weaster43 Archive

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1	i went to 3 bars for a total of 2 hours and couldn’t make a single approach Don‘t get caught up on rehearsed openers and good pick up lines, those feel forced and lack authenticity. Instead open with either: an Observation (comment about the venue/bar/club/music, any shared experience in the moment that gets the convo going, doesn‘t matter how basic) a Question (like what they think about the music, or ask for directions to somewhere) a Compliment (on something unique they‘re wearing)	/r/seduction	06/09/25 08:37 PM
1	How to overcome the frame of "I don't have sex in the first date/that early/only in a relationship" you cannot negotiate true desire and attraction. sex on first dates or ons happen spontainously, you don‘t owe her your time, and she doesn‘t owe you sex. actions speak louder than words so don‘t believe everything she says, especially regarding intimacy.	/r/seduction	27/06/25 12:11 PM
2	Struggling With Escalation on Dates I agree on your take on first impressions. Mutual attraction either exists or it doesn‘t. And no amount of work or game strategy is worth the effort to „win her over“. It feels like wasted energy. As for „when are women showing signs of disinterest“. If you feel like you’re carrying the conversation, no significant answers from her part, nothing to latch onto or carry the subject. Then there‘s body language (closed posture, no eye contact, keeping distance, minimal or no physical reciprocation, …	/r/seduction	25/06/25 02:44 PM
1	Struggling With Escalation on Dates It‘s huge that you‘re recognising your habits, that‘s the first step towards meaningful longterm change. Especially as a recovering niceguy it takes a conscious effort to notice the subtle ways we give up our center just to be liked. Obviously you shouldn’t disregard your own beliefs and opinions for women (or anyone for that matter). These core values is what makes you grounded and interesting. Once you internalize the idea that you don‘t have to impress or win anyone over, you remove this huge…	/r/seduction	25/06/25 02:16 PM
1	Struggling With Escalation on Dates Think you misunderstand the idea of „maintaining frame“. Pushing against someone‘s disinterest and lack of reciprocation isn‘t „holding frame“ it‘s being blind to obvious signals. The fact that you mention „not getting reactions“ or „date didn‘t lead to sex“ could indicate a search for validation and being outcome dependent, something women can clearly tell. If you‘re self-aware enough to notice these reactions from women then you should react more acordingly. You need to lead with emotional awa…	/r/seduction	25/06/25 11:07 AM
2	They Say I Could Date... If I Tried? It‘s about showing interest and escalating in a timely manner before she becomes just another female friend. Don‘t take too long to make your intentions clear.	/r/seduction	18/04/25 05:10 PM
6	Man what is happening here Yeah this sub definitely consists of more people searching the mystical answer to all their dating issues. Thus promoting band-aid solutions to deeper self-esteem problems. But then again, most people on this sub aren‘t PUA, but newbies. And like any beginner to a new sport they‘re just learning and will ask away all the beginner questions you can think of. As a veteran these questions might seem obvious and too easy to answer, that‘s why they attract the most attention, and the more intriguing …	/r/seduction	01/12/24 11:25 AM
3	Nervous for a date help It’s great that you‘re going out on dates even if your anxiety is trying to hold you back. It’s completely normal to be anxious, especially when you’re stepping outside of your comfort zone. The goal isn’t to get rid of it, but to manage it in a way so it doesn‘t control you. Instead of seeing the date as a test you could fail, try seeing it as a fun opportunity to connect with someone new. Remember, she agreed to meet because she’s interested in you, so the pressure you’re feeling is much highe…	/r/seduction	30/11/24 07:05 PM
3	How do you prioritize It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when you’re trying to do everything at once. Instead of treating this as one massive checklist, break it down into something smaller. By listing all your future goals and chores at once, your mind makes it a bigger thing than it is. Ask yourself what’s most important to you right now: Finding a quality relationship? Career? health and gym? Focus on one or two areas that will have the biggest impact on your overall happiness and growth. Separate short-term from long …	/r/seduction	28/11/24 10:26 PM
1	How to enjoy this stuff? „The fact that it is so easy for some guys. The fact that for other guys, you have to go out and approach groups of women in bars and 90% of the time it’s all for nothing.“ Approaching can feel frustrating and pointless when you’re not seeing the results you want, especially when you’re comparing yourself to others who seem to have it easy. But chances are those guys may have started from where you are now and worked hard to get better. Instead of focusing on the outcome, try shifting your persp…	/r/seduction	25/11/24 11:16 PM
1	How to approach women at the dance floor You’re not alone. approaching women on the dance floor can feel intimidating, especially sober. First off, props to you for going out sober and trying to challenge yourself. That alone puts you ahead of most people who rely on liquid courage. Here‘s what’s helped me during the intital process of going out solo: Show confidence through body language Hold eye contact and smile when approaching Use dancing as a natural approach Focus on energy and having fun Accept that rejection is part of the pro…	/r/seduction	24/11/24 05:09 PM
1	How to approach women at the dance floor Using liquid courage as a crutch to surpress social anxiety and to apprach women is only gonna get you so far. If you only rely on alcohol to talk to women you won‘t improve your social skills much since you‘re reinforcing the idea of „only approach when drunk“ and therefore you‘re more keen to hold back when not infused with vodka.	/r/seduction	24/11/24 04:59 PM