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A wiener to the kisser is just not conducive to stardom! ...And that's why I now have soda on my keyboard.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 01:36 PM
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One could make the argument that every wave of Feminism has demonstrated the same problem - a desire to achieve equality between men and women, but only where equality is defined in terms of gaining rights, and never in terms of obligations and responsibilities. For instance, it is my understanding that the sole female member of Congress disfavored the extension of the vote to women, on the basis that women were not expected to defend the nation if called upon. (Hopefully someone here could be s…
/r/MensRights28/07/12 03:33 PM
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[The Cooley Innocence Project] (http://www.cooley.edu/clinics/innocence.htm) are Michigan-based, and may be able to help. Could someone here possibly put the two in touch?
/r/MensRights28/07/12 10:19 AM
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In my experience, the majority of discussion I have witnessed generally focuses primarily on the issue of consent. Where the discussion does turn toward the subject of the inherent disbenefits of circumcision, it is generally to combat claims that the procedure has upsides, lacks downsides, and carries risk. (For instance, the given example of spurious promotion of adult circumcision as a means to combat the African AIDS epidemic.) I suppose that potentially, there could be portions of the momen…
/r/MensRights27/07/12 03:52 PM
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It has been my experience both online and in real life that far too many people argue according to their perception of the opponent's position, as opposed to the opponent's actual position. Clarity of one's statements is both a surefire way to guard against this, and can also be used to stop a fallacious argument in its tracks.
/r/MensRights26/07/12 03:57 PM
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If I may play the part of the utter cynic for a moment: I would not be surprised to learn that one of the leading - if non-stated - reasons as to why the concept of Kyriarchy is gaining traction in the Feminist sphere is that it provides a means by which movement can both distance itself from the much criticized letter of Patriarchy, while still maintaining its spirit; and at the same time, provide answers to the growing questions regarding men's issues. (e.g. "The wrongful conviction of Brain B…
/r/MensRights26/07/12 02:08 AM
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Sophisticated as Hell. XD
/r/MensRights24/07/12 09:19 PM
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I think I get where you are coming from - I've seen more than one discussion on MGTOW evolve into a treatise on the subject of the upcoming end of civilization as we know it. Having said this, it occurred to me that the MGTOW route is just as valid a response - and solution to a perceived issue - as, say, moving city, state or country. At the same time, there's a wide gap between what might be good for a given individual in his or her situation, versus advice to be percolated to an entire gender…
/r/MensRights24/07/12 12:53 AM
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I'm a fan of intermittent fasting; nothing quite like fasting all day, and then putting in a three mile run for the sense of achievement! I wasn't aware that it allowed a person to flip between fat loss and muscle gain, though (although I can see how that might work - by reducing the size of the loss / gain cycles to mere hours or some such, I'm guessing)?
/r/MensRights24/07/12 12:40 AM
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Please correct me if I'm wrong, but my understanding of MGTOW pivoted primarily on the premise that the legal system was so heavily stacked in the favor of women, and the social contract so completely broken, that seeking romance with the opposite gender was basically a losing proposition for men. If this is indeed the case, then it seems to me that MGTOW rather differs from the promotion of political lesbianism in the sense that former advocates men avoid embroilment in a legally and socially d…
/r/MensRights23/07/12 11:03 PM
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Pretty much this. To lose weight, all you need to do is eat fewer calories than you use. To gain muscle, however, you must eat an excess of calories - plus a significant amount of protein - while following a work-out regime that emphasizes weight and resistance training. Additionally, I am lead to understand that outside of some extraordinary circumstances, one simply cannot both reduce excess body fat, and gain muscle, at the same time - these are mutually exclusive goals. (This does not mean t…
/r/MensRights23/07/12 10:45 PM
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That's okay, it's understandable - after all, a great many trans folks do align with Feminism. I'm just offering a ray of hope, as it were, that this need not necessarily be the case. (A situation, I would add, that is equally applicable to other forms of social movement that have been co-opted by Feminism - such as the LGBT community, or atheism).
/r/MensRights23/07/12 07:16 PM
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What can I say? The trans activist acquaintance I refer to was very specific in her criticism of Feminism. I would also add that she took umbrage with (amongst other things): the concept of patriarchy, the concept of privilege, dismissal of men's issues, approaching gender relations as a zero-sum game, and identity politics in general.
/r/MensRights23/07/12 06:23 PM
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Not always - I have a trans activist acquaintance, and she was informing me only the other week of the dim view held both by herself and her activist peers towards Feminism. (The anti-trans sentiment peddled by the likes of Mary Daly and co. has proven a significant impasse toward acceptance of, let alone allying with Feminism for a good portion of the trans community). The core trans community and the greater LGBT community both share an interest in gender which in turn, they share with Feminis…
/r/MensRights23/07/12 04:49 AM
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I appreciate your retraction, but it was unnecessary - I never asserted that men face more sexism than women. Rather, I simply posited that modern Feminist theory, and the Men's Right's Movement, disagree as to who is discriminated against and how; and as a result, they may find themselves in opposition to one another, despite otherwise sharing the mutual goal of gender equality. (Sidebar: I tend to choose my words very carefully. Please extend to me the same courtesy in terms of reading them; t…
/r/MensRights22/07/12 07:05 PM
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It could be said that Feminism, gender egalitarianism, and Men's Rights all share a similar goal - that of gender equality. However, this does not necessarily mean that all align for the purposes of identifying, understanding, prioritizing and solving issues of gender inequality. Conflict and disagreement may result where interpretations of the gender equality issues differ. For instance: modern Feminist theory asserts that the significant majority (if not the totality) of gender inequality is o…
/r/MensRights22/07/12 03:42 PM
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Between society's predilection for female pedestalization and male disposability, it is all too easy to understand this sort of outcome. (Indeed, this is no different from, say, providing women with the vote sans military obligation.) I just find it astounding that the the logic of the situation - that women (and by assumptive extension, women's issues) are under-represented - is so clearly disproved [i]by the passing of the bill.[/i] I'm reminded of an anecdote from an old anthology of such thi…
/r/MensRights22/07/12 04:23 AM
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So, just to be clear: the Dáil Éireann - of body comprised primarily of men - has passed a bill that will institute gender quotas for future candidate listings (on pain of funding loss). In this way, the bill will address the under-representation of women (and presumably their concerns) in the Irish political system. Again: a group of elected males just agreed to severely diminish their own possibility of reelection, for the benefit of women, because the majority of men do not give sufficient co…
/r/MensRights21/07/12 07:09 PM
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I am rather reminded of the debate between Rachel Maddow and Alex Castellanos on the subject of the wage gap. Shortly thereafter, Amanda Marcotte wrote a response that I imagine to be equally applicable to this situation (and equally fallacious). In short: yes, ultimately, the different outcomes between men and women can be explained by their choices. (In this particular case, it would appear their choice in travel agent.) But what social pressures molded their decisions? AH-HA, PATRIARCHY! Some…
/r/MensRights21/07/12 04:38 AM
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It has been my experience that economically flourishing urban centers (such as London and the Seattle / Bellevue / Redmond triangle) tend to be much more tolerant places in general - no doubt as a result of the incredibly diverse residents they attract, as well as the way said residents have to peaceably live on top of one another.
/r/MensRights20/07/12 04:58 PM
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A VIC-20! Ah, the memories...
/r/MensRights20/07/12 04:53 PM
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Firefox does not recognize "men's" (as in "men's rights"), but does recognize "women's". Which strikes me as a particularly egregious example.
/r/MensRights20/07/12 04:43 PM
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It's the same in London - while there, I would routinely wear a 'samurai skirt' (not unlike a heavy-duty, floor-length Utilikilt). Most reactions were positive; my employer even allowed me to wear the skirt as part of my uniform.
/r/MensRights20/07/12 01:09 AM
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10 Define rape as a crime that only women can suffer; 20 Refuse to redefine rape to include men, as by definition, no men are raped; 30 Go to 10...
/r/MensRights20/07/12 12:07 AM
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Exactly - charging a man with rape can potentially cost him his friends, family, career and even access to his own children; but at the end of the day, it's still a criminal charge - and can be defended against accordingly in a court of law. This is why plea bargains are, in their current incarnation, a blight on this system - they provide the prosecution with a means to measure the judicial literacy of the accused; and a tool with which to brow beat those that fall on the low end of the spectru…
/r/MensRights18/07/12 01:26 PM
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There was an anecdote the other week that ended with the fantastic rejoinder, "Insults are the last refuge of the out-argued."
/r/MensRights18/07/12 12:54 PM
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You are of course under no obligation to play along with the hypothetical scenarios; I simply find them to be a useful tool to better discern your position. I appreciate your statement regarding the premise that some acts have greater inherent factors (risks, consequences, etc.) and that therefore, are to be handled differently. (For some, parents may provide consent; for some, they may provide consent, providing other criteria are met (i.e. an age limit); for some, they cannot provide consent.)…
/r/MensRights17/07/12 10:33 PM
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Well, I don't know if I'd call it tremendous. And no problem, it's an interesting issue I find. I would. :) Some come here to argue; I come to learn. Your responses have been measured and informative, and I appreciate that. I mostly just want to see it become the commonly accepted attitude that trigger warnings are "the thing that you do". It's worth mentioning that trigger warnings come in various flavours to, I've seen blogs which have basically said, "Yeah, pretty much this whole blog will ha…
/r/MensRights17/07/12 10:25 PM
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On the contrary, I have found your statements regarding the posited hypothetical scenario to be most enlightening - especially in regard to your position on, say, autonomy and consent versus religious and cultural heritage. If you would perhaps indulge me in stating your position in another hypothetical scenario: would you support a person that wishes to have the first joint of their child's ring fingers removed? There would be almost no appreciable loss of function, and this would serve as an i…
/r/MensRights17/07/12 08:21 PM
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I disagree with your assertion that circumcision carries very little risk; however, this was not a point under contention. Similarly, I disagree with your assertion that circumcision does no lasting harm; again, this was not a point under contention. And while I appreciate that, in your opinion, opposition to circumcision is little more than the result of emotional reaction again, this was not a point under contention. You have asserted that all instances in which a legal representative provides…
/r/MensRights17/07/12 06:53 PM
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I'm sorry, but it just seems silly to make this "lack of consent" argument when it's generally accepted that parents give consent for their minor children in the majority of situations. What you are asserting is that all instances in which a parent, guardian or similar legal representative must provide consent for a child in their care as being equal in risk and outcome; this is patently false. Ear piercing of the lobe, for instance, is considered a procedure that is relatively painless, has few…
/r/MensRights17/07/12 05:09 PM
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How is it an "unfair burden"? It takes literally 5 seconds to put [TW] at the beginning. Putting [TW] at the beginning is the easy part. It's what comes after that strikes me as a potentially burdensome issue. For instance: which trigger warnings should be included, and how much detail should they include? Should we attempt to draw a line between, say, violence against adults, and violence against children? Would the mere act of mentioning violence against children in and of itself be potentiall…
/r/MensRights17/07/12 04:05 AM
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It seems to me that there are two instances here in which trigger warnings may be used. In the first, you have a situation in which a viewer may not be able to make an accurate determination as to whether or not the content they are about to peruse contains triggering material (e.g. Some form of support forum for victims of trauma.) In such instances, I can certainly see how trigger warnings may be used to good effect. I would liken this to the example you provided to the use of NSFW tags - thes…
/r/MensRights17/07/12 12:23 AM
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Sidebar: Obviously not what you meant, but now I can't stop thinking about men being more affected by Creutzfeldt–Jakob disease...
/r/MensRights16/07/12 11:05 PM
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I've given some thought as to how one might go about implementing Legal Parental Surrender, and it seems to me that it would require a greater restructuring of such associated areas as child custody, visitation, and support (not that this is a bad thing). For instance: Prior to a determination of parental surrender, it would be necessary to determine parentage (which can be done easily via mandatory paternity testing). This would have the added advantages of providing recourse against paternity …
/r/MensRights16/07/12 06:40 PM
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I absolutely should; I keep meaning to get around to it. You know what, I'm going to go to Amazon right now and- GODDAMMIT THERE'S NO KINDLE VERSION -hopefully I'll receive a paperback copy in a week. I do agree that the Feminist movement appears to have become even more, if I can be excused the unintentional slight, 'hysterical' in recent years; more so as the issue of men's rights percolates through the mainstream. Perhaps you are correct - the Feminist movement cannot be salvaged, and should …
/r/MensRights16/07/12 03:13 AM
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Well, there are essentially two issues: First and foremost, trigger warnings are redundant. Most topical written media - news articles, blog posts, what have you - will provide some form of title, headline and / or other summation to direct readers as to the content of the work. "Husband, Wife, Shot Dead In Alley" does not need to be followed by "Trigger warning: death, violence". Secondly, trigger warnings shift the responsibility of viewing potentially upsetting material from the viewer to the…
/r/MensRights16/07/12 02:56 AM
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I wasn't suggesting it was. And like I said, I appreciate the point you are trying to make. However, when I entered this thread, it appeared that a significant portion of the discourse was being given over to whether or not a person should feel guilt for their actions, versus regret, versus remorse; which strikes me as a semantic debate if ever there was one (especially given that the good majority of posters appeared to be aligned on the premise that "If you do something bad, you should feel ba…
/r/MensRights15/07/12 09:35 PM
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Thanks! Fellow Shinki fan?
/r/MensRights15/07/12 09:27 PM
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I do agree that throughout all iterations of the movement, there has been a stringent focus on female advocacy (recognition of such should probably be requirement (c)). If the fourth iteration is to prove compatible with gender egalitarianism, then the theme of female advocacy must be tamed (or at least stated). Basically, I'm not disagreeing that the Feminist movement is anything other than an enormous obstacle to the very goals the movement currently claims to pursue; but I'm also not willing …
/r/MensRights15/07/12 09:24 PM
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You can say that again. My wife's mother, for instance, was able to retain custody of her children despite a laundry list of extraordinary personal faults - alcoholism, drug addiction, parental neglect, child abandonment, a history of domestic violence, and multiple instances of imprisonment. I can only assume that incredibly, the family courts of the 80s were even more slanted than they are today - I simply cannot think of any other reason as to why that particular situation was allowed to cont…
/r/MensRights15/07/12 01:43 AM
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I'll say this: we are currently on our third iteration of Feminism; an iteration that is wildly different to the second, as the second was to the first. I see no reason why there cannot be a fourth iteration, populated by Feminists of a far more egalitarian bent. So to that end, if people wish to label themselves as both Feminists and gender egalitarians, more power to them - they could very well represent the next phase of the movement. All I ask, personally, is that such people are willing to …
/r/MensRights15/07/12 01:35 AM
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I appreciate the point you are trying to make, but the rather insistent way in which you are trying to make it, in a thread where the OP is making a sincere apology, strikes me as bad form. Let's be gracious about this and put the semantic debate to one side, eh?
/r/MensRights15/07/12 01:29 AM
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After my parents divorced, my father kept in touch; however, he did so in a way that could perhaps be thought of as... perfunctory. I still don't know if this was a result of his interaction with my mother, or because he simply didn't know how to connect with his own kids post-divorce. After my wife's parents divorced, her mother (and grandmother) did everything in their power to keep her father away; while simultaneously extorting as much money from him as possible. She only found out about thi…
/r/MensRights14/07/12 04:51 AM
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That explains so very much. You know, I'm actually all for freely consenting adults getting circumcised, if that's what they want to do. (It strikes me as no different from any other form of body modification.) However, I am of the opinion that the circumfetishist's cause would be a great deal more presentable if they didn't rely on such spurious arguments as "Growing up uncircumcised is socially traumatic" and "Girls prefer circumcised men"...
/r/MensRights10/07/12 09:58 PM
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Ah! Then I should have pointed you in the direction of tofu. Much like white chicken meat and tuna fish, it is both extremely high in protein, and low in both carbs and fat. Maybe give that a go?
/r/MensRights10/07/12 06:02 PM
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I am beginning to suspect that a number of the comments, and possibly the blog entry itself, represent some kind of astroturfing effort - some of the responses are simply unbelievable: Well, to give a male perspective, I'm uncircumcised and not very happy with it. Basically it's more trouble than it's worth, and it turns out to be a real deal-breaker with a lot of women... ... I underwent voluntary circumcision aged 38. Please bear in mind that I had no problems at all with my uncircumcised stat…
/r/MensRights10/07/12 04:57 PM
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When setting out to reverse my own weight gain, I was advised by more knowledgeable parties to engage in a low calorie diet with a ratio of almost 1:1 protein and carbs. As I understand it, the additional protein helps to ward off hunger, and also works to prevent the muscle breakdown that can occur in a low calorie diet. Personally, I look to a good helping of white chicken meat and tuna fish as my main sources of protein each day.
/r/MensRights10/07/12 03:10 AM
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Sure, but the question was what I preferred. :) I'll give you that one - it was my reading comprehension fail. :) I do agree that there are a vast number of different circumstances a police officer might find themselves in; and in some of those circumstances, traditionally female biological traits (smaller size, for instance) could be an advantage. It is my understanding however - and please understand that this is purely anecdotal, knowing a retired officer - that the good majority of occasions…
/r/MensRights09/07/12 12:55 AM
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While I agree that conflict resolution and non-violent approaches are to be endorsed, the truth of the matter is that (1) police officers are required on occasion to engage in hand-to-hand fighting, (2) when such fighting occurs, it is frequently without warning and (3) during such incidents, a strength advantage is preferable. For instance: there have been a number of occasions in which otherwise docile suspects have, once in close proximity to an officer, begun wrestling with the latter in an …
/r/MensRights08/07/12 09:30 PM
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Some scars are never pierced without blades; doctors have reported breaking scalpels upon some women... I'm sorry, but I am highly skeptical of this comment; doubly so as someone that lacerated his finger to the bone in an Exacto mishap. The idea that a surgical scalpel would not only prove insufficient to cut scar tissue, but that this would actually result in the implement breaking, seems unlikely in the extreme.
/r/MensRights04/07/12 05:54 AM
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I would add one caveat: that a DNA sample should be taken from all abandoned children; and a service made available by which a person might come forward and present their own DNA for matching. In this way, biological parents would at least have some kind of recourse against their partner engaging in unilateral decision-making.
/r/MensRights26/06/12 06:47 PM
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Where, in the US? This might be my faulty memory at work here, but I could swear that defense spending alone outshone educational spending by an entire order of magnitude. Having said this, I do agree that while greater (and perhaps more importantly, appropriate) educational spending would be welcome in this country, it would not constitute attacking the issue head-on.
/r/MensRights25/06/12 11:47 PM
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I have a fellow on tap that is an ex-political consultant from the Illinois / Wisconsin circuit. I am lead to understand that Obama's campaign will readily use any and all statistics in the fight against the "War on Women"; partly because this is an excellent wedge issue in and of itself, and also because it is a social issue (and therefore distracts from, say, the nation's ongoing economic woes). This is, unfortunately, the current state of US politicking.
/r/MensRights22/06/12 03:12 AM
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I appreciate the point you are making, but respectfully disagree. The viability of the battered woman defense, I would argue, takes advantage of the general leniency of the law toward woman; it is not in and of itself evidence that threatening counter-violence is an effective means to de-escalate a violent or potentially violent situation. (I would also add that since the OP appears to be male - based on the "Imagine if I had slapped her?" remark - that obviously, the battered woman defense is n…
/r/MensRights19/06/12 08:18 PM
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A good portion of self-defense doctrine is based on the idea that the defender is acting justly in proportion to the threat. For instance: in a number of jurisdictions, you would be justified - when attacked in the street by a knife-wielding mugger - to draw a firearm and attempt to shoot your attacker. However, you would have a hard time arguing the same if you fired at a drunk hurling insults at you. In the given instance, the girlfriend slapped the OP exactly once, and then stopped. Because s…
/r/MensRights19/06/12 03:16 PM
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Indeed. Make no mistake, it was completely unjustified for the girlfriend to strike the OP; but the bigger issue (and more pertinent to the question of whether or not he should remain in the relationship) is: why? By striking the OP, the girlfriend demonstrated both a remarkable lack of respect for him as a person, and a belief that violence and denigration is the solution to problems within the relationship. If she cannot demonstrate true understanding as to how faulty these two assumptions are…
/r/MensRights19/06/12 02:54 PM
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Well, there are two ways you can go about this. If you are not particularly invested in the relationship, I would highly suggest you break up. Think of it this way: your girlfriend is supposed to love and respect you; what sort of person inflicts physical pain and shock on someone they love and respect? If you want to give it another try, it is absolutely imperative that you have a discussion with her where it is made clear that by slapping you, she did great harm to your relationship; and that …
/r/MensRights18/06/12 05:25 AM
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