| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 6 | Just saw this on TwitterThere is so much fucking pedophilia everywhere. I want to burn it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 07:48 AM |
| 71 | LVM convinces pickme into poly, proposes to the new girlI know exactly how she feels. The ringleader at my circus promoted that bitch Becky to First Clown today. I know I should be happy for her, but I've been riding mini tricycles, honking my nose and squirting water from my flower lapel for two fucking years, and what recognition do I get? A pie to the face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:41 PM |
| 32 | Ultimate pickmeisha behaviour covered up by a 'prank' video where she tricks her bf of 14 years (!!) into going down on one knee. SMH.The way he desperately shakes his head...girllll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:37 PM |
| 7 | Grown Ass Men Ending Marriages Over Porn & Anime Women.Reading this I was thinking two things: Firstly, I'm so glad that you've already made the decision to divorce him, and secondly, when you're finally living alone and away from this Ogre you'll feel so damn glad you kicked him out of your life. I'm not worried about you being homeless, you've got a good head on your shoulders and I know you'll not only survive, but thrive. Congratulations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:10 AM |
| 4 | My roommate randomly came across my ex on tinder and he’s using a photo of US on his profileI saw this so often on Tinder - who knows what the thought process is. I think the best option for your mental health is to get your roommate to ask him nicely but assertively to remove your face from his profile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 12:49 AM |
| 23 | She posted an [UPDATE] to I (29F) keep finding long hairs in my bathroom, which is strange because my husband (32M) is bald and I have a short pixie crop hairstyleThis is such a creative writing exercise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Why Gamers are LVMFantastic writeup OP, well done. I hope you'll consider doing more of these, it would be a great asset to FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 03:14 AM |
| 6 | Does physical attraction grow over time?In my experience, I've grown attracted to men who I didn't find attractive initially due to their personality. However, this is a thing you need to figure out about yourself - some people can form attraction despite appearances, some can't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 04:03 AM |
| 21 | Has anyone else dated a HVM but ended the relationship because of his mom?When you marry someone you marry their family. You made the right decision. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:02 PM |
| 300 | YikesBeing a "mommy gf" is a terrible experience 0/10 would not do again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:57 PM |
| 9 | When you reject a NVM and his feelings are hurt, it shows.At least in some countries men would be shamed for being so pathetic to ask a woman for free food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 12:33 AM |
| 27 | Reminder not to over-investThings like that can be discerned by staying over at his place (or vice versa) for short increments of time. It can also be vetted by going on holidays (at a no-services AirBnB rather than a hotel). Moving in with a short (no longer than 1 year) engagement period is the final way to vet cohabiting compatibility. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 08:38 AM |
| 58 | Reminder not to over-investInteresting chart - of course, we don't do long-term cohabitation without marriage ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 07:11 AM |
| 30 | Another woman (and everyone who agrees with her) gets torched for being a big ole meanie to her shitty ex-husbandIf he wanted her kindness, resources and her lodgings, he was free to access them while he was married to her. Instead he chose to be selfish and cruel in the way that he terminated that relationship. Sounds like karma got him this time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 05:09 AM |
| 281 | Actual Female Hate Subs being banned? Is this real?!Reddit really dragged their feet on these ones. I'm not about to applaud them anytime soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 12:10 AM |
| 400 | It’s not worth it in the long runIf I had the power to change one law I would make the age of consent for appearing in pornography 25. Just to watch scrotes across the world lose their minds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 01:01 AM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020I wanted to share a little tip that isn't 100% foolproof but in my personal experience is a good indicator of true attraction. Why would you need to see if he's attracted to me? You ask. Unfortunately there are certain men out there who date for the wrong reasons. Maybe he wants sex and isn't fussy, maybe he wants your money and/or labour, maybe you're his parent's type (but not his type), he's lonely, he's feeling the pressure to settle down and so on. Dilated (big) pupils usually indicate attr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 12:11 PM |
| 17 | Guy I’ve been dating/talking to (and sleeping with) for a month is still using dating appsYou are not built for situationships. Never sleep with someone you are only in the 'talking' stages with. I would start distancing myself pronto. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 07:50 AM |
| 6 | He's 'fine' with FDS but misses the point completely. Link in commentsThanks manisfestationqueen 😊 Maybe I should start a blog.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 12:58 AM |
| 10 | Okay, what the actual fuckHe sounds like the loser protagonist from The Son of the Mask lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 12:50 AM |
| 96 | He's 'fine' with FDS but misses the point completely. Link in commentsSince he did us the courtesy of analysing us (regardless of the poor quality), I took a look at his blog and decided to return the favor. This seems like somebody who decided on his stance before doing the research. His blog seems to be a roleplay of a successful redpill/MGTOW-er who wants his audience to obtain a "salve of hope" (which is ironically what he accuses FDS of being). His photo features a patchy-bearded man whose hairline has eclipsed the horizon and a smile so painfully forced that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 01:52 PM |
| 56 | Goddamn right she walked away. Found on r/choosingbeggarsAll these losers (men and women included) love to berate women who have standards. I saw one women gushing over her $50 sterling silver engagement ring. Others who pretend to go wild for a fucking McDonalds date. Make no mistake - they're proud of it. They see the type of women who uses FDS as gold digging bitches and want to prove how morally outstanding they are for holding their boyfriends to the lowest possible standard. In the meantime, they'll sacrifice their earning potential for their ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 06:49 AM |
| 86 | I can't even get a text back? Best believe she deserves all of this.It's good to see a man who appreciates what a significant gift a child is from his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 12:40 AM |
| 26 | 'As Churchill advised, ‘never, never, never give up’ in the pursuit of a man to share my life'You'd think after 15 years of being let down by transitory men she would have the wisdom to take things slowly with a man she's known for a full month. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 09:10 AM |
| 31 | I.....WHAT? The things some women will put up with. FDS is so necessary it’s not even funny."I told him his nest was stupid as a mud crab" Heterosexuality 2020 everyone 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 06:08 AM |
| 62 | IT'S HERE!! WE'VE LAUNCHED THEREALFEMALEDATINGSTRATEGY.COM WEBSITE! SIGN UP ASAP IN CASE WE'RE BANNED!Great job to the moderators for whipping up a website so quickly. Also, don't give money to reddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 08:22 AM |
| 35 | They just banned a ton of subs as you’ve probably seen, someone posted an enormous list of anti-women and r*pe subs saying they should be removed too. And of course, men are whining"So do you think the practice of safe and consensual(?) BDSM is evil or something?" Yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:44 AM |
| 9 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.Certain "privileged groups" will crusade against subs like FDS because they "discriminate" based on certain characteristics of users. The real reason is because these "privileged groups" know that their voices will drown out the contributions of "underprivileged groups" and henceforth protect the status quo that keeps these "privileged groups" privileged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:25 AM |
| 8 | Did I make the right choice to cut him out?"blah blah blah excuses blah blah blah anxiety I don't know if I can do something [serious]." That's my takeaway from the exchange, and you don't need to ask us if you made the right choice because in a very wishy washy way he had already made that choice for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 09:36 AM |
| 7 | This video is trending on YouTube and I’m really creeped out by this guy’s bedroom.The contents of a man's room/house is a great way to vet him. Case in point - soft porn posters (especially of anime girls) is an instant nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 09:20 AM |
| 18 | Working with + catching feelings for a (possibly?) LVMI don't see any good reason to commence a relationship with him from what you've written. Just because you can get along well together in a collaboration it doesn't mean he's going to fulfill your every need and be a good partner for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 05:16 AM |
| 41 | Anyone else fed up of men at weddings (often even the groom - e.g “help me” shoes) pretending that they don’t really want to be in a committed relationship because it’s ‘funny?’In a situation like this, acting like that, even jokingly would be grounds for a break up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:07 PM |
| 125 | Put yourself first. Always.To add to this, men act like they're being 'cucked' if women ask them to get a vasectomy if they want condomless sex. A completely reversible procedure with no impact on hormones or long term discomfort, yet apparently the absence of microscopic tadpoles is too much for men to handle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 01:41 AM |
| 66 | No contact with ex for three years randomly reaching out and sending flowers 👎Joke's on him, he thought he could do better and 3 years later he still hasn't. Hopefully he'll give up soon. For stalkers, any kind of reply from their target, positive or negative, can be like a drug for them and they'll only increase their behaviour to get a response. If he's making you afraid for your safety please contact the authorities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 12:38 AM |
| 8 | No contact with ex for three years randomly reaching out and sending flowers 👎That's crazy, my ex messaged me on June 19 too. I really ought to get back into Astrology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 12:34 AM |
| 3 | Hi ladies, looking for a bit of supportYou're on the right track! My advice would be to keep doing what you're doing, but don't fight your thoughts when they pop up. If you try to shut them down unnaturally (denial), it will probably only strengthen the frequency and emotion behind them. Trust me, it will eventually go away altogether with time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 12:30 AM |
| 42 | Just found out ex is already in new relationship with a girl he always claimed was just a friend .It's hard when the ex gets involved in a rebound and you remain single (which is the correct choice for someone interested in personal growth). It's like, I have to process these feelings alone while he gets to continue the company of a significant other without resolving his personal issues. Then you realize that it doesn't matter what he chooses to do with his life because you've got much higher priorities: yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 11:08 AM |
| 8 | What dou you think, is it normal that someone's life basically revolves around her boyfriend?It sounds like they're practically married with the amount of time they spend together. It's important for a woman to continually invest in her own individuality, single or not - all relationships come to an end and it's going to be a lot easier if you already spend a decent amount of quality time with yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 04:12 AM |
| 18 | Deleted a fuckboy off my social media today. Does blocking/deleting give them satisfaction?It doesn't matter. Blocking is the best option when you need to get rid of a negative influence because it requires the least amount of energy, as opposed to typing up several paragraphs airing your grievances. Try not to spend too much mental energy on worrying about what fuckboys think of you and your actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:50 AM |
| 15 | It's odd that abuse kinks are always called "play" like choking becomes breath play. It infantalizes the torture and makes it sound innocent and fun. It's disgusting and makes me incredibly uncomfortable.It's called a 'dark side' for a reason - it's not meant to be indulged in as part of everyday life. This so-called liberation of those who have these sorts of 'kinks' are in fact an express ticket to corrupting your soul. Those who have violent tendencies and feed them are only increasing their appetite for harmful behavior. Men who inflict increasing levels of violence upon the women they claim to love are only destroying what healthy ability to love they have left. Women who are seduced into o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 11:20 AM |
| 1 | No social media = redflag?It's surprising but with these kinds of things you just file them away as biographical information and don't worry about it unless something comes up that conflicts with what you've been told. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 10:04 AM |
| 8 | This is what I'm afraid of.. being married for a long time then being left for a younger model 😬Apparently he had cheated on her for several years prior to MEW. And MEW is not even with him now? What a complete loser, his own daughters hate him and for good reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 03:50 AM |
| 4 | The NVM FWB that ruined my spring semester messaged me with this after a month of nothing 😕Of course! Especially if you're still bothered by the conversation. You don't owe this man anything on any level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 01:44 AM |
| 8 | I have created an HVM. You're welcome, ladies."He's pinning you against your sisters" You are spot on - since OP edited her original post she is claiming this: "Now, he's a single dad raising his daughter by himself. He basically got played by a female version of an LVM" At the risk of sounding bitter, jaded and aggressive, that statement rings alarm bells for me. Do you often hear of women being the gender that "plays" men and abandons their offspring? I'm not saying it's an impossibility, but I have serious doubts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 08:33 PM |
| 23 | I have created an HVM. You're welcome, ladies.What you are saying is subtly suggesting that women are responsible for not only educating the men in our dating pool, but also that we are responsible for being victims of their manipulation and for their continued pattern of manipulation. I for one gladly place responsibility for the oversupply of LVM in the hands of our corrupt society and other factors like poor parenting. Don't get me wrong, I am always glad for a woman who realizes that she deserves better. I will thank her for respecting … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 12:26 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020The world is growing darker every minute. Big Porn is indoctrinating more young men and women. Society backs up Big Porn by encouraging its usage. Soon this bleeds into polyamory and the destruction of long term relationships for short term sexual gratification. Big Porn is also encouraging violent acts such as choking to become normalised in our society. Despite the pushback of feminists, the glorification, objectification and sexualisation of the teenager and young 20s female is growing strong… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 10:30 AM |
| 57 | I have created an HVM. You're welcome, ladies.It is pick-me thinking to believe you can "create" a HVM (unless you are literally his mother). You may be able to function as a turning point in his life, but the source of potential exists within himself. You could have rejected another man in the exact same way and he would have gone on to his 30s behaving exactly the same way as his teens. Nice to know that you expect us to thank you for your service, but I'm going to take a HVM assessment on a man who you've spoken to for an entire day with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 09:47 AM |
| 10 | The NVM FWB that ruined my spring semester messaged me with this after a month of nothing 😕That's one of the most pussy-footed ways of asking for a second chance I've seen. "Yeah I do, but maybe I don't, idkkkk". Also, he's making it clear that he doesn't want you, he just wants a cure to his loneliness. Even without knowing your history with him, his attitude alone is enough to warrant a block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 03:45 AM |
| 2 | When I first saw the comment I thought it was a joke.... then the picture. #CancelMen2020There are wayyy too many men on dating apps who pose with their gf (or their ex). It's mind-boggling - do they think that if they get caught the inclusion of the photo will get them into less trouble? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 02:44 AM |
| 50 | Remember when GiGi Engle prude shamed us all for not fucking on the first date? Turns out we were right about the HPV 🤦♀️Sometimes you can be getting holes punched out of your internal organs, yet the penny never drops. Women: Get your HPV vaccine if your doctor says you should, and be very astute when selecting sexual partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 02:13 AM |
| 3 | Am I in the wrong?If you explained to him that it was sarcasm, and he refused to listen, he: Has low self esteem Is not on the same 'level' as you personality-wise Is possibly looking to create leverage over you emotionally. You're obviously torn up about it and women in that state are usually weaker in protecting themselves because they feel the need to atone. Give him space. Watch out for any signs of "I'll forgive you if you...". If this is the same man you made a post about 28 days ago, you should have dumped… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 12:46 PM |
| 16 | It’s legal in 35 states for cops to rape you after detaining you.The more I learn about America the more my desire to live there for a little while diminishes.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 01:35 AM |
| 6 | Need advice for dumping FWBIf he's treated you with courtesy and respect, end the arrangement with the same, and whatever heartbreak he goes through is a fact of life, not your fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:03 AM |
| 5 | How to Handle Nasty Tone/ Raised Voice?My first thought, which may or may not be good, is let him go off for a short while, then silently get up and leave his office ignoring the vitriol he hurls at you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:59 AM |
| 12 | Can’t make this stuff up. Grown able-bodied men begging and accepting money from Pick-Mesha’s on Twitter. Many had jobs. Many called out those who wisely refused to donate too. They don’t like getting called out either.At least this will help create a catalogue of bums so any women who knows them will know to steer clear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:55 AM |
| 13 | He asked me to pick up the check and I caved. Help.This is why you don't jump to label a complete stranger as a HVM until you get to know him for at least several months. The way you should have handled it differently is long before you go to the bar. When you gently suggested parting ways and he invites you to another place, you put your foot down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 01:53 AM |
| 67 | Advice on marriageThis is reposted all the time but I always have a chuckle at "Beauty Men." It's so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 07:18 AM |
| 2 | I let a LVM pull me back in after dumping him, and he successfully pulled a power move on meSome men will take any opportunity and any excuse to keep you talking after you've ended things. My recent ex has a talent for persuasion, and after I told him I was done he desperately tried to get me to call him "for old time's sake." If I had let him, I know he would have tried to worm himself back into my good books. So I said no. Then he begged me to tell him what had been the final straw (he definitely knew already). I declined. OP will probably get better at putting her foot down in the f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 12:53 AM |
| 41 | If you don't think HVM exist at all, why are you even here?How do you know they are HVM? I'm curious because there's a lot of people throwing the label around without really knowing them for long or on a personal level | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 12:37 PM |
| 93 | If you don't think HVM exist at all, why are you even here?You raise a good point. General dating advice states that there are plenty of fish in the sea, and advocates for people to have an abundance mindset rather than a scarcity mindset. Then there's the problem of reality - HVM probably are rare, and for a good reason. It's unsurprising that a lot of the users here are jaded and have no faith in men whatsoever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 12:10 PM |
| 46 | Run, sis, there’s two of them.This man is...dangerously honest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:30 AM |
| 26 | Reactive Abuse - Why you should know about it (LONG personal story of abusive relationship within)"I'd thought it would be a good idea to get a credit card and add him as an authorized user, because he had bad credit" Sis, I... "It was like dealing with Bruce Banner and the Hulk. Banner is not a bad person" Really? This piggy who stole your pills, turned your home into his sty, fucked your credit, taunted you and choked you is "not a bad person" deep down inside? I may not be perfect at choosing the right time to end a relationship myself, but you really need to focus on the important lesson… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:22 AM |
| 4 | Should I cut things offIf he likes you, you'll know. If he doesn't, you'll be confused. Let go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 01:47 PM |
| 81 | Do not be understanding/accommodating for menIt's good to pretend to be understanding to a fault/open minded when in the dating stage. That way a man might hazard admitting dealbreakers and you can 180 it out of there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 10:36 AM |
| 74 | Scrote Realizes that dick is low value on OLD: Post from r/hinge"We will no longer be forced to be funny’ thoughtful, romantic, and tall all before the first date!" Sir, I'm not looking for a man who has to force himself to have these qualities, I'm looking for one who exudes them effortlessly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 01:12 AM |
| 18 | The Same Losers who Call FDS "Manipulative" think The 48 Laws of Power is an Inspirational Self-Help MasterpieceI'm in the middle of reading that one. An anecdote about seduction compared the act of seducing a woman to conquering a foreign land. It also described how a man attempted to seduce a woman by pretending to be interested in her solely for friendship 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 01:52 AM |
| 25 | Reddit be likeI'm stealing this. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:33 AM |
| 4 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔When I think of it, I've hardly ever met a well adjusted man on Tinder or anywhere else online. I think I might delete soon and commit to finding people by getting out there more often and in more places. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:30 AM |
| 40 | Why does this seem like propaganda for being polygamous? It’s really annoyingOnce again this poly shit being shoved down women's throats is advocating for multiple women and one guy. I weep for the women of the next generation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 09:26 AM |
| 3 | Kinkmeishas fighting with each otherOh great, the alpha omega fanfic shit, that brings me back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 09:19 AM |
| 7 | Trigger warnings??Even as someone who doesn't have triggers I find that the constant barrage of stories of abused women is negatively affecting my mental health if I spend too much time on this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 09:11 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts on Lana Del Rey’s recent controversial statements on Instagram? Curious what you ladies think and how you interpret her wordsI was also influenced a lot by her music, especially when I was dealing with break ups. I'm not sure whether it helped me or plunged me further into depression. I have two thoughts on her post; firstly, why is she trying to argue for a double standard with other female pop artists when the real double standard exists among male rappers who have always been guilty of sexual, immoral, violent and misogynistic lyrics? Secondly, if she chooses to exclude herself from feminism, why is she demanding a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 05:50 AM |
| 34 | Hey Queens! Please check out the official FDS Social Media Accounts!Agreed. Will check out the youtube page but I'm going to pass on the other platforms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 11:56 AM |
| 6 | KYLIE JENNER IS A PICKMEWhy would anyone love Kylie Jenner. Her role in her cosmetics brand is highly overrated and her family have encourages millions of women to spend money plastic surgery/diet supplements/makeup/overpriced garments as opposed to investing in more worthwhile means of self improvement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 08:02 AM |
| 108 | Man is upset for his sons friends hitting on his daughter, so he bans his son from having friends over.A daughter has a right to safety in her own home. A rare case of good fatherhood here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:22 PM |
| 2 | Saw this on IG today 😒So everything's up to me except.../I/ have to approach him first? If I had this app I would go ahead and delete it thanks to this 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 01:40 PM |
| 48 | If he left that easily, he was never worth keepingHopefully she's able to recover from this before his new relationship falls apart and he comes crawling back to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 12:49 PM |
| 33 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020#KickHimOut2020 I finally ended my relationship with a very LVM. My only regret is that I wish I had bowed out at the first red flag. Now it's time for me to concentrate all that energy he was stealing from me on myself. Lose weight, do the impossible and get a job, indulge myself in my hobbies again and spend time with my family. It's all going to go up from here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 01:57 AM |
| 38 | I think she is gonna need us!!Seems to be a pattern with these monsters. Get a woman invested enough or 'trapped' enough in a relationship to make it very difficult to leave (such as marriage, shared accommodation, kids etc), then do something like this to them. This is why a woman has always got to be prepared to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 01:10 PM |
| 74 | HVM and HobbiesOutput vs input is spot on. I've been thinking about that a lot lately and I'm trying to shift towards more output activities myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 04:40 AM |
| 12 | Advice (spoken and unspoken) from my mother who is still married to my dad after 30 yearsIn defense of the divorce point: The statistics are clear: Men whose parents were divorced are more likely to get divorced themselves if they marry. It's not something to take lightly while selecting a lifetime partner. I would probably make it more specific and say "a good family." I think a lot of people unhappy with these guidelines are unhappy because some of the "don't dates" apply to themselves. Reminder that women are allowed to (and should aspire to) marry up. Reminder that dating is the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 03:52 AM |
| 5 | Make sure you're not with him just because you want something to love.My ex displayed a strange sort of jealousy whenever I was affectionate towards a dog...now I realize that he knew something I didn't. These days I've often thought that if the right man doesn't find me in the end I would be quite content to be a Doge Lady. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 01:46 AM |
| 35 | I have no wordsShe should have bailed when she first learned of his racist fetish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 01:57 AM |
| 8 | Never consent to rough sex. Never be with a person who demands rough sex. Don’t go to jail or get put in the ground for a “kink”She needs some damn backbone almost more than she needs oxygen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Two individuals in a marriage... Poor womanIf it was his coping mechanism (or the bullshit excuse of being one) he could have said so rather than the classic LVM response of...repeatedly asking for it over and over again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 02:54 PM |
| 2 | FDS Book clubSounds like a good idea, but maybe you should create a dedicated subreddit or other group for this rather than just one post? Doesn't have to be the FDS brand, it just helps with gathering enough members for a fruitful discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 01:15 AM |
| 16 | And people wonder why women don't want a family anymore....Personally? On average, women are the most likely gender to file for divorce. Women are also known to deliberate on separation for several years prior to eventually giving up on things getting better. If multiple women were driven by the same man to go through the turmoil that is divorce, then their testimony is not something to be ignored. Everyone's personal circumstances are different, but my number is 0. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:32 PM |
| 37 | And people wonder why women don't want a family anymore....SEVEN wives? Wow, I'm surprised if a woman willingly marries someone who's had more than two. I hope she ensures that the footage is kept safe across several different platforms, and maybe even sends it to a couple of her close friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 11:49 AM |
| 22 | Women has height preference on dating app. Man decides to shame her, tell her she is ugly, ginger, old and 'dosen't deserve a man'.953 upvotes for this pathetic rant triggered by a simple request for height. I hope she reports him to tinder and get his profile permanently banned, although I won't discount the possibility that he hit send and unmatched immediately for the reddit credit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 12:23 AM |
| 60 | Don't let ANY boyfriend take years of your lifeIt's likely to be part of it, but from what I've seen it's usually a mixture of anger at getting no return for their exorbitant investment and hindsight of missed opportunities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 03:07 PM |
| 6 | I need you ladies to hype me up in preparation of breaking up with LVMIt will probably feel bad, and you might be confused about whether it was the right decision after you break up with him. Don't mistake your bad feelings for thinking you somehow made a mistake, and don't think you're not allowed to feel bad, because in a little while you'll look back on your choices and feel proud and happy that you made them. Good luck! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 11:34 AM |
| 105 | Getting rid of my old bdsm stuffCan we have a movement where instead of burning our bras we burn leather, whips and gags? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 10:57 AM |
| 6 | Is he serious????!Why are you humoring a 15 year old? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 04:55 AM |
| 15 | "Kink" is exploitation of mentally unstable womenI also hate how some "doms" capitalise personal pronouns (to convey importance or a godlike status?). Met one who did that nonstop, and was in the scene partly to hide the fact that he couldn't even dominate the inner workings of the kitchen or the laundry so he had his subs do his cooking and washing for him. It'd be funny if it weren't so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 02:54 PM |
| 10 | "Kink" is exploitation of mentally unstable womenEver since I heard about scum of the earth men who go around claiming that so-called "consensual non-con play" (aka RAPE-play) is a good therapeutic tool for rape victims I have not taken an inch from that community. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 02:47 PM |
| 9 | Always testingThirty minutes?? I've had men offer to drive a two hour round trip without me asking them to or me having to barter them for more effort. Not that into you, thinks he's the prize, dump him, next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 01:05 PM |
| 134 | Always look for the positives - UK in lockdownI know someone who had a hissy fit about the lockdowns here. He was berating people for being "anti-social" and "overreacting" when they declined his invitations to hang out in the city. Has also made unbelievably stupid comments on social media like "I'll laugh if the lockdown was for nothing"(!) He also went to the gym daily until they closed all non-essential businesses: I'm pretty sure his ego is unraveling with every day that he is forced to spend time alone with himself instead of indulgin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Porn has convinced men that violent sex is OK. It ISN'T. A man who wants to strangle during sex has paired sex and violence.This article is so well written and holds no exceptions for any sick man. I'm so glad that I read it a few months ago - it never once mentioned BDSM, but it's obviously designed to shut down any protests about kinks. I am so sad for the women who have been victims of sexual assault and fall for the bullshit of "dominant" men who say that simulated rape is therapeutic for their psychological recovery. Doubly so for the men who convince their partners to get into that pedo shit because she was rap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:11 PM |
| 4 | Why men really don't like single moms...LVM play a huge role in the creation of pickmes because they push really hard to create an artificial reality where "you have a child, nobody wants you", thus making single mothers more desperate than they should be. The reality is that a single mother can get plenty of HVM as long as she believes that she can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:44 AM |
| 17 | When Guys Play the Victim | Shallon LesterPete Davidson once deliberately misinterpreted one of Ariana's tweets criticizing Kanye West's tomfoolery as being "ableist" and then proceeded to suicide bait her while surrounding himself with his clueless coworkers at SNL. She went there and was completely beside herself, offering to be there for him because she didn't know any better. Toxic doesn't even begin to describe this man's behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:37 AM |
| 102 | Advice from a Woman Who Proposed to a Man: “Don’t do it” she said, adding that when the woman asks, “they don’t take it seriously.” 🤡February 29th should be Pickme Awareness Day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 09:52 AM |
| 21 | Friendly reminder that men are on such a high horse when it comes to beauty that their opinion shouldn’t matter to youTook a cursory glance at the subreddit. People who give women a high rating are downvoted like hell, while people who give men a low or "average" rating also happen to be downvoted like hell. The sexist tone of this page can be spotted in 2 seconds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:56 AM |
| 5 | Both of those desserts taste eager, stupid and devoid of self respect...Yes, I know several women who use it to control their endometriosis, but at the end of the day the pill was invented for birth control, and for that use alone it's not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 11:08 AM |
| 7 | Both of those desserts taste eager, stupid and devoid of self respect...The pill causes the amygdala to shrink. Functions of this area of the brain include mood and sleep regulation. But you're nice enough to sacrifice that so that your man can ejaculate into your vagina, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 04:13 AM |
| 40 | I guess it's better to be cheated on, pickmeisha 🤷I like Beyonce...but I shudder every time she posts her cheating leech talentless ugly ass husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 11:06 PM |
| 11 | Please do not post abusive and sexist DMs that you get from male lurkers on this subIf a scrote wanted to post an abusive/misogynist message onto FDS, all he had to do is message a user here and she would do it for him. I get why people posted that stuff here but in the end, those scrotes probably got off on the attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 12:30 AM |
| 48 | Investing myself into men not interested in anything real is canceled. I’m not bringing anything to your “company”The man is ALWAYS the applicant, NEVER the interviewer. If he acts otherwise, he's not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 11:44 AM |
| 27 | How can I use the "single until married" strategy effectively?Execution is exactly the problem - I feel that it can come off very easily as manipulative, it's difficult to explain it in terms that would appeal to a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:59 PM |
| 15 | How can I use the "single until married" strategy effectively?I checked that link before posting this, it doesn't answer my specific question about how I communicate this dating principle to the men I'm seeing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:44 PM |
| 4 | ONLYFANSUnless someone becomes a phenomenon to the point where they leave all other e-girls in the water (Belle Delphine, who incidentally has never posted full nudes), I don't think the short term, moderate-to-low income earned from Onlyfans is worth the lifetime of fear that one of your male "fans" will eventually find who you are and expose you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 10:40 AM |
| 73 | I notice I can't even say f#ck you to man who really pissed me off.Report him for harassment to the management because he was obviously watching you for far too long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 01:39 PM |
| 46 | It's not Men vs. Women. It's High Value vs. Low Value.I'd rather be a man who is with a woman using FDS than a woman with a man using MGTOW/red pill strategies. Sorry men, you can't equate us having standards with your kind constantly scheming to manipulate, degrade and use us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 11:36 AM |
| 2 | Never give a man the chance to leave you twiceNot sure if there's a specific term for this ploy but it's definitely up there with ghosting if not worse, due to the emotional distress and borderline abusive tactics of manipulating someone who you're in a relationship to end it because you haven't got the guts to do it yourself. You dealt with him perfectly, well done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:51 AM |
| 1 | Is mariage a must in the long run?De facto/"forever girlfriend": -He is able to walk out on you whenever he chooses (and vice versa - but why would you be with a man who you can easily picture walking out on?). -Depending on your local laws, you may have similar legal protections to marriage, but usually they're not as airtight as marriage/divorce laws -This may work in your favor if you have individual assets that you'd like to protect from divorce claims -Your claim to his assets is also limited if things go belly up Marriage:… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Share your goals for levelling up in 2020Secure a full time job after graduating early next year and possibly complete an internship or two Overhaul my diet and exercise routine in order to become healthier, prettier and slimmer Broaden my social circle and surround myself with new friends who align better with my values and life goals Read a lot more books Learn about investing and start a baby stock portfolio Set myself up for completing a graduate degree possibly in 2021 without having to take out a student loan. Saving money in gen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 01:18 AM |
| 10 | FDS Strategy: when he asks for polyamory, you kick him to the curbIt relieves me to see that there's still people out there who recognise how idiotic polyamory is. The majority of these "relationships" I've seen tend to have a single man having multiple female partners which reeks of male entitlement and ego-boosting. I also loathe the term "ethical non-monogamy" as it seems to suggest that the counterpart is "unethical monogamy". Even from an unemotional standpoint, the fact that these people have the time in their lives to have multiple serious relationships… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 03:00 PM |
| 16 | Posting on social media - discussionThe more involved a man becomes in your personal life - family, friends, and social media, the harder it may become to extricate him from your life if it turns out he's not partner material. It also signals to him that you're comfortable enough to admit him into your personal circles and is a potential signal that he can 'relax' when it comes to wooing you. Every situation is different but I would say certainly no less than 3 months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 03:37 AM |
| 16 | I’m so sick of beardsIf it's longer than 1.5 inches it's an instant no for me. Can't stand those pube-y bushes and the chances of getting food stuck in them are essentially 100%. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 11:14 PM |
| 12 | FDS and kinksWhen I first tried fantasising about sexual scenarios that involved me being loved, cherished and respected as opposed to scenarios that degraded me in some way, it was harder than I expected. That's when I realised that 'serious' kinks go beyond the bedroom and are hard-tapped into the underlying self-worth of a woman. FDS isn't about strict adherence to the norm (although BDSM-style sex is unfortunately becoming rapidly more normalised in our society), it's about empowering women to get the be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 03:33 AM |
| 8 | Men dont want woman who are older than 30"""Old""" is the new "fat". Men are desperately trying to make it a taboo to date women over 30 in order to increase the value of the male population, but let's face facts - just like many men want fat women, many men want women who are in their 30s, 40s, 50s+. Not gonna work on anyone except for the LVM who are low enough in their values to allow the opinions of others to shape their dating preferences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Is it bad that using and ghosting a womanizer is on my bucket list?Sounds like a fun challenge | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 06:55 AM |
| 3 | TruthOnce you learn that there is a significant extent to the amount to which you control your emotions, including love, nothing and nobody can stop you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:35 AM |
| 17 | This is so tiring, they need a section for singles looking for couples, bc I don’t care about ur relationship goals...This is peak pick-me. These cool girls are so cool that they'll let their man fuck another woman and have kinky threesomes! And the best(worst) part is, is that they think girls who do this are rare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 03:41 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend of 2.5 years starting to constantly add women to IGWhat makes you pretty sure he's not messaging any of them? Have you seen what he's doing on his account? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 01:22 AM |
| 10 | Pickmes be like:I think the bathmat is the most appropriate accessory for this phrase | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 01:18 AM |
| 14 | This game-playing-fuckboy *broke up with me* then sends the I miss you (& your dog text) a few hours later so I ..I learned about this tactic recently where men break up with a woman not because they sincerely want to end a relationship but because they want to change her behaviour and/or lower her self esteem to his preferred level. Good work on not giving him an inch of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 11:20 AM |
| 30 | FDS GUIDE. Non-mainstream opinions and strategies held by this sub.Recently stumbled across this sub and I love it, so much so that I've created an account just so I can post here. I've spent too much time in male-dominated communities and it's so refreshing to find a space that supports hardline boundaries when it comes to dating. Maybe I need to lurk more, but I thought the rule for sex was 3 months minimum? Just my personal opinion, but for serious dating 6 weeks seems like a pretty low minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 08:34 AM |
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