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He’s definitely not submissive — which I actually why I think he would do so well in this new job, because he’d be his own dept head. Whereas in his current job he’s extremely undervalued and forced to be a “yes man.” I want him to find the career fulfillment here that he hasn’t felt elsewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/17 06:29 PM
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Can you tell me a little more about your personal experience?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/17 04:22 PM
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We would interact on most projects, but neither of us directly oversees the other. His dept involves research that informs whatever I’m working on, though. I expect some debate where that stuff is concerned. This is my dream job, but it’s not necessarily his — it’s just much better than what he’s dealing with currently.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/17 03:49 AM
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Just a thought but if she is really devoted to you, you may want to reconsider the "moving" excuse because her response may just be "Oh fun, let's go!" Think about whether or not she would be willing to drop everything to go with you, because if she is, you should have a better reason in your back pocket for wanting to go without her. Or just another excuse entirely, if you'd rather not tell her the truth.
/r/askTRP04/06/16 12:54 PM
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Yup. I tend towards cute "athleisure" on lazy days since it's insanely comfy but there are also ways of making it look put-together. I never go without makeup during the day, regardless of what I'm doing, so I think that helps me feel more presentable as well. Also, a perk of always looking like I'm ready for the gym is that it encourages me to go more often!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 06:38 PM
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And people love to confuse extremist third-wave feminism with values from traditional first-and-second-wave feminism (think gaining the right to vote, etc) in order to give their ideas credibility and it pisses me off because they have almost nothing to do with one another.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 06:31 PM
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I had no idea. In that case I really respect you guys for making the decision to split. Looking forward to contributing to the new sub.
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 02:36 PM
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Come on over to /r/redpillwomen and give it a shot, you'd be surprised. We focus on female sexual strategy from an RP perspective and have absolutely no association with /r/relationships whatsoever. I think we can give you much more insight than the men here can.
/r/askTRP01/01/16 05:25 PM
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Welcome :) It's always nice to see other younger women on here. I found RPW at 21, 2 years ago, when I was googling advice for dating a man 10 years my senior. We're no longer together but I've since found a captain with whom marriage is very big possibility and I wouldn't have done it without this place. If you haven't already, read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. It's basically my bible.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/15 04:00 AM
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Lots of good feedback here from the male perspective, I just wanted to add my two cents as a RPW. The fact that she always holds her stomach during sex sounds like she may also be self-conscious. OP, has she gained more weight than is normal for someone at her stage in the pregnancy? Has weight previously been an issue for her at all? If she's willing to give you oral but no sex then it's likely she's embarrassed by her body. Perhaps it's actually a comfort test. I know, never ask a fish how to …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 08:12 PM
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I work in advertising and so does my boyfriend, that De Beers campaign is an incredible study in changing public perception. Since we both know exactly how much bullshit it is, however, I'm glad we can take this into account if/when we get married and spend the money on more important things.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 08:29 PM
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He is less disciplined around me, maybe he hangs around me more because I'm not good at sounding authoritative and he knows he can get away with more. The fix might be to stop being such a softy with him.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 07:44 PM
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I think a training class would be a great way for me to step away and let them bond without making it super obvious that I'm trying to get out of the way. I'll definitely suggest it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 07:36 PM
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This is a really good point that I didn't consider. That could totally be the case. Because as it is, A is always the one to feed him and always holds the leash when we walk him together, and is also the keeper of the treats. The dog knows he's definitely the alpha.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:05 PM
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What I mean is he bought the dog, and it lives at his house, but I still have a role in taking care of it. We're grad students and when A's in class for hours I'll run back to his place and let the dog out, for example. We don't technically live together, but I spend every night there anyway, so it feels like I do. I'd say we split the responsibilities 40/60.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 03:15 PM
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Awesome, that's a huge step! Good luck :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 09:33 PM
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Bjj is a great suggestion. My SO does it and he says the biggest difference between bjj and other marital arts is that you always need someone to roll with, you can't just go and punch a bag on your own. He's met lots of friends this way.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/15 10:29 PM
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RPW here. I may be the exception and not the rule, but I'll share anyway. My entire life I told myself a man shorter than 5'10 was a deal breaker. And then I met my current SO. He's 5'6 (exactly my height) and I couldn't be more in love with him. His natural alpha qualities make up for whatever tingles a few extra inches in height might have given me. He also does bjj so I know that even though he's short he could still toss me around if he wanted to. That was a key part of my attraction to him …
/r/askTRP26/10/15 02:20 PM
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We met in our masters program. He's 30 and I'm 23. We were both dating other people at the time but we'd had crushes on each other since the beginning of first semester. He finally confessed how he felt after the year was over and we realized we felt much more strongly for each other than we had ever felt for the people we were currently with. I think it helped that because of our situations, we were never able to have any kind of physical relationship until we were absolutely certain the other …
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 01:02 PM
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This is true, and definitely makes me feel better. I briefly considered doing the whole Bridesmaids thing where Kristin Wiig gets up early to put her face on and then sneaks back into bed, but then I realized how absurd that was! Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 05:53 PM
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Have you read The Surrendered Wife? Laura Doyle has a great chapter on this. I'd really suggest checking it out. I'd paraphrase but she puts it so eloquently I couldn't do it justice.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/15 03:49 PM
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Have you ever thought of taking improv classes?
/r/askTRP04/06/15 10:25 PM
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Looking forward to it!
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 12:13 PM
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Excellent idea, we do this over at /r/redpillwomen and it has been super helpful when gauging the value of advice. Hope it does the same for you guys.
/r/askTRP27/05/15 03:01 AM
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Puerarchy.com**
/r/askTRP26/05/15 09:36 AM
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This is a fair point - there's not much I admire about him right now. I've lost much of my respect for him and his decision-making abilities. And if I do give him another chance I have no way of knowing how long it will take for him to earn my respect again.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/15 03:39 AM
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We try to sleep over at each other's place at least twice a week, but when school interferes we manage to find time for a quickie here and there. So I'd say an average of 3 times a week
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/15 08:58 PM
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It sounds like you're doing your best to accommodate his needs, and he doesn't seem to be returning the courtesy. As RPWs we obviously want to do everything we can to satisfy our men but relationships are also about compromise. Have you talked to him about why oral sex doesn't satisfy him? Maybe there's something you could work on as far as technique that would make it more enjoyable for him. Same for handjobs. Perhaps try something new and see how he responds to it. Is he getting upset because …
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:06 PM
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It depends on the bar. If you go to a more intimate bar with a slightly older crowd, you're going to meet different people than you would at, say, a frat bar.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/15 02:41 AM
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My sorority house had ~75 girls living in it. Strict rules about alcohol. If we were caught with alcohol in or around the house, we had to pay a hefty fine and defend ourselves to the standards board. Also boys weren't allowed on the second and third floors of the house. Edit: went to a big state school with around 16 chapters of sororities, almost all of them on my campus were like this
/r/TheRedPill08/01/15 04:49 AM
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/r/marriedredpill is a good resource for LTR game.
/r/askTRP09/12/14 09:32 AM
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If I may, the reason we tend to downvote male questions is not because we don't value the opinions of TRPers. It's because we understand that the advice we give is basically the equivalent of asking the fish how to catch it, and that you would be better served asking questions in the male sub. Also the men here are more likely to give you tough love when you need it. A post on our sidebar really says it best: (can't link directly because I'm on mobile) "women are exceptionially unable to advise …
/r/askTRP09/12/14 01:03 AM
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Honestly I think your best bets are frats or intramural sports teams. Frats get a bad rap sometimes but each one is different and there's bound to be at least one you click with.
/r/askTRP04/12/14 11:48 PM
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I'm so confused by this story. If he truly loved you why on earth would he want a divorce? If you had any value to him other than being the breadwinner, he would put forth the effort to stick around. We definitely need more information
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/14 02:12 PM
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Um did you even bother to search any of the posts here?
/r/askTRP09/09/14 03:43 PM
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I'm subscribed to TRP and Ask TRP, I think it's important to understand the male perspective on all of this if I'm going to successfully apply the theories we discuss here to my LTR. Some the attitudes there are mildly infuriating, but I realize their strategies differ from ours because their goals differ from ours, and many of them are still in the anger phase of swallowing the pill.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/14 02:37 PM
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I hadn't thought of framing it this way. That's an interesting perspective!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/14 09:09 PM
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Yeah but that's not direct competition with your man. That's competition with the other options your man now has available to him.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 06:06 AM
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This was the catalyst for everything red pill for me. I can't remember how old I was when I saw it on TV, but if it weren't for this documentary I don't even know where I'd be right now. Definitely a must-watch.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/14 02:41 PM
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Before I lost weight several years ago I was a size 10 at about 155 and I'm 5'6, so that sounds right. That same weight would definitely sit much differently on a model over 6 feet.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/14 02:11 PM
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I find it odd that she wouldn't have known ahead of time she'd be having company from out of town. Seems like a BS excuse to me
/r/askTRP09/07/14 04:19 AM
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eBay! Those brands in particular have a lot of new with tags/new without tags listings. Sometimes I'll even grab something that's labeled new with defects if it's a funny seam I can alter myself.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 03:52 AM
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At bars, believe it or not. But I tend to stick to low-key places like local craft brewpubs.
/r/askTRP07/07/14 11:26 PM
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This is a great perspective. And yes, I do understand the importance that making a sexual connection has for men before making an emotional connection. I just need to establish that I will only become physical with him if he sees potential and sees me as more than a plate, which hopefully I'll have proven by then that I'm worth more of an investment than whoever he's currently spinning. I don't fault you guys for spinning plates, I understand that's how y'all work. I just won't let myself be one…
/r/askTRP07/07/14 04:50 PM
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What are some indicators that help you figure it out early?
/r/askTRP07/07/14 05:38 AM
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This may be TRP ideology, but RPW doesn't condone sleeping with a man before commitment. That's the easiest way to become a plate. We keep our partner count low and look primarily for LTRs, so your advice doesn't apply.
/r/askTRP07/07/14 03:36 AM
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Haha good to know, because I just invested in a few more last week!
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 02:14 AM
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I love Etsy for accessories too. Things like handbags, scarves and headbands for winter, handmade jewelry... and some of it for pretty cheap!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 09:41 PM
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That site is just a rabbit hole of awesome dresses and it's so easy to spend money I don't have...
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 09:39 PM
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I also just bought this and this from Modcloth. I've been doing a lot of dress shopping lately lol, my bank account is hurting...
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 08:36 PM
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Hahaha thank you. I've definitely come a long way since discovering this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 08:24 PM
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That's a pretty fantastic idea. I'll definitely consider that!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 08:13 PM
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It's this shift from UO, it looks like it's sold out actually which is crazy since I only bought it a week and a half ago!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 08:13 PM
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I think it's all about finding the right shorts for your figure. I have a small waist and a badonkadonk so finding a pair that made my butt look great while minimizing it was hard, till I came across Ann Taylor LOFT shorts. Hit just below the belly button and have a 4 inch inseam which is not quite mid thigh for me and just long enough. I have a pair in every color now, and always watch for sales lol.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 03:46 AM
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Agreed. This is a good way to let her know she's not special enough to wait around for. Until you make that clear, she's going to keep stringing you along for validation.
/r/askTRP01/07/14 02:58 AM
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Because most western women have settled into this mindset of being lazy rather than actually doing any work to improve themselves. It's easier to shove the blame for our inadequacies on an external source (the media, the patriarchy, etc) and we've been applauded for it. There's so much positive reinforcement for bad/lazy habits nowadays
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 01:53 AM
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Lol right?! That comment just about killed me. "Oh sorry, I'll stop cooking pretty things and maintaining my physical attractiveness just so the rest of you don't feel inadequate." wtf
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 01:47 AM
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I used to say I hated Scarlett Johanssen because "She just seems like a bitch." Then one day my guy friend goes, "So you know her personally then? You know anything about her other than that she's really beautiful?" Me: "Well... she just has really shallow, unintellectual movie roles..." Him: "So that automatically means she's a vapid person?" And then I realized, wow, I really just hate her because every guy I know fantasizes about her. She could be a lovely person. So now I still can't really …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/14 10:58 PM
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I think something that made a huge difference in my last LTR was taking an active interest in my SO's interests. Being open to learning about what makes him happy. Beer, for example, was a big one. I learned so much about it and we had a blast going to different brewpubs and doing tastings and things. He was so impressed. He told me "I couldn't have done anything like this with any of my past girlfriends." We're no longer together but beer is still something I take an interest in, and it's somet…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/14 10:49 PM
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It's incredible! And I think what really differentiates us from feminists is that feminists will try to achieve equality by bringing everyone else down to their level. In this sub, we see something like this and go "Wow, I wish I could do that..." and then we try to do it. We try to get on their level and we're not complacent with ours.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/14 10:43 PM
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I understand the jealousy--hell, I'm definitely jealous. But the fact that some people are trying to make themselves feel better about their own inadequacies by turning it around and saying it's "Disturbing", she's "photoshopped her soul out of the pictures," and that she's a "creepy stepford wife" is just unnecessary.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/14 10:39 PM
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And I bet you 90% of those "disturbed" comments are coming from women. Because last time I checked, one of the top comments was something akin to "Marry me?"
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/14 10:32 PM
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Yeah but Thought Catalog is kind of an unconventional platform for this sort of article. A lot of TC writers cater to the feminist majority with their "10 reasons why twentysomethings are entitled to being selfish blah blah blah." Once in awhile a good article like this will pop up but for the most part you have to wade through the bullshit to get there
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 06:56 AM
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Too weak to handle the prison system? Lol I wonder what happened to all the supposedly "strong independent women"
/r/TheRedPill24/06/14 05:17 PM
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Before TRP, I would have seen this as an insult if my future husband were to ask for it. After discovering TRP and realizing how often women pull ridiculous shit, I don't see it as a personal affront because I would know beyond the shadow of a doubt that my child is MY child. I fucking gave birth to it. Evolutionarily, men can't ever fully know with complete confidence if a child is theirs or not, and I can't imagine being a man and having that question in the back of my mind each time I looked …
/r/TheRedPill24/06/14 01:20 AM
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I don't think that sounds lazy at all, it sounds super cute. There's an art to looking effortlessly put-together :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 04:14 PM
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I love this attitude, that's exactly what I'm talking about-- you have a goal in mind about how you want to appear to others, and you're accomplishing it through your outfit choice.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 04:10 PM
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There are some things we can infer based on what we've read here in RPW and TRP. For example a man might assume that a woman that embraces her femininity through her clothing is more likely to embrace it in other ways in her daily life as well. I don't know if men pay attention to a specific style so much as they pay attention to the overall picture, I'm not a man so I can't really speak for them lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 02:28 AM
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I usually don't come up with my own outfits! Pinterest and Polyvore have saved my ass. Whenever I have a piece that I have difficulty styling, I'll just search there and see what other people have paired it with. I've learned so much that way
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 12:00 AM
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Haha I'll let it serve as a personal reminder of how far I've come :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 11:24 PM
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That's a great idea. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten to work and realized I forgot my watch or some other piece that really ties an outfit together
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 09:36 PM
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Thank you for this! I'm awfully messy and I'm hoping I can ditch this habit before grad school starts in two months
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/14 09:05 PM
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Haha maybe I need to make some older friends.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/14 01:01 AM
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Like I replied to someone else, she's still a lovely and thoughtful person. Just misguided and reckless in her love life.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/14 01:00 AM
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She's a very sweet and thoughtful person and I've known her since HS. She just makes questionable decisions where her sex/love life is concerned. The problem is that if I went around dumping every friend who acted this way, I'd probably be nearly friendless! That's the problem with being 21 :/
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 08:58 PM
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I'm just tired of hearing it especially now that we've graduated, it makes me kind of sad because I do care about her and I worry she won't be able to hold on to a decent man
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 07:01 PM
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I don't think there's much danger of that, I've seen how our guy friends started treating her once she made this mess for herself and I don't want any part in that lol. She's the perfect anti-example
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 06:57 PM
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No, she just didn't want the guy she likes (who also happens to be in that friend group... smh) to find out. Which, of course he will, since she made out in front of all of them...
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 06:52 PM
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You're right, those sound like far better responses than the ones I sent. I'll have to pocket those for if it happens again and maybe start giving her some tough love.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 05:50 PM
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This is a great perspective, I can't save her from making those mistakes, only hope that she learns from them soon enough. We were roommates and one great example is when she was chatting up this sketchy guy at a bar that she didn't know-- she was blacked out and wanted to go home with him. I told her multiple times that I was going to take her home with me NOW... She refused to listen. I almost took her keys from her. The next morning I get an upset text asking me to pick me up from the guy's h…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 05:50 PM
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One of the comments was something to the effect of "He can come to my house and assault me any day." Good lord. I have nothing to say to that
/r/TheRedPill20/06/14 03:17 AM
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A woman who makes six figures is more likely to peg herself as a "career woman" and value that above everything else. She's more likely to put off marriage, children, etc for her job. It's going to be difficult to find a woman who makes that much money and still holds traditional values, and is willing to give up that career success for a family during her 20s. I'm not saying it's impossible to find someone like that, but pretty unlikely.
/r/askTRP20/06/14 12:45 AM
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He's responsible: he can hold a job, pay his bills on time, take care of his home. I can trust that in the future he'll be able to handle the responsibility of helping raise and provide for a family. He has self-discipline: he takes care of his health, doesn't need someone breathing down his neck to know when something needs to be done, and can see something through from start to finish. He knows how to set a goal and make it to that goal without relying heavily upon others for help. These are t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/14 11:18 PM
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Haha can't even spell your name right
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/14 09:59 PM
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It's commonly said that 90% of weight loss happens in the kitchen. So don't discount the benefit of eating well. Go on a diet with her, it could be fun to experiment with cooking new kinds of food together and that takes some of the pressure off of her if it's a joint effort
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/14 05:29 AM
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Right, slut shame wasn't really the right word hence why I put it in quotes, but you get the general gist of what I meant.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/14 12:11 PM
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I like your perspective from an evolutionary standpoint that a woman who has had many partners is probably a poor judge of quality. This may not be something we consciously realize when we "slut shame" for lack of a better phrase, but it does explain why women are afraid of being labeled a slut: we are essentially saying she is unable to hold out for quality and so she settles for quantity instead. The "slut" sees it as a personal affront to her because we're basically saying she sucks at judgin…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/14 01:31 AM
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If you like this you should check out their "unicorn hunter checklist" as well, I'd link if I wasn't on mobile
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/14 12:04 AM
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Wow, beautifully put.
/r/askTRP16/06/14 11:33 PM
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If your husband's into it, that's great! If I were married I'd probably have asked my SO for his thoughts before I took it out for good. I guess I'm just worried about what it implies about a young (newly-single) millennial in today's sexually uninhibited social culture, especially since I only date older guys (30ish+) who may have a different view of belly rings
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 04:40 PM
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Congrats, keep us updated! That's wonderful!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 02:45 PM
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Reminds me of that cringey Seinfeld episode. "No, you're schmoopy!"
/r/TheRedPill15/06/14 02:43 PM
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This needs to be stickied somewhere lol. "If you're a newbie visiting from TwoX, click here!"
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 02:03 PM
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My thoughts exactly. I never had a dangly crazy one, just a small metal stud, but it still bothered me from time to time
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 01:59 PM
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Yikes I can't imagine how painful a tongue ring would be! I'm such a wimp I still wonder how I managed to get through the belly piercing
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 03:26 AM
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I've been thinking of writing a "in defense of RPW" post. Outlining a few points that I think people commonly misunderstand. While this sounds like a good idea, I don't think we should have to justify ourselves to anyone. Yes, it's frustrating that we are often misunderstood, but those same people who criticize our viewpoints are not looking to be convinced. They're looking to assert their own viewpoint and "save" us from our way of life. A common theme in TRP is that you can't accept the theory…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 01:19 AM
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Maybe a nice KitchenAid electric mixer? They're around $300 I think but last forever and I'm sure something food-related would be a great investment.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/14 12:05 PM
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This is a conversation that needs to be had. The overwhelming majority of REPORTED rapes are male-female, but that doesn't mean they don't happen in other ways or that they aren't just as terrible just because they're outliers. It's so amazingly hypocritical that this situation is drastically reframed when the sexes of involved parties are different from the norm. Rape is rape no matter who it happens to. I think feminazis enjoy playing the victim to the "patriarchy", in some sick way, and they …
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/14 06:42 PM
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Yup. I find the deeper I get into RP the less I get along with women my own age. At this point I just tune them out when they start going off about something ridiculous
/r/TheRedPill07/06/14 06:20 PM
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I don't think classes are really feminized. It just depends on the nature of your major. I just graduated and in all 4 years the only "feminized" class I took was psychology of women (a total joke. I barely went). So if you're sticking to hard sciences I think you'll be fine
/r/askTRP07/06/14 06:17 PM
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It's so frustrating getting weird looks when I admit to my friends I want to have my first child in the next 5-7 years. I'm going to grad school so I can help financially support myself and my future family, not so I can become a "career woman." It's a concept that seems so difficult for other twentysomethings to grasp nowadays
/r/TheRedPill07/06/14 05:59 PM
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/r/redpillwomen ** If want a good idea of what our subreddit is about, you should definitely check out the AMA our mods did awhile back in /r/theredpill
/r/askTRP04/06/14 11:05 PM
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He argues that what is labeled as feminism is really a combination of narcissism, consumerism and the quest for power, all repackaged as a gender war. The way you articulated that just blew my mind a little bit. That really is a perfect summation of modern day feminism. Definitely giving that a read.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/14 12:44 AM
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One thing that helps is doing doorway stretches. Can't link because I'm on mobile, but just google it. My PT had me do them for 5 minutes a day right when I woke up and it helped immensely.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 01:28 PM
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Thanks mods! Not only do you deal with all the behind-the-scenes bullshit but I've always valued your wisdom and guidance. You guys are wonderful.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/14 09:33 PM
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I've been doing keto for months now and I had carrots with ranch dressing for dessert the other day. My roommates looked at me like I was nuts. It's amazing what cutting out sugar can do.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/14 01:10 PM
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I just graduated from uni and most of my friends have moved away, so I'm stuck working in my college town for the summer until my lease is up and I go to grad school. One of the benefits of not having any friends in town is being able to spend all my time on myself! In addition to cracking down on my diet/fitness, one of my summer goals is to take better care of my hair. I chopped it short last summer and loved it for a month, and have been painstakingly been trying to grow it out ever since. It…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 02:35 AM
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Lol! I was dying to ask her what exactly she found offensive but nooooo way was I opening that can of worms, let alone on Facebook for the world to see
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 05:47 AM
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They married at 18 and they've been married for 4 years now, so I'd imagine that the honeymoon phase is beginning to wear off about now and it's something like what you described lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 04:28 AM
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Well on the bright side now she's one less person clogging my news feed :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 04:21 AM
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I just cant think of anything else in the lyrics that would make someone mad. Is there something I'm missing?
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 04:17 AM
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From what I know about her, I'm inclined to think she meant it was insulting to women. EDIT: and may have been alluding to this when she posted the status But when you say a back rub means only a back rub Then you swat my hand when I try Well, now what can I say at the end of the day Honey, I'm still a guy
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 03:59 AM
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LDRs take work. They're not for everyone. If you don't feel the need to put in that work, then more power to you, find someone closer. But just know that if you're going to date someone 50 miles away, the rules are slightly different. The most important part of an LDR is trust, and it seems as though she may have issues trusting you if you're not constantly in touch. It's up to you if you can live with this
/r/askTRP08/05/14 03:17 AM
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Beta doesn't mean "bad." I think LTR game is a strategic mix of alpha and beta traits. "Being alpha" occurs on a sliding scale, and if you're not just spinning plates and are looking for something more meaningful, it is important to discover what balance makes the relationship work for you. Everyone is different and every relationship is different. I think the most important thing to remember is to maintain frame, keep your woman's respect, and establish a Captain- First Mate dynamic from the st…
/r/askTRP02/05/14 02:11 PM
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I just recognize this situation from the last relationship I was in, before I discovered RPW. I treated my ex like shit because for the majority of our relationship he was a wannabe-alpha but never followed through with it. So for two years, I learned exactly how to manipulate his beta side and I knew exactly what I could get away with. Even when he started TRULY employing RP principles to try and repair our relationship, my respect for him was already gone. My point is that your efforts are pro…
/r/askTRP27/04/14 07:52 PM
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You have taught her she can always get what she wants from you and have done nothing but reinforce this behavior. She has no reason to respect you as a man because it doesn't sound like you even respect yourself. Even if you start employing some serious dread game and stick up for your manhood, she already knows how to manipulate your beta side. Realize that you deserve more and cut this chick completely out of your life
/r/askTRP27/04/14 07:40 PM
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They know how old he is, and they definitely are wary of it, especially my mom. But they're not completely opposed to it either because they know he treats me exceptionally well. It seems like they WANT to like him, which is a good step at least.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/14 02:35 AM
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/r/TheRedPill25/04/14 05:27 PM
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How old are you guys? Some couples who marry too young can feel "cheated" out of experiencing other people and it could be surfacing now for your husband
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 02:57 PM
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either you don't do any adventurous sexual things at all, or an open relationship? You can have an adventurous sex life without having foursomes.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 02:50 PM
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Valid point. If he's already expressing this so early in to the marriage there are probably other underlying problems that are contributing to his need to look elsewhere. What you mentioned above about establishing a precedent for a sexually open relationship does make sense
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 02:47 PM
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I've never been married so take this with a grain of salt, but I'm pretty sure marriage is about compromise, and if it's something that will make you extremely unhappy, then he should respect that. There are probably plenty of things that you could do that would make him unhappy and would make you happy, but you don't do them, because you respect him and you value your relationship. That being said, maybe there is some sort of middle ground you can find here. Maybe he just misses the thrill of t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 02:40 PM
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I loved his line about how the type of woman you fuck isn't necessarily the type of woman you date, and even then she isn't necessarily the type of woman you marry. We all have a personal brand, and the way we market ourselves is the way we will be received in the marketplace.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 02:59 AM
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I didn't even notice that. Funny how sound advice like this is accepted when it's not labeled RP! I wish more people would take the time to learn what RP is truly about.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 02:56 AM
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Fortunately it's gotten a lot of visibility on r/bestof so even if she doesn't apply it to her own life, someone else might see the light.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 01:34 AM
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Amen to that!
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/14 11:09 PM
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I'm a millennial so the odds aren't in my favor. Most people my age can't fathom the idea that this inflated feminism/borderline feminaziism they subscribe to can be detrimental to the delicate dynamic of intimate relationships. I tend to keep my thoughts to myself and simply choose not to participate when I know my friends are just going to a bar to get blacked out and hook up with guys. I do have a little bit of FOMO but I know in the long run at least I can respect myself and the decisions I …
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/14 10:59 PM
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Agreed. Start working on your SMV before you go searching, and you'll be able to find a better quality man. Take the time now to establish yourself as someone an alpha would actually want to date. You'll have much better luck in college when you've already established this and everyone else is subscribing to the hookup culture and gaining the freshman 15. You'll stand out from the crowd, and in a good way. Check out some of the sidebar links for ways to increase your SMV if you need somewhere to…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 03:39 PM
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Bill Burr is one of my favorites. Some great quotes: "Nothing worse than when a 6 acts like a 10." "Having a dick is one of the most dangerous things on the planet. How many people are eaten by sharks each year? How many guys lose everything they’ve got because of their dick? Yet the Discovery Channel has Shark Week every other fucking month. Why doesn’t it have Dick Week? That would be the scariest seven days in the history of television." "I gotta tell you, I’m envious of women. I’m not saying…
/r/askTRP21/04/14 02:35 PM
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It doesn't even make sense because they're all in committed relationships... I guess that's hypergamy for you
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 05:41 PM
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Do steamers really work better?
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/14 08:47 PM
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I'd be interested in reading this. I'm 21 and my SO is 31, and my family (especially my mom) is having a difficult time accepting me dating a man so much older than I am. But it's been nothing but a wonderful experience for me-- he fits a provider role that most guys my own age have little ability or desire to do, and as a divorcee he doesn't tolerate my hamstering and isn't afraid to call me out when I need to be called out. And I respect him so much more for it. One thing I've noticed is that …
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 04:01 PM
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Bought this for a psych class last year. I was amazed at how easily those concepts can be generalized to things like intimate relationships. Really great read.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 03:49 PM
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Source? I'd love to read up on that!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/14 11:38 AM
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I think the subreddit style is just to encourage positive discussion, but you can disable it on the sidebar if you really feel the need to downvote anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/14 07:51 PM
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We exist, we're just few and far between because we've grown up surrounded by this extreme feminism and told that it's the correct way to be. And why should we believe we're wrong? We're being enabled left and right! Buzzfeed, jezebel, and all those other nonsense blogs don't help either, it's so obnoxious to see all these "20 things to do in your 20s" lists where half of the advice involves riding the cock carousel. My friends are starting to see how successful my RP relationship with my SO is …
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/14 07:44 PM
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It's nice to see other millennials swallowing the pill! I'm 21 and it was an interesting transition especially because many of us have been raised in a time when uber-feminism is rampant and we don't have much to compare our experience to. My newest relationship is my first where I have done my very best to use all the great things I've learned here and I have never been in such a rewarding, healthy and wonderful relationship. So, congrats and I hope you learn a lot here :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/14 04:05 AM
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If my SO pisses me off in public I have enough respect for him to can it and pull him aside later when we're alone. It amazes me that more women DON'T realize how bad it makes them look. It's nobody else's business but mine and his.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 05:07 AM
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Came here to say this too. Maria is competent and intelligent, yet conservative, submissive and feminine. One of the reasons I absolutely love that movie, she's a great role model.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 11:34 PM
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I love my sperrys! Mine have a floral pattern with sequins on them so they're comfy and practical while not being as casual as sneakers. Even though I love my neon pink Nike Frees, my sperrys pretty much go with anything and are just as comfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 11:24 PM
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A... penis warmer? Is that a thing? Because it actually sounds useful.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/14 08:12 PM
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While I think the article sensationalizes this a little, there is definitely truth to what the author says. I also think this depends on where you live. The university I attend has been on every single internet "top ten most attractive universities" list you can think of, so a 6 here might be an 8 elsewhere. Men here don't seem to have trouble finding average weight, attractive women, because women here are forced to compete with one another. But I could imagine that elsewhere this is a huge iss…
/r/TheRedPill14/03/14 02:43 PM
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RPW here. It's so refreshing to hear this perspective in the media when it seems to so often preach the opposite. Thanks for sharing, great read.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 03:34 PM
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This is a wonderful breakdown for people new to the lifestyle like myself. Thanks for the informative read!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/14 02:28 AM
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Learn to recognize the triggers that make you fitness test, learn to pause your mind to choose how to act This is a wonderful point. Recognizing the trigger is the only way to resolve the underlying problem, and the shit test is just a knee-jerk response to an issue you may not totally realize is there until you step back and think about it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/14 05:24 PM
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Could you provide a few examples?
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/14 04:29 PM
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So basically, a shit test is simply inventing a reason to question or challenge his frame? Being petulant for no reason other than to assert yourself in a way that harms the captain-first mate dynamic?
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/14 03:45 PM
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Lanolin as a lip balm. Bear with me here, it's really weird, it's technically sheep oil (from their wool I believe) but it is the most similar product in composition to the oil our own human skin produces. It is marketed for breastfeeding mothers to put on their chapped nipples but it has done WONDERS for my lips. It has a texture similar to vaseline or Aquaphor. It's now a part of my bedtime regimen... I wake up with super soft lips!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/14 03:35 PM
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Oil cleansing is wonderful! I mix 1/3 castor oil with 2/3 EVOO and apply in to my face before I get in the shower, then let it sit with a steaming washcloth over my face to open my pores, and wipe it off when the towel cools. Re-apply the warm washcloth and let it sit several times. I do this at least every other day. The reason it works so well is because soap dries out your skin and causes it to produce MORE oil to keep it from drying out-- so when you cleanse with oil, not only does oil disso…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/14 03:24 PM
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I have to disagree with this. I have 4 close male friends, but our friendship works because I am NOT attracted to them. We've been friends since middle school and all have our own SOs at this point. My SO is comfortable with me being close with them because he knows there is absolutely no competition. If your SO does not feel he has to compete with your close male friends, I feel that is the key to being able to make it work.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/14 04:59 PM
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I just started taking Biotin supplements regularly-- my hair grew an extra half inch last month! It's pretty cheap and you can get it at any local pharmacy in the vitamin section
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/14 09:53 PM
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As a freshman with low self-esteem, there wasn't any glory in it; it was just a shallow form of validation. As a senior I'm looking back and wondering how I ever thought that would bring me happiness. The funny thing is that this article suggests that type of behavior is okay ALL throughout your twenties, your "selfish years," but I'm only 21 and I got tired of it really fast. I do feel sorry for women stuck in this cycle for multiple years... It becomes a defense mechanism and a way to avoid ma…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/14 04:26 AM
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I think that could be the problem. My school is huge state uni (approx 40k students) and a notorious party school. I'm excited for grad school though, I feel like I'll definitely have more opportunities to meet like-minded people.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/14 04:26 AM
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Not on a college campus, that's for sure. Hookup culture here is so disheartening sometimes! Guys are either "enjoying being free for the first time in their lives" (freshman-sophomore) or "almost ready to graduate and don't want to be tied down" (junior-senior). It's like they just expect and endless sea of vagina to be waiting for them wherever they turn, JUST because that's how they think college is supposed to be. I'm sure for some men that's true, but most cling to that mindset regardless o…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/14 09:17 PM
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This is a great idea. Looking forward to it!
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/14 08:17 PM
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He does :) I haven't been seeing him for very long, but he seems to intuitively know just when to be soft and sweet, and when to take charge.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/14 09:34 PM
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The point was the "making him feel like a king" part. Of course kissing someone's neck and shoulders isn't a unique thing, but his response was, so I wanted to share it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/14 09:39 PM
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Thanks to RP I'm realizing that women don't have to be masculine to be powerful. We're powerful in the way that we use our femininity, it's just a different kind of influence. Knowing that I made him feel like a king made ME feel good about MYself... it was a kind of lift that I hadn't experienced before. I really liked it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/14 07:39 PM
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It's definitely not how I prefer to start a relationship, but it is how things began with my ex. Sometimes there is just such an intense emotional and physical connection right off the bat that it's hard to show restraint. I had difficulty understanding the importance of showing that restraint as a freshman and sophomore, especially with the hookup culture of attending a major party school paired with some self esteem issues. I'm so glad I discovered RP because it made me realize how to increase…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/14 07:34 PM
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This is a great idea. Since I'm a younger subscriber I always love hearing what you more experienced ladies have to say, and creating a weekly thread would be a great way to stir up more conversation. I feel like y'all are a bunch of mother hens and since my own mother does not have an RP relationship with my father I always know I can come here for advice :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/14 06:09 AM
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I love that you asked this because I was just about to. I'm 21 and royally fucked up my last relationship and RPW has really opened my eyes about the mistakes I made with my ex. Looking forward to seeing some helpful tips!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/14 09:32 PM
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This, this, this. I'm 21, and I've dated enough to know that my relationships tend to steer in the direction of RedPillers, but didn't have a name for it until I discovered the subreddit and learned more about it. It's not something I'd talk to my own girl friends about either because my generation isn't quite as receptive to the RP way of life (it's not "progressive" or "empowering" enough for them, we've been raised to be feminists, etc etc)
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/13 06:22 AM
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I'm one of these girls. That's all I mean when I say it: friendships with girls can be exhausting and somewhat competitive. That's not I say I don't have 3-4 close girlfriends with whom things are effortless, but I prefer to hang around guys rather than large groups of girls because it's just more chill and there's less social pressure. I can't speak for all girls who say this of course.
/r/seduction29/12/13 04:44 PM
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