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It's not stupid to have these types of goals but I think you have to be realistic. Financial security is really important for some women (myself included for a variety of different reasons) and there is literally no shame in that and if it's important to you searching for a man that will fulfill this should be a priority....but you have to be mindful to work within your means and not over reach. You have to be realistic about your own value in the process. Yeah you could aim for an uber rich bil…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/22 09:08 AM
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I’m sure you know this but Brazilians hardly say no. Urgh, so true! Will have to wait and see what goes into my account.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 11:31 AM
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Definitely and that's the reason why I'm going! Make sure he's the one. We've know each other for 5 years as friends and lived together years ago. Now 2 years in a relationship (1.5 years ldr, 6 months him here). I want to live there in his country to make sure he's the right guy for me to commit to.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 06:29 AM
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Don't worry my friend, I won't :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 06:17 AM
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Aw yeah, because the plane trip is so expensive I asked him to help, but he didn't offer. I am asking him to help me (although I feel guilty asking for money) and he always says yes so I guess that's a good sign. Will have to explore the topic further with him I think. Yeah, we plan to get married at some point and start a family so he's not just a boyfriend like you said. We've been together nearly 2 years so it would make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 03:52 AM
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Good idea. I might bring this up with him at some point! We're coming up to 2 years and want to get married soon so it would be a natural progression.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 02:45 AM
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It's a good question. He only came for a visit and was in the process of getting a job so he knew his savings would be replenished soon as he earns a good wage. Whereas I'm moving there for a long time and it's likely I won't be able to replenish my savings for potentially many years. Can't see myself being able to earn much money for a long time because I can't speak the language yet and I'm not confident I'll be able to get an online job (maybe that's pessimistic of me). And I am a low income …
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 02:42 AM
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I'm keen to be a part time home maker! I love cooking so my mans going to be eating well :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 02:02 AM
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Hey thanks for your reply. Your advice is pretty helpful. I might ask him whether he will be happy with a similar arrangement you had with your ex. If I do that it means I only need to have that conversation once, rather than asking him for money everytime I need something and feeling like I have to justify it to him every time. It also hurts my pride having to ask for money like that. Sorry to hear about your friend. Some guys can be so controlling and take advantage in a situation like that. M…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 01:58 AM
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Yeah, working on dropping the hesitancy, hence the one way ticket out of Aus 😬 I'll have to chat with him further about those other expenses. See what he can come up with. I'm going to see if I can pull any strings to do a bit of remote work for current Aus employers. Otherwise I might go for remote US jobs , similar time zone. The BRL is terrible, no way would I actually get a job in Brazil if I can help it...
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 12:45 AM
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Oh definitely. I'm not wanting to spend any of my savings at all. I just feel bad asking for money. He says he will cover rent, food, health insurance for me, give me money for my retirement. Is asking him to cover 100% of my expenses (other bills related to my career and cat back home) unreasonable....that's the dilemma I'm facing here.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 12:03 AM
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I got banned from r/tallgirls too. I think it's because I'm in RP women although they said they don't make the list public which sub it was! Apparently RP women spreads bigotry and hate and promotes ineqity...quite the opposite actually. It's ridiculous the level of censorship these subs are promoting and actually makes me wonder the amount of filtering posts go through just to make it to the feed.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 11:00 PM
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Just chiming in as someone who was LDR for 1.5 years during covid. I think you need to just chill, take it slower. You guys have only been together 2-3 months. This is certainly not enough time to get to know someone. In a long distance relationship it is going to take you wayyyy longer to know the person well. The time you have had together is not enough. My advice is to continue to get to know him before even thinking about visiting and potentially making life very very hard for yourself. Give…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/22 12:14 PM
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Totally. I think that is why some of her advice (admittedly I've listened to 2 x podcasts) really resonated with me. Because I'm bossy and controlling....and I'm trying to reign that shit in.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 12:52 PM
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I really relate to your comment here. Thank you <3 That's it, being with a shorter guy is definitely triggering something in me. But I will say I have not felt like this since I was 10, where I was taller than every girl in my class. But yes, I am being triggered by this situation. I have no problem being tall in general social settings (work, with friends etc) its just that my partner being shorter does spark an issue in me with this. I'm going to get in touch with my counsellor next week I thi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 08:15 AM
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Its perfectly acceptable in your circumstances. I'm in a similar situation, parter is visiting me for 6 months from another country. I guess its good to have designated chores that each of you do. Try to develop hobbies and interests away from him etc to create some distance...
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 01:46 PM
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I love this. You are totally right!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 09:39 AM
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Thanks for your response. I disagree though. I think people sometimes do change, but not always. For example my ex, he had a drinking problem, generally this is not something that will change, despite him wanting to change. I realised this (took me too long though) and got out of that relationship. This is a completely different kettle of fish. It's not an addiction. It is an aspect of his personality that has not had the chance to develop yet. To put it in perspective, this is his first serious…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 04:35 AM
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I think alot of what you said is correct. I basically feel like the dominant force in this relationship due to his personality. He is going through an intense period of learning right now I think so hopefully with time it will get better..and the height issue will become less so. If he can't learn, develop and change then we will have a problem. demonstrated competence, over and over and over again. We are working through this right now. My confidence in him as a leader has been shattered a few …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 02:19 PM
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Good advice and good way to look at it. Really helps actually. Thank you xx
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 02:11 PM
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Very wise words. Thank you 💕
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 05:23 AM
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Thank you so much, I hope so 💕
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 05:21 AM
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I think yes, I am projecting the personality traits to the physical appearance a fair bit. I think even if he had a more masculine type personality I'd still have an issue with the height though, but less so? So I guess I want to do what I can to help the situation...which is be okay with the height difference. He needs to work on the personality stuff, afterall, he says he is dissatisfied being how he is according to him. He wants to gain confidence, be more sure of himself, be an equal in the …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 12:48 AM
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Well, I've never tried bondage before! I guess it could make one feel more feminine though!
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:43 PM
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We share shoes too, and I love it! Although I get bothered about the height difference it is a perk of this problem. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:42 PM
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Aw, I'm glad that you were able to work through any insecurities you have...in fact, I am completely jealous. I see alot of other tall women and they seem unbothered by the height difference, I want that to be me one day. I'm hoping that with time I will be able to work through it.... What is the height diff between you and your man? Like 3 inches like us? More? Less? I think also what is related with this height issue is that over time I'm learning that my boyfriend has very strong beta traits …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:41 PM
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I agree with you. Unfortunately, he is not that phsycially fit. He needs to lose weight. And he is working on this which is good. I think we all need to be the best version of ourselves, particularly men who are shorter in stature. They don't have the luxury that taller men do where their height adds to their good traits. But yes, the main thing that needs to be worked on is my attitude toward the height difference. I want to love him just the way his physical appearance is. If he gets fit that …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:33 PM
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You know what, I think I do have an aspect of alpha widowing. My ex fiance had a lot of alpha traits.... Dominant personality, organised, leader, very motivated, could capture the rooms attention and he was big physically (tall, solid build). He wasn't high value though because he had a drinking problem, which is why I left
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:30 PM
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Totally. I have to train my self out of comparing myself to mainstream beauty standards and mainstream masculine image....!
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:23 PM
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💕 I have looked at many pics online to try to make myself feel better. It works momentarily. Thank you for your suggestion xx
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:22 PM
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I do agree, they look amazing :) But we don't look like them, they are celebraties, we are just every day people with a bigger height difference.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:21 PM
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Aw, that's so nice. I'm glad you rocked it! I guess I just want to be me. I'm getting into this attitude where I feel like I have to look like a model for it to be acceptable to date a short man....which I don't want. I just want to be me 😞
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:20 PM
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You're defining your femininity based on your man, not based on yourself. Totally agree. I think I definitely need therapy for this issue. But the thing is I'm getting into this mindset where its acceptable to date a short guy if I look like a model. This is part of the problem. I don't want to have to look like a model. I'm conscious of gaining weight, being beautiful 24/7....and that's just not okay.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 11:18 PM
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Hey, thank you so much for your reply! Its really nice to talk with someone who also has an international relationship. I'm Australian and he is from Brazil. So definitely some cultural differences. He is well travelled though (much more than myself) and lived here for a year several years ago (when we met) so I kind of thought we wouldn't be running into so many issues. But he told me the other day he's learning how to live in Australia again and I think that's right. Because I've noticed he is…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/22 01:09 PM
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100%, great insight. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/22 07:39 AM
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Thank you, I will try to see if I can read that book. This is a disrespectful comment, frankly I agree! That's why I'm here trying to figure out how not to be disrespectful because it's not who I want to be as a partner. I have told him once that he lacks common sense. I wish I hadn't because I feel like it has caused him to lose confidence to have a leadership role as you said in your comment. then let the man be, do his thing, and then praise him for getting you there safely (or whatever works…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 09:39 AM
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Hmmm. For example, he was paying for some items at a shop and did not think to get his money out ready to go. By the time we were at the start of the line he had to spend quite a while digging around in his wallet to find the correct money and everyone was waiting. Or another time we were in a store getting a few items and he had to keep asking me where to go and what we needed. Just absent minded stuff that I get frustrated with. Bigger picture stuff, I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 09:34 AM
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Interesting. Thanks for the input. I'm really not sure if things will change if the circumstances change. I guess that's partly why I'm trying to step back to see if he will step up when given the chance. Because I need a leader here, that's the type of person I am attracted to. I'm trying really hard to step back, let him figure stuff out in his own time even if I know what to do etc and just let him lead. It's really hard though as I feel like I'm getting inpatient at times and I don't like th…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 02:07 AM
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Yeah, that's exactly what I'm trying to do, get him to lead on the big picture stuff. And even just trying to step back and let him figure things out in his own time even if I already know the answer etc. I just get inpatient and annoyed I think, I'm trying not to show it but every now and then it slips out sadly. Trying not to though.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 02:03 AM
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I can relate alot to this. I'm so blessed to have a HV man that accepts me for who I am despite numerous and serious health issues. I am not able to work as much as I wish I could or be as happy or as productive as I wish I could. Its bordering on disability now, which I'm trying to learn how to accept but he loves me any way. He always tells me that despite every thing I go through I am still worth so much as a person and he couldn't live without me. Insanely fortunate. And happy for you too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:15 AM
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Such a great post. I agree on so many levels. I know I've found a HVM when I ask him why he loves me and he lists off about 20 reasons why and needs 10 minutes to explain everything. God bless him. And I just love how many of the reasons why he loves me are actually things that I am proud of/value/like about myself. And of course I do the same for him, could talk all day about all the reasons why he's so damn awesome. Aren't those conversations where you're building the other up and praising the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:35 PM
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Not addicted to any substances (alcohol, drugs, cigarettes) and uses in moderation alcohol only (although I would accept someone if they do party drugs occasionally) Loyal and not a cheater Mentally stable (minor mental health issues ok but needs to be taking action and working on it) Physically fit and eats healthy Dependable and reliable Prefer a more liberally minded person Open minded Kind and has empathy for others Able to communicate and has honesty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:48 AM
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Totally. Been with an alcoholic before and it isn't worth it. I mean, I don't mind having drinks and getting crazy every now and again but there comes a point when it is just too much! I'm so much happier now I don't have to worry about someone elses drinking problem. Drama sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:40 AM
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Yo, same! I'm bisexual and I try to keep it on the down low because men fetishize it so much. It is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:13 AM
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Yep I kind of agree here. This advice should be taken in the right environment....but it still needs to be said..because the amount of times I've looked at men in a club and smiled at them but they never approach astounds me.
/r/seduction13/09/20 12:09 AM
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Thats awesome. I hope you have the best time! I've been thinking of doing something similar some time soon xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 10:03 PM
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Word. This is a recent realisation for me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 12:22 PM
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